Princess Fix My Life 5.4.25

This week, Princess gives advice she is completely unqualified to give. 

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:07):
Hey guys, us here another episode by So we're in
the middle of our little palate cleanser, a little break
between seasons. Remember, we're going to do Fit Club Celebrity
Fit Club is a VH one classic after the break here.
But we're just doing some things to you know, sage

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the area before we get into a new season. So
today I like to do one of my favorite things,
and that is for me to give advice that I
have no business giving. Okay, you're ready. Let's start off
by making sure we remember that I am not a therapist.
I am unqualified in always to give anybody any device,
including myself, and often I ruined my own life three

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or four times a day. So now do we know that.
Le Let's let let's get to it, all right. So
the first I, so where did I source these? I
go to Reddit. I I go like life advice, read it, uh,
parenting advice, Reddit, Family advice, relationship, and just like pull

(01:15):
one or two questions. And I don't always read them
all the way through. A lot of times I really
just focus on the title. So some of these are
a surprise even to me. All right, So the first
one is I had a girl over, but she smelled weird.
I like my room set up how it is like
the way my things smell. So when I had a
girl over, she stayed the night in my bed. She

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had a bit of strong body, older, but she was
nice to spend time with. Basically, my sheets ended up
smelling like her, but not in a good way. For
a few days, I can't entirely wash the smell out.
I don't know if I should just tell her or not.
We're not really committed to anything, but I like to
have her over again, but don't want my sheet smelling
like b oh, okay, this is like this is a thing, right.

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Sometimes people do not know what they smell like. This
can be a hygiene thing, this can be a medical thing.
There are that are medicines that make you smell. There
are there are like medical conditions that make you that

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make you smell. This could be anything, and if you
like somebody, I was watching a video the other day
that someone was saying that people confronting you about things
in a in a respectful and calm way is them
trying to remintain a relationship with you. Because people you
don't want a relationship with you don't you don't tell

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about things. If they smell bad, you just never see
them again because you don't you don't even want to
be around them anyway. What's the point are you going
to tell them they smell bad or if they hurt
your feelings? You don't. You don't bring it up because
you weren't going to be their friend anyway. So I
think that's a good perspective, like people calling you in saying, hey,
this is going on, this is how it's affecting. I want.

(03:06):
I want you to know this because I care about you,
or I like you, or whatever it is. The whatever
the case may be, here's what I would say about
this particular thing, because I think I would die if
someone called me and was like, hey, I really enjoyed
banging you out the other night, but you left my place. Thinky,

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and I washed this, I washed everything, and yet your
stink was still here. You went home, but the stank state.
And I would die if someone called me and said
something like that. So I guess the way I would
handle it is I would tell them that everyone like

(03:51):
hanging out with them, it was really nice. I like
to have them back over, but the cologne or the
perfume they were wearing like what I'd be like, do
you use like a I don't know if it was
a perfume or something, or like I don't know if
it was like sense it lotion or something, but the
smell was kind of overpowering for me, and you know
I have a sensitive nose. Is it possible that, like,

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usually you don't even have to ask a question, like
the person will be like, oh, like they will infer
what you're talking about. And I usually don't like to
be like let people infer shit because like be directed
to them. But it's just one of this is just
one of those things that you could be very tactful
and say something like it's the perfume, and they can

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infer the rest from that. Like, but you you saying
something to her is reaching a hand out and saying, Hey,
I like you, I want to see you again. I
just need to tell you about this thing. Go God
on that one. Should I marry my partner? I, twenty

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two year old female, have been in a relationship with
this man twenty two year old male for two years.
We're in college and have a year left. I am
so deeply in love with him that it scares me
a bit I love his family and they love me too.
We share the same goals for our future, and I
have talked about our life together. When I ask my parents,
who are still mildly financially supported me, my mom said,
to calm down, I have my entire life in front
of me. She got married in her thirties. You're married

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in your tweins get divorced in your thirties. Your mom's right.
His entire family married young, and he's the oldest unmarried
siby now his twenty two days, the oldest under ex Simply,
his mom cried, tear's a joy when I caught the
bouquet at a family wedding a month ago. So I
think it's safe to say, should be happy if I'm
married her son? Am I just young and dumb? Am
I putting the cart in front of the horse? I
think I need to hear other people's thoughts opinions, because

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you do not want anybody else, because I did not
know anybody else my age or younger that married young.
Here's what I tell you. No, you don't need to
get married. First of all, the fact that you even
are sitting here going like, should I get married? Like
I don't know, and it seems like you've been thinking
about it for a bit. So like the fact that
you don't have a strong opinion about getting married shows

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me you don't need to get married. These are one
of those things that if you don't have a strong opinion,
you don't do it. Right. You guys seem like you
are a great couple and you have a lot going
on going for you. And if that is the case,
it will continue to be like that, right, and you
can get married anytime. You can get married. You can

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get you can get married in ten years, you get married,
thirty years, you get married, three years, you can you
can at least you can never get married. But if
you guys are saying that, like everything's so great, shouldn't
we just go ahead and get married, And then your
first thought is I don't know, well, then don't get married,
and like sure his family all got get married young.
But you're also not saying that they're like, hey, when
you guys are gonna get married, you know what I mean? Also,

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no one's asked you to get married. And here I
am a proud feminist, a proud fuck those men, and
I'm gonna tell you this, right now, do not ask
a man of marriage. Do not ask a man to
marry you. You do not ask a man of So
no one's even asked you to get married, babe, no
one's even asked you. So I just feel like at
this point, let's not worry. Twenty two is so fucking young.

(07:09):
It's so fucking young, like you have after birth on you.
You can't even fucking see it. You don't need this.
Here's what I would say. I also talked to the
fiance here. Sorry, sorry, sorry I jumped ahead. I'd also
talk to my boyfriend and I'd say to him and say, hey,
obviously they seen you. Guys are playing in the future

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together and you have the same ideas and everything. I
would at least wait until I'm twenty five to get engaged.
At least that's what I do. And I'd also tell
you this this small caveat. People change, and not on purpose,
and not always in bad ways, sometimes in wonderful ways.

