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Speaker 1 (00:02):
You're listening to Beyond the Cheaters, the Detective Gomez Files,
and now here is Detective Gometz.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Welcome.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
We took another episode to Beyond Cheaters, a Detective Biliness
Files like Detective Bill Mads and today I'm talking about
being single and dating in twenty two we have a
special guest by the name of Lorena is going to
tell us what she's going through right now, how difficult
it is to find that right man and that true love.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
That we're all looking for. Okay, so let's get it
on there. Well, Reina, how are you doing today?
Speaker 3 (00:36):
Hey, I'm doing right. How are you good?
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Good? Good?
Speaker 1 (00:39):
You know it's twenty twenty five. You know, a little
pre interview you mentioned you got your thirties and it's
so hard to find, you know, love or find that
right man.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Well, why do you think it's so hard? I mean,
let's just this is that it's twenty twenty five. So
in two thousand, two thousand, if things changed a whole lot.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Or are the men you're meeting taken more selfies than
you or what's what's going on?
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Tell me?
Speaker 3 (01:09):
You know what, it's a mix of everything.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
Definitely, things have changed since I started dating on what
two thousand and seven, two thousand and.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
Eight to now.
Speaker 4 (01:20):
I was married from two thousand and eleven to two
thousand nineteen. And when I came out of my marriage,
when I decided to get divorced and I started dating people,
I seriously thought, oh, man, like I should have stayed married,
because I think I can handle better what I was
going through then. But at least I knew that the
(01:43):
person that I was with, like, he knew what he wanted.
And I think this is the issue that people don't
know what they want. They want to explore, they want
to know as many people as they can. And I
think it has to do with we don't want to
go out. We want to see ourkouch. We want to
(02:04):
be on our phone, and we have the chance of
use so I being left and right, and if I
don't like that person, well it's going to be like
another thirty maybe hundred person that I can have the
option of shooting off. But then once they started getting
to know the person, like, No, all of us have
(02:26):
the same heart. No, all of us are ready today. No,
all of us have done the healing process. Because I
did my healing when I got divorced. It will struggle.
It is hard to be alone. It was really hard
to go through the divorce, to go through my healing process,
going back to church and struggling and being okay with
(02:51):
not talking to anybody, because obviously we all want to
be on a relationship. We will want the company, will
want to have fun. We all want to come home
and have someone to hug at the end of the
day or someone that listens to us. But when you
don't heal, you're bleeding on somebody else. And I have
seen that when I'm dating, like I used to be
(03:13):
on the dating apps. Last year, I was on the
dating apps, and it's like talking about the ex or
bleeding about the things that comparing with all the persons.
And I get criticized a lot on social media because
I talk about dating and why I'm not dating, why
I and that my last relationship. And my reason is
(03:36):
I know what I want. I know my standards, I
know my boundaries, and a lot of people is that
you have high standards.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
It's not that I have high standards.
Speaker 4 (03:45):
It's now the people prefer not to have any standards
at all, just so they're not alone.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
And you just know what you're looking for and you
have you found it? And you know, do you ever
think that sometimes because there are.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
There are something.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
I have some friends of mine, you know, on my
social media that are constantly like, you know, I'm waiting
for that right man to walk my life. And I
watched them like five years ago and they're still saying
the same thing. And then it's all been almost, you know,
another five.
Speaker 5 (04:14):
Years, and then you're saying, Okay, well you're gonna say
you're gonna be fifty five, You're gonna be saying, I'm
still waiting for the right man to come in.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Is there ever a point where you're going, you know what,
I think I can I can accept this guy.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
You know, I have my standards, but I might be
able to let a couple of things go.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Is there anything in your standards arena that is a
deal breaker like this, this.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
Or this for sure it's not going to work out.
Speaker 5 (04:37):
Do you have anything like that that you can you
can tell us that, yeah, definitely deal breakers.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Yes, And he actually happened. It happened with my last relationship.
Speaker 4 (04:48):
I let go and I led to this side a
lot of standards that I have and he came also
to the physical he came about like some boundaries, but
it I leg but unfortunately he broke my non negotiable,
which is cheating. I will pass a lot of things,
but I will never be with a cheater. That's that's
(05:10):
when I say this is not for me, because on
any other way, I say, I can work out this,
but not that.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
So he cheated on you.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
He cheated on me.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Yeah, how long are you that person?
Speaker 3 (05:24):
Nine months?
