April 24, 2022 • 63 mins
I am an African American woman, the last of seven children. I was born and raised in Brooklyn, NY, and proud to be a three-time grandmother and a mother of four. I have a great passion for writing words that can change the course of a lost soul. It gives me great pleasure to say I'm an inspirational published author and public speaker with a clear message of hope. My published works include: Several articles, A COVID:19 Natural Strategies book, Volume-1 of a seven-series novelette book based on my life titled- “A Letter To God.”
This incredible, gripping tale will have you on the edge of your seat, and no doubt leave you wanting more. I speak at schools and churches, be a guest on TV and radio shows, and spread inspiration. I live my life now, demonstrating how I feel about there being no victims, only survivors of what has happened to us. I also know that with God's help, any hardships we experience can be overcome. Lastly, I am so grateful to co-host a LA Radio Show.
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This incredible, gripping tale will have you on the edge of your seat, and no doubt leave you wanting more. I speak at schools and churches, be a guest on TV and radio shows, and spread inspiration. I live my life now, demonstrating how I feel about there being no victims, only survivors of what has happened to us. I also know that with God's help, any hardships we experience can be overcome. Lastly, I am so grateful to co-host a LA Radio Show.
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Inspirational published author - speaker, screenwriter (inspirational-published-author.com
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/can-a-playa-play--3433224/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Yeah, yeah, old school, that's what I'm talking about.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Listening.
Speaker 1 (00:05):
This ain't for everybody.
Speaker 3 (00:06):
Some of y'all need to hear it.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
I know you're in the trenches fighting me, but check
it out. I'm gonna put it down like this. Why
I can hear him the things understand everything you're going through,
it's all part of the master plant or what you know,
cause you got saved. Everything was gonna be picatures with queen.
Speaker 4 (00:20):
You better wake up.
Speaker 5 (00:21):
Son.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Don't nothing come to a super fo train.
Speaker 4 (00:24):
Worse?
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Is there reaching fire?
Speaker 3 (00:25):
Well you know what he says.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
He don't work, don't blackness, don't get said. Yeah, he's
just said. He hoops his hands to the pot, looks
back to say makes fit. Some of y'all ain't been
in the switchers five minutes and you about ready to quit.
Speaker 5 (00:35):
I ain't mad.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
I'm just sitting you with the wheel. If you got
from me I was, Now, how do you think that
makes you feel? Check this out? He'p gas This is deep, Huey.
I mean, y'all have saw or nothing but your study
trying to reach something. But I thought him who was
able the position farther to fight his glory trumple might
be part of your testimony. But it ain't the end
of the stoke. Now I want to stuff's proper's side
way back.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
In the day.
Speaker 5 (00:54):
Why I sing the hook right here?
Speaker 4 (00:55):
See if the church getting.
Speaker 5 (00:56):
My lace working out working up?
Speaker 6 (01:11):
We yes can yes he can think you're not saying
the fire reploset just fly you You say, why you
what your shut shake?
Speaker 1 (01:25):
What would Jesus do? Why you're asking if he ain't
trying to do what he's saying. You told you he
was gonna have tribulations, but you thought he was playing
for one minute?
Speaker 5 (01:32):
You trying?
Speaker 1 (01:32):
How good guy? The Beca't nobody missing talk the next
vintage of back fight so fast I'm like your moon walking.
Oh yeah, I'm listening to myself so that I ain't
no better. It ain't like I've been falling as every
word O beying it to the letter. But we're told
us we gotta remember that. We say yo, yeah, found
down the fat say humble, let him annoy. It ain't
even as I thought it was. I've been lying up,
I told you, but it showed up betting better all
(01:53):
the time. Trusted, that's the beast. Ain't if we're going
through the KB hill God put that on this tub.
Like they say, you can shop now if you walk too,
So why you go You're gonna be your talk quaking.
We're blocking.
Speaker 5 (02:08):
Weekend make starting well.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
Yeah, we're gonna pump the brakes right there, everybody, and
I'm gonna say, welcome to the show that's your whole
Slavon Patterson and you're listening to kind of play and play.
You know, we're that show that uh brain leading individuals
from all over the world hopefully to enhance and inspire
different people to try to do better. You know, I
(02:51):
had to give us a couple of minutes the big
boys stairs, you know, because we got a crazy ish
going on in the world right about now. You know,
there's a lot of people them to reach down, touch
them and help them out, help them pioneer their way,
you know, they journey through this thing we call life.
Cause we got a whole bunch of different distractions and
curves and turns and pitfalls and a lot of quicksand
(03:15):
and all that stuff that can distract us, you know,
and have us go through things that we had that
help in hand, a little bit of guidance, we may
have not have gone down those streets today, we got
a great show lined up for you. Got missus China
Mayers gonna be joining us here in a good second.
And she's an inspirational writer, publish author, public speaker, screenwriter,
(03:40):
and even in real estate invested y'all, So get out
your pen and paper so you could take notes and
get inspired, get it motivated. You know what I'm saying.
We gonna change some things today. So with that being said,
Ms Meyers, are you with us?
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Yes, I am okay, I am pleased to be here.
Thank you for.
Speaker 4 (04:07):
Having me, Thank you for joining us today. You know,
I mean you have a story, a testament, and I
see you've been through this theory I call life. So
I know you've got a lot to a lot to
talk about, a lot to tell our listeners about and
hopefully listen to you. Hopefully listening to you. You know
(04:29):
they won't run into no more than brick walls out there.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Yeah yeah, because life can kick you in the teeth,
but you've got to be willing to wipe your mouth
off and keep on moving.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
You know, right, and said is so so very true.
And there's so many people in the world you'd be surprised,
but even they would be surprised. They don't even know
how to get out of their own way, let alone
man of yours. They don't even know how to get
out of it your own way.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Well, once you learn how to overcome you know, trials
and tribulations in your life, I like to say life
is pretty simple, okay, because it can be simple if
you learn to make better choices. You know, we're all
gonna make mistakes. We're all going to go through some
(05:23):
stuff that's inevitable, and that is a fact of life.
But the human condition tends to fall and you know,
sometimes stay down, you know, but you have to remember
that every day that you wake up, you're giving an
(05:43):
opportunity to make better choices, do better, be a better person.
So forget about what happened yesterday. I'm not saying totally forget,
because that's how we learn from things that happen to us.
But what I'm saying is is moving forward, you know,
and that's something we have to do. And I heard
(06:05):
you say something about quicksand. Well, when we get in
quicksand and we get stuck, it's really up to us
to get out of that. Yeah, you can take medication.
Yeah you can see a therapist. But ultimately, it's like
even a drug addiction, you have to first acknowledge that
(06:27):
there's a problem and then move forward.
Speaker 4 (06:32):
You know, well you said a mouthful right there, But
I mean, how long let me see how many and
how long does it take a person suffer from some
type of addiction to admit they actually have a problem.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
Well, I think it depends on individual. And I'm not
a psychiatrist or a doctor. But what I do know,
because my brother suffered from heroin addiction, I do know
that they tend to be stuck as well. You know,
you could be stuck mentally, you could be stuck physically,
(07:10):
you could be stuck spiritually, or you can be stuck
with an addition. So what people think, and it's a
misconception that let's say you're an alcoholic, they say that
you will always be an alcoholic. Okay, now I like
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to think of things batually. You know, will you be
always an alcoholic?
Speaker 4 (07:36):
No?
Speaker 2 (07:38):
The reason why I say that, and this is going
to be shocking to your listeners if they have an
alcohol addiction or any addition, there's things you can do
to get that alcohol. So to speak, out of your
liver because your liver is affected by that alcohol. So
(07:58):
they say you're always an alcohol Yes, because the minute
you take a drink, your brain and your liver know
that this is what it wants, this is what it craves,
this is what it has to have. But if you
clean your liver out, that thought is forgotten. Okay. If
you work out, I'm gonna give you example. If you
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work out, your muscles are going to build right. Everybody
knows that. You go to the gym, you start looking fit,
your muscles get built up. Okay. Let's say you're not
able to do that for a few years or a
few months, however long you stop doing it, well, then
the muscles tend to sag a little, okay, But the
(08:41):
minute that you start to exercise again, your muscles have memory. Okay.
Every organ and body part in the body has memory. Okay,
and if you take away that memory, the memory is
no longer there. Okay. When I quit smoking, I used
(09:04):
to smoke smoke since I was ten. Stop quitting stop
smoking around thirty. So when I smoked, I smoked a lot,
and one day I just quit. So I read this
book on how to quit addictions, and I was like, hmm,
this is interesting because what it basically said was and
I read numerous books Anthony Robbins was one of them
(09:28):
on addictions, but this particular book, it was about changing
your habits. Okay, because when you smoke, you have certain habits.
Your listeners know that if they smoke, when after you eat,
you want a cigarette. I'm digressing here, but I just
wanted to talk about this as well, because I know
(09:49):
a lot of people maybe that are listening and might
have this problem. So, Okay, you're smoking, and after you
get done eating, you want a cigarette. If you're talking
on the phone, you want a cigarette. If you're driving
in the car, you want a cigarette. So those are
certain habits. I'm not a phenomena. Everyone who smokes has
those certain habits. So what you do is you change
(10:10):
the habit. What I did was, instead of when I
was talking on the phone, lighting a cigarette, I got
a lollipop and I sucked on a lollipop after I
done eating. Instead of lighting up a cigarette, I cleaned
my kitchen immenseally critically, So you know, I just changed
(10:32):
the habit. You know, but people can do that as
well with alcohol. They could do with drugs, but also
with alcohol and drugs. You've got to For some drugs,
specially heroine, you've got to clean your liver out, okay,
with heroin. With alcohol, you got to clean your liver out.
With heroin, you have to clean your blood out. And
there's certain herbs and stuff. I suggest going to an herbalist,
(10:56):
you know, that could help them with that, because guess
what when I change those certain habits. And I also,
nicotine can also go in through your bloodstream, and that's
another thing why you're addicted. I cleaned my blood out
with vitamin C. Okay, I took a lot of the
vitamin C. I drank a lot of water to cleanse
that nicotine out of my system. Do you know in
(11:18):
a week, and I had tried many times, but in
a week, I had no longer the desire to smoke.
So yeah, if you have an addiction, whether it's alcohol, drugs, smoking,
go to herbalists, go to a natural doctor, or wherever
you got to go to get this this thing that's
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controlling you out of your system. Okay. So yeah, whatever
I've done in my life, whatever that is, whether it's
quit smoking or overcome homelessness, which a lot of things.
Some of the things that happened to me first and foremost.
I don't want to sound like a religious nut, but
(12:03):
I called on God, you know, and he helped me,
and he saved me and literally literally guided me to
the places I needed to be because each time I
was going through something, I came upon people who were
able to help me and did help me, and I
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couldn't have done anything. And I believe this today still
with all of my heart, that we cannot do anything
without God's help. Okay, And you might be thinking, your
listeners might be saying, how do you do that? You
know what does that mean? That means that you asked
for God's forgiveness for whatever you've done. Okay. Some people
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don't like to take blame for what they have done. It, Oh,
I didn't do anything. Well, if you were there, you
did something, you know, you had some part in it,
you know, relationship that maybe didn't work. Look out, you
might think, oh it was all her. Well you know what,
I'm sure, and I'd like to say this for myself
as well. There was probably something that I did or
(13:13):
you did. There has to be something you were not blameless.
So if you want to change your life and you
want to go in a different direction. I empower you
your listeners to do that with God's help. Okay, because
we're living in a society where anything goes. You know
(13:37):
you could be this way, you can be that way.
It's okay. You know you're a free spirit. You know
times are changing. It's not like it used to be.
You're allowed to do this, you're allowed to do that. Well,
how about putting some limits on yourself. You know, I
say this what I'm about to say, and I want
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you to listen to really digging deep and listen to
what I'm about to say. We can all be child molesters,
we can all be rapists, we can all be abusers,
we can all be horrible people. It's who we are.
