August 13, 2025 • 11 mins
In this episode of The Brugmansia Podcast, we explore the tender terrain of soul connections that never fully bloomed—those loves that stirred something deep but never took root. Through reflection, release, and ritual, we honor the silent grief of what could’ve been and reclaim our power to say a sacred goodbye.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hello and welcome to the Brogmancia Podcast, where healing isn't
just a buzzword, It's a lifestyle. I'm your host, Charlotte E. Adams, wife, mom, daughter, attorney,
licensed therapist, heart centered hypno therapist, founder of Brogmancia Counseling Group,
(00:26):
which is located in Farmington Hills, Michigan, where healing blooms
one soul, one story, one pedal at a time. And
I'm a fellow traveler on this wild, beautiful journey called life.
Every Wednesday, we get real about mental health, emotional wellness,
(00:49):
and the kind of growth that starts from within, whether
you're deeply invested in personal development or just beginning to
explore what healing means. Thanks to you, this space is
for you. Here we blend science and soul, therapy and
(01:09):
truth telling because healing should be intentional, rooted, and yes,
deeply transformational. So take a deep breath, settle in, and
join me each Wednesday as we glow up, grow deep,
(01:30):
and gently let go. Hello. Hello, Bregmancia family, Welcome back
to the Bregmancia Podcast. I am your host, Charlotte Adams,
and today in the Charlotte Corner, the message is there
(01:53):
is no such thing as wasted light. Even the dimmest
can ignite rebirth. The times when you felt unseen, unheard, undone,
those were not failures. They were rootings, deep, sacred burials
(02:15):
of strength that now rise as power. Nothing you've lived
through is in vain. Your healing is the harvest. Okay,
(02:36):
So the title of this podcast today is the Love
that Didn't Happen, Soul ties, silence, and sacred goodbyes. I'm
not sure who needs to hear this today, but this
is going to get deep. And if this touched you,
(02:59):
please go on TikTok, Facebook, Instagram, Brigmanciaccounseling and like us,
Yeah it's this may strike a chord. So again, you know,
welcome back to the Brig Nancy Podcast. And this space
(03:22):
is sacred, this space is soft, and this space is honest.
And in today's episode, it's an offering for anyone who's
ever asked, why didn't it work? Did they ever love me?
How do I release someone I never really had? This
(03:46):
episode is for the tender souls carrying an invisible heartbreak,
for the ones grieving what could have been, for those
who still wonder about a person who walked in and
out without fully staying. Today, we're gonna talk about the
(04:10):
love that didn't happen and the soul growth that does.
Have you ever locked eyes with someone and felt something ancient,
a moment where time bends, where you know them without
(04:31):
needing to know why. Maybe it was a soft familiarity,
a forgotten dream, a feeling of home. That's what people
often call a soul time. It doesn't always lead to
romance or commitment. Sometimes it leads to silence, to detours,
(04:53):
to missed moments. But here's the truth. No one tells us.
Be because something is real doesn't mean it's meant to last.
Just because a soul knows doesn't mean the path is clear.
(05:15):
Some connections are meant to awaken us, not keep us.
One of the most painful things is loving someone who
never says how they truly feel. They leave doors halfway open.
(05:36):
They may say maybe when your heart needs a yes.
They show up when it's too late, or disappear when
you need clarity. Sometimes we fall for potential, but potential
is not partnership. And yet when the soul knows what
it knows, it's hard to let go. You may tell yourself,
(06:01):
if I was more patient. Maybe they choose me. If
I had gone to see them that time, maybe we'll
be together now. If I had been less emotional, more detached,
maybe they would have stayed. But here's the truth, beloved,
(06:22):
you were not too much, You were not confusing, You
were not wrong for waiting or wanting clarity. They were
simply not ready to hold you in the way you deserved.
What happens when they never say what you need to hear,
(06:43):
When you ask them if they loved you and they
never answer your question. That's where grief becomes sacred, because
now you become your own witness. You stop waiting for
their clarity and be again offering your own. You say
to yourself, I know what I felt. I don't need
(07:07):
them to validate my knowing. I released them from their silence,
and I released myself from waiting, and slowly, with every
ex hell, you let go of the need to understand
them and step into the power of understanding yourself. Not
(07:30):
every soul tie ends in union. Some are meant to
crack us open, to teach us about longing, discernment and
divine boundaries. Some are mirrors to that very womb we
came to heal and maybe that wound was abandonment, emotional withholding, powerlessness,
(07:59):
yearning for someone to choose us. But here's the blessing.
When you finally choose you, the pattern ends. You become
the one who no longer begs for clarity. You become
the one who blesses them in silence and walks away
(08:20):
in wholeness. You become the one who says, this unfinished
love does not define me. I am still worthy of
a fool and present love. If you feel called, I
invite you into a space of release. If you choose,
(08:48):
you can write a light a candle and write a
letter that you'll never sin but to say it all,
everything that your heart has to the way, Just write
it out, and after completing your letter, speak these words
out loud to the soul who stirred me awake. Thank you.
(09:16):
I released the grip of wondering, of waiting, of wishing.
I trust that if you were mine, you would have stayed.
I now open to the love that chooses me fully,
(09:36):
and I offer myself the devotion you couldnot. Let the
tears come if they need to. Grief is a sacred guest.
