September 25, 2025 • 34 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:08):
Sweetee Hey everyone, I'm wa and I'm.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
And welcome to docy Sweeties. Uh so we are well,
not me and Shae, but the original Doky Sweets are
two long time friends who discussed the riveting and sometimes
trashy world of reality TV and docu series, but through
our own lens, which can be sleepy, which can be
wide awake, which could be ready for the rain that's
gonna happen tonight. It's almost liberal good, you know, but
(00:35):
hopefully at the end of the day.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Mildly sweet Hi, Hi, Hello, hello, hello.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
So today we're talking ninety Day Fiance UK Season four,
episode twelve. It's like beat a dead fish? Is that
what it is? Is that what she said?
Speaker 2 (00:51):
It's Oh? Is that? Is it the official title of
the episode? Like from the show. That's how they wrote it.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
I think I wrote it wrong.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Oh okay, well, it's like beating a dead fish is
what I suspected would say. That is what she said.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
It's like beat a dead fish. I feel like that.
I feel like I didn't know what she was saying.
I was like, what do you mean it twitches? Is
it there?
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Just saying it's kind of limp, that's yeah, yeah, that's
what I heard.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
I mean, that's what I think too, And it's so
it's funny, but also like yikes.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
He seemed to say, like not where I'm from. Yeah,
Like he was very very much being like, that's sos who.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
Yeah, did you cut your hair? Looks really cute.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
I didn't, But I've had I had a crazy twenty
four hours and so this is just the outcome of it.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
It looks good, looks bad.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
I appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
Oh, that's funny. Crazy twenty four hours, that's why I
look shorter. No, okay, let's just start with them. So
first couple we're going to talk about is Aara and Andy. Y'all,
she is not prepared for the UK so much so
where she just put on socks and sandals and said,
this is the outphit.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
What season is it?
Speaker 1 (02:01):
Do we know it's always dreary and cold. That's true,
it's not winter because it's I don't see any snow
on the ground and there is no rain. It must
be just like spring.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Sounds like she's going off vibes like she's not pulling
up an app, she's not looking outside. Oh that's just like, yeah, let.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
Me just I don't think she has it. I don't
think she has it. Like, was she gonna buy something
in the in the Philippines. No, she's like, whoa, I'm
not going to be outside. But I just think it
was funny that I was like, oh, girl, you had
a sweater. Somebody you found a sweater somewhere, but you
were like, shoes, I don't need to worry about I'll
just wore my socks. I think that like when you
are from a place that's tropical, you truly, truly can't understand.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
How much versatility you truly need in your closet because
something as light as like it could be windy one
day but still hot or windy and frigid. And I
mean that the sweater was giving airport gift shop, which hey,
I've been there, you know, yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, so
but yeah right, she is ill prepared.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
I love that she had. I just love the socks
and the sandals. I love that. I feel like she
was like, well, I have socks, I have sandals, will
make it work.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
That's about the black thing, because that's what we do
in my family, socks and sandals heavy all the time. Oh, like, oh,
I gotta go downstairs and get something. I'm putting on
my slides and I got socks on, yes and July oh.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Yeah, no, I I had to buy some of my
sandals a little bit bigger because I was like, oh,
it's so. What happens is when it when I want
to walk about the building. Yeah, when I want to
walk around the building here and I don't want to
put on like a heavy shoe, I just am like,
but I have socks on because I don't need my
toes to be, you know, out to the elements. Yeah,
I'll do that, but that's the only time I do it.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
I mean, to your point, I have outdoor shoes, like
if I have to step outside to meet a door dasher.
But I also have if I'm staying in the building.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Walk around the building shoes.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Yeah, like when we have an event in the building
that I'm like, oh, I'm not really leaving the premises,
and then I put those shoes on.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
Yeah I do. I have walk around the building shoes.
The problem is is that now I just need gay
ninety shoes and like saloon shoes because I don't, you know,
I don't. I don't be in the in the clubs
or the bars like that. I mean I sometimes, but
like them them them spaces.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
Is dirt, the heel, the big performer you're talking about
like flat.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Yeah, a flat so that I can get in there
and get out because I'm not usually I'm in there
to Okay that being said, she and Andy and Yeah
are have landed in the UK after like a very
long time I'm traveling, and his parents meet them there
and she says that I feel so supported and so loved.
(04:43):
This is like such a different feeling than normal ninety
de fiance ninety wants everything to be at odds, but
in this it was a beautiful episode with them.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
They're probably cursing the gods then behind the scenes being like,
damn it, we need friction here. But I thought it
was so sweet how they just showed up at the
airport and we're just I mean, I just feel like
the tiny glimpse of the conversation with his dad from
many episodes ago, where he was faking that he couldn't
go to the wedding, that episode left such a distaste
(05:15):
for his parents in my spirit that like the version
we actually got of them on camera has been absolutely delightful.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
It really has been. It has been like they yeah,
so sweet, and then like you know, I'm like, y'all
go all the way to the airport just to say hello,
and then you're gonna drive back. You're not even gonna drive.
It's not like you're like, oh, we're here with the
van and we're gonna have a cute little car.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Like no, unless they live, like oh, it's just right
up the road.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
It never is.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
It never is. Cair I'll talk about that. It never
truly is. It's always deep as fuck. Someone wants to
get you from the airport. Yeah, that part. I literally
wrote that down. I was like, oh, they're not even
leaving with them? Wow? Heavy, I mean yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
But also like I feel like, honestly, like the Minneapolis
Airport is the only airport I've been able to truly
do that with. Like anytime anyone comes and visit me,
I go pick them up. I parked, I get out,
and I'm sitting there waiting for them, and they're like, oh.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
You know what now that you say that. When my
brother and my nephew came, I did that I parked
and I was like, I'm here, and they were like,
what are you doing? And I was like, what do
you mean, I'm here. He's like where's the car. I'm like, oh, yeah,
this is odd.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
You know, it's so easy. Every other city I've ever
lived in where the airport is like, I mean it's
the major city, you can't do that, except for like
Ontario Airport in California you can do it. But like
most major cities airport you cannot. You're just like, uber, here,
we're here.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
I think that's by the Minneapolis one is ranked number
one amongst like just ease of navigating the airport. It's
so easy.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Yeah, because definitely my family is like, oh, you're just
here at baggage claim, Like, yep, that's playing solitaire right
waiting for you to show up. It's fine, let's let's
go because it's just such a breeze. So his family
did that, and they get in the car and they
get back to his place, and she's in awe. She's
very happy, even though it's jury and sad. She's saying
that it's jury and sad with a smile on her face.
(07:11):
She loves him. She's so happy. To be here. She
doesn't know what's going to be like, but she's excited
for this new adventure in her life. And they get
to his place and he's kind of worried, and I
am too, because again ninety day fiance regular. The man
will always have a woman come back to a hovel,
he will all I ever And some now I'm like, yeah,
just like the bed's not made up, there's like like
(07:34):
dishes in the sink, still like.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
It's never gave that.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Yeah, it's always some Shenanigans where the woman walks in
and she's just like no. But Arra walks in and
she's like, oh my god. And the family has decorated
and they've left like like a card and such campagne
campaign and she's like, I feel so supported and loved
by your family and they gave them space, so it's
not like right, yeah, it's not like.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Our already ten out of ten in laws right there. Yeah,
And she was calling the mom and dad. I thought
that was so sweet.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
Yes, she's very much interested in that. And I think
I think Andy was like, listen, this family's close. I
know we're not close, but this family's closely. Y'all better
get it together. Yeah, get it together.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
And I really was incredibly Yeah, it was a beautiful
little intro to her time in the UK. I thought
it was just perfect and it seemed like exactly what
she needed.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Mm hm. And then and then I was like, okay,
well that's just the beginning. There's going to be a downfall.
So then the next thing we have, she is excitedly
going to the grocery store by herself to make a
proper English breakfast. I'm telling you, I would never be
able to do that if somebody sent me the grocery store.
I'm just gonna buy things that I'm comfortable with.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Oh, I see, like, meaning on your first attempt, you
wouldn't like aim that high. You would just I'm used to.
