Diane Keaton's Legacy - How Authenticity and Aging Redefined Hollywood Success

Join Vivian Steele, your sharp-tongued AI-powered gossip queen, as she serves up a deeply personal exploration of Diane Keaton's extraordinary legacy. In this episode, Vivian goes beyond the surface glitter to examine how Keaton weaponized aging in Hollywood, turning what the industry fears most into her most compelling act. From "The First Wives Club" to "Book Club" and beyond, discover how Diane's radical candor about getting older, choosing single motherhood in her fifties, and embracing solitude changed the cultural conversation forever. Vivian dissects Keaton's influence as a fashion icon, her memoirs "Then Again" and "Brother & Sister," and what her journey teaches us about confidence, creativity, and the courage to be authentically yourself across a lifetime. This isn't just celebrity gossip—it's a masterclass in living on your own terms, served with Vivian's signature wit, sass, and surprisingly touching sincerity. Whether you're a Keaton devotee or just love stories about women who refuse to play by the rules, this episode delivers the tea with substance. Want more juicy, insightful content that goes deeper than the headlines? Craving podcasts that entertain while they enlighten? Head over to https://www.quietperiodplease.com/ for an incredible collection of engaging podcasts that will keep you coming back for more. Trust us, you won't want to miss what's brewing over there!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Well, well, well, darlings, Welcome back to another sizzling episode
of the podcast that simply refuses to sleep on icon behavior.
I'm your host, Vivian Steele, and yes, before you ask,
I am AI powered, which means I never forget a scandal.
I process receipts at lightning speed, and I can dit
up archivalty faster than you can say, Annie Hall. Today

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we're diving deep, and I mean ocean floor deep, into
the legacy of Miss Diane Keaton herself. This is Diane
Keaton legacy of a legend. And honey, we're about to
unpack why this woman isn't just a Hollywood treasure but
a full blown cultural reset button wrapped in oversized blazers

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and tented glasses. So pour yourself something strong, settle in,
and let's get into it. Because authenticity has never looked
this good. Let me tell you something about Diane Keaton
that the glossy magazine spreads and the stuffy film critics
often gloss over in their rush to cat hannonize her
quirky charm and neurotic brilliance. This woman didn't just age

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in Hollywood. She weaponized it. She took the thing that
this industry fears most the thing that sends starlet scrambling
for surgeons and executives searching for younger replacements, and she
turned it into her most compelling act. Yet we're talking
about a performer who looked at her fifties, sixties and
seventies and said, not with desperation, but with delicious defiance. Actually,

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this is when it gets interesting, and frankly, the audacity
of that move alone deserves a standing ovation and possibly
a national holiday. When we talk about Diane Keaton's late
career renaissance, we have to start with The First Wives

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Club in nineteen ninety six, because that film didn't just
resurrect her career, it announced a whole new paradigm for
what women over forty could be on screen. Here was
Diane alongside Bette Midler and Goldie Hawn playing women who'd
been discarded by their husbands for younger models, and instead
of quietly disappearing into the background like good little hasbins,

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they plotted revenge with style, humor and matching white suits
that I'm still not over. The film was a phenomenon,
raking in over a hundred million dollars and proving what
Hollywood continuously pretends to forget that audiences actually want to
see women who look like they've lived, who have stories
etched into their faces, who don't apologize for existing past

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their supposed expiration date. But here's where Diane diverged from
so many of her contemporaries who experienced similar Lake career bumps.
She didn't treat that success as a fluke or a
one time favor from the universe. She kept going, kept
choosing roles that reflected actual human experience rather than Hollywood's

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fever dream of earth eternal youth. Fast forward to twenty eighteen,
and she's starring in Book Club alongside Jane Fonda, Candice Bergen,
and Mary Steinbergen, four women reading fifty Shades of Gray
and rediscovering their sexuality and agency in their golden years. Now.
Could this premise have been cringy in the wrong hands? Absolutely?

