September 28, 2025 • 53 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:31):
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Speaker 2 (01:03):
Chullo, chullo, challo. Can you see me? There we go
making sure everything is on. Hello, Hello, everyone, I am
oh excuse me. Welcome to another episode of Bad to Business.
For those who know me, I am your host shining saffront. Hello. Hello.
For those who don't know me, I am the host
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of Bad to Business. I'm bringing all diverse discussions to
business podcasts. Welcome to the show tonight, we have something
special for you. I want to also welcome a special
co host of mine. I'm so thankful to have her
with me, Jazzy Younger. Hello, Jazzy, Welcome to the show.
Can you hear me? I think she got it? You
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gotta Jazz all right. Well, while Jazz is getting her
connection together, as we all know, technical difficulties happen again.
Welcome to the show. Give some people a chance to
tap in. I want to see some faces and get
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some good opinions tonight. So I'll wait a little minute
while we get some things together. But welcome, welcome, Welcome
to the show. Tap in, tap in so we can
get some good discussions going again. We got a really
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great show for you tonight. There we go, all right, y'all, well,
let's keep things moving along. Like I said, while Jazzy
gets herself together and ready to tap in, we had
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a really good Okay, there we go, Jazz there. I
don't want to just jump in on our Hey, Jazzy,
you good, Hey, Yeah, I don't know what happened.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
That's okay. Technical difficulties happen all the time. That's what
we do.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
No, but I'm here, I'm here. Let's do that's a.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
Whole money right there. Like I said, technical difficulties happen
all the time. But I was just introducing everybody to
the show, waiting on some people to tap in, make
sure that we get a good audience tonight. But I
just wanted to go ahead and reintroduce you. Thank you
for joining me tonight. I know you have a busy schedule.
You got a lot going on with you. So how
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are you feeling tonight? I'm good, I'm good.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
I'm glad to be here, and I'm ready to rack
it out.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Let's do.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Well. While we are waiting for everybody to tap in,
I just want to go ahead and do this little
side note that tonight we will have to interrupt our
viewer's originally scheduled program, which was an actual entrepreneur panel.
But that's okay. We still have a great message for
you tonight, and if you're still interested in joining the
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entrepreneurship panel, reach out to me. Still have some time
to do that, so contact me, DM me all those things,
to be a guest or just be part of the conversation. Okay. So,
but while we are talking about not being able to
do what we regularly scheduled to do, we're going to
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talk about our subject tonight, which is moving forward, right Yay.
Everybody wants to move forward in life. We don't want
to be stuck all those things. So so with that
being said, let's get down to business first order operations.
Jesse and I were discussing this topic for about a
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week now and just thinking about what we had to
do to move forward. We got we both have things
coming up and we just want to kind of stay
on track. No U turning right, So what I want
to talk about first and foremost is wasting our energy
on fixed fights. Fixed fights. I don't know if you
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know what that means. But I've come to learn that
fixed fights in your life that you're really not destined
or purpose to win, you know, not your battle kind
of thing. You get things to God, stuff that you
just spin your wheel on. I've come to learn that
sometimes you you know, try to fight something or change
something in your life, and you end up changing it
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and really messing it up from the plan. Gotta go
with the plan. And then sometimes you attempt to try
to do something and change something in your life and
you don't change anything at all at all. But both
times you end up just wasting energy right that you're
not even supposed to be using on stuff. So despite
and so you know, you gotta you pray on that discernment,
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and you gotta know when to give your energy to
something and when not to. An example in my own
life is I've worked for UH to different companies two
different times, and there was a time where I had to,
you know, fight for my rights, if you will, all
the way up to litigation, and with God's guidance and
with the things that I knew were right, I was
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able to do what I needed to do. On another occasion,
it didn't work out like that. Same situation, different application,
and so I learned that, No, you follow the plan,
like I said, you make sure that you are applying
your energy when it needs to be, you know, not
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really getting into fixed fights. Have you ever been in
a situation like that, Jeff, Oh?
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Yeah, Like I mean, just trying to help someone battle
something that they're not being completely honest with you or
themselves about. That's almost a losing battle that I mean.
I spent time in that area, and it sucks because
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you do all this to help a person and then
you find out later that you weren't even really telling
me everything. So I could have really helped you, I
just kind of made it worse for you, you know,
and it sometimes really doesn't end up helping that person
at all. So it just you gotta you gotta choose
your battles, and you gotta decide, like you said, discermine
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as everything. You gotta decide like or you gotta decide
what you're going to deal with and what you're not
going to what you're gonna waste your not waste your energy,
but what you're going to put your energy into versus Okay,
am I getting the same kind of energy back?
Speaker 4 (07:36):
Or yeah, yeah, or even someone if it's someone else involved, well,
and I like you.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Just gotta keep going.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Exactly, keep going, moving forward. And that's the topic of conversation.
And like what you said as far as helping somebody
else's battle, Uh that I my girls is even with
their friends. Let them know and and stand on the
standard of I will fight with you, not for you,
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you know, So if you're not fighting a battle, what
am I doing fighting it for you? So definitely an
example of a fixed fight here you are jumping in
and again not your battle to.
Speaker 3 (08:23):
Fight, Nope, not all but thank.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
God for people like you with a good heart and
you know, continue to try to help people, but definitely
preying on that discernment knowing when and when not to
engage MM which brings me kind of to these second
on the list of operations. Let's talk about like the
signs you get to keep going, the signs you keep going.
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We get plenty of signs to give up, all right,
we get plenty of signs to just go into depression,
or the plenty of signs to just not keep on,
not to move forward. We get plenty of those signs.
But what signs do you get to keep going? I mean,
what kind of signs do we need If you're praying
and you're getting discernment and you're having a relationship with
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God or you're you know, just moving righteously, what signs
do you really need to, like, you know, to keep going.
Have you ever thought about what type of signs you
may need to keep going? Again? We know plenty of
signs to give up. Don't have enough of this. I
haven't seen you know. What's the saying I've heard? And
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it's not funny, but it's real. I got more months
than money, you know. Oh God, so you know I
got thirty days worth of bills if you will, but
I got like fifteen days worth money.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
Yeah, yeah, all those signs.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
To give up? But what signs do we have to
keep going? I have a few that I say that.
There's been times where I prayed and asked God to,
you know, just just show me drop a drop, just
a bread crumb that I can keep following, show me
that you are present. And there have been times I
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cannot lie. I shall not tell a lie. There has
been times where I didn't see it for myself until
I asked for God to drop me a sign. Now,
sometimes you know he drops the little sign, but there's
a big bomb of distraction. And get me wrong, but
that's what I mean, Like, what kind of signs do
you need to actually keep going?
