September 3, 2025 • 12 mins
In this soul-stirring episode titled "I'm Done," Charla E. Adams explores the sacred power of choosing yourself, drawing the line, and walking away from what no longer honors your spirit. It's a raw, healing conversation for anyone ready to end the cycle of overgiving and finally reclaim their peace.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hello, and welcome to the Bragmancia Podcast, where healing isn't
just a buzzword, It's a lifestyle. I'm your host, Charlotte E. Adams, wife, mom, daughter, attorney,
licensed therapist, heart centered hypno therapist, founder of Bromancia Counseling Group,
(00:26):
which is located in Farmington Hills, Michigan, where healing blooms
one soul, one story, one pedal at a time. And
I'm a fellow traveler on this wild, beautiful journey called life.
Every Wednesday, we get real about mental health, emotional wellness,
(00:49):
and the kind of growth that starts from within. Whether
you're deeply invested in personal development or just beginning to
explore what healing means to you, this space is for you.
Here we blend science and soul, therapy and truth telling
(01:11):
because healing should be intentional, rooted, and yes, deeply transformational.
So take a deep breath, settle in, and join me
each Wednesday as we glow up, grow deep, and gently
(01:32):
let go. Hello. Hello, Bragmancia family. This is Charlotte Adams,
your host for Bragmancia Podcast. And before we jump into
the Charlotte Corner, just want to give a few announcements.
I want to let you all know about my books.
(01:54):
They are now officially available on Amazon. I have the
People's Healing Path to Deep Sacred Union, which is a
journal to deepening's intimacy, trust and sacred connection. There is
Beautifully Tying Tye hyphen I inng The Pieces Together, which
(02:18):
is an introduction to counseling for you, and I have
out there on Amazon Harnessing your Supernatural Wellness, a guide
to creating your own in home sacred healing guard. And
that is not all drum roll. I am also hosting
(02:42):
a full day women's retreat entitled Worthy and Wealthy. It
is a nervous system reset, a sacred worth activation circle.
Only ten women can come, So if you are feeling called,
(03:05):
please you know, take heed and sign up. I think
I have a couple of more spots left. The date
of this event is going to be Saturday, September the thirteenth.
Lots of surprises, some gifts, some deep work. If you
are meant to be there, just you'll you won't be
(03:30):
let down. It's gonna be from eight thirty am to
five pm. The cost is two two two two hundred
and twenty two and this is an investment in you.
This is an intimate event. Like I said, only ten
spots available, and honestly I believe just a few are left.
But in this event, you will release hustle, trauma, you
(03:53):
will rewire your self worth, and you will reclaim the soft,
sovereign life you were want to live. So call my
office two four eight nine o't seven seven nine ninety six.
If this is something that is really speaking to you,
do it sooner than later. Save this spot. It's coming
(04:13):
up soon. All right. Now we're gonna jump into the
Charlotte corner. And what I want to say here is
regulation before revulation. True insight comes after safety. If you're
(04:38):
spinning and overwhelmed, don't force yourself to figure it all out. First.
Regulate ground your feet, place your hand on your heart.
Breathe into your stomach, your abdomen. When your body is anchored,
your mind and your spirit naturally open to deeper truth.
(05:02):
All right, So, welcome back to the Brognancia Podcast, where
we explore the sacred intersections of healing, wholeness and heartlet living.
I'm your host, Charlotte Adams. I'm a therapist, an attorney,
hypno therapist, and a woman who's walked through the fire
and still chooses to rise with softness. And so today's
(05:27):
episode is titled I'm done. Not in a bitter way,
not in a let me throw everything away kind of way,
but in that soul, honest, moral, deep whisper of truth.
I can't do this anymore, and I won't. Let's talk
(05:53):
about the moment when you break, not emotionally, not dramatically,
but spiritually, the moment when you finally hear your own
silence and realize you've been negotiating your worth with people
who never plan to pay full price. When you say,
(06:15):
I'm done caring what doesn't belong to me, Done explaining
yourself to people committed to misunderstanding you. Done being the
emotional sponge, the strong one, the fixer, the one who
swallows her voice to keep the peace family being, done
(06:37):
performing wellness while bleeding inside. Clinically speaking, when clients say
I'm done, it often marks a rupture in their attachment system,
a healthy rupture. It's a sign the nervous system has
(07:01):
reached full capacity. It's no longer adaptive to stay, whether
it's a job, a relationship, a role you've outgrown. The
I'm done. Moment signals a shift from survival mode to
self preservation. In therapy, I call this the emergence point,
(07:23):
that thin place between collapse and reclamation. You don't have
to burn bridges, but you are allowed to stop crossing
bridges that lead you away from yourself. Let's call them
out together. I'm done with emotional labor that isn't mutual.