And then I'll get more ambitious down the line.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
Yeah, well I'll make you something that I know how
to make. But she's like, I'm going to make you
a proper English breakfast, which is like every time I
talk about a proper breakfast disgusting.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Have you got? Yeah? And I had it. I've seen
others have it because they're like, oh, do you want it?
And I'm like, don't even don't girl.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
I tried some beans and toasts, and I really thought
these beans were about to.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Be No, they're like chefoy or d can type shit,
Like there's not even chef.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Boy or d. It's there's no there's no seasoning on them.
Eat it's no seasoning. It's just like they're like, oh,
the tomato sauce, I love that. I'm like, the tomato
sauce doesn't taste like any gullet. There's no, there's nothing.
And like I've had a British breakfast in Britain and
I have been not impressed. I'm like, it's okay.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
And then they want to look at you taste it,
and now you're like great. Now I have to tell
you the truth because I'm not gonna lie to you.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
It's like a slice of tomato, some eggs, a sausage,
some beans, and like a toast.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
And then there's like a pudding thing. Oh yeah, it
always comes on the dish. It's just funky to me. Yeah. Yeah.
But I thought Ara was really brave because the fact
that she came out guns Blake, just really ready to
dive right in. But honestly, what it gave to me
was at least the traditional old school type of conversations
(10:08):
when you have an elder tell you that you're like
going to become somebody's wife and what that entails and
what that looks like, and you have to do, like,
I'm inclined to think and assume Again, there's nothing showing
that this happened, but that there's a conversation that her
mom had had with her or someone in her family
to say, like, you know, this is what a wife
looks like. Type stuff like just to just to show
up for your partner in maybe more unique ways. I
(10:32):
don't know, but for some reason, the thought came to
me while she was when she was like, I'm going
to go make him an English breakfast, and I was like, girl,
right now today, why go to bed?
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Yeah, she did that, and she got three different types
of cheeses and they laughed about the cheeses and like
because she realized cheese apparently. And then then the next
scene we have with them is her meeting his friends
and so is that.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Anything, Yes, you're right, So.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
And So meet the friends. They're sitting down. The one
thing I did notice is that she didn't get up
and hug the friend or there was no like, yeah,
there was no like it was just like ha, and
I thought, oh, oh, what's happening? And then but then
it ended up being okay, like lots of joking about
Andy's penis being a dead fish and wiggling sometimes and
wiggling most times not and they talked. She's like, I
think we're gonna do IVF and he's like, yeah, you know,
(11:23):
because of my genetic you know things like and.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
I was like, that's you know, that's smart, right, And
he's got the coverage, so ye do it, like utilize
all avenues to try to.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
Yeah, and he's like, but in the meantime, we're going
to try and act naturally. And I was like, well, no,
don't try naturally. But I'm like, I'm like, good for
them though, And then they have a nothing scene where
he takes her to a hotel and it's fancy because
she has gotten a job and it's only been a
(11:54):
few weeks. I said, killing it in the game came
not to play.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
I said, wow, you came with your big girl pants on,
and you said what is time?
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Yes? How does she get the visa?
Speaker 2 (12:08):
Like?
Speaker 1 (12:08):
What visa are they on? How does she get the
job so quick? He said, I'm really really proud of
you after a few weeks you were able to get
a job, and I have in mind it's probably like
eight weeks, like you know, but in the US a
few weeks. That's what's crazy, is that when you do
the UK, when you do the K one visa, even
if even when after you get married to the American,
the foreigners still can't get a job for another year.
(12:29):
Oh yeah, like it takes a while for them to
get their work permit.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Well it's not just the media, it's the media work.
You said, work permit is separate on top of the visa.
Oh that's interesting. So so you are applying for the
work permit throughout that year. Is that what happens?
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Or I think you can't apply for it until you
So you get the visa, the visa allows you to
come to the States. Then once you get married, then
you are able to now apply for permanent resid did
see or something? And so then you can't even apply
for citizenship, which is crazy to me. So you applied
for permanent residency, and I think you have to have
the permanent residency for like ten years, not ten years
(13:09):
because one of this the one lady got our citizenship,
really relatively quickly, but you have to apply for something
first and then you can get a job.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
Wow. So obviously in the UK it's not that Yeah,
it's not. That's interesting. That's very interesting because I I mean,
I'm not gonna lie. When Andy said like, oh, we're
in here to celebrate something, I was like, oh, because
we again, we just came off the scene on them
talking about wanting to make a baby, So I was like,
how much time has passed since we've been recording all
this stuff. So but I like that he is celebrating
(13:39):
all of her wins, like this is so fire. And
I think she said, what a customer service manager or
something like that.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
Yeah, in the medical field, in.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
The medical field. Yeah, And I'm just like, I know
that's right, Like our one thing she gonna do is
get to work. Yeah. I'm just I felt really proud
of her, like I'm for you. She came and took
this new arrival.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
Seriously, you know what there is that we now that
I say medical fill I do realize that there is
a pipeline for Filipino women to or Filipino people to
come to Western world, specifically the UK and work in
the medical industry. There's a lot of Filipino women who
are trained in the Philippines and they can become nurses
or people. I should keep saying women with death to
being sexist that can come and do that. So maybe
(14:22):
she was able to be fast tracked because she's from
what had the credentials back in the Philippines, was able
to there, right, Yeah, But so our editor was saying
that she was most likely in some kind of customer
service field because of her English being so good. So
whatever it is, it must have been transferable because of
(14:43):
whatever certificates and stuff she has. Yeah, So very excited
for her, very excited for them. She says that this
was a leap of faith and it was the best
thing she's ever done, and she's very happy. And they
finally get their confessionals together, and so now we know that.
Then we knew they were together, we knew they were
still talking, and now turns out there and they're happy.
And so if I see a live of them, I'll
catch it and ask some questions.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
Yeah, then I'll definitely send that my way, because I
don't think I've ever seen a live of them, and
apparently they do it often.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
On TikTok yeah, all right. So the next couple that
we are going to talk about is Marco and Sarah.
So we pick up with Marco and Sarah where Marco
is asking the dad for his for his blessing and
the dad's like, well, how long have you guys been
doing this? And he's like, uh, you know for three months?
And he's like, oh, well all the best chip chip.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
Parade, like all that delay for what? For nothing?
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Nothing?
Speaker 2 (15:34):
Nothing but that depress them a little bit?
Speaker 1 (15:37):
What how well?
Speaker 2 (15:38):
The dad press them was saying like when did you
tell your parents? Share it with the class? And I
was like, oh, you better not say it was day
one and you had Pop sitting here for three months
waiting for you to muster up the courage to ask him.
And that's when it was like that. It was like
a long awkward back and forth and being like oh
can I use the bathroom? Like can I? And I'm like,
what's the beef? Why did you tell your parents? And
(15:59):
he said oh, like about them ago so But but
the dad didn't really you know, if anything, he kept
his energy to himself. But to me, I was like
get him Pops, like, but he didn't do none of that.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
Oh see me that it's not even the biggest deal.
Like I didn't even I have not even for one
second thought about his family at all. And then what happened.
I was like, oh, well, maybe he hasn't told them,
and then that would have been suspicious, because then is
this real if you haven't told your family yet.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
That's why I was like, like, and she closer to
the screen, like why why the hesitation? I didn't understand.
I thought it was unecessary drama, like a long pause,
like a pregnant pause for no reason.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
He felt some kind of way. I just we just
didn't understand what it was. So Sarah comes down and
they're all happy that it happened. And the next scene
is Sarah talking with her bestie because she can't make
a decision by herself apparent, and I was, oh my god,
this was like I was like what And so anyway,
so she's talking to the bestie and the she's like, hi,
(16:55):
Marco's left the decision up to me and where are
we gonna live? And it's quite a lot of pressure
because well, if he hates it here and I'm just like,
this is the dumbest, boringest scene ever. Let's skip to
Finn like that's what I was thinking.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
I was like, yeah, I think their whole segment this
episode was really a snooze yea, because I thought they
were just like spending time on them for just for
shits and giggles, because I think maybe we haven't seen
them in the last episode, so they just wanted to
revisit them. But I thought it was weird. I will
say that I did write down that I thought he
was very controlling because he was like, it's up to you,
like you're the one that has to make the call
(17:31):
about where we're going to live. And she was like,
isn't it an US thing? And he was like no.
