Part 1 Rediscovering the Art of Intimacy

Cupid Calling: Countdown to Valentine’s Day Part 1 Rediscovering the Art of Intimacy
Ah February, when frosty winter breath mingles with fragrant whiffs of chocolate and roses heralding Valentine’s Day delights. Storefronts overflow with googly-eyed teddy bears as restaurants tempt couples towards prix fixe passion. The pressure looms for elaborate date planning and Pinterest-worthy gifts reflecting true feelings.
But beneath Hallmark holiday hubbub, how many of us nourish intimacy as an ongoing practice beyond once annual box-checking? Life’s rapid pace leaves little room for the vulnerable presence that real connection requires. Yet tending relationships keeps our brightest light kindled amidst storms. Perhaps love manifests most through small sublime moments meeting another heart-to-heart.
So this Valentine’s season, let’s press reset on worn romantic rituals that often miss the mark. Rather than seeking transactions trying to capture complex emotions in store-bought symbols, what if we redirected focus towards the simple joy of experiencing beloveds in our midst?
Below find Part 1’s wisdom laying foundations for more meaningful bonds by reconnecting with self and others after distraction’s long winter. Let these guideposts spark inspiration welcoming spring’s thaw towards intimacy.
1: Start from Within - The Self-Love Sequence
We all intuitively know self-acceptance provides the basis for healthy relationships with others. But amidst perpetual personal growth goals, how often do we actually pause appreciating who we’ve become before seeking the next mountain summit? The true gift this season offers is reacquainting without warring internal critics that fragment experiencing whole hearts.
Practice seeing yourself and your circumstances through the lens of a benevolent friend rather than a harsh inner judge. Notice tendencies towards self-blame and perfectionism. What parts feel most difficult extending towards yourself? Those reveal openings needing warmth.
Try integrating the self-love sequence - a simple ritual reviving connection to inherent worthiness beyond human foibles. Find a peaceful space to:
1.) Attune to bodily sensations - Notice posture and breath without the need to change anything initially. Feel your feet grounded supporting you. Appreciate the strength and mobility of your vessel.
2.) Explore thoughts/emotions without judgment - Allow whatever feelings or stories surface to exist. Don't fix, justify, or explain. Witness flow.
3.) Offer gratitude for small joys - What basic blessings anchor your days - eyes to read, ears to hear songs, hands embracing loved ones.
4.) Repeat the loving mantra - "I am already whole, healed and enough." "I deeply care for all parts of my complex journey." "I love myself unconditionally."
Finish by placing your hands soothingly on your heart. Feel damaging definitions of worthiness melt. You are already naturally perfect and complete beyond roles, titles, and human metrics. Oneness exists within.
2: Presence - The Ultimate Aphrodisiac
Beyond commercialized couple’s activities, cultivating true connection depends on mindful presence noticing beauty otherwise obscured by routine. Presence grounds us in profound paradise hiding amidst the mundane if only we redirect attention with the eye's gaze softened by curiosity's wonder.
Attentive listening draws out our beloved's inner world that external masks often guard. Through fully engaged vulnerability, we call forward greater life. Try incorporating:
1.) Noticing fresh details in familiar spaces by imagining scenes with the newcomer’s awe - crystalline sunlight refracting rainbows, stirs of warm breeze across your cheek, chirping birdsongs drowned by earbud music. Perceive the world anew.
2.) When conversing with loved ones, maintain relaxed eye contact without mentally wandering. Refrain from interrupting even if you risk forgetting the idea mid-story. Let their experiences fill the space between without rushing response. Allow comfortable pauses to expand intimacy's vessel rather than anxiously filling silence with distraction.
3.) Prior to sleep, reflect on small joys from the day - your child’s unprompted hug, playful banter with a coworker, victorious longshot team rallying overtime, stray found dog’s exuberant tail wag, glittering stars braving cold walk home. Presence transforms the lens. Write or share appreciative moments aloud.
Through steadied awareness and realizing the extraordinary within the ordinary, we alchemize drab to gold. Tune into subtle sensations and heartbeats away in each moment. Rediscovery of wonder awaits behind jaded trances once we master reception beyond reaction. Presence unlocks love abundantly flowing all around if we but sip.
3: Emotional Intelligence - Heart Work as Hard Work
True intimacy expands through compassionately knowing ourselves an

