May 29, 2022 • 63 mins
Seth Pearson is a Self-Love Warrior based in Seattle, WA. He is the host of the Love Amped podcast and facilitates events and life coaching sessions in the area. Seth helps people understand that anything is possible. He is an expert in compassionate communication and effective boundary setting. He is creating relationships that last a lifetime. He is seasoned in psychedelic experiences.He has completed an impressive list of training like Seattle Life Coach Training. Stepping into mature masculinity through the ManKind Project’s New Warrior Training Adventure and taking every class by next-level communication educator and coach Erin Merrihew. He’s also trained in psychedelic peer support through the Zendo project. He has reached a leadership role for Conscious Crew, a local harm reduction group in Seattle. Seth is making the world a better place through self-love education and coaching. His impact is quickly spreading both online and in the real world.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Yeah, yeah, old school, that's what I'm talking about. Listen,
this thing's for everybody.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Some of y'all need to get it.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
I know you're in the trenches fighting, but check it out.
I'm gonna put it down like this. I can hear
him saying, some understand everything you're going through. It's all
part of the master plant or what you sat cause
you got saved everything. We'll gonna be pictures of Queen.
You better wake up, son, don't nothing come to a
super say God, Worre is dead. Reach a bible.
Speaker 3 (00:25):
You know what he said?
Speaker 1 (00:26):
He don't work do black, don't get say it. Yeah,
he's just said. He hoops his hand to the pot,
looks back to say makes fit. Some of y'all ain't
been in the sichers five minutes and you're not ready
to quit.
Speaker 4 (00:35):
I ain't mad.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
I'm just hitting you with the wheel if you go
for me. I now, how do you think that makes
you feel? Check this out? He's gas this here. Du
How many y'all have saw nothing but the study trying
to reach something. But I thought him who was able
to position far by his glory trumping might be part
of your testimoney, But it ain't been to the stoke.
Now I'm wanting to stuffs probably side way.
Speaker 5 (00:53):
Back in the day.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Why I sing the hook right here and see if
the church can relate.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Working out.
Speaker 6 (01:08):
Working up.
Speaker 7 (01:11):
We can't make.
Speaker 4 (01:14):
Worked it out?
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Yes, yes he.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Can think of not slaying the fiery problem or just
click you you say, why you what? Shut shake? What
would Jesus do? Why you're asking if he ain't trying
to do what he's saying. He told you was gonna
have tribulations, but you thought he was pleased for one minute?
Speaker 3 (01:32):
You telling how good guy?
Speaker 1 (01:33):
There can't nobody missing talk the next manage your back,
fight so fast on like your moon walking. Oh yeah,
I'm listening to myself because I ain't no better. It
ain't like I've been falling as every word.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
A man into the letter.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
But were told us we gotta remember that. We say, yo, yeah,
found down the fast, stay humble, let him annoy. It
ain't eves as I thought it was. I said, I
told you, but it showed up betting better all the time.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
Fusing that's ain't.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
If we go up through the kpham God put that
on this pub like they said, you can shout.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
Out to walk to Why yeah, yeah, yeah, everybody. I'ma
(02:19):
pump the brakes right there because I know, I know
he gonna better work it out for us. He gotta
work it out for us. Somebody's gotta work it out
for us. I think I'm run for president, but you
hear me say that just because this is my show.
But anyway, I had to give a minute or two
the big boy upstairs because my belief and hope it
is yours that he's gonna reach down and touch us. Man,
he kind of face fix this crazy thing we're going through,
(02:41):
this thing called life. With all the madness and stuff
out there, you know, we do hope here on kind
of player and play wherever you are, wherever you be
somewhere being safe and doing the right things, and try
to be the best person that you can be. Anyway,
having said that, welcome to the We're definitely glad to
(03:01):
take time out to join us. We know that you
could definitely be somewhere else doing something else, especially since
things opening up anyway, as usually have a fantastic show
lined up for you. This gentleman, mister Seth Pearson, is
joining us. He's a love warrior, one of my favorite subjects.
(03:22):
He's based in Seattle. He's done some fantastic things. He's
also a podcast talk show hopes himself. He hosts The
Love AMPT. He's also a life coach. So we're gonna
get in some really, really, really heavy things, especially when
we get talking about having relationships that will last, because
(03:42):
some of my friends can't keep a relationships for five minutes.
So anyway, let me see that. I guess with us.
He is, he's planed and landed. Seth. Are you with us?
Speaker 4 (03:52):
Absolutely? Kay Diddy himself here we are. It is a
pleasure to be here, my friends.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
Thank you, thank you for joining us, mad sir, appreciate
you taking time out man, and glad to have you.
Glad to have you.
Speaker 8 (04:07):
Man.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
I know this is gonna be fun.
Speaker 4 (04:08):
Yes, yeah, this is gonna be a blasting what an
intro by the way, beautiful song, love it. Oh so good.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Thank you man. You know, I think we need that boy,
because it's a madness going on out in the world
these days.
Speaker 4 (04:27):
Yep, we got we got some big things happen, and
that's for sure. Things are churning, Things are churning, and
people are evolving at a rapid rate, and it's a
little intense for a few.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Oh, stud it's definitely intense because you just say evolving,
So the question is evolving into what you know. I'll
be asking people, I say, Man, let me look at
your ears. Man, we turn around, let me check you
out in the bag. I'm just trying to make sure
you didn't go a tail or something.
Speaker 4 (04:58):
Truly, anything is possible at this point, Yes, sir, Yes, sir,
so Seth, I know you got a wealth of things
going on.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
You're a talk show host yourself, you have your own things,
so you now interesting this can be. But let's nip
over here to well, I don't know. I can just
give you the floor for a minute and I'll let
you tell our listeners a little bit about you. So
I'll be quiet for a minute. Man, we can get
into the quation.
Speaker 4 (05:26):
Absolutely, I'm thinking for that that intro I do. I
do consider myself a self love warrior. I consider myself
the og self love warrior in Seattle. You know, I'm
here doing my best to create community, to help those
around me, to remind everyone that loving themselves first is
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going to actually heal the world. That that is, that
is my the mission of love ant itself is to
show that if everyone healed themselves in the world's proms
with melt Away, and in terms of coaching, I've been
helping uh specifically men usually in the tech industry here
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in Seattle, have a more more meaningful, more meaningful, more fulfilling,
more connected uh, more spiritual, UH and just absolutely more
fun lives because I know for myself, I came from
the tech industry here in Seattle and game development and
(06:36):
virtual reality and augmented reality development, and I wasn't able
to It took me a while to find the life
that I knew I was capable of creating for myself.
And UH, as as we'll talk further relationships, communication and
tools in how to develop one one's life and creating
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a harmonious life, it's very important to me.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
Well, that's definitely definitely a mouthful right there. It's interesting
because why you were thinking about I was thinking about
a book we had published my company published a few
years back called Players, Step Your Game Up, which is
a self help book for men. But it deals strictly
with the dudes and don'ts and dealing with the opposite
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sex and the things that we don't know if we're
not actually coached or talked some of the silly stuff
that men do, mistakes we made. Anyway, it's interesting because
we're here back talking about some similar things. Let me
jump into this question right here. Is one of the
first ones that we have is why would a romantic
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partner find someone that loved themselves more attractive? And then
where my left thought is, people are real quick to
consider you call you selfish, a stuff on yourself. If you,
you know, show them that you do love yourself. So
(08:09):
give me something about that.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
One absolutely love this question. So the the Center for
Self Compassion started by Kristin Neff, they've done a lot
of this research around self compassion or self love, and
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it's shown self love are more attractive. And here's why,
because starting off the bat, those that love themselves are
more confident and now there can be this belief that
if someone loves themselves more, that they're going to be
more arrogant. That's actually not very true. There is a
difference between loving oneself and kind of negative selfishness. And
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those that are that have more self love are more
compassionate towards others, more understanding, more forgiving, are more driven
to create beautiful things in this world and live in
live in success because they want what's best for them.
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And if someone knows how to create what is best
for them, they're gonna know how to create that for
those in their lives. They're going to want those around
them to be doing well. They're also going to know
how to make sure that if they're they're not resourced,
they're not at the capacity to help others. They're going
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to know how to set boundaries with others, like healthy boundaries,
not cutting people out of their lives, like you kind
of mentioned earlier, as like I have this person can't
keep for a relationship for five days. It's like those
that love themselves are going to know how to create
the boundaries that can make any type of relationship last
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an entire lifetime.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
You know, you said that so eloquently. I was thinking
about it in a more of a little simplistic manner.
It seemed like a simple side. If you love yourself,
then to extend that love to others should be kind
of simple, right, you know, without the negative part, you know,
(10:31):
the the arrogant part, because you know, being in entertainment business,
get I get a lot, I get a lot of that,
But it's usually a misconception because just because you're in
a certain business don't make you feel and think a
certain way, you know, because I don't think I'm arrogant,
but I hear people tell me that all the time.
But if you love yourself, you can love somebody else
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because you know what it takes right, you know what
you're willing to do for you. So if you love
somebody else, is automatic that you'd be will to do
the same for somebody that you love.
Speaker 4 (11:07):
Mm hm exactly and those and I totally hear you
on that, and like it really shows when someone is
unable to love themselves how there is going to be
a higher chance of self sabotaging the relationship. That's something
that I had to learn for my own is how
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when someone doesn't know how to love a certain aspect
of themselves or thinks has low confidence in oneself and
is say around around me, and I hold myself really well,
and that the internal stories can come out potentially around
worthiness worthiness is an old one for me that they
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might think, and an old version of myself would think, well,
why is this person hanging out with me? Like I'm
going to mess up eventually, so I might as well,
just do something now to end it, and not in
a healthy way. The subconscious kind of takes over there.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
Well, I just know if somebody don't love they say,
if they can't love me.
Speaker 4 (12:15):
Real simple, absolutely, And I'm super curious in the realm
of yeah, of the realm of arrogance. So where has
that come up for you? Like what is what? Yeah?
Where did that come up for you? Well?
Speaker 3 (12:32):
Usually, just like you know, having a radio show, for instance,
being able to do what we're doing right now, people
have said that you thank you all that because you're
doing this for as the acting side, for me being
an actor, or my music that I've been in forever
forever ever, Oh you thank you this, you thank you
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all that because no, no, no, no, I don't think any
of that because I'm too busy trying to do what
I'm doing, you know what I mean. I don't have
time time to think that. But like you mentioned earlier,
it comes with a certain amount of confidence, It comes
with a certain amount of determination and realization because everybody's
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not gonna like you. And as a young person coming
up in life, you know, you have to try to
figure that out because everybody's just not gonna like you.
I don't care what profession you're in. And if you
don't have a certain amount of confidence in yourself or
love yourself to that extent, you can become weak and broken.
