September 24, 2025 • 26 mins
We dive into the cultural push for companionship during colder months, driven by holiday pressures and the "winter blues," as outlined in *Cuffing Season is back* ). But here’s the twist: could this mirror a calculated agenda? . Are men today unwittingly cuffed to provide emotional and practical support, only to be released post-holidays?
This episode weighs the cozy allure of cuffing season against its potential pitfalls, suggesting a cautious approach to dating this fall. Should you opt for solo holiday vibes over a temporary partner?
We also explore why singles pair up as the holidays approach—thanksgiving dinners, New Year’s toasts, and Valentine’s Day cuddles—only to often part ways by spring. Is this seasonal romance a strategic move by independent women seeking support through the festive season, as hinted by the surge in dating app activity and the "Sept-Oct Rut" breakups.
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This episode weighs the cozy allure of cuffing season against its potential pitfalls, suggesting a cautious approach to dating this fall. Should you opt for solo holiday vibes over a temporary partner?
We also explore why singles pair up as the holidays approach—thanksgiving dinners, New Year’s toasts, and Valentine’s Day cuddles—only to often part ways by spring. Is this seasonal romance a strategic move by independent women seeking support through the festive season, as hinted by the surge in dating app activity and the "Sept-Oct Rut" breakups.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/depraved-and-debaucherous--5267208/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Podcasting since two thousand and five. This is the King
of Podcasts Radio network, Kingopodcasts dot com.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Beware, gentlemen, it's cuffing season and women are looking to
get your wallet. We're all a little depraved and debaucherous.
Here is the King of Podcasts. Tomorrow begins the fall equos,
the fall season begins. The leaves change. It's a little
(00:33):
cooler outside, not at four anyway, but it will be
soon enough, and cuffing season is coming upon us. It
is that time of year that you are truly King
of podcasts. Your old uncle King of Podcasts here has
to give you the warning. Heed the warning. Cuffing season
is here. It's not a phenomenon. It's a fact of life.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
Now.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
I have talked about this over many years on the
program before this series was called The Praise in the Bogers.
I talked about it on a series called When I'm
Not Podcasting. I mean at this for years. And for
the young men out there, please pay attention.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
If you're not aware.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
With the leaves changing, with the change of temperature, there's
more of a likelihood that if you are looking to
go ahead and get together with another woman or a
woman finds an interest in you, and some reason she
finds a liking to you and approaches you in a
(01:36):
way to where you're get a chance to approach to
her proper.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
You get the date.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
You'll notice dating gets something a little bit easier this
time of year because the intent is not all women.
Let's make sure we say that, but many women this
time of year, if they're single, they want to have
somebody there to take them out, you know, go out
for a Halloween party, be they there plus one, to
(02:07):
maybe have somebody to go and take them over to
your Thanksgiving dinner or their Thanksgiving dinner, to have a
date for that, to have somebody buy them presents for
Christmas and do all the Christmasy things, to be the
girl that has a guy that she can be kissing
when the ball drops on the Year's eve, and then
(02:29):
eventually a breakup happens honor before Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Now, I'm not saying.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
That men are not susceptible to this do and not
suspect either. Absolutely it is women. You can also realize
this can also go the same way. Coffing season is
a very real occurrence, and that's why I have to
talk about it every year this time of year. It's
like the great Pumpkin. You got to bring it up.
So let me bring up a couple times where I've
brought it up over the years. Here's this is what
(02:58):
I think. Twenty twenty three, I brought it up. Let
me go ahead and play up when I talked about
Coplic season the last few times here on the program. Honestly,
to try to be in the right way to have
a real girlfriend and be her boyfriend. That's not what
she wanted for me. And I never paid attention to
the science. If I would have gone through this now,
(03:20):
I probably would have gone out for the first time,
saw the red flags and got out. I would have
wasted that one night out. I'm like, all right, eh, nothing, okay, Steve,
she'll call me back. See if she actually kind of
like comes in. I showed her a great time. Will
she call me back or she'll goes me? And you know, no,
(03:41):
nothing like that.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
That was a girl I had told you about.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
That was about an hour away from me, and it
was a cooler night, and I remember she just wanted
to hook up. But that was a thing where I
thought something was going to go somewhere. But then by
the time Christmas rolled around, I finally got in touch
with her, and I was, you know, very young, stupid,
and very naive. This was the same one I said
(04:05):
that I actually when I only got to see her
once and I got to make out with her outside
of a bar, ash went out and had a nice dinner.
It was just I think she wanted to go and
have sex that night. If there was anything was gonna happen,
it was gonna be that one night stand. I never
paid attention to that, but I never got a reason
as to why she never hit me back up. But
(04:28):
nevertheless I found out while she was at Christmas that
she had a boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
The whole time.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I think, goodness, I've never went back up to make
that hour long trip to go see her again because
something could have happened. So, I mean, I was getting
set up for a trap. This is what I also
said during Covix season last year. But these are guys
that are bringing like little bit frat boys and kind
of being like con bros. But they're also just in
their own little rooms. They're not out to the bars
(04:57):
or clubs because that thing doesn't even happen anymore. They're
not going on to concerts. These guys that are influencers,
they don't go out.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
To be seen. If they're gonna go out at all,
they're gonna have an entourage.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
They're gonna go to someplace, and you know, they're gonna
be cheated like a billionaires because of their status, because
of their fame, because of their fortune.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
That's it.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
But they're not gonna get anything out of that. I
mean the fact that they think that that status is
gonna get them any girl that they want that's gonna
be with them, and they're gonna like have the relationship.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
That's not gonna happen.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
They want to get in a funck around a little bit,
go find a little bit of piece of tale. That's
what they're gonna be able to get.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
But there's delusion with delusion, the delusion.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
Of women that think that coming season they're gonna be
entitled and they're going to get themselves the validation and
the things that they want to fulfill. This year's Halloween
celebration or Thanksgiving, or Christmas or New Year's or Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Fuck that, that's what I said. So it was there.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
During CUFIC season, we started seeing several prominent influencers out
there showing off their girls, showing off their eye candy. Obviously,
it was the troll, a little bit of getting guys
to start.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Feeling like, oh look what's going on.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
Simping becoming the new favorable tactic among men, even more
so during cofic season because it happened so much, and
it's that area that really concerns me, and I just
want to keep an eye out for the guys out
there to help them avoid this kind of thing from happening.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
So, first off, I want to take.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
A story that came from a newspaper I've never heard about,
but this is a called a collegiate newspaper, The Post Athens.
