guest Ladonna Baker

ingnorance is a understement

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
I ain't believe in us. We the best mule sing.
Just play themselves while you hate and.

Speaker 2 (00:07):
Being jealous, you could be over here embracing that love, more.

Speaker 3 (00:12):
Love, more blessings, more life.

Speaker 1 (00:14):
God, Dad, did you either win with us or you
watch a swing d J? Childish child?

Speaker 4 (00:21):
Is they modest style? But look, guys, they counted inside house.

Speaker 1 (00:49):
Jeal jealous, They.

Speaker 5 (00:56):
Just praying that I crashed these those guys say, don't
want to see you that three million dollars for your
text full of money.

Speaker 1 (01:04):
I just can't relax.

Speaker 5 (01:06):
What's up? What's up? What's up? Y'all?

Speaker 2 (01:08):
We black for another action package and this is an
understatement of the podcast. And now we got we got
co hosts, and we got special special guests in the
building today and I'm you know, it's your boy, Dion Benson.

Speaker 5 (01:22):
Man.

Speaker 1 (01:22):
Really, at this point, I shouldn't even need no introduction.

Speaker 2 (01:24):
But I'm gonna keep introducing myself until y'all like and subscribe,
you know, until I know that y'all watching this.

Speaker 5 (01:30):
Man.

Speaker 2 (01:30):
So Hey, I'm gonna go ahead and we're gonna go
round the table. Let everybody introduce theyselves. Man, we just
go around the table here into my right who do
we got is him?

Speaker 1 (01:39):
What's going on, y'all?

Speaker 5 (01:42):
Dude? What's going on? Man?

Speaker 1 (01:43):
Have some beautiful women over here?

Speaker 2 (01:45):
Yes, yes, it is, Yes, it is the best looking
women in the city. Man, got tired of looking at your.

Speaker 5 (01:52):
Man?

Speaker 1 (01:53):
Make you this day?

Speaker 5 (01:53):
Come up?

Speaker 1 (01:54):
You heard when I'm seeing that flyer? Ou said, oh, ship,
come on Friday.

Speaker 2 (01:58):
Come on Friday.

Speaker 1 (02:01):
And to the to the right, waiting on Christmas Day,
come on and get hurt.

Speaker 2 (02:08):
Packages is getting open the day man, and to the
right to tell you who do we have today?

Speaker 6 (02:13):
Hi?

Speaker 7 (02:13):
Everybody, This is Jackie your lordus link founder, President's CEO
and queen here in the flash.

Speaker 1 (02:18):
Oh okay, right, right, okay.

Speaker 2 (02:23):
Right right right right that supernatural ship right hey, the
table start lifting up. She is not Yes, I'm not
not average, not average. She's oh yeah, snatched it out
of the earth. That's it, out of the earth now
right next to Jackie.

Speaker 1 (02:42):
Who do we have here? Selena d that's our call?

Speaker 5 (02:46):
Hot selenad?

Speaker 1 (02:49):
What else? Selena? What's going on now?

Speaker 2 (02:53):
As some everything? And to the right of Selena, who
do we have? Go ahead and introduce.

Speaker 6 (02:58):
Yourself the infamous Slidanna Baker.

Speaker 1 (03:01):
Hold on. She said that she said, she said, he
from you.

Speaker 2 (03:13):
I'm trying to hit everything on the table, hold on
everything on the table, special and specialist guesses in the building.

Speaker 1 (03:23):
We don't even know how she she made time for
this today. She she had. You know, I got all
the love.

Speaker 2 (03:31):
Man, don't make me turn up on camera, man, don't
make me do that. Hey, to the right, another family
member of man right here, Man, what's something?

Speaker 5 (03:39):
I know what it is? Baby? You know t K
A k A big slim a k A sixty seven
keen baby, Yeah, yeah, Hey, it just.

Speaker 1 (03:51):
Got hot in her a ka a k a a
ka So yeah.

Speaker 2 (04:02):
Hey, So we're gonna have some rooms make sure when
one person talking, we try to let them make sure
they got the mic.

Speaker 1 (04:06):
If you got something to add to we add to it.

Speaker 2 (04:08):
But we ain't trying not to overtalk each other because
everybody really want to hear what we all got to
say about everything when everybody talking.

Speaker 1 (04:14):
So I just want to kick it off, man. I
just want to ask y'all.

Speaker 2 (04:16):
Man, since I last seen you, how everything been going
in your life?

Speaker 5 (04:19):
Man?

Speaker 2 (04:19):
How your week being real quick? How you a couple
of weeks been since the last time I seen your team?
And you pass it on as we passed my week.

Speaker 1 (04:27):
Boys, Man, I told you to hur hur Friday, dude,
Come on to Friday Due it's here. That's good to
hurt Is dude. I'm glad it's her, dude. So you've
been waiting half You didn't wait when you put that
flour up out? Come on? So you what is it?
Just Tuesday? So hey?

Speaker 5 (04:43):
Just wisday?

Speaker 1 (04:46):
Hey Thursday? Friday was earlier this morning when got my
hurt cutting ship. Hey, did you say you would have
got her cut? Head on it? I usually do it myself.
I make sure somebody else did it today.

Speaker 2 (04:58):
So hold on fresh one little diner poster to make
a man go get his hair. Let me tell you, man,
it's just a flying team. It's more than the fly.
Did you hear her name?

Speaker 5 (05:08):
Man? I did?

Speaker 1 (05:09):
I did? Man? Come on now she's about to tell
us what's up with him? Hey?

Speaker 2 (05:14):
Hey, well we gotta go. We got everybody how they
week knowing? Man, it's about all of us today that
your week being.

Speaker 3 (05:19):
It was really good. I went to the Essence Fat
New Orleans for the first time.

Speaker 1 (05:22):
It was amazing.

Speaker 3 (05:23):
I got to network meet a lot of great people.

Speaker 7 (05:25):
Really, it was an amazing experience, way better than I expected. No,
I went to the Janet Knight, so she did amazing.

Speaker 5 (05:37):
Yes, she said she will be bad.

Speaker 3 (05:39):
Yeah, I definitely will.

Speaker 8 (05:42):
My friends been saying we're gonna go for so long
and still haven't made it.

Speaker 6 (05:45):
But next year we're gonna have to do it.

Speaker 3 (05:48):
It's definitely worth it.

Speaker 6 (05:49):
I can believe that.

Speaker 1 (05:53):
All right. Then, Hey, I'm over here doing technical duties. Also,
you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 5 (05:58):
Right now?

Speaker 2 (05:59):
You got two people watching right now, hey man. But
now Jack said she went to the Essence Festival. It's
like where all the black people get together and uh,
just celebrate blackness.

Speaker 1 (06:07):
What's going over the black vendors.

Speaker 7 (06:10):
And I loved it because you know, my nonprofit is
to rebuild the Black Wall Street. So to see all
of our people down there supporting each other and building
each other up and just loving on each other.

Speaker 3 (06:19):
No drama, no, none of That's what it's all about.
This beautiful experience.

Speaker 2 (06:22):
Oh you you barely get a beautiful experience nowadays. Just
to have us all be able to come together and
the joint event, that's dope, you know what I'm saying,
Because we know that's that's rare right there.