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But growth does not in when you turn eighteen, it doesn't,
and when you turn thirty it doesn't. You will be
changing your entire life. Right now, I'm dealing in my
personal life. I am dealing with the evolution of Princess. Right,
I am not who I was at twenty five in
any way, shape or form, and not in the bad

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like again, not like I got evil, right, not like
I turned into Lex Luthor or anything, but like, I
am different. And to be in a long term relationship,
you have to be with somebody who can change and
evolve in the same direction with you. And a lot
of us found out that the person that made us

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very happy, that fit everything in our twenties was not
the person that fit everything in our thirties, and certainly
not the person that fit everything in our forties. And
that is what your mother means when she's like, you
don't have to do this right now. The older you get,
the more yourself you will become. And but twenty two

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you are still in a huge growth phase. And I
just want you to know. It's not as easy to
get divorced as izzy get married. Okay, the fees are more,
there's lawyers involved. Okay, you can't get married anywhere. They're
very strict about how you get divorced. So just something
to think about. Next question. I had a seizure in

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class and students recorded it. Hello. I was in a
lecture hall when I started to feel dizzy, I stood
up and walked towards the exit and fell. I tumbled
down the steps and landed the bottom of the stairs,
where I began seizing. Someone turned me over and tried
to help. Others recorded Apparently I urinated and my breast
was exposed from someone. Not sure how it happened. I
was seizing for four minutes and it was my first

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seizure ever. Oh my god. I left the hospital day.
This happened last Friday. Some today. Someone sent me in
a snapchat that said just so you know, and it
was a video of the event posted on multiple social
media platforms. Is there anything I can do about that?
First of all, I'm sorry that that happened to you.
One of the things I hate about are this hellscape

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of life that we live in in twenty twenty five,
is that everybody thinks they should be recording things all
the fucking time. Everybody is trying like their first thought
is I'm gonna go live instead of oh oh this
is fucked up? Is she okay? Is everything? And they
will post anything to get twenty five likes. I a

(10:19):
couple of years ago in Austin, I was leaving this
area that I used to like that I lived in,
and we were moving to a different area, pretty pretty
far up the road, and there's a little taco truck
that I used to like to go to. So I
was like, I'm gonna go to this taco truck and
get a few tacos before because I'm not gonna come
in all the way over here to go to this taco.
And I'm sitting there and there is a man there

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who is obviously developmentally disabled. Okay, he is obviously not
He is obviously not in any position to be recorded
or anything like that. And there is a girl there

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who was waiting for her tacos, who was talking to
him and asking him like questions and recording him as
he was like answering them. He also might have been
in the house. I don't think, I know, like like
you'd be surprised who the fuck is on the house.
I was just telling my kids. I was like, there
are kids in your in your in your school that

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sleep in their car. You just don't know about it,
because they were talking about funny enough, they were talking
about a guy who stinks and stuff, and I was like, yeah,
that's that's when I when I hear that, like, first
of all, middle schoolers are terrible at fucking at fucking hygiene.
And when I hear that, I also think, like, m

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something might be going on at home. And one of
the options I was like, you don't know, he might
not have a home right now. He might be staying
in a car or shelter or in a space that
he can't get out, he can't get you know, you
really have no idea what's going on with people. But
back to this, like I so I got in her

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like way of her video and was like basically like
don't do this, like this is this is disgusting, Like
don't because whatever whatever you think you're gonna post that
at and get and I don't know you think you're
gonna go viral. This is not worth it. We treat
we need to treat each other as humans. It pissed
me off so bad. I really thought I was gonna

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show up on a video somewhere, but I never did
because I was in that video telling her to fucking stop. Yeah.
I hate that for us that anytime you're in public
now and it's not just people recording it trying to
get their moment on social media It's also remember where
we security cameras everywhere all the time, like yeah, man like.

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But that said, as much as I don't like that,
and I hate that for you, for me, for all
of us, that anything that happens to us can be
recorded for posterity, this is the world we live in.
So I'm gonna say what I would do in this situation.
One you're breast or exposed, right and you urinating yourself,

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which is what happens in a fucking seizure. This happened
in school property. I will contact the school. I would
let them know that the only people who could have
taken this video, these videos would have been someone who
was in the classroom that day. I would let them know.
I would be as litigious is necessary that someone on

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campus did this. I would report these videos on social
media platforms because there would be nudity in them. I mean, listen,
you can always put them back up. And you know,
the way reporting videos goes is hit or miss. But
that's something I would do to get it taken down.

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And I would worked with the school and explain that
this happened on school property and this is the result
of it. And they might say, oh, we can't control who.
We can't control this, or I would still push them.
I would be like that, you can make an announcement
in the next classroom about you can explain that, like

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if I were to teacher. If I were a teacher,
I wouldn't have no problem saying, hey, you know, one
of one of one of us here had a medical
emergency last week in which they just got out of
the fucking hospital, and I really want to applaud to
people to try to help. I appreciate that to anybody
who took videos of this, you need to delete them

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and you need to delete them from social media because
if we find out who it is, I cannot guarantee
that you will still be going to school here. I'm
not saying you won't. I'm just saying there is a possibility,
and I would I would push for an announcement like
that the class. I will push for an email to

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go out to all the students in that class and
I and the schools need funding, and schools need and
schools can't afford to be sued. I will really push
as far as that it's concerned. But that said, things
that get on the internet are very hard to be
taken out, and I think there's gonna be some part

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of you that is going to have to find a
way to deal with the fact that this video of
you was out there, and what happens if you can
if it's always going to be out there something so
I didn't think about that is horrible. I feel physically sick.
A girl lies to me about her age. It wasn't illegal,

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but doesn't feel right. That's the title. Basically, a girl
told me she was twenty four, but after she's been
back to my local pub staff who I know, have
found out she's actually seventeen and was using a fake ID.
We kiss two nights ago in a row, and she
would two nights in a row, and she was begging
to come home with me, but I said no, as
I already thought twenty four is a bit young as
I'm approaching thirty. Now, everyone in my local area who

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drinks and said pub is likely to know that I
kissed a seventeen year old, and they know my age.
I'm scared to show my face back there as my
reputation is on the floor. I don't know, man, I'm
even scared she might have family members who could spend
the story, and however it sees fit, I feel people
are more likely to believe the young girl than an
older man in the UK. Okay, that makes sense, it's
UK pubs, this is legal, but I feel disgusted that

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someone could lie to me like that when I could
potentially get me in trouble and I'm scared of what
people will think of me. It's not just a reputation.
I want it all, honestly, How the fuck this is
able to happen? If she could use a fake I
did a drink in a pub, she could use a fake.
I did a lie to me about her age. I
don't even know how I could fully safeguard myself, and
this is happening again. I guess just be super superviligent.
But even still, I worry my reputation is already ruined
despite it being legal. Where the fuck do I go

(16:50):
from here? One keep this energy, keep this energy about
young girls. I there is something about them like okay, breathe, breathe, breathe.
But I like this synergy. Okay that you're like apps
fucking wily not. I don't want people thinking that that's
what I want to do. I don't want people already
thought twenty four was too young. I like to keep

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my fucking reputation. I don't want to be known to
somebody out here. I know it's legal, I still don't
want to be known as somebody doing that. Baby. I
feel you. I was about to tell you a humiliating story.
I'm not. I don't have time tonight. Maybe another time.
But here's the thing about this. Keep the energy. But
let me tell you this. This is not your fault. Right,

