August 8, 2025 • 13 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Would you you know when we said pre embryonic, in
the clinical terminology, that's when the baby is born. Embryonic
is when the baby is a teenager, fetal when the
baby is now an adult, and baby when the baby
is born, and the clinical terminology is when that couple
are getting married on their big day, the wedding day.
(00:25):
So what happens on the wedding day the baby is born?
You see, the first time I was a baby pre embryonic,
I was a baby born. Parents taught me to be nice,
to be kind, to be helping, to be this, to
be that, all the beautiful things I was taught. When
I grew and I become a teenager, I started fathoming
(00:47):
what my parents have taught me all these years. And
when I became more mature, an adult, I started looking
for a partner in marriage. When I looked for a
partner in marriage, whatever I was taught, I looked in
that girl or for that man. Piece of advice, my son,
(01:11):
When you find a girl and your heart starts dancing
within the first time you go up to her and
you approach her and you want to get to know her,
here's what you need to do.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
If you haven't died. If you haven't found one yet,
those who are married, I said, it's too late.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
You go to her and then you get to know
her for three months, not more. And during these three months,
normally you need to go back to your spiritual father
and update your spiritual father with what has been happening
throughout these three months.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Don't take it into your own hands. You're playing with fire.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
So you go out, you talk, exchange words, You go
back to your spiritual father, say we.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Had this kind of a conversation. This is what I said,
this is what she said. Oh, this is what I said,
and this is what he said. What do you say? Okay, continue,
it's okay.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Three months you should be able to make a very
clear decision whether you continue with the relationship or walk away,
because by the three months are up, you will have
a good idea if this person speaks.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Your language or not, you will know them.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
You will know them the way you talk and the
way they respond. You know, if you are a church
person and all they talk about worldly, what are you doing?
You're in a very wrong relationship. Still, you are there
just for the looks. What looks? We need to be
wise wise. So after three months, you decide shall I
(02:48):
continue give it more chance or not. If you say yes,
you should be married. Maximum within eighteen months, year and
a half, you should be married. This relationship must be stamped, sealed, finalized, settled.
When you buy a house, they say there is a
settlement a date, Well, you're gonna put a deposit and
(03:12):
wait ten years. You need to settle within a certain time.
If you don't settle, there are penalties and you may
lose the house and the deposit which you put ten percent.
It's a big hefty penalty. So after year and a half,
if you are still in the relationship, three years, four years,
(03:35):
five years, I will ask you this, and you better
be honest. Aren't you encountering a lot of problems? One
hundred percent years? You know why because after two years
and above, every man and his dog will enter an
interfee with your relationship because he didn't seal it. Problems
(03:58):
will start when you're gonna get married. The laws are
getting on your back. Come on, our daughter is not cheap.
Better settle this matter. You better marry her, otherwise we
don't want to see your face. Problems. Friends come in,
cousins come in, everyone will come in and then the
(04:19):
more you leave it, the more you're not able to
settle the matter. You should be married year and a
half from the day you've met that person for the
first time till the wedding day. Should be not more
than eighteen months maximum two years. Don't put after.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Two years, kiss it goodbye. There's a lot of problems. Now.
You know why it's a problem. I'll tell you why.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Because you got used to each other outside the marital house.
I don't want you now, I'm used to you. Okay,
you're not happy. Okay, see you. And when you say
see you after all these years, what happened to the
(05:05):
heart shattered? Shattered because there's a lot of emotions here.
The deposit is lost. The matter was never settled, so
you need to settle.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
You can't just say, oh no.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Look, I'll give it another chance. I'll give it another
and it's been five years.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
What another chance? Like this man, young man? He went
to the priest.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
He said, Father, yes, son, I've known this girl for
the past four years and I don't know, Father, tell me,
shall I marry her or not? The father kicked him
so hard in the back side, and he said, get
out of my row office. I'm not the one who's
marrying her to you. Why are you asking me after
four years? Get out of my room? What do you
(05:59):
mean for I?
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Shall I marry you?
Speaker 1 (06:00):
You've been going out with her for four years and
you can't decide. Now you're telling me to decide for you.
