August 13, 2025 • 15 mins
One of the oldest yet most difficult questions to answer is, can you make a long distance relationship work out? We had a listener who is going back and forth on if they want to make the move to get closer to a new BF. D&M both have experience and advice to share on this push button topic. Wanna stay connected to the show and follow along with all our stories? Follow us at the Dom with Melissa Facebook page here: Dom With Melissa Facebook Page
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Tom in the Morning with Melissa Moore, the podcast on
Cool one oh five. I looked it up. The town
where I was born the year I was born had
a population of seven thousand, seven hundred and twenty five.
I think that counts as a small.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Town under ten thousand. Sure does.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
What town were you born in?
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Munsey, Indiana, home of the Ball State Cardinals.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
What's I didn't know you were born there? What? What's
the population of.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Mounsieh with the college eighty thousand without the college around
sixty although I've heard those numbers have been declining.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Oh, you're moving out of Munsie once you left there, Like,
what's the reason.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
To stay exactly? They were like, you know, this is gone.
It's a I mean, it's a great I wouldn't say
it's I mean it is a little city, but it's
not like the one traffic or one stop light city
I know. Producer Dixon's town is Are you in the
thousands or hundreds? Dixon?
Speaker 1 (00:53):
We're in the thousands, but barely Okay, that's fair.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
I thought barely in the thousands.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
This is an interesting note. She says, no name please,
Oh we're going to call her Kylie. A note of
that so I don't forget it. We'll call her Kylie.
Here's what she wrote to us. In your experience, do
long distance romances work? She says, I've met a guy
who lives in Tampa, Florida. We hit it off really
well in three days we had together. Since then, we've
(01:22):
talked every day, done zoom calls once a week, and
flown out to see each other. He's come to Denver twice.
I've been to Florida once. That's a good ratio too.
I would say, Kylie, make him come to Denver more
than you go to Florida. That's a good call. He
asked about one of us moving to be near the other,
who she says, but I'm not sure that's a good idea.
(01:45):
When I told him I'd rather keep doing it this way,
he said, all long distance relationships blow up after a while,
and we might be missing a good chance to explore
more of this. I love her next line, we have
the greatest listeners on the planet, she says, so naturally,
I'm asking my favorite radio people. He goes, I love
(02:08):
your relationship segments and wondered if this is something you
could cover. Thank you, I love your show. We'll call
her Kylie. Yes, we can abolutely cover it. We're going
to cover it right now. To your options, Melissa, long
distance relationship huh or one of them moving be with
the other ready?
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Go don't move, girl, don't move, don't sell your stuff,
don't quit your job, don't move. I say this from
so much experience. I did it because I think the
thing is with a long distance relationship, in all honesty,
it's always exciting. It's always exciting. So it's not the
day to day things. It's not running to Costco together,
(02:48):
it's not just sitting on the couch watching TV. It's
like little mini burst of vacation romance every time you
see each other. So you think that that is sustainable.
But if change just when you move to the same city,
so just so you know, you could move and then
have it just go like, well, it's just kind of normal.
(03:09):
It's not really that exciting anymore. And then you've left
your house and your job and all of that. Hence,
don't move. Love a very long time.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
I think what you're saying is.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
What am I saying.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
I don't know. I'm just laughing at the whole thing
is like you don't want to get sick and tired
of the other person. Is that basically what you're saying.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
I'm saying that you have a lot to give up
if you're going to move, and to make that so.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Bored with the moving part either. Yeah, there's too many
stories of people who have moved cross country and the
relationship was over within a month and they're like, well,
now what. Although although I have also talked to people
who are so happily married, found the love of their
life and it was because moved for someone else, right,
(04:02):
And when that didn't work out, then they met somebody
and they're like, oh, I never would have met them
if I hadn't made this move for this you know loser, right.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
And you meet people all the time. I looking at cars.
I met a car salesman. I was like, how'd you
get out here? She's like, I move for a guy,
but that didn't work out. I'm like, oh, okay, So,
I mean you hear those stories all the time. My
point would be, if you're gonna move, it needs to
be long into the future, long long, long, I don't
know how long, but it needs to be a lot,
(04:32):
and you need to travel together. You need to do
more than long weekends, you can't because right now you're
on the new love and then the like vacation love high.