Speaker 5 (06:31):
So you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (06:32):
You can fourth of July about twenty people that called it,
but we ain't gonna talk about that right now.

Speaker 8 (06:37):
For to me, you know, going on for as long
as it has and still you know, being able to
have it every year, going down like how you go
down there?

Speaker 2 (06:46):
Yeah, and just to know somebody that actually went. That's
something I see on TV and in the magazine. How the
Essence Festival was. I never You're the first person I
knew that went to the Essence Festival. Shout out to
Jackie for hitting that festival. Now up to you, Selina.
What's been going on? You know, how your how your
week being? Tell us about it? What's special to happen
this week?

Speaker 1 (07:07):
Eight?

Speaker 5 (07:08):
What every birthday?

Speaker 1 (07:11):
Every birthday?

Speaker 5 (07:16):
Yes?

Speaker 6 (07:16):
Yes, range for the first time.

Speaker 2 (07:20):
Oh okay, I enjoyed that too much.

Speaker 6 (07:26):
What was your shooting Draco?

Speaker 5 (07:29):
Oh my god, with the big stuff.

Speaker 6 (07:34):
The big stuffy.

Speaker 5 (07:39):
Yeah. Okay.

Speaker 2 (07:40):
So if you're thinking about running up on it, don't
don't do it right, don't do it. They do it
pretty got something, pretty enough purse. Let's just say that.
So you didn't have fun at the gun range, girl.

Speaker 1 (07:51):
It's it's a lot of magic. It's it's guns. I
can't wait to hear it was about to happen next day.

Speaker 6 (07:58):
I think every woman needs to, you know, get them something.

Speaker 5 (08:01):
I agree. I agree. These days these dudes are.

Speaker 2 (08:04):
Heard crazy and female is crazy because and we're gonna
get back to the just say the popeins of churches
or something. The lady came. She the lady got out
of the corner. I think killed the worker female she did.
We get back to it, but I wish I would
have got the fast. But it did just happen this week. Yeah,
tell us about that chicken man that two pieces. They

(08:26):
always just like bush niggas worried about chicken.

Speaker 5 (08:33):
First.

Speaker 8 (08:34):
To control yourself too, Like when you're dealing with somebody crazy,
you gotta know when to be able to handle yourself
in that situation. You know what I'm saying, control your emotions,
true and just walk away.

Speaker 6 (08:46):
Sometimes it works.

Speaker 1 (08:47):
Did y'all hear Selena?

Speaker 2 (08:48):
Selena said, if you can't control yourself, just walk off
because you might save yourself some jail time. You know, yeah,
all your life, your life, her life.

Speaker 8 (08:58):
You know you're dealing with somebody that's hingem you gotta
know Okay, let me. I can't control her, but I
can control me. Let me not go back and forth
with you and just leave it. You got it, You
got it all this chicken. If I can walk away with.

Speaker 2 (09:17):
My life, yes, I think we might dive into that shortly.
And I don't road raging no more. Don't go to
horn and nobody no more.

Speaker 1 (09:24):
I'll let you let it go.

Speaker 6 (09:27):
And I and I do.

Speaker 8 (09:28):
I deal with that a lot at my job, and
a lot of our coworkers will be like, you know what,
You're just a voice the reason if it wasn't for you,
ain't no telling where I'd be right now, because some
of the stuff is just not worth it.

Speaker 2 (09:40):
Will listen, I promise you were diving into that today.
This is gonna be a spectacular show.

Speaker 5 (09:45):
They might as well.

Speaker 2 (09:46):
If you ain't watching this, man, you better tune in,
not go get your family and crowd around the TV.
Tune in and close your kids eares. But we're gonna
get back and just go ahead and get back.

Speaker 6 (09:54):
To Malia cut her off. You be watching this, but
that's about it.

Speaker 8 (10:00):
I turned thirty eight when the gun rage and just
was surrounded by a bunch of love.

Speaker 2 (10:04):
Oh hey, where you're still surrounded by love. You know,
we love your hair and happy birthday once again. Hey,
ain't nothing but love. We're gonna take it to you.

Speaker 9 (10:15):
Look, Donald Baker, my week meditation preparing for this to
make sure I had a proper message and ask God
to flow it to make sure people that's watching and
hear what I finally got to say.

Speaker 10 (10:26):
Because I don't ever tell anybody personal business. But you know,
today is the day to be real and wrong with
you guys. So if you got questions, don't forget to
call in.

Speaker 6 (10:34):
Ignorance is an understatement, and don't you forget it.

Speaker 2 (10:37):
Yeah, the podcast, that's what I'm talking about. Cash here
to fix everything, Tea breaks it, cashes fix it.

Speaker 1 (10:47):
That's what we do around here.

Speaker 2 (10:50):
And hey, we're about to get into it because you
know what, like I said, you are our special guests today.

Speaker 5 (10:55):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (10:56):
We definitely everybody want to hear from you. It's a
lot of people I've seen on the socials cannot wait
to hear what you got to say, and that a
lot of people know your journey, know what you've been
going through, but it's a lot that don't don't know
what's going on and need to know because they need
to know behind every pretty face And they got three
pretty phrases here clude with full of the mind pretty too,
but it's full nice face here.

Speaker 1 (11:15):
But it's a story behind all of that and it
needs to be told.

Speaker 2 (11:18):
So we're gonna go ahead and take it to you
big slim Tony aka man mister dunk on everybody, aka
mister don't leave your girlfriend next to him because he'd.

Speaker 1 (11:28):
Be making dudes scared in the club. But what's up, man?
What's been going on this week for you?

Speaker 5 (11:33):
Man? Man, it's been a straight straight roller coaster for
real man, Like you know, with I'm glad you asked
me that, so we can go around the table and
you know, just your opinion on what I was vented.
I vented a lot last weekend this week, so as

(11:55):
everybody know, well you probably don't know deep d know,
I lost my dad year and a half ago. So
my mom's a widow. So she got brothers that's in
the fifties and sixties calling all the time, begging her
for money. My mama is seventy two, seventy three on

(12:17):
crib holding it down. You know, we go to her house.
She done remodeled the mug, you know, doing her thing.
And I got up to the point where these are
my uncles that my kids don't even know half of them.
So I got to the point where I snapped because
it was just weighing on me so much where I
couldn't hold it in no more because I was gonna

(12:39):
react like the young lady just said about, you know,
controlling your emotions and my emotions. It was a good
thing I was at home when I said what I said,
because I called them out and NAMES told them to
quit begging my mom for money. She's your whole widow
out her getting it herself. Y'all need to get y'all
grown ass up and get a fucking job a great period.

(13:00):
So I rubbed some feathers, but I don't care. And
I told them if they want that smoke, the keys
boys are going all the smoke if y'all think y'all
about that. And I was dead serious. Wow, So you
know fellas with moms or yeah, you know your young
ladies with moms and stuff that of that nature. And
everybody here done lost. Somebody likes I know, you know

(13:22):
me and to you what you know stuff for her
and her dad when when her dad passed and my
my pops passed and stuff and that right there, I
just felt like they've been taking advantage of my mom.
She you know, harder go Christian fear and woman, and
I just got fed up.

