November 14, 2024 • 50 mins
Narcissism is the inflated sense of self importance, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy. The Bible teaches us that love is patient and king, and it keeps no record of wrongs (and etc.)
How is the Most High dealing with you personally on any narcissistic traits that you may have had? Or how was that journey of rejecting narcissism even in relationships?
My Instagram: samaiamarie
How is the Most High dealing with you personally on any narcissistic traits that you may have had? Or how was that journey of rejecting narcissism even in relationships?
My Instagram: samaiamarie
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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maybe you only bought two wreaths but you have twelve windows,
Or maybe your toddler got very eager with the advent calendar,
or maybe the inflatable snowman didn't make it through the snowstorm,
or maybe the twinkle lights aren't twinkling. Whatever the reason,
this season, Instacart's here for hosts and their whole holiday haul.
(00:22):
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Service fees in terms apply.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
The holidays are all about sharing with family, meals, couches, stories,
Gramma secret pecan pie recipe, and now you can also
share a cart with Instacart's family carts. Everyone can add
what they want to one group cart from wherever they are,
so you don't have to go from room to room
to find out who wants cranberry sauce, or who should
get many marshmallows for the ams, or collecting votes for
sugar cookies versus shortbread. Just share a cart and then
(00:52):
share the meals and the moments. Download the instacart app
and get delivery in as fast as thirty minutes plus
enjoy free delivery on your first three orders. Service and
terms apply.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
Well, it is luck baby. Don't hurt me. Don't hurt
me no more. Okay, let me stop.
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See the most.
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Please, peace, love and light. Family. My name is Samaya
Marie and this is chatting with Samaya. You can find
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tuning in. But hello, Hello, My name is Samaia Marie.
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This is China with Samayah. This is episode two. Let's
get the ball rolling. This is episode two and it
is entitled what is Love? First Corinthians thirteen. Now, I
just wanted to bring out scripture real quick. I just
wanted the scriptures to set the tone for this episode
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right here. So let's go to First Corinthians, Chapter thirteen,
Verses four through seven. Love is patient and kind. Love
is not jealous or boastful, or proud or rude. It
does not demand its own way it is not irritable,
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and it keeps no record of being wrong. This is
NLT by the way. It does not rejoice about injustice,
but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up,
never loses faith, is always hopeful and endorsed through every circumstance. Now,
I wanted that to be the to set the tone
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here because I feel like from the perspective that we're
taught versus the biblical meaning, it's so different. And love
to me means the love in the Bible. And I'm
so thankful that I listened to the voice of the
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Lord through his words. When it comes when it comes
down to love, and even when it comes down to
the food of the Spirit, love, joy, peace. Let me
besides trying to get it from the off the top
of that off the top of my head, let me
go to the scriptures Galatians five and Ah, I'm on
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the Bible lot, by the way, in twenty two. But
the Holy Spirit produced this is still in LT by
the way. But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of
fruit in our lives. Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, faithfulness,
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and gentleness and self control. And the Bible is such
a good teacher. The the Most High is our teacher.
But the Bible his word and his in his ramo
word prophetic word. Just the Most High is such a
good father. Now what is love? I just read it
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to you. Love is patient and kind. Love is not
jealous or both toward proud. It does not demand its
own way. And I'm thankful that the Most High has
given us, has given us a blueprint to live by,
which is called the Bible. He's given us this blueprint.
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And how much wisdom and correct and just correction, love, faith,
just all the wisdom that and even history that comes
from the Holy scriptures, all praises to the Most High,
all praise to the heavenly Father. But yes, I believe
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love from the perspective that we're taught is so off
versus the biblical meaning. The biblical meaning of love. Of course,
the Bible is always spot on. But we're taught that
love is an emotion. We're taught that love is just
a passing feeling or you know, you like somebody. Oh,
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it's just the past and feeling. But love really is
a way that we especially as people who govern themselves
or who we're saying we're governing ourselves by the most
highest laws. His standards are to really govern ourselves by
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that blueprint of biblical love. You see what I'm saying Now,
This will be expressed differently because we are all in
different stages in our life, and I'm not trying to
be a teacher here. This is just observations off what
I've been seeing, and I would say I'm still a
(06:51):
work in progress. We're all still a work in progress.
But I would say that from the perspective that we're
taught love, that perspective is not rock solid. Like excuse me,
(07:13):
like how the like the biblical perspective. Let me just
go back to it real quick, because even in the
world worldly love, let me go back worldly love. When
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it comes to that, it keeps, it keeps regular being wrong,
It demands its own way. It's very narcissistic in frame.
And even because I used to talk to myself a lot,
especially before this podcast, I would say narcissism is demonic love.
(08:00):
And I truly believe that because the enemy reverses every
almost everything that the Most High does. So like I
read it off, I'm gonna read it off again. I'm
gonna read it I'm gonna read love in its definition,
and I'm going to read narcissism and its definition. So
(08:22):
I'm gonna read love one more time so that y'all
can get the full grasp of this episode and why
I wanted to take this right here. Okay, Love is
patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful, or
proud or rude. It does not demand its own way.
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It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of
being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice, but rejoices
whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never
loses faith. It's always hopeful and adores through every circumstance. Okay,
let me read. Let me read the versus of that.
Narcissism is quick and rude. Narcissism is jealous, boastful, and
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proud and rude, just to add that in there. It
demands its own way, It is irritable, and it keeps
the record of being wronged. Okay. It rejoices about injustice
and does not rejoice whenever the truth wins out. Narcissism
gives up, loses faith, is never hopeful, and does not
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endure through every circumstance. And that's how and that's how
I really I really viewed that and even how I say,
like personally, narcissism pride. I've tried my best through seasons
prior and even this season to really keep that away
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and at bait, not not even at bait, away from
my from how I look at myself, from how I
look at others, from how I speak, how I my
my outlook on life, just narcissism in general, to really
pull back from narcissism, because narcissism is not good for relationships,
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it's not good in the workforce, it's not good around family,
it's just really not good in any circumstance. Really, and
narcissism that pride, especially at that level, can it's so rigid.
It keeps you from really flowing and going with the
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flow and really free flowing and flowing on the most
highest timing. It it keeps you so self centered, thank
you most high. It keeps you so self centered and
focused on me, me, me instead of we, And I
just don't, I just do not appreciate narcissism at all.
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And that's the love, that's the worldly love that comes
that comes with the perspective of love that butterfly feeling
that we've been taught that love is versus what love
actually is in the scriptures, and how powerful it is.
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Love that does not demand its own way, that seeks
not her own, that is not easily provoked. Think if
no evil rejoices, not an iniquity, but rejoices in the truth,
is such a beautiful thing. And I believe that you know,
because the Bible is not popular nowadays. The Bible is
(11:53):
not popular. The Bible is not popping scripture, all of that,
It is not the trend like how glow rilla and
all this ratchicity, ratchetness and worldliness. All of that, the
(12:14):
Bible is not popular. Which the Bible teaches us so
many good values and so much wisdom and understanding. And
even that's another reason why I'm doing this show, just
to show how amazing it is to serve the Father
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and to give glory to his name, and how fun
that is, and how and how just how you get
so much good and how the most high gets the glory.
