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Speaker 1 (02:05):
All right't you already? It's gonna be crazy. So here
we go. See what we got. Let's see what we got?
Ye late al kid at one, so hold it down.
We're there, Street Geek nerd. So what is up my people? Today?
(02:26):
Another wonderful episode of That's Right, Black Together. It's a
beautiful day. I know, scruffy, but you want to know
why because this weekend we got the Rent Party too,
coming Halloween twenty twenty. Got tons of stuff to say
about it. But I'm not by myself. I'm joined by
the awesomely intelligent lady Lisa. Say what's up?
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Hey, y'all?
Speaker 1 (02:50):
Who So, guys, the Rent Party is coming Halloween twenty twenty.
We're gonna have a morning, sir, evening service. It's gonna
be dope.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
You're about to have comic church.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Yo, black comics, cosplay, gaming music yo. We got it all.
It's gonna be dope. It's gonna be a great place
to come and hang out. You know what I'm saying.
Drop a dollar in a bucket if you can help
support the movement. We're doing things and it's gonna be dope.
Big shout out too, of course. Jason Reeves one through
three art big shout out to Quinn McGowan of Project
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Wildfire and Operative dot Net. Yo. It's gonna be sweet,
cool panels, cool people's just a real good time. It's
gonna be live, live, live, so make sure you roll through. Now.
With that said, we are coming to the close of
our what is it? Our three part review of the
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three part Model Homes from t D Jake's and Suita
Jakes or TD to Jake's Yes, how do you? How
do you before we get into this last episode or
maybe I wait till the end a little bit, but
just to get an idea, how have you felt about
this series in general?
Speaker 2 (04:13):
It's just been some great stuff, you know it really
you know, the points that they've they've made and kind
of the aha moments, you know, and just really breaking
down and making it really simple about you know, how
to deal with each other correctly. I guess it is
(04:35):
the way to say it in terms of a marriage
when you're really want to focus on having a healthy
marriage and to really take care of your spouse in
terms of dealing with them every day. And I want
to say too, I know this was done earlier in
this in this year, but it kind of was right
on time in my opinion for you know, this this
(04:57):
quarantine and everybody being in the house because y'all with
each other a lot more often than before, you know,
so yeah, yeah, you know this might be right on
time for some folks before, you know, somebody getting ready
not to make it out of this quarantine and not
because of COVID.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
I agree, this has been There's been a lot of
fun to watch, a lot of good things to just
learn and just to discuss. And you know, I love
anything that gives opportunity to have like greater conversations about
what's going on in your life or the lives around
you and stuff like that. So this has been great
and a good opportunity for us to you know, spark
a little convo here and on Instagram as well. You know,
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people in the comments of here Instagram back and forth
about you know, our thoughts on what TD and Serena
have brought to the table, you know, their own table,
not the red table, you know what I'm saying, their
their own personal table. But with that said, to go
and get into this episode. I know you, I know
you got copious notes, but this was a shorter episode.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
It was and It was set up differently because it
was you know, quarantine once yeah, once quarantine had hit.
So this was from home. And what I liked about
it was it was TD Jake's along with his three
children and their spouses, so you know, they were each
you know, uh, from from their homes and they were
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kind of just having like a group discussion and you know,
kind of question and answer and that kind of thing.
And it was just really good. It was just really good.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Yeah. And I like how they touched on you know,
blended families. They touched on you know, kind of dealing
with the kids and kind of like that stuff comes
back from your own childhood.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Yeah, So this was more this incorporated parenthood, whereas the
first two were really mostly heavy about marriage, and this
one incorporated, which I thought was of course appropriate.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
Yeah, And to tie in, I'll start off with this
to tie into this, and I thought it was so
so important because just this week I called my dad
telling him about something that nerves whole light, Dad, or
does and I'm like, now I understand, and I because
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I hit him up and I was like, look, I
used to wonder why you would just jump up and
be yelling at me and now I understand. I'm like, look,
if your mama been telling you to do this for
X amount of you know, four or five times, boy,
just do it. So I had to hear no more.
(07:47):
But now it was funny. And then just hearing them
talk about how, you know, making like home food, Like
like I told you one time, my brother said, I
don't want no home food. You know what I'm saying, Like,
how like you can't have no McDonald's nuggets. You're gonna
have some home nuggets. You're gonna get some home nuggets
and that's what your but gonna get. But so so
(08:10):
I like those moments of them kind of relating to
their parents and you know, remembering things that they did
and seeing it come full circle. I thought that was fun.
I really enjoyed that. So I think that's one of
the things that like really ike did or I thought
that was cool because there's so many times that when
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we're young, we don't have the full you know, we
just don't have the full graph just yet of how
your parents have to operate with one another, and whether
it's like finance or whether it's just like schedules or
people just busy or tired, you know, your parents are
(08:51):
not your show first, And oh I want McDonald's. What
am I supposed to just get dressed to go get
you McDonald's because you want it? You know. So I
thought that was kind of funny the way.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
But you know, just thinking about that, it's so funny though,
because I guess you have to as a parent figure
out how to make that transition between meeting your child's
every need because of course when they're when they're babies
and toddlers and whatnot, you're pretty much meeting their every
need because they're just not able to right, and you
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have to figure out how to make those transitions and
let them be responsible for things a little bit at
a time as they're developmentally able to, until you get
to a point where it's like, okay, this is no
longer my responsibility. This is all you.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
Know.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
And I know for me, even with with you know,
neusol light, he's too so he's able to do some
things for himself, and I have to catch myself and
allow him to do the things he can versus me
doing it because it's quicker, it'sasier.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
It's less messy, just like just hurry up, just doing
you know.
Speaker 2 (10:01):
But I have to be careful with that, because then
it'll get to a point where he's not doing things
he should be able to do simply because I didn't
require him or let him do those things. Because there
are some things he'll want to not be like no, no, no, no,
because I don't want him to make a mess, but
he needs to make that mess to be able to
get to a point where he doesn't make a mess.
So it's a lot to balance, just little things like that.
(10:22):
It's a lot to figure out, you know, and and
and to balance. And I think it would be easy
as a couple to get into even small disagreements about
those things. And I know we do sometimes we get
into small disagreements about you know, things involving him and
what he should be able to do and when he
shouldn't be able to he should be doing, you know,
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those kind of things. And so yeah, it's a lot
to maneuver.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
Yeah, and it was it was just fun to see
that dynamic play out over like multiple little parents, and
I mean even there as a parent that I work with,
where you know, he has a brand new born like
I believe she was born like about a month ago
or something like that, Like less than a month maybe,
and they are they have a two and a half
year old, like she's like right behind her, so light.
(11:11):
So just dealing with you know, the one that's running around, yeah, and.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
The one that need and the one that needs.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
Like literally up to the minute attention. Yeah, and just
dealing with that parenthood in an interesting way. And this
episode handled you know, parenthood and also kind of maintaining
your marriage as well, where you're not completely swallowed up
by parenthood or parenting that you don't forget that you
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have to. I believe he said protect one another if
that was the term, because I know you have the notes,
but I believe he said that. You know you have
to protect one another because you know they have.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
To be each other's defender.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
Each other's defender. That's what you said, because you know
there are times where your kids will try to separate you.
