#250 The Real Reason I Cheated – A Candid Interview with a Husband

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:03):
You're listening to Beyond the Cheaters, the Detective Gometz Files,
and now here is Detective Gomets.

Speaker 2 (00:11):
Welcome to the episode of Beyond Choose Detective Dometz Files.

Speaker 3 (00:16):
How they're one doing today? You know, today we're.

Speaker 2 (00:18):
Doing talking to a gentleman if you want to call
him that he cheated on his wife.

Speaker 3 (00:24):
He's gonna come clean.

Speaker 2 (00:25):
He's gonna tell you the real reason why he cheat
on his why And like I said, we don't get
to interview very many husbands, but he's gonna tell us.

Speaker 3 (00:32):
What happened today. So here we go. Let's get him
on the air. This coolby all Right, Kobe, how are
you doing today?

Speaker 1 (00:39):
I'm doing great, full of energy. Actually I'm in Texas.
We're the original sim was committed was in Missouri. But
I'm in Texas, my hometown and seventy five degrees in
his two degrees back home in Missouri, so I'm like, oh,
I'm going back there in a couple of days. But
I'm doing great, very well.

Speaker 3 (00:56):
Holly, favorite all, let's probably get into the system situation.
You know, we don't have very many guys, and I
appreciate you being here.

Speaker 2 (01:03):
We have many guys that come home the podcast and
talk about that, how they cheated all the lies.

Speaker 3 (01:10):
I you did it. That wasn't cool. But I'll talk
about why you did it, because women always why do
they cheat them? Is?

Speaker 2 (01:19):
Why did they cheat them? So let's let's get into it.
Let's talk about this woman who you How long were
you married?

Speaker 1 (01:25):
I was married about two a little bit more than
two years.

Speaker 3 (01:28):
Again almost three years. Okay, how did you meet her?
What was her first thing?

Speaker 1 (01:32):
Her name is Stephanie. I met her on Facebook dating
and she captivated with her smile and her eyes. And
she was from a small town and everybody likes innocence
in a woman.

Speaker 3 (01:43):
Okay, so she was very innocent and uh yeah, let's
guide her attracted to the good looking girls. Right, it's all
about the books, right.

Speaker 2 (01:51):
Uh?

Speaker 3 (01:51):
So you get to meet her?

Speaker 4 (01:53):
Uh she Now in our period interview, you mentioned she
had some trauma in her wife, so somebody online and
getting to trust it was probably a challenge in the beginning, correct.

Speaker 3 (02:04):
Absolutely, and that she didn't have a whole lot of
trust in men. Tell us about what she told.

Speaker 1 (02:08):
You so, so our conversations, she had been through some
bad relationships and I spent a little time with her,
and she went through a traumatized situation in her teenage
years which I'm not going to disclose, which her mate
her not trust men. She thought that me, she could
trust me to take care of her financially, emotionally, physically,

(02:31):
in every sense and all facets off. So she put
all her trust to me. So it started off like
a Cinderella story. Though it's our relationship started off though
I never loved anybody like that before, And she told
me she never loved the man like that before.

Speaker 3 (02:47):
Wow. Nice, that's very romantic, very absolutely. Yeah. How old
was she when you met? And how? She was thirty
nine years old? Actually, and how are you?

Speaker 1 (03:01):
I was seven years because our birthdays are three days apart.
I was forty six.

Speaker 3 (03:07):
Okays a little bit, but overall you made her for
special and she wasn't contacted.

Speaker 1 (03:13):
There no a little bit of town, independent, a.

Speaker 3 (03:16):
Little bit town Missouri.

Speaker 1 (03:18):
I'm from a big town Dallas. What were very vast,
kind of a corporate guy. She's kind of a small
tong girl. You take care of your man, you do
for your man, that kind of thing.

Speaker 3 (03:27):
But at the end of the day, Kobe was in love, right,
Kobbe was well you were in love, right.

Speaker 1 (03:33):
Oh, absolutely, I wouldn't have married her.

Speaker 3 (03:35):
Yeah, okay, so you married this girl that you have
a wedding something simple.

Speaker 1 (03:40):
Had a beautiful wedding on Lake Lottawa, which is about
fifteen miles east of Cancity. It was beautiful. Actually, a
pastors said he's never seen a wedding where two people
love that much. As far as in the spiritual sense.
He could feel the love and my stepson, which kind
of makes me emotional a little bit, told me that
he never I have a Stepsum to the he showed

(04:04):
him how to be trying to get emotional, how to
be how to treat a woman though, was the example
of how to treat a woman. Yeah, so this, I'm
just sure that that's for my Stepsum.

Speaker 3 (04:15):
Said, okay, yes, holds the step he gave.

Speaker 1 (04:20):
He gave it.

Speaker 4 (04:21):
He was