Speaker 3 (12:49):
The holidays are all about sharing with family, meals, couches, stories,
Grammar's secret pecan pie recipe, and now you can also
share a cart with instacarts family carts. Everyone can add
what they want to one group cart from wherever they are,
so you don't have to go from room to room
to find out who wants cranberry sauce, or who should
get many marshmallows for the ams, or collecting votes for
sugar cookies versus shortbread. Just share a cart and then
(13:11):
share the meals and the moments. Download the instacart app
and get delivery in as fast as thirty minutes, plus
enjoy free delivery on your first three orders. Service fees
and terms apply.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
Why get all your.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Holiday decorations delivered through instacart Because maybe you only bought
two wreaths but you have twelve windows, Or maybe your
toddler got very eager with the advent calendar, or maybe
the inflatable snowman didn't make it through the snowstorm, or
maybe the twinkle lights aren't twinkling. Whatever the reason, this season,
Instacart's here for hosts and their whole holiday haul. Get
(13:43):
decorations from the home depots, CBS and more through instacart
and enjoy free delivery on your.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
First three orders. Service fees in terms apply.
Speaker 4 (13:51):
All of your life, especially when we obey him and
follow what he tells us. So, but let me, let
me keep it on, let me keep it right here.
Love from the perspective that we're taught, even in romantic novels,
romantic movies. It it's so fake and it's such a
(14:14):
fake reality. And and how we've been taught about lave
it is just so wrong versus the biblical truth and
the most highest truth. So and even I have a
(14:34):
quick question for y'all. When was the time when you
felt loved versus when you didn't? And how can you
tell the difference between worldly love and biblical love? And
the reason why I aksed this, And it's so early
in this podcast, let me not aks questions. Let me
(14:57):
roll out on that, cause so early I don't really
have an audience yet at this moment, but let me asks.
Let me say to myself, there was a few times when,
of course, you know, just oh God, what the heck
is that? Alright? Anyway, I don't know what that was.
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But there were many moments in my life, you know,
just with the ebbs and flows of life, where I
felt unloved and versus when I didn't feel unloved, and
and the ladder you know, does not wait, sometimes it
(15:45):
didn't weigh out the when I fell loved, but well,
the how do you say it? The ladder sometimes didn't
weigh out, didn't o good Lord. But sometimes there will
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be times where I really did not feel loved at all.
I could say, but I'm always loved by the Lord,
which thank you, know quick, thank you, hallelujah. But those
times where I felt unloved, it did feel like that
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that twisted love in a sense, that love where quote
unquote love where it's so rigid and just so backward
really that you feel very narcissism. You feel suffocated, and
(16:50):
with narcissistic people, you feel very you feel very suffocated,
you feel very trapped and just stuck with a narcissist
versus with somebody who's free, flowing in true love and
who's a loving person. You feel free, You feel you
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feel like you can talk to this person about anything,
You feel safe with them. Like it. It's just a
lot that goes into love and being loving. Even as
a follower of Christ, as a follower of the Most
High through Christ and the Latter, let me just say,
(17:32):
is my goal to be a beacon of light, to
be an agent of light in this life and the next,
and to really outwardly and innerly serve the Father inwardly outwardly,
and to be separate and set apart, and to really
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have that love and to have that biblical love. I
believe it's important and to have true love and to
really try and strive to have the most highest love
for His people, for all of us. And yeah, I
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believe that's very important and such. Now, can you tell
the difference between worldly love and biblical love. There's there's
there's a striking difference between worldly love and biblical love.
I touched on that a lot here. But worldly love
is very is very conditional. It has a lot of
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conditions it has. It goes like I said, like I
was saying, it goes into narcissism and goes into I
would say neediness, and depending on man, besides depending on God,
it can go into that as well. Because with the world,
it's like you need to fix. With the world, it's
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like you always need to fix, you know, like a high,
like a natural high, or like when you get hungry,
it's like you need a fix of something, versus when
you just flow, when you have the river of love
flowing in you from the source, the Most High God.
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When you have that river of love flowing in you,
you're always filled because the Most High is filling your cup. Besides,
somebody whose cup isn't even filled themselves, so you always
need to fix. You're running after relationships, You're running after substances.
You're running after people, things, money, drugs besides and close shoot,
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materialistic things, materialistic people, besides seeking ye first, the Kingdom
of God and his righteousness and all of that. Well,
not that excuse me. But all the things that will
fulfill you, that come from the Lord will be added
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unto you. But you know, the most I fulfills this
first now is love and emotion. Now, I do believe
that love does have its emotions tied into it. But
love love and even I heard this from you know,
(20:40):
from a preacher. But love is an action. Love is
an action. But personally I believe that love. But love,
even how you see it looking up, it's more than
just a f It's it's way more than just an emotion.
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It's something that we that we live by. It's it's
a blueprint that we strive for. It's something that that means,
it's something that means something. Love means something, and it
should mean something in a platonic or a romantic sense.
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Now I'm I'm more skilled in platonic relationships. You can't.
I can't really school nobody on a romantic relationship via experience,
But I can. I can. I can tell you about
a platonic relationship and even a romantic relationship because you
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know a healthy relationship. I know from looking at unhealthy
relationships and basically like saying, okay, true love is the
opposite to this mess, I can really tell somebody based
off of that, like, Okay, these people weren't communicating, okay,
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so communication will be needed. They didn't trust each other, okay,
trust is important. They weren't open with each other, and
they were very closed mind and a very rigid okay,
non rigid thinking in a relationship is important, just you know,
applying things that may not be applied when it comes
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to a unhealthy versus a healthy state of relationship and
being so and even just with that, and even I
bet I can take a whild guess based off of
just how life ebbs and flows. Now with a marriage,
(22:54):
I would say marriage, boyfriend and girlfriend where okay, no,
shade to anybody who's boyfriend and girlfriend and you know
that I just biblically a child. That's a whole nother
that's a whole other conversation for another day. But I'll
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speak on the perspective of just romantic relationships marriage, but
romantic relationships. Now, I'm sure that with romantic relationships and
even platonic there's times and even friendships, there's times where
you will fall out of love where you're not always
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feeling this love, and even family members where you're not
always feeling this love for this person. But when you
act out of biblical love, when you act out of
that love, even when you're falling out of love, you're
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still behaving in a posture that's loving according to the Bible.
That I it's it's more than just a feeling. It's
how we behave. It's a behavior, it's an it's an action.
There it's certain actions that come with love, and there's
certain actions that come with not being loving, with being rigid,
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and with being hateful. So there's actions that come with love,
there's actions that come with there's represent a certain representation
that comes with a loving person versus that, Yeah, there's
a certain representation that comes with a loving person and
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what they represent, how they represent it, and how they
treat others and how they treat themselves. You know, there's
a there's it. It's way more than just an emotion.
It's way more than that. Love through endurance versus love
through condition. Now this is another one. Now, love enduring
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through every circumstance.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
Now even with the holidays are all about sharing with family, meals, couches, stories,
Gramm's secret pecan pie recipe, and now you can also
share a cart with instacrt's family carts. Everyone can add
what they want to one group cart from wherever they are,
so you don't have to go from room to room
to find out who wants cranberry sauce, or who should
get many marshmallows for the ams, or collecting votes for
(25:35):
sugar cookies versus shortbread. Just share a cart and then
share the meals and the moments. Download the instacart app
and get delivery in as fast as thirty minutes. Plus
enjoy free delivery on your first three orders. Service fees
and terms apply.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
Why get all your holiday decorations delivered through instacart, because
maybe you only bought two wreaths, but you have twelve windows.
