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This episode of Dear Tisia dives deep into four stories that’ll have you feeling everything — heartbreak, betrayal, silence, and survival.
We start with the devastating story of Jade Damarell, a seasoned skydiver who tragically lost her life just one day after a breakup. With questions swirling and pain echoing through the headlines, we explore what it means to support people through quiet suffering.
Then, we meet Precious — a woman who gave up everything for her husband, only to discover he was cheating with her cousin. Her story isn’t just about betrayal — it’s about the brave road back to self-worth.
Next, we unpack the trauma of being ghosted while pregnant — a woman who went through an ectopic pregnancy with no real support from the man who helped create the child. And finally, a woman torn between love and letting go asks the hardest question: how do you get over someone who was never going to choose you?
🖤 If you’ve ever loved hard, lost deeply, or healed loudly — this episode is for you.
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Tisia breaks it all down — with honesty, heart, and that signature real talk.
👇 Sound off in the comments. What’s the biggest red flag you see?
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This episode of Dear Tisia dives deep into four stories that’ll have you feeling everything — heartbreak, betrayal, silence, and survival.
We start with the devastating story of Jade Damarell, a seasoned skydiver who tragically lost her life just one day after a breakup. With questions swirling and pain echoing through the headlines, we explore what it means to support people through quiet suffering.
Then, we meet Precious — a woman who gave up everything for her husband, only to discover he was cheating with her cousin. Her story isn’t just about betrayal — it’s about the brave road back to self-worth.
Next, we unpack the trauma of being ghosted while pregnant — a woman who went through an ectopic pregnancy with no real support from the man who helped create the child. And finally, a woman torn between love and letting go asks the hardest question: how do you get over someone who was never going to choose you?
🖤 If you’ve ever loved hard, lost deeply, or healed loudly — this episode is for you.
🩷Fragrance: Byredo Young Rose
Tisia breaks it all down — with honesty, heart, and that signature real talk.
👇 Sound off in the comments. What’s the biggest red flag you see?
Call In Here: https://www.relationshiprestored.com/deartisiawrite-in
🔔 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share with someone who needs to hear this.
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Speaker 1 (00:12):
Welcome back to Dear to See It. This is gonna
be so good, y'all. We're on episode four. I hope
y'all really is jo meself, y'all. This is my best work.
I always say this, list y'all, this is my best work.
I've told y'all. I've been on Instagram, I've been on TikTok,
I've been on but YouTube is like, baby, come on in,
(00:33):
come in real close, come in. You know, this is
like my sacred really good one chair, one mic, one chair,
one mic.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Okay, and this.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Is just really just my It's really just where I
feel the safest. All right, So if you really want
to know who Dear to See It is and all
about my show and all the goodness, Okay, no filter. Look,
nobody's censoring us. No being black ball on the internet. Child, Okay,
(01:03):
come on in real close to there to see it
on YouTube, Apple Music, Apple podcasts, and Spotify. Okay, period.
All right, we have some reminders we want to get to.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
We want you to leave a five star review on
Apple Podcasts and Spotify, not two star, not four star,
five star. Don't play on my name, all right, if
you you're on episode four, So you're locked in this way.
You're on episode four, so you're here to stay, all right,
So go on ahead and go on Apple Podcasts. If
you got an iPhone, you got Apple Podcasts. If you've
(01:41):
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to you, baby, no subscription necessary or right, go ahead
and look, get on, get on there, all right, give
a five star review so we can keep climbing up
the charts. We already at number five, I got it,
didre We still at number five? Okay, we are already
at number five, all right. We were thirteen, then we
(02:03):
was eight, now we had five, all right, So clearly
we're making our mark all right in these podcast streets,
all right, top black podcast in the world in a
relationship category period point in the motherfucking plank, I told
y'all wonn't gonna play, all right, you know, I did
did this whole thing where I wanted to get to
(02:24):
a million followers by my birthday. But you know what,
God does all things well, and I think God was
saying that, like the podcast space, you're gonna be number
one again. I'm number five. I don't know who won two,
three and four is, but I'm on your ass, whomever y'all,
whomever y'all are, I'm on your ass okay, period, be
prepared for me to slide in and take your shit.
(02:46):
And that's its on period. And I don't give a fuck. Okay,
I don't care whoever, whomever y'all little Relationship podcast or
whomever is in the relationship category category that y'all want, two,
three and four. I'm on your ass. I'm gonna be
I'm gonna take your spot in a couple of weeks.
That's just on period. Okay. So there is that. There's that.
So we're trying to get five star reviews. We're trying
(03:07):
to have y'all leave reviews for your to see it
in a Relationship a Relationship Restored YouTube channel. Okay. We
have a goal by Labor day. Labor Day, we have
a goal, and y'all know I love setting goals. If
y'all follow me, you know that I went around like
a banjie, like a gorilla. Okay, gorilla style. One thing
(03:28):
about me, See that's your problem, y'all. Bitches got too
much ego and too much pride. I'm a dog about
my shit. Okay, I will go I don't give a fuck.
I don't care about pride, I don't care about ego.
I don't care about losing. Some people may think, like,
oh my god, to see you never got to a
million followers. You said you're gonna get to a million.
I did shit that you bitious. Okay, we're scared the
(03:49):
fucking do And that's just what it is, all right.
I'm not ever scared. When I step about me and mine,
I step on my name. Okay, so I'm prepared to
come to the carpet about me and mine. And I
did say that I wanted to get to a million
follows by my birthday. My birthday was April twentieth. I
didn't get it, but I got it now. Okay, you
gotta watch how God. Listen loo Gaby over here tapping
(04:11):
her look clockt Okay, you gotta watch how God prepare
a carpet for you. And even though I didn't get
to a million followers by my birthday, what I will
say is that I wasn't scared to step on my behalf.
And a lot of y'all got dreams and goals and
ideas that you ain't scared. I will go out here
(04:32):
and ask a homeless person to follow me on Instagram.
The men ain't even got a phone. Okay, I be like,
follow me on Instagram. I don't give a fuck, okay,
And that's a difference between me and you. That's the
difference between me and you. I ain't scared to step
on me in mine. And so you know, I've said
(04:54):
that I wanted to get in to a million follows
by my birthday, but I feel like this, this podcast
space is my space. I got about I'm gaining one hundred,
I'm gaining a thousand followers a day. Sixty days, I'll
be at a mill a milli okay, and that's just
that on that okay, right period?
Speaker 4 (05:10):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Anyways, fifty thousand followers on Apple Podcasts, five hundred reviews,
we already had two fifty. That means you already loved me. Okay,
you already loved me. You already hear you already. Look,
you already relate only the real care relate. You can't
talk giraffes to a turtle baby, okay, So you girafts giraffe,
you already hear so. Okay, So we already a two
(05:31):
hundred and fifty two hundred and fifty reviews and then
we need one hundred thousand subscribers on both channels. We
already there. It's nothing, nothing, tool but to do it. Okay.
In our peanut gallery today we have my good sister Gabby. Okay,
and now I've said this before, but Gabby was one
of the first girls, girls, girls to invite me into
(05:54):
the DC the DC like social like events scene. I
don't think anybody knows this, but like, I kind of
grew up a loaner and I am low key a loaner,
so like I'm not I'm not a cloud chaser. Like
people that meet me, they'll be like, to see you
the same person on Instagram, but you then you are
in person, and that's like one of my biggest compliments.
(06:16):
I don't really care about the who's who, the like
and the cruise, the clicks and none of that. But
Gabby was one of the first girls girls that invited
me into the DC like socialite events scene, and we've
been locked in ever since. Okay, love Gabby. Gabby is
look Lydy in the City, Big, what's the other one?
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Even?
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Great Great Energy Group, Great Energy Group, Great Energy Group,
Lydi in the City. Follow them if you're ever looking
for events and stuff on Instagram. Okay, so now we're
on to our review so we gotta you know, nothing
I'm biased or anything, but you know, we do have
we have some great reviews coming in and one of
(06:59):
the said you should be here. One of the reviews said,
you should be here if you haven't been listening. What
are you doing? Literally, what are you doing if you
haven't been listening? What are you doing to see? It
is down to earth, no nonsense and the dating coach
that you need tune in on Apple, podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube.
(07:19):
And I honestly, I feel like that's probably like the
most concise way to describe me, that I am down
to earth, no nonsense, okay, and the dating coach that
you need. I feel like so many women you just
looking for that smack in the face. And I feel
like that's why I give you. And people think I'm
crazy because they're like, well, you didn't even listen to
(07:42):
the problem, and I was like, I know the problem,
and the issue is that women want to hear what
the final resort result is, and so many women sit
in therapy for three or five years hoping that their
therapist is gonna tell them he's not the one for you.
I'm looking at the camera. I'm gonna tell you he's
not the one for you. Okay, he's not. I keep
(08:02):
a straight trill, straight to the point period. Okay. And
I love the no nonsense that you wrote. So anyways,
I love that. Thank you so much for running all
that too. All of that. So we're going to go
on to our first segment of our red flag report. Okay,
my reading this, Okay, dre In a heartbreaking case out
(08:24):
of County Durham, thirty two year old skydiver Jade Damarrell
died after reportedly jumping from ten thousand feet without deploying
her parachute, just one day after ending her relationship with
boyfriend Ben Goodfellow. With over four hundred drum jumps under
(08:50):
her belt. Jay was considered experience and authorizes confirm and
authorities confirm there was no equipment failures on third party involvement.
Letters found at the scene suggest the act was intentional
at the inquest. As the inquest continues, many are left
(09:12):
asking how do we support people silently struggling, especially after
a heartbreak almost hard, you know what, Like this type
of stuff gives me, like so emotional because I've seen
this so much in my life. You will see women
dating a guy, and that guy that relationship doesn't work out,
(09:37):
and these women are at the end of their rope. Okay,
they're at the end of their rope. And I think,
what this this this clip is saying, is that number one,
she jumped four hundred plus times so she know what's up.
(09:57):
That they also checked and that there was no discrepancies
in like the equipment or things like that, and that
letters later on described that there may be intentional, yeah,
intentionality behind this. And I submitted this this this one
(10:21):
in particular, and when I and this one touched me
because I've seen women on that deep end, right and
we always talk about like, oh yeah, girl, like make
sure I don't jump off the deep end. This woman
jump off the deep.
Speaker 4 (10:34):
End literally, seriously.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
Like lyriacy, literally and figuratively. She jumped off the deep end.
And I just want you to know that it's this
may and all of my glory sound dismissive, but it's not.