(07:48):
I'm done explaining how I feel to people who refuse
to listen. I'm done over performing for love, for approval,
for crumbs. I'm done care carrying family roles that suffocate
my soul. I'm done playing therapist to people who don't
want to heal. I'm done betraying myself in the name
(08:10):
of keeping the peace. I'm done shrinking to make others
feel big. Say it out loud. I'm done, and I'm
still divine. Let's do a mini grounding. Take a deep
(08:33):
breath with me, handover heart, handover womb, your abdomen. Feel
that fire rising in you, not rage, not spite, but
sacred self, truth, and repeat after me. I honor the
version of me who stay too long. I choose the
(08:54):
version of me who chooses myself. Now give myself permission
to walk away, not in fear, but in fullness. Bringnancia family.
You are allowed to say no, You are allowed to
change your mind. You are allowed to stop mid sentence
(09:15):
and pivot. Saying I'm done doesn't make you weak, It
makes you wise. Real talk. This week, I ask some
individuals to message me about what they're done with, and
(09:36):
here are some of their brave and beautiful replies. I'm
done being the peacemaker in my family while everyone else
gets to yell. I'm done asking him to love me
better when he's shown me who he is. I'm done
(09:57):
waiting for my job to see my value. I'm starting
my own thing. Yes to all of it. Let this
episode be your permission slip. Ask yourself tonight or today,
(10:19):
or in this moment? Where have I stayed too long?
What am I still tolerating that my soul is begging
me to end? Who would I be if I released
the roles that are no longer mine to carry? Write
(10:43):
it down and if safe, burn the page if you
need to, or come back and listen to this episode
as many times as you need. You are not dramatic
for drawing the line. You are not selfish for choosing
yourself and you are not weak for walking away. You
(11:06):
are evolving. Thank you, Thank you for being here in
this moment with me. If you're here, it was meant
for you to be. Thank you for doing this healing
work alongside Bregmancia podcast. And if this episode resonated, please
(11:29):
share it with someone who's ready to say. I'm done,
but I'm not destroyed. I'm just beginning. Like us on
our social media platforms, subscribe to Bregnancia, give us a review,
and I look forward to seeing you next Wednesday, and
(11:52):
until then, be gentle with you
Hello, and welcome to the Bragmancia Podcast, where healing isn't
just a buzzword, It's a lifestyle. I'm your host, Charlotte E. Adams, wife, mom, daughter, attorney,
licensed therapist, heart centered hypno therapist, founder of Bromancia Counseling Group,
(00:26):
which is located in Farmington Hills, Michigan, where healing blooms
one soul, one story, one pedal at a time. And
I'm a fellow traveler on this wild, beautiful journey called life.
Every Wednesday, we get real about mental health, emotional wellness,
(00:49):
and the kind of growth that starts from within. Whether
you're deeply invested in personal development or just beginning to
explore what healing means to you, this space is for you.
Here we blend science and soul, therapy and truth telling
(01:11):
because healing should be intentional, rooted, and yes, deeply transformational.
So take a deep breath, settle in, and join me
each Wednesday as we glow up, grow deep, and gently
(01:32):
let go. Hello. Hello, Bragmancia family. This is Charlotte Adams,
your host for Bragmancia Podcast. And before we jump into
the Charlotte Corner, just want to give a few announcements.
I want to let you all know about my books.
(01:54):
They are now officially available on Amazon. I have the
People's Healing Path to Deep Sacred Union, which is a
journal to deepening's intimacy, trust and sacred connection. There is
Beautifully Tying Tye hyphen I inng The Pieces Together, which
(02:18):
is an introduction to counseling for you, and I have
out there on Amazon Harnessing your Supernatural Wellness, a guide
to creating your own in home sacred healing guard. And
that is not all drum roll. I am also hosting
(02:42):
a full day women's retreat entitled Worthy and Wealthy. It
is a nervous system reset, a sacred worth activation circle.
Only ten women can come, So if you are feeling called,
(03:05):
please you know, take heed and sign up. I think
I have a couple of more spots left. The date
of this event is going to be Saturday, September the thirteenth.
Lots of surprises, some gifts, some deep work. If you
are meant to be there, just you'll you won't be
(03:30):
let down. It's gonna be from eight thirty am to
five pm. The cost is two two two two hundred
and twenty two and this is an investment in you.
