"Who Do You Love?" Pt.3

Discuss the mental, emotional, and physical effects of social media on adults and teenagers.

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:25):
Alright, alright, hello, hi, and how do everybody? This is
your man JK. Moore, welcoming you back and breaking tradition.
So tonight we are continuing going in the presentation of
who Do You Love? And I'm not gonna be labeled
a time on it. If this is your first time
join us, welcome, appreciate you. But if you've been here

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before and then you know, we've been focusing in on
the scripture from the Book of Two Timothy that talks
about in the last days how people would become lovers
of themselves, and so the past couple of episodes we've
been showing how that is exemplified mainly through social media.
So people, of course they can do it with actual

(01:09):
words that they're talking to people, but yeah, for the
most part is it's social media that they're using. Your facebooks,
your Instagrams, your tiktoks, your YouTube or whatever. All Right,
So since we're continuing on in this journey that we're
already on and continue to keep that seat, kick back,
continue to keep your feet kicked up, and let's go

(01:32):
on with this journey. So tonight we are going to
start because the past couple episodes I've been mentioning an
article that I wanted to show dealing with social media
and effects that it has on people's mental health, and just
by going through scriptures alone kind of time down on it.
So we're actually going to start tonight with that article.

(01:53):
So every way I want it to tell you guys again, Yeah,
you know, we got an article about it, So let's
go ahead and slide on over there. All right, So
this is coming from Mcleanhospital dot org and the title
of the article is the Social Dilemma social Media and

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your mental health. Like it or not, Using social media
can calls anxiety, depression, and other health challenges. How can
you change your habits? All right? So, the social media
platform Instagram made headlines last year for suppressing likes in

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an effort to curb the comparisons and hurt feelings associated
with attaching popularity to sharing content. But do these efforts
combat mental health issues? Are they simply applying a band
aid to a wound? Well, I am no psychologists, psychiatrist,

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counselor any type of mental health professional, and I can
answer this question simply because thank God I have common sense.
Hag to the no, suppressing lights ain't doing nothing to
combat mental health issues. But yeah, it's definitely applying a
band aid to the wound. And for anybody who might

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not be sure of what that means, the suppressing lights
that it has highlighted up there on pretty much every
social media platform there is out there again, your Instagrams,
your facebooks, your tiktoks, and even on video hosting sites,

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your YouTube, your rumbles whatever. Below the content there is
a little thumbs up and a little thumbs down. Thumbs
up means you liked whatever the content is. Thumbs down
means you don't like or don't agree with it. So
what is starting by saying here is that you had

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people who had hurt feelings because they saw that they
weren't getting as many likes as other people, probably more
specifically other people who post content within the same realm
or subject that they posted under, and their feelings were

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getting hurt because of that. So right away, guys, okay,
people not liking, loving, approving everything you do, every word

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that comes out of your mouth, every action you perform,
is nothing new. Okay, this did not start with social media,
all right, It's a tale was old as time. All right,
people are not going to like everything. But as we're

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going to see further down in this article. There is
a particular age group, particular generations that that type of
thinking is affecting the most. So what was introduced into
US society? What are we in twenty twenty four? Oh? Yeah, man,

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roughly about twenty some people say, maybe twenty five years ago,
especially and foremost within the public education system, or as
I call it, the training grounds to get people ready
to be putting jail or prison, the public US public

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education system, the idea of participation trophies. Participation trophies. Hey, JK,
what's a participation trophy? Hey? Internet, So glad you asked. So.

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Usually in any competition, you have your winners, the people
that excelled and completed to the best of the qualifications,
whatever the competition is. And you have losers, which are
people who just the opposite, They didn't complete to the

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qualifications or specifications and event or anything. And definitely within
the realm of man, we'll say sports, my favorite sport
football football game of the year, super Bowl. You have
two teams. Now, both of these teams cannot be winners.

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You have the winner who gets awarded the trophy, amongst
other things, for winning the game, and you have the
losers that, hey, now we were good enough to make
it here, but we just just couldn't pull it off.
So only the winners of that game get the trophy
and the Super Bowl rings and all the other awards

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and perks that come with it. Well, somebody or somebody's
got the bright idea to where, oh, this is harmful
for children being called or being told that they're losers.
So we're gonna have participation trophies where even if you

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weren't what we would deem or classify as the winner,
you're still going to get a trop just for showing
up and participating. Air go the term participation trophies. It's
a way basically to make people, or more specifically kids
feel good about being losers. So, like I said, you

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have a generation, one full generation and part of another
generation growing up under that, and by the time they
start to enter teen, teenage yeers and definitely going into adulthood,
they are still strapped with that mindset that hey, whether

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I sell at this job or since we're talking about
social media here, you know, my social media.

Speaker 2 (08:46):
Platform or page, I should get trophies and recognitions and
awards simply because I did post something thing, or why
I do post things, whether it's the most.

