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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Yeah, you're listening to Beyond the Cheaters The Detective Gomez
Files and now here is Detective gomet.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Welcome to an episode of Beyond Cheers The Detective Gomez Files.
How is everyone doing today? Today we're gonna talk a
little bit about losing your family to infidelity, and I'm
gonna give you five strategies that maybe to help you
recover from that. You know, when somebody cheats and there's
(00:33):
a family in law, it's never easy. It's challenging for
the wives, challenging for the children, challenging for the whole family,
everybody that trusts and believes in that person. Like I
said todaybody the five stories it may help you to
let me recall. First one is open communication, says sir.
(00:54):
Expect your fears and feelings with your partner in calm,
not in a non confrontational way. Considering following a neutral
third party such as a therapist, to facilitate these discussions.
But you gotta be willing to go. You gotta be
willing to listen to them. Can be one sided. A
number two sink professional guidance. Work with the therapist or
(01:16):
counselor who specializes in relationships or infidelity. Family therapy can
also help address concerns collectively if children are involved. Very important.
You know, if you can't figure it out with yourself
about you know, arguing or not getting along, or you
see things one way, you see things all the way.
It's a professional help and maybe they'll make you see
(01:38):
things and help you realize things in a different way.
Number three, Focus on self care. Prioritize your mental and
physical health activities like exercise, meditation, meditation, and hobbies. Surround
yourself with supportive network of friends and families is very
very important. You know, exercise your mind, find things that
(02:03):
help you to get back to who you were. It's
not easy sometimes because you have people that are with
you that aren't helping. And some of these things can
just you know, drive you up, say they make you
very very upset, where you can't focus on yourself, start
gaining weight and start losing weight, you know, all kinds
(02:27):
of get hobby, find something to do where you can
find something to do after after work, you know, but
find something to help you find yourself again. And so
was for friends and network of friends, family that are
supportive with you. Don't try to do it all alone.
Number four understand your options, entricate yourself about legalizing options.
(02:49):
To feel more empowered and uncertain circumstances, consider consulting a
famuly lord to understand custody, property division, and other implications
if necessary, that inflications if separation becomes necessary. So what
they're saying he is, you know, understand what you can
do legally which you can't do. You know, I have
some clients sometimes at content I take to go as
(03:11):
my husband's gonna take out. He's threatening to take away
with my son. But he didn't have a job, he
didn't work. Okay, it's not going to happen. Know what,
Know what your rights are, unless you're just a bad mother. Oh,
you know what you can do, Know what you can do.
Don't threaten somebody with something you can't do. Do not
do that. We'll talk to the lawyer. You know, if
(03:32):
you know. Some of these lawyers offer free consultations. In
charge a little bit, but you know, if I know what, Hey,
we've got this property, you've got this property. Houses work
out if by catch him cheating or catching doing something,
always work out. Ask questions. Don't assume you know a
law you know, because the attorneys are supposed to get
paid for. They know a law, especially it comes to infidelity,
family law. Child can see those types of things. Then
(03:56):
the number five, and this is a tough one. We
build trust trust if possible, and we'll say it again,
rebuild trust if possible, if reconciliation is desired, work with
your partner to rebuild trust through consistent and transparent behavior.
It means they may want to put this, may put
an apple on your phone, whether they watch you all
(04:17):
belong because you cheated on them. Sure that maybe you
gave somebody you know some money on the side. Why
you're married. They want to keep the truck track, your
bank account, of your phone account. Sure do it if
your marriage means that much, do you do it? Uh?
I had one client of mine and I was a
guy that he gave some girls some money, and you
want to save his marriage. So you get his wife's
(04:37):
and his phone all the time, twenty four to seven
a day, always going through his phone. Who you texting,
who you call them? You know? Also says create a
plan with specific steps and goals to move forward, whether
as a couple or co parents. You know, do it
in a mature way. Do you know if the laws
says for you to drop the child off at five,
(04:57):
drop the child off at four, do things the right way.
Don't show two hours late if you know you have
the worst paperwork or child. Custberger says, you have to
be here at a certain time to do it the money,
you know, because if you do that this all the
children are going to see the way you're co parenting.
(05:18):
They're going to see that, They're gonna observe that, and
they're gonna go this, this is what my life's going to
be like for the next ten or fifteen years. Just
do it the right way. But sure we can pick
up your children for that, we can do something with them.
You made that child. Do something with faith in this
fear is difficult. But taking proactive steps to help you
regain sense of control and clarity. It's not easy. After
(05:42):
you cheat. There's so many I mean, it's it's it's tough.
It's really tough. Up. You had a lot of class
go to this and they it's very hard for them too.
I'm just gonna try to work it out. I'm gonna
try to show that she can trust me again or
he can trust me again. And it's challenging, but you
can do it. It can't been done. You know, you're
not the first persons going to get divorced. You're not
(06:02):
gonna be the last person that's going to get divorced.