(14:19):
We are innately evil, and Jesus was sent here to
save us from our sins before we committed them. So
think about that. When you walk out your door and
you speak ugly about somebody, or you want to hurt somebody,
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or you're jealous of somebody, think about those things and
change them. Because this would be in my opinions, and
I'm sure there's lots of people who will agree. A wonderful,
beautiful life if we can all learn to get along. Okay,
(15:02):
stop judging people. It's not our place to judge people.
It's God's put It's in the Bible. We are not
to judge. Now. Yeah, we want to judge people who
have hurt us, but really we shouldn't because that's not
our place. Our place is to figure out what we
have done wrong. We can't be in charge of other
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people from stakes. We can't be.
Speaker 4 (15:27):
We're trying to do China. Don't you agree that that
the basic of the core issue with all this stuff
is people accepting responsibility and admitting that they have some
type of issue, because it seems like, you know, there's
a lot of denial in the beginning that that stands
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in the way of some type of healing. How do
they how do they get past that part? And to me,
that's like the foundations everything we're talking about.
Speaker 2 (16:01):
Well, I can tell you quite simply look in the
mirror and evaluate yourself. If you have to do it
on a daily basis, do it, okay, I know I do. Okay,
I'll leave church and think what a church? He just
cut me off. I can't believe. And then I'll think
to myself, wait a minute, I just redeem myself. I
(16:23):
just renewed myself in front of God, and I'm talking
bad about this person cutting me off or you know,
speeding past me or being rude, whatever the case may be. Okay,
evaluate yourself. When you evaluate yourself, you can find it's
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called creative criticism. You know, do it to yourself. Your
boss is going to do it to you, Your husband's
gonna do it to your wife's gonna do it to you.
Guess what, even your children might do it to you.
It's called creative cursism. But why don't we know what
you want?
Speaker 4 (17:00):
South? I think we have a callery. I think we
have a caller. Let me see who this is. Yeah,
go ahead, can you hear me? Mis? Yes? How are you?
Speaker 7 (17:20):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (17:21):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (17:21):
How you doing? I'm not in Las Vegas? Yeah, trying
to you. You know. One of the things that you
just said was was awesome is you know, evaluate yourself,
you know, in the mirror. Get up every morning and
look in the mirror, because that right there will you
have enough to talk about the rest of the day,
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not to be able to uh literally go out and
criticize someone else. But there's one other thing that I
believe in is if you see something going on show.
You know, it shows some accountability. It's not just the
person with what they're doing. Someone there showing that accountability
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of being able to step in fearlessly and and and
you know, talk to that person, you know, or reach
out to that person and not necessarily criticize that person,
but go out and talk to that person, see where
they are, ask them questions. And so that's my skin.
(18:24):
But thank you for that about looking in the mirror,
because if they did that in the morning, they wouldn't
have time to criticize anybody else because there's a lot
of jump that they're looking at in the morning that
take them all throughout the day.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
Fantastic, That was awesome. You are so right, And yeah,
we need to help each other. You know. I'm in
the entertainment industry. I'm trying to get into it, let's say,
and I'm a writer and I want to do scripts
and stuff. But I noticed that a lot of people,
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and I speak to about this with other people as well,
a lot of people don't like to help each each other.
Speaker 4 (19:06):
And they say, they say they do, China, they say
they do, and they say they will. But it's just
conversation because in actuality. They don't and they won't because
I am I am. I mean, I am in the
business that you speak of, and I hear that day
in and day out, you know, our people to reach out,
help somebody, do this and do that, and it's and
(19:28):
it's just conversation. And I try to figure out still
right today, thirty forty years later, I mean, who are
they doing it for? I mean, are they doing it
for themselves to make them feel good about hearing themselves speak?
Because they're definitely not doing it for me, because you know,
I seek through it before they get through the first sentence.
So I'm wondering, welly do they even bother doing that?
Speaker 6 (19:48):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (19:48):
Well, I think it's it's like a conversational piece, you know.
And and when i'm when I'm about to say, I'm
not being bragg negotious. I have helped a lot of
people in my life. You know why, Because one, I'm
a Christian, you know, and and we're followers followers of Christ,
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you know, but also because I this is how I
want to live. I want to treat people the way
I want to be treated. You know. Now, don't get
me wrong, I will tell you off if you try
to you know, abuse me or you know, treat me poorly. Yeah,
(20:31):
I'll do that because I'm from Brooklyn, and you know,
I was raised, you know, a rough way, and so
when you get when you get raised like that and
you kind of raise yourself, you learn not to take
crap from people, so to speak. But I have helped
a lot of people in my life. Somebody said to me,
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I don't have a job. Guess why. Fifteen minutes later,
they'd have a job. Okay, I've done it. If someone
told me, oh, you know I'm struggling right now, you know,
I would send them a gift card. I've done it,
you know, for some groceries. You know, if all of
us would learn how to do that, and it's not
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for anything. I didn't get anything from that, and it
didn't really cost me hardly anything, you know. But if
we can all learn to do that, could you imagine,
like I said, the world people say, oh, the world
is so bad. No, the world isn't bad. It's some
of the people in it. Now. When I say that,
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don't get me wrong. There are so many good It
could really literally make me cry. There are so many
good people in the world, more so than bad people.
I know there's people out there you're listeners that might
not believe that, but I have experienced it firsthand. There
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are so man and I'm talking all colors that it
doesn't just go for black people because I'm African Americans.
It doesn't just go for Indian people. It doesn't just
go you know, for Spanish people or Latino people attunting people.
It doesn't I have met I can't even count on
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my hands. I can't even count out loud how many
people I have met that were good people. So with
that said, I you that aren't so good. How about
your neighbor or your brother, or your sister, or your
mama or your brother telling them that they're not so
good and they need to change that, because guess what,
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when I see my children not acting a certain type
of way, I will let them know. Okay, And I'm
gonna tell you this.
Speaker 4 (22:45):
You may count. You may come from a different era,
because I know a lot of these new parents don't
kids they are totally because if they were like we were.
And I'm not dating myself, but I came from there
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when my mother could be on another side of the room
and she can cut her eyes at me, and I
know I need to sit down and be quiet. Other
than that, everything in that other other than that, everything
in that room is fin to fight. First thing she
can get her hands on is coming toward me.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, definitely. Yeah. And you're right, this is
a different era. But these kids have these these new
parents have to know number one, well.
Speaker 4 (23:31):
They can have to have to start. They have to
start being parents. They have to start being parents China,
because most of these my parents want to be friends
with their kids instead of parents out the kids.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
Yeah, and that's that's a terrible road to go down. Okay.
And uh, I have a philosophy. You know. My son
said to me one time, my youngest Sonny said, oh,
does I feel depressed? I said, well, you better get
over it. I said, you want you know what, I said,
let's go. I got him up, and I took him
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down to a boy's home and I talked to some
of the boys there, okay, and and some of the
boys told him their stories. Okay, bother morassed them, mother
put a cigarette in his eye, you know, all these things.
And I said to the kids, y'all, thanks to see
you guys later. And I left. You know, I didn't
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volunteer there, but I used to like give food and stuff.
And when we walked out, I said, are you still depressed? No,
I said yeah, because guess what, you got it pretty good. Now.
You might not have it as good as Johnny down
the street or Kathy, you know up the street, but
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you have it pretty good right now. Okay, you got
to you got three squares a day. You know, you
got a roof over your head. Your lights are never
cut off. Because I was a single mother, I had
had boyfriends, but I've worked a lot to pay my
bills and to pay for my kids. I didn't ask
for any handouts, you know. So we've got to teach
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out children that, you know, what are you talking about?
You're depressed? Okay, Now there might be something hormonally wrong
that they might be depressed. Okay. My oldest son had
a problem where he was very acting out and it
was crazy. He was acting like a nut. So I
took him to a nutritionist and come to find out,
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he was getting too many carbs in the course of
a day. So there could be reasons why, you know,
things are going on, But as a parent, you got
to find these things out, you know, you just can't
settle with what somebody's telling you. But anyway, yeah, these
kids are different, definitely, you know, but I'll pay you
this if I'm sorry. What did you say?
Speaker 4 (25:57):
No, I said they totally they totally different, because to
make trying to figure out what are they thinking about
until you really realize that's the problem.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
They're not thinking because people have to your parents have to,
whether it's just a mother or just a father or
a mother and father, they have to make them accountable.
They have to know where they went wrong. Now, I
have a sister, and I don't want to say her name,
but she had a son who short story. He was, Oh,
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he was so great in sports. He was wonderful. I
mean I thought he was going to go pro he
was so good. But he came into the classroom one day,
just to give you an example, and he threw an
apple at the teacher. Well, the teacher didn't know who
threw it, and she asked everyone who threw the apple.
You know, the teacher demanded something of him and the
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other kids as well, and he took it out on
her and threw her apple at her. But she didn't
see who it was. So everybody, you know, says she
called them in one by one who threw the apple
or Well, they finally gave him up and they wanted
to spend him for a couple of days. Well, he
would have missed the game. Well, my sister, instead of
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saying you did wrong. You know, you shouldn't have done that,
and you're going to get this suspension, she took him
out of the school and put him in a new school. Well,
his life went downhill after that, you know, because she
never made him accountable and she never told him when
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he was wrong, so he never thought he was wrong.
And long story short, that's what we have to do.
You know, my youngest son of he was something else.
But I you know, my all my children, I gave
them the seed. I gave them seeds. You know, this
is what you should do, you know, Praise God, you know,
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ask God for help. You know, this is what you
should do. I suggest this. I suggest that you give
them the seed. Now that's not saying that they're going
to turn out perfect right away. They might not turn
out perfect till they're forty. But you put the seed
there and then the seed grows, you know. So it's
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something we have to do with parents. And parents should
never forget that. It doesn't matter if you don't think
they're listening, or you know, you get sit up and
telling them the same old thing. Well, that's the thing
of being a parent. And I'm not saying I was
the perfect parent. What I'm saying is that's something you
definitely have to do. And there's no manual, you know,
there's no manual how to raise kids. But you know
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right from wrong. You know, if they're doing something, they
should be told about it. You know. I know a
woman her son he had such anger issues, you know,
and when he grew up, he still had those anger issues.
And he got a girlfriend and he was hitting her,
and I said to her, I said, you got to
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stop him. Well what could I do? What could you do?
You better do something before he hurts this girl?
Speaker 7 (29:07):
And what.
Speaker 4 (29:09):
Did her What did her husband do that to her?
Did his boys see that happening to her?
Speaker 2 (29:15):
You know, you might be right about that, probably probably
because we we are what we see right too, So yeah,
that's a possibility. But she eventually told him that if
he ever hit her again, she was gonna have the
mother said this, she was going to have him locked up.
And he never did that again and he got help,
(29:37):
and you know, he's doing great now. But what if
she hadn't have stepped in, maybe maybe his girlfriend would
have got hurt. Maybe you know, somebody else would have
came along and they would have got hurt. So now
he has it under control and it's been you know,
fifteen years now. So but as parents, we have to
(29:58):
step in and you know, say, what wrong my opinion?
Speaker 4 (30:03):
You know, oh, I totally agree with that one hundred
and fifty. Parents have to be parents and start trying
to trying to be friends, you know, because that's that's
for me to care that whole issue, because eventually the
kids don't end up respecting the respecting the parents, you know,
calling nobody the first name instead of mother, father, and dad,
(30:25):
they call them by their first name. They want to
laugh and party with them, get high with them, drink
with them, and then when there's a serious when there's
a serious issue, you know, they just talk to their
parents any kind of way. There's no respect. It just
doesn't work.