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Well, you see, you keep seeing open doors whatever whichever
direction you're going in. I mean you, like you said,
you see the little thing, the little breadcrumbs that let
you know, hey, I'm on the right path, or I'm
going in the right direction, or this is this may
be a good decision for me, you know. And of
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course you know, you have your own relationship with God
just like anybody else does. But you will know if
it's really supposed to be where you're supposed to go,
and you gotta just you really just gotta take that
leap of faith sometimes, and like you said, sometimes when
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you do take that leap of faith and you stay
in peace, you stay in prayer, you see those doors opening.
And sometimes, like you said, you may not see it
at first, but then you start asking for hey, let
me know that I'm going the right way, that I'm
doing the right thing. And the next day or sometimes
that next hour, you will see something that's like, hey, okay,
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I'm doing the right thing. I'm doing my part. So
that he can do his part.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
And you gotta be able to see that.
Speaker 3 (11:54):
You gotta be open to it.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Yeah, seeing those signs and being able to obey that.
I know you and I have talked about walking down
hallways just to give a visual walking down the hallway
and how we can see signs on a door that
says keep closed, m m our darness to go in
or see behind it or whatever. You know, why does
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it say keep closed? Just you know, that's glutton for
punishment if you will. But but we'll we'll walk past
a door that says inter here, you know, open open,
which is crazy almost feel like it's a catch twenty two.
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There's no way that door will just say open. But
but we want to believe that there's good behind keep
closed top secret, you know, we want to believe that.
So and I know you and I have talked about, well,
when you walk with God, there is no trickery. Like
if you're walking with him and and you see the
door that says keep closed, you keep it closed. We
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don't want to be down there if he likes that.
You see a door that says enter here, open, come
on now, Like it's not that hard, it's not rocket science.
But but it you know, it takes people time with
lessons and blessings, it takes people time. So but one
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thing we don't want to do is try to open doors.
Let's say keep closed, right, I mean, we is closed
for a reason and again walk with God to you know,
to keep those doors closed. But while we're talking about signs,
so we get plenty of signs to give up, you know,
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and we uh probably have plenty of reasons to give
up as far as how we feel, how we feel
about things, and how we don't like the way things
seem and look and stuff like that. I define definitely
want to talk about moving forward, because that's what this
conversation is about. Before we run out of time. I
want to make sure that we touch on that. I
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know there's a lot of things that, like I said,
could hold us back, and I've felt them myself, as
far as lack of support or anything else like that.
So how do we Let's talk about moving forward? First
and foremost, we want to get to a point where
we change our mindset. That's the first thing that comes
to mind, is that it's all in our mind. We
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need to learn how to do that. And I was
reading about changing your mindset and emotional well being. And
the thing about that is while you are doing those things,
first and foremost, be present, be present, be aware of
what's going on. You know, one thing that I've said
is most people, the first thing they contribute somebody not
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dealing with something is denial. That's not all the way true.
Sometimes they are not in denial, they just choose not
to deal. But one that can tell you that not
dealing with something delays the inevitable. Most times, there are
certain things that you just have to deal with. Like
we said before, you can't even pray it away. Some
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things that just have to dealt with for you to
be able to move on to the next level. Like
on a video game, came past the next level unless
you beat this level. And it's just that simple. So,
but we do want to change our mindset and emotional
well being by being present. Don't allow yourself to be
zombified by your situation where you just become a drone.
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You don't really care about what's going to happen, there's
nothing I can do about it. Well, you don't give
up when you feel like there's nothing you can do
about it, right, Yeah, First and foremost, Like I said,
it's about dealing with it. You do want to acknowledge
your feelings. You do want to know what place you're in.
You and I've talked about you know how your feelings
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do not determine your person. You're feeling change, but your
purpose doesn't. We doesn't want to acknowledge our feelings, but
don't stay there. We had a discussion about sometimes you
enter a place you know where you're going, you know
where you're being, where you've been, it's time to go.
But sometimes you enter a place of not knowing some stuff,
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and that to move you back into wavering disbelief, doubt,
all those negative things. Right, But we were talking about
understanding what place you're in, So acknowledging those things and
understanding dealing with meaning not denial, but and and not
not dealing but dealing with is like, hey, I'm feeling
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some unsurety. We want so much to not have to
deal and not have to, you know, address the things
that that are bothering us. But that's not.
Speaker 3 (16:54):
Always, you know, no, exactly exactly. That's why you got
to have fear of faith over fear man.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
All the time. Make sure that your your faith and
gaining is outweighing your fear in failing. Right, Yeah, Easier
said none.
Speaker 3 (17:13):
We know yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:15):
Sometimes so while we're talking about moving forward, there are
some things that are necessary as being repetitious in your life.
So faith over fear is definitely something that you want
to practice as repetition. So but yes, know the place
you're in, deal with the feelings, know that that it
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trouble don't last always. So I hope that everybody is
able to get that, ja As. I know that you
have been in places and situations and as long as
I've known you, I've seen you just triumph through things
where you've had to put your faith over fear and
have to be What we've talked about is a thermostat
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over their mind.
Speaker 3 (18:01):
Yeah, I mean.
Speaker 2 (18:05):
Thermometer. What is that that you so?
Speaker 3 (18:10):
Well? Okay, So I mean me personally, I'm not the
kind of person that deals with stress well pacunamatata all
the way, like, no worries. I really am so chill.
It's like scary almost to some people because everybody should
be freaking out or everybody is freaking out. I'm like,
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it's fine, it's fine, But I mean I personally, I
cannot stress about stuff. It physically makes me ill to
stress about most things. So I've had to just kind
of let it everything go, if you will. It's in
some cases some situations harder said than done, obviously, but.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
Once you.
Speaker 3 (18:58):
Realize that your faith is bigger than your fear, you
can really do anything. And for example, like during COVID,
everything was shut down, everything was shut down. I got
laid off from my job of fifteen years. I took
that as a sign of this is the best news ever.
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I had been wanting to move to Florida for like
a last you know, the last six months before I
got laid off, or before right before COVID hit. I
went visited one time and I was like, hey, this
is where I want to be. I took that and
I literally leapt for whatever was out there. I knew nobody,
I knew nothing, and I found a job, found a place,
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and stayed out there for five years. And then even now,
like I live somewhere now that I decided I don't
want to be anymore and I'm going to a new
place that I have also visited once, and I'm ready
to just let it go and be gone. You know,
I'm not going to say, I'm ready to go, like
I feel like, as long as I keep my peace
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and keep everything in check, I'm doing my part. I'm
doing what I need to do. I know he's going
to show up. I know he's going to show up
and show out. So it's just a matter of when
it's going to happen, and you make and I'm ready
for it.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
We make moving forward sounds so easy.
Speaker 3 (20:23):
Let me just say you that, I mean, it's not.
I mean, there's still other things involved. There's little you know,
little bits and pieces, but all in all, it really
is the best thing anyone can do if they can
do it, you know, I mean, why stay in the
past where you're uncomfortable.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
Why we don't want to be in a comfort zone
where we're uncomfortable. That makes all the sense in the world, right,
of course. But I like what you said too, in
that direction of you being a thermostat versus a thermometer.