I mean, we we have a two and a half
years well no name half three two. Yeah, he'll be
he'll be three next month. So he's, oh, it's not
it's not November yet, ye forgetting it will be November
(12:15):
in the second, so there will be three in November,
I mean three in December, and you know he's already
learning like, oh, mom said no. Let me go round
to the other room and be like, hey, Dad, can
I have this? Because and I have. I have to
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be very vigilant in trying to know if this is
something that he's already asked for and it's already been rejected.
Has this already been vetoed? Because see, the last thing
I need is to be in an issue, in an
issue where I'm getting fussed at because of you. I
want my own personal fussings, all right. I don't need
(13:01):
I don't need extra fussings because I done did something
to help you out that you ain't you weren't supposed
to have in the first.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
Place, and we have learned a new word, y'all.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
Right, fussings. I don't want to know. I don't want
no extra fussings. I want my own personal fussings that
I ain't did, I ain't did nothing, shouts out to
Jenna James and the chat nice to see whatever. Whatever.
But yeah, so he or like say, if you if
you take something from him, he'll run to me and
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be like did you see that? Damn? Did you see it?
Go get it? So it's it is funny seeing.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
How or or he'll want to watch Spider Man for
the fifteen thousandth time.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
Today Spider Man into the Spider Versus Doube though like
ispe but he watches it. He wants, he wants to
watch it a lot, a whole lot.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
He'll ask to watch now, say no, so then he'll
grab them remote and bring it to you, as if
to say, but father will let me watch this.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
This is the funny thing, all right, So peep this,
like Lisa said, at least I'll be like, no, you
can't watch it. We'll watch it something else. We can't
watch this, And he'll snatched the remote real fast. Run
little legs, just a kicking like this, come over to me,
putting the remote beside me, or put it in my hand.
(14:24):
And I'm being like, what is going on? Because see
I don't know, I don't know what's going on. So
me before I go to turn on Spider Man, turn on.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
Miles, I just told this little boy.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
It's then I gotta look at him and be like, look, look,
your mama said no, all right, and she already said no.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
I said no, he got a covert operation here and.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
Grab the remote and it's funny on the ground because
he has no siblings and during the you know, the
Covid era, the Covidi, the Corona Timeline. It's not like
he's been able to learn this from other kids. So
it's just something that's like inherently in you like oh,
dad said no, let me go ask mom, or mom
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said no, let me go ask dad. And just seeing
how they say you have to be, you know, a defender,
and then also not to hash things out in front
of the kids, like you have to be like that
united front, like no, we said you gonna do this.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
Yeah, we still work on it.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
Yeah. Yeah, it's you know, it's because.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
We will definitely hash it out. And he's like, hold on,
hold on, calm down.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
I'm bean, like we are not we ain't fighting. Oh man,
that's right. The Corona Timeline. I've been yo. You know,
you know I love comics, you know what I mean.
You know, so when I saw this something like, yo,
this is the Corona Timeline. Man, It's just how it is.
But it is. It's one of those things where he'll
come he'll come in and we'll be going back and
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forth in the kitchen or something like that. Hold on,
hold on, hold down, I'm like this, then we're not upset.
You know what I'm saying. We are too passionate. People
passionate about what we're speaking about. But nobody's angry. Ybody's
and know you still can't watch spoder Man. But but yeah,
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hearing that part about being a united front, being able
to protect one another things of that nature was something
that was good because, especially for the couple that has
the blended family, they were talking about how, you know,
there's a set of kids over here that don't really
know me or my parenting style, and my kids don't
know you really or your parenting style. So you know,
(16:44):
trying to get on the same page as a family
about what do we do? And they say even like
the small things like when should the kids start dating?
You know, should you know, should these kids have this
amount of money or or you know what you say,
like went to wear a two piece or something like that,
like you know, or makeup or or you know, are
(17:05):
we you know any any you know, kind of day
to day things that you can easily get your parents,
especially if it's a blended family, into big arguments about
and they did nothing. Yeah, because you know, there might
be one parent that's like oh no, you know, two
piece is no problem. And then there could be another
parent saying, you know, there's nothing inherently wrong with the
(17:27):
two piece itself, but we do have to guard against
those people that don't always have the best intentions of
young girls in their minds, and you know, we we
have to you know, make some consideration for that, or
at least be in a space where we're there to
guard against them, I mean guard for them if something
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were to you know, come around, or someone was to
say something out of the way, something like that, because
you know, just like just like young boys, and I
remember you saying, we also have to remember where that
boys' bodies are sacred as well. Just like young boys,
young girls, there are there's that period where your body
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may be further than your kind of like yeah, before
your your your consideration for consequences and things of that nature.
So being able to kind of be there to protect
as a parent where they're coming up but they're definitely
not there yet, So I thought that was cool too.
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But any anyway, I know, you have some more some
other stuff.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
I don't know. It was just you know, a lot
of just you know, good little little nuggets. This one
was really different because they were just kind of, you know,
jumping topics versus before it was kind of more of
a flow. But I just love how they you know,
just talked about how you when they said you have
to be each other's defender and sometimes each other's translator.
So yeah, that you know that, that was like really
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important to me because and they kind of touched on
this before where it's like you say one thing and
the other person takes it a totally different way, and
so they get upset and you're confused about why they're
upset because they're assuming what you meant and they're just
taking what you said a different way, versus saying, Okay,
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well what do you mean by that? You know, And
they just kind of pointed out that instead of assuming
you know that you that the other person meant to
offend you, you know, you should just really be like, Okay,
well what did you mean? I'm not sure what you
mean because I'm feeling a little offended.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
About what this is. And I've told you before because
I learned I learned this quite some time ago. Lisa
may say something, I'll be like, look I heard this,
this is what I heard. Yeah, I know you didn't
say that, but this is this is how I hit
your boy, right, I'm just letting you know, this is
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what I heard. And I mean it could be crazy,
it might be something that's not even closer. But I mean,
even when it's not even close to what she may
be meaning or saying, if you still hear that, you
even have to kind of like hash that out, and
you know, from my side to hers as well, where
she can be thinking that I'm saying some hard and
(20:18):
I'm like, no, I'm just so busy and tied up
with doing this and that the other thing. I'm not
like like what were you talking when I'm like when I'm.
Speaker 2 (20:27):
Like what, yes, that man?
Speaker 1 (20:30):
That is that? And I do have to I'm trying
to get really good at what I'm like laser focused
into work. Anything that bothers me is an annoyance and
it's not I'm trying to make sure I don't dump
that frustration or annoyance off on, of course my wife,
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because I don't want it to be a situation where
like get away from me. But but but it is, like,
you know, I'm trying to I'm trying to focus, but
I have to.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
It's especially annoying when I'm trying to get your attention
because I don't fix you something to eat because I
know you haven't eaten. And the response I get is
what I'm trying trying to see your behind.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
And I thank you?
Speaker 2 (21:17):
Do you I clean.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
Clean the whole plate.
Speaker 2 (21:22):
It didn't sound like a thanks when you turned around.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Telling my song what so Yeah, that is something that
I'm continually trying to be focused on and trying to
like remember like yo to say like regular yes or something.
Now it's I'm you know it, be working sometimes and
be working some times, but I have to you know.