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and as soon as you found out you did what
you need to do, right. I would tell you that
if if you're fucking with somebody young enough it looks
like a fucking teenager that could be a teenager, then
she probably too young. But listen, that is not always

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the case. Right. If you're twenty five and someone tells
you that they're twenty three and they happen to be seventeen,
I can understand how these things can happen. I will
say this. I will say this. People have hard times
under guessing people's ages, right, But usually as soon as

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they start talking, you're like, oh, this bitch is young, right.
That usually happens. Trust your instincts. But here's the thing.
You didn't do anything illegal. As soon as you did
something that you thought was outside of your moral compass,
you were like, ah, not on my watch, and think that.
I think you've done the best you can hear, as
you're approaching thirty, you're right. Like you felt like twenty

(18:40):
four was too young, seventeen is definitely too fucking young.
Here's what I do. I would start checking. Say she
had a fake ideed everybody. I don't know that you
need to id people, but you need to accept that
you're fallible and that someone deceived you, and that that's

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okay and it's not like it's not like you did
it on purpose. All right, that's it, and you need
to let it go. Don't talk to anybody else about it.
Don't bring this up at the pub, down down to
the pub, don't do that. Don't do that. Don't don't
bring it up. I'm sure people will not bring it
up to you, but if they do, you'd be like, yeah,
that's fucked up. We need some better security around here.

(19:23):
Like because you thought everything was cool because you were
in a fucking bar. Yeah, I stop bringing it up. Dude,
keep the same energy. I love this energy. Pass it
on to your friends. Okay, but at this point, like
you've done what you could do and we're done with this.
You know, what does it mean to be a selfish

(19:45):
as a partner? I need opinions. Hi, everyone, I really
like to hear your thoughts on something that's been winging
on me lately. I'm a twenty eight year old woman
and I live with my twenty nine year old boyfriend.
He has a good job and earns a very decent salary.
He's not rich, but he's definitely doing better than average.
On the other hand, don't have a full time job yet.
I'm actively looking doing my best, but the job market
is honestly brutal right now. I just haven't had any

(20:06):
luck yet. I do get a little financial help for
my parents each month, but it's nowhere near enough to
cover rent, not even half what we might share though,
though I usually use it to cover bills, buy groceries
and small things here and there. If there's anything left,
I try to treat myself to something nice, but that
money goes fast. Now Is that the part I'm sure
about and what I want to ask you all. My
boyfriend pays for apartment the basic shared living calls food shelter,

(20:27):
higien stuff the essential to survive that I deeply appreciate.
But is it selfish to me that I want a
little more than just surviving? Like, is it wrong for
me to wish that once in a while he'd buy
me something nice clothes for example, or take us on
a short road trip or a nice restaurant, not all
the time, not in a spoiled, constant way, just something
so I can feel like I'm living and not just

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scraping by. Would it be unreasonable me to expect that
from him once in a while considering our financial imbalance?
Or is this responsibility fulfilled just by making it sure
I'm housed and fed? Where's the line between you being
generous and being shelfish? Line this relationship like this really
appreciating any input I'm trying to figure out, I'm being
ungrateful for My feelings are valid? Thanks in advance, all right,

(21:08):
whatever feelings you have, they're your fucking feelings. I don't
want to I don't know if I want to say valid.
Your feelings are your feelings. They're they're they're they're neutral.
You have these feelings, Okay, Having these feelings is neutral.
It does not make you a good or a bad
person that feelings, you have the feelings, acknowledge the feelings.
I don't think it's really about the boyfriend. I think
that you are broke as fuck. And as a person

(21:30):
who's been broke as fuck most of my life, it
is sometimes it is hard to deal with the fact
that it seems like you just don't have anything, and
you don't feel like you're living. You feel like you're surviving,
you feel like you're existing, you feel like you're hanging
on right, So because everything is trying to subsist on

(21:55):
this small amount of money, right, I remember being in
a spot like this really badly, like not having my
car fucked up, and like just living in the worst
place and and just not not having no fucking idea
what's gonna happen next for me? And I remember like

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my dad had give me a ride home because I
was just like fucking stranded, and he took my home,
not his home, and I was like, Yo, what is
this gonna get better? I just feel like I'm just
like life's fucking punching back. Keep in mind, I was
like twenty six years old too. I'll put that it
was like twenty six years old, Like I was like,
I had no concept of what my life would or

(22:40):
even could be at the time. So I so I,
and I asked him that, and he was like, life
does not get easier, you just get better at it.
And I can say with confidence at twenty years later,
he was not fucking lying. Nothing has gotten quote unquote easier.
I have just gotten better at navigating these waters. I

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have a better I can spot trouble. I can spot
pirates at of two thousand feet. Okay, I got this,
I figured it out. I know what to do with
the when there's a leak in the boat. I know
how to do the sales. That's enough. Boat metafit forwards, guys.
That's enough of that. But it was personal growth that

(23:25):
changed my life. Right. The rest of the shit was
always the same. It's you, though, live with a partner
who already takes on the majority of the bills, and
he can and it looks like he can, and then
you also get money from your family. I want to

(23:49):
make sure that you understand what you're asking for. If
you are to ask him this, could you buy me
something like a treat or a gift or something like
that make me feel better? That would make things a
little I don't know, Just take me to a nice
restaurant or something like that, splurge if you would. What

(24:11):
are you trying to get from him? Are you trying
to get a break from your from what you feel
is but not in this life? Are you trying to
feel loved and and special from him? What are you
trying to get? Because I know I'm not saying this
is fair because I'm not. I know that if I

(24:32):
was in his position and you came to me and said,
would it kill you to take me to a nice
restaurant sometime, I might not receive that as well as
I should, right, you know? So are you looking for
acts of romance? Are you thinking that your relationship feels

(24:55):
transactional and not romantic? I would say if that's what
you so, I'm asking you to look underneath what's going on.
If that's the case, then there are ways for you, guys,
to be romantic without you asking him to buy you something.