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (05:26):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (05:27):
How do you find out?
Speaker 3 (05:28):
He told me?
Speaker 4 (05:29):
I I I asked, and he told me. I appreciate it.
I actually appreciate it because he stay honest at all times.
I figured out right away. I knew something what's going
on because the person that he cheated on with me,
she thought like she felt like she could cook, like
(05:50):
could come to me, and and like she had the
right to come to me with with some stuff. And
I say, Okay, something happened, because that is the only
way this person can feel with the right still to
come and ask questions or tell me something. So something happened,
and I need you to tell me right now. And
he knew the consequences because that is something that I
(06:12):
left pretty clear since the beginning. And as soon as
he told me, I'm the kind of person that I
would never ask why you're cheating, because you're never going
to get the truth. So as soon as he told
me yes, I did, I just say, you know what,
I guess I will talk to you later, and we
pretty much didn't talk anymore.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Wow, how old was he was? He older younger than
he was.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
Older than me.
Speaker 4 (06:39):
He was older than me five six years, which is
kind of insane because at the age that I'm ad,
you will think that people know what they're doing. You
will think that they will have their life more straight,
which is This is funny because my marriage when I
was married, my ex husband was seventeen years older than me,
(06:59):
and when we started dating, I was scared of telling
my dad that I was dating someone way older than me,
And my dad said, I brother, for you to be
with a man that knows what he wants. They has
his life together, has a job, has everything that he
wants and he needs, and he takes care of you.
(07:20):
Then you're dealing with a child that isn't mature and
is still looking in another place. But now, I mean,
like I said, it's from from twenty sixteen that I
started dating to now, it's been like a huge difference.
Like now men is like they don't stand like a
man and they don't stand by their decisions. And as
(07:42):
soon as he gets a little bit difficult, like they're
ready to run.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
Wow, No, it's true. They don't want to or they
don't want to commit, you know.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Yeah, correct, I've.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
Seen that a whole lot too.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
More so my case is worth someone than they're just
not ready to commit or they want to.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
You know, when they get to that four years of age, they.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Run just midlife crisis where they don't even know what
they want any when they don't they want to be
with somebody.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
Or be single for the rest of want.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
Yeah. Right, theah when you kind him cheating, Uh you
know that was one standard or anything, because you know
I run in some.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
You know, I see some of these girls on social media.
I'm not dating anybody doesn't have an eight fifty credit
for it. I'm like, come on, he's not driving. Do
any things like that matter to you at all?
Speaker 4 (08:28):
I will say there's things that matter, but not for
the fact, like I always say, I want someone they
that works hard, and like having money is a reflection
or you're working hard and being responsible, so you work
hard it's going to reflect on a lot of things.
Is going to reflect on on the way that you
are and the things that you have. Actually, that person
(08:52):
that I was eating, he didn't have the cut of
the year, but he had like the house of the year,
you know, like someone that is smart and they know
where they're investing their money.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
And I always say this is because.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
I have a this level of life that I'm living
because I pay it and I want to keep living
that life. I don't want to have to lowre live
because someone else can afford it. Like I'm still gonna
pay for my stuff, but then I need to be
able to be with a person that can also pay
for his staff and then we can growth even more together.
(09:27):
My other negotiable it would be someone that take care
of themselves.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
And people say this is superficial, but it's not superficial.
I know it from firsthand.
Speaker 4 (09:38):
Like I worked out because it's really important for my health.
On my mom's side, it's a lot of diabetes. I
don't want to run through that, so I take it.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
On my diet. I work out every day.
Speaker 4 (09:51):
And the way my body looks and my skin because
everybody tells me you look way younger and you look
really like well, and I'm like, this is just a
reflection me taking care of myself. So I want to
be with someone that is taking care of himself too,
and if you look good, it's it's just a reflection.
And I want to be with someone that they agrees
(10:11):
with going and work out, eat healthy, because that will
be a big change that is going to affect my
health if I just follow through so much, just because
I like the person a lot. I actually dated someone
years ago that he's a personal trainer. He is a
teacher at a university and he said, my thing is
we're not gonna eat bad, like we're gonna work out.
(10:34):
We're gonna eat super healthy. And I was like, fine,
that is that is not problem for me. But you
will see the people that says that it's not important
and it's superficial, but for me, it's non negotiable as well.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
You're right, there are some people who drink and they're
friends of mine also on social media shots shots, shots,
ione like, Okay, you're not twenty anymore. You I can't
drink like that anymore. You got to be responsible, of course,
and you can't know you know, I'm a little older myself,
so it takes hard to recover from a hangover there
then when I was twenty years old. Really you got
(11:06):
to be responsible. Yeah, and two people are drunk and
who's going to drive home?