Speaker 2 (30:41):
Yes, no, it doesn't. And you have to gain respect
and teach them respect because if they don't respect themselves,
they can't respect you. They can't respect anybody. So you
have to teach them how to respect themselves and respect you.
And it's all about that, you know, at all times.
Speaker 4 (31:00):
You hear that all the time from kids. You can't
tell me nothing. You're not my mama, you not my daddy.
Speaker 2 (31:06):
Yeah, we wouldn't say that back in the day, right, Shoot.
Speaker 4 (31:10):
No, because first of all, I used to go to
this junior high school. And and if you messed up
in school, you went to the pe, to the gym teacher.
You got swats. I mean the gym teacher literally put
hands on you with a paddle. Then you go then
you go home, then you go home with a note,
and you get it again, you get it again. Yes,
(31:33):
and whatever that was you did, whatever that was you
did in school, you didn't do it. No more. Might
be some different stuff. It might have been some different stuff,
but it might not. It ain't gonna be that again, No, No,
that's for sure.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
And I remember one time and they took this out
of the school. I remember one time I got a
letter sent home and the letter stated, do you do
you want your child to be subject to something like
that corporal punishment? Yes? Or no? Well I look the
(32:08):
word up. My mother had a Webster dictionary and I
look the word up corporal punishment. I was like, oh, wow,
they're talking. They talk about uh does my mother agree
with them.
Speaker 4 (32:23):
Or something?
Speaker 2 (32:25):
Yeah. I was like okay, so my mother put yes.
I was like, why did you do that? She was like,
cause if you're not going to behave, you're gonna get
corporal punished.
Speaker 4 (32:40):
We're gonna fix you.
Speaker 1 (32:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
But yeah, they took that out of school. God forbid.
If if you know these kids get hit today, Well yeah,
I remember my kids saying something, though, I'll call the
cops on you. I said, well, guess what, you better
pray the cops take you out when they leave.
Speaker 4 (33:03):
Yeah, well we do. My brothers and I. You know,
we tried that too. And you know my mom was like,
I tell you what, I call them for you and
right here, Yeah, we didn't try that. No more.
Speaker 8 (33:19):
No, no, definitely not because you know we knew better. Also,
you know, talking about your business out in the street,
Oh that was a no no. But yeah, people to
get back on points, you know, it's I'm not judging anyone.
I'm just saying that the society has changed. The society
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has changed, and it's changed because people are becoming so nonchalant,
you know, with things that they'll do, and you know,
things that you know they allow their children to do.
And you know, I had a conversation with my thirteen
year old daughter, fourteen year old almost fourteen year old
daughter today. She said, I'm getting a laptop and I'm
(34:03):
getting I said, wait a minute. You you asking or
you're telling.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
You know, it's like, which is it? Because if you're telling,
that means you're not And if you're asking, that means
we can you know, my husband and I your stad
and I can discuss it and and we'll see what happens.
You know, but don't tell us what you're doing. You know.
That's a no no. But so and it's not mean,
(34:34):
it's not you know. I mean, really, the Internet is
a bad place for children. There's too there's too much
going on on there. There's too much stuff they could
be subjected to. And I'm not saying that they're not
going to ever be You're going to shelter them and
they're not going to ever be subjected to things. No,
that's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is is
(34:56):
that things that they don't need to be subjected to,
you know, if you can help that, I say, do it.
You know, kids don't need to know about you know,
sex and all this other stuff that's going on and
pornography and and everything. That's just like normal behavior. No
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it's not. It's not normal behavior for a fourteen year
old boy to be watching pornography. It's not.
Speaker 4 (35:24):
So.
Speaker 2 (35:24):
You know, my daughter will be in the room on
her phone and you know, and I'll say, come in,
you know, periodically what are you doing. You know, I'll
look at what she's you know, looking at and you know,
take her phone and go in her past history and
see what's going on. Because children are children, and they're
going to get in stuff, and they're going to be inquisitive,
(35:47):
and you know, so you don't want them, you know,
dealing with that stuff before they really have to. You know.
That's my opinion, and I think an the logical way
with grief.
Speaker 4 (35:58):
So what do you feel is this so because I
see the problem being a lot bigger than the individual family,
I see that problem generating, originating and coming from our
political figures society in general, because they seem like they're
on the past now where they don't even want kids
to be kids anymore. You know where we used to
(36:20):
play with little red wagons and tricycles in the street,
they don't even want to do that. I mean, I'm
just reveating on the points you made about, you know,
children growing up too fast, and I think they are,
you know, they're not being allowed to be kids, you
(36:41):
know what I mean. And this whole, this whole gender
thing that they got going on in the world today.
You know, I have a man, I have a whole
lot of issues, and I don't want to get off
point either because I had an argument or should I say,
a conversation with somebody about the same sex adoption.
Speaker 2 (37:01):
Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (37:03):
They felt like, well, every kid needs love and they
need to do that and all this and all that.
And I say, well, you know, that's absolutely right. But
I said, but when you agree to children are going
to emulate what they see on a daily basis. They're
going to see what their parents or they loved ones
(37:24):
and the people that they're around all the time. I say, so,
what are you going to tell a little boy when
he go to school and his teacher catch him following
another little boy, But this is what he sees at home?
You know what I'm saying. I say, I don't under
I don't understand our whole society in the times in
which we're living in it, because it seemed like they're
(37:46):
creating generations ahead of us with more confusion. I know
I might get in trouble. Yeah, more generations of confusion.
Speaker 2 (37:58):
I am with you speaking. You are preaching to the choir,
because I am with you on this. Now listen, it's
not my place to judge. I explain that to you.
I feel this way wholeheartedly. If you read the Bible,
you know this. But my husband says, love the sin
or hate the sin. But my philosophy is, these children
(38:25):
are are learning way too much. Okay, how do you
know you want to be if you're a girl, how
do you know you want to be a man? Okay,
it's got to be something you've read seen. Okay, let's
say let's say, for argument's sake, it's something you felt. Okay.
If you know the definition of trenderism, the definition means
(38:49):
that it's a mental illness. Okay, I'm not the one
that came up with that definition. It is, you know, narcissism,
you know, some mental illness. I'm not the one that
came up with that definition. It's something that is factual.
So this is what I believe. Now. I always like
(39:12):
to simplify things and state facts. Okay, if you have
a child that, let's say, is experiencing, you know, hormonal
issues like a girl wanting to be a boy or
feels like, you know, she's a boy, Okay, let's look
into that. Okay, why is that? All right? That's why
(39:32):
I'm into natural health because I just don't want to
put band aids on things and go from there. I
like to figure out why. Okay, Now here's a philosophy,
and I can be wrong because I'm not a doctor.
I'm not a psychiatrist. But I think a lot of
gay people, and like you said, you might get I
might get in trouble for this. I was in a
(39:55):
facility when where there was i'd say seventy percent gay people,
and I asked a lot of them individually, were you
ever molested? And let's say one ones, I asked ten people,
(40:16):
do you know? At least eight of them told me yes,
that they were molested by different people in their families. Okay,
or the neighbor or a cousin. They were molested. Now,
the ones this is what. I also believe the ones
that didn't, that said no, they were never Maybe they
(40:39):
were okay and they don't know it. Maybe they were babies. Okay,
then that's the issue for gay. Now the issue for transvestite.
I don't even know if I'm pronouncing it right. I
hope i am, because I don't want to offend anybody.
But the situation with transvestite. If you're let's say, a man,
and feel like you're a woman, Okay, in chicken today,
(41:03):
and you're gonna think I'm crazy. In chicken and a
lot of meat, there are hormones. Okay. Now, I'm not
a scientist. I'm not a doctor. I'm not a psychologist,
but let's just say for argument's sake, that they are
giving specific hormones to specific animals. Okay, maybe they're given
(41:28):
more estrogen to chickens. Maybe they're given more testosterone to cows.
All Right, I eat organic meat, but I'm talking about
regular meat. Okay, let's just say that. Now, what would
happen if I was given me myself testosterone? Guess what
(41:53):
I'd feel like a man? I would literally feel like
a man, because women are not We have estrogen, and
we have destosterone, but we have more estrogen. What if
I was given hormones that gave me more tasosterone and
less estrogen, what would happen? I would feel like a man?
(42:16):
So is this what's happening?
Speaker 4 (42:20):
Well, we never know because the people that control the situation,
that would monitor this stuff to FDA and so on
and so forth, these elected peoples, they're more criminal and cooked,
more crooked than the crooks. At least I got I
got respect for the crooks because they say we crooks.
Speaker 2 (42:40):
Well, it's all it's all for profit. It's like high
coast corn syrup and food. It's in everything. But guess what.
You know what high food coast concrupt does to you.
It stops your metabolism from working for twenty four hours. Okay,
that's why everyone's overweight twenty four hours. Is you eat
anything that has to high fruit toast corn syrup in it,
(43:06):
your vocabolism will literally stop working for twenty four hours.
So what do you think is gonna happen? You're gonna
gain weight because your body can't get rid of fact
without building up your energy and and you know, moving
your body in the way to get rid of waste.
So yeah, These are a lot of questions that I have,
(43:31):
and I think that if people would look into them,
or you know, they evaluated more. But that's the parents job. Okay.
You know, it's just like if you have a child
who seems, you know, a little disturbed. You know, let's
let's just say she's acting a little disturbed every month,
you know, around the fifth of the month. Oh boy,
(43:52):
she's got a little crazy again. It's hormonal. Okay, just happened.
You know. There's certain things maybe to talk to the
doctor about, you know, maybe giving her whatever you know,
to you know, monitor her hormones or whatever the case
may be. But it's your momals. Guess what if you're
a woman out there listening to me, you know what
(44:13):
can happen every month? Okay, you get angry, sometime you
get mad, Sometime you're not as bad. You know, last
month was really bad. Let's say this month you're not
so bad. Maybe you just crying a little bit. Who knows.
Speaker 4 (44:30):
I know, I go through it the first of every
I go through it the first of everyone. What my
bills are due? How about it, China, let's talk a
little bit about your book. I don't mean to change
the subject. But I want to get into this no problem.
Time is getting short. Tell us a little bit about
your book and what caused you to write your book.
Speaker 2 (44:53):
Well, my book is titled a Letter to God. Ah,
a letter to God some peop we'll just put the letter.
But it's a letter to God. It's about my life.
And you know, I went through some childs and tribulations
(45:15):
even to this day, because guess what, that's life. But
as a child it's a little harder, you know. I
think as human beings we become problems for avers, you know.
But when you're young and you don't have the right guidance,
it's hard to solve problems. So you just kind of
wing it. And when you wing it, you make a
(45:36):
lot of mistakes. So I did. I made a lot
of mistakes, and those those mistakes cost me, you know.
And even though I had my stake, I believe in
God even when I was younger, you know, up until now.
When I was younger, i'd go to church and I
would literally cry, you know, and people say, oh, why
(46:00):
you're trying, you know. Well, I found out later as
an adult it's because I love God so much, you know,
I just, you know, like even Easter time. It makes
me so, you know, I should be happy, but i'm
i'm I'm, I'm mourning because you know, God sent his son,
you know, for our sins. So I always had faith
(46:24):
and and it It doesn't make me the type of
person that knows everything about God and the Bible, because
I didn't. But I just knew. I loved him so much.
So I've made all these mistakes even so, and God
saved me many times, and the book tells those stories,
(46:47):
you know how you know he saved me. But I
think everyone has a letter to God, has a story,
you know, and when your letter is over, when you die,
you know, But as you're living, you're writing your story,
you know, not literally, but you know everything you do,
(47:07):
you know, is about your story. And my question to
your listeners, what do you want your story to be?
You know? Do you want your story to be that
you were an abusive husband? You know? Do you want
your story to be that you weren't the best mother
that you could be. Do you want your story to
(47:29):
be that you were lazy or you know, unmotivated? What
do you want your story to be? You know? I've
worked since I was twelve years old, you know, different jobs.
