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December 8, 2025 14 mins
This is Episode 162 of Christian Research Journal Reads. This is an audio version of the CHRISTIAN RESEARCH JOURNAL article, “How Unanswered Prayer Grows Faith, Hope, and Love” by Elizabeth Reynolds Turnage. https://www.equip.org/articles/how-unanswered-prayer-grows-faith-hope-and-love/

This article first appeared in the Christian Research Journal, volume 44, number 03 (2021). It was accompanied by Postmodern Realities Episode 256: How Unanswered Prayer Grows Faith, Hope, and Love.

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Speaker 1 (00:06):
This is episode one hundred and sixty two of the
Christian Research Journal Reads Podcast. How Unanswered Prayer Grows, Faith,
hope and Love by Elizabeth Reynolds Turnage. This article first
appeared in the print edition of the Christian Research Journal,
Volume forty four, number three in twenty twenty one. The

(00:30):
Christian Research Journal Reads Podcast presents audio versions of Christian
Research Journal articles. To read the full text of this
article and its documentation, go to equip dot org.

Speaker 2 (00:46):
How an answered prayer Grows faith, hope and Love. This
article is by Elizabeth Reynolds Turnage and is read by
an automated voice. Lord, please send your angels to protect
my mom. I lifted this prayer late on night tenth,
my mother's fierce battle with COVID. Nineteen five hours later,
I was roused from restless sleep by my fund's buzzing.

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I answered, and the terrible words came. Your mother has
passed away. Unanswered prayer does not always lead to bitterness
and cynicism, but once in a while it does. How
will we respond when we pray for protection and urman
dies instead? How will we respond when we cry out
for years for the seemingly good gifts we believe the
Father would give us return of a wayward child, freedom

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from deeply rooted sin patterns, relief from chronic pain. And
yet with the Psalmist we seemingly hear no answer Psalm
twenty two, verse two. Some, after weeks or months or
years of such disappointment, sadly or angrily turned their backs
on God. Others resigned themselves to a safe and stagnant faith.
They mumble a blessing over meals and slap and all

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things work together for good Romans eight twenty eight, on
the unendurable pain of prayers left unamaps, and yet many
persistent prayer, in faith, in hope and love. Despite the
unceasing suffering of unanswered prayer. Not only do they endure
thorns in the flesh that it will last a lifetime
in grief that will, and only when Jesus returns they

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mature spiritually. They are transformed into people of strength and faith,
confident hope, and extravagant love. If unanswered prayer can lead
to greater spiritual maturity, how might such transformation take place?
It begins with a sound understanding of the richness of prayer, prayer,
answering God. The late Eugen Peterson asserts that prayer is

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answering God. God has spoken. He has told us a
true story about a creator king who spoke his creation
into being. He loved his people that they rebelled against
their king. Even so he made a covenant of steadfast
love with them and sent his sinless son, Jesus to
rescue them from their sins. A good father, he went
to extraordinary lengths to adopt his people as his own children,

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and through the resurrected Christ, he has raised them to
new life. One day he will send Jesus back to
restore all broken things. In that day, they will dwell
with God forever, and their communication with Him will never
be broken. The story God has spoken invites a response.
Our response is prayer, enabled by the spirit translator. We

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speak back to God. We thank God for his kindness.
We praise God for his faithfulness. We ask God for forgiveness, protection,
and provision. We pray for God's will to be done
and for His kingdom to come. As we engage in
this answering of God, we discover the primary purpose of prayer.
Prayers are not tools for doing or getting, but for

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being and becoming. Prayers are tools that God uses to
work his will in our bodies and souls. Prayers are
tools that collaborate with His work in us. In short,
prayer conforms us to the image of Christ Romans eight
twenty nine. Unanswered prayer. What happens though, when we answer
jesus invitation to pray about anything? John fourteen fourteen, And

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no answer comes? What happens when we cry out daily
for relief from the agonizing pain of cancer, but no
answer comes. What happens when we cry out for months
for healing of our daughter's eating disorder, and no answer comes.
What happens when a child cries out for years for
her mother to return home, but no answer comes. As
we hang in the balance of the seeming silence, we

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have a choice. Some choose to encase their hearts in
a protective shell of bitterness. Others choose to wake, to hope,
to trust, to keep asking, seeking, knocking, banging on the door.
Like the persistent widow or the insistent job We know
our redeemer lives Job nineteen twenty five, And we firmly
believe we will see the goodness of the Lord in

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the land of the Living Psalm twenty seven thirteen those
who persevere in the face of unanswered prayer will grow
more and more like Christ, becoming people marked by strong faith,
confident hope, and extravagant love. Those who grow spiritually mature
in seasons of unanswered prayer are characterized by three crucial practices.
They learn the language of lament, which deepens their faith.