You may never know what they felt, but you now
(09:59):
know what you feel. You know you're capable of deep love,
of seeing someone's soul, of holding space for more than
surface level living. And that is your gift, and it
(10:21):
is not wasted on someone who couldn't receive it. So,
my dear, walk forward, hole wiser, soft, but sovereign. The
right love won't leave you wondering. The right love will
(10:46):
speak the truth you've always known. This has been the
Brogmancia Podcast. If this episode held your heart, or share
it with someone carrying silent grief, and until next time,
(11:09):
subscribe like us, Facebook, Instagram, TikTok. Stay rooted, stay open,
Stay true to the love that starts within. Take care,
Hello and welcome to the Brogmancia Podcast, where healing isn't
just a buzzword, It's a lifestyle. I'm your host, Charlotte E. Adams, wife, mom, daughter, attorney,
licensed therapist, heart centered hypno therapist, founder of Brogmancia Counseling Group,
(00:26):
which is located in Farmington Hills, Michigan, where healing blooms
one soul, one story, one pedal at a time. And
I'm a fellow traveler on this wild, beautiful journey called life.
Every Wednesday, we get real about mental health, emotional wellness,
(00:49):
and the kind of growth that starts from within, whether
you're deeply invested in personal development or just beginning to
explore what healing means. Thanks to you, this space is
for you. Here we blend science and soul, therapy and
(01:09):
truth telling because healing should be intentional, rooted, and yes,
deeply transformational. So take a deep breath, settle in, and
join me each Wednesday as we glow up, grow deep,
(01:30):
and gently let go. Hello. Hello, Bregmancia family, Welcome back
to the Bregmancia Podcast. I am your host, Charlotte Adams,
and today in the Charlotte Corner, the message is there
(01:53):
is no such thing as wasted light. Even the dimmest
can ignite rebirth. The times when you felt unseen, unheard, undone,
those were not failures. They were rootings, deep, sacred burials
(02:15):
of strength that now rise as power. Nothing you've lived
through is in vain. Your healing is the harvest. Okay,
(02:36):
So the title of this podcast today is the Love
that Didn't Happen, Soul ties, silence, and sacred goodbyes. I'm
not sure who needs to hear this today, but this
is going to get deep. And if this touched you,
(02:59):
please go on TikTok, Facebook, Instagram, Brigmanciaccounseling and like us,
Yeah it's this may strike a chord. So again, you know,
welcome back to the Brig Nancy Podcast. And this space
(03:22):
is sacred, this space is soft, and this space is honest.
And in today's episode, it's an offering for anyone who's
ever asked, why didn't it work? Did they ever love me?
How do I release someone I never really had? This
(03:46):
episode is for the tender souls carrying an invisible heartbreak,
for the ones grieving what could have been, for those
who still wonder about a person who walked in and
out without fully staying. Today, we're gonna talk about the
(04:10):
love that didn't happen and the soul growth that does.
Have you ever locked eyes with someone and felt something ancient,
a moment where time bends, where you know them without
(04:31):
needing to know why. Maybe it was a soft familiarity,
a forgotten dream, a feeling of home. That's what people
often call a soul time. It doesn't always lead to
romance or commitment. Sometimes it leads to silence, to detours,
(04:53):
to missed moments. But here's the truth. No one tells us.
Be because something is real doesn't mean it's meant to last.
Just because a soul knows doesn't mean the path is clear.
(05:15):
Some connections are meant to awaken us, not keep us.
One of the most painful things is loving someone who
never says how they truly feel. They leave doors halfway open.
(05:36):
They may say maybe when your heart needs a yes.
They show up when it's too late, or disappear when
you need clarity. Sometimes we fall for potential, but potential
is not partnership. And yet when the soul knows what
it knows, it's hard to let go. You may tell yourself,
(06:01):
if I was more patient. Maybe they choose me. If
I had gone to see them that time, maybe we'll
be together now. If I had been less emotional, more detached,
maybe they would have stayed. But here's the truth, beloved,
(06:22):
you were not too much, You were not confusing, You
were not wrong for waiting or wanting clarity. They were
simply not ready to hold you in the way you deserved.
What happens when they never say what you need to hear,
(06:43):
When you ask them if they loved you and they
never answer your question. That's where grief becomes sacred, because
now you become your own witness. You stop waiting for
their clarity and be again offering your own. You say
to yourself, I know what I felt. I don't need
(07:07):
them to validate my knowing. I released them from their silence,
and I released myself from waiting, and slowly, with every
ex hell, you let go of the need to understand
them and step into the power of understanding yourself. Not
(07:30):
every soul tie ends in union. Some are meant to
crack us open, to teach us about longing, discernment and
divine boundaries. Some are mirrors to that very womb we
came to heal and maybe that wound was abandonment, emotional withholding, powerlessness,
(07:59):
yearning for someone to choose us. But here's the blessing.
When you finally choose you, the pattern ends. You become
the one who no longer begs for clarity. You become
the one who blesses them in silence and walks away
(08:20):
in wholeness. You become the one who says, this unfinished
love does not define me. I am still worthy of
a fool and present love. If you feel called, I
invite you into a space of release. If you choose,
(08:48):
you can write a light a candle and write a
letter that you'll never sin but to say it all,
everything that your heart has to the way, Just write
it out, and after completing your letter, speak these words
out loud to the soul who stirred me awake. Thank you.
(09:16):
I released the grip of wondering, of waiting, of wishing.
I trust that if you were mine, you would have stayed.
I now open to the love that chooses me fully,
(09:36):
and I offer myself the devotion you couldnot. Let the
tears come if they need to. Grief is a sacred guest.
You may never know what they felt, but you now
(09:59):
know what you feel. You know you're capable of deep love,
of seeing someone's soul, of holding space for more than
surface level living. And that is your gift, and it
(10:21):
is not wasted on someone who couldn't receive it. So,
my dear, walk forward, hole wiser, soft, but sovereign. The
right love won't leave you wondering. The right love will
(10:46):
speak the truth you've always known. This has been the
Brogmancia Podcast. If this episode held your heart, or share
it with someone carrying silent grief, and until next time,
(11:09):
subscribe like us, Facebook, Instagram, TikTok. Stay rooted, stay open,
Stay true to the love that starts within. Take care,
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