Speaker 2 (11:11):
You know? So ye things like that.
Speaker 4 (11:13):
Yeah, And that's another one that is really really important
for me. And that one, it's like that is my
number one is it has to be someone that is
close to God. And I'm not religious on any way,
like on my social media, like I will say what
things have been good for me and why go to
church and everything, but it has to be someone that
(11:34):
has the same beliefs.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
I have been attacked before because they.
Speaker 4 (11:38):
Say, okay, no, because they don't go to church, they're
not a good person, and say I never mentioned going
to church or being religious.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
I'm saying a relationship to.
Speaker 4 (11:46):
God because the person that I'm with, I want him
to have the same beliefs that I have. And you
can be such a good person and not go to church,
but that wouldn't work for me, you know, like it
will work for somebody else, but not for me. So
I guess those are the most important.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
Well, what about alcohol or drug use? The drinking like that,
any thinks about it.
Speaker 4 (12:08):
Yeah, like I won't be with someone that it does drugs.
I would be with someone that drinks, but it's just
socially drinker, not someone that it's I mean, because you know,
if you drink every day, or you drink three days
out of the week, that you're considered an alcoholic. People
don't want to they don't agree with them, they don't
want to accept it. But that's just the way it is.
(12:29):
I have a really stressful job, and that doesn't give
me the the excuse to come home and have a drink.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
You know, gives me the excuse.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
Yeah, it gives me the excuse to come and read
a book or what a podcast. It has something interesting
to say that it's going to help me grow. So
I wouldn't do any of those.
Speaker 5 (12:52):
That good good, good, Yeah, those are very good standards.
I think you don't have you have a relationship with God.
Need health is big. You know in our culture, lots
of our culture has our diabetics, and you know the
drug use drinking is. I know, when I was growing out,
my father's always have you know, have a bearer. When
(13:13):
he came home.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
That was the old way. You're doing things, but things
have changed now.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
Yeah, but you've got to have your standards and people
people can't need it, then there's not the waiting line
going back in line.
Speaker 4 (13:24):
I feel like just nowadays, everything it's allowed. Everything it's okay.
And then if you're the person that don't drink, the
person that is close to God, the person that works out,
like you're the weird one. And I always say my
brother to be the weird person. They can come home
and not have a hangover and feel healthy, you know,
(13:45):
because yeah, eating healthy, paying for the supplements, going to
work out, like it gets expensive, but it will be
more expensive to be in a hospital.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
Oh yeah, very it's very pricing, very prime, and it's
just it's not a good thing. I appreciate you sharing
your story on you in some of your standards and
how tough it is today in twenty twenty five. Do
you want to ask you a couple of questions, just
general questions about relationships?
Speaker 2 (14:09):
Would you mind?
Speaker 3 (14:10):
Yeah, go ahead, okay.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
You know when it comes to just cheating gener I
want to ask you four questions again, when it comes
to cheating in general, who do you think cheats more
in relationships a matter or women?
Speaker 3 (14:20):
Women?
Speaker 2 (14:21):
Okay, why do you say that.
Speaker 3 (14:25):
You know I'm talking on a personal level.
Speaker 4 (14:27):
I worked on a men dominated business or feel and
I see, I see men. I work with men all
the time. I'm pretty much the one percent of women there.
And I see the conversations between men and the conversations
that I've had when I used to work with women,
And you can see men can have one thing on
(14:50):
their mind only and it's either they're thinking about work
or they're thinking about the problems that the wife or
the girlfriend is giving them because they don't answer the fun.
With a woman, we can multitas, we can do a
lot of things. And I have her women that are
so in love and they.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
Still looking around.
Speaker 4 (15:08):
I feel like the capacity of hiding, lying and doing
things is bigger on women than men, and I because.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
I have seen it.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
Yeah, well okay, interesting Number two. Why do you think
people just cheat in relationships? Why do you think they're cheap?
Speaker 3 (15:29):
I think it is com forward.
Speaker 4 (15:33):
I think people it's easier to go and cheat than
being a man or being a woman and say, you
know what, this is not working and I have to
just move on and go find somewhere else.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
So it's easy just going and just do it. Cheat
for a little bit, come back home, get like a
little fixed, and then come back home to miserably cheating.