(25:17):
If you're if in the fact that romance is what
you're actually talking about, you can start by being romantic
in the ways that you feel like you can, cooking
him dinner with the food in your house and putting
candles up writing him sweet notes. You can start the
ball going back and forth. You can have that conversation too, like, hey,
you know, life is really hard already, and I really

(25:38):
like for our relationship to be like a place of peace,
and I'm gonna work on what I can do, and
like i'd like you to think about it too. You know,
that's when I I just don't want you to go
into this conversation where someone who is essentially supporting you.
I'm not saying that you don't contribute, because again, your
parents would give you money, and you buy little stuff

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around the house and a little treat every now and then.
You spend that money as best you can, and you
are looking for a job. I'm not saying that, but
there are most definitely people who would think that you
were being ungrateful. And the question is is your boyfriend
going to be one of them? How do you work

(26:21):
a full time job and still live a life. I'm
twenty nine and I have had three full time jobs
in my life, all of which I work three plus
years at. Okay, you're no young, you're no spring chicken.
You've been doing this a bit, and I'm at my
breaking point again. I'm over stimulated my mental and physical health.
They're constantly getting worse. I have no interurgy to do anything.
At the same time, I'm medicated, have a therapist, have
a support system. My job is easy and I don't

(26:42):
have to deal with customers. List goes on and on,
Yet I am miserable all caps. All three of my
jobs have been very different photographer, teacher, billing coordinator. Now
though I enjoyed every single one, I always find myself
at this point, what am I doing wrong? How do
you work a full time job and have a life
so additional infro. I work from six am to four
pm with a one hour lunch, and my drive to
work is thirty five minutes away. But when my drive

(27:04):
home is about an hour, it's not even a bad schedule.
But I feel sick and mentally physically. How am I
supposed to work without crashing out? Baby? We all feel
in this way, Okay, almost all of us feel this way.
Almost all of us don't want to go to our jobs,
and a part of that is a universal experience. But

(27:25):
also I think it is very fucking clear that this
is not just about your job. When you mention your
mental and physical health are decline, like, yeah, it's really
you have a decent schedule. Six am to four pm
is no slots. You're getting home around five and general

(27:47):
and from five to ten you have no energy to
do anything. That sounds like depression to me, or at
least part of it. Right. Fine, you're medicating it, you
have the therapist and everything. That does not mean you're
a cute I'm not laughing at you. I'm laughing with
you as a member of the craziest fuck crowd. Like baby,

(28:11):
just because you get on the mends and you see
the therapist does not mean that all everything's better, that
everything's better now, Like I love that you have a
support system. You have all these great things you can mean,
it's not too bad, all those other and the job's
easy and you feel good about it. Okay, I don't
think this is about the job. I don't think it's

(28:33):
about the job. The majority of us work all day
and at the end have to figure out a way
to tend to our families, our hobbies, find some joy
in this world. Right. Do I love this system? No,
but it's what we're doing right now, and so I
would like you to stop looking at the job. And also,

(28:55):
don't quit your job. Guys, hold on to some jobs. Okay,
not in this economy. But I would like you to
turn your head back to the physical and mental health
stuff because that may have a lot to do with
why you don't have energy to do anything, and may
have a lot to do with why you feel very

(29:18):
you feel a way about these things. I think that's
what's going on. And this is a great thing that
we're here with your therapist and hopefully he or she
will tell you the same thing that Rome was not
built in a day, and it doesn't even once you
put all these things in place, it doesn't mean that
everything's gonna be perfect after that this You might you

(29:41):
might just need a little more time, and you might
need to start small, like with a small hobby. Like
if you come home and you feed yourself and you
walk your dog and you sit on your couch and
then you play animal crossing while you watch the next
new season of You? What's all that? How do you feel? Not? How? Like?

(30:06):
I also want to That's another thing. I want to
make sure that when you're asking this question, like how
do you live a life? Are you saying that you
feel like you come home from work and you don't
have the energy to go out, and what do things
that you could take pictures of put on Instagram? What
are you saying do you wish you what is it

(30:26):
that you wish you could do? Because that also might
be maybe that's just not where you're at right now.
Maybe what you what when maybe living a life for
you is visiting a couple of friends every now and again,
and but not every you don't want to go out

(30:48):
every night. That could be it too. I'm just saying, like,
like again, I turn away from the job, turned towards
the therapists and the mental health and physical health issues,
and like, because I think that's where I think that's
where you're gonna find out where That's where your answer
is unhiable. Question Mark twenty year old. I'm in Austin, Texas,

(31:09):
twenty year old with no real experience, no driver's like so,
no high school diploma. I'm going through an adult high
school currently and doing my best to learn how to
drive without paying on the ask for driving school is
worth the time and effort applying the jobs and going
to interviews now? Or should I wait until I've got
my diploma and license? Maybe just volunteer somewhere in the
meantime possibly relevant. I've applied to a dozen jobs recently,
gotten two interviews and haven't been hired. Thanks in advancering

(31:31):
the advice you might have. It's hard to get your
very first job. I remember being sixteen and like, like,
nobody would fucking hire me because I never had a
job before. And I think that at twenty, not having
a job, never having a job before, I think that's
I think a lot of people be like, well, I
haven't you got a job yet, homie. I think that's hard.

(31:53):
You're I I think that that instinct to volunteer perfect.
I think you should volunteer like two days week doesn't
have to be all day, every fucking day, like two
days a week at the pet shelter. There's there's I mean,
Alstin has a ton of places you can volunteer. It
just came from there, obviously, places that need your help

(32:16):
and do a good job at volunteering and use those
and so you can get to the point where you
can put on your resume or you can put on
the applications you're filling out a volunteer at this place
for a year and have references from there. I might
even depending on how busy I want to make myself.

(32:36):
I might volunteer at two places once twice. I volunteer
two days a week each at two places, so four
days a week, or if not, then I just volunteer
one day a week at one place and one day
week get the other place. So I'd have two things
on my application to say volunteer, volunteer even though I

(32:59):
did them at the same time. Time you feeling yeah,
like I would ask if if you know of anybody
that is that could use some unpaid help. Make yourself
an internship. Oh you have to. It's an internship if

(33:20):
you fucking call it one, even if it's at your
mom's office. Like is your mom in real estate aster?
Can you intern her real estate office and walk around
there file and papers? I mean, I really hope your
real estate office does not have like physical copies of
things in the office. Like it's very important that we

(33:41):
are document handling is updated to twenty twenty five, but
still do whatever and say your internet so and so's
real estate company. There are ways to get experienced as
far as not having a driver's license. It is what
it is. Uh, yeah, I think that, like you'll get

(34:04):
your license, and that'll be an improvement on stuff. You'll
finish adult high school and that'll be improven on things.
Do not tell people in your interviews that you're an
adult high school. Don't do that. The people at CHIB
don't need to know that. But yeah, like it's gonna
take some time. I start with the volunteering right now,

(34:25):
especially in this job market. Grief support. I have a
friend recently lost her daughter to a drug overdose. That
is horrible. What is the kind of thing someone did
for you and your grief. We no longer live in
the same city and I'm gonna loss and how to
best support her. I would say that once this goes

(34:50):
for grief, it goes for depression. Like if your friend,
If you guys have a friend that is going through
something that's really fucking hard, I would say say that.
I think for me, it's best when people keep up

(35:15):
with me, even if I can't keep up with them,
because it's really hard for me to speak to people
when I'm in those spaces. It's really fucking hard. It's
so hard. I had to dream that mister Curtis died
and one of the most the hardest part of that
dream is that a lot of people wanted to be
around me, and I didn't want to be around anybody else.
And I know that's that's a that's that that just

(35:37):
comes from me being being like, uh, that comes from
childhood adverse childhood experiences in which emotions and the need
for help or like look down upon. And so when
I'm going through it, I just liked I just like
to be on my own, like in this dream, and

(35:59):
people kept wanting to take my kids like they I'm
about to start crying. It was a really bad dream.
People kept wanting to take my kids. They'd be like,
can I take your kids for the week? No? No, no,
like they're all I fucking have no no, no, you
can't walk my fucking dog. Don't touch my dog, don't stop.