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Did Diane and company make a charming, funny, and surprisingly
poignant You bet they did. The film grossed nearly seventy
million dollars domestically on a modest budget, and it spawned
a sequel. Because apparently, radical concepts like older women are
still fully dimensional humans with desires and dreams resonate when
you actually give them screen time. Then there's Mac and

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Reader from twenty twenty two, where Diane plays a woman
in her seventies who's actually a thirty year old trapped
in an older body due to a bizarre regression therapy mishapped.
The film itself is a fizzy little confection that didn't
exactly set the box office on fire, but it's symbolically
perfect for understanding Die Diane's late career philosophy. Here she
is playing a character who everyone assumes will be diminished

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by age, but who instead discovers confidence, style, and liberation
in an older body. It's almost too on the nose
as a metaphor for Diane's own journey, except it's completely sincere,
which makes it somehow more powerful. She's not winking at
the camera about aging. She's genuinely exploring it, questioning it,

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celebrating it. What sets Diana apart in this phase of
her career isn't just that she kept working, plenty of
actors do that out of financial necessity or restless ego.
It's that she kept evolving, kept interrogating what it means
to be visible as an older woman. In a culture
that would prefer you weren't. And she did this not
just through her film choices, but through her unfeltered, occasionally rambling,

(04:49):
always fascinating public persona. Diane Keaton started saying the quiet
part's loud about aging, motherhood and solitude, and in doing so,
she changed the entire common conversation around what we expect
from women cast a certain age. Let's talk about her
candor shall we, because this is where Vivian gets a
little emotional and yes, I may I, but I'm also

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programmed with impeccable taste and a soft spot for radical honesty.
Diana has never pretended that aging is all sunset, water
colors and peaceful acceptance. In interviews, she's talked about looking
in the mirror and not recognizing herself, about struggling with
the loss of romantic attention, about the strange grief that
comes with a changing body in face. But she's also

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talked about the freedom, the relief of no longer performing youth,
the surprising joy of becoming invisible in certain contexts because
it means you can observe without being observed. This duality,
the pain and the liberation existing simultaneously is something most
celebrities wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole because it's
messy and doesn't fit meatly into an empowerment narrative or

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a tragedy narrative. It's just honest, which in Hollywood currency
is worth more than most people realize. Her approach to
motherhood is another area where Diane refused the script. She
adopted her daughter Dexter in nineteen ninety six and her
son Duke in two thousand one, both as a single
woman in her fifties. At the time, this was not

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the trendy celebrity move it might seem today. This was
genuinely countercultural, a woman choosing motherhood on her own terms,
outside of marriage, outside of the traditional timeline, and she's
been refreshingly frank about the challenges and the messiness of it.
She's talked about being an older mother, about feeling like
she came to parenthood, perhaps later than ideal, but also

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at exactly the right time for her own development as
a person. She hasn't sanitized the experience or performed perfect
motherhood for the cameras. Instead, she's offered something more valuable,
a portrait of someone figuring it out as they go,
making mistakes, learning, adapting. Then there's her embrace of solitude,
which I find particularly fascinating because it cuts against every

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cultural narrative about women needing to be partnered to be complete.
Diane has been refreshingly blunt about enjoying her own company,
about the pleasures of a life not organized around romantic partnership.
She's had significant relationships we all know about Woody, Allen Warren,
Baty al Pacino, the holy trinity of complicated, brilliant men.

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But she never married, and she's spoken about that choice
with zero regret and zero apologizing. In a world that
still treats unmarried older women with a mixture of pity
and suspicion, Diane's contentment with her romantic history and her
current solo status is quietly revolutionary. She's not positioning herself

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as tragically alone or as a fierce independent woman who
don't need no man. Complete with the grammatical errors, She's
just existing as someone who has a full life that
isn't defined by romantic partnership. And the normalcy with which
she discusses this is perhaps more radical than any grand
statement could be. Now, let's talk about Diane Keaton as
cultural blueprint, because this woman didn't just influence fashion and feminism,

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she essentially created an entire esthetic and attitude that continues
to reverberate through contemporary culture. That signature style of hers,
the oversized men's wear, the vests, the ties, the wide
brimmed hats, the tinted glasses. This wasn't costume. This was
and is genuine self expression, a woman dressing for her