Speaker 4 (15:53):
Cheating won't It doesn't ask you to do changes when
you leave a relation and ship.
Speaker 3 (16:00):
It's a lot of changes that you have to do.
Speaker 4 (16:02):
You have to leave the house, you have to maybe
move cities, you have to maybe move you out. Maybe
you'll have to find better opportunities so you can stop
by yourself. More than with the economy right now, I
feel like a lot of people are cheating because it's
cheaper to stay with the person that you don't want
and go and have fun somewhere else and actually have
(16:22):
the pants and move out of where you at and
start it all over and do it by yourself.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
And those wilbos right right? Okay.
Speaker 1 (16:33):
The third one I already know the answer to this answer.
Do you believe in second chances when somebody cheats on somebody?
Speaker 3 (16:41):
Unfortunately? No. I would love to say yes, but.
Speaker 6 (16:44):
No, no second chances to Lorraina for sure, all right.
And the last one is if you were to see
your girlfriend's husband at a restaurant with another woman, what
you call them, tell her what you song, or would
you just completely stay out and say it's not my
business and I want to get involved and say they're
(17:06):
real roman romantically involved. Would you tell her something or
would just kind of just let her find out in our.
Speaker 4 (17:12):
Own Unfortunately that happened to me a few times before,
and the woman told me straightforward, like I would rather
not to know. I have a happy life and controble
life more on the kind of environment that I always sell.
Like it was people with money with my exhusbin and
it was like I brother that Conford to my house
and not know what's going on. But I will definitely
(17:35):
walk to the men and say just say you know,
I saw you.
Speaker 5 (17:40):
All right, there you go, all right, that's Lorena. Lorena,
thank you so much for being part of our podcast
today and thank you for sharing your stories and some
of your standards. And it is tough to date in
twenty twenty five, it's getting tougher and tougher. Would you
like to share your TikTok handle before before we let
you go?
Speaker 4 (17:58):
Yes, my tic dog, it's Lorena, dad Ortissa, and yeah,
I talk about all that there. I guess that's how
we find each other. And thank you for the invite.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
Thank you so much. Rina. We'll see you next time.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
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and now here is Detective Gometz.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Welcome.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
We took another episode to Beyond Cheaters, a Detective Biliness
Files like Detective Bill Mads and today I'm talking about
being single and dating in twenty two we have a
special guest by the name of Lorena is going to
tell us what she's going through right now, how difficult
it is to find that right man and that true love.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
That we're all looking for. Okay, so let's get it
on there. Well, Reina, how are you doing today?
Speaker 3 (00:36):
Hey, I'm doing right. How are you good?
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Good? Good?
Speaker 1 (00:39):
You know it's twenty twenty five. You know, a little
pre interview you mentioned you got your thirties and it's
so hard to find, you know, love or find that
right man.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Well, why do you think it's so hard? I mean,
let's just this is that it's twenty twenty five. So
in two thousand, two thousand, if things changed a whole lot.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Or are the men you're meeting taken more selfies than
you or what's what's going on?
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Tell me?
Speaker 3 (01:09):
You know what, it's a mix of everything.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
Definitely, things have changed since I started dating on what
two thousand and seven, two thousand and.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
Eight to now.
Speaker 4 (01:20):
I was married from two thousand and eleven to two
thousand nineteen. And when I came out of my marriage,
when I decided to get divorced and I started dating people,
I seriously thought, oh, man, like I should have stayed married,
because I think I can handle better what I was
going through then. But at least I knew that the
(01:43):
person that I was with, like, he knew what he wanted.
And I think this is the issue that people don't
know what they want. They want to explore, they want
to know as many people as they can. And I
think it has to do with we don't want to
go out. We want to see ourkouch. We want to
(02:04):
be on our phone, and we have the chance of
use so I being left and right, and if I
don't like that person, well it's going to be like
another thirty maybe hundred person that I can have the
option of shooting off. But then once they started getting
to know the person, like, No, all of us have
(02:26):
the same heart. No, all of us are ready today. No,
all of us have done the healing process. Because I
did my healing when I got divorced. It will struggle.
