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Speaker 1 (00:02):
You're listening to Beyond the Cheaters, the Detective Gomez Files,
and now here is Detective Gometz. Welcome to another episode
of Beyond Cheaters or the Detective Domes Files. I the host,
Detective Domatz, and ladies and gentlemen. Today we are talking
about toxic relationships. I want to give you five powerful
(00:23):
reasons why you should never go back to a toxic relationship.
And it can be tough, it can be hard. Sometimes
you think you can change the other person, and sometimes
you can't. Most of the time you can no matter
who talks to them. Maybe their family talks so maybe
their moms talks to them, or their parents talk to
(00:45):
that person, and they won't change. This goes for males
and females. You know, some guys are just hot tempered.
Something sets them off, and you know if they start
throwing stuff. Some people girls the same way. You know.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
But if you're in a toxic relationship and you break up,
you try to walk away. And we talked about it
in the previous episode and at the time lapse and
then you say, well, Ken, maybe we can.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Still work it out. Let's try to get Things don't change.
I'm sorry, but things do not change, all right, So
let's get into the first one. So so the cycle
of abuse or dysfunction continues. Toxic relationships often follow a
pattern of highs and lows. If nothing has changed, your
likely experienced the same emotional turmoil again. If nothing has changed. Now,
(01:37):
if you see change and see if someone's trying, they're
trying to be different, they're trying to be that person
you fell in love when you first met them, then
you're like, Okay, it's might workout. There's no change. You know,
they're still bringing up something in the past. You've got
to let it go. Number two, The mental and emotional
health will suffer. Okay, mental and emotional health will Being
(02:01):
a toxic relationship can drain your self esteem, increase anxiety,
and even lead to depression. Staying away allows you to
heal and really rebuild your confidence. Okay, that makes a
whole lot of sense, because if you're self esteem is
about yourself, anxiety is like, Okay, what's gonna set this
person off. I'm afraid to go this way, I'm afraid
(02:23):
to say this, I'm afraid to do that. I'm afraid
to go here, great to go there, or mention this
person or that part, whatever it's and then it's going
to set them off. You just depressed all the time.
You're just deppressed, You're not happy. It's not the way
to be in a relationship, and you don't need to
go back to that. Staying away gives you time to
kind of find yourself again, find out who you are,
and find out which way you're going, and it may
(02:43):
not be with that person. Number three, False promises rarely
lead to real change. False promises Okay, a toxic partner
may promise to change, but unless they've taken real steps
like therapy, your personal growth, their behaviors life is stay
the same. Actions speak loud of the words. There you go.
(03:05):
Actions speak a lout of the words. Let's just say,
for example, you have a person that drinks or whatever.
If they're not showing that they can stop, they're not
showing you that they're gonna stop drinking and they're gonna
stop all the time to change and get better, and
(03:25):
nothing's gonna change. It's not telling you, hey, by the way,
I'm gonna stop drinking. I'm sorry, it's not gonna have
any more. I'm cleaning on my act. I want to
be with you. You mean more to me than a beer
or drink or cigarette. Then that's when you know things
are unchanged. But if not, it's just a false promise,
false promise. Number four, you deserve a healthy, loving relationship,
(03:50):
going back being selling for less of what you deserve.
What you deserve.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
Everybody deserves to be happy. That there are people who
will treat you with respect, love and kindness. Don't block
from finding true happiness.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
It's out there. You just gotta find it. You got
to look for it. I don't know wh where it's that,
but it's out there, but you got to be I
think you actually have to be happy with yourself before
you can actually find happiness and somebody else, because it's
not always about that person making you happy.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
You gotta be happy with yourself and then where are
other people? You're happy all the time.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
But if you're totally depending on one person, it's not
gonna work. Number five you risk losing progress and growth. Okay,
if you're already left and you've taken a powerful step
to take a better life, howe back will set you
back emotionally and prevent you from moving forward to something better. Okay,
so you walk away, Hey, I'm done with this guy
(04:45):
or girl. I'm done with her, I'm tired of BS.