You saying that when you got laid off from your job,
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you took it as the word you said. I took
it as it was the best thing in the world.
So the way you were able to do that, you know,
relating to thermostat versus thermometer is you set the temperature
for yourself. You didn't just take the cold, you know,
being in the cold or throwing out in COVID if
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you will. It was a detrimental time and I'm glad
that a lot of people got through that and stuff
like that, and those who didn't not prepare the families
that are still dealing.
Speaker 3 (21:30):
But definitely you were.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
Able to kind of set the temperature for yourself and
what you needed to do next. So definitely I was
able to kind of witness that firsthand, some of the
things that you share with me with your testimony, And
I just want to say that you being the thermostat
versus the thermometer, you setting the temperature for no panic
around you. Hey, I'm moving forward, this is what I'm doing.
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This what's going on? You having that already mindset. Hey,
I don't have time for you guys to tell me
what this feels like. I know what it feels like,
I know what I'm doing, moving forward, this is what
I'm doing.
Speaker 3 (22:08):
So this is what we're doing.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
And that's cool. And like I said, I watched you
grow and do so many great things, so that's really awesome.
And going into that letting go of the past. That's
a big thing for a lot of people. And this
is still under your mindset and emotional wellbeing, you know.
So we've we really got to know when we've been
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delivered from something so you don't go back to it,
right and deliverance from something, And what I've come to
learn is that it's something that you couldn't do on
your own. You have prayed about it, cried about it,
you know, even tried about it. But it's not something
that comes easy. It's not something that you may even
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have the knowledge of doing. But miraculously there is support
or there is guidance that gets you out of the
situation that you know you needed to be out of.
They're in my personal life, you know, trying to get
out of a situation that I really didn't try to
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get out of. I don't know how to explain that,
but you know, those who know, if you get it,
you got it. If you don't, you won't.
Speaker 3 (23:20):
You already know, okay, I get it, get it.
Speaker 2 (23:26):
But knowing when you've been delivered so that you don't
go back to stuff like that, and just getting away
from stuff like that, and getting away from things that
hold you you know, you don't hold anything against yourself
for actually getting away from stuff and actually growing away
from stuff, and you don't let anybody else hold that
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against you. You don't, you know, plain and simple. You
don't hold it against yourself, and you don't let anybody
else do it. Why would you do that, that very
thing that God, even God doesn't hold against you. Your
mercies are renewed, wipe a clean slate, which you know
can even go into something like forgiveness, normalizing forgiveness so
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you can be at peace. And that's what we were
talking about, moving forward and freeing your own spirit, not
just for somebody else, but free in your own spirit,
you know, being delivered. I know that. Like I said,
you've been through some things yourself being delivered from some situations.
And one thing I know about you I've come to
learn about you and grow with you, is that you
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do not look back. You give it all you got
right then, and that's enough.
Speaker 3 (24:40):
Yeah, I'm done moving.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
Forward, you know. And you know you might cry, you
have all those emotions during the situation. Yeah, yeah, it's time.
When it's time, the dog is unalive as surely I can.
I can't remember a name, but it's okay, But so
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moving on forward, like I said, just really changing our mindset,
learning how to move forward from things, getting our focus back.
So we just talked about your mindset and emotional well
being and what we can do acknowledging your feelings but
not staying there speaking over yourself. Yeah. We talked about
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knowing what place you're in and and moving forward from that.
We talked about being a thermostat in your situation, not
a thermometer, setting the temperature and saying this is what
I'm gonna feel about this, and be okay with that,
and then move forward from that. Don't go back and forth.
Wavering can honestly kill you. We know that. Yeah, and
then let go the past knowing when you've been delivered
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from something. If you delivered, then there's no re and
on even thinking back to why you were there when
you were there. I know I've prayed the prayer myself
of Lord, help me forget something so I can forgive
some people, and it works. Maybe it'll work for you,
maybe it doesn't. But like I said, I had to
forget some things to forgive some people. So let's go
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on to something like prioritizing your well being with your connections, Okay,
outside of yourself. So we've talked about things that you
need to do within yourself. So let's talk about prioritizing
the well being with your connections outside of yourself, Earning
the importance of connecting with people and seeking support rather
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than just keeping everything in I myself personal experience. I
am a soldier, and I am a warrior, and sometimes
I am a machine, right, and I just keep things
inside and I keep going. But as I've learned and
have been told by a wise person that even machines
need breakdown for repairing, even machines and paring any maintenance.
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You can't just keep going like that. And Jazz and I,
if you caught us in a previous episode of Family
Matters that we touched on a generational setback is keeping
everything to yourself. You learn from your family that you
keep your business your business, you keep it on the inside.
But what happens when you are an adult and you
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keep on carrying that, and but you need the support
and you need the connection. Yeah, you know, you find
that sometimes keeping to yourself actually breaks you down more
than it strengthens you.
Speaker 3 (27:36):
Yeah, because you don't even know how to ask for
the support. When you're in that state, you don't know
how to ask for the help because you're already like,
I'm not telling anybody anyway, And it's like there could
be any any somebody could always have a story that
can help you in your situation, you know, just like
if you tell somebody something that's going on, and you
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don't know what kind of testimony you could be given
somebody just by telling them your experience. So but if
you're if you're taught to not seek help from anybody
outside of inside of your four walls, how how do
you break that habit? You know, it's hard to do that.
Speaker 2 (28:17):
But as we talked about in the Family Matters episode,
you got to start somewhere. And especially if we have children,
are you teaching them the same thing? And you know,
determining a family tradition versus a generational setback, knowing that, hey,
this has to change, this can't keep going on the
same way like this. So definitely that. But we learn,
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we live, and we learn, and we got some lessons learned.
We have some things that we have to do again
outside of ourselves, Uh, making those connections, knowing when when
to make those connections. One of the things that are
alway said is sometimes I have to disconnect totally mm hmm,
so that I can know where to reconnect. You know,
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sometimes I'm connected to so many things. Yeah, and you
get so involved in so many things. I know. I'm
a starter of a lot, finisher of not a lot. Okay,
So I am definitely trying to make sure that I
do follow through and I'm sure that I'm able to
do the things that I have committed to. So, you know,
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we have to learn how to how to coordinate ourselves
with other people, right. We can't just keep going. Can't
just keep going. I know that you and I have
talked about set boundaries. Uh lately here you've had to
do some things here to share.
Speaker 3 (29:53):
Oh yeah, no, I guess the boundaries that I've had
to set from myself is learning to prioritize me. The
biggest lesson that I could say during the situation that
I'm in and am getting out of and letting go of,
is learning how to say no and not feel bad
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about it. I'm always that person that's like, oh my god,
what if they get mad that I, you know, can't
help them, or what if they get mad about anything?
And I've learned that if I stand on it and
feel that way, I have to be okay with it,
and I have to It prevents me from over committing
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to something that I don't want to do in the
first thing, and it protects my energy from what I
might not be dealing with as well.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
You know.