It is hard to be alone. It was really hard
to go through the divorce, to go through my healing process,
going back to church and struggling and being okay with
(02:51):
not talking to anybody, because obviously we all want to
be on a relationship. We will want the company, will
want to have fun. We all want to come home
and have someone to hug at the end of the
day or someone that listens to us. But when you
don't heal, you're bleeding on somebody else. And I have
seen that when I'm dating, like I used to be
(03:13):
on the dating apps. Last year, I was on the
dating apps, and it's like talking about the ex or
bleeding about the things that comparing with all the persons.
And I get criticized a lot on social media because
I talk about dating and why I'm not dating, why
I and that my last relationship. And my reason is
(03:36):
I know what I want. I know my standards, I
know my boundaries, and a lot of people is that
you have high standards.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
It's not that I have high standards.
Speaker 4 (03:45):
It's now the people prefer not to have any standards
at all, just so they're not alone.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
And you just know what you're looking for and you
have you found it? And you know, do you ever
think that sometimes because there are.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
There are something.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
I have some friends of mine, you know, on my
social media that are constantly like, you know, I'm waiting
for that right man to walk my life. And I
watched them like five years ago and they're still saying
the same thing. And then it's all been almost, you know,
another five.
Speaker 5 (04:14):
Years, and then you're saying, Okay, well you're gonna say
you're gonna be fifty five, You're gonna be saying, I'm
still waiting for the right man to come in.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Is there ever a point where you're going, you know what,
I think I can I can accept this guy.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
You know, I have my standards, but I might be
able to let a couple of things go.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Is there anything in your standards arena that is a
deal breaker like this, this.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
Or this for sure it's not going to work out.
Speaker 5 (04:37):
Do you have anything like that that you can you
can tell us that, yeah, definitely deal breakers.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Yes, And he actually happened. It happened with my last relationship.
Speaker 4 (04:48):
I let go and I led to this side a
lot of standards that I have and he came also
to the physical he came about like some boundaries, but
it I leg but unfortunately he broke my non negotiable,
which is cheating. I will pass a lot of things,
but I will never be with a cheater. That's that's
(05:10):
when I say this is not for me, because on
any other way, I say, I can work out this,
but not that.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
So he cheated on you.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
He cheated on me.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Yeah, how long are you that person?
Speaker 3 (05:24):
Nine months?
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (05:26):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (05:27):
How do you find out?
Speaker 3 (05:28):
He told me?
Speaker 4 (05:29):
I I I asked, and he told me. I appreciate it.
I actually appreciate it because he stay honest at all times.
I figured out right away. I knew something what's going
on because the person that he cheated on with me,
she thought like she felt like she could cook, like
(05:50):
could come to me, and and like she had the
right to come to me with with some stuff. And
I say, Okay, something happened, because that is the only
way this person can feel with the right still to
come and ask questions or tell me something. So something happened,
and I need you to tell me right now. And
he knew the consequences because that is something that I
(06:12):
left pretty clear since the beginning. And as soon as
he told me, I'm the kind of person that I
would never ask why you're cheating, because you're never going
to get the truth. So as soon as he told
me yes, I did, I just say, you know what,
I guess I will talk to you later, and we
pretty much didn't talk anymore.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Wow, how old was he was? He older younger than
he was.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
Older than me.
Speaker 4 (06:39):
He was older than me five six years, which is
kind of insane because at the age that I'm ad,
you will think that people know what they're doing. You
will think that they will have their life more straight,
which is This is funny because my marriage when I
was married, my ex husband was seventeen years older than me,
(06:59):
and when we started dating, I was scared of telling
my dad that I was dating someone way older than me,
And my dad said, I brother, for you to be
with a man that knows what he wants. They has
his life together, has a job, has everything that he
wants and he needs, and he takes care of you.
(07:20):
Then you're dealing with a child that isn't mature and
is still looking in another place. But now, I mean,
like I said, it's from from twenty sixteen that I
started dating to now, it's been like a huge difference.
Like now men is like they don't stand like a
man and they don't stand by their decisions. And as
(07:42):
soon as he gets a little bit difficult, like they're
ready to run.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
Wow, No, it's true. They don't want to or they
don't want to commit, you know.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Yeah, correct, I've.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
Seen that a whole lot too.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
More so my case is worth someone than they're just
not ready to commit or they want to.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
You know, when they get to that four years of age, they.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Run just midlife crisis where they don't even know what
they want any when they don't they want to be
with somebody.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
Or be single for the rest of want.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
Yeah. Right, theah when you kind him cheating, Uh you
know that was one standard or anything, because you know
I run in some.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
You know, I see some of these girls on social media.
