May 5, 2025 • 25 mins
S4:EP8 Disability World with Norma Stanley ft Larenza Cavitt
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi, my name is Norma Stanley and welcome to Disability World. Hello,
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and welcome to another segment of Disability World where we
discuss various issues of interest and impact as it relates
to the disability community as a whole. I'm your host,
Normus Stanley, and on Disability World, we love speaking with individuals,
community leaders, parents, advocates, business owners, and resource providers who
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care about this vast and vital population of about seventy
million people here in the United States alone. And today
we're excited to speak with a young woman who is
doing what she can to enhance the quality of life
for families or children disabilities as a caregiver, as a
life coach, and as an aspiring performing artist. So let's
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welcome Ms Therone. I'm sorry Lovenza Rome.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
To Hey, how everybody.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Well, I'm thankful that you have a few minutes to
be a part of our show today and just share
a little bit about you know, the things that you're doing,
and you're doing a lot of wonderful things. One of
the things that I want you to talk about is
your love of caregiving and why that's important to you.
How did you even get into becoming a caregiver of
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people like my daughter.
Speaker 3 (02:06):
Yes, Well, how I got in it is I First
of all, I became a CNA twenty over twenty, about
twenty two years ago. That's how I got in the field,
the medical field, and then I transitioned.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
I came moved out here to Atlanta in twenty sixteen.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
And my uncle was in the mental health business for
over twenty years, and he had retired three years ago,
and he suggested I had became burnt out working in
the veterans hospital and as a CNA and a Q
and A, I got kind of burnt out, and so
I was telling him I wanted to do something different.
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He suggested that he told me I like it. Actually,
I love it. I've been in it for about eight
and a half years now. I love being able to
be an advocate and a voice for a lot of
the challenged young people with disability and mental illness.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
I never had experience.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
I did get some courses and some classes I took,
but when you have the love for it, a lot
of times you don't really need it because it comes
from the heart.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
And that's where I come in.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
And I've been a voice to a lot of young
people that's been abused, young women, that's been abused.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
Mentally disability community.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
Where I've worked in other organizations that have called upon
me to be that voice. And so I just something
that I'm just very passionate about right now. God has
enabled me, He's annoyted me to As a matter of fact,
I've got I am the founder of Anointing Mindset and
I am a life coach as well.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
I'm a minister, I'm a Stephen Minister.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
I wear many hats, and I just have a love
for God's people and especially the mentally and disabled challenge
young adults.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Well, and that is one of the things that I think,
you know, it's so important because you definitely, like you say,
have to have a love for this and that's something
that you know not everybody has. And that's just a reality.
I mean, you know, there's a lot of people who
are working in this industry supposedly taking care of our
family members with disabilities, and they're just in it for
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the paycheck, and that's not gonna work. You can tell
the difference of the people who are just in it
for the paycheck other people and.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Normally, can I ask, do you mind if I piggyback
to what you just said when you were seeing a
lot of people. I've been in it for eight years
and I've seen ton of people. See what happens is
I tell people, please, don't get in this business if
you're just doing it for a paycheck, because what happens
is it sets the one up to be abused, because
now when you get frustrated, you're not looking at it
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as the love. You're looking at it as the money.
And then you become frustrated. Now that person is going
to be set up to be abused. So I'm glad
you mentioned that because a lot of people are always stress.
Do not get in this if you're just doing it
for a paycheck, because it will not last and you
will be exposed if you bring harm to to those
children and those yoga adults.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Yeah, yeah, it's something that you can and the people
who have been in it for a while can tell
the difference the people who you know. My daughter has
been through a few caregivers over her right time, and
I can always tell the ones who are in it
just for the paycheck, and it's different. It's a different
approach to how they care for her, and and so
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the people who go be up you know, above and beyond.
You could tell they're not here because they're not because
you don't make enough money. That's only thing that bothers
me about the industry in the ways is because caregivers
and people you know, I'm a caregiver, but I'm an
unpaid caregiver because I'm her mother. But the ones who
are doing it, you know, professionally and who come into
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people's homes or wherever they have to go to help
take care of our young people or adults with disabilities.
Sometimes some of these people are seniors. They don't pend enough.