Speaker 1 (13:41):
Wow, So what happened is that?

Speaker 5 (13:44):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (13:45):
You sound like you you probably when you say don't
nobody want to smoke?

Speaker 2 (13:48):
You sound like you off with the smoke out there?
Oh yeah, I did you know if that size and
then it's not a joke, but it's at seventy nine
against that's your science.

Speaker 1 (13:57):
I don't think they really want to smoke with you.
He about seven nine.

Speaker 2 (14:01):
But I'm just saying no, I get it though, man,
because it doesn't matter who it is or whatever, when
it comes down to moms. Man, you know, uh, you know,
some of us don't play about our moms. You know
what I'm saying, Yeah, you get one, and some don't
play about about their mom's, especially especially when your mama
come through that struggling and raising you and making it.
Yes likely you don't play about yours. You know what

(14:23):
I'm saying. I get you. I know exactly where you're
coming from. It's unfortunate that y'all got to go through that.
Hopefully whoever your uncles is or whatever. You know what
I'm saying, they need to go get a job. And
I got smoked for him too. They want extra smoke
because now if something happened to you, hey, you wanta
little gas pipe. But what I'm saying, but what I'm saying,

(14:44):
it's unfortunate, man, And I just hope everything kind of
works itself out.

Speaker 1 (14:47):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 5 (14:48):
It's good. I mean, nobody has said nothing, and it's
good because I meant what I said, and I didn't
care who felt what about what at this point because
us you know, like say, my mom is still working,
she's still you know, doing things, you know what I
grant you know, my grandkids and things of that nature.

(15:09):
And it just got to a point where enough was
enough and you're not you're not gonna do that, yeah,
period before because my dad was straight over g. My
dad was a straight over. My daddy was a straight
o G. He won't play that at all. Wasn't gonna
play that. Nest going, So now okay, we can you know,

(15:32):
and my mama giving my mama giving person, she she
coming right now, She'll be like, off the rip, got
her sons, these my daughters. That's just the way she is.
Yet a laugh of her back, like I say, Christopher,
and woman, you know my mama pastor, and just a
simple fact. They trying to take advantage of it. And
like so I've been quiet a long time. I just

(15:54):
never said that. I've just been quiet. But I lost
my breaking point.

Speaker 6 (15:58):
She had a son, a couple of.

Speaker 5 (16:02):
The seven nine.

Speaker 8 (16:04):
Yeah, yeah, protection, so you can go ahead and try
to take advantage of all you got sons sold on.

Speaker 2 (16:11):
Yeah, and these are brothers and yeah, and they got
to put you in the acquaposition because.

Speaker 1 (16:16):
But I get it.

Speaker 2 (16:17):
They'm supposed to be your uncles, and they supposed to
be the ones that set example for you in life.
They not the example. Should never be the calling bigger
woman for money. You know, I understand needed some help.

Speaker 1 (16:27):
It's a difference between needing the help and I'm just
begging for some money.

Speaker 5 (16:30):
Now.

Speaker 2 (16:30):
When you need some help to get back on your feet,
people understand that, but nobody understands the fact that you're
just trying to get your tonight come up. You know
what I'm saying. No genuine help is genuine help. You know,
maybe I can give you a job lead or something.
That's what real help is, just Collin just trying to
ask somebody for what they don't work on for. Man's
happening with society, and it shows even the older society
have gotten to the point where they nobody wants to

(16:52):
do for themselves any longer. They everybody want to take
from the next person, you know, and the subject to
your downfall as they come up, you know, and when
you need then you're gonna looking at the same people.
Ain't nobody gonna be able to help, you know what
I'm saying. So you gotta definitely keep it eye on people.
That's that's negative negative dreams on your on your battery
and your mom, Casey, your brothers are negative dreams and
they probably been like that. This probably ain't new. This

(17:12):
is probably the first you ever heard of it. She's
probably been keeping that under wraps for a long time.

Speaker 5 (17:16):
Well you know, she she she will help, Like I said,
my mom will give her last man. But when it
started being taken advantage of in the sense of Okay,
you're an able body and you still not out here
doing what you need to do to get a job.
You know, you really not you want people to take
care of you. At this point, get feeling Oh yeah,

(17:40):
so cut off is cutoff. So I like say that
that's a rap. That's a rap I told is done.
I agree, well, that a shot.

Speaker 6 (17:48):
I don't feel bad for cutting off toxic family.

Speaker 1 (17:51):
Oh no, no doubt, no doubt at all.

Speaker 2 (17:56):
Yeah, this is this is wholeheartedly true because I think everybody,
everybody got deep rooted family issues. Oh shit, we can
go on a lot about you know what I'm saying,
because it'd be funny how you got your I'll be
finding to cray. I remember growing up here, like, well
sometimes blood, you know, blood make you family and all that.
But you know, you can have somebody that's not even
related to you, that could be closer to you than

(18:20):
your family.

Speaker 6 (18:21):
You know what I'm saying, And what you create.

Speaker 1 (18:24):
Yeah, I believe in that.

Speaker 8 (18:27):
I fully believe in that that family you created.

Speaker 2 (18:31):
Yes, yes, you have to you know, and it's all
about just you know, watching yourself when it comes down
to the family. I say that much, you know, not
to disrespecg nobody, but you got to really watch yourself
because the first ones that take that advantage.

Speaker 1 (18:44):
Maybe they're gonna do.

Speaker 6 (18:46):
It money making Mitch.

Speaker 2 (19:00):
To Yeah, well hopefully you know what I'm saying. Family,
y'all out there listening. If you're a bum member of
a family, kiss my ass. And that's what we're gonna say.
So now let's let's we're gonna bring it back to
Thetdonald's you know, because we we we go because we
can go on and on about this. This gonna be
a two hour show. So you know, we know you
got a lot going on.

Speaker 5 (19:19):
Man.

Speaker 2 (19:20):
I noticed you you was going from the Internet for
a while. The Internet was missing you. We want to
want to tell you. Yeah, I didn't know the timeframe,
but I just knew you was not there.

Speaker 1 (19:29):
Understand why I get it now, LaDonna left the Internet
and it crashed apparently.

Speaker 5 (19:37):
So.

Speaker 6 (19:40):
Let's get it to it. So after I lost my father,
I found myself.

Speaker 5 (19:44):
In like sorry to hear that.

Speaker 6 (19:46):
Let me remind this and that's okay.

Speaker 1 (19:48):
I'm here, go ahead, go ahead, we want take it back.

Speaker 10 (19:52):
I used to look at mental health and stay, oh,
you know, I would see people commit suicide and go
through different different things, and I never understood it, right,
I could sympathize with you show empathy, but I never.

Speaker 6 (20:03):
Understood it until after my father died. When my father passed.

Speaker 10 (20:06):
I found myself just I remember waking up crying because
it was my actual reality and I didn't know how
to live in that reality without him.

Speaker 6 (20:16):
People say, you know, yeah, I love my dad or what.

