"Friendly Advice"

It is important to build and maintain real friendships. It is also important to know if someone is just an associate that you shouldn't deal with.

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:17):
Right, all right, all right, hello, hi and howdy. This
is your man's JK. Moore and welcoming you back to
breaking tradition. So tonight we will be talking about something
that actually touched on on the last episode when I
was talking about how people make New Year's resolutions and

(00:38):
the importance of making vowels or when it comes.

Speaker 2 (00:41):
To the world of God, more importantly not making vowels.

Speaker 1 (00:45):
And one of the things when we were talking about
the different resolutions that people make for the year, one
of them is to either rebuild or re establish or
actually go out and make new friendships. So that led
me to start thinking a little bit about it. I'm like, friendships,

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and of course I'm like, all right, what does the
Word of God say about friends and building friendships? So
that's where we're coming from tonight. So now you might
be thinking, well, there, JK.

Speaker 2 (01:17):
All right. You know, usually we're talking about breaking some tradition.

Speaker 1 (01:22):
Well, why would we be talking about breaking the tradition
as when it comes to friendships. Well, it's not necessarily
breaking the tradition of having friendships, which, as we're going
to see tonight, is very important. It's more so about
breaking the tradition of claiming people as being friends who

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really aren't. They really don't have you nor your best
interests at heart, and they really don't show themselves to
be friends. Okay, so if you all would as always
go and hop on in, click on that seatbelt, lean
that seedback, kick those feed up, and let's go ahead
and take this ride together talking about breaking the tradition

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of having people around you who you think are your
friends who really aren't, and even more importantly, the building
and the maintaining of actual truth and healthy friendships. So
we are actually going to start tonight looking at an
article that comes from the Mayo Clinic. So let's get

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that pulled up here. Yeah, from Mayo Clinic website, and
the article is simply entitled Friendships Enrich your life and
improve your health. Discover the connection between health and friendship

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and how to promote and maintain healthy friendships. Well, and
that makes all the sense in the world, because just
like any other relationship, relationship between partners, relationship between a
married couple, the relationship between neighbors, the relationship between parents

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and children, any type of relationship has to have maintenance,
and more importantly, healthy maintenance.

Speaker 2 (03:18):
And when it comes.

Speaker 1 (03:20):
Specifically to the friendship aspect of relationship that we're going
to see here. Why why they say that is important
because it really is. All right, Friendships can have a
big effect on your health and well being, but it's
not always easy to make or keep friends. Understand the

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importance of social connection in your life. Know what you
can do to build and fuel lasting friendships. What are
the benefits of friendships? Good friends are good for your health.
Friends can help you celebrate good time and support you
during bad times. Friends help keep you from feeling alone.

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Friends can also raise your sense of connection, belonging in purpose,
boost your happiness, and lower your stress. Yes, yes, I
have said on here before many times that when it
comes to stress, stress can and will take you out
faster than almost any virus or any other disease known

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on this planet. Because stress starts emotionally also mentally, and
eventually the emotional and the mental is going to affect
the physical. So good point improve your self confidence and
feelings of self worth, help you cope through hard times
such as divorce, serious illness, job loss, or the death

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of a loved one. I can definitely vouch to this
one right here, because when and my mom passed back
in twenty fourteen. My friends showed up to the funeral,
and of course during that entire process before and afterwards,

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it was always hey, man, you know, let us know
what you need. Okay that even if you just got
to call and vent or talk to us, we're here
for you. And they were so yeah, urge you to
change or avoid habits that aren't healthy. These might include

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drinking too much or not exercising. And again those right
there tied back into what we were talking about last week.
As far as resolutions that people made, the number one
resolution is usually something health related. But it's very interesting
about this last point how friends can urge you to

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change or void habits that aren't healthy, because it takes
a truly, truly.

Speaker 2 (06:08):
Good friend.

Speaker 1 (06:09):
And I you know, I shouldn't use that word good,
I say truth. Takes a true friend to be able
to tell you when you are doing something wrong, okay,
when you're messing up. And the reason for that is
because a lot of times people have this attitude. They

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want to do whatever they want to do, even if
it's not the healthy form in the long run or
even in the short term, and they don't want to
be told, hey, what you're doing. Okay, it's no point
on all right, it's no good for you, and people

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have actually friendships have actually been lost.

Speaker 2 (06:56):
Over doing that.

Speaker 1 (06:59):
Now, of course, to me, that makes absolutely no sense
in the world of why you would want to destroy friendship,
and no matter how long it was, if it was
six months, if it was six years, because this person
is pointing out to you out of love, care and
concern for you, you're messing up in doing something wrong. Okay again,

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something that that it's not beneficial to you. But hey,
when you know, unfortunately, the reality of it is you
got self centered, narcissistic people who think that their stuff
don't stink and no matter what they do, they nobody
should have anything to say about it. They they think

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that an actual, true or good friend will support them
and participate in them in whatever the wrongdoing is they're doing. No, No,
that is not a friend. That is an enabler. Okay,
two completely different things, but let's go on. Friends also

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play a big.

Speaker 2 (08:05):
Role in your overall health.

Speaker 1 (08:08):
Adults with strong social connections have a lower risk of
many health problems that includes depression, high blood pressure, and
then unhealthy weight. In fact, studies have found that older
adults who have close friends and healthy social supports are

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likely to live longer than do their peers who have
fewer friends. M All right, again, very interesting and I
can see that, say like you're like I mentioned again
on the last episode how a few months back, I
decided that I needed to lose weight, which you know

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will work, and the overall it changing up my diet.
And I definitely knows the difference of those difference in
my my energy level, no difference in my mood and
to a certain extent because I still deal with the
seasonal depression. But I mean even even outside that definitely
knows the difference, and even how my.

Speaker 2 (09:13):
Closing things are are fitting.

Speaker 1 (09:16):
So yeah, good friend, Like hey, man, you know they'll
they'll give you support like yo, and you know I
can see the difference.

Speaker 2 (09:24):
Hey, keep it up again.

Speaker 1 (09:26):
You know, shoot, you might have a friend who could
work out with your our friend who's also seeking to
improve their health, and you all can be.

Speaker 2 (09:36):
There to prop each other up. You all can be
each other's hype.

Speaker 1 (09:40):
Man or hype woman, so to speak, to way when
those times get rough, like hey, you know what you've
come this far, You're doing good. That let's let's push through,
let's push through together. We can do this. We can
do this. So yeah, healthy, and you know, and use
the word healthy socials supports and I'm so.

Speaker 2 (10:02):
Glad they put that in there.

Speaker 1 (10:03):
And that was actually a point I was gonna touch
on where it comes to the use of this word friend,
because when it comes to social media, that's the term
that's used.

Speaker 2 (10:19):
To describe people.

Speaker 1 (10:20):
Oftentimes, people who follow your social media page they call
your friends.

Speaker 2 (10:26):
Well, that might be the term they use.

Speaker 1 (10:31):
But my thing is, if you somebody I have never
met face to face, if you're somebody I've never had
any experiences with, yeah, me personally, I cannot call you
nor consider you a friend. I mean, the use of
that word it's all psychological, Okay. It's better than saying

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associate or stranger who you know liked and followed your
page whatever whatever, you know. While using the word friend,
it makes it a bit more personal for you. But
I mean, again, looking at the definition of a friend.
All right, I live in South Carolina in the United States.

