Shemergence Session 5: The Seat I Didn’t Think I Deserved

The Seat I Didn’t Think I Deserved

In Session 5 of the Shemergence Virtual Conference, Dr. LinJ is joined by Alicia Hurtt, Executive Director of I See My Baby Inc., and Michele Vilseck, celebrity speaker coach and creator of the RAW Method™. Together, they open a deep and transparent conversation about finding the courage to accept love, belonging, and healing when you’ve been convinced it isn’t for you.

Alicia brings her passion for women’s wellness and community empowerment, while Michele shares her bold voice for authenticity and turning stories into movements. This session unpacks the lies that keep us from our seat at the table, the inner shift that opens us to worthiness, and how faith and empowerment work together in healing.

� Content Warning: This session contains sensitive discussion of trauma, healing, and faith. Please listen with care.


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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:46):
Hey everyone, we at back, We at back, and this
is session five. You got that right, Session five? Oh
my god. The turnout is amazing. The replace are amazing.
You guys are great. We are celebrating individuals as they
come on and they share a little bit about themselves

(01:08):
in this journey. What is it that they're sharing moments
where they felt they were undeserving of love, undeserving of affection,
unworthy of healing. Can you believe that a lot of
us go through these moments where we feel like we
don't deserve to have something that is good or you've
been told that you're nothing or you will never be anything.

(01:30):
So today we are here to shut down those lies.
All right. You can be anything with God, all right.
And when people say there's a limit, there is no
limit with God. So when they say it's the sky,
it goes beyond that. So individuals will be coming on
today as they did the past four segments on this
She Mergent's Virtual Conference, celebrating life, enjoying the healing process.

(01:57):
But as they go back to take us into those
times when it seemed difficult, it seems very that they
couldn't expect that this change will come about in their lives.
They didn't think there will be where they are today.
And if you were like me, I never saw myself
getting to a certain age because the way life was going,

(02:18):
I didn't think there was hope that I would be
here or I'll be alive today. So this is what
we come on the She Mergents Virtual Conference about. So
we can talk to you have a space where we
can continue to share and if you are watching and
you're in that place right now, to let you know
that there is hope, there is hope and you can
emerge from it. There is also hope when it comes

(02:39):
to mentorship, all right, so she mergents mentorship, all right.
That is another space to help you heal through your
traumatic past or experience. Whatever we cannot assist you with,
we'll refer you to someone else who is better equipped
and has the expertise to help you get on the

(02:59):
front receipt of your life. And you're healing. So you
know what you need to do right now. You need
to go ahead and subscribe like and share. Go ahead,
I'm waiting, subscribe like and share, and we'll be back
with our guests on today.

Speaker 3 (03:25):
Basically years old. That's that's an age that I do
have understanding of my surroundings. That's when I realized, you
don't know what you don't have to tell.

Speaker 4 (03:47):
You realize what is part and more treated literally like SI,
but I think on more and the journey.

Speaker 5 (03:57):
If you have one, you have one.

Speaker 4 (04:01):
To make sense because it's a no. When it's a sequin,
there will be read there after.

Speaker 3 (04:07):
I was trying to summarise it up but sec but
it didn't make sense to all the ship basically talk
about one.

Speaker 2 (04:15):
I there about what I still went right. It was
not a single rether.

Speaker 5 (04:23):
Story was not a first run story.

Speaker 2 (04:25):
It was a cycle that kept.

Speaker 4 (04:27):
Going and I going up her.

Speaker 2 (04:30):
So I live to tell the story because I couldn't
have the women that at a cycle see people that
are out there for me or whatever, you don't know
their story. No little girl got no. I just said, okay,
i' want to be import I want to do the industry.
I want to sell for money.

Speaker 5 (04:46):
Wait some one in.

Speaker 3 (04:49):
It makes me to that people have that contens things.

Speaker 2 (04:53):
So end up happening. So as a Christian for the
whole us different giving the people something happens.

Speaker 3 (05:02):
Sometimes I'm watching a lot of asking movie The young lady,
that's all they wanted to be able to help the panel.

Speaker 2 (05:08):
That was the rock that she.

Speaker 4 (05:10):
Could take a right to these journeys.

Speaker 2 (05:14):
My hard.

Speaker 3 (05:15):
I was suicidal until I was twenty eight years old,
and that's when I forgive myself. Everybody here how for
one to live? It's what I say, how the want
to be well? But that basically need the journey. I'm
growing now I try to repeat it the purpose I
created new a.

Speaker 6 (05:34):
Move on.

Speaker 3 (05:35):
I'm gonna get together and excuse to move the front
and excuse to be and excused to do get up.

Speaker 2 (05:41):
That's why you're like I need.

Speaker 4 (05:42):
To posilit event coming out here to me here sny
So I'm thine you.

Speaker 2 (05:49):
Too, because it because everybody just wanted to my promotion
for the egos that made us mess up on my
auth on I wake.

Speaker 5 (06:06):
For a moment.

Speaker 2 (06:11):
He did it. We did it, and thank you, thank
you so much, Thank you everyone. As you can tell,
that was then and this is now. Book three is
about to be released, and I know a lot of
you have been waiting and excited. You'll be surprised because

(06:34):
what you was expecting isn't what you're gonna get, right,
So I want to welcome, Welcome, Welcome, Alicia and Michelle
here to the She Merchants Virtual Conference. Licia has been
on before. You've seen a story. Go back you got
If you miss these episodes, I'm telling you, go back,
all right. There's healing in these episodes, all right. There

(06:55):
is empowerment in these episodes. You name it you. When
you sit and you listen, you gonna walk away like aha, wow,
free liberating, all right, because these are real life stories
as people come on and share. And this is session five,
Welcome ladies to Emerge and Empower podcast TV. As we

(07:20):
have the She Emergence Virtual Conference, and you are saying,
I am She and that's why you're here today. So ladies,
go ahead and introduce yourself to the audience. Let everyone
know where you're connecting from, and anything that you would
like to introduce of yourself, go ahead and share.

Speaker 6 (07:36):
At this time, I guess I'll go frist So thank
you again so much for having me on as if
it is an honor to be on the She Mergens conference.
And I just really resonate with the message that you
have to share because I think all of us really
either you struggle with abandonment or so forth. Yeah, not

(07:59):
feeling like another that's huge and I'm just so honored
to be here. So I'm Michelle bill Sich and I
am a speaker.

Speaker 7 (08:07):
I'm a speaker coach.

Speaker 6 (08:08):
I work with professional athletes and average people to just
help them to use their voice to create change in
the world, to connect with their audiences and ultimately create
change in their audiences as well. So I am coming
from Indianapolis. That's where I live with my family and
my kids.

Speaker 2 (08:27):
Yay, we got a coach. I've been probably calling you coach.
Just all said then, because everyone feels like you could
do a little bit more of your voice and carry
over for me. I hated my voice growing up because,
as I can tell, I've got some bass in my voice.
I hate to even hear myself speak, you know. But

(08:47):
I'm glad so coach. We have a coach on here.
So every time I say coach, y'all know who I'm made.
All right, Next, let's go to Alicia.

Speaker 8 (08:55):
Hello everyone, my name is Alicia Hurt. I am so
happy to be before you again. So thank you so
much for this opportunity. I am humbled and appreciative. I
am here in Bainbridge, Georgia, originally from the DMV area.
We relocated and I am fully living my dream as
a mother of four, a wife of almost twenty years,

(09:16):
a servant leader in every capacity, and the founder of
I See My Baby Incorporated. We have a nonprofit five
of one C three and we support women just as
what you said. Everyone has a journey, but a lot
of the times we suffer in silence and we feel
like we're doing it alone. And so I vow that
any woman that can hear me and listen to me,

(09:38):
that I will be able to help her and to
walk hand in hand.