Speaker 4 (13:37):
Absolutely. Oh my gosh. Yeah. Two things are one I
totally identify with you. Used to think that everyone had
to like me, and that was one of the biggest
realizations that I had going through what it's called the
New Warrior training adventure through the organization called the Man
(13:59):
Time for which does men's initiation work? And one moment
in that weekend is someone told me you don't have
like you don't have to like everyone, and everyone doesn't
have to like you. And this is after I did
a process where I said fuck you to like twenty
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five men in a row. It was amazing, amazing, amazing.
And I think within within that that landscape, when you
are also talking about how some people have told you, like, well,
how dare you have your own radio show? How dare
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you think you're so important that and so great that
you can be an actor like that? Is come falls
upon this concept that I that I learned of looking
at the ego in a positive the positive ego and
the negative ego and so when someone has less self love,
they're going to be more engaged in the negative ego.
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There's more, there's a high likely chance that it's inflated.
Someone doesn't know how to manage it, and that can
cause troubles because say, yourself or someone like me who
has a really healthy, healthier relationships with self love are
positive ego like being able to understand that because we
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have an ego, and because we're human, we are inherently great,
and we have developed ourselves and we consider like hold
ourselves to like high standards, and there's an element of power,
there's an element of power around that. You have a
certain amount of power. Other people are engaged in their
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negative ego, they're gonna see, WHOA, that's a lot of power.
People shouldn't have power. Wait a minute, what's going on there?
And they're gonna try to take it down. They're gonna
try to knock you down a few pegs so that
you can be exactly where they consider themselves to be,
which is very much lower unfortunately.
Speaker 3 (16:09):
Yeah, and for some reason they think that makes them
feel like the bigger person when they attempted.
Speaker 4 (16:16):
Yeah, well, I.
Speaker 3 (16:20):
See it all the time. I see it all the time.
But yeah, in terms of that positive energy, man, I
feel like I fill myself up every day with premium gas.
Speaker 4 (16:29):
You know, I'm using electric at this point.
Speaker 3 (16:36):
Hey, well look that's good too, depending on your range.
But you know what I mean. This is the fact
that you've been able to hold yourself to a higher standard.
And you know that that comes from within, you know
what I mean. And once you've been knocked down and
raised up and knocked down and raised up over the years,
at some point then you seek balance, you know, you
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find out who you are, You become comfortable with who
you are, you know what I mean. And you know
every day you have to strive not to fall into
uh society's pitfalls and uh they're sinkholes because they're out
there out there. Because just as hard as you and
I every day are trying to make it to be
the best men that we could be, we know that
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there are people out there trying just as hard to
you know, to rain on our parade, you know, to
steal our thunder. You know. Oh yeah, like I said,
because of our life's lessons, you know, we got this
invisible force field up you know where we recognize it.
You know, you recognize it early on and deflect it,
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you know, because we know if we don't, it's gonna
drain us. It's gonna drain us if we don't. That's
my take. That's my take on that. Well, saith to
do us? Do us a favorite? Man? I know everything
hasn't always been peaches and creams with you. So tell
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us something about your partners that you that you dated
when your thing was a little bit different. Because I
know some people out there, man, they're trying to get
to where you are. You know what I mean, They
probably going through the madness right now. Hey, you're probably
going through some madness right now. So I want to
throw this out there too to my listeners. You know,
the calling number is six four six seventy. Press number
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one on your phone since for Seth, I'm sure to
be glad to answer it, and we'll be glad to
have you join the conversation. You know, come on, guys,
you know, don't be sitting there just holding the phone.
You can press number one. Come on with it, Yes,
So tell us about some of the crazy stuff you
dealt with when your self love was at present. You
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know what I'm saying, was you hanging out and getting drunk,
falling out on the floor. What was going on, luckily
for myself.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
So what's really what's really beautiful is there's so many
aspects of say, okay, if I'm looking at immature versus
mature masculinity, like my own actions. I was someone that
saw that immature masculinity growing up and talk to myself, Fuck,
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I don't want to do that, Like I don't want
to be that. And at the same time, there's some
qualities in this men that I that I want. There's
like some assertiveness, there's some directness, there's some like there's
more power, there's more uh, just kind of like there's
there's more energy, there's that masculine presence. And I wasn't able,
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I wasn't allowing myself to step into that because I
didn't know what that mature masculinity look like. So it's
almost like for me, it's like some of the crazy
stuff I used to get into was just got like
just being put like a putting myself in the friend
zone a lot, like like not not being not understanding
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that I like could be the man that I wanted
to be. And it's really funny that you mentioned say like, Okay,
what was the time You're drunk on the floor, Like,
what's that? It's so funny. It's it's like the first time,
the first time I made my sexual debut, I did
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have three drinks and it was It was a life
changing night for so many reasons. Because first of all,
I was with one of my best friends and we're
at a club and this one girl started giving me
the sexy eyes and I was like, oh, okay, what's
going on. I remember this is a set that had
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not made his sexual debut. And what was crazy about
the whole experience is this girl that came up to
us afterwards, like what's her friends? It's like, hey, you
guys are you guys are really cool? Do you guys
want to like grab a drink and talk more? We
live pretty close by and uh And I was like, yeah,
let's do that. And so being one of my best friends,
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this new woman and one of her friends, we end
up going back to her place. And what's crazy is
this woman was so confident in all aspects of her life.
She was super present, she was there, she asked really
great questions. It just seemed like so many things were
like I was like I have not been in the
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presence of this that much in my life. And it
was like, whoa, this is like the divine, divine feminine,
like being like super mature, like really confident and like
seeing the best in myself and my friend. And this
girl made all the moves, she made all the moves
she put she put my hand on her breast. You know,
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she's like she like me. Afterwards, you know.
Speaker 3 (22:03):
She said drop. You know what's that said? I'm over
here dying, brou I'm over here dying man, because I
so bad. I want to ask you how old you
were when that happened, because you mentioned you mentioned your debut,
and then you mentioned the club too, and I'm like,
wait a minute, he's over It was.
Speaker 4 (22:21):
Over twenty one, yeah, get that, twenty five five years old.
Speaker 3 (22:29):
Oh I don't know.
Speaker 4 (22:32):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (22:33):
I don't know. Listen, listen, listen. I don't know which
is worse, you at twenty five or me at my
first time. Didn't know I was supposed to insert something.
Speaker 4 (22:46):
Whoa, whoa, I was.
Speaker 3 (22:49):
I was rubbing on it. I was rubbing on it,
you know, I was rubbing on it. But I didn't
know that mister Happy was supposed to go inside something.
Watch is the worst sixteen sixteen. I thought I thought
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I was getting I thought I was getting something. Man,
I just didn't know the most important part. Wow, wow, did.
Speaker 4 (23:23):
You figure it out? Did you figure it out? Oh?
Speaker 3 (23:25):
Yeah, later I figured it out, you.
Speaker 4 (23:27):
Know, make a different day, like a different day.
Speaker 3 (23:32):
No, man, No, it's much later. It was much later
on because I couldn't even go back to that. I
couldn't even go back to that same girl because I
was fast and I was supposed to have been knowing
what was going on, and you know, talked to her
in and coming into the garage and that whole little bit.
And I'm thinking, I'm growing up.
Speaker 4 (23:53):
Wow, oh man, I'm.
Speaker 3 (23:58):
Gonna have to put that up. Yeah, said, I'm getting
some man. And then uh then somebody asked me one day,
will they just stick it in? And I'm like, did
I do what I didn't know I was supposed to
do that?
Speaker 4 (24:15):
Oh my god? Oh that is Oh that is incredible
that I'm never gonna forget that. That's amazing.
Speaker 3 (24:23):
Oh man, I'm sorry, and I'm saying this. I'm saying
this old air just gonna be everywhere in a few minutes.
Speaker 4 (24:30):
It's gonna be everywhere. It's like it's this. Yeah, I mean,
I know you've had a lot of shows and like,
finally that story is out there. I love it, and
so what's what's amazing? And so as you know this,
this experience progressed and I remember about halfway through I
kind of like slipped out, like a few times in
a row, and I laughed a little bit. I said
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new experiences. Right. And then so afterwards, after all done
and like getting dressed, he's like, hey, set you you
mentioned something about like new experiences. Was what was that
about it? I was like, oh, well, yeah, that was
like my first time having sex.
Speaker 3 (25:07):
And she was like this the connections chopping up? Did
you move or something? Oh oh now I got toppied
there for a second.
Speaker 4 (25:18):
Okay, it's a little a little better now a little better? Yeah, okay, yeah, okay, nice. Okay.
So when I say yeah, when she asked, uh, when
when you said it new experiences, what do you mean
by that? And I said this, yeah, that was my
first time having sex and she was like what You're
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so hot though, how is that possible? Like what do
you mean? She was like, you gotta get out there.
You gotta have more sex. Like she like slapped my
ass as I left and was like, we're gonna check
it in a few months, Like what who is this woman?
And so just this this woman is a life coach.
She was the first life coach I ever met, and
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so it's like she changed my life in so many
different ways. We're still friends to this day. When I
say relationships that last the lifetime, I fucking mean it,
Like that is the example of someone that inspired me.
Like one of the people along the way that inspired
me on the path was that sexual debut that one
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faithful night at twenty five years old.
Speaker 3 (26:27):
Wow, now I'm gonna remember that too.
Speaker 9 (26:29):
Man.
Speaker 3 (26:29):
I have definitely take my hat off to you boys.
Speaker 4 (26:36):
Thank you. And so I think another another element of
what you're asking is also like when did I experience
someone else like not loving themselves and how that worked out?
And so one of my previous partners, beautiful person, absolutely
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wonderful person, the simple just did not at the time
have the confidence within herself and the negative stories, the
negative talk that she had to herself was just so
rough and it created this like crippling experience where it
was like this really it ended up being like this
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very like kind of bland relationship because it turned into
me just supporting her all the time, that kind of
codependent what a habit, and part of myself that I
hadn't worked on yet kicked in because I was like, well,
I'm really great at supporting people, so this is great.
Let me just keep supporting her. And then eventually like
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she just like cancel on things a lot and be like, oh, well,
I'm just not feeling good. I'm just not feeling good.
It would show up in our sex life, you know,
and just like very just like you know, unfortunate ways,
and like I have so much empathy, and there's nothing
wrong with what happened. It is just this is what
happened when people don't love themselves. It just like sucks
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the energy out of the other person. Be saially, two
people suck an energy out of each other. And then.
Speaker 3 (28:18):
How does she look physically? Did she take care of
herself physically?