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Somebody who might like or follow me, who lives I
don't know, over in Mongolia or somewhere. Again, I've never
met this person. Okay, we've never we've never actually exchanged
any verbal dialogue. It's all been back and forth over
the internet. I can't honestly call and consider that person

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a friend because, like I said, we've never gone through anything. Yeah,
let's say we're on a let's see a star wars,
you know, related sight or something. Okay, yeah, well we
might have that interest. But even still then, okay, when
when the rubber meets the road to speak, are you

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gonna be there for me?

Speaker 2 (12:03):
You know when and if I need you?

Speaker 1 (12:06):
If you can, Yeah, seriously doubt it, because what can
you do for me? From Mongolia? And again, like I said,
I'm over here in the United States. Now on the
flip side, they some people really do take that word
literally when it comes to these these people who following,

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they associate with over social media, they really consider them friends.
But okay, how many times have we seen videos or
seen these prey, these people's own testimony to where that
person they considered a friend talk bad about them to
other people in the group, talk bad about them but

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behind their back.

Speaker 2 (12:51):
Okay, Yet it happens all of the time, all of
the time. And what's even worse, going on that train
and thought.

Speaker 1 (13:03):
I mean times if we heard somebody who the people
really were, real life associates, and they really did think
this person was a friend, and they again, they turn
around and backstab them, They talk bad about them, They
sleep with their boyfriends or girlfriends. Yo, y'all, I see
videos about that stuff happening all of the time. And

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my thinging is, Okay, you're you're supposed to be my friend,
but you slept with my ex girlfriend. Or you're supposed
to be my friend, you slept with my ex boyfriend,
you slept with my husband, you slept with my wife. No,
you are no friend of mine whatsoever. Because a true friend. Okay,
when that partner tried to roll up on them with

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that proposition, not only would they have turned them down,
but they would have immediately come to you be like, hey, yo,
your old lady, old man.

Speaker 2 (14:00):
Whatever. Yo.

Speaker 1 (14:01):
They they try to proposition me, I ain't try to
push up on me. Oh she she you know she
opened up the cookie jar on man was offering a
brother nibble. No, those people are not friends. So yes,
healthy healthy support systems, because bad quote unquote friendships can

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lead to all these these health risks. They're the depressions,
especially the depression. All right again, how many times have
we heard that happening when somebody found out that a
person they thought was their friend stabbed.

Speaker 2 (14:41):
Them in the back some type of way.

Speaker 1 (14:43):
Because that depression can definitely lead the high blood pressure
you worried about the stressing out over it. One of
people's first go tos whenever they're trying to boost their mood, okay,
is to go to food and use it. And it
ain't healthy food. It's junk food. They they literally have
a term for it called comfort food. So yeah, examine

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that and again, think of of the people who who
you call friends or those people who consider you a friend.

Speaker 2 (15:20):
Stop thinking about it for a moment. Are y'all really friends?
All right? Let's keep going.

Speaker 1 (15:27):
Why is it sometimes hard to make or keep friends?
Many adults find it hard to make new friends or
keep the ones they have work or caring for children
or aging parents. Excuse me, might come before friends. You

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and your friends may have grown apart, do the changes
in your lives or interests, or maybe you've moved to
a new town and haven't yet found a way to
meet people. Make and keeping good friends takes effort. The pleasure,
comfort and health benefits you can get from friends make
it worth the effort, amen, man. And again I have

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actually experienced, uh that this top part.

Speaker 2 (16:17):
My best friend now.

Speaker 1 (16:20):
Became best friends by We used to work together and
we went to the same college, so we would go
to Uh we would go to class during the day,
work a few hours, and then come Friday through or
sometimes even Thursday through Sunday. Okay, we were in the clubs,
were downtown, were hanging, you know, hooking.

Speaker 2 (16:39):
Up the ladies, all that stuff. Well, uh, that was
you know back then.

Speaker 1 (16:44):
Now where we are, he has a high position in
his career which causes him to travel. He's married now
him and he has a son now, so we don't
get to talk to each other or hang around each
other as much as we used to. But I can say,

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right now, at what time is there ten o nine
pm on January ninth, twenty twenty five. If I were
to message or call that bro and told him I'm
in need or I'm in a jam, okay, if it
would literally be nothing but the word, and if he
was able, he's coming through, and you know vice versa,

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I would do the same thing for him. It's just life, y'all.
Life just comes up whenever we can that. So we've
gotten to the point at least once a year we'll
meet up, hang out for a few hours in the afternoon,
get some food, catch up on whatever the latest, might

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share a story or two from the the good old days,
as they call him, and then you know, we're back
to doing back to our lives. I have other friends
now who thankfully I get to talk to and see
a little more often. But again it's the same thing.
We have our lives, live, different careers, different jobs, different whatever.

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So you know, we just hook up when we can.
But at the bare minimum, okay, we at least try
to message each other or call each other once a week,
even if it's just for men, and say, hey, yo,
use on my mind, what's up, how you doing? What's
going on?

Speaker 2 (18:35):
All right? Everything?

Speaker 1 (18:36):
Good?

Speaker 2 (18:37):
Family?

Speaker 1 (18:37):
Good, okay, the people's good, kid's wife, whatever, good, cool, yo.

Speaker 2 (18:43):
Take care of ma'am. Holler at you when I holler
at you.

Speaker 1 (18:46):
So we're still as the same right here, making that
effort to at least keep in.

Speaker 2 (18:52):
Contact with each other. Okay.

Speaker 1 (18:57):
And again those friends say, situation and I have okay
with all of them.

Speaker 2 (19:03):
If I've reached out.

Speaker 1 (19:04):
And said I'm in need of something, or if they've
reached out to me they're in need of something.

Speaker 2 (19:09):
It is literally nothing.

Speaker 1 (19:11):
But the word Okay, I'm on it or they're on it,
and there's no holding it over, holding it over each
other's heads or bring it up somewhere down the road
or whatever.

Speaker 2 (19:26):
No, we're friends.

Speaker 1 (19:30):
We like to see each other in the best possible
positions in life as possible. So we're gonna do it
whatever we can, whenever we can help make that happen
because we know the other one are the ones would do.

Speaker 2 (19:44):
The exact same for us.

Speaker 1 (19:47):
So yeah, like I said, and you know, speaking of
social media, thankfully we're in a place now where technology
allows people too be able to keep in contact a
little better than we could be way before the social
media or i'd say even before the World Wide Web
became available. So yeah, at all times, at all possible,

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like I said, even if there's nothing but a text message,
or even if you try to call and they don't answer,
leave a voicemail.

Speaker 2 (20:18):
Same thing.

Speaker 1 (20:19):
Ay, now, you know, no emergency, just calling check in
on you, yo, bron, Just want to let you know,
you know, I'm saying I love you.

Speaker 2 (20:27):
Yo. Sis just wanted to holler at your girl and
say I love you. How back when you can. But yes, it.

Speaker 1 (20:36):
Definitely does take effort, and it is worth the effort
in the long run. All right, let's hop back to
this article. What's a healthy number of friends? How good
your friendships are? Count more than how many friends you have? Bam,

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That goes right back to what I was saying about
the listing of all these people on your different social
media platforms or whatever as friends. Having a broad network
of friends and contexts might be good. You notice how
I said it might and not is good, Mike, is

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a conditional word. It could mean they, could mean they,
but it's not a definite either way. But having close
friends who mean a lot to you does more for
your sense of self. Again, one hundred percent agree, one

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hundred percent agree.