My mother owned a carvel store ice cream store, and
she said to me one time, I'm going to digress
(47:49):
for a little bit, just to tell the short story.
And she said to me one time, and I was
her first best worker. I washed the walls. Because that's
the type of person I am. I put passion and
hard work into everything I do. It doesn't matter. I
don't care if I'm cleaning the toilet. It's just my personality.
I try to do everything to the best of my ability.
(48:11):
So I really worked, and she never paid me. I
didn't expect pay. But one day I said to her, Oh,
you know, could I have five dollars to go with
my friends? All my friends are going to the movies
blah blah blah. And she said what And I said yeah,
I said, you know, all my friends are going to me.
Could I have five dollars? And she said to me,
(48:34):
you ate your five dollars up. Well, guess what I did.
I quit. I said, well, I no longer work for you.
She said, you worked for me. I said yeah, and
I'm your best worker, and I no longer worked for you.
And I went around the corner. I asked the lady
at Dunkin Donuts if she needed help, and she said okay.
(49:00):
And my mother begged me to come back because she
knew I was her best worker. And that can be
said for any job I've ever had in my whole life,
you know. But you have to give it your all.
So what do you What do you want your story
to be? Is my point. So I wrote my story,
and I hope that it can help people, you know,
(49:22):
because regardless of what happened, I never cursed God. It
wasn't God's fault. You know that I ended up pregnant
at fourteen. It was me with this, you know, belief
that I wanted to have a family. I wanted to
have a family with the white take offense. I wanted
to bake cookies, you know, and I just never found
(49:45):
that right person to do that with. And I read
in the Bible that it was possible that people did this,
you know, they started families at early ages and they
lived happily ever after, you know, as far as I thought,
you know, And that's that was my dream to do that,
and it never worked out. But I made so many mistakes,
(50:10):
you know, and like I said, with those mistakes came
trials and tribulations, and God helped me every single time.
There was a time I was in Africa because I
went to Africa because my sister had won a scholarship
to study abroad. And I'm going to give you an
(50:32):
example how God helped me. So my sister won a
scholarship and my mother sent me with her. I was
ten years old. And so my sister started to make
friends and she started to get a life, and she
was leaving me alone more. And I was, you know,
staying with her friends who she got to babysit me more.
(50:55):
And you know, at the time, I was mad at
her because you know, how could she do this to me.
She's basically leaving me in the country. You know that
I don't know anyone, and blah blah blah. And I
went to school there in Africa. It was Dambia, Africa.
And one day I was sitting in her friend's house
who she had left me with, and she had went
(51:16):
to another part of the country. And I basically prayed
to God and asked him to please let me go home.
I don't want to stay here anymore. And I cried
and I prayed and I cried and I prayed and
I got up, and the minute I got up, there
was a knock at the door and the police were
(51:38):
there with the UN and they put me on a
plane and I went home because my mother was trying
to find me and she couldn't find me, and so
she called the police and she couldn't find my sister,
and she, like I said, she called the police and
they told her to call the UN and the UN
and got involved, and basically they tracked me down and
I went from that girl's house to back home. There
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was another time I, you know, was a single mom,
and I wanted to send my sister my son to
my sister's house in Bermuda. My sister lived and lives
in Bermuda, and I needed five hundred bucks. You know,
I was short five hundred bucks because I wanted to
give him some money and of course pay my bills.
(52:21):
And I'd worked really really hard, but they you know,
had cut hours blah blah blah. So I was short
five hundred bucks and I prayed, you know, for God
to help me out with that. And when the mailman
came about half an hour later, I got a check
for five hundred dollars. Clinton was giving people money. So yeah,
(52:43):
that's my point. Put your faith in God, you know,
and asked him to help you with things, and pray
to him and actual redemption and forgiveness because if you
if you want to be forgiven, you've got to forgive too.
So you got to remember that. And God has always
been there for me. And I always say this. I
(53:05):
don't like to sound like a holy roller, because you know,
some people could be fanatical, and I'm not. But I
do believe in God with all of my heart. And
I've known all the things that He's done for me.
I'm not blind to them. The thing is that song.
You know, I was blind and now I can see,
you know, amazing grace. You know it's true. You know
(53:26):
people have to see you know what's going on. You know,
my daughter said to me one time, my thirteen year
old daughter, how do you know God is there? How
do you know He's helped you? Because I know, she goes, well,
how do you know?
Speaker 8 (53:41):
I know?
Speaker 2 (53:42):
I just know it's something that I feel. You know,
it's something that I know. He's been with me. He's
helped me, He save me. You know, I felt his
hand puld me. I've helped I've felt you know, his
Holy ghost saved me. I felt it. I was in
a car accident, you know, horrific and I didn't even
get a scratch. Everyone else the one girl lost her baby,
(54:05):
you know, my cousin was cut badly. My sister broke
her arm. It was horrific, and I didn't. You didn't
get a scratch, you know, not even a scratch. So yeah,
put your faith in God, and I say, you know,
go from there. You know, everything else will follow, you know.
Speaker 4 (54:25):
So well, that's definitely a good start.
Speaker 2 (54:30):
Yeah, yeah, definitely we have to if we want this
world to change, if we want things to change, I
think that is a good start. You know, start with God.
Put your faith in God and change your you know,
your habits and and you know, listen, we all know
when we're doing bad. We all know when we're not
doing the right thing. You know. There's times in my
(54:53):
life when you know, people say, O, why'd you do it?
Because I had to do the right thing, you know,
I had to, you know, so we know when that
comes upon us what we should be doing.
Speaker 3 (55:05):
But we.
Speaker 2 (55:09):
Need God to help. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (55:12):
So so China, this a letter to Guide that's the
first of a seven book series.
Speaker 2 (55:19):
Yes, yes, and I'm working on volume two, but I
stopped to write a natural COVID prevention book, so I'm
trying to get that published. And then as soon as
I get that published, because I got it edited and
everything and it's fine, so I have it with a
publisher now, and then I'm going to be finishing up
(55:43):
Volume two. Yeah, it's Volume two is really something as well.
I end up on the Carnival, and I travel on
the carnival for five years. Says just a little teaser
for your listeners to you know, check out volume one
because you'll be interested to know what happens in the
other volumes, especially volume two. So the volumes will continue,
(56:06):
I say seven, but they're going to continue because I've had,
you know, some amazing things happen to me, you know,
all throughout my life. You know, nothing, I won't say
nothing has change. Everything has changed, you know, because I'm
making better choices. I'm a licensed massage therapist, I'm a
real estate investor, you know, used to be I retired
(56:27):
of all those things. But now I'm just a disciple.
You know. I go around preaching the word of God
and you know, trying to just give my opinion on
you know what people can do to change their lives,
because it's hard, you know, if you don't have any answers.
You know, I'm a licensed massage therapist and I know
all about the muscles, I know all about the body.
(56:49):
Now the average person doesn't know that stuff, you know,
So if they can give be given some information on
how to help themselves, I'm I'll scream it from the rooftop.
You know, help yourself by first giving your life over
to God and then everything else will follow.
Speaker 4 (57:09):
Absolutely, absolutely, We're Tina wellowed. The last couple of minutes,
tell everybody where they can reach you, get in touch
with you, get in touch with your books and all
that good stuff.
Speaker 2 (57:20):
Yes, okay. Also they can get in touch with me
on LinkedIn and I am under China Just China. That's
on LinkedIn.
Speaker 4 (57:37):
And my.
Speaker 2 (57:39):
Website is Inspirational Dash published dash author dot com, so
they can find me there. They can ask me questions
whatever they want to do. They can listen to podcasts
and radio shows and talk shows. And I've even been
(58:01):
on a church, you know, at a church and speaking
you know at a church as well. So you know,
I'm trying to do more of that, you know, But listen,
God is driving my life, so who knows, you know
what tomorrow will bring. I'm also trying to get my script,
you know, notice, so I can get that made. I'd
(58:23):
like to get my life story made. I have a
lot of dreams and hopes and you know, so that
I can become more visual. And I hate to say it,
but I want to become famous so I can help
more people, you know, do better in life and work
towards being better people, you know, because we all have
(58:46):
to do it. We all have to do what I'm
talking about, you know, we all have to spread the
word and tell people, you know, where they're going wrong,
you know, like like your Pauler said, not with telling
people how bad they are or you know the mistakes
they've made, just pointing things out, you know, so they
(59:09):
can help themselves.
Speaker 4 (59:11):
Absolutely well, China, we definitely appreciate you taking time out
of your busy, busy schedule come through and chat with us.
And I'm sure our listener's gonna find it inspirational. And
for those that joined the show late, it'll be available
in a couple of minutes worldwide. And you know, I
(59:32):
say this to you guys, every week. If you have
problems finding the show, you know, ask your neighbor across
the street telling him to ask his wife, or ask
the guy at the grocery store on the corner, at
the gas station or the milkman, so somebody'll be able
to tell you where this show at so you don't
have no excuse not to hear it. It's available all
the platforms. And then if you still have a problem,
(59:53):
you could also hit up World Movement China. You've been great.
We appreciate you. We appreciate the work that you're doing
out there and keep on touching people and help change
your lives.
Speaker 2 (01:00:05):
Thank you so much. And again, I really appreciate you
having me. Thank you so much.
Speaker 4 (01:00:11):
Oh, it's definitely been our pleasure. And uh, the door
is always open to you. Feel free to come back.
Speaker 2 (01:00:17):
And uh definitely.
Speaker 4 (01:00:20):
We know a great publishing company too. So I'm gonna
throw that one out there to you as well.
Speaker 2 (01:00:25):
Okay, I'll hit you up, Okay, all right, do.
Speaker 4 (01:00:29):
Yeah, you do that. You do that, so you be
safe out there and be careful and take care me too.
Speaker 2 (01:00:36):
Bye bye, all.
Speaker 4 (01:00:38):
Right everyone, China Myers. Like I said, you can get
a show everywhere. Everywhere and we will be back next
week same time. You know what it is, all right?
Be safe.
Speaker 1 (01:00:52):
I'm getting the point now when I want to ask
somebody so they can say yes, I say you to what.
Speaker 3 (01:00:58):
I want to sit here, but I know you're gonna pay.
Speaker 1 (01:01:02):
I don't want to to shoesy.
Speaker 2 (01:01:04):
He feels like him.
Speaker 1 (01:01:09):
We want you sitting like your tea or you got
to pray so you want.
Speaker 9 (01:01:13):
To be top pens jump shouting him right man on,
you don't take him top men pick with that anna too.
Speaker 5 (01:01:20):
You want me to be cruel, but I.
Speaker 2 (01:01:22):
Ain't because because it told him what he done for me, the.
Speaker 5 (01:01:25):
Thing that you said time I get I can't lie.
Speaker 4 (01:01:28):
I got to test the fire out.
Speaker 9 (01:01:30):
Replying ain't gonna my eye.
Speaker 5 (01:01:31):
I don't know if you just take a fight now, but
there was a time had no pencil. You want to
show me get this.
Speaker 9 (01:01:37):
I don't miss so in because the love of not
concern and pits says a pill of shout someone on by.
Speaker 5 (01:01:42):
Now you don't pray for me because intending they're getting fed.
Speaker 2 (01:01:47):
Up.
Speaker 5 (01:01:53):
Come on, I see't net to save it up flopping
me as just.
Speaker 9 (01:02:04):
Want to do with this microphone on you're still sitting
down like something's walk it's the Lord rushes another day.
Speaker 2 (01:02:10):
Come on to your God.
Speaker 9 (01:02:12):
I know you don't mind freaking when the going's good.
Speaker 4 (01:02:14):
You want to show him loving how well you shut.
Speaker 5 (01:02:17):
But can you sell breaking.
Speaker 1 (01:02:18):
Through the pangs and hurt?
Speaker 5 (01:02:19):
Oh yeah, now we haven't shut.