He's like, well, I want you to know that I
would hate to leave Italy and she was like okay,
so and he's like, yeah, so decide. So I just
thought how he kind of dropped it on her lap,
it seemed, and she didn't stand up for herself. And
I think this is like the third time we've seen
(17:51):
him being manipula or a little bit controlling, and like
you said, her run to a friend to soundboard, the
friend being like that's suspicious and then her being like
oh yeah, and then going to him, and it kind
of resolving itself simply and not this big work up
that she thought in her head that she couldn't bring
up to him from the beginning. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
I just don't know why she can't make I don't
know why she can't just make the decision. I would
have been like, oh, is that to me? We're staying here? Thanks?
Speaker 2 (18:19):
Period, that's thirty seconds of footage.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
What are you torried about? What is this conversation about.
She's like, I don't think it's fair that you've played
in mind, and he's like, well, he but he also
said I could live here. It's fine.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
That was there and that's how it ended. So to me,
I was like, you see all that you have to
call your friend from the like.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
That's weird. Go to the club for no reason. Jesus,
everybody's in the White Lion, right. So next couple is
Finn and uh Sandra. So we pick up where she
asks him if he's sick and is he being serious?
And so she says to him, I will marry you,
(18:57):
but you've got to move to Brazil, and so he
then gets awkward on air as though like he didn't
ask her on air so it's like weird that all
of a sudden he's like not prepared for this ultimatum
or addendum, amendment or whatever it is to appendix, I
don't know. To the to the caveat is that it
(19:19):
to the yes. And afterwards they end up getting into
a big, big, big fight, into which he leaves. And
I said to myself, if every time, if I'm coming
to visit my man and we get into a fight
and he leaves and spends the night at somebody else's house.
Speaker 2 (19:34):
I'm single at and I'll tell you that. Yeah, I'll
tell you that. I'll tell you that because he was
moving real funny, just like you said. And also, let's
remember he gave her I think two rings and she
was like, oh, you give me two, so here, here's
one back for you so you can wear something. And also,
like you said, making it awkward on air as but
also he was controlling the space on air, so even
(19:57):
if he felt it was awkward, he could have been like,
all right, she said yes, and then afterwards been like, wait,
you said yes, but like, let's talk about that. But no,
they unpacked all of that live and in color and
on the camera and on the like why would you
do that? And then he was like, oh, you just
say you embarrassed me. I'm humiliated. Like, bro, you control
the cameras, cut the cameras.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
Yeah, what the fuck?
Speaker 2 (20:17):
That's weird. That was really funky to me, and I
like that. She was very much like, you have to
move to Brazil. Are you doing it? Yes or no?
Mm hmmm, doesn't what we talk about?
Speaker 1 (20:24):
Oh you're exactly I yeah, I don't quite understand. Like
she did give him an ultimatum though. After that, She's like,
I don't want to be like deal with you. I
want the friend that I met in Brazil the first
time and the friend that I used to know. And
I'm just like, who is that person? Though? Because the
person we see in front of me that I've see
in front of me, I'm just like, m that's not
the kind of part. He's like procrastinating on everything. He's
(20:46):
procrastinating on learning the language. He like insulted the fact
that she has kids and he doesn't, maybe a step parent.
So many different things that he said to her about
their relationship that I just if I were her, would
have been like sakabo no.
Speaker 2 (21:01):
I would have gone the it forever ago because I
will say there's to me, there's really nothing redeemable. Like
he started off at the beginning of the season, he
came out hot, and I was like, oh, like, didn't
like his energy, didn't like his approach, like you said,
shitting on her. The fact that she has children and
how close she is with her sisters and all that stuff.
So now when she says like, oh, I missed the
(21:21):
Finn from before, I'm like, that must be a version
we never saw. And I never saw a version that
I'm rooting for.
Speaker 1 (21:27):
Yeah, exactly, I never did see that person. And so
she's crying in her confessionals and she's like, I'm very sorry,
but like this is really hard. And they spend some
time apart and then they come back together. They have
dinner and he sings greens leaves to her in Portuguese
and she's like, no, that wasn't that wasn't the language
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at all. I'm so sorry. The most the thing that
I the thing about Finn that I don't like is
that he keeps wanting her to give him time and
to be patient with him because he didn't grow up
with a family that's very close, so he doesn't know
how to be affectionate. That's bollocks. Hug that girl, hold
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her hand.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
Yeah, like maybe you didn't grow up that way, but
you've seen a movie. Yeah, like you know what it takes.
Speaker 1 (22:16):
Yes, it's bollocks, and you think you should do as
you try. Yes, if it's uncomfortable, say, it's not my
first thought. It makes me super uncomfortable. I feel awkward
when I try to do it, but like I'm gonna
make an effort to do it because there's times when
I recognize I should do it and I don't because
I feel awkward about it. I just decided to say
something flowery and make a joke. He loves to do,
like puns and shit, Like he'll say, looks like we're
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heading down the river, but there's fog on the horizon.
He always does.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
That, and I'm like, no, it's true. Like the narrator
on Love Island like, yeah, a little quirky, weird. And
also when they're like at the wrong time because like
he dropped a joke even when they were sitting out
when she said, oh, I'm not wearing the ring and
he's like you're not. She's like no, because I don't
feel engaged, and I think he dropped the joke in there,
and I'm like, read the room, bro, what do you
(23:04):
see her laughing? No, she's about to punch you in
the throat, like please come correct.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
He just and she forgives him, and I'm like, no, Sandra, no,
I know, I know, I know. You want somebody that
doesn't exist, and that's an unfortunate thing. You want someone
who does not exist.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
And maybe it's that I'm a bond.
Speaker 1 (23:23):
For what he wasn't. He wasn't an orphanage winner.
Speaker 2 (23:28):
There's a bond that I can't describe.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
I don't know what it is. So dramatic. He's been
such drama the whole time about her ex and about learning.
He's just been drama the.
Speaker 2 (23:39):
Whole time, Nold, I'm telling you, I would have gone
the x such a long time. I would have been like,
you know what, pack it up? By No, I can't do.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
This anymore exactly.
Speaker 2 (23:47):
Well it's in.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
Is there another couple?
Speaker 2 (23:53):
Yes, there is Zena and Ibrama. Oh god, Zina, this
one was actually entertaining this time around. Yeah. I enjoyed
it for what it gave and what it did I gave. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
Yeah, So we start ed with Xena and she's like, oh,
I'm having a time with my granddaughter. Tilly and I
are looking at at shrubbery. Tilly, if you could be
any plot, what would you be? And Tilly's like, I'd
be a tree because they're last longer. She's like, oh,
I'll be a hydrat judge because they're different colors. Oh,
look at this, this is a succulent. Oh that you
(24:29):
would this? Look at this mint. You never have to
water it and it just keeps on sprouting. That's lovely.
If only somebody would buy me, and it's only a
pound forty nine. Look at that?
Speaker 2 (24:39):
Would you consider that this is a grandmother and granddaughter.
Then the context of the conversation makes sense. Yes, Like
there's been countless times you're talking to my grandmother and
she's talking about something that to me, I'm like, wow,
I love that that's important to you, or like that
that's what you want to discuss right now? Like how
beautiful that that chatting at two o'clock on a Thursday
about plans? Good for you? You know. So once I
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took a step back and I realized their relationship to
one another, I was like, yeah, this checks out. This
is a grandmother related like conversation.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
But it's so funny because when I have an aunt
who's like seventy seven, and so when I talk to
her about stuff, it's always about something that she slightly
doesn't know about. And then she I'm like, oh, no, Auntie,
blah blah blah blah, and she's like, oh, so they
just they just don't eat know me, Like so so
like you know, you were vegetarian. She's like, oh, and
(25:32):
so information. Yeah, most of the conversation is me just
explaining things. And then if we talk about like she
somehow follows me on Instagram, so girl, I don't know,
but like like uh, if we talk about like I
don't know, real housewives, then she's like that they got
a lot to say. But otherwise like otherwise, like you know,
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it's it's a very interesting conversation because we're just in
two different worlds and right, you know, so so different.