And you're like, okay, I'm gonna start doing this, doing
this mess up better. Then you go back and everything's
back just the same. Nothing's changed, nothing's changed. And guess what,
nothing's going to change unless you change. So you've got
to find a way to say, you know what, I'm
not gonna go back. I'm moving this way, I'm going
this way, and this is what makes me happy. You've
(05:08):
got to do it. You know, it says here, It
finally says here. Breaking free from a toxic relationship is difficult,
but staying away it's an act of self love and strength.
Stay focused on your well being. There you go. You know,
when you're in a toxic relationship, your blood curasure is
going or your class that is going up. All these
things are going crazy, your anxiety is going up. All
this suff's happening. You just want to live and have
(05:29):
fun with somebody when you're not working. You want to
have phone somebody and have a good time. It's all
you want, that's it. But if you can't have that
in relationship, what's the use of in relationship? Just wasting
your time? Your money. So trying to find a way
not to get fall back into toxic relations because if
it's it's toxic. I don't care if you speak English, Spanish,
(05:53):
you know, the foreign language. Whatever it is is toxic.
A toxic person is a toxic person, and you can't
be in a relationship and you can't go back. It's
hard sometimes and know because you think about the family.
You think about his family, her family. They're a beautiful family, great,
But what about that person. It's not a beautiful person.
(06:13):
It's good. Look at it, just beautiful, kind of great body.
Everything about it is beautiful, except the way she is inside,
going and going to church. Don't anything but anybody better?
Doesn't that person inside that those demons inside. So I've
given you five powerful reasons never to go back to
a toxic relationships. Let's go over them one more time,
(06:35):
just for the record. Number one, the cycle of abuse
or just function continues, okay. Number two, the mental emotional
health will suffer. Number three false promises really lead to
real changes, to a real change. Number four and I
repeat that number three is false promises rarely lead to
(06:57):
real change. Number four, You deserve a healthy, loving relationship.
At number five, you risk losing progress and growth. It's
so important. So remember these things. When you break up
with somebody and then you think about going back and
you think that maybe this might work, this may not work.
Think about these five five, five very very powerful reasons
(07:19):
never to go back to a toxic relationship because if
you go back, then you're just going back in time
and you're wasting your time. Find happiness, grow, just make
yourself happy. We're only on this earth one time. That's it.
You know, you don't getting second chances in life. So
(07:40):
please think about your relationship, think about yourself, your self esteem,
anxiety alsome thinks that you know, you need to live
your life happy, sleep well at night, wake up in
the morning, okay, without being having anxiety. All right, So
think about those things if you decide to are considering
(08:01):
going back into a toxic relationship, and please find a
way to stay away, all right. If you got any questions,
let me know and I'll do what I can help. Yeah, okay,
all right, Well, thank our sponsor. Mister one her Nan
is with the one her name is law firm. You
can content contact him at one law dot com. Uh.
(08:22):
He is a personal injury attorney. Here in the Dallas
fourth area.
Speaker 4 (08:25):
If you've been involved in a car accident, contact him.
Injured in a car accident contact him eighteen wheel accident
contact him two one four nine zero zero zero zero
zero zero or visit him at one law dot com.
And also I want to think Victoria Nabe. She's a
divorce attorney here in the Dallas fourth area. If you're
(08:45):
thinking about the worst, tired of your toxic relationship, if
you want to get out of it, contact Victoria. She
will help you out. Contact to it two one four five.
She will help you get through the wars and set
you free so you can live your life been happiness
all right, And of course you can always contact me
the tectrigomers dot com two one four eight two three
(09:06):
five six zero zero. Got any infidelity, cheating questions, background checks?
You know, need a GPS device the Technicus dot com.
I'll be more than glad to help you, all right.
Take care and thank you for being for being a
part of Beyonce Yours. The Detective Goals have great.
Speaker 5 (09:28):
Thank you for listening our show day Listen, gentlemen. I
want to thank our sponsor Juan Hernandez Long and you
can visit them at one law dot com or contact
them at two one four nine zero zero zero zero
zero zero. They helped me through an accident and they
can help you too, so contact them today.
