Ep 20: "So I reviewed the audience member"

The San Diego bombing. Special episode where Jay talks about the best bombing he's had in probably 10 years and Kane joins to tell his side of it, as he witnessed it, real time.

Episode Transcript

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Hey, what's up everybody. Welcometo Hacking Boo Bombing Stories with Big Irish
Jay Hollings with I'm Big Irish Jayand uh my guest is on here to
corroborate, to uh verify my bombingstory today. Uh this will forever be

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known as the San Diego bombing.So um so let's just get into it.
So, uh this happened when?How long? Actually I can don't
say anything, Kane, I haveit right here. It was this was
uh this was back well now itsays two days ago. When was this?
This was about two months ago?What are we in? April?

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So I think, uh probably March. I think it was March March okay,
yeah, oh probably Yeah. Itmust have been before the my Saint
Patty's Day and all that shit,right yeah, yeah, yeah, it
was before St. Patty's Okay.Um anyways, uh so uh yeah,

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So Kane has a show in SanDiego called what's it called Going Dutch?
Yeah, where it's like, uhthey take questions from the audience and like
a bucket and it's a dating showor date dating topics and and they have
a bunch of comics on the showand they will uh tell dating stories and

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then they'll pull questions out of thebucket and answer questions that are presented by
the audience. So, uh,Kane opens it up with who is it
that you were co hosting with?His name? Is jar one? Really
funny dude? Yes, And sothey go up, do great, and
there's I don't know, there's maybefour or five comics on the lineup.

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I'm closing it out, and yeah, every one of those comics crushes does
great. Dave Neil, our buddyDave Neil was on it. Everybody does
great. Their their their jokes arehitting, they're pulling questions out and those
are going great. Everything's going great. And uh so I'm about to go
up and I ask Kane if Ishould tell my horrible story, the Hail

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Mary dating story, which it's anawful I'm not It's almost like it's like
it's not even a story. It'smore of like, um, what you
would find in a handbook for douchebags. Yeah, so this no, I'm
not even getting. It's something Idid years ago, back when I was

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a young boy and wasn't mature andblah blah blah. But it's it's horrible.
Anyways, I said to Kane,I was like, should I open
with the hail Mary story? AndI think you were just kind of like
whatever, you know, yeah,feeling do you feel? It? Is
it feeling through? This show isliterally like it's on fire. It's ours

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to lose, right at this point, it's great. Yeah, it's been
a great show. So um u. I go up and I before I
even say anything, I tell theaudience I'm like, hey, so little
inside ball. You know, comicsusually they they want to get you know,
they're open with something likable, getyou on their side, and then

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maybe after that they'll get to themore maybe touchy stuff. I'm gonna go
the opposite. I say that atthe beginning, and it goes awful.
I oh, and let me alsotell you the demographic is majority. I'd
say it was probably eight percent eightyto eighty five girls, like twenty one
to twenty five. Would you say, yeah, oh yeah, at least

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like probably any anywhere. The oldestis probably mid thirties. Yeah. And
they hated me. So, soI tell this the sale Mary story.
Nothing gets nothing. And I waslike, and immediately the fucking sweat starting.
It's just fucking just sweating. Myass off, and uh then I

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think I I'm like, okay,well it's you know, in my head,
I'm like dating stories. Let metell us some online dating stories.
So I tell a story about goingout with the little person. True story.
Uh there's one girl in the frontthat she her and her table.
I think like that story. Imean they're laughing, but it's not enough

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to cover the whole room. Noit's not. Uh So then I do
that and that gets uh smattering ofnothing. And so then I'm like,
let's go to the bucket. AndI pulled the bucket and I don't even
remember the question, but it waslike there's nothing that I something about sliding

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into d MS, I think,and I was. I pretty much was
just like, well, if shelikes you, it's gonna be fine.
If she doesn't like you, thenshe's gonna think you're a creep whatever.
And then I'm like, I'm gonnaend on my going out with a transwoman
joke. I do that and thatdoesn't even not even that little table nothing.

