April 29, 2025 • 31 mins
The landscape of dating and relationships in 2025 appears increasingly complex, marked by a distinct paradox. On one hand, there's a reported desire among singles to move away from rigid rules and embrace more authentic, spontaneous connections, focusing on the "real unscripted moments" (Independent). The fundamental skills of flirting – building rapport, showing genuine interest, and playful engagement – remain crucial for sparking these initial connections (Art of Manliness).
However, this desire for authenticity often clashes with the realities of modern dating, particularly in the digital realm. Expectations can be incredibly high, sometimes bordering on transactional, as highlighted by instances like individuals demanding specific salary minimums even for a first Tinder date (Daily Mail). This suggests a checklist-driven approach that can overshadow the nuances of genuine compatibility. The reality of dating apps often involves a significant gap between the expectation of abundant choices and the actual difficulty of finding truly compatible partners, with skewed matching dynamics potentially contributing to frustration (CatholicMatch Plus, TikTok).
Once relationships form, the challenges evolve but persist. While couples may be seeking therapy more proactively in 2025, aiming for growth rather than just fixing problems (WorldHealth.net), fundamental issues remain prevalent. Communication breakdowns, a failure to truly listen, and the pressures of societal individualism create significant hurdles (Reddit). Common complaints surface in established relationships, such as men frequently reporting feeling a lack of appreciation for their efforts and unmet needs regarding intimacy, which they often view as a barometer of the relationship's health (Douglas Counseling, YourTango).
Ultimately, navigating love in 2025 involves managing this paradox: striving for genuine connection in dating environments that can feel impersonal and demanding, while simultaneously confronting the ongoing need for deep communication, mutual appreciation, and sustained intimacy to maintain long-term relationship health amidst the pressures of modern life.
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However, this desire for authenticity often clashes with the realities of modern dating, particularly in the digital realm. Expectations can be incredibly high, sometimes bordering on transactional, as highlighted by instances like individuals demanding specific salary minimums even for a first Tinder date (Daily Mail). This suggests a checklist-driven approach that can overshadow the nuances of genuine compatibility. The reality of dating apps often involves a significant gap between the expectation of abundant choices and the actual difficulty of finding truly compatible partners, with skewed matching dynamics potentially contributing to frustration (CatholicMatch Plus, TikTok).
Once relationships form, the challenges evolve but persist. While couples may be seeking therapy more proactively in 2025, aiming for growth rather than just fixing problems (WorldHealth.net), fundamental issues remain prevalent. Communication breakdowns, a failure to truly listen, and the pressures of societal individualism create significant hurdles (Reddit). Common complaints surface in established relationships, such as men frequently reporting feeling a lack of appreciation for their efforts and unmet needs regarding intimacy, which they often view as a barometer of the relationship's health (Douglas Counseling, YourTango).
Ultimately, navigating love in 2025 involves managing this paradox: striving for genuine connection in dating environments that can feel impersonal and demanding, while simultaneously confronting the ongoing need for deep communication, mutual appreciation, and sustained intimacy to maintain long-term relationship health amidst the pressures of modern life.
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Podcasting since two thousand and five. This is the King
of Podcasts Radio Network, Kingopodcasts dot Com. Flirting is dead,
delusioned women have bare minimum expectations and marry men are
constantly in therapy, sex, love and money in twenty twenty five,
let's talk about it. We're all a little depraved and debaucherous.
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I wanted to just point that up front, the state
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of sex, love, and money. Let's not even talk about
dating and relationships anymore. Let's just call what it is sex, love,
and money, because those are the three areas that people
really want to enjoy and love. Now, trust me, those
three things would be pretty satisfactories for me if I
could have that, and for some of you out there,
I'm pretty sure you have the same thing. But the
(01:32):
way you determine sex, love, and money depends, and it's
also dependent upon what kind of lifestyle you're into, what
you're thinking is right now, if it's traditional or more modern,
and if you really just believe your own hype when
you look at yourself in the mirror, and what reflection
says about you, what you might say is your reflection
upon what other people might think about re reflection, those
(01:55):
kind of things as simple as that. So we're going
to go into three different tracks. First of all, the
death of flirting. Then we'll talk about delusion of women
and their thoughts about the bare minimum expectations. There's one
that just recently came out about this and the number
one marriage complaint for men that go to therapy. So
let's going to a few of those things. There's a story.
(02:17):
There's a story I found and I never even found
this website before, but obviously they do a podcast and
other things out here called the Art of Manliness. I
didn't even know about this, but they put on a
story here talking about how they saw an article about
how young people these days are tired at didty gaps
and one of the meeting and the rebetic partners in
real life. The only problem is the kids that they
don't know how to take part in the dynamic that
(02:38):
kick starts the impreston development of romantic relationships flirting. So
you know, it was last year to start at twenty four,
I did an episode where I talked about let's get
the dating game back up and going, because that's what
flirting was. So now one of the things we have
the death of real world flirting is we have the
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issue of the lack of flordicability among young adults because
of technology, honestly, smartphones. Because gen Z and Geneffa have
lived in a world where they can mediate all their
communication through a device, they don't have the social skills
to have a depth in person flirting. And you know what,
if you're an older guy, trying to get together with
a younger girl. Some not flirting to some work because
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there are some girls that are not even used to it.
They're kind of creeped up by it because anyone don't
even know what that is. Sure, dating apps will guarantee
initial mutual romantic interest, but you can only chat with
someone on app if they've also expressed interests and there's
uncertainty in the risk is shooting your shot. But when
you flirt in real life, you don't have the same guarantee.
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The person who approach may or may not be interested,
and the only way to find out is by chatting
them up and engaging a forty banner. They make a
good point here, guys. I know that rejection over possibly
getting a chance to communicate with a woman is important.