You don't want to marry her? Don't you want to
marry a go? But don't ask me after four years.
You should have come from day one. You should have
come from day one. So you need to settle. No,
(06:29):
I need to settle. I'm running out of time, even
though I don't want to leave you. And are you
praying for me?
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Please continue? I need your praise, Thank you, Thank you, God,
bless you.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
Now. In the golden days, why marriage lasted a lifetime
because it was chosen wisely. See now people meet on
(07:15):
the net. I met my partner on Facebook. What kind
of a face is he going to give you? A
face of a book? But he was not going to
give you his face. He'll give you a different face.
See in the golden days, when they wanted to go
(07:39):
and ask for a hand of a girl for their son,
the parents they will ask two things or two questions.
One who are the parents? Two who are the friends?
One who are the parents? Two who are the friends?
Because when you find out who the who the parents are,
(08:01):
find out who the friends are. Because maybe the parents
are good, but as that person grew older and mixed
with people and made friends for themselves, those friends influenced
that person and took them the wrong way. When you
find who the friends are, you will know exactly what
kind of a person you're asking for their hand. You'll
know exactly because you know why. Friendship is chosen using
(08:27):
the head. Relationship in marriage is chosen using the heart,
not the head. The first healthiest step to a partner
in marriage, your heart.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Must choose that partner, not your head.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
If you choose your partner in marriage using your head,
you will live very tired for the rest of your
life and that relationship. But if your heart chooses them, no,
you'll live happy. Because for a marriage relationship, it takes
the heart to make it happen, then the head.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
But friendship you never use the head.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Why because you never use the heart, sorry, and friendship
because you need to choose your friend with your head.
Unless their way of thinking is like or similar to
your way of thinking. You can never be friends. You
can never be friends. The reason why they are friends
because you think alike. Not you feel alike. You think alike.
(09:32):
That's why you are friends. So friendship requires the intellect.
Relationships in marriage requires the heart first, then the head.
And this is why after marriage, prior to marriage, the
head is asleep, the heart is awake. So prior to marriage,
(09:54):
all the words that come out of you, my son
is you've surpassed Romeo.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Hello, my love, Hello, Ma Darlin. What's happening? Baby?
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Every day you call her one name. One day she
is your sunshine, the other she is your flower, the
other she is your Rosella, your gazelle, your honey, your
sugar bun, your babe, your everything.
Speaker 3 (10:22):
After marriage, what whatever? Be married to you for a
long time.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
So we need to use the heart first and that relationship,
then use the head afterwards.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
So my beloveds use wisely.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
And whatever issues you're having, you need to share it
with the Lord, with the Lord, not going and talking
to your friends about it. If someone has the same
level of intellectual capacity as you, what do you think
(11:09):
they're going.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
To advise you on?
Speaker 1 (11:12):
It's like an alcoholic with all other respect an alcoholic
going to another alcoholic and asking that person, what do
you say, shall I give up on alcohol? What do
you think the other person's gonna say? Of course not.
So you cannot go to someone who is the same
level as you and ask him for advice. You need
(11:33):
to go for someone who's much wiser than you, older
than you, more experienced than you, and.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Ask them for advice.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
In short, relationships are vital because they are from God.
It is not good for Adam for men to be alone.
That's where relationship began. He can't be alone. He needs
a partner, he needs a helper. So it's as God's
That's why we cannot stop it.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
But what we need to do to do with God's
way so we don't get hurt along the way. Amen. So,
my beloved, I wish you all the very best.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Those who are still single, my best advice for you
is remain as you are.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
And those who are engaged.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
You still have the chance to walk away before it's
too late. And those who are married, May the Lord
have mercy on all of us. And please don't come
and see me. I don't have the time for you.
Keep your trouble to yourself. Have a kit Kat have
a break. Just kidding, not well. I pray we've learned something,
(12:42):
even if it may be small. Today I pray and
I ask the Lord Jesus to guide you all, to
protect you all, and to fill your life with his
love and his joy and happiness. Whether you are single,
whether you are engaged, or whether you are married. I
(13:02):
pray nothing but love, joy, happiness for your life in
Jesus' mighty name.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Amen,
Would you you know when we said pre embryonic, in
the clinical terminology, that's when the baby is born. Embryonic
is when the baby is a teenager, fetal when the
baby is now an adult, and baby when the baby
is born, and the clinical terminology is when that couple
are getting married on their big day, the wedding day.