Speaker 1 (09:04):
Pointless garbage content out there, simply because they posted it,
they feel they should be getting dumb likes and the
accolades and the deals and everything else that the people
who get millions of likes or hundreds of thousands of
likes get too. But because they noticed that they aren't

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getting those, well that's where we get to start this article. Here.
For any reasonable logical people out there, do we see
the problem with this here or problem with with you
know this this way of thinking? The problem is everybody

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cannot be winners, everybody cannot be losers. Some people are
going to excel at certain things where others won't, and
those that don't excel at those particular things may very
well excel at something else that somebody else won't. But

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this idea that everybody should just be treated like they're
so special and the greatest thing on two legs, as
we can see, has pretty much the opposite effect, Okay,
is dumbing down individuals is leaving them stuck mentally in

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a perpetual state of childhood or I think the actual
medical term psychological term for is arrested development. Yeah, which
means socially, mentally, you haven't matured or aged past a
certain age. And that's what we're dealing with here. Now.

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Some people might say, Okay, well, it's a nice idea
to try it, you know, maybe you gotta give it
some more time. See it's gonna work itself. No. The
idea behind participation trophies and no child left behind, which means, okay,
whether or not you're meeting the again basic minimum standards

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set forth by the Education Department, and then trickle down
to the states, and then within those states, trickled down
to the counties. Okay, whether you're meeting these things or not,
you're still going to be in most in a lot
of instances, promoted to the next grade. Now, way home,

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Back when when I was coming through school in that
wonderful bygone era known as the eighties and the nineties,
it didn't work like that. Okay. If you didn't make
the grades during the four quarters of the regular school year,

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you didn't make the sufficient grades, and especially if you
didn't pass the standardized tests that are given at the
end of the school year, you didn't get promoted to
the next grade. You had two options at that point, one,
you either attend summer school, which is a chance for

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you to be able to make up make up the
work and make up the testing, make up the requirements
to then be passed on. So that was choice number
one or choice number two. You just repeated that grade
that you failed. That that was it. No participation trophies

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and none of this. No cha all left behind. But
what they did have is if you repeated a grade.
Oh I can't remember if it was two or three times,
anyway after that, either that second time or after that
third time, then you would just okay, at that point

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you would be promoted on to the next grade. And
I'm guessing what I'm thinking, because I don't know, maybe
you aged out or something, or they're just like, oh, okay,
we don't have any more time to waste for you.
We have other kids who could possibly we could focus
this attention on to keep on moving through. But yeah,

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so then at that point you got promoted on whether
you made the grades or not. But okay, regularly outside
of that, no, you went to summer school or you
repeated that grade, and like I said, no, that it
was no participation trophy just because you came and be
able the same way with the middle school and high

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school sports. You had a winner, a winning team, and
you had a losing team. And even even at the
end of those sports, okay, the winners would always go
over to the losers or they would meet each other
in the middle of the court or the field or whatever,

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you know, then shake hands and give each other a
handslap whatever. Good game, good game, man, good game ladies, whatever,
and then keep it moving. But there was still a
clear winner and a clear loser. But in an effort

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to change things around in society, this same entities and
groups that are behind the scenes running everything. This is
just one more key or one more step into the
dumbing down and the ultimate just flat out destruction of
the West Western civilization, Western culture by like I said,

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having a pretty much a bunch of by age standard adults,
but mentally and socially you're dealing with a bunch of
ten year olds and then these same people with that
mindset and you know, think nobody. Now. It's kind of sad,

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and I feel a bit bad for those people who
were raised up, brought up under that, because I mean,
it's not their fault. Okay, they didn't ask for this.
They're just operating based off what you know, the society
and the conditioning that they came up under. Now true,

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a lot of the parents who should know better, who
came from my generation and even generations as before. At okay,
at home should have been should have been like yet, yeah,
you know, no, unless you have some type of physical
or mental disorder that is keeping you from being able

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to at least make the grade, at least make a
passing grade and excel, you have no excuse. You're gonna
put the freaking phones down. You're gonna put the freaking
tablets down, you're gonna close the laptop, you're gonna turn
off the TV, and you're going to crack these books
and study. Hey, we got to get you a mentor fine,

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we'll do it. If we got whatever extra help that
we have to get gift for you, we're gonna do it.
But just being happy and at home promoting this idea
of no child left behind and participation trophies. No, no,

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people need to get this idea out of their head. Now.
This actually started again before participating tros and all this mess,
this idea that their children are the perfect little angel
or whatever. No, they're not okay, even though the most

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well behaved ones still are not perfect little angel, there
is no such thing. And now, of course people will
fire back and say, well, of course you feel that way,
you don't have kids or whatever. Yep, you're absolutely right.
But I was a kid, and even as a kid
who was correctly disciplined, even as a kid who was

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a straight A student, even as a kid who was
nowhere near stupid enough to buck up on mouth back
and my mom and dad, I still did my dirt.
A lot of it. I got away with some of it.
I didn't. But on from the outside looking in and
they're like, hey, that's a well behaved young man, well

