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You're listening to Beyond the Cheaters The Detective Gomez Files,
and now here is Detective Gometz. Welcome to another episode
of Beyond Cheaters The Detective gill Metz Files. I'm your host,
Detective Bill in mess house. Everybody doing today? You know,
relationships can never be easy, and even when it's good,
(00:22):
sometimes it's bad. And sometimes when it's bad so it
gets better. You know, you never ever know. But today
I want to talk about something I think that's very
very important. I've seen this quite a bit in some
of my uh I've had my relationship in the past.
I've had a couple, but I have one a couple
of clients of mine the other day that we're talking
about that their when their husband or wife gets upset
(00:44):
there you know, it's are slamming doors, slamming cabinets and
just kind of just kind of get out of control.
And I'd like to talk about this because I think
it's very very important. So we're going to call this
segment Temper and Jealousy the fastest way to lose your partner.
It's true, you'll lose them fast. You start losing your
temper and you start being jealous all the time, you're
(01:04):
just gonna lose them. And if you've been out of
a bad relationship in the past, and are you've gone
through a bad relationship in the past and you're trying
to start a new one, this isn't gonna help. Maybe
you need to wait, but let's talk about this. Uh
so we're gonna stay here. We're gonna call it, you know,
absolut there's five solid reasons why temper and jealousy can
ruin a relationship. The first one, it kills trust. You know,
trust is the foundation of any strong relationship. Constant jealousy
(01:27):
makes your partner feel like they're always under suspicion and
even when they've done nothing wrong. Over time, it destroys
the bond, which is very true if you're constantly saying,
we are you, what are you doing? Who are you with?
You know, and they're kind of kidding, but they're kind
of serious too. It's you know, you've got to start
thinking about that. Number two says leads to constant arguments.
A short temper means means small arguments quickly turn into
(01:48):
full blown fights when anger takes over. Hurtful words exchange
and make it harder to resolve issues peacefully. You know,
I was in a relationship a long time ago where
my you know, my initials are DG, but they used
to call me MF and you know what that stands for.
And I tried to explain to this person. I said, look,
my name is not MF, my initials aren't MF. Can
(02:10):
you call me by my name? And you just said, oh,
you're just taking it personal. Eventually we didn't work out anyway, okay.
Number three creates emotional distance. Nobody wants to feel controlled
or accused all the time. Jealousy and anger pushes your
partner away, making them emotionally just in it and even
(02:30):
leading them to seek peace elsewhere. That means they're believing.
That means you're such a problem, or you make yourself
so bad. They don't want to be around you. They
just want to go someplace. That's why lots of times,
you know, you hear that. Men Sometimes they'll get into
an arm and they just leave because they just don't
want to be around it. Don't want to be around it,
(02:51):
do not want to be around it all right. Number
four encourageous toxic behavior. Generous are a hot tempered partner,
not resorted to controlling behavior, checking phones, restriction freedom, or
even verbally and physically aggressive. This creates toxics environments rather
than a loving one, which is very, very true. You know,
(03:12):
lots of you know you I've heard some stories in
the past where my clients were like, well, my husband
gets mad and punches a hole in the wall. Now
we got ten holes in the wall. Somebody's got to
fix it. So if you're in that kind of situation,
you know, or someone starts, you know, you got to
girls keep slamming cabinets and things like that. It's like,
you don't even want to be around them because it's toxic.
(03:32):
I don't want to be around it. You're married, you
just find some way to go out and get drunk
and come home and pass out. You know. I had
a case like that once a long time. A bother
guy just got drunk and came home and passed out
because his wife was a bitch. Okay, it wasn't sheting.
You just don't want to be around her, all right.
Number fine pushes your partner to lead. If jealousy and
temper aren't controlled, your partner may feel trapped and emotionally exhausted.
(03:54):
Emotionally exhausted. Pay attention to that. Many people eventually lose
choose to leave rather than staying relationship for the of
tension and fear. It gets fearful. The person is always
grabbing at you, or grabbing let me see your phone,
or where you were even all day. You just don't
want to hear all that, and you're you're you're like
walking on eggshells, and you don't want to be that
(04:15):
way in relations You should be happy, happy in your relationship.
You got somebody, you got a girl, you got a guy.
You should be happy, not worrying about whether he's gonna
swing at you or give you a dirty look or
talk trash to you, or or she's gonna talk trash
you or call you names. Doesn't call you what you
you know, call me sweetheart, don't call me m f
you know, call me, call me, call me by my name.