So the Post Athens is an independent student voice newspaper
if covering for Ohio University in Athens, Ohio. So a
(07:00):
young lady brings up cuffing season. Cassidy mcclug shout out
to you. I am worried about what many referred to
as cuffing season, the time when people scramble to find
temporary romantic partners for the holidays, then break up in
the spring. Dating during cuffing season is mostly risky, often
(07:21):
temporary and ultimately not worth the backage it brings. Correct,
but we all fall into it.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
There are a lot of.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
People that can catch through yourself. Trust me, if you
see unwarranted attention, unexpected attention from a girl, don't be
surprised if it's that now. Cassidy here says, do not
put yourself in this scenario. The gifts and companionship are
nice during a lonely time, but the backage is not. Plus,
the sugar you will eat will be turned into a
(07:48):
new Year's resolution. You might not overcome emotional consequences when
these relationships end in the spring often outweigh those fleeting comforts.
Remember why you want to date, how long you've had
the desire. Do you want to get to know someone
or do you want to have someone to do activities with.
You can use coming seasons as a way to stay
curious about love and how to navigate the most hectical
(08:09):
seasons with someone. If you feel that you're not ready
to leave someone into your life, don't start trying this fall.
I agree. I agree with Kathidy here. There are plenty
of ways she says around dating during coming season, especially
if you don't want to introduce someone new to your
family or re introduced to someone else's family. So the
(08:32):
thing is for her, she wants to make sure that
if she does date anyone, she wants them to be
separate enough from her partner so that she doesn't have
to play trivia at Christmas just to.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Open a gift.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Now, a few months back, I talked about Primal Dating,
the book that came from tim Ash, and I told
you about that book, and it's still a book that
you should absolutely go and.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Find right now. The book is called Primal Dating, The.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Unflinching Evolutionary Psychology Guide to Mondorn Relationships. This is important,
so cuffing seasons here. Who knows, I might even call
tim Ash back to come on and go to talk
about coping season because I think it would be very
important to reference this. So I'm gonna look at that
and consider it. So I'll try to reach out see
if we can do something about that and do a
little follow up on that after all. So here's what
(09:25):
we got from his book. In the chapter entitled What's
Love Got to do with It? He talks about the
beautiful lie. Love is basically a magic trick your brain
plays on you.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
You don't fall for a person you fall for.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
An idea of them, a sculpture crafted by your own
mind based on half truths which we'll thinking, and a
sprinkle of chemicals. You meet someone your hormonstro a rave party,
and boom, they become the most interesting, attractive, and borderline
divine human being you've ever encountered.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Reality irrelevant.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
You're convinced this particular human is your soul, oh mate,
the one person in the sea of billions that your
brain insists is transcendently perfect. When you're in love, your
partner magically transforms into the most incredible person that ever exists. Objectively,
they probably just fine, but your brain shap slaps a
golden halo on them and calls it today, And even
(10:18):
if you do spot their flaws, you don't care. Evolution
make sure of that. We're not actually following for the person,
at least side at first, we're falling for the hormone
distorted image of them. We predict our idealized fantasy onto
some unsuspecting stranger who just happen to be standing in
the right place at the right time, and voila, we're smitting.
It's like their brains have an overzealised marketing department working
(10:39):
over time the cells on a product that the face
it is going to probably have some defects. We see
perfection where there are flaws, brings where there's just ordinary conversation,
and destiny where there's really just the mix of luck
and proximity. But like all good hallucinations, this one eventually fades.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
The rosy globe wears off. The real person step.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
In the view, messy, complicated, flawed. Once the double mean
high wears off, we're starting to see the real person
hiding behind our mental photoshop of job. And there's a
couple of things to consider when you go into these
kind of relationships in Cuffing season.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
Number one being here in South Order where I live.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Yes, when you see a woman that you're interested in,
you might not necessarily perceive the woman that you're looking
for the same. Because the girls are not as exposed
as they would be during the summer. They're not showing
as much flesh, as much skin, They're more covered up,
more jeans, men of so many dresses, more jackets, things
(11:42):
like that. It's almost like like a New York kind
of feel to it, where you or it's a lot
of hoodies, right it's a softer look, so girls are
not out there to be able to go and flaunt
so much as they are when they're young. They might
be covered up a little bit more or just it's
just what's going on. And then you're not necessarily as
a guy, flaunting going paying attention too much about how
(12:05):
she looks in terms.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Of her body.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
You're getting more of the personality of her and just
more of just a conventional beauty to her. And then
also during the holidays, you have all these different kind
of events that you could be going to which you're
going to glorify and amplify the experience. It's not just
your random run of the middle date. This is during Halloween,
this is during Thanksgiving, this is during Christmas, New Year's,
(12:30):
all of it. So that holiday season just changes everything up.