I'm not dating anybody doesn't have an eight fifty credit
for it. I'm like, come on, he's not driving. Do
any things like that matter to you at all?
Speaker 4 (08:28):
I will say there's things that matter, but not for
the fact, like I always say, I want someone they
that works hard, and like having money is a reflection
or you're working hard and being responsible, so you work
hard it's going to reflect on a lot of things.
Is going to reflect on on the way that you
are and the things that you have. Actually, that person
(08:52):
that I was eating, he didn't have the cut of
the year, but he had like the house of the year,
you know, like someone that is smart and they know
where they're investing their money.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
And I always say this is because.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
I have a this level of life that I'm living
because I pay it and I want to keep living
that life. I don't want to have to lowre live
because someone else can afford it. Like I'm still gonna
pay for my stuff, but then I need to be
able to be with a person that can also pay
for his staff and then we can growth even more together.
(09:27):
My other negotiable it would be someone that take care
of themselves.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
And people say this is superficial, but it's not superficial.
I know it from firsthand.
Speaker 4 (09:38):
Like I worked out because it's really important for my health.
On my mom's side, it's a lot of diabetes. I
don't want to run through that, so I take it.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
On my diet. I work out every day.
Speaker 4 (09:51):
And the way my body looks and my skin because
everybody tells me you look way younger and you look
really like well, and I'm like, this is just a
reflection me taking care of myself. So I want to
be with someone that is taking care of himself too,
and if you look good, it's it's just a reflection.
And I want to be with someone that they agrees
(10:11):
with going and work out, eat healthy, because that will
be a big change that is going to affect my
health if I just follow through so much, just because
I like the person a lot. I actually dated someone
years ago that he's a personal trainer. He is a
teacher at a university and he said, my thing is
we're not gonna eat bad, like we're gonna work out.
(10:34):
We're gonna eat super healthy. And I was like, fine,
that is that is not problem for me. But you
will see the people that says that it's not important
and it's superficial, but for me, it's non negotiable as well.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
You're right, there are some people who drink and they're
friends of mine also on social media shots shots, shots,
ione like, Okay, you're not twenty anymore. You I can't
drink like that anymore. You got to be responsible, of course,
and you can't know you know, I'm a little older myself,
so it takes hard to recover from a hangover there
then when I was twenty years old. Really you got
(11:06):
to be responsible. Yeah, and two people are drunk and
who's going to drive home?
Speaker 2 (11:11):
You know? So ye things like that.
Speaker 4 (11:13):
Yeah, And that's another one that is really really important
for me. And that one, it's like that is my
number one is it has to be someone that is
close to God. And I'm not religious on any way,
like on my social media, like I will say what
things have been good for me and why go to
church and everything, but it has to be someone that
(11:34):
has the same beliefs.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
I have been attacked before because they.
Speaker 4 (11:38):
Say, okay, no, because they don't go to church, they're
not a good person, and say I never mentioned going
to church or being religious.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
I'm saying a relationship to.
Speaker 4 (11:46):
God because the person that I'm with, I want him
to have the same beliefs that I have. And you
can be such a good person and not go to church,
but that wouldn't work for me, you know, like it
will work for somebody else, but not for me. So
I guess those are the most important.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
Well, what about alcohol or drug use? The drinking like that,
any thinks about it.
Speaker 4 (12:08):
Yeah, like I won't be with someone that it does drugs.
I would be with someone that drinks, but it's just
socially drinker, not someone that it's I mean, because you know,
if you drink every day, or you drink three days
out of the week, that you're considered an alcoholic. People
don't want to they don't agree with them, they don't
want to accept it. But that's just the way it is.
(12:29):
I have a really stressful job, and that doesn't give
me the the excuse to come home and have a drink.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
You know, gives me the excuse.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
Yeah, it gives me the excuse to come and read
a book or what a podcast. It has something interesting
to say that it's going to help me grow. So
I wouldn't do any of those.
Speaker 5 (12:52):
That good good, good, Yeah, those are very good standards.
I think you don't have you have a relationship with God.
Need health is big. You know in our culture, lots
of our culture has our diabetics, and you know the
drug use drinking is. I know, when I was growing out,
my father's always have you know, have a bearer. When
(13:13):
he came home.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
That was the old way. You're doing things, but things
have changed now.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
Yeah, but you've got to have your standards and people
people can't need it, then there's not the waiting line
going back in line.