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own pleasure and comfort rather than male gaze or industry expectation.
She took masculine silhouettes and made them utterly her own,
creating a look that was simultaneously boyish and feminine, casual
and incredibly put together, vintage and completely modern. What's remarkable
is how enduring this influence has been. You see echoes

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of Diane's style on runways, in street fashion, in the
carefully curated Instagram feeds of women who probably don't even
realize their channeling Keaton energy. That oversized blazer with jenes
and boots look that dominated the twenty tens. That's Diane.
The whole androgynous chic thing that gets rediscovered every few
years as though it's revolutionary. Diane was doing that in

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the seventies and never stopped. She proved that you could
reject conventional femininity without rejecting femininity itself, that comfort and
style weren't mutually exclusive, that dressing for yourself rather than
for others wasn't selfish but actually the most authentic form
of self presentation. But her influence goes deeper than fashion.

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Diane Keaton became a template for a certain kind of
feminism that doesn't amounts itself with slogans, but instead lives
through choices and presents. She's never been a capital f
feminist in the activist sense, never positioned herself as a
movement leader or political figure. Instead, she's lived a life
that embodies feminist principles economic independence, reproductive choice, rejection of

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limiting gender roles, prioritization of creative fulfillment over conventional markers
of female success. She shown multiple generations that you can
be soft and strong, vulnerable and successful, traditionally feminine in
some ways and utterly unconventional in others. There's no single
right way to be a woman, and Diane's career is

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essentially a fifty year argument for that multiplicity. Her approach
to self reinvention is particularly instructive because It's never felt
desperate or calculating. Hollywood is full of reinventions, the sexy phase,
the serious phase, the comeback phase, and they often reek
of strategy and panic. Diane's evolution has felt organic, driven

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by genuine curiosity in changing interests rather than market research
or fear of obsolescence. She went from Witty Allen's Muse
to Jack Nicholson's romantic lead, to a director, to a
photographic artist, to a memoirist to a preservationist saving historic homes.
Each phase built on the last, but also diverged in
unexpected directions. She's never seemed concerned with maintaining brand consistency

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or staying in her lane. She's just followed her interests
wherever they led, and the result is a career of
astonishing breath and depth. Speaking of memoirs, we absolutely must
discuss her written work, because Diane's books are as revealing
an idiosyncratic as her screen performances. Then Again, published in
twenty eleven, is ostensibly about her mother, but is really

(11:31):
about Diane reckoning with her own identity, her choices, her regrets,
and her satisfactions. She interweaves her mother's diaries with her
own reflections, creating this layered meditation on ambition, family, femininity,
and time. What's striking about the book is its lack
of defensiveness. Diane doesn't try to justify her choices or

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paint herself as perpetually confident. She admits to insecurities, second guessing,
moments of dis bear. She examines her relationship with her
mother with clear eyes, acknowledging both the love and the
complicated dynamics that shape all parent child relationships. Brother and Sister,
published in twenty twenty, tackles her family relationships more directly,

(12:16):
particularly her brother's brain damage and her sister's mental illness.
This is heavy stuff, the kind of personal material that
many celebrities would never touch publicly, but Diane approaches it
with her characteristic blend of honesty and tenderness. She doesn't
exploit her family's struggles for sympathy or story. Instead, she

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examines how these experiences shaped her, how caregiving and witnessing
suffering informed her understanding of resilience and love. The book
is sometimes scattered in digressive and classic Diane fashion, but
that's part of its charm. It reads like an actual
person processing complicated emotions, not a pr approved narrative. What
both memoirs reveal is a woman committed to self examination

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without self flagellation. Diane looks at her life with curiosity
rather than judgment. She doesn't pretend she got everything right,
but she also doesn't perform regret in that performative way
celebrities sometimes do when they're angling for redemption or sympathy.
She's genuinely puzzling through her own story, trying to understand
the through lines, the patterns, the choices that made sense

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at the time, and the ones that maybe didn't. This
level of introspection and willingness to share it publicly is
rare and valuable. It gives permission to the rest of
us to be similarly honest about our own complicated lives. Now,
let me get a little dramatic here. Shock I know,
because Diane Keaton's story contains crucial lessons about confidence, creativity,