Speaker 5 (09:41):
So that she knows she is not alone.

Speaker 2 (09:44):
Love it, love it, love it. So welcome ladies. Yeah,
this is this and five we are here, and the
feedback is tremendous. People are still filling in those seats.
So if you feel like you've got to be a
part of this virtual conference, you still high We have
an opportunity to find a seat. Just find a spot

(10:04):
and just slide right on in to the she Mergen's
Virtual Conference where what we're featuring is those moments in
our lives where we felt unworthy, undeserving of love, you know,
just felt alone, you know, not seen, not heard. So
on today we continue the same aspect of it. We

(10:24):
continue in the same flow. And as you can tell,
we all might get on the same highway, come down
on the same exit, but we each have a different destination.
We all get on a plane right going to the
same place, but once we leave that airport, we are
all coming from a different We're all going to a

(10:45):
different destination, different address. Sometimes it's just a layover all right,
that might be the only chance that you have to
see that particular person ever in your lifetime. So we're
always looking to leave a positive impact, but at the
same time. Those short experiences too can leave a negative

(11:06):
impact right that can stay with you for the rest
of your life. Healing healing is every day, weekly, monthly, yearly,
and it keeps going on decades after decades. Just as
you can tell, many individuals come on and it was
thirty years ago, twenty years ago that they had experience

(11:27):
or hurt, but it had taken time to go through
those layers, to be on the front row seat and
to even come on a platform like this in order
to share, all right, in order to share. So I'm
thankful to you ladies that said you know what, I
too have a story to tell, and I'm ready to

(11:49):
be on this platform all right. For some I've had
that was the first time on a podcast, and they
love it. They say, oh, this is great, this is
as bad as I thought it was. And I say,
you see, but you also want to make sure that
you feel comfortable. And of course the audience are looking
for people that they can relate to, so Day two
can move right into their healing. I just love it,

(12:12):
love it, love it, love it. I thank God for
my healing. That's the only reason I could sit here
today and want to encourage other people to get on
and do the same thing, because healing is beautiful, all right.
It's colorful. There is sound and healing. There is joy
in healing. Oh my god, there's so much it gives.
And what I love about it it keeps giving because

(12:32):
once you're healed, you want to continue healing so you
can help someone else, and the net and the next
and it's just a beautiful thing, all right. So ladies,
once again, thank you so much for being here on
this platform. So we're going to just dive right in
as we go through an intro of your stories before
we even get into the questions that we have, give

(12:54):
us a short intro of yourself and your story in
a nutshell.

Speaker 6 (13:04):
I don't know the order here, so well, yes, I
could to run ahead. I think I believe you asked
us to just share a story. Again, like you said
about when we didn't feel like we deserved this seat
that we were sitting at.

Speaker 7 (13:17):
So I found that when.

Speaker 6 (13:19):
I started my business. Okay, you know, I think this
resonates with a lot of women where you become a
mom like you said, or maybe get married, or you
get a job or whatever, and you're doing your life
and then there's this tug inside you that says I'm
made for more, and there's this tug that says I'm
going to go.

Speaker 7 (13:39):
Change the world.

Speaker 6 (13:40):
And so I always grew up even when I was
a young teenager, knowing that one day I'm.

Speaker 7 (13:46):
Going to change the world. There's got something big to do.

Speaker 6 (13:48):
And whenever after I had my all of my children,
then I was ready to go back into the world.

Speaker 7 (13:55):
Outside of the house.

Speaker 6 (13:57):
Then I felt like I was ready to do something big.
But based on just my upbringing in the church, I
really felt like I was betraying God by going outside
of the home, to be honest, and it was a
really big struggle for me to get past that. And
then once I did get into the work, into my
business and I started building my business, it seemed like

(14:17):
every time I was going to break through to another
level of success, I just felt I would just run
into a barrier.

Speaker 7 (14:26):
And I think a.

Speaker 6 (14:27):
Lot of times the healing, it's like we don't we
don't know what's wrong. It's not necessarily that it's always
conscious where it's like, oh, you're bad, you're wrong, you
can't have this.

Speaker 2 (14:38):
It's for me.

Speaker 7 (14:40):
I've found a lot of times it's more down here.

Speaker 6 (14:42):
Than it is up here, and I'm just running at
my goal and I'm praying and I'm doing.

Speaker 7 (14:47):
What I can, and then it just feels like you
run into a brick wall. Right, So that's what I.

Speaker 6 (14:52):
Experienced over and over and over in my business until
and like you said, healing is ongoing.

Speaker 7 (14:59):
Well. Some of the the big.

Speaker 6 (15:01):
Things that the healing that I received, the big lessons
that I learned along the way, was realizing that when
I was younger, my mom and dad got divorced. My
mom or my dad was unfaithful to my mom and
so they ended up separating. I just suffered from a
lot of abandonment that happened, and I felt.

Speaker 7 (15:20):
Like nobody wanted me and then it was my fault.
It took me a long time to realize that's really
what the core was.

Speaker 6 (15:27):
And so throughout my business, as you know, growing my
business as well and in my relationships, I often asked myself,
why are they still here?

Speaker 7 (15:37):
Right?

Speaker 6 (15:38):
Why does why does this business partner? Why does my
partner my beautiful husband, like, why is why is he
still here? Why hasn't he left at yet? Why hasn't
she left yet?

Speaker 5 (15:48):
What do they even?

Speaker 7 (15:48):
Why did they even want to be with me, I don't.

Speaker 6 (15:51):
Understand right, and so I think I don't know how
much you want to go into everything, but I think
just those are some of the key things. Is just
feeling like, yeah, like you said, we're just undeserving of
having having it all right, house, having the having the husband,

(16:11):
being able to pursue even though you know there's something
that a purpose that God put in you. I think
a lot of times we feel unworthy to pursue that
purpose and to receive the things that come with it.
And I think ultimately it just took me obviously coming
back to Christ and understanding who I am. And one

(16:32):
of my business partners is a former WNBA player, and
I was really struggling with identity. And I asked her
one day, because she's been so successful in life, who.

Speaker 7 (16:44):
Do you think you are?

Speaker 6 (16:46):
That's I asked her. I really wanted to know who
do you think you are? Because you have to have
a solid.

Speaker 9 (16:52):
Identity as far as she's going, And she just spent
the next thirty seconds sharing a beautiful time testimony of
you know, I'm a daughter of God, I'm the apple
of his eye.

Speaker 7 (17:04):
He doesn't make.

Speaker 6 (17:05):
Mistakes, and she just went on and on and on
sharing scriptures and ideas, and you could just feel the
conviction in her voice and it was just so beautiful
to me. And I realized, I need to dive back
into the scriptures and let some of these old lives
go rededicate myself.

Speaker 7 (17:23):
And as the healing has continued, I just it.

Speaker 6 (17:27):
Just opens up slowly but surely to help you know
who you are and just remember. But we definitely need
to be remind you every single day you know who
you are and what your potential really is.

Speaker 2 (17:37):
That is so true. That is so true, Alicia.

Speaker 8 (17:41):
Yes, So where do I start? How about from the beginning.
So I was born under some humble circumstances. My parents
are from the Islands, from Trinidad and Tobago and Barbados. Yes,
so I was first generation college student.

Speaker 5 (18:04):
You know, I got all the accolades.

Speaker 8 (18:06):
I was the first for my mom, and so she
would always tell me, you're setting the example for your siblings, and.

Speaker 5 (18:11):
So I would always carry it as that.