Or maybe your toddler got very eager with the advent calendar,
or maybe the inflat snowman didn't make it through the snowstorm,
or maybe the twinkle lights aren't twinkling. Whatever the reason,
this season, Instacart's here for hosts and their whole holiday hall.
(26:10):
Get decorations from the home depot, CVS and more through instacart,
and enjoy free delivery on your first three orders, service
fees in terms supply.
Speaker 4 (26:19):
Ah, dang it, I forgot, but it was I believe
I've said something along the lines of love is very
It is love being conditional versus love being unconditional. And
this is the this is the topic point here. Now
this episode may be very quick because you know these
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topics don't really have I just wanted to expound on
love real quick. I don't know how long this show
will be though, But love through endurance versus love through condition.
Now my thoughts on this. I believe that love is
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an enduring thing. I believe patience, kindness, not being jealous, boastful, proud.
I believe that two people having this, having this goal. Now,
when we have goals, there's sometimes as humans as people
where we're not always on them, where sometimes where sometimes
(27:34):
we're off because we're not perfect. But with this being
a goal, with striving for the Lord, striving to reach,
striving for perfection, as the word says, I believe that
that with that it makes a relationship five to ten
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times easier when it's based in scripture and when it
comes with with now when we're talking about endurance and
that that meaning to endure and to not just give
up on a project, which is something I'm also working
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on to to endure through my life and to not
be so quick to give up and so quick to
just oh, I'm just gonna throw this away. I'm just
gonna do this. I'm just gonna do that, but to
endure through and to allow love to flow through those
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seasons and for it to not be so conditional like okay,
if you're if you, if you don't do this, I
do this. If you do this, I do that. And
even there's a clip that Lauren Hill and even I
was watching a Lauren Hill interview m just a few
(29:01):
hours ago today. But I'm gonna play the clip here.
I'm gonna play the I'm gonna play the clip here,
so y'all can hear it where she was talking about
unconditional love and even love with conditions.
Speaker 6 (29:23):
You know, love is an incredible thing, and we don't
know love like we should. We always talk about I
have unconditional love. Unconditional love is we don't even know
it because if a person stops stimulating us, we stop
loving them. You're not interesting to talk to anymore. Goodbye.
But that real love, that love that sometimes it is difficult,
(29:43):
difficult to have. That's that love, and that's a confidence building.
Speaker 4 (29:49):
And she would expounds on you know how. Sometimes sometimes
love is difical. Sometimes things aren't always easy. Now I'm
talking not talking about infidelity or infidelity or where people
do just vile things to their quote unquote friends. Now
(30:09):
that's not love at all. That's that's just foul. Okay,
that's just foul. But when it comes to real love,
sometimes y'all snap at each other. Sometimes y'all do things
that the other person gets pissed off by. Sometimes y'all
(30:29):
leave y'all stuff at each other's house, and oh girl,
you left yo yo issue at my house pick up
or whatever that or whatever the hell. Now, when it
comes down to conditions. Now, there are certain conditions, like
there's certain conditions with us and the most high there's
certain things that we can't do. I believe that there
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should be a certain level of law and rule when
it comes to love and even how it is in
First Corinthians thirteen. Then that that's I believe that's law
and rule when it comes to conditions and how love
and how love is and how ma recording. Okay, anyway,
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how there's certain conditions. Excuse me, there's certain conditions on
how love is.
Speaker 1 (31:25):
And why get all your holiday decorations delivered through instacart
Because maybe you only bought two wreaths but you have
twelve windows, Or maybe your toddler got very eager with
the advent calendar, or maybe the inflatable snowman didn't make
it through the snowstorm, or maybe the twinkle lights aren't twinkling.
Whatever the reason, this season, Instacart's here for hosts and
(31:47):
their whole holiday hall. Get decorations from the home depots,
CBS and more through instacart and enjoy free delivery on
your first three orders.
Speaker 2 (31:54):
Service fees in terms apply.
Speaker 3 (31:56):
The holidays are all about sharing with family, meals couches
store Orri's Grammar's secret pecan pie recipe. And now you
can also share a cart with insta carts family carts.
Everyone can add what they want to one group cart
from wherever they are, so you don't have to go
from room to room to find out who wants cranberry sauce,
or who should get many marshmallows for the ams, or
collecting votes for sugar cookies versus shortbread. Just share a
(32:18):
cart and then share the meals and the moments. Download
the instacart app and get delivery in as fast as
thirty minutes. Plus enjoy free delivery on your first three orders.
Service fees and terms apply.
Speaker 4 (32:28):
How we're to be governed by it now? I believe
that there should be a certain level of condition. But
when it comes to allowing somebody to be themselves and
allowing somebody to be imperfect, how even we're imperfect at times,
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And to allow a person to be that with of
course having boundaries and standards, but to allow a person
to be imperfect in that sense and without so many
rigid conditions, I believe that's important. Also, next topic is love?
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Is love only enough? Is only love enough? In platonic
and romantic relationships. Now, I believe that love is the
main thing, but also in those side brackets, I believe
problem solving. I believe character building. I believe boundaries. I
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believe establishing boundaries and etc. All of that, I believe,
all of that has to be thought by. I believe growth, mindset, endurance,
which the Bible talks about. But yeah, even growth mindset,
What else did I say? And all the other things
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I mentioned? I believe all these things are are are
essential to a healthy, long lasting, long standing relationship. And
I believe that that only love, well, love in the
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emotional sense, let's even take it to the worldly perspective.
Love in the emotional sense, I believe that that's not enough.
But love in the biblical understanding that that's a lot
of it. When it comes to having those feelings like
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we talked about earlier, of oh I love I just
love you so much, and you're or you're my best friend,
or you're or you're my man, you're my woman, you
know whatever. I just love you dearly. You know you're
not always going to feel that way, And the thing
is just to have just to have that bag baggie
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of coping mechanisms, coping skills, and just just to have
those things that come with love in a package, in
the package of the word and in the package of
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action as well. I believe that's important. But yes, and
which goes to my next point, problem solving and love. Now,
this is all about communication, whether it's platonic or romantic. Now,
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this when it comes to problem solving, this is all
about sitting down and speaking now, not shouting over each other,
not being so irritable, which even the Bible talks about
the love is not irritable or proud to where you
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can't hear another perspective, or being or acting out of
an immature standpoint, acting like a little child. But I
would say problem solving is really getting to the root
of an issue and really looking to be looking to
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apply solutions and really looking and really looking to save
the relationship in an area instead of being so quick
to give up and like we were talking about that
endurance and to look for a better way to endure
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through this, like what can we do here? And I
believe problem solving is very important. And even being able
to apologize and to turn away from what caused the
offense and really just seeking out that love instead of
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seeking out to be right and to prove yourself right.