That's right, right, and it's it's unfortunate challenge finding people
who of quality plussed to help you know that you
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feel comfortable leaving your your loved one alone with for
a period of time because so many people, you know,
you have to really really do your research because a
lot of people, you know, unless somebody is recommended to
me or you know, I just I don't feel comfortable
if you're not going to anybody. And so what you
what you do is is definitely something that's needed. And
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they need to be paying caregivers like yourself so much
more money and and you know, but the system that
we have does not really There's so many things that
work for the disability community, and this is one of
those areas caregiving and painting people that there's a there's
a you know, there's not enough caregivers out there to
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help our family members because it doesn't pay well and
that they're struggling trying to find quality people to fuil.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
A lot of capeople they just give up. They end
up just giving up because the process, you know that
they're integregated in the process, and a lot of them
just give up. The families, I've seen a lot of
them just get just give up, and they what happens
is that the person or the individual is in that home,
but they're not getting a proper care that they're deserved
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of because of the lack of uh communication, the lack
of knowledge, the lack of resources in the community. MM.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
And the thing is if they're out there, nobody is
really saying where to find them. And so, you know,
so I'm thankful to you know that you can help
me whenever you can with my child and have referred
me to them people who have been a blessing. Also,
So tell me a little bit about because you do
so many different things, your your your organization, anointed mindsets,
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that is part of your you know, life, life coaching sciences.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
Man.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
And so what what are you coaching people on?
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Well?
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Right now, you know, I'm I'm currently I'm on the
radio right now. God has opened up an opportunity while
I'm able to express the passion of life coaching. But
what I do is I talk about different various different areas.
Uh it's down to marriage, uh, you know, Uh, taking
care of siblings, abuse, talking about forgiveness, just all sorts
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of topics.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
But the thing that I love is I'm able to incorporate.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
It in in a way that how can I say
that it's suitable Spiritually? I try to keep God, you know,
in connected with it because we know that we're nothing
without God and we can't move forward. But I maintain,
I keep God in what I'm doing to make it
last and to allow it to prosper. But I'm a
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new life coach and I just talk about various things,
and I talk about a lot of things that other
people just scared.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
To talk about.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
One is just abuse. You know a lot of people
are scared to talk about that. Uh, childhood trauma. You know,
a lot of people don't want to talk about that,
but unfortunately we have to talk about it.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
It does trigger, and I always tell people triggering is
a part of healing. We don't want to move.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
Away from being triggered because that's where the healing lies
and when you're triggered. But I always tell people to
just make sure that you're.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Ready and you're real with yourself.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
One has to be real with themselves in order to
be to receive full wholeness and to be healed, you know,
because we can't you know, we can't do anything you
or any of us until we become until we know
who we are. And that's why I always express when
our life coach, know who you are, know your identity,
and when you're knowing your identity, you're more effective in
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the community, you know.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
Right, And that's important for even with my daughter who
is intellectually and developmentally you know disabled, you know, helping
her to understand who she is as an individual, helping
her to grow and you know, to blossom in various areas,
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whether it's you know, you know, she models, she loves.
She can't say words, but she can hum tunes, you know,
so wherever it is that I find that she has
a love for something, I try to help, you know,
bring that out. And the help that I get from
people like you to further those types of opportunities to
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help her blossom in those areas that she can blossom
in is a big help. Because the whole point is
what our family members to live productive lots, and that incorporates,
like you say, God is a big part of that
for us. But it's also important that that again, he
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he also has a way of bringing people to you
that can help you do the things that He wants
to see happen in your family and in your you know,
your your lives individually. So I've been thankful, you know,
to be able to to to work with you and
have you helped me with Sierra, and so in terms
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of what you're trying to do in twenty twenty five,
I'm just let people know Lorenza will be one of
the speakers at the upcoming event that we're holding in
May Mother Event Exceptional Parents Celebration. We have some powerful
speakers who will be sharing some information from different and
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Lorenza is gonna be talking about caregiving and why that's
important and you know how to possibly, you know, look
for the best type of caregiver. She's gonna be talking
about a bunch of different things, but that's some of
the things she's gonna be talking about. Tell us about,
you know, the fact that you're going to be a
part of this event and what does that mean to you.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
Well, I'm, first of all, I'm ecstatic to be even
I'm actually honored to be even invited to speak. But
what most of all, what I'm excited about is that
I want to.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
Bring awareness, you know, awareness. I want to bring the
awareness in the community at.
Speaker 3 (12:19):
Your event is to so people can understand the resources
that is needed, the.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
Financial UH funds.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
You know that we're not just out here just talking
is actually needed.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
We need support. Any little thing helps.
Speaker 3 (12:34):
And my job is to make it, you know, people
aware of why. You know, disability needs to be put
back on the map normal.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
It needs to be talked about.
Speaker 3 (12:44):
People need to be made aware that a lot of
these young adults with disability and mental challenge they're very intelligent.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
They're very gifted.
Speaker 2 (12:53):
I mean very gifted.