But the thing is, what was that I saw the
other day? I saw take video talking about would you
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prefer rejection or do you prefer I forget what the
other part was. And for me, rejection is very important
because the fact that we have these dating apps and
the fact that we also have women that will communicate
with us on text messaging. However, we meet each other
and you don't have to ask yourself, like, would you
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want to just really get to the point and find
out if someone is interested in you or not. Body
language will tell you everything that that woman's going to
sell to communicate to you. So I mean, if I had,
if I got other choice of going back to real
in person interactions without the fear of feeling like, well
that the sex I offer is not enough, the love
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I offer is not enough, the money I might have
is not enough. Then that's why I kind of indulge
myself into seeing what there is out there in the
online market, and who you meet online otherwise, and who
you meet other parts of the world or part of
the parts of the country, whatever that might be, because
in person, I mean, it would be fine if we
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were back to a standard where sex, love and money
could be considerable and reasonable, reasonably valued. But it's so
sick and twisted now and so corruptive more than ever
today that that's part of the reason I don't even
bother to try to go and flirt, try to bother,
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go and date, try to bother and even get into
a relationship, let alone get into marriage your children, which
is always what it's been. Twenty years ago might have
been a different story, because I think it is technology
to change everything. Smartphones, earbuds. What are we listening to
all the smartphones to listen to smartphones, or what we're
doing to just keep our eyes and attention on our
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phones and not everywhere else. Now this story they talk about,
they spoke with the professors communication studies and the author
of the Five Flording Styles, Jeffrey Hall, and he talks
about the COVID lockdowns that did not help flirty skill
development either. So a lot of young folks after the
pandemic kind of missed out on some key developmental stages
where you fall in love for the first time and
interact with the opposite sex. A lot of adults in
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their twenties right now because of the pandemic, missed out
on what it was like to what it felt like
they have those experiences. I hate to tell you this, Okay,
when you think about the fact that, you know, the
last couple of weeks, what is it like. I don't know.
Out of the four months have been doing the program
this year, and let's just say, let's just say about
(06:33):
sixteen episodes and about ten of them being about only
fan stars like Bonnie Blue and Lily Phillips. Yeah, it's
because of the fact that there are two women that
the way they present themselves to other men, it's flirtatious.
Bonnie Blue is a very flirty young woman when you
look at what she does and how she talks, because
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you're also tongue in cheek, very risky, but also not dirty.
It's a flirtation. And she was basically able to go
and flirt with guys because she's very good at it.
And that's something to be said about, like how she's
somethmed to go and do things. And the thing is
for some guys, you know, if they're only overcome the
confidence and just say, hey, I'm gonna just sort anyway.
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There are guys out there will do it. But the
problem is that you can flirt today, but are you
gonna really get far same ideas when we had the
days of the pickup artist, and remember we talked about
that where the pickup artist game that's being done now
and like say a Columbia or you know, pick it
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on their place like Dominican Republic or Philippines or whatever.
The story I had from Vice where they talked to
the Passport bros. And what they were doing to do
the pickup artists routine. That's flirting. And remember those guys
were so bad at it because they didn't know what
they're goun to say. First of all, tho was the
language very to deal with, and second was just the
way they talked. So guys at that age, remember these
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are guys like entrepreneurally, they're doing bigcoin and they're doing
different online deals, whatever video games is and that, so
they're not adept to be flirting either. They don't have
in real life flirting rotation skills. I noticed for me,
I still can flirt really well. I mean, I'm very
good my wonderful trait that I had when it came
(08:22):
to networking, when it came to interacting, I was very
good at flirting. It was very good at at least
if I wanted to get the girl's phone number. I was
very successful at that a lot of times because I
know I got the real the real phone number, because
I would go and reach back out we would connect
or just whatever happens. But like the thing was, I
was good at flirting at least I had that, but
(08:43):
I had other things that were against me. So okay,
I might have gone through the flirting and at least
be able to get the phone number, or often the
phone number was not a bad thing, but at least
I would get somewhere. I mean, there's a the reason
why I was able to get some dates. But the
dates are with really never went to anything but that
first interaction I was very good at because when all
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I've done at first dates, the one thing I could
do for sure was flirt, because that's all I ever
had experience in Now, Jeffrey Hall continues on and says
that a lot of young adults are in their twenties
down because of the pandemic, missed doun on what it's like
to have those experiences. So again, those passport bros, they're
all in their twenties early the mid twenties, and I
(09:26):
guarantee you they really never had a chance to go
and do that real interaction or network. The other thing
we always hear about as well, if you go to
the clubs, there are people will go to the bar,
go to the clubs, they're not engaging with each other
at all. Like you don't have the dance floor filled
with people. It's all tables, VIP treatment, all that kind
of stuff. You know, drink bottle tables. That's it, nothing else.
(09:52):
They also mentioned demise of flirting also comes in the
increase skittishness modern men feel as to what's appropriate in
terms of making romantic overtures towards women and what might
come off as creepy or as sexual harassment. Yeah, the
me Too movement and then this movement of where women
feel like as the modern independium they are. If you
even feel like you get anywhere with a woman to
(10:14):
go ahead and talk to them to you at all.
First of all, there is the thought if you come
off creepier as for sexual harassment, because the perceptions out
there now is that doesn't even mean anything if you
even have if you're giving off that vibe, what one
was just going to use that as an excuse unless
you're absolutely the one they want to talk to. And
(10:34):
of course there are parameters that they expect and footing
could be in five different ways traditionally as following conventional
gender roles where men initiate and women respond physical or
open expresses and openly expressing sexual attraction through body language
and touch. Sincere is creating emotional connections through meningual conversation,
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you can still do that through text messaging, playful treat
footing as a fun game or confidence boosts. The same
thing as well could be done online polite, emphasizing courtesy,
respect and subtlety comfortable for everyone involves so that subtle
that interest goes unnoticed. That's good for networking, good for business. Now,
in the story they also go into some tips and
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tricks on what you could be doing to learn about that.
One of the things that they mentioned in here in flirting,
which is very important and if you can master this
craft with a woman, you're going to do really well.
Humor both men and women rate humor is highly effective
and sparking attraction. Telling a funny story or offering a
little gentle teasing offers creature report equally important. Laughing at
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her jokes shows you appreciate your sense of humor. So yeah,
but really, if you can get her to laugh, you're
going to go someplace. It usually works that way. The
delusional issues that women have right now where Daily Mail
actually put out a report about a delusion woman and
her issuing a list of bare minimum expectations toward tender date,
(11:58):
including a strict minimum salary. Now her list what's written
out and I got posted on Reddit in a tender form.