It's just the spirit of the holidays that comes in.
So women and men are taking advantage of the holidays
and what that brings because you are moving around a lot,
and the loneliness you'll feel in that time of year
really amplifies, so you want something to worklessness in this space.
(12:52):
And then the fact that you're going out and doing
things fun together, that dating experience Yeah, it gets.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
To be really fun. I know it because I went
through it.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
And so you might go to a Christmas party here
and there, you might go to some other holiday party
here and there.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
You know, they never know.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Plus, there's more time to get together because you can
find the excuses to make time to get together because
there's not so much work. You got days off, you've
got some time in between, you got events going on.
At some of those events, the person requires a plus one,
so you got that going on, and then that's what
creates that cuffing season to even be more so, because
(13:35):
it's more about the camaraderie. It's more about the bonding,
the connection if there is one, and the amount of
spending that you're gonna be doing during those kind of events,
because the woman's not gonna want to go ahead and
do that on her own. So if she can find
a significant other to supplement your discussionary income on her
(13:58):
and what you're doing with.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
Her, that's what she wants more than anything.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
It's like she don't even really care is that this year,
Oh you're celebrating Halloween, whether or Thanksgiving or Christmas, It
doesn't really matter. It's like what am I getting out
of somebody this year my own personal benefit. Another thing
in the book primal dating that you should also take
a mention of is cracking the mistery to see of
(14:28):
love is not just the one time event you meet,
you fall in love the end, but as a constant decision.
Every moment you stay in a relationship is another vote
in favor of it. But that also means people are
always evaluating, consciously or not whether it's staying is still
the best option. And guess what, women are often the
ones leading the charge in any relationships across cultures. Women
initiate divorces and breakups more often than men, especially if
(14:51):
their partner loses financial stability and makes us evolutionary evolutionarily,
because women have historically invested more in each child they beat,
they bear excuse me, so they have higher standards. Men,
on the other intend to call it quits when youth
and physical attractives start fading because of evolution never stops
being appropriately superficial. There's a website I never saw before
(15:15):
called Madame Noir that actually also talks about cuffing season
and being the ultimate guide of cuffing seasons. So as
they go through a few things in here, So what
to do during company sea is this is for an
article that's targeting women of what to do so with
a right partner in a mutual understanding of the relationship.
Coming season could be a fun period. Embrace the smugness
(15:37):
where there's cooking dinner together, binge watching holiday movies, taking
long walks in the crisp autumn air. It's all about
creating shared experiences that make those colder months feel warmer.
Ice skating, holiday shopping, cuddling with a hot drink, time
for sharing comfort food, going on cute winter dates, attending
a few holiday parties together. It's creating memories, bombing bonding
(15:59):
over shared warmth, making it a perfect time to get
to know someone on a deeper level. And there's biology
that goes behind this, by the way, because there are
the winter blues that some people might get when the
weather starts to change and mild, their form of seasonal
effective disorder will reduced exposure to sunlight, Ceratonin levels can drop,
(16:21):
leaving people feeling fatigued down and creating emotional comfort and
dating off and dating habits offering shifted.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
As well as the weather cools, people are.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
More likely to seek out short term relationships or need
ben existing connections during the colder months. Yeah, if you
ever notice someone that you were interested in that comes
back into your life once to come back into your
life and reconnect and rekindle relationship, that also happens during
cuffing season. Keep that in mind as well. With less
to do, people are naturally drawing the finding new ways
(16:50):
to spend time. Having a partner to codes yep, becomes
much more enticing. The holiday season can make some people
feel pressure to have companionship.
Speaker 1 (17:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Who UK spoke with a psychotherapist, Debbie Keenan talking about
how that during the winter months it gets colder and
days gets shorter, people feel lonely and more isolated because
there's not much of having social interactions and that people
find partners so they can feel less lonely during the
period when it's like almost like the hibernation period. You're
going out less, it's cold, it's rainy, a lot of
(17:21):
social interactions, so there's not a lot of connection. Colder months,
there's always a natural desire for connection and reassurance. You
naturally look for comfort, stability, connection, Even just having someone
sitting with you on the sofia can reassuring. When your
mind isn't as busy, it tends to water and that
makes the idea of closeness even more enticing true. And
(17:45):
then company season can also give you the chance to
explore what you do and don't want in a relationship
and see what it feels right, So they think this
is also a way to kind of evaluate if you
get into your a relationship and you can realize, okay,
you're in one, not what do you like, well, you
don't like out of it, and you just bail. Yeah,
that's really fun. The other thing, too, is that you're
(18:06):
not gonna in cufing season. There's not that much of
a chance where somebody's gonna be going away on vacation
things like that, because where where things are, people are
gonna want to go and stay closer to homes, to
close to the family, closer to friends because they feel an
obligation to be here during holidays. So you're gonna have
them here more available unless they're going away to family
(18:28):
to be in the holidays with them.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
Things like that. You never know.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
Here's the other part about the sigma of being single
during the holidays. The holidays can be added pressure on
people who aren't in relationships. Between family gatherings, festive events,
constant streams of couples centric imagery, easy for single people
to feel like they're missing out. And that's where I
used to feel like too, where if I was single
during holidays, I.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
Used to be miserable from it.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
One of the days that one of the nights I
would feel the most miserable possible would be New Year's Ease,
because that used to bother me a lot when I
used to go and celebrate New Your's Eve. I know
at anymore, but it was one of those things that really.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Did bother me a lot.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
So now here's some signs that Debbie Kina actually gives
about if you are someone has trying to want to
date you only in wintertime. One is they take a
day or more to replyse your texts. Well, that doesn't
sound like there's a bunch of a difference. Right when
you're out together, they seemed to strike their iner uninterested,
looking everywhere but at you. They're quick to check their phone,
but it pings instead of staying present with you. You know
(19:33):
the connection doesn't feel authentic, and your gut tells something's off.