So everything's exciting.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Well, it is exciting because like you described, I mean
if they're getting together where she said he there been
times right twice, she's been out once, and then they
spent when they first met, they had three days together
eight and so yeah, it is like little mini vacations.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
And great those are, and.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
In a way, because I always think people should travel
together as soon as possible in a relationship, I think
I wouldn't put that off, Like if you're in new love,
travel together pretty quickly so you can find out if
you're compatible that way. But excuse me, they're all my
Dixon asked me this morning if I've ever coughed on
the air, and I think I just did.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
How funny just getting choked up about this whole thing.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
There, I really am because I want this to work
out for cod. I want these crazy kids to work out.
In a way, if you think about it, what they're doing,
they kind of are traveling together. Because what happens when
you travel together, you go you know, you know, you
know you're in a new place and you're staying together
when one of them comes out, it's like a little
mini vacation that they are staying together to see what
(05:50):
that's like. Well, unless he comes out and gets a
hotel room by himself.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
He does, but then even that would still be exciting.
Now you've got hotel. Hey, hey, you know which is
also more exciting. Okay, right, I mean we all know that.
That's why people know. Yeah, I mean, come on now,
I'm not saying anything we don't know. I'm just saying
that you don't even talk about moving yet. Just keep eating.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Agree with you on.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Keep having fun, because if all of a sudden you're
focused on somebody's got to move for this to work,
then you miss the whole relationship because you're focused on
the end. But like b present, focus on the day,
see where it goes. I mean, everybody is great and
short burst. Nobody gets on each other's nerves in three
days or in tiny little.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Bits hashtag truth.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
That's my two cents.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
I think that's wonderful. You know, we want to know
what you think. Three oh three oh one o five
that's five four one oh five. Send us a note.
I will say that I have tried one time a
long distance relationship and it was somebody on the East
Coast while I lived in dun Her and it lasted, hell,
(07:06):
three weeks, three weeks maybe three weeks. I mean we
had been together and then she moved to the East Coast. Okay, oh,
well we're going to keep this going and we'll come
out to see each other. And I took one trip
there and that's when it it was like, now, I just.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
You know what between the time difference in the long flight,
I just can't do this girl.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Yeah. So it lasted. It lasted three weeks, and we
had every intention like, well, we're going to keep this going,
and it just we didn't.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
It's tough. Long distance is really tough, and it's just
not a slice of real life either. And then the
person doesn't know your friends, they don't know your routine.
I mean I did it. I moved, I sold all
my stuff, I married the person, and it was really
really difficult because then you feel like you need to
stay with the person because you made the move.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
We're talking about this note from Kylie about a long
distance romance. She met a guy who lives in Tampa
floor Florida. She goes, they've hit it off really well,
now they're doing that long distance thing where she's been
to Florida once, he's been to Denver twice. He brought
up the idea about one of them moving to be
near the other. Hmm. And I think a lot of
people are automatically assuming that she would move there. But
(08:17):
he's saying one way or the other, so he could
move to Denver. Neither Melissa nor I think that's a
good idea. This early, No.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Three three get together, so four counting the first time
they met. Too soon, too soon, and Mina. I love
this for Mina, she goes, I feel if you're questioning
it that much, maybe don't do it. My niece made
that choice. She moved to Alaska for a guy, lasted
six months, and now they broke up. And that happens
a lot. She moved where Alaska people, Oh.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
I'm certainly not moving to Alaska for somebody from Colorado.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
Is it really that much further than Florida? Probably not.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Well, it's just a whole different life. I lived in
Alaska for a while. That's that's that's like moving out
of the country. I know.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Oh, but at least in America. The women to men
ratio in Alaska's a lot.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
That's right, that's crazy.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
I think she could just walk outside and be like
free open you know who.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Wants I'll tell you what. Declan is listening on the
East Coast and he brings up a really good point.
This is a really good point, he says, the trouble
and he's talking about long distance relationships. Here he goes,
the trouble is that couples can sweep problems under the rug,
not wanting to spoil the limited time.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
They have together, exactly right.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
But when they're together permanently, there's nowhere to hide. Right,
that's a great point. I mean, you do put on
a face, right, It's like everyone's face that they put
on for the first date, maybe sometimes the second and
even the third. Oh yeah, But when you're together full time,
He's right, there's nowhere to hide. They're going to see
warts and all.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Man. Well, and that's what I was talking about about
the mundane. There is something I think really beautiful about
being able to enjoy the small things, the running to
the grocery store together, the just sitting on the couch
and watching a show or reading a book or doing
something that you don't get when you're in that vacation,
long distance short spurts together. You don't you don't get
(10:14):
that you're always on that high.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Yeah, that's a great point too. And I also agree
with what Julie is saying because I'm the person that
always says, you know how rare it is to find love, right,
That's been like my running theme. And she says, Julie,
it's hard to find love. So I feel they should
move to an entirely different stag oh gee, and start
fresh and discover it together. That way they have neutral ground.