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It's just those small things like that that over time
can kind of get on people. And that's why I
love that they brought that stuff up, because the more
that you hear from other couples what they're going through,
you know that your your path or your journey is
it as rough or crazy as it may seem to you.
(22:06):
You know when you're in it by yourself. You know,
when you're in it by yourself, you're like, oh man,
I'm the only person who's dealing with this the whole world,
and nobody is marriage is like mine, and you know
everybody else's marriage is perfect because you're looking at Instagram
or Facebook and something and you're like, all I do
is fight all the time. It's like, no, look, other
people are having their little fights too. That's just marriage.
But as long as these little fights don't become big fights,
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like you know, even like even when we go back
and forth, it's it's usually about like small insignificant stuff
that's just like nitpicky, that's not really like what was it?
What was it the last last episode we were talking
where you said, well, I'm like, well, I'm like, what
are we really fighting about? Like everything's all good? Were chilling?
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All this is covered, that's covered, This is good, that's
taken care of. We find little guys, good everything. What
are we really fighting about? What are we angry about? Really?
Speaker 2 (23:05):
And I think or we just are we just kind of.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
Like in each other's space a little too much.
Speaker 2 (23:09):
I was getting ready to say that the same thing.
I think it's an issue of you know, we're in
this apartment. It's not the most space and we're in
here twenty four seven.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
Twenty four sad, you know, like so you know, making
sure there's time too. And this goes back to like
the first two episodes that they did a model homes
where he was saying, he mean Tjakes was saying, like
he likes the music blasting super crazy, right, and his
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wife likes more of a serene kind of spa, you know,
water trickling sounds and stuff are kind of very calm
and fung shuey and something.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
And that's kind of that's actually kind of me. And
you you know, when I'm really trying to relax, you know,
I'll put on something really mellow or like you know,
the water with the music and you over there with
Wu tang, you know, just banging it out, which on.
Speaker 1 (24:02):
Yes, And and that's something that I've been trying to
get very very good with doing. Like you know, when
I was ever since, ever since I was young, when
somebody would say turn that down, I'd be like, turn
it down, turn it down, turn it down, but to
turn it out. But but but I understand that, you know,
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like this isn't This isn't of course like Neur's whole world.
It ain't nah. This is the place that we share.
This is a place that's supposed to be both of
our place is a piece, you know what I'm saying.
So you know, you know, sometimes you gotta play play
Wu Tang on like number five and say you can't
put it on number twenty five.
Speaker 2 (24:45):
Yeah, because when it's twenty five, guess what I'm hearing
Woo tang too.
Speaker 1 (24:49):
Yes, But then all of it the way certain things,
way certain things are situated. At times, I'm very close
to the television, so the television that's being enjoyed by
other people, to try to drown that out then ends
up drowning, you know, bleeding into the you know, audio
bleeds into their space. So it's like it's more considered
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like more spats of space than actual real issues. And
the good thing that's the good thing that's you know,
displayed here in these different uh I guess segments that
TV and Serena Jakes did. And also that's exhibited by
like just talking about it and having other conversations outside
of it, is knowing like oh, yeah, your marriage is fine,
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your marriage is cool. These are small spats about space.
It's not a issue. This isn't a core value issue.
This isn't this isn't a situation where you're a liar,
you're a thief, you betrayed me, you These aren't issues
of core character. These are just small spats about space
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that can be easily cleaned up if you're willing to,
if you're willing to be considerate to your mate, you
know what I'm saying. So like the was it the
other day was yes, sir, today, I can't remember when
when the music was too loud and I was like,
you know what, let me go and turn it off
for a while. I was like, you know what I've
been I've been bumping. I've been bumping the jams. But
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then I was like, let me turn it off for
a little bit.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
But then I felt like, you know, I was like, oh,
so he wants to make it all or nothing, Like
if he can't have it all the way up, then
he's gonna take the headphones off. Like I was asking
to take the headphones off, and it's like I was
just asking him to turn it down.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Well, there there's two two sides to that. One I
was taking. I was turning it off because I was like,
you know what, I have been bumping it for a while.
Let me go and turn it off. Give it a break,
That's what I was thinking. But then also give it
a break for me and for you. You know what,
I'm saying, like you, it's loud anyway. And this is
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going into my second point. If you can't bump hip hop,
but that's not it's not really worth It's my thing though.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
The point of headphones, right, the point of headphones is
to be able to enjoy music without people on the
outside hearing it.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
Yes, And that's that's why since you can hear it,
I turned it off. That's what surprised me because I'm like,
so now you're still you're still antsy about me now
turning it off.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
Because I felt like, okay, this this is the way
I took it.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
I feel this is the way this is, this is
this is good. Let it out.
Speaker 2 (27:31):
This is the way I took it out. I took
it as you say, she don't want me to listen
to this music with these headphones on, and it's like, no,
I don't care if you have on the headphones. I
just don't want to hear what'sin your headphones.
Speaker 1 (27:46):
Nah this When you when you say that, I was like, well,
you know what, I have been bobbing it for a while.
Let me go on give it a rest. That's that's
literally what went through my mind. I was like, let
me go and give it a rest. I was like,
because if I turn it down, I ain't gonn enjoy
it no way. So you know, just go and give.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
It a rest.
Speaker 1 (28:02):
And then about an hour later, you know, I turned it.
I turned it back on and listened to some new songs,
but you know, gave it, gave it a rest, gave
you a rest, gave gave it the music, gave my
ear drums a rest.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
Yes, please, because I'm just like, if I can hear
every single word of it, and you have on earphones,
Lord Jesus, that's what it gets good. But like, but
is your hearing alright though, brother.
Speaker 1 (28:26):
Man, she'll need here forever. Man. Look, I got two ears,
oh man, so uh so stuff like that I thought
was I thought was awesome. And then also seeing all
three of seeing the the happy marriages that have come
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from the happy marriage that TV and Serena had with
something special as well. You have these three couples that
are you know, that are together, that are you know,
working through you know, day and day out, becoming better couples,
becoming better for themselves and for each other and for
the children, and just seeing how that their new model
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for whatever their children will be was based on the
model that that you know, TD and Serena were very
I guess very intent on creating and fostering, and I
thought that was I thought that was dope. And I
think there's something that you know that we can all
kind of like take from that is being mindful of
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being mindful of the house and the atmosphere that you're
creating that your child will some sometime in the future
in some way exhibit yea, you know, and not saying
that they'll follow your household, you know one hundred percent,
but there will be small things that you know you do,
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or that your friend does, or your boyfriend or your
new husband or your new wife or whatever will do
that say their mom did or their dad did, or
maybe their brother did or something like stuff. You know
that they were completely surrounded by an engulfed in for
you know, all of their formative years until maybe even
late in adulthood. So it is I just thought that
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was special seeing all of them on zoom. At the
same time, I was like, this is you know, this
is a beautiful thing. You know, you you raised up
your children. Now they're you know, out raising their own
and that's legacy. Man. And that and that's dope, and
that legacy built out of continuing to try to cultivate,
you know, a good love for you and your mate
(30:40):
and your family thought that was awesome, man, Like, yeah, real,
that was wrong.
Speaker 2 (30:44):
It was not, you know, just the fact that they
seem to all be comfortable being open, you know, talking.