(36:20):
That's how I felt in this dream. And I don't
know if that's how feel in real life, but it
does sound true in my character development. But what I
would do if I what would be appreciative to me, right,
is if you may think some things easy for me, right,

(36:45):
And I know a lot of people that first thought
was like I'm gonna come babysit. No you're not, No,
you're not. But but like things like sending me gift
cards for takeout and stuff so I could feed myself
and my family without having to cook. And think about that,
dropping off a care package and not expecting them to
visit with you when you do like leaving it, you know,

(37:12):
but you can also send a care package just of
small tokens of appreciation, things that would make that that
that would make their day to day easier. But mostly
something like especially from far away, not all not over
and over again, but like staying in contact, sending a

(37:37):
texting I'm thinking about you. You don't need don't do
you don't have to answer this, you don't have to
need to respond to the sex mention I'm thinking about you,
I love you. Stuff like that, that is, that's the
type of stuff that I personally would want in those cases.
I would like people to to to understand where I

(37:59):
was at, but also so to to to not let
me fall into the abyss and never be seen from again.
Sitting out those lines and keeping those uh, those lines
of communication open. I cannot imagine. I can't imagine, like
losing a child to addiction. I can't imagine that shit,

(38:21):
And it must be fucking hard, super fucking hard. If
you have any pictures of their kid, because I mean
your long term friend, If you have any pictures of
their kid or anything like that, make sure they get them.
If you have anything that belongs to their kid that
they you think they will want to have, make sure
they get them, and just just stay in contact as

(38:45):
best you can and hold space for them not to
be able to return these things. Grief is weird people.
People do not feel comfortable when you have when you
when grief goes on for an extending amount of I'm
but also grief, you got to sit in it sometimes
and it'll have its way with you even if you

(39:07):
think it won't. So what happens is people start to
drop off. And if you can just remind her stay
in touch with her that. Remember once I was going
through something and I had a dog at the time,

(39:30):
and like I was talking to a friend and I
was like, I have got to get out of here
and buy doctor. It's like New York. And so it's
before I started buying dog food on the internet. Like
before then, I would just I would go get the
fucking dog food and bring back to that house. And
it was such a pain in the fucking ass, no
car and queens like you either get a little tiny
bag and have to go over and over again or
I have to And that person sent me dog food.

(39:54):
They just sent it to my house and that's why
I started buying it online and stuff like that. So yeah,
like that experience was, yeah, would you commute or move
closer to school? I'm going to grad school? Yay me? Okay?
And the program I got into is in Baltimore. Be

(40:16):
More is an hour m be More. I don't know.
I'm sure people Baltimore love that, but I hate that name.
Be More is an hour drive from where I live
with traffic ninety minutes. The problem off. The program offers
a stipend which is estimated to be about fifteen hundred
dollars a month, but I'm not sure yet since I
haven't be given details. Tuition is also covered up to

(40:36):
a year. I'm journeying the commute. At first, I said
I could save a thousand and use the remaining for
gas and food, et cetera, so I'd be staying at
my parents. But now I'm thinking moving closer to be
More to have a shorter commute. But I'm looking at
eleven hundred fifteen hundred dollars rent, which would be my
whole stipend. I possibly I could possibly get apartment with
the roommate to make things easier. But I don't want
a roommate me either. Girl. I've had bad roommate experienced

(40:58):
in the past and college. What do you guys, the
guys should do? If this for me, I would do
the commute. The commute is ninety minutes in traffic. I
would do the commute. Because I could start doing the commute,
it would be cheaper. I save money. Grad students are
generally poor. I would save money. And if I couldn't
do the commute anymore, then because I'm already in the program,

(41:22):
there would be others in my program that I could,
you know, maybe make connections with and say, hey, I'm
looking to get a place because of the commute is
because it commutes a lot, and it might be easier
that way. I feel you'll not want to have a
roommate me either. I want to live alone, sleep a
long girl, But but you might have to go that way.

(41:43):
You might have. To this point, you don't know how,
you don't know how the classes are going to be.
It might be that you have all classes on Mondays
and Tuesdays. You have like all your classes on Monday
and Tuesdays. You don't even have to be on campus Wednesday, Thursday,
and Friday. Maybe I don't know. Again, you don't. You
don't know all the details yet either. You actually don't
even know what the sniping is. The second could be
a thousand dollars, and what you're gonna do with a

(42:03):
thousand dollars, I don't know. Yeah, so this is all
things to consider, and I would plan to commute and
see how long I could do that. All right. I'm
a big fan of staying at home, in the comfort
of your home, if it's comfortable. Oh and this next
question is not so you go. My dad doesn't work
but got his own room and I don't. I'm twenty one.

(42:25):
I just got a job and graduated. Where I where
I usually sleep in the corridor of our house on
a sofa. It was alright when I was unemployeed, but
now it really hinders my sleep as the sofa is
right next to the kitchen in the bathroom, so anyone
gets in or out, I can hear anything in my
and hinders my performance at work. I can't even negotiate
the room with my dad has led to a fight.

(42:46):
As usual, my dad doesn't work, so me and my
brother and my mom contribute in the house. As for
my big brother, he got his room, But I g
what does it mean I don't earn. I guess I
guess I don't earn much, so I can't have that privilege.
Every time I had to get something, I really had
to have to fight for it. But now I'm getting
tired of this. It's just weeksgar member. I have to
fight for a really small table about fourteen inches to

(43:07):
place my laptop on there, and everybody in the house
is getting pissed about it. I can't move out because
I have to contribute towards the houses. Everything can't be
left to my mom when it comes to bills. I'm
not forced to. I want to, but also I don't
earn as much as I just graduated and can't move
out and handle all expenses. Well, nothing really can come
out of this post, as I don't think this will.
Like I said, I don't read them. I do the
title and I kind of skim. But I wanted to

(43:29):
get this off my chest, as just thinking about it
was getting me mad in the press. Here's the thing, buddy,
I feel you, and I also understand that you do
not want to like like your family situation setup seems complicated, right.
Your mom and dad don't share a room almostaingo. Motherfuckers