Speaker 2 (21:43):
Yep. I have a lot of contexts.

Speaker 1 (21:47):
I have different associates depending on what you know, what
it is, and what's going on. But again, I don't
call nor do I consider these people friends. Something by
my mom used to tell us is you can count
your number of true actual friends usually on one hand.

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I'm gonna say that again, she said you can usually
count the number of true, actual friends you have on
one hand, and sometimes not not even all five fingers.
It can honestly be less than that. And for my

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life I can say that is absolutely true. Absolutely a
small number of people who, like I said, I know
I can depend on and they know they can depend
on me.

Speaker 2 (22:50):
True friends, true friends. That's why I have to.

Speaker 1 (22:58):
Kind of raise an eyebrow there a little bit now,
these people talking about, oh yeah, I have lots of friends,
and man, I know I have tons of friends?

Speaker 2 (23:08):
Do you really idly enough?

Speaker 1 (23:13):
Every now and then it would be those same ones
that you know, I see wiping tears back, sniffling somewhere.
What's going on?

Speaker 2 (23:23):
Somebody who had thought was a friend said this about me?
Or did this?

Speaker 1 (23:27):
I thought we were Yeah, you thought y'all were friends,
clearly that the other person didn't. How long have you
known them?

Speaker 2 (23:40):
Oh? Well, we worked together for a couple of weeks. Man,
are you for real? Right now? Hey?

Speaker 1 (23:47):
Somebody you work with first of all, and you've only
known this person a couple of weeks. Again, what what
have y'all been through outside of the job, what experience?
What stuff of y'all experience? And what what what struggle?
Has one helped the other one through? None work related? Okay,

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but but y'all friends? Okay, well yeah, see what that
train of thought got you, didn't you? No, No, people
need to learn to differentiate between associates and friends. Yes,
you may have a lot of associates, or as it said,

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you may have a lot of contexts. You may have
business contexts, may have business associates, but those people are
not your friends. And truth be told you that. It said,
what's a healthy number of friends? Well, I honestly don't.
Nobody can put a real number on it. But just

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remember that example I gave you. That that I that
my mom taught us.

Speaker 2 (25:02):
Just look at your hand.

Speaker 1 (25:06):
That more than likely is the number again those five
fingers or less is the number of true blue friends
that you really have in this world? All right?

Speaker 2 (25:24):
So what are some ways to meet new friends?

Speaker 1 (25:29):
You can make friends with people you meet in your
social network. Think about people you've talked with, even just
a little, who you liked and whose company you enjoyed.
You see how it starts off there. Even though it
says social network, it is not talking about social media.

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It means actual people. And it even elaborates on that
people you talk with even a little, who you like,
and who's company you enjoyed. Now some people, you know,
main thing looking at somebody through a webcam or their
phone count says as company and socializing. And you know, honestly,

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in the very base definition of the word socializing, yeah,
it honestly is, you are socializing. But when it talks
about social circles, social networks, talking about actual people again,
people you've been around, people you've had experiences with, that

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is what it's talking about. You may make new friends
and feed friendships you already have by doing the following.
Stay in touch with people with whom you've worked or
taken classes. Yep, yep, yeah people right now who I
work with them We no longer worked together, but again

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through social media, we keep in contact with each other.
And again, even if it's every now and then.

Speaker 2 (27:09):
Hey, what's doing your world? Was going on? Matter of fact?
Did it with one? Well? I think it was yesterday.

Speaker 1 (27:17):
Hadn't talked to her since I know, maybe a little
maybe right around Thanksgiving? So I asked about, you know,
how how man friends doing our daughters are doing? Her
grands just quickly catching up No long extending conversation.

Speaker 2 (27:34):
Man.

Speaker 1 (27:34):
Hey, once we caught up with what's going on and
that was it until the next time. So yeah, staying
in touch with people definitely, definitely important. Get back in
touch with old friends be Yep, something that guy's been
laying on my heart, that very thing, getting back in

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touch with certain people.

Speaker 2 (27:58):
But it has to be in his timing, not mine.

Speaker 1 (28:03):
Not necessarily because you know we had a bad falling
out or anything like that. It's just again, did different goals, okay,
different life paths, different beliefs, just aiden cause just to
drift apart a bit. But now because I am secure

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and full steam ahead and those goals and life paths,
it's sitting heavy on my heart. Well I shouldn't say heavy,
but it's definitely sitting on.

Speaker 2 (28:36):
My heart too.

Speaker 1 (28:37):
Man. You know what, you know we spake out there
see about you know, we were killing old friendships well
or of nothing else at the bare minimum old associations,
and like I say, it didn't part on bad terms.

Speaker 2 (28:53):
So yeah, definitely agree with that.

Speaker 1 (28:55):
Reach out to people you've met and enjoyed at social events,
meet your neighbors, make time to reconnect with family members.

Speaker 2 (29:05):
Yep, doing that too, yo, man, this article is like
on point.

Speaker 1 (29:10):
I think there's one of the few articles that we've
covered where just like I'm in complete agreement with everything.
If you think of someone you'd like to know better,
reach out. That first step is often the hardest, but
it might be easier to take than you think. Ask

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people who know both of you to put you in
touch with a text, email, phone call, or visit.

Speaker 2 (29:37):
Invite the person to coffee or lunch.

Speaker 1 (29:41):
Okay, we're talking about friends here, but uh yeah, this
is this is talking a little bit more like you
know somebody. Yeah, you're trying to be friends with them,
all right, you're real good friends. Okay, let's talk about
doing old old meet and greet a hook up. He
which ain't absolutely nothing wrong with it, didn't say the

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you know, do anything out of pocket or nasty. Yeah,
you see a person who you would like to get
to know is more than a friend level, and you know,
possible again partner, hopefully possible spouse, then that's definitely the
first step.

Speaker 2 (30:27):
I meant. In some places, okay we're in.

Speaker 1 (30:30):
The US, but in some places, yeah, they do the
whole arranged marriage thing. Thank god, we don't have that
in this this country. During this country. Yeah, that's what
you have to do. You got to actually talked to
the person, make a date, go out, get to know, Okay,
if there's anything else there the initial physical attraction, because

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that that initial physical attraction, okay, that that only goes
so far outside of the person looking good to you.

Speaker 2 (31:02):
Okay, you got to.

Speaker 1 (31:03):
Know do you all's goals, do your beliefs systems line up?
That's also what gets a lot of people in trouble.
They just get stuck on their physical part. And if
and when they know that this person that they're trying

(31:25):
to get know better okay, that that there's nothing outside
of that, rather than just breaking it off right then
and there, Nope, that's when they That's when all the
thinking goes south below the belt, and that's what causes
people to get into some situations that they otherwise wouldn't
have been in if they thought, with the head on

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top of their shoulders, all right, I'm gonna leave that
right there.

Speaker 2 (31:54):
To meet new people.

Speaker 1 (31:55):
Who might become friends, go to places where people gather
you more than one way to meet people.

Speaker 2 (32:02):
The more you try, the easier it gets, and the
more you're likely to succeed.

Speaker 1 (32:10):
Keeping at It also matters reach out instead of waiting
for others to come to you. Keep trying. You may
need to suggest plans a few times before you can
tell if a new friend wants to be with you. Yeah,
like I said, they're you in the word friend here.
But yeah, these last couple of paragraphs, that is definitely

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striking me as it's talking about somebody you view in
in more of a hopefully a romantic type light or
romantic type situation.

