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October 1, 2025 24 mins

In this reflective solo episode, Kelley invites you into the quiet, powerful moment when change begins—not with a bang, but with a whisper. Whether you’re shifting careers, reevaluating relationships, or letting go of an identity you’ve outgrown, this conversation holds space for the soft, honest pivot. The one you make not out of burnout or collapse, but from clarity, self-trust, and care.

This is an episode about tuning in, not performing. About choosing yourself before things fall apart. And about the courage it takes to release something—even when it once brought you joy.

Key Takeaways

  • The soft pivot honors the quiet nudge before the crash. You don’t have to break to begin again. Listening early can save you pain later.
  • Outgrowing a role, job, or identity doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It means you're evolving—and evolution comes with grief, grace, and growth.
  • Stillness is strategic. Get still before you get busy. Let your body weigh in on your next move. Expansiveness is a signal.
  • You can take a small step without having the whole plan. A pivot can begin with a journal entry, a whispered truth, or a shift in energy.

Episode Highlights & Timestamps

  • [00:05:23] Choose to bend before you break
  • Kelley introduces the concept of the soft pivot—a gentle, intentional shift before burnout forces your hand. She explores what it means to move from alignment instead of collapse.
  • [00:09:22] You can love something and still need to leave it
  • A tender reflection on grief, identity, and how hard it can be to walk away from something you’re good at—even when it’s no longer right for you.
  • [00:16:08] Get still before you get strategic
  • Kelley offers practical insight on the difference between reacting and recalibrating. Stillness isn’t inactivity—it’s preparation.
  • [00:20:11] CTA: What are you outgrowing right now?
  • The episode ends with a powerful question: "What are you holding onto that no longer feels true about yourself?"

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