Doubts keep coming up and deep down you're unsure whether
to trust them. Things like that are red flags. But
that's every time of year as a matter of fact.
And by the way, another interesting thing is it's not
just the same in America because when you go to
(19:57):
other parts of the world, we get switch, okay, because
when the colder runs come up opposite of us, say
in April, in May and June, that's cold for Australia,
New Zealand and South Africa other areas, and so cuffing
season goes the same way around. It's just you know,
(20:18):
south of the equator, it's a different type of cuffing season,
so it still happens there as well. But I'm only
working about you know, north of the tropic of Cancer.
So sorry, but that's what I have to work with.
It's my hemisphere, okay, thank you very much. So Cosmotolitan
India brings up that this time of the year is
(20:41):
this September October rut so much like how Valentine's Day
is a time when you start seeing people and relationships
start breaking up, or it would be breaking up in
Valentine's Day, it happens here when it happens the opposite
the end of cuffing season is beginning in areas like
India because it's that time year, the September October rut
(21:04):
an unspoken breakup season, no One's all coming, or also
peak virgo season, which brings clarity, analysis, ruthless logic. Couples
run on seasonal energy the way playlists do. Summer is
peak soft launch season. So for them, it's the cuffing season.
Fleeting romance, I as coffees, beach nights. The summer love
(21:24):
mindset was September. Sometimes October becomes the quiet cutoff point,
beach ways, get spot for work deadlines, hot girl summer
glow gets sideline by festive season prep, and the fantasy
fizzles out as quickly as began. Well it's there. India
is still like a here, but there is the opposite
over there. When you change the equator, it really is.
(21:44):
So what they're talking about here is the cuffing season
comes as a result of a relationship that you're in
or somebody that you're with, and you're making the switch
off of like, Okay, we're gonna do something else because
for cuffing season, I don't want to be with this
person while cuffing season's going on while the holidays show up.
That's what they're talking about here in this Cosmopolitan article.
(22:06):
Do I actually want to spend Christmas in New Years
with this person? Q? Spirals about the state of relationship
or situationship once the haze of summer wears off and
reality work, stress, exams, festive family obligations creeps in. So
does now long term panic sets in. If I break
up now, I don't have to spend Christmas, New Year's
Eve thousand sized date with them, So then the short
term pang of who will I spend these days with
(22:28):
enter cuffing season. I had never really thought about it
like that, but yes, it's absolutely true. In cuffing season,
you are dealing with people that are coming to the
rebound off of relationship which they might have initiated themselves
for nothing more than you just said, you know what,
I don't want to be with this person during cuffing
season because you got what you wanted from them, and
(22:50):
now you want somebody fresh. You want that honeymoon period
to happen during coming season. That's the whole point.
Speaker 1 (22:57):
And then you only.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
Appreciate the honeymoon season because once you get pass Valentine's DAYA.
Speaker 1 (23:01):
It really doesn't matter unless you.
Speaker 2 (23:07):
Happen to not protect yourself and there's a kid after that.
That's the other point, right, But you know, I never
really thought about that, but it's absolutely true too. This
Cosmopolitan article actually brings the right point that there is
the r a natural reset point. Some couples iverills cracks
(23:28):
that lead at the break cups. For others it becomes
a moment to work through issues that come out stronger.
Then there's those that beside a single hood during the holiday
ssasion does way better than thinking smousor family dinners. If
you find yourself suddenly uncuffed on October.
Speaker 1 (23:39):
Flip the script.
Speaker 2 (23:40):
You've skipped the small talk stage and our freedom into
whatever you want to cuff or not the cuff. That's
the real seasonal question. Fascinating, fascinating so that I never
really thought about. But I do remember and some of
the interactions I had with girls that work in cuffing
season that they had gotten out of relationship like you'd
(24:04):
never really find out was the reason why they got
into this in the first place. And I'll tell you,
when you find a suspect girl that you're with or
a guy that you're in coming season with. You might
ask yourself, you know, it's kind of ironic that you're
now at this time of year that you're single, and
why keep that in mind. That's actually not a bad point.
(24:25):
It could be the red flag that you don't realize
is there that somebody might have gotten out of a relationship.
But think about it when it comes to cuffing season,
when it turns colder in the climate that you're in. Yes,
cuffing season can initiate in other parts of the world
south of the equator, but then here and even in America.
(24:48):
I think this story from Cosmopolitan India realizes the same
way when it comes to America is that, yes, people
are breaking up during this time. Whatever the summer lover,
the kind of thing was, it's a pastime. You don't
want that person for this. You might have got what
you wanted for the honeymoon period from that, and then
(25:08):
you moving want to the next phase, moving on to
somebody else that fits cuffing season, because then also, you know,
women might prefer somebody else during the summertime, and they'll
take advantage of a guy who might not be as attractive.
So average guys get their shot with the girl they
(25:29):
wanted to probably not normally get. If you saw that
girl during summertime, you probably.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
Wouldn't get her.
Speaker 2 (25:36):
But during cuffing season, they're gonna give you a chance.
But that's because there's an internal hidden agenda by it.