You're listening to Beyond the Cheaters, the Detective Gomez Files,
and now here is Detective Gometz. Welcome to another episode
of Beyond Cheaters or the Detective Domes Files. I the host,
Detective Domatz, and ladies and gentlemen. Today we are talking
about toxic relationships. I want to give you five powerful
(00:23):
reasons why you should never go back to a toxic relationship.
And it can be tough, it can be hard. Sometimes
you think you can change the other person, and sometimes
you can't. Most of the time you can no matter
who talks to them. Maybe their family talks so maybe
their moms talks to them, or their parents talk to
(00:45):
that person, and they won't change. This goes for males
and females. You know, some guys are just hot tempered.
Something sets them off, and you know if they start
throwing stuff. Some people girls the same way. You know.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
But if you're in a toxic relationship and you break up,
you try to walk away. And we talked about it
in the previous episode and at the time lapse and
then you say, well, Ken, maybe we can.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Still work it out. Let's try to get Things don't change.
I'm sorry, but things do not change, all right, So
let's get into the first one. So so the cycle
of abuse or dysfunction continues. Toxic relationships often follow a
pattern of highs and lows. If nothing has changed, your
likely experienced the same emotional turmoil again. If nothing has changed. Now,
(01:37):
if you see change and see if someone's trying, they're
trying to be different, they're trying to be that person
you fell in love when you first met them, then
you're like, Okay, it's might workout. There's no change. You know,
they're still bringing up something in the past. You've got
to let it go. Number two, The mental and emotional
health will suffer. Okay, mental and emotional health will Being
(02:01):
a toxic relationship can drain your self esteem, increase anxiety,
and even lead to depression. Staying away allows you to
heal and really rebuild your confidence. Okay, that makes a
whole lot of sense, because if you're self esteem is
about yourself, anxiety is like, Okay, what's gonna set this
person off. I'm afraid to go this way, I'm afraid
(02:23):
to say this, I'm afraid to do that. I'm afraid
to go here, great to go there, or mention this
person or that part, whatever it's and then it's going
to set them off. You just depressed all the time.
You're just deppressed, You're not happy. It's not the way
to be in a relationship, and you don't need to
go back to that. Staying away gives you time to
kind of find yourself again, find out who you are,
and find out which way you're going, and it may
(02:43):
not be with that person. Number three, False promises rarely
lead to real change. False promises Okay, a toxic partner
may promise to change, but unless they've taken real steps
like therapy, your personal growth, their behaviors life is stay
the same. Actions speak loud of the words. There you go.
(03:05):
Actions speak a lout of the words. Let's just say,
for example, you have a person that drinks or whatever.
If they're not showing that they can stop, they're not
showing you that they're gonna stop drinking and they're gonna
stop all the time to change and get better, and
(03:25):
nothing's gonna change. It's not telling you, hey, by the way,
I'm gonna stop drinking. I'm sorry, it's not gonna have
any more. I'm cleaning on my act. I want to
be with you. You mean more to me than a beer
or drink or cigarette. Then that's when you know things
are unchanged. But if not, it's just a false promise,
false promise. Number four, you deserve a healthy, loving relationship,
(03:50):
going back being selling for less of what you deserve.
What you deserve.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
Everybody deserves to be happy. That there are people who
will treat you with respect, love and kindness. Don't block
from finding true happiness.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
It's out there. You just gotta find it. You got
to look for it. I don't know wh where it's that,
but it's out there, but you got to be I
think you actually have to be happy with yourself before
you can actually find happiness and somebody else, because it's
not always about that person making you happy.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
You gotta be happy with yourself and then where are
other people? You're happy all the time.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
But if you're totally depending on one person, it's not
gonna work. Number five you risk losing progress and growth. Okay,
if you're already left and you've taken a powerful step
to take a better life, howe back will set you
back emotionally and prevent you from moving forward to something better. Okay,
so you walk away, Hey, I'm done with this guy
(04:45):
or girl. I'm done with her, I'm tired of BS.