And so the guy that was being told what qualities
what were? What was her criteria in order for him
(12:21):
to be the bare minimum to be her husband. This
guy then talks about and says, quote, she let send
me a list for requirements. One of them includes a
salary of three hundred thousand dollars plus. So here's the
requirements that this young lady had about this. First of all,
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he must love me deeply and put me first. He
must be financially successful at least a three hundred thousand
plus salary. He must be generous and spoiling her, and
must be sophisticated and enjoy luxury. Then she was gone
and offered personal quality. She wanted a man, which is
a man being emostly intelligent and confident, chivalrous and protective,
(13:05):
ambitious and disciplined, and family oriented and well connected. Yeah,
pretty standard here. She also wants a man that is fit, attractive,
and well groomed. She wants a man who takes control,
makes plans, keeps his word and values, trust, supports my
goals and lifestyle, fun, outgoing and socially respected. Prefers privacy
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over social media validation, loves traveling and fine dining, sexually
disciplined and loyal, handles pregnancy prevention, no hormors but for me,
and makes life easier. Requires a made chef et cetera.
Let's go to those again. Eighteen different pieces of criteria
that she has. Okay, bare minim of her husband, loved
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me deeply, put me first. You know that's reasonable, right?
The financial successful part, I don't know how many guys
that are making three hundred thousand dollars a year. That's wild, Okay, lady.
If you think you're gonna get a guy that's gonna
be getting three hundred thousand dollars a year, that a
guy must be working a lot, or what he does
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must keep him preoccupied quite a bit for you all
to do things right. You're not gonna get that guy
away from his work that easily. Okay, generous and spoils you.
When you want a guy to be the husband to
be generous and spoiling you, then there's never gonna be
a shortage of what you expect from him. That's going
to be generous and it's going to spoil you. That's
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not you wanting a husband. That's what you want to
know a daddy. Okay, that's a sugar daddy right there,
let's make that clear. Or you want a daddy type,
you want a guy who's sophisticated and enjoys luxury. That's
a woman that might want to enjoy that. I don't
know how many guys that are acting sophisticatding enjoying luxury.
I mean what, Oh, so you want some rich, preppy
guy kind of you know, likes to go, and I
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think sophisticating enjoys luxury. So some probably be like enjoying art,
enjoying brunch, enjoying I don't know, some other kind of
like very I don't even know what would be. It's
like something just culturally different. There's something enjoys concerts or like,
you know, let's say the opera or I don't know,
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Broadway shows. I don't know what it would be. But
like again, has to be spending money and also enjoy luxury,
so luxury brands, luxury cars, luxury clothes. So the generous
and spoiling part means she must be lavish with luxury,
emotionally intelligent and confident. Well, I mean that's also asking
(15:39):
for like the guy to be super smart and just
be the emotional intelligence and commindants. But that's a reasonable request.
Hivors and protective, Absolutely is a reasonable request. Ambitious and disciplined, yes,
family oriented and world connected yes. The attractive and well groomed. Okay,
it should also matter if you are the same. Are
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any of these eighteen criterias right here? Is this woman
going to match any of these to match up with
her mate? Just want to make that clear. To take
control makes plans. Oh, that's okay. I don't mind that part,
and I'm sure a lot of guys probably be okay
with that. Keeps his word values, trusts now supports my
goals and lifestyle. So that means in part that maybe
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providing him children or being a homemaker, that's not part
of what you want. Goals and lifestyle would obviously mean
goals that you have where you might want him to
invest in some project that you can't do it yourself. Again,
that's where a sugar daddy comes in. Normally, and then
a lifestyle. When you get married, you're expecting a certain
(16:47):
lifestyle to be maintained, when that's more like what dating
is going to be. But relationships want the dating. You
want that lifestyle to continue. That's not a husband, that's
a sugar daddy. I think she needs to be understood
of that. So she wants some rich benefactor. That's what
she's asking for here, And she wants a rich benefactor
that's also a good upstading man. The thing is, there
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are very few and far between men that will be
all these things. I don't think there's anybody that really
say that there's a guy that absolutely fits all these roles.
I don't know that. And how many guys are out
there that are fun, outgoing and socially respected. I mean
that's the part of you need to be a good
around him. All this kind of stuff, preferring privacy over
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social media validation. Well, let's turn it around on the
young lady. What about you? I mean, do we know
that you're not looking for validation? Why would you want
the luxury things? Why do you want to have the
generosity in the spoiling? Who are you gonna share that with?
Don't tell me you're not gonna do on social media.
So it's a little hypocritical right there. I'll turn around
and let's see what she would say about that love's
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traveling and fine dining well, that's also you're kind of
duplicating right now, because generous and luxury. That's also traveling
and find dining, So that's the same thing goes lifestyle.
So she's just repeating herself there. Sexually disciplined and loyal
and sexually This could also mean well, if she wants
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to be sexually active, she will with you, but that's
gonna be on her terms. And he also can't sleep around. Okay,
I can't understand that part. But still sexually disciplined. So
she wants somebody that she can dominate. Well, where's the
guy that's you know, chivalrous and strong like you want.
You don't want a masculine man, you want a guy
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who's not masculine, more feminine, because there's a lot of
feminine traits she's asking for right here too, makes life easier,
made chef et cetera. So she wants a guy to
supply somebody that will do the work that she doesn't
want to do. So what is she gonna do? And
the thing is she thinks you can expect this because
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she's young and pretty, probably has privilege, probably has you know,
a lot of years of youth left. But when that
fades away. You know, it is delusional completely, all these
things that come down to wanting feminine and not really
masculine qualities, really a lot of feminine qualities. In a way,
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I almost feel like she would be better off trying
to find a woman that could go and fill this
role instead of a man. Now, the other thing, too,
is that that's the delusion that's out there. Do I
think it's possible that she's trolling? Yes, because how many
women honestly realistic believe, realistically believe that they're going to
find a guy like that with all those eighteen components?
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And by the way, is she saying that she needs
to have all eighteen met or just some of them? Like,
we don't know that part either. I mean, if I
ask myself if I wanted to go and give what
I thought I needed to go and find a woman
that would be with me, I've haven't. I've had it
written down. Like you know, I think it's very simple
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for me. I want one that loves me so much
she can't imagine her, she can't imagine me without her
in her life, that no matter what life brings up,
she's always cheering me on, standing by my side. And
that she loves me so much she can't live without me.
Those are three things that are pretty simple, and I
think when you have that right there, you have enough
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motivation to get to other things. But if I had
to go over for trades, yeah, a good heart appreciates
and values love over money. And I mean when it
comes to sex, I mean, I'm not necessarily thinking about
like I need to be like a rabbit, like a
rabbit dog or like bunny rabbits humping around all the time.
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I don't need that right now at this point in
my life. It'd be nice, but I'm not expecting it.