So I would pay attention to that very closely. Cuffing
season is here, folks, keep an eye on it. And
it's not the fact that you think you're gonna get
something good out of it. Okay, I'm not saying the
(25:57):
fact that you might not get a chance to get
late and you know, has some fun.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
But the thing is
Speaker 2 (26:05):
The motors operande some women very convey season is very
depraved and debauchross
Podcasting since two thousand and five. This is the King
of Podcasts Radio network, Kingopodcasts dot com.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Beware, gentlemen, it's cuffing season and women are looking to
get your wallet. We're all a little depraved and debaucherous.
Here is the King of Podcasts. Tomorrow begins the fall equos,
the fall season begins. The leaves change. It's a little
(00:33):
cooler outside, not at four anyway, but it will be
soon enough, and cuffing season is coming upon us. It
is that time of year that you are truly King
of podcasts. Your old uncle King of Podcasts here has
to give you the warning. Heed the warning. Cuffing season
is here. It's not a phenomenon. It's a fact of life.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
Now.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
I have talked about this over many years on the
program before this series was called The Praise in the Bogers.
I talked about it on a series called When I'm
Not Podcasting. I mean at this for years. And for
the young men out there, please pay attention.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
If you're not aware.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
With the leaves changing, with the change of temperature, there's
more of a likelihood that if you are looking to
go ahead and get together with another woman or a
woman finds an interest in you, and some reason she
finds a liking to you and approaches you in a
(01:36):
way to where you're get a chance to approach to
her proper.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
You get the date.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
You'll notice dating gets something a little bit easier this
time of year because the intent is not all women.
Let's make sure we say that, but many women this
time of year, if they're single, they want to have
somebody there to take them out, you know, go out
for a Halloween party, be they there plus one, to
(02:07):
maybe have somebody to go and take them over to
your Thanksgiving dinner or their Thanksgiving dinner, to have a
date for that, to have somebody buy them presents for
Christmas and do all the Christmasy things, to be the
girl that has a guy that she can be kissing
when the ball drops on the Year's eve, and then
(02:29):
eventually a breakup happens honor before Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Now, I'm not saying.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
That men are not susceptible to this do and not
suspect either. Absolutely it is women. You can also realize
this can also go the same way. Coffing season is
a very real occurrence, and that's why I have to
talk about it every year this time of year. It's
like the great Pumpkin. You got to bring it up.
So let me bring up a couple times where I've
brought it up over the years. Here's this is what
(02:58):
I think. Twenty twenty three, I brought it up. Let
me go ahead and play up when I talked about
Coplic season the last few times here on the program. Honestly,
to try to be in the right way to have
a real girlfriend and be her boyfriend. That's not what
she wanted for me. And I never paid attention to
the science. If I would have gone through this now,
(03:20):
I probably would have gone out for the first time,
saw the red flags and got out. I would have
wasted that one night out. I'm like, all right, eh, nothing, okay, Steve,
she'll call me back. See if she actually kind of
like comes in. I showed her a great time. Will
she call me back or she'll goes me? And you know, no,
(03:41):
nothing like that.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
That was a girl I had told you about.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
That was about an hour away from me, and it
was a cooler night, and I remember she just wanted
to hook up. But that was a thing where I
thought something was going to go somewhere. But then by
the time Christmas rolled around, I finally got in touch
with her, and I was, you know, very young, stupid,
and very naive. This was the same one I said
(04:05):
that I actually when I only got to see her
once and I got to make out with her outside
of a bar, ash went out and had a nice dinner.
It was just I think she wanted to go and
have sex that night. If there was anything was gonna happen,
it was gonna be that one night stand. I never
paid attention to that, but I never got a reason
as to why she never hit me back up. But
(04:28):
nevertheless I found out while she was at Christmas that
she had a boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
The whole time.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I think, goodness, I've never went back up to make
that hour long trip to go see her again because
something could have happened. So, I mean, I was getting
set up for a trap. This is what I also
said during Covix season last year. But these are guys
that are bringing like little bit frat boys and kind
of being like con bros. But they're also just in
their own little rooms. They're not out to the bars
(04:57):
or clubs because that thing doesn't even happen anymore. They're
not going on to concerts. These guys that are influencers,
they don't go out.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
To be seen. If they're gonna go out at all,
they're gonna have an entourage.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
They're gonna go to someplace, and you know, they're gonna
be cheated like a billionaires because of their status, because
of their fame, because of their fortune.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
That's it.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
But they're not gonna get anything out of that. I
mean the fact that they think that that status is
gonna get them any girl that they want that's gonna
be with them, and they're gonna like have the relationship.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
That's not gonna happen.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
They want to get in a funck around a little bit,
go find a little bit of piece of tale. That's
what they're gonna be able to get.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
But there's delusion with delusion, the delusion.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
Of women that think that coming season they're gonna be
entitled and they're going to get themselves the validation and
the things that they want to fulfill. This year's Halloween
celebration or Thanksgiving, or Christmas or New Year's or Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Fuck that, that's what I said. So it was there.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
During CUFIC season, we started seeing several prominent influencers out
there showing off their girls, showing off their eye candy. Obviously,
it was the troll, a little bit of getting guys
to start.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Feeling like, oh look what's going on.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
Simping becoming the new favorable tactic among men, even more
so during cofic season because it happened so much, and
it's that area that really concerns me, and I just
want to keep an eye out for the guys out
there to help them avoid this kind of thing from happening.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
So, first off, I want to take.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
A story that came from a newspaper I've never heard about,
but this is a called a collegiate newspaper, The Post Athens.