(10:40):
But now you're what a funny idea though? It is?
Speaker 2 (10:42):
It is, and but once again, I think you'd have
to be so much further down the road. Karen's cracking
me up though. She said a long distance relationship sounds amazing.
I love my dude, but if I could just see
him every other weekend, that would be ideal.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
Oh my god, somebody wrote in about that this morning.
Hold on, let me back this bus us up and
try to find it. It's a guy who says that
his wife is out in Palm Springs and it's been
there for like a month. Remember that you saw that, Yeah,
And he says it's been like the best month they've
had together ever, because they're sending flirty text to each
(11:18):
other and having long phone calls at night. It's like
you've gone back to dating.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
Right, Well, you're taking a break. I mean, in all honesty,
it's the Ross and Rachel. We're run a break, that's
what you're doing. I mean, I yeah, if my husband
took off for a month, I would be Yeah, I'd
be lonely. I'd be kind of heartbroken. But if I
was tired of him or vice versa, and he sent
me away, then I could see where It's like, Hey,
I was really tired of her, and now now I
(11:45):
miss her.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
Oh my god, get ready for a ding for Cecilia
from Inglewood. She heard his talking about moving to Alaska, right,
she said. I heard a saying about the guy availability
in Alaska. The odds are good, but those goods are
very odd.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
I've heard that too, very true. Oh right.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
One of the greatest listeners ever, Mike says that he's
been in a long distance relationship for about a year
and a half. He goes a lot of ups and downs. Yeah,
you know, that makes sense. It'd be like any relationship.
It's just that a long distance relationship has kind of
unique issues that you have to deal with. So all
(12:32):
relationships have, you know, ups and downs, but there's just
different ones when somebody is fifteen hundred miles away.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
Yeah, Kim just wrote in. She said, hey guys, I'm
a therapist and I do a lot of couples therapy
and individual therapy. She goes, here is what I would
tell your listener. Don't listen to other people's advice. Listen
to your got to your feelings. Either have a sense
of adventure and go for what you want in life,
or if you're second guessing, just keep doing what you
(13:00):
doing and enjoy what's happening right now. By worrying about
things so far out, you're taking away the fun of
right now. Things have a way of working themselves out.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Well, there's a lot of truth to that too. I
think that's wise, although I don't know that it's I
don't feel like Kylie is like saying, whatever you guys
talk about on the radio is what I'm going to do.
I think she's just kind of, you know, she's like
storyboarding it here, right, She just kind of workshopping it.
She's throwing it out there and just listening for different
(13:30):
opinions from people. But I think when I'm sure, she'll
make up her own mind. Right.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
But I think what Kim is saying is sometimes we
look for validation from other people. We look for other
people to tell us what we already know in our gut,
Like if in her gut, she's saying, Gosh, I don't
feel like this is the you know, I don't think
we should be talking about moving. I think this is
moving too fast. I think all of that, and she
feels like that, but she just wants somebody else to say,
(13:55):
you know, what you're right, what you're feeling is right.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
And I think there can sense says from for both
of us and most of our listeners. Is way too
soon to be packing up.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
And moving, right, don't even bring it up.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
And I would agree with Kim the fact that right now,
just enjoy the adventure of it, you.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
Know, take it a day at a time, have fun
with it, and then wait and see what happens.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
Yeah, and Kylie, don't even worry or think about him
sleeping with every woman he can find. It's not happening.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Maybe she doesn't care, She's like whatever.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Whatever, Then I don't have to do it. Wow, I'm
so ron just having a little fun kylie. Here's what
I'm going to make a note. We need follow up
on this one. What do you think should I reach
out to her? Maybe in about two months.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
Yeah, put that on the stack of the ones we
haven't heard back. We need to reach out tickler folder
and it just keeps getting big. I know it's on
the corner of Dom's desk.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
He's like, yeah, we rely on people to reach back
out to us, but then you have people of live.