Speaker 8 (18:14):
And I just remember working, I mean at the height
of my career for the Department of Transportation, and I
just had a breakdown with one of my managers and
I was like, you don't understand, like I can't fail,
like I have to win, like I'm setting an example.

Speaker 5 (18:27):
He was like for who, And I was like.

Speaker 8 (18:29):
My siblings and everyone around me, and he was like, Alicia, breathe,
calm down, you know. And I did just that and
I was very successful. However, I had always longed so
like every job there was something, it was somebody, it
was something, and then I go to the next and
it was somebody or it was something, and then I
will always have my side hustle, and so I would

(18:51):
be doing it like just burning we had to say,
burning a candle stick at both ends. And I was
just like, I don't know what to do. And for
years I would talk to my mom. She's my best friend,
god wrestler. So and I'll say, you know, I'm gonna quit.
I'm gonna just go full fledge into real estate or
go full fledge into life insurance or what have you.
She's like, well, just hold on, because what happened is

(19:11):
my husband.

Speaker 5 (19:12):
He sacrificed his education for me to have minds.

Speaker 8 (19:14):
And so I always was like I can't just jump
out there and I have read winner. You know, yes
he's working, but it's my responsibility because that was a
decision we made years ago, right, And so my mom
ended up being diagnosed with four stage lung cancer, and
she was a medical professional. She went to her doctor's appointments,
they saw it, they said, oh, it'll go away, misdiagnosis.

(19:37):
She fought hard for three years, and she transitioned at
twenty twenty three. And her mom transitioned early, thank you,
she transitioned early as well. And so in my mind,
watching her as my best friend, I said, if this
is the trajectory of my life, I am gonna have
to choose Alicia and God can take her to rest.

(19:58):
And so I quit my nine to five and I
turned to my husband and I said, I don't want
to be here anymore.

Speaker 5 (20:02):
I want to live somewhere else.

Speaker 8 (20:05):
And so he was like, all right, it's just as
crazy as I am, and so lo and behold it
was a God saying we are here in Georgia.

Speaker 5 (20:13):
Bainbridge, Georgia. Never heard of this place.

Speaker 8 (20:16):
Literally, we saw a house that fit the budget, because
of course it was only his income because I quit
my job and we moved down here, and I grieved
my mother, but I didn't sit long in it. You
know as I greathed, I wrote, I journaled, I washed
the cows outside my window, I went to water aerobics,
and then God started to talk to me. So I
guess I was in a place to hear and to

(20:37):
really understand it.

Speaker 5 (20:39):
All alone.

Speaker 8 (20:39):
We had the nonprofit, but it was just virtual. And
one day I rode down the street and I saw
at least sign. I said, I love that brick building.
Reached out to them. We started negotiating. Honey, I didn't
have what they needed, but I said, yeah, yeah, it's
gonna happen. And Pastor just a bishop just preached this
on Sun and he said seeing is believing, and I

(21:02):
was walking and not even understanding that I was stepping
out on faith. Another organization was looking as well, and
so God just had it where we were able to
meet up. And now we're in this building together and
we're both faith based and helping support women. And I
can truly say, Lord, I am walking in my purpose.
Out of everything that I've done, and I've had some

(21:22):
great businesses that I've done six figures plus, but it
didn't make.

Speaker 5 (21:26):
Me feel whole.

Speaker 8 (21:27):
And what I'm doing today is what makes me feel whole.
But I still have that imposter syndrome where it's like,
are you really supposed to be on this platform? Even now,
like I'm sweating inside because I'm like, love you on
this platform, but it's like God's telling me, yes, that's
why I afforded you the opportunity.

Speaker 5 (21:46):
And so it does take a lot of self talk.

Speaker 8 (21:48):
I'm better than what I was a year or a year,
two years or three years ago. But it's continuous work,
you know, And it's being around women like you that
help me understand since you're not alone, it's okay and
what you feel is normal, but it's how you overcome it,
how you get through it.

Speaker 5 (22:05):
And now that's the part.

Speaker 2 (22:06):
That's the part, and we're going to dive right in
because the title of this session is called the Seat.
I didn't think I deserve the seat I didn't think
I deserve because even though God has done what you
just said, such a wonderful testimony, and the same with Michelle,

(22:27):
But guess what, you, ladies, are we still feeling like
you weren't deserving of the seat. You weren't deserving of
the opportunity. Somebody else's testimony sound much better than your testimony.
Somebody else's life look better than your life, right, so
we go to this woe and me and all of
these things in life. So let's just get right in

(22:49):
and talk about this seit because remember the book that
is launching is called Unholy at the Table. What does
it mean. It's talking about those moments are feeling unworthy,
undeserving and as we know grace, we didn't have to
do anything to have grace from God. But then the
enemy will make you feel like you had to have

(23:11):
something in order to receive disgrace, you know. And so
that's why I want to dive in. So we're gonna
go in with our first question here where it says,
can you share a time when you will offer a
place in a relationship or an opportunity or even in
the community, like you just said, right, but you felt
like you didn't deserve to be there. Anyone can take that.

Speaker 5 (23:39):
I can go with, Shelle. I feel that right now.

Speaker 8 (23:43):
I was offered an opportunity to speak in Fort Lauderdale
at another conference, and I've attended year after year, and
I always look.

Speaker 5 (23:51):
At these women like, oh my God, like what.

Speaker 8 (23:54):
And then I was asking, I was like you sure me.
Alicia Hurt lived in pump.

Speaker 5 (24:00):
I'm Maryland like from Landover, and I feel like that
right now. But then I have to do self talk.

Speaker 8 (24:05):
Why not You've achieved a lot, Like God tells you
in his word that he wants people to see your
good works because guess what, He's gonna get the glory.

Speaker 5 (24:14):
So I have to muster up the.

Speaker 8 (24:16):
Strength and I have to have a bold assurance, right
even though I may be shaking in my boots, but
walk with the authority that God has given me and
let my light shine.

Speaker 2 (24:25):
Right, So what about previously? Now you have the confidence,
But what about in the past.

Speaker 5 (24:32):
When I became a real estate agent.

Speaker 8 (24:34):
You take the class, you know all the laws, at
least enough to pass it. But then when you have
to go and sell that first house and pitch yourself
and help that homeowner understand why they should entrust you.

Speaker 5 (24:47):
With selling their house. Oh my god.

Speaker 8 (24:50):
I was so scared, and I did have a mentor.
But what helped me is to say, Alicia, fee yourself.
You can't be anyone else. You can't pitch it like
anyone else. You watch all these masterminds and these gurus
and all these people, be yourself, and that's what's sodom,
that's what soldom. I was genuine. I said, I will
put my passion in my heart into it. I'll sell
it just like it's mine. And I also negotiated as

(25:12):
if it's mine in order for you to get the
best deal.

Speaker 5 (25:15):
And I got referrals from it, and I was like, Oh,
I just had to be myself.

Speaker 2 (25:18):
That's it, that's it, that's it. Well, thank you so
much for that. The same question for you, Michelle, was
there a moment opportunity relationship where you felt that it
was undeserved?

Speaker 7 (25:32):
Yes, a lot of things obviously over the years.

Speaker 6 (25:36):
Honestly, my husband just like wow, how did I get
him again?

Speaker 7 (25:40):
Why is he still around? I don't know, but like
so grateful.

Speaker 6 (25:44):
But also recently, when I started my second business, Speaker Stadium,
I have the opportunity to meet in my speaker group
former w NBA player Sylvia Crawling Span and she was
creating a program for athletes to become speakers. And I
was just having a collaboration conversation with her, listening to

(26:07):
her story and what she wanted to do, and I
just got so excited and I, Oh, you could do
this and it would be so fun to.