(43:49):
ain't together no more, but they live together, which is
a common occurrence. Where have you always slept on that
count or did your dad move into that room once
you got to a certain age? Was that Did that
used to be your room? I don't know, I would

(44:10):
And I also get that you want to help your mom.
You don't want to be you don't and you're not
being forced to. It's not like your mom's like you
better help me, better help me. You want to and
this is the best situation for you. You don't make
enough money to live on your own. You don't make enough,
and it is better if as a family you guys
stay together because you guys can hold it down for

(44:32):
each other together in a way that you couldn't separately. Fine,
you got to have a conversation, though, you gotta have
a conversation, and I wouldn't have a conversation. But dadn't
have a conversation with mom because Dad don't handle you,
and I hate to be capitalist about this and all,
but if we don't, but I don't know. We got

(44:54):
three workers here and one. I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Just
imagine me sitting at a table going pointing to me,
my brother, my mom. We got three workers here and
you dad. Oh yeah, I would. I was sitting talk

(45:22):
with mom, and I explained to her that at this point,
you're working, you want to have your own room. You
you want to work and be able to contribute, and
you need and you need your spot. And you might
also be right that nothing's gonna change about this, and
that you're gonna have to like deal until you either
make enough money to move out or your dad dies

(45:44):
or something like that. That I don't mean to be
more of it, but I don't know. God, it seems
like an asshole now I think about assholes tend to
live a long time. Okay, So in the meantime, let's
say you talk to your mom. This isn't working. She's
just like, no, we don't have the room. Oh why,
I don't want to feel like to argue with your dad.
Who you need to do? You need to get some earplucks.

(46:04):
This is I used to have earplus back. Mister Curtse
is a horrible snorre. He's not so bad these days,
But when I first got with him, like the first
night we spent the night together, I was like, what
the fuck is going on? Like that? Fuckers he sounds
like he sounds like pigs, fucking baby pigs fucking with chainsaws.

(46:27):
It's it's weird. But when I first got with him,
I couldn't sleep. Now, like we're almost twenty years into
this bitch, I can sleep. In fact, I wake up
if he if I don't hear him snore because it
makes me think he's dead. But and I'm a pretty
light sleeper in general, Like I don't sleep through shit.

(46:51):
I hear footsteps in the hallway, I I did from
the sound, I know which fucking kid it is, and
I'll wake me up. So I got real tough at it,
like being able to sleep with this fucking snory and
people would his family also always asking me how the
fuck did you do that? I was like, I don't
know what just happened. But at the beginning, I had
air plucks. Consider getting some fucking air plucks. I also

(47:15):
consider getting a sleep mask. When I was getting my
eyelash just done. I had to start sleeping with a
sleep mask, right, because you know, I'm not putting. I'm
not I'm not doing this and and and and and
fucking up my investment. So I try to hold on
these fucking lashes as long as possible. So I started
sleeping the sleep mask. Best fucking sleep I ever got
in my fucking life, best fucking sleep I ever got

(47:36):
in my life. I started. I started sleeping my TV
for some like, you know, I like to sleep at
the TV on, but my TV started I could turn
the the screen off. Uh, so I started playing I

(47:57):
like to sleep to Elementary. It has I have it
in a while, but I like to I started playing
Elementary with the fucking screen off. So I just heard
Joan Joan and uh and uh Sherlock doing their cases. Right,
So I got that happening. You don't have to be
that weird. You can. You can have an audiobook playing
or whatever. I want to suggest that you put uh

(48:20):
sleep mask on and earbuds. No, I want you to
use ear plugs. Here's something else I was about to
offer you. Not earbuds because it's really bad for your ears,
but over if you have over the ear headphones, and
I know you're gonna be like princess. I cannot do this. Okay, Okay, okay,
try it. There have been a couple of times where

(48:43):
I had to put over the head headphones on my head.
If you sleep on your back, it might work and
played an audiobook and then you have a face mask on,
you have a sleep mask on. You can't see shit.
It's dark where you are and you can't hear shit.

(49:05):
Think about those, Okay, this might be one of those things.
We just gotta mitigate what's going on and bide your time.
All right, Well else, you got here? Where is my
There you go. I'm thirty seven years old and no kids.
Me too, I was thirty seven with no kids. I'm
honestly really depressed that I don't have a family. I
always wanted to be a dad and have a cheesy

(49:26):
good family. It was a cheesy good family, like cheesy
good for me. It would be like a burrito. I'm
just really feeling sad about my life. Yeah, can I
say something about being sad and being like really depressed
about something. As someone who has danced so many times

(49:51):
with depression, it might even be dancing with depression right now.
Sometimes depression will tell you that if you do something,
if you get something, your life will be completely different.
If you can just get this one thing, then you'll
be the person that you always wanted to be. Often

(50:11):
that's a lot, it's just a lie. I would I
would gas myself up, like when this happens, then I
won't be sad anymore. No, I was still sad. And also,
plenty of people have kids in ourselves. Plenty of people.
Do you see all those videos where they're like, uh,

(50:33):
I can't have kids because I'll be depressed and I'll
be crashing out, and then somebody want their fruit snacks.
You know, actually gotta have their fruit snacks. I honestly
think it helps with my depression because I must I do,
I must power through the shit, and often caring for
other people can take my mind off my own shit.
I may have used that a little too often in

(50:55):
my life, but it can be a little helpful. I
want to remind you that you, like I said that,
I don't know that getting some kids and family would
hear this depression. I want to remind you of that.
And usually once you get them, you're not allowed to
get rid of them. I mean, people get rid of them.
But I'm just letting you know it's frowned upon. And

(51:22):
and I also, if you really want to have kids
you didn't have kids, you can if you want to,
you can foster to adopt. That would generally be free
in your area. I mean, I hope you can pass
off a ton of fucking background checks and you're willing
to do some paperwork and you will to take some glasses
and get to and yeah, you could do that. If

(51:44):
you want to have kids on your own, you could.
I don't know what your financial situation is, but surrogates
are an option. Can they be? Can a commercial sergacy
be icky a little unethical? Yeah, all kinds of but
all kinds of shit is unethical. Uh, you do your

(52:05):
best to be so. And and that's an expensive way
to go. But you could do it. You could do that.
You could. Is it? What is it about a family
that you that you think would make you happier? Do
you think like being around family and children and things

(52:26):
like that is something that you think would brighten you up? Okay,
go volunteer. Go volunteer at the youth Activity center again,
mini background checks. Hope you can pass them. Do you
have any nieces and nephews? You know, sometimes just dealing
a niece or a nephew for the day and hanging
out with them can be awesome. If that it also

(52:50):
might like remind you that, like, oh, this child is
not gonna cure my depression? Are you yearning to mentor somebody?
Big Brothers of America, go do it. I mean, there's
a lot of options here. I just want to remind
you that you might be using depressed casually, right, So