Speaker 2 (32:46):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (32:47):
For example, you can try seven of these ideas. Go
to events in your community, volunteer, give and accept invitations,
take up a new interest, join a faith community, take
a walk, comm your nerves. Above all, stay positive. You
may not become friends with everyone you meet, which is good,

(33:11):
but being positive and reaching out can help make the
relationships you have better. It also may help you make
friends with people you meet. How does social media effect friendships?
Joining a chat group or online community might help you
make or keep friends and help you feel less lonely,

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but research suggests that use of social networking sites doesn't
always lead to a larger offline network or closer offline
links with network members. Again, going or right back to
what I said, earlier. Just because your quote unquote friends

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on social media sites, that does not make you actual
friends out here in the real world.

Speaker 2 (34:07):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (34:07):
Now, if you're somebody who was not necessarily looking for
people to hang out with, be able to call up
and talk to it in time, and you just want
some form of interaction with somebody who.

Speaker 2 (34:18):
Use yeah you know they're perfect for that.

Speaker 1 (34:23):
But if you're looking up to make meaningful, deep connections, okay, yeah,
just sticking to the social media sites that that that
ain't it? That ain't it? Also, be careful when sharing
information about yourself, and take care when meeting with someone
you've met online. Lord, I don't even have to elaborate

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on that one. How many hard stories have we heard
about people ended up in bad situations and sometimes sadly
even losing their lives or people that they you know,
met on some some dating site or whatever. But you
know what, trusts me out, y'all. I'll enough people continue

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to do it. I mean, okay, whatever I didn't say,
whatever floats you both.

Speaker 2 (35:17):
Ain't necessarily my jam. But hey, as they say, do
you But yes, we remember, y'all.

Speaker 1 (35:27):
I mean, even people you meet in real life until
you've gotten to really really know them as strangers.

Speaker 2 (35:33):
Again, this person all the way over in another country.

Speaker 1 (35:39):
Okay, that that might be asking some some out of
pocket probing type questions and stuff. You okay, please please
look look past the beautiful face or the handsome face,
all right, look look past the big booty and the
double deep breast or the you know, the six pack

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and the twelve inch you know guns and you some sense, y'all,
you some common sense. People have different names for intuition
and conscious well, I got the name for it too.

Speaker 2 (36:19):
It's the dog on holy spirit. And if you.

Speaker 1 (36:22):
Are feeling uncomfortable or not right, if they are just
little warning bells going off in your head when it
comes to somebody. But please follow those those instincts. Please
trust that because it ain't gonna lead you wrong.

Speaker 2 (36:42):
Okay. There is something.

Speaker 1 (36:44):
About this person, something about their spirit that your spirit again,
whether you're a believer in God or not, something is
trying to warn you that this is not a good idea.
So please please don't do not get caught up in
your flesh end up in a bad situation.

Speaker 2 (37:04):
Okay, how can I feed my friendships?

Speaker 1 (37:07):
Be kind, be a good listener, open up, show that
you can be trusted amen to that and making an effort. Yep, yep, yep, yep.
Agree with them all all right, Remember it's never too

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late to make new friendships or reconnect with old friends.
Putting time into making and keeping friends can pay off
in better health and a brighter outlook for years to come.

Speaker 2 (37:41):
Agreed, agreed, agreed, agreed.

Speaker 1 (37:47):
So not only did this article go into how to
build or create friendships, it also was very diligent enough
to warn against, you know, so called people who might
call themselves your friends but have ill intent. Be very

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wary of them. But at the same time, again those
people who are tried and truth that are proven to
really be your friend, and hopefully that you've done the
same thing, make an effort, make any effort to make
sure that those friendships stay as healthy as possible, because yeah,

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never know when you might need that person, but something
that goes beyond the friendship with some emergency.

Speaker 2 (38:47):
Situation pops up.

Speaker 1 (38:49):
Okay, and remember, in a friendship it is not is
not all about you, It's about y'all. Why a apositrophe
double level? Okay, it's a two way or you have
more friends, it's a multi way street. Don't make it

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all about you. Don't think that your needs, okay, supersede
everything else that's going on in that person's life, because
again they have a life as well.

Speaker 2 (39:27):
All right, all.

Speaker 1 (39:29):
Right, So again, very good article, very good article from
the Mayo Clinic. And of course I will be posting
the link to this article in the video description so
you can go back and check it out and make
sure they get their due credit. So now let's flip
over to the scripture and let's see what the world

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of God says, my friendships, friends, how many of.

Speaker 2 (39:59):
Us have been.

Speaker 1 (40:01):
Anybody there catching that song reference God, bless you, I
love you? But the bangor from our generation from the eighties.
All right, So we are going to start. Matter of fact,
I think all the scriptures I have come from Proverbs,
well except for one. But we're gonna start this one
in Proverbs chapter twelve, verse number twenty six. Proverbs chapter twelve,

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Verse number twenty six. And as always I will put
a quick pause for the calls for those of y'all
who might be following along. And now I have that
song stuck in my head. I pull it up soon.

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We're don't recording here.

Speaker 2 (41:05):
All right.

Speaker 1 (41:06):
Proverbs chapter twelve, verse number twenty six, and it reads
the righteous should choose his friends carefully, for the way
of the wicked leads them astray. And I know it
says his right there, but I should say there because

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this as far as the backstabbing and the bad things
I've heard coming from people about those they thought they
were friends, yeah, nine times out of ten is coming
from a female. Females tend to most of the time

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be more emotional.

Speaker 2 (41:58):
And their decision making in their associations. So yeah, a
lot of.

Speaker 1 (42:07):
Times they think they're friends with people, or yeah, I
think somebody's their friend, it turns out not they're really not.
And again, like I said, all those videos I see
where about somebody sleeping with a friend's boyfriend or a

(42:27):
husband or wherever. Yeah, it comes from comes from women
who were supposed to be the girlfriend or the wife's friend.
I'm like, God, okay with friends like y'all, who the
heck needs the enemies? So yes, choose your friends carefully

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because again, everybody is not your friend. And again, just
because you associate with multiple people, they are not all
your friend friends. Because the way of the wicked will
lead you astray. In other words, these people who are
acting like they are your friends, and really are they

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Your best interests is quite literally the last thing on
their mind. They couldn't care less you're You're just a
means to an end to whatever mess they up to.
So the righteous who are the righteous? Okay, those that
have God's Holy Spirit and dwelling within them and hopefully

(43:36):
making all their decisions through the Holy Spirit, And that's
where righteousness comes from. But again, because I know everybody
ain't saved, listen to your what you would consider your
intuition or your conscious when it's trying to when it's

(43:56):
buzzing trying to tell you something's wrong. Okay, look at
people's actions, look at what they're saying, look at how
they live. If you know, some mess that's gonna end
up getting you jammed up in the long run, man,
Look get away from them.

Speaker 2 (44:15):
You might want human interaction, but.

Speaker 1 (44:18):
You should never want it that bad to where it
can lead to your incarceration or your death, or lead
to you losing everything that God's blessed you with, that
you've worked for.

Speaker 2 (44:31):
Okay, ain't no.