Speaker 10 (20:18):
My dad was an important figure because he was at everything.
Everybody that was around me knew my father. He was
at my deliveries of my birth. Anytime I'm in a hospital, up,
I'm going to the airport. Dad, Come give me Dad,
I'm not feeling well. He'll drive out to my house
at three o'clock in the morning. He was there every
single day. So to continue life without him, I didn't
know who I was because I did everything for him

(20:38):
and I wanted to make him proud. So after I
lost him, I found myself in depression for the first
time ever because it was a traumatic experience that I
didn't realize what it was until years later. So I
found myself posting on social media, you know, traveling the
world doing all that fake shit. It was fake and
I said, you know what, let me take a step back.
I said, because in order for me to get to
the next level, I'm gonna have to heal completely, and

(21:02):
I can't have people following me wanting me to mentor
you know, mentor them, and I'm not healed. It'll be
fake of me to do that. So I took two
years off of social media to figure out how to heal.

Speaker 6 (21:13):
It was days I.

Speaker 10 (21:14):
Woke up and I didn't have purpose anymore, and everybody
that knows me, no, I have so much purpose in life,
like I can business. My mindset is me, I'm gonna
go out here and get it, make away and make
sure all my businesses are successful. At that point, I
didn't have purpose, I didn't have drive, I didn't want
to do anything. I just wanted to land in bed,
and I started talking to a therapist, which our Black

(21:35):
community is probably not you know too found on talking
to therapist. But I think it's so necessary for us
to get that help and seek that help when we
need it, because it'll make us better. But I wanted
to die. I got addicted to opioids because opioids covered

(21:55):
the pain and mask the pain. I didn't feel anything
when I was taking pain medications, sound myself taking more
more more. It felt so good, and only the closest
people to me would recognize, like, you know, my friend
le Donna. She always going, she's always bubbly, she's always
uplifting and encouraging everybody. Something's wrong. So I would have
people come over to my house and see me. You

(22:15):
for example, Sierra for example, we're not a Christy. Everybody
would come and see me to just try to make
me better. But it took time because I never wanted
to die. I was okay with dying in that moment,
just to be with him and let me sound so
glad you did.

Speaker 2 (22:32):
Yeah, we are so glad the world needed you.

Speaker 10 (22:36):
My mother is around, but she hasn't been a significant
part of my life.

Speaker 5 (22:39):
Okay.

Speaker 10 (22:40):
So again, losing that and not having a relationship with
my mother the way that most females do, it affected
me ten times harder because he was my support. So
he was my mom, he was my dad. I got
my god mother, Sarah. She's there for me one hundred percent.
She drove me in from Mississippi to support me. But
it's just sometimes some support it may not be enough

(23:01):
in that moment, you know what I mean, You just
don't know what to feel. You feel so many different
emotions and so many what's life worth living if you
don't have the most important people next to you? True,
you know, I worked hard because I wanted to buy
my dad a house. I worked hard because I wanted
to make sure my kids were okay. And people like,
you know, you got your kids, I said, I know,
I got my kids, but I'm just like, I.

Speaker 6 (23:21):
Don't even know.

Speaker 10 (23:22):
I don't even know, Like I don't even know how
to look at my kids and want to be here
for them because I can't get over my hurt.

Speaker 6 (23:29):
And it was selfish.

Speaker 10 (23:30):
So me realizing how selfish that was, that's when I
took control over my life and tried to get the
assistance that I needed, as far as the therapy, as
far as taking the two years off of social media
to actually heal. Because people would reach out to me,
I wouldn't respind you reached out to me. I didn't respond.
It was just I didn't know how to take all
of those emotions in at once.

Speaker 6 (23:49):
It was a blur.

Speaker 10 (23:50):
My whole life after my dad died was a blur
for about two years.

Speaker 6 (23:53):
I don't even remember.

Speaker 10 (23:53):
I don't even remember seeing I know you was there,
but I don't remember seeing half of the people that
was there to support me.

Speaker 6 (23:58):
When I look back, I'm like, dang, you you there too.
I don't remember none of that because I was slowing.

Speaker 5 (24:04):
Just I remember I remembering because I left work telling
me it was like, my girl needs you. Can you
can you? I was like, yeah, I'm on my way
cause she she always spoke so highly about about you
and stuff like that, and uh, I just it was
the second thought. I said, well, we say, that's your
girl on my way. And I remember being there and

(24:26):
I could tell at the thing, I know you were
just trying to do everything, make sure everything was perfect
for him, is send off and stuff like that.

Speaker 6 (24:34):
And I did it by myself. I did my father
send off by myself.

Speaker 10 (24:38):
So imagine that. Imagine losing your father, the closest person
to you, and then happening to send them off by yourself,
playing everything from me to tea.

Speaker 1 (24:46):
It takes strength.

Speaker 8 (24:49):
And doing the bond is man, It's deep, that's deep.

Speaker 6 (24:54):
That's our first love. Our father is our first love.
My oldest sister, she did not show up.

Speaker 10 (25:01):
What in same father, same father, the man everybody that
my dad and my dad is like. He was so
laid back, loved everybody, just chill, will do anything for anybody,
but my sister, you know, sometimes you know, she Lord
forgive me for those that's watching, but I'm gonna release
the troop. Okay, be mad, but she had mental health issues,

(25:24):
you know, and she just blamed everybody else for her
problems instead of taking accountability. So she blamed my father
for a lot of things. So she didn't show up
to the funeral, which was unexcusable, but it is what
it is. I was there and I made sure he
was very properly. His funeral was absolutely beautiful.

Speaker 6 (25:40):
But it was rough.

Speaker 10 (25:42):
And I'm glad I'm here today because now today that
I came back in January, I have a support system
out in California that I fly out to a lot,
and I goes with therapy every week, and I've been
the best version of myself to actually figure out who
I am as a person internally, not just on the outside.

Speaker 5 (26:00):
True.

Speaker 10 (26:01):
You know, people see me on the outside, she's beautiful,
she's cute, but they don't know the glow that comes
from the inside that makes me better than all my
intents and everything that I do in life to make
me a better person.

Speaker 8 (26:11):
That's that purpose to find out who we are that is,
that's not so perpose and until we find that.

Speaker 10 (26:18):
I think it was my guide, my dad guiding me
into finding who I was. I remember the last time,
the second to the last time I spoke to him.

Speaker 6 (26:27):
He I used to tell them.

Speaker 10 (26:28):
He would hold my hand in the car because we
was coming from court because I was dealing with a
custody battle with my baby daddy.

Speaker 6 (26:32):
Fuck you.

Speaker 1 (26:36):
Emphasis on that.

Speaker 6 (26:49):
About let's get into it.

Speaker 10 (26:51):
He held my hand and we were always seeing Winnie Houston.

Speaker 6 (26:53):
I will always love you.

Speaker 10 (26:54):
I don't know if you was at the funeral part
when I had somebody come in and seeing that, but
he would hold my hand and we're saying that together
and talk stuff, and I said, Dad, I looked over
and I said, I don't know how I will live
life without you. He said, baby, you will be just fine.
You will figure it out because you have to and
you are mine, and you're gonna be my living legacy.
And to this day I try to live in that
path and be his living living legacy.

Speaker 5 (27:15):
Or you know what.

Speaker 6 (27:16):
I'm so glad you back now you test.

Speaker 2 (27:20):
Yes, it is because hopefully somebody listening to it, and
if you ain't hear auple key things that.

