March 29, 2021 • 10 mins
Welcome to emotional intelligence at work - aka EQ at Work with Edythe Richards.
A peek into the new weekly podcast, hosted by career counselor Edythe Richards (MBTI Question Corner). This series features interviews with people who have overcome significant difficulties by using the concepts of emotional intelligence.
In the trailer of season 1, Edythe explains what emotional intelligence (“EQ”) is, and how it relates to resilience. This episode features clips from guests, giving listeners a preview of what to expect this season.
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A peek into the new weekly podcast, hosted by career counselor Edythe Richards (MBTI Question Corner). This series features interviews with people who have overcome significant difficulties by using the concepts of emotional intelligence.
In the trailer of season 1, Edythe explains what emotional intelligence (“EQ”) is, and how it relates to resilience. This episode features clips from guests, giving listeners a preview of what to expect this season.
Connect with us!
https://facebook.com/eqatwork
https://instagram.com/eqatwork1
https://twitter.com/eqatwork1
YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/c/ATopCareer
Web Site
https://eqatwork.net
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Nobody really cares how smart or funny or successful you
are if you can't get along with people. But that's
just part of what emotional intelligence or EQ is. I'm
(00:25):
your host Edith Richards, and you may know me from
my podcast series Meers Briggs Question Corner or my website
at top career dot com. I've spent the last twenty
years of my career helping people get smart about their careers,
and I've found lots of smart people aren't successful. Why
is that. I'm convinced it's due to emotional intelligence in EQ.
(00:48):
At work, I'm bringing you inspiring people and messages to
help you get smart about your emotions.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
It takes more than being smart. Togs smart, you have
the ability to be successful, to have better relationships, and
to be happier. You can become more emotionally intelligent over time,
but it's a choice. Every day, multiple times a day,
you make that choice. Which voice in your head do
(01:17):
you listen to? How do you respond when things don't
go your way? Do you smile and say hello to
your colleagues? Do you actively try to understand the points
of view of your partner, your children, your parents, your friends?
These are choices you make every day. You have the
ability to change your life and to get smart about
(01:40):
your emotions.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Are you a super successful person, but you let your
problems weigh you down, or you let other people's opinions
affect your self esteem, or maybe you make a lot
of excuses for why things don't go your way, or
maybe you're struggling, as my guests this season have struggled.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
I spent fourteen months looking for a job after I graduated.
Speaker 4 (02:17):
I lost my job because I really wasn't able to
read the signals they were sending.
Speaker 5 (02:23):
We have no relatives here, we have no friends here,
so it's regularly hard for us to get the recommendation
when we look.
Speaker 4 (02:32):
For a job, and I had no frame of reference
for what I was supposed to do.
Speaker 6 (02:36):
But my life got turned upside down one day my
husband got arrested. He had been living a secret life
like behind my back and committed some pretty horrible crimes.
Speaker 7 (02:45):
I ended up getting removed from my job.
Speaker 5 (02:48):
For many years.
Speaker 8 (02:49):
I was sexually assaulted by a babysitter when I was
like seven years old and she was like fourteen. And
from there I was assaulted in the military sexually.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
I could not walk. I couldn't talk. It was very
strange to wake up out of a coma and not
being able to do the things that you take for granted.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
If there's one theme that ties all these conversations together,
it's resilience. But there's a downside to resilience when it's
splashed with well meaning advice like it'll make you stronger.
Think about how difficult it is for you to make
even small personal changes. How often have you vowed not
(03:37):
to blow up at your child or your spouse, only
to find yourself in the very act of blowing up
the next day or the next hour. Or how often
have you vowed to begin an exercise or diet routine,
or not use your credit card, or clean your house
(03:58):
or stop procrastinating.
Speaker 4 (04:00):
When you live in a world that is designed for
people outter than you, you just have to keep on coming.
You basically have to learn to take the calluses and
the bruises and just run go.
Speaker 7 (04:11):
For so long, it just seemed like so many bad
things were happening to me, And I can't tell you
how many times I thought to myself that my life
couldn't possibly get any worse, And then it did, and
then it did again.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
Instead of focusing on the problems that made them resilient.
My guests this season have focused on their strengths that
got them through the hard times.
Speaker 9 (04:34):
And I took a good hard look at my skills
and assessed to what I thought I wanted to do
and were that meshed with what I could do, And
I was fortunate enough to land the position I have now.
Speaker 4 (04:46):
Gret perseverance, learn how to take a punch metaphorically. It's
good literally too. I suppose I guess I just had
no way to go but forward.
Speaker 6 (04:57):
If I didn't forgive him, I just knew there was
no I didn't feel like there was any way I
could move on in my life and heal from the
hurt that he.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Had caused me.