But anyway, so then and she's like, well, fuckthing to
tell you, Dollan, and I have to tell you that
I'm engaged, and till he's like no, no, no, no,
no no no.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Her flabbers have been guessed. She's shocked and appalled. But
I will say this. The ring is really nice. I
didn't really notice that. When Zina put her hand up,
I was like, oh, where did he get that from?
Because it's better than Sarah Sarah and Marcos' was actually
showing somebody that ring. I'm like, girl, please pack it up.
But when when Zina just put her hands up, I
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was like, oh, I don't remember that.
Speaker 1 (26:31):
I feel like I feel like she bought it for herself,
Like I don't know once he wasted money.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
On a ring, Let me remove my comment. That's exactly
what happened. That's crazy. I forgot all about that.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
But you're right, he don't got no money. You're not
gonna buy You're gonna buy a Western woman ring. His
sister wife doesn't have a ring.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
I knows. She's like, I'm not a I'm not a
sex tourist. I'm not a Visa vagina. I'm like, girl,
you made that up because don't you know that?
Speaker 1 (27:01):
No, there, she is a sex tourist.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
I mean, yes, that I believe. But I'm saying for
her to say, like, oh, people are calling me, who
are who is the people? It's like DJ Khalen, it's them?
Who is they?
Speaker 1 (27:12):
But she is so funny because she's like, I'm not,
and I'm like, you are. You absolutely are. You went
to the Gambia and you have fucked more than one
man in the Gambia.
Speaker 2 (27:20):
You are.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
You were a person who is going to other countries
to have sex with the locals. And she's like, you know,
when I'm at the Gambia, I feel like, you know,
it's hot, and I have my ba and I feel sexual.
It's like it's like she becomes a different person when
she's in the sun. So, like, you know, because there's
plenty of men her age in yes, yeah, so yes,
(27:44):
when these people who go to these poorer countries and
then have sex with the locals, they are sex tourists.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
Right. No, you're absolutely right. You're absolutely right. You're absolutely right.
I think for me it was more like show me
who called you that to your face? Or you know,
because I'm.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
All her online friends. No, it's all her. She's on
Facebook's on Facebook.
Speaker 2 (28:05):
Yeah. And so the way the granddaughter's like, join a charity,
why do you have to marry him? And I was like,
she's not wrong.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
Charity will keep you busy. Yeah, everyone, I am charity.
I'm not giving it my attention to someone else. But anyway, so, uh,
her granddaughter's like, you need to really think about this,
like you need She's like, I'll think about it. And
then the next scene is her with like a fucking
Heineken or like what is that? I don't know what,
but what alcohol that is? Yeah, I was gonna say that.
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She's like, uh, Abraham, I'm calling to tell you that.
Speaker 2 (28:41):
It was so funny. It was like a casual, a
casual like like when I face time somebody else I'm cooking,
like I'm here but I'm not.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, babe that No, we're not going
to get married. I just feel like it's not going
to work. I can't live in the Gambia and like, yeah,
you're not going to ever come to the UK, so
don't worry. Yes, find someone in your own age. And
I don't like this man, babe, I don't like this man.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
Yeah. No. And I will say I was surprised because
even as a conversation with her granddaughter was evolving, you
could tell that she was being more honest about how
doubtful she was is she actually was going to marry
this man. But at the same time, I felt like
I was taken aback because I didn't hear her be
so convicted in previous episodes, Like this was the first
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one where I felt that she was like way more
leaning towards not going through with it. The whole time
I'm thinking that, like she's one of those cliffhanger women,
which is like, oh, I don't know, but then does
it anyway? Oh, I don't know, and then does it anyway?
Because I feel like that's been her pattern throughout, But this,
when she was talking to her granddaughter, she was very
much like, yeah, you're right, I don't know. When she
kept saying she felt bad for him, and that's when
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the granddaughter was like, I don't think you should marry
him because you feel bad. That's not a reason. And
she's like, no, I know, I mean he loves me too,
and she's like, yeah, we don't know that though, Like
you don't know, you don't know anything really when it
comes to this man, Grandma, you don't know anything.
Speaker 1 (30:07):
Yeah, you know nothing. And yeah, so she's like she's like, oh, abrama,
don't she first of all, you never said this name
is man. This man's name right now, one time.
Speaker 2 (30:17):
Not every day. Carry him.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
She's like Ibraham, don't be don't be mad, babes, You're
gonna find someone. I mean, we love each other, but
it's not gonna work. And like she's like, I think
Ibraham wanted something squat serious, anything serious.
Speaker 2 (30:36):
Shit maybe I don't know, yeah, but even nothing. When
she was like, I'm gonna let you go because I
don't want to get upset, and I'm like, you're rushing
this man off the focal, he's.
Speaker 1 (30:44):
Like, man makes me sad man and then he's like, oh, Ibrama,
don't cry and he comes up with not a tear.
Speaker 2 (30:49):
In his eye, dry eye. I didn't. I wrote that down.
I was like, no one is crying.
Speaker 1 (30:58):
She's looking at him through her vocals.
Speaker 2 (31:00):
He's like right right, A bit of a bitch, yeah,
And I was like, girl, go.
Speaker 1 (31:09):
Go take a nap.
Speaker 2 (31:12):
And of course, but you know, can't stop, won't stop
because she's like, well, let's see what the APPS is
hitting for. She was like, what about what she said? Latvia?
I was like, if you don't stay in London and
get your raggedy ass off them asps, you wasn't even Latvia.
It was like Lava Monte or something where those people alone,
(31:33):
leave those people alone. I think she made it up.
It's a real place. I'm so sorry out there for
you people who live there. I'm sure it's a real place,
and I believe you what I'm saying. I don't think
she knows it's a real place, and I think she
made it up.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Yeah, she's trying to go there and see what them
boys are like.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
So light, Yes, walk around the corner and find a man.
If you don't, your hot ass down somewhere, Yeah, what
the hell like somebody's grandma.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
Yeah, if she had had that energy throughout the whole season,
it would have been so much better. But yeah, yeah,
like if she was like, well, I don't know, but
the whole time she was trying to be like I
feel like he's he looked at this fluozy he's got
on Facebook. Like she's just going back and forth with
like such weird things that we're just like, what do
(32:19):
you really like this person? But I think she just
likes the attention, and so she has a little money
to spend on the attention. She's just going to spend
that little money on the attention.
Speaker 2 (32:27):
She should get a dog, a pet. She should get
a pet.
Speaker 1 (32:31):
She should she should uh, well, next episode. We've got
to tell all, and I wonder if it's gonna be
two episodes because I thought this was a fourteen episode show.
And if so, then we have two weeks of tell all.
But we don't need two weeks of tell Allso if.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
Tell all similar to a reunion mm hmm okay, okay, yeah,
I mean I'm excited we get some of the original
couples who we stopped seeing yeah for a while too,
and it's like a where are they now? Like what's
the what's their situation? Out? For me?
Speaker 1 (32:58):
Yeah, it's not current because it's not going to be
something that they've done. Like usually the tell aff is
filmed like six weeks before the like in the in
the middle of the season, so the tell all is
usually so when the cast come to the tell All,
they've seen at least half of the season on TV.
Okay a tell all, and then I think maybe they
(33:20):
do send them the rest of the season for them
to like well binge watch or whatever. Yeah, but yeah,
so yeah, it's it's always very interesting.
Speaker 2 (33:28):
It's gonna be juicy. And I hope Finn can speak
Portuguese because if not, I'm coming for that. Ask.
Speaker 1 (33:31):
Yeah, I hope so too. All right, you guys, thank
you so much for joining us. If you are interested
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You can find me on TikTok, Shalane says, and you
can find me on Instagram at sugar Shehet.