But it can be done, but you've got to be
able to work through it as adults, not children. It's
not And don't you know a little I'll give you
a little free advice. Don't try to do it on
your own. Well, we don't need attorney. We're going to
agree to do it like this. Don't get something in writing,
(06:24):
because at the end of the day, should he or
she decided to go to when you work with your
child and you don't like that, you don't have anything
to write and stop it, or you don't have anything
there to say, Hey, you can't do this. You can't
do this. This person's a new boyfriend or new girlfriends.
You can't stop them from doing that because guess what,
there's nothing in rioting. Say she wants to get.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
Some guy that that's a felon or something like that,
or been in prison for family violence. You don't want
her to gain him, but she's dating. You can't do
anything stop it because you don't have anything about get
it in writing and telling them get it right. Thing
with the females. You want to tint somebody else and
you don't want him, you don't like the girls. Will
you get that in writing? So I can't happen.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
What's up to you to make it happen. They can't.
They can't have it on your own. Borrow some money,
get some money from family members, hire an attorney, get something right,
because I have seen so many cases. Sometimes it gets
down to who and what supposed to have a child,
who's not supposed to have a child, and something in
writing nothing, So get in writing. At the end of
(07:27):
the day, all right, thank you listen, you know being
part of our show today beyond Cheers, The Detective Goal
mess Files. Our podcast is very very popular, so to
share it with your friends. You want to thank mister
Wan Hernandez. He's a personal injury attorney here in the
Dallas fourth Theory. He can help you if you're involved
with a car ACCID eighteen one, it's injured, contact him
the day, don't be afraid, get some attorney's advice two
(07:49):
one four nine zero zero zero zero zero zero or
visit him at one law dot com. And also we
want to thank It's Victoria Nova and she's a divorce
attorney here in the Dallas fourth therea. We're talking doors
is right. Contect her today two one four.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Five.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
You're going through divorce, get some professional advice. Don't try
to hand on. She can help you. I personally know her.
She's a really good attorney. But contact her today. All right,
take care and I'll see you next time. We'll be
on the cheers. Let me text your comments.
Speaker 4 (08:22):
Thank you for listening our show day listen and gentlemen,
I want to think our sponsor, one Hernandez Long. You
can visit them at one law dot com or contact
them at two one four nine zero zero zero zero
zero zero. They helped me through an accident and they
can help you too, so contact them today.
Yeah, you're listening to Beyond the Cheaters The Detective Gomez
Files and now here is Detective gomet.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Welcome to an episode of Beyond Cheers The Detective Gomez Files.
How is everyone doing today? Today we're gonna talk a
little bit about losing your family to infidelity, and I'm
gonna give you five strategies that maybe to help you
recover from that. You know, when somebody cheats and there's
(00:33):
a family in law, it's never easy. It's challenging for
the wives, challenging for the children, challenging for the whole family,
everybody that trusts and believes in that person. Like I
said todaybody the five stories it may help you to
let me recall. First one is open communication, says sir.
(00:54):
Expect your fears and feelings with your partner in calm,
not in a non confrontational way. Considering following a neutral
third party such as a therapist, to facilitate these discussions.
But you gotta be willing to go. You gotta be
willing to listen to them. Can be one sided. A
number two sink professional guidance. Work with the therapist or
(01:16):
counselor who specializes in relationships or infidelity. Family therapy can
also help address concerns collectively if children are involved. Very important.
You know, if you can't figure it out with yourself
about you know, arguing or not getting along, or you
see things one way, you see things all the way.
It's a professional help and maybe they'll make you see
(01:38):
things and help you realize things in a different way.
Number three, Focus on self care. Prioritize your mental and
physical health activities like exercise, meditation, meditation, and hobbies. Surround
yourself with supportive network of friends and families is very
very important. You know, exercise your mind, find things that
(02:03):
help you to get back to who you were. It's
not easy sometimes because you have people that are with
you that aren't helping. And some of these things can
just you know, drive you up, say they make you
very very upset, where you can't focus on yourself, start
gaining weight and start losing weight, you know, all kinds
(02:27):
of get hobby, find something to do where you can
find something to do after after work, you know, but
find something to help you find yourself again. And so
was for friends and network of friends, family that are
supportive with you. Don't try to do it all alone.
Number four understand your options, entricate yourself about legalizing options.
(02:49):
To feel more empowered and uncertain circumstances, consider consulting a
famuly lord to understand custody, property division, and other implications
if necessary, that inflications if separation becomes necessary. So what
they're saying he is, you know, understand what you can
do legally which you can't do. You know, I have
some clients sometimes at content I take to go as
(03:11):
my husband's gonna take out. He's threatening to take away
with my son. But he didn't have a job, he
didn't work. Okay, it's not going to happen. Know what,
Know what your rights are, unless you're just a bad mother. Oh,
you know what you can do, Know what you can do.