(04:39):
All these things are something that take in consideration, especially
if you're in a relationship where you're starting to see
these signs. And and then we I'll give you the
final thought here. It says love should be built on trust, respect,
and peace. Peace right, you know, uh, peace is very
very important in a relationship. And you shouldn't have to
have you know, you know temperature, I mean not your
(05:00):
temper issues or anything like that, because that just destroys everything.
You know, it's important to recognize them and work on
self improvement and build healthy, elastic relationship. So these things are,
you know, five of them are very very important because
this can lead to physical violence, verbal abuse, physical abuse,
(05:23):
domestic disturbance if you're living with somebody, if you're not
living with somebody. You know, if you're a parent, you
start seeing your child involved in something that get them
out of the bath before they the guy has so
much control they're afraid to go outside. You see this
case on TV all the time. You know, they saw
the signs, but they didn't do anything because they were young.
Do something about it, Dad, get out there with his ass,
do something, do something. I'm not encouraging violence. I'm just
(05:44):
saying protect your child, all right. So let's go with
the five sort of reasons why temperature, temper, and jealousy
can ruin a relationship. Number one kills trust. Number two
leads to constant arguments. Number three creates emotional distance. Numberfore
and he encourages toxic behavior. Number five pushes your partner
(06:04):
to leave. You know, I can't stress this enough. I've
been in a couple myself. You know, I'm no angel,
and when these toxic relationships occur, you you try to
find a way to get out and don't look back. Now,
you hope at the end of the day, you just
hope it doesn't happen. It won't happen to me again.
(06:24):
But it happened to me once and I didn't like it,
and I kind of laugh about it now, but it
did happen. Girl. You know, I've seen some friends of
mine get in controlled relationships, toxic relationships and things like this.
So you've got to recognize the science and say, hey,
that's not for me. If you don't put a stop
to now, I'm not gonna be with you. You know, husband, wife, whatever,
get a divorced, move on. You don't want to spend
(06:46):
the rest of your life being talk down to, verbally
abused or physically abused. You don't want that because toxic,
toxic environments end up not good in the end. So
when it gets hurt, killed, assault in the hospital, and
then everybody goes, oh, yes, I knew he was like that,
but I didn't say anything because it was in my business,
(07:06):
say something, do something about it. Don't wait till it's
too late, all right, I'm gonna leave you with that.
Just don't wait till it's too late. If you see
it happening, get out or have your friend tell me
this guy's not right for you. Why don't you need
some more time alone? You know you love yourself first,
and then try to find some time alone, try to
fix yourself. All right, So think about those things. I'm
gonna leave you that this evening. And like I said,
(07:28):
don't wait too it's too late to solve that problem
and get out of it. Because toxic relationships where there's
jealousy and temper are not good. Remember that, okay, all right,
we want to thank our sponsors today. We want to think,
of course, mister Wan her nanas with the one her
Land his law firm. He's a personal injury attorney here
(07:48):
in the Dallas fourth area. You're involved in a car
accident eighteen accidents, slip and fall contact in the day
two on four nine zero zero zero zero zero zero
or visit him at one Law Dot. He's helped me
and he can help you, remember that. Uh. And of
course nor two I want to thank Miss Victorianaba. She's
(08:09):
a divorcell turner, herd the dolls forth the area. If
you're going through a divorce, if you've been thinking about it,
get a consultation. See what your challenges are, see what
your expectations may be. Okay, I get some clients, I'm
gonna I'm gonna take everything from that. It doesn't quite
work that way. I'm gonna take everything right. You got
to know the laws and what you can get away
with and what you can you know, a lot of
it's negotiable. Okay, but talk to a professional first. Contact
(08:33):
Victoria two and four uh three nine fifty five fifty
five is two and fourth three five fifty five. And
of course let's talk about this character Detective Gomaz that's me.
You know. If you're going through a cheating relationship or
child custody, a missing teenager, contact me. I'll do what
I can help you out. Contacting me two and four
(08:53):
eight two three fifty six hundred. Okay, I got GPS this,
we can use recording devices. Let's help you get the
others you need so you can move on with your life. Okay,
So thank you for being a part of Beyond here's
the Detective Gomez files and I'll see you next time.