Speaker 6 (27:24):
She said, you can reach just one person.

Speaker 2 (27:26):
Yes, and the fact that she mentioned it sounded like
a big part of your healing with therapy. And I
heard you mentioned that you said a lot of us
in the black community do not see therapy. It's you
probably may be the one of the out of the funeral.
Who else maybe going to therapy. I've never seen the therapist,
but maybe I can use a talk with the therapists
sometimes too. It is crazy out here. You're an appointment, dude, But.

Speaker 1 (27:48):
Yes, and I think so.

Speaker 2 (27:49):
But as as what happened though, as black men know,
I'm glad that the women that started. So maybe y'all
can start talking to your men and your life and
try to get them to go maybe go that route
to even you know, to have a conversation because we
so we so I don't.

Speaker 1 (28:04):
Yeah, it's it's someone. I don't know, if it's just
test tossed or whatever you want.

Speaker 5 (28:08):
To call it.

Speaker 1 (28:10):
I ain't doing that because we over there.

Speaker 7 (28:15):
But it's not just that, y'all know, we conditioned that
way black people.

Speaker 3 (28:18):
It's conditioned as a whole to keep our feelings in
We weren't.

Speaker 7 (28:22):
We were definitely talked to keep our mouths closed about
especially about.

Speaker 3 (28:26):
What goes on in the household.

Speaker 7 (28:27):
Yeah, so in my adul life, I will Yeah, I've done.
I had a therapist and a specual counselor at the
same time just to get me to where I am now.
So it is definitely important for our people to tap
in and realize.

Speaker 3 (28:40):
That mental health is issues are real for us and
it's not okay.

Speaker 7 (28:44):
Some of the things that we were taught as children
were not right, and it's okay to say, hey, that
was wrong.

Speaker 3 (28:49):
Let me do something different that didn't work, because I.

Speaker 2 (28:54):
Don't think I should have ever got a whooping, should
start going church church for me, and I feel should
have talked to me. Yeah, we should have talked because
in the corner, yeah, my white friend, my wife friends
just missed the dinner.

Speaker 1 (29:09):
Dude, I got a bad woman.

Speaker 2 (29:12):
And all I'm saying is that you know what I'm
what I'm saying is that you still that's still getting
treated a little animalistic.

Speaker 5 (29:17):
Not for me.

Speaker 1 (29:18):
It worked though, because it kept me on the right track.
But now these days you can't touch these kids.

Speaker 2 (29:23):
And I think it is I think you still do
need some discipline honestly, you know, I joke about the
wooden pole. But due to the lack of discipline, we
got a bunch of young animals running around because they't
no more discipline.

Speaker 5 (29:32):
It's not so with their kids after school. Yeah, that
took prayer after school.

Speaker 1 (29:40):
You said they took prayer after school.

Speaker 5 (29:42):
When they took prayer to school? What nineties?

Speaker 6 (29:46):
Yeah, many years ago.

Speaker 5 (29:48):
I know. Oklahoma is just they just passed the bill
bringing them back.

Speaker 8 (29:53):
Raising two boys, so I had to put in them.
I have a seven year old, but I also have
a twenty year old.

Speaker 6 (30:00):
They know when the school used to call say I'm.

Speaker 5 (30:02):
Calling your mama, Mama moved.

Speaker 6 (30:06):
It wasn't even whoopings that I had to do.

Speaker 8 (30:07):
It was just having that, Hey, you get yourself together,
because if you come home, I'm taking everything away, all
that fun stuff that you like to do, there's no.

Speaker 6 (30:17):
More of that. You have to put your.

Speaker 1 (30:20):
Hand, take a grown person's phone and lose.

Speaker 6 (30:29):
The key to that is stop giving your kids everything.

Speaker 8 (30:33):
When you give them everything, then they have they're not
going to be scared of nothing.

Speaker 6 (30:37):
You're giving them everything.

Speaker 8 (30:39):
Whatever they asked for you giving, you're giving it, so
they not waiting around for anything.

Speaker 6 (30:44):
They're not wishing for something like how we did when
we was kids. Hope my mom get what I asked
for for Christmas.

Speaker 8 (30:50):
But now these kids getting everything that they asked for,
So they spoil your rot.

Speaker 5 (30:59):
That's because I ain't half ship. That's I can't do it.

Speaker 6 (31:04):
But that's why that's.

Speaker 5 (31:07):
How I feel, because we came up from dirt doors
like it was, you know, sharing rooms and ship with
your brothers, limiting TVs and ship. So if you got it,
like if I got it, to give it, I'm going
I'm just not giving it just because I'm giving Yeah,
I'm giving it to them. Their grades are good. I
got both my both my babies straight. Their students. They

(31:31):
do what they supposed to for the most wide, we
raise some great kids. So I give them, you know
on the actions that they showed us. You know, I
give everything, but they can show us they can take
care of the stuff we already got them. I moved
to the next thing. You know, you appreciative of that.
I can move to the next thing. So, yes, they.

Speaker 8 (31:51):
Got d teams out here getting stuff when they ain't
even bringing good grades home.

Speaker 5 (31:56):
I ain't doing that.

Speaker 6 (31:57):
You ain't doing that back about ten plus.

Speaker 1 (32:00):
You just go.

Speaker 8 (32:00):
This woman used to be in the line for her kids, Jordan's.
She would have to leave work to go get in
line every month for his grades wasn't good.

Speaker 1 (32:10):
That's because she didn't have ship growing up. So that
I can't blame it because I didn't. And I make
sure my girl check these Jordan's up their You're gonna
be killing the olds. The school girl took this ship out.

Speaker 8 (32:20):
But what is she giving to receive these good things?
But then when you got the offensive the world, she's
gonna think the world owe her that.

Speaker 1 (32:32):
I hear you, but you feel what I'm.

Speaker 6 (32:33):
Saying, And that's.

Speaker 3 (32:34):
Where she's gonna be at church is chicken acting.

Speaker 6 (32:36):
The food of.

Speaker 8 (32:49):
You know, some kids, you you gotta, like he said,
bring home some good grades out do this for you.
But you can't be out her acting a fool. It's
still getting those benefits. But that's what's going on in
the world right now. These kids are getting everything that
they won't and they don't have to work for it
at all, and.

Speaker 6 (33:08):
Then they go out in the world and try to
take from everybody.

Speaker 8 (33:11):
So when they get older, that's why they still asking
at thirty years old, feel like you should still be
taking care of them. You created that monster. No, you
can't cut him off at thirty five. Now he gonna
come for your head. Oh my, Ma'm gonna kill you.

Speaker 6 (33:25):
You've been taking care of me since I was little, giving.

Speaker 8 (33:28):
Me everything I won't Now I don't know how to
be a civilized adult. You ever taught me how to
be an adult, you know what I'm saying. You never
pushed me to do anything. Like when I started making money,
you never told me to start saving and giving me
something to the side to put away.

Speaker 10 (33:44):
You.

Speaker 8 (33:45):
When I started making my own money, you still was
letting me do whatever I want to do, buy whatever
I want. You never showed them any discipline, any responsibility.
So when they become forty years old and you're tired
of taking cur of them, now they're killing you.