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spoken young man, makes good grades. No on top of it,
on a roll and all this other stuff. Wow, no
good kid for the most part. But these people who
just have the idea that no matter what the situation,
even if it's proven, their child are the ones in

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the wrong, Their children can just do no wrong. Bullcrap,
bull crap. And again, yep, I don't have kids, but
I am taking a hand aver small as it was,
and helping to raise nieces and nephews. Love all the
little burgers to death. But when they did wrong, they

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did wrong, and when they did right, they did right.
And if they were falsely accused or lied on about something, well,
just like my brothers and my sister ay, I would
stand in their corner and defend them. If it was
blatantly obvious that they were wrong for what they did,
well you get whatever was coming to you. Discipline all

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part of a plan. Even before this participation trophy, No
child left behind. But what are some of the things
that were instituted by federal government mandate? No more prayer
in schools because not everybody who goes to school as
a Christian. It's offensive. And again I'm old enough to remember.

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And at least through elementary school, Oh no, no, no,
before we went to the lunch the cafeteria, you got up,
you wash your hands, you stood in line, and before
we had it out that door, we said a prayer.

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By the time I got to middle school, yeah, it
wasn't mandated then, but we still said the Pledge of Allegiance.
And even through my four years of high school, yeah,
no more prayer, but pledge of allegiance. And by that
point they were like, Okay, even if you don't say it,
you are at least going to stand during the reading
of the pledge of allegiance. But nope, just these days

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that that's offensive to some people. Well, like I said
last episode, and pledging allegiance to the flag of this country,
the United States, is offensive to you, then you need
to go live somewhere else if it's just that offensive
to you. So Yah took prayer out of school, took

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discipline out of school, and for the most part, try
to just remove it from society. Parents can't even just
spaint their kids when they're wrong no more. We got
our tails lit up when I was going through elementary school.
And then because I went to a school in such
a small, tight knit community, not only did you get

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spanked by your teacher, but your teacher durn short sent
home a note or called your parents later on. And
when your parents found out, you got it again. And
when you get back to that teacher's class, you dared
to disrespect them or even cut a nasty look in
their direction, you were gonna get it again. And then

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you were going to get it again when you got home.
It didn't hurt us, didn't cripple us. It started us
on the path to know that in life, certain decisions
have certain outcomes, and when you're do wrong, you got
to get disciplined. You want to get your behind spanked

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when you're young, to go ahead and start getting that
mindset out of you rather than end of either a
in prison or b getting killed when you become an adult.
But as we've been talking about here the past couple

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of weeks, become lovers of themselves. Laws everything being changed
to not only excuse bad behavior, not only to excuse
lies and just flat out the demented and perverted lifestyles,

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but laws being changed to actually push and promote that stuff,
because that is how you bring down a civilization. Just
start loosening the restraints on bad behavior and you can

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go out there and promote it and tell people is good.
Why are people going to participate in it? Because it's
the basis of human nature. This flesh is desperately wicked,
and if it knows it can go out there and
do something and not be held accountable for it, Heck yeah,

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it's all for it, Which is why I say it
is not the flesh that Jesus died to save, It
is our souls. Ain't no saving this flesh. I mean, yeah,
there's scripture that said, you know, we will be transformed,
but before that time, ain't no saving this flesh. That's

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why the dead body gets either cremated or put in
a grave. It ain't going nowhere. Oh but that soul, Yeah,
it's definitely going someplace, and it's that soul that's first
going to be judged. So back around to this second paragraph.

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It's a small step in the right direction, says Jacqueline Spurling, PhD,
a psychologist at McLean Hospital who works with youth who
experienced anxiety disorders, about Instagram's recent restriction. Even if you
remove the lights, there continue to be opportunities for comparisons

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and feedback. People still can compare themselves to others, and
people still can post convents. Oh you mean talking about
other people the same way people have been doing since
Adam and Eve? What always tell y'all? What do I

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always say? Y'all? Humans have not changed, and a human
is going to human. The only difference between the yester
years and now is that social media has provided a
way for people, more people to see this stuff, more

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people to say it and participate in it, and for
more people around the world to be able to come
together in it. But okay, as far as people having
anxiety disorders, not new. As far as people liking you

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or disliking you, not new. God darn even Jesus told
you his apostles. If they hate you, remember they hated
me first. And this is a man that people witnessed
perform miracles that had never been seen before, and instead

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have people who hated him and wanted him dead. So
what the heck makes you think? You so got don
on special? Seriously, seriously, all right, let's continue the risk

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for the reward. Social media has a reinforcing nature. Using
it activates the brain's reward center by releasing dopamine, a
feel good chemical linked to pleasurable activities such as sex, food,
and social interaction. The platforms are designed to be addictive

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and are associated with anxiety, depression, and even physical elements.
I have seen other videos and read other articles about
this thing. A couple of years ago, and one particular
one that was talked about there was this experiment done