Speaker 4 (13:24):
I feel like just nowadays, everything it's allowed. Everything it's okay.
And then if you're the person that don't drink, the
person that is close to God, the person that works out,
like you're the weird one. And I always say my
brother to be the weird person. They can come home
and not have a hangover and feel healthy, you know,
(13:45):
because yeah, eating healthy, paying for the supplements, going to
work out, like it gets expensive, but it will be
more expensive to be in a hospital.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
Oh yeah, very it's very pricing, very prime, and it's
just it's not a good thing. I appreciate you sharing
your story on you in some of your standards and
how tough it is today in twenty twenty five. Do
you want to ask you a couple of questions, just
general questions about relationships?
Speaker 2 (14:09):
Would you mind?
Speaker 3 (14:10):
Yeah, go ahead, okay.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
You know when it comes to just cheating gener I
want to ask you four questions again, when it comes
to cheating in general, who do you think cheats more
in relationships a matter or women?
Speaker 3 (14:20):
Women?
Speaker 2 (14:21):
Okay, why do you say that.
Speaker 3 (14:25):
You know I'm talking on a personal level.
Speaker 4 (14:27):
I worked on a men dominated business or feel and
I see, I see men. I work with men all
the time. I'm pretty much the one percent of women there.
And I see the conversations between men and the conversations
that I've had when I used to work with women,
And you can see men can have one thing on
(14:50):
their mind only and it's either they're thinking about work
or they're thinking about the problems that the wife or
the girlfriend is giving them because they don't answer the fun.
With a woman, we can multitas, we can do a
lot of things. And I have her women that are
so in love and they.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
Still looking around.
Speaker 4 (15:08):
I feel like the capacity of hiding, lying and doing
things is bigger on women than men, and I because.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
I have seen it.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
Yeah, well okay, interesting Number two. Why do you think
people just cheat in relationships? Why do you think they're cheap?
Speaker 3 (15:29):
I think it is com forward.
Speaker 4 (15:33):
I think people it's easier to go and cheat than
being a man or being a woman and say, you
know what, this is not working and I have to
just move on and go find somewhere else.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
So it's easy just going and just do it. Cheat
for a little bit, come back home, get like a
little fixed, and then come back home to miserably cheating.
Speaker 4 (15:53):
Cheating won't It doesn't ask you to do changes when
you leave a relation and ship.
Speaker 3 (16:00):
It's a lot of changes that you have to do.
Speaker 4 (16:02):
You have to leave the house, you have to maybe
move cities, you have to maybe move you out. Maybe
you'll have to find better opportunities so you can stop
by yourself. More than with the economy right now, I
feel like a lot of people are cheating because it's
cheaper to stay with the person that you don't want
and go and have fun somewhere else and actually have
(16:22):
the pants and move out of where you at and
start it all over and do it by yourself.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
And those wilbos right right? Okay.
Speaker 1 (16:33):
The third one I already know the answer to this answer.
Do you believe in second chances when somebody cheats on somebody?
Speaker 3 (16:41):
Unfortunately? No. I would love to say yes, but.
Speaker 6 (16:44):
No, no second chances to Lorraina for sure, all right.
And the last one is if you were to see
your girlfriend's husband at a restaurant with another woman, what
you call them, tell her what you song, or would
you just completely stay out and say it's not my
business and I want to get involved and say they're
(17:06):
real roman romantically involved. Would you tell her something or
would just kind of just let her find out in our.
Speaker 4 (17:12):
Own Unfortunately that happened to me a few times before,
and the woman told me straightforward, like I would rather
not to know. I have a happy life and controble
life more on the kind of environment that I always sell.
Like it was people with money with my exhusbin and
it was like I brother that Conford to my house
and not know what's going on. But I will definitely
(17:35):
walk to the men and say just say you know,
I saw you.
Speaker 5 (17:40):
All right, there you go, all right, that's Lorena. Lorena,
thank you so much for being part of our podcast
today and thank you for sharing your stories and some
of your standards. And it is tough to date in
twenty twenty five, it's getting tougher and tougher. Would you
like to share your TikTok handle before before we let
you go?
Speaker 4 (17:58):
Yes, my tic dog, it's Lorena, dad Ortissa, and yeah,
I talk about all that there. I guess that's how
we find each other. And thank you for the invite.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
Thank you so much. Rina. We'll see you next time.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
Bye bye, Okay, ladies, gentle with, thank Lorreen for being
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