Speaker 3 (12:54):
I'm blown away to be even one with Sierra because
she's so gifted. I've tapped into some areas where I've
pulled out of the gifts in her. And so what
I want to do is make us aware that we
don't want to give up on our babies and our
young adults. What we want to do is be impactful
and lead us to the community in the right way
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to advance, you know, the young adults in the disability
community to be heard, so that voice to be heard, to.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Be seen, because you know, the thing is that no
matter how old they are, they continue to learn. My
daughter's thirty six, and she's doing things now that she
wasn't doing in her twenty years. She's doing it now
that she wasn't doing when she was a teenager. So
we can't ever give up on them for them to
continue to learn and blossom. And that's what we as caregivers,
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as parents, and as a network of people who care
about this community, we have to work together to make
sure that our individuals, our loved ones, can can materimieten
the same way we try to maximize our own potential,
right And so you know, I'm always looking for things
for Sierra to do and experience so that she can
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you know, have the best life possible, because that's part
of what I believe God led me to be her
mom so that she can have the best life possible.
Because I'm working on making sure my life is the
best life possible. So you know, add.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
Some more tips to that, add some more tips. And
I also want to stress.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
That as as caregivers, we we we we we've got
to stop being a shamed people. I feel so compelled
to share that we've got to what I mean by
being a shamed We don't need to be warned by
what people think and how they're looking at us.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
We don't care about that because I am a true believer.
You know what.
Speaker 3 (14:53):
I work with Tier and other young challenging disability young adults,
and when I take them on outings. People, if we're
being mistreated when we go on an outing and we
go to a store, I demand respect for them. I
am their voice and I stress this. I cannot stress
it enough. If we go to dollar treat, we go
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to the library and we're spending our money, you know,
they have their own money, and.
Speaker 2 (15:18):
Then we're spending our money and they're not treating our.
Speaker 3 (15:20):
Money like another person's dollars.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
That's what we will walk out.
Speaker 3 (15:26):
I will not tolerate the disability community being mistreated. I
tell them they got their money is just as well
as good as anybody else's money. And I demand respect
for our children and our young adults. So yes, when
I take them out on out these people and they
disrespect my people and they disrespect us, We've turned around
and I'll make a complaint, but we will never go
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back because we demand respect.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
You're going to treat our dollars, you.
Speaker 3 (15:51):
Know, just as well as anybody else's dollar. And I
also want to say that as the caregivers, we have
to take care of ourselves. People cannot stress that enough.
It is okay to go get a massage. It is
okay to to take them if you need a family
member to keep them for a few hours so you
can get your head right, because I would rather for
you to do that than to snap and hurt them.
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So I want to stress it it is okay, guys
for us to take some time to ourselves because yes,
we get burnt out, Yes it happens, but what can
we do to alleviate some of the stress. And I
want to talk about that at your Exceptional Mother's celebration
Normal because it needs to be talked about it's okay
to winding down ourselves sometimes people, that's fine.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
We have to pay for ourselves, honey, please. I had
a massage today and I'm loving it. Like I had learned.
It took me years before I started doing that. I mean,
I just but one of the things that I learned
is if I if I, if I break down, see here,
it's subject to it. So I can't afford to not
take care of myself because I don't try anything negative
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to happen as a result of me not taking care
of me, because I'm the one that she depends on
the most. And so yes, I make a point at
least once a month, trying to get twice a month.
But I go and get a massage, and I do
my daily walks, and you know, it's about three miles
a day that I that you know, helps to I'm
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sitting here, you know, getting ideas and talking to God
and getting the exercise that I need on a regular basis.
And I've been doing that for many many years. I
mean I've been losing as a teenager. But it's something
that I love to do, and I i it helps
a lot with you know, eliminating any kind of stress
that I might be dealing with and just just brings peace.
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I love springs and the fall, walking and looking at
God's work and the trees and the flowers blooming. It's
a beautiful thing and it just makes me feel better
and more prepared to deal with my day, which is
very busy. In addition to taking care of Sierra, I
have a lot of responsibilities, and so having the help
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of someone like Lorenza does help me to be able
to do those kinds of things, you know, spend a
few hours just chilling if that's what I need to do,
or doing some other kind of work that I may
need to do at that time. But the point is,
you know, the caregiving and the caregivers like Lorenza who
assists families like ours, it's critical. And you know, Sierra
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still lives with me, but some of these people live
in group homes and they still need the same quality
care even if they're in a group home. You know,
that's something that I'm hoping I won't ever have to
do putting Sarah in the home. As long as I'm
here and healthy, she's gonna be with me. But that
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is and they're good ones out there believe me, they're
all good ones out there, but you know there's some
that are not so good, and so we want to
make sure that you know, that's a whole other topic.