This is an intimate event. Like I said, only ten
spots available, and honestly I believe just a few are left.
But in this event, you will release hustle, trauma, you
(03:53):
will rewire your self worth, and you will reclaim the soft,
sovereign life you were want to live. So call my
office two four eight nine o't seven seven nine ninety six.
If this is something that is really speaking to you,
do it sooner than later. Save this spot. It's coming
(04:13):
up soon. All right. Now we're gonna jump into the
Charlotte corner. And what I want to say here is
regulation before revulation. True insight comes after safety. If you're
(04:38):
spinning and overwhelmed, don't force yourself to figure it all out. First.
Regulate ground your feet, place your hand on your heart.
Breathe into your stomach, your abdomen. When your body is anchored,
your mind and your spirit naturally open to deeper truth.
(05:02):
All right, So, welcome back to the Brognancia Podcast, where
we explore the sacred intersections of healing, wholeness and heartlet living.
I'm your host, Charlotte Adams. I'm a therapist, an attorney,
hypno therapist, and a woman who's walked through the fire
and still chooses to rise with softness. And so today's
(05:27):
episode is titled I'm done. Not in a bitter way,
not in a let me throw everything away kind of way,
but in that soul, honest, moral, deep whisper of truth.
I can't do this anymore, and I won't. Let's talk
(05:53):
about the moment when you break, not emotionally, not dramatically,
but spiritually, the moment when you finally hear your own
silence and realize you've been negotiating your worth with people
who never plan to pay full price. When you say,
(06:15):
I'm done caring what doesn't belong to me, Done explaining
yourself to people committed to misunderstanding you. Done being the
emotional sponge, the strong one, the fixer, the one who
swallows her voice to keep the peace family being, done
(06:37):
performing wellness while bleeding inside. Clinically speaking, when clients say
I'm done, it often marks a rupture in their attachment system,
a healthy rupture. It's a sign the nervous system has
(07:01):
reached full capacity. It's no longer adaptive to stay, whether
it's a job, a relationship, a role you've outgrown. The
I'm done. Moment signals a shift from survival mode to
self preservation. In therapy, I call this the emergence point,
(07:23):
that thin place between collapse and reclamation. You don't have
to burn bridges, but you are allowed to stop crossing
bridges that lead you away from yourself. Let's call them
out together. I'm done with emotional labor that isn't mutual.
(07:48):
I'm done explaining how I feel to people who refuse
to listen. I'm done over performing for love, for approval,
for crumbs. I'm done care carrying family roles that suffocate
my soul. I'm done playing therapist to people who don't
want to heal. I'm done betraying myself in the name
(08:10):
of keeping the peace. I'm done shrinking to make others
feel big. Say it out loud. I'm done, and I'm
still divine. Let's do a mini grounding. Take a deep
(08:33):
breath with me, handover heart, handover womb, your abdomen. Feel
that fire rising in you, not rage, not spite, but
sacred self, truth, and repeat after me. I honor the
version of me who stay too long. I choose the
(08:54):
version of me who chooses myself. Now give myself permission
to walk away, not in fear, but in fullness. Bringnancia family.
You are allowed to say no, You are allowed to
change your mind. You are allowed to stop mid sentence
(09:15):
and pivot. Saying I'm done doesn't make you weak, It
makes you wise. Real talk. This week, I ask some
individuals to message me about what they're done with, and
(09:36):
here are some of their brave and beautiful replies. I'm
done being the peacemaker in my family while everyone else
gets to yell. I'm done asking him to love me
better when he's shown me who he is. I'm done
(09:57):
waiting for my job to see my value. I'm starting
my own thing. Yes to all of it. Let this
episode be your permission slip. Ask yourself tonight or today,
(10:19):
or in this moment? Where have I stayed too long?
What am I still tolerating that my soul is begging
me to end? Who would I be if I released
the roles that are no longer mine to carry? Write
(10:43):
it down and if safe, burn the page if you
need to, or come back and listen to this episode
as many times as you need. You are not dramatic
for drawing the line. You are not selfish for choosing
yourself and you are not weak for walking away. You
(11:06):
are evolving. Thank you, Thank you for being here in
this moment with me. If you're here, it was meant
for you to be. Thank you for doing this healing
work alongside Bregmancia podcast. And if this episode resonated, please
(11:29):
share it with someone who's ready to say. I'm done,
but I'm not destroyed. I'm just beginning. Like us on
our social media platforms, subscribe to Bregnancia, give us a review,
and I look forward to seeing you next Wednesday, and
(11:52):
until then, be gentle with you
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