Episode Transcript

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Cupid calling countdown to Valentine's Day,Part one, Rediscovering the Art of Intimacy
Off February, when frosty winter breathmingles with fragrant whiffs of chocolate and roses
heralding Valentine's Day delights. Storefronts overflowwith googly eyed teddy bears. As restaurants
tempt couples towards prefixed passion. Thepressure looms for elaborate date planning and pinterest

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worthy gifts reflecting true feelings, butbeneath hallmark holiday hubbub, how many of
us nourish intimacy as an ongoing practicebeyond once annual box checking. Life's rapid
pace leaves little room for the vulnerablepresence that real connection requires. Yet tending
relationships keeps our brightest, light kindledamidst storms. Perhaps love manifests most through

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small, sublime moments meeting another heartto heart. So this Valentine's season,
let's press reset on worn romantic ritualsthat often miss the mark, rather than
seeking transactions trying to capture complex emotionsin store bought symbols. What if we
redirected focus towards the simple joy ofexperiencing beloveds in our midst Below. Find

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Part one's wisdom, laying foundations formore meaningful bonds by reconnecting with self and
others after distractions long winter, Letthese guideposts spark inspiration, welcoming spring's thaw.
Towards intimacy one, start from withinthe self love sequence. We all
intuitively know self acceptance provides the basisfor healthy relationships with others, But amidst

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perpetual personal growth goals, how oftendo we actually pause appreciating who we've become
before seeking the next mountain summit?The true gift this season offers is reacquainting
without warring internal critics that fragment,experiencing whole hearts. Practice seeing yourself and
your circumstances through the lens of abenevolent friend rather than a harsh inner judge.

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Notice tendencies towards self blame and perfectionism. What parts feel most difficult extending
towards yourself. Those reveal openings needingwarmth. Try integrating the self love sequence
a simple ritual, reviving connection toinherent worthiness beyond human foibles, find a
peaceful space. Two One attune tobodily sensations. Notice posture and breath without

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the need to change anything. Initially, feel your feet grounded, supporting you.
Appreciate the strength and mobility of yourvessel. Two explore thoughts US says
emotions without judgment. Allow whatever feelingsor story's surface to exist. Don't fix,
justify, or explain witness flow.Three offer gratitude for small joys.

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What basic blessings anchor your days?Eyes to read, ears to hear songs,
hands embracing loved ones. Four repeatthe loving mantra, I am already
whole, healed, and enough.I deeply care for all parts of my
complex journey. I love myself unconditionally. Finish by placing your hands soothingly on
your heart. Feel damaging definitions ofworthiness, melt. You're already nat virtually

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perfect and complete. Beyond rolls,titles, and human metrics. Oneness exists
within two Presence the ultimate aphrodisiac,beyond commercialized couple's activities. Cultivating true connection
depends on mindful presence. Noticing beautyotherwise obscured by routine presence grounds us in
profound paradise, hiding amidst the mundane. If only we redirect attention with the

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eyes gaze softened by curiosity's wonder.A tent of listening draws out our beloved's
inner world that external masks often guardthrough. Fully engage vulnerability, we call
forward greater life. Try incorporating one. Noticing fresh details and familiar spaces by
imagining scenes with the newcomer's awe,crystalline sunlight, refracting rainbows, stirs of

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warm breeze across your cheek, chirpingbird songs drowned by earbud music. Perceive
the world anew Two. When conversingwith loved ones, maintain relaxed eye contact
without mentally wandering. Refrain from interrupting, even if you risk forgetting the idea
mid story. Let their experiences fillthe space between them without rushing response.