Speaker 4 (28:23):
She she did take care of herself physically, and there
was like a kind of like kind of like an
eating disorder experience going on, and so like she she
would work out and at the same time like had
a hard time controlling her eating habits and stuff. So
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and then just like with you've probably heard of this
and maybe even experience it yourself in certain ways, like
she would like look at herself in the mirror and
then just like just like make everything about her body
wrong basically, and uh, of course compare yourself to other
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people in like a negative way without like being able
to like celebrate someone else's body and hers at the
same time, it was always like, oh that one's pretty.
That was you know, like that was going on a lot.
Speaker 3 (29:18):
Oh wow, man, that's sad man, because I'm going through
that ship right now because I got a I got
a COVID stomach, and I see guys with six packs
and I go through that right now. Uh huh yeah,
thank COVID. Good boy that stomach this sitting around But.
Speaker 4 (29:37):
Yeah, yeah, totally. And it's like there's an amount from
what I've seen and kind of like what I've developed
for myself is that it is, you know, self love.
There's an amount of like acceptance of what is in
the moment, like uh, and that can be with one's body,
like not resisting where one's body is at. But then
(30:00):
also at the same time not just saying, say someone
that is overweight and wants to like have like a
you know, just like a more like it's a more
like firm body. Potentially, say someone overweight, they want to
be a little more tones and instead of just saying like, well,
(30:22):
I love myself, so like whatever goes like like, which
means kind of like letting go, as in just like
not working on oneself. Like that's not like that's not
the goal. The goal is to like acceps what it
love where you're at?
Speaker 3 (30:39):
To Oprah, they must then listened to Oprah because Oprah
told women that if if a man doesn't love you
like you are, then he doesn't love you.
Speaker 5 (30:51):
So you could eat what you Yeah, there's yeah, it's
so yeah, there's oh man, there's so much interest to
see in complexity within that because there's also male like
men and.
Speaker 4 (31:05):
Women dynamics there. That comes back to the like immature femininity,
immature masculinity and in that realm. To me, saying like
that would be like saying uh to you if I
said to you, it's like, well like that covid like
that that covid gut? Is that what you called it?
Speaker 3 (31:26):
YEA like a lot of people's good.
Speaker 4 (31:31):
Yeah, yeah, it's like if your woman doesn't like that
covid gut, like she can go her stuff. Like when
would what would that be acceptable? Like how would that
be any different than a woman saying that to another woman,
Like that's just it's just like it's saying, yeah, just
just let yourself go, Like yeah, you got to accept
(31:54):
you no matter what it's like, of course, like loving
one's partner like conditionally is so important, and like accepting
that someone is not is no longer working on themselves
to me, is unaccessible. That's not who I want to
be with.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
I agree. I agree. I've told people of myself, of
my earlier shows. You know, it's a little different. You know,
if you were a partner for any length of time,
nobody stays the same, you know what I mean. But
if I could work out as much as I can
and try to take care of myself so I could
be presentable and look good to you, then what's wrong
(32:38):
with me expecting the same from you? You know, if
you don't want me to look at nothing and nobody
else will give me something to look at, you know
what I mean? Just don't sit there and let yourself
go to the dogs and think that well you suppose
just love me regardless. Yet, well I do, but I
don't like this part of you, you know what I mean,
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because that's not who I am. I'm always encouraging. I'm
willing to lift you up and even work out if
that's what you want to do. But you got to
come halfway when out there, you got to come halfway.
Just sit there, you know, five five hundred pounds until
you do. Well. He got to like you because on
the way home from work, you see another thirty thousand
(33:22):
women that's got a full time job taking care of kids, exercising,
working out, and working in the car wash on the weekend.
Speaker 4 (33:31):
No excuse, right, Yeah, Denial of responsibility is what it
comes down to you there. And at the same time, sure,
there could be relationships where both couples just degree like
that's just not important. We both just don't really care
what our weight is or how we look and how
we take care of ourselves physically. And that could be fine.
(33:53):
That could be fine, And that's I just have a
feeling just like myself, that is not a relationship that
everyone would want to Again, Yeah, it's just.
Speaker 3 (34:06):
Not healthy on a lot of different levels. It's just
not healthy because that's when people start jumping horses in
the middle of the stream too.
Speaker 4 (34:17):
What what well?
Speaker 3 (34:20):
I mean, you know, we agreed that we're gonna do
this thing, but then in the middle of the stream,
we decide to get on another horse because we don't
like that no more.
Speaker 4 (34:28):
Oh, gotcha, got you? Gotcha? Okay, you know, And.
Speaker 3 (34:33):
That happens the relationships that happens on the relationships on
a daily I mean, we start out this way, but
then down the road somewhere when we get in the
middle of the stream, like I said, we look around
and say, I don't think I like this no more,
you know, and the other person is saying, well, you know,
this is how we agree that we're gonna roll, you
know what I mean, this is how we're gonna do it.
(34:54):
But no, I don't like how you let yourself go,
you know, right.
Speaker 4 (35:00):
I think it's really important in I have this in
my primary relationship is a relationship agreement document, and it's
a document that can be edited and changed, you know,
as things go on. And at the same time, it's
kind of like this helpful north star of where we're
(35:24):
going and who we want to be like individually and together,
and it could really just like create a lot of clarity,
because especially in relationships where there's plenty of space, plenty
of space for expectations to come rolling on in, it
can be really helpful to get some of those expectations
(35:46):
like either on paper or talk about them, and then
maybe turn an expectation into something that is no longer
expected or Yeah, because I know for myself, I used
to have an idea of what I wanted a relationship
to look like, and then once I started actually experiencing
(36:07):
relationships that that has changed and it's evolved in very
beautiful ways.
Speaker 3 (36:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (36:13):
What do you think about that?
Speaker 3 (36:15):
Well, I think about if you didn't get started to
use twenty five, you got a whole lot of catching
up to do.
Speaker 4 (36:25):
Oh my god. Oh yeah, and I have been doing that.
I have been doing that, my friend.
Speaker 3 (36:31):
Oh my goodness. I don't want to get your trouble set, Beth.
Don't get yourself in trouble now, don't. Oh, you just
have any trouble messing with me? Man, she might be listening.
Speaker 4 (36:49):
I hope she looks to be awesome. Listen to a
lot of my interviews.
Speaker 3 (36:53):
It's great, So so Beef, what tool did you feel
that everyone should use was in and out of relationships
that they should know about.
Speaker 4 (37:03):
Oh oh my gosh, okay, I'm so excited to share this.
Have you heard of nonviolent communication before communication modality?
Speaker 3 (37:14):
No, sir?
Speaker 4 (37:16):
Oh awesome, okay. So it was developed gosh, like thirty
years ago, maybe forty by this guy named Marshall Rosenberg.
Cool guy, that's for sure. Haven't met him. I just
I just see some pictures of him, and based on
what he's written, I go, this is a cool guy
and one of the concepts. You know, he wrote a
(37:38):
book called Nonviolent Communication, A Language of Life, and plenty
of other great stuff. One aspect of the book that
I see in the world constantly these days, in my
own on the internet, in anything that I read about,
(37:59):
like ourticles online or any type of interaction that I
have in person, I see people breaking these this kind
of like what we could say recommendation, which is the
four d's of disconnections. So in conversation or messaging given
out in the world, we all as humans have the
(38:24):
opportunity to communicate in a way that's connecting versus disconnecting,
and so I see a lot of communication that is
inherently disconnecting. And so first of the four d's is diagnosis.
(38:44):
It's like judging a situation, judging a person, saying, oh
you are that, you are that way, This person is
like that, that political group is like that. Those COVID
deniers ever are like that. The people that don't support
(39:05):
Black Lives matter are that thing that and usually very
negative words associated all sorts of stuff like that. So
because it's it's putting, it's it's saying that a person
or a thing is that way and there is no
other way that they are, uh like kind of in
(39:26):
a more positive light. And so when talking to other people,
if say, in a in a conversation thing, someone says
to me, set you are a COVID denier, I go what,
like you know, internally I'm like what what? Hold? What?
Why would?
Speaker 9 (39:44):
Why?
Speaker 4 (39:44):
What makes you say that? That doesn't sound really great?
And so it starts a conversation off on a kind
of a negative, a negative note, instead of maybe someone
asking me says, why are you personally not choosing not
to get this vaccine? And then we have a conversation
(40:05):
with them there and then from from there. So that's
one one way of diagnosis, or one way of the
four days of disconnections. The second one is kind of
what we talked about earlier a little bit with what
Oprah was saying, which is denial of responsibility. So in
a conflict of some sort where say someone super simple
(40:27):
as in, someone approaches me, it's set you said you
were going to do the dishes today and you did
not do the dishes, and I go, well, I mean
it's our whole household responsibility to do the dishes, and
like where you know, it's not just me, it's just
and by the way, and it's it's Sunday. You know
I don't do dishes on the Sunday. I just I
do them on Monday. And so there's all of these
(40:49):
where it's like, inherently, how can someone connect with me
when I'm in this excuse tornado at this point, So yeah,
inherently disconnected. The third one is deserved. When someone says
do like I should I deserve to have spaghetti made
(41:11):
for me every single night at five PM because I
love me a godstar in early spaghetti dinner. Someone might
be like really like upset of just saying like, well,
why why do you deserve that? Like why just because
you say you deserve something doesn't mean that you're gonna
(41:33):
get it. And so that's another realm where I see
that out in the world, and the messaging of on
the internet of just saying, well, this person deserves that,
like that person deserves this, and it's yeah, it's just
very ugh, it's it's icky, it's really icky. And then
so the fourth d of disconnection, which is one of
(41:55):
the biggest ones of them all, is demands. And so
it's someone saying like, YO, make these cupcakes for me,
or like or else, or it's like, uh, yeah, gonna
just go ahead and yeah, go to this. I demand
(42:15):
that this person uh like call themselves out, or I
demand that this person be put in jail, or I
demand that this person be taken out of jail, like
it could just go forever. Because the important thing about
communication is making requests when wanting something of someone else,
(42:38):
A request is something that someone could say yes or
no to a demand. There's no wiggle room. It's just
like do this, you have to do that. And so
if if everyone in the world those listening right now,
it's just like, I really think that if it's the
world knew about this. This one of not violent communication.
(43:01):
The fourties of disconnection, the communication in the world would
like elevate so much and there would be so much
less disconnection because when we are not having disconnecting conversations
or bringing connection and curiosity to each other. And the
problem with kind of like this separation and dividing that's
(43:24):
happening in especially the US, is just creating more disconnection
and people are like becoming a little islands, a little bubbles,
and those that, at least for myself, if I know
that I'm in a realm of being able to have
a good conversation with anyone because I'm curious, I'm open.
(43:45):
I'm not gonna through a conversation with someone end up
like trying to create disconnection and sabotage the conversation. Well, yeah,
that was the crash course. That was a crash course
and some communication and what's going on in the world
right there?
Speaker 3 (44:05):
All right? And then it sounds good. I've been loading
up the gun waiting on this one man too. I
have psychedelics change your perspectives on love, that's the question.