Speaker 7 (26:13):
Do that and truth be told. Several years ago, when
I was a health coach, I just.

Speaker 6 (26:20):
Again had this yearning that felt it's you know, have
you ever had those one of those yearnings.

Speaker 7 (26:25):
Where it just feels unrighteous, like you have to adjust?

Speaker 5 (26:28):
It was great.

Speaker 6 (26:29):
So several years ago, when I was a health coach,
I just felt like, I really want to work with celebrities,
some kind of celebrity people, and not in a vain way,
because I'm not really like a fangirl type of person,
but just because I knew the impact would be greater.
And I don't know, it was just a desire God
put in my heart.

Speaker 7 (26:48):
And I had talked.

Speaker 6 (26:49):
To someone at the time and he just really judged me,
oh because he used to be I met someone who
was Ellen DeGeneres's.

Speaker 7 (26:58):
He was her face, this instructor or something like her
personal trainer.

Speaker 6 (27:03):
And I was like, oh cool, how was that, you know,
just wanting to hear his story, but he just really
shut me down, judging me about what my intentions were.
And so I had said it aside, and but yeah,
when I started working with as, I talked to Sylvia
then she said, hey, do you want to do this
with me?

Speaker 7 (27:22):
And we're talking about.

Speaker 6 (27:23):
All of her friends are WNBA players, former WNBA players,
like all of she has connections with all these different people,
and I'm like, whoa, it's my opportunity to be a
celebrity coach. And then immediately, of course, I'm like, why
would you want to work with me?

Speaker 5 (27:41):
Who am I?

Speaker 6 (27:42):
Why would you want to work with me? I'm just no,
I'm just nobody or whatever. But you know, I really
prayed about it a lot, and I just asked God,
if I you know, is this where you want me
to be?

Speaker 7 (27:56):
Can I hold this? Is really what I asked him?
Am I worthy and ready to hold this?

Speaker 5 (28:01):
Right?

Speaker 7 (28:01):
And he said yes?

Speaker 6 (28:02):
And then just doors started opening every time we started
working on it.

Speaker 7 (28:06):
Things just started falling in place. She's become a really amazing.

Speaker 6 (28:10):
Friend, and our business is really moving forward really well.

Speaker 7 (28:13):
But there is one thing that a thought that God
gave me in.

Speaker 6 (28:20):
A similar situation that comes back to me over and
over in these types of situations, And it was whenever
I was contemplating a shift similar to this one, he
said to me, but I was afraid to let go,
And he said to me, why would you hang on
to that?

Speaker 7 (28:37):
When I'm about to give you so much more.

Speaker 2 (28:40):
Isn't that something?

Speaker 7 (28:41):
Right?

Speaker 6 (28:42):
So like, why are you hanging on to, Yeah, your
insecurities or the fact that you think you can't do it,
or maybe these old ways or the old things that
you are.

Speaker 7 (28:54):
Familiar with or comfortable with.

Speaker 6 (28:55):
Whenever I'm about to open the door for you, I'm
about to give you all the strength that you need
to make it happen. You know, if he gives you,
he has power to fulfill all his words. Yes, and
so that's his word that he gave me.

Speaker 7 (29:09):
He's got his power to fulfill it.

Speaker 6 (29:11):
And I wanted to give that to the audience as well,
that if you put that in your heart and he's saying,
you've got room for it, You've got space where it,
this is an opportunity opening for you, then He's gonna
make a way for it happen, just like Alicia was
with her example.

Speaker 2 (29:28):
It is so true. It is so true because someone
asked that question just last week in Bible study, where
people would say, you're not qualified, but when God has
called you into something, when we even look at Moses' life, right,
I'm gonna go to church a little bit. When you

(29:48):
go into Moses's life. Right, he went from Pharaoh's house,
he went to the desert. He had to go through
all of these experience to build as a leader, all right.
So everything that he learned we call him life skills,
was preparing him to lead God's people. But if anyone
looked at it, even he himself. When God called on him,

(30:11):
he said, why me, I can't speak. I don't have
good speech. I don't have good fiction, right, And God
called him Bible tell us he was a stutter. I said, well,
can I bring my brother along? He's a smart one,
you understand me. Can I bring him along? Because he
can do the talk. But no, see, God have chosen

(30:32):
you and he's given you the capacity. So what I
want people to understand is, once you think of something,
all of a sudden, this vision comes to you. You
think it just came out of nowhere. It was time.
It's God pushing you in that direction because he knows
that you're ready to move into it. We always ask
is there anybody else? Why? I mean, like why you
want to talk to me? Like why you want to

(30:53):
use me? But this is the ability that God has
given you. Right and wherever there is is a vision,
he will provide, and that vision comes from him. You
understand me. And when it comes from him and you
are moving in his will, guess what, the doors just

(31:14):
start opening, the people just start showing up. You didn't
have to do anything but just put up a sign.
I'm selling lemonade, and I'm selling them for ten dollars.
Guess what, everybody coming and they gotta buy your lemonade
for ten dollars. You just have to show up, right.
So we're hard on ourselves if you're feeling like we're
not worthy, we're not deserving. But you know where all

(31:36):
of that still comes fack. We could go back to
when we were children when somebody told you know, when
somebody told you that you are not worthy of this,
I'll give it to somebody else, when they decided that
they wouldn't give you your turn, and when your turn came,
they passed it on to somebody else. So these things
have been building and building until you became an adult

(31:57):
and you're wondering, why do I feel this way? Why
something happened earlier in your life that make you feel
that way? You understand, and until we can address them
and said, yes I'm worthy, Yes I'm beautiful yes, I'm
capable with God. I can do all things through Christ,
who strengthened me. Until you can move like that, you're

(32:17):
gonna always feel like me, why me? Why me? And
you're gonna like you were said, why why is my
husband still here?

Speaker 4 (32:28):
Right?

Speaker 2 (32:28):
I used to even push mine. You can get a divorce,
you can go, you know, you can go. You know,
if you can't handle this, you can go, you know.
And the man didn't leave, you know, And I read
looking around like why is he still here? So we
all feel that way, all right, because we've seen people

(32:50):
who've done less and they don't have what you have.
They don't have the husband you have, they don't have
the children you have, the things you have, and you
felt like they did they put in so much more,
and you did to keep what they have. But guess what,
God have given you that grace. He's given each and
every one of you that grace. So we're gonna go
into some of these thoughts. Right. It says, what were
some of the thoughts or lies that made it hard

(33:13):
for you to stay at the table to truly receive?
All right, receive what has been given to you, because
we love to say sim twenty three. I love the
court it all the time. He has prepared the table
before me in the presence of my enemies. Guess what,
that's why it's hard. He's got to put it with
the people who are the naysayers, right, but we are

(33:34):
afraid to get to this table. So what are your
thoughts or what are the lies that came to you
to make you feel you cannot sit at the table
to receive.

Speaker 5 (33:45):
I can go.

Speaker 8 (33:47):
Early on in my management career in banking, I took
a bold move. I wanted to live work closer to
where I was living at the time, and so I went.
I met the manager and to do myself and said, hey,
I say you have an assistant manager position. I would
love to be interviewed for it. It had been taken
down off of the internal page. And she said, well, Alisha,

(34:10):
I did hire for it. However, if you're interested in
a lateral move, you never know what will happen.

Speaker 5 (34:16):
So I did.

Speaker 8 (34:17):
I started as a personal banker and law and behold.
Maybe three four months later the assistant manager left. She resigned,
and so the manager came to me. She said, aliha,
you've been doing great, like I was just excelling. I
just love to have my certificates up at my desk.
Everything like I was just excelling. And so she said,
go ahead and interview for the position for assistant manager.