Take care of me. Thank you for listening our show
Day Listen gentlemen, I want to thank our sponsor, Juan
(09:15):
Hernandez Law. You can visit them at one law dot
com or contact them at two one four nine zero
zero zero zero zero zero. They helped me through an
accident and they can help you too, so contact them
today
You're listening to Beyond the Cheaters The Detective Gomez Files,
and now here is Detective Gometz. Welcome to another episode
of Beyond Cheaters The Detective gill Metz Files. I'm your host,
Detective Bill in mess house. Everybody doing today? You know,
relationships can never be easy, and even when it's good,
(00:22):
sometimes it's bad. And sometimes when it's bad so it
gets better. You know, you never ever know. But today
I want to talk about something I think that's very
very important. I've seen this quite a bit in some
of my uh I've had my relationship in the past.
I've had a couple, but I have one a couple
of clients of mine the other day that we're talking
about that their when their husband or wife gets upset
(00:44):
there you know, it's are slamming doors, slamming cabinets and
just kind of just kind of get out of control.
And I'd like to talk about this because I think
it's very very important. So we're going to call this
segment Temper and Jealousy the fastest way to lose your partner.
It's true, you'll lose them fast. You start losing your
temper and you start being jealous all the time, you're
(01:04):
just gonna lose them. And if you've been out of
a bad relationship in the past, and are you've gone
through a bad relationship in the past and you're trying
to start a new one, this isn't gonna help. Maybe
you need to wait, but let's talk about this. Uh
so we're gonna stay here. We're gonna call it, you know,
absolut there's five solid reasons why temper and jealousy can
ruin a relationship. The first one, it kills trust. You know,
trust is the foundation of any strong relationship. Constant jealousy
(01:27):
makes your partner feel like they're always under suspicion and
even when they've done nothing wrong. Over time, it destroys
the bond, which is very true if you're constantly saying,
we are you, what are you doing? Who are you with?
You know, and they're kind of kidding, but they're kind
of serious too. It's you know, you've got to start
thinking about that. Number two says leads to constant arguments.
A short temper means means small arguments quickly turn into
(01:48):
full blown fights when anger takes over. Hurtful words exchange
and make it harder to resolve issues peacefully. You know,
I was in a relationship a long time ago where
my you know, my initials are DG, but they used
to call me MF and you know what that stands for.
And I tried to explain to this person. I said, look,
my name is not MF, my initials aren't MF. Can
(02:10):
you call me by my name? And you just said, oh,
you're just taking it personal. Eventually we didn't work out anyway, okay.
Number three creates emotional distance. Nobody wants to feel controlled
or accused all the time. Jealousy and anger pushes your
partner away, making them emotionally just in it and even
(02:30):
leading them to seek peace elsewhere. That means they're believing.
That means you're such a problem, or you make yourself
so bad. They don't want to be around you. They
just want to go someplace. That's why lots of times,
you know, you hear that. Men Sometimes they'll get into
an arm and they just leave because they just don't
want to be around it. Don't want to be around it,
(02:51):
do not want to be around it all right. Number
four encourageous toxic behavior. Generous are a hot tempered partner,
not resorted to controlling behavior, checking phones, restriction freedom, or
even verbally and physically aggressive. This creates toxics environments rather
than a loving one, which is very, very true. You know,
(03:12):
lots of you know you I've heard some stories in
the past where my clients were like, well, my husband
gets mad and punches a hole in the wall. Now
we got ten holes in the wall. Somebody's got to
fix it. So if you're in that kind of situation,
you know, or someone starts, you know, you got to
girls keep slamming cabinets and things like that. It's like,
you don't even want to be around them because it's toxic.
(03:32):
I don't want to be around it. You're married, you
just find some way to go out and get drunk
and come home and pass out. You know. I had
a case like that once a long time. A bother
guy just got drunk and came home and passed out
because his wife was a bitch. Okay, it wasn't sheting.
You just don't want to be around her, all right.
Number fine pushes your partner to lead. If jealousy and
temper aren't controlled, your partner may feel trapped and emotionally exhausted.
(03:54):
Emotionally exhausted. Pay attention to that. Many people eventually lose
choose to leave rather than staying relationship for the of
tension and fear. It gets fearful. The person is always
grabbing at you, or grabbing let me see your phone,
or where you were even all day. You just don't
want to hear all that, and you're you're you're like
walking on eggshells, and you don't want to be that
(04:15):
way in relations You should be happy, happy in your relationship.
You got somebody, you got a girl, you got a guy.
You should be happy, not worrying about whether he's gonna
swing at you or give you a dirty look or
talk trash to you, or or she's gonna talk trash
you or call you names. Doesn't call you what you
you know, call me sweetheart, don't call me m f
you know, call me, call me, call me by my name.