But then prior to that, are we talking about psychedelics
like as in mushrooms and stuff like that, because I
don't know that's what I remember from the seventies, that's
(44:28):
from back to seventies. That's what I remember. But that's
what we're talking about today, the same type of psychedelics.
Speaker 4 (44:35):
We we are, we are and to be more more
specific for those out there, when I talk about this,
I'm talking about m d M A still five and mushrooms,
I'll see hyahuasca. Those are kind of some big ones
and d MT and so in the realm of you're
asking the question of how has it changed my perspective
(44:58):
of love? And was the first substance that I used
when I was twenty and it was such a hard decision.
I was, I viewed myself on some straight edge. I
was scared of becoming addicted. I was scared of being
dumb afterwards, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (45:14):
Says help me out here. I remember back when I
was in college, and like I said, in the seventies
when was everything started and really hit the street and
we were very interested, inquisitive and trying different things. They
used to have this asset like all paper, what was that?
Do you know?
Speaker 4 (45:28):
Oh? Oh, I don't, I don't know what the because
I know that there were different kind of like batches
of it and they would have different names, and then
I knew different There was little different logos and different
colored paper, and I mean all.
Speaker 3 (45:47):
That is what I mean is that considered a psychedelic two.
Speaker 4 (45:52):
Yes, So it's all all of that was LSD. Like
anything that was a lot of paper like that. It's
just it was the de livered in different ways in
different batches. And so probably one tap would be a
drop of LSD's yeah, right, which one hundred mics. Yeah.
And so when I was when I was twenty and
(46:14):
made this really difficult decision to do M be made
because I wanted to truly like challenge my own views
on life. Un Sold drugs were bad. I told I
would be, like I said, be dumb, become addicted, to
be a person that other people don't want to be around,
all sorts of stuff. And what I discovered, oh my gosh,
(46:39):
that first experience opened my frickin' life opened. I began.
Speaker 3 (46:46):
I was.
Speaker 4 (46:46):
That's how I found my first kind of real like
experience of inner peace and self love. Is because I
was so empathetic towards myself to what I was going
through my life throughout experience and the people that I
was around, I was so empathetic towards them. I could
see the best in someone else without them even seeing
(47:09):
it themselves. And you know, that's an aspect of coaching
that I really love. But seeing like WHOA this person
is going great places, let me help them accelerate that
them on their path. And so in that realm of
of empathy and love, like I was able to find
more ways to love other people and love myself even more.
(47:34):
And I think that a lot of these psychedelics, especially
my experience, some of my experiences on ayahuasca, has helped
me discover that like life comes from love, it's not
that life created this, this this kind of play, and
this is very abstract by the way we're going, A
(47:55):
little abstract.
Speaker 3 (48:00):
Person that's used in a lot of spiritual a lot
of different cultures as part of their religion.
Speaker 4 (48:05):
Yes, yes, absolutely, yeah, back to you know, in in Peru,
that's that's where it's been used, I believe, many places
in South America. I believe Mexico, I think Brazil as well,
and even in haw So. Yeah, that's quite a rich
(48:26):
history to it.
Speaker 3 (48:27):
I just wanted that listeners there wasn't familiar. I hadn't
heard the term before. I just wanted them to understand it. Yeah,
to the street corner drug store just getting.
Speaker 4 (48:39):
Yeah. No, absolutely, I highly recommend uh experiencing it in
a you know, a ceremony setting if that is something
that one is seeking with the with the proper Shalman
all that kod stuff and so in in these In
that experience, as I was saying like that, like I
(49:02):
discovered that it was like love came for life, which
is just a real big, you know, reframe of how
I view things. It's like I'm now able to see,
like see love around me like all the time. It's
like not just it's not just an act of someone
(49:23):
taking care of someone else or showing admiration or adoration
and showing a physical affection or words of affirmation. It's
like it's literally everywhere around me, and it's everywhere around us.
And then yes, there's elements of the world that's like
(49:45):
really spooky for sure, and like love is love is
all we need. It's classic come on.
Speaker 3 (49:55):
Right for sure.
Speaker 4 (49:56):
For sure.
Speaker 3 (49:56):
For sure. So if if people wanted to because I
think you mentioned high wives and control circumstances, but if
people wanted to experiment with psychedelics, is there right way
and the wrong way.
Speaker 4 (50:10):
Oh yeah, okay, So what I recommend is that with
every experience that someone goes into is to set an intention.
And maybe those that are just starting on their journeys
with growth, or maybe you haven't even started yet, like
it really can even just start from a simple place
(50:31):
of I want to grow from this experience. And this
is before you've even like taken the substance is like
maybe writing down a list what do you want more
in your life? What do you want more for yourself?
What do you want more for others? What? How is
how do you want to change kind of like your
(50:51):
living situation, your environment, maybe look at a specific aspect
of yourself as we were talking about, maybe even in
the realm of working out, Like as we were saying before,
it's like, do you do you want to change like
your diet, how how you eat? Do you do you
(51:13):
want to start walking every day? And in these experiences
you'll have kind of there's a higher chance of you
connecting to this aspect of yourself that you want to
work on, and that could show up through maybe potentially visuals, visions.
It's a feeling, maybe it's an inner working kind of
(51:33):
like your mind processing things, and maybe it's whoever else
you're with, like how you connect with them. You see
that that that topic, that category, and that intention show
up and go like, oh, here's when this is it happen.
It's happening right now. And at least for me, say
(51:54):
with the intention of the first time doing MDMA, like
I wanted to challenge my identity, I wanted to experience
something that was happening around me. I wanted to do
something that would improve my life in some way, and
(52:17):
I just I was given so much more. And that's
the beauty of intention is usually in my experience, with
beautiful intentions comes just beautiful realizations, messages, experiences, all the above,
taking it into existence, manifesting yep, yep, yep.
Speaker 3 (52:41):
Well here's a good one for you. What is one
way of the to create lifelong relationships?
Speaker 4 (52:49):
Yes, yes, m I think the number one thing is
being absolutely true to yourself with what you want out
of a relationship and creating mutual growth. At the same time,
(53:18):
I was like, what do I want out of this
relationship and how can I make sure that we're both
throwing every time we interact.
Speaker 3 (53:31):
That's powerful, It's powerful. Yeah, I think that comes with
just being a good positive person anyway. And like you said,
if you're self confident and you love yourself, you want
those that's in your space and your atmosphere around you
to all do well, feel good and prosper and be
(53:52):
successful too. It's like a no brainer kind of like
all go together.
Speaker 4 (53:58):
Absolutely. Oh my gosh. Yeah, I've just noticed that I
I want to be around people that I can that
I can grow with, and I can't. I can't just
play the old field hits with someone forever. We gotta create.
We gotta be creating new things.
Speaker 3 (54:19):
And uh, hey, look there's no point in dummying down.
I like that term. No dummy down. I can't dumb
me down for nobody. They got to kind of get
on the train that's already moving with me.
Speaker 4 (54:31):
Yeah, yeah, exactly. And the beautiful thing is like even
if someone starts to like, hey, you know what, actually,
I'm gonna get off the train and I'm gonna hang
out back here, like I'm gonna hang out over here,
you keep going. You gotta do your things. It doesn't
mean that you can't put any time towards that relationship.
It just means that it's an opportunity to find more
(54:53):
people and have people in like a closer orbit that
are on the train or on their own train. That's
like doing parallel stuff. That's really awesome. Yeah, that, like,
just because there's an ebb and flow in a relationship
does not mean that, Like I could say to someone
(55:15):
that like, I no longer you know, resonate super hard with,
you know, just super well with. And I could say, actually,
I have changed a lot and I don't think there
is much reason to spend time with you anymore. I
could do that. I could kind of do the like
cut someone out of my life situation or be like,
don't talk to me. Or I can simply like recognize
(55:41):
within myself, I can go, oh, this this relationship feels
different for me, and I have changed and I'm going
in kind of like a different path or speeding up
super fast. And I could just tell that person that
I may not be available for as much for them
right now, and that I still love them, still love them,
(56:05):
still want them in my life, and like a friend
that wants to keep connections will give that fix to
that boundary, and that gives they're more opportunity to connect
to the future as well.
Speaker 3 (56:22):
Yeah, man, boy, you still got wealth of information. Said,
you know, we're down to the last show. I mean,
time flies when you having fun, bro. But you know what, man,
I'm gonna definitely I'm definitely gonna invite you back anytime
you want, anytime you want, man, because I know we
got a lot more we have a lot more to
(56:44):
uh to discuss, man, because I definitely yeah, you know,
I try to use this platform man, to reach out
and touch many people. You know. My cousins say, well,
you know I go to church every Sunday. Well, I
feel like doing this show is my way of going
to you know, because I could reach so many more people.
You know, we can touch so many more people with
(57:07):
technology as it is, with the way that we're doing it.
So hopefully, some way, somewhere, some way out there, somehow,
you know, some of the things we discussed today could
help somebody in their life moving forward. So seth, go
ahead and tell everybody how they can reach you, how
they can contact with you, and all that good stuff.
Speaker 4 (57:28):
Awesome. Thanks a want thank you for saying that it
is so true, and I feel that I feel that
very same way of connecting and reaching out to so
many people through all all sorts of platforms and beautiful.
So what's really exciting is that my first time doing
my group program called the Purpose Accelerator is starting on
(57:51):
June twenty first. That's right, June twenty first, twenty twenty one.
We're like three weeks away or stuff like that, and
already we have some people signed up and it's gonna
be a three month experience. If anyone has never done
a have been in a coaching situation before. I'll be
doing one on one coaching sessions with each member that joins.
(58:18):
I'll be doing weekly group calls, will be doing daily
breathwork in the morning over zoom. It's gonna be awesome,
and I'm talking all about purpose and how to be
more connected to one's purpose and create a life of
purpose and like feeling of meaning and fulfillment and joy
(58:39):
and community. It's gonna be frickin' awesome. And so people
can connect and look at more information on loveamped dot com.
That's right. L O V E A m p E
D dot com. I'm also on Instagram under love amped
sets that's s E. T. H. And uh. I got
(59:02):
a lot of fun videos on YouTube just looking up
Seth Pearson, and that's p E A R S O N.
And uh, I just love having conversations with people. I
love lighting people up. I am so driven to continue
to heal myself and heal the world in parallel and
creating a world where everyone fully loves themselves and fear
(59:25):
feels fiercely alive. And uh, you know, I'm I feel
very lucky that I live in that in that space,
in that category. And thank you Lamont. This has been
freaking great and I would love to be on again,
of course, absolutely so good.