I believe that, Oh excuse me, I believe that can
go into problem solving and really just seeking to serve. Also,
(37:45):
servitude is such a beautiful thing, and I believe it's
very misrepresented because especially how we viewed servitude in a
kind of a slave type s like definition, meaning like
(38:07):
slavery or how it was for our ancestors. And a
lot of times we take that and we use that.
But but servitude really being a servant and allowing and
(38:31):
serving somebody else or even serving somebody else the point
of and even a pastor Darby touched on this in
one of his in one of his sermons, really allowing
somebody else to be king, and how powerful that is
especially in our community with you know, unity, we really
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need that, and how allowing somebody else their time to
be served and to be king. I believe that's that's
really needed. And and to be comfortable and okay with
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not getting the spotlight not getting to shine on you,
and for love to endure through that circumstance. And sometimes
when the spotlight isn't really on you, sometimes that can
be difficult, But I'm not really referring to that because
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that that that's where an unbalanced can come in. But
really just love and but really just a time where
the spotlight is not on you and allowing and allowing
for that, but it's still being a balance there, especially
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in a friend group where you're not included, or even
in a in a family chat, whatever, where you're not included,
where you're not seen or you're not heard. Now it
may be time to jump ship or first prey on,
really pray on that relationship to see where it stands,
(40:17):
because I believe relationships should always be balanced in their running.
But also love and romance and friendship novels and movies.
Now I believe, because you know fiction, it's fake. But
(40:40):
I believe that the TV does transform our minds, does
program our minds to a certain message. And I believe
that the TV has skewed a lot of our perspectives
when it comes to love, when it comes to relationships,
when it comes to life in general, and when it
(41:04):
comes to love and romance and friendship novels, a lot
of times it's that narcissistic, that sidity type of love
that we're so accustomed to seeing and how the mind
really can play tricks on you, and and how cool
(41:27):
this looks, how cool the world looks, and how a
lot of times the TV trains us to acting in
certain ways and doing certain things personally. I don't really
watch TV a lot. I don't really, but if I
(41:52):
do watch TV, it'll be it'll be like an old
school show or movie that's mean. But I don't really
watch TV like that anymore. But I believe that with love.
(42:12):
I believe that the TV definitely has has given us
that perspective, Like even in Titanic, I haven't seen the
full movie, but I have seen the part where I
believe what's the guy's name? I was about to say,
Tom Brady, that that does not have anything to do with.
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Oh what is it called? Love? And even just movies? Period?
He's in football, but let me look it up before
speaking of y'all. Oh, Leonardo DiCaprio, Yeah, Leonardo DiCaprio. And
I believe that that girl, I believe her name it
(44:01):
was Jack and Roll, but I haven't watched it. Maybe
I'll do an episode on Titanic because oh, yeah, you
haven't seen Titanic. I know, No, I have not seen
a color purple though, you know, just my black card,
you know, keeping it. But I mean, when it comes
(44:24):
to a Titanic, you know you're not seeing it, I
better keep my my black card. So I'm gonna just
say that. But yeah, and even love in these movies,
it's really just romans, you know them kissing them, you know,
(44:44):
doing lovey dovey things, and even fights, arguments, all that stuff.
But but being the one to experience, really really experienced that,
and which I can't tell y'all from experience. Oh good lord,
(45:06):
I can't tell y'all from experience, but hope, but maybe
you can put down in the comments which Speaker allows
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(45:30):
damn it, I forgot what I was gonna say. But
moving forward, love rom and romance and friendship novels, it's
very it's very skewed. Thank you Lord for bringing this
point back. And dang it, I lost it again. But love,
(45:51):
oh it's a very fake, very fake thought patterning and
just ideology of when it comes to what love is.
And these movies influenced the Romantic and Platonic world by
this being the goal of the standard instead of the
the scriptures being the goal in the standard. And even
(46:12):
being raised in a household where there was a lot
of TV playing, there wasn't a lot of sermons, there
wasn't a lot of a gospel, there wasn't a lot
of church going, and the TV being the standard, these celebrities,
especially even growing up with the social media age, with
me being a teenager and with these celebrities and these
(46:37):
social media stars being the standard, and and this being
this not not this being like, oh just a quick
little inspiration or just something I'm looking at for at
the moment, but this being a goal a standard, and
how these people are doing y you don't and even
(46:58):
how I s tell people who do not research this stuff,
and how I how I'm actually how I how I'm
going because I don't really have a lot of conversations
with people right here because I'm homeschool, so I'm homeschool
at the moment, But how I'm thinking and how I
(47:23):
I really think about it and how I would like
to just to correct myself, how I would like to
talk to people about this, Like you do not know
what these people are doing behind closed doors. You do
not know what these people are doing to get to this,
to get to this lifestyle, and this this has really
influenced the culture and has really influenced the people. Even glow,
(47:45):
really sexy red, all that rat just just just disgusting.
It's not even it's not even ghetto. It's just disgusting.
There's there's a difference. And and this whole sexy red mess,
all this all this garbage, it ain't it's not ghetto.
It's nasty. It's nasty. I like seeing it and how
(48:06):
it's influencing these kids and these how it's influencing the
the youth, and like how, oh my god, and how
there's guys who want these type girls. I'm like, what
the hell y'all saying that. I'm like, bruh, this ain't it.
This ain't it, And how people just hyping it up
(48:28):
like this ain't cool. Man. And I remember one because
I was just scrolling right and I seen one of
them sexy rad videos pop up on my feed. I
I I scrolled with the quickness. I'm saying it. I
scrolled with the quickness, and I was just so disgusted
(48:51):
at how just popping this is. But you know, with
the algorithms and all that stuff, they just putting stuff,
They just putting people out there, and honestly, this stuff
is influencing these kids, and how the parenting is just
terrible now, and even I believe I said that in
the last episode of parenting is just everywhere, it's just
(49:14):
backwards now, and how this stuff is just getting played,
and how these kids being influenced by this trash and
how people just hyping it up like oh go baby go,
but no, stop stop, and how just trashy this excuse me,
how just trashy this stuff is, and how this is
(49:38):
not it. And I stick to my old school, my
old school jams personally, a lot of this new school
it ain't it. And even my gospel, my gospel and
my old school jams, and I keep it and I
keep it just straight like that anything twenty ten's and below,
because this new stuff and even cleosol, I get into,
(50:01):
you know a lot of more underground uh neo soul
music with this hip hop, this new hip hop. I
can't get with it because it's just filled with so
much just it's it's not even sexual, it's not even
excuse me, it's not even sensual. Or it's just horridom.
(50:26):
It's just nastiness, and I do I can't stand it.
I don't like it. I don't want to hear it.
I remember last year I was at this place and
there was this girl that was playing Sexy Red and
I mean, when I tell you, I was looking like
(50:49):
the hell turned this mess off? And it's just so
crazy how how these things influence us and even how
it influ is your action subconsciously, and how it can
influence your mind and you know, just I've heard of
m k ulture, but I need to do more research
(51:10):
on it, like m k ulture and just the and
just the things that they're planting in our brain subconsciously
and how that effects and how that affects us. But yes, love,
Biblical love is the way, and I will always say
(51:34):
that to my dying day. Biblical love is the way.