Speaker 3 (30:50):
I mean, I've allowed people to manage my time and
prolonged and inevitable, and I committed time and energy to
people and things that I really should not have and
now I'm at a place where I need to protect
my peace. And like I said, I'm saying no, and
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I don't care if you feel any kind of way
about it, because here's the thing. I've been saying yes,
and like I said, it's only hindered me as a
person or where whatever I'm doing, like it's basically kind
of halted me a little bit. And I can't I
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can't do that. I gotta let it go and I
gotta keep moving and I'm going I'm out of here.
Speaker 2 (31:37):
So prolonging the inevitable. We know what's what it is,
and you.
Speaker 3 (31:43):
Know, yeah, you know what's done it is.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
You know exactly you said what you said. Whatever the
case may be, we know that it is it is that,
And we've talked about how you know, people we allow
people to put a you know, a dot that dot,
et cetera, where we yep, you've already put a period there,
and you still allow somebody to put two more after you.
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But wait, there's more. No, there's not more. They're going, really,
what's what's more? Nothing like what's happening?
Speaker 3 (32:22):
I don't know how did we get here?
Speaker 2 (32:24):
I don't Yeah, right, I don't. I don't know what
to do with I don't know what to do with
my life. Okay, right, that help you on what to
do with your life? With all those things, like I said,
recognizing the faults that we have and recognizing the feelings
we have, and yeah, how to move forward. Yeah, all
those recognitions, acknowledgements within ourselves and how to disconnect and
(32:48):
learn how to reconnect. Now we need to start moving
forward to make these changes. Yeah, we have separate testimonies.
You know, as we could talk all day a girl
talk about girl. Let me tell you, Okay, let me
tell you, Like right now, I am going through something
(33:08):
that I know not everybody can understand. But even as
my own just struggles, I am having trouble, just kind
of grasping the fact that I know I have to
move forward and I have had visions pro visions of
(33:29):
how to do so. Mm hmm. Right. So even in
my own life, the the changes that I know I
need to make and do apply to me personally is
that I need to take action. I need to set
goals and take action. Yeah, I need to. It has
to be in real life. I need to set clear
(33:51):
goals for myself, you know, make sure that I know
what I want to do and how I want to
do it. Make sure it's within me. Because I think
you and I have talked about how you can be
anointed and not yet appointed. It doesn't mean that it's
time for you to go. You know, I am about
always showing up. I'm learning that I should say and
(34:12):
go time and showtime are one and the same.
Speaker 3 (34:15):
Yeah, but you want to.
Speaker 2 (34:17):
Set clear goals for yourself, maybe steps. You definitely want
to take small steps. So set clear goals and set
them as one, two, three. You don't want to do
them as let me do the hardest first. That ain't
gonna work. I've tried it. Let's knock out the hardest
so I can get to the easiest that ain't. You
want to set the clear goals on the steps. And
(34:39):
we've talked about being in order. There is even something
that I have heard called chaotic, something that even though
it's in chaos, they're still in order to it. So
just understand that no matter what you do, there's always
going to be an order to it. So, yeah, set
clear goals for myself. Take these baby steps to accomplish
these clear goals. Step one, accomplish it step two not
(35:03):
step one. Cool, let me start that. I can do
step two too. You know, I can work simultaneously. You know,
working like that, as we learned, does not always fan
out to be the best, because you need to be
able to be focused. If you're everywhere, you're nowhere. So
if you're focused on everything, you're not focused on anything. Yeah,
(35:24):
take that with you, Okay. And one of the biggest
things for me as far as UH setting goals and
taking action is stop procrastinating. I sometimes will see something
as the biggest obstacle and it's not. There was an
old saying that says, it don't take all day to
do nothing. Some of the things that you gotta do
(35:44):
ain't really nothing. Yeah, you're taking all this time and
procrastinating and waiting to get there and waiting to do stuff.
Speaker 3 (35:53):
Why why you still don't have to do it?
Speaker 2 (35:59):
But and cases where I've procrastinated to do something thinking
it was going to be overwhelming, and by the time
I got to it, I was like, oh, this is
all I gotta do. I just got to touch it,
touched yep. As soon as I clicked, I was done right.
So definitely those are some of the changes I want
(36:20):
to make for myself moving forward. What about you? What
kind of changes you're working on?
Speaker 3 (36:24):
I mean mainly changing my mindset and sometimes my attitude,
because yeah, I do have a cool accutomatata mode, but
my mind sometimes gets the better of me. I sometimes
will think about stuff that might be worrisome or would
worry me or has worried me, and it I have
to snap myself out of it. So I got to
(36:46):
challenge the negative thoughts that I sometimes have and get
because I am normal, my flush sometimes feels be decisive.
Like like I said, learning to say no and being
okay with that was one of the biggest things that
I had issues with. So I'm practicing doing that and
I'm just trying to embrace the new. Like like I said,
(37:10):
I'm moving, I'm taking a leap of faith. I'm going
somewhere where nobody knows my name and I'm good, right,
I'm going to see what I can get into and
see what's going on. So I would say the biggest
thing is go for it. If you're scared. That means
I feel like you should go for it more.
Speaker 2 (37:30):
Yeah, I fear, you know, false evidence appearing real.
Speaker 3 (37:35):
Yeah, in this life.
Speaker 2 (37:38):
And you and I have learned that we are going
to succeed. You know, we are just the home run
has already been hit, y'all. We just running the bases.
Speaker 3 (37:48):
We just got to get there.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
Yeah, so just touch it. You'll learn that. And I
have learned too that even right now we are in
the season. Yeah, so that atmosphere shifting. We're definitely in
those seasons. So with that being said, like I said,
this episode of Moving Forward, we did not get to
(38:09):
do our regularly scheduled program, but we will continue that
on the next episode. Continue to follow me and Jazzy.
We will be promoting that, uh the entrepreneur panel. We
would love to have difference of opinions and different entrepreneurs
if you're able to join, we'll be promoting that catch
up with us. I want to thank Jazzy for joining me.
(38:33):
I know you got a busy schedule, like you said,
between working and moving, and I know how tedious that
stuff can be, but I thank you for joining me
and one of my biggest supporters in helping me to
embrace moving forward and not staying where I am. And
one thing about Jazzy is she is one of those
(38:54):
pieces of iron where iron sharpens iron. She's definitely that.
So no, thank you. I am able to give to
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it's always a pleasure to have you on the show
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Speaker 3 (53:01):
Assass
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Speaker 2 (01:03):
Chullo, chullo, challo. Can you see me? There we go
making sure everything is on. Hello, Hello, everyone, I am
oh excuse me. Welcome to another episode of Bad to Business.
For those who know me, I am your host shining saffront. Hello. Hello.
For those who don't know me, I am the host
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of Bad to Business. I'm bringing all diverse discussions to
business podcasts. Welcome to the show tonight, we have something
special for you. I want to also welcome a special
co host of mine. I'm so thankful to have her
with me, Jazzy Younger. Hello, Jazzy, Welcome to the show.