(00:25):
So what happens on the wedding day the baby is born?
You see, the first time I was a baby pre embryonic,
I was a baby born. Parents taught me to be nice,
to be kind, to be helping, to be this, to
be that, all the beautiful things I was taught. When
I grew and I become a teenager, I started fathoming
(00:47):
what my parents have taught me all these years. And
when I became more mature, an adult, I started looking
for a partner in marriage. When I looked for a
partner in marriage, whatever I was taught, I looked in
that girl or for that man. Piece of advice, my son,
(01:11):
When you find a girl and your heart starts dancing
within the first time you go up to her and
you approach her and you want to get to know her,
here's what you need to do.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
If you haven't died. If you haven't found one yet,
those who are married, I said, it's too late.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
You go to her and then you get to know
her for three months, not more. And during these three months,
normally you need to go back to your spiritual father
and update your spiritual father with what has been happening
throughout these three months.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Don't take it into your own hands. You're playing with fire.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
So you go out, you talk, exchange words, You go
back to your spiritual father, say we.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Had this kind of a conversation. This is what I said,
this is what she said. Oh, this is what I said,
and this is what he said. What do you say? Okay, continue,
it's okay.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Three months you should be able to make a very
clear decision whether you continue with the relationship or walk away,
because by the three months are up, you will have
a good idea if this person speaks.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Your language or not, you will know them.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
You will know them the way you talk and the
way they respond. You know, if you are a church
person and all they talk about worldly, what are you doing?
You're in a very wrong relationship. Still, you are there
just for the looks. What looks? We need to be
wise wise. So after three months, you decide shall I
(02:48):
continue give it more chance or not. If you say yes,
you should be married. Maximum within eighteen months, year and
a half, you should be married. This relationship must be stamped, sealed, finalized, settled.
When you buy a house, they say there is a
settlement a date, Well, you're gonna put a deposit and
(03:12):
wait ten years. You need to settle within a certain time.
If you don't settle, there are penalties and you may
lose the house and the deposit which you put ten percent.
It's a big hefty penalty. So after year and a half,
if you are still in the relationship, three years, four years,
(03:35):
five years, I will ask you this, and you better
be honest. Aren't you encountering a lot of problems? One
hundred percent years? You know why because after two years
and above, every man and his dog will enter an
interfee with your relationship because he didn't seal it. Problems
(03:58):
will start when you're gonna get married. The laws are
getting on your back. Come on, our daughter is not cheap.
Better settle this matter. You better marry her, otherwise we
don't want to see your face. Problems. Friends come in,
cousins come in, everyone will come in and then the
(04:19):
more you leave it, the more you're not able to
settle the matter. You should be married year and a
half from the day you've met that person for the
first time till the wedding day. Should be not more
than eighteen months maximum two years. Don't put after.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Two years, kiss it goodbye. There's a lot of problems. Now.
You know why it's a problem. I'll tell you why.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Because you got used to each other outside the marital house.
I don't want you now, I'm used to you. Okay,
you're not happy. Okay, see you. And when you say
see you after all these years, what happened to the
(05:05):
heart shattered? Shattered because there's a lot of emotions here.
The deposit is lost. The matter was never settled, so
you need to settle.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
You can't just say, oh no.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Look, I'll give it another chance. I'll give it another
and it's been five years.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
What another chance? Like this man, young man? He went
to the priest.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
He said, Father, yes, son, I've known this girl for
the past four years and I don't know, Father, tell me,
shall I marry her or not? The father kicked him
so hard in the back side, and he said, get
out of my row office. I'm not the one who's
marrying her to you. Why are you asking me after
four years? Get out of my room? What do you
(05:59):
mean for I?
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Shall I marry you?
Speaker 1 (06:00):
You've been going out with her for four years and
you can't decide. Now you're telling me to decide for you.