Speaker 1 (44:33):
Dog on association nowhere near that important. So yes, choose
your true friends wisely and let the knuckle is and
leave them right where they're at so they won't lead
you astray. All right, now, still in the brook of Proverbs,

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flip over the chapter eighteen, and that's look at verse
number twenty four that we're not since we already in Proverbs.
I'm not gonna pause too long. Just switch over to
Proverbs eighteen, verse twenty four. And what I did here,
I took that scripture and I posted it up here
from two different sources. So from the New Living translation

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it reads, there are friends in quotation marks or you know,
I would do the whole air quotes thing. There are
friends who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks
closer than a brother, all right. And then the same
verse from the new King James version, a man who

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has friends must himself be friendly. But there is a
friend who sticks closer than a brother.

Speaker 2 (45:50):
Mm hm. That makes perfect sense.

Speaker 1 (45:54):
If you want to have friends, then yeah, you yourself
need to be friendly. Otherwise why would people want to
be your friend? And you know, waste any time with
you if you're not a friendly person. Again, unless they
see there's something that you have that they want, or

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they can use you to get something they want. Yeah,
they couldn't care less that you're friendly, friendly or not,
because they're only associating with you until they get what
they want and then they going anyway. But somebody who
truly wants true friends, okay, yeah, you have to be friendly,

(46:38):
and that's why I put verse number twenty four because yeah,
that air quote around the friends. Yeah, there are so
called friends who destroy each other exactly what I've been saying.
They aren't your real friends. But a real friend sticks
closer than a brother. I have friends right now who, Yes,

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I I refer to them as bro or brother because that,
just like I said, that is literally how close we are.
I can reach out to them and I can depend
on them the exact same way that I can reach
out to and depend on my actual too natural older brothers.

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So yep, and up again when it comes to the women, okay,
and real friends who stick close, little sister, same exact
type scenario. So you want friends, you have to be friendly,

(47:45):
true friends, true friends. And again watch out for those
who putting on a show, because again, their intentions towards
you are are not good. Their intentions towards your so
called friendship are not good and ain't genuine. So look

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for those keep that strong relationship with those who you could,
you know, interchange the word friend or brother or friend and.

Speaker 2 (48:21):
Sister, remain friendly.

Speaker 1 (48:25):
And even with those for whatever you come off as
not so friendly, those are the ones who are going
to recognize it. They're gonna be like, you know what, Uh,
this ain't really you?

Speaker 2 (48:37):
What's going on? What's up?

Speaker 1 (48:41):
That's how true they are, That's how genuine they are.
That's how much they truly do respect you. All's friendship.
That even if they come at you sideways for whatever reason,
or you come at them sideways, out out of the
norm for whatever reason, Okay, they ain't just gonna get

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their behinds when.

Speaker 2 (49:02):
They back and in the friendship.

Speaker 1 (49:07):
No, they're gonna try to find out, Okay, what's going
on that's causing you to act this way? Or you'll
ask them, okay, what's up with you? You don't usually
talk to me like this or whatever like this. What's
going on? Something's wrong? What's going on? How can I help?
You're my friend, you're my sister, you're my brother. Again,

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I want to make sure you're good to go if
I can. All right, So still in the Book of Proverbs,
now flip over to chapter twenty two, and we're gonna
be looking at verses twenty four and twenty five Proverbs

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Chapter twenty two, Versus twenty four and twenty five, and
we'll put the falls on it so I can get
some water, okay, And it reads, don't befriend angry people

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or associate with hot tempered people, or you will learn
to be like them and endanger your soul. All right,
let me read those again. Don't befriend angry people or
associate with hot tempered people, or you will learn to

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be like them and endanger your soul. People who are
always angry or quick to get hot tempered most of
the time, Okay, those people. And this goes to men
and women. Okay, they truly say and do stuff out of.

Speaker 2 (51:07):
The heat of the moment, so to speak.

Speaker 1 (51:10):
And again can do something that that could lead to bad, bad,
bad outcomes. Now it's just typical human nature. Okay, most
if not all of us. We all have those moments
of something that might make us angry or something that
might you know, raise our blood pressure through the roof.

Speaker 2 (51:36):
But we don't stay there, all right.

Speaker 1 (51:41):
We let that moment of anger pass, We let that
moment of hot timerinis pass. Okay, then we come make
down and proceed from there once we've calmed down. But again,
people who are just always just everything, every little thing

(52:02):
send them flying off the handle. Yeah, no, you don't
matter face. We're using the words friend and the socials. Well,
this dog on verse it covers both of those words.
It says, don't be friendom nor associate with them. And
if I have to, if it is some situation where
I have to associate with you, hopefully it's going to

(52:25):
be so I can guide you some to get some
dog on counseling, that you can.

Speaker 2 (52:29):
Get some help.

Speaker 1 (52:31):
Because if you're just always like that, no, no, no
person is just naturally always angry or just immediately always
gets hot tempered, there is some some root calls to that,
and that root cause needs to be found and it
needs to be dealt with.

Speaker 2 (52:54):
Thats just said, you will learn to be like them
and in danger your soul up.

Speaker 1 (52:57):
Yep, speaking again of different scenarios and things we've heard
and seen. How many times have we heard of somebody
being killed in the midst of someone else's anger That
we hear it all the time, see it all the time.

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So yes, you can definitely endanger your soul if you
mess around and take the life of somebody and it
was not in self defense, but because you know you
you got heated over a situation.

Speaker 2 (53:35):
Don't ever let any body.

Speaker 1 (53:40):
Cause you to get that angry that it results in
you murdering someone. Matter of fact, any person that would
even try to goad you or or.

Speaker 2 (53:55):
Try to push you.

Speaker 1 (53:56):
Into murdering somebody. Okay, again, there's clearly something wrong with
this person. Self defense is one thing, and even with
self defense, you're not going out there purposely looking for
somebody to kill. It's that somebody ran up or you
completely unprovoked and you're like that sure about to lose

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my life over this clown. I got a home to protect.
And for those you know who have families that shoot,
I got a wife or a husband, or kids or.

Speaker 2 (54:32):
My parents to protect. Not letting some hot head you
know come up here and take us all out.

Speaker 1 (54:41):
No, and verse number twenty five again, all right, that
party goes goes double.

Speaker 2 (54:50):
For those who aren't even saved.

Speaker 1 (54:52):
Well, they're in already in danger of losing their soul anyway,
unless they have come to Jesus moment and get washed
by his blood. So they can be saved.

Speaker 2 (55:08):
But if not, well they're, like I said, they're gone anyway.

Speaker 1 (55:16):
But don't ever let anybody do anything that would endanger
your soul, Okay, because when it comes down to it,
when we stand before God, you don't be like no, Okay,
we are all responsible for our own soul's salvation. That's

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why I said, don't even associate with people who can
even lead you down that road.

Speaker 2 (55:45):
I don't care.

Speaker 1 (55:46):
Once again, I don't care how good they look. I
don't care how much money they have. I don't care
what opportunity they might be trying to.

Speaker 2 (55:53):
Present to you. Okay.

Speaker 1 (55:55):
The question you better ask yourself, okay, is this is
this sex? Is this money? Is this opportunity worth my
eternal soul being cast into the lake of fire?

Speaker 2 (56:12):
All right?

Speaker 1 (56:13):
I can't answer that question for you. I can dursn't
answer for myself. Man, heck to the number, no, okay.
All the beautiful women, every scent of every denomination and
currency of money on this planet, okay, All the opportunities

(56:37):
to go worldwide with a big platform or whatever for
this podcast, Okay, all that put together weighed against again
my soul being eternally damned like yeah, no, I'm good,
I'm good.