Can you hear me? I think she got it? You
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gotta Jazz all right. Well, while Jazz is getting her
connection together, as we all know, technical difficulties happen again.
Welcome to the show. Give some people a chance to
tap in. I want to see some faces and get
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some good opinions tonight. So I'll wait a little minute
while we get some things together. But welcome, welcome, Welcome
to the show. Tap in, tap in so we can
get some good discussions going again. We got a really
(02:32):
great show for you tonight. There we go, all right, y'all, well,
let's keep things moving along. Like I said, while Jazzy
gets herself together and ready to tap in, we had
(02:53):
a really good Okay, there we go, Jazz there. I
don't want to just jump in on our Hey, Jazzy,
you good, Hey, Yeah, I don't know what happened.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
That's okay. Technical difficulties happen all the time. That's what
we do.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
No, but I'm here, I'm here. Let's do that's a.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
Whole money right there. Like I said, technical difficulties happen
all the time. But I was just introducing everybody to
the show, waiting on some people to tap in, make
sure that we get a good audience tonight. But I
just wanted to go ahead and reintroduce you. Thank you
for joining me tonight. I know you have a busy schedule.
You got a lot going on with you. So how
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are you feeling tonight? I'm good, I'm good.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
I'm glad to be here, and I'm ready to rack
it out.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Let's do.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Well. While we are waiting for everybody to tap in,
I just want to go ahead and do this little
side note that tonight we will have to interrupt our
viewer's originally scheduled program, which was an actual entrepreneur panel.
But that's okay. We still have a great message for
you tonight, and if you're still interested in joining the
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entrepreneurship panel, reach out to me. Still have some time
to do that, so contact me, DM me all those things,
to be a guest or just be part of the conversation. Okay. So,
but while we are talking about not being able to
do what we regularly scheduled to do, we're going to
(04:24):
talk about our subject tonight, which is moving forward, right Yay.
Everybody wants to move forward in life. We don't want
to be stuck all those things. So so with that
being said, let's get down to business first order operations.
Jesse and I were discussing this topic for about a
(04:44):
week now and just thinking about what we had to
do to move forward. We got we both have things
coming up and we just want to kind of stay
on track. No U turning right, So what I want
to talk about first and foremost is wasting our energy
on fixed fights. Fixed fights. I don't know if you
(05:05):
know what that means. But I've come to learn that
fixed fights in your life that you're really not destined
or purpose to win, you know, not your battle kind
of thing. You get things to God, stuff that you
just spin your wheel on. I've come to learn that
sometimes you you know, try to fight something or change
something in your life, and you end up changing it
(05:27):
and really messing it up from the plan. Gotta go
with the plan. And then sometimes you attempt to try
to do something and change something in your life and
you don't change anything at all at all. But both
times you end up just wasting energy right that you're
not even supposed to be using on stuff. So despite
and so you know, you gotta you pray on that discernment,
(05:48):
and you gotta know when to give your energy to
something and when not to. An example in my own
life is I've worked for UH to different companies two
different times, and there was a time where I had to,
you know, fight for my rights, if you will, all
the way up to litigation, and with God's guidance and
with the things that I knew were right, I was
(06:11):
able to do what I needed to do. On another occasion,
it didn't work out like that. Same situation, different application,
and so I learned that, No, you follow the plan,
like I said, you make sure that you are applying
your energy when it needs to be, you know, not
(06:32):
really getting into fixed fights. Have you ever been in
a situation like that, Jeff, Oh?
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Yeah, Like I mean, just trying to help someone battle
something that they're not being completely honest with you or
themselves about. That's almost a losing battle that I mean.
I spent time in that area, and it sucks because
(06:57):
you do all this to help a person and then
you find out later that you weren't even really telling
me everything. So I could have really helped you, I
just kind of made it worse for you, you know,
and it sometimes really doesn't end up helping that person
at all. So it just you gotta you gotta choose
your battles, and you gotta decide, like you said, discermine
(07:19):
as everything. You gotta decide like or you gotta decide
what you're going to deal with and what you're not
going to what you're gonna waste your not waste your energy,
but what you're going to put your energy into versus Okay,
am I getting the same kind of energy back?
Speaker 4 (07:36):
Or yeah, yeah, or even someone if it's someone else involved, well,
and I like you.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Just gotta keep going.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Exactly, keep going, moving forward. And that's the topic of conversation.
And like what you said as far as helping somebody
else's battle, Uh that I my girls is even with
their friends. Let them know and and stand on the
standard of I will fight with you, not for you,
(08:11):
you know, So if you're not fighting a battle, what
am I doing fighting it for you? So definitely an
example of a fixed fight here you are jumping in
and again not your battle to.
Speaker 3 (08:23):
Fight, Nope, not all but thank.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
God for people like you with a good heart and
you know, continue to try to help people, but definitely
preying on that discernment knowing when and when not to
engage MM which brings me kind of to these second
on the list of operations. Let's talk about like the
signs you get to keep going, the signs you keep going.
(08:49):
We get plenty of signs to give up, all right,
we get plenty of signs to just go into depression,
or the plenty of signs to just not keep on,
not to move forward. We get plenty of those signs.
But what signs do you get to keep going? I mean,
what kind of signs do we need If you're praying
and you're getting discernment and you're having a relationship with
(09:13):
God or you're you know, just moving righteously, what signs
do you really need to, like, you know, to keep going.
Have you ever thought about what type of signs you
may need to keep going? Again? We know plenty of
signs to give up. Don't have enough of this. I
haven't seen you know. What's the saying I've heard? And
(09:37):
it's not funny, but it's real. I got more months
than money, you know. Oh God, so you know I
got thirty days worth of bills if you will, but
I got like fifteen days worth money.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
Yeah, yeah, all those signs.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
To give up? But what signs do we have to
keep going? I have a few that I say that.
There's been times where I prayed and asked God to,
you know, just just show me drop a drop, just
a bread crumb that I can keep following, show me
that you are present. And there have been times I
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cannot lie. I shall not tell a lie. There has
been times where I didn't see it for myself until
I asked for God to drop me a sign. Now,
sometimes you know he drops the little sign, but there's
a big bomb of distraction. And get me wrong, but
that's what I mean, Like, what kind of signs do
you need to actually keep going?
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Well, you see, you keep seeing open doors whatever whichever
direction you're going in. I mean you, like you said,
you see the little thing, the little breadcrumbs that let
you know, hey, I'm on the right path, or I'm
going in the right direction, or this is this may
be a good decision for me, you know. And of
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course you know, you have your own relationship with God
just like anybody else does. But you will know if
it's really supposed to be where you're supposed to go,
and you gotta just you really just gotta take that
leap of faith sometimes, and like you said, sometimes when
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you do take that leap of faith and you stay
in peace, you stay in prayer, you see those doors opening.