They didn't at all. At no point did it seem rehearsed,
And no point did it seem artificial. Oh yeah, yeah anything.
It just seem like, you know, they were just having
conversation and it happened to be on zoom And I
really really like that.
Speaker 1 (31:07):
What in no world? Yo? I have no idea. But anyway, yo, man,
I have no idea. Sometimes sometimes I'll be I go
to work in the morning, I come home at night.
But nah, I guess well that's said. What I'll do
(31:27):
to close this is Model Homes is a great series.
I know it's long, so, you know, because we're just
kind of like running back the highlights that stuck out
to us, and of course, you know, different things will
stick out to you your mate, things like that. It
is long. But for those that are very intent on
(31:55):
either finding a mate or having a deeper connection with
the mate they have or either seeing examples and maybe
you know, like tips and tricks from someone who's been married.
What are they married? Thirty eight years? Said? Thirty eight years?
You can't, I mean, can't front on that. That's that's
(32:16):
real time. Yeah, you know what I mean. They've been
married longer than I've been alive, or just as long
as I've been alive. So it's you got to give
them back, you know, you got to give them in
any couple like that, you got to give them. Well,
if they're married and things are still.
Speaker 2 (32:32):
Good, yeah, because you know what I always say, I'm
not impressed by how long you're married. I'm impressed by
how happy you are in successful you are in your marriage.
Because the only thing.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
It takes, because you can be married fifty years and
be living and sleeping in different beds.
Speaker 2 (32:48):
The only thing it takes to be married a long
time is to not get divorced. That's the only thing
it takes. Not foul that paperwork.
Speaker 1 (32:55):
That's it. Don't you find that paperwork though, don't find I.
Speaker 2 (32:59):
Mean, that's that's it, you know what I mean. There's
nothing else you have to do to literally stay married
that long. It's just not found paper work, but you know,
CAUs an absolute hell for each other, for those fifty
water roses.
Speaker 1 (33:17):
So uh yeah, it's it's it's great to get tips
and tricks, get their perspective, and like I say, to
a lot of a lot of people that are dating
or you know, seriously dating, don't be afraid to speak
to like older couples, man, older people that have been
like older men or women, Like if you're a woman,
(33:39):
grab a hold of the wisdom of some older women,
like you know, if you if you out here Dayton
and say say you're twenty twenty two and you're out
here Dayton and you're seriously looking for someone, not like
playing around and something. You know your friends might not
have the best answers. Every now and then you might
(34:00):
want to grab a hold to someone who's like forty
forty five and get their perspective on it, or someone
who's already in a relationship, like a couple that could
you know what I'm saying, you know, give you a greater,
a greater and broader look at what could be going
on in your relationship and whether it's serious or not.
(34:20):
Because there's a lot of times where we think it's
all over. It's crazy, and like there's couples that have
been married like twice as long as than You're like, huh,
that's nothing, You're fine. So there's a lot of times
when you know, we blow up our own situations because
we think we're alone. And I think this is a
good another one of those good examples I'm similar to,
(34:42):
like black love on on own, Yeah, on own. That
shows you know, like other couples have gone through trying
times and they're still making it. They're still standing and
in ways better for it, you know what I'm saying,
Because you know, it's not always going to be you know,
(35:03):
beautiful roses every day, but it's you know, the work
that it takes to kind of like plant and you know,
kind of grow those roses that makes it up. So yeah,
that's how I feel about it. I feel it was great. Serious, Yeah,
I enjoyed it. I enjoyed it a lot. Yeah, So
how about you good?
Speaker 2 (35:23):
Yeah, it was good information. It was good, I would
say good guidelines, you know what I mean, Like things
that made you really think about, you know, your own
behavior and interaction in your relationship and how you can
really change and adjust some things. It's kind of to me.
It was kind of like a checklist of Okay, are
you doing this, are you doing that? Do you guys
(35:43):
do this? You know, do you do that? You can
improve here, you know that kind of thing. It was
a good guy on really how to treat each other
and how to interact with each other and how to
take care of each other. You know, make sure you're
you're caring for your spouse as you interact with them.
It's not just an exchange every day, you know, where
(36:06):
you're just kind of you know, spitting out words and
just passing each other bye, and you know, making an
exchange kind of like you're really taking care of each other.
Speaker 1 (36:16):
That's what's up. That's what's up. Well guys. With that said,
thank you, thank you for coming through, thank you for chilling,
thank you for hanging with us. We made it through
the whole series. Next week, I don't know what we're
gonna do. We're gonna do something fun. Now, you know
we're gonna do something fun, have a good time. Don't
forget uh tomorrow. We have beast vibes life. So if
you want to get your hip hop discussion on, holla
(36:39):
and do not forget. We have Star Trek Discovery on Thursday.
Uh oh no, we have. We have Subsume Media with
Dedrin Sneed and Robert Jeffrey on Thursday and Star Trek
Discovery on Thursday, and Mandalorian comes back on Friday and
(37:00):
Rent Party on Saturday. Yo.
Speaker 2 (37:03):
Look, so do we have lounging on Friday.
Speaker 1 (37:08):
Yeah, we do have loung We got lounging on Friday,
and we got a walk in her shoes on Friday. Yo,
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You ain't gonna like it, ain't gonna be You ain't
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uh in just a second. But do not forget Halloween
(38:36):
twenty twenty this weekend, this Saturday. You can be right
here chilling with us. Don't go out and get that
COVID candy. Stay in and hang out with us in
the rep party. It's gonna be dope, man. Yeah, don't
go treat. Don't no, you trigger a treat with us.
Speaker 2 (38:54):
I still might go to the store and get that
candy like oh yeah yeah, like earlier in the day
on Halloween because it's when I won't be on sale yet.
I'll go out and get candy on November first, because
it be on. That's a trick, y'all. Go go geet
keep on November first, cod can because it'll be fifty
percent off in the stores and stuff, right, because trying
(39:17):
to get rid of it. And that's what I do,
because I don't be giving no canny, ain't sharing no cannon.
I'm going to the store and buy some candon to
sit in the house, you know, eat a candy myself myself,
that's right.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
So of course I'm gonna leave y'all with Archaitron. That's
a R c K A t R o N dot
com d is dope space bridging stores. It's worth your time, y'all.
Y'all need to get it. So from us to you,
oh yeah, at least to say peace by y'all, from
us to you even nerve so light to peace we
(39:52):
out y'all, A yeah.
Speaker 3 (39:57):
Yeah, Top.
Speaker 4 (40:52):
Top top Copper
All right't you already? It's gonna be crazy. So here
we go. See what we got. Let's see what we got?
Ye late al kid at one, so hold it down.
We're there, Street Geek nerd. So what is up my people? Today?
(02:26):
Another wonderful episode of That's Right, Black Together. It's a
beautiful day. I know, scruffy, but you want to know
why because this weekend we got the Rent Party too,
coming Halloween twenty twenty. Got tons of stuff to say
about it. But I'm not by myself. I'm joined by
the awesomely intelligent lady Lisa. Say what's up?
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Hey, y'all?
Speaker 1 (02:50):
Who So, guys, the Rent Party is coming Halloween twenty twenty.