So the thing is is that all those areas that
she's asking for from a delusional, independent woman's standpoint, looking
for discression income or looking for what she wants from
a man that satisfies her, like there's so much to
satisfy her. And it's also just feeling very selfish and foolish, ingredient, spoiled, rotten,
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which is fine, But like I said, she is looking
for sex, love and money and such a delusional fashion.
It's way out there out of the normal thought process.
Let's just say that now. Finally, the fact that men
that I have to go behind closed doors, and it's
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not necessarily marriage counseling, but men that will share in
therapy and they're married. The fact that we have this
being an issue right now is it's harboring as it's horrible.
But here's what we got. There have been a lot
of time about the mental health of men, and that
there are a lot of things are going on that
(21:57):
we're seeing a lot of ignorance on the mental health
men and what men are going through. We know that
men are not necessarily the tough guys they were expected
to be backed when being masculine met hiding behind a
public facade of callous and difference to anxiety and depression.
But even though men remain less likely than women to
be diagnosed with mental illness, they are far more likely
to fall victim of the dire consequences really to the
(22:18):
mental health problems. So the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
in twenty twenty, they released statistics saying that men were
almost four times more likely than women to die by suicide.
The rate of suicide is highest among middle aged white men.
Now there's the stigma that kept men from seeking mental
health truament is crumbling men's health organizations like November, the
(22:41):
Men's Health Network, and the American Society for Men's Health
have staked out prominent positions on the front line of
men's health advocacy. So men seeking therapy to help with
emotional challenges and mental health obstacles, they've already taken that
first important step towards a better understanding of their overall health.
But what do they talk about in marriage therapy? So
therapists have covered some of the things that men secretly
(23:02):
share in therapy that their issues are. One is a
partner who's too critical. So when character treats are characters
are criticized at least the great distress within the individual
and the marriage. When the focus is being critical, the
other spouse loses side of what's being lovable, and criticism
leads to disregard, disrespect, contempt, and even hate. Yeah, guys
don't want to feel like you're in a spot where
(23:24):
everything's going wrong and there's nothing you can do right
to make a woman happy, Because it's an inherent thing
for a man to want to make his women happy
and take care of her and provide for her. But
it's not so much about money. It's more about love
and also about sex, so behavior can be responded to
(23:47):
differently and address ultimately and ultimately iliminited. In the marriage,
husbands want to be valued, adored, admired, acceptant, and respected,
and they can learn communication techniques and tools to defend
themselves in a non defensive way when they're criticized next
a partner who unfairly judges his choices. Like I said,
there was one woman that I had that y'all. I'll
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say it like this. She was a wonderful girl, smart, beautiful, ambitious,
and I was just way too naive and immature and
stupid to realize how good she was to me. Because
in the short time I spent with her, I botched
it up because she broke off with me. And you know,
(24:34):
in retrospect, I did tell her when we communicate it
again and she got married, and I'm sure she's happy.
Like she really did put me in a lot of
different ways. Was supportive. I mean the initial start, there
was something they're good between me and her, but I
just was ringing it wrong. I was bad about it.
I was so emotionally stupid about everything. Twenty nine years old.
(25:00):
I did not understand when I was done with her,
But I wish I would have found her at this
time of my life. I probably would have been handling
things a lot better. But it took you again twenty
years too late. But that's okay, supposed to happen that way.
I guess that's just a lesson to go to learn.
But now for me, I know with her, she helped
me with certain decisions when I was stuck in debt
(25:22):
and what I was trying to do. I'm trying to
get myself off the ground when I came with my
jobs that she gave me great constant consulting. She console
with me. She was looking at my best interests when
she was saying about things about what I should do
in some of the struggles that I had. And I
must say that she did help in doing some turning
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around for me and where things were in my life.
And I must admit she helped me get to a
certain direction that really helped me out. And I'm grateful
to her about that because I needed her. I mean,
it was really something that I wanted. I got lucky
that she was able to go ahead and talk to
me and bring me back down to earth because it
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be my own thoughts, overthinking everything. She just had a
way to gain and communicate with me and just help
me understand from whatever perspective. Like she wasn't being selfish,
she was being selfless. She's offering sound advice and I
took her advice and I trusted her advice, and she
was so smart about that. And you know, I hope
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she's doing wonderful right now. I hope she's very happy,
and I hope she's very successful. And she has a great,
big family, big huge, stupid family out there, not stupid
like you're just big and like, you know, ridiculous. I
hope she's having all the love that she ever wants
in her life. And hope she's very happy right now.
So for some men, they say that, you know, they
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feel like they could ever fully satisfy their wives because
they're mixed with any words is any kind of words
is an assessment of their behavior, which for a man
is dirictly an assessment of his worth. So one thing
is that for guys, they might not feel safe expressing
their feelings. Then there's a lack of intimacy, which that
goes with every real issue right now. A lack of
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intimacy is One of the most common issues is she
mentioned when they come into therapy, so usually is far
more complex than the simple statement intimacy for most men
a physical act that produces emotional closeness, but also intimacy.
For women is an emotional act and of all's physicality,
but begins at two parts, which means it is easy
for this to become disrupted and for both to feel
frustrated by different reasons. And the problem for a man
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is that if he and his wife are stressed due
to the demands of their life, work, children, new house,
family illness, his wife will feel less emotion to close,
be less lucky to engage in intimacy because she will
need she will have less emotional bandwidth, the element she
needs to become intimate. And then there's also meritive issues
where therapists talking about the fact that men will come
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off and say, well, she talks all the time. We
haven't has been in months. She repeats hertuff had ramble
zon on forever, so I can no longer remember what
she's saying. She complains that she does everything and I
do nothing without regard about worktime, community, car, yard and
house maintenance. She can't control her emotions and attacks me,
hates my friends, and any social life we have is
with her friends. She is over protective and interferes with
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the kids getting real life consequences and her family. She
thinks it's perfect. Mine are dreadful. These are pretty common
things we hear about all the time. But that's the
other part where those might be common things that could
be probably alleviated. But then the other part could be
that that woman might be gaslighting, might be very narcissistic,
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controlling and unbecoming of a woman to be a wife,
that she was a red flag and toxic from the beginning.
Which that's the part that we have too, where how
many times are guys being stuck in a relationship where
they might be in something that's very toxic and they
don't realize it. So when you hear the delusionality here,
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when you hear about some of the things that men
might be having to go to speak on in therapy
about the women in their life, that's not a good sign.
And again lack of intimacy that can be held back.
