September 19, 2025 • 11 mins
This episode reveals the healing power of saying NO, not as rejection. But as sacred protection. Discover how boundaries can become medicine for your body, mind, and soul.Creating space for what truly matters.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hello and welcome to the Bragmancia Podcast, where healing isn't
just a buzzword, It's a lifestyle. I'm your host, Charlotte E. Adams, wife, mom, daughter, attorney,
licensed therapist, heart centered hypno therapist, founder of Bromancia Counseling Group,
(00:26):
which is located in Farmington Hills, Michigan, where healing blooms
one soul, one story, one pedal at a time. And
I'm a fellow traveler on this wild, beautiful journey called life.
Every Wednesday, we get real about mental health, emotional wellness,
(00:49):
and the kind of growth that starts from within. Whether
you're deeply invested in personal development or just beginning to
explore what healing means to you, this space is for you.
Here we blend science and soul, therapy and truth telling
(01:11):
because healing should be intentional, rooted and yes, deeply transformational.
So take a deep breath, settle in and join me
each Wednesday as we glow up, grow deep, and gently
(01:32):
let go. Hello. Hello, Hello, and welcome back to the
Bragmancia Podcast. I am your host Charlotte Adams, and again
just want to remind everyone about the exciting news of
my books. They are now all officially available on Amazon.
(01:58):
You have the first book, Couples here, Path to Deep
Sacred Union, which is a journal to deepening intimacy, trust,
and sacred connection within your relationship. There's also a bonus workbook,
Connection Workbook at the back. It's a thirty day journal
where partner one will journal one day, Partner two can
(02:20):
look at partner one's journal and do comments while beginning
their journaling, and you go deeper and talk about different
topics than that same old regular subject matter that keeps
you all stuck. Trust me, this will elevate your relationship.
(02:42):
Got to give you second book, Beautifully Tying the Pieces
Together time spelled tye hyphening. And this is just an
introduction to counseling for you. It has lots of activities
in it. It helps even at home to be able
to teach to their mindfulness and you know tools to
(03:05):
be able to help in day to day problem solving,
Thanking Calmness, really really good foundational book for children. And
then my third book, Harnessing Your Supernatural Wellness. And this
is just a guide to creating your own in home
(03:28):
sacred healing garden. Also letting you know and I'm not
sure if I should say this publicly or not. We
may be full, but I'm gonna go ahead and say
it and take a chance. And maybe this is just
put on my heart because there is somebody who hasn't
(03:49):
registered but really really needs this. So I will I
said it last week, but I will say it this
week again, hoping my system may be like, Okay, we've
met our deadline. But I'm not sure if for whatever reason,
I'm just gonna announce it my worthy and wealthy Full
(04:10):
Days Women Retreat. It's September the thirteenth. It's a nervous
system reset. We're doing a sacred women's circle. This will
get deep, really really really deep. I'm excited about it.
There's things here that whoa, whoa, whoa whoa. I can't
even put I can't even put it into words. But
(04:34):
the cause is to two two, two hundred and twenty two.
Like I said, this is an intimate invite, only ten spots.
You know, only ten people can come. But you're gonna
release hustle trauma, You're gonna rewind your self worth and
you're gonna reclaim the selt sovereign you that you're born
to live. So if you're interested. Hopefully we have a
(04:58):
spot or two last left. I'm not sure should have checked,
but contact the office two four eight nine x seven
seven nine ninety six. All right, we're jumping into the
Charlotte corner and I want to give this message. It's
(05:19):
I just need to tell this story. So a a
man lost his mother and he couldn't stop apologizing for
crying in front of his children. I don't want them
to see me weak, he said. And he then told
(05:41):
that his seven year old daughter looked up at him,
tears in her own eyes, and said, Daddy, you cry
like me. And that was the moment he realized grief
wasn't weakness, it was love with nowhere to go. By
(06:01):
allowing his children to see him grieve, he gave them
permission to honor their own hearts. So Brokenancia, family, grief
is not something to hide. It is proof that you
loved deeply. All right. So the title of this podcast
(06:28):
today is the Medicine of saying No. Welcome back to
the Brokemancia Podcast. I am Charlotte Adams, and today I'm
going to talk about a word that often feels sharp, scary,
(06:48):
or even selfish, but in truth It is one of
the most healing medicines we can ever learn to speak.