And how the Bible literally tells us what to do,
It tells us, it gives us great wisdom, and that
wisdom has expanded for thousands of years now, and how
(51:54):
the Bible just makes s and it'll make such a
difference in the culture, you know, just opening it up
and just reading it, and how beautiful it is, and
how beautiful the scripture of love is, and how really,
(52:16):
how you do not want that twisted? You know you
you do not want love to be twisted. You do
not want that narcissistic, n rigid. You can't do no wrong.
I I will hate you if you do narcissistic type
quote unquote love you. You know, nobody really wants that.
And I believe it's important to ex express a different,
(52:41):
a different you know, another side, you know of what
love can be, because a lot of people have experienced that,
that rigidness and and everything, and a lot of people
have experienced that. And to be a voice of reason
(53:04):
in this in this time and in this culture, I
believe that's important. But yes, this is a podcast, But yes,
that is it for today's show. I hope you all
enjoyed it. This is Samaya Marie chatting with Samaya. This
podcast is made to speak my mind and the truth
(53:27):
without limitation or censorship. Yes, you guys can follow me
on Instagram at Samaya Marie I recently changed my username.
I believe I put that in my in my first
episode as like a self correction, like it's not Samaya
(53:50):
do Marie anymore, It's just Samya Marie. And yeah, and
also you can email me at sam Marie Inquiries. I
am yous two twenty at gmail dot com. Yes, you
can email me on Instagram and you know, add me
on Instagram and on Facebook at Samaya E Marie. Wait,
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if you want to check out my Facebook, I post
a lot of things about you know, personal growth and
development on there. But yeah, and about narcissism and all
that other stuff. But yes, thank you all for tuning in.
I'm so thankful that you have tuned into the podcast again.
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My name is Samaia Marie and this is chatting with Samaya,
peace out and Chalo.
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I wouldn't ever know. I wouldn't never sell my soul.
There's some little better. Yeah, that's my goal. I won't
let it up. Know too much is on the line, huh,
ain't got no time in the last time vaccines. I'm
found the most the man is little man. You would
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be supply gets who will fold.
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Please, peace, love and light. Family. My name is Samaya
Marie and this is chatting with Samaya. You can find
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This is China with Samayah. This is episode two. Let's
get the ball rolling. This is episode two and it
is entitled what is Love? First Corinthians thirteen. Now, I
just wanted to bring out scripture real quick. I just
wanted the scriptures to set the tone for this episode
(02:32):
right here. So let's go to First Corinthians, Chapter thirteen,
Verses four through seven. Love is patient and kind. Love
is not jealous or boastful, or proud or rude. It
does not demand its own way it is not irritable,
(02:56):
and it keeps no record of being wrong. This is
NLT by the way. It does not rejoice about injustice,
but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up,
never loses faith, is always hopeful and endorsed through every circumstance. Now,
I wanted that to be the to set the tone
(03:16):
here because I feel like from the perspective that we're
taught versus the biblical meaning, it's so different. And love
to me means the love in the Bible. And I'm
so thankful that I listened to the voice of the
(03:39):
Lord through his words. When it comes when it comes
down to love, and even when it comes down to
the food of the Spirit, love, joy, peace. Let me
besides trying to get it from the off the top
of that off the top of my head, let me
go to the scriptures Galatians five and Ah, I'm on
(04:09):
the Bible lot, by the way, in twenty two. But
the Holy Spirit produced this is still in LT by
the way. But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of
fruit in our lives. Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, faithfulness,
(04:31):
and gentleness and self control. And the Bible is such
a good teacher. The the Most High is our teacher.
But the Bible his word and his in his ramo
word prophetic word. Just the Most High is such a
good father. Now what is love? I just read it
(04:54):
to you. Love is patient and kind. Love is not
jealous or both toward proud. It does not demand its
own way. And I'm thankful that the Most High has
given us, has given us a blueprint to live by,
which is called the Bible. He's given us this blueprint.
(05:17):
And how much wisdom and correct and just correction, love, faith,
just all the wisdom that and even history that comes
from the Holy scriptures, all praises to the Most High,
all praise to the heavenly Father. But yes, I believe
(05:41):
love from the perspective that we're taught is so off
versus the biblical meaning. The biblical meaning of love. Of course,
the Bible is always spot on. But we're taught that
love is an emotion. We're taught that love is just
a passing feeling or you know, you like somebody. Oh,
(06:03):
it's just the past and feeling. But love really is
a way that we especially as people who govern themselves
or who we're saying we're governing ourselves by the most
highest laws. His standards are to really govern ourselves by
(06:30):
that blueprint of biblical love. You see what I'm saying Now,
This will be expressed differently because we are all in
different stages in our life, and I'm not trying to
be a teacher here. This is just observations off what
I've been seeing, and I would say I'm still a
(06:51):
work in progress. We're all still a work in progress.
But I would say that from the perspective that we're
taught love, that perspective is not rock solid. Like excuse me,
(07:13):
like how the like the biblical perspective. Let me just
go back to it real quick, because even in the
world worldly love, let me go back worldly love. When
(07:39):
it comes to that, it keeps, it keeps regular being wrong,
It demands its own way. It's very narcissistic in frame.
And even because I used to talk to myself a lot,
especially before this podcast, I would say narcissism is demonic love.
(08:00):
And I truly believe that because the enemy reverses every
almost everything that the Most High does. So like I
read it off, I'm gonna read it off again. I'm
gonna read it I'm gonna read love in its definition,
and I'm going to read narcissism and its definition. So
(08:22):
I'm gonna read love one more time so that y'all
can get the full grasp of this episode and why
I wanted to take this right here. Okay, Love is
patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful, or
proud or rude. It does not demand its own way.
(08:43):
It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of
being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice, but rejoices
whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never
loses faith. It's always hopeful and adores through every circumstance. Okay,
let me read. Let me read the versus of that.
Narcissism is quick and rude. Narcissism is jealous, boastful, and
(09:10):
proud and rude, just to add that in there. It
demands its own way, It is irritable, and it keeps
the record of being wronged. Okay. It rejoices about injustice
and does not rejoice whenever the truth wins out. Narcissism
gives up, loses faith, is never hopeful, and does not
(09:34):
endure through every circumstance. And that's how and that's how
I really I really viewed that and even how I say,
like personally, narcissism pride. I've tried my best through seasons
prior and even this season to really keep that away
(10:00):
and at bait, not not even at bait, away from
my from how I look at myself, from how I
look at others, from how I speak, how I my
my outlook on life, just narcissism in general, to really
pull back from narcissism, because narcissism is not good for relationships,
(10:28):
it's not good in the workforce, it's not good around family,
it's just really not good in any circumstance. Really, and
narcissism that pride, especially at that level, can it's so rigid.
It keeps you from really flowing and going with the
(10:50):
flow and really free flowing and flowing on the most
highest timing. It it keeps you so self centered, thank
you most high. It keeps you so self centered and
focused on me, me, me instead of we, And I
just don't, I just do not appreciate narcissism at all.
(11:13):
And that's the love, that's the worldly love that comes
that comes with the perspective of love that butterfly feeling
that we've been taught that love is versus what love
actually is in the scriptures, and how powerful it is.