Speaker 2 (56:57):
All right.

Speaker 1 (57:00):
So the last scripture or the last couple of verses
we want to cover the night comes from the Book
of John, chapter fifteen, verses twelve through fourteen. John, Chapter fifteen,
verses twelve through fourteen. And we will put a quick polls.

Speaker 2 (57:28):
But the cones h m hmmm, alright, John, chapter fifteen,

(58:00):
verses twelve through fourteen. And it reads, this is my commandment,
love each other in the same way I have loved you.
There is no greater love than to lay down one's
life for one's friends. You are my friends if you

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do what I command. Okay.

Speaker 1 (58:26):
So this scripture scriptures come from Jesus. This is the
Christ talking. There's no greater love than to lay down
one's life for one's friends. And you are my friends
if you do what I command. In other words, okay,

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he can associate himself with them if they do with
his what he commanded. And of course, coming from Jesus,
everything he commanded was right. He wasn't hot tempered, he
wasn't angry all the time. Did he have moments, yep,
sure did, just like the rest of us, and they

(59:12):
were justified. But outside of that no, so that squirts.
We were from Proverbs it says don't be friend or
don't associate with angry people or hot tempered people. That
can cause you to lose your soul. But Jesus wasn't

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like that. Now, my granddad, Pete, granddad Peter there, yeah
one is apostles. Okay, yeah, Peter was. He can be hot, okay,
be the first one to jump out there on some
old next level stuff. But eventually, thankfully through the end

(59:57):
dwelling of the Holy Spirit and just some mature during
he meldowed out from well at least from the last
time we read or songing thing about him.

Speaker 2 (01:00:10):
And I've heard the question asks, Okay, so.

Speaker 1 (01:00:16):
If I do something that I know is gonna cause
me to die for the benefit of my friends, will
God look at that as suicide? Because I know I'm
going to die. But okay, I'm not doing this out
of my own selfishness. I'm doing this for friends or
to help a family member or.

Speaker 2 (01:00:34):
Something like that. Will God still look at it as suicide?
And my thing is, y'all, I'm not God.

Speaker 1 (01:00:43):
Okay, every circumstance, every situation, I can't tell you how
He's going to look at it or judge it. But
the thing about suicide as opposed to defending somebody is

(01:01:04):
suicide is you deciding you're going to take your own
life for But whatever the reason might be, our lives
are not ours to take upon ourselves because things may
be going bad. Okay, when it comes to suicide, then
you have to ask a question, all right, before you

(01:01:26):
are choosing to do this, did you seek out any
type of help, any type of counseling, or did you
just decide that because things aren't going the way you
think they should be going, I'd be better off just
taking my own life and getting myself out of here.

Speaker 2 (01:01:50):
See that's the difference. And also another way to.

Speaker 1 (01:01:56):
Look at this is Jesus could have very well been
talking about himself and himself alone. In other words, as
opposed to like Matthew twenty eight, that I use, like
I said, one of my foundation scriptures, go out into
the world, teach others the things I've commanded. You make

(01:02:19):
disciples of men. Okay, he never commanded them or told them. Yeah,
you know, lay down your lives for your friends if
that opportunity presents itself. So again, this may not be
a standard that he was putting out there that all
of us who believe in him should follow. Could just

(01:02:42):
be talking to hisself, and he's absolutely right.

Speaker 2 (01:02:45):
There is no greater love than for him to have
laid down.

Speaker 1 (01:02:52):
His life for all of humanity so that we would
have the opportunity to have eternal life.

Speaker 2 (01:03:03):
That these absolutely there. There is no greater.

Speaker 1 (01:03:05):
Love than to take on the humiliation, the pain, and
all the sins of all humanity just to redeem them
for all humanity. Because all the sins he took on,
that that not not a single one of them was his.

Speaker 2 (01:03:28):
It was all us, all us. But he did it.

Speaker 1 (01:03:37):
And after the physical physical death, okay, he went down
into the spiritual place of death health and ministered to
them to give them an opportunity. And then again wrapping
that whole train of thought up with verse fourteen, Okay,

(01:03:58):
you are my friends, and you do what I command.

Speaker 2 (01:04:03):
He didn't command people to go.

Speaker 1 (01:04:05):
Out there and lay down their lives for their friends,
but he did give them other commandments, which again he
elaborated on. Baptize them and the name the Father, the
Son of the Holy goes, you know, teach them the gospel,
actual commandments, seek the Father for everything. Whatever you ask

(01:04:27):
him for and whatever you pray, do it in my name,
in the name of Jesus. So again my personal thought, No,
if I see something bad about to happen, and I
know that in order to keep a bunch of people

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from ending up in a bad place, a bad situation.

Speaker 2 (01:04:52):
Or to end up dead, me doing something.

Speaker 1 (01:04:58):
That I know is going to calls my death but
will allow for them to continue living. No, I don't
think God judges that or looks at that as suicide,
because it's not coming from a selfish place.

Speaker 2 (01:05:15):
Matter of fact, it's just the opposite.

Speaker 1 (01:05:17):
It's coming from a place of concern and love for
other people's well beings, just like what Jesus did.

Speaker 2 (01:05:29):
He gave up his life.

Speaker 1 (01:05:33):
Not for anything that any way that would benefit him,
but for his love of his creation. And it's good
to know we are friends with him if we do

(01:05:53):
what he commands. Matter of fact, there's an old gospel song,
and I think it's actually called what a friend, or
baby's called what a friend we have in Jesus, what a.

Speaker 2 (01:06:04):
Friend we have? Energ Uh, Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:06:10):
This these scripts right here, that that was the that's
what that song's birth thought of us, where it came from.
So where's friends that we do what he commands, So
it's reasonable to say that those who operate or don't
do as he commands aren't his friends. Makes perfect sense,

(01:06:36):
just like the other scripture, who is my mother? Who
is my brother? Accept those who do the will of
my father? Exact same train of thought, exact same So yes,

(01:06:58):
love each other in the same way that I've loved
you and y'all, just like the way I in these episodes. Hey, yep,
love yourself, but seek to love other people more because
it is easy to love ourselves. Well for some people. Yeah,
it's easy to love yourself and make sure your every

(01:07:21):
waking moment you're doing things that are to your benefit
or benefit to your existence.

Speaker 2 (01:07:27):
But see, it takes.

Speaker 1 (01:07:29):
Some maturing and some stretching out of that comfort zone
to love and do for other people more than you
do for yourself, and not from out of a place
of self centeredness, okay, or selfishness looking for something to
come back and return. It's again because you're are able

(01:07:53):
to help that person and you want to see them
succeed or you want to help them help them over
some problem or.

Speaker 2 (01:08:01):
Issue that they're having.

Speaker 1 (01:08:07):
Because you just look at them and see, okay, hey
here's another human being.

Speaker 2 (01:08:11):
They're they're in a jam, and not.

Speaker 1 (01:08:16):
Necessarily for people, okay, because we all know that one
person they continuously put themselves or keep themselves in bad
situation because they think, oh they know, hey, you're you're
gonna come run to the rescue to get them out
of it. All right, Even people like that, after a while,

(01:08:37):
God will be like, you know what, no, no, mm hmmm,
because see, they're never gonna learn the lesson they need
to learn if somebody keeps running to their aid.