Speaker 3 (59:42):
I'd love to have you again, for sure, for sure, everybody,
mister Seth Pearson, go out support, let him know where
you heard him at and open up, open wide, open
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Ask the man across the street, ask the milkman on
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and we'll see you next week. So the same time, Seth,
be appreciate you much. Be safe man, and like I said,
the door's open for you anytime.
Speaker 4 (01:00:37):
Thank you La so much. Love and love yourself out
there everyone, all right, man, thanks.
Speaker 9 (01:00:43):
A lot, See you guys next week.
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Yeah, yeah, old school, that's what I'm talking about. Listen,
this thing's for everybody.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Some of y'all need to get it.
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I know you're in the trenches fighting, but check it out.
I'm gonna put it down like this. I can hear
him saying, some understand everything you're going through. It's all
part of the master plant or what you sat cause
you got saved everything. We'll gonna be pictures of Queen.
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super say God, Worre is dead. Reach a bible.
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he's just said. He hoops his hand to the pot,
looks back to say makes fit. Some of y'all ain't
been in the sichers five minutes and you're not ready
to quit.
Speaker 4 (00:35):
I ain't mad.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
I'm just hitting you with the wheel if you go
for me. I now, how do you think that makes
you feel? Check this out? He's gas this here. Du
How many y'all have saw nothing but the study trying
to reach something. But I thought him who was able
to position far by his glory trumping might be part
of your testimoney, But it ain't been to the stoke.
Now I'm wanting to stuffs probably side way.
Speaker 5 (00:53):
Back in the day.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Why I sing the hook right here and see if
the church can relate.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Working out.
Speaker 6 (01:08):
Working up.
Speaker 7 (01:11):
We can't make.
Speaker 4 (01:14):
Worked it out?
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Yes, yes he.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Can think of not slaying the fiery problem or just
click you you say, why you what? Shut shake? What
would Jesus do? Why you're asking if he ain't trying
to do what he's saying. He told you was gonna
have tribulations, but you thought he was pleased for one minute?
Speaker 3 (01:32):
You telling how good guy?
Speaker 1 (01:33):
There can't nobody missing talk the next manage your back,
fight so fast on like your moon walking. Oh yeah,
I'm listening to myself because I ain't no better. It
ain't like I've been falling as every word.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
A man into the letter.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
But were told us we gotta remember that. We say, yo, yeah,
found down the fast, stay humble, let him annoy. It
ain't eves as I thought it was. I said, I
told you, but it showed up betting better all the time.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
Fusing that's ain't.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
If we go up through the kpham God put that
on this pub like they said, you can shout.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
Out to walk to Why yeah, yeah, yeah, everybody. I'ma
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pump the brakes right there because I know, I know
he gonna better work it out for us. He gotta
work it out for us. Somebody's gotta work it out
for us. I think I'm run for president, but you
hear me say that just because this is my show.
But anyway, I had to give a minute or two
the big boy upstairs because my belief and hope it
is yours that he's gonna reach down and touch us. Man,
he kind of face fix this crazy thing we're going through,
(02:41):
this thing called life. With all the madness and stuff
out there, you know, we do hope here on kind
of player and play wherever you are, wherever you be
somewhere being safe and doing the right things, and try
to be the best person that you can be. Anyway,
having said that, welcome to the We're definitely glad to
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take time out to join us. We know that you
could definitely be somewhere else doing something else, especially since
things opening up anyway, as usually have a fantastic show
lined up for you. This gentleman, mister Seth Pearson, is
joining us. He's a love warrior, one of my favorite subjects.
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He's based in Seattle. He's done some fantastic things. He's
also a podcast talk show hopes himself. He hosts The
Love AMPT. He's also a life coach. So we're gonna
get in some really, really, really heavy things, especially when
we get talking about having relationships that will last, because
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some of my friends can't keep a relationships for five minutes.
So anyway, let me see that. I guess with us.
He is, he's planed and landed. Seth. Are you with us?
Speaker 4 (03:52):
Absolutely? Kay Diddy himself here we are. It is a
pleasure to be here, my friends.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
Thank you, thank you for joining us, mad sir, appreciate
you taking time out man, and glad to have you.
Glad to have you.
Speaker 8 (04:07):
Man.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
I know this is gonna be fun.
Speaker 4 (04:08):
Yes, yeah, this is gonna be a blasting what an
intro by the way, beautiful song, love it. Oh so good.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Thank you man. You know, I think we need that boy,
because it's a madness going on out in the world
these days.
Speaker 4 (04:27):
Yep, we got we got some big things happen, and
that's for sure. Things are churning, Things are churning, and
people are evolving at a rapid rate, and it's a
little intense for a few.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Oh, stud it's definitely intense because you just say evolving,
So the question is evolving into what you know. I'll
be asking people, I say, Man, let me look at
your ears. Man, we turn around, let me check you
out in the bag. I'm just trying to make sure
you didn't go a tail or something.
Speaker 4 (04:58):
Truly, anything is possible at this point, Yes, sir, Yes, sir,
so Seth, I know you got a wealth of things
going on.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
You're a talk show host yourself, you have your own things,
so you now interesting this can be. But let's nip
over here to well, I don't know. I can just
give you the floor for a minute and I'll let
you tell our listeners a little bit about you. So
I'll be quiet for a minute. Man, we can get
into the quation.
Speaker 4 (05:26):
Absolutely, I'm thinking for that that intro I do. I
do consider myself a self love warrior. I consider myself
the og self love warrior in Seattle. You know, I'm
here doing my best to create community, to help those
around me, to remind everyone that loving themselves first is
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going to actually heal the world. That that is, that
is my the mission of love ant itself is to
show that if everyone healed themselves in the world's proms
with melt Away, and in terms of coaching, I've been
helping uh specifically men usually in the tech industry here
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in Seattle, have a more more meaningful, more meaningful, more fulfilling,
more connected uh, more spiritual, UH and just absolutely more
fun lives because I know for myself, I came from
the tech industry here in Seattle and game development and
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virtual reality and augmented reality development, and I wasn't able
to It took me a while to find the life
that I knew I was capable of creating for myself.
And UH, as as we'll talk further relationships, communication and
tools in how to develop one one's life and creating
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a harmonious life, it's very important to me.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
Well, that's definitely definitely a mouthful right there. It's interesting
because why you were thinking about I was thinking about
a book we had published my company published a few
years back called Players, Step Your Game Up, which is
a self help book for men. But it deals strictly
with the dudes and don'ts and dealing with the opposite
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sex and the things that we don't know if we're
not actually coached or talked some of the silly stuff
that men do, mistakes we made. Anyway, it's interesting because
we're here back talking about some similar things. Let me
jump into this question right here. Is one of the
first ones that we have is why would a romantic
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partner find someone that loved themselves more attractive? And then
where my left thought is, people are real quick to
consider you call you selfish, a stuff on yourself. If you,
you know, show them that you do love yourself. So
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give me something about that.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
One absolutely love this question. So the the Center for
Self Compassion started by Kristin Neff, they've done a lot
of this research around self compassion or self love, and
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it's shown self love are more attractive. And here's why,
because starting off the bat, those that love themselves are
more confident and now there can be this belief that
if someone loves themselves more, that they're going to be
more arrogant. That's actually not very true. There is a
difference between loving oneself and kind of negative selfishness. And
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those that are that have more self love are more
compassionate towards others, more understanding, more forgiving, are more driven
to create beautiful things in this world and live in
live in success because they want what's best for them.
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And if someone knows how to create what is best
for them, they're gonna know how to create that for
those in their lives. They're going to want those around
them to be doing well. They're also going to know
how to make sure that if they're they're not resourced,
they're not at the capacity to help others. They're going
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to know how to set boundaries with others, like healthy boundaries,
not cutting people out of their lives, like you kind
of mentioned earlier, as like I have this person can't
keep for a relationship for five days. It's like those
that love themselves are going to know how to create
the boundaries that can make any type of relationship last
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an entire lifetime.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
You know, you said that so eloquently. I was thinking
about it in a more of a little simplistic manner.
It seemed like a simple side. If you love yourself,
then to extend that love to others should be kind
of simple, right, you know, without the negative part, you know,
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the the arrogant part, because you know, being in entertainment business,
get I get a lot, I get a lot of that,
But it's usually a misconception because just because you're in
a certain business don't make you feel and think a
certain way, you know, because I don't think I'm arrogant,
but I hear people tell me that all the time.
But if you love yourself, you can love somebody else
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because you know what it takes right, you know what
you're willing to do for you. So if you love
somebody else, is automatic that you'd be will to do
the same for somebody that you love.
Speaker 4 (11:07):
Mm hm exactly and those and I totally hear you
on that, and like it really shows when someone is
unable to love themselves how there is going to be
a higher chance of self sabotaging the relationship. That's something
that I had to learn for my own is how
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when someone doesn't know how to love a certain aspect
of themselves or thinks has low confidence in oneself and
is say around around me, and I hold myself really well,
and that the internal stories can come out potentially around
worthiness worthiness is an old one for me that they
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might think, and an old version of myself would think, well,
why is this person hanging out with me? Like I'm
going to mess up eventually, so I might as well,
just do something now to end it, and not in
a healthy way. The subconscious kind of takes over there.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
Well, I just know if somebody don't love they say,
if they can't love me.
Speaker 4 (12:15):
Real simple, absolutely, And I'm super curious in the realm
of yeah, of the realm of arrogance. So where has
that come up for you? Like what is what? Yeah?
Where did that come up for you? Well?
Speaker 3 (12:32):
Usually, just like you know, having a radio show, for instance,
being able to do what we're doing right now, people
have said that you thank you all that because you're
doing this for as the acting side, for me being
an actor, or my music that I've been in forever
forever ever, Oh you thank you this, you thank you
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all that because no, no, no, no, I don't think any
of that because I'm too busy trying to do what
I'm doing, you know what I mean. I don't have
time time to think that. But like you mentioned earlier,
it comes with a certain amount of confidence, It comes
with a certain amount of determination and realization because everybody's
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not gonna like you. And as a young person coming
up in life, you know, you have to try to
figure that out because everybody's just not gonna like you.
I don't care what profession you're in. And if you
don't have a certain amount of confidence in yourself or
love yourself to that extent, you can become weak and broken.
Speaker 4 (13:37):
Absolutely. Oh my gosh. Yeah. Two things are one I
totally identify with you. Used to think that everyone had
to like me, and that was one of the biggest
realizations that I had going through what it's called the
New Warrior training adventure through the organization called the Man
(13:59):
Time for which does men's initiation work? And one moment
in that weekend is someone told me you don't have
like you don't have to like everyone, and everyone doesn't
have to like you. And this is after I did
a process where I said fuck you to like twenty
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five men in a row. It was amazing, amazing, amazing.