Speaker 9 (01:02:21):
When money's luck, work, it's sloping crop, you're feeling lucks
when it's gonn let the devil.
Speaker 5 (01:02:27):
No, you're death to go.
Speaker 3 (01:02:29):
You ain't taking no by and after heaving, Oh you.
Speaker 9 (01:02:31):
Can't stand, sure, you can't battle, lift up your hand.
But then I think the look of what he's already done.
Speaker 5 (01:02:37):
Cut the Bretons out loud? What's about une?
Speaker 2 (01:02:41):
Jump bay?
Speaker 5 (01:02:43):
Come on, everybody, jump bay? What I can't get to
save it up?
Speaker 3 (01:02:55):
Luty holiday, Let me tell you that if you don't
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get any other tape this year, moving on new level,
I'm ready to shout, and I already
Speaker 5 (01:03:31):
Know a one day he the other past
Yeah, yeah, old school, that's what I'm talking about.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Listening.
Speaker 1 (00:05):
This ain't for everybody.
Speaker 3 (00:06):
Some of y'all need to hear it.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
I know you're in the trenches fighting me, but check
it out. I'm gonna put it down like this. Why
I can hear him the things understand everything you're going through,
it's all part of the master plant or what you know,
cause you got saved. Everything was gonna be picatures with queen.
Speaker 4 (00:20):
You better wake up.
Speaker 5 (00:21):
Son.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Don't nothing come to a super fo train.
Speaker 4 (00:24):
Worse?
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Is there reaching fire?
Speaker 3 (00:25):
Well you know what he says.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
He don't work, don't blackness, don't get said. Yeah, he's
just said. He hoops his hands to the pot, looks
back to say makes fit. Some of y'all ain't been
in the switchers five minutes and you about ready to quit.
Speaker 5 (00:35):
I ain't mad.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
I'm just sitting you with the wheel. If you got
from me I was, Now, how do you think that
makes you feel? Check this out? He'p gas This is deep, Huey.
I mean, y'all have saw or nothing but your study
trying to reach something. But I thought him who was
able the position farther to fight his glory trumple might
be part of your testimony. But it ain't the end
of the stoke. Now I want to stuff's proper's side
way back.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
In the day.
Speaker 5 (00:54):
Why I sing the hook right here?
Speaker 4 (00:55):
See if the church getting.
Speaker 5 (00:56):
My lace working out working up?
Speaker 6 (01:11):
We yes can yes he can think you're not saying
the fire reploset just fly you You say, why you
what your shut shake?
Speaker 1 (01:25):
What would Jesus do? Why you're asking if he ain't
trying to do what he's saying. You told you he
was gonna have tribulations, but you thought he was playing
for one minute?
Speaker 5 (01:32):
You trying?
Speaker 1 (01:32):
How good guy? The Beca't nobody missing talk the next
vintage of back fight so fast I'm like your moon walking.
Oh yeah, I'm listening to myself so that I ain't
no better. It ain't like I've been falling as every
word O beying it to the letter. But we're told
us we gotta remember that. We say yo, yeah, found
down the fat say humble, let him annoy. It ain't
even as I thought it was. I've been lying up,
I told you, but it showed up betting better all
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the time. Trusted, that's the beast. Ain't if we're going
through the KB hill God put that on this tub.
Like they say, you can shop now if you walk too,
So why you go You're gonna be your talk quaking.
We're blocking.
Speaker 5 (02:08):
Weekend make starting well.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
Yeah, we're gonna pump the brakes right there, everybody, and
I'm gonna say, welcome to the show that's your whole
Slavon Patterson and you're listening to kind of play and play.
You know, we're that show that uh brain leading individuals
from all over the world hopefully to enhance and inspire
different people to try to do better. You know, I
(02:51):
had to give us a couple of minutes the big
boys stairs, you know, because we got a crazy ish
going on in the world right about now. You know,
there's a lot of people them to reach down, touch
them and help them out, help them pioneer their way,
you know, they journey through this thing we call life.
Cause we got a whole bunch of different distractions and
curves and turns and pitfalls and a lot of quicksand
(03:15):
and all that stuff that can distract us, you know,
and have us go through things that we had that
help in hand, a little bit of guidance, we may
have not have gone down those streets today, we got
a great show lined up for you. Got missus China
Mayers gonna be joining us here in a good second.
And she's an inspirational writer, publish author, public speaker, screenwriter,
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and even in real estate invested y'all, So get out
your pen and paper so you could take notes and
get inspired, get it motivated. You know what I'm saying.
We gonna change some things today. So with that being said,
Ms Meyers, are you with us?
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Yes, I am okay, I am pleased to be here.
Thank you for.
Speaker 4 (04:07):
Having me, Thank you for joining us today. You know,
I mean you have a story, a testament, and I
see you've been through this theory I call life. So
I know you've got a lot to a lot to
talk about, a lot to tell our listeners about and
hopefully listen to you. Hopefully listening to you. You know
(04:29):
they won't run into no more than brick walls out there.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Yeah yeah, because life can kick you in the teeth,
but you've got to be willing to wipe your mouth
off and keep on moving.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
You know, right, and said is so so very true.
And there's so many people in the world you'd be surprised,
but even they would be surprised. They don't even know
how to get out of their own way, let alone
man of yours. They don't even know how to get
out of it your own way.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Well, once you learn how to overcome you know, trials
and tribulations in your life, I like to say life
is pretty simple, okay, because it can be simple if
you learn to make better choices. You know, we're all
gonna make mistakes. We're all going to go through some
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stuff that's inevitable, and that is a fact of life.
But the human condition tends to fall and you know,
sometimes stay down, you know, but you have to remember
that every day that you wake up, you're giving an
(05:43):
opportunity to make better choices, do better, be a better person.
So forget about what happened yesterday. I'm not saying totally forget,
because that's how we learn from things that happen to us.
But what I'm saying is is moving forward, you know,
and that's something we have to do. And I heard
(06:05):
you say something about quicksand. Well, when we get in
quicksand and we get stuck, it's really up to us
to get out of that. Yeah, you can take medication.
Yeah you can see a therapist. But ultimately, it's like
even a drug addiction, you have to first acknowledge that
(06:27):
there's a problem and then move forward.
Speaker 4 (06:32):
You know, well you said a mouthful right there, But
I mean, how long let me see how many and
how long does it take a person suffer from some
type of addiction to admit they actually have a problem.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
Well, I think it depends on individual. And I'm not
a psychiatrist or a doctor. But what I do know,
because my brother suffered from heroin addiction, I do know
that they tend to be stuck as well. You know,
you could be stuck mentally, you could be stuck physically,
(07:10):
you could be stuck spiritually, or you can be stuck
with an addition. So what people think, and it's a
misconception that let's say you're an alcoholic, they say that
you will always be an alcoholic. Okay, now I like
(07:31):
to think of things batually. You know, will you be
always an alcoholic?
Speaker 4 (07:36):
No?
Speaker 2 (07:38):
The reason why I say that, and this is going
to be shocking to your listeners if they have an
alcohol addiction or any addition, there's things you can do
to get that alcohol. So to speak, out of your
liver because your liver is affected by that alcohol. So
(07:58):
they say you're always an alcohol Yes, because the minute
you take a drink, your brain and your liver know
that this is what it wants, this is what it craves,
this is what it has to have. But if you
clean your liver out, that thought is forgotten. Okay. If
you work out, I'm gonna give you example. If you
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work out, your muscles are going to build right. Everybody
knows that. You go to the gym, you start looking fit,
your muscles get built up. Okay. Let's say you're not
able to do that for a few years or a
few months, however long you stop doing it, well, then
the muscles tend to sag a little, okay, But the
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minute that you start to exercise again, your muscles have memory. Okay.
Every organ and body part in the body has memory. Okay,
and if you take away that memory, the memory is
no longer there. Okay. When I quit smoking, I used
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to smoke smoke since I was ten. Stop quitting stop
smoking around thirty. So when I smoked, I smoked a lot,
and one day I just quit. So I read this
book on how to quit addictions, and I was like, hmm,
this is interesting because what it basically said was and
I read numerous books Anthony Robbins was one of them
(09:28):
on addictions, but this particular book, it was about changing
your habits. Okay, because when you smoke, you have certain habits.
Your listeners know that if they smoke, when after you eat,
you want a cigarette. I'm digressing here, but I just
wanted to talk about this as well, because I know
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a lot of people maybe that are listening and might
have this problem. So, Okay, you're smoking, and after you
get done eating, you want a cigarette. If you're talking
on the phone, you want a cigarette. If you're driving
in the car, you want a cigarette. So those are
certain habits. I'm not a phenomena. Everyone who smokes has
those certain habits. So what you do is you change
(10:10):
the habit. What I did was, instead of when I
was talking on the phone, lighting a cigarette, I got
a lollipop and I sucked on a lollipop after I
done eating. Instead of lighting up a cigarette, I cleaned
my kitchen immenseally critically, So you know, I just changed
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the habit. You know, but people can do that as
well with alcohol. They could do with drugs, but also
with alcohol and drugs. You've got to For some drugs,
specially heroine, you've got to clean your liver out, okay,
with heroin. With alcohol, you got to clean your liver out.
With heroin, you have to clean your blood out. And
there's certain herbs and stuff. I suggest going to an herbalist,
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you know, that could help them with that, because guess
what when I change those certain habits. And I also,
nicotine can also go in through your bloodstream, and that's
another thing why you're addicted. I cleaned my blood out
with vitamin C. Okay, I took a lot of the
vitamin C. I drank a lot of water to cleanse
that nicotine out of my system. Do you know in
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a week, and I had tried many times, but in
a week, I had no longer the desire to smoke.
So yeah, if you have an addiction, whether it's alcohol, drugs, smoking,
go to herbalists, go to a natural doctor, or wherever
you got to go to get this this thing that's
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controlling you out of your system. Okay. So yeah, whatever
I've done in my life, whatever that is, whether it's
quit smoking or overcome homelessness, which a lot of things.
Some of the things that happened to me first and foremost.
I don't want to sound like a religious nut, but
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I called on God, you know, and he helped me,
and he saved me and literally literally guided me to
the places I needed to be because each time I
was going through something, I came upon people who were
able to help me and did help me, and I
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couldn't have done anything. And I believe this today still
with all of my heart, that we cannot do anything
without God's help. Okay, And you might be thinking, your
listeners might be saying, how do you do that? You
know what does that mean? That means that you asked
for God's forgiveness for whatever you've done. Okay. Some people
(12:48):
don't like to take blame for what they have done. It, Oh,
I didn't do anything. Well, if you were there, you
did something, you know, you had some part in it,
you know, relationship that maybe didn't work. Look out, you
might think, oh it was all her. Well you know what,
I'm sure, and I'd like to say this for myself
as well. There was probably something that I did or
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you did. There has to be something you were not blameless.
So if you want to change your life and you
want to go in a different direction. I empower you
your listeners to do that with God's help. Okay, because
we're living in a society where anything goes. You know
(13:37):
you could be this way, you can be that way.
It's okay. You know you're a free spirit. You know
times are changing. It's not like it used to be.
You're allowed to do this, you're allowed to do that. Well,
how about putting some limits on yourself. You know, I
say this what I'm about to say, and I want
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you to listen to really digging deep and listen to
what I'm about to say. We can all be child molesters,
we can all be rapists, we can all be abusers,
we can all be horrible people. It's who we are.
(14:19):
We are innately evil, and Jesus was sent here to
save us from our sins before we committed them. So
think about that. When you walk out your door and
you speak ugly about somebody, or you want to hurt somebody,
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or you're jealous of somebody, think about those things and
change them. Because this would be in my opinions, and
I'm sure there's lots of people who will agree. A wonderful,
beautiful life if we can all learn to get along. Okay,
(15:02):
stop judging people. It's not our place to judge people.
