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Speaker 1 (00:02):
You're listening to Beyond the Cheaters, the Detective Gomez Files,
and now here is Detective Gometz.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Welcome to another episode of Beyond Cheers, the text Gomez Files,
and your host of Textive Gomaz. You know in this
particular podcast where I constantly talking about heartbreak, relationship and love,
everybody's looking for love and sometimes it's just hard to
find no matter how you look for it. Today we
have a person by the name of why Uh, and
she's gonna tell us why she dated somebody and why
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she dumped them too at the same time. So let's
get her on the air and Uh, actually a names
just send you, but she's just gonna put a while. Okay,
here we go. Uh, you're sending you. How are you
doing today?
Speaker 3 (00:43):
I am doing well.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
How are you good?
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Good? Good?
Speaker 2 (00:46):
You know we're talking about heartbreak, breaking up and catching
somebody cheating today, so let's get right into it. How'd
you meet this guy? And talk about a little bit
of suspicions you have. Where'd you meet this guy?
Speaker 3 (00:58):
I actually met him through a mutual friend. It was
my birthday and I barely go out.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
I rarely go out. When I do, it's for business. Purposes,
but he was out with mutual friends.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
He was with another girl, surprisingly, which I should have
seen that as a red flag. And then he basically
like started talking to me. I told him I didn't
have time for a boyfriend. He kept pushing, and then
eventually I just gave him my number. I didn't talk
to him for about two three weeks after I gave
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him my number, I was unavailable.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
And.
Speaker 3 (01:38):
After I got back from a trip, I decided to
text him and.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
Respond to him.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
I went on one date and it was a great date.
I mean it was anything fancy or anything like that.
We just clicked.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Okay, so you start to click with this guy. Things
are going good. The only think it was kind of
a weird when we first met him, who was with
somebody else? So I kind of somewhat of a red flag.
But I'm sure he told you he was single, right.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
There was So he was out with multiple women and
they weren't dating or anything like that.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
But I could tell that that girl liked him.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Okay, so you start to, uh, you know, you start
to get some bad did you get some bad vibes
and some bad kind of juju going on? Like maybe
something ain't quite right with this guy. What kind of
red flags did you see coming up in this particular Uh.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Oh, wow, red fox, a lot of red fox.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Actually, don't give give as many as you can.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
How's that? Well? When I when I finally went.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
To his apartment, you know, I asked him if he
was married, if he had any kids, if he you know,
wasn't any serious relationships in the past. He mentioned he
didn't have kids, he was never married. Unfortunately, he was
basically married. I mean he had a kid. He wasn't
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actually married by the state law, but he was in
a relationship with this woman.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
He had a kid.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
And the only reason I caught it was because I
could tell that his family and his friends were hiding
something from me.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
And that's when I decided to dig. And I looked
at public records.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
Which ladies, you can always look at public records, or
you could just hire him, okay.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
And I quickly realized that there was a child, and
uh yeah, okay.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
So you start, you started developing information, you start doing
little homework, you start putting the pieces together, and you,
as a female, you're going, okay, this guy just screw
with me, or what I mean, what do you do
to Uh, did any other people his friends weren't talking
to you. Did anybody come out of the public and
just say, by the way, this guy's married, be careful
or anything like that, or was it just did you
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do all the homework on your own?
Speaker 3 (04:04):
You know, I was very young. I was very naive,
and you know, you know what they say, right, who
you're around is really who you are, right. Uh, you know, folks,
boys are around other fuck boys, and that's something that
you should always know that. It doesn't matter who the
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individual is if they're around a certain type of people.
If they're around certain type of individuals, most likely they're
around them for a reason, right, because they all get
along with each other because they all will do the
same thing. And so with that being said, you know,
he was around a lot of fuck boys, frogs you
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call it.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
And yeah, how did you eventually get out of this relationship?
Speaker 3 (04:55):
Yet?
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (04:56):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (04:57):
Well six years later, so.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Suous later you're saying you you get out of this relationship,
and you are how did you break it off? You
send you.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
How well we were supposed to go on a trip.
I was already planning my way out because I was Uh,
I was just tired. I was just done, and he
left on a trip. I went and signed the least elsewhere,
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I ordered knew furniture. I left my closer, I left everything,
I left my cat there and I just walked away.
And I remember him telling me, Oh, you'll never leave me,
blah blah blah blah, you love me, And I'm like, yeah,
you're wrong about that. It doesn't matter how much you
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care about someone. At the end of the day, it's
not worth at the stress, instability, it's not worth it
the embarrassment. Most importantly, when someone fucks around all over
Alice and expects for you to not find out about it,
it's you must be really dumb. Because I received text messages,
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I received phone calls from men and women, including his friends.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
So it was it hard to leave?
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Was it hard to leave?
Speaker 2 (06:25):
Were truly in love with this man?