Like some of this you have to also consider could
be taken from the prospective that there might be some
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mental not just the issues that are going against the
guys' mental health, but also what kind of toxicity this
woman has, because that's the other part we have to
go and keep an eye on as well. That there
are certain things here that might be a bit cultural
because of the fact that we have women that are
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in relationships right now with guys and what they've asked for.
Guys have not learned to you know, they're not as
masculine as once before, they are not as the testosteronal level,
they might not have as much as one before. I mean,
I remember seeing a story on to you and not
until long ago about you know that men's testosterone levels
are dropping more at younger ages more than ever, Like
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for some guys today twenties or thirties having a tesosteral
level under four hundred, two hundred and three hundred points.
That's bad. The fact that we have now you know,
hormone therapy, replacement and all these other things that are
going on that try to go and change this out
because these are all these issues that are coming across
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that it's just really a big problem. But this is
the state of sex, love and money in twenty twenty five.
These are big issues that we have right here, big,
big issues and there's no answer for it. So I
mean there's one way you can go and handle it,
which is a way I have done before, you know,
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in some way, shape or form, because it's just like
it works, you know, kind of helps out this way,
but you know you want to take the route in
the meantime while you're waiting for that woman that will
you know, appreciate you and say, well, the sex is enough,
the love is more than enough, and the money is
not that important to be a factor. You need to
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get by and get together. But like other parts is
like you know, the delusionality is not there. So maybe
just do it like some people do out there. You know,
maybe you'll find a woman that is I'm gonna go
ahead and full around and rop around with sex. You
fall in a little bit, a little bit, you keep
her at a distance, you spend a little money on her,
so then you just keep things as a friends with benefits.
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Maybe keep it a little depraved and debatrous.
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I wanted to just point that up front, the state
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of sex, love, and money. Let's not even talk about
dating and relationships anymore. Let's just call what it is sex, love,
and money, because those are the three areas that people
really want to enjoy and love. Now, trust me, those
three things would be pretty satisfactories for me if I
could have that, and for some of you out there,
I'm pretty sure you have the same thing. But the
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way you determine sex, love, and money depends, and it's
also dependent upon what kind of lifestyle you're into, what
you're thinking is right now, if it's traditional or more modern,
and if you really just believe your own hype when
you look at yourself in the mirror, and what reflection
says about you, what you might say is your reflection
upon what other people might think about re reflection, those
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kind of things as simple as that. So we're going
to go into three different tracks. First of all, the
death of flirting. Then we'll talk about delusion of women
and their thoughts about the bare minimum expectations. There's one
that just recently came out about this and the number
one marriage complaint for men that go to therapy. So
let's going to a few of those things. There's a story.
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There's a story I found and I never even found
this website before, but obviously they do a podcast and
other things out here called the Art of Manliness. I
didn't even know about this, but they put on a
story here talking about how they saw an article about
how young people these days are tired at didty gaps
and one of the meeting and the rebetic partners in
real life. The only problem is the kids that they
don't know how to take part in the dynamic that
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kick starts the impreston development of romantic relationships flirting. So
you know, it was last year to start at twenty four,
I did an episode where I talked about let's get
the dating game back up and going, because that's what
flirting was. So now one of the things we have
the death of real world flirting is we have the
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issue of the lack of flordicability among young adults because
of technology, honestly, smartphones. Because gen Z and Geneffa have
lived in a world where they can mediate all their
communication through a device, they don't have the social skills
to have a depth in person flirting. And you know what,
if you're an older guy, trying to get together with
a younger girl. Some not flirting to some work because
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there are some girls that are not even used to it.
They're kind of creeped up by it because anyone don't
even know what that is. Sure, dating apps will guarantee
initial mutual romantic interest, but you can only chat with
someone on app if they've also expressed interests and there's
uncertainty in the risk is shooting your shot. But when
you flirt in real life, you don't have the same guarantee.
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The person who approach may or may not be interested,
and the only way to find out is by chatting
them up and engaging a forty banner. They make a
good point here, guys. I know that rejection over possibly
getting a chance to communicate with a woman is important.
But the thing is, what was that I saw the
other day? I saw take video talking about would you
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prefer rejection or do you prefer I forget what the
other part was. And for me, rejection is very important
because the fact that we have these dating apps and
the fact that we also have women that will communicate
with us on text messaging. However, we meet each other
and you don't have to ask yourself, like, would you
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want to just really get to the point and find
out if someone is interested in you or not. Body
language will tell you everything that that woman's going to
sell to communicate to you. So I mean, if I had,
if I got other choice of going back to real
in person interactions without the fear of feeling like, well
that the sex I offer is not enough, the love
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I offer is not enough, the money I might have
is not enough. Then that's why I kind of indulge
myself into seeing what there is out there in the
online market, and who you meet online otherwise, and who
you meet other parts of the world or part of
the parts of the country, whatever that might be, because
in person, I mean, it would be fine if we
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were back to a standard where sex, love and money
could be considerable and reasonable, reasonably valued. But it's so
sick and twisted now and so corruptive more than ever
today that that's part of the reason I don't even
bother to try to go and flirt, try to bother,
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go and date, try to bother and even get into
a relationship, let alone get into marriage your children, which
is always what it's been. Twenty years ago might have
been a different story, because I think it is technology
to change everything. Smartphones, earbuds. What are we listening to
all the smartphones to listen to smartphones, or what we're
doing to just keep our eyes and attention on our
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phones and not everywhere else. Now this story they talk about,
they spoke with the professors communication studies and the author
of the Five Flording Styles, Jeffrey Hall, and he talks
about the COVID lockdowns that did not help flirty skill
development either. So a lot of young folks after the
pandemic kind of missed out on some key developmental stages
where you fall in love for the first time and
interact with the opposite sex. A lot of adults in
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their twenties right now because of the pandemic, missed out
on what it was like to what it felt like
they have those experiences. I hate to tell you this, Okay,
when you think about the fact that, you know, the
last couple of weeks, what is it like. I don't know.
Out of the four months have been doing the program
this year, and let's just say, let's just say about
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sixteen episodes and about ten of them being about only
fan stars like Bonnie Blue and Lily Phillips. Yeah, it's
because of the fact that there are two women that
the way they present themselves to other men, it's flirtatious.
Bonnie Blue is a very flirty young woman when you
look at what she does and how she talks, because
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you're also tongue in cheek, very risky, but also not dirty.