Speaker 1 (33:56):
All right, you guys, thank you so much for joining us,
and we'll talk to you later.
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Speaker 1 (00:40):
So today we're talking ninety Day Fiance UK Season four,
episode twelve. It's like beat a dead fish? Is that
what it is? Is that what she said?
Speaker 2 (00:51):
It's Oh? Is that? Is it the official title of
the episode? Like from the show. That's how they wrote it.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
I think I wrote it wrong.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Oh okay, well, it's like beating a dead fish is
what I suspected would say. That is what she said.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
It's like beat a dead fish. I feel like that.
I feel like I didn't know what she was saying.
I was like, what do you mean it twitches? Is
it there?
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Just saying it's kind of limp, that's yeah, yeah, that's
what I heard.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
I mean, that's what I think too, And it's so
it's funny, but also like yikes.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
He seemed to say, like not where I'm from. Yeah,
Like he was very very much being like, that's sos who.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
Yeah, did you cut your hair? Looks really cute.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
I didn't, But I've had I had a crazy twenty
four hours and so this is just the outcome of it.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
It looks good, looks bad.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
I appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
Oh, that's funny. Crazy twenty four hours, that's why I
look shorter. No, okay, let's just start with them. So
first couple we're going to talk about is Aara and Andy. Y'all,
she is not prepared for the UK so much so
where she just put on socks and sandals and said,
this is the outphit.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
What season is it?
Speaker 1 (02:01):
Do we know it's always dreary and cold. That's true,
it's not winter because it's I don't see any snow
on the ground and there is no rain. It must
be just like spring.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Sounds like she's going off vibes like she's not pulling
up an app, she's not looking outside. Oh that's just like, yeah, let.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
Me just I don't think she has it. I don't
think she has it. Like, was she gonna buy something
in the in the Philippines. No, she's like, whoa, I'm
not going to be outside. But I just think it
was funny that I was like, oh, girl, you had
a sweater. Somebody you found a sweater somewhere, but you
were like, shoes, I don't need to worry about I'll
just wore my socks. I think that like when you
are from a place that's tropical, you truly, truly can't understand.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
How much versatility you truly need in your closet because
something as light as like it could be windy one
day but still hot or windy and frigid. And I
mean that the sweater was giving airport gift shop, which hey,
I've been there, you know, yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, so
but yeah right, she is ill prepared.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
I love that she had. I just love the socks
and the sandals. I love that. I feel like she
was like, well, I have socks, I have sandals, will
make it work.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
That's about the black thing, because that's what we do
in my family, socks and sandals heavy all the time. Oh, like, oh,
I gotta go downstairs and get something. I'm putting on
my slides and I got socks on, yes and July oh.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Yeah, no, I I had to buy some of my
sandals a little bit bigger because I was like, oh,
it's so. What happens is when it when I want
to walk about the building. Yeah, when I want to
walk around the building here and I don't want to
put on like a heavy shoe, I just am like,
but I have socks on because I don't need my
toes to be, you know, out to the elements. Yeah,
I'll do that, but that's the only time I do it.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
I mean, to your point, I have outdoor shoes, like
if I have to step outside to meet a door dasher.
But I also have if I'm staying in the building.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Walk around the building shoes.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Yeah, like when we have an event in the building
that I'm like, oh, I'm not really leaving the premises,
and then I put those shoes on.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
Yeah I do. I have walk around the building shoes.
The problem is is that now I just need gay
ninety shoes and like saloon shoes because I don't, you know,
I don't. I don't be in the in the clubs
or the bars like that. I mean I sometimes, but
like them them them spaces.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
Is dirt, the heel, the big performer you're talking about
like flat.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Yeah, a flat so that I can get in there
and get out because I'm not usually I'm in there
to Okay that being said, she and Andy and Yeah
are have landed in the UK after like a very
long time I'm traveling, and his parents meet them there
and she says that I feel so supported and so loved.
(04:43):
This is like such a different feeling than normal ninety
de fiance ninety wants everything to be at odds, but
in this it was a beautiful episode with them.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
They're probably cursing the gods then behind the scenes being like,
damn it, we need friction here. But I thought it
was so sweet how they just showed up at the
airport and we're just I mean, I just feel like
the tiny glimpse of the conversation with his dad from
many episodes ago, where he was faking that he couldn't
go to the wedding, that episode left such a distaste
(05:15):
for his parents in my spirit that like the version
we actually got of them on camera has been absolutely delightful.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
It really has been. It has been like they yeah,
so sweet, and then like you know, I'm like, y'all
go all the way to the airport just to say hello,
and then you're gonna drive back. You're not even gonna drive.
It's not like you're like, oh, we're here with the
van and we're gonna have a cute little car.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Like no, unless they live, like oh, it's just right
up the road.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
It never is.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
It never is. Cair I'll talk about that. It never
truly is. It's always deep as fuck. Someone wants to
get you from the airport. Yeah, that part. I literally
wrote that down. I was like, oh, they're not even
leaving with them? Wow? Heavy, I mean yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
But also like I feel like, honestly, like the Minneapolis
Airport is the only airport I've been able to truly
do that with. Like anytime anyone comes and visit me,
I go pick them up. I parked, I get out,
and I'm sitting there waiting for them, and they're like, oh.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
You know what now that you say that. When my
brother and my nephew came, I did that I parked
and I was like, I'm here, and they were like,
what are you doing? And I was like, what do
you mean, I'm here. He's like where's the car. I'm like, oh, yeah,
this is odd.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
You know, it's so easy. Every other city I've ever
lived in where the airport is like, I mean it's
the major city, you can't do that, except for like
Ontario Airport in California you can do it. But like
most major cities airport you cannot. You're just like, uber, here,
we're here.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
I think that's by the Minneapolis one is ranked number
one amongst like just ease of navigating the airport. It's
so easy.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Yeah, because definitely my family is like, oh, you're just
here at baggage claim, Like, yep, that's playing solitaire right
waiting for you to show up. It's fine, let's let's
go because it's just such a breeze. So his family
did that, and they get in the car and they
get back to his place, and she's in awe. She's
very happy, even though it's jury and sad. She's saying
that it's jury and sad with a smile on her face.
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She loves him. She's so happy. To be here. She
doesn't know what's going to be like, but she's excited
for this new adventure in her life. And they get
to his place and he's kind of worried, and I
am too, because again ninety day fiance regular. The man
will always have a woman come back to a hovel,
he will all I ever And some now I'm like, yeah,
just like the bed's not made up, there's like like
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dishes in the sink, still like.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
It's never gave that.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Yeah, it's always some Shenanigans where the woman walks in
and she's just like no. But Arra walks in and
she's like, oh my god. And the family has decorated
and they've left like like a card and such campagne
campaign and she's like, I feel so supported and loved
by your family and they gave them space, so it's
not like right, yeah, it's not like.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Our already ten out of ten in laws right there. Yeah,
And she was calling the mom and dad. I thought
that was so sweet.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
Yes, she's very much interested in that. And I think
I think Andy was like, listen, this family's close. I
know we're not close, but this family's closely. Y'all better
get it together. Yeah, get it together.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
And I really was incredibly Yeah, it was a beautiful
little intro to her time in the UK. I thought
it was just perfect and it seemed like exactly what
she needed.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Mm hm. And then and then I was like, okay,
well that's just the beginning. There's going to be a downfall.
So then the next thing we have, she is excitedly
going to the grocery store by herself to make a
proper English breakfast. I'm telling you, I would never be
able to do that if somebody sent me the grocery store.
I'm just gonna buy things that I'm comfortable with.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Oh, I see, like, meaning on your first attempt, you
wouldn't like aim that high. You would just I'm used to.
And then I'll get more ambitious down the line.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
Yeah, well I'll make you something that I know how
to make. But she's like, I'm going to make you
a proper English breakfast, which is like every time I
talk about a proper breakfast disgusting.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Have you got? Yeah? And I had it. I've seen
others have it because they're like, oh, do you want it?
And I'm like, don't even don't girl.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
I tried some beans and toasts, and I really thought
these beans were about to.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Be No, they're like chefoy or d can type shit,
Like there's not even chef.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Boy or d. It's there's no there's no seasoning on them.