Speaker 2 (01:08:56):
So they got to grow up.

Speaker 1 (01:08:58):
You got to do something mature mentally, physically, and most
definitely spiritually. All right, all right, see we got yeah
a little over our.

Speaker 2 (01:09:15):
Sue. One last thing I wanted to do here.

Speaker 1 (01:09:24):
Yeah, let's get that, yeah, from this YouTube channel called
Growth Mindset. Now this this is a thirty four minute video.
We're not listening to all this, but I just want
to play a little bit of it. And the videos

(01:09:45):
entitled a man with no friends or a very small
circle is a very very secure man.

Speaker 2 (01:09:51):
So yeah, when.

Speaker 3 (01:09:53):
We start talking about a man who doesn't need a
lot of people around him, who doesn't really on friendships
to feel strong. We're talking about a man who has
learned how to stand on his own. A man with
no friends is a man who's discovered a certain type
of strength and peace within himself that many folks may
never find. This isn't about being cold, distant, or alone

(01:10:19):
and for the sake of being alone. No, this is
about someone who has become secure and who he is,
someone who's learned to walk his path without leaning on
others to validate or reassure him. In a world where
everyone's shouting to be seen, to be heard, to be liked,
a man who can stand without that is someone you

(01:10:40):
don't see every day. Most people are afraid of silence,
afraid of solitude, afraid of solitude, afraid of their own
company because they're terrified of what they'll find. But a
man who's comfortable on his own, he's someone who's spent
time in that silence. He's a man man who's looked
in the mirror and face what he sees, the good

(01:11:02):
and the bad. He's asked himself the hard questions, the
questions most of us are afraid to confront, and he's
found his answers not by seeking approval from others, but
by digging deep within himself, he's secure because he's not
looking outward for things that can only be found inside.

(01:11:23):
A man who stands alone and is at peace with it,
he knows the strength and solitude. See when you're alone,
when it's just you and your thoughts, there's no mask,
no pretending, no need to put.

Speaker 2 (01:11:36):
On a show for anyone.

Speaker 3 (01:11:39):
You're stripped down to who you really are, and that's
where the power is. A man who's secured himself doesn't
need people around to tell him who he is. He
doesn't need constant validation, approval, or applause. He's not looking
for someone else to give him permission to feel worthy.

(01:12:00):
And because he's not caught up in trying to fit
in or be like, he's got the freedom to truly
be himself, to grow in his own way, to develop
an unshakable confidence in who.

Speaker 2 (01:12:11):
He is now.

Speaker 3 (01:12:14):
Friendships can be a beautiful part of life, Don't get
me wrong. There's value in companionship and having someone to
laugh with, to share moments with. But a secure man
knows that his worth isn't determined by how many friends.

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He has or how popular he is.

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He's not keeping score He's got his eyes on the
bigger picture, on a purpose that isn't swayed by social
dynamics or the pressure to be a certain way just
to keep people around.

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He's committed to his growth, his vision.

Speaker 3 (01:12:48):
And his principles, and if people come along who align
with that, great, But he's not out there seeking approval
or trying to collect people just to avoid being alone.
He knows that a man's peace can't be measured by
the number of people in his corner. Solitude is his
teacher is God. When a man has the courage to

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sit with himself, he learns things about who he is
that he wouldn't find in a crowd. He learns about
his fears, his strengths and weaknesses. And once he's looked
those parts of himself in the face, nobody can shake him.
He doesn't need anyone else to fill the gaps or
mask the insecurities.

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He's worked through them on his own.

Speaker 3 (01:13:33):
He's faced them head on, and that's what gives him
his strength. It's a strength that comes from within, not
from the praise or presence of others. A secure man
understands that the wrong friendships can actually weaken him. People

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with conflicting values, people who don't respect his boundaries, people
who bring drama on necessary complications into his life. Those
are people who would drain him. And a wise man
isn't about to let himself get caught up in that.
He's selective because he respects his peace too much to
throw it away on relationships that aren't good for him.

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And sometimes that means he ends up walking a quieter path,
a more solitary path. But that solitude is rich, it's purposeful,
it's peaceful.

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A man like that, And like I said, I wasn't
going to play that whole thing, but I just wanted
to play that part. So you see how it talked
about how this solitary man, Okay, this person and not
just necessary man. Again, they can be a man or
a woman. How in that solitude, that solitude can teach

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some things. They can teach them and most importantly about themselves,
because when you're forced to spend time with nobody but yourself, man,
that's when you learn things about yourself that you otherwise
might not paid attention to. But what I wanted to
also point out here is it's saying that a person
who is secure in who they are and their mental

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state and their spiritual state. They don't need to go
out there and just have a bunch of people, it
was saying, collect people and just have a bunch of
people around them to validate who they are and to
validate their existence. Okay, it was like, yes, they can

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appreciate friends, they can appreciate friendliness, they can show friendliness,
but they do not need people around them just for
the sake of being around them, just for that validation's sake,
because that can and it will.

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Just lead to a bunch.

Speaker 1 (01:15:55):
Of bad relationships, just like we've been talking about here
all night. But also that person who can who is
secure and who they are, they can be secure in themselves.
That person will also tend to actually be a better
friend to other people because that person will purposely seek

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out friendships or at the very bare minimum, associations and
relationships with people who are like them. That is the
problem that goes right back then what we were talking about,
these social media sites and things like this, A lot
of that stuff that people do and all those those friendships,

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friends or subscribers and all those things that gives them
a sense of validation like oh wow, I'm really important
because I have a million subscribers or things like that.
You know there's a million people paying attention to me
all the time. Okay, so what again, you think that

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million people live and breathe your best intentions all the time.

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And if you.

Speaker 1 (01:17:17):
Only seek to get validations from strangers over the internet
just for the sake of having to feel important or
like you matter, man, you are setting yourself up to
be in a bad bad place mentally, spiritually, and eventually,
like I said, physically, because it always is going to

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come back to that. So yes, a very good video
and again I will make sure to link that video
down in the description of this video Growth Mindset on YouTube.

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And yeah, a whole bunch of I did not know that.

Speaker 1 (01:18:02):
I don't know if I call Dinzel words and like
a motivational speaker, I mean clearly that that's what he's
doing here. But I did not know that he had
had released so many motivational type speeches out there, and
this Growth Mindset channel, they have a bunch of them
on there, So make sure you go over there, and yeah,

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subscribe to the channel like them and check it out.
Very positive information and like I said, usually is geared
speak towards men, there's absolutely nothing that says that this same,
the same information and these same principles can't be geared
towards women as well. So yeah, go over there, check

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them out and show them some love.

Speaker 2 (01:18:45):
All right? All right?

Speaker 1 (01:18:47):
But friendships, y'all, true friendships, true friendships, truest friend that
we will ever have, truest friendship that will ever have
is Jesus, because not only did Jesus and will Jesus
save us, but after he saved us, he's up there

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right now, sitting on the right hand of the Father forever,
interceding for us. That means everything we're doing, especially the
stuff that we do, sinful stuff, and let's just.

Speaker 2 (01:19:18):
Call it what it is.

Speaker 1 (01:19:21):
He is making the argument for us that, yeah, that
on JK he did such and such and such, but
his heart is truly for us. He's definitely confessed his
sins and he's definitely come to me and had me
wash him clean. So let you know, let's them slide

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this time. Okay, he came to us, he even came
in said he apologizes for what he did.