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at a college campus. They took a group no particular,
They grab males and females, grab them from different ethnicities,
different socio economic backgrounds, and what they did was told them.
I want to say, it was like forty eight. For
the next forty eight or seventy two hours, they were
not going to have access to technology, no smartphones, no computers,

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no tapping, nothing, by our number twelve, Our number twelve, y'all.
What they did is every so many hours they would
do thing it's called MRIs. I think that's the medical

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procedure where they can read your They take it's an
image of your brain and certain colors and stuff that
are going on with it. They know, like what mood
you're feeling, things like that that they know what's going
on with you based on how the brain's looking. Yeah,
I'm just say MRI if I'm wrong, y'all for you. So,

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every so many hours they would take brain scans of
these college kids to see what was going on by
our number twelve because some of them did not have
access to that technology or more specific to these social
media platforms. The brain activity had started to mirror what

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a person's brain looks like who is hooked on drugs
and they don't they haven't gotten their hit of the drugs.
In other words, say a crack addict or somebody who's
addicted to methamphetamine. These college kids' brains started to mirror

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not all of them, some of them started to mirror
the brains of drug addicts who haven't had the affix
of their drug. And before the twenty for our mark,
some of them dropped out of the study and said
they could not take it anymore, giving me back my phone.

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Digital drug addicts, y'all. So, yes, it is very true
what this part said. It is very true. So you
have to wonder what type of wealth, first and foremost

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mental and definitely spiritual state you have to be in
to where you start exhibiting signs and symptoms of a
crackhead who hasn't had crack and you're not even a
drug user. This is the result of how much time
you spend on social media. And even now, I'm not

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sure about where some of y'all stayed, but I know
around here that there's even radio commercials put out by
this law firm that are saying, if you've been a
victim of just like it's saying here, anxiety or depression

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or whatever due to Instagram and TikTok, call all law
firm and will take on your Yeah, they even have
law firms trying to get in on this now you
have two and three year old children that can operate
a phone or tablet just as good as and in

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some instances better than their parents or even their grandparents.
Why because people, rather than actually putting in the time

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to interact and associate with their own children, would rather
put a phone or tablet in their hand and let
that entertain them. Nothing new. People. When it was nothing
but the radio invented, people did the same thing with

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the radio. When television came around, people did the exact
same thing with television. And then when you got stuff
like home videos, video games, things like that, did the
exact same stuff, slop their children down in front of
the difference for the most part between those and now

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with these social medias is there was more regulation and restriction. Okay,
you didn't have to worry about your three year old
child pulling up a site where they see straight up
porn going on. You didn't have to worry about your
young child, at least for a while, going on certain

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of these platforms, and again porn or of nothing else,
seeing naked people's bodies. Especially, think about it. If you
have this stuff downloaded to your phone or tablet, and
of course you're opening I mean, some people create the

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kid version of it, but other of these things, Okay,
they don't. You give them your phone. Your phone's unlocked.
You're an adult. You never thought to child proof or whatever.
Your Instagram, your TikTok, your ex Okay, and your child
goes to it, They're going to see adult things because

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there is no restriction put on it. And rather than
taking on the blame and responsibility yourself, you want to
go after the durn, the the social media companies, because again,

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you have some parents out here who think it is
the entire rest of the world's responsibility to raise their
children for them, or to live their lives child friendly
for the benefit of your children. No. You you are

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the parent. You made the decision to lay down and
create and bring this child into the world, so they're
your responsibility. Can you shield them from everything? Number and
people who have tried to do that? Okay, that creates

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a whole new mess of dog gone social and mental disorders.
But to the best of your ability, you better get
in there and make it do what it do. You're tired,
you're worn out, you don't feel like dealing with it. Tough,

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because again, these are your children, not the rest of
the world's children. It's not the rest of the world's responsibility.
And as we're seeing right here, starting them on this
stuff too early, Look what is leading to that anxiety,

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that depression. That's why I've said before, y'all, shoot dog
on stress. Stress will kill you faster than dog on
HIV AIDS, in the cancer, in any of these other
diseases or disorders out here, because why stress starts mentally. Eventually,

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whatever's going on with your mind and your brain is
going to trickle down and affect the rest of your body.
Because think about it, y'all, it's our brains that regulate
what we do with our bodies and how they operate.
So yeah, I believe the physical element is part you.