Speaker 8 (05:05):
And I take charge of being me and being in
charge of me and who I want to be. And
I want to be a nice, kind, loving person, and
that's who I'm going to be. I got a dog.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Whether it's from our pet dog, our friends, or even
simple distractions like movies or walks in nature. We all
need help on our journeys. The truth is, yes, resilience
(05:37):
will make you stronger, but we're often not told how
to be resilient. Martin Seligman, known as the founder of
positive psychology, has studied this phenomenon more than anyone else,
and he's found that our success is driven by one
critical factor, whether you believe you're failures are produced by
(06:02):
personal shortfalls beyond your control, or whether they are mistakes
you can fix with some effort. A successful and resilient
mindset requires emotional intelligence. Briefly, emotional intelligence is a set
of skills that help you manage your own emotions and
(06:23):
use them effectively in order to produce the behavior that
you want. Whether we realize it or not, emotions affect
everything we do, and they therefore affect whether we're successful.
And we can each choose to use emotional intelligence or not.
(06:44):
We can choose to behave a certain way with a
certain person or not, and each choice we make will
affect our relationships, our communications, and yes, our resilience. In
(07:06):
each episode this season, I'll be interviewing people I know
who have used emotional intelligence to overcome some very difficult
life events, and at the end of each episode, I'll
provide practical strategies for how you can boost your own
emotional intelligence.
Speaker 9 (07:27):
We may be on shore of ourselves, and we may
show up as a result as arrogant because we're overcompensating,
or maybe we're afraid of something, and we may show
up as hostile or defensive because we're protecting ourselves. And
it's important, I think, to try to be really aware
of how we show up. And more importantly than that,
we need to try to understand that the others in
(07:47):
the room may be showing up in one way, but
they may be feeling something completely different because we don't
know what they're facing or what they need.
Speaker 5 (07:55):
My hope is by breaking the old culture paradigms and
creating new ones, work is going to change. How we
use emotional intelligence at work is going to be liberated
because we're going to have all these new perspectives in
place that are going to be fresh and free us
(08:16):
from the old. I don't know how else to put it,
but I think it's a real opportunity.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
When we can harness our emotions and get them to
work for us rather than against us, that is what
will lead to more success, more happiness, and better overall
well being.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Tune in each week for inspiring stories of real people
who have used the concepts of emotional intelligence to level
up in their lives. In next week's opening episode, we'll
meet Lea Zibowski, a former freelance writer turned renewable energy advocate.
After changing careers at forty, Leah found herself competing for
(09:09):
jobs with a much younger crowd and struggling to pivot
her professional background to a new field. Leah demonstrates emotional
expression and shows us you're never too old to try
something new. Thanks for listening to EQ at Work. Find
(09:37):
us using the hashtag EQ at work or visit our
website eq at work dot net. Subscribe to this podcast
via iTunes, Speaker, or your favorite podcast platform. We'd love
you to leave a rating or review, and if you
have a moment, a simple share would be wonderful. Remember
(09:57):
tell your friends. Mastering your emotion matters
Nobody really cares how smart or funny or successful you
are if you can't get along with people. But that's
just part of what emotional intelligence or EQ is. I'm
(00:25):
your host Edith Richards, and you may know me from
my podcast series Meers Briggs Question Corner or my website
at top career dot com. I've spent the last twenty
years of my career helping people get smart about their careers,
and I've found lots of smart people aren't successful. Why
is that. I'm convinced it's due to emotional intelligence in EQ.
(00:48):
At work, I'm bringing you inspiring people and messages to
help you get smart about your emotions.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
It takes more than being smart. Togs smart, you have
the ability to be successful, to have better relationships, and
to be happier. You can become more emotionally intelligent over time,
but it's a choice. Every day, multiple times a day,
you make that choice. Which voice in your head do
(01:17):
you listen to? How do you respond when things don't
go your way? Do you smile and say hello to
your colleagues? Do you actively try to understand the points
of view of your partner, your children, your parents, your friends?
These are choices you make every day. You have the
ability to change your life and to get smart about
(01:40):
your emotions.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Are you a super successful person, but you let your
problems weigh you down, or you let other people's opinions
affect your self esteem, or maybe you make a lot
of excuses for why things don't go your way, or
maybe you're struggling, as my guests this season have struggled.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
I spent fourteen months looking for a job after I graduated.
Speaker 4 (02:17):
I lost my job because I really wasn't able to
read the signals they were sending.
Speaker 5 (02:23):
We have no relatives here, we have no friends here,
so it's regularly hard for us to get the recommendation
when we look.
Speaker 4 (02:32):
For a job, and I had no frame of reference
for what I was supposed to do.
Speaker 6 (02:36):
But my life got turned upside down one day my
husband got arrested. He had been living a secret life
like behind my back and committed some pretty horrible crimes.
Speaker 7 (02:45):
I ended up getting removed from my job.