(11:33):
Love that does not demand its own way, that seeks
not her own, that is not easily provoked. Think if
no evil rejoices, not an iniquity, but rejoices in the truth,
is such a beautiful thing. And I believe that you know,
because the Bible is not popular nowadays. The Bible is
(11:53):
not popular. The Bible is not popping scripture, all of that,
It is not the trend like how glow rilla and
all this ratchicity, ratchetness and worldliness. All of that, the
(12:14):
Bible is not popular. Which the Bible teaches us so
many good values and so much wisdom and understanding. And
even that's another reason why I'm doing this show, just
to show how amazing it is to serve the Father
(12:34):
and to give glory to his name, and how fun
that is, and how and how just how you get
so much good and how the most high gets the glory.
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All of your life, especially when we obey him and
follow what he tells us. So, but let me, let
me keep it on, let me keep it right here.
Love from the perspective that we're taught, even in romantic novels,
romantic movies. It it's so fake and it's such a
(14:14):
fake reality. And and how we've been taught about lave
it is just so wrong versus the biblical truth and
the most highest truth. So and even I have a
(14:34):
quick question for y'all. When was the time when you
felt loved versus when you didn't? And how can you
tell the difference between worldly love and biblical love? And
the reason why I aksed this, And it's so early
in this podcast, let me not aks questions. Let me
(14:57):
roll out on that, cause so early I don't really
have an audience yet at this moment, but let me asks.
Let me say to myself, there was a few times when,
of course, you know, just oh God, what the heck
is that? Alright? Anyway, I don't know what that was.
(15:22):
But there were many moments in my life, you know,
just with the ebbs and flows of life, where I
felt unloved and versus when I didn't feel unloved, and
and the ladder you know, does not wait, sometimes it
(15:45):
didn't weigh out the when I fell loved, but well,
the how do you say it? The ladder sometimes didn't
weigh out, didn't o good Lord. But sometimes there will
(16:05):
be times where I really did not feel loved at all.
I could say, but I'm always loved by the Lord,
which thank you, know quick, thank you, hallelujah. But those
times where I felt unloved, it did feel like that
(16:26):
that twisted love in a sense, that love where quote
unquote love where it's so rigid and just so backward
really that you feel very narcissism. You feel suffocated, and
(16:50):
with narcissistic people, you feel very you feel very suffocated,
you feel very trapped and just stuck with a narcissist
versus with somebody who's free, flowing in true love and
who's a loving person. You feel free, You feel you
(17:12):
feel like you can talk to this person about anything,
You feel safe with them. Like it. It's just a
lot that goes into love and being loving. Even as
a follower of Christ, as a follower of the Most
High through Christ and the Latter, let me just say,
(17:32):
is my goal to be a beacon of light, to
be an agent of light in this life and the next,
and to really outwardly and innerly serve the Father inwardly outwardly,
and to be separate and set apart, and to really
(17:56):
have that love and to have that biblical love. I
believe it's important and to have true love and to
really try and strive to have the most highest love
for His people, for all of us. And yeah, I
(18:16):
believe that's very important and such. Now, can you tell
the difference between worldly love and biblical love. There's there's
there's a striking difference between worldly love and biblical love.
I touched on that a lot here. But worldly love
is very is very conditional. It has a lot of
(18:42):
conditions it has. It goes like I said, like I
was saying, it goes into narcissism and goes into I
would say neediness, and depending on man, besides depending on God,
it can go into that as well. Because with the world,
it's like you need to fix. With the world, it's
(19:05):
like you always need to fix, you know, like a high,
like a natural high, or like when you get hungry,
it's like you need a fix of something, versus when
you just flow, when you have the river of love
flowing in you from the source, the Most High God.
(19:27):
When you have that river of love flowing in you,
you're always filled because the Most High is filling your cup. Besides,
somebody whose cup isn't even filled themselves, so you always
need to fix. You're running after relationships, You're running after substances.
You're running after people, things, money, drugs besides and close shoot,
(19:56):
materialistic things, materialistic people, besides seeking ye first, the Kingdom
of God and his righteousness and all of that. Well,
not that excuse me. But all the things that will
fulfill you, that come from the Lord will be added
(20:17):
unto you. But you know, the most I fulfills this
first now is love and emotion. Now, I do believe
that love does have its emotions tied into it. But
love love and even I heard this from you know,
(20:40):
from a preacher. But love is an action. Love is
an action. But personally I believe that love. But love,
even how you see it looking up, it's more than
just a f It's it's way more than just an emotion.
(21:05):
It's something that we that we live by. It's it's
a blueprint that we strive for. It's something that that means,
it's something that means something. Love means something, and it
should mean something in a platonic or a romantic sense.
(21:25):
Now I'm I'm more skilled in platonic relationships. You can't.
I can't really school nobody on a romantic relationship via experience,
But I can. I can. I can tell you about
a platonic relationship and even a romantic relationship because you
(21:46):
know a healthy relationship. I know from looking at unhealthy
relationships and basically like saying, okay, true love is the
opposite to this mess, I can really tell somebody based
off of that, like, Okay, these people weren't communicating, okay,
(22:08):
so communication will be needed. They didn't trust each other, okay,
trust is important. They weren't open with each other, and
they were very closed mind and a very rigid okay,
non rigid thinking in a relationship is important, just you know,
applying things that may not be applied when it comes
(22:31):
to a unhealthy versus a healthy state of relationship and
being so and even just with that, and even I
bet I can take a whild guess based off of
just how life ebbs and flows. Now with a marriage,
(22:54):
I would say marriage, boyfriend and girlfriend where okay, no,
shade to anybody who's boyfriend and girlfriend and you know
that I just biblically a child. That's a whole nother
that's a whole other conversation for another day. But I'll
(23:14):
speak on the perspective of just romantic relationships marriage, but
romantic relationships. Now, I'm sure that with romantic relationships and
even platonic there's times and even friendships, there's times where
you will fall out of love where you're not always
(23:38):
feeling this love, and even family members where you're not
always feeling this love for this person. But when you
act out of biblical love, when you act out of
that love, even when you're falling out of love, you're
(23:58):
still behaving in a posture that's loving according to the Bible.
That I it's it's more than just a feeling. It's
how we behave. It's a behavior, it's an it's an action.
There it's certain actions that come with love, and there's
certain actions that come with not being loving, with being rigid,
(24:21):
and with being hateful. So there's actions that come with love,
there's actions that come with there's represent a certain representation
that comes with a loving person versus that, Yeah, there's
a certain representation that comes with a loving person and
(24:45):
what they represent, how they represent it, and how they
treat others and how they treat themselves. You know, there's
a there's it. It's way more than just an emotion.
It's way more than that. Love through endurance versus love
through condition. Now this is another one. Now, love enduring
(25:10):
through every circumstance.
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Ah, dang it, I forgot, but it was I believe
I've said something along the lines of love is very
It is love being conditional versus love being unconditional. And
this is the this is the topic point here. Now
this episode may be very quick because you know these
(26:44):
topics don't really have I just wanted to expound on
love real quick. I don't know how long this show
will be though, But love through endurance versus love through condition.
Now my thoughts on this. I believe that love is
(27:09):
an enduring thing. I believe patience, kindness, not being jealous, boastful, proud.