It's not that serious. Okay, A person that you loved
that's breathing the same, it has the same twenty four
(11:02):
hours in the end of the day. Okay, it's going
to get better. Time would heal wrap yourself and people
that love and care about you, but a man breaking
up with you?
Speaker 4 (11:16):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
This is actually why I just just I decided to
create my Secret Girls Chat. It's because I had so
many women that were at their wits in about regular,
regular situations. And you know what's odd. Once upon a
(11:37):
time I was traveling to Ghana, and I was going
to Ghana, and you know, so many people in the
chat were like, we had like a group chat, and
so many women are like, well can you get this?
Or what do you do? And what do you how
you do this and blah blah blah. And this was
my first trip out the country. But what I realized
(11:58):
is that I had so much much more grit on
me to withstand the test of time. And there was
a point in my life where I was ashamed of poverty. Okay,
because I grew up back and forth between poverty. Right,
I was ashamed of poverty. And I also was ashamed
of my lineage in my family history. Right, I was
(12:20):
ashamed of saying both of my parents have been an addict. Okay,
I was ashamed of saying, like nobody in my family
is married. I've had so many pregnancies out of the
wetlock and all this stuff, right, and just like people
that just you know, when you meet a partner and
you want to welcome somebody into your family, my saying
(12:43):
to myself is like, good, either you come into the
fucking pooky and Ray Ray cookout, or you not. Like
I don't have any profound fucking family to give you, right,
Like I don't have this like just like face value
type of like family where you would be like, wow,
(13:05):
her uncle's this, her father's that, her mind on paper.
Speaker 3 (13:11):
You know.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
However, I grew years and years and years. I grew
up ashamed of my lineage and just like not having
family that was textbooks to be proud of. And then
I grew the fuck up and I said, you bitch
just can't handle shit. And I realized that crazy enough,
(13:36):
my trauma became a like a strength. My trauma became
a strength because I know what it's like to turn
on my stole when the lights and the heat ain't blowing. Okay,
I know what it's like to literally blow heat from
an oven because it's a whole light because it's cold. Okay,
(13:59):
I know what it's like to like not have your
mom be able to pay for school pictures or the
track met or thing extracurricular activities. And then when I
looked up and I was like, why am I ashamed
of something that is like, it's my stripes, it's my story.
(14:19):
It's actually something that really low key has put me
mouths ahead of you. That's the truth, like my story
that I was literally once ashamed of and was like, well,
why would a man want my kind of family? Full
of drug addicts, full of poverty, full of uneducated people,
(14:42):
full of unwed mothers. Okay, But then I look back
and I was like, put me in a race, put
me toe to toe with anybody. I'm smoking your ass
period period. I'm smoking you because I I have had
to deal with so much trial triumph and I have
(15:04):
had to build so much agility. And that really made
me think like I'm not I'm not ashamed of where
I come from anymore, because somebody that truly gets to
know me and gets to know where I come from
in my life and like where my heart is, like
I literally a mouse ahead of you, you know, like
(15:24):
literally like I MOUs ahead of you, you know, So
that that has been something that has really like truly
touched me, you know, and it's just not that it's
really baseline, just really not that serious. And I see,
I've seen so many women jump off the deep end
(15:45):
literally literally and figuratively for just life love friends, I
mean relationship, you know, and it sounds like that relationship
turned up turned switch in her.
Speaker 3 (16:01):
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 4 (16:02):
And I also just the paperball with what you're saying.
I just think that also one of your one of
the things that you can that you have brought through
your trauma and through your life is like nothing is
gonna stop me, you know. I think unfortunately with this
young lady, it was just like that that relationship she
kind of maybe invested too much of herself in that,
(16:23):
and so she felt like since that ended, she had
to end.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Nope. Jez has lyrics. First of all, I love GZ.
Jez had lyrics and it says, when it just know,
if there's a will, there's a motherfucking way when it
comes to me and mine, I don't motherfucking play, Okay,
Jez said that. Shout out to Jez Okay, and when
I tell you, when I don't play, I'm not scared
(16:50):
of jump ship. I'm not scared to figure it the
fuck out. I'm not scared to follow on my face. Okay,
I literally told the Internet that I was gonna get
to a million follows by my birthday and I didn't
make it. But I was as scared of the shame
of that, right, And I think that that comes with
you got to go through some stuff and have been
through some things to be able to accept that, Like
(17:11):
things may not work out and things may not objects
in the mirror seem larger than they have here, you
know what I'm saying. You have to really realize, like
you know, maybe it could be it could be not,
but if you don't try, then you'll never know. You'll
never figure it out either way. And I always tell
(17:32):
people my parents died at the camera. My father died
at forty seven years old. My mom died before she
was sixty five. Baby, none of this shit really fucking
matters to me, right, Like, when you've seen enough, when
you've been through enough grief, Like it's like I've I've
(17:56):
seen a lot, Like the worst things in life have
already happened to me. Literally, the worst things have already
happened to me. So I think that it gives you
like a new perspective. But even if I didn't have
the life experiences I have, it's just to women, y'all,
trust me, it is not worth it. You are worthy,
(18:16):
you are loved, You're a lot. People need you here
on this earth. Things will get better. Even if you
feel like it's the worst of what's happened to you,
It is going to get better. You just gotta stay around,
and you gotta stick around. And it's just very very
sad to see that a breakup triggered her in a
way where she didn't want to be on this earth anymore.
(18:39):
And that's very, very very sad. And that's why created
My Secret Girl Chat. Join My Secret Girl Chat is
for women who literally have felt at the end of
their rope. And I will say this that women have
said that joining my group chat, they have learned more
than thirty in thirty days then three years of therapy.
Speaker 4 (19:01):
That's that's that's amazing, Tea, Like, that's amazing. I hope
you know that, sister. That's big.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
Women have said that they have learned more in My
Girl's Chat in thirty days than being in therapy for
three four years.
Speaker 4 (19:16):
Okay, can we talk about people not being honest in therapy,
they probably feel more honest. They feel gona comes to
being honest with you. And I'm so happy if you
created you have created that space. Yeah, because I.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
Think it's because I keep it. I keep it real.
Speaker 4 (19:28):
Back with them, straight shooter.
Speaker 1 (19:30):
Straight look, straight shooter. And and it may seem like
I think, like maybe like even a little mean or
a little dismissed up. And I think that like you
gotta hear the beer bones of things for you to
really kind of you know, soaking that.
Speaker 4 (19:43):
So why when they say it tay a little hurt
to motivate you. Huh, So it hurt my feelings a
little bit? Tell me I'm being delusion, you know.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
I just talked about this. A girl was like she's
she wrote me a voice note in my chat and
she said, I was so embarrassed. Embarrassment is good. That's
the thing. These people have overhealed. We have in the US.
We have overhealed. Embarrassment is a good emotion.
Speaker 4 (20:06):
You will never forget that.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
And the typical thing is that people are like, don't
be embarrassed. You didn't know. Embarrassment is very good. Okay,
Embarrassment will keep you from doing that shit the fuck again. Okay,
Embarrassment will keep you from like you need to be
embarrassed a little bit.
Speaker 4 (20:26):
No, No, the embarrassment is good. You will it's etched
in your brain. I will never go out wearing this.
I would never do this.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
I was telling this story real, real quick, because I know,
I know we got to move on and take the
story real quick. Once upon a time, child, I met
this I dated this man. He was a complete narcissist.
He it was. It was so bad. And I know
people use narcissism loosely, but if he was a complete
narcisst textbook textbook narcissist. And this man changed the DNA
of who I am, right. I dated this man once
upon a time and my friend called me and she said,
(20:57):
to see a I don't know if you know, but
you pocket diwed me. And she said, you were arguing
with so and so in the car and I heard
the whole fucking thing. She said, the belt of the
cry that I heard on my voicemail. To see you,
(21:18):
she said, I can send you the recording. I had
got into an argument with the man that I was dating,
and mistakenly pocket down my friend and she heard it
on her voicemail. That embarrassment made me never call that
nigga ever the fuck again. Okay. I was so embarrassed, Gabby,
(21:41):
she heard me crying, screaming, She heard the whole argument.
Can you imagine staying with that man after my friend
heard me? I was so fucking embarrassed. Embarrassment is a
good thing. Embarrassedment I will keep you from making the same
(22:02):
mistake over and over again. And just knowing that somebody
heard my private cry, I could never go back to
that meaning Hello, thank you God for that butt dial. Okay.
I was so embarrassed as to what she heard on
that voicemail that I never called that nigga ever the
(22:26):
fuck again, having I never called him back. And you
want to be embarrassed, Okay. Embarrassed is an embarrassed man
is a good thing. It'll keep you from doing a
whole bunch of shit. Okay. Anyways, we're back. We're back
on toping too. Okay. Do you want me to read this? Dray?
A woman named Precious has gone viral on TikTok after
(22:48):
sharing that her husband of seven years and partner of twelve,
was having a year long emotional and sexual affair with
her first cousin. First cousin hit different, someone she once
called her sister and best friend. After sacrificing her job
for a one K and peace of mind to support him,
(23:11):
she discovered messages, videos, and betrayal that cut deeper than
she could imagine. Now, a single, single mother of four
in therapy three times a week, Precious is no longer
pretending she's okay. She's asking for help and healing out out.
I want y'all, y'all new viewers, to rewind. Okay, once
(23:35):
upon a time, when I told you bitch is not
to give a hundred percent, rub the motherfucking take no. Look,
when I told y'all not to give a hundred percent,
you said you sacrifice your job, your phll on one
K and peace of mind to support him.
Speaker 4 (23:59):
Going to their three times a day, three times a week,
three times a week, three times a week. Geez.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
This is the epitome of not giving one hundred percent.
This is what happens when you give it. Now, I
saw the clips. The woman is crying in the car. Okay, boohoo,
hoo hoo. She even called the cousin on the phone
and asked her why does she do this to her? Okay,
this is the epitome of when you give one hundred
(24:29):
percent and what happens when you give one hundred percent again,
you don't have the five to ten percent, which is
the shovel to dig you out of the shit when
shit got the fuck left. Please go back and look
at my clips when I said when you give one
hundred percent, you don't have the five to ten percent
to pivot when things go to fuck left. And you
(24:51):
had a cousin faith on your hands, literally and figuratively, Yes,
you had a cousin faith that was y'all. Y'all seen soulful.
If you don't, A'm revoking your black card, okay, if
you've never seen soul food. Faith was fucking my husband, yeah, okay.
(25:14):
And you gave everything, your four on one K and
sacrifice your job for a liar and a cheater.