Speaker 5 (02:48):
For many years.
Speaker 8 (02:49):
I was sexually assaulted by a babysitter when I was
like seven years old and she was like fourteen. And
from there I was assaulted in the military sexually.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
I could not walk. I couldn't talk. It was very
strange to wake up out of a coma and not
being able to do the things that you take for granted.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
If there's one theme that ties all these conversations together,
it's resilience. But there's a downside to resilience when it's
splashed with well meaning advice like it'll make you stronger.
Think about how difficult it is for you to make
even small personal changes. How often have you vowed not
(03:37):
to blow up at your child or your spouse, only
to find yourself in the very act of blowing up
the next day or the next hour. Or how often
have you vowed to begin an exercise or diet routine,
or not use your credit card, or clean your house
(03:58):
or stop procrastinating.
Speaker 4 (04:00):
When you live in a world that is designed for
people outter than you, you just have to keep on coming.
You basically have to learn to take the calluses and
the bruises and just run go.
Speaker 7 (04:11):
For so long, it just seemed like so many bad
things were happening to me, And I can't tell you
how many times I thought to myself that my life
couldn't possibly get any worse, And then it did, and
then it did again.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
Instead of focusing on the problems that made them resilient.
My guests this season have focused on their strengths that
got them through the hard times.
Speaker 9 (04:34):
And I took a good hard look at my skills
and assessed to what I thought I wanted to do
and were that meshed with what I could do, And
I was fortunate enough to land the position I have now.
Speaker 4 (04:46):
Gret perseverance, learn how to take a punch metaphorically. It's
good literally too. I suppose I guess I just had
no way to go but forward.
Speaker 6 (04:57):
If I didn't forgive him, I just knew there was
no I didn't feel like there was any way I
could move on in my life and heal from the
hurt that he.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Had caused me.
Speaker 8 (05:05):
And I take charge of being me and being in
charge of me and who I want to be. And
I want to be a nice, kind, loving person, and
that's who I'm going to be. I got a dog.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Whether it's from our pet dog, our friends, or even
simple distractions like movies or walks in nature. We all
need help on our journeys. The truth is, yes, resilience
(05:37):
will make you stronger, but we're often not told how
to be resilient. Martin Seligman, known as the founder of
positive psychology, has studied this phenomenon more than anyone else,
and he's found that our success is driven by one
critical factor, whether you believe you're failures are produced by
(06:02):
personal shortfalls beyond your control, or whether they are mistakes
you can fix with some effort. A successful and resilient
mindset requires emotional intelligence. Briefly, emotional intelligence is a set
of skills that help you manage your own emotions and
(06:23):
use them effectively in order to produce the behavior that
you want. Whether we realize it or not, emotions affect
everything we do, and they therefore affect whether we're successful.
And we can each choose to use emotional intelligence or not.
(06:44):
We can choose to behave a certain way with a
certain person or not, and each choice we make will
affect our relationships, our communications, and yes, our resilience. In
(07:06):
each episode this season, I'll be interviewing people I know
who have used emotional intelligence to overcome some very difficult
life events, and at the end of each episode, I'll
provide practical strategies for how you can boost your own
emotional intelligence.
Speaker 9 (07:27):
We may be on shore of ourselves, and we may
show up as a result as arrogant because we're overcompensating,
or maybe we're afraid of something, and we may show
up as hostile or defensive because we're protecting ourselves. And
it's important, I think, to try to be really aware
of how we show up. And more importantly than that,
we need to try to understand that the others in
(07:47):
the room may be showing up in one way, but
they may be feeling something completely different because we don't
know what they're facing or what they need.
Speaker 5 (07:55):
My hope is by breaking the old culture paradigms and
creating new ones, work is going to change. How we
use emotional intelligence at work is going to be liberated
because we're going to have all these new perspectives in
place that are going to be fresh and free us
(08:16):
from the old. I don't know how else to put it,
but I think it's a real opportunity.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
When we can harness our emotions and get them to
work for us rather than against us, that is what
will lead to more success, more happiness, and better overall
well being.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Tune in each week for inspiring stories of real people
who have used the concepts of emotional intelligence to level
up in their lives. In next week's opening episode, we'll
meet Lea Zibowski, a former freelance writer turned renewable energy advocate.
After changing careers at forty, Leah found herself competing for
(09:09):
jobs with a much younger crowd and struggling to pivot
her professional background to a new field. Leah demonstrates emotional
expression and shows us you're never too old to try
something new. Thanks for listening to EQ at Work. Find
(09:37):
us using the hashtag EQ at work or visit our
website eq at work dot net. Subscribe to this podcast
via iTunes, Speaker, or your favorite podcast platform. We'd love
you to leave a rating or review, and if you
have a moment, a simple share would be wonderful. Remember
(09:57):
tell your friends. Mastering your emotion matters
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