I believe that two people having this, having this goal. Now,
when we have goals, there's sometimes as humans as people
where we're not always on them, where sometimes where sometimes
(27:34):
we're off because we're not perfect. But with this being
a goal, with striving for the Lord, striving to reach,
striving for perfection, as the word says, I believe that
that with that it makes a relationship five to ten
(27:58):
times easier when it's based in scripture and when it
comes with with now when we're talking about endurance and
that that meaning to endure and to not just give
up on a project, which is something I'm also working
(28:19):
on to to endure through my life and to not
be so quick to give up and so quick to
just oh, I'm just gonna throw this away. I'm just
gonna do this. I'm just gonna do that, but to
endure through and to allow love to flow through those
(28:40):
seasons and for it to not be so conditional like okay,
if you're if you, if you don't do this, I
do this. If you do this, I do that. And
even there's a clip that Lauren Hill and even I
was watching a Lauren Hill interview m just a few
(29:01):
hours ago today. But I'm gonna play the clip here.
I'm gonna play the I'm gonna play the clip here,
so y'all can hear it where she was talking about
unconditional love and even love with conditions.
Speaker 6 (29:23):
You know, love is an incredible thing, and we don't
know love like we should. We always talk about I
have unconditional love. Unconditional love is we don't even know
it because if a person stops stimulating us, we stop
loving them. You're not interesting to talk to anymore. Goodbye.
But that real love, that love that sometimes it is difficult,
(29:43):
difficult to have. That's that love, and that's a confidence building.
Speaker 4 (29:49):
And she would expounds on you know how. Sometimes sometimes
love is difical. Sometimes things aren't always easy. Now I'm
talking not talking about infidelity or infidelity or where people
do just vile things to their quote unquote friends. Now
(30:09):
that's not love at all. That's that's just foul. Okay,
that's just foul. But when it comes to real love,
sometimes y'all snap at each other. Sometimes y'all do things
that the other person gets pissed off by. Sometimes y'all
(30:29):
leave y'all stuff at each other's house, and oh girl,
you left yo yo issue at my house pick up
or whatever that or whatever the hell. Now, when it
comes down to conditions. Now, there are certain conditions, like
there's certain conditions with us and the most high there's
certain things that we can't do. I believe that there
(30:51):
should be a certain level of law and rule when
it comes to love and even how it is in
First Corinthians thirteen. Then that that's I believe that's law
and rule when it comes to conditions and how love
and how love is and how ma recording. Okay, anyway,
(31:17):
how there's certain conditions. Excuse me, there's certain conditions on
how love is.
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Speaker 4 (32:28):
How we're to be governed by it now? I believe
that there should be a certain level of condition. But
when it comes to allowing somebody to be themselves and
allowing somebody to be imperfect, how even we're imperfect at times,
(32:49):
And to allow a person to be that with of
course having boundaries and standards, but to allow a person
to be imperfect in that sense and without so many
rigid conditions, I believe that's important. Also, next topic is love?
(33:13):
Is love only enough? Is only love enough? In platonic
and romantic relationships. Now, I believe that love is the
main thing, but also in those side brackets, I believe
problem solving. I believe character building. I believe boundaries. I
(33:38):
believe establishing boundaries and etc. All of that, I believe,
all of that has to be thought by. I believe growth, mindset, endurance,
which the Bible talks about. But yeah, even growth mindset,
What else did I say? And all the other things
(34:00):
I mentioned? I believe all these things are are are
essential to a healthy, long lasting, long standing relationship. And
I believe that that only love, well, love in the
(34:24):
emotional sense, let's even take it to the worldly perspective.
Love in the emotional sense, I believe that that's not enough.
But love in the biblical understanding that that's a lot
of it. When it comes to having those feelings like
(34:46):
we talked about earlier, of oh I love I just
love you so much, and you're or you're my best friend,
or you're or you're my man, you're my woman, you
know whatever. I just love you dearly. You know you're
not always going to feel that way, And the thing
is just to have just to have that bag baggie
(35:09):
of coping mechanisms, coping skills, and just just to have
those things that come with love in a package, in
the package of the word and in the package of
(35:31):
action as well. I believe that's important. But yes, and
which goes to my next point, problem solving and love. Now,
this is all about communication, whether it's platonic or romantic. Now,
(35:51):
this when it comes to problem solving, this is all
about sitting down and speaking now, not shouting over each other,
not being so irritable, which even the Bible talks about
the love is not irritable or proud to where you
(36:11):
can't hear another perspective, or being or acting out of
an immature standpoint, acting like a little child. But I
would say problem solving is really getting to the root
of an issue and really looking to be looking to
(36:32):
apply solutions and really looking and really looking to save
the relationship in an area instead of being so quick
to give up and like we were talking about that
endurance and to look for a better way to endure
(36:56):
through this, like what can we do here? And I
believe problem solving is very important. And even being able
to apologize and to turn away from what caused the
offense and really just seeking out that love instead of
(37:19):
seeking out to be right and to prove yourself right.
I believe that, Oh excuse me, I believe that can
go into problem solving and really just seeking to serve. Also,
(37:45):
servitude is such a beautiful thing, and I believe it's
very misrepresented because especially how we viewed servitude in a
kind of a slave type s like definition, meaning like
(38:07):
slavery or how it was for our ancestors. And a
lot of times we take that and we use that.
But but servitude really being a servant and allowing and
(38:31):
serving somebody else or even serving somebody else the point
of and even a pastor Darby touched on this in
one of his in one of his sermons, really allowing
somebody else to be king, and how powerful that is
especially in our community with you know, unity, we really
(38:52):
need that, and how allowing somebody else their time to
be served and to be king. I believe that's that's
really needed. And and to be comfortable and okay with
(39:13):
not getting the spotlight not getting to shine on you,
and for love to endure through that circumstance. And sometimes
when the spotlight isn't really on you, sometimes that can
be difficult, But I'm not really referring to that because
(39:34):
that that that's where an unbalanced can come in. But
really just love and but really just a time where
the spotlight is not on you and allowing and allowing
for that, but it's still being a balance there, especially
(39:55):
in a friend group where you're not included, or even
in a in a family chat, whatever, where you're not included,
where you're not seen or you're not heard. Now it
may be time to jump ship or first prey on,
really pray on that relationship to see where it stands,
(40:17):
because I believe relationships should always be balanced in their running.
But also love and romance and friendship novels and movies.
Now I believe, because you know fiction, it's fake. But
(40:40):
I believe that the TV does transform our minds, does
program our minds to a certain message. And I believe
that the TV has skewed a lot of our perspectives
when it comes to love, when it comes to relationships,
when it comes to life in general, and when it
(41:04):
comes to love and romance and friendship novels, a lot
of times it's that narcissistic, that sidity type of love
that we're so accustomed to seeing and how the mind
really can play tricks on you, and and how cool
(41:27):
this looks, how cool the world looks, and how a
lot of times the TV trains us to acting in
certain ways and doing certain things personally. I don't really
watch TV a lot. I don't really, but if I
(41:52):
do watch TV, it'll be it'll be like an old
school show or movie that's mean. But I don't really
watch TV like that anymore. But I believe that with love.
(42:12):
I believe that the TV definitely has has given us
that perspective, Like even in Titanic, I haven't seen the
full movie, but I have seen the part where I
believe what's the guy's name? I was about to say,
Tom Brady, that that does not have anything to do with.