So I made a note that we need to follow
up on this in October.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
We need to have like a yearly catch up, Like
one week during the year, right before the holidays, we
go through that folder and pull out everybody's email, everybody's text,
get in touch with them and fight. It's like the
Home improvement shows where they go back and they show, hey,
here's how they're doing now a year later. That's what
we need.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
I like that I met that week John in the
Morning with Melissa Moore the podcast on Cool one oh five.
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Tom in the Morning with Melissa Moore, the podcast on
Cool one oh five. I looked it up. The town
where I was born the year I was born had
a population of seven thousand, seven hundred and twenty five.
I think that counts as a small.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Town under ten thousand. Sure does.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
What town were you born in?
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Munsey, Indiana, home of the Ball State Cardinals.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
What's I didn't know you were born there? What? What's
the population of.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Mounsieh with the college eighty thousand without the college around
sixty although I've heard those numbers have been declining.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Oh, you're moving out of Munsie once you left there, Like,
what's the reason.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
To stay exactly? They were like, you know, this is gone.
It's a I mean, it's a great I wouldn't say
it's I mean it is a little city, but it's
not like the one traffic or one stop light city
I know. Producer Dixon's town is Are you in the
thousands or hundreds? Dixon?
Speaker 1 (00:53):
We're in the thousands, but barely Okay, that's fair.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
I thought barely in the thousands.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
This is an interesting note. She says, no name please,
Oh we're going to call her Kylie. A note of
that so I don't forget it. We'll call her Kylie.
Here's what she wrote to us. In your experience, do
long distance romances work? She says, I've met a guy
who lives in Tampa, Florida. We hit it off really
well in three days we had together. Since then, we've
(01:22):
talked every day, done zoom calls once a week, and
flown out to see each other. He's come to Denver twice.
I've been to Florida once. That's a good ratio too.
I would say, Kylie, make him come to Denver more
than you go to Florida. That's a good call. He
asked about one of us moving to be near the other,
who she says, but I'm not sure that's a good idea.
(01:45):
When I told him I'd rather keep doing it this way,
he said, all long distance relationships blow up after a while,
and we might be missing a good chance to explore
more of this. I love her next line, we have
the greatest listeners on the planet, she says, so naturally,
I'm asking my favorite radio people. He goes, I love
(02:08):
your relationship segments and wondered if this is something you
could cover. Thank you, I love your show. We'll call
her Kylie. Yes, we can abolutely cover it. We're going
to cover it right now. To your options, Melissa, long
distance relationship huh or one of them moving be with
the other ready?
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Go don't move, girl, don't move, don't sell your stuff,
don't quit your job, don't move. I say this from
so much experience. I did it because I think the
thing is with a long distance relationship, in all honesty,
it's always exciting. It's always exciting. So it's not the
day to day things. It's not running to Costco together,
(02:48):
it's not just sitting on the couch watching TV. It's
like little mini burst of vacation romance every time you
see each other. So you think that that is sustainable.
But if change just when you move to the same city,
so just so you know, you could move and then
have it just go like, well, it's just kind of normal.
(03:09):
It's not really that exciting anymore. And then you've left
your house and your job and all of that. Hence,
don't move. Love a very long time.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
I think what you're saying is.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
What am I saying.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
I don't know. I'm just laughing at the whole thing
is like you don't want to get sick and tired
of the other person. Is that basically what you're saying.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
I'm saying that you have a lot to give up
if you're going to move, and to make that so.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Bored with the moving part either. Yeah, there's too many
stories of people who have moved cross country and the
relationship was over within a month and they're like, well,
now what. Although although I have also talked to people
who are so happily married, found the love of their
life and it was because moved for someone else, right,
(04:02):
And when that didn't work out, then they met somebody
and they're like, oh, I never would have met them
if I hadn't made this move for this you know loser, right.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
And you meet people all the time. I looking at cars.
I met a car salesman. I was like, how'd you
get out here? She's like, I move for a guy,
but that didn't work out. I'm like, oh, okay, So,
I mean you hear those stories all the time. My
point would be, if you're gonna move, it needs to
be long into the future, long long, long, I don't
know how long, but it needs to be a lot,
(04:32):
and you need to travel together. You need to do
more than long weekends, you can't because right now you're
on the new love and then the like vacation love high.