The word noh. No is not rejection, it's protection. It's
a boundary. It's a way of saying yes to what
(07:10):
truly matters. So why do we fear no? Well, many
of us grew up equating no with disobedience and conflict
or rejection and silence often felt safer than setting boundaries.
Trauma and conditioning can make no feel like betrayal of
(07:32):
others instead of an act of loyalty to self. I
have a question for you. When did I first learn
that saying no was dangerous or wrong? Hmm? I want
to now get into the hidden cost of saying yes.
(07:54):
Every unaligned yes pulls us away from our truth. Over
giving leads to resentment, exhaustion, and disconnection from self. The
metaphor saying yes when you mean no. It's like drinking
poison to keep someone else comfortable. Nervous system piece the
(08:19):
body often tells the truth before we do. A tight stomach,
a heavy chest, your jaw clenching. Your body's giving you
the message of no. So no as medicine, let me
(08:40):
offer three reframes no create space for yes. Every no
clear space for alignment. No is protection, not punishment. It
choows your energy, peace and calling, and no oh is
(09:00):
an affirmation of self worth. Each no whispers I matter,
My needs matter. I want you to take a deep
breath and imagine a moment in your life where you
wanted to say no but didn't feel into that memory?
(09:26):
Where does it sit in your body? Now with your exhale,
whispers softly no, do it again this time firmer no,
and now one more time, clear, strong and steady No.
(09:50):
Notice what shifts in your body when your truth is
given sound. Let's talk about learning to say no with compassion.
How about no because I value my peace, No because
(10:11):
I choose alignment, No because I love myself enough to
stop betraying myself. I have another question for you, bring Nancy,
your family. What are you ready to begin saying no
to so you can finally say yes to yourself? Family?
(10:41):
I want to and by just giving you this beautiful closing,
may your no be medicine. May it heal the parts
of you that forgot your worth, and may it protect
the sacred ground of your life. And may every know
(11:06):
you speak lead you closer to your truest yes. Thank you.
Thank you so much for tuning in to this podcast today.
Please share it, go on social medias like us review it.
(11:29):
I am so grateful for these moments with you on
Wednesday and until next time, check in with yourself. Be
honest with yourself and with others.
Hello and welcome to the Bragmancia Podcast, where healing isn't
just a buzzword, It's a lifestyle. I'm your host, Charlotte E. Adams, wife, mom, daughter, attorney,
licensed therapist, heart centered hypno therapist, founder of Bromancia Counseling Group,
(00:26):
which is located in Farmington Hills, Michigan, where healing blooms
one soul, one story, one pedal at a time. And
I'm a fellow traveler on this wild, beautiful journey called life.
Every Wednesday, we get real about mental health, emotional wellness,
(00:49):
and the kind of growth that starts from within. Whether
you're deeply invested in personal development or just beginning to
explore what healing means to you, this space is for you.
Here we blend science and soul, therapy and truth telling
(01:11):
because healing should be intentional, rooted and yes, deeply transformational.
So take a deep breath, settle in and join me
each Wednesday as we glow up, grow deep, and gently
(01:32):
let go. Hello. Hello, Hello, and welcome back to the
Bragmancia Podcast. I am your host Charlotte Adams, and again
just want to remind everyone about the exciting news of
my books. They are now all officially available on Amazon.
(01:58):
You have the first book, Couples here, Path to Deep
Sacred Union, which is a journal to deepening intimacy, trust,
and sacred connection within your relationship. There's also a bonus workbook,
Connection Workbook at the back. It's a thirty day journal
where partner one will journal one day, Partner two can
(02:20):
look at partner one's journal and do comments while beginning
their journaling, and you go deeper and talk about different
topics than that same old regular subject matter that keeps
you all stuck. Trust me, this will elevate your relationship.