(34:39):
So I did just that, and right after my interview,
the district manager took me into a room and gave
me feedback. He said, you'll never be a manager. You're
not ready, you don't have the skills. You have to
go back to school. And I don't know what you
were thinking, like.

Speaker 5 (34:55):
He read me.

Speaker 8 (34:57):
And I was like, I kept a good face, but
I was driving. I mean, I was riding in the train.
I was living in Baltimore at the time, and I
cried and I saw the whole way home. And so
my manager was on vacation and when she got back,
she was like, hey, so what happened.

Speaker 5 (35:15):
What's going on?

Speaker 8 (35:16):
And I'm upset kind of with her too, because I
was like, you kind of pushed me to go forward,
not thinking this would happen. This has never happened to me,
at least not right after you interview, right right right,
And so she said, Alicia, I was on vacation. I
didn't know any of that happened, and it shouldn't happen.
This is my branch. Yes he's the district manager, but
he has to actually talk to me in order for

(35:38):
us to come to the conclusion of who's ready and
who's not and so long and behold, I got the job, okay.
And so that has been the story of my life.

Speaker 5 (35:46):
Hut him down, shut him down, shut him down.

Speaker 8 (35:49):
There have been people that literally would say to me,
I fa, you're not ready, and put up all barriers.

Speaker 5 (35:53):
But then I found out that behind the scenes.

Speaker 8 (35:56):
There are people that are fighting for me, like even recently,
and I was like, Lord, thank you. You are merciful,
you know, and I owe you all the glory and
the honor. What what that man said to me, As
I'm telling you years later, you never forget. Never your
words and thoughts they have power. However, I know God's

(36:18):
power is more mighty, and so I do a lot
of self talk to help me get through.

Speaker 2 (36:24):
All Right, we're gonna go to coach coach es coaches.

Speaker 6 (36:28):
So when I when I became a speaker, coacho, I
want to be right.

Speaker 7 (36:32):
Before I became a speaker, I as a health.

Speaker 6 (36:35):
Coach, and I just realized I was spending all my
time doing stuff that I hated I started my business
because I wanted to help people. You know, you get
excited your friends are telling you you're so good at this,
you say, you start helping people. But then I just
couldn't get my business to work, and so I was
doing things that everybody else told me that I should do.

Speaker 7 (36:55):
So this coach said, oh, go get on Facebook. This
coach said, you know, whatever they told me to do.

Speaker 6 (37:01):
I was doing all the things. And there's there's really
two things that came with that.

Speaker 10 (37:06):
But eventually I kind of woke up and realized, hey,
I'm not doing like most of my time, I'm spending
doing stuff that I don't want to do that isn't
lighting me up.

Speaker 6 (37:18):
And what I really want to do is I want
to do workshops. I want to teach people. I want
to run my own workshops. I want to run my
own events. And my coach at the time said.

Speaker 7 (37:30):
Why don't you do that? Then? Why not? And immediately
I'm like, oh, well I don't.

Speaker 2 (37:37):
Have but I don't have all that stuff.

Speaker 6 (37:40):
That's a huge that's a huge one, right, Like I
don't have an audience. I've never spoke before, I don't
have you know, I don't have a place to do it.

Speaker 7 (37:50):
All the different things just kind of came up and
I realized, you know a lot of times it's like
the overwhelm, right that shuts this down.

Speaker 6 (37:59):
You don't have this, you don't have this, Yeah, and
it's the immediate reaction. But when I realized that overwhelm
is actually lack in disguise.

Speaker 7 (38:08):
Right, we think it's like, oh, I have too much
to do. I can't put that on my plate.

Speaker 6 (38:12):
But it's like, no, you're thinking I don't have time,
I don't have money, I don't have the energy, I
don't have this.

Speaker 7 (38:18):
When the reality is we can shift that and say
what do I have?

Speaker 2 (38:23):
Right?

Speaker 6 (38:24):
What do I have? What are the things that I
can do? And I think it goes back to what
Alicia was saying.

Speaker 7 (38:29):
She said a couple of.

Speaker 6 (38:30):
Brilliant things earlier, but right even whenever you were talking
about going to buy that piece of property, and Okay,
I don't have it, but what do I have? How
can I make this happen? Or also just with our
skills too, what do I have? Well, maybe I'm not
the best.

Speaker 7 (38:49):
At this, but I'm really good at that.

Speaker 6 (38:52):
And so especially like with this partnership, I've been telling
you about Okay, well, maybe I'm not the best at
I know that I'm not very good at one on
one sales, Like I just I'm not the best at
one on one sales, and I don't want to be here.
Maybe I'm not the best at doing all the details
and making sure that I send out every link and

(39:16):
talk to make sure that I don't have any typos
and stuff like that. Might like the things that I'm
not good at. But what how am I good at?
And where do I shine? And same with you? You
know where what is your strength? Yeah? What is your strength?

Speaker 7 (39:31):
How can you use that strength and really lean into
that strength to carry you?

Speaker 6 (39:35):
Because God didn't make us to have all the strengths
on purpose, right, He made us with certain weaknesses or
areas that were not the best, because you know that's
that's that's how we're going to come together and where
he has a team and be able to create something together.

Speaker 2 (39:55):
It's so true. You both said a lot of nuggets.
I hope people are picking up all right, And these
are goal nuggets. These see chicken nuggets, Okay, these gold nuggets,
all right, So you can take with you when you
know that there's an area where you lack or deficient,
but yet the other person is each person. That's how

(40:17):
the partnership work. Wherever your strengths are, that's what you
use and the other person. That way, it meshes together
and it would never clash, right, and it compliments just
like you're in marriage. You have to compliment each other,
all right, And that is how this will work. So
now you once you realize, okay, here's what I can't do,

(40:38):
but here's what you can do. And here's what I
can do. Now you are ready to receive it, you know.
So the first thing we look at for any decision
we make is I can't do this, I can't do that.
I don't have this, I don't have that. But like
you said, flip the script, what do you have? I'm
always thinking Bible. Right, I'm going to the woman with

(40:59):
a little bit of oil and a little bit of flower.
All right. I told you I'm a speaker. I'm a
religious speaker. Okay, she had a little bit of oil,
a little bit of flower, and they were gonna die.
It had a rain for three and a half years.
The Man of God comes to our house. Okay, he
comes through our house and tells her he wants something

(41:23):
to eat. What she had wasn't enough, but she, in
her obedience realized because he's a man of God, gave
him something to eat and whatever was left over for
her and our son to die. But what happened because
of the gesture that she did. She had plenty, all right,

(41:43):
So we have to look at what we have. It
might be a little bit, but it's enough to get
you started, that's right, you see. So each of you
said that you have enough to get it started, and
it would build as you go. And so therefore it
puts you now in a position to receive because you
had something to give to start yourself off, and that

(42:07):
deserving and that you know, it's always gonna come back,
all right, Alicia, what he said to you probably is
gonna come back every time you decide to start something
new or face someone. What I've learned in life and
have sent this even to my children and anyone that
would listen. The worst thing somebody can tell you is new.
So if I already know that that will not stop me,
I'm gonna try, okay, And if you tell me no,

(42:30):
I've already conditioned myself. If you said no, I'm going
to next place. We spend too much time looking at
the closed door, and we didn't turn around to see
all these doors that are open to us, right, all right,
So we have to be in a place right now
to receive because that one door closed. Hello, You've got
doors on automatic once you turn around, So we have

(42:50):
to stop. It's time to receive. I don't know about you, guys,
but I'm in my season to receive and I'm taking
it all right. I want good measure pressed down. Okay.
I don't want to go to church. I want my
good measure. Okay, So let's go into what shifted. But
something shifted. He said it to you. You spoke to

(43:13):
the manager and she said, it's not about what he said.
At the end of the day, it's me, all right.
So let's go to this what shifted in you that
allow you to see yourself worthy of love? And heal it.