And I think within within that that landscape, when you
are also talking about how some people have told you, like, well,
how dare you have your own radio show? How dare
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you think you're so important that and so great that
you can be an actor like that? Is come falls
upon this concept that I that I learned of looking
at the ego in a positive the positive ego and
the negative ego and so when someone has less self love,
they're going to be more engaged in the negative ego.
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There's more, there's a high likely chance that it's inflated.
Someone doesn't know how to manage it, and that can
cause troubles because say, yourself or someone like me who
has a really healthy, healthier relationships with self love are
positive ego like being able to understand that because we
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have an ego, and because we're human, we are inherently great,
and we have developed ourselves and we consider like hold
ourselves to like high standards, and there's an element of power,
there's an element of power around that. You have a
certain amount of power. Other people are engaged in their
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negative ego, they're gonna see, WHOA, that's a lot of power.
People shouldn't have power. Wait a minute, what's going on there?
And they're gonna try to take it down. They're gonna
try to knock you down a few pegs so that
you can be exactly where they consider themselves to be,
which is very much lower unfortunately.
Speaker 3 (16:09):
Yeah, and for some reason they think that makes them
feel like the bigger person when they attempted.
Speaker 4 (16:16):
Yeah, well, I.
Speaker 3 (16:20):
See it all the time. I see it all the time.
But yeah, in terms of that positive energy, man, I
feel like I fill myself up every day with premium gas.
Speaker 4 (16:29):
You know, I'm using electric at this point.
Speaker 3 (16:36):
Hey, well look that's good too, depending on your range.
But you know what I mean. This is the fact
that you've been able to hold yourself to a higher standard.
And you know that that comes from within, you know
what I mean. And once you've been knocked down and
raised up and knocked down and raised up over the years,
at some point then you seek balance, you know, you
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find out who you are, You become comfortable with who
you are, you know what I mean. And you know
every day you have to strive not to fall into
uh society's pitfalls and uh they're sinkholes because they're out
there out there. Because just as hard as you and
I every day are trying to make it to be
the best men that we could be, we know that
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there are people out there trying just as hard to
you know, to rain on our parade, you know, to
steal our thunder. You know. Oh yeah, like I said,
because of our life's lessons, you know, we got this
invisible force field up you know where we recognize it.
You know, you recognize it early on and deflect it,
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you know, because we know if we don't, it's gonna
drain us. It's gonna drain us if we don't. That's
my take. That's my take on that. Well, saith to
do us? Do us a favorite? Man? I know everything
hasn't always been peaches and creams with you. So tell
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us something about your partners that you that you dated
when your thing was a little bit different. Because I
know some people out there, man, they're trying to get
to where you are. You know what I mean, They
probably going through the madness right now. Hey, you're probably
going through some madness right now. So I want to
throw this out there too to my listeners. You know,
the calling number is six four six seventy. Press number
(18:29):
one on your phone since for Seth, I'm sure to
be glad to answer it, and we'll be glad to
have you join the conversation. You know, come on, guys,
you know, don't be sitting there just holding the phone.
You can press number one. Come on with it, Yes,
So tell us about some of the crazy stuff you
dealt with when your self love was at present. You
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know what I'm saying, was you hanging out and getting drunk,
falling out on the floor. What was going on, luckily
for myself.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
So what's really what's really beautiful is there's so many
aspects of say, okay, if I'm looking at immature versus
mature masculinity, like my own actions. I was someone that
saw that immature masculinity growing up and talk to myself, Fuck,
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I don't want to do that, Like I don't want
to be that. And at the same time, there's some
qualities in this men that I that I want. There's
like some assertiveness, there's some directness, there's some like there's
more power, there's more uh, just kind of like there's
there's more energy, there's that masculine presence. And I wasn't able,
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I wasn't allowing myself to step into that because I
didn't know what that mature masculinity look like. So it's
almost like for me, it's like some of the crazy
stuff I used to get into was just got like
just being put like a putting myself in the friend
zone a lot, like like not not being not understanding
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that I like could be the man that I wanted
to be. And it's really funny that you mentioned say like, Okay,
what was the time You're drunk on the floor, Like,
what's that? It's so funny. It's it's like the first time,
the first time I made my sexual debut, I did
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have three drinks and it was It was a life
changing night for so many reasons. Because first of all,
I was with one of my best friends and we're
at a club and this one girl started giving me
the sexy eyes and I was like, oh, okay, what's
going on. I remember this is a set that had
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not made his sexual debut. And what was crazy about
the whole experience is this girl that came up to
us afterwards, like what's her friends? It's like, hey, you
guys are you guys are really cool? Do you guys
want to like grab a drink and talk more? We
live pretty close by and uh And I was like, yeah,
let's do that. And so being one of my best friends,
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this new woman and one of her friends, we end
up going back to her place. And what's crazy is
this woman was so confident in all aspects of her life.
She was super present, she was there, she asked really
great questions. It just seemed like so many things were
like I was like I have not been in the
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presence of this that much in my life. And it
was like, whoa, this is like the divine, divine feminine,
like being like super mature, like really confident and like
seeing the best in myself and my friend. And this
girl made all the moves, she made all the moves
she put she put my hand on her breast. You know,
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she's like she like me. Afterwards, you know.
Speaker 3 (22:03):
She said drop. You know what's that said? I'm over
here dying, brou I'm over here dying man, because I
so bad. I want to ask you how old you
were when that happened, because you mentioned you mentioned your debut,
and then you mentioned the club too, and I'm like,
wait a minute, he's over It was.
Speaker 4 (22:21):
Over twenty one, yeah, get that, twenty five five years old.
Speaker 3 (22:29):
Oh I don't know.
Speaker 4 (22:32):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (22:33):
I don't know. Listen, listen, listen. I don't know which
is worse, you at twenty five or me at my
first time. Didn't know I was supposed to insert something.
Speaker 4 (22:46):
Whoa, whoa, I was.
Speaker 3 (22:49):
I was rubbing on it. I was rubbing on it,
you know, I was rubbing on it. But I didn't
know that mister Happy was supposed to go inside something.
Watch is the worst sixteen sixteen. I thought I thought
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I was getting I thought I was getting something. Man,
I just didn't know the most important part. Wow, wow, did.
Speaker 4 (23:23):
You figure it out? Did you figure it out? Oh?
Speaker 3 (23:25):
Yeah, later I figured it out, you.
Speaker 4 (23:27):
Know, make a different day, like a different day.
Speaker 3 (23:32):
No, man, No, it's much later. It was much later
on because I couldn't even go back to that. I
couldn't even go back to that same girl because I
was fast and I was supposed to have been knowing
what was going on, and you know, talked to her
in and coming into the garage and that whole little bit.
And I'm thinking, I'm growing up.
Speaker 4 (23:53):
Wow, oh man, I'm.
Speaker 3 (23:58):
Gonna have to put that up. Yeah, said, I'm getting
some man. And then uh then somebody asked me one day,
will they just stick it in? And I'm like, did
I do what I didn't know I was supposed to
do that?
Speaker 4 (24:15):
Oh my god? Oh that is Oh that is incredible
that I'm never gonna forget that. That's amazing.
Speaker 3 (24:23):
Oh man, I'm sorry, and I'm saying this. I'm saying
this old air just gonna be everywhere in a few minutes.
Speaker 4 (24:30):
It's gonna be everywhere. It's like it's this. Yeah, I mean,
I know you've had a lot of shows and like,
finally that story is out there. I love it, and
so what's what's amazing? And so as you know this,
this experience progressed and I remember about halfway through I
kind of like slipped out, like a few times in
a row, and I laughed a little bit. I said
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new experiences. Right. And then so afterwards, after all done
and like getting dressed, he's like, hey, set you you
mentioned something about like new experiences. Was what was that
about it? I was like, oh, well, yeah, that was
like my first time having sex.
Speaker 3 (25:07):
And she was like this the connections chopping up? Did
you move or something? Oh oh now I got toppied
there for a second.
Speaker 4 (25:18):
Okay, it's a little a little better now a little better? Yeah, okay, yeah, okay, nice. Okay.
So when I say yeah, when she asked, uh, when
when you said it new experiences, what do you mean
by that? And I said this, yeah, that was my
first time having sex and she was like what You're
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so hot though, how is that possible? Like what do
you mean? She was like, you gotta get out there.
You gotta have more sex. Like she like slapped my
ass as I left and was like, we're gonna check
it in a few months, Like what who is this woman?
And so just this this woman is a life coach.
She was the first life coach I ever met, and
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so it's like she changed my life in so many
different ways. We're still friends to this day. When I
say relationships that last the lifetime, I fucking mean it,
Like that is the example of someone that inspired me.
Like one of the people along the way that inspired
me on the path was that sexual debut that one
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faithful night at twenty five years old.
Speaker 3 (26:27):
Wow, now I'm gonna remember that too.
Speaker 9 (26:29):
Man.
Speaker 3 (26:29):
I have definitely take my hat off to you boys.
Speaker 4 (26:36):
Thank you. And so I think another another element of
what you're asking is also like when did I experience
someone else like not loving themselves and how that worked out?
And so one of my previous partners, beautiful person, absolutely
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wonderful person, the simple just did not at the time
have the confidence within herself and the negative stories, the
negative talk that she had to herself was just so
rough and it created this like crippling experience where it
was like this really it ended up being like this
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very like kind of bland relationship because it turned into
me just supporting her all the time, that kind of
codependent what a habit, and part of myself that I
hadn't worked on yet kicked in because I was like, well,
I'm really great at supporting people, so this is great.
Let me just keep supporting her. And then eventually like
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she just like cancel on things a lot and be like, oh, well,
I'm just not feeling good. I'm just not feeling good.
It would show up in our sex life, you know,
and just like very just like you know, unfortunate ways,
and like I have so much empathy, and there's nothing
wrong with what happened. It is just this is what
happened when people don't love themselves. It just like sucks
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the energy out of the other person. Be saially, two
people suck an energy out of each other. And then.
Speaker 3 (28:18):
How does she look physically? Did she take care of
herself physically?
Speaker 4 (28:23):
She she did take care of herself physically, and there
was like a kind of like kind of like an
eating disorder experience going on, and so like she she
would work out and at the same time like had
a hard time controlling her eating habits and stuff. So
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and then just like with you've probably heard of this
and maybe even experience it yourself in certain ways, like
she would like look at herself in the mirror and
then just like just like make everything about her body
wrong basically, and uh, of course compare yourself to other
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people in like a negative way without like being able
to like celebrate someone else's body and hers at the
same time, it was always like, oh that one's pretty.
That was you know, like that was going on a lot.
Speaker 3 (29:18):
Oh wow, man, that's sad man, because I'm going through
that ship right now because I got a I got
a COVID stomach, and I see guys with six packs
and I go through that right now. Uh huh yeah,
thank COVID. Good boy that stomach this sitting around But.