And sometimes, like you said, you may not see it
at first, but then you start asking for hey, let
me know that I'm going the right way, that I'm
doing the right thing. And the next day or sometimes
that next hour, you will see something that's like, hey, okay,
(11:46):
I'm doing the right thing. I'm doing my part. So
that he can do his part.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
And you gotta be able to see that.
Speaker 3 (11:54):
You gotta be open to it.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Yeah, seeing those signs and being able to obey that.
I know you and I have talked about walking down
hallways just to give a visual walking down the hallway
and how we can see signs on a door that
says keep closed, m m our darness to go in
or see behind it or whatever. You know, why does
(12:18):
it say keep closed? Just you know, that's glutton for
punishment if you will. But but we'll we'll walk past
a door that says inter here, you know, open open,
which is crazy almost feel like it's a catch twenty two.
(12:40):
There's no way that door will just say open. But
but we want to believe that there's good behind keep
closed top secret, you know, we want to believe that.
So and I know you and I have talked about, well,
when you walk with God, there is no trickery. Like
if you're walking with him and and you see the
door that says keep closed, you keep it closed. We
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don't want to be down there if he likes that.
You see a door that says enter here, open, come
on now, Like it's not that hard, it's not rocket science.
But but it you know, it takes people time with
lessons and blessings, it takes people time. So but one
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thing we don't want to do is try to open doors.
Let's say keep closed, right, I mean, we is closed
for a reason and again walk with God to you know,
to keep those doors closed. But while we're talking about signs,
so we get plenty of signs to give up, you know,
(13:46):
and we uh probably have plenty of reasons to give
up as far as how we feel, how we feel
about things, and how we don't like the way things
seem and look and stuff like that. I define definitely
want to talk about moving forward, because that's what this
conversation is about. Before we run out of time. I
want to make sure that we touch on that. I
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know there's a lot of things that, like I said,
could hold us back, and I've felt them myself, as
far as lack of support or anything else like that.
So how do we Let's talk about moving forward? First
and foremost, we want to get to a point where
we change our mindset. That's the first thing that comes
to mind, is that it's all in our mind. We
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need to learn how to do that. And I was
reading about changing your mindset and emotional well being. And
the thing about that is while you are doing those things,
first and foremost, be present, be present, be aware of
what's going on. You know, one thing that I've said
is most people, the first thing they contribute somebody not
(14:53):
dealing with something is denial. That's not all the way true.
Sometimes they are not in denial, they just choose not
to deal. But one that can tell you that not
dealing with something delays the inevitable. Most times, there are
certain things that you just have to deal with. Like
we said before, you can't even pray it away. Some
(15:14):
things that just have to dealt with for you to
be able to move on to the next level. Like
on a video game, came past the next level unless
you beat this level. And it's just that simple. So,
but we do want to change our mindset and emotional
well being by being present. Don't allow yourself to be
zombified by your situation where you just become a drone.
(15:35):
You don't really care about what's going to happen, there's
nothing I can do about it. Well, you don't give
up when you feel like there's nothing you can do
about it, right, Yeah, First and foremost, Like I said,
it's about dealing with it. You do want to acknowledge
your feelings. You do want to know what place you're in.
You and I've talked about you know how your feelings
(15:58):
do not determine your person. You're feeling change, but your
purpose doesn't. We doesn't want to acknowledge our feelings, but
don't stay there. We had a discussion about sometimes you
enter a place you know where you're going, you know
where you're being, where you've been, it's time to go.
But sometimes you enter a place of not knowing some stuff,
(16:20):
and that to move you back into wavering disbelief, doubt,
all those negative things. Right, But we were talking about
understanding what place you're in, So acknowledging those things and
understanding dealing with meaning not denial, but and and not
not dealing but dealing with is like, hey, I'm feeling
(16:42):
some unsurety. We want so much to not have to
deal and not have to, you know, address the things
that that are bothering us. But that's not.
Speaker 3 (16:54):
Always, you know, no, exactly exactly. That's why you got
to have fear of faith over fear man.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
All the time. Make sure that your your faith and
gaining is outweighing your fear in failing. Right, Yeah, Easier
said none.
Speaker 3 (17:13):
We know yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:15):
Sometimes so while we're talking about moving forward, there are
some things that are necessary as being repetitious in your life.
So faith over fear is definitely something that you want
to practice as repetition. So but yes, know the place
you're in, deal with the feelings, know that that it
(17:37):
trouble don't last always. So I hope that everybody is
able to get that, ja As. I know that you
have been in places and situations and as long as
I've known you, I've seen you just triumph through things
where you've had to put your faith over fear and
have to be What we've talked about is a thermostat
(17:59):
over their mind.
Speaker 3 (18:01):
Yeah, I mean.
Speaker 2 (18:05):
Thermometer. What is that that you so?
Speaker 3 (18:10):
Well? Okay, So I mean me personally, I'm not the
kind of person that deals with stress well pacunamatata all
the way, like, no worries. I really am so chill.
It's like scary almost to some people because everybody should
be freaking out or everybody is freaking out. I'm like,
(18:31):
it's fine, it's fine, But I mean I personally, I
cannot stress about stuff. It physically makes me ill to
stress about most things. So I've had to just kind
of let it everything go, if you will. It's in
some cases some situations harder said than done, obviously, but.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
Once you.
Speaker 3 (18:58):
Realize that your faith is bigger than your fear, you
can really do anything. And for example, like during COVID,
everything was shut down, everything was shut down. I got
laid off from my job of fifteen years. I took
that as a sign of this is the best news ever.
(19:21):
I had been wanting to move to Florida for like
a last you know, the last six months before I
got laid off, or before right before COVID hit. I
went visited one time and I was like, hey, this
is where I want to be. I took that and
I literally leapt for whatever was out there. I knew nobody,
I knew nothing, and I found a job, found a place,
(19:43):
and stayed out there for five years. And then even now,
like I live somewhere now that I decided I don't
want to be anymore and I'm going to a new
place that I have also visited once, and I'm ready
to just let it go and be gone. You know,
I'm not going to say, I'm ready to go, like
I feel like, as long as I keep my peace
(20:06):
and keep everything in check, I'm doing my part. I'm
doing what I need to do. I know he's going
to show up. I know he's going to show up
and show out. So it's just a matter of when
it's going to happen, and you make and I'm ready
for it.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
We make moving forward sounds so easy.
Speaker 3 (20:23):
Let me just say you that, I mean, it's not.
I mean, there's still other things involved. There's little you know,
little bits and pieces, but all in all, it really
is the best thing anyone can do if they can
do it, you know, I mean, why stay in the
past where you're uncomfortable.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
Why we don't want to be in a comfort zone
where we're uncomfortable. That makes all the sense in the world, right,
of course. But I like what you said too, in
that direction of you being a thermostat versus a thermometer.
You saying that when you got laid off from your job,
(21:00):
you took it as the word you said. I took
it as it was the best thing in the world.