Speaker 8 (43:29):
First that she fought for me, not even knowing me
a good six months yet, but she saw the potential
in me, and so I had to muster it up
as well, Like if she saw it, I'm gonna make
her proud. I'm gonna make her proud, and I'm gonna
do the best that I can and be the best,
and then this branch is going to be the best
so that they can see that. That would have been
a big mistake of him just prejudging.

Speaker 5 (43:52):
Me that way and then me being able to because
I don't know.

Speaker 8 (43:57):
My mom was my cheerleader, and so I always look
for that chill even now in her absence.

Speaker 5 (44:02):
It's like, I need a cheerleader. Even though I was
like I.

Speaker 9 (44:05):
Could just do it.

Speaker 8 (44:06):
Oh you need a little go, go go, and we
should go.

Speaker 5 (44:11):
And so that was my goal.

Speaker 8 (44:12):
Licia go and I, when I tell you, I was phenomenal.
We our operations were solid. Even the cleanliness of our basement.
I was pulling out things from the nineteen eighties and
they were.

Speaker 5 (44:23):
Like, what is going on.

Speaker 8 (44:24):
Even the higher ups called and was like, we got
a huge bill for cold storage, and I said, yes,
because it's been in this basement since the nineteen eighties.

Speaker 5 (44:33):
But I'm telling you here to.

Speaker 8 (44:35):
Clean it up and make sure we're flying right. You know,
it's a very reputable bank. And so after we got
everything cleared, they was like, no, we gotta come and
see it. We need to see pictures because they couldn't
believe it. I was like y'all messed up now in
a good way. So I had something to prove, and
I was able to then take that experience to go
to another financial institution and then put.

Speaker 5 (44:56):
It into my own business.

Speaker 8 (44:57):
All those all those people that that I was was
able to help motivate it to push. They didn't like
me at first, but then I got cold even after
I left, Like, Alicia, we still use your processes.

Speaker 5 (45:09):
We missed so much. Now we actually understand.

Speaker 8 (45:11):
Why you was heartpering on getting our education and doing
the trainings and doing the right way the first time.

Speaker 2 (45:20):
That's it. That's it. That's it, Coach.

Speaker 6 (45:24):
Yes, I think for me, it really comes back to
seeing my identity again. Right. I struggled with overeating for
over eighteen years, and at the time, people in the
overeating space, especially because it's an addiction space, what on
the common beliefs is that it is going to be

(45:45):
one day at a time, you're never going to be
over it.

Speaker 7 (45:48):
It's something you're always going to struggle with.

Speaker 6 (45:51):
And and it's it's like a disease. It's part of
you you have to complete, you know. And I don't
believe any of that, to be honest, because I'm like that.

Speaker 7 (46:07):
Doesn't make sense.

Speaker 6 (46:08):
God made me, and he you know, he died for me,
He provided a savior for me, and it he has scars,
so I don't have to right, he has scars so
he can heal my scars. And so it doesn't make
sense that God would say I'm here to heal you.

Speaker 7 (46:26):
But except not that thing, right, And so I kept
looking for somebody. And I think it goes back to
what you were saying to Alicia.

Speaker 6 (46:36):
Sometimes we need somebody, or we need somebody on earth
or in having belief us and who can tell us
who we are and what's possible for us to help us,
you know, see see what's available, so we can look
there and we can reach there. And so I kept
looking for something because there was a deep, this this
deep knowing in me that I was going to conquer
this and I'm going to.

Speaker 7 (46:57):
Show somebody else how to do it right.

Speaker 6 (47:01):
And so I went to a conference and it was
about something totally different. But the lady who came on
stage had a book about alcoholism. She wrote a book
about her journey as an alcoholic and overcoming that. But
she was saying all the things that I was thinking
in my heart. And so I bought the book, and

(47:22):
after I read it two weeks later, I was completely
free from food and the thing I realized looking back
at it, the two things that really made the difference
was in the beginning of the book, she made such
a declaration of my identity that I couldn't deny it. Yes,

(47:43):
she made this declaration that this isn't like, this doesn't
define you, this isn't who you are. By the time
you're done reading this book, you're going to be free.
And she said it was such conviction that I started
taking it on that that's that's not who I am anymore.
I'm free now. And the identity of being free. And

(48:04):
then in her book she actually goes through just different
lies that you tied to it, and once you break
those lies, you're not tied to it anymore. So as
going back to what we're saying here as well about
those lies and the power of those lies. Yeah, really,
I think it just comes back down to identity of
who do you think you are? And then what beliefs

(48:25):
are going to support that new identity and what beliefs
are not supporting that new identity, and then having God
heal us and help us see what the truth really.

Speaker 2 (48:33):
Is that's awesome. And this is one of the reasons
why I say a lot of things that we are
facing today are starting from somewhere earlier on in life.
Because when the moment you told me that you became
a held coach, that's a specialized feel right. There's always
a why behind that right now. I wanted to get

(48:55):
to your why, but you pulled your why out because
you were once in that place. And so now that
you've come out, now you want to help individuals do
better feel better. And I like the fact that you
got a book even though it was for alcoholics. See,
it's not about what type of addiction. You understand me,

(49:16):
So you picked up the book, and that book heeld
you in your own journey. So the whole thing was
recognizing and identifying the root cause of the problem, right
and getting on the front raaw of that. All right,
It was a self help book, but it might have
not been a topic that you were thinking. But you
receive your healing through a AA type book. And I

(49:40):
say this all the time, even when we think, and
we teach, and I teach in classes and also with church,
they have twelve steps. You can use those same twelve
steps in any thing that you're doing, Okay, you can
take it anywhere and apply it and it will work. Okay,
and you see the work because he who starts a

(50:02):
good work and you will finish the work. Right. But
first thing. First, we got to renew our minds. We
got to feel we're deserving. Because if you're still in
that I'm not deserving, You're not gonna move, You're not
gonna heal, nothing's gonna shift, nothing's gonna break, okay until
you change that mindset and build that confidence. What is

(50:25):
great about making that first step is it's rewarding and
it encouraged you to do more and more and more
and more, and before you know it, you know you're
not only helping people from past traumas or things that
you dealt with, you help with people in other areas
of life. Because now we become cheerleaders. Right, this platform

(50:48):
is say come on, come talk about it, Let's get
over this, let's break this cycle, let's move on. Don't
stay here. As we speak we talk about where we
once were past sense, not currently in that place now
a different headspace and moving you know, for something that
is greater impacting lives all right. That is exactly what

(51:12):
each and every one of you I hear, and that
is what you're doing. But you're taking it to new heights,
all right. Because coach you was like, well, I don't
think I don't know anything about popular or famous people.
The first person looked at you like, why are you true?
Why trying so hard? Like yeah, I worked at her,
but who are you? But you didn't need him, you see,

(51:35):
you didn't need him. A lot of times we go
to places where we think that's what we need and
so of course it gets ugly, so you can wake up, No,
that's not what you need to be all right. We
have to have a reality check only then then we
can readjust our focus, right, So for those who don't
like to go, we have to go through these areas

(51:56):
to readjust our focus, all right. So your healing journeys
all right? So Alicia was on before and she was
talking about, you know, her losses, the pains that she
went to in her losses and everywhere she went there
after she's still being positive on the job around people

(52:18):
helping others. Why is because you once wasn't a place
where you were broken, but you felt undeserving, Like why
is this happening to me? God must not love me.
Nobody loves me. Oh, it's never been in a place
like that, all right. To when the healing has happened,
you're like, well, is this for real this time? Because

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you're still feeling like something's gonna happen.