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Depressed and stressed out enough that man, you know, eat
you up. Literally, it literally eats you from the inside out.
According to the Pure Research Center, sixty nine of adults
and eighty one percent of teens in the US U

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social media. This puts a large amount of the population
at an increased risk of feeling anxious, depressed, or ill
over their social media use. And as we see by
the numbers right here, it is bigger and more common
in the team demographic than it is for adults. Makes

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sense because again, okay, before social media was even the thing,
is just a known fact that adolescents and the teen
years are probably the hardest on any person because you
got so much stuff going on again in your body,
you have physical changes that are taking place, you have

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mental changes that are taking place, have social changes that
are taking place. I mean, yeah, it's a lot. Again,
nothing new. It's just always been hard for those formative years.
So certain things they're seeing or doing on social media,

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it's just all right, it's exacerbating it. I say things
they're seeing or doing. I am not going to say
the social media platforms themselves see that. That's something that
people are all too often are too quick to want
to blame. Oh it's TikTok's fault. Da da da da
da da da. Oh, it's Instagram's fault. Da da da. No, no, no,

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and no. It is how you are choosing to spend
your time on these platforms, and then what you are
choosing to do. What what's the problem that that's where
the fault lives. And again going back to the example

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of the different technologies that ever coming about, the radio,
the television, movies. Yeah, and every new thing that comes out,
you got older people that want to blame that new
thing for what's going on with the youth. Rock and
roll was invented. Always rock and roll turning these kids degenerate. TV,

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always TV, always movies, always video games, always hip hop,
and now always social media. No, it's what people are
choosing to do and choosing to participate in that's the fault,

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and not these things they like. I said these these
is just a little electrical blips. Oh. I've heard people say, Oh,
it's the internet's fault, that's such something. No, no, no again,
y'all again, back to Adam and Eve. Humans have been
trifling since triflingness was human always. Ain't nothing nothing that

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you can see people doing these days that you ain't
gonna find in the Bible and or other historical texts.
Might be different ways of doing it, but it's nothing new.
Humans have always been trifling, and you've always had that
sect of humans that want to blame any and every

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other thing but themselves. Or again, they're precious little perfect angels,
because certainly they wouldn't have acted like that if it
wasn't for TikTok or certainly They wouldn't have done this
if it wasn't for that video game they played. Okay,
parents who bought them the smartphone or the computer? Okay,

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who bought them the video game system? Okay? And under
whose roof are they using these things? M hm? Okay?
What what? Uh? You know? What rules do you have
set up? What regulations? What parameters? What? What? How do

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you go about disciplining? Mm hmmm mm hmm. Yeah you
don't okay, right, Nope, you want to allow them to
grow and make their own decisions. Okay, all right, So no,
these technolog technology is not the problem. This Internet and

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these sites and apps are not the problem. You're the problem.
You're the problem because again, just like you can see
some porn or you know, at the very least on
some naked bodies on x okay, at the same time

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you can see me and other believers posting biblical scriptures
or posting links to the videos or or audios on
those same platforms. Are we know, am I doing porn? Nope?
My showing my naked body? No? So that's why I

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always call some people no who don't say the internet
is the reason, don't say the platform itself is the reason. No,
it's the people to think about it. If no people
were on there doing stuff, you just have blank platforms,
You just have a blank Internet. There won't be nothing
going on. So how is it these specific apps or

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specific website's fault. They would literally be empty, they would
be blank, they would be nothing but a landing page.
Oh but when you have people start to post their
videos and contents and stuff, Okay, there we'll go. That's

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what the problem is. Lying in and you and you
have people out here getting ill over social media. Use man,
please please, because, like I said, going back to the
teens and the children, because you don't want to act
like and be the parent that you are, the authority

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figure that you're supposed to be. All right, yet guess
what you're You're not helping the situation or helping it
get better. You're helping it get worse. And again, it's
not TikTok's responsibility to raise your kids. It's not Instagram's
responsibility to raise your kids. Is x utube, Rumble Locals

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or any of the rest of them. Is nobody's responsibility
to raise and police your children. That is your responsibility.
But what makes users come back for more even when
they can literally literally make them feel sick. When the
outcome is unpredictable, the behavior is more likely to repeat.

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Think of a slot machine game. Players knew they never
were going to get money by playing the game, than
they would never then they never would play. Spurling says,
the idea of a potential, potential future reward keeps the
machines in use. The same goals for social media sites.

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One does not know how many likes a picture will get,
who will like the picture, and when the picture will
receive likes. The unknown outcome and the possibility of a
desired outcome can keep users engaged with the sites to

(45:08):
boost self esteem and feel a sense of belonging in
their social circles. People post content with the hope of
receiving positive feedback. Couple that content with the structure of
potential future reward, and you get a recipe for constantly
checking platforms. In other words, what keeps those freaking phones

(45:30):
glued to their hands and their eyes? Now, I know
I've seen on most all occasions, and I'm sure y'all
have people out on the streets, busy streets where cars
and trucks and everything going back and forth. Who got

(45:50):
their face stuck in their freaking phones and almost get
hit and ran over by a vehicle, but then want
to look at you like you're the one in the
long because they chose to try to cross while you
had a green light to go. And no doubt in

(46:10):
my mind it actually has happened to some people, but
to boost the self esteem and sense of belonging in
their social circles. And even with that, it's such a
ironic name social media when you're sitting behind a screen.