Speaker 7 (33:57):
Yeah, or they can't think that because they don't for
an answer, or they are that spread of poverty will
never leave because they don't. They have poor spending habits
because they're so used to just being able to get
everything that they want.

Speaker 6 (34:11):
And not to say anything, don't know.

Speaker 2 (34:14):
But if you look at it, this generation is raising
it no matter what because you got we all pretty
much in here. We grew up having a supervisor and
a manager. This new generation, the new generation, oh no,
they work for themselves. They look at us like they
look at us like we're making bad decisions by going
to work every day. So whatever happened in society to

(34:35):
break down is that they don't want to work no more.

Speaker 1 (34:38):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 6 (34:38):
They ain't trying to work work for them They still working, well, not.

Speaker 1 (34:42):
No, they want to work for themselves, necessarily working for themselves.

Speaker 2 (34:44):
I should say they want to work, not working intil
some magic wal happen now.

Speaker 1 (34:49):
But I remember being so.

Speaker 2 (34:51):
Happy at Harty's or so happy at McDonald's because you know,
I'm working to get what I need to get. But
this new generation they're like, man, I'm not going to
do this on it. And it's because they have that
entrepreneur you know, mentality. But most of them ain't. They
just got the mentality. They didn't have to work that
thing exactly. And it comes from what you just said.
They come from being raised that way until a sense

(35:13):
of entitle It's a lot of grown entitled men out here.
It's a lot of men at home right now waiting
on y'all calls.

Speaker 1 (35:18):
You know what I'm saying, get off this podcast so
they can drive your ship. They waiting for you to
get off the podcast.

Speaker 2 (35:26):
They went if you got the podcast, so you know
what I'm saying, they can use your card at the
end of the day.

Speaker 1 (35:30):
We always just as something around here. But yeah, it's
just a lot of that, you know.

Speaker 2 (35:34):
And another thing due to the fact that what I've noticed,
men don't even do men jobs no more. Anyway, women
are doing that. All the men jobs have you'll knowed
we got. I'm not gonna say, what's a man? What
used to be a man drops looked upon.

Speaker 1 (35:46):
Was like, for instance, truck drivers black job.

Speaker 2 (35:48):
You used to see all men truck drives. Not so
many women drives trucks.

Speaker 3 (35:52):
It ain't nothing wrong with that.

Speaker 2 (35:53):
No, it ain't said nothing wrong with it. But I'm
just saying, dude, men ain't even doing man jobs.

Speaker 1 (35:57):
No men doing the truck driving too.

Speaker 2 (35:59):
That just women just to They can make a whole
bunch of money doing it too, So that's what you're doing.

Speaker 6 (36:04):
There's a lot of women in construction.

Speaker 1 (36:07):
Drum I know something. But there's a lot of men
that drive truck.

Speaker 2 (36:17):
All I'm saying is that women look like men ain't
stopped driving. Is women are moving into normal men populated jobs.
Normally women would not work at a construction, say, but
now she will. I'm not saying that's a problem with it,
Charlemagne Terrence. Nobody's saying him. I'm him, I'm stupid. Look

(36:47):
like a fifty seven year old young boys cover here
just like we ain't young boy, but I swear to dude,
but now anyway, but no, we just I'm just saying
that's what I've been noticing there. And it's just like
a lot of role reversals, not because women are bringing
home the bag and the men like women or the
strong dominant force in the house and the dudes is
in the club with the persons.

Speaker 1 (37:05):
So I just want to know what happened? Wow, what happened?

Speaker 6 (37:10):
Was it was?

Speaker 1 (37:14):
It started?

Speaker 7 (37:15):
And I actually just did alive about this about who
has it worse, the black man or the black woman.
But the reality is that neither one of us has
it worse. We were all conditioned to be against each
other and one and one of those strategies that they
used to divide us was like with the welfare and
things like that.

Speaker 3 (37:33):
So once they did that, kicked the man out the house.

Speaker 7 (37:36):
That started making the women think, Okay, well now I
don't need him.

Speaker 3 (37:40):
Now I could do this and I can do that.

Speaker 7 (37:41):
And the black man is sitting for feeling bad and
now he's like, man, maybe I should just accept my role.

Speaker 3 (37:46):
Is this right here?

Speaker 7 (37:47):
And that's just passing it on to the next generation
when it wasn't never supposed to be like that in
the first place.

Speaker 1 (37:53):
So the government strategized the plan.

Speaker 3 (37:56):
I mean, they're the biggest the.

Speaker 5 (38:04):
Beginning every time.

Speaker 8 (38:06):
We was a force when we were together. But when
you take that out of the household.

Speaker 7 (38:12):
Yeah, when you break the household down, it's easy to
break everything else down.

Speaker 3 (38:16):
You take the head out.

Speaker 5 (38:19):
That's funny, that's crazy. You say that because I had
a discussion with this young lady that's on my team.
Uh she called. She called me crying. She got two
kids when she had her first kid with the same guy.
I explained her. I said, I'm a man, and I'm
telling you now, you can't keep a guy just because

(38:41):
you have the baby with him if he hasn't committed
to you, hasn't committed to you, just laying with you,
sleeping with you, you just papaly giving you baby. I said,
you're making it too convenient for him. Where's his commitment
to you? Because guy's gonna do what they what if
you allow us to do with no commitment. You're not
asking for any type of commitment. All you do is

(39:04):
laying down this man, this man giving you babies, then
he going down the street. That's what the same thing,
rather telling her the exact same thing. But you think
having base with this man gonna keep him nor it's
not gonna happen. Don't I do this and this? And
I said, that's all well and fine. Again, it's still
come back to the commitment to you. I said, you're
a nice, nice looking young lady. You got stuff going

(39:25):
on for you, but you still following at this wrong
the wrong, the wrong guy. I can't tell you who
the love, but I'm telling you as a man, that's
not gonna keep him. She turned around, had a second baby, brown,
she's going through the same thing. Kicked him out of
the crib or whatever. And I fly to her. I said,
you're gonna lie him back again? Why would you say that? No,

(39:46):
this is it. He ain't helping out. I said, you
need help out. With the first one, not really exactly.
So what makes you think when you got pregnant again
it had this other baby by another baby by the
same guy, that he was going to change. I don't know.
I don't know what it is, but but see, they

(40:07):
don't want to listen when it's coming from men that's
been there and done that before. I'm just trying to
put on game like, look, I understand the way you're
feeling because you're dealing with emotions right now. I'm just
telling what some men think you were making it too
easy for them.

Speaker 10 (40:22):
All of that comes back to trauma, unhealed trauma. The
little girl in her I don't know, I don't know
the situation. She could not have a father in life
or something, but she's looking to be loved by the
wrong men because it's a comfort thing. So again that
trauma got it starts from within. Everybody needs to heal
from within in order to figure out who you are
as a person and love yourself enough to walk away

(40:42):
from situations that's no longer convenient or serving.

Speaker 5 (40:46):
Fact, and I try to put on games like you
need to your focus need to be on babies, get
yourself together, heal yourself focus on babies.

Speaker 8 (40:57):
Yeah, she ain't ready yet, but she will be sometimes
three or four. Sometimes it takes kids. Sometimes it takes
that for some people to actually get it. It takes
a It don't happen over night. It takes a while.
So it takes a while.