It's a flirtation. And she was basically able to go
and flirt with guys because she's very good at it.
And that's something to be said about, like how she's
somethmed to go and do things. And the thing is
for some guys, you know, if they're only overcome the
confidence and just say, hey, I'm gonna just sort anyway.
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There are guys out there will do it. But the
problem is that you can flirt today, but are you
gonna really get far same ideas when we had the
days of the pickup artist, and remember we talked about
that where the pickup artist game that's being done now
and like say a Columbia or you know, pick it
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on their place like Dominican Republic or Philippines or whatever.
The story I had from Vice where they talked to
the Passport bros. And what they were doing to do
the pickup artists routine. That's flirting. And remember those guys
were so bad at it because they didn't know what
they're goun to say. First of all, tho was the
language very to deal with, and second was just the
way they talked. So guys at that age, remember these
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are guys like entrepreneurally, they're doing bigcoin and they're doing
different online deals, whatever video games is and that, so
they're not adept to be flirting either. They don't have
in real life flirting rotation skills. I noticed for me,
I still can flirt really well. I mean, I'm very
good my wonderful trait that I had when it came
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to networking, when it came to interacting, I was very
good at flirting. It was very good at at least
if I wanted to get the girl's phone number. I was
very successful at that a lot of times because I
know I got the real the real phone number, because
I would go and reach back out we would connect
or just whatever happens. But like the thing was, I
was good at flirting at least I had that, but
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I had other things that were against me. So okay,
I might have gone through the flirting and at least
be able to get the phone number, or often the
phone number was not a bad thing, but at least
I would get somewhere. I mean, there's a the reason
why I was able to get some dates. But the
dates are with really never went to anything but that
first interaction I was very good at because when all
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I've done at first dates, the one thing I could
do for sure was flirt, because that's all I ever
had experience in Now, Jeffrey Hall continues on and says
that a lot of young adults are in their twenties
down because of the pandemic, missed doun on what it's like
to have those experiences. So again, those passport bros, they're
all in their twenties early the mid twenties, and I
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guarantee you they really never had a chance to go
and do that real interaction or network. The other thing
we always hear about as well, if you go to
the clubs, there are people will go to the bar,
go to the clubs, they're not engaging with each other
at all. Like you don't have the dance floor filled
with people. It's all tables, VIP treatment, all that kind
of stuff. You know, drink bottle tables. That's it, nothing else.
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They also mentioned demise of flirting also comes in the
increase skittishness modern men feel as to what's appropriate in
terms of making romantic overtures towards women and what might
come off as creepy or as sexual harassment. Yeah, the
me Too movement and then this movement of where women
feel like as the modern independium they are. If you
even feel like you get anywhere with a woman to
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go ahead and talk to them to you at all.
First of all, there is the thought if you come
off creepier as for sexual harassment, because the perceptions out
there now is that doesn't even mean anything if you
even have if you're giving off that vibe, what one
was just going to use that as an excuse unless
you're absolutely the one they want to talk to. And
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of course there are parameters that they expect and footing
could be in five different ways traditionally as following conventional
gender roles where men initiate and women respond physical or
open expresses and openly expressing sexual attraction through body language
and touch. Sincere is creating emotional connections through meningual conversation,
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you can still do that through text messaging, playful treat
footing as a fun game or confidence boosts. The same
thing as well could be done online polite, emphasizing courtesy,
respect and subtlety comfortable for everyone involves so that subtle
that interest goes unnoticed. That's good for networking, good for business. Now,
in the story they also go into some tips and
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tricks on what you could be doing to learn about that.
One of the things that they mentioned in here in flirting,
which is very important and if you can master this
craft with a woman, you're going to do really well.
Humor both men and women rate humor is highly effective
and sparking attraction. Telling a funny story or offering a
little gentle teasing offers creature report equally important. Laughing at
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her jokes shows you appreciate your sense of humor. So yeah,
but really, if you can get her to laugh, you're
going to go someplace. It usually works that way. The
delusional issues that women have right now where Daily Mail
actually put out a report about a delusion woman and
her issuing a list of bare minimum expectations toward tender date,
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including a strict minimum salary. Now her list what's written
out and I got posted on Reddit in a tender form.
And so the guy that was being told what qualities
what were? What was her criteria in order for him
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to be the bare minimum to be her husband. This
guy then talks about and says, quote, she let send
me a list for requirements. One of them includes a
salary of three hundred thousand dollars plus. So here's the
requirements that this young lady had about this. First of all,
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he must love me deeply and put me first. He
must be financially successful at least a three hundred thousand
plus salary. He must be generous and spoiling her, and
must be sophisticated and enjoy luxury. Then she was gone
and offered personal quality. She wanted a man, which is
a man being emostly intelligent and confident, chivalrous and protective,
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ambitious and disciplined, and family oriented and well connected. Yeah,
pretty standard here. She also wants a man that is fit, attractive,
and well groomed. She wants a man who takes control,
makes plans, keeps his word and values, trust, supports my
goals and lifestyle, fun, outgoing and socially respected. Prefers privacy
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over social media validation, loves traveling and fine dining, sexually
disciplined and loyal, handles pregnancy prevention, no hormors but for me,
and makes life easier. Requires a made chef et cetera.
Let's go to those again. Eighteen different pieces of criteria
that she has. Okay, bare minim of her husband, loved
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me deeply, put me first. You know that's reasonable, right?
The financial successful part, I don't know how many guys
that are making three hundred thousand dollars a year. That's wild, Okay, lady.
If you think you're gonna get a guy that's gonna
be getting three hundred thousand dollars a year, that a
guy must be working a lot, or what he does
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must keep him preoccupied quite a bit for you all
to do things right. You're not gonna get that guy
away from his work that easily. Okay, generous and spoils you.
When you want a guy to be the husband to
be generous and spoiling you, then there's never gonna be
a shortage of what you expect from him. That's going
to be generous and it's going to spoil you. That's
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not you wanting a husband. That's what you want to
know a daddy. Okay, that's a sugar daddy right there,
let's make that clear. Or you want a daddy type,
you want a guy who's sophisticated and enjoys luxury. That's
a woman that might want to enjoy that. I don't
know how many guys that are acting sophisticatding enjoying luxury.