(46:30):
I mean, yeah, you got some people you know who
do the things where they talk to other people, got
them on camera like FaceTime and things like that. We're
actually talking with people, but most of the other time,
just like you said, you're posting pictures or you're making
a video and posting a video and all these lights

(46:52):
that they're craving and desire, most of them are coming
from people they don't even know, but yet they're they're
they're social circle. Okay, yeah again, growing up, my social
circle was the people I saw at school and kids

(47:13):
at church, you know, ones that we had face to
face interactions, hung out with, would eat with, playing with whatever. Whatever. Yeah,
an actual social we've actually socializing and didn't need technology
to do it. But the boost that self esteem because

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I just have to have so many people love whatever
picture I put up or love whatever video I posted
of me sitting there doing something pointless or same pointless stuff.
But because this, because you know, I'm alive, so I

(48:05):
deserve special attention. I should be getting multiple likes and
nice comments on this. Lovers of themselves don't even think
about putting that much bring energy or actual energy or

(48:28):
motivation into putting the technology down and actually creating something
real and tangible or trying to make an idea or
go you know, actually come come to fruition something that
could benefit not only themselves but the rest of humanity

(48:51):
as we know it. Nope, a picture of animals doing
something silly, or video of my animal doing something silly,
or video of me or a picture of me, you know,

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wearing what might as well amount to lingerie and a
lot of them wearing actual lingerie. Yeah, that's the mark
I want to leave on the world. That that's what
I'm just so desperate for people to like and share
and comment about. Freaking kidding me, But why lovers of

(49:42):
themselves at all costs for a lot of them, no
matter how deranged, no matter how depraved or perverted or whatever.
If they know it is going to get this likes
and have that video or those pictures shared multiple times,

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then a lot of them are there for it. They're
therefore it, not realizing, not remembering, or just flat out
not caring that the Internet is forever. Oh yeah, sure
you can delete that post you put up. Somebody's already

(50:30):
screenshot it and shared it and saved it to their
hard drive or whatever. Oh yeah, you can delete that
video you put up. It has already been shared, somebody
has it, somebody has The Internet is forever, people, so

(50:53):
we have to stop and think and be very very
very careful about what we choose to put on there.
All right back to dark. When reviewing other social activity,
people tend to make comparisons, such as that I get
as many lights as someone else. There we go, lovers

(51:13):
of themselves worried about how many lights they got as
compared to somebody else. Again another more than likely another
faceless stranger. That they have no idea who this person is,
but because they got multiple lights, I want multiple lights,
or why didn't this person like my post? But this

(51:37):
other person did. They're searching for validation on the Internet
that serves as a replacement for meaningful connection they might
otherwise make in real life. Literally exactly what I was
talking about a few minutes ago. Now it's said that

(51:58):
this percentage of feeling this anxiety, just depression, these physical
ailments resulting in this social media use was higher in teenagers.
We can break that down further and say that it's
higher in teenage girls than it is in boys. Again,

(52:19):
teen years are rough for boys and girls, but for
girls more so. Yeah, it is always just a bit rougher.
It's always a bit more unfriendly. And now we have
social media to help share that anxiety, that uncertainty with

(52:43):
the entire world. Sadly enough, sometimes whether they want to
or not. But you got people just take it upon
themselves to film videos of you without your permission, or
film videos with understanding okay that this is just between
me and you. Don't don't share that, and well god
daring it faster you can say, click this, but it

(53:07):
is out there shared with the entire world. That that
definitely doesn't help their mental and emotional states. But another
part of this surgeon for validation comes from the fact
that a lot of these kids, males and females are
being raised in single mother homes. That validation that they

(53:35):
are so desperately searching for, they really are wanting it
from their fathers. Mm hmm. It's well, I think it's
a well known fact, but maybe it's not. Girls get

(53:57):
a lot of their identity from their fathers. They base
a lot of their future relationships, especially when it comes
from when it comes to choosing a mate, choosing a partner. Yeah,

(54:22):
they've had a responsible, dutyful father that that's loving, that's
what they're looking for. That's what they're going to be
looking for in their future mate. And boys, to a
lesser degree, same thing. They get a lot of their

(54:44):
validation and identity from the father. That's why there's so
much emphasis on men and fathers being godly and righteous
heads of their households. And I mean, you got some

(55:05):
that even okay and even outside of God, because they
still choose to follow laws and certain principles of decency
and you know, rightness still can can be a dutiful
and a lawful and a loving father. But with the

(55:35):
increase of homes without fathers, you also see an increase
of crime, an increase of hermiscuity outside of marriage, or
as Bible just puts in fornication, sleeping with people outside
of the bond of marriage, going to jail, all this stuff.