(02:42):
Got to give you second book, Beautifully Tying the Pieces
Together time spelled tye hyphening. And this is just an
introduction to counseling for you. It has lots of activities
in it. It helps even at home to be able
to teach to their mindfulness and you know tools to
(03:05):
be able to help in day to day problem solving,
Thanking Calmness, really really good foundational book for children. And
then my third book, Harnessing Your Supernatural Wellness. And this
is just a guide to creating your own in home
(03:28):
sacred healing garden. Also letting you know and I'm not
sure if I should say this publicly or not. We
may be full, but I'm gonna go ahead and say
it and take a chance. And maybe this is just
put on my heart because there is somebody who hasn't
(03:49):
registered but really really needs this. So I will I
said it last week, but I will say it this
week again, hoping my system may be like, Okay, we've
met our deadline. But I'm not sure if for whatever reason,
I'm just gonna announce it my worthy and wealthy Full
(04:10):
Days Women Retreat. It's September the thirteenth. It's a nervous
system reset. We're doing a sacred women's circle. This will
get deep, really really really deep. I'm excited about it.
There's things here that whoa, whoa, whoa whoa. I can't
even put I can't even put it into words. But
(04:34):
the cause is to two two, two hundred and twenty two.
Like I said, this is an intimate invite, only ten spots.
You know, only ten people can come. But you're gonna
release hustle trauma, You're gonna rewind your self worth and
you're gonna reclaim the selt sovereign you that you're born
to live. So if you're interested. Hopefully we have a
(04:58):
spot or two last left. I'm not sure should have checked,
but contact the office two four eight nine x seven
seven nine ninety six. All right, we're jumping into the
Charlotte corner and I want to give this message. It's
(05:19):
I just need to tell this story. So a a
man lost his mother and he couldn't stop apologizing for
crying in front of his children. I don't want them
to see me weak, he said. And he then told
(05:41):
that his seven year old daughter looked up at him,
tears in her own eyes, and said, Daddy, you cry
like me. And that was the moment he realized grief
wasn't weakness, it was love with nowhere to go. By
(06:01):
allowing his children to see him grieve, he gave them
permission to honor their own hearts. So Brokenancia, family, grief
is not something to hide. It is proof that you
loved deeply. All right. So the title of this podcast
(06:28):
today is the Medicine of saying No. Welcome back to
the Brokemancia Podcast. I am Charlotte Adams, and today I'm
going to talk about a word that often feels sharp, scary,
(06:48):
or even selfish, but in truth It is one of
the most healing medicines we can ever learn to speak.
The word noh. No is not rejection, it's protection. It's
a boundary. It's a way of saying yes to what
(07:10):
truly matters. So why do we fear no? Well, many
of us grew up equating no with disobedience and conflict
or rejection and silence often felt safer than setting boundaries.
Trauma and conditioning can make no feel like betrayal of
(07:32):
others instead of an act of loyalty to self. I
have a question for you. When did I first learn
that saying no was dangerous or wrong? Hmm? I want
to now get into the hidden cost of saying yes.
(07:54):
Every unaligned yes pulls us away from our truth. Over
giving leads to resentment, exhaustion, and disconnection from self. The
metaphor saying yes when you mean no. It's like drinking
poison to keep someone else comfortable. Nervous system piece the
(08:19):
body often tells the truth before we do. A tight stomach,
a heavy chest, your jaw clenching. Your body's giving you
the message of no. So no as medicine, let me
(08:40):
offer three reframes no create space for yes. Every no
clear space for alignment. No is protection, not punishment. It
choows your energy, peace and calling, and no oh is
(09:00):
an affirmation of self worth. Each no whispers I matter,
My needs matter. I want you to take a deep
breath and imagine a moment in your life where you
wanted to say no but didn't feel into that memory?
(09:26):
Where does it sit in your body? Now with your exhale,
whispers softly no, do it again this time firmer no,
and now one more time, clear, strong and steady No.
(09:50):
Notice what shifts in your body when your truth is
given sound. Let's talk about learning to say no with compassion.
How about no because I value my peace, No because
(10:11):
I choose alignment, No because I love myself enough to
stop betraying myself. I have another question for you, bring Nancy,
your family. What are you ready to begin saying no
to so you can finally say yes to yourself? Family?
(10:41):
I want to and by just giving you this beautiful closing,
may your no be medicine. May it heal the parts
of you that forgot your worth, and may it protect
the sacred ground of your life. And may every know
(11:06):
you speak lead you closer to your truest yes. Thank you.
Thank you so much for tuning in to this podcast today.
Please share it, go on social medias like us review it.
(11:29):
I am so grateful for these moments with you on
Wednesday and until next time, check in with yourself. Be
honest with yourself and with others.
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