So everything's exciting.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Well, it is exciting because like you described, I mean
if they're getting together where she said he there been
times right twice, she's been out once, and then they
spent when they first met, they had three days together
eight and so yeah, it is like little mini vacations.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
And great those are, and.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
In a way, because I always think people should travel
together as soon as possible in a relationship, I think
I wouldn't put that off, Like if you're in new love,
travel together pretty quickly so you can find out if
you're compatible that way. But excuse me, they're all my
Dixon asked me this morning if I've ever coughed on
the air, and I think I just did.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
How funny just getting choked up about this whole thing.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
There, I really am because I want this to work
out for cod. I want these crazy kids to work out.
In a way, if you think about it, what they're doing,
they kind of are traveling together. Because what happens when
you travel together, you go you know, you know, you
know you're in a new place and you're staying together
when one of them comes out, it's like a little
mini vacation that they are staying together to see what
(05:50):
that's like. Well, unless he comes out and gets a
hotel room by himself.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
He does, but then even that would still be exciting.
Now you've got hotel. Hey, hey, you know which is
also more exciting. Okay, right, I mean we all know that.
That's why people know. Yeah, I mean, come on now,
I'm not saying anything we don't know. I'm just saying
that you don't even talk about moving yet. Just keep eating.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Agree with you on.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Keep having fun, because if all of a sudden you're
focused on somebody's got to move for this to work,
then you miss the whole relationship because you're focused on
the end. But like b present, focus on the day,
see where it goes. I mean, everybody is great and
short burst. Nobody gets on each other's nerves in three
days or in tiny little.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Bits hashtag truth.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
That's my two cents.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
I think that's wonderful. You know, we want to know
what you think. Three oh three oh one o five
that's five four one oh five. Send us a note.
I will say that I have tried one time a
long distance relationship and it was somebody on the East
Coast while I lived in dun Her and it lasted, hell,
(07:06):
three weeks, three weeks maybe three weeks. I mean we
had been together and then she moved to the East Coast. Okay, oh,
well we're going to keep this going and we'll come
out to see each other. And I took one trip
there and that's when it it was like, now, I just.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
You know what between the time difference in the long flight,
I just can't do this girl.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Yeah. So it lasted. It lasted three weeks, and we
had every intention like, well, we're going to keep this going,
and it just we didn't.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
It's tough. Long distance is really tough, and it's just
not a slice of real life either. And then the
person doesn't know your friends, they don't know your routine.
I mean I did it. I moved, I sold all
my stuff, I married the person, and it was really
really difficult because then you feel like you need to
stay with the person because you made the move.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
We're talking about this note from Kylie about a long
distance romance. She met a guy who lives in Tampa
floor Florida. She goes, they've hit it off really well,
now they're doing that long distance thing where she's been
to Florida once, he's been to Denver twice. He brought
up the idea about one of them moving to be
near the other. Hmm. And I think a lot of
people are automatically assuming that she would move there. But
(08:17):
he's saying one way or the other, so he could
move to Denver. Neither Melissa nor I think that's a
good idea. This early, No.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Three three get together, so four counting the first time
they met. Too soon, too soon, and Mina. I love
this for Mina, she goes, I feel if you're questioning
it that much, maybe don't do it. My niece made
that choice. She moved to Alaska for a guy, lasted
six months, and now they broke up. And that happens
a lot. She moved where Alaska people, Oh.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
I'm certainly not moving to Alaska for somebody from Colorado.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
Is it really that much further than Florida? Probably not.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Well, it's just a whole different life. I lived in
Alaska for a while. That's that's that's like moving out
of the country. I know.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Oh, but at least in America. The women to men
ratio in Alaska's a lot.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
That's right, that's crazy.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
I think she could just walk outside and be like
free open you know who.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Wants I'll tell you what. Declan is listening on the
East Coast and he brings up a really good point.
This is a really good point, he says, the trouble
and he's talking about long distance relationships. Here he goes,
the trouble is that couples can sweep problems under the rug,
not wanting to spoil the limited time.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
They have together, exactly right.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
But when they're together permanently, there's nowhere to hide. Right,
that's a great point. I mean, you do put on
a face, right, It's like everyone's face that they put
on for the first date, maybe sometimes the second and
even the third. Oh yeah, But when you're together full time,
He's right, there's nowhere to hide. They're going to see
warts and all.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Man. Well, and that's what I was talking about about
the mundane. There is something I think really beautiful about
being able to enjoy the small things, the running to
the grocery store together, the just sitting on the couch
and watching a show or reading a book or doing
something that you don't get when you're in that vacation,
long distance short spurts together. You don't you don't get
(10:14):
that you're always on that high.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Yeah, that's a great point too. And I also agree
with what Julie is saying because I'm the person that
always says, you know how rare it is to find love, right,
That's been like my running theme. And she says, Julie,
it's hard to find love. So I feel they should
move to an entirely different stag oh gee, and start
fresh and discover it together. That way they have neutral ground.