So the way you were able to do that, you know,
relating to thermostat versus thermometer is you set the temperature
for yourself. You didn't just take the cold, you know,
being in the cold or throwing out in COVID if
(21:21):
you will. It was a detrimental time and I'm glad
that a lot of people got through that and stuff
like that, and those who didn't not prepare the families
that are still dealing.
Speaker 3 (21:30):
But definitely you were.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
Able to kind of set the temperature for yourself and
what you needed to do next. So definitely I was
able to kind of witness that firsthand, some of the
things that you share with me with your testimony, And
I just want to say that you being the thermostat
versus the thermometer, you setting the temperature for no panic
around you. Hey, I'm moving forward, this is what I'm doing.
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This what's going on? You having that already mindset. Hey,
I don't have time for you guys to tell me
what this feels like. I know what it feels like,
I know what I'm doing, moving forward, this is what
I'm doing.
Speaker 3 (22:08):
So this is what we're doing.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
And that's cool. And like I said, I watched you
grow and do so many great things, so that's really awesome.
And going into that letting go of the past. That's
a big thing for a lot of people. And this
is still under your mindset and emotional wellbeing, you know.
So we've we really got to know when we've been
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delivered from something so you don't go back to it,
right and deliverance from something, And what I've come to
learn is that it's something that you couldn't do on
your own. You have prayed about it, cried about it,
you know, even tried about it. But it's not something
that comes easy. It's not something that you may even
(22:53):
have the knowledge of doing. But miraculously there is support
or there is guidance that gets you out of the
situation that you know you needed to be out of.
They're in my personal life, you know, trying to get
out of a situation that I really didn't try to
(23:15):
get out of. I don't know how to explain that,
but you know, those who know, if you get it,
you got it. If you don't, you won't.
Speaker 3 (23:20):
You already know, okay, I get it, get it.
Speaker 2 (23:26):
But knowing when you've been delivered so that you don't
go back to stuff like that, and just getting away
from stuff like that, and getting away from things that
hold you you know, you don't hold anything against yourself
for actually getting away from stuff and actually growing away
from stuff, and you don't let anybody else hold that
(23:47):
against you. You don't, you know, plain and simple. You
don't hold it against yourself, and you don't let anybody
else do it. Why would you do that, that very
thing that God, even God doesn't hold against you. Your
mercies are renewed, wipe a clean slate, which you know
can even go into something like forgiveness, normalizing forgiveness so
(24:12):
you can be at peace. And that's what we were
talking about, moving forward and freeing your own spirit, not
just for somebody else, but free in your own spirit,
you know, being delivered. I know that. Like I said,
you've been through some things yourself being delivered from some situations.
And one thing I know about you I've come to
learn about you and grow with you, is that you
(24:33):
do not look back. You give it all you got
right then, and that's enough.
Speaker 3 (24:40):
Yeah, I'm done moving.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
Forward, you know. And you know you might cry, you
have all those emotions during the situation. Yeah, yeah, it's time.
When it's time, the dog is unalive as surely I can.
I can't remember a name, but it's okay, But so
(25:11):
moving on forward, like I said, just really changing our mindset,
learning how to move forward from things, getting our focus back.
So we just talked about your mindset and emotional well
being and what we can do acknowledging your feelings but
not staying there speaking over yourself. Yeah. We talked about
(25:35):
knowing what place you're in and and moving forward from that.
We talked about being a thermostat in your situation, not
a thermometer, setting the temperature and saying this is what
I'm gonna feel about this, and be okay with that,
and then move forward from that. Don't go back and forth.
Wavering can honestly kill you. We know that. Yeah, and
then let go the past knowing when you've been delivered
(25:57):
from something. If you delivered, then there's no re and
on even thinking back to why you were there when
you were there. I know I've prayed the prayer myself
of Lord, help me forget something so I can forgive
some people, and it works. Maybe it'll work for you,
maybe it doesn't. But like I said, I had to
forget some things to forgive some people. So let's go
(26:21):
on to something like prioritizing your well being with your connections, Okay,
outside of yourself. So we've talked about things that you
need to do within yourself. So let's talk about prioritizing
the well being with your connections outside of yourself, Earning
the importance of connecting with people and seeking support rather
(26:42):
than just keeping everything in I myself personal experience. I
am a soldier, and I am a warrior, and sometimes
I am a machine, right, and I just keep things
inside and I keep going. But as I've learned and
have been told by a wise person that even machines
need breakdown for repairing, even machines and paring any maintenance.
(27:03):
You can't just keep going like that. And Jazz and I,
if you caught us in a previous episode of Family
Matters that we touched on a generational setback is keeping
everything to yourself. You learn from your family that you
keep your business your business, you keep it on the inside.
But what happens when you are an adult and you
(27:24):
keep on carrying that, and but you need the support
and you need the connection. Yeah, you know, you find
that sometimes keeping to yourself actually breaks you down more
than it strengthens you.
Speaker 3 (27:36):
Yeah, because you don't even know how to ask for
the support. When you're in that state, you don't know
how to ask for the help because you're already like,
I'm not telling anybody anyway, And it's like there could
be any any somebody could always have a story that
can help you in your situation, you know, just like
if you tell somebody something that's going on, and you
(27:59):
don't know what kind of testimony you could be given
somebody just by telling them your experience. So but if
you're if you're taught to not seek help from anybody
outside of inside of your four walls, how how do
you break that habit? You know, it's hard to do that.
Speaker 2 (28:17):
But as we talked about in the Family Matters episode,
you got to start somewhere. And especially if we have children,
are you teaching them the same thing? And you know,
determining a family tradition versus a generational setback, knowing that, hey,
this has to change, this can't keep going on the
same way like this. So definitely that. But we learn,
(28:45):
we live, and we learn, and we got some lessons learned.
We have some things that we have to do again
outside of ourselves, Uh, making those connections, knowing when when
to make those connections. One of the things that are
alway said is sometimes I have to disconnect totally mm hmm,
so that I can know where to reconnect. You know,
(29:07):
sometimes I'm connected to so many things. Yeah, and you
get so involved in so many things. I know. I'm
a starter of a lot, finisher of not a lot. Okay,
So I am definitely trying to make sure that I
do follow through and I'm sure that I'm able to
do the things that I have committed to. So, you know,
(29:31):
we have to learn how to how to coordinate ourselves
with other people, right. We can't just keep going. Can't
just keep going. I know that you and I have
talked about set boundaries. Uh lately here you've had to
do some things here to share.
Speaker 3 (29:53):
Oh yeah, no, I guess the boundaries that I've had
to set from myself is learning to prioritize me. The
biggest lesson that I could say during the situation that
I'm in and am getting out of and letting go of,
is learning how to say no and not feel bad
(30:16):
about it. I'm always that person that's like, oh my god,
what if they get mad that I, you know, can't
help them, or what if they get mad about anything?