We're gonna have a morning, sir, evening service. It's gonna
be dope.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
You're about to have comic church.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Yo, black comics, cosplay, gaming music yo. We got it all.
It's gonna be dope. It's gonna be a great place
to come and hang out. You know what I'm saying.
Drop a dollar in a bucket if you can help
support the movement. We're doing things and it's gonna be dope.
Big shout out too, of course. Jason Reeves one through
three art big shout out to Quinn McGowan of Project
(03:28):
Wildfire and Operative dot Net. Yo. It's gonna be sweet,
cool panels, cool people's just a real good time. It's
gonna be live, live, live, so make sure you roll through. Now.
With that said, we are coming to the close of
our what is it? Our three part review of the
(03:54):
three part Model Homes from t D Jake's and Suita
Jakes or TD to Jake's Yes, how do you? How
do you before we get into this last episode or
maybe I wait till the end a little bit, but
just to get an idea, how have you felt about
this series in general?
Speaker 2 (04:13):
It's just been some great stuff, you know it really
you know, the points that they've they've made and kind
of the aha moments, you know, and just really breaking
down and making it really simple about you know, how
to deal with each other correctly. I guess it is
(04:35):
the way to say it in terms of a marriage
when you're really want to focus on having a healthy
marriage and to really take care of your spouse in
terms of dealing with them every day. And I want
to say too, I know this was done earlier in
this in this year, but it kind of was right
on time in my opinion for you know, this this
(04:57):
quarantine and everybody being in the house because y'all with
each other a lot more often than before, you know,
so yeah, yeah, you know this might be right on
time for some folks before, you know, somebody getting ready
not to make it out of this quarantine and not
because of COVID.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
I agree, this has been There's been a lot of
fun to watch, a lot of good things to just
learn and just to discuss. And you know, I love
anything that gives opportunity to have like greater conversations about
what's going on in your life or the lives around
you and stuff like that. So this has been great
and a good opportunity for us to you know, spark
a little convo here and on Instagram as well. You know,
(05:43):
people in the comments of here Instagram back and forth
about you know, our thoughts on what TD and Serena
have brought to the table, you know, their own table,
not the red table, you know what I'm saying, their
their own personal table. But with that said, to go
and get into this episode. I know you, I know
you got copious notes, but this was a shorter episode.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
It was and It was set up differently because it
was you know, quarantine once yeah, once quarantine had hit.
So this was from home. And what I liked about
it was it was TD Jake's along with his three
children and their spouses, so you know, they were each
you know, uh, from from their homes and they were
(06:29):
kind of just having like a group discussion and you know,
kind of question and answer and that kind of thing.
And it was just really good. It was just really good.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Yeah. And I like how they touched on you know,
blended families. They touched on you know, kind of dealing
with the kids and kind of like that stuff comes
back from your own childhood.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Yeah, So this was more this incorporated parenthood, whereas the
first two were really mostly heavy about marriage, and this
one incorporated, which I thought was of course appropriate.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
Yeah, And to tie in, I'll start off with this
to tie into this, and I thought it was so
so important because just this week I called my dad
telling him about something that nerves whole light, Dad, or
does and I'm like, now I understand, and I because
(07:26):
I hit him up and I was like, look, I
used to wonder why you would just jump up and
be yelling at me and now I understand. I'm like, look,
if your mama been telling you to do this for
X amount of you know, four or five times, boy,
just do it. So I had to hear no more.
(07:47):
But now it was funny. And then just hearing them
talk about how, you know, making like home food, Like
like I told you one time, my brother said, I
don't want no home food. You know what I'm saying, Like,
how like you can't have no McDonald's nuggets. You're gonna
have some home nuggets. You're gonna get some home nuggets
and that's what your but gonna get. But so so
(08:10):
I like those moments of them kind of relating to
their parents and you know, remembering things that they did
and seeing it come full circle. I thought that was fun.
I really enjoyed that. So I think that's one of
the things that like really ike did or I thought
that was cool because there's so many times that when
(08:31):
we're young, we don't have the full you know, we
just don't have the full graph just yet of how
your parents have to operate with one another, and whether
it's like finance or whether it's just like schedules or
people just busy or tired, you know, your parents are
(08:51):
not your show first, And oh I want McDonald's. What
am I supposed to just get dressed to go get
you McDonald's because you want it? You know. So I
thought that was kind of funny the way.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
But you know, just thinking about that, it's so funny though,
because I guess you have to as a parent figure
out how to make that transition between meeting your child's
every need because of course when they're when they're babies
and toddlers and whatnot, you're pretty much meeting their every
need because they're just not able to right, and you
(09:25):
have to figure out how to make those transitions and
let them be responsible for things a little bit at
a time as they're developmentally able to, until you get
to a point where it's like, okay, this is no
longer my responsibility. This is all you.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
Know.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
And I know for me, even with with you know,
neusol light, he's too so he's able to do some
things for himself, and I have to catch myself and
allow him to do the things he can versus me
doing it because it's quicker, it'sasier.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
It's less messy, just like just hurry up, just doing
you know.
Speaker 2 (10:01):
But I have to be careful with that, because then
it'll get to a point where he's not doing things
he should be able to do simply because I didn't
require him or let him do those things. Because there
are some things he'll want to not be like no, no, no, no,
because I don't want him to make a mess, but
he needs to make that mess to be able to
get to a point where he doesn't make a mess.
So it's a lot to balance, just little things like that.
(10:22):
It's a lot to figure out, you know, and and
and to balance. And I think it would be easy
as a couple to get into even small disagreements about
those things. And I know we do sometimes we get
into small disagreements about you know, things involving him and
what he should be able to do and when he
shouldn't be able to he should be doing, you know,
(10:43):
those kind of things. And so yeah, it's a lot
to maneuver.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
Yeah, and it was it was just fun to see
that dynamic play out over like multiple little parents, and
I mean even there as a parent that I work with,
where you know, he has a brand new born like
I believe she was born like about a month ago
or something like that, Like less than a month maybe,
and they are they have a two and a half
year old, like she's like right behind her, so light.
(11:11):
So just dealing with you know, the one that's running around, yeah, and.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
The one that need and the one that needs.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
Like literally up to the minute attention. Yeah, and just
dealing with that parenthood in an interesting way. And this
episode handled you know, parenthood and also kind of maintaining
your marriage as well, where you're not completely swallowed up
by parenthood or parenting that you don't forget that you
(11:43):
have to. I believe he said protect one another if
that was the term, because I know you have the notes,
but I believe he said that. You know you have
to protect one another because you know they have.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
To be each other's defender.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
Each other's defender. That's what you said, because you know
there are times where your kids will try to separate you.
I mean, we we have a two and a half
years well no name half three two. Yeah, he'll be
he'll be three next month. So he's, oh, it's not
it's not November yet, ye forgetting it will be November
(12:15):
in the second, so there will be three in November,
I mean three in December, and you know he's already
learning like, oh, mom said no. Let me go round
to the other room and be like, hey, Dad, can
I have this? Because and I have. I have to
(12:39):
be very vigilant in trying to know if this is
something that he's already asked for and it's already been rejected.