(10:40):
But now you're what a funny idea though? It is?
Speaker 2 (10:42):
It is, and but once again, I think you'd have
to be so much further down the road. Karen's cracking
me up though. She said a long distance relationship sounds amazing.
I love my dude, but if I could just see
him every other weekend, that would be ideal.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
Oh my god, somebody wrote in about that this morning.
Hold on, let me back this bus us up and
try to find it. It's a guy who says that
his wife is out in Palm Springs and it's been
there for like a month. Remember that you saw that, Yeah,
And he says it's been like the best month they've
had together ever, because they're sending flirty text to each
(11:18):
other and having long phone calls at night. It's like
you've gone back to dating.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
Right, Well, you're taking a break. I mean, in all honesty,
it's the Ross and Rachel. We're run a break, that's
what you're doing. I mean, I yeah, if my husband
took off for a month, I would be Yeah, I'd
be lonely. I'd be kind of heartbroken. But if I
was tired of him or vice versa, and he sent
me away, then I could see where It's like, Hey,
I was really tired of her, and now now I
(11:45):
miss her.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
Oh my god, get ready for a ding for Cecilia
from Inglewood. She heard his talking about moving to Alaska, right,
she said. I heard a saying about the guy availability
in Alaska. The odds are good, but those goods are
very odd.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
I've heard that too, very true. Oh right.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
One of the greatest listeners ever, Mike says that he's
been in a long distance relationship for about a year
and a half. He goes a lot of ups and downs. Yeah,
you know, that makes sense. It'd be like any relationship.
It's just that a long distance relationship has kind of
unique issues that you have to deal with. So all
(12:32):
relationships have, you know, ups and downs, but there's just
different ones when somebody is fifteen hundred miles away.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
Yeah, Kim just wrote in. She said, hey guys, I'm
a therapist and I do a lot of couples therapy
and individual therapy. She goes, here is what I would
tell your listener. Don't listen to other people's advice. Listen
to your got to your feelings. Either have a sense
of adventure and go for what you want in life,
or if you're second guessing, just keep doing what you
(13:00):
doing and enjoy what's happening right now. By worrying about
things so far out, you're taking away the fun of
right now. Things have a way of working themselves out.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Well, there's a lot of truth to that too. I
think that's wise, although I don't know that it's I
don't feel like Kylie is like saying, whatever you guys
talk about on the radio is what I'm going to do.
I think she's just kind of, you know, she's like
storyboarding it here, right, She just kind of workshopping it.
She's throwing it out there and just listening for different
(13:30):
opinions from people. But I think when I'm sure, she'll
make up her own mind. Right.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
But I think what Kim is saying is sometimes we
look for validation from other people. We look for other
people to tell us what we already know in our gut,
Like if in her gut, she's saying, Gosh, I don't
feel like this is the you know, I don't think
we should be talking about moving. I think this is
moving too fast. I think all of that, and she
feels like that, but she just wants somebody else to say,
(13:55):
you know, what you're right, what you're feeling is right.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
And I think there can sense says from for both
of us and most of our listeners. Is way too
soon to be packing up.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
And moving, right, don't even bring it up.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
And I would agree with Kim the fact that right now,
just enjoy the adventure of it, you.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
Know, take it a day at a time, have fun
with it, and then wait and see what happens.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
Yeah, and Kylie, don't even worry or think about him
sleeping with every woman he can find. It's not happening.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Maybe she doesn't care, She's like whatever.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Whatever, Then I don't have to do it. Wow, I'm
so ron just having a little fun kylie. Here's what
I'm going to make a note. We need follow up
on this one. What do you think should I reach
out to her? Maybe in about two months.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
Yeah, put that on the stack of the ones we
haven't heard back. We need to reach out tickler folder
and it just keeps getting big. I know it's on
the corner of Dom's desk.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
He's like, yeah, we rely on people to reach back
out to us, but then you have people of live.
So I made a note that we need to follow
up on this in October.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
We need to have like a yearly catch up, Like
one week during the year, right before the holidays, we
go through that folder and pull out everybody's email, everybody's text,
get in touch with them and fight. It's like the
Home improvement shows where they go back and they show, hey,
here's how they're doing now a year later. That's what
we need.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
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