Do You Believe? July 13, 2024

In this episode, Dr. Velma talks about our walk as believers and how it does not work without faith. But she questions why many believe God can do anything in our lives, except help us discover our mate. Discover the importance of keeping God at the center of everything about your journey to a godly marriage. Dr. Velma shares three things to help you.  

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Episode Transcript

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Welcome everyone to Doctor Velma talks dating, relationships and marriage. It's a conversation
with me as a best selling Christianauthor, certified dating and relationship coach,
a woman married fifty blessed years,a speaker, and now a podcast host.
So let's talk. So I wantto talk to you about today a

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little something that I call we mustbelieve nothing about what we do as believers
are in our walk? Can wedo without first believing that it can happen,
believing that it will happen. Soit requires faith. But what is
it about our faith that it's necessaryto believe that God can do anything and

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everything we ask him based on hisword? How about we can believe God
for everything except asking for a mate. Many times, we can believe God
in achieving our goals. We canbelieve that He will help us do that.
We believe that He will help usgain that career we want it.

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But for some reason we struggle withthe belief that God can also bless you
with your mate. The excuses Ihear sometimes some say they don't want to
look for anybody. Well, that'snot our job. As women. We
don't look for anyone. Our jobis allow him to find us. The
word of God says, a manfindeth a wife, let him discover,

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let him meet you. And ifa man is saying that he's not looking
to get married at this time,that just means he hasn't met the one
yet, because the moment he does, she's going to get his attention.
But my response to you is thatwhen did God? When did God ask
us or ask you to dictate hisplan for you? Have you asked him

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what he wants for you? Becausewe say, well, we don't want,
but we have asked God what didhe want? In terms of our
mates, we talk about what we'renot ready for, but forgive me,
that's my precious Gracie on the side. Then we have to recognize that we
have to invite God in My favoritescripture is Proverbs three and sex, which

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says, in all thy ways,acknowledge him, and he will direct thy
path. That's my guiding principle andmy writing God, what do I write
next? What should I say?Excuse me? When should I say it?
When should I release it? It'smy guiding principle because that word acknowledge
really means in the original Hebrew languageinvite in So if I invite God in.

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He will direct my path. Soleaving God out of the equation when
it comes to discovering your mate isa big mistake. God is always at
the center of it. All youhave to do is go back to Genesis
and see that God over two thousandyears ago created the marriage that we all
as believers should pursue. I'm nottalking about the definition of marriage for anyone
else, only what God has talkedabout, and so therefore we should invite

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a man. He should be apart of the process. He should be
a part of the whole journey becausehe's with you in this process, and
he's with you even after marriage.So let's not think about these excuses.
But let me bring this conversation bringsthree things to mind. I mentioned Properts

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three and six. It's important thatwe invite God in. God is a
gentleman. He will not force himselfinto any part of your life. You
must invite a man. So ifhe's not invited, he's not gonna He's
not gonna barge into your life uninvited. That's the bottom line. He's a
gentleman. So invite God in tothis process. Hebrews eleven and six are

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also says without faith or in believing, it's impossible to please God. They
that come to God must believe,and so therefore it's a waste of time,
and you're wasting God's time too whenyou just don't believe. You don't
think he can do it, youdon't think it's possible for you. So
I'm saying this because it's important forme to reset the room of doctor Velma

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talks. If we're going to havethis conversation, let's really have a conversation.
We must start with first believing thatthis is possible. If you don't
believe that, then you might wantto tune into another channel. Because those
that are coming to follow me youmust believe. And that's what I'm encouraging
you to do. You must believe. It's not about what it looks like,

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but you must believe. And soI'm a believer and I hope you
are too, given what we havelearned, that God requires us to believe
that he can do what he sayshe can do. So I want to
introduce to you this It's a littletrain, so I'm gonna pull it out
in just a moment. I'm gonnashare my screen, so be patient with

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me, newbie in training, possibly, so let me share my screen.
Okay, this is where I'm gettinginto trouble. Now there we go.

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Now if I can find my screen, m there we are. I got
it. Okay, let's look atthe train. I mean to make sure

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you can see what I'm seeing.Great. Okay, Now here's our train,
and I want you to pay closeattention to it if you can see
it clearly, our train and whatpulls us along our lives requires that we
do certain things. I talked aboutthe importance of believing that God will not

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insert himself. If you don't believethat he can do what you are expecting
him to do, you must believethat he can that nothing is impossible for
him. But this is the trainof our lives. And it doesn't matter
if this train represents your career,you're building, your brand, your business,
are just your decisions. This trainapplies to all of them. So

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let's look at it. The firstcar has what's called the fat, and
it makes me think about that statement. Just the facts, ma'am. Well,
the fact are the reality. Thetruth is found in the word of
God. So right here, wewant to make sure that we understand,
the very first car in every trainof your walk in your life is the

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Word of God. That is thepower, that's the source of power.
That very first car carries a sourceof power. The Word of God is
powerful, whether you believe it ornot, it's still powerful, but it
will only activate and when you applyyour faith. The second car is the
car that's called Your faith is whatyou believe, if you believe God's word,

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if you believe the facts. Thenin that second car is the fuel
that goes into the engine in thefirst car to cause that engine to run.
So your faith fuels God's words,it activates it in your life,
and therefore that begins to pull thetrain and push you towards your goal and