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Allow comfortable pauses to expand intimacy's vesselrather than anxiously filling silence with distraction.
Three. Prior to sleep, reflecton small joys from the day. Your
child's unprompted hug, playful banter witha coworker, victorious long shot team rallying,
overtime, stray, found dog's exuberanttail wag, glittering stars, braving

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cold walk home presence transforms the lens, write or share appreciative moments allowed through
steadied awareness and realizing the extraordinary withinthe ordinary. We alchemize drab to gold,
tune into subtle sensations and heart beatsaway in each moment. Rediscovery of
wonder awaits behind jaded trances. Oncewe master reception, beyond reaction, presence
unlock's love abundantly flowing all around ifwe but sip three emotional intelligence. Heartwork

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is hard work. True intimacy expandsthrough compassionately knowing ourselves and then utilizing skillful
communication to convey inner truths to partners. This heart work proves heavy lifting,
yet worth the weight of gold forsecuring deep bonds, accepting messy ebbs and
flows, and relating challenges assumptions aboutseamless happiness sustained by initial fiery passion.

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The stability allowing vulnerability and healing emergesthrough navigating conflict with tools, expanding perspectives,
and problem solving creativity. Develop emotionalintelligence via one separating observation of behavior
from added interpretations. Reduce reactive blameby stating facts and then curiosities around underlying

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needs, motivating actions in both yourselfand your partners. Two, Leading from
vulnerability. Allow authentic sharing of sensitivities, fears, or perceived areas of disconnection.
To invoke empathy and avoid assumptions.Model receiving with openness and restrain defensiveness.
Three. Speaking feelings through I statementsrather than shaming you Always language practice.

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Identifying the IMPACT's behaviors have on yourspecific emotional states and needs. Take
ownership of reactions elicited. Four.Extending the benefit of the doubt. Seek
first to understand, rather than judgeharshly. Assume positive intent with humility.
One's own limited viewpoint likely misses contextualnuances. Informing choices. Build skills proactively,

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even amidst harmony as crisis prevention,strengthening bonds to withstand future storms.
The couples who go distance embrace constantheart work, maintaining channels for difficult dialogue,
holding space for mutual evolution through raisedconsciousness. Chapter four, Disrupting ruts,
curiosity reawakens adventure over years together.Domestic familiarity often breeds inattention, blind

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towards wondrous quirks and talents, alwaysgleaming. In partners, we exchange thoughtful
courtship questions for coordinating carpools and householdlogistics, losing zest once effortlessly overflowing,
But relationships thrive through rediscovering fascination andawe rooted in the beloved's unique essence beyond
routine rolls. Reignite stunned delight inyour person by asking what hidden dreams fill

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your journal pages kept private? Whichwisp of childhood memory flood's senses with nostalgic
warmth? When have you recently losttrack of time? Immersed in creative flow,
what brings your spirit unspeakable calm amidstinner storms? If you designed life's
crescendo finale twenty five years from now, what would that magnum opus masterpiece become?
Playing imaginative games and reconnecting with yourpartner's splendid strangeness. We all normalized

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into mundane familiarity over the years.Their lands still await charting if we but
muster explorers drive, What exotic adventuresyet a wait in their wonderfully uncanny worlds?
When mutual discovery stays tenderly open eyed, the most exotic foreign locales often
lie nearest. If only we piercethe veil of assumptions. Let curiosity guide

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rather than expectation. The thawing begins, emerging into light as homes and hearts
gradually thaw from winter's isolation towards communalblossoms. May the quickening spring tide nourish
intimacies, Tangled vines needing, patient, untangling without harshness when exposed to warm
sunlight, slowly coaxing clarity. Whatwisdom will we remember when next year's seasonal

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turning arrives. Honor energies are spentloving boldly, living fully, and seeking
Unity's grace. Stay tuned for Parttwo's journey, continuing quest inward and onward
towards authentic bonds, banishing loneliness,bitter hollows, haunting even the taken.
Our soul duty involves receiving and thenreflecting the highest light, burning bright within
every soul, courageous enough to shineno matter how the ice had formed walls

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dimming radiance. Soon the sun salutesall equally. Thanks for listening to Quiet.
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