It's God's put It's in the Bible. We are not
to judge. Now. Yeah, we want to judge people who
have hurt us, but really we shouldn't because that's not
our place. Our place is to figure out what we
have done wrong. We can't be in charge of other
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people from stakes. We can't be.
Speaker 4 (15:27):
We're trying to do China. Don't you agree that that
the basic of the core issue with all this stuff
is people accepting responsibility and admitting that they have some
type of issue, because it seems like, you know, there's
a lot of denial in the beginning that that stands
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in the way of some type of healing. How do
they how do they get past that part? And to me,
that's like the foundations everything we're talking about.
Speaker 2 (16:01):
Well, I can tell you quite simply look in the
mirror and evaluate yourself. If you have to do it
on a daily basis, do it, okay, I know I do. Okay,
I'll leave church and think what a church? He just
cut me off. I can't believe. And then I'll think
to myself, wait a minute, I just redeem myself. I
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just renewed myself in front of God, and I'm talking
bad about this person cutting me off or you know,
speeding past me or being rude, whatever the case may be. Okay,
evaluate yourself. When you evaluate yourself, you can find it's
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called creative criticism. You know, do it to yourself. Your
boss is going to do it to you, Your husband's
gonna do it to your wife's gonna do it to you.
Guess what, even your children might do it to you.
It's called creative cursism. But why don't we know what
you want?
Speaker 4 (17:00):
South? I think we have a callery. I think we
have a caller. Let me see who this is. Yeah,
go ahead, can you hear me? Mis? Yes? How are you?
Speaker 7 (17:20):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (17:21):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (17:21):
How you doing? I'm not in Las Vegas? Yeah, trying
to you. You know. One of the things that you
just said was was awesome is you know, evaluate yourself,
you know, in the mirror. Get up every morning and
look in the mirror, because that right there will you
have enough to talk about the rest of the day,
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not to be able to uh literally go out and
criticize someone else. But there's one other thing that I
believe in is if you see something going on show.
You know, it shows some accountability. It's not just the
person with what they're doing. Someone there showing that accountability
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of being able to step in fearlessly and and and
you know, talk to that person, you know, or reach
out to that person and not necessarily criticize that person,
but go out and talk to that person, see where
they are, ask them questions. And so that's my skin.
(18:24):
But thank you for that about looking in the mirror,
because if they did that in the morning, they wouldn't
have time to criticize anybody else because there's a lot
of jump that they're looking at in the morning that
take them all throughout the day.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
Fantastic, That was awesome. You are so right, And yeah,
we need to help each other. You know. I'm in
the entertainment industry. I'm trying to get into it, let's say,
and I'm a writer and I want to do scripts
and stuff. But I noticed that a lot of people,
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and I speak to about this with other people as well,
a lot of people don't like to help each each other.
Speaker 4 (19:06):
And they say, they say they do, China, they say
they do, and they say they will. But it's just
conversation because in actuality. They don't and they won't because
I am I am. I mean, I am in the
business that you speak of, and I hear that day
in and day out, you know, our people to reach out,
help somebody, do this and do that, and it's and
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it's just conversation. And I try to figure out still
right today, thirty forty years later, I mean, who are
they doing it for? I mean, are they doing it
for themselves to make them feel good about hearing themselves speak?
Because they're definitely not doing it for me, because you know,
I seek through it before they get through the first sentence.
So I'm wondering, welly do they even bother doing that?
Speaker 6 (19:48):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (19:48):
Well, I think it's it's like a conversational piece, you know.
And and when i'm when I'm about to say, I'm
not being bragg negotious. I have helped a lot of
people in my life. You know why, Because one, I'm
a Christian, you know, and and we're followers followers of Christ,
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you know, but also because I this is how I
want to live. I want to treat people the way
I want to be treated. You know. Now, don't get
me wrong, I will tell you off if you try
to you know, abuse me or you know, treat me poorly. Yeah,
(20:31):
I'll do that because I'm from Brooklyn, and you know,
I was raised, you know, a rough way, and so
when you get when you get raised like that and
you kind of raise yourself, you learn not to take
crap from people, so to speak. But I have helped
a lot of people in my life. Somebody said to me,
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I don't have a job. Guess why. Fifteen minutes later,
they'd have a job. Okay, I've done it. If someone
told me, oh, you know I'm struggling right now, you know,
I would send them a gift card. I've done it,
you know, for some groceries. You know, if all of
us would learn how to do that, and it's not
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for anything. I didn't get anything from that, and it
didn't really cost me hardly anything, you know. But if
we can all learn to do that, could you imagine,
like I said, the world people say, oh, the world
is so bad. No, the world isn't bad. It's some
of the people in it. Now. When I say that,
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don't get me wrong. There are so many good It
could really literally make me cry. There are so many
good people in the world, more so than bad people.
I know there's people out there you're listeners that might
not believe that, but I have experienced it firsthand. There
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are so man and I'm talking all colors that it
doesn't just go for black people because I'm African Americans.
It doesn't just go for Indian people. It doesn't just
go you know, for Spanish people or Latino people attunting people.
It doesn't I have met I can't even count on
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my hands. I can't even count out loud how many
people I have met that were good people. So with
that said, I you that aren't so good. How about
your neighbor or your brother, or your sister, or your
mama or your brother telling them that they're not so
good and they need to change that, because guess what,
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when I see my children not acting a certain type
of way, I will let them know. Okay, And I'm
gonna tell you this.
Speaker 4 (22:45):
You may count. You may come from a different era,
because I know a lot of these new parents don't
kids they are totally because if they were like we were.
And I'm not dating myself, but I came from there
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when my mother could be on another side of the room
and she can cut her eyes at me, and I
know I need to sit down and be quiet. Other
than that, everything in that other other than that, everything
in that room is fin to fight. First thing she
can get her hands on is coming toward me.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, definitely. Yeah. And you're right, this is
a different era. But these kids have these these new
parents have to know number one, well.
Speaker 4 (23:31):
They can have to have to start. They have to
start being parents. They have to start being parents China,
because most of these my parents want to be friends
with their kids instead of parents out the kids.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
Yeah, and that's that's a terrible road to go down. Okay.
And uh, I have a philosophy. You know. My son
said to me one time, my youngest Sonny said, oh,
does I feel depressed? I said, well, you better get
over it. I said, you want you know what, I said,
let's go. I got him up, and I took him
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down to a boy's home and I talked to some
of the boys there, okay, and and some of the
boys told him their stories. Okay, bother morassed them, mother
put a cigarette in his eye, you know, all these things.
And I said to the kids, y'all, thanks to see
you guys later. And I left. You know, I didn't
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volunteer there, but I used to like give food and stuff.
And when we walked out, I said, are you still depressed? No,
I said yeah, because guess what, you got it pretty good. Now.
You might not have it as good as Johnny down
the street or Kathy, you know up the street, but
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you have it pretty good right now. Okay, you got
to you got three squares a day. You know, you
got a roof over your head. Your lights are never
cut off. Because I was a single mother, I had
had boyfriends, but I've worked a lot to pay my
bills and to pay for my kids. I didn't ask
for any handouts, you know. So we've got to teach
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out children that, you know, what are you talking about?
You're depressed? Okay, Now there might be something hormonally wrong
that they might be depressed. Okay. My oldest son had
a problem where he was very acting out and it
was crazy. He was acting like a nut. So I
took him to a nutritionist and come to find out,
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he was getting too many carbs in the course of
a day. So there could be reasons why, you know,
things are going on, But as a parent, you got
to find these things out, you know, you just can't
settle with what somebody's telling you. But anyway, yeah, these
kids are different, definitely, you know, but I'll pay you
this if I'm sorry. What did you say?
Speaker 4 (25:57):
No, I said they totally they totally different, because to
make trying to figure out what are they thinking about
until you really realize that's the problem.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
They're not thinking because people have to your parents have to,
whether it's just a mother or just a father or
a mother and father, they have to make them accountable.
They have to know where they went wrong. Now, I
have a sister, and I don't want to say her name,
but she had a son who short story. He was, Oh,
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he was so great in sports. He was wonderful. I
mean I thought he was going to go pro he
was so good. But he came into the classroom one day,
just to give you an example, and he threw an
apple at the teacher. Well, the teacher didn't know who
threw it, and she asked everyone who threw the apple.
You know, the teacher demanded something of him and the
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other kids as well, and he took it out on
her and threw her apple at her. But she didn't
see who it was. So everybody, you know, says she
called them in one by one who threw the apple
or Well, they finally gave him up and they wanted
to spend him for a couple of days. Well, he
would have missed the game. Well, my sister, instead of
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saying you did wrong. You know, you shouldn't have done that,
and you're going to get this suspension, she took him
out of the school and put him in a new school. Well,
his life went downhill after that, you know, because she
never made him accountable and she never told him when
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he was wrong, so he never thought he was wrong.
And long story short, that's what we have to do.
You know, my youngest son of he was something else.
But I you know, my all my children, I gave
them the seed. I gave them seeds. You know, this
is what you should do, you know, Praise God, you know,
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ask God for help. You know, this is what you
should do. I suggest this. I suggest that you give
them the seed. Now that's not saying that they're going
to turn out perfect right away. They might not turn
out perfect till they're forty. But you put the seed
there and then the seed grows, you know. So it's
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something we have to do with parents. And parents should
never forget that. It doesn't matter if you don't think
they're listening, or you know, you get sit up and
telling them the same old thing. Well, that's the thing
of being a parent. And I'm not saying I was
the perfect parent. What I'm saying is that's something you
definitely have to do. And there's no manual, you know,
there's no manual how to raise kids. But you know
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right from wrong. You know, if they're doing something, they
should be told about it. You know. I know a
woman her son he had such anger issues, you know,
and when he grew up, he still had those anger issues.
And he got a girlfriend and he was hitting her,
and I said to her, I said, you got to
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stop him. Well what could I do? What could you do?
You better do something before he hurts this girl?
Speaker 7 (29:07):
And what.
Speaker 4 (29:09):
Did her What did her husband do that to her?
Did his boys see that happening to her?
Speaker 2 (29:15):
You know, you might be right about that, probably probably
because we we are what we see right too, So yeah,
that's a possibility. But she eventually told him that if
he ever hit her again, she was gonna have the
mother said this, she was going to have him locked up.
And he never did that again and he got help,
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and you know, he's doing great now. But what if
she hadn't have stepped in, maybe maybe his girlfriend would
have got hurt. Maybe you know, somebody else would have
came along and they would have got hurt. So now
he has it under control and it's been you know,
fifteen years now. So but as parents, we have to
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step in and you know, say, what wrong my opinion?
Speaker 4 (30:03):
You know, oh, I totally agree with that one hundred
and fifty. Parents have to be parents and start trying
to trying to be friends, you know, because that's that's
for me to care that whole issue, because eventually the
kids don't end up respecting the respecting the parents, you know,
calling nobody the first name instead of mother, father, and dad,
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they call them by their first name. They want to
laugh and party with them, get high with them, drink
with them, and then when there's a serious when there's
a serious issue, you know, they just talk to their
parents any kind of way. There's no respect. It just
doesn't work.
Speaker 2 (30:41):
Yes, no, it doesn't. And you have to gain respect
and teach them respect because if they don't respect themselves,
they can't respect you. They can't respect anybody. So you
have to teach them how to respect themselves and respect you.
And it's all about that, you know, at all times.
Speaker 4 (31:00):
You hear that all the time from kids. You can't
tell me nothing. You're not my mama, you not my daddy.
Speaker 2 (31:06):
Yeah, we wouldn't say that back in the day, right, Shoot.
Speaker 4 (31:10):
No, because first of all, I used to go to
this junior high school. And and if you messed up
in school, you went to the pe, to the gym teacher.