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Speaker 4 (43:38):
Oh what is it called? Love? And even just movies? Period?
He's in football, but let me look it up before
speaking of y'all. Oh, Leonardo DiCaprio, Yeah, Leonardo DiCaprio. And
I believe that that girl, I believe her name it
(44:01):
was Jack and Roll, but I haven't watched it. Maybe
I'll do an episode on Titanic because oh, yeah, you
haven't seen Titanic. I know, No, I have not seen
a color purple though, you know, just my black card,
you know, keeping it. But I mean, when it comes
(44:24):
to a Titanic, you know you're not seeing it, I
better keep my my black card. So I'm gonna just
say that. But yeah, and even love in these movies,
it's really just romans, you know them kissing them, you know,
(44:44):
doing lovey dovey things, and even fights, arguments, all that stuff.
But but being the one to experience, really really experienced that,
and which I can't tell y'all from experience. Oh good lord,
(45:06):
I can't tell y'all from experience, but hope, but maybe
you can put down in the comments which Speaker allows
you to send comments. So I would say, please check
out the podcast on Speaker if you can, but speaker
dot com or the app if you have it. But ah,
(45:30):
damn it, I forgot what I was gonna say. But
moving forward, love rom and romance and friendship novels, it's
very it's very skewed. Thank you Lord for bringing this
point back. And dang it, I lost it again. But love,
(45:51):
oh it's a very fake, very fake thought patterning and
just ideology of when it comes to what love is.
And these movies influenced the Romantic and Platonic world by
this being the goal of the standard instead of the
the scriptures being the goal in the standard. And even
(46:12):
being raised in a household where there was a lot
of TV playing, there wasn't a lot of sermons, there
wasn't a lot of a gospel, there wasn't a lot
of church going, and the TV being the standard, these celebrities,
especially even growing up with the social media age, with
me being a teenager and with these celebrities and these
(46:37):
social media stars being the standard, and and this being
this not not this being like, oh just a quick
little inspiration or just something I'm looking at for at
the moment, but this being a goal a standard, and
how these people are doing y you don't and even
(46:58):
how I s tell people who do not research this stuff,
and how I how I'm actually how I how I'm
going because I don't really have a lot of conversations
with people right here because I'm homeschool, so I'm homeschool
at the moment, But how I'm thinking and how I
(47:23):
I really think about it and how I would like
to just to correct myself, how I would like to
talk to people about this, Like you do not know
what these people are doing behind closed doors. You do
not know what these people are doing to get to this,
to get to this lifestyle, and this this has really
influenced the culture and has really influenced the people. Even glow,
(47:45):
really sexy red, all that rat just just just disgusting.
It's not even it's not even ghetto. It's just disgusting.
There's there's a difference. And and this whole sexy red mess,
all this all this garbage, it ain't it's not ghetto.
It's nasty. It's nasty. I like seeing it and how
(48:06):
it's influencing these kids and these how it's influencing the
the youth, and like how, oh my god, and how
there's guys who want these type girls. I'm like, what
the hell y'all saying that. I'm like, bruh, this ain't it.
This ain't it, And how people just hyping it up
(48:28):
like this ain't cool. Man. And I remember one because
I was just scrolling right and I seen one of
them sexy rad videos pop up on my feed. I
I I scrolled with the quickness. I'm saying it. I
scrolled with the quickness, and I was just so disgusted
(48:51):
at how just popping this is. But you know, with
the algorithms and all that stuff, they just putting stuff,
They just putting people out there, and honestly, this stuff
is influencing these kids, and how the parenting is just
terrible now, and even I believe I said that in
the last episode of parenting is just everywhere, it's just
(49:14):
backwards now, and how this stuff is just getting played,
and how these kids being influenced by this trash and
how people just hyping it up like oh go baby go,
but no, stop stop, and how just trashy this excuse me,
how just trashy this stuff is, and how this is
(49:38):
not it. And I stick to my old school, my
old school jams personally, a lot of this new school
it ain't it. And even my gospel, my gospel and
my old school jams, and I keep it and I
keep it just straight like that anything twenty ten's and below,
because this new stuff and even cleosol, I get into,
(50:01):
you know a lot of more underground uh neo soul
music with this hip hop, this new hip hop. I
can't get with it because it's just filled with so
much just it's it's not even sexual, it's not even
excuse me, it's not even sensual. Or it's just horridom.
(50:26):
It's just nastiness, and I do I can't stand it.
I don't like it. I don't want to hear it.
I remember last year I was at this place and
there was this girl that was playing Sexy Red and
I mean, when I tell you, I was looking like
(50:49):
the hell turned this mess off? And it's just so
crazy how how these things influence us and even how
it influ is your action subconsciously, and how it can
influence your mind and you know, just I've heard of
m k ulture, but I need to do more research
(51:10):
on it, like m k ulture and just the and
just the things that they're planting in our brain subconsciously
and how that effects and how that affects us. But yes, love,
Biblical love is the way, and I will always say
(51:34):
that to my dying day. Biblical love is the way.
And how the Bible literally tells us what to do,
It tells us, it gives us great wisdom, and that
wisdom has expanded for thousands of years now, and how
(51:54):
the Bible just makes s and it'll make such a
difference in the culture, you know, just opening it up
and just reading it, and how beautiful it is, and
how beautiful the scripture of love is, and how really,
(52:16):
how you do not want that twisted? You know you
you do not want love to be twisted. You do
not want that narcissistic, n rigid. You can't do no wrong.
I I will hate you if you do narcissistic type
quote unquote love you. You know, nobody really wants that.
And I believe it's important to ex express a different,
(52:41):
a different you know, another side, you know of what
love can be, because a lot of people have experienced that,
that rigidness and and everything, and a lot of people
have experienced that. And to be a voice of reason
(53:04):
in this in this time and in this culture, I
believe that's important. But yes, this is a podcast, But yes,
that is it for today's show. I hope you all
enjoyed it. This is Samaya Marie chatting with Samaya. This
podcast is made to speak my mind and the truth
(53:27):
without limitation or censorship. Yes, you guys can follow me
on Instagram at Samaya Marie I recently changed my username.
I believe I put that in my in my first
episode as like a self correction, like it's not Samaya
(53:50):
do Marie anymore, It's just Samya Marie. And yeah, and
also you can email me at sam Marie Inquiries. I
am yous two twenty at gmail dot com. Yes, you
can email me on Instagram and you know, add me
on Instagram and on Facebook at Samaya E Marie. Wait,
(54:14):
if you want to check out my Facebook, I post
a lot of things about you know, personal growth and
development on there. But yeah, and about narcissism and all
that other stuff. But yes, thank you all for tuning in.
I'm so thankful that you have tuned into the podcast again.
(54:35):
My name is Samaia Marie and this is chatting with Samaya,
peace out and Chalo.
Speaker 5 (54:42):
I wouldn't ever know. I wouldn't never sell my soul.
There's some little better. Yeah, that's my goal. I won't
let it up. Know too much is on the line, huh,
ain't got no time in the last time vaccines. I'm
found the most the man is little man. You would
(55:06):
be supply gets who will fold.
Speaker 6 (55:12):
The love you?
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to find out who wants cranberry sauce, or who should
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