Speaker 5 (52:42):
All right.

Speaker 2 (52:43):
So these are the places where we are in our
lives right now. So as we come to this question
before we go to our listening audience and you give
your message to them or what you would like to convey,
what do you, ladies feel I should have said something
that I didn't say. This is that opportunity I.

Speaker 8 (53:08):
Want to say, because a lot of women have been
saying this to me that I have been mentoring and
supporting here locally and virtually.

Speaker 5 (53:17):
I'm behind.

Speaker 8 (53:20):
I miss the mark. I'm too old, or I'm too young,
or your circumstances different. You don't understand, I want to
say to her, to you, to them, You're right where
you're supposed to be, when you're supposed.

Speaker 5 (53:36):
To be there.

Speaker 8 (53:37):
You have what you need to get to the next step.
You have what you need to take your business, your business,
your venture, your service, what have your ministry to.

Speaker 5 (53:46):
That next level?

Speaker 8 (53:48):
But The biggest stumbling block is you. You got to
take that first step. And then when you take that
first step, I promise you God will help you. He
will bring people along aside you to even need. If
you need a crutch, they're gonna bring the crutch for
you need a chad to wiel you, they gonna wiel you.

Speaker 5 (54:07):
But you gotta make it up in yo mind. They yes,
this is the.

Speaker 8 (54:10):
Right time and the time is now, and I can
do it.

Speaker 5 (54:14):
That's the first step.

Speaker 2 (54:16):
Love it, love it. Coach, so good, so good.

Speaker 7 (54:20):
I think you know the message.

Speaker 11 (54:22):
You have to share something that's kind of been rubbing
you the wrong way, one thing that's been just I
think we give up so easy. I it just goes
back to what I said earlier of I can't like
I think.

Speaker 7 (54:35):
You're just so we're so stuck and.

Speaker 6 (54:38):
I can't and and it keeps us from seeing where
we can.

Speaker 7 (54:44):
You know, in the Bible, let's go, let's.

Speaker 2 (54:46):
Go, let go, let's go.

Speaker 6 (54:49):
Okay, hey guy, in the Bible, where she was kicked
out with her son into the wilderness, it's the desert.

Speaker 7 (54:55):
They've been traveling for a long time. She just feels
like she's gonna die.

Speaker 6 (54:59):
So she moves away from her son, she doesn't want
to see him die, and then she hears him praying,
and then it says the Lord opened up her eyes
and she saw the will.

Speaker 2 (55:11):
Yes and.

Speaker 6 (55:14):
It so many times we're defending how we can't do
something and we can't. It's not allowing us to open
our eyes to what we can do and what's available
to us.

Speaker 7 (55:25):
And one of my favorite.

Speaker 6 (55:26):
Quotes by Jim Quick is, uh if you if you
fight for your limitations, you get to keep them.

Speaker 7 (55:35):
If you fight for your limitations, you get to keep them.

Speaker 9 (55:38):
Right.

Speaker 6 (55:38):
So, recently, I've just had some contact with a few
people who are just fighting so hard for their limitations.
They feel like and this is us too, Like we
just feel like the world's attacking, attacking us. We've been
wrong everybody. You know, they're not listening to me. This
isn't working out. And so then we come out and

(55:59):
defense of you know, and it comes from this great
place of oh, I'm defending my kids against these people,
or I'm not gonna let that happen to them, or
I'm going to show them they're not listening to me.

Speaker 7 (56:10):
And really it sounds good in our minds.

Speaker 6 (56:14):
We think Oh yeah, I'm defending, I'm fighting for what's right.
But I think sometimes it's just the fact that we're hurt.
Actually we're hurt, and we don't feel hurt. It's not
that nobody's it's not that people aren't listening to you.
It's that you're not feeling hurt. And nobody can make
you feel hurt. Nobody can make you feel hurt, Nobody

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can show you the way.

Speaker 7 (56:39):
Nobody can open your eyes except God. And you have
to choose to have your eyes opened.

Speaker 6 (56:45):
And so if if you feel like you're defending yourself
all the time or someone's wronging you, all right, it's
time to sit and open your eyes, right, like, sit
and humble yourself that you open your eyes to you know,
how is he providing for you?

Speaker 7 (57:04):
What is possible? How else can I look at the situation?
What is the way? What is possible?

Speaker 6 (57:10):
Instead of continuing to stay as the victim because Satan
loves victims, because we as victims, we just give up,
we give up, or again we're fighting other people and
distracting and making drama and all of that.

Speaker 7 (57:25):
And that's just.

Speaker 6 (57:26):
Something that I've been dealing with lately, though, I just
like drop the drama.

Speaker 7 (57:31):
Let's have some space.

Speaker 6 (57:32):
Let's like really focus on what can I do? How
can I turn the other drink and move forward? And
just have him open our eyes to the possibilities.

Speaker 2 (57:43):
It's so true because the victim mentality keeps you trapped,
all right. It's actually a barrier. It's a lie, you know,
l ie lie lies, because it's just not just one.
You can't you're not you're not enough. Everything just keeps
coming at you and you can't get ahead. You hear

(58:04):
a nice sermon, you watch some empowerment coach, and you say, yeah, yeah,
you got it, and then as soon as you disconnect, now, okay,
no that's not me. Maybe that's for them. That's not
for me, that's for somebody else. So we need to
get out of that victim mentality because it keeps you trapped, right,

(58:27):
It keeps you trapped, and it also keeps you delayed.
We could go to the Bible again. The people of
Israel spend forty days in a desert when it was
only a what three weeks trip? Come on, because right
here they were blinded. They couldn't see. I mean, after
you done crossed a rad seat. Okay, but now you're saying,

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did Moses bring me here to die?

Speaker 5 (58:55):
Right?

Speaker 2 (58:56):
Okay? And in the end they all end up dying
out because God said, I can't let these people go
into the future, right okay, So each of us too.
There might be toxic people around you and has been
the reason why you can't get ahead, all right? That
could be another one. So the company you keep, the

(59:18):
people that you surround yourself with, okay, because rotten be
God's rotten. Okay, you're in a basket with a bunch
of rotten people. If you don't get out, I'm sorry,
you won't die. Yeah, I can't. I can't make it

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any easier. You got to get out of this thing. Okay.
Only then can you move and say I deserve it.
I can do this, I can do that we quoted,
I said it earlier. I can do all things in
Chrystal strengthen me. But there's a lie that says otherwise. Okay.
If if you say it, believe what you say. If

(01:00:03):
you can quote it, believe in what you just quoted.
Why is it that we have enough to quote someone
else but we don't have it for ourselves.

Speaker 5 (01:00:16):
Yes, good.

Speaker 2 (01:00:19):
Hello.

Speaker 5 (01:00:20):
I was in a.

Speaker 2 (01:00:21):
Season where I was broken. But when people came to me,
I had all answers for them, answers, but I couldn't
help myself. Why I had to recondition my mind. I
had to let go and say, you know what, I
am not a victim. I am not that little girl,
a six year old girl. I'm not her. I have

(01:00:42):
the power to say no, I have control. I'm not
in that head space. Only then could I move, Only
then could I see myself. Only then could I can
receive grace that is so free, unmerited. Right, we didn't
do anything to get it, But we'll question if I say, hey, hey, coach,

(01:01:04):
here's what I got for you. Me really, why we
can't take it freely? We can't take it freely because
we feel like there's a string attached. There's more to
it than that. Mmm, why are you giving it to me?
You don't want it? It's not good? Is it broken?
You have too much? We're looking for all these things

(01:01:25):
instead of receiving what has been given unto us. Right,
So that's the place where we are. So for those
who listen and to feel out of place and spaces
where they've been invited, let's talk to those people. Let's
talk to those people who are in spaces where they're
being invited, but they think that they can't be there.