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It fucking gets nothing, dude,And uh yeah, it was.
This is probably the best bomb I'vehad in god, i'd say probably ten
years. It was. It wasgreat bomb. It was, yeah,
dude. So like, there's ascreenwriting tool that they teach screenwriters called the

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save the cat moment for your leadwhere it comes from the Superman movie where
Christopher Reeves literally saves a cat froma tree and gives it to a little
girl. So it's to endear theaudience to the character. So then throughout
the rest of the movie, ifhe does something fucked up, he we
do remember him saving the cat.Jay had he stomped the cats the kitten's

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head with his boot as hard ashe could, And then every other story
comes up so unlikable. It's insane. How like, because like, here's
the thing about Jay too that ifyou guys, I mean, if you're
listening to the show, you kindof already know there's a charm to There's
something endearing about his viciousness. He'smeanest shit, he says fucked up things

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sometimes, but there's just this jovial, loving smile on his face, which
just for some reason, to thispeebe audience could not try you were a
full villain, they I was.People were definitely thinking this straight this white
male, yeah villain dude. EvenJoaquin Phoenix's joker would have had a better

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set than you. Yeah yeah,so uh yeah. So I bombed that
whole set that and there's it justit was just a straight bomb. There's
I can't be like ah the audience, there's not I take it all of
my So so now I'm done withthe set and people are leaving, um
and I'll get to the main thingKane here in a second. But so

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I'm sitting there and some of thecomics like you know you and Josh are
like giving it to me, whichI deserve. And then there was like
some other comics that I didn't reallyknow that they were like, I mean,
there was some people in the Igo no, no, no,
no, I I don't want that. Let me just setting it. I'm

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just gonna take it. I'm gonnajust sit in this bomb. Go ahead,
just give it all to me,guys. That's fine, It's deserved.
Right around that time, as I'msitting there taking it from the comics,
which I deserved, I get aDM from somebody that was at the
show. And oh, let mealso preface this when I tell the story

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on stage. As I'm as I'mabout to tell the story of going out
with this trans woman I say atthe beginning of it, I go,
this was a crazy story. Iliterally thought I was gonna die in this
story. And this person that dmME took from that me saying, oh,
I thought I was gonna die becauseI look at Sandy Jason. Here,

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what's up, Sandy, I'm talkingtalking about my bombing story. Um.
This lady took me saying I thoughtI was gonna die on this date,
and she put let it rattle inher head and took that as me
saying I went out with a transwoman and this trans woman almost killed me
because she was trans. It wasabout her being trans, which is not

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chick. Was fucking nuts about thisperson and their psychosis. Yeah, I
had nothing to do with their sexuality, right, uh so uh she DMS
me that and I'm like, I'mlike great, just reading reading that opening
of her saying, how dare yousay this? You thought you were gonna

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die because she was trans and that'stransphobic, and I'm like, you fucking
idiot. And she she said alsothat she had left in the middle of
that story, so she didn't evenhear the at the end where I'm like
the hero. No, she didn'thear the end of it, and she
was like, I'm so disgusted youshould pay me back for my tickets and

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and our Uber and all this otherhorseshit blah blah blah whatever. And I'm
like, okay, fucking cuckoo.But then she DMS Kane, she DMS
the Going Dutch account, she dmsor she messages the bar, and then
she goes on Google and writes areview on Google Review. Yep, Um,

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do you want to chime in anythinghere at this point, I'm gonna
get to the review and everything,But about when you got the DM or
or anything, Well, when yougot when you got the DM, that
made sense, Like we were like, oh sure, absolutely, Um,
she wants her time and her moneyback from you, specifically because you wasted

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it, because you were the soul. You were the sole person on the
show that made them leave that youwalked that one table. Everyone else,
to their credit, sat through it, sat through your your fifteen minutes.
They they endured you, which then, you know, kudos to them.

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And then they left and then theyjust chalked it up to like, Okay,
whatever it happens, because it didn'thurt the next show, you know,
like the same people came out whateverthat when when she hit up the
peeb Backyard thing. Peeb Backyard ismy co producers. When she hit up
their Instagram, I was like,oh, we got ourselves. We might

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have a snowball situation happening. Yeah, but it really is only one voice,
like she was sad. She satthere with one table and then she
was and then her her next thingwas hitting up the going Dutch then hitting
up me personally and in there it'sthe same rhetoric. But the thing that
I I found pretty astonishing, becausenot astonishing, but it makes it makes

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sense for a person like this whereshe said she wants that we should all
be held responsible for not creating asafe space for the queer community. When
there were several comics on my showthat are that identify as queer. Hey,
they they're they're gay, but yeahthey're gay, And they came up

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and they told their perspective at myshow is very inclusive. Yeah, and
and to say that this was you'rea straight, sis white middle aged man,
but you're just like, it's like, did you forget some of the
people that were on the show talkingabout their experience as a gay person.
That's exactly. Somebody something goes intoher ear drums and rattles in her brain

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and fucking mixes in her own emotionalshit and all this other shit, and
then it regurgitates out as how sheinterpreted it. You know. It's uh
yeah, I remember, there's certainthings I don't want to say because I
don't want anybody getting in trouble fordefending me, if that makes sense.
Uh So, I'm gonna leave itone thing out. I was just gonna