So the Post Athens is an independent student voice newspaper
if covering for Ohio University in Athens, Ohio. So a
(07:00):
young lady brings up cuffing season. Cassidy mcclug shout out
to you. I am worried about what many referred to
as cuffing season, the time when people scramble to find
temporary romantic partners for the holidays, then break up in
the spring. Dating during cuffing season is mostly risky, often
(07:21):
temporary and ultimately not worth the backage it brings. Correct,
but we all fall into it.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
There are a lot of.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
People that can catch through yourself. Trust me, if you
see unwarranted attention, unexpected attention from a girl, don't be
surprised if it's that now. Cassidy here says, do not
put yourself in this scenario. The gifts and companionship are
nice during a lonely time, but the backage is not. Plus,
the sugar you will eat will be turned into a
(07:48):
new Year's resolution. You might not overcome emotional consequences when
these relationships end in the spring often outweigh those fleeting comforts.
Remember why you want to date, how long you've had
the desire. Do you want to get to know someone
or do you want to have someone to do activities with.
You can use coming seasons as a way to stay
curious about love and how to navigate the most hectical
(08:09):
seasons with someone. If you feel that you're not ready
to leave someone into your life, don't start trying this fall.
I agree. I agree with Kathidy here. There are plenty
of ways she says around dating during coming season, especially
if you don't want to introduce someone new to your
family or re introduced to someone else's family. So the
(08:32):
thing is for her, she wants to make sure that
if she does date anyone, she wants them to be
separate enough from her partner so that she doesn't have
to play trivia at Christmas just to.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Open a gift.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Now, a few months back, I talked about Primal Dating,
the book that came from tim Ash, and I told
you about that book, and it's still a book that
you should absolutely go and.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Find right now. The book is called Primal Dating, The.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Unflinching Evolutionary Psychology Guide to Mondorn Relationships. This is important,
so cuffing seasons here. Who knows, I might even call
tim Ash back to come on and go to talk
about coping season because I think it would be very
important to reference this. So I'm gonna look at that
and consider it. So I'll try to reach out see
if we can do something about that and do a
little follow up on that after all. So here's what
(09:25):
we got from his book. In the chapter entitled What's
Love Got to do with It? He talks about the
beautiful lie. Love is basically a magic trick your brain
plays on you.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
You don't fall for a person you fall for.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
An idea of them, a sculpture crafted by your own
mind based on half truths which we'll thinking, and a
sprinkle of chemicals. You meet someone your hormonstro a rave party,
and boom, they become the most interesting, attractive, and borderline
divine human being you've ever encountered.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Reality irrelevant.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
You're convinced this particular human is your soul, oh mate,
the one person in the sea of billions that your
brain insists is transcendently perfect. When you're in love, your
partner magically transforms into the most incredible person that ever exists. Objectively,
they probably just fine, but your brain shap slaps a
golden halo on them and calls it today, And even
(10:18):
if you do spot their flaws, you don't care. Evolution
make sure of that. We're not actually following for the person,
at least side at first, we're falling for the hormone
distorted image of them. We predict our idealized fantasy onto
some unsuspecting stranger who just happen to be standing in
the right place at the right time, and voila, we're smitting.
It's like their brains have an overzealised marketing department working
(10:39):
over time the cells on a product that the face
it is going to probably have some defects. We see
perfection where there are flaws, brings where there's just ordinary conversation,
and destiny where there's really just the mix of luck
and proximity. But like all good hallucinations, this one eventually fades.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
The rosy globe wears off. The real person step.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
In the view, messy, complicated, flawed. Once the double mean
high wears off, we're starting to see the real person
hiding behind our mental photoshop of job. And there's a
couple of things to consider when you go into these
kind of relationships in Cuffing season.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
Number one being here in South Order where I live.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Yes, when you see a woman that you're interested in,
you might not necessarily perceive the woman that you're looking
for the same. Because the girls are not as exposed
as they would be during the summer. They're not showing
as much flesh, as much skin, They're more covered up,
more jeans, men of so many dresses, more jackets, things
(11:42):
like that. It's almost like like a New York kind
of feel to it, where you or it's a lot
of hoodies, right it's a softer look, so girls are
not out there to be able to go and flaunt
so much as they are when they're young. They might
be covered up a little bit more or just it's
just what's going on. And then you're not necessarily as
a guy, flaunting going paying attention too much about how
(12:05):
she looks in terms.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Of her body.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
You're getting more of the personality of her and just
more of just a conventional beauty to her. And then
also during the holidays, you have all these different kind
of events that you could be going to which you're
going to glorify and amplify the experience. It's not just
your random run of the middle date. This is during Halloween,
this is during Thanksgiving, this is during Christmas, New Year's,
(12:30):
all of it. So that holiday season just changes everything up.
It's just the spirit of the holidays that comes in.
So women and men are taking advantage of the holidays
and what that brings because you are moving around a lot,
and the loneliness you'll feel in that time of year
really amplifies, so you want something to worklessness in this space.
(12:52):
And then the fact that you're going out and doing
things fun together, that dating experience Yeah, it gets.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
To be really fun. I know it because I went
through it.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
And so you might go to a Christmas party here
and there, you might go to some other holiday party
here and there.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
You know, they never know.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Plus, there's more time to get together because you can
find the excuses to make time to get together because
there's not so much work. You got days off, you've
got some time in between, you got events going on.