Speaker 1 (06:28):
I've now realized that I wasn't truly in love with
this individual.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
I've reconnected with someone that I really care about, and
he's always been loyal to me.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
He was a very special guy and he is a
very special guy. And I've come to.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Realize that the relationship I was in for six years
was extremely toxic and they there are better men out there.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
They are there.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
Are that will do everything else that the other men
wouldn't do.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
Well, I'm glad you're in a happy place now, you know. Uh,
send let me ask you? Can I answer just a
couple of questions about cheating and infidelity? You might have
just ask general questions? Do you mind?
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Absolutely? Well? Why why?
Speaker 2 (07:21):
Or let me ask you who cheats more men or
women in relationships?
Speaker 1 (07:26):
In twenty great question? I feel like women do.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
Why do you say that?
Speaker 3 (07:40):
For a variety of reasons. Sometimes they are insecture, Sometimes
they don't get enough attention. Sometimes they they their husbands.
They're working all the time, so when they come home
they don't appreciate their wives. I've known a lot of
women who you know, go out, have a girl's day,
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a girl's night and flirt around.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
And I actually.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
Believe that that's not okay. You shouldn't do that, especially
if you're married to someone. That is not appropriate. But
unfortunately women do that when they need more attention.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Okay, Well, a second question, Well, why do you think
people cheat in general? Why do you think that in relationship?
Why do you think people cheat in general?
Speaker 3 (08:32):
For a variety of reasons, Some for example, the individual
that I was stating, you know, he was not used
to being in a long term relationship, and I don't
blame him. So with that being said, I truly believe
that he had an issue. You know, he liked to
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have sex with multiple women, different women. And it wasn't
that he possibly didn't love me. It was more like
he was just used to that.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
Unfortunately, and hard to settle down with just one. Okay,
that makes sense.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
And there are men like that. There are men that
never settled down, and that's okay.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
But I actually believe that if you're that type of individual,
you should be.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
A little bit more transparent rather than least someone on
for years.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
Okay, I got a couple of more here for you.
When a relationship involves in fidelity and somebody gets caught cheating,
can that relationship actually recover? Is there such thing as
second chances?
Speaker 3 (09:38):
No? No, I gave mine a second chance every night,
every night. There wasn't a night that I didn't think
about how disgusted it I was.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
Okay, got another one here for you. So you're seeing,
let's just get for example, let's just see you see
your best friend who's a female, and you see her
husband out at her romantic dinner with another woman. Are
you gonna do anything about them? You're gonna call and
tell her? Just kind of let her find out on
their own. Sometimes it's not your place, Okay. Sometimes it's
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not your business right to be putting that out there. Unfortunately, Moss,
women will know when someone's doing something. Most men will
know when someone's doing something, and it's it's their job
to figure it out.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
I've learned that sometimes it's just the best to mind
your own business on certain occasions, unfortunately, because the more
you intervene, it just causes more issues.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
Okay, that makes sense, Totally makes sense. Okay, got one
while here for you think you're gonna like this one.
When it comes to politicians and people in uh you know,
political uh uh offices and presidentency, mayor, governors, congressmen, do
you think they get a free pass when it comes
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to in fidelity and cheating? You know? Do they think
people just kind of turn their cheek as long as
they're doing a good job, It's okay. They can screw
around their wives all they want. Is that what twenty
twenty five passed for us?
Speaker 3 (11:17):
Now? Absolutely not. They're actually the least to get a
free pass. Unfortunately, they even are seen with another woman,
it will immediately come out. They have to be very
careful with who they're around and what they say. So now,
I think most regular people do get a free pass, right,
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But people who are that powerful, no, they can't get
away with anything. There are eyes and ears everywhere, people
are watching everywhere.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
And social media doesn't help either, right.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Absolutely, and most importantly, when someone's powerful, you know certain
women will go crazy for them if they cut them
off or whatever. And I've seen this happen before, where
you know, women go public about what's going on, and
so you know they have to be very careful with
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who they're around.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Okay, very true. Okay, last thing here for you. We're
gonna ready to wrap it up. Any advice you can
give somebody in their dating based on what you went
through in your particular relationship six years? God is cheating
every day? Can you give somebody else some advice any
our podcast today on how the best way to held
that particular situation?
Speaker 1 (12:37):
Sorry, can you repeat what you just said?
Speaker 2 (12:39):
If you were to give someone some advice based on
what you've been through in your six year relationship, what
kind of advice would you give somebody else.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
Don't spend your twenties with someone that's not worth it.
Speaker 3 (12:54):
Okay, be very transparent with how you feel and what
your intentions are. And most importantly, girls, especially girls you're
only young ones.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
Find a man who will treat you right. Don't try
to change a guy. They won't change. It doesn't matter
how much you tried. They will never change.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
They might get a little bit better, but unfortunately they're
still that same person.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
And you just have to accept it and move on.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
Fair enough, Okay, all right, you sending you. Thank you
so much for your time today. I see you're at
the pool. Enjoy yourself, have a good time and enjoy life.
Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Thank you, have a great day.
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