In this episode of Black Girl Burnout, Kelley explores the pressure to make wellness a performance and reminds you that your healing doesn’t need an audience. She offers a gentle invitation to reclaim private joy, protect your peace, and let your journey be sacred—away from the constant pull of comparison culture.
Key Takeaways
- Healing loses power when it becomes performance; keep parts of your journey private to preserve its sacredness.
- Comparison culture can worsen burnout and keep you from authentic rest and joy.
- A slower, quieter approach to growth often leads to deeper, more sustainable healing.
- Joy is something to be lived, not proven or posted.
Episode Highlights
00:30 – Why Kelley sees September as a time to recommit to wellness and rest
03:00 – The tension between sharing your healing publicly and keeping it private
05:11 – The hidden cost of performing healing online and how it fuels burnout
07:54 – The quiet strength of women who choose slower, softer, more solid healing
09:37 – Why joy is meant to be lived, not performed for an audience
Listen and Reflect
As you listen, consider:
- Where in your healing or wellness journey are you performing instead of truly tending to yourself?
- What would it look like to keep one practice, ritual, or step of your growth completely private—for you alone?
- How might moving slower or softer feel more solid and sustainable?
Take a moment this week to choose one area of your life to keep offstage. Let it be yours, sacred and whole, without needing validation or visibility.
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