And you're like, okay, I'm gonna start doing this, doing
this mess up better. Then you go back and everything's
back just the same. Nothing's changed, nothing's changed. And guess what,
nothing's going to change unless you change. So you've got
to find a way to say, you know what, I'm
not gonna go back. I'm moving this way, I'm going
this way, and this is what makes me happy. You've
(05:08):
got to do it. You know, it says here, It
finally says here. Breaking free from a toxic relationship is difficult,
but staying away it's an act of self love and strength.
Stay focused on your well being. There you go. You know,
when you're in a toxic relationship, your blood curasure is
going or your class that is going up. All these
things are going crazy, your anxiety is going up. All
this suff's happening. You just want to live and have
(05:29):
fun with somebody when you're not working. You want to
have phone somebody and have a good time. It's all
you want, that's it. But if you can't have that
in relationship, what's the use of in relationship? Just wasting
your time? Your money. So trying to find a way
not to get fall back into toxic relations because if
it's it's toxic. I don't care if you speak English, Spanish,
(05:53):
you know, the foreign language. Whatever it is is toxic.
A toxic person is a toxic person, and you can't
be in a relationship and you can't go back. It's
hard sometimes and know because you think about the family.
You think about his family, her family. They're a beautiful family, great,
But what about that person. It's not a beautiful person.
(06:13):
It's good. Look at it, just beautiful, kind of great body.
Everything about it is beautiful, except the way she is inside,
going and going to church. Don't anything but anybody better?
Doesn't that person inside that those demons inside. So I've
given you five powerful reasons never to go back to
a toxic relationships. Let's go over them one more time,
(06:35):
just for the record. Number one, the cycle of abuse
or just function continues, okay. Number two, the mental emotional
health will suffer. Number three false promises really lead to
real changes, to a real change. Number four and I
repeat that number three is false promises rarely lead to
(06:57):
real change. Number four, You deserve a healthy, loving relationship.
At number five, you risk losing progress and growth. It's
so important. So remember these things. When you break up
with somebody and then you think about going back and
you think that maybe this might work, this may not work.
Think about these five five, five very very powerful reasons
(07:19):
never to go back to a toxic relationship because if
you go back, then you're just going back in time
and you're wasting your time. Find happiness, grow, just make
yourself happy. We're only on this earth one time. That's it.
You know, you don't getting second chances in life. So
(07:40):
please think about your relationship, think about yourself, your self esteem,
anxiety alsome thinks that you know, you need to live
your life happy, sleep well at night, wake up in
the morning, okay, without being having anxiety. All right, So
think about those things if you decide to are considering
(08:01):
going back into a toxic relationship, and please find a
way to stay away, all right. If you got any questions,
let me know and I'll do what I can help. Yeah, okay,
all right, Well, thank our sponsor. Mister one her Nan
is with the one her name is law firm. You
can content contact him at one law dot com. Uh.
(08:22):
He is a personal injury attorney. Here in the Dallas
fourth area.
Speaker 4 (08:25):
If you've been involved in a car accident, contact him.
Injured in a car accident contact him eighteen wheel accident
contact him two one four nine zero zero zero zero
zero zero or visit him at one law dot com.
And also I want to think Victoria Nabe. She's a
divorce attorney here in the Dallas fourth area. If you're
(08:45):
thinking about the worst, tired of your toxic relationship, if
you want to get out of it, contact Victoria. She
will help you out. Contact to it two one four five.
She will help you get through the wars and set
you free so you can live your life been happiness
all right, And of course you can always contact me
the tectrigomers dot com two one four eight two three
(09:06):
five six zero zero. Got any infidelity, cheating questions, background checks?
You know, need a GPS device the Technicus dot com.
I'll be more than glad to help you, all right.
Take care and thank you for being for being a
part of Beyonce Yours. The Detective Goals have great.
Speaker 5 (09:28):
Thank you for listening our show day Listen, gentlemen. I
want to thank our sponsor Juan Hernandez Long and you
can visit them at one law dot com or contact
them at two one four nine zero zero zero zero
zero zero. They helped me through an accident and they
can help you too, so contact them today.
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