At some of those events, the person requires a plus one,
so you got that going on, and then that's what
creates that cuffing season to even be more so, because
(13:35):
it's more about the camaraderie. It's more about the bonding,
the connection if there is one, and the amount of
spending that you're gonna be doing during those kind of events,
because the woman's not gonna want to go ahead and
do that on her own. So if she can find
a significant other to supplement your discussionary income on her
(13:58):
and what you're doing with.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
Her, that's what she wants more than anything.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
It's like she don't even really care is that this year,
Oh you're celebrating Halloween, whether or Thanksgiving or Christmas, It
doesn't really matter. It's like what am I getting out
of somebody this year my own personal benefit. Another thing
in the book primal dating that you should also take
a mention of is cracking the mistery to see of
(14:28):
love is not just the one time event you meet,
you fall in love the end, but as a constant decision.
Every moment you stay in a relationship is another vote
in favor of it. But that also means people are
always evaluating, consciously or not whether it's staying is still
the best option. And guess what, women are often the
ones leading the charge in any relationships across cultures. Women
initiate divorces and breakups more often than men, especially if
(14:51):
their partner loses financial stability and makes us evolutionary evolutionarily,
because women have historically invested more in each child they beat,
they bear excuse me, so they have higher standards. Men,
on the other intend to call it quits when youth
and physical attractives start fading because of evolution never stops
being appropriately superficial. There's a website I never saw before
(15:15):
called Madame Noir that actually also talks about cuffing season
and being the ultimate guide of cuffing seasons. So as
they go through a few things in here, So what
to do during company sea is this is for an
article that's targeting women of what to do so with
a right partner in a mutual understanding of the relationship.
Coming season could be a fun period. Embrace the smugness
(15:37):
where there's cooking dinner together, binge watching holiday movies, taking
long walks in the crisp autumn air. It's all about
creating shared experiences that make those colder months feel warmer.
Ice skating, holiday shopping, cuddling with a hot drink, time
for sharing comfort food, going on cute winter dates, attending
a few holiday parties together. It's creating memories, bombing bonding
(15:59):
over shared warmth, making it a perfect time to get
to know someone on a deeper level. And there's biology
that goes behind this, by the way, because there are
the winter blues that some people might get when the
weather starts to change and mild, their form of seasonal
effective disorder will reduced exposure to sunlight, Ceratonin levels can drop,
(16:21):
leaving people feeling fatigued down and creating emotional comfort and
dating off and dating habits offering shifted.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
As well as the weather cools, people are.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
More likely to seek out short term relationships or need
ben existing connections during the colder months. Yeah, if you
ever notice someone that you were interested in that comes
back into your life once to come back into your
life and reconnect and rekindle relationship, that also happens during
cuffing season. Keep that in mind as well. With less
to do, people are naturally drawing the finding new ways
(16:50):
to spend time. Having a partner to codes yep, becomes
much more enticing. The holiday season can make some people
feel pressure to have companionship.
Speaker 1 (17:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Who UK spoke with a psychotherapist, Debbie Keenan talking about
how that during the winter months it gets colder and
days gets shorter, people feel lonely and more isolated because
there's not much of having social interactions and that people
find partners so they can feel less lonely during the
period when it's like almost like the hibernation period. You're
going out less, it's cold, it's rainy, a lot of
(17:21):
social interactions, so there's not a lot of connection. Colder months,
there's always a natural desire for connection and reassurance. You
naturally look for comfort, stability, connection, Even just having someone
sitting with you on the sofia can reassuring. When your
mind isn't as busy, it tends to water and that
makes the idea of closeness even more enticing true. And
(17:45):
then company season can also give you the chance to
explore what you do and don't want in a relationship
and see what it feels right, So they think this
is also a way to kind of evaluate if you
get into your a relationship and you can realize, okay,
you're in one, not what do you like, well, you
don't like out of it, and you just bail. Yeah,
that's really fun. The other thing, too, is that you're
(18:06):
not gonna in cufing season. There's not that much of
a chance where somebody's gonna be going away on vacation
things like that, because where where things are, people are
gonna want to go and stay closer to homes, to
close to the family, closer to friends because they feel an
obligation to be here during holidays. So you're gonna have
them here more available unless they're going away to family
(18:28):
to be in the holidays with them.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
Things like that. You never know.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
Here's the other part about the sigma of being single
during the holidays. The holidays can be added pressure on
people who aren't in relationships. Between family gatherings, festive events,
constant streams of couples centric imagery, easy for single people
to feel like they're missing out. And that's where I
used to feel like too, where if I was single
during holidays, I.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
Used to be miserable from it.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
One of the days that one of the nights I
would feel the most miserable possible would be New Year's Ease,
because that used to bother me a lot when I
used to go and celebrate New Your's Eve. I know
at anymore, but it was one of those things that really.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Did bother me a lot.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
So now here's some signs that Debbie Kina actually gives
about if you are someone has trying to want to
date you only in wintertime. One is they take a
day or more to replyse your texts. Well, that doesn't
sound like there's a bunch of a difference. Right when
you're out together, they seemed to strike their iner uninterested,
looking everywhere but at you. They're quick to check their phone,
but it pings instead of staying present with you. You know
(19:33):
the connection doesn't feel authentic, and your gut tells something's off.
Doubts keep coming up and deep down you're unsure whether
to trust them. Things like that are red flags. But
that's every time of year as a matter of fact.
And by the way, another interesting thing is it's not
just the same in America because when you go to
(19:57):
other parts of the world, we get switch, okay, because
when the colder runs come up opposite of us, say
in April, in May and June, that's cold for Australia,
New Zealand and South Africa other areas, and so cuffing
season goes the same way around. It's just you know,
(20:18):
south of the equator, it's a different type of cuffing season,
so it still happens there as well. But I'm only
working about you know, north of the tropic of Cancer.
So sorry, but that's what I have to work with.