Speaker 2 (01:19:48):
So you know, let let's.

Speaker 1 (01:19:49):
Look out now, Like I said, I use myself ANX album.
Now multiply that time, how many millions of people you
have been said by Jesus that just constant intercessory innocessity.
Now that is a best friend. Okay, that is a

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best friend. So if you don't know Jesus as your
best friend, it is very very very simple.

Speaker 2 (01:20:21):
Literally, just just talk to him.

Speaker 1 (01:20:24):
And for whatever reason you know, some medical reason, physical reason,
you can't verbalize words, you have a clear mind, Okay,
well reach out to him with your mind. This is
you know God and Jesus were talking about here. They
can hear you even with that, and just tell them. Look,

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I've been burnt by people who I thought were my friends.
I'm tired of life, I'm tired of humanity. I can't
ever seem to associate with anybody who truly has my
heart and my interest in mind. Okay, I need some relief, Jesus.

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I need something, somebody to believe in, because what I
don't want to do is end up getting so down
mad that I'll hook up with angry or mean or
just evil people who are going to cause me to
lose my life, and then I really am going to
end up in a bad spot eternal or I've done

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something wrong because I have associated with those people because
I thought they were my friends, Jesus, and they really aren't.
And now I'm in a bad spot. I know you
can help me. I'm asking you to help me. I believe,
and I have faith because it all starts with faith
that you can help me.

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So save me. Wash me.

Speaker 1 (01:22:00):
I've heard that you shared your blood, and you'll wash
me with your blood spiritually. Okay, wash me, make me clean,
make me whole. Now I'm liable to mess up again,
but I believe. Now, I believe I have a true savior,
a true friend up there who will speak on my

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behalf and who will be right there for me whenever
I need them. So Jesus, be my savior, be my friend.
Wash me clean right now, in the name of your Father, God,
excuse me. In your name Jesus. I'm believing that the

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Father will save me. That you won't judge me too harshly,
Like I said that, that's literally all it takes. You
don't have to be in a building, okay, You're don't
have to.

Speaker 2 (01:22:55):
Dress a certain way. You're gonna have to do.

Speaker 1 (01:22:57):
This and that and da da da da da da
da da da before No, just no, okay, if a
criminal hanging on a tree beside Jesus just said, you've
done nothing wrong, but I deserve to be up here.

Speaker 2 (01:23:16):
Lord, remember me when you go back to your kingdom.

Speaker 1 (01:23:19):
Okay, literally a couple of sentences hanging from a tree
for crimes he committed. Jesus told him today, you will
be with me in paradise. If it worked for him,
it'll work for you too. That that guy wasn't dressed
in a certain ways. Man, More than likely he was
actually naked. He wasn't in a church hanging from a

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tree being crucified a slow death. So if he was
gonna be with Jesus in Paradise that day, then okay
again that your your circumstances aren't any different. Just confess, confess,
Confess you are a sinner, Confess you are in need

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of saving, and then believe that Jesus is the only way, and.

Speaker 2 (01:24:14):
Just ask them wash me clean.

Speaker 1 (01:24:18):
Once you've done that, say hey, all right, Father, I've
asked your son asks me to watch me clean with
his blood. Now send your holy spirit to live within me,
to activate the gifts that you put inside of me.
I heard there's these spiritual gifts that you put in
every person okay, Well, send your holy spirit to activate mind,

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God and put people in my trap, excuse me, people
in my path who are truly kingdom minded and who
will be true, actual friends. God can start building these
earthly friendship just as we work together to build your

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kingdom relationships. In the name of your son, Jesus. Amen, Hey,
if you did that, man, celebrate all right, cell lebbrate
because whenever somebody gets saved, that's exactly what they do.

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In heaven for you.

Speaker 1 (01:25:20):
That's what God does, That's what Jesus does, That's what
the angels do.

Speaker 2 (01:25:25):
They celebrate, all right, that's one more, one more.

Speaker 1 (01:25:29):
They ain't gonna be bunning up fall eternity with Satan
and his boys. M good times, good time. Well, and
speaking of time, y'all for those who are in the north, yeah,
in the northeast, upper Midwest, upper Pacific, North Wales, pretty

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much like right there at above the Mason Dixon line.
God bless y'all because they seems some of y'all winter
weather done about the creepst way down here the South
Carolina tomorrow first winter wheather. I can remember us having
like ice and snow type stuff in some years, So yes, really,

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shouldn't complain pleasure people who was way way worse conditioning
we are. But yeah, everybody, just just be safe, be safe,
be safe. Definitely the people in California, I mean, you know,
using wildfires that is not an unusual thing for them,
But they're saying that these wildfires are unusual. And it's

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come out that the insurance companies canceled people's fire insurance
a couple of months back. Wow, all the insurance companies
didn't decide to cancel fire insurance for California, of all places.

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M hm, alrighty, alrighty, alrighty. Now, some people call people
who know that there's a sinister agenda behind that, they
call them conspiracy theorists. Well, you can call me whatever
you want, all right, but the truth of the truth,

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and all right, I know what the Holy Spirit tells
me when it tells me, and yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:27:26):
That's a mess, matter of fact.

Speaker 1 (01:27:29):
That reminds me of what happened over in that Hawaiian
island a couple of years back.

Speaker 2 (01:27:35):
Then.

Speaker 1 (01:27:36):
They're saying that the reason why they can't get the
fires under control is because of a lack of water.
This is California we're talking about here. It's literally a
coastal state. You have tons and tons of Pacific Ocean

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like just sitting right there ready for you to just scoop.

Speaker 2 (01:28:03):
It up and pour it out. So there's a water shortage. Hmm.

Speaker 1 (01:28:11):
Okay, okay, Well, unfortunately, you know, you citizens of California,
whether you all voted for these people or not, Okay,
you still can't be a decision maker. So keeping y'all
lifted up from prayer as well and any and everything

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else that that's going on.

Speaker 2 (01:28:35):
Praying for y'all as well. Praying for y'all as well.

Speaker 1 (01:28:39):
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Speaker 2 (01:29:08):
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As always, I thank y'all for joining this old country
boy riding with me. Listen to me. You'll on about
it for a little while. And again, guys, friendships, true
honest friendships. Put forth every effort you can to keep
those friendships going. Associations that you're recognized aren't real friendships.

Speaker 2 (01:30:39):
A just.

Speaker 1 (01:30:42):
Cut them off, Okay, associate with them, and you know
if you have to or need to, but just don't
depend on these people and look at them as a friend.
Like I said, when the rubber meets the road, because
then you're just gonna end up getting the heart broken
and definitely don't want that to happen. So as always, guys,

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love yourselves, but seek the love other people more.

Speaker 2 (01:31:06):
Remember, people are.

Speaker 1 (01:31:06):
Humans just like you, so you want to seek to
treat them the exact same way you want to be treated.
And God willing, we will be back here to do
it all again. We're closing in on episode number one
hundred and Episode one hundred will be a live stream.
So I got a couple of people that I'm looking at.

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Speaking of friends, I got a couple of friends I'm
gonna be talking to that'll be hopefully they'll be available
to co hosts with me, and we're going to live
stream it through Rumble Live Studio and just looking to
have a good time. So yeah, that will be episode
one hundred, God willing, and until then, hey, we will

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see y'all when we see peace