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I'm not even gonna bring it up. But anyway, so do you know
what I'm Do you have any ideawhat I'm talking about? No later or
something? Okay, Basically it hasto do with the response of the owner
and all that. Anyways, umso, uh yeah. So she writes
a Google review and I'm gonna showit here and read it. Uh let's

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see is it present? Yes?Uh? This fucking uh can you see
this? I can? Okay,So she wrote, Uh, let me
share this up here a little bit. Uh. Big Irish J at Tonight's
one Star she gaves. Big IrishJ at Tonight's comedy show, performed a

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ten minute quote joke end quote regardinga trans individual where the punchline was their
identity wasn't but that's okay, notfunny crosses a line. Not a queer
friendly establishment. The trans community deservesbetter, and Backyard replied to him,
so or to this person whatever,whatever their pronouns are. So uh yeah,

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but Sandy said, with this joke, Jay was creating a safe space
for people who have been duped.Yeah, okay, So that was her
her Google review. Her name isJessica. So I did my own Google
review of Peb Backyard. I said, great establishment, great comedy, great
food, great service. There wasone audience member named Jessica understand comedy and

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ruin the experience would not recommend Jessica, but this establishment is great, friendly
and welcoming to all. Can't recommendenough five stars. So that was that
was my Google review of Jessica thatI happened to put on Peb Backyards thing.
So, dude, what's crazy aboutthat too, is like, there's

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some people out there I don't like. There's some establishments out there I didn't
have a good time with. Butthe the amount of work that goes into
finding all of these bro Sometimes Ilove doing movie reviews of a movie,
and sometimes I forget and then sometimesI just won't do it because I'm like,
oh, I don't want to findthe poster and then write I don't

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feel like writing it. This ladywas so incensed that she had to do
all of this at the if.It's one thing to hit all of us
up, but to yelp review yougot to create an account. It's a
fucking organize. That's a lot ofpassion. I appreciate that. Yeah,
I'm going to can affect her thatmuch. Yeah, I've actually let me
control her emotions that much. Exactlyexactly. So I always say on these,

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like when I'm in an interviewing somebodyelse about their bomb, I always
say, like, what would youhave done different? Or what did you
learn from it? So? Whatwould I have done? What I would
have done differently? Is? Now, this isn't about what you would have
done different Oh I thought you wereasking me. Oh no, it's okay.
I stepped on your punch line.Um, you wouldn't have booked me,
I get it. Uh, yeah, that would have been what I
would have done different. I wouldn'thave taken the gig. No, definitely,

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don't open with the most unlikable datingstory you could probably tell uh opening
with that hail Mary, dude,you know what I you know. What
I'm just realizing too, is likein some of your act you dude,
most of the time from when wedo the road together, you open your

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show by saying, I feel likeI should apologize I haven't done anything,
but as assist white male, Ifeel like we keep fucking up. Like
you start the show by saying that, and then you even have another joke
which is probably I love this thislike setup where it's like I went to
all black school, I love allblack town. Uh, you know,

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blah blah blah, whatever white peoplehave to say before they say something about
black people. You know, it'slike these things that might come off like
if if if you're if someone's tryingto hear something fucked up, they're gonna
hear it fucked up. But yeah, yeah, yeah, you know what
I mean. But you like comeat it from a place of like,
hey man, I don't know thisis this is just my thought process.

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I don't want to hurt anybody.And then that final the final punchline of
that bit where unless it's a bunchof blacks, where yeah, people like
I remember I remember I think theI was I was with keV. We
were doing these black churches, andand he the first time I was doing
one of the black churches with him, That's his favorite joke of mine.

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He loves that joke, the blacks, And so keV was like, hey,
open with the blacks bit, andI'm like, can I get my
sea legs ches before you ad meopen with this race bit? Yeah?
But yeah, there's when I wasfirst doing that bit. It would always
get to that and I'd be like, oh, too good, goes well,
But you know, then you youhave enough confidence in it where you're
just like, now that I knowit's gonna be fine. Uh but oh

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yeah. So what would I havedone different? Definitely not open with the
hail Mary story. Uh yeah.I probably would have done much more self
deprecating stuff because every all the storiesI have are like talking about how other
people were lying or fucking up,you know. Uh yeah, Sandy says

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keV. Yeah. Um, that'swhat I would have done different as far
as like what I the material Iwould have done and uh yeah, And
did I learn anything from it?Yeah? I mean, I dude,
I kind of knew looking at theaudience I was I kind of maybe maybe
That's what I would learn is don'tgo in pre judging the audience because I

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going up there, I was like, they're gonna hate me. I know
they're gonna hate me. Yeah,And instead of doing that, just be
like even if they are, belike, well fuck it, I'm just
I'm still gonna do what I'm gonnado. But uh, I would say
the biggest thing is change on theopening Hail Mary or just never tell that
again. Well, like, um, well to the show itself has changed.