Eat it's no seasoning. It's just like they're like, oh,
the tomato sauce, I love that. I'm like, the tomato
sauce doesn't taste like any gullet. There's no, there's nothing.
And like I've had a British breakfast in Britain and
I have been not impressed. I'm like, it's okay.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
And then they want to look at you taste it,
and now you're like great. Now I have to tell
you the truth because I'm not gonna lie to you.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
It's like a slice of tomato, some eggs, a sausage,
some beans, and like a toast.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
And then there's like a pudding thing. Oh yeah, it
always comes on the dish. It's just funky to me. Yeah. Yeah.
But I thought Ara was really brave because the fact
that she came out guns Blake, just really ready to
dive right in. But honestly, what it gave to me
was at least the traditional old school type of conversations
(10:08):
when you have an elder tell you that you're like
going to become somebody's wife and what that entails and
what that looks like, and you have to do, like,
I'm inclined to think and assume Again, there's nothing showing
that this happened, but that there's a conversation that her
mom had had with her or someone in her family
to say, like, you know, this is what a wife
looks like. Type stuff like just to just to show
up for your partner in maybe more unique ways. I
(10:32):
don't know, but for some reason, the thought came to
me while she was when she was like, I'm going
to go make him an English breakfast, and I was like, girl,
right now today, why go to bed?
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Yeah, she did that, and she got three different types
of cheeses and they laughed about the cheeses and like
because she realized cheese apparently. And then then the next
scene we have with them is her meeting his friends
and so is that.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Anything, Yes, you're right, So.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
And So meet the friends. They're sitting down. The one
thing I did notice is that she didn't get up
and hug the friend or there was no like, yeah,
there was no like it was just like ha, and
I thought, oh, oh, what's happening? And then but then
it ended up being okay, like lots of joking about
Andy's penis being a dead fish and wiggling sometimes and
wiggling most times not and they talked. She's like, I
think we're gonna do IVF and he's like, yeah, you know,
(11:23):
because of my genetic you know things like and.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
I was like, that's you know, that's smart, right, And
he's got the coverage, so ye do it, like utilize
all avenues to try to.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
Yeah, and he's like, but in the meantime, we're going
to try and act naturally. And I was like, well, no,
don't try naturally. But I'm like, I'm like, good for
them though, And then they have a nothing scene where
he takes her to a hotel and it's fancy because
she has gotten a job and it's only been a
(11:54):
few weeks. I said, killing it in the game came
not to play.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
I said, wow, you came with your big girl pants on,
and you said what is time?
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Yes? How does she get the visa?
Speaker 2 (12:08):
Like?
Speaker 1 (12:08):
What visa are they on? How does she get the
job so quick? He said, I'm really really proud of
you after a few weeks you were able to get
a job, and I have in mind it's probably like
eight weeks, like you know, but in the US a
few weeks. That's what's crazy, is that when you do
the UK, when you do the K one visa, even
if even when after you get married to the American,
the foreigners still can't get a job for another year.
(12:29):
Oh yeah, like it takes a while for them to
get their work permit.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Well it's not just the media, it's the media work.
You said, work permit is separate on top of the visa.
Oh that's interesting. So so you are applying for the
work permit throughout that year. Is that what happens?
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Or I think you can't apply for it until you
So you get the visa, the visa allows you to
come to the States. Then once you get married, then
you are able to now apply for permanent resid did
see or something? And so then you can't even apply
for citizenship, which is crazy to me. So you applied
for permanent residency, and I think you have to have
the permanent residency for like ten years, not ten years
(13:09):
because one of this the one lady got our citizenship,
really relatively quickly, but you have to apply for something
first and then you can get a job.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
Wow. So obviously in the UK it's not that Yeah,
it's not. That's interesting. That's very interesting because I I mean,
I'm not gonna lie. When Andy said like, oh, we're
in here to celebrate something, I was like, oh, because
we again, we just came off the scene on them
talking about wanting to make a baby, So I was like,
how much time has passed since we've been recording all
this stuff. So but I like that he is celebrating
(13:39):
all of her wins, like this is so fire. And
I think she said, what a customer service manager or
something like that.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
Yeah, in the medical field, in.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
The medical field. Yeah, And I'm just like, I know
that's right, Like our one thing she gonna do is
get to work. Yeah. I'm just I felt really proud
of her, like I'm for you. She came and took
this new arrival.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
Seriously, you know what there is that we now that
I say medical fill I do realize that there is
a pipeline for Filipino women to or Filipino people to
come to Western world, specifically the UK and work in
the medical industry. There's a lot of Filipino women who
are trained in the Philippines and they can become nurses
or people. I should keep saying women with death to
being sexist that can come and do that. So maybe
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she was able to be fast tracked because she's from
what had the credentials back in the Philippines, was able
to there, right, Yeah, But so our editor was saying
that she was most likely in some kind of customer
service field because of her English being so good. So
whatever it is, it must have been transferable because of
(14:43):
whatever certificates and stuff she has. Yeah, So very excited
for her, very excited for them. She says that this
was a leap of faith and it was the best
thing she's ever done, and she's very happy. And they
finally get their confessionals together, and so now we know that.
Then we knew they were together, we knew they were
still talking, and now turns out there and they're happy.
And so if I see a live of them, I'll
catch it and ask some questions.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
Yeah, then I'll definitely send that my way, because I
don't think I've ever seen a live of them, and
apparently they do it often.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
On TikTok yeah, all right. So the next couple that
we are going to talk about is Marco and Sarah.
So we pick up with Marco and Sarah where Marco
is asking the dad for his for his blessing and
the dad's like, well, how long have you guys been
doing this? And he's like, uh, you know for three months?
And he's like, oh, well all the best chip chip.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
Parade, like all that delay for what? For nothing?
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Nothing?
Speaker 2 (15:34):
Nothing but that depress them a little bit?
Speaker 1 (15:37):
What how well?
Speaker 2 (15:38):
The dad press them was saying like when did you
tell your parents? Share it with the class? And I
was like, oh, you better not say it was day
one and you had Pop sitting here for three months
waiting for you to muster up the courage to ask him.
And that's when it was like that. It was like
a long awkward back and forth and being like oh
can I use the bathroom? Like can I? And I'm like,
what's the beef? Why did you tell your parents? And
(15:59):
he said oh, like about them ago so But but
the dad didn't really you know, if anything, he kept
his energy to himself. But to me, I was like
get him Pops, like, but he didn't do none of that.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
Oh see me that it's not even the biggest deal.
Like I didn't even I have not even for one
second thought about his family at all. And then what happened.
I was like, oh, well, maybe he hasn't told them,
and then that would have been suspicious, because then is
this real if you haven't told your family yet.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
That's why I was like, like, and she closer to
the screen, like why why the hesitation? I didn't understand.
I thought it was unecessary drama, like a long pause,
like a pregnant pause for no reason.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
He felt some kind of way. I just we just
didn't understand what it was. So Sarah comes down and
they're all happy that it happened. And the next scene
is Sarah talking with her bestie because she can't make
a decision by herself apparent, and I was, oh my god,
this was like I was like what And so anyway,
so she's talking to the bestie and the she's like, hi,
(16:55):
Marco's left the decision up to me and where are
we gonna live? And it's quite a lot of pressure
because well, if he hates it here and I'm just like,
this is the dumbest, boringest scene ever. Let's skip to
Finn like that's what I was thinking.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
I was like, yeah, I think their whole segment this
episode was really a snooze yea, because I thought they
were just like spending time on them for just for
shits and giggles, because I think maybe we haven't seen
them in the last episode, so they just wanted to
revisit them. But I thought it was weird. I will
say that I did write down that I thought he
was very controlling because he was like, it's up to you,
like you're the one that has to make the call
(17:31):
about where we're going to live. And she was like,
isn't it an US thing? And he was like no.