(53:12):
I don't want to get linked too far in it,
But remember that that sometimes we tell ourselves that something
would change, would change everything for us, and we wouldn't
have to be sad anymore, and that's not actually what's true. Also,
I know that you put thirty seven there to signify
to all of us how old you are, that you're
like an old decrepit like that that you're like that

(53:34):
dude from Tails from the Crypt, like you like like
you're just bones, talking and laughing. That's all you are, babe.
Thirty seven is not old. I mean it's older, it's
old enough to know better about a lot of things,
but it's not old, like fucking people are having babies
at fifty Do I think they should? You know, I
don't think they should, but but don't do this, like

(53:54):
like I said, and when I was thirty seven, I yeah,
I I had I'd been married for ten years and
had no kids. Like like, uh, my life was one
way and then it was another way. So we don't
need to just throw you into grave just yet. Oh

(54:17):
this one. What was your household income when you had
your first child? Hi, I'm atween three year old woman
and my boyfriend I have been together for three years
now and know he's who I want to spend forever.
Want to spend forever and start a family with. One
of my biggest fears is never being able to financially
justify having kids. What was your household income for when
you had your first kid? Okay, a couple of things

(54:38):
I want to point out here. You said financially justify
having kids. You do not have to financially justify having kids.
Hold up, hold up, hold up, before y'all start typing,
hold up. You might have to financially justify whether or
not you get a new car, but you do not.
You do not have to say I have to I
have to make a certain amount of money or I'm

(54:59):
not allowed to have the kid. Obviously, it is very
important that you be as financially stable as possible and
that you have your shit in order and you have
kids with intention something I talk about my kids all
the time. Having kids with intention will make will can be,
will change the trajreachery of your of your life. Having

(55:22):
kids accidentally and having them young will close off a
lot of paths for you, okay, and for those children.
So I am all about people having children with intention,

(55:43):
But this that phrase financially justify as if it's whether
or not to order door dash today. I don't like that.
I don't like that at all. I'm not gonna give
you the number because it doesn't You're asking how much
money did you have did you make when you had
your what was your household when you had your first kid?
That's not gonna help you or maybe very You can

(56:04):
absolutely raise children on a child I wouldn't say children
on forty grand a year. You could do it. Uh,
it's gonna be tight. It's gonna be tight, and the
life that you are going to be able to offer
your child is going to be quite limited. Right, forty

(56:25):
grand a year is nothing. It's it's literally nothing. I'm sorry.
If somebody is listening to this, who makes forty grand
a year and then they're like, Princess is saying I
make nothing. You probably actually you probably agree with me,
don't you. Yes, you do, so that's possible. Though, as
I keep telling you, guys, kids do not need all
the things it seems like they need. Like people will

(56:46):
get pregnant, be like I need a minivan. No you don't.
Your Corolla will work just fine for now. It'll it'll
be fine. You got one kid, it'll be fine. You do.
You don't need a minivan. It'll work out now. Because
to raise a child does not require you to talk
take them Disneyland. It does not require for you to
have a membership at the Jumping House so you can

(57:08):
take them there and till you want to. It is
not require for you to buy iPads and mote and
East scooters and shit like that. It doesn't. It's not required.
That said. A feature of having children is that you're
gonna want to give them anything you possibly can, and
it sucks when you can't. You know, so even if

(57:31):
you can feed them clothe them, not well, but you
can do it, I can understand when to do it better.
And that's that's the only reason I work as hard
as I do. Is I want to be able to
tell my kids, yeah, you can go to soccer camp.
M yeah, I'll buy you a portable volleyball come, which

(57:51):
I just did. I want to be able to say
yes more than to have to say no. That for
when you say, when you put it that way, you go.
I want to make sure that I do. I am
financially in a place where not I don't have to
give my kids just the necessities my kid can have.

(58:13):
I can make a life for them right that is,
I don't have a problem anybody's saying that that's fine.
I need to stop kicking that. Sorry. So, like I said,
a number is not gonna help you. It depends your mileage,
may vary, depends. All these numbers are very different. There
are some people who shouldn't have kids unless they make

(58:33):
one hundred twenty thousand dollars a year because the way
what their values are and their intentional reason their children.
But at the same time, I wouldn't say you must
make one hundred and twenty thousand dollars a year to
have a child. You know what I mean. So here's
what I'd say. Instead of focusing on a number, I
want you to focus on a feeling. I want you

(58:55):
to feel financially stable before you have kids. Also, twenty
three is incredibly young. You do not have to kids
at twenty three. I know that there's propaganda out there
that says you should start having children very young and
you should get marry young, and doing all that very
young is gonna be. You don't have to. You don't
have to. You could literally wait seven years and have
a kate and it'll be just fine, noms whatsoever. And

(59:16):
maybe in seven years you and that dude won't even
be together. Maybe you will be, maybe not. I don't know,
but I'm just saying it's absolutely doable for you to
wait some time, and while you're waiting, get your finances
in order. So there's a question I ask you. Do
you have an emergency fund? An emergency fund, and do

(59:36):
you also have a savings These are two separate things.
Emergency fund is what I mean. People are saying like
it depends Some people say three months, some people say
just a thousand dollars. It really depends on your social
economic background. Some people say six months of living expenses.
It really depends what is an emergency fund to you.
Then savings are because technically you don't want to use

(59:59):
an emergency fun emergence fundy is literally for emergencies. Then
savings where you're where you're saving for your future, and
thing that those are separate. I would get that. I
would work on my credit. I would. I would also
if I were like I know I'm gonna have kids
in the next seven years, I would also be working

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on my bucket list too, Like not that you're gonna die,
but like I I would create a large, a huge
bucket list, and then I would highlight all the things
that would be hard for me to do if I
had kids, and I get the fucking work on them
while I'm saving money, while I'm working that extra job,
because I can't really do that when I have to

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get home to make somebody some fucking spaghettios, that sort
of stuff. Twenty three is incredibly young. You don't you
have so much time. There's a last question. I'm almost
done here, Okay, tike teens to the movie. One of
the boyfriends were there. My daughter fourteen had a friend

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fourteen four fourteen female over this evening, he asked we
can go see a movie. I agree to take them.
We get to the theater, buy tickets and snacks. They
go to the bathroom while I finish grabbing snacks. As
they come out, the friend says, do you want to
meet him? To my daughter. We walk around the corner
and this girl's boyfriend meets her at the interest of
the movie we were seeing as we were walking in.
We go to sit down and he sits down beside
my daughter's friend. My daughter sits between me and her friend.