Speaker 2 (41:12):
Would y'all say, like, so, in today's climate, with that
that's going on, how do y'all even see through the
type of guys that's out here? You know what I'm saying,
How do you even you know? I really want to
know me? Because I'm sure y'all get approached all the time.
I get approach a lot myself.

Speaker 8 (41:25):
But like she just said, after we heal, you gotta
go here first, and then you start seeing the difference.

Speaker 6 (41:30):
In a man.

Speaker 1 (41:33):
Want to get you, but I really want to.

Speaker 5 (41:36):
Get to this him just because he did it to you.
I'm not doing that him.

Speaker 6 (41:46):
And you gotta have different varieties of men.

Speaker 8 (41:48):
If you if you just now getting out her being
in relationships, you're gonna get finessed. But if you've been
through it, I've been dating. I had my first child
at sixteen seventeen.

Speaker 6 (41:58):
There we go, So.

Speaker 1 (41:59):
I've been you.

Speaker 2 (42:05):
Shout out to Selena was not making them. Wait, sixteen
something having sixteen?

Speaker 1 (42:13):
You know where was that when I was? Yeah?

Speaker 8 (42:17):
Yeah, I had lost my mom at fourteen. My dad
was in my life, but wasn't like like that.

Speaker 5 (42:25):
You know, say you didn't let they go down, I'm
gonna kill it.

Speaker 8 (42:28):
So once I lost my mom, I was pretty much
going through life figuring out my own you know what
I'm saying. So that's why I said it don't take.
It's not gonna happen over.

Speaker 1 (42:37):
Now.

Speaker 6 (42:37):
You got to go through ship to get to get through.

Speaker 5 (42:42):
But I think a lot of times some females way
too damn long to go through. I ain't saying every female,
but some that I noticed they go through a sodamn
loan they in the early twenties and the toy round
B forty five. So I figured it out, and then
I want to go try to talk to D and
I or this situation sh like, No, I'm cool because
when I was trying to talk to you, when you

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have the one, you ain't want to deal with me.

Speaker 1 (43:05):
Now I gotta be van Rance.

Speaker 6 (43:06):
You gotta go find somebody.

Speaker 1 (43:07):
I gotta now, you gotta joke.

Speaker 6 (43:09):
We gotta gonna find somebody else. But she'll find somebody.

Speaker 10 (43:11):
Y'all have got questions, don't forget to call in five five, five, nine,
nine one six a seven again five one, five, five, nine,
nine one six eight seven call in if you have
any questions.

Speaker 1 (43:19):
And yeah, where y'all at?

Speaker 2 (43:20):
Make y'all call in right like Loadna just says she
is on it today. Five one, five, five, nine nine
one six eight seven. If you have any questions, don't
be sitting at home.

Speaker 1 (43:29):
Don't be shy. We're gonna put on a new host.

Speaker 10 (43:31):
That's your opportunity to ask me all the questions y'all
need in boxing me ask everybody hear me here, you
get all the examples to call in.

Speaker 2 (43:38):
Yeah, yeah, we hired Ladona after this. Like, I really
want all my super friends to be together on one show.
I won't slim here that when all of us are
in one time. Man, I think we need a podcast
of We need like an auditorium or something.

Speaker 1 (43:52):
Now, dude, that's how you learn.

Speaker 6 (43:54):
How to navigate through the good ones and the bad ones.
You know, you have to go through relationships. You have
to go through this to learn what you want and
what you don't want.

Speaker 7 (44:02):
Yeah, you know, I discern discernment your gut ain't telling
you no lie. If some inside of you say that
something may write about this, dude, don't fight it just
because you're that hurt.

Speaker 6 (44:15):
You Rather, that's another topic, and you have to be.

Speaker 1 (44:21):
Good topic.

Speaker 5 (44:25):
As long as you going on work deal with.

Speaker 7 (44:29):
The hurt that you're currently going through. Otherwise, whatever they're
putting you through is going to make it worse. It's
like throwing salt on the wound. So some of your
guts telling you that this is salt on the womb.
If it looked like ship and it smell like ship,
don't step in it because more than likely it's.

Speaker 3 (44:42):
Some ship women and walk away from that different type
of different type of ship.

Speaker 6 (44:49):
But she still stays.

Speaker 5 (44:51):
Right, But how much sh you're willing to put up with?
Because nobody's perfect.

Speaker 7 (44:55):
Nobody's perfect, But there's a difference between nobody being perfect
and ship.

Speaker 5 (45:00):
Yeah, we all got ship saying how much are you
willing to deal with? You're gonna deal with this or
you're gonna deal with this because nobody come up with
somebody with some ship.

Speaker 7 (45:12):
Now, that's why she said you got you need that
spirit of discernment. Something say ship, I mean somebody that's
gonna take you through it. When you step in some ship,
that ship gonna linger, it's gonna stink, it's gonna be
stuck with you for a while. You gotta watch that off.
You gotta do all that to get that up out
of that. But somebody coming with something, then I consider
that baggage. I don't consider that ship. Everybody got got

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the baggage that they coming with. But some people got
some ship that will stick with you that all stink
and don't sit right with you.

Speaker 6 (45:39):
You gotta cut that off, smell your house up for
a while. Bring you.

Speaker 8 (45:52):
If you see in a year or two that you
ain't grown with this person, that's when you know you
gotta take a step back and re evaluate and.

Speaker 5 (46:01):
Growing. When you say growing, what type of growing you're
talking about?

Speaker 6 (46:05):
Elevate?

Speaker 8 (46:06):
You have to elevate together, you know what I'm saying,
Like just on a spiritual level, on financial like, if
we're not here to better each other, than what are
we doing? Why are we still stuck in the same
fucking spot. We're not going anywhere, We're not making no
power moves, Like what is going on?

Speaker 6 (46:23):
We just struggling together?

Speaker 8 (46:27):
Somebody, you're not inspiring I'm not inspiring, We're not what
are we doing entertaining?

Speaker 1 (46:33):
I can understand that.

Speaker 2 (46:34):
I hate when they come up because the struggle again,
sometime of struggle together is the real struggle, you know
what I'm saying. But yeah, it could be a situation
where y'all struggling. Ain't nobody trying to advance. You can
have a struggle together like we we gotta eat noodles
to night, but we're gonna try to figure something else out.
Or you got to kind of struggling like now I
don't want to do shit. I don't you want to
do shit either. Now that's a different kind of struggle.

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So it makes a difference in what type of show
you got. Because we talked about this kind of last time.
I always felt like, you know, you always want to
look at the potential in the person. The person might
not be always put together when you come across, but
it might be somebody that you can help help build
even that no matter what age or wherever you got
them from, somebody might just need that extra spark, which
might be you. And that's how you connect people. You

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might connect with the right person that just needed your spark.
And I always say that women don't down the dude
because he said, fucking rallies, that might be your fucking
future CEO.

Speaker 1 (47:23):
And all he needed was just a little spoil.

Speaker 2 (47:25):
He needed, just a little go, a little something that
ain't nobody never gave to him before. But a lot
of times women that look of y'all caliber look at
those dudes like here, hit me my berg and pull
off on him when he try to say, hey, can
I talk to you.