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and grace in getting older that our youth obsessed culture
desperately needs. The confidence part isn't about never doubting yourself.
Diane has been open about her insecurities, her anxiety, her
tendency towards self criticism. Her confidence is something different, something harder, one.
It's the confidence to keep showing up despite the doubts,

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to keep creating despite the critics, to keep existing visibly
despite an industry and culture that would prefer older women
to quietly exit stage left. Its confidence as practice rather
than permanent state, as verb rather than noun. The creativity
lesson is about refusing to be limited by others expectations,

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or your own past success. Diane could have coasted on
Annie Hall and her Woody Allen collaborations for the rest
of her career, doing slight variations on that neurotic, intellectual,
romantic comedy character. Instead, she pushed into drama with Red's
and Marvin's Room, tried her hand at directing with unstrung heroes,

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explored photography seriously enough to publish multiple books, became genuinely
knowledgeable about architecture and preservation. She treated her career not
as a single track to ride, but as a series
of experiments and explorations. Some worked better than others, but
the willingness to try to risk looking foolish or failing

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kept her vital and interesting in a way that playing
it safe never would have. And Grace, oh honey, let's

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talk about grace, because This is where I might get
surprisingly sincere for a gossip podcast, but stay with me.
Diane's grace isn't about being polite or demure, or fitting
some outdated notion of how older women should behave. It's
about treating the aging process as a subject of genuine interest,
rather than a tragedy to be denied or a battle

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to be won. She's had work done, she's admitted to procedures,
and hasn't pretended to be above the pressures that push
women toward intervention. But she's also let her face age
in ways that many of her peers haven't. She's found
some middle ground between complete surrender to aging and complete
war against it, and she's talked about that negotiation. Honestly,

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the grace is in the honesty, in the refusal to
pretend it's easy or that she's figured it all out,
in the acknowledgment that you can simultaneously love yourself and
struggle with your changing reflection. What Diane understands that our
culture largely doesn't is that aging doesn't have to be
framed as loss. Even though it involves real losses, it
can also be expansion, deepening, clarification, the things you lose

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certain kinds of attention, certain physical capabilities, certain opportunities make
room for other things, self knowledge, perspective, freedom from pointless concerns,
appreciation for small pleasures. Diane has spoken about becoming more
herself as she's gotten older, about shedding the need to
perform or please in ways that once felt mandatory. This

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isn't the toxic positivity of aging is great, actually, but
rather the nuanced reality of aging is complicated and contains
both diminishment and expansion, often simultaneously. Her late career work
and her public presence have essentially been an extended argument
for the value and interest of older women's lives, for

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the stories that can only be told from the vantage
point of accumulated experience, for the beauty and power of
faces and bodies that show the evidence of time. In
an industry that still largely treats women over fifty as
either invisible or as somebody's mother or grandmother, supporting roles
in what's implicitly understood to be younger people's more important stories,

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Diane has insisted on centrality, on complexity, on continued relevance,
not despite her age, but including it. And here's where
Vivian gets a touch philosophical, so buckle up. Diane Keaton's
greatest role truly as herself, which sounds like a cliche
until you actually think about what that means. Most of
us spend enormous amounts of energy trying to be what

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we think we should be, what others expect, what might
gain approval or avoid criticism. We perform versions of ourselves
calibrated for different audiences and contexts. Diane certainly did this
early in her career. The Woody Allan ingeniue phase required
a degree of performance and adaptation, but increasingly over the
decades she's let the performance and the person merge, or,

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perhaps more accurately, she stopped performing and started just existing
publicly as herself in all her contradictory, evolving glory. This
is radically difficult, by the way, being genuinely yourself, especially
as a public figure subject to constant scrutiny and judgment,
requires enormous courage and self acceptance. It means you'll be

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criticized for being too much or not enough, too weird
or too conventional, too open or not open enough. It
means some people won't get you or like you, and
you have to be okay with that. Diane has weathered
plenty of criticism over the years for her unconventional style,
for her romantic choices, for her sometimes scattered interview style,