Has this already been vetoed? Because see, the last thing
I need is to be in an issue, in an
issue where I'm getting fussed at because of you. I
want my own personal fussings, all right. I don't need
(13:01):
I don't need extra fussings because I done did something
to help you out that you ain't you weren't supposed
to have in the first.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
Place, and we have learned a new word, y'all.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
Right, fussings. I don't want to know. I don't want
no extra fussings. I want my own personal fussings that
I ain't did, I ain't did nothing, shouts out to
Jenna James and the chat nice to see whatever. Whatever.
But yeah, so he or like say, if you if
you take something from him, he'll run to me and
(13:32):
be like did you see that? Damn? Did you see it?
Go get it? So it's it is funny seeing.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
How or or he'll want to watch Spider Man for
the fifteen thousandth time.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
Today Spider Man into the Spider Versus Doube though like
ispe but he watches it. He wants, he wants to
watch it a lot, a whole lot.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
He'll ask to watch now, say no, so then he'll
grab them remote and bring it to you, as if
to say, but father will let me watch this.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
This is the funny thing, all right, So peep this,
like Lisa said, at least I'll be like, no, you
can't watch it. We'll watch it something else. We can't
watch this, And he'll snatched the remote real fast. Run
little legs, just a kicking like this, come over to me,
putting the remote beside me, or put it in my hand.
(14:24):
And I'm being like, what is going on? Because see
I don't know, I don't know what's going on. So
me before I go to turn on Spider Man, turn on.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
Miles, I just told this little boy.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
It's then I gotta look at him and be like, look, look,
your mama said no, all right, and she already said no.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
I said no, he got a covert operation here and.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
Grab the remote and it's funny on the ground because
he has no siblings and during the you know, the
Covid era, the Covidi, the Corona Timeline. It's not like
he's been able to learn this from other kids. So
it's just something that's like inherently in you like oh,
dad said no, let me go ask mom, or mom
(15:07):
said no, let me go ask dad. And just seeing
how they say you have to be, you know, a defender,
and then also not to hash things out in front
of the kids, like you have to be like that
united front, like no, we said you gonna do this.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
Yeah, we still work on it.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
Yeah. Yeah, it's you know, it's because.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
We will definitely hash it out. And he's like, hold on,
hold on, calm down.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
I'm bean, like we are not we ain't fighting. Oh man,
that's right. The Corona Timeline. I've been yo. You know,
you know I love comics, you know what I mean.
You know, so when I saw this something like, yo,
this is the Corona Timeline. Man, It's just how it is.
But it is. It's one of those things where he'll
come he'll come in and we'll be going back and
(15:58):
forth in the kitchen or something like that. Hold on,
hold on, hold down, I'm like this, then we're not upset.
You know what I'm saying. We are too passionate. People
passionate about what we're speaking about. But nobody's angry. Ybody's
and know you still can't watch spoder Man. But but yeah,
(16:21):
hearing that part about being a united front, being able
to protect one another things of that nature was something
that was good because, especially for the couple that has
the blended family, they were talking about how, you know,
there's a set of kids over here that don't really
know me or my parenting style, and my kids don't
know you really or your parenting style. So you know,
(16:44):
trying to get on the same page as a family
about what do we do? And they say even like
the small things like when should the kids start dating?
You know, should you know, should these kids have this
amount of money or or you know what you say,
like went to wear a two piece or something like that,
like you know, or makeup or or you know, are
(17:05):
we you know any any you know, kind of day
to day things that you can easily get your parents,
especially if it's a blended family, into big arguments about
and they did nothing. Yeah, because you know, there might
be one parent that's like oh no, you know, two
piece is no problem. And then there could be another
parent saying, you know, there's nothing inherently wrong with the
(17:27):
two piece itself, but we do have to guard against
those people that don't always have the best intentions of
young girls in their minds, and you know, we we
have to you know, make some consideration for that, or
at least be in a space where we're there to
guard against them, I mean guard for them if something
(17:48):
were to you know, come around, or someone was to
say something out of the way, something like that, because
you know, just like just like young boys, and I
remember you saying, we also have to remember where that
boys' bodies are sacred as well. Just like young boys,
young girls, there are there's that period where your body
(18:09):
may be further than your kind of like yeah, before
your your your consideration for consequences and things of that nature.
So being able to kind of be there to protect
as a parent where they're coming up but they're definitely
not there yet, So I thought that was cool too.
(18:31):
But any anyway, I know, you have some more some
other stuff.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
I don't know. It was just you know, a lot
of just you know, good little little nuggets. This one
was really different because they were just kind of, you know,
jumping topics versus before it was kind of more of
a flow. But I just love how they you know,
just talked about how you when they said you have
to be each other's defender and sometimes each other's translator.
So yeah, that you know that, that was like really
(18:58):
important to me because and they kind of touched on
this before where it's like you say one thing and
the other person takes it a totally different way, and
so they get upset and you're confused about why they're
upset because they're assuming what you meant and they're just
taking what you said a different way, versus saying, Okay,
(19:18):
well what do you mean by that? You know, And
they just kind of pointed out that instead of assuming
you know that you that the other person meant to
offend you, you know, you should just really be like, Okay,
well what did you mean? I'm not sure what you
mean because I'm feeling a little offended.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
About what this is. And I've told you before because
I learned I learned this quite some time ago. Lisa
may say something, I'll be like, look I heard this,
this is what I heard. Yeah, I know you didn't
say that, but this is this is how I hit
your boy, right, I'm just letting you know, this is
(19:56):
what I heard. And I mean it could be crazy,
it might be something that's not even closer. But I mean,
even when it's not even close to what she may
be meaning or saying, if you still hear that, you
even have to kind of like hash that out, and
you know, from my side to hers as well, where
she can be thinking that I'm saying some hard and
(20:18):
I'm like, no, I'm just so busy and tied up
with doing this and that the other thing. I'm not
like like what were you talking when I'm like when I'm.
Speaker 2 (20:27):
Like what, yes, that man?
Speaker 1 (20:30):
That is that? And I do have to I'm trying
to get really good at what I'm like laser focused
into work. Anything that bothers me is an annoyance and
it's not I'm trying to make sure I don't dump
that frustration or annoyance off on, of course my wife,
(20:52):
because I don't want it to be a situation where
like get away from me. But but but it is, like,
you know, I'm trying to I'm trying to focus, but
I have to.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
It's especially annoying when I'm trying to get your attention
because I don't fix you something to eat because I
know you haven't eaten. And the response I get is
what I'm trying trying to see your behind.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
And I thank you?
Speaker 2 (21:17):
Do you I clean.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
Clean the whole plate.
Speaker 2 (21:22):
It didn't sound like a thanks when you turned around.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Telling my song what so Yeah, that is something that
I'm continually trying to be focused on and trying to
like remember like yo to say like regular yes or something.
Now it's I'm you know it, be working sometimes and
be working some times, but I have to you know.
(21:46):
It's just those small things like that that over time
can kind of get on people. And that's why I
love that they brought that stuff up, because the more
that you hear from other couples what they're going through,
you know that your your path or your journey is
it as rough or crazy as it may seem to you.
(22:06):
You know when you're in it by yourself. You know,
when you're in it by yourself, you're like, oh man,
I'm the only person who's dealing with this the whole world,
and nobody is marriage is like mine, and you know
everybody else's marriage is perfect because you're looking at Instagram
or Facebook and something and you're like, all I do
is fight all the time. It's like, no, look, other
people are having their little fights too. That's just marriage.