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So the next time you're on it, you won't be alone on the
stage anymore. You'll be You're comingback, but this time, but this
time you won't rely on your material. You'll be having a conversation with me
on stage with the ball. Ihad to pull out the ball and this
is the bull from the previous showwhere we have the dated advice stuff.

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Just read one of them, likeone of the as an example. So
when I was on stage looking fora lifeline, I was like, oh,
let me grab a question. Yeah, so let me grab one.
Don't even look at what I readit. How do you explain to your
friends that they keep picking bad menthat will obviously hurt them. Well,
you can't answer that. I mean, I could probably talk to your girlfriend.

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Nice got me bro, But yeah, that's one. Yeah, yeah,
so I mean that's an example ofit. Um. Yeah, so
uh we're Jessica wherever you're at outthere, Hey, keep supportant, I
appreciate it. Keep getting out.Yeah. Yeah, that's so. That's

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my Uh, that's dude, that'sthe best bomb I've had in a while
long time. I don't think I'veseen you bomb like that. I don't
in a long time. Yeah,And we've done some we've done some pretty
empty rooms. When we went toDallas that late show at the Comedy Arena
in Dallas, Texas. Oh yeah, uh, we had Sorry Sandy was

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saying, Jay cares about our feelingstoo much as an audience. I don't
know if anything you should change withthat joke. Thanks, Sandy appreciated set.
Um. Yeah, we've we've playedto some pretty empty rooms. We
played. Yeah, we've played withsome people that like didn't have any energy,
and we had to find our ownfun. We had fun and we
had a great time, like weI think they can also feel that's the

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other that's the other part of changingthe dynamic of Going Dutch now is that
the audience has seen stand up andand when you get into a room with
people that are all friends, likeespecially people who like you and me who
have been friends for such a longtime, like people love hearing us fuck

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with you and heckled each other.Um and so so uh yeah, I
mean with it's so it's crazy togo. Man. We did some we
did some pretty small rooms, andwe've performed for some audiences with absolutely no
energy and we still ended up sucking, sucking it out of him and having
a good time. Yeah. Andthis is the first time in a while

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only sucking going on with me.Oh god, fucking brutal Um. All
right, Uh, first of all, thanks Sandy for the back. Sandy's
got my back, Sandy. Umwhat do you just plug your ship real
quick? Kane, Uh go toyou follow me at Kane Holloway on Instagram
and TikTok and then if you wantto follow the Going Dutch page Going Dutch

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Comedy on Instagram as well Kane Hollowaydot com for show dates. I'm gonna
be at When does this come out? Um? Uh, this will actually
tomorrow, this will come out.Oh cool, So come out to the
four thirty showt to Cooma Comedy Club. I'll be with Malhall and my good
friend Ruy Montella at Koma Comedy Cluband then in Portland will be at the

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Helium. The Helium Comedy Club inPortland, Oregon. Sandy Jay said after
experiencing Jay's most recent Phoenix shows,which was like, yeah, this is
just not too long ago, withinthe last month. I only want to
hear sets where the energy is superlow. He killed it being on the
edge. Yeah, that's great.Uh oh yeah, I love Sandy because

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like, like Sandy's been to abunch of my shows and uh like all
the old stuff. She knows allthe jokes of the old stuff. But
it's it's for you know, you'llknow this as a comic as you're on
stage and seeing one of your friendsor somebody in the audience that as you're
doing whatever, maybe it's edgy orlike like it could go either way,

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and just seeing your friend just goinglike geezus. Yeah. My favorite is
scene in Sandy be like just shakingher head like laughing, but also just
like that's that's wrong day or that'sfucked up. All right, let me
my plugs let's see. UM.This weekend, I will be at Westgate
headlining the Comedy Cabaret here at theWestgate, formerly the International where Elvis was

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at. So I'll try and bringsome of that Elvis energy. I'll show
up in a jumpsuit. UM.Next weekend, I will be headlining the
Grand Comedy Club in Escondido, California. And uh after that, UM,
in May nineteenth and twentieth, I'llbe in ann Arbor, Michigan. Uh.

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You got a big Irish jay dotcom for tickets and and you'll I
don't know if you remember how weend this the you'll like this cane until
next time. Bomb my boyar fuckingbad