Speaker 4 (29:37):
Yeah, yeah, totally. And it's like there's an amount from
what I've seen and kind of like what I've developed
for myself is that it is, you know, self love.
There's an amount of like acceptance of what is in
the moment, like uh, and that can be with one's body,
like not resisting where one's body is at. But then
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also at the same time not just saying, say someone
that is overweight and wants to like have like a
you know, just like a more like it's a more
like firm body. Potentially, say someone overweight, they want to
be a little more tones and instead of just saying like, well,
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I love myself, so like whatever goes like like, which
means kind of like letting go, as in just like
not working on oneself. Like that's not like that's not
the goal. The goal is to like acceps what it
love where you're at?
Speaker 3 (30:39):
To Oprah, they must then listened to Oprah because Oprah
told women that if if a man doesn't love you
like you are, then he doesn't love you.
Speaker 5 (30:51):
So you could eat what you Yeah, there's yeah, it's
so yeah, there's oh man, there's so much interest to
see in complexity within that because there's also male like
men and.
Speaker 4 (31:05):
Women dynamics there. That comes back to the like immature femininity,
immature masculinity and in that realm. To me, saying like
that would be like saying uh to you if I
said to you, it's like, well like that covid like
that that covid gut? Is that what you called it?
Speaker 3 (31:26):
YEA like a lot of people's good.
Speaker 4 (31:31):
Yeah, yeah, it's like if your woman doesn't like that
covid gut, like she can go her stuff. Like when
would what would that be acceptable? Like how would that
be any different than a woman saying that to another woman,
Like that's just it's just like it's saying, yeah, just
just let yourself go, Like yeah, you got to accept
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you no matter what it's like, of course, like loving
one's partner like conditionally is so important, and like accepting
that someone is not is no longer working on themselves
to me, is unaccessible. That's not who I want to
be with.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
I agree. I agree. I've told people of myself, of
my earlier shows. You know, it's a little different. You know,
if you were a partner for any length of time,
nobody stays the same, you know what I mean. But
if I could work out as much as I can
and try to take care of myself so I could
be presentable and look good to you, then what's wrong
(32:38):
with me expecting the same from you? You know, if
you don't want me to look at nothing and nobody
else will give me something to look at, you know
what I mean? Just don't sit there and let yourself
go to the dogs and think that well you suppose
just love me regardless. Yet, well I do, but I
don't like this part of you, you know what I mean,
(33:00):
because that's not who I am. I'm always encouraging. I'm
willing to lift you up and even work out if
that's what you want to do. But you got to
come halfway when out there, you got to come halfway.
Just sit there, you know, five five hundred pounds until
you do. Well. He got to like you because on
the way home from work, you see another thirty thousand
(33:22):
women that's got a full time job taking care of kids, exercising,
working out, and working in the car wash on the weekend.
Speaker 4 (33:31):
No excuse, right, Yeah, Denial of responsibility is what it
comes down to you there. And at the same time, sure,
there could be relationships where both couples just degree like
that's just not important. We both just don't really care
what our weight is or how we look and how
we take care of ourselves physically. And that could be fine.
(33:53):
That could be fine, And that's I just have a
feeling just like myself, that is not a relationship that
everyone would want to Again, Yeah, it's just.
Speaker 3 (34:06):
Not healthy on a lot of different levels. It's just
not healthy because that's when people start jumping horses in
the middle of the stream too.
Speaker 4 (34:17):
What what well?
Speaker 3 (34:20):
I mean, you know, we agreed that we're gonna do
this thing, but then in the middle of the stream,
we decide to get on another horse because we don't
like that no more.
Speaker 4 (34:28):
Oh, gotcha, got you? Gotcha? Okay, you know, And.
Speaker 3 (34:33):
That happens the relationships that happens on the relationships on
a daily I mean, we start out this way, but
then down the road somewhere when we get in the
middle of the stream, like I said, we look around
and say, I don't think I like this no more,
you know, and the other person is saying, well, you know,
this is how we agree that we're gonna roll, you
know what I mean, this is how we're gonna do it.
(34:54):
But no, I don't like how you let yourself go,
you know, right.
Speaker 4 (35:00):
I think it's really important in I have this in
my primary relationship is a relationship agreement document, and it's
a document that can be edited and changed, you know,
as things go on. And at the same time, it's
kind of like this helpful north star of where we're
(35:24):
going and who we want to be like individually and together,
and it could really just like create a lot of clarity,
because especially in relationships where there's plenty of space, plenty
of space for expectations to come rolling on in, it
can be really helpful to get some of those expectations
(35:46):
like either on paper or talk about them, and then
maybe turn an expectation into something that is no longer
expected or Yeah, because I know for myself, I used
to have an idea of what I wanted a relationship
to look like, and then once I started actually experiencing
(36:07):
relationships that that has changed and it's evolved in very
beautiful ways.
Speaker 3 (36:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (36:13):
What do you think about that?
Speaker 3 (36:15):
Well, I think about if you didn't get started to
use twenty five, you got a whole lot of catching
up to do.
Speaker 4 (36:25):
Oh my god. Oh yeah, and I have been doing that.
I have been doing that, my friend.
Speaker 3 (36:31):
Oh my goodness. I don't want to get your trouble set, Beth.
Don't get yourself in trouble now, don't. Oh, you just
have any trouble messing with me? Man, she might be listening.
Speaker 4 (36:49):
I hope she looks to be awesome. Listen to a
lot of my interviews.
Speaker 3 (36:53):
It's great, So so Beef, what tool did you feel
that everyone should use was in and out of relationships
that they should know about.
Speaker 4 (37:03):
Oh oh my gosh, okay, I'm so excited to share this.
Have you heard of nonviolent communication before communication modality?
Speaker 3 (37:14):
No, sir?
Speaker 4 (37:16):
Oh awesome, okay. So it was developed gosh, like thirty
years ago, maybe forty by this guy named Marshall Rosenberg.
Cool guy, that's for sure. Haven't met him. I just
I just see some pictures of him, and based on
what he's written, I go, this is a cool guy
and one of the concepts. You know, he wrote a
(37:38):
book called Nonviolent Communication, A Language of Life, and plenty
of other great stuff. One aspect of the book that
I see in the world constantly these days, in my
own on the internet, in anything that I read about,
(37:59):
like ourticles online or any type of interaction that I
have in person, I see people breaking these this kind
of like what we could say recommendation, which is the
four d's of disconnections. So in conversation or messaging given
out in the world, we all as humans have the
(38:24):
opportunity to communicate in a way that's connecting versus disconnecting,
and so I see a lot of communication that is
inherently disconnecting. And so first of the four d's is diagnosis.
(38:44):
It's like judging a situation, judging a person, saying, oh
you are that, you are that way, This person is
like that, that political group is like that. Those COVID
deniers ever are like that. The people that don't support
(39:05):
Black Lives matter are that thing that and usually very
negative words associated all sorts of stuff like that. So
because it's it's putting, it's it's saying that a person
or a thing is that way and there is no
other way that they are, uh like kind of in
(39:26):
a more positive light. And so when talking to other people,
if say, in a in a conversation thing, someone says
to me, set you are a COVID denier, I go what,
like you know, internally I'm like what what? Hold? What?
Why would?
Speaker 9 (39:44):
Why?
Speaker 4 (39:44):
What makes you say that? That doesn't sound really great?
And so it starts a conversation off on a kind
of a negative, a negative note, instead of maybe someone
asking me says, why are you personally not choosing not
to get this vaccine? And then we have a conversation
(40:05):
with them there and then from from there. So that's
one one way of diagnosis, or one way of the
four days of disconnections. The second one is kind of
what we talked about earlier a little bit with what
Oprah was saying, which is denial of responsibility. So in
a conflict of some sort where say someone super simple
(40:27):
as in, someone approaches me, it's set you said you
were going to do the dishes today and you did
not do the dishes, and I go, well, I mean
it's our whole household responsibility to do the dishes, and
like where you know, it's not just me, it's just
and by the way, and it's it's Sunday. You know
I don't do dishes on the Sunday. I just I
do them on Monday. And so there's all of these
(40:49):
where it's like, inherently, how can someone connect with me
when I'm in this excuse tornado at this point, So yeah,
inherently disconnected. The third one is deserved. When someone says
do like I should I deserve to have spaghetti made
(41:11):
for me every single night at five PM because I
love me a godstar in early spaghetti dinner. Someone might
be like really like upset of just saying like, well,
why why do you deserve that? Like why just because
you say you deserve something doesn't mean that you're gonna
(41:33):
get it. And so that's another realm where I see
that out in the world, and the messaging of on
the internet of just saying, well, this person deserves that,
like that person deserves this, and it's yeah, it's just
very ugh, it's it's icky, it's really icky. And then
so the fourth d of disconnection, which is one of
(41:55):
the biggest ones of them all, is demands. And so
it's someone saying like, YO, make these cupcakes for me,
or like or else, or it's like, uh, yeah, gonna
just go ahead and yeah, go to this. I demand
(42:15):
that this person uh like call themselves out, or I
demand that this person be put in jail, or I
demand that this person be taken out of jail, like
it could just go forever. Because the important thing about
communication is making requests when wanting something of someone else,
(42:38):
A request is something that someone could say yes or
no to a demand. There's no wiggle room. It's just
like do this, you have to do that. And so
if if everyone in the world those listening right now,
it's just like, I really think that if it's the
world knew about this. This one of not violent communication.
(43:01):
The fourties of disconnection, the communication in the world would
like elevate so much and there would be so much
less disconnection because when we are not having disconnecting conversations
or bringing connection and curiosity to each other. And the
problem with kind of like this separation and dividing that's
(43:24):
happening in especially the US, is just creating more disconnection
and people are like becoming a little islands, a little bubbles,
and those that, at least for myself, if I know
that I'm in a realm of being able to have
a good conversation with anyone because I'm curious, I'm open.
(43:45):
I'm not gonna through a conversation with someone end up
like trying to create disconnection and sabotage the conversation. Well, yeah,
that was the crash course. That was a crash course
and some communication and what's going on in the world
right there?
Speaker 3 (44:05):
All right? And then it sounds good. I've been loading
up the gun waiting on this one man too. I
have psychedelics change your perspectives on love, that's the question.
But then prior to that, are we talking about psychedelics
like as in mushrooms and stuff like that, because I
don't know that's what I remember from the seventies, that's
(44:28):
from back to seventies. That's what I remember. But that's
what we're talking about today, the same type of psychedelics.
Speaker 4 (44:35):
We we are, we are and to be more more
specific for those out there, when I talk about this,
I'm talking about m d M A still five and mushrooms,
I'll see hyahuasca. Those are kind of some big ones
and d MT and so in the realm of you're
asking the question of how has it changed my perspective
(44:58):
of love? And was the first substance that I used
when I was twenty and it was such a hard decision.