Speaker 4 (25:23):
And he was giving money to the cousin.
Speaker 1 (25:26):
Right. We went further on this story. Okay, more news
at the top of the hour. Okay. And this woman
that was also he banked, he he depleted the bank
account and was given money to cousin Faith.
Speaker 4 (25:41):
Cousin is crazy.
Speaker 1 (25:43):
Cousin is absurd, and I a woman that you welcome
into your home.
Speaker 4 (25:48):
Best friend like, yeah, that that's by decembercent, I'm gonna
need that.
Speaker 1 (25:54):
Like when you say, like what she was asking what
did I do to deserve this? And the cousin cousin
faith was like, you didn't do anything. You didn't do
let me tell you this. You self abandoned. That's what
you did. Yeah, you jumped ship and you were so
invested in somebody else that you never did a tempt
(26:14):
check on your actual self. That's what the fuck you did. Okay,
You literally were so invested in him, and even in
just creating a safe space for other people to enter
your home, you forgot. Like it's like a mother bear
as a dog in you that you have or you
just like you know how your mama was like that
(26:36):
friend of yours. I don't like that.
Speaker 4 (26:43):
Birthday tins you like that one.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
I'd be like, sorry, Gabby and I some mother have
the same birthday, okay for twenty April twentieth. Okay, got
that sniff. You know you lost the mother bear right
that would have told you that something wasn't quite right.
Why are you moving some woman into your own first
cousin or not? Why are you moving some woman into
(27:10):
your house like that? You know you just you let
your guard down too, And I feel like that happens
when you like, you idolize people, when you don't like
even Baseline, I always say, like people be like to
see him. I'm a married woman, cannot join your group.
A man is a man as a man, You dating
a man? If you dating a man, you can join
(27:31):
my group.
Speaker 4 (27:32):
Child.
Speaker 1 (27:33):
If you dating a man, we can relate. If you
dating a man, I'm talking to you, okay. If you
dating a man, my messages are for you. Mary, divorced,
broken up, single, in a relationship. A man is a man,
is a man? You dating a man? Simple math? Simple math?
Speaker 4 (27:49):
Okay, a conversation, it's.
Speaker 1 (27:51):
All the same thing. If you're dealing with a man,
you can relate to the things that I'm saying. Okay.
And so this is just you know, these things Billy
touched me because so many women are not prepared for
that breakup. They're not prepared for the man to not
choose them. So please make sure you sure in a healthy,
(28:11):
decent enough space before you start, before you start dating,
because this woman clearly couldn't handle the relationship ending, and
I hope that things have settled, even just for her family.
You know that that's just that's just a lot. Any who,
any who, any who, God bless her, God bless her family.
(28:32):
If you ever feel like you are on the verge
of breaking or you just don't know how you would deal,
join my secret girl chat. I created that space just
for you. So I want to pray over that woman,
you know. Yeah, God bless her kids. It's a lot, Yes,
a lot. That's a lot. We're on to our bitch
you Smell Good segment. This is my fact yea, I
(28:55):
fak Okay, so I decide, first of all, I don't
know I got I have it. If you don't know,
I have over two hundred bottles of fragrance. So if
I post a fake, a fragrance that has nothing in
the fucking bottom, this is one of my This is
like an empty segment. If you've ever seen influences on Instagram,
(29:18):
and it is like, I'm gonna show y'all my empties
of products that I've used to the ground that I
just look I am posting an empty Okay. A friend
of mine actually recommended this fragrance, probably like a year ago, y'all.
This is Birado Young Gross, and I want y'all to
see that there are spirit Apparently.
Speaker 4 (29:39):
This is gone.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
If you have two hundred plus fragrances, and I don't
think I've ever hit the bottom of any fucking thing.
If I have to hit the bottom, it's only I
would say two to three fragrance that I've hit the
bottom and purchased again. Okay, And this one is very
special in particular because is such a good summer fragrance. Alright,
(30:03):
this is by Rado Young Ros, y'all, and it is
so freaking good, y'all, look at this. It is gone.
I'm baby, I'm at the I'm at the bottom. I
gotta look. I gotta lean this thing to get a spray. Look,
(30:24):
I gotta lean this to get the spray out of it.
It is so good. I have been stopped on the
elevator by husband's for this s fragrance. Like what is
that that you're wearing? Yes, it is so fir Let
me read this, look, let me read the notes. This
has amber rat seeds, soucon pepper orus zama's secona rose
(30:55):
bases are musk and am BROKESN I don't know, bitch
ABCD element of motherfucking pe. Okay, this is too freaking good. Okay,
I ain't tell you what I heard. I'm telling you
what I know. This fragrance is so good. I have
hit the bottom. It ain't nothing that I love enough
(31:15):
in this world. Okay, child, to hit the bottom. Okay,
this fragrance will get you stopped on the streets. And
that's just that's just that on that. Okay, it's too
good to be true, and I gotta re up. I
will be sending the email to my assistant to order
this again. Okay this, y'all, I gotta make it clear.
Look zoomy and child, I barely got a little liquid
(31:37):
at the bottom. This little little cord thing may not
even hit enough to actually spray again. Okay, it's too good.
This is birado. Young girls, y'all, trust me, Trust me.
I ain't gonna steer your own all right. You will
get stopped on the streets wherever you are wearing that fragrance,
all right. Anyway, there's a bit you smell goods us
(32:00):
segment look good, do good an empty all right, I
have depleted the bie. Okay, okay, we're on to segment three,
which is our you're to see a segment. I'm gonna
play a voicemail from a young lady that wrote us.
Speaker 2 (32:15):
Okay, there's just here. I recently just got out of
a ten year relationship and I started dating this guy.
He was really nice, he was really sweet, something so
totally different from what I was used to a relationship,
(32:37):
well more soil situationship moved kind of fast, and four
months and two I ended up finding out that I
was pregnant, only after he had ghosted me for about
three or four days, saying he had a lot going
on with his family. I wasn't gonna tell him about
the pregnancy, but I ended up telling him I just
want him to think that I was like trying to
keep him. He didn't show up for me, he didn't
(33:00):
like check on me. I told him how much the
abortion was. He sent the money right away. I ended
up having a topic pregnancy, so the abortion pill didn't work,
end up having to get one of my fallopian tubes removed,
and still has yet to check on me, but he
watches all my stories. I want this to I thought
(33:22):
I wanted it to work with him because it was
just like I didn't want to seem like a situation
right after my long term relationship failed. But it's really
given that I should just leave him in the past.
Speaker 1 (33:37):
Are we done? Look what moreningning bitch? He sent the cash,
Lotto said, shout out to Lotto. I love Lotto. Well,
I want to marry you. Spend that five hundred before
I let you trap me. Okay, that's what Lotto said.
He sent the cash. That told you all to know
(34:01):
he sent the money after you share with him how
much the abortion was. He sent the money. Continue to
ghost you never followed up. Never let people show you
exactly who they are. Let people do what they rather
do so you can see what they want to do.
Speaker 4 (34:23):
And can we talk about the story watches? Because I
like sometimes my friends talk about that, and I just
want us to know, like social media is not real,
Like it's not real. So I don't care if he's
looking at your story the first story, like, it doesn't.
Speaker 1 (34:39):
Matter, it doesn't matter, doesn't matter.
Speaker 4 (34:41):
Let him keep watching, Let him keep watching.
Speaker 1 (34:44):
This level sent the cash for the abortion.
Speaker 4 (34:48):
That's it. That's the last communication y'all needed at that point.
Speaker 1 (34:53):
He told you exactly what he wanted and for you
to even be thinking about or fathom me. First of all,
I'm so sorry about just the pregnancy, Like she seemed
like she has a difficult, difficult time with her pregnancy,
and she lost a Philapian tube. You know, all this
drunk women are going through so much. And I always say,
(35:16):
is that one of the number one ways that black
women are dying is by childbirth. And this is why
people be like you a dating coach and you ain't
got no kids. If you think I'm going to risk
my life for Pooky and ray Ray, you out of
your mind. Women are experiencing things just like this. She
lost a Philapian tube, okay, and she had to actually
(35:39):
go through an abortion. She went through an abortion, you know,
for this person. And so he already kind of told
you know, he already showed you what this is. And
so she says, now he silently watches her stories but
offers no real support. I always say, like, get your
(36:01):
big ticket items up front. It's so important when you
think about not every woman needs to be supported in
the same way. And when I see women that like,
for instance, I have friends and she's just like, I
just want an emotional connection. I want an emotional connection
out of this person. And I'm just like, well, why
(36:21):
are you meeting men that are emotionally unavailable and that
are you know, kind of you're emotionally fishing like this
person can't actually deliver on what you need. You don't
want to get in a relationship and then find out
those things right Like, you want to get your big
ticket items up front. If you feel like religion is
(36:43):
a big ticket item, if you feel like whether he
have kids or not, how busy he is, if he's
family family oriented, get your big ticket items up front.
Those are not the things that you want to try
to see that they develop over time or anything like that.
This man ghosted you after finding out that you were pregnant,
(37:05):
and you're sitting here saying, well, I don't know what
I should do if I should just let them go.
If you never had a red flag waving in your
face ever in your life, just know that today this
is it. Yeah, he don't want and he told you
he won't out.
Speaker 4 (37:23):
Yeah, lock him if that helps you stop thinking about
him looking at your story.
Speaker 1 (37:29):
Yeah, you know, people ask me should I block or
shouldn't should not block? It's always like, do you feel
threatened by this person? Is this something that's like disruptive
to your mental health that's important to block. But this
person has told you that that they want out.
Speaker 4 (37:47):
Actually they stopped talking to a red after a child. Yeah, nah,
if you.
Speaker 1 (37:56):
Need any sign Okay, again, I'm such a proponent of
just telling it to you straight flat out. This person
is not the one for you. This is not your person.
He's not gonna be with you. He probably will make
your pregnancy a living hell. Okay, you'll be stressed out,
and he's not somebody that you will want to pro
(38:18):
create with. Simple, This is not somebody that you want
to procreate with. And I think that just we you
sugarcoat a lot of shit. It's like, oh, well, listen,
this is not your person. He's not gonna want to
be with you. He's gonna be a terrible partner. And
this is probably not somebody that you want to procreate with. Okay,
he sent the cash baby, period, spend that five hundred. Listen,
(38:44):
listen a lot of song. Okay, this person will whether
spend a five hundred for I let you trap me. Okay,
he didn't want to be trapped. He sent the cash
that told you all you need to know. Take that.