(04:39):
All these things are something that take in consideration, especially
if you're in a relationship where you're starting to see
these signs. And and then we I'll give you the
final thought here. It says love should be built on trust, respect,
and peace. Peace right, you know, uh, peace is very
very important in a relationship. And you shouldn't have to
have you know, you know temperature, I mean not your
(05:00):
temper issues or anything like that, because that just destroys everything.
You know, it's important to recognize them and work on
self improvement and build healthy, elastic relationship. So these things are,
you know, five of them are very very important because
this can lead to physical violence, verbal abuse, physical abuse,
(05:23):
domestic disturbance if you're living with somebody, if you're not
living with somebody. You know, if you're a parent, you
start seeing your child involved in something that get them
out of the bath before they the guy has so
much control they're afraid to go outside. You see this
case on TV all the time. You know, they saw
the signs, but they didn't do anything because they were young.
Do something about it, Dad, get out there with his ass,
do something, do something. I'm not encouraging violence. I'm just
(05:44):
saying protect your child, all right. So let's go with
the five sort of reasons why temperature, temper, and jealousy
can ruin a relationship. Number one kills trust. Number two
leads to constant arguments. Number three creates emotional distance. Numberfore
and he encourages toxic behavior. Number five pushes your partner
(06:04):
to leave. You know, I can't stress this enough. I've
been in a couple myself. You know, I'm no angel,
and when these toxic relationships occur, you you try to
find a way to get out and don't look back. Now,
you hope at the end of the day, you just
hope it doesn't happen. It won't happen to me again.
(06:24):
But it happened to me once and I didn't like it,
and I kind of laugh about it now, but it
did happen. Girl. You know, I've seen some friends of
mine get in controlled relationships, toxic relationships and things like this.
So you've got to recognize the science and say, hey,
that's not for me. If you don't put a stop
to now, I'm not gonna be with you. You know, husband, wife, whatever,
get a divorced, move on. You don't want to spend
(06:46):
the rest of your life being talk down to, verbally
abused or physically abused. You don't want that because toxic,
toxic environments end up not good in the end. So
when it gets hurt, killed, assault in the hospital, and
then everybody goes, oh, yes, I knew he was like that,
but I didn't say anything because it was in my business,
(07:06):
say something, do something about it. Don't wait till it's
too late, all right, I'm gonna leave you with that.
Just don't wait till it's too late. If you see
it happening, get out or have your friend tell me
this guy's not right for you. Why don't you need
some more time alone? You know you love yourself first,
and then try to find some time alone, try to
fix yourself. All right, So think about those things. I'm
gonna leave you that this evening. And like I said,
(07:28):
don't wait too it's too late to solve that problem
and get out of it. Because toxic relationships where there's
jealousy and temper are not good. Remember that, okay, all right,
we want to thank our sponsors today. We want to think,
of course, mister Wan her nanas with the one her
Land his law firm. He's a personal injury attorney here
(07:48):
in the Dallas fourth area. You're involved in a car
accident eighteen accidents, slip and fall contact in the day
two on four nine zero zero zero zero zero zero
or visit him at one Law Dot. He's helped me
and he can help you, remember that. Uh. And of
course nor two I want to thank Miss Victorianaba. She's
(08:09):
a divorcell turner, herd the dolls forth the area. If
you're going through a divorce, if you've been thinking about it,
get a consultation. See what your challenges are, see what
your expectations may be. Okay, I get some clients, I'm
gonna I'm gonna take everything from that. It doesn't quite
work that way. I'm gonna take everything right. You got
to know the laws and what you can get away
with and what you can you know, a lot of
it's negotiable. Okay, but talk to a professional first. Contact
(08:33):
Victoria two and four uh three nine fifty five fifty
five is two and fourth three five fifty five. And
of course let's talk about this character Detective Gomaz that's me.
You know. If you're going through a cheating relationship or
child custody, a missing teenager, contact me. I'll do what
I can help you out. Contacting me two and four
(08:53):
eight two three fifty six hundred. Okay, I got GPS this,
we can use recording devices. Let's help you get the
others you need so you can move on with your life. Okay,
So thank you for being a part of Beyond here's
the Detective Gomez files and I'll see you next time.
Take care of me. Thank you for listening our show
Day Listen gentlemen, I want to thank our sponsor, Juan
(09:15):
Hernandez Law. You can visit them at one law dot
com or contact them at two one four nine zero
zero zero zero zero zero. They helped me through an
accident and they can help you too, so contact them
today
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