Speaker 1 (47:36):
I'm not saying this all the time I said something
of y'all. I'm not saying y'all. I know y'all individually.
Her friend ain't here. Oh hold on, we got we
got a call.

Speaker 5 (47:45):
Him awesome to accept.

Speaker 11 (47:52):
Press one to send a voicemail.

Speaker 1 (47:53):
Press two was up, call on you there?

Speaker 11 (48:00):
Third, what's up?

Speaker 1 (48:01):
Who's calling in?

Speaker 5 (48:03):
Hey? This is B? This be what up? B?

Speaker 1 (48:06):
What's going on?

Speaker 5 (48:08):
Hey man?

Speaker 11 (48:09):
Just calling in? Just trying to give Don and UH
to cruise some props. I used to work with Don
and Tony and I'm saying they're doing a phenomenal job.

Speaker 2 (48:20):
Hey man, Hey B. We appreciate that, man, Hey man.
Apart for me, Man, I appreciate you even tuning in.
We didn't we didn't even think nobody watch us out there, man,
you know, watching you find out I found it?

Speaker 1 (48:36):
What you say, not being.

Speaker 5 (48:39):
Ce t C.

Speaker 1 (48:40):
What's right?

Speaker 5 (48:41):
That's right all day?

Speaker 11 (48:44):
Yeah, be a sird Hey, Hey, but y'all, y'ah, y'all
talking on some real stuff. Keep doing what you're doing
the work. Ay, two people who decide committment trump love
and and and don't just go through what you're going through.

Speaker 5 (48:59):
Go through.

Speaker 1 (49:02):
All right, be hey, be come through with the real words.

Speaker 2 (49:06):
Man, hey, b man, Hey, yes, sir, yeah, it ain't
number love.

Speaker 1 (49:13):
Man. You already know that. I ain't heard you in
a wild dog, so it's good just to hear you
right now.

Speaker 5 (49:17):
Man.

Speaker 1 (49:17):
You know what I'm saying. I'm glad you called the platform. Man,
I'm glad.

Speaker 2 (49:20):
We we out there touching, touching some type of life
out here. You know what I'm saying, Hey, all seven viewers,
you know what I'm saying. We're glad they looking and
they understanding and they watching, man, because it's some powerful
information going on here. And when they going back and
know our pasts and they digging up all these podcasts
and they saying like, oh my god, and they going
a million per episode then we're gonna realize like we've
been on the summer. If talking real is onto something,

(49:42):
that's what we're gonna be on.

Speaker 1 (49:43):
My bro.

Speaker 11 (49:44):
My bro sent me the link, and you know I
support so, but I ain't sitting over here with a
crystal ball if I don't know about it. Jarrett too.

Speaker 2 (49:53):
Oh, Man, Hey, we appreciate you, be man, thanks for
calling in, brother.

Speaker 1 (49:57):
Man, Hey, take care of yourself. Man, and I know.

Speaker 2 (50:00):
Hey, hey, ain't number love for us, us and the
crew right now. Man, we appreciate you. Watch it, man,
make sure you tell everybody where where you're at. Man,
like a subscribe to me.

Speaker 6 (50:07):
We got a couple of more topics coming up, more knowledge.

Speaker 1 (50:12):
Subscribe now be.

Speaker 11 (50:15):
Subscribe now, I've been to do it. I'm gonna do
it now.

Speaker 1 (50:19):
Right we go.

Speaker 2 (50:21):
We got one, we got god, we probably get an
eighty good.

Speaker 5 (50:27):
Ain't he good? Won't he do it?

Speaker 1 (50:29):
Won't he do it?

Speaker 2 (50:29):
I ain't be man, We ain't number one. Man, and hey,
you already know that.

Speaker 5 (50:34):
That's right.

Speaker 11 (50:36):
Look you just get.

Speaker 6 (50:40):
Coming.

Speaker 5 (50:41):
That's three.

Speaker 1 (50:43):
All thank you.

Speaker 6 (50:46):
So any of you guys in relationships right now?

Speaker 1 (50:50):
Yes, I'm married, all right?

Speaker 6 (50:52):
Okay?

Speaker 5 (50:53):
Yes, hello twenty three.

Speaker 6 (50:55):
Twenty three years.

Speaker 1 (50:56):
Yes, wow, I'm in.

Speaker 10 (50:57):
A relationship, but that's none of your business. We wanna
talk about some important ship. I'm gonna talking about some
important Do you.

Speaker 1 (51:04):
Know how many dudes too? Then to find out this
you just lost? It's been a crash again.

Speaker 5 (51:19):
Boys, really.

Speaker 12 (51:23):
That just went like somebody jazz and they said, I
hate to show, saying they ain't starting, no worried about
no relationship, about somebody get a ring on her finger
and they still d m U n B and the
easy right.

Speaker 5 (51:43):
Just tint.

Speaker 1 (51:46):
Thanks, what's going on with you?

Speaker 5 (51:48):
Selena?

Speaker 1 (51:50):
Listen, here's some more the present information.

Speaker 6 (51:53):
Yes, I'm day, all right, all right.

Speaker 1 (51:55):
Shout out just lending for dating.

Speaker 6 (51:57):
She's opening just one person, that's it, my boy.

Speaker 5 (52:01):
Time one boy saying not another one time.

Speaker 1 (52:07):
It's going going down and Flo triple threat on what
you with?

Speaker 5 (52:12):
My day?

Speaker 3 (52:12):
Y'all be wondering who the hell I be talking to?
Y'all ain't never gonna figure it out.

Speaker 6 (52:16):
It's only a couple of.

Speaker 1 (52:17):
People that know.

Speaker 10 (52:17):
They're like the trips with my niggah, whoa.

Speaker 6 (52:26):
Here getting a feature? And you heard that people are
scaming boy, I ain't got time for.

Speaker 1 (52:31):
We got two down one to go right, we got
we got one more.

Speaker 2 (52:35):
Man got on myna, save everybody, Jackie.

Speaker 1 (52:38):
What's going on on on the status all here? Jackie?

Speaker 3 (52:41):
I am currently I'm working on something with someone.

Speaker 1 (52:54):
Cot To came one, two, three strikes.

Speaker 6 (52:57):
You out right now we don't here.

Speaker 3 (53:02):
Run away.

Speaker 2 (53:03):
I didn't know that was gonna be this kind of show.
Just hey, it just with just three accidents on that
your bridge right now.

Speaker 5 (53:15):
God shut it down the.

Speaker 6 (53:17):
Next time and see whatelse they can get him back.
You'll want to be what I want to know?

Speaker 3 (53:22):
I want to know about credit business? What because that.

Speaker 5 (53:31):
Fellas sold fellas they fellas that track they take people
to the They are all.

Speaker 8 (53:38):
Taking not way too much, Manna, honey.

Speaker 1 (53:47):
It just got so fancy.

Speaker 6 (53:50):
God is gonna send you the man for you? What
you do all the way?

Speaker 8 (53:53):
He and they don't take that loan and and it
really doesn't don't take that long taking that one.

Speaker 5 (53:59):
Don't be you have that man. Have you around the
house three four, five