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Speaker 1 (00:02):
You're listening to Beyond the Cheaters, The Detective Gomez.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Files, and now here is Detective Gometz. Welcome to another
episode of Beyond Yours the Detective Gomez Files House. Everybody
doing post Valentine's Day? You know, Valentine's Day is never
easy when you're in a relationship because you never know
what you're gonna get or what you're not gonna get.
(00:27):
Today we're talking about the title of our show. Day
is called No Valentine's Gift, what it means, and how
to talk about it.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
There's never.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Under an understanding of what you you know, like I said,
what you might get, what you might not get. You
might get a card, you might get a ring. Maybe
somebody's gonna ask you to marry you.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
You just never ever know.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
It's kind of a what they say, and you know,
I guess the Vegas terms.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
It's a crapshoot. You just don't know what you're gonna get,
you know.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Sometimes you know, and I've had a couple of clients
ask me like, hey, he didn't give me anything, what
is this mean? Or he didn't do anything for me,
what does this mean? Does this mean that he still
wants to be in a relationship.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
He's just busy. He got busy on Valentine's Day. You know.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
I had a client tell me that her husband, her boyfriend,
had physical therapy on a Friday at eight o'clock at night.
Couldn't spend Valentine's Day with her. He had to go
do physical therapy. So there's all kinds of strange messages
or signs that come with Valentine's Day, good and bad.
And it's something to think about and something.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
To talk about. And we're going to talk about that day. Okay,
let's go.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
The first thing you need to talk about if you
didn't get really much for Valentine's Day is you need
to express your feelings without blame. Okay, express your feelings
without blaine and something like you know, hey, say something like, hey,
I want to talk about yesterday. I felt a little
unappreciated when I didn't get anything.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Can we talk about it?
Speaker 2 (01:56):
So? Can we talk about It's very simple, you want
to say something. I know gifts are on everything, but
I was kind of hoping for something small. I just
want to understand, you know where you're coming from. It's
this relationship going anywhere. I mean, if you're telling me
you love me, love me, love me, or having sex
or kissing, hugging and everything else. Come Valentine's Day. Uh,
(02:16):
I don't get a box of candy or anything. I
mean something to where you kind of feel like you're appreciated.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Card cards, say a lot. You don't even get a card.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
You know what's that supposed to mean? You don't get
a card? You did not get a card? How does
that feel? So that's kind of you know, the first one.
There is one way to talk about it. Number two
understanding their perspective. Did you not realize I wanted something?
Or there was a reason you chose not to get
me anything?
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Just ask him? Hey, maybe maybe you're just in a mood.
What does or are telling? You know?
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Some people don't believe in holidays. This is kind of
a romantic holiday. You know, what does Valentine's Day mean
to you? Uh?
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Do you see it?
Speaker 2 (03:00):
See it differently than I do? You know, some people
go all out by balloons and all god. You know, yeah,
you know, some women are happy with one row. Someone
will want two rows. And some guys go buy three
dozens of flowers. Some guys go buy the whole room.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Full of flowers. What doesn't mean to you?
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Does it?
Speaker 1 (03:16):
I mean anything?
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Does it? Who knows? Okay, that's number two. Number three
exploring love languages. I think you know you can say
something like I think gifts are one way I feel loved.
What what ways do you like to receive love?
Speaker 1 (03:32):
You don't talk to me like, how do you like it?
How do you feel like you're being loved?
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Maybe we are just come out and saying maybe we
see things differently, but I want to make sure that
we both feel appreciated in our relationship. Basically saying, hey,
I don't mind how you feel, but better throw some
love my way, whether you like it or not, show
some love. Number four Setting expectations for the future. You know,
(03:58):
say something, hey, for next year. Maybe we can talk
about it so we both know what to expect ahead
of time. So basically you're telling your delegate, Hey, by
the way, you know Valentine's Days coming up, I'd like
to get this this or this something something you know
you know you know, and say what you want because
maybe the person you're with says I didn't know you
wanted anything, which is kind of hard to believe. You know,
(04:21):
something is better than nothing or or something like, I
don't need something expensive, but a small gesture means a
lot to me. Can you find a way to meet
me in the meddle? You'll say hey, by the way,
if you can't, if you can't afford it, you know,
don't lital pressure by other people of what you see
on the internet or friends or whatever family. You know,
if you don't you can't afford, say about it? What
can't get your card in a flower where you be
(04:41):
having something something something? So Number four setting expectations for
the future. Number five evaluating the relationship if needed, you know,
says here do I feel valued in this relationship beyond
just Valentine's Day? Is this a part of the bigger
pattern of feeling unappreciated? You know?
Speaker 1 (05:07):
Would you like the it says here? Would you like
to frame it more?