Take that as a freedom. You know you now don't
(39:05):
have no child by men who never wanted it. Okay, look, okay,
that that is just too it's just too deep, and
especially in this political climate with the men that we
have in office. We have a girl in our group
chat who had to fly fly to another city to
(39:26):
get another state to get a procedure done. I paid
for that flight, and now that's all I'm gonna say
about that. Okay, there are in this political climate, there
are people that have to travel to get certain services
(39:47):
and things done. Okay, you got out, don't ever get
in again. Okay, anyway to boys form number two, he's
not gonna pick me. Let's talk about Okay, let's hear
vorce on number two.
Speaker 3 (40:05):
There to Siya, I am in love with this man
and he have a girlfriend who is also his baby's mom.
When we talk to each other, we the chemistry is
like out of this world.
Speaker 1 (40:27):
We both look so good together.
Speaker 3 (40:30):
It's like really nothing that I can can say that
it makes me not want to be with him, but
he doesn't want the same thing that I want. I
don't know what to do.
Speaker 1 (40:48):
I really want to like get over him.
Speaker 4 (40:50):
It's just.
Speaker 3 (40:52):
Seeing his name on Instagram and just seeing his name
on TV or seeing his name on bill boards, like
it always triggers me, and I really want to figure
out a way to get over him. So my question
is how can I get over a man that I
know for sure is not going to pick me, that
I know for sure that does not want nothing with me?
(41:15):
Thank you?
Speaker 1 (41:17):
You know what? The interesting thing is that she said
she's constantly triggered by seeing his name online and in public.
So it sounds like to me, this man is some
type of like big figure, yes, or boards or billboards
or some type of like celebrity or something like that. Right.
But the thing is that, like our chemistry is undeniable,
(41:41):
there's really nothing that There's really nothing. I can tell
you a whole bunch of somethings. You said, he has
a girlfriend who was the mother of his child, and
despite their undeniable chemistry, he doesn't want the same things.
That's a lot of something. That's a lot of something.
(42:02):
He has a girlfriend, he's involved, he's emotionally unavailable, and
he doesn't want the same things that you want. Chemistry
is gonna out trump all of this, No way, no way,
no jose. Chemistry all of you said has the chemistry
(42:24):
is undeniable. And I don't know anything that I know anything.
I know something. He has a girlfriend, he has a
child's mother, and that he doesn't want the same things
that you want. And you know that, and you know
that's a lot of things that I can point to. Okay,
(42:44):
but you somehow isn't seeing it. So you said, how
do you get over a man who you know that
will never choose you. I want you to start being disgusted,
unattracted to men. I only like you. I only like
you when you love me. I don't start liking you
until you love me. Make that man go to the
(43:06):
end of the fuck across the red sea right before
you start investing emotionally into this. And this man has
been breadcrumbing you. Chemistry is a scam. The butter's nice, though,
the butterflies that you feel is a scam. I told y'all,
I become a slow burn girl. I used to be
a love bomb girl. I bitch love bomb me because
(43:29):
I understand, I understand white. I used to be a
love bomb girl where I wanted to go fast. I
wanted this like chemistry. I wanted to be like girl
guess to who I met blah blah. Now I've become
a slow burn girl. Okay, I want consistency. I want
a man who just takes his time and it's just
(43:52):
as picky as I am. Well, I'm just like he
cares about the women that he's invited into his life.
He cares about who he shares his highs and lows with.
He cares about the highlights of his day, he cares
about who he's sharing those things with. I want to
be a slow burn girl. I used to be a
(44:13):
love bomb girl, where I just wanted like that Caribbean
high you know, you represent the Caribbean man. He's just
like Wow, everything is just fast and furious, faster. Okay,
everything is faster, it's just hot. I'm now I want slow.
(44:35):
I want to I'm a slow burn kind of girl.
And this is kind of kind of what she's describing.
It's just like, how do you know, how do you
walk away from men that will never choose you? You
need to be literally so unattracted to somebody who hasn't
put you first, that hasn't made their request known, that
(44:55):
hasn't made a wager that haven't said this is what
I want, that hasn't provided clarity. Okay, you don't want
to be confused, all right, And this is just really
just like self discipline.
Speaker 4 (45:06):
Yeah, I was gonna say that in self love because
it just sounds like the chemistry is outweighing what you deserve, sister, Like.
Speaker 1 (45:15):
Chemistry is a out like he's.
Speaker 4 (45:18):
Girlfriend and a baby and a baby mom, and he
know he's gonna like he's not going, he's not leaving her,
Like I want you to love yourself because you clearly
you gotta have you get somebody else.
Speaker 1 (45:29):
But also, like this is me to the camera, ladies,
we have to start fining. We have to start holding
ourselves accountable. You shouldn't have ever been in a predicament
where you can have so much chemistry with a nigga
that got a girlfriend the.
Speaker 4 (45:45):
Moment a man said he got a girl, A man
that got.
Speaker 1 (45:48):
A girl, can't fucking call me literally hello, a man
that got a girlfriend. And it's not even just that,
not just a man I got a girlfriend. Once upon
a time, I was saving the dude, loup very lucy
dating a dude, and I find out. What I found
out is that when this particular girl was in a room,
he moved, funny, Oh, when you got a woman in
(46:12):
a room that you can't fuck with me? How you
fuck with me? Because this girl is there, she's your owner,
and you're in a relationship with her. If you cannot
deal with me and speak to me and step to
me on your own two feet without he bought a
whole wingman. I said, is that you at the table
(46:35):
across from me? He was like, yeah, I'm gonna come
over there and speak. And next you know, he had
a friend with him, and I'm like, nigga, why are
you bring your friend? The girl was there, and so
he had to bring a friend. He had he had
to bring a friend, Yeah, to buffer to be able
to say, y'all not low, y'all not low. You ain't low, nigga,
(46:56):
you ain't slick. You had to bring a friend to
come fucking speak to me because the girl was in
the room and you in a relationship, bro, and you
beeped it.
Speaker 4 (47:07):
It's like, bro, like at that point, bro, sit down,
let's talk. Let's just talk real.
Speaker 1 (47:12):
If there's a woman in your life that you can't move,
how you want to move with anybody? Else because that
girl is present. You're in a fucking relationship. Blink if
you need help, nigga.
Speaker 4 (47:26):
Okay, no, it's like you want to be there though,
Like you want to be there because you're.
Speaker 1 (47:31):
You have an allegiance to somebody that I don't know about.
Speaker 4 (47:34):
And then that's and like, let's be honest about that, right,
don't lie because I see you're for your back straight,
your backstick can't even move correctly.
Speaker 1 (47:43):
You had to bring the homie to come over and
spend me.
Speaker 4 (47:46):
Did you even know him?
Speaker 3 (47:47):
Like?
Speaker 4 (47:47):
Boy, what about? Why am I mean?
Speaker 1 (47:48):
People like Cually, I'm like your section. Mind you you
in a section with ten people. I'm in a section
with two bitches. That should tell you all you need
to know. Okay, you had to across the room with
a friend to say hello to me because your girlfriend
that you claim you're not in a relationship with is there.
Speaker 4 (48:09):
The drama, The drama, the drama.
Speaker 1 (48:12):
Bro, if there's an email, listen to this. If you
are in a relationship, if you are in any type
of situationship where a woman that is present is gonna
dictate how you can move, you are in a relationship, dog, Yeah,
you're in a relationship. You're involved, you can be like, oh,
we're not committed, We're not. No, if you cannot move,
(48:35):
how you will naturally move because you have some type
of allegiance or you have to respect this woman enough
that now you got to get the peanut gallery to
come speak to me. You're in a relationship period, Okay, anyways,
I'm off that so viot, that's what you said. There
(48:55):
should be no opportunity where you have gotten so connected
to a man that that is in a relationship. You knew,
you told me that he has a girlfriend, So how
do you have that much chemistry? We gotta start holding
women accountable. You should not have made that type of
connection or chemistry with a man who has a girlfriend.
(49:18):
It's weird you you deserve everything that came.
Speaker 4 (49:22):
Back to you. That you deserve that No, because one
day you're gonna be that woman you want, Like what
the hell?
Speaker 1 (49:29):
Like always tell women, I've never been married, I've never
been engaged. I don't want no karmer coming back to me.
The moment you tell me you involved, you will never
hear from me again.
Speaker 4 (49:43):
Like that that's that's really my that's my friend.
Speaker 1 (49:46):
Like that acquaintance, I would drop you as a friend either.
Speaker 4 (49:49):
No, that's all my friend.
Speaker 1 (49:53):
No I have I want so much favor over my marriage, Okay.
I will not deal with the moment you tell me
you got to you in a relationship, you got a girlfriend,
or y'all separated, you not fully divorced you. I will
never talk to you again. I want so much favor
over my marriage because I want to do it one time, okay,
(50:15):
and I want the one time to be so good.
I'm not willing to risk any friends, fold colleagues, or
random men that are in situations or relationships with women.
I don't want that on my marriage. Okay. I don't
play those kind of games. So to you, sister, you
should have never been able to experience this level of
(50:39):
undeniable chemistry, which is what you wrote, undeniable chemistry with
a man who had a girlfriend. That's on you, and
you deserve the day that you relationship. Then you deserve
the day that you're voted for. You deserve the day
that you relationship did and you relationship with a man
who is in a relationship ship and you deserve that day.
(51:01):
So don't fucking write me talk about so you want
some help. You don't need no help. You get the
day that you that's what you get.
Speaker 4 (51:09):
You deserve, You get the day you deserved.
Speaker 1 (51:11):
That's what that's what bitch.
Speaker 3 (51:13):
Not write me.
Speaker 1 (51:14):
Don't write me talking about that. I need help. You
get the day that you deserve. And the man was
in a relationship, and that's what you get. Love you
mean it like he's gonna do the same, Like look
what he's doing. Oh my gosh, you got undeniable connection
with a man who had.
Speaker 4 (51:31):
A girlfriend and you see how he's carrying on.
Speaker 1 (51:33):
Hello, No, you got to start holding women accountable. You get,
that's what you deserve. Anyway, it's love that love you
min it anyway, It's okay, I do something else, tray
this is a that's then okay, period. Well there's that.
That's relation. That's Episode four, Episode four. Shout out to
(51:54):
the girls and everybody that wrote me. You get the
day that you made. You gotta lay in the bed
that you created, and there is no way that you
should ever have the connection, that type of undeniable chemistry
with the man that you know that has a girlfriend.
You gotta start holding women accountable and it's just not okay,
(52:16):
it's not okay. You know, be even on your worst day.
