June 18, 2025 • 9 mins
In this deeply compassionate episode, Charla E. Adams unpacks the quiet, heavy ache of parent guilt - the kind that lingers beneath even the most loving intentions.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hello and welcome to the Brogmancia Podcast, where healing isn't
just a buzzword, It's a lifestyle.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
I'm your host, Charlotte E.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Adams, wife, mom, daughter, attorney, licensed therapist, heart centered hypno therapist,
founder of Brogmancia Counseling Group, which is located in Farmington Hills, Michigan,
where healing blooms one soul, one story, one pedal at
(00:34):
a time. And I'm a fellow traveler on this wild,
beautiful journey called life. Every Wednesday, we get real about
mental health, emotional wellness, and the kind of growth that
starts from within. Whether you're deeply invested in personal development
(00:56):
or just beginning to explore what healing means to you,
this space is for you. Here we blend science and soul,
therapy and truth telling because healing should be intentional, rooted
and yes, deeply transformational. So take a deep breath, settle in,
(01:22):
and join me each Wednesday as we glow up, grow deep,
and gently let go.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Hello. Welcome, bringman Thief back to the Bringmancia Podcast. I
am your host, Charlotte Adams, and today in the Charlotte Corner,
the message is not all shadows are meant to be feared,
some guide you back to forgotten parts yourself. So today's
(02:05):
episode title is the truth about parent guilt, healing the
weight we carry. So just welcoming you back to the
Brigmancia podcast where we bring light to the shadows, language
(02:30):
to the silence, and healing to the hurt. And today
we're sitting with something tender parent guilt, that deep aching
feeling that whispers I should have done more.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
I messed that up?
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Am I breaking them? It's quiet, but it lives in
the bones. Some of you may know that before I
became a therapist and hypnotherapists, I worked for years as
a neglect and abuse attorney. I represented children and parents
(03:16):
and some of the most heartbreaking circumstances imaginable. I served
as a guardian at lightem standing in courtrooms to give
voice to children who couldn't advocate for themselves, and what
I learned from that work permanently changed the way I
see parents guilt and grace. First, most parents are not failing,
(03:44):
they're drowning. Let me tell you what I saw firsthand.
Most of the parents in the system weren't evil, they
were overwhelmed, unhealed, poor, unsupported. Many were children and grown
up bodies doing their best with the scraps they were handed.
(04:07):
And what I also saw was this love isn't always loud,
but it's there, even in the chaos, even in the mistakes.
That truth stayed with me. Two. Guilt is a sign
you care, but it can become a cage. Parents who
(04:33):
feel guilt are often the ones trying the hardest. You're
holding space for your kids while trying to heal yourself.
But guilt without compassion turns into shame, and shame turns
into silence, and that silence keeps you stuck. Let's release
(04:54):
that today. Three. The myth of the perfect parent is
spiritual violence. I've sat with children in foster care who
weren't asking for perfection. They were longing for presents. They
remembered the good moments, the laughter, the warm meals. They
(05:15):
grieve their parents, even if those parents had hurt them,
because at the core, children want connection. So when you're
spiraling about all the things you didn't do, I want
you to ask yourself, did I show up? Did I
try again? Did I love them even when I didn't
(05:35):
love myself? If so, you're already rewriting legacy. Four, You
are parenting while healing yourself. I saw so many parents
trying to break generational curses while still bleeding from them.
(05:57):
They were trying to be patient while never having been seen,
trying to hold it together with nothing holding them. That's
not failure, that's sacred labor. Try this healing mantra. I
am not perfect, but I am present, and that is powerful.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Five.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
Forgive yourself for what you didn't know. Maybe you didn't
have tools, maybe you yelled too much, maybe you weren't
emotionally available. But now you're aware, and awareness is the
first portal to healing. Your children don't need you to
(06:48):
have never messed up. They need to see you repair.
They need to see what growth looks like. That's how
we teach them resilience. Six. You're allowed to rest and
(07:10):
ask for help. One thing I wish every parent knew
was that you were never meant to raise children or
heal in isolation. There is no shame in needing help,
(07:30):
in crying in the shower and asking for a break.
You are not a machine. You are a soul with limits,
and your limits don't make you less, they make you honest.
Parent guilt can feel like a heavy fog. But here's
(07:52):
the light. Your love is seen, your efforts map, and
even when you stumble, you are still a good parent.
From courtrooms to counseling rooms, I have witnessed both the
pain and the possibility, and I promise you healing is
(08:20):
always available for you, for your children, for your lineage.