I was, I viewed myself on some straight edge. I
was scared of becoming addicted. I was scared of being
dumb afterwards, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (45:14):
Says help me out here. I remember back when I
was in college, and like I said, in the seventies
when was everything started and really hit the street and
we were very interested, inquisitive and trying different things. They
used to have this asset like all paper, what was that?
Do you know?
Speaker 4 (45:28):
Oh? Oh, I don't, I don't know what the because
I know that there were different kind of like batches
of it and they would have different names, and then
I knew different There was little different logos and different
colored paper, and I mean all.
Speaker 3 (45:47):
That is what I mean is that considered a psychedelic two.
Speaker 4 (45:52):
Yes, So it's all all of that was LSD. Like
anything that was a lot of paper like that. It's
just it was the de livered in different ways in
different batches. And so probably one tap would be a
drop of LSD's yeah, right, which one hundred mics. Yeah.
And so when I was when I was twenty and
(46:14):
made this really difficult decision to do M be made
because I wanted to truly like challenge my own views
on life. Un Sold drugs were bad. I told I
would be, like I said, be dumb, become addicted, to
be a person that other people don't want to be around,
all sorts of stuff. And what I discovered, oh my gosh,
(46:39):
that first experience opened my frickin' life opened. I began.
Speaker 3 (46:46):
I was.
Speaker 4 (46:46):
That's how I found my first kind of real like
experience of inner peace and self love. Is because I
was so empathetic towards myself to what I was going
through my life throughout experience and the people that I
was around, I was so empathetic towards them. I could
see the best in someone else without them even seeing
(47:09):
it themselves. And you know, that's an aspect of coaching
that I really love. But seeing like WHOA this person
is going great places, let me help them accelerate that
them on their path. And so in that realm of
of empathy and love, like I was able to find
more ways to love other people and love myself even more.
(47:34):
And I think that a lot of these psychedelics, especially
my experience, some of my experiences on ayahuasca, has helped
me discover that like life comes from love, it's not
that life created this, this this kind of play, and
this is very abstract by the way we're going, A
(47:55):
little abstract.
Speaker 3 (48:00):
Person that's used in a lot of spiritual a lot
of different cultures as part of their religion.
Speaker 4 (48:05):
Yes, yes, absolutely, yeah, back to you know, in in Peru,
that's that's where it's been used, I believe, many places
in South America. I believe Mexico, I think Brazil as well,
and even in haw So. Yeah, that's quite a rich
(48:26):
history to it.
Speaker 3 (48:27):
I just wanted that listeners there wasn't familiar. I hadn't
heard the term before. I just wanted them to understand it. Yeah,
to the street corner drug store just getting.
Speaker 4 (48:39):
Yeah. No, absolutely, I highly recommend uh experiencing it in
a you know, a ceremony setting if that is something
that one is seeking with the with the proper Shalman
all that kod stuff and so in in these In
that experience, as I was saying like that, like I
(49:02):
discovered that it was like love came for life, which
is just a real big, you know, reframe of how
I view things. It's like I'm now able to see,
like see love around me like all the time. It's
like not just it's not just an act of someone
(49:23):
taking care of someone else or showing admiration or adoration
and showing a physical affection or words of affirmation. It's
like it's literally everywhere around me, and it's everywhere around us.
And then yes, there's elements of the world that's like
(49:45):
really spooky for sure, and like love is love is
all we need. It's classic come on.
Speaker 3 (49:55):
Right for sure.
Speaker 4 (49:56):
For sure.
Speaker 3 (49:56):
For sure. So if if people wanted to because I
think you mentioned high wives and control circumstances, but if
people wanted to experiment with psychedelics, is there right way
and the wrong way.
Speaker 4 (50:10):
Oh yeah, okay, So what I recommend is that with
every experience that someone goes into is to set an intention.
And maybe those that are just starting on their journeys
with growth, or maybe you haven't even started yet, like
it really can even just start from a simple place
(50:31):
of I want to grow from this experience. And this
is before you've even like taken the substance is like
maybe writing down a list what do you want more
in your life? What do you want more for yourself?
What do you want more for others? What? How is
how do you want to change kind of like your
(50:51):
living situation, your environment, maybe look at a specific aspect
of yourself as we were talking about, maybe even in
the realm of working out, Like as we were saying before,
it's like, do you do you want to change like
your diet, how how you eat? Do you do you
(51:13):
want to start walking every day? And in these experiences
you'll have kind of there's a higher chance of you
connecting to this aspect of yourself that you want to
work on, and that could show up through maybe potentially visuals, visions.
It's a feeling, maybe it's an inner working kind of
(51:33):
like your mind processing things, and maybe it's whoever else
you're with, like how you connect with them. You see
that that that topic, that category, and that intention show
up and go like, oh, here's when this is it happen.
It's happening right now. And at least for me, say
(51:54):
with the intention of the first time doing MDMA, like
I wanted to challenge my identity, I wanted to experience
something that was happening around me. I wanted to do
something that would improve my life in some way, and
(52:17):
I just I was given so much more. And that's
the beauty of intention is usually in my experience, with
beautiful intentions comes just beautiful realizations, messages, experiences, all the above,
taking it into existence, manifesting yep, yep, yep.
Speaker 3 (52:41):
Well here's a good one for you. What is one
way of the to create lifelong relationships?
Speaker 4 (52:49):
Yes, yes, m I think the number one thing is
being absolutely true to yourself with what you want out
of a relationship and creating mutual growth. At the same time,
(53:18):
I was like, what do I want out of this
relationship and how can I make sure that we're both
throwing every time we interact.
Speaker 3 (53:31):
That's powerful, It's powerful. Yeah, I think that comes with
just being a good positive person anyway. And like you said,
if you're self confident and you love yourself, you want
those that's in your space and your atmosphere around you
to all do well, feel good and prosper and be
(53:52):
successful too. It's like a no brainer kind of like
all go together.
Speaker 4 (53:58):
Absolutely. Oh my gosh. Yeah, I've just noticed that I
I want to be around people that I can that
I can grow with, and I can't. I can't just
play the old field hits with someone forever. We gotta create.
We gotta be creating new things.
Speaker 3 (54:19):
And uh, hey, look there's no point in dummying down.
I like that term. No dummy down. I can't dumb
me down for nobody. They got to kind of get
on the train that's already moving with me.
Speaker 4 (54:31):
Yeah, yeah, exactly. And the beautiful thing is like even
if someone starts to like, hey, you know what, actually,
I'm gonna get off the train and I'm gonna hang
out back here, like I'm gonna hang out over here,
you keep going. You gotta do your things. It doesn't
mean that you can't put any time towards that relationship.
It just means that it's an opportunity to find more
(54:53):
people and have people in like a closer orbit that
are on the train or on their own train. That's
like doing parallel stuff. That's really awesome. Yeah, that, like,
just because there's an ebb and flow in a relationship
does not mean that, Like I could say to someone
(55:15):
that like, I no longer you know, resonate super hard with,
you know, just super well with. And I could say, actually,
I have changed a lot and I don't think there
is much reason to spend time with you anymore. I
could do that. I could kind of do the like
cut someone out of my life situation or be like,
don't talk to me. Or I can simply like recognize
(55:41):
within myself, I can go, oh, this this relationship feels
different for me, and I have changed and I'm going
in kind of like a different path or speeding up
super fast. And I could just tell that person that
I may not be available for as much for them
right now, and that I still love them, still love them,
(56:05):
still want them in my life, and like a friend
that wants to keep connections will give that fix to
that boundary, and that gives they're more opportunity to connect
to the future as well.
Speaker 3 (56:22):
Yeah, man, boy, you still got wealth of information. Said,
you know, we're down to the last show. I mean,
time flies when you having fun, bro. But you know what, man,
I'm gonna definitely I'm definitely gonna invite you back anytime
you want, anytime you want, man, because I know we
got a lot more we have a lot more to
(56:44):
uh to discuss, man, because I definitely yeah, you know,
I try to use this platform man, to reach out
and touch many people. You know. My cousins say, well,
you know I go to church every Sunday. Well, I
feel like doing this show is my way of going
to you know, because I could reach so many more people.
You know, we can touch so many more people with
(57:07):
technology as it is, with the way that we're doing it.
So hopefully, some way, somewhere, some way out there, somehow,
you know, some of the things we discussed today could
help somebody in their life moving forward. So seth, go
ahead and tell everybody how they can reach you, how
they can contact with you, and all that good stuff.
Speaker 4 (57:28):
Awesome. Thanks a want thank you for saying that it
is so true, and I feel that I feel that
very same way of connecting and reaching out to so
many people through all all sorts of platforms and beautiful.
So what's really exciting is that my first time doing
my group program called the Purpose Accelerator is starting on
(57:51):
June twenty first. That's right, June twenty first, twenty twenty one.
We're like three weeks away or stuff like that, and
already we have some people signed up and it's gonna
be a three month experience. If anyone has never done
a have been in a coaching situation before. I'll be
doing one on one coaching sessions with each member that joins.
(58:18):
I'll be doing weekly group calls, will be doing daily
breathwork in the morning over zoom. It's gonna be awesome,
and I'm talking all about purpose and how to be
more connected to one's purpose and create a life of
purpose and like feeling of meaning and fulfillment and joy
(58:39):
and community. It's gonna be frickin' awesome. And so people
can connect and look at more information on loveamped dot com.
That's right. L O V E A m p E
D dot com. I'm also on Instagram under love amped
sets that's s E. T. H. And uh. I got
(59:02):
a lot of fun videos on YouTube just looking up
Seth Pearson, and that's p E A R S O N.
And uh, I just love having conversations with people. I
love lighting people up. I am so driven to continue
to heal myself and heal the world in parallel and
creating a world where everyone fully loves themselves and fear
(59:25):
feels fiercely alive. And uh, you know, I'm I feel
very lucky that I live in that in that space,
in that category. And thank you Lamont. This has been
freaking great and I would love to be on again,
of course, absolutely so good.
Speaker 3 (59:42):
I'd love to have you again, for sure, for sure, everybody,
mister Seth Pearson, go out support, let him know where
you heard him at and open up, open wide, open
open up, open up, open up, And if any part
of the show that you missed, it'll be available in
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you have problems, you know, ask your mother, ask your daddy,
Ask the man across the street, ask the milkman on
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this show, so you don't have no excuse. So that
being said, this your holds lamon Patterson. This is kind
of play a play, continue support. We love you all
(01:00:28):
and we'll see you next week. So the same time, Seth,
be appreciate you much. Be safe man, and like I said,
the door's open for you anytime.
Speaker 4 (01:00:37):
Thank you La so much. Love and love yourself out
there everyone, all right, man, thanks.
Speaker 9 (01:00:43):
A lot, See you guys next week.
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