You got swats. I mean the gym teacher literally put
hands on you with a paddle. Then you go then
you go home, then you go home with a note,
and you get it again, you get it again. Yes,
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and whatever that was you did, whatever that was you
did in school, you didn't do it. No more. Might
be some different stuff. It might have been some different stuff,
but it might not. It ain't gonna be that again, No, No,
that's for sure.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
And I remember one time and they took this out
of the school. I remember one time I got a
letter sent home and the letter stated, do you do
you want your child to be subject to something like
that corporal punishment? Yes? Or no? Well I look the
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word up. My mother had a Webster dictionary and I
look the word up corporal punishment. I was like, oh, wow,
they're talking. They talk about uh does my mother agree
with them.
Speaker 4 (32:23):
Or something?
Speaker 2 (32:25):
Yeah. I was like okay, so my mother put yes.
I was like, why did you do that? She was like,
cause if you're not going to behave, you're gonna get
corporal punished.
Speaker 4 (32:40):
We're gonna fix you.
Speaker 1 (32:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
But yeah, they took that out of school. God forbid.
If if you know these kids get hit today, Well yeah,
I remember my kids saying something, though, I'll call the
cops on you. I said, well, guess what, you better
pray the cops take you out when they leave.
Speaker 4 (33:03):
Yeah, well we do. My brothers and I. You know,
we tried that too. And you know my mom was like,
I tell you what, I call them for you and
right here, Yeah, we didn't try that. No more.
Speaker 8 (33:19):
No, no, definitely not because you know we knew better. Also,
you know, talking about your business out in the street,
Oh that was a no no. But yeah, people to
get back on points, you know, it's I'm not judging anyone.
I'm just saying that the society has changed. The society
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has changed, and it's changed because people are becoming so nonchalant,
you know, with things that they'll do, and you know,
things that you know they allow their children to do.
And you know, I had a conversation with my thirteen
year old daughter, fourteen year old almost fourteen year old
daughter today. She said, I'm getting a laptop and I'm
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getting I said, wait a minute. You you asking or
you're telling.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
You know, it's like, which is it? Because if you're telling,
that means you're not And if you're asking, that means
we can you know, my husband and I your stad
and I can discuss it and and we'll see what happens.
You know, but don't tell us what you're doing. You know.
That's a no no. But so and it's not mean,
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it's not you know. I mean, really, the Internet is
a bad place for children. There's too there's too much
going on on there. There's too much stuff they could
be subjected to. And I'm not saying that they're not
going to ever be You're going to shelter them and
they're not going to ever be subjected to things. No,
that's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is is
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that things that they don't need to be subjected to,
you know, if you can help that, I say, do it.
You know, kids don't need to know about you know,
sex and all this other stuff that's going on and
pornography and and everything. That's just like normal behavior. No
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it's not. It's not normal behavior for a fourteen year
old boy to be watching pornography. It's not.
Speaker 4 (35:24):
So.
Speaker 2 (35:24):
You know, my daughter will be in the room on
her phone and you know, and I'll say, come in,
you know, periodically what are you doing. You know, I'll
look at what she's you know, looking at and you know,
take her phone and go in her past history and
see what's going on. Because children are children, and they're
going to get in stuff, and they're going to be inquisitive,
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and you know, so you don't want them, you know,
dealing with that stuff before they really have to. You know.
That's my opinion, and I think an the logical way
with grief.
Speaker 4 (35:58):
So what do you feel is this so because I
see the problem being a lot bigger than the individual family,
I see that problem generating, originating and coming from our
political figures society in general, because they seem like they're
on the past now where they don't even want kids
to be kids anymore. You know where we used to
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play with little red wagons and tricycles in the street,
they don't even want to do that. I mean, I'm
just reveating on the points you made about, you know,
children growing up too fast, and I think they are,
you know, they're not being allowed to be kids, you
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know what I mean. And this whole, this whole gender
thing that they got going on in the world today.
You know, I have a man, I have a whole
lot of issues, and I don't want to get off
point either because I had an argument or should I say,
a conversation with somebody about the same sex adoption.
Speaker 2 (37:01):
Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (37:03):
They felt like, well, every kid needs love and they
need to do that and all this and all that.
And I say, well, you know, that's absolutely right. But
I said, but when you agree to children are going
to emulate what they see on a daily basis. They're
going to see what their parents or they loved ones
(37:24):
and the people that they're around all the time. I say, so,
what are you going to tell a little boy when
he go to school and his teacher catch him following
another little boy, But this is what he sees at home?
You know what I'm saying. I say, I don't under
I don't understand our whole society in the times in
which we're living in it, because it seemed like they're
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creating generations ahead of us with more confusion. I know
I might get in trouble. Yeah, more generations of confusion.
Speaker 2 (37:58):
I am with you speaking. You are preaching to the choir,
because I am with you on this. Now listen, it's
not my place to judge. I explain that to you.
I feel this way wholeheartedly. If you read the Bible,
you know this. But my husband says, love the sin
or hate the sin. But my philosophy is, these children
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are are learning way too much. Okay, how do you
know you want to be if you're a girl, how
do you know you want to be a man? Okay,
it's got to be something you've read seen. Okay, let's
say let's say, for argument's sake, it's something you felt. Okay.
If you know the definition of trenderism, the definition means
(38:49):
that it's a mental illness. Okay, I'm not the one
that came up with that definition. It is, you know, narcissism,
you know, some mental illness. I'm not the one that
came up with that definition. It's something that is factual.
So this is what I believe. Now. I always like
(39:12):
to simplify things and state facts. Okay, if you have
a child that, let's say, is experiencing, you know, hormonal
issues like a girl wanting to be a boy or
feels like, you know, she's a boy, Okay, let's look
into that. Okay, why is that? All right? That's why
(39:32):
I'm into natural health because I just don't want to
put band aids on things and go from there. I
like to figure out why. Okay, Now here's a philosophy,
and I can be wrong because I'm not a doctor.
I'm not a psychiatrist. But I think a lot of
gay people, and like you said, you might get I
might get in trouble for this. I was in a
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facility when where there was i'd say seventy percent gay people,
and I asked a lot of them individually, were you
ever molested? And let's say one ones, I asked ten people,
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do you know? At least eight of them told me yes,
that they were molested by different people in their families. Okay,
or the neighbor or a cousin. They were molested. Now,
the ones this is what. I also believe the ones
that didn't, that said no, they were never Maybe they
(40:39):
were okay and they don't know it. Maybe they were babies. Okay,
then that's the issue for gay. Now the issue for transvestite.
I don't even know if I'm pronouncing it right. I
hope i am, because I don't want to offend anybody.
But the situation with transvestite. If you're let's say, a man,
and feel like you're a woman, Okay, in chicken today,
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and you're gonna think I'm crazy. In chicken and a
lot of meat, there are hormones. Okay. Now, I'm not
a scientist. I'm not a doctor. I'm not a psychologist,
but let's just say for argument's sake, that they are
giving specific hormones to specific animals. Okay, maybe they're given
(41:28):
more estrogen to chickens. Maybe they're given more testosterone to cows.
All Right, I eat organic meat, but I'm talking about
regular meat. Okay, let's just say that. Now, what would
happen if I was given me myself testosterone? Guess what
(41:53):
I'd feel like a man? I would literally feel like
a man, because women are not We have estrogen, and
we have destosterone, but we have more estrogen. What if
I was given hormones that gave me more tasosterone and
less estrogen, what would happen? I would feel like a man?
(42:16):
So is this what's happening?
Speaker 4 (42:20):
Well, we never know because the people that control the situation,
that would monitor this stuff to FDA and so on
and so forth, these elected peoples, they're more criminal and cooked,
more crooked than the crooks. At least I got I
got respect for the crooks because they say we crooks.
Speaker 2 (42:40):
Well, it's all it's all for profit. It's like high
coast corn syrup and food. It's in everything. But guess what.
You know what high food coast concrupt does to you.
It stops your metabolism from working for twenty four hours. Okay,
that's why everyone's overweight twenty four hours. Is you eat
anything that has to high fruit toast corn syrup in it,
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your vocabolism will literally stop working for twenty four hours.
So what do you think is gonna happen? You're gonna
gain weight because your body can't get rid of fact
without building up your energy and and you know, moving
your body in the way to get rid of waste.
So yeah, These are a lot of questions that I have,
(43:31):
and I think that if people would look into them,
or you know, they evaluated more. But that's the parents job. Okay.
You know, it's just like if you have a child
who seems, you know, a little disturbed. You know, let's
let's just say she's acting a little disturbed every month,
you know, around the fifth of the month. Oh boy,
(43:52):
she's got a little crazy again. It's hormonal. Okay, just happened.
You know. There's certain things maybe to talk to the
doctor about, you know, maybe giving her whatever you know,
to you know, monitor her hormones or whatever the case
may be. But it's your momals. Guess what if you're
a woman out there listening to me, you know what
(44:13):
can happen every month? Okay, you get angry, sometime you
get mad, Sometime you're not as bad. You know, last
month was really bad. Let's say this month you're not
so bad. Maybe you just crying a little bit. Who knows.
Speaker 4 (44:30):
I know, I go through it the first of every
I go through it the first of everyone. What my
bills are due? How about it, China, let's talk a
little bit about your book. I don't mean to change
the subject. But I want to get into this no problem.
Time is getting short. Tell us a little bit about
your book and what caused you to write your book.
Speaker 2 (44:53):
Well, my book is titled a Letter to God. Ah,
a letter to God some peop we'll just put the letter.
But it's a letter to God. It's about my life.
And you know, I went through some childs and tribulations
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even to this day, because guess what, that's life. But
as a child it's a little harder, you know. I
think as human beings we become problems for avers, you know.
But when you're young and you don't have the right guidance,
it's hard to solve problems. So you just kind of
wing it. And when you wing it, you make a
(45:36):
lot of mistakes. So I did. I made a lot
of mistakes, and those those mistakes cost me, you know.
And even though I had my stake, I believe in
God even when I was younger, you know, up until now.
When I was younger, i'd go to church and I
would literally cry, you know, and people say, oh, why
(46:00):
you're trying, you know. Well, I found out later as
an adult it's because I love God so much, you know,
I just, you know, like even Easter time. It makes
me so, you know, I should be happy, but i'm
i'm I'm, I'm mourning because you know, God sent his son,
you know, for our sins. So I always had faith
(46:24):
and and it It doesn't make me the type of
person that knows everything about God and the Bible, because
I didn't. But I just knew. I loved him so much.
So I've made all these mistakes even so, and God
saved me many times, and the book tells those stories,
(46:47):
you know how you know he saved me. But I
think everyone has a letter to God, has a story,
you know, and when your letter is over, when you die,
you know, But as you're living, you're writing your story,
you know, not literally, but you know everything you do,
(47:07):
you know, is about your story. And my question to
your listeners, what do you want your story to be?
You know? Do you want your story to be that
you were an abusive husband? You know? Do you want
your story to be that you weren't the best mother
that you could be. Do you want your story to
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be that you were lazy or you know, unmotivated? What
do you want your story to be? You know? I've
worked since I was twelve years old, you know, different jobs.
My mother owned a carvel store ice cream store, and
she said to me one time, I'm going to digress
(47:49):
for a little bit, just to tell the short story.
And she said to me one time, and I was
her first best worker. I washed the walls. Because that's
the type of person I am. I put passion and
hard work into everything I do. It doesn't matter. I
don't care if I'm cleaning the toilet. It's just my personality.
I try to do everything to the best of my ability.
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So I really worked, and she never paid me. I
didn't expect pay. But one day I said to her, Oh,
you know, could I have five dollars to go with
my friends? All my friends are going to the movies
blah blah blah. And she said what And I said yeah,
I said, you know, all my friends are going to me.
Could I have five dollars? And she said to me,
(48:34):
you ate your five dollars up. Well, guess what I did.
I quit. I said, well, I no longer work for you.