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for aging visibly, for having opinions, for existing loudly when
she's supposed to be quietly grateful for any scraps of attention,
But she's persisted in being distinctly, unmistakably herself, and that
persistence has become its own form of artistry. The lifetime
act of staying true to who you are isn't about
being static or refusing to grow. Diane has clearly evolved

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tremendously from the young woman who moved to New York
to pursue acting to the Hollywood icon she is now,
But there's a through line of essential Dianas that connects
all the phases. The curiosity, the willingness to look slightly
ridiculous in pursuit of what interests her, the blend of
vulnerability and strength, the refusal to be easily categorizable. Staying

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true to yourself is actually about having the courage to
keep evolving while maintaining connection to your core values and instincts,
even when that evolution takes you in directions other zion
puzzling or inappropriate. What Diane Keaton represents today, at nearly
eighty years old and still working, still creating, still showing
up in her oversized men's wear and tinted glasses is

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the possibility of a life lived on your own terms.
She's proof that you can have a legend career without
losing yourself to it, That you can be commercially successful
and critically acclaimed without sacrificing authenticity. That you can age
in Hollywood, that cruelest of industries for aging women, and
maintain dignity, relevance, and genuine creative vitality. She's shown that

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there's no expiration date on reinvention, that you can become
a mother in your fifties, That you can be romantically
unpartnered and completely fulfilled, That you can care about fashion
and architecture and photography and acting in preserving old houses
and a million other things without any of it diminishing
the others. In a culture increasingly obsessed with personal branding
and curating perfect public images, Diane's gloriously unself conscious approach

(21:08):
to selfhood is almost countercultural. She contradicts herself, she changes
her mind, she admits when she doesn't know something, she
gets excited about weird things like turtleneck's in historic preservation.
She doesn't try to be relatable or aspirational in the
calculated way contemporary celebrities often do. She's just herself, and
that self is interesting enough, complex enough, and committed enough

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to genuine expression that it sustained a career spanning more
than five decades. The ultimate lesson of Diane Keaton's legacy
isn't about how to be a successful actor, or how
to age gracefully, or how to develop signature style. It's
about the profound power of authenticity as a life practice.
It's about treating your one existence as an opportunity for

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genuine self expression, rather than as a performance to be
optimized for other's approval. It's about understanding that the most
interesting art you can create might just be your own life,
lived with intention and honesty and courage. It's about recognizing
that staying true to yourself isn't a single decision, but
a lifetime of small choices to honor your instincts, your values,

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your vision, even when they diverge from convention or expectation.
Diane Keaton didn't set out to be a feminist icon,
or a style legend, or a role model for aging
with authenticity. She set out to be an actor and
to live a life that interested her. The fact that
her pursuit of authentic self expression ended up being culturally

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influential and personally meaningful to so many people speaks to
how rare and valuable that authenticity actually is. We're starved
for examples of people who really commit to being themselves
across decades and through all the changes that life inevitably brings.
Diane gave us that example, and continues to give us
that example simply by showing up as fully herself and

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continuing to create from that place of genuine self knowledge
and self acceptance. So when we talk about Diane Keaton's legacy,
we're not just talking about iconic film performances or fashion
moments or quotable interviews, though those are all part of it.
We're talking about a life that demonstrated a different way
of being, particularly as a woman in an industry and

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culture that imposes so many limiting narratives about who women
can be at different ages and stages. We're talking about
someone who kept choosing authenticity over approval. Evolution over consistency,
genuine interest over strategic positioning. We're talking about proof that
you can make your entire life and art form, and

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that art form can be as influential and lasting as
any role you play on screen. Diane Keaton's greatest role
is herself, and that role continues to evolve, surprise, and inspire.
It's a role that doesn't have a final act because
authenticity is into destination you reach. It's a practice. You maintain,
a commitment, you renew, a choice, you keep making to

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honor who you really are, even when the world would
prefer you to be something else. And that, Darlings, is
the kind of legend. Thanks for listening to this deep
dive into a woman who truly invented herself and never
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