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your destination. Notice that the kaboosdoesn't have any power whatsoever. So we
know the first car is the engine. It is the power that pulls the
whole train. The second car isthe fuel. It is your faith.
It's what you believe that adds thatfuel to the Word of God and causes
to move the It doesn't matter howmany cars are behind that first car or

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behind the second car, those twocars are vital to pull in all the
other cars along The last car isalways called the caboose. And guess what's
in the caboose Your emotions, whatyou think, what you feel, what
you see, And we can addanother one what you fear, because fear

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sometimes can prevent you from believing what'spossible with God. So we want to
stand on what we believe. Wewant to stand on what God's word says.
And you want to fuel that wordactivated in your life by believing in
your dating life. If you don'tbelieve that a mate for you is possible,

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then it ain't possible, because that'swhat you think, as a man
think, If so is he,you must believe that it is possible.
All things are possible with God,nothing impossible with Him. So in that
last car, think about it,those moments when something didn't go the way
you thought it should. It happenedto me the other day. I recorded
four segments and none of it hadrecorded at all, and so I was

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a little perturbed by that. ButI had to sit back and remember that
I have a charge to keep,and therefore I needed to go back to
the table and re record these segments. And that's what I did, And
what I had to believe was whatI recorded wasn't what God wanted from me.
I had to believe that God hadanother outline for me. There were

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subjects I needed to talk about thatwas different from what I thought I had
recorded, So I had to goback and this is what I'm doing.
So in that last car, don'tget into your emotions in any part of
this process or anything that you believein God to do. Stay out of
what you think and what you feelingwhat you see, because think about it.
If the goal is about something that'sgoing to occur in the future,

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you don't see it right now.It hasn't manifested, it hasn't occurred yet.
So if you trust what you seeright now, it will tell you
it's not going to happen, becauseit hasn't. But if you believe the
word of God and the promise thatGod has given you and activated with your
faith, what you see right nowis not what's going to be. It's

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going to be what's you're expecting Godto do in the future that it's going
to happen, even though your eyescannot see it right now, you might
not feel like it's going to happen. So get your feelings out of the
mix, because your feelings will keepyou in the caboos and sitting on it
on the track tracks not moving,So your train is not moving at all.

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It's not about what you think,because what you think also can contradict
what God's words says you must believe. And so I'm saying to you that
based on that train, what youwant to do as we move along in
the podcast is to believe. Youhave to believe. It doesn't matter what
I've written in a book. Itdoesn't matter what I said. I gave

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you examples, I gave you proof, I gave you credible things that you
can hold on to. We talkedabout the Word of God, and even
the Book of Fools tells you thingsyou need to avoid. Doesn't matter what
those things said if you do notbelieve. So I'm just going to end
with that makes you you believe.Now In terms of marriage, couples,

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marriage moments, the same applies foryou. It doesn't matter what you're believe
in God to do what you're prayingfor, what you're praying about, make
sure that you trust what the Wordof God says, and then believe that
it will happen. There were changesin my life and my marriage. I
pray to God to do and ittook some time, but he did it.
And we'll talk about it more.The importance of the weight and what

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does weight mean, because it's anaction word. It's not you sitting sitting
around and twiddling your thumb. Theythat wait upon the Lord shall renew their
strength in Isaiah forty and thirty one. But that word weight is an active
word. It doesn't mean you're waitingtwiddling twiddling your thumbs. You're waiting by
activating, operating in what you knowis coming. And so therefore you put

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in certain actions. When I saythat, I'm asking you to believe that
God hasn't made for you. Youmust believe in the process that I talk
about all the time. You mustbelieve in the process of preparing yourself.
It's not enough that God has saidto you a mate is coming for you
and you do nothing to prepare forhis arrival. That's not a faith.

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That's not faith at all. Soyou must operate and what you know is
coming, so you can be thebest version of what you know is coming.
So believe that. So I'm goingto leave you with that. Married
couples, you have to believe whatyou believe in God, for that same
applies to you. I don't needto talk about a separate marriage moment moment,

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because all of it applies to you. Men, it applies to you.
If you don't believe she's out there, if you don't believe there's something
better than the women I talk aboutin that blue book, then she's not.
But if you believe, then youneed to get busy working on yourself
so that you could be the bestman of God that God has for her.

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She is your crown, she's yourjewel, She's valuable, and she
will be the crown of your life. So make sure you know that before
going so again, I'm wearing oneof dream By Designs pieces by Melissa Banks.
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comment section. I just want tosay thank you all for allowing me to
share with you today. Have youenjoyed this talk. I've enjoyed this talk.
I really did. I enjoy thattrain. You can use that train
in just about any discussion. It'sa great an analogy of what keeps us
from sitting on the tracks, keepsus from moving towards the goal our emotions

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sitting in the caboose, So keepyour emotions in the caboose and allow the
facts. What does God say?I can do all things through Christ,
who strengthens me one of my favoritePhilippians four thirteen and so if God has
given me a charge, I haveto believe I can accomplish it. So
I will move along my tracks basedon what He promises. Thank you for

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today. I hope you enjoyed thisconversation. Please feel free to post your
comments. Post what you found outabout, what we talked about today,
what stood out for you. Anyquestions you want to ask about what I
talked about today, or our questionyou want me to address the next time,
Please feel free to post it inthe comments. I would love to
hear back from you. Remember thisis a conversation. This is doctor Belma

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talks Dating, relationships and marriage.But it's not just me talking. This
is a two way conversation, sofeel free please post your comments and things
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