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They lean into community, which grows their hope. And they
listen for God's declaration of his unfailing love, which expands
their love for God and for others. Learning the language
of lament in the face of unanswered prayer, Learning the
language of lament can help us to emerge with a
stronger faith. As Mark rugop Offer of Dark Clouds Deep

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Mercy notes, lament is a prayer in pain that leads
to trust and not only expresses our faith in the
goodness of God, it strengthens our faith in its expression.
Prayers of lament often processed through four categories, Turning to God,
naming the grief, asking persistently and boldly for help, and
expressing restored confidence lamentations. Jeremiah's lament over the Fall of

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Jerusalem illustrates each of these categories. Rather than turning away
from God when relief from suffering doesn't come, Lamenters turned
toward God. Jureimah addresses his complaints to God in raw
words few of us would dare to utter aloud. You've
wrapped yourself with a cloud so that no prayer can
pass through Lamentations three forty four. Lamenters name their grief,

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refusing to minimize their suffering. I am the one who
has seen the affliction under the wrought of his wrath.
He has driven me and brought me into darkness without
any light Lamentations three to one. Arguing that their current
experience doesn't seem to match their understanding of God's goodness
and mercy, Lamentors ask persistently and boldly for help. Jereimah

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keeps crying for help. Remember, O, Lord, what has befallen us?
Look and see our disgrace Lamentations five verse one. In
doing so, he expresses his firm conviction that no one
is abandoned by the Lord forever Lamentations three thirty one.
Not always, but often. Lamenter's turn for comp expressing restored

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confidence that the Lord will redeem and restore again. Jeremiah's
turn comes in the familiar assurance, but this I call
to mind, and therefore I have hope. The steadfast love
of the Lord never ceases. His mercies never come to
an end. They are new every morning. Great is your faithfulness,
Lamentations three twenty one, twenty two. As Rugap asserts, Lament

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is rooted in what we believe is a prayer loaded
with theology. Christians affirmed that the world is broken, God
is powerful, and he will be faithful. Therefore, Lament stands
in the gap between pain and promise, when God's answers
to our cries for relief. Seeing in our limited understanding
to be either tardy or wrong headed, we must continue

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hanging out in the space between the already and the
not yet, believing that God is in the void. In
that void, we discover our faithful God holding us, and
our faith grows stronger. Leaning into community. At the cross
roads of unanswered prayers stand two signs pointing in different directions.
The first depicts a single stick figure and reads this

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way to despair. The second depicts a church crowded with
stick figures and reads this way a hope. Those who
grow more spiritually mature in seasons of silence and suffering
shun the road of isolation, leaning into the Body of
Christ and discovering a hope that foresees redemption at the
end of the painful path. Prayer was never designed to

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be primarily a solo activity. The songs were written in
some corporately. The Lord's Prayer was given to the disaples
by Jesus to pray together. When unanswered prayer mutes us,
we need others to answer for us, to point us
back to the God who redeems and restores. As we
lean into the body of Christ, we find rested boy's hope.
As K. J. Ramsay explains, we need the recognition that

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my wholeness is inextricably connected to yours. My hope is
bound up in yours. When we understand and this reality,
we invite the Body of Christ to fulfill its calling
to bear one another's burdens Galations six, verse two. We
acknowledge our weakness and rely on the Body's strength to
lay us on the mat before Jesus tender care. Jerry Sitzer,

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who lost his mother, wife, and daughter in a car accident,
explains how community strengthened him in his season of grief.
The church is a community. Sometimes some members of that
community even through time and space carry others. I remember
very vividly my inability to sing and pray. In months
and really years after the accident, I decided to let

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the church sing and pray for me. I do the
same for others now I sing for them, I pray
for them. To lean into community is to allow ourselves
to be hoisted onto the shoulders of others, so we
can gain the perspective to see the far off day
when Jesus will return to restore all things. In the
face of unanswered prayer, As we allow others to sing
for us, to pray for us, our vision of hope expands.

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Listening for God's declaration of unfailing love. A third mark
of spiritual maturity is a love that bears all things,
believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things one
Corinthians thirteen, verse seven. If in the seeming silence of
unanswered prayer, we listen for God's declaration of unfailing love,

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we will grow in the capacity to love as God
first loved us. Unanswered prayer is, as many realize, not
truly unanswered, but in fact answer unheard or undesired. God
has spoken wait or not yet or no but we
have often talked over God refusing to listen. As we
grow more spiritually mature, we will learn to listen in prayer,

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and as we do, we will, like the Psalmist in
Psalm twenty to twenty four, learn to recognize the Psalm
line of redemption God singing his love over us. We
hear this song sung most loudly in jesus unanswered prayer
in Getsemine. The night before he was to die on
a cross. Jesus poured out his troubled spirit and prayer
as he imagined bearing God's wrath for our sin. He

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sweated blood. He spoke his deepest desire to God, Father,
if you are willing remove this cup from me? He
finished the sentence, nevertheless, not my will, but yours be done?
Luke twenty two forty two. How did God answer such
a prayer? If we lean in and listen carefully, we
notice two answers. The first and more obvious is no,

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I cannot let the cup of suffering pass from you.
You must die for my people's sins so that they
may become my children. But the second answer, the one
we often miss, is I will comfort you and your
suffering just after Jesus prayer, Luke tells us, and there
appeared to him an angel from heaven, strengthening him Luke,
twenty two, forty three. In God's response to Jesus, we

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hear his answers to the piercing questions evoked by unanswered prayer. God,
you really love me? Yes? I sent my son to
the cross if he could be mine. God, have you me, No,
my son endured the suffering and death. You deserve his
punishment for your sins till that you might never be
separated from my love. God, you care about my suffering? Yes,

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I am with you in it. When we hear God's
profound declaration of his love for us, we come to
understand the meaning of suffering isn't pain. It is to
learn to give and receive love. As we listen to
God's profound declaration of his love for us, our doubts fade,
our hope brightens, and our capacity to love God and
others expands. We become people of strong faith, confident hope,

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and extraordinary love. Since that dark night in January, I
fought often about the prayer I uttered for my mom's protection.
What if God did answer my prayer? What if as
my mother slept, an angel king what if that angel
led my mother gently to her father, where she would
know a safety and security she had never known on
this earth. Though I can't say for sure, I dare

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to believe. I dared hope my prayer was answered.

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