You know, we'll do another show on that. But the
point is that the people who are responsible for whoever
it is in those group homes have to be caring.
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They have to want to do this kind of work right,
and because the people, the constituents, the people who live
there depend on them, you know. So you know that's
something that that it's so so critical, and you know,
people take that for granted and you just can't do
you know, the quality of care that that a person
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brings to a situation for a vulable person who can't
do things for themselves, that that there's the price. There's
not enough money in the world. In my opinion, they
should be highly paid people, the same way I think
teachers should be highly paid.
Speaker 2 (19:54):
People totally agree, you know.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
So it's just really it's just really interesting. But so
tell us a little bit about what twenty twenty five
looks like for you and some of the things you
have planned for your Annointed Mindset program, and tell us
about your radio show where we hear that.
Speaker 3 (20:12):
Okay, Yes, I'm excited. I started doing my radio show.
It's coming out of New York, guys, and God has
opened up another opportunity.
Speaker 2 (20:21):
That is I do that every Sunday at w J
and R.
Speaker 3 (20:25):
It's an online radio and that's for thirty minutes at
nine o'clock.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
And also this year, I'm gonna be going to.
Speaker 3 (20:32):
Record with BB Whining's brother and their family out in Detroit.
This I'm excited about that, and I'll be doing some songs,
a couple of songs recording out there. And then I'm
just what I'm really looking for this year is just
really diving deeper into my life coaching business because that
is such a passion. And what I also want to
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do is I have a long term goal normal.
Speaker 2 (20:59):
Which is maybe opening up a group home, just one
group home.
Speaker 3 (21:03):
That is a long term goal. It's not hard to do.
I'm gonna be consistent, I'm gonna get it done. But
I want to go ahead and start getting the blueprint
and I want to talk about it and maybe, you know,
just get some more support in the community.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
Out here in Atlanta and other surrounding areas.
Speaker 3 (21:21):
To see if I can, you know, just get some
help and get in the community we needed, we really
really needed, and just some topics some some of the
things that I'm gonna be doing this year norma as
well as I am a prophet as well, so I'll
be traveling here.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
I also work with Joshua Jiles.
Speaker 3 (21:42):
Ministry and he'll be out in Orlando this year and
I'll be speaking with him this year.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
So I'm just excited.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
I'm quite sure there's more new things coming, but I'm
very grateful. I'm very grateful for opportunity to be your
friend and and you a boss. I always say I
want to be like normal. That's a call, that's the fault.
I always I want to be a box like normal guys.
So you know, well, you know, you know that's what
I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (22:09):
You know, God has a way of bringing people together,
and you know, I support your your your goals and
dreams and believing God that you know I'll be able
to you know, connect you with some folks who can
help you get that group home started and whatever. You know,
the point is that we all have a purpose here.
We all have something that I believe is our divine
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assignment and and mind is bringing awareness to people who
are out there doing things for the disability community that
you tend not to hear about because our typical media
doesn't talk about there's a lot of things that are
going on in our community. It doesn't give people like
Lorenzo or some of the other guests that we've had
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on Disability World the opportunity to share their stories and
how they're impacting positively impacting the community. And so we
want to be able to fill that gap here on
Disability World. So tell people where they can learn more
information about you, where they connect with they can connect
with you if they need to. And you know, because
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at the end of the show goes fast, doesn't it.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (23:17):
Well, you guys, if you ever want to vent or
just have prayer, you can also reach me at l
C A v I T T two at gmail dot com.
I am on Facebook under Lorenzo Rome. I'm on Instagram,
at Rends, Underscore, God's Grow and YouTube. You can also
reach me on that platform. It's God's Beautiful One.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
Awesome, awesome. Well, thank you so much for taking some
time to be a park of Disability World, and we
look forward to seeing some great things coming from you
in the future. Look forward to you know you being
a part of our Exceptional Parents celebration in May, and
again you know you'll be blessed and much success and
contin your success to you.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
Absolutely thank you for having me here.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
So thank you guys for being a part of Disability
World today. We thank you for you know, tuning in
and hearing all the amazing things that Miss lorenzelone is doing.
We look forward to bringing you some other amazing guests
in the very near future, so continue to tune into
Disability World, and all of a sudden remember to connect
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with me on Facebook and Instagram and LinkedIn and all
the places that you can find where Enormous Stanley is.
But we are very excited about some of the shows
we have coming up on Disability World and we look
forward to sharing some great stories with you very soon.
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So be blessed and until next time, we'll talk soon.