It's my hemisphere, okay, thank you very much. So Cosmotolitan
India brings up that this time of the year is
(20:41):
this September October rut so much like how Valentine's Day
is a time when you start seeing people and relationships
start breaking up, or it would be breaking up in
Valentine's Day, it happens here when it happens the opposite
the end of cuffing season is beginning in areas like
India because it's that time year, the September October rut
(21:04):
an unspoken breakup season, no One's all coming, or also
peak virgo season, which brings clarity, analysis, ruthless logic. Couples
run on seasonal energy the way playlists do. Summer is
peak soft launch season. So for them, it's the cuffing season.
Fleeting romance, I as coffees, beach nights. The summer love
(21:24):
mindset was September. Sometimes October becomes the quiet cutoff point,
beach ways, get spot for work deadlines, hot girl summer
glow gets sideline by festive season prep, and the fantasy
fizzles out as quickly as began. Well it's there. India
is still like a here, but there is the opposite
over there. When you change the equator, it really is.
(21:44):
So what they're talking about here is the cuffing season
comes as a result of a relationship that you're in
or somebody that you're with, and you're making the switch
off of like, Okay, we're gonna do something else because
for cuffing season, I don't want to be with this
person while cuffing season's going on while the holidays show up.
That's what they're talking about here in this Cosmopolitan article.
(22:06):
Do I actually want to spend Christmas in New Years
with this person? Q? Spirals about the state of relationship
or situationship once the haze of summer wears off and
reality work, stress, exams, festive family obligations creeps in. So
does now long term panic sets in. If I break
up now, I don't have to spend Christmas, New Year's
Eve thousand sized date with them, So then the short
term pang of who will I spend these days with
(22:28):
enter cuffing season. I had never really thought about it
like that, but yes, it's absolutely true. In cuffing season,
you are dealing with people that are coming to the
rebound off of relationship which they might have initiated themselves
for nothing more than you just said, you know what,
I don't want to be with this person during cuffing
season because you got what you wanted from them, and
(22:50):
now you want somebody fresh. You want that honeymoon period
to happen during coming season. That's the whole point.
Speaker 1 (22:57):
And then you only.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
Appreciate the honeymoon season because once you get pass Valentine's DAYA.
Speaker 1 (23:01):
It really doesn't matter unless you.
Speaker 2 (23:07):
Happen to not protect yourself and there's a kid after that.
That's the other point, right, But you know, I never
really thought about that, but it's absolutely true too. This
Cosmopolitan article actually brings the right point that there is
the r a natural reset point. Some couples iverills cracks
(23:28):
that lead at the break cups. For others it becomes
a moment to work through issues that come out stronger.
Then there's those that beside a single hood during the holiday
ssasion does way better than thinking smousor family dinners. If
you find yourself suddenly uncuffed on October.
Speaker 1 (23:39):
Flip the script.
Speaker 2 (23:40):
You've skipped the small talk stage and our freedom into
whatever you want to cuff or not the cuff. That's
the real seasonal question. Fascinating, fascinating so that I never
really thought about. But I do remember and some of
the interactions I had with girls that work in cuffing
season that they had gotten out of relationship like you'd
(24:04):
never really find out was the reason why they got
into this in the first place. And I'll tell you,
when you find a suspect girl that you're with or
a guy that you're in coming season with. You might
ask yourself, you know, it's kind of ironic that you're
now at this time of year that you're single, and
why keep that in mind. That's actually not a bad point.
(24:25):
It could be the red flag that you don't realize
is there that somebody might have gotten out of a relationship.
But think about it when it comes to cuffing season,
when it turns colder in the climate that you're in. Yes,
cuffing season can initiate in other parts of the world
south of the equator, but then here and even in America.
(24:48):
I think this story from Cosmopolitan India realizes the same
way when it comes to America is that, yes, people
are breaking up during this time. Whatever the summer lover,
the kind of thing was, it's a pastime. You don't
want that person for this. You might have got what
you wanted for the honeymoon period from that, and then
(25:08):
you moving want to the next phase, moving on to
somebody else that fits cuffing season, because then also, you know,
women might prefer somebody else during the summertime, and they'll
take advantage of a guy who might not be as attractive.
So average guys get their shot with the girl they
(25:29):
wanted to probably not normally get. If you saw that
girl during summertime, you probably.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
Wouldn't get her.
Speaker 2 (25:36):
But during cuffing season, they're gonna give you a chance.
But that's because there's an internal hidden agenda by it.
So I would pay attention to that very closely. Cuffing
season is here, folks, keep an eye on it. And
it's not the fact that you think you're gonna get
something good out of it. Okay, I'm not saying the
(25:57):
fact that you might not get a chance to get
late and you know, has some fun.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
But the thing is
Speaker 2 (26:05):
The motors operande some women very convey season is very
depraved and debauchross
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My Favorite Murder is a true crime comedy podcast hosted by Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark. Each week, Karen and Georgia share compelling true crimes and hometown stories from friends and listeners. Since MFM launched in January of 2016, Karen and Georgia have shared their lifelong interest in true crime and have covered stories of infamous serial killers like the Night Stalker, mysterious cold cases, captivating cults, incredible survivor stories and important events from history like the Tulsa race massacre of 1921. My Favorite Murder is part of the Exactly Right podcast network that provides a platform for bold, creative voices to bring to life provocative, entertaining and relatable stories for audiences everywhere. The Exactly Right roster of podcasts covers a variety of topics including historic true crime, comedic interviews and news, science, pop culture and more. Podcasts on the network include Buried Bones with Kate Winkler Dawson and Paul Holes, That's Messed Up: An SVU Podcast, This Podcast Will Kill You, Bananas and more.
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