Speaker 2 (05:12):
But you know, you can say playfully or seriously depending
on your relationship, you know, but you know you got
to be kind of careful how you say things, because
then you might upset somebody and then they hay, why
you don't you don't.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Think I love you?
Speaker 2 (05:22):
And then you get upset and you get something else.
So those are you know, ways that you as a person,
can you know, uh, talk about it five different ways
you can talk about it. Because if you don't express
your feelings with somebody, your love or that you want
(05:44):
to spend Valentine's Day with, you know, you're giving yourself
to me. Not just giving yourself, you're giving your time,
you're you're you're you know. And when you're in a relationship,
it's it's it's not easy. You got to make time
for the other person. You got to buy them this,
their birthday, the Christmas, Valentine's Day, all these things come
up and you've got to constantly work at it. And
Valentine's Day is kind of an easy way to help
(06:05):
a lit it if you can get them a car
flower or order flowers, or there's just so many ways,
or you can show someone you can kind of like
them a little bit or love them a lot on
Valentine's Day because the stores are full of stuff you
can buy to help you make that someone special life
(06:25):
feel very special. And if you don't do that, then
you're leaving yourself wide open for them to question your
relationship with them. Wow, you tell me you love me.
You want to come over and have sex with men?
You want to kiss me. You want to do all
the stuff with me, but it comes Valentine. You couldn't
buy me a cart, couldn't buy me a flower. There's
plenty at the store if people set them in the corners.
(06:47):
You couldn't do that for me.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
So those are you know, five ways that you can
talk about it with your significant other, and I'm going
to go over with them over time. One is expressing
your feelings without blame. Number two is understanding their perspective.
Number three exploring love languages. Number four setting expectations for
(07:13):
the future, and number five evaluating the relationship if needed. So,
like I said, if you didn't get anything for Valentine's Day,
and you know what I'm doing here is giving you
some ways to kind of talk about it. Five different
ways you can talk about it. And you don't know
what it means. If you didn't get anything, what does
it mean? If I didn't get anything, could mean a lot,
(07:34):
couldn't mean a little. Maybe they were busy, you know.
And there's really no excuses really because valentine Day's is
very very marketable holiday. It's everywhere on the internet, at
the store, on the corners, so many ways you can
buy something for somebody. If you really want to it's
something very small, you can do it. If you want,
(07:56):
you can do it. But if you don't do it,
then you're kind of setting yourself up to be question
why or you'll get the silent treatment. So guys, ladies,
whatever it may be, you know, you know, you might
want to question relationship and see if it's there's something
still there now.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
So with that to be said, I hope.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Everybody did have a great Valentine's Day and I hope
the next ture it gets even better. All right, So
think about those things, and like I said, there's nothing
wrong with talking about it about not getting a Valentine's gift,
But ask questions and see if can get you some
answers and see if it's what you want to hear,
now what you want to hear. If it's not what
you want to hear, it's time, though, go go go
(08:40):
wherever you got to go and get out of it.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
So that's what we talked about today, and we've got
some guests coming up here in the next podcast, so
stay tuned. Thanks for being a part of today's podcast.
We'll see you next time on Beyond Cheaters. The detective
go as files.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Now.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Of course we want to thank mister Uh want her nannas.
It's a personal injury attorney here in Dallas, Texas. If
you've been injured at a car accident and you're not
at faulled, contact in the day at two one four
nine zero zero zero zero zero zero, or visit them
at one law dot com. And then next one to
(09:17):
thank miss Victoria and why she's a divorce attorney here
in Dallas, Texas. And if you're thinking about the divorce,
if you didn't get anything for Valentine's Day, you're thinking
about divorce, contact her immediately at two one four three
fifty five. Do not be afraid to ask questions. You know,
we all think we know the law. We all think
we know this, we know that, but you got to
(09:38):
hear it from somebody who actually really knows it. Okay,
contact her today.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
She will help you. She's a professional in her business.
And of course, very last, but not least, is uh.
You can contact Detective Gomez dot com.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
I'd be more than glad to help you with a
GPS device, some infidelity coaching, private investigations here in the
Dallas fourth area. I've been doing this for about thirty years,
and I love what I do. I love helping people
get the answers they need so they can move on
with their lives. Okay, if I can help you, visit
(10:13):
me at Detective goments dot com or call me at
two one four eight two three five six zero zero.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
All Right, ladies, gentlemen, told's to see you next time.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
I'm beyond Here's a detective go miss files. Thank you
for listening our show day Latien and gentlemen, I want
to thank our sponsor, Juan Hernandez Law and you can
visit them at one law dot com or contact them
at two one four nine zero zero zero zero zero zero.