He's like, well, I want you to know that I
would hate to leave Italy and she was like okay,
so and he's like, yeah, so decide. So I just
thought how he kind of dropped it on her lap,
it seemed, and she didn't stand up for herself. And
I think this is like the third time we've seen
(17:51):
him being manipula or a little bit controlling, and like
you said, her run to a friend to soundboard, the
friend being like that's suspicious and then her being like
oh yeah, and then going to him, and it kind
of resolving itself simply and not this big work up
that she thought in her head that she couldn't bring
up to him from the beginning. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
I just don't know why she can't make I don't
know why she can't just make the decision. I would
have been like, oh, is that to me? We're staying here? Thanks?
Speaker 2 (18:19):
Period, that's thirty seconds of footage.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
What are you torried about? What is this conversation about.
She's like, I don't think it's fair that you've played
in mind, and he's like, well, he but he also
said I could live here. It's fine.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
That was there and that's how it ended. So to me,
I was like, you see all that you have to
call your friend from the like.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
That's weird. Go to the club for no reason. Jesus,
everybody's in the White Lion, right. So next couple is
Finn and uh Sandra. So we pick up where she
asks him if he's sick and is he being serious?
And so she says to him, I will marry you,
(18:57):
but you've got to move to Brazil, and so he
then gets awkward on air as though like he didn't
ask her on air so it's like weird that all
of a sudden he's like not prepared for this ultimatum
or addendum, amendment or whatever it is to appendix, I
don't know. To the to the caveat is that it
(19:19):
to the yes. And afterwards they end up getting into
a big, big, big fight, into which he leaves. And
I said to myself, if every time, if I'm coming
to visit my man and we get into a fight
and he leaves and spends the night at somebody else's house.
Speaker 2 (19:34):
I'm single at and I'll tell you that. Yeah, I'll
tell you that. I'll tell you that because he was
moving real funny, just like you said. And also, let's
remember he gave her I think two rings and she
was like, oh, you give me two, so here, here's
one back for you so you can wear something. And also,
like you said, making it awkward on air as but
also he was controlling the space on air, so even
(19:57):
if he felt it was awkward, he could have been like,
all right, she said yes, and then afterwards been like, wait,
you said yes, but like, let's talk about that. But no,
they unpacked all of that live and in color and
on the camera and on the like why would you
do that? And then he was like, oh, you just
say you embarrassed me. I'm humiliated. Like, bro, you control
the cameras, cut the cameras.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
Yeah, what the fuck?
Speaker 2 (20:17):
That's weird. That was really funky to me, and I
like that. She was very much like, you have to
move to Brazil. Are you doing it? Yes or no?
Mm hmmm, doesn't what we talk about?
Speaker 1 (20:24):
Oh you're exactly I yeah, I don't quite understand. Like
she did give him an ultimatum though. After that, She's like,
I don't want to be like deal with you. I
want the friend that I met in Brazil the first
time and the friend that I used to know. And
I'm just like, who is that person? Though? Because the
person we see in front of me that I've see
in front of me, I'm just like, m that's not
the kind of part. He's like procrastinating on everything. He's
(20:46):
procrastinating on learning the language. He like insulted the fact
that she has kids and he doesn't, maybe a step parent.
So many different things that he said to her about
their relationship that I just if I were her, would
have been like sakabo no.
Speaker 2 (21:01):
I would have gone the it forever ago because I
will say there's to me, there's really nothing redeemable. Like
he started off at the beginning of the season, he
came out hot, and I was like, oh, like, didn't
like his energy, didn't like his approach, like you said,
shitting on her. The fact that she has children and
how close she is with her sisters and all that stuff.
So now when she says like, oh, I missed the
(21:21):
Finn from before, I'm like, that must be a version
we never saw. And I never saw a version that
I'm rooting for.
Speaker 1 (21:27):
Yeah, exactly, I never did see that person. And so
she's crying in her confessionals and she's like, I'm very sorry,
but like this is really hard. And they spend some
time apart and then they come back together. They have
dinner and he sings greens leaves to her in Portuguese
and she's like, no, that wasn't that wasn't the language
(21:49):
at all. I'm so sorry. The most the thing that
I the thing about Finn that I don't like is
that he keeps wanting her to give him time and
to be patient with him because he didn't grow up
with a family that's very close, so he doesn't know
how to be affectionate. That's bollocks. Hug that girl, hold
(22:09):
her hand.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
Yeah, like maybe you didn't grow up that way, but
you've seen a movie. Yeah, like you know what it takes.
Speaker 1 (22:16):
Yes, it's bollocks, and you think you should do as
you try. Yes, if it's uncomfortable, say, it's not my
first thought. It makes me super uncomfortable. I feel awkward
when I try to do it, but like I'm gonna
make an effort to do it because there's times when
I recognize I should do it and I don't because
I feel awkward about it. I just decided to say
something flowery and make a joke. He loves to do,
like puns and shit, Like he'll say, looks like we're
(22:39):
heading down the river, but there's fog on the horizon.
He always does.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
That, and I'm like, no, it's true. Like the narrator
on Love Island like, yeah, a little quirky, weird. And
also when they're like at the wrong time because like
he dropped a joke even when they were sitting out
when she said, oh, I'm not wearing the ring and
he's like you're not. She's like no, because I don't
feel engaged, and I think he dropped the joke in there,
and I'm like, read the room, bro, what do you
(23:04):
see her laughing? No, she's about to punch you in
the throat, like please come correct.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
He just and she forgives him, and I'm like, no, Sandra, no,
I know, I know, I know. You want somebody that
doesn't exist, and that's an unfortunate thing. You want someone
who does not exist.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
And maybe it's that I'm a bond.
Speaker 1 (23:23):
For what he wasn't. He wasn't an orphanage winner.
Speaker 2 (23:28):
There's a bond that I can't describe.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
I don't know what it is. So dramatic. He's been
such drama the whole time about her ex and about learning.
He's just been drama the.
Speaker 2 (23:39):
Whole time, Nold, I'm telling you, I would have gone
the x such a long time. I would have been like,
you know what, pack it up? By No, I can't do.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
This anymore exactly.
Speaker 2 (23:47):
Well it's in.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
Is there another couple?
Speaker 2 (23:53):
Yes, there is Zena and Ibrama. Oh god, Zina, this
one was actually entertaining this time around. Yeah. I enjoyed
it for what it gave and what it did I gave. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
Yeah, So we start ed with Xena and she's like, oh,
I'm having a time with my granddaughter. Tilly and I
are looking at at shrubbery. Tilly, if you could be
any plot, what would you be? And Tilly's like, I'd
be a tree because they're last longer. She's like, oh,
I'll be a hydrat judge because they're different colors. Oh,
look at this, this is a succulent. Oh that you
(24:29):
would this? Look at this mint. You never have to
water it and it just keeps on sprouting. That's lovely.
If only somebody would buy me, and it's only a
pound forty nine. Look at that?
Speaker 2 (24:39):
Would you consider that this is a grandmother and granddaughter.
Then the context of the conversation makes sense. Yes, Like
there's been countless times you're talking to my grandmother and
she's talking about something that to me, I'm like, wow,
I love that that's important to you, or like that
that's what you want to discuss right now? Like how
beautiful that that chatting at two o'clock on a Thursday
about plans? Good for you? You know. So once I
(25:03):
took a step back and I realized their relationship to
one another, I was like, yeah, this checks out. This
is a grandmother related like conversation.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
But it's so funny because when I have an aunt
who's like seventy seven, and so when I talk to
her about stuff, it's always about something that she slightly
doesn't know about. And then she I'm like, oh, no, Auntie,
blah blah blah blah, and she's like, oh, so they
just they just don't eat know me, Like so so
like you know, you were vegetarian. She's like, oh, and
(25:32):
so information. Yeah, most of the conversation is me just
explaining things. And then if we talk about like she
somehow follows me on Instagram, so girl, I don't know,
but like like uh, if we talk about like I
don't know, real housewives, then she's like that they got
a lot to say. But otherwise like otherwise, like you know,
(25:52):
it's it's a very interesting conversation because we're just in
two different worlds and right, you know, so so different.