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There have been studies, decades worth of studies that link
a lot of this stuff back to the fact that
either the father was not in the home, or that
even if he was in it, okay, it made no difference.
He just was not a good father validation. Or there's

(56:30):
also the fact that, yeah, you have a mom and
a dad, but again, they don't pay any attention to you,
they don't put any time in with you. They're just
pretty much dealing with you because yeah, well we had
you got to take care of your least for at
least for eighteen years. They put more importance and knowing

(56:52):
to their jobs or outside relationships with things. Again, these
kids are looking for validation. It's a known fact that
the reason why gangs can so easily get, especially young
men to join them. But yeah, look at the where

(57:14):
these young men come from. They come from single mom
homes most of the time, and especially if she has
more than one child. Over certain other situations, Okay, yeah,
she doesn't have time to provide the love and the
nurturing that boy needs a lot of times, even if

(57:36):
the dad is gone, he might not have an older
brother or an uncle or granddad or some other strong
male role model in his life to help try to
keep him on the straight and narrow. Those young men
are looking for love and validation, and if they can't
get it where children are supposed to get it in

(57:59):
the household, they will go outside of that household and
look for it somewhere else. Enter the gang. Yeah, they
beat the crap out of you for you to join
them and get in. But hey, once in, yen, unless
you want to get out, then they'll either beat the
crap out of you again or they just flat out
kill you. They tell you, na, once en yen. Death

(58:22):
is the only way out. All part of a system,
all part of a system searching for the validation that
serves as a replacement for meaningful connections that they might
otherwise make in real life. Humans haven't changed, y'all. Humans

(58:55):
ain't gonna change in this age. They've always needed strong,
loving fathers and caring, nurturing mothers, responsible, lawful, hopefully godly.

(59:26):
Now does that mean that they're always still going to
turn out and still on the right path. No, but
they have a better chance of it if the mom
and dad are like that, and kids will act out

(59:49):
and do things to gain their parents' love and their
attention and their validation. But now technology has made to
where Okay, I'm not getting it in the household I
live in, then I'll just join this group on this site,

(01:00:09):
or this group over here or whatever have to have
to have to make a better effort. I know some
families that the kids are raised, they might get an
our word two on the phones, computers, video games, whatever.

(01:00:33):
Outside that. No, at the dinner table, there is no technology.
Talk open your mouths. Okay, there's your social media. Open
your mouth. Reading books, not ebooks, actual books when you

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can hold in your hand, flip, turn the pages, and
a lot more of those kids are coming out way
more well adjusted, coming out making better grades, coming out,
making better employees, coming out making better life decisions. God

(01:01:17):
created and instituted the family structure the way he did
for a reason. But God darn it, saving entered in
is talked to certain humans and just make them think
that now we don't need to keep it like that.
We can do better. We can try it this way

(01:01:43):
Sometimes it turns out good, other times it doesn't. But
that doesn't take away from or delineate the core of
kids and especially teena need that extra love, that attention,
that guidance, even when they act like they don't, even

(01:02:10):
when they act like they don't or they don't care
or they don't want it, Yes they do, Yes they do,
Okay fom which I had no ideal with this myth
that I read it. Fear of missing out also plays
a role. If everyone else is using social media sites

(01:02:30):
and if someone doesn't join in, there's concern that they'll
miss jokes, connections, or invitations. Again, like I said, you
just always have people throughout history. They just want to
be part of the crowd, all right. Not everybody can
be like me and be introverted and permitted as much

(01:02:53):
as possible. Humans were created to be social creatures, but
social in a healthy ways, and social by actually being
within each other's presence, not behind a bunch of fake
user names. You know, being up to know dog on good.

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Mistic experiences can create anxiety and depression. When people look
online and see they're excluded from an activity, It can
affect thoughts and feelings and can affect them physically. Again,
same exact stuff was happening before social media came in,
Especially in the high school. You had certain people who

(01:03:42):
clicked up, and if you didn't, you didn't meet certain qualifications.
You couldn't be part of that clique just the way
it was. Social media just allows for that same way
of thinking to just happen on a bigger and a
global scale. A twenty eighteen British study tied social media

(01:04:08):
use to decreased disrupted delayed sleep, oh and delayed sleep,
which is associated with depression, memory loss, and poor academic performance.
Social media use can affect users' health even more directly.
Researchers know the connection between the mind and the gut

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can turn anxiety and depression into nausea, headaches, muscle tension,
and trimmers. I love my sleep, and I don't like
it when it's disrupted by anything, you know, even if

(01:04:51):
I got to get up to use the bathroom. So
I darned well SHORE ain't taken away from my own
sleep by seeing what the latest whatever is on social media. Nah,
but there are people out there who do it. There
are people who do it all right. The earlier teens

(01:05:17):
start using social media, the greater impact the platforms have
on mental health. Haha. This is especially true for females. Again,
exactly what I said a few minutes ago. While team
males tend to express aggressions physically, females do so relationally

(01:05:38):
by excluding others and sharing hurtful comments. Social media increases
the opportunity for such harmful interactions, y'all. Again, going back
to my teen years, teen girls would like that backing
dog on nineties, and I'm sure they were like that
in the eighties, the seventies, the sixties and so warth

(01:06:00):
and so on. Again, Like I said, all social media
allows for it is for the mean girls to be
mean girls on a more public and global scale. But
there's still being mean girls that the way they've been
for decades, for decades. Humans gonna human, y'all. They don't change.