But as long as these little fights don't become big fights,
(22:30):
like you know, even like even when we go back
and forth, it's it's usually about like small insignificant stuff
that's just like nitpicky, that's not really like what was it?
What was it the last last episode we were talking
where you said, well, I'm like, well, I'm like, what
are we really fighting about? Like everything's all good? Were chilling?
(22:52):
All this is covered, that's covered, This is good, that's
taken care of. We find little guys, good everything. What
are we really fighting about? What are we angry about? Really?
Speaker 2 (23:05):
And I think or we just are we just kind of.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
Like in each other's space a little too much.
Speaker 2 (23:09):
I was getting ready to say that the same thing.
I think it's an issue of you know, we're in
this apartment. It's not the most space and we're in
here twenty four seven.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
Twenty four sad, you know, like so you know, making
sure there's time too. And this goes back to like
the first two episodes that they did a model homes
where he was saying, he mean Tjakes was saying, like
he likes the music blasting super crazy, right, and his
(23:39):
wife likes more of a serene kind of spa, you know,
water trickling sounds and stuff are kind of very calm
and fung shuey and something.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
And that's kind of that's actually kind of me. And
you you know, when I'm really trying to relax, you know,
I'll put on something really mellow or like you know,
the water with the music and you over there with
Wu tang, you know, just banging it out, which on.
Speaker 1 (24:02):
Yes, And and that's something that I've been trying to
get very very good with doing. Like you know, when
I was ever since, ever since I was young, when
somebody would say turn that down, I'd be like, turn
it down, turn it down, turn it down, but to
turn it out. But but but I understand that, you know,
(24:26):
like this isn't This isn't of course like Neur's whole world.
It ain't nah. This is the place that we share.
This is a place that's supposed to be both of
our place is a piece, you know what I'm saying.
So you know, you know, sometimes you gotta play play
Wu Tang on like number five and say you can't
put it on number twenty five.
Speaker 2 (24:45):
Yeah, because when it's twenty five, guess what I'm hearing
Woo tang too.
Speaker 1 (24:49):
Yes, But then all of it the way certain things,
way certain things are situated. At times, I'm very close
to the television, so the television that's being enjoyed by
other people, to try to drown that out then ends
up drowning, you know, bleeding into the you know, audio
bleeds into their space. So it's like it's more considered
(25:12):
like more spats of space than actual real issues. And
the good thing that's the good thing that's you know,
displayed here in these different uh I guess segments that
TV and Serena Jakes did. And also that's exhibited by
like just talking about it and having other conversations outside
of it, is knowing like oh, yeah, your marriage is fine,
(25:35):
your marriage is cool. These are small spats about space.
It's not a issue. This isn't a core value issue.
This isn't this isn't a situation where you're a liar,
you're a thief, you betrayed me, you These aren't issues
of core character. These are just small spats about space
(25:57):
that can be easily cleaned up if you're willing to,
if you're willing to be considerate to your mate, you
know what I'm saying. So like the was it the
other day was yes, sir, today, I can't remember when
when the music was too loud and I was like,
you know what, let me go and turn it off
for a while. I was like, you know what I've
been I've been bumping. I've been bumping the jams. But
(26:17):
then I was like, let me turn it off for
a little bit.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
But then I felt like, you know, I was like, oh,
so he wants to make it all or nothing, Like
if he can't have it all the way up, then
he's gonna take the headphones off. Like I was asking
to take the headphones off, and it's like I was
just asking him to turn it down.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Well, there there's two two sides to that. One I
was taking. I was turning it off because I was like,
you know what, I have been bumping it for a while.
Let me go and turn it off. Give it a break,
That's what I was thinking. But then also give it
a break for me and for you. You know what,
I'm saying, like you, it's loud anyway. And this is
(26:54):
going into my second point. If you can't bump hip hop,
but that's not it's not really worth It's my thing though.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
The point of headphones, right, the point of headphones is
to be able to enjoy music without people on the
outside hearing it.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
Yes, And that's that's why since you can hear it,
I turned it off. That's what surprised me because I'm like,
so now you're still you're still antsy about me now
turning it off.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
Because I felt like, okay, this this is the way
I took it.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
I feel this is the way this is, this is
this is good. Let it out.
Speaker 2 (27:31):
This is the way I took it out. I took
it as you say, she don't want me to listen
to this music with these headphones on, and it's like, no,
I don't care if you have on the headphones. I
just don't want to hear what'sin your headphones.
Speaker 1 (27:46):
Nah this When you when you say that, I was like, well,
you know what, I have been bobbing it for a while.
Let me go on give it a rest. That's that's
literally what went through my mind. I was like, let
me go and give it a rest. I was like,
because if I turn it down, I ain't gonn enjoy
it no way. So you know, just go and give.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
It a rest.
Speaker 1 (28:02):
And then about an hour later, you know, I turned it.
I turned it back on and listened to some new songs,
but you know, gave it, gave it a rest, gave
you a rest, gave gave it the music, gave my
ear drums a rest.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
Yes, please, because I'm just like, if I can hear
every single word of it, and you have on earphones,
Lord Jesus, that's what it gets good. But like, but
is your hearing alright though, brother.
Speaker 1 (28:26):
Man, she'll need here forever. Man. Look, I got two ears,
oh man, so uh so stuff like that I thought
was I thought was awesome. And then also seeing all
three of seeing the the happy marriages that have come
(28:50):
from the happy marriage that TV and Serena had with
something special as well. You have these three couples that
are you know, that are together, that are you know,
working through you know, day and day out, becoming better couples,
becoming better for themselves and for each other and for
the children, and just seeing how that their new model
(29:12):
for whatever their children will be was based on the
model that that you know, TD and Serena were very
I guess very intent on creating and fostering, and I
thought that was I thought that was dope. And I
think there's something that you know that we can all
kind of like take from that is being mindful of
(29:34):
being mindful of the house and the atmosphere that you're
creating that your child will some sometime in the future
in some way exhibit yea, you know, and not saying
that they'll follow your household, you know one hundred percent,
but there will be small things that you know you do,
(29:54):
or that your friend does, or your boyfriend or your
new husband or your new wife or whatever will do
that say their mom did or their dad did, or
maybe their brother did or something like stuff. You know
that they were completely surrounded by an engulfed in for
you know, all of their formative years until maybe even
late in adulthood. So it is I just thought that
(30:18):
was special seeing all of them on zoom. At the
same time, I was like, this is you know, this
is a beautiful thing. You know, you you raised up
your children. Now they're you know, out raising their own
and that's legacy. Man. And that and that's dope, and
that legacy built out of continuing to try to cultivate,
you know, a good love for you and your mate
(30:40):
and your family thought that was awesome, man, Like, yeah, real,
that was wrong.
Speaker 2 (30:44):
It was not, you know, just the fact that they
seem to all be comfortable being open, you know, talking.
They didn't at all. At no point did it seem rehearsed,
And no point did it seem artificial. Oh yeah, yeah anything.
It just seem like, you know, they were just having
conversation and it happened to be on zoom And I
really really like that.