Hi, my name is Norma Stanley and welcome to Disability World. Hello,
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and welcome to another segment of Disability World where we
discuss various issues of interest and impact as it relates
to the disability community as a whole. I'm your host,
Normus Stanley, and on Disability World, we love speaking with individuals,
community leaders, parents, advocates, business owners, and resource providers who
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care about this vast and vital population of about seventy
million people here in the United States alone. And today
we're excited to speak with a young woman who is
doing what she can to enhance the quality of life
for families or children disabilities as a caregiver, as a
life coach, and as an aspiring performing artist. So let's
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welcome Ms Therone. I'm sorry Lovenza Rome.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
To Hey, how everybody.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Well, I'm thankful that you have a few minutes to
be a part of our show today and just share
a little bit about you know, the things that you're doing,
and you're doing a lot of wonderful things. One of
the things that I want you to talk about is
your love of caregiving and why that's important to you.
How did you even get into becoming a caregiver of
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people like my daughter.
Speaker 3 (02:06):
Yes, Well, how I got in it is I First
of all, I became a CNA twenty over twenty, about
twenty two years ago. That's how I got in the field,
the medical field, and then I transitioned.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
I came moved out here to Atlanta in twenty sixteen.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
And my uncle was in the mental health business for
over twenty years, and he had retired three years ago,
and he suggested I had became burnt out working in
the veterans hospital and as a CNA and a Q
and A, I got kind of burnt out, and so
I was telling him I wanted to do something different.
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He suggested that he told me I like it. Actually,
I love it. I've been in it for about eight
and a half years now. I love being able to
be an advocate and a voice for a lot of
the challenged young people with disability and mental illness.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
I never had experience.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
I did get some courses and some classes I took,
but when you have the love for it, a lot
of times you don't really need it because it comes
from the heart.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
And that's where I come in.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
And I've been a voice to a lot of young
people that's been abused, young women, that's been abused.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
Mentally disability community.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
Where I've worked in other organizations that have called upon
me to be that voice. And so I just something
that I'm just very passionate about right now. God has
enabled me, He's annoyted me to As a matter of fact,
I've got I am the founder of Anointing Mindset and
I am a life coach as well.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
I'm a minister, I'm a Stephen Minister.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
I wear many hats, and I just have a love
for God's people and especially the mentally and disabled challenge
young adults.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Well, and that is one of the things that I think,
you know, it's so important because you definitely, like you say,
have to have a love for this and that's something
that you know not everybody has. And that's just a reality.
I mean, you know, there's a lot of people who
are working in this industry supposedly taking care of our
family members with disabilities, and they're just in it for
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the paycheck, and that's not gonna work. You can tell
the difference of the people who are just in it
for the paycheck other people and.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Normally, can I ask, do you mind if I piggyback
to what you just said when you were seeing a
lot of people. I've been in it for eight years
and I've seen ton of people. See what happens is
I tell people, please, don't get in this business if
you're just doing it for a paycheck, because what happens
is it sets the one up to be abused, because
now when you get frustrated, you're not looking at it
(04:41):
as the love. You're looking at it as the money.
And then you become frustrated. Now that person is going
to be set up to be abused. So I'm glad
you mentioned that because a lot of people are always stress.
Do not get in this if you're just doing it
for a paycheck, because it will not last and you
will be exposed if you bring harm to to those
children and those yoga adults.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Yeah, yeah, it's something that you can and the people
who have been in it for a while can tell
the difference the people who you know. My daughter has
been through a few caregivers over her right time, and
I can always tell the ones who are in it
just for the paycheck, and it's different. It's a different
approach to how they care for her, and and so
(05:23):
the people who go be up you know, above and beyond.
You could tell they're not here because they're not because
you don't make enough money. That's only thing that bothers
me about the industry in the ways is because caregivers
and people you know, I'm a caregiver, but I'm an
unpaid caregiver because I'm her mother. But the ones who
are doing it, you know, professionally and who come into
(05:45):
people's homes or wherever they have to go to help
take care of our young people or adults with disabilities.
Sometimes some of these people are seniors. They don't pend enough.