(01:01:48):
They don't want to own the seat.

Speaker 5 (01:01:51):
Like I just told my daughter today.

Speaker 8 (01:01:53):
So she's homeschooled, so it looks a little different when
we go places during the day. Everybody's looking at her like,
why is this little girl out here and not in school?

Speaker 5 (01:02:01):
And so I took her to water robus with me.

Speaker 8 (01:02:03):
I went back after eight months and I said to her,
come on and act like you belong And that's what
I would say as the advice, Act like you belong
there right until you feel like it.

Speaker 5 (01:02:16):
They opened that door. I'm here, I belong here.

Speaker 8 (01:02:20):
Like for me, I don't know all the adaquates with
the forks and all that, but I'm gonna play it good.

Speaker 5 (01:02:24):
They invited me here, I'm here. I'm gonna act like
I'm here.

Speaker 8 (01:02:29):
That's what you need to do until you feel it
and you really embrace it. Because you do, that door
was opening, opportunity was granted because you.

Speaker 5 (01:02:38):
Belong right where you are, you and not anyone else.

Speaker 12 (01:02:42):
You You you take it till you make it, you know,
I told my speakers because I'm sure many of you've
gotten up on stage, and then you're like, oh my.

Speaker 7 (01:02:55):
Gosh, what am I gonna say? What are they gonna think?
In here?

Speaker 6 (01:02:59):
I think a really big parallel to that, and I
say to my speakers, you need to be over there
with them. Stop being over here with you, worried about
what you can and can't do, and if you're gonna
mess up, and if they're gonna say no, and with
all that, that's where all the anxiety comes from. But
when you're with them, when you're with them and your

(01:03:21):
attentions on them, and what can I do for them?

Speaker 7 (01:03:23):
How can I contribute?

Speaker 5 (01:03:25):
What?

Speaker 7 (01:03:25):
You know? What kind word can I give? What? What's
my challenge here?

Speaker 6 (01:03:30):
All that, then you stop worrying about you and you
just go do the thing.

Speaker 2 (01:03:35):
Right, do the thing whatever that thing is over there.
I love it, you know, it's it's it's you just
have to do it. Nikey's sign. Just say do it.
It's simple, it's not complicated. There's no major algorithm. You know,
even Christ himself he's thought about all these major algorithms.

(01:03:57):
He's very simple. One plus one is one. Don't add
another number that he didn't put in the equation. That's
why you keep getting it wrong because you're adding where
you should be subtracting. Okay, you're dividing what you should
be multiplying. All right, So I like what Cole said
with you. You know how many of you all those

(01:04:19):
negative thoughts I've splanned out. You're probably donna split into
twelve people behind you telling you no, no, no no.
But you got to get to that, one said, I
will try. Let me try to get over there right
and just go. You know, opportunity knocks. Many of you
have missed a lot of opportunities because you was in

(01:04:39):
your head. Okay, you got to get out of that
so that you could just knock answer, see what's behind
the door. If you don't like what's behind the doors,
shut the door, go to another door. Okay, but until
you step forward and said, you know what, it's me.
I'm looking for someone in a and you know you've

(01:05:00):
always felt called you. It's something in you that you
always wanted to do. Don't be lately, don't do that?
Are you holding your hand up?

Speaker 7 (01:05:12):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (01:05:14):
I just go all right. We don't have it all
figured out. You learn as you go. Sometimes you're on
a call before the board and the teachers say work
this out or put this in a sentence. You have
no idea what's going on while that's happening, right, But
you go in there and while you're up there, something
comes to you, flem and they're like, wow, that's brilliant.
It just came to you. That's because you stepped out,

(01:05:37):
all right, you stepped out. So we're gonna close off today,
you know, as we had coached. You know, she's gonna
be forever coach right now. So, oh, coach is coaching
the coaches. Okay, so she is special. She is special. Okay.
And so and we kept talking about Hurt. We got Alicia.
She has heard her lat name is Hurt.

Speaker 5 (01:05:57):
She could tell us about her, you're funny.

Speaker 2 (01:06:06):
Oh my god, she could tell us about her. But
we could talk about this. And this is a very
light segment that you guys can tell. So this is
good because we have to have a mixture of everything.
But in the end, it's still back to all the
truth of healing. You know, healing brings that joy. You know,
you can laugh out loud and not just smile, you know.
So that is what we want for you to get

(01:06:28):
from this conference, to be empowered and what you heard
here today, put it on replay. If you don't see
it today, you see it next month. Is still today
to you? If you've seen it in twenty twenty six,
is still today to you? Twenty twenty seven still today.
I don't care when you're saying this. We're talking to
you right now.

Speaker 5 (01:06:46):
Yep, you.

Speaker 2 (01:06:47):
Nobody else but you who are watching here. So we're
gonna close off on today. Right as we close off,
we're gonna go into prayer. But I think I'm gonna
let Coach pray. Okay, We're gonna let Coach pray for us. Yes,
she prayed for each of us that are on here
and all of you that are watching wherever you are
around the world, because we are everywhere through ctr Media,

(01:07:11):
which is the TV platform okay that I'm on. Outside
of my Facebook and my Emerging Empower podcast, our website,
it goes beyond. It's in your WhatsApp group, okay, It's
in your teams. Clips will be there, in your TikTok,
in your Instagram, wherever you are. What we need you

(01:07:31):
to know is that God loves you and you can
do it. You can do it all right. There is
greatness in you, but you need to get out of
your head and just let it happen, all right, So, Coach,
we're going to go to you. As we close.

Speaker 6 (01:07:48):
Off in prayer, we thank you, our dear gracious Father
in heaven. We're so grateful to be gathered here today.
We're grateful for this wonderful conver station that we had,
for the faith and the testimony we were able to
share with one another. And we're so grateful for the
hurt and the pain, and the trials and the struggles

(01:08:11):
that we have in our lives because they teach us,
they bring us closer to THEE, and they strengthen us
and give us the skills that we need to accomplish
Thy work in the future.

Speaker 7 (01:08:21):
We pray for everybody.

Speaker 6 (01:08:22):
Who is listening right now that whatever they need to hear,
they'll be, that they will hear it, whether it's from
our voice or the voice of the Spirit, that they
will hear what they need. And we pray each and
every woman who is listening that she will have an
extra added power upon her to remember in those times
when she feels low, that she is a child of gods,

(01:08:44):
a daughter of a king. And we pray that you
give her the words and the thoughts and the strength
and the peace that she needs in the moment that
she needs it, because now is the time, all hands
on deck, for us to stand up and prepare for
prepare the way of righteousness for thee. And we just
pray that all those who are feeling called at this

(01:09:06):
time will answer that call from You, and we'll stand
up and do Thy work no matter how quote unquote
imperfect it is. We pray for thy grace and glory
upon us in the name of Jesus Christ.

Speaker 2 (01:09:17):
Amen, Amen, amben, powerful prayer. Thank you so much, ladies.
And yes, Coach will be back and we'll have a
one on one so you'll see more of her. She's
very she has a contagious joy, you know, she's like,
you know, I think everybody's calling you, Coach. You just
put it, put it in a chat, just keep saying Coach, God,

(01:09:38):
Coach right, No, Alicia go, Alicia go all right. And
so that is the atmosphere that we have right now.
So we want thank you ladies for coming on here today.
And so everyone, I'm sorry we got to go. We
want to keep you here until next week, so tune
in again. Bye bye, yep.