Episode Summary
As the year winds down, it’s easy to get swept into urgency—pushing harder, chasing more, and sprinting to the finish line. In this episode, Kelley invites you to embrace fall’s real lesson: letting go, slowing down, and closing the year with gentleness. She shares her practice of a “soft lock-in,” grounded in rest, ease, and intentional focus, offering you a way to rebuild without burnout and enter the next season with steadiness instead of strain.
Key Takeaways
- Fall teaches the sacred practice of letting go—releasing what no longer serves you is as valuable as what you choose to hold.
- A “soft lock-in” allows you to set meaningful goals without urgency, grounded in alignment rather than hustle.
- Prioritizing rest and ease isn’t giving up—it’s the foundation for sustainable success.
- Closing the year well means centering on what matters most and composting what distracts or depletes.
Episode Highlights
- [00:00] The seasonal rush of urgency and Kelley’s alternative: choosing ease over hustle.
- [05:08] Rebuilding after a devastating year: grounding in core strength and clarity.
- [09:28] Naming three core goals—rest, financial ease, and sustainable rhythms.
- [19:45] Reframing the “12-week year” as a tool for gentleness, not pressure.
- [32:10] Reflection on what it means to close the year proud, not depleted.
An Invitation to Reflect
Choose three things that truly matter to you for the rest of this year, and give yourself permission to release what doesn’t. Then, take a quiet moment to reflect: What can I lovingly let go of this fall so I can finish proud, not depleted?
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