That's right, right, and it's it's unfortunate challenge finding people
who of quality plussed to help you know that you
(06:05):
feel comfortable leaving your your loved one alone with for
a period of time because so many people, you know,
you have to really really do your research because a
lot of people, you know, unless somebody is recommended to
me or you know, I just I don't feel comfortable
if you're not going to anybody. And so what you
what you do is is definitely something that's needed. And
(06:29):
they need to be paying caregivers like yourself so much
more money and and you know, but the system that
we have does not really There's so many things that
work for the disability community, and this is one of
those areas caregiving and painting people that there's a there's
a you know, there's not enough caregivers out there to
(06:52):
help our family members because it doesn't pay well and
that they're struggling trying to find quality people to fuil.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
A lot of capeople they just give up. They end
up just giving up because the process, you know that
they're integregated in the process, and a lot of them
just give up. The families, I've seen a lot of
them just get just give up, and they what happens
is that the person or the individual is in that home,
but they're not getting a proper care that they're deserved
(07:22):
of because of the lack of uh communication, the lack
of knowledge, the lack of resources in the community. MM.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
And the thing is if they're out there, nobody is
really saying where to find them. And so, you know,
so I'm thankful to you know that you can help
me whenever you can with my child and have referred
me to them people who have been a blessing. Also,
So tell me a little bit about because you do
so many different things, your your your organization, anointed mindsets,
(07:55):
that is part of your you know, life, life coaching sciences.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
Man.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
And so what what are you coaching people on?
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Well?
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Right now, you know, I'm I'm currently I'm on the
radio right now. God has opened up an opportunity while
I'm able to express the passion of life coaching. But
what I do is I talk about different various different areas.
Uh it's down to marriage, uh, you know, Uh, taking
care of siblings, abuse, talking about forgiveness, just all sorts
(08:29):
of topics.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
But the thing that I love is I'm able to incorporate.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
It in in a way that how can I say
that it's suitable Spiritually? I try to keep God, you know,
in connected with it because we know that we're nothing
without God and we can't move forward. But I maintain,
I keep God in what I'm doing to make it
last and to allow it to prosper. But I'm a
(08:54):
new life coach and I just talk about various things,
and I talk about a lot of things that other
people just scared.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
To talk about.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
One is just abuse. You know a lot of people
are scared to talk about that. Uh, childhood trauma. You know,
a lot of people don't want to talk about that,
but unfortunately we have to talk about it.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
It does trigger, and I always tell people triggering is
a part of healing. We don't want to move.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
Away from being triggered because that's where the healing lies
and when you're triggered. But I always tell people to
just make sure that you're.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Ready and you're real with yourself.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
One has to be real with themselves in order to
be to receive full wholeness and to be healed, you know,
because we can't you know, we can't do anything you
or any of us until we become until we know
who we are. And that's why I always express when
our life coach, know who you are, know your identity,
and when you're knowing your identity, you're more effective in
(09:51):
the community, you know.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
Right, And that's important for even with my daughter who
is intellectually and developmentally you know disabled, you know, helping
her to understand who she is as an individual, helping
her to grow and you know, to blossom in various areas,
(10:15):
whether it's you know, you know, she models, she loves.
She can't say words, but she can hum tunes, you know,
so wherever it is that I find that she has
a love for something, I try to help, you know,
bring that out. And the help that I get from
people like you to further those types of opportunities to
(10:39):
help her blossom in those areas that she can blossom
in is a big help. Because the whole point is
what our family members to live productive lots, and that incorporates,
like you say, God is a big part of that
for us. But it's also important that that again, he
(11:01):
he also has a way of bringing people to you
that can help you do the things that He wants
to see happen in your family and in your you know,
your your lives individually. So I've been thankful, you know,
to be able to to to work with you and
have you helped me with Sierra, and so in terms
(11:21):
of what you're trying to do in twenty twenty five,
I'm just let people know Lorenza will be one of
the speakers at the upcoming event that we're holding in
May Mother Event Exceptional Parents Celebration. We have some powerful
speakers who will be sharing some information from different and
(11:44):
Lorenza is gonna be talking about caregiving and why that's
important and you know how to possibly, you know, look
for the best type of caregiver. She's gonna be talking
about a bunch of different things, but that's some of
the things she's gonna be talking about. Tell us about,
you know, the fact that you're going to be a
part of this event and what does that mean to you.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
Well, I'm, first of all, I'm ecstatic to be even
I'm actually honored to be even invited to speak. But
what most of all, what I'm excited about is that
I want to.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
Bring awareness, you know, awareness. I want to bring the
awareness in the community at.
Speaker 3 (12:19):
Your event is to so people can understand the resources
that is needed, the.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
Financial UH funds.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
You know that we're not just out here just talking
is actually needed.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
We need support. Any little thing helps.
Speaker 3 (12:34):
And my job is to make it, you know, people
aware of why. You know, disability needs to be put
back on the map normal.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
It needs to be talked about.
Speaker 3 (12:44):
People need to be made aware that a lot of
these young adults with disability and mental challenge they're very intelligent.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
They're very gifted.
Speaker 2 (12:53):
I mean very gifted.