But anyway, so then and she's like, well, fuckthing to
tell you, Dollan, and I have to tell you that
I'm engaged, and till he's like no, no, no, no,
no no no.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Her flabbers have been guessed. She's shocked and appalled. But
I will say this. The ring is really nice. I
didn't really notice that. When Zina put her hand up,
I was like, oh, where did he get that from?
Because it's better than Sarah Sarah and Marcos' was actually
showing somebody that ring. I'm like, girl, please pack it up.
But when when Zina just put her hands up, I
(26:29):
was like, oh, I don't remember that.
Speaker 1 (26:31):
I feel like I feel like she bought it for herself,
Like I don't know once he wasted money.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
On a ring, Let me remove my comment. That's exactly
what happened. That's crazy. I forgot all about that.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
But you're right, he don't got no money. You're not
gonna buy You're gonna buy a Western woman ring. His
sister wife doesn't have a ring.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
I knows. She's like, I'm not a I'm not a
sex tourist. I'm not a Visa vagina. I'm like, girl,
you made that up because don't you know that?
Speaker 1 (27:01):
No, there, she is a sex tourist.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
I mean, yes, that I believe. But I'm saying for
her to say, like, oh, people are calling me, who
are who is the people? It's like DJ Khalen, it's them?
Who is they?
Speaker 1 (27:12):
But she is so funny because she's like, I'm not,
and I'm like, you are. You absolutely are. You went
to the Gambia and you have fucked more than one
man in the Gambia.
Speaker 2 (27:20):
You are.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
You were a person who is going to other countries
to have sex with the locals. And she's like, you know,
when I'm at the Gambia, I feel like, you know,
it's hot, and I have my ba and I feel sexual.
It's like it's like she becomes a different person when
she's in the sun. So, like, you know, because there's
plenty of men her age in yes, yeah, so yes,
(27:44):
when these people who go to these poorer countries and
then have sex with the locals, they are sex tourists.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
Right. No, you're absolutely right. You're absolutely right. You're absolutely right.
I think for me it was more like show me
who called you that to your face? Or you know,
because I'm.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
All her online friends. No, it's all her. She's on
Facebook's on Facebook.
Speaker 2 (28:05):
Yeah. And so the way the granddaughter's like, join a charity,
why do you have to marry him? And I was like,
she's not wrong.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
Charity will keep you busy. Yeah, everyone, I am charity.
I'm not giving it my attention to someone else. But anyway, so, uh,
her granddaughter's like, you need to really think about this,
like you need She's like, I'll think about it. And
then the next scene is her with like a fucking
Heineken or like what is that? I don't know what,
but what alcohol that is? Yeah, I was gonna say that.
(28:35):
She's like, uh, Abraham, I'm calling to tell you that.
Speaker 2 (28:41):
It was so funny. It was like a casual, a
casual like like when I face time somebody else I'm cooking,
like I'm here but I'm not.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, babe that No, we're not going
to get married. I just feel like it's not going
to work. I can't live in the Gambia and like, yeah,
you're not going to ever come to the UK, so
don't worry. Yes, find someone in your own age. And
I don't like this man, babe, I don't like this man.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
Yeah. No. And I will say I was surprised because
even as a conversation with her granddaughter was evolving, you
could tell that she was being more honest about how
doubtful she was is she actually was going to marry
this man. But at the same time, I felt like
I was taken aback because I didn't hear her be
so convicted in previous episodes, Like this was the first
(29:29):
one where I felt that she was like way more
leaning towards not going through with it. The whole time
I'm thinking that, like she's one of those cliffhanger women,
which is like, oh, I don't know, but then does
it anyway? Oh, I don't know, and then does it anyway?
Because I feel like that's been her pattern throughout, But this,
when she was talking to her granddaughter, she was very
much like, yeah, you're right, I don't know. When she
kept saying she felt bad for him, and that's when
(29:50):
the granddaughter was like, I don't think you should marry
him because you feel bad. That's not a reason. And
she's like, no, I know, I mean he loves me too,
and she's like, yeah, we don't know that though, Like
you don't know, you don't know anything really when it
comes to this man, Grandma, you don't know anything.
Speaker 1 (30:07):
Yeah, you know nothing. And yeah, so she's like she's like, oh, abrama,
don't she first of all, you never said this name
is man. This man's name right now, one time.
Speaker 2 (30:17):
Not every day. Carry him.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
She's like Ibraham, don't be don't be mad, babes, You're
gonna find someone. I mean, we love each other, but
it's not gonna work. And like she's like, I think
Ibraham wanted something squat serious, anything serious.
Speaker 2 (30:36):
Shit maybe I don't know, yeah, but even nothing. When
she was like, I'm gonna let you go because I
don't want to get upset, and I'm like, you're rushing
this man off the focal, he's.
Speaker 1 (30:44):
Like, man makes me sad man and then he's like, oh, Ibrama,
don't cry and he comes up with not a tear.
Speaker 2 (30:49):
In his eye, dry eye. I didn't. I wrote that down.
I was like, no one is crying.
Speaker 1 (30:58):
She's looking at him through her vocals.
Speaker 2 (31:00):
He's like right right, A bit of a bitch, yeah,
And I was like, girl, go.
Speaker 1 (31:09):
Go take a nap.
Speaker 2 (31:12):
And of course, but you know, can't stop, won't stop
because she's like, well, let's see what the APPS is
hitting for. She was like, what about what she said? Latvia?
I was like, if you don't stay in London and
get your raggedy ass off them asps, you wasn't even Latvia.
It was like Lava Monte or something where those people alone,
(31:33):
leave those people alone. I think she made it up.
It's a real place. I'm so sorry out there for
you people who live there. I'm sure it's a real place,
and I believe you what I'm saying. I don't think
she knows it's a real place, and I think she
made it up.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Yeah, she's trying to go there and see what them
boys are like.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
So light, Yes, walk around the corner and find a man.
If you don't, your hot ass down somewhere, Yeah, what
the hell like somebody's grandma.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
Yeah, if she had had that energy throughout the whole season,
it would have been so much better. But yeah, yeah,
like if she was like, well, I don't know, but
the whole time she was trying to be like I
feel like he's he looked at this fluozy he's got
on Facebook. Like she's just going back and forth with
like such weird things that we're just like, what do
(32:19):
you really like this person? But I think she just
likes the attention, and so she has a little money
to spend on the attention. She's just going to spend
that little money on the attention.
Speaker 2 (32:27):
She should get a dog, a pet. She should get
a pet.
Speaker 1 (32:31):
She should she should uh, well, next episode. We've got
to tell all, and I wonder if it's gonna be
two episodes because I thought this was a fourteen episode show.
And if so, then we have two weeks of tell all.
But we don't need two weeks of tell Allso if.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
Tell all similar to a reunion mm hmm okay, okay, yeah,
I mean I'm excited we get some of the original
couples who we stopped seeing yeah for a while too,
and it's like a where are they now? Like what's
the what's their situation? Out? For me?
Speaker 1 (32:58):
Yeah, it's not current because it's not going to be
something that they've done. Like usually the tell aff is
filmed like six weeks before the like in the in
the middle of the season, so the tell all is
usually so when the cast come to the tell All,
they've seen at least half of the season on TV.
Okay a tell all, and then I think maybe they
(33:20):
do send them the rest of the season for them
to like well binge watch or whatever. Yeah, but yeah,
so yeah, it's it's always very interesting.
Speaker 2 (33:28):
It's gonna be juicy. And I hope Finn can speak
Portuguese because if not, I'm coming for that. Ask.
Speaker 1 (33:31):
Yeah, I hope so too. All right, you guys, thank
you so much for joining us. If you are interested
in following me on my socials, you can follow me
on just call me Wah, on Instagram, on YouTube, on Facebook,
on TikTok, all the places you can find me, just
call me Wah. Otherwise, Shay, where can they find you?
Speaker 2 (33:51):
You can find me on TikTok, Shalane says, and you
can find me on Instagram at sugar Shehet.
Speaker 1 (33:56):
All right, you guys, thank you so much for joining us,
and we'll talk to you later.
Speaker 2 (34:00):
Bye. By
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