Don't threaten somebody with something you can't do. Do not
do that. We'll talk to the lawyer. You know, if
(03:32):
you know. Some of these lawyers offer free consultations. In
charge a little bit, but you know, if I know what, Hey,
we've got this property, you've got this property. Houses work
out if by catch him cheating or catching doing something,
always work out. Ask questions. Don't assume you know a
law you know, because the attorneys are supposed to get
paid for. They know a law, especially it comes to infidelity,
family law. Child can see those types of things. Then
(03:56):
the number five, and this is a tough one. We
build trust trust if possible, and we'll say it again,
rebuild trust if possible, if reconciliation is desired, work with
your partner to rebuild trust through consistent and transparent behavior.
It means they may want to put this, may put
an apple on your phone, whether they watch you all
(04:17):
belong because you cheated on them. Sure that maybe you
gave somebody you know some money on the side. Why
you're married. They want to keep the truck track, your
bank account, of your phone account. Sure do it if
your marriage means that much, do you do it? Uh?
I had one client of mine and I was a
guy that he gave some girls some money, and you
want to save his marriage. So you get his wife's
(04:37):
and his phone all the time, twenty four to seven
a day, always going through his phone. Who you texting,
who you call them? You know? Also says create a
plan with specific steps and goals to move forward, whether
as a couple or co parents. You know, do it
in a mature way. Do you know if the laws
says for you to drop the child off at five,
(04:57):
drop the child off at four, do things the right way.
Don't show two hours late if you know you have
the worst paperwork or child. Custberger says, you have to
be here at a certain time to do it the money,
you know, because if you do that this all the
children are going to see the way you're co parenting.
(05:18):
They're going to see that, They're gonna observe that, and
they're gonna go this, this is what my life's going to
be like for the next ten or fifteen years. Just
do it the right way. But sure we can pick
up your children for that, we can do something with them.
You made that child. Do something with faith in this
fear is difficult. But taking proactive steps to help you
regain sense of control and clarity. It's not easy. After
(05:42):
you cheat. There's so many I mean, it's it's it's tough.
It's really tough. Up. You had a lot of class
go to this and they it's very hard for them too.
I'm just gonna try to work it out. I'm gonna
try to show that she can trust me again or
he can trust me again. And it's challenging, but you
can do it. It can't been done. You know, you're
not the first persons going to get divorced. You're not
(06:02):
gonna be the last person that's going to get divorced.
But it can be done, but you've got to be
able to work through it as adults, not children. It's
not And don't you know a little I'll give you
a little free advice. Don't try to do it on
your own. Well, we don't need attorney. We're going to
agree to do it like this. Don't get something in writing,
(06:24):
because at the end of the day, should he or
she decided to go to when you work with your
child and you don't like that, you don't have anything
to write and stop it, or you don't have anything
there to say, Hey, you can't do this. You can't
do this. This person's a new boyfriend or new girlfriends.
You can't stop them from doing that because guess what,
there's nothing in rioting. Say she wants to get.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
Some guy that that's a felon or something like that,
or been in prison for family violence. You don't want
her to gain him, but she's dating. You can't do
anything stop it because you don't have anything about get
it in writing and telling them get it right. Thing
with the females. You want to tint somebody else and
you don't want him, you don't like the girls. Will
you get that in writing? So I can't happen.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
What's up to you to make it happen. They can't.
They can't have it on your own. Borrow some money,
get some money from family members, hire an attorney, get something right,
because I have seen so many cases. Sometimes it gets
down to who and what supposed to have a child,
who's not supposed to have a child, and something in
writing nothing, So get in writing. At the end of
(07:27):
the day, all right, thank you listen, you know being
part of our show today beyond Cheers, The Detective Goal
mess Files. Our podcast is very very popular, so to
share it with your friends. You want to thank mister
Wan Hernandez. He's a personal injury attorney here in the
Dallas fourth Theory. He can help you if you're involved
with a car ACCID eighteen one, it's injured, contact him
the day, don't be afraid, get some attorney's advice two
(07:49):
one four nine zero zero zero zero zero zero or
visit him at one law dot com. And also we
want to thank It's Victoria Nova and she's a divorce
attorney here in the Dallas fourth therea. We're talking doors
is right. Contect her today two one four.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Five.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
You're going through divorce, get some professional advice. Don't try
to hand on. She can help you. I personally know her.
She's a really good attorney. But contact her today. All right,
take care and I'll see you next time. We'll be
on the cheers. Let me text your comments.
Speaker 4 (08:22):
Thank you for listening our show day listen and gentlemen,
I want to think our sponsor, one Hernandez Long. You
can visit them at one law dot com or contact
them at two one four nine zero zero zero zero
zero zero. They helped me through an accident and they
can help you too, so contact them today.
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