Speaker 3 (12:54):
I'm blown away to be even one with Sierra because
she's so gifted. I've tapped into some areas where I've
pulled out of the gifts in her. And so what
I want to do is make us aware that we
don't want to give up on our babies and our
young adults. What we want to do is be impactful
and lead us to the community in the right way
(13:16):
to advance, you know, the young adults in the disability
community to be heard, so that voice to be heard, to.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Be seen, because you know, the thing is that no
matter how old they are, they continue to learn. My
daughter's thirty six, and she's doing things now that she
wasn't doing in her twenty years. She's doing it now
that she wasn't doing when she was a teenager. So
we can't ever give up on them for them to
continue to learn and blossom. And that's what we as caregivers,
(13:47):
as parents, and as a network of people who care
about this community, we have to work together to make
sure that our individuals, our loved ones, can can materimieten
the same way we try to maximize our own potential,
right And so you know, I'm always looking for things
for Sierra to do and experience so that she can
(14:10):
you know, have the best life possible, because that's part
of what I believe God led me to be her
mom so that she can have the best life possible.
Because I'm working on making sure my life is the
best life possible. So you know, add.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
Some more tips to that, add some more tips. And
I also want to stress.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
That as as caregivers, we we we we we've got
to stop being a shamed people. I feel so compelled
to share that we've got to what I mean by
being a shamed We don't need to be warned by
what people think and how they're looking at us.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
We don't care about that because I am a true believer.
You know what.
Speaker 3 (14:53):
I work with Tier and other young challenging disability young adults,
and when I take them on outings. People, if we're
being mistreated when we go on an outing and we
go to a store, I demand respect for them. I
am their voice and I stress this. I cannot stress
it enough. If we go to dollar treat, we go
(15:13):
to the library and we're spending our money, you know,
they have their own money, and.
Speaker 2 (15:18):
Then we're spending our money and they're not treating our.
Speaker 3 (15:20):
Money like another person's dollars.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
That's what we will walk out.
Speaker 3 (15:26):
I will not tolerate the disability community being mistreated. I
tell them they got their money is just as well
as good as anybody else's money. And I demand respect
for our children and our young adults. So yes, when
I take them out on out these people and they
disrespect my people and they disrespect us, We've turned around
and I'll make a complaint, but we will never go
(15:46):
back because we demand respect.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
You're going to treat our dollars, you.
Speaker 3 (15:51):
Know, just as well as anybody else's dollar. And I
also want to say that as the caregivers, we have
to take care of ourselves. People cannot stress that enough.
It is okay to go get a massage. It is
okay to to take them if you need a family
member to keep them for a few hours so you
can get your head right, because I would rather for
you to do that than to snap and hurt them.
(16:13):
So I want to stress it it is okay, guys
for us to take some time to ourselves because yes,
we get burnt out, Yes it happens, but what can
we do to alleviate some of the stress. And I
want to talk about that at your Exceptional Mother's celebration
Normal because it needs to be talked about it's okay
to winding down ourselves sometimes people, that's fine.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
We have to pay for ourselves, honey, please. I had
a massage today and I'm loving it. Like I had learned.
It took me years before I started doing that. I mean,
I just but one of the things that I learned
is if I if I, if I break down, see here,
it's subject to it. So I can't afford to not
take care of myself because I don't try anything negative
(17:02):
to happen as a result of me not taking care
of me, because I'm the one that she depends on
the most. And so yes, I make a point at
least once a month, trying to get twice a month.
But I go and get a massage, and I do
my daily walks, and you know, it's about three miles
a day that I that you know, helps to I'm
(17:24):
sitting here, you know, getting ideas and talking to God
and getting the exercise that I need on a regular basis.
And I've been doing that for many many years. I
mean I've been losing as a teenager. But it's something
that I love to do, and I i it helps
a lot with you know, eliminating any kind of stress
that I might be dealing with and just just brings peace.
(17:46):
I love springs and the fall, walking and looking at
God's work and the trees and the flowers blooming. It's
a beautiful thing and it just makes me feel better
and more prepared to deal with my day, which is
very busy. In addition to taking care of Sierra, I
have a lot of responsibilities, and so having the help
(18:08):
of someone like Lorenza does help me to be able
to do those kinds of things, you know, spend a
few hours just chilling if that's what I need to do,
or doing some other kind of work that I may
need to do at that time. But the point is,
you know, the caregiving and the caregivers like Lorenza who
assists families like ours, it's critical. And you know, Sierra
(18:31):
still lives with me, but some of these people live
in group homes and they still need the same quality
care even if they're in a group home. You know,
that's something that I'm hoping I won't ever have to
do putting Sarah in the home. As long as I'm
here and healthy, she's gonna be with me. But that
(18:54):
is and they're good ones out there believe me, they're
all good ones out there, but you know there's some
that are not so good, and so we want to
make sure that you know, that's a whole other topic.