Speaker 1 (31:07):
What in no world? Yo? I have no idea. But anyway, yo, man,
I have no idea. Sometimes sometimes I'll be I go
to work in the morning, I come home at night.
But nah, I guess well that's said. What I'll do
(31:27):
to close this is Model Homes is a great series.
I know it's long, so, you know, because we're just
kind of like running back the highlights that stuck out
to us, and of course, you know, different things will
stick out to you your mate, things like that. It
is long. But for those that are very intent on
(31:55):
either finding a mate or having a deeper connection with
the mate they have or either seeing examples and maybe
you know, like tips and tricks from someone who's been married.
What are they married? Thirty eight years? Said? Thirty eight years?
You can't, I mean, can't front on that. That's that's
(32:16):
real time. Yeah, you know what I mean. They've been
married longer than I've been alive, or just as long
as I've been alive. So it's you got to give
them back, you know, you got to give them in
any couple like that, you got to give them. Well,
if they're married and things are still.
Speaker 2 (32:32):
Good, yeah, because you know what I always say, I'm
not impressed by how long you're married. I'm impressed by
how happy you are in successful you are in your marriage.
Because the only thing.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
It takes, because you can be married fifty years and
be living and sleeping in different beds.
Speaker 2 (32:48):
The only thing it takes to be married a long
time is to not get divorced. That's the only thing
it takes. Not foul that paperwork.
Speaker 1 (32:55):
That's it. Don't you find that paperwork though, don't find I.
Speaker 2 (32:59):
Mean, that's that's it, you know what I mean. There's
nothing else you have to do to literally stay married
that long. It's just not found paper work, but you know,
CAUs an absolute hell for each other, for those fifty
water roses.
Speaker 1 (33:17):
So uh yeah, it's it's it's great to get tips
and tricks, get their perspective, and like I say, to
a lot of a lot of people that are dating
or you know, seriously dating, don't be afraid to speak
to like older couples, man, older people that have been
like older men or women, Like if you're a woman,
(33:39):
grab a hold of the wisdom of some older women,
like you know, if you if you out here Dayton
and say say you're twenty twenty two and you're out
here Dayton and you're seriously looking for someone, not like
playing around and something. You know your friends might not
have the best answers. Every now and then you might
(34:00):
want to grab a hold to someone who's like forty
forty five and get their perspective on it, or someone
who's already in a relationship, like a couple that could
you know what I'm saying, you know, give you a greater,
a greater and broader look at what could be going
on in your relationship and whether it's serious or not.
(34:20):
Because there's a lot of times where we think it's
all over. It's crazy, and like there's couples that have
been married like twice as long as than You're like, huh,
that's nothing, You're fine. So there's a lot of times
when you know, we blow up our own situations because
we think we're alone. And I think this is a
good another one of those good examples I'm similar to,
(34:42):
like black love on on own, Yeah, on own. That
shows you know, like other couples have gone through trying
times and they're still making it. They're still standing and
in ways better for it, you know what I'm saying,
Because you know, it's not always going to be you know,
(35:03):
beautiful roses every day, but it's you know, the work
that it takes to kind of like plant and you know,
kind of grow those roses that makes it up. So yeah,
that's how I feel about it. I feel it was great. Serious, Yeah,
I enjoyed it. I enjoyed it a lot. Yeah, So
how about you good?
Speaker 2 (35:23):
Yeah, it was good information. It was good, I would
say good guidelines, you know what I mean, Like things
that made you really think about, you know, your own
behavior and interaction in your relationship and how you can
really change and adjust some things. It's kind of to me.
It was kind of like a checklist of Okay, are
you doing this, are you doing that? Do you guys
(35:43):
do this? You know, do you do that? You can
improve here, you know that kind of thing. It was
a good guy on really how to treat each other
and how to interact with each other and how to
take care of each other. You know, make sure you're
you're caring for your spouse as you interact with them.
It's not just an exchange every day, you know, where
(36:06):
you're just kind of you know, spitting out words and
just passing each other bye, and you know, making an
exchange kind of like you're really taking care of each other.
Speaker 1 (36:16):
That's what's up. That's what's up. Well guys. With that said,
thank you, thank you for coming through, thank you for chilling,
thank you for hanging with us. We made it through
the whole series. Next week, I don't know what we're
gonna do. We're gonna do something fun. Now, you know
we're gonna do something fun, have a good time. Don't
forget uh tomorrow. We have beast vibes life. So if
you want to get your hip hop discussion on, holla
(36:39):
and do not forget. We have Star Trek Discovery on Thursday.
Uh oh no, we have. We have Subsume Media with
Dedrin Sneed and Robert Jeffrey on Thursday and Star Trek
Discovery on Thursday, and Mandalorian comes back on Friday and
(37:00):
Rent Party on Saturday. Yo.
Speaker 2 (37:03):
Look, so do we have lounging on Friday.
Speaker 1 (37:08):
Yeah, we do have loung We got lounging on Friday,
and we got a walk in her shoes on Friday. Yo,
we got we got a lot y'all like look, big
shout out to all of our Patreon supporters.
Speaker 2 (37:20):
And this is why he is unshaven, because he is
working jobs fifty love videos and podcasts and all this
other kind of yo.
Speaker 1 (37:30):
Man, I promise that the shave will be good soon.
But to my Patreon supporters, Blookesworthy, Enrique, carry on, fillmore pockets,
Jamal Lee Keebi, twenty three Panda, Sean Wynn, Thought Crimes,
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You guys helped so much in trying to make all
(37:54):
this stuff and make time to make all this stuff
and keep little knick knacks and stuff running, and so yeah,
and then I it's it's dope. So uh any id
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Hit their thumbs up if you like what you're saying,
hit the thumbs down if you don't. But if you
(38:15):
hit their thumbs down, you know what week it is.
Mandalorian is back. So I'm gonna send the Mandalorian after you.
You ain't gonna like it, ain't gonna be You ain't
gonna be pleased with that. Also podcasts if you rather
listen Spotify for that music. I got a new joint
coming out with Architral, which I'm gonna leave you with
uh in just a second. But do not forget Halloween
(38:36):
twenty twenty this weekend, this Saturday. You can be right
here chilling with us. Don't go out and get that
COVID candy. Stay in and hang out with us in
the rep party. It's gonna be dope, man. Yeah, don't
go treat. Don't no, you trigger a treat with us.
Speaker 2 (38:54):
I still might go to the store and get that
candy like oh yeah yeah, like earlier in the day
on Halloween because it's when I won't be on sale yet.
I'll go out and get candy on November first, because
it be on. That's a trick, y'all. Go go geet
keep on November first, cod can because it'll be fifty
percent off in the stores and stuff, right, because trying
(39:17):
to get rid of it. And that's what I do,
because I don't be giving no canny, ain't sharing no cannon.
I'm going to the store and buy some candon to
sit in the house, you know, eat a candy myself myself,
that's right.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
So of course I'm gonna leave y'all with Archaitron. That's
a R c K A t R o N dot
com d is dope space bridging stores. It's worth your time, y'all.
Y'all need to get it. So from us to you,
oh yeah, at least to say peace by y'all, from
us to you even nerve so light to peace we
(39:52):
out y'all, A yeah.
Speaker 3 (39:57):
Yeah, Top.
Speaker 4 (40:52):
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