Be a girl's girl, Be somebody that you know you
want to respect other people's union. You know you shouldn't.
You shouldn't have been involved at all with that man.
Speaker 4 (52:29):
And like, so the question was what's what what should
she do? Like love yourself more because when you're like,
why would I ever be aside joned to a billboard guy?
A guy doing this? But baby, I need to be
right here on Brett Crabby with you.
Speaker 1 (52:46):
I hate seeing his name, I hate seeing his.
Speaker 4 (52:49):
Oh you're giving him way too much power, my love,
Like no, no.
Speaker 1 (52:53):
Yeah, And honestly, like that's not the type of guy
that you just want in general, Like they just have
so many many more isms that come with that. And
just baseline, like you know you get the day like
you wanted to be big dog. That's what you get.
That's you get, and I don't feel sorry about it.
You wanted to be big dog. You they did a
(53:14):
man who had a girlfriend.
Speaker 4 (53:18):
I knew about that before you started dating him, Just
saying like you didn't just stumble into that fact, dear to.
Speaker 1 (53:25):
See you should I joh, stop fucking with pitchus, nigga,
that's it. You knew he was in.
Speaker 4 (53:31):
Even if he's on your head, on your body, he
down your phone.
Speaker 1 (53:34):
On your body. Undeniable connection. Listen, nobody's man. Anybody who
has a girlfriend cannot undeniably connect with me. Baby a period,
you can't connect with me.
Speaker 4 (53:49):
This is awkward, it's weird. Into the car.
Speaker 1 (53:52):
Hello, is this a three times we sister wives? Anybody
who has a girlfriend would never experience an undeniable connection
with me. There's no connection. You're involved.
Speaker 4 (54:05):
You have a girl privilege to be in the energy
to see it.
Speaker 1 (54:08):
What are you teaching him? You're teaching him that you're
willing to always say, don't be that understanding, don't be
that agile. You don't I always say that, but just
too understanding. You got too much sympathy and too much empathy.
What are you teaching him that he can say, YO, know,
(54:29):
I kind of got a situation on my hands right
now when I'm trying to get up and you're like, Okay,
I understand. Thanks for being honest girl, Good fucking night. Anyways,
that's episode four. If you're to see him, see you
next time.
Welcome back to Dear to See It. This is gonna
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(03:07):
to have y'all leave reviews for your to see it
in a Relationship a Relationship Restored YouTube channel. Okay. We
have a goal by Labor day. Labor Day, we have
a goal, and y'all know I love setting goals. If
y'all follow me, you know that I went around like
a banjie, like a gorilla. Okay, gorilla style. One thing
(03:28):
about me, See that's your problem, y'all. Bitches got too
much ego and too much pride. I'm a dog about
my shit. Okay, I will go I don't give a fuck.
I don't care about pride, I don't care about ego.
I don't care about losing. Some people may think, like,
oh my god, to see you never got to a
million followers. You said you're gonna get to a million.
I did shit that you bitious. Okay, we're scared the
(03:49):
fucking do And that's just what it is, all right.
I'm not ever scared. When I step about me and mine,
I step on my name. Okay, so I'm prepared to
come to the carpet about me and mine. And I
did say that I wanted to get to a million
follows by my birthday. My birthday was April twentieth. I
didn't get it, but I got it now. Okay, you
gotta watch how God. Listen loo Gaby over here tapping
(04:11):
her look clockt Okay, you gotta watch how God prepare
a carpet for you. And even though I didn't get
to a million followers by my birthday, what I will
say is that I wasn't scared to step on my behalf.
And a lot of y'all got dreams and goals and
ideas that you ain't scared. I will go out here
(04:32):
and ask a homeless person to follow me on Instagram.
The men ain't even got a phone. Okay, I be like,
follow me on Instagram. I don't give a fuck, okay,
And that's a difference between me and you. That's the
difference between me and you. I ain't scared to step
on me in mine. And so you know, I've said
(04:54):
that I wanted to get in to a million follows
by my birthday, but I feel like this, this podcast
space is my space. I got about I'm gaining one hundred,
I'm gaining a thousand followers a day. Sixty days, I'll
be at a mill a milli okay, and that's just
that on that okay, right period?
Speaker 4 (05:10):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Anyways, fifty thousand followers on Apple Podcasts, five hundred reviews,
we already had two fifty. That means you already loved me. Okay,
you already loved me. You already hear you already. Look,
you already relate only the real care relate. You can't
talk giraffes to a turtle baby, okay, So you girafts giraffe,
you already hear so. Okay, So we already a two
(05:31):
hundred and fifty two hundred and fifty reviews and then
we need one hundred thousand subscribers on both channels. We
already there. It's nothing, nothing, tool but to do it. Okay.
In our peanut gallery today we have my good sister Gabby. Okay,
and now I've said this before, but Gabby was one
of the first girls, girls, girls to invite me into
(05:54):
the DC the DC like social like events scene. I
don't think anybody knows this, but like, I kind of
grew up a loaner and I am low key a loaner,
so like I'm not I'm not a cloud chaser. Like
people that meet me, they'll be like, to see you
the same person on Instagram, but you then you are
in person, and that's like one of my biggest compliments.
(06:16):
I don't really care about the who's who, the like
and the cruise, the clicks and none of that. But
Gabby was one of the first girls girls that invited
me into the DC like socialite events scene, and we've
been locked in ever since. Okay, love Gabby. Gabby is
look Lydy in the City, Big, what's the other one?
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Even?
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Great Great Energy Group, Great Energy Group, Great Energy Group,
Lydi in the City. Follow them if you're ever looking
for events and stuff on Instagram. Okay, so now we're
on to our review so we gotta you know, nothing
I'm biased or anything, but you know, we do have
we have some great reviews coming in and one of
(06:59):
the said you should be here. One of the reviews said,
you should be here if you haven't been listening. What
are you doing? Literally, what are you doing if you
haven't been listening? What are you doing to see? It
is down to earth, no nonsense and the dating coach
that you need tune in on Apple, podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube.
(07:19):
And I honestly, I feel like that's probably like the
most concise way to describe me, that I am down
to earth, no nonsense, okay, and the dating coach that
you need. I feel like so many women you just
looking for that smack in the face. And I feel
like that's why I give you. And people think I'm
crazy because they're like, well, you didn't even listen to
(07:42):
the problem, and I was like, I know the problem,
and the issue is that women want to hear what
the final resort result is, and so many women sit
in therapy for three or five years hoping that their
therapist is gonna tell them he's not the one for you.
I'm looking at the camera. I'm gonna tell you he's
not the one for you. Okay, he's not. I keep
(08:02):
a straight trill, straight to the point period. Okay. And
I love the no nonsense that you wrote. So anyways,
I love that. Thank you so much for running all
that too. All of that. So we're going to go
on to our first segment of our red flag report. Okay,
my reading this, Okay, dre In a heartbreaking case out
(08:24):
of County Durham, thirty two year old skydiver Jade Damarrell
died after reportedly jumping from ten thousand feet without deploying
her parachute, just one day after ending her relationship with
boyfriend Ben Goodfellow. With over four hundred drum jumps under
(08:50):
her belt. Jay was considered experience and authorizes confirm and
authorities confirm there was no equipment failures on third party involvement.
Letters found at the scene suggest the act was intentional
at the inquest. As the inquest continues, many are left
(09:12):
asking how do we support people silently struggling, especially after
a heartbreak almost hard, you know what, Like this type
of stuff gives me, like so emotional because I've seen
this so much in my life. You will see women
dating a guy, and that guy that relationship doesn't work out,
(09:37):
and these women are at the end of their rope. Okay,
they're at the end of their rope. And I think,
what this this this clip is saying, is that number one,
she jumped four hundred plus times so she know what's up.
(09:57):
That they also checked and that there was no discrepancies
in like the equipment or things like that, and that
letters later on described that there may be intentional, yeah,
intentionality behind this. And I submitted this this this one
(10:21):
in particular, and when I and this one touched me
because I've seen women on that deep end, right and
we always talk about like, oh yeah, girl, like make
sure I don't jump off the deep end. This woman
jump off the deep.
Speaker 4 (10:34):
End literally, seriously.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
Like lyriacy, literally and figuratively. She jumped off the deep end.
And I just want you to know that it's this
may and all of my glory sound dismissive, but it's not.
It's not that serious. Okay, A person that you loved
that's breathing the same, it has the same twenty four
(11:02):
hours in the end of the day. Okay, it's going
to get better. Time would heal wrap yourself and people
that love and care about you, but a man breaking
up with you?
Speaker 4 (11:16):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
This is actually why I just just I decided to
create my Secret Girls Chat. It's because I had so
many women that were at their wits in about regular,
regular situations. And you know what's odd. Once upon a
(11:37):
time I was traveling to Ghana, and I was going
to Ghana, and you know, so many people in the
chat were like, we had like a group chat, and
so many women are like, well can you get this?
Or what do you do? And what do you how
you do this and blah blah blah. And this was
my first trip out the country. But what I realized
(11:58):
is that I had so much much more grit on
me to withstand the test of time. And there was
a point in my life where I was ashamed of poverty. Okay,
because I grew up back and forth between poverty. Right,
I was ashamed of poverty. And I also was ashamed
of my lineage in my family history. Right, I was
(12:20):
ashamed of saying both of my parents have been an addict. Okay,
I was ashamed of saying, like nobody in my family
is married. I've had so many pregnancies out of the
wetlock and all this stuff, right, and just like people
that just you know, when you meet a partner and
you want to welcome somebody into your family, my saying
(12:43):
to myself is like, good, either you come into the
fucking pooky and Ray Ray cookout, or you not. Like
I don't have any profound fucking family to give you, right,
Like I don't have this like just like face value
type of like family where you would be like, wow,
(13:05):
her uncle's this, her father's that, her mind on paper.
Speaker 3 (13:11):
You know.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
However, I grew years and years and years. I grew
up ashamed of my lineage and just like not having
family that was textbooks to be proud of. And then
I grew the fuck up and I said, you bitch
just can't handle shit. And I realized that crazy enough,
(13:36):
my trauma became a like a strength. My trauma became
a strength because I know what it's like to turn
on my stole when the lights and the heat ain't blowing. Okay,
I know what it's like to literally blow heat from
an oven because it's a whole light because it's cold. Okay,
(13:59):
I know what it's like to like not have your
mom be able to pay for school pictures or the
track met or thing extracurricular activities. And then when I
looked up and I was like, why am I ashamed
of something that is like, it's my stripes, it's my story.