She said, you worked for me. I said yeah, and
I'm your best worker, and I no longer worked for you.
And I went around the corner. I asked the lady
at Dunkin Donuts if she needed help, and she said okay.
(49:00):
And my mother begged me to come back because she
knew I was her best worker. And that can be
said for any job I've ever had in my whole life,
you know. But you have to give it your all.
So what do you What do you want your story
to be? Is my point. So I wrote my story,
and I hope that it can help people, you know,
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because regardless of what happened, I never cursed God. It
wasn't God's fault. You know that I ended up pregnant
at fourteen. It was me with this, you know, belief
that I wanted to have a family. I wanted to
have a family with the white take offense. I wanted
to bake cookies, you know, and I just never found
(49:45):
that right person to do that with. And I read
in the Bible that it was possible that people did this,
you know, they started families at early ages and they
lived happily ever after, you know, as far as I thought,
you know, And that's that was my dream to do that,
and it never worked out. But I made so many mistakes,
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you know, and like I said, with those mistakes came
trials and tribulations, and God helped me every single time.
There was a time I was in Africa because I
went to Africa because my sister had won a scholarship
to study abroad. And I'm going to give you an
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example how God helped me. So my sister won a
scholarship and my mother sent me with her. I was
ten years old. And so my sister started to make
friends and she started to get a life, and she
was leaving me alone more. And I was, you know,
staying with her friends who she got to babysit me more.
(50:55):
And you know, at the time, I was mad at
her because you know, how could she do this to me.
She's basically leaving me in the country. You know that
I don't know anyone, and blah blah blah. And I
went to school there in Africa. It was Dambia, Africa.
And one day I was sitting in her friend's house
who she had left me with, and she had went
(51:16):
to another part of the country. And I basically prayed
to God and asked him to please let me go home.
I don't want to stay here anymore. And I cried
and I prayed and I cried and I prayed and
I got up, and the minute I got up, there
was a knock at the door and the police were
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there with the UN and they put me on a
plane and I went home because my mother was trying
to find me and she couldn't find me, and so
she called the police and she couldn't find my sister,
and she, like I said, she called the police and
they told her to call the UN and the UN
and got involved, and basically they tracked me down and
I went from that girl's house to back home. There
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was another time I, you know, was a single mom,
and I wanted to send my sister my son to
my sister's house in Bermuda. My sister lived and lives
in Bermuda, and I needed five hundred bucks. You know,
I was short five hundred bucks because I wanted to
give him some money and of course pay my bills.
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And I'd worked really really hard, but they you know,
had cut hours blah blah blah. So I was short
five hundred bucks and I prayed, you know, for God
to help me out with that. And when the mailman
came about half an hour later, I got a check
for five hundred dollars. Clinton was giving people money. So yeah,
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that's my point. Put your faith in God, you know,
and asked him to help you with things, and pray
to him and actual redemption and forgiveness because if you
if you want to be forgiven, you've got to forgive too.
So you got to remember that. And God has always
been there for me. And I always say this. I
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don't like to sound like a holy roller, because you know,
some people could be fanatical, and I'm not. But I
do believe in God with all of my heart. And
I've known all the things that He's done for me.
I'm not blind to them. The thing is that song.
You know, I was blind and now I can see,
you know, amazing grace. You know it's true. You know
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people have to see you know what's going on. You know,
my daughter said to me one time, my thirteen year
old daughter, how do you know God is there? How
do you know He's helped you? Because I know, she goes, well,
how do you know?
Speaker 8 (53:41):
I know?
Speaker 2 (53:42):
I just know it's something that I feel. You know,
it's something that I know. He's been with me. He's
helped me, He save me. You know, I felt his
hand puld me. I've helped I've felt you know, his
Holy ghost saved me. I felt it. I was in
a car accident, you know, horrific and I didn't even
get a scratch. Everyone else the one girl lost her baby,
(54:05):
you know, my cousin was cut badly. My sister broke
her arm. It was horrific, and I didn't. You didn't
get a scratch, you know, not even a scratch. So yeah,
put your faith in God, and I say, you know,
go from there. You know, everything else will follow, you know.
Speaker 4 (54:25):
So well, that's definitely a good start.
Speaker 2 (54:30):
Yeah, yeah, definitely we have to if we want this
world to change, if we want things to change, I
think that is a good start. You know, start with God.
Put your faith in God and change your you know,
your habits and and you know, listen, we all know
when we're doing bad. We all know when we're not
doing the right thing. You know. There's times in my
(54:53):
life when you know, people say, O, why'd you do it?
Because I had to do the right thing, you know,
I had to, you know, so we know when that
comes upon us what we should be doing.
Speaker 3 (55:05):
But we.
Speaker 2 (55:09):
Need God to help. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (55:12):
So so China, this a letter to Guide that's the
first of a seven book series.
Speaker 2 (55:19):
Yes, yes, and I'm working on volume two, but I
stopped to write a natural COVID prevention book, so I'm
trying to get that published. And then as soon as
I get that published, because I got it edited and
everything and it's fine, so I have it with a
publisher now, and then I'm going to be finishing up
(55:43):
Volume two. Yeah, it's Volume two is really something as well.
I end up on the Carnival, and I travel on
the carnival for five years. Says just a little teaser
for your listeners to you know, check out volume one
because you'll be interested to know what happens in the
other volumes, especially volume two. So the volumes will continue,
(56:06):
I say seven, but they're going to continue because I've had,
you know, some amazing things happen to me, you know,
all throughout my life. You know, nothing, I won't say
nothing has change. Everything has changed, you know, because I'm
making better choices. I'm a licensed massage therapist, I'm a
real estate investor, you know, used to be I retired
(56:27):
of all those things. But now I'm just a disciple.
You know. I go around preaching the word of God
and you know, trying to just give my opinion on
you know what people can do to change their lives,
because it's hard, you know, if you don't have any answers.
You know, I'm a licensed massage therapist and I know
all about the muscles, I know all about the body.
(56:49):
Now the average person doesn't know that stuff, you know,
So if they can give be given some information on
how to help themselves, I'm I'll scream it from the rooftop.
You know, help yourself by first giving your life over
to God and then everything else will follow.
Speaker 4 (57:09):
Absolutely, absolutely, We're Tina wellowed. The last couple of minutes,
tell everybody where they can reach you, get in touch
with you, get in touch with your books and all
that good stuff.
Speaker 2 (57:20):
Yes, okay. Also they can get in touch with me
on LinkedIn and I am under China Just China. That's
on LinkedIn.
Speaker 4 (57:37):
And my.
Speaker 2 (57:39):
Website is Inspirational Dash published dash author dot com, so
they can find me there. They can ask me questions
whatever they want to do. They can listen to podcasts
and radio shows and talk shows. And I've even been
(58:01):
on a church, you know, at a church and speaking
you know at a church as well. So you know,
I'm trying to do more of that, you know, But listen,
God is driving my life, so who knows, you know
what tomorrow will bring. I'm also trying to get my script,
you know, notice, so I can get that made. I'd
(58:23):
like to get my life story made. I have a
lot of dreams and hopes and you know, so that
I can become more visual. And I hate to say it,
but I want to become famous so I can help
more people, you know, do better in life and work
towards being better people, you know, because we all have
(58:46):
to do it. We all have to do what I'm
talking about, you know, we all have to spread the
word and tell people, you know, where they're going wrong,
you know, like like your Pauler said, not with telling
people how bad they are or you know the mistakes
they've made, just pointing things out, you know, so they
(59:09):
can help themselves.
Speaker 4 (59:11):
Absolutely well, China, we definitely appreciate you taking time out
of your busy, busy schedule come through and chat with us.
And I'm sure our listener's gonna find it inspirational. And
for those that joined the show late, it'll be available
in a couple of minutes worldwide. And you know, I
(59:32):
say this to you guys, every week. If you have
problems finding the show, you know, ask your neighbor across
the street telling him to ask his wife, or ask
the guy at the grocery store on the corner, at
the gas station or the milkman, so somebody'll be able
to tell you where this show at so you don't
have no excuse not to hear it. It's available all
the platforms. And then if you still have a problem,
(59:53):
you could also hit up World Movement China. You've been great.
We appreciate you. We appreciate the work that you're doing
out there and keep on touching people and help change
your lives.
Speaker 2 (01:00:05):
Thank you so much. And again, I really appreciate you
having me. Thank you so much.
Speaker 4 (01:00:11):
Oh, it's definitely been our pleasure. And uh, the door
is always open to you. Feel free to come back.
Speaker 2 (01:00:17):
And uh definitely.
Speaker 4 (01:00:20):
We know a great publishing company too. So I'm gonna
throw that one out there to you as well.
Speaker 2 (01:00:25):
Okay, I'll hit you up, Okay, all right, do.
Speaker 4 (01:00:29):
Yeah, you do that. You do that, so you be
safe out there and be careful and take care me too.
Speaker 2 (01:00:36):
Bye bye, all.
Speaker 4 (01:00:38):
Right everyone, China Myers. Like I said, you can get
a show everywhere. Everywhere and we will be back next
week same time. You know what it is, all right?
Be safe.
Speaker 1 (01:00:52):
I'm getting the point now when I want to ask
somebody so they can say yes, I say you to what.
Speaker 3 (01:00:58):
I want to sit here, but I know you're gonna pay.
Speaker 1 (01:01:02):
I don't want to to shoesy.
Speaker 2 (01:01:04):
He feels like him.
Speaker 1 (01:01:09):
We want you sitting like your tea or you got
to pray so you want.
Speaker 9 (01:01:13):
To be top pens jump shouting him right man on,
you don't take him top men pick with that anna too.
Speaker 5 (01:01:20):
You want me to be cruel, but I.
Speaker 2 (01:01:22):
Ain't because because it told him what he done for me, the.
Speaker 5 (01:01:25):
Thing that you said time I get I can't lie.
Speaker 4 (01:01:28):
I got to test the fire out.
Speaker 9 (01:01:30):
Replying ain't gonna my eye.
Speaker 5 (01:01:31):
I don't know if you just take a fight now, but
there was a time had no pencil. You want to
show me get this.
Speaker 9 (01:01:37):
I don't miss so in because the love of not
concern and pits says a pill of shout someone on by.
Speaker 5 (01:01:42):
Now you don't pray for me because intending they're getting fed.
Speaker 2 (01:01:47):
Up.
Speaker 5 (01:01:53):
Come on, I see't net to save it up flopping
me as just.
Speaker 9 (01:02:04):
Want to do with this microphone on you're still sitting
down like something's walk it's the Lord rushes another day.
Speaker 2 (01:02:10):
Come on to your God.
Speaker 9 (01:02:12):
I know you don't mind freaking when the going's good.
Speaker 4 (01:02:14):
You want to show him loving how well you shut.
Speaker 5 (01:02:17):
But can you sell breaking.
Speaker 1 (01:02:18):
Through the pangs and hurt?
Speaker 5 (01:02:19):
Oh yeah, now we haven't shut.
Speaker 9 (01:02:21):
When money's luck, work, it's sloping crop, you're feeling lucks
when it's gonn let the devil.
Speaker 5 (01:02:27):
No, you're death to go.
Speaker 3 (01:02:29):
You ain't taking no by and after heaving, Oh you.
Speaker 9 (01:02:31):
Can't stand, sure, you can't battle, lift up your hand.
But then I think the look of what he's already done.
Speaker 5 (01:02:37):
Cut the Bretons out loud? What's about une?
Speaker 2 (01:02:41):
Jump bay?
Speaker 5 (01:02:43):
Come on, everybody, jump bay? What I can't get to
save it up?
Speaker 3 (01:02:55):
Luty holiday, Let me tell you that if you don't
(01:03:21):
get any other tape this year, moving on new level,
I'm ready to shout, and I already
Speaker 5 (01:03:31):
Know a one day he the other past
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