You know, we'll do another show on that. But the
point is that the people who are responsible for whoever
it is in those group homes have to be caring.
(19:16):
They have to want to do this kind of work right,
and because the people, the constituents, the people who live
there depend on them, you know. So you know that's
something that that it's so so critical, and you know,
people take that for granted and you just can't do
you know, the quality of care that that a person
(19:36):
brings to a situation for a vulable person who can't
do things for themselves, that that there's the price. There's
not enough money in the world. In my opinion, they
should be highly paid people, the same way I think
teachers should be highly paid.
Speaker 2 (19:54):
People totally agree, you know.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
So it's just really it's just really interesting. But so
tell us a little bit about what twenty twenty five
looks like for you and some of the things you
have planned for your Annointed Mindset program, and tell us
about your radio show where we hear that.
Speaker 3 (20:12):
Okay, Yes, I'm excited. I started doing my radio show.
It's coming out of New York, guys, and God has
opened up another opportunity.
Speaker 2 (20:21):
That is I do that every Sunday at w J
and R.
Speaker 3 (20:25):
It's an online radio and that's for thirty minutes at
nine o'clock.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
And also this year, I'm gonna be going to.
Speaker 3 (20:32):
Record with BB Whining's brother and their family out in Detroit.
This I'm excited about that, and I'll be doing some songs,
a couple of songs recording out there. And then I'm
just what I'm really looking for this year is just
really diving deeper into my life coaching business because that
is such a passion. And what I also want to
(20:54):
do is I have a long term goal normal.
Speaker 2 (20:59):
Which is maybe opening up a group home, just one
group home.
Speaker 3 (21:03):
That is a long term goal. It's not hard to do.
I'm gonna be consistent, I'm gonna get it done. But
I want to go ahead and start getting the blueprint
and I want to talk about it and maybe, you know,
just get some more support in the community.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
Out here in Atlanta and other surrounding areas.
Speaker 3 (21:21):
To see if I can, you know, just get some
help and get in the community we needed, we really
really needed, and just some topics some some of the
things that I'm gonna be doing this year norma as
well as I am a prophet as well, so I'll
be traveling here.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
I also work with Joshua Jiles.
Speaker 3 (21:42):
Ministry and he'll be out in Orlando this year and
I'll be speaking with him this year.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
So I'm just excited.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
I'm quite sure there's more new things coming, but I'm
very grateful. I'm very grateful for opportunity to be your
friend and and you a boss. I always say I
want to be like normal. That's a call, that's the fault.
I always I want to be a box like normal guys.
So you know, well, you know, you know that's what
I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (22:09):
You know, God has a way of bringing people together,
and you know, I support your your your goals and
dreams and believing God that you know I'll be able
to you know, connect you with some folks who can
help you get that group home started and whatever. You know,
the point is that we all have a purpose here.
We all have something that I believe is our divine
(22:31):
assignment and and mind is bringing awareness to people who
are out there doing things for the disability community that
you tend not to hear about because our typical media
doesn't talk about there's a lot of things that are
going on in our community. It doesn't give people like
Lorenzo or some of the other guests that we've had
(22:52):
on Disability World the opportunity to share their stories and
how they're impacting positively impacting the community. And so we
want to be able to fill that gap here on
Disability World. So tell people where they can learn more
information about you, where they connect with they can connect
with you if they need to. And you know, because
(23:13):
at the end of the show goes fast, doesn't it.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (23:17):
Well, you guys, if you ever want to vent or
just have prayer, you can also reach me at l
C A v I T T two at gmail dot com.
I am on Facebook under Lorenzo Rome. I'm on Instagram,
at Rends, Underscore, God's Grow and YouTube. You can also
reach me on that platform. It's God's Beautiful One.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
Awesome, awesome. Well, thank you so much for taking some
time to be a park of Disability World, and we
look forward to seeing some great things coming from you
in the future. Look forward to you know you being
a part of our Exceptional Parents celebration in May, and
again you know you'll be blessed and much success and
contin your success to you.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
Absolutely thank you for having me here.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
So thank you guys for being a part of Disability
World today. We thank you for you know, tuning in
and hearing all the amazing things that Miss lorenzelone is doing.
We look forward to bringing you some other amazing guests
in the very near future, so continue to tune into
Disability World, and all of a sudden remember to connect
(24:27):
with me on Facebook and Instagram and LinkedIn and all
the places that you can find where Enormous Stanley is.
But we are very excited about some of the shows
we have coming up on Disability World and we look
forward to sharing some great stories with you very soon.
(24:47):
So be blessed and until next time, we'll talk soon.
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