I mean what, Oh, so you want some rich, preppy
guy kind of you know, likes to go, and I
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think sophisticating enjoys luxury. So some probably be like enjoying art,
enjoying brunch, enjoying I don't know, some other kind of
like very I don't even know what would be. It's
like something just culturally different. There's something enjoys concerts or like,
you know, let's say the opera or I don't know,
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Broadway shows. I don't know what it would be. But
like again, has to be spending money and also enjoy luxury,
so luxury brands, luxury cars, luxury clothes. So the generous
and spoiling part means she must be lavish with luxury,
emotionally intelligent and confident. Well, I mean that's also asking
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for like the guy to be super smart and just
be the emotional intelligence and commindants. But that's a reasonable request.
Hivors and protective, Absolutely is a reasonable request. Ambitious and disciplined, yes,
family oriented and world connected yes. The attractive and well groomed. Okay,
it should also matter if you are the same. Are
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any of these eighteen criterias right here? Is this woman
going to match any of these to match up with
her mate? Just want to make that clear. To take
control makes plans. Oh, that's okay. I don't mind that part,
and I'm sure a lot of guys probably be okay
with that. Keeps his word values, trusts now supports my
goals and lifestyle. So that means in part that maybe
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providing him children or being a homemaker, that's not part
of what you want. Goals and lifestyle would obviously mean
goals that you have where you might want him to
invest in some project that you can't do it yourself. Again,
that's where a sugar daddy comes in. Normally, and then
a lifestyle. When you get married, you're expecting a certain
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lifestyle to be maintained, when that's more like what dating
is going to be. But relationships want the dating. You
want that lifestyle to continue. That's not a husband, that's
a sugar daddy. I think she needs to be understood
of that. So she wants some rich benefactor. That's what
she's asking for here, And she wants a rich benefactor
that's also a good upstading man. The thing is, there
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are very few and far between men that will be
all these things. I don't think there's anybody that really
say that there's a guy that absolutely fits all these roles.
I don't know that. And how many guys are out
there that are fun, outgoing and socially respected. I mean
that's the part of you need to be a good
around him. All this kind of stuff, preferring privacy over
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social media validation. Well, let's turn it around on the
young lady. What about you? I mean, do we know
that you're not looking for validation? Why would you want
the luxury things? Why do you want to have the
generosity in the spoiling? Who are you gonna share that with?
Don't tell me you're not gonna do on social media.
So it's a little hypocritical right there. I'll turn around
and let's see what she would say about that love's
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traveling and fine dining well, that's also you're kind of
duplicating right now, because generous and luxury. That's also traveling
and find dining, So that's the same thing goes lifestyle.
So she's just repeating herself there. Sexually disciplined and loyal
and sexually This could also mean well, if she wants
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to be sexually active, she will with you, but that's
gonna be on her terms. And he also can't sleep around. Okay,
I can't understand that part. But still sexually disciplined. So
she wants somebody that she can dominate. Well, where's the
guy that's you know, chivalrous and strong like you want.
You don't want a masculine man, you want a guy
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who's not masculine, more feminine, because there's a lot of
feminine traits she's asking for right here too, makes life easier,
made chef et cetera. So she wants a guy to
supply somebody that will do the work that she doesn't
want to do. So what is she gonna do? And
the thing is she thinks you can expect this because
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she's young and pretty, probably has privilege, probably has you know,
a lot of years of youth left. But when that
fades away. You know, it is delusional completely, all these
things that come down to wanting feminine and not really
masculine qualities, really a lot of feminine qualities. In a way,
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I almost feel like she would be better off trying
to find a woman that could go and fill this
role instead of a man. Now, the other thing, too,
is that that's the delusion that's out there. Do I
think it's possible that she's trolling? Yes, because how many
women honestly realistic believe, realistically believe that they're going to
find a guy like that with all those eighteen components?
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And by the way, is she saying that she needs
to have all eighteen met or just some of them? Like,
we don't know that part either. I mean, if I
ask myself if I wanted to go and give what
I thought I needed to go and find a woman
that would be with me, I've haven't. I've had it
written down. Like you know, I think it's very simple
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for me. I want one that loves me so much
she can't imagine her, she can't imagine me without her
in her life, that no matter what life brings up,
she's always cheering me on, standing by my side. And
that she loves me so much she can't live without me.
Those are three things that are pretty simple, and I
think when you have that right there, you have enough
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motivation to get to other things. But if I had
to go over for trades, yeah, a good heart appreciates
and values love over money. And I mean when it
comes to sex, I mean, I'm not necessarily thinking about
like I need to be like a rabbit, like a
rabbit dog or like bunny rabbits humping around all the time.
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I don't need that right now at this point in
my life. It'd be nice, but I'm not expecting it.
So the thing is is that all those areas that
she's asking for from a delusional, independent woman's standpoint, looking
for discression income or looking for what she wants from
a man that satisfies her, like there's so much to
satisfy her. And it's also just feeling very selfish and foolish, ingredient, spoiled, rotten,
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which is fine, But like I said, she is looking
for sex, love and money and such a delusional fashion.
It's way out there out of the normal thought process.
Let's just say that now. Finally, the fact that men
that I have to go behind closed doors, and it's
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not necessarily marriage counseling, but men that will share in
therapy and they're married. The fact that we have this
being an issue right now is it's harboring as it's horrible.
But here's what we got. There have been a lot
of time about the mental health of men, and that
there are a lot of things are going on that
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we're seeing a lot of ignorance on the mental health
men and what men are going through. We know that
men are not necessarily the tough guys they were expected
to be backed when being masculine met hiding behind a
public facade of callous and difference to anxiety and depression.
But even though men remain less likely than women to
be diagnosed with mental illness, they are far more likely
to fall victim of the dire consequences really to the
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mental health problems. So the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
in twenty twenty, they released statistics saying that men were
almost four times more likely than women to die by suicide.
The rate of suicide is highest among middle aged white men.
Now there's the stigma that kept men from seeking mental
health truament is crumbling men's health organizations like November, the
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Men's Health Network, and the American Society for Men's Health
have staked out prominent positions on the front line of
men's health advocacy. So men seeking therapy to help with
emotional challenges and mental health obstacles, they've already taken that
first important step towards a better understanding of their overall health.