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I figure out that this was organized and basically paid
for new tickets so this girl could go on a
date with her little boyfriend. The boyfriend and her shared
her drink and snacks. I paid for a whole and
talk and we're on their phones the whole time. One
ways in the movie they are holding hands and getting
me endsy. I'm not comfortable this situation and to tell
them to watch the movie and tell them to watch

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the movie and then come for her to be on
a date. How should I handle the situation? I'm irritated
as hell. They use me for a date, Well, you
just got teens? Is this what Gypsy Rose did? To
meet the man that killed her mother. Yeah, I don't know.

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This is like fourteen year old behavior. It doesn't. I
guess what i'd say is age appropriatehavior doesn't have to
be be doesn't have to be behavior you're okay with.
I don't really have control over the daughter, right over
the daughter's friend. I I might say something in the
car like I to both of them, Hey, I didn't

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appreciate this. I didn't. I didn't. I wasn't told you, guy,
we were meeting anybody, and next time, you just be
upfront about her. Right. I could say that and didn't
let it go, like I like, I don't, I don't.
You gotta let this shit go. The part where he
was eating the snack shee' pad for, I'd be like, God,
damn it. That's the part of like it cost eight

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hundred dollars ago to the movie, Why am I finally
saying this date. I would be so upset about that part.
That's me though, because I'm petty. But honestly, these are
teens and they're doing what teens do, so I would
just let that shit go. Like I saw some of
the comments. Someone was like, you should tell her mother.
I was like, I don't know. I don't know. They're like,

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you do need to do all that, Like, I don't
know what's going on over there. I don't want to
get her in trouble like that. This is annoying. It's
not like her parents need to correct her. I don't.
I don't know. And also I'm assuming she can't. Our
parents wouldn't have taken dropped her off of the movies
to see her date or whatever. I don't know. I

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just I feel like expressing your dissatisfaction is enough, right,
because you're like, I don't like feeling news. I don't
like being the last person to know, and I didn't
like that I paid eight hundred dollars for these fucking
peanut m and ms and that motherfucker's even I don't
know that motherfucker charge that to the game. What I

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would do, though, is probably not that day, because I
would still be thinking about that bucket of popcorn that
costs ninety seven dollars. And I probably wait a bit,
maybe a couple of days, and I would talk to
my kid and I'd feel like, hey, so the thing

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that I was annoyed with at the movie theater and stuff,
you know, you don't have to do that, right, Oh
well I didn't know, blah blah blah. They're probably lying. Okay, fine,
I well, just so you know that, like, I don't
have a problem like in my house okay, my household worlds,
I don't have a problem like drop you off for

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the movies to hang right with a date or a
boy or whatever. Okay, I don't have a problem doing
that as long as you as long as you communicate
where we're going and your back, you're where I need
to pick you up. Right. These are literally conversations I
have with my fourteen years now. I don't care about dates,
and I'm not a person that's like, how dare you
like somebody I don't know. I think fourteen year old's

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like other fourteen year olds? What's a problem with that? But
what I don't appreciate, ever, is being lied to. And
a lie by omission is a lie to me. I
fucking hate liars. I hate liars, So come, I would say,
just ask me this time, even if she even if

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she knew about it, even if she even if you
didn't even know that's what she was going to do,
but you knew about because she's like, do you want
to meet him? Yeah, Like, I feel like you knew
he was going to be there, So that's something that
you could have asked me about and I would have
been fine. I might have said no. But if the

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reason you didn't ask me is because you don't respect
my nose, then we got a separate problem. Yeah. I
would address this with my kid only. I also, when
I express my displeasure about this, I would not do
it in a way to embarrass my kid in front
of their friend. Like I wouldn't be collering at them

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in the car and stuff like that. I just be like, oh, man,
I feel like that was a setup and I'm not
cool with it. I don't please don't do this again.
I don't see the point in doing that to them.
So yeah, I just feel like I just feel like
this is something you need to address with their own

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child rather than rather than with the other kid. And like,
one of the things I like about my children is
that they know who I am and what I am
right they often either walking on them telling their friends

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this or whatever. They often tell They often are like, oh,
my mom wouldn't doesn't do that, My mom wouldn't be
okay with that or hold on, I can do this.
Let me ask my mom, and then they come and
ask my mom. They come and ask me like they
have an understanding of how it works with me and
that like I'm generally trying to be on their side. Now.

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If you I don't like being lied to, that's it.
That's what I like being lied to. But yeah, I
would not take this personally in any way, shape or form.
This is absolutely teen shit. This is teen stuff. This
is the teen stuff this is, and it's it's so
age appropriate. Like if they were doing this they were eleven,
I'd be like, oh, they're a little young to be
doing that. They got a void and meet them there.

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That's interesting. But fourteen is the perfect age for this,
this right here. Sixteen's too old for you know, and
eleven is too young fourteen fourteen is a perfect age
to be to be like, hey, we're gonna go this movie.
Meet me here. At least she didn't go to the
bathroom how and like, I don't know, wind it up

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like fucking Gypsy Rose. I can't think of a live
action I can't think of a live action Disney movie,
live action live cgi CGI version of fucking fucking Leland
on Stitches coming out in May, And every time I
see these advertisers for these live action movies, all I

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think about is Gypsy Roads in the handicap stall with
that and again, write your fucking book, Gypsy so I
can because I have I need answers. How are you
sitting him money? Where were you getting the money from? Like?
Did you were you vimmoing him? Did you did you

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get it on? Did you put it on that your
mom's car? You guys know I've done. I did an
episode about Gypsy's documentary. I know we're now allowed to
kill people. I just feel like she did enough time.
It's fine, Like I just feel like considering the circumstances,
like I feel like she did more than enough time.

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And if you're like, what's Gipsy the mastermind was the
other girl? I don't know and I and if Gypsy
was the mastermind, I wouldn't care. But I do want
to know about when you went to live action Cinderella
and you bust it open? Were you in your wheelchair?
Were you in your wheelchair and they had the caps
star bust it and open for this dude? Like play
to me anyway? Anyway, those are all the questions I

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(01:10:02):
remember what was the fucking episode on this week? Oh
my god, let me check. I'm back so stupid Southern
Hospitality season three. I really enjoy that show. I had
a lot of questions about things that were going on, namely,
has anybody checked Joe Bradley's cholesterol and blood pressure? Because

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why are his eyes popping out of his hand that
way all the time? That said, Maddie's hair eyes pop
out of her head too, but I just think she
looks like one of the Cyrus kids I did. I
did a couple of hours on that on the for
a bonus episode this week. I also uh for Princess
Diaries subscribers on Patreon, there was a two hour episode

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where I took you on Errand's with me and talked
about life, therapy and traffic. So, so make sure you
guys check those things out. We have next week is Mother,
so there will be a rerun here and I believe
we have one more palate cleanser before we're on to
season eighteen of By Pumpkin, and hopefully we'll see you

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there later