All right, this is the Bramancia Podcast. I am Charlotte Adams,
and I'm wrapping you in grace today and until next time,
(08:45):
be gentle, be proud, and keep blooming. You are doing
more than enough. And as always like subscribe and share
this episode to anyone that may be needing it right
now
Hello and welcome to the Brogmancia Podcast, where healing isn't
just a buzzword, It's a lifestyle.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
I'm your host, Charlotte E.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Adams, wife, mom, daughter, attorney, licensed therapist, heart centered hypno therapist,
founder of Brogmancia Counseling Group, which is located in Farmington Hills, Michigan,
where healing blooms one soul, one story, one pedal at
(00:34):
a time. And I'm a fellow traveler on this wild,
beautiful journey called life. Every Wednesday, we get real about
mental health, emotional wellness, and the kind of growth that
starts from within. Whether you're deeply invested in personal development
(00:56):
or just beginning to explore what healing means to you,
this space is for you. Here we blend science and soul,
therapy and truth telling because healing should be intentional, rooted
and yes, deeply transformational. So take a deep breath, settle in,
(01:22):
and join me each Wednesday as we glow up, grow deep,
and gently let go.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Hello. Welcome, bringman Thief back to the Bringmancia Podcast. I
am your host, Charlotte Adams, and today in the Charlotte Corner,
the message is not all shadows are meant to be feared,
some guide you back to forgotten parts yourself. So today's
(02:05):
episode title is the truth about parent guilt, healing the
weight we carry. So just welcoming you back to the
Brigmancia podcast where we bring light to the shadows, language
(02:30):
to the silence, and healing to the hurt. And today
we're sitting with something tender parent guilt, that deep aching
feeling that whispers I should have done more.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
I messed that up?
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Am I breaking them? It's quiet, but it lives in
the bones. Some of you may know that before I
became a therapist and hypnotherapists, I worked for years as
a neglect and abuse attorney. I represented children and parents
(03:16):
and some of the most heartbreaking circumstances imaginable. I served
as a guardian at lightem standing in courtrooms to give
voice to children who couldn't advocate for themselves, and what
I learned from that work permanently changed the way I
see parents guilt and grace. First, most parents are not failing,
(03:44):
they're drowning. Let me tell you what I saw firsthand.
Most of the parents in the system weren't evil, they
were overwhelmed, unhealed, poor, unsupported. Many were children and grown
up bodies doing their best with the scraps they were handed.
(04:07):
And what I also saw was this love isn't always loud,
but it's there, even in the chaos, even in the mistakes.
That truth stayed with me. Two. Guilt is a sign
you care, but it can become a cage. Parents who
(04:33):
feel guilt are often the ones trying the hardest. You're
holding space for your kids while trying to heal yourself.
But guilt without compassion turns into shame, and shame turns
into silence, and that silence keeps you stuck. Let's release
(04:54):
that today. Three. The myth of the perfect parent is
spiritual violence. I've sat with children in foster care who
weren't asking for perfection. They were longing for presents. They
remembered the good moments, the laughter, the warm meals. They
(05:15):
grieve their parents, even if those parents had hurt them,
because at the core, children want connection. So when you're
spiraling about all the things you didn't do, I want
you to ask yourself, did I show up? Did I
try again? Did I love them even when I didn't
(05:35):
love myself? If so, you're already rewriting legacy. Four, You
are parenting while healing yourself. I saw so many parents
trying to break generational curses while still bleeding from them.
(05:57):
They were trying to be patient while never having been seen,
trying to hold it together with nothing holding them. That's
not failure, that's sacred labor. Try this healing mantra. I
am not perfect, but I am present, and that is powerful.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Five.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
Forgive yourself for what you didn't know. Maybe you didn't
have tools, maybe you yelled too much, maybe you weren't
emotionally available. But now you're aware, and awareness is the
first portal to healing. Your children don't need you to
(06:48):
have never messed up. They need to see you repair.
They need to see what growth looks like. That's how
we teach them resilience. Six. You're allowed to rest and
(07:10):
ask for help. One thing I wish every parent knew
was that you were never meant to raise children or
heal in isolation. There is no shame in needing help,
(07:30):
in crying in the shower and asking for a break.
You are not a machine. You are a soul with limits,
and your limits don't make you less, they make you honest.
Parent guilt can feel like a heavy fog. But here's
(07:52):
the light. Your love is seen, your efforts map, and
even when you stumble, you are still a good parent.
From courtrooms to counseling rooms, I have witnessed both the
pain and the possibility, and I promise you healing is
(08:20):
always available for you, for your children, for your lineage.
All right, this is the Bramancia Podcast. I am Charlotte Adams,
and I'm wrapping you in grace today and until next time,
(08:45):
be gentle, be proud, and keep blooming. You are doing
more than enough. And as always like subscribe and share
this episode to anyone that may be needing it right
now
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