You don't want to marry her? Don't you want to
marry a go? But don't ask me after four years.
You should have come from day one. You should have
come from day one. So you need to settle. No,
(06:29):
I need to settle. I'm running out of time, even
though I don't want to leave you. And are you
praying for me?
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Please continue? I need your praise, Thank you, Thank you, God,
bless you.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
Now. In the golden days, why marriage lasted a lifetime
because it was chosen wisely. See now people meet on
(07:15):
the net. I met my partner on Facebook. What kind
of a face is he going to give you? A
face of a book? But he was not going to
give you his face. He'll give you a different face.
See in the golden days, when they wanted to go
(07:39):
and ask for a hand of a girl for their son,
the parents they will ask two things or two questions.
One who are the parents? Two who are the friends?
One who are the parents? Two who are the friends?
Because when you find out who the who the parents are,
(08:01):
find out who the friends are. Because maybe the parents
are good, but as that person grew older and mixed
with people and made friends for themselves, those friends influenced
that person and took them the wrong way. When you
find who the friends are, you will know exactly what
kind of a person you're asking for their hand. You'll
know exactly because you know why. Friendship is chosen using
(08:27):
the head. Relationship in marriage is chosen using the heart,
not the head. The first healthiest step to a partner
in marriage, your heart.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Must choose that partner, not your head.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
If you choose your partner in marriage using your head,
you will live very tired for the rest of your
life and that relationship. But if your heart chooses them, no,
you'll live happy. Because for a marriage relationship, it takes
the heart to make it happen, then the head.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
But friendship you never use the head.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Why because you never use the heart, sorry, and friendship
because you need to choose your friend with your head.
Unless their way of thinking is like or similar to
your way of thinking. You can never be friends. You
can never be friends. The reason why they are friends
because you think alike. Not you feel alike. You think alike.
(09:32):
That's why you are friends. So friendship requires the intellect.
Relationships in marriage requires the heart first, then the head.
And this is why after marriage, prior to marriage, the
head is asleep, the heart is awake. So prior to marriage,
(09:54):
all the words that come out of you, my son
is you've surpassed Romeo.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Hello, my love, Hello, Ma Darlin. What's happening? Baby?
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Every day you call her one name. One day she
is your sunshine, the other she is your flower, the
other she is your Rosella, your gazelle, your honey, your
sugar bun, your babe, your everything.
Speaker 3 (10:22):
After marriage, what whatever? Be married to you for a
long time.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
So we need to use the heart first and that relationship,
then use the head afterwards.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
So my beloveds use wisely.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
And whatever issues you're having, you need to share it
with the Lord, with the Lord, not going and talking
to your friends about it. If someone has the same
level of intellectual capacity as you, what do you think
(11:09):
they're going.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
To advise you on?
Speaker 1 (11:12):
It's like an alcoholic with all other respect an alcoholic
going to another alcoholic and asking that person, what do
you say, shall I give up on alcohol? What do
you think the other person's gonna say? Of course not.
So you cannot go to someone who is the same
level as you and ask him for advice. You need
(11:33):
to go for someone who's much wiser than you, older
than you, more experienced than you, and.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Ask them for advice.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
In short, relationships are vital because they are from God.
It is not good for Adam for men to be alone.
That's where relationship began. He can't be alone. He needs
a partner, he needs a helper. So it's as God's
That's why we cannot stop it.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
But what we need to do to do with God's
way so we don't get hurt along the way. Amen. So,
my beloved, I wish you all the very best.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Those who are still single, my best advice for you
is remain as you are.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
And those who are engaged.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
You still have the chance to walk away before it's
too late. And those who are married, May the Lord
have mercy on all of us. And please don't come
and see me. I don't have the time for you.
Keep your trouble to yourself. Have a kit Kat have
a break. Just kidding, not well. I pray we've learned something,
(12:42):
even if it may be small. Today I pray and
I ask the Lord Jesus to guide you all, to
protect you all, and to fill your life with his
love and his joy and happiness. Whether you are single,
whether you are engaged, or whether you are married. I
(13:02):
pray nothing but love, joy, happiness for your life in
Jesus' mighty name.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Amen,
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