(14:19):
It's actually something that really low key has put me
mouths ahead of you. That's the truth, like my story
that I was literally once ashamed of and was like, well,
why would a man want my kind of family? Full
of drug addicts, full of poverty, full of uneducated people,
(14:42):
full of unwed mothers. Okay, But then I look back
and I was like, put me in a race, put
me toe to toe with anybody. I'm smoking your ass
period period. I'm smoking you because I I have had
to deal with so much trial triumph and I have
(15:04):
had to build so much agility. And that really made
me think like I'm not I'm not ashamed of where
I come from anymore, because somebody that truly gets to
know me and gets to know where I come from
in my life and like where my heart is, like
I literally a mouse ahead of you, you know, like
(15:24):
literally like I MOUs ahead of you, you know, So
that that has been something that has really like truly
touched me, you know, and it's just not that it's
really baseline, just really not that serious. And I see,
I've seen so many women jump off the deep end
(15:45):
literally literally and figuratively for just life love friends, I
mean relationship, you know, and it sounds like that relationship
turned up turned switch in her.
Speaker 3 (16:01):
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 4 (16:02):
And I also just the paperball with what you're saying.
I just think that also one of your one of
the things that you can that you have brought through
your trauma and through your life is like nothing is
gonna stop me, you know. I think unfortunately with this
young lady, it was just like that that relationship she
kind of maybe invested too much of herself in that,
(16:23):
and so she felt like since that ended, she had
to end.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Nope. Jez has lyrics. First of all, I love GZ.
Jez had lyrics and it says, when it just know,
if there's a will, there's a motherfucking way when it
comes to me and mine, I don't motherfucking play, Okay,
Jez said that. Shout out to Jez Okay, and when
I tell you, when I don't play, I'm not scared
(16:50):
of jump ship. I'm not scared to figure it the
fuck out. I'm not scared to follow on my face. Okay,
I literally told the Internet that I was gonna get
to a million follows by my birthday and I didn't
make it. But I was as scared of the shame
of that, right, And I think that that comes with
you got to go through some stuff and have been
through some things to be able to accept that, Like
(17:11):
things may not work out and things may not objects
in the mirror seem larger than they have here, you
know what I'm saying. You have to really realize, like
you know, maybe it could be it could be not,
but if you don't try, then you'll never know. You'll
never figure it out either way. And I always tell
(17:32):
people my parents died at the camera. My father died
at forty seven years old. My mom died before she
was sixty five. Baby, none of this shit really fucking
matters to me, right, Like, when you've seen enough, when
you've been through enough grief, Like it's like I've I've
(17:56):
seen a lot, Like the worst things in life have
already happened to me. Literally, the worst things have already
happened to me. So I think that it gives you
like a new perspective. But even if I didn't have
the life experiences I have, it's just to women, y'all,
trust me, it is not worth it. You are worthy,
(18:16):
you are loved, You're a lot. People need you here
on this earth. Things will get better. Even if you
feel like it's the worst of what's happened to you,
It is going to get better. You just gotta stay around,
and you gotta stick around. And it's just very very
sad to see that a breakup triggered her in a
way where she didn't want to be on this earth anymore.
(18:39):
And that's very, very very sad. And that's why created
My Secret Girl Chat. Join My Secret Girl Chat is
for women who literally have felt at the end of
their rope. And I will say this that women have
said that joining my group chat, they have learned more
than thirty in thirty days then three years of therapy.
Speaker 4 (19:01):
That's that's that's amazing, Tea, Like, that's amazing. I hope
you know that, sister. That's big.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
Women have said that they have learned more in My
Girl's Chat in thirty days than being in therapy for
three four years.
Speaker 4 (19:16):
Okay, can we talk about people not being honest in therapy,
they probably feel more honest. They feel gona comes to
being honest with you. And I'm so happy if you
created you have created that space. Yeah, because I.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
Think it's because I keep it. I keep it real.
Speaker 4 (19:28):
Back with them, straight shooter.
Speaker 1 (19:30):
Straight look, straight shooter. And and it may seem like
I think, like maybe like even a little mean or
a little dismissed up. And I think that like you
gotta hear the beer bones of things for you to
really kind of you know, soaking that.
Speaker 4 (19:43):
So why when they say it tay a little hurt
to motivate you. Huh, So it hurt my feelings a
little bit? Tell me I'm being delusion, you know.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
I just talked about this. A girl was like she's
she wrote me a voice note in my chat and
she said, I was so embarrassed. Embarrassment is good. That's
the thing. These people have overhealed. We have in the US.
We have overhealed. Embarrassment is a good emotion.
Speaker 4 (20:06):
You will never forget that.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
And the typical thing is that people are like, don't
be embarrassed. You didn't know. Embarrassment is very good. Okay,
Embarrassment will keep you from doing that shit the fuck again. Okay,
Embarrassment will keep you from like you need to be
embarrassed a little bit.
Speaker 4 (20:26):
No, No, the embarrassment is good. You will it's etched
in your brain. I will never go out wearing this.
I would never do this.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
I was telling this story real, real quick, because I know,
I know we got to move on and take the
story real quick. Once upon a time, child, I met
this I dated this man. He was a complete narcissist.
He it was. It was so bad. And I know
people use narcissism loosely, but if he was a complete
narcisst textbook textbook narcissist. And this man changed the DNA
of who I am, right. I dated this man once
upon a time and my friend called me and she said,
(20:57):
to see a I don't know if you know, but
you pocket diwed me. And she said, you were arguing
with so and so in the car and I heard
the whole fucking thing. She said, the belt of the
cry that I heard on my voicemail. To see you,
(21:18):
she said, I can send you the recording. I had
got into an argument with the man that I was dating,
and mistakenly pocket down my friend and she heard it
on her voicemail. That embarrassment made me never call that
nigga ever the fuck again. Okay. I was so embarrassed, Gabby,
(21:41):
she heard me crying, screaming, She heard the whole argument.
Can you imagine staying with that man after my friend
heard me? I was so fucking embarrassed. Embarrassment is a
good thing. Embarrassedment I will keep you from making the same
(22:02):
mistake over and over again. And just knowing that somebody
heard my private cry, I could never go back to
that meaning Hello, thank you God for that butt dial. Okay.
I was so embarrassed as to what she heard on
that voicemail that I never called that nigga ever the
(22:26):
fuck again, having I never called him back. And you
want to be embarrassed, Okay. Embarrassed is an embarrassed man
is a good thing. It'll keep you from doing a
whole bunch of shit. Okay. Anyways, we're back. We're back
on toping too. Okay. Do you want me to read this? Dray?
A woman named Precious has gone viral on TikTok after
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sharing that her husband of seven years and partner of twelve,
was having a year long emotional and sexual affair with
her first cousin. First cousin hit different, someone she once
called her sister and best friend. After sacrificing her job
for a one K and peace of mind to support him,
(23:11):
she discovered messages, videos, and betrayal that cut deeper than
she could imagine. Now, a single, single mother of four
in therapy three times a week, Precious is no longer
pretending she's okay. She's asking for help and healing out out.
I want y'all, y'all new viewers, to rewind. Okay, once
(23:35):
upon a time, when I told you bitch is not
to give a hundred percent, rub the motherfucking take no. Look,
when I told y'all not to give a hundred percent,
you said you sacrifice your job, your phll on one
K and peace of mind to support him.
Speaker 4 (23:59):
Going to their three times a day, three times a week,
three times a week, three times a week. Geez.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
This is the epitome of not giving one hundred percent.
This is what happens when you give it. Now, I
saw the clips. The woman is crying in the car. Okay, boohoo,
hoo hoo. She even called the cousin on the phone
and asked her why does she do this to her? Okay,
this is the epitome of when you give one hundred
(24:29):
percent and what happens when you give one hundred percent again,
you don't have the five to ten percent, which is
the shovel to dig you out of the shit when
shit got the fuck left. Please go back and look
at my clips when I said when you give one
hundred percent, you don't have the five to ten percent
to pivot when things go to fuck left. And you
(24:51):
had a cousin faith on your hands, literally and figuratively, Yes,
you had a cousin faith that was y'all. Y'all seen soulful.
If you don't, A'm revoking your black card, okay, if
you've never seen soul food. Faith was fucking my husband, yeah, okay.
(25:14):
And you gave everything, your four on one K and
sacrifice your job for a liar and a cheater.
Speaker 4 (25:23):
And he was giving money to the cousin.
Speaker 1 (25:26):
Right. We went further on this story. Okay, more news
at the top of the hour. Okay. And this woman
that was also he banked, he he depleted the bank
account and was given money to cousin Faith.
Speaker 4 (25:41):
Cousin is crazy.
Speaker 1 (25:43):
Cousin is absurd, and I a woman that you welcome
into your home.
Speaker 4 (25:48):
Best friend like, yeah, that that's by decembercent, I'm gonna
need that.
Speaker 1 (25:54):
Like when you say, like what she was asking what
did I do to deserve this? And the cousin cousin
faith was like, you didn't do anything. You didn't do
let me tell you this. You self abandoned. That's what
you did. Yeah, you jumped ship and you were so
invested in somebody else that you never did a tempt
(26:14):
check on your actual self. That's what the fuck you did. Okay,
You literally were so invested in him, and even in
just creating a safe space for other people to enter
your home, you forgot. Like it's like a mother bear
as a dog in you that you have or you
just like you know how your mama was like that
(26:36):
friend of yours. I don't like that.
Speaker 4 (26:43):
Birthday tins you like that one.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
I'd be like, sorry, Gabby and I some mother have
the same birthday, okay for twenty April twentieth. Okay, got
that sniff. You know you lost the mother bear right
that would have told you that something wasn't quite right.
Why are you moving some woman into your own first
cousin or not? Why are you moving some woman into
(27:10):
your house like that? You know you just you let
your guard down too, And I feel like that happens
when you like, you idolize people, when you don't like
even Baseline, I always say, like people be like to
see him. I'm a married woman, cannot join your group.
A man is a man as a man, You dating
a man? If you dating a man, you can join
(27:31):
my group.
Speaker 4 (27:32):
Child.
Speaker 1 (27:33):
If you dating a man, we can relate. If you
dating a man, I'm talking to you, okay. If you
dating a man, my messages are for you. Mary, divorced,
broken up, single, in a relationship. A man is a man,
is a man? You dating a man? Simple math? Simple math?
Speaker 4 (27:49):
Okay, a conversation, it's.
Speaker 1 (27:51):
All the same thing. If you're dealing with a man,
you can relate to the things that I'm saying. Okay.