But what do they talk about in marriage therapy? So
therapists have covered some of the things that men secretly
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share in therapy that their issues are. One is a
partner who's too critical. So when character treats are characters
are criticized at least the great distress within the individual
and the marriage. When the focus is being critical, the
other spouse loses side of what's being lovable, and criticism
leads to disregard, disrespect, contempt, and even hate. Yeah, guys
don't want to feel like you're in a spot where
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everything's going wrong and there's nothing you can do right
to make a woman happy, Because it's an inherent thing
for a man to want to make his women happy
and take care of her and provide for her. But
it's not so much about money. It's more about love
and also about sex, so behavior can be responded to
(23:47):
differently and address ultimately and ultimately iliminited. In the marriage,
husbands want to be valued, adored, admired, acceptant, and respected,
and they can learn communication techniques and tools to defend
themselves in a non defensive way when they're criticized next
a partner who unfairly judges his choices. Like I said,
there was one woman that I had that y'all. I'll
(24:11):
say it like this. She was a wonderful girl, smart, beautiful, ambitious,
and I was just way too naive and immature and
stupid to realize how good she was to me. Because
in the short time I spent with her, I botched
it up because she broke off with me. And you know,
(24:34):
in retrospect, I did tell her when we communicate it
again and she got married, and I'm sure she's happy.
Like she really did put me in a lot of
different ways. Was supportive. I mean the initial start, there
was something they're good between me and her, but I
just was ringing it wrong. I was bad about it.
I was so emotionally stupid about everything. Twenty nine years old.
(25:00):
I did not understand when I was done with her,
But I wish I would have found her at this
time of my life. I probably would have been handling
things a lot better. But it took you again twenty
years too late. But that's okay, supposed to happen that way.
I guess that's just a lesson to go to learn.
But now for me, I know with her, she helped
me with certain decisions when I was stuck in debt
(25:22):
and what I was trying to do. I'm trying to
get myself off the ground when I came with my
jobs that she gave me great constant consulting. She console
with me. She was looking at my best interests when
she was saying about things about what I should do
in some of the struggles that I had. And I
must say that she did help in doing some turning
(25:44):
around for me and where things were in my life.
And I must admit she helped me get to a
certain direction that really helped me out. And I'm grateful
to her about that because I needed her. I mean,
it was really something that I wanted. I got lucky
that she was able to go ahead and talk to
me and bring me back down to earth because it
(26:06):
be my own thoughts, overthinking everything. She just had a
way to gain and communicate with me and just help
me understand from whatever perspective. Like she wasn't being selfish,
she was being selfless. She's offering sound advice and I
took her advice and I trusted her advice, and she
was so smart about that. And you know, I hope
(26:30):
she's doing wonderful right now. I hope she's very happy,
and I hope she's very successful. And she has a great,
big family, big huge, stupid family out there, not stupid
like you're just big and like, you know, ridiculous. I
hope she's having all the love that she ever wants
in her life. And hope she's very happy right now.
So for some men, they say that, you know, they
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feel like they could ever fully satisfy their wives because
they're mixed with any words is any kind of words
is an assessment of their behavior, which for a man
is dirictly an assessment of his worth. So one thing
is that for guys, they might not feel safe expressing
their feelings. Then there's a lack of intimacy, which that
goes with every real issue right now. A lack of
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intimacy is One of the most common issues is she
mentioned when they come into therapy, so usually is far
more complex than the simple statement intimacy for most men
a physical act that produces emotional closeness, but also intimacy.
For women is an emotional act and of all's physicality,
but begins at two parts, which means it is easy
for this to become disrupted and for both to feel
frustrated by different reasons. And the problem for a man
(27:34):
is that if he and his wife are stressed due
to the demands of their life, work, children, new house,
family illness, his wife will feel less emotion to close,
be less lucky to engage in intimacy because she will
need she will have less emotional bandwidth, the element she
needs to become intimate. And then there's also meritive issues
where therapists talking about the fact that men will come
(27:56):
off and say, well, she talks all the time. We
haven't has been in months. She repeats hertuff had ramble
zon on forever, so I can no longer remember what
she's saying. She complains that she does everything and I
do nothing without regard about worktime, community, car, yard and
house maintenance. She can't control her emotions and attacks me,
hates my friends, and any social life we have is
with her friends. She is over protective and interferes with
(28:16):
the kids getting real life consequences and her family. She
thinks it's perfect. Mine are dreadful. These are pretty common
things we hear about all the time. But that's the
other part where those might be common things that could
be probably alleviated. But then the other part could be
that that woman might be gaslighting, might be very narcissistic,
(28:37):
controlling and unbecoming of a woman to be a wife,
that she was a red flag and toxic from the beginning.
Which that's the part that we have too, where how
many times are guys being stuck in a relationship where
they might be in something that's very toxic and they
don't realize it. So when you hear the delusionality here,
(28:57):
when you hear about some of the things that men
might be having to go to speak on in therapy
about the women in their life, that's not a good sign.
And again lack of intimacy that can be held back.
Like some of this you have to also consider could
be taken from the prospective that there might be some
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mental not just the issues that are going against the
guys' mental health, but also what kind of toxicity this
woman has, because that's the other part we have to
go and keep an eye on as well. That there
are certain things here that might be a bit cultural
because of the fact that we have women that are
(29:39):
in relationships right now with guys and what they've asked for.
Guys have not learned to you know, they're not as
masculine as once before, they are not as the testosteronal level,
they might not have as much as one before. I mean,
I remember seeing a story on to you and not
until long ago about you know that men's testosterone levels
are dropping more at younger ages more than ever, Like
(30:01):
for some guys today twenties or thirties having a tesosteral
level under four hundred, two hundred and three hundred points.
That's bad. The fact that we have now you know,
hormone therapy, replacement and all these other things that are
going on that try to go and change this out
because these are all these issues that are coming across
(30:21):
that it's just really a big problem. But this is
the state of sex, love and money in twenty twenty five.
These are big issues that we have right here, big,
big issues and there's no answer for it. So I
mean there's one way you can go and handle it,
which is a way I have done before, you know,
(30:41):
in some way, shape or form, because it's just like
it works, you know, kind of helps out this way,
but you know you want to take the route in
the meantime while you're waiting for that woman that will
you know, appreciate you and say, well, the sex is enough,
the love is more than enough, and the money is
not that important to be a factor. You need to
(31:05):
get by and get together. But like other parts is
like you know, the delusionality is not there. So maybe
just do it like some people do out there. You know,
maybe you'll find a woman that is I'm gonna go
ahead and full around and rop around with sex. You
fall in a little bit, a little bit, you keep
her at a distance, you spend a little money on her,
so then you just keep things as a friends with benefits.
(31:26):
Maybe keep it a little depraved and debatrous.
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