(01:06:31):
They do not change. All Right. We're not gonna read
this entire article because it's a lot, but yeah, I
mainly just wanted to focus on that point.

Speaker 3 (01:06:42):
About the the mental and physical effects that it has,
and definitely focus in and show some of the teenage
specifically effects that it has on them.

Speaker 1 (01:06:57):
And I'm gonna post them. I'm a being past the
link to this article in the videos description, So you
want to check it out for yourself, you can definitely
go there and read the whole thing. Like I said,
the entire article is good, but I'm gonna go ahead
and cut it right there, because like I hit on

(01:07:17):
the stuff that I really wanted to. So, yes, yes, yes,
y'all lovers of themselves, people so in love with themselves
or so willing to do things so that they can

(01:07:38):
get the same amount of likes and comments and shares
and attention that other people get because well, other people
are getting it and I want it to yeah my way.
As a word that it's called coveting, jealousy, wanting something
very very bad that belongs to somebody else, even going

(01:08:03):
so far in certain instances as to cause harm or
do things that will get yourself put in the harm
to achieve these things not worth it, not worth it.

(01:08:24):
And again, being just so in love with yourself that
you'll post stuff out there that you're not even thinking
about the long term ramifications of it, because like I said,
the Internet is forever. You may think you're deleting and
getting rid of something, you might be deleting it off
your channel or off your page or whatever. Somebody you know,

(01:08:49):
somebody has it, somebody can find it. So it's not
worth it. It is really not worth it, y'all. And
that quest for likes, that quest for likes, just saying

(01:09:12):
and doing anything like I said that, mind the fact
of the effects that can have on you. I think about, Okay,
your family, your neighborhood, if you work at a job,
all right, the company you're representing that you work for,
all this stuff. There have been people who've been fired

(01:09:34):
because of what they've done on social media. And it's
especially the ones that are stupid enough to do whatever
they did actually at their job, or to mention their job,
or to do something to their coworkers up whatever them.

(01:09:56):
I tell y'all that I actually do work a regular
nine to five. Did not a single one of you
has ever heard me mention the name of that company,
And you won't hear me mention the name of that
company because that's separate. That's completely separate, and because I

(01:10:19):
don't want to. First and foremost, I'm not doing anything
on the Internet that's going to bring harm or shame
to myself first and foremost. Second of all, yeah, I'm
not even thinking about the company I work at. Next,
I'm thinking about my family and you know the negative
gramifications and effects that they have on them. If I

(01:10:42):
was just so in love with the idea of getting
lights and shares and comments that I would just do
something trifling or stupid or whatever. So not worth it, y'all,
Not worth it, Not worth it. Be in love with God. Okay,
ask Jesus into your heart to wash you clean so

(01:11:05):
you can be saved. Because like I said, it's not
this flesh that we're praying and working on staying saving.
It is the soul and the blood of Jesus is
the only thing that can do it, the only thing,
all right, So again we will stop this this here,

(01:11:30):
and next week we'll go ahead and knock out the
last couple of scriptures and tie this whole thing and
bring it on home God willing, you know, we're able
to come back and do that. And so guys, be safe,
be responsible with whatever you do online, and also keep

(01:11:52):
the families and the children and your thoughts and your prayers.
We've had last I saw county two school shootings within
a week. Horrible, horrible bow on top of everything else

(01:12:13):
that's going on, in this country and in this world,
two school shootings within a week. Matter of fact, when
I saw the video flash through for the second one,
I thought they were talking about the one that happened
last week. Wait a minute, No, that's a whole different
name again, even though that wasn't on social media. Lovers

(01:12:42):
of themselves, people so concerned with their own thought process,
so concerned with getting out there whatever it is that
they wanted to do that they felt was right and
justified shooting up schools. Kids had absolutely nothing to do

(01:13:04):
with this. But here's where we are. And well, not
trying to be a DeBie downer or a naysayer or
any of that. No, I'm trying to be a student
of the Bible when I say this is that things
are just going to continue to get worse before they

(01:13:25):
get better. People ask me all the time change. Do
you ever think things are going to go back to
this way or you think things are going to change?
I'm like, yeah, but not in this age. Like when
you see that that sky there crack open and you
see those white horses come down and that one leading them. Yeah,
but when he goes over to that part of the

(01:13:49):
world between what we know is Northern Africa and the
Middle East and sets back up the throne of David
and his kingdom. I'm like, yeah, things will change then,
but until then, nah, it's just gonna get worse. So
even having said that, y'all, don't let that make you
become a worst person. Try to love people the best

(01:14:12):
way you can, even if you have to do it
from afar. Try to help people the best way you can,
best that you can, and don't let people change you. Rememory.
We cannot control how people treat us, but we have
full control over how we treat other people, all right,
So I do thank y'all as always for joining me

(01:14:36):
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