And so this is just you know, these things Billy
touched me because so many women are not prepared for
that breakup. They're not prepared for the man to not
choose them. So please make sure you sure in a healthy,
(28:11):
decent enough space before you start, before you start dating,
because this woman clearly couldn't handle the relationship ending, and
I hope that things have settled, even just for her family.
You know that that's just that's just a lot. Any who,
any who, any who, God bless her, God bless her family.
(28:32):
If you ever feel like you are on the verge
of breaking or you just don't know how you would deal,
join my secret girl chat. I created that space just
for you. So I want to pray over that woman,
you know. Yeah, God bless her kids. It's a lot, Yes,
a lot. That's a lot. We're on to our bitch
you Smell Good segment. This is my fact yea, I
(28:55):
fak Okay, so I decide, first of all, I don't
know I got I have it. If you don't know,
I have over two hundred bottles of fragrance. So if
I post a fake, a fragrance that has nothing in
the fucking bottom, this is one of my This is
like an empty segment. If you've ever seen influences on Instagram,
(29:18):
and it is like, I'm gonna show y'all my empties
of products that I've used to the ground that I
just look I am posting an empty Okay. A friend
of mine actually recommended this fragrance, probably like a year ago, y'all.
This is Birado Young Gross, and I want y'all to
see that there are spirit Apparently.
Speaker 4 (29:39):
This is gone.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
If you have two hundred plus fragrances, and I don't
think I've ever hit the bottom of any fucking thing.
If I have to hit the bottom, it's only I
would say two to three fragrance that I've hit the
bottom and purchased again. Okay, And this one is very
special in particular because is such a good summer fragrance. Alright,
(30:03):
this is by Rado Young Ros, y'all, and it is
so freaking good, y'all, look at this. It is gone.
I'm baby, I'm at the I'm at the bottom. I
gotta look. I gotta lean this thing to get a spray. Look,
(30:24):
I gotta lean this to get the spray out of it.
It is so good. I have been stopped on the
elevator by husband's for this s fragrance. Like what is
that that you're wearing? Yes, it is so fir Let
me read this, look, let me read the notes. This
has amber rat seeds, soucon pepper orus zama's secona rose
(30:55):
bases are musk and am BROKESN I don't know, bitch
ABCD element of motherfucking pe. Okay, this is too freaking good. Okay,
I ain't tell you what I heard. I'm telling you
what I know. This fragrance is so good. I have
hit the bottom. It ain't nothing that I love enough
(31:15):
in this world. Okay, child, to hit the bottom. Okay,
this fragrance will get you stopped on the streets. And
that's just that's just that on that. Okay, it's too
good to be true, and I gotta re up. I
will be sending the email to my assistant to order
this again. Okay this, y'all, I gotta make it clear.
Look zoomy and child, I barely got a little liquid
(31:37):
at the bottom. This little little cord thing may not
even hit enough to actually spray again. Okay, it's too good.
This is birado. Young girls, y'all, trust me, Trust me.
I ain't gonna steer your own all right. You will
get stopped on the streets wherever you are wearing that fragrance,
all right. Anyway, there's a bit you smell goods us
(32:00):
segment look good, do good an empty all right, I
have depleted the bie. Okay, okay, we're on to segment three,
which is our you're to see a segment. I'm gonna
play a voicemail from a young lady that wrote us.
Speaker 2 (32:15):
Okay, there's just here. I recently just got out of
a ten year relationship and I started dating this guy.
He was really nice, he was really sweet, something so
totally different from what I was used to a relationship,
(32:37):
well more soil situationship moved kind of fast, and four
months and two I ended up finding out that I
was pregnant, only after he had ghosted me for about
three or four days, saying he had a lot going
on with his family. I wasn't gonna tell him about
the pregnancy, but I ended up telling him I just
want him to think that I was like trying to
keep him. He didn't show up for me, he didn't
(33:00):
like check on me. I told him how much the
abortion was. He sent the money right away. I ended
up having a topic pregnancy, so the abortion pill didn't work,
end up having to get one of my fallopian tubes removed,
and still has yet to check on me, but he
watches all my stories. I want this to I thought
(33:22):
I wanted it to work with him because it was
just like I didn't want to seem like a situation
right after my long term relationship failed. But it's really
given that I should just leave him in the past.
Speaker 1 (33:37):
Are we done? Look what moreningning bitch? He sent the cash,
Lotto said, shout out to Lotto. I love Lotto. Well,
I want to marry you. Spend that five hundred before
I let you trap me. Okay, that's what Lotto said.
He sent the cash. That told you all to know
(34:01):
he sent the money after you share with him how
much the abortion was. He sent the money. Continue to
ghost you never followed up. Never let people show you
exactly who they are. Let people do what they rather
do so you can see what they want to do.
Speaker 4 (34:23):
And can we talk about the story watches? Because I
like sometimes my friends talk about that, and I just
want us to know, like social media is not real,
Like it's not real. So I don't care if he's
looking at your story the first story, like, it doesn't.
Speaker 1 (34:39):
Matter, it doesn't matter, doesn't matter.
Speaker 4 (34:41):
Let him keep watching, Let him keep watching.
Speaker 1 (34:44):
This level sent the cash for the abortion.
Speaker 4 (34:48):
That's it. That's the last communication y'all needed at that point.
Speaker 1 (34:53):
He told you exactly what he wanted and for you
to even be thinking about or fathom me. First of all,
I'm so sorry about just the pregnancy, Like she seemed
like she has a difficult, difficult time with her pregnancy,
and she lost a Philapian tube. You know, all this
drunk women are going through so much. And I always say,
(35:16):
is that one of the number one ways that black
women are dying is by childbirth. And this is why
people be like you a dating coach and you ain't
got no kids. If you think I'm going to risk
my life for Pooky and ray Ray, you out of
your mind. Women are experiencing things just like this. She
lost a Philapian tube, okay, and she had to actually
(35:39):
go through an abortion. She went through an abortion, you know,
for this person. And so he already kind of told
you know, he already showed you what this is. And
so she says, now he silently watches her stories but
offers no real support. I always say, like, get your
(36:01):
big ticket items up front. It's so important when you
think about not every woman needs to be supported in
the same way. And when I see women that like,
for instance, I have friends and she's just like, I
just want an emotional connection. I want an emotional connection
out of this person. And I'm just like, well, why
(36:21):
are you meeting men that are emotionally unavailable and that
are you know, kind of you're emotionally fishing like this
person can't actually deliver on what you need. You don't
want to get in a relationship and then find out
those things right Like, you want to get your big
ticket items up front. If you feel like religion is
(36:43):
a big ticket item, if you feel like whether he
have kids or not, how busy he is, if he's
family family oriented, get your big ticket items up front.
Those are not the things that you want to try
to see that they develop over time or anything like that.
This man ghosted you after finding out that you were pregnant,
(37:05):
and you're sitting here saying, well, I don't know what
I should do if I should just let them go.
If you never had a red flag waving in your
face ever in your life, just know that today this
is it. Yeah, he don't want and he told you
he won't out.
Speaker 4 (37:23):
Yeah, lock him if that helps you stop thinking about
him looking at your story.
Speaker 1 (37:29):
Yeah, you know, people ask me should I block or
shouldn't should not block? It's always like, do you feel
threatened by this person? Is this something that's like disruptive
to your mental health that's important to block. But this
person has told you that that they want out.
Speaker 4 (37:47):
Actually they stopped talking to a red after a child. Yeah, nah,
if you.
Speaker 1 (37:56):
Need any sign Okay, again, I'm such a proponent of
just telling it to you straight flat out. This person
is not the one for you. This is not your person.
He's not gonna be with you. He probably will make
your pregnancy a living hell. Okay, you'll be stressed out,
and he's not somebody that you will want to pro
(38:18):
create with. Simple, This is not somebody that you want
to procreate with. And I think that just we you
sugarcoat a lot of shit. It's like, oh, well, listen,
this is not your person. He's not gonna want to
be with you. He's gonna be a terrible partner. And
this is probably not somebody that you want to procreate with. Okay,
he sent the cash baby, period, spend that five hundred. Listen,
(38:44):
listen a lot of song. Okay, this person will whether
spend a five hundred for I let you trap me. Okay,
he didn't want to be trapped. He sent the cash
that told you all you need to know. Take that.
Take that as a freedom. You know you now don't
(39:05):
have no child by men who never wanted it. Okay, look, okay,
that that is just too it's just too deep, and
especially in this political climate with the men that we
have in office. We have a girl in our group
chat who had to fly fly to another city to
(39:26):
get another state to get a procedure done. I paid
for that flight, and now that's all I'm gonna say
about that. Okay, there are in this political climate, there
are people that have to travel to get certain services
(39:47):
and things done. Okay, you got out, don't ever get
in again. Okay, anyway to boys form number two, he's
not gonna pick me. Let's talk about Okay, let's hear
vorce on number two.
Speaker 3 (40:05):
There to Siya, I am in love with this man
and he have a girlfriend who is also his baby's mom.
When we talk to each other, we the chemistry is
like out of this world.
Speaker 1 (40:27):
We both look so good together.
Speaker 3 (40:30):
It's like really nothing that I can can say that
it makes me not want to be with him, but
he doesn't want the same thing that I want. I
don't know what to do.
Speaker 1 (40:48):
I really want to like get over him.
Speaker 4 (40:50):
It's just.
Speaker 3 (40:52):
Seeing his name on Instagram and just seeing his name
on TV or seeing his name on bill boards, like
it always triggers me, and I really want to figure
out a way to get over him. So my question
is how can I get over a man that I
know for sure is not going to pick me, that
I know for sure that does not want nothing with me?
(41:15):
Thank you?
Speaker 1 (41:17):
You know what? The interesting thing is that she said
she's constantly triggered by seeing his name online and in public.
So it sounds like to me, this man is some
type of like big figure, yes, or boards or billboards
or some type of like celebrity or something like that. Right.
But the thing is that, like our chemistry is undeniable,
(41:41):
there's really nothing that There's really nothing. I can tell
you a whole bunch of somethings. You said, he has
a girlfriend who was the mother of his child, and
despite their undeniable chemistry, he doesn't want the same things.
That's a lot of something. That's a lot of something.
(42:02):
He has a girlfriend, he's involved, he's emotionally unavailable, and
he doesn't want the same things that you want. Chemistry
is gonna out trump all of this, No way, no way,
no jose. Chemistry all of you said has the chemistry
(42:24):
is undeniable. And I don't know anything that I know anything.