They help me through an accident and they can help
you too, so contact them today
You're listening to Beyond the Cheaters, The Detective Gomez.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Files, and now here is Detective Gometz. Welcome to another
episode of Beyond Yours the Detective Gomez Files House. Everybody
doing post Valentine's Day? You know, Valentine's Day is never
easy when you're in a relationship because you never know
what you're gonna get or what you're not gonna get.
(00:27):
Today we're talking about the title of our show. Day
is called No Valentine's Gift, what it means, and how
to talk about it.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
There's never.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Under an understanding of what you you know, like I said,
what you might get, what you might not get. You
might get a card, you might get a ring. Maybe
somebody's gonna ask you to marry you.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
You just never ever know.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
It's kind of a what they say, and you know,
I guess the Vegas terms.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
It's a crapshoot. You just don't know what you're gonna get,
you know.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Sometimes you know, and I've had a couple of clients
ask me like, hey, he didn't give me anything, what
is this mean? Or he didn't do anything for me,
what does this mean? Does this mean that he still
wants to be in a relationship.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
He's just busy. He got busy on Valentine's Day. You know.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
I had a client tell me that her husband, her boyfriend,
had physical therapy on a Friday at eight o'clock at night.
Couldn't spend Valentine's Day with her. He had to go
do physical therapy. So there's all kinds of strange messages
or signs that come with Valentine's Day, good and bad.
And it's something to think about and something.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
To talk about. And we're going to talk about that day. Okay,
let's go.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
The first thing you need to talk about if you
didn't get really much for Valentine's Day is you need
to express your feelings without blame. Okay, express your feelings
without blaine and something like you know, hey, say something like, hey,
I want to talk about yesterday. I felt a little
unappreciated when I didn't get anything.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Can we talk about it?
Speaker 2 (01:56):
So? Can we talk about It's very simple, you want
to say something. I know gifts are on everything, but
I was kind of hoping for something small. I just
want to understand, you know where you're coming from. It's
this relationship going anywhere. I mean, if you're telling me
you love me, love me, love me, or having sex
or kissing, hugging and everything else. Come Valentine's Day. Uh,
(02:16):
I don't get a box of candy or anything. I
mean something to where you kind of feel like you're appreciated.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Card cards, say a lot. You don't even get a card.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
You know what's that supposed to mean? You don't get
a card? You did not get a card? How does
that feel? So that's kind of you know, the first one.
There is one way to talk about it. Number two
understanding their perspective. Did you not realize I wanted something?
Or there was a reason you chose not to get
me anything?
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Just ask him? Hey, maybe maybe you're just in a mood.
What does or are telling? You know?
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Some people don't believe in holidays. This is kind of
a romantic holiday. You know, what does Valentine's Day mean
to you? Uh?
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Do you see it?
Speaker 2 (03:00):
See it differently than I do? You know, some people
go all out by balloons and all god. You know, yeah,
you know, some women are happy with one row. Someone
will want two rows. And some guys go buy three
dozens of flowers. Some guys go buy the whole room.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Full of flowers. What doesn't mean to you?
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Does it?
Speaker 1 (03:16):
I mean anything?
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Does it? Who knows? Okay, that's number two. Number three
exploring love languages. I think you know you can say
something like I think gifts are one way I feel loved.
What what ways do you like to receive love?
Speaker 1 (03:32):
You don't talk to me like, how do you like it?
How do you feel like you're being loved?
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Maybe we are just come out and saying maybe we
see things differently, but I want to make sure that
we both feel appreciated in our relationship. Basically saying, hey,
I don't mind how you feel, but better throw some
love my way, whether you like it or not, show
some love. Number four Setting expectations for the future. You know,
(03:58):
say something, hey, for next year. Maybe we can talk
about it so we both know what to expect ahead
of time. So basically you're telling your delegate, Hey, by
the way, you know Valentine's Days coming up, I'd like
to get this this or this something something you know
you know you know, and say what you want because
maybe the person you're with says I didn't know you
wanted anything, which is kind of hard to believe. You know,
(04:21):
something is better than nothing or or something like, I
don't need something expensive, but a small gesture means a
lot to me. Can you find a way to meet
me in the meddle? You'll say hey, by the way,
if you can't, if you can't afford it, you know,
don't lital pressure by other people of what you see
on the internet or friends or whatever family. You know,
if you don't you can't afford, say about it? What
can't get your card in a flower where you be
(04:41):
having something something something? So Number four setting expectations for
the future. Number five evaluating the relationship if needed, you know,
says here do I feel valued in this relationship beyond
just Valentine's Day? Is this a part of the bigger
pattern of feeling unappreciated? You know?
Speaker 1 (05:07):
Would you like the it says here? Would you like
to frame it more?