And I've learned that if I stand on it and
feel that way, I have to be okay with it,
and I have to It prevents me from over committing
(30:40):
to something that I don't want to do in the
first thing, and it protects my energy from what I
might not be dealing with as well.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
You know.
Speaker 3 (30:50):
I mean, I've allowed people to manage my time and
prolonged and inevitable, and I committed time and energy to
people and things that I really should not have and
now I'm at a place where I need to protect
my peace. And like I said, I'm saying no, and
(31:11):
I don't care if you feel any kind of way
about it, because here's the thing. I've been saying yes,
and like I said, it's only hindered me as a
person or where whatever I'm doing, like it's basically kind
of halted me a little bit. And I can't I
(31:31):
can't do that. I gotta let it go and I
gotta keep moving and I'm going I'm out of here.
Speaker 2 (31:37):
So prolonging the inevitable. We know what's what it is,
and you.
Speaker 3 (31:43):
Know, yeah, you know what's done it is.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
You know exactly you said what you said. Whatever the
case may be, we know that it is it is that,
And we've talked about how you know, people we allow
people to put a you know, a dot that dot,
et cetera, where we yep, you've already put a period there,
and you still allow somebody to put two more after you.
(32:08):
But wait, there's more. No, there's not more. They're going, really,
what's what's more? Nothing like what's happening?
Speaker 3 (32:22):
I don't know how did we get here?
Speaker 2 (32:24):
I don't Yeah, right, I don't. I don't know what
to do with I don't know what to do with
my life. Okay, right, that help you on what to
do with your life? With all those things, like I said,
recognizing the faults that we have and recognizing the feelings
we have, and yeah, how to move forward. Yeah, all
those recognitions, acknowledgements within ourselves and how to disconnect and
(32:48):
learn how to reconnect. Now we need to start moving
forward to make these changes. Yeah, we have separate testimonies.
You know, as we could talk all day a girl
talk about girl. Let me tell you, Okay, let me
tell you, Like right now, I am going through something
(33:08):
that I know not everybody can understand. But even as
my own just struggles, I am having trouble, just kind
of grasping the fact that I know I have to
move forward and I have had visions pro visions of
(33:29):
how to do so. Mm hmm. Right. So even in
my own life, the the changes that I know I
need to make and do apply to me personally is
that I need to take action. I need to set
goals and take action. Yeah, I need to. It has
to be in real life. I need to set clear
(33:51):
goals for myself, you know, make sure that I know
what I want to do and how I want to
do it. Make sure it's within me. Because I think
you and I have talked about how you can be
anointed and not yet appointed. It doesn't mean that it's
time for you to go. You know, I am about
always showing up. I'm learning that I should say and
(34:12):
go time and showtime are one and the same.
Speaker 3 (34:15):
Yeah, but you want to.
Speaker 2 (34:17):
Set clear goals for yourself, maybe steps. You definitely want
to take small steps. So set clear goals and set
them as one, two, three. You don't want to do
them as let me do the hardest first. That ain't
gonna work. I've tried it. Let's knock out the hardest
so I can get to the easiest that ain't. You
want to set the clear goals on the steps. And
(34:39):
we've talked about being in order. There is even something
that I have heard called chaotic, something that even though
it's in chaos, they're still in order to it. So
just understand that no matter what you do, there's always
going to be an order to it. So, yeah, set
clear goals for myself. Take these baby steps to accomplish
these clear goals. Step one, accomplish it step two not
(35:03):
step one. Cool, let me start that. I can do
step two too. You know, I can work simultaneously. You know,
working like that, as we learned, does not always fan
out to be the best, because you need to be
able to be focused. If you're everywhere, you're nowhere. So
if you're focused on everything, you're not focused on anything. Yeah,
(35:24):
take that with you, Okay. And one of the biggest
things for me as far as UH setting goals and
taking action is stop procrastinating. I sometimes will see something
as the biggest obstacle and it's not. There was an
old saying that says, it don't take all day to
do nothing. Some of the things that you gotta do
(35:44):
ain't really nothing. Yeah, you're taking all this time and
procrastinating and waiting to get there and waiting to do stuff.
Speaker 3 (35:53):
Why why you still don't have to do it?
Speaker 2 (35:59):
But and cases where I've procrastinated to do something thinking
it was going to be overwhelming, and by the time
I got to it, I was like, oh, this is
all I gotta do. I just got to touch it,
touched yep. As soon as I clicked, I was done right.
So definitely those are some of the changes I want
(36:20):
to make for myself moving forward. What about you? What
kind of changes you're working on?
Speaker 3 (36:24):
I mean mainly changing my mindset and sometimes my attitude,
because yeah, I do have a cool accutomatata mode, but
my mind sometimes gets the better of me. I sometimes
will think about stuff that might be worrisome or would
worry me or has worried me, and it I have
to snap myself out of it. So I got to
(36:46):
challenge the negative thoughts that I sometimes have and get
because I am normal, my flush sometimes feels be decisive.
Like like I said, learning to say no and being
okay with that was one of the biggest things that
I had issues with. So I'm practicing doing that and
I'm just trying to embrace the new. Like like I said,
(37:10):
I'm moving, I'm taking a leap of faith. I'm going
somewhere where nobody knows my name and I'm good, right,
I'm going to see what I can get into and
see what's going on. So I would say the biggest
thing is go for it. If you're scared. That means
I feel like you should go for it more.
Speaker 2 (37:30):
Yeah, I fear, you know, false evidence appearing real.
Speaker 3 (37:35):
Yeah, in this life.
Speaker 2 (37:38):
And you and I have learned that we are going
to succeed. You know, we are just the home run
has already been hit, y'all. We just running the bases.
Speaker 3 (37:48):
We just got to get there.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
Yeah, so just touch it. You'll learn that. And I
have learned too that even right now we are in
the season. Yeah, so that atmosphere shifting. We're definitely in
those seasons. So with that being said, like I said,
this episode of Moving Forward, we did not get to
(38:09):
do our regularly scheduled program, but we will continue that
on the next episode. Continue to follow me and Jazzy.
We will be promoting that, uh the entrepreneur panel. We
would love to have difference of opinions and different entrepreneurs
if you're able to join, we'll be promoting that catch
up with us. I want to thank Jazzy for joining me.
(38:33):
I know you got a busy schedule, like you said,
between working and moving, and I know how tedious that
stuff can be, but I thank you for joining me
and one of my biggest supporters in helping me to
embrace moving forward and not staying where I am. And
one thing about Jazzy is she is one of those
(38:54):
pieces of iron where iron sharpens iron. She's definitely that.
So no, thank you. I am able to give to
her when she's able to give back to me. So
it's always a pleasure to have you on the show
and have you, you know, just continue to uplift and
support other people to remember to support your supporters. I
(39:14):
support you and everything you do, just like you support
me and everything I do. I love you today. And
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(39:36):
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The show was about moving forward, and I hope that
(40:38):
you guys caught something that you that can help you
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thank you so much, Thank you Bye
Speaker 3 (53:01):
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