I know something. He has a girlfriend, he has a
child's mother, and that he doesn't want the same things
that you want. And you know that, and you know
that's a lot of things that I can point to. Okay,
(42:44):
but you somehow isn't seeing it. So you said, how
do you get over a man who you know that
will never choose you. I want you to start being disgusted,
unattracted to men. I only like you. I only like
you when you love me. I don't start liking you
until you love me. Make that man go to the
(43:06):
end of the fuck across the red sea right before
you start investing emotionally into this. And this man has
been breadcrumbing you. Chemistry is a scam. The butter's nice, though,
the butterflies that you feel is a scam. I told y'all,
I become a slow burn girl. I used to be
a love bomb girl. I bitch love bomb me because
(43:29):
I understand, I understand white. I used to be a
love bomb girl where I wanted to go fast. I
wanted this like chemistry. I wanted to be like girl
guess to who I met blah blah. Now I've become
a slow burn girl. Okay, I want consistency. I want
a man who just takes his time and it's just
(43:52):
as picky as I am. Well, I'm just like he
cares about the women that he's invited into his life.
He cares about who he shares his highs and lows with.
He cares about the highlights of his day, he cares
about who he's sharing those things with. I want to
be a slow burn girl. I used to be a
(44:13):
love bomb girl, where I just wanted like that Caribbean
high you know, you represent the Caribbean man. He's just
like Wow, everything is just fast and furious, faster. Okay,
everything is faster, it's just hot. I'm now I want slow.
(44:35):
I want to I'm a slow burn kind of girl.
And this is kind of kind of what she's describing.
It's just like, how do you know, how do you
walk away from men that will never choose you? You
need to be literally so unattracted to somebody who hasn't
put you first, that hasn't made their request known, that
(44:55):
hasn't made a wager that haven't said this is what
I want, that hasn't provided clarity. Okay, you don't want
to be confused, all right, And this is just really
just like self discipline.
Speaker 4 (45:06):
Yeah, I was gonna say that in self love because
it just sounds like the chemistry is outweighing what you deserve, sister, Like.
Speaker 1 (45:15):
Chemistry is a out like he's.
Speaker 4 (45:18):
Girlfriend and a baby and a baby mom, and he
know he's gonna like he's not going, he's not leaving her,
Like I want you to love yourself because you clearly
you gotta have you get somebody else.
Speaker 1 (45:29):
But also, like this is me to the camera, ladies,
we have to start fining. We have to start holding
ourselves accountable. You shouldn't have ever been in a predicament
where you can have so much chemistry with a nigga
that got a girlfriend the.
Speaker 4 (45:45):
Moment a man said he got a girl, A man
that got.
Speaker 1 (45:48):
A girl, can't fucking call me literally hello, a man
that got a girlfriend. And it's not even just that,
not just a man I got a girlfriend. Once upon
a time, I was saving the dude, loup very lucy
dating a dude, and I find out. What I found
out is that when this particular girl was in a room,
he moved, funny, Oh, when you got a woman in
(46:12):
a room that you can't fuck with me? How you
fuck with me? Because this girl is there, she's your owner,
and you're in a relationship with her. If you cannot
deal with me and speak to me and step to
me on your own two feet without he bought a
whole wingman. I said, is that you at the table
(46:35):
across from me? He was like, yeah, I'm gonna come
over there and speak. And next you know, he had
a friend with him, and I'm like, nigga, why are
you bring your friend? The girl was there, and so
he had to bring a friend. He had he had
to bring a friend, Yeah, to buffer to be able
to say, y'all not low, y'all not low. You ain't low, nigga,
(46:56):
you ain't slick. You had to bring a friend to
come fucking speak to me because the girl was in
the room and you in a relationship, bro, and you
beeped it.
Speaker 4 (47:07):
It's like, bro, like at that point, bro, sit down,
let's talk. Let's just talk real.
Speaker 1 (47:12):
If there's a woman in your life that you can't move,
how you want to move with anybody? Else because that
girl is present. You're in a fucking relationship. Blink if
you need help, nigga.
Speaker 4 (47:26):
Okay, no, it's like you want to be there though,
Like you want to be there because you're.
Speaker 1 (47:31):
You have an allegiance to somebody that I don't know about.
Speaker 4 (47:34):
And then that's and like, let's be honest about that, right,
don't lie because I see you're for your back straight,
your backstick can't even move correctly.
Speaker 1 (47:43):
You had to bring the homie to come over and
spend me.
Speaker 4 (47:46):
Did you even know him?
Speaker 3 (47:47):
Like?
Speaker 4 (47:47):
Boy, what about? Why am I mean?
Speaker 1 (47:48):
People like Cually, I'm like your section. Mind you you
in a section with ten people. I'm in a section
with two bitches. That should tell you all you need
to know. Okay, you had to across the room with
a friend to say hello to me because your girlfriend
that you claim you're not in a relationship with is there.
Speaker 4 (48:09):
The drama, The drama, the drama.
Speaker 1 (48:12):
Bro, if there's an email, listen to this. If you
are in a relationship, if you are in any type
of situationship where a woman that is present is gonna
dictate how you can move, you are in a relationship, dog, Yeah,
you're in a relationship. You're involved, you can be like, oh,
we're not committed, We're not. No, if you cannot move,
(48:35):
how you will naturally move because you have some type
of allegiance or you have to respect this woman enough
that now you got to get the peanut gallery to
come speak to me. You're in a relationship period, Okay, anyways,
I'm off that so viot, that's what you said. There
(48:55):
should be no opportunity where you have gotten so connected
to a man that that is in a relationship. You knew,
you told me that he has a girlfriend, So how
do you have that much chemistry? We gotta start holding
women accountable. You should not have made that type of
connection or chemistry with a man who has a girlfriend.
(49:18):
It's weird you you deserve everything that came.
Speaker 4 (49:22):
Back to you. That you deserve that No, because one
day you're gonna be that woman you want, Like what
the hell?
Speaker 1 (49:29):
Like always tell women, I've never been married, I've never
been engaged. I don't want no karmer coming back to me.
The moment you tell me you involved, you will never
hear from me again.
Speaker 4 (49:43):
Like that that's that's really my that's my friend.
Speaker 1 (49:46):
Like that acquaintance, I would drop you as a friend either.
Speaker 4 (49:49):
No, that's all my friend.
Speaker 1 (49:53):
No I have I want so much favor over my marriage, Okay.
I will not deal with the moment you tell me
you got to you in a relationship, you got a girlfriend,
or y'all separated, you not fully divorced you. I will
never talk to you again. I want so much favor
over my marriage because I want to do it one time, okay,
(50:15):
and I want the one time to be so good.
I'm not willing to risk any friends, fold colleagues, or
random men that are in situations or relationships with women.
I don't want that on my marriage. Okay. I don't
play those kind of games. So to you, sister, you
should have never been able to experience this level of
(50:39):
undeniable chemistry, which is what you wrote, undeniable chemistry with
a man who had a girlfriend. That's on you, and
you deserve the day that you relationship. Then you deserve
the day that you're voted for. You deserve the day
that you relationship did and you relationship with a man
who is in a relationship ship and you deserve that day.
(51:01):
So don't fucking write me talk about so you want
some help. You don't need no help. You get the
day that you that's what you get.
Speaker 4 (51:09):
You deserve, You get the day you deserved.
Speaker 1 (51:11):
That's what that's what bitch.
Speaker 3 (51:13):
Not write me.
Speaker 1 (51:14):
Don't write me talking about that. I need help. You
get the day that you deserve. And the man was
in a relationship, and that's what you get. Love you
mean it like he's gonna do the same, Like look
what he's doing. Oh my gosh, you got undeniable connection
with a man who had.
Speaker 4 (51:31):
A girlfriend and you see how he's carrying on.
Speaker 1 (51:33):
Hello, No, you got to start holding women accountable. You get,
that's what you deserve. Anyway, it's love that love you
min it anyway, It's okay, I do something else, tray
this is a that's then okay, period. Well there's that.
That's relation. That's Episode four, Episode four. Shout out to
(51:54):
the girls and everybody that wrote me. You get the
day that you made. You gotta lay in the bed
that you created, and there is no way that you
should ever have the connection, that type of undeniable chemistry
with the man that you know that has a girlfriend.
You gotta start holding women accountable and it's just not okay,
(52:16):
it's not okay. You know, be even on your worst day.
Be a girl's girl, Be somebody that you know you
want to respect other people's union. You know you shouldn't.
You shouldn't have been involved at all with that man.
Speaker 4 (52:29):
And like, so the question was what's what what should
she do? Like love yourself more because when you're like,
why would I ever be aside joned to a billboard guy?
A guy doing this? But baby, I need to be
right here on Brett Crabby with you.
Speaker 1 (52:46):
I hate seeing his name, I hate seeing his.
Speaker 4 (52:49):
Oh you're giving him way too much power, my love,
Like no, no.
Speaker 1 (52:53):
Yeah, And honestly, like that's not the type of guy
that you just want in general, Like they just have
so many many more isms that come with that. And
just baseline, like you know you get the day like
you wanted to be big dog. That's what you get.
That's you get, and I don't feel sorry about it.
You wanted to be big dog. You they did a
(53:14):
man who had a girlfriend.
Speaker 4 (53:18):
I knew about that before you started dating him, Just
saying like you didn't just stumble into that fact, dear to.
Speaker 1 (53:25):
See you should I joh, stop fucking with pitchus, nigga,
that's it. You knew he was in.
Speaker 4 (53:31):
Even if he's on your head, on your body, he
down your phone.
Speaker 1 (53:34):
On your body. Undeniable connection. Listen, nobody's man. Anybody who
has a girlfriend cannot undeniably connect with me. Baby a period,
you can't connect with me.
Speaker 4 (53:49):
This is awkward, it's weird. Into the car.
Speaker 1 (53:52):
Hello, is this a three times we sister wives? Anybody
who has a girlfriend would never experience an undeniable connection
with me. There's no connection. You're involved.
Speaker 4 (54:05):
You have a girl privilege to be in the energy
to see it.
Speaker 1 (54:08):
What are you teaching him? You're teaching him that you're
willing to always say, don't be that understanding, don't be
that agile. You don't I always say that, but just
too understanding. You got too much sympathy and too much empathy.
What are you teaching him that he can say, YO, know,
(54:29):
I kind of got a situation on my hands right
now when I'm trying to get up and you're like, Okay,
I understand. Thanks for being honest girl, Good fucking night. Anyways,
that's episode four. If you're to see him, see you
next time.
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