Speaker 2 (05:12):
But you know, you can say playfully or seriously depending
on your relationship, you know, but you know you got
to be kind of careful how you say things, because
then you might upset somebody and then they hay, why
you don't you don't.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Think I love you?
Speaker 2 (05:22):
And then you get upset and you get something else.
So those are you know, ways that you as a person,
can you know, uh, talk about it five different ways
you can talk about it. Because if you don't express
your feelings with somebody, your love or that you want
(05:44):
to spend Valentine's Day with, you know, you're giving yourself
to me. Not just giving yourself, you're giving your time,
you're you're you're you know. And when you're in a relationship,
it's it's it's not easy. You got to make time
for the other person. You got to buy them this,
their birthday, the Christmas, Valentine's Day, all these things come
up and you've got to constantly work at it. And
Valentine's Day is kind of an easy way to help
(06:05):
a lit it if you can get them a car
flower or order flowers, or there's just so many ways,
or you can show someone you can kind of like
them a little bit or love them a lot on
Valentine's Day because the stores are full of stuff you
can buy to help you make that someone special life
(06:25):
feel very special. And if you don't do that, then
you're leaving yourself wide open for them to question your
relationship with them. Wow, you tell me you love me.
You want to come over and have sex with men?
You want to kiss me. You want to do all
the stuff with me, but it comes Valentine. You couldn't
buy me a cart, couldn't buy me a flower. There's
plenty at the store if people set them in the corners.
(06:47):
You couldn't do that for me.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
So those are you know, five ways that you can
talk about it with your significant other, and I'm going
to go over with them over time. One is expressing
your feelings without blame. Number two is understanding their perspective.
Number three exploring love languages. Number four setting expectations for
(07:13):
the future, and number five evaluating the relationship if needed. So,
like I said, if you didn't get anything for Valentine's Day,
and you know what I'm doing here is giving you
some ways to kind of talk about it. Five different
ways you can talk about it. And you don't know
what it means. If you didn't get anything, what does
it mean? If I didn't get anything, could mean a lot,
(07:34):
couldn't mean a little. Maybe they were busy, you know.
And there's really no excuses really because valentine Day's is
very very marketable holiday. It's everywhere on the internet, at
the store, on the corners, so many ways you can
buy something for somebody. If you really want to it's
something very small, you can do it. If you want,
(07:56):
you can do it. But if you don't do it,
then you're kind of setting yourself up to be question
why or you'll get the silent treatment. So guys, ladies,
whatever it may be, you know, you know, you might
want to question relationship and see if it's there's something
still there now.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
So with that to be said, I hope.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Everybody did have a great Valentine's Day and I hope
the next ture it gets even better. All right, So
think about those things, and like I said, there's nothing
wrong with talking about it about not getting a Valentine's gift,
But ask questions and see if can get you some
answers and see if it's what you want to hear,
now what you want to hear. If it's not what
you want to hear, it's time, though, go go go
(08:40):
wherever you got to go and get out of it.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
So that's what we talked about today, and we've got
some guests coming up here in the next podcast, so
stay tuned. Thanks for being a part of today's podcast.
We'll see you next time on Beyond Cheaters. The detective
go as files.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Now.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Of course we want to thank mister Uh want her nannas.
It's a personal injury attorney here in Dallas, Texas. If
you've been injured at a car accident and you're not
at faulled, contact in the day at two one four
nine zero zero zero zero zero zero, or visit them
at one law dot com. And then next one to
(09:17):
thank miss Victoria and why she's a divorce attorney here
in Dallas, Texas. And if you're thinking about the divorce,
if you didn't get anything for Valentine's Day, you're thinking
about divorce, contact her immediately at two one four three
fifty five. Do not be afraid to ask questions. You know,
we all think we know the law. We all think
we know this, we know that, but you got to
(09:38):
hear it from somebody who actually really knows it. Okay,
contact her today.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
She will help you. She's a professional in her business.
And of course, very last, but not least, is uh.
You can contact Detective Gomez dot com.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
I'd be more than glad to help you with a
GPS device, some infidelity coaching, private investigations here in the
Dallas fourth area. I've been doing this for about thirty years,
and I love what I do. I love helping people
get the answers they need so they can move on
with their lives. Okay, if I can help you, visit
(10:13):
me at Detective goments dot com or call me at
two one four eight two three five six zero zero.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
All Right, ladies, gentlemen, told's to see you next time.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
I'm beyond Here's a detective go miss files. Thank you
for listening our show day Latien and gentlemen, I want
to thank our sponsor, Juan Hernandez Law and you can
visit them at one law dot com or contact them
at two one four nine zero zero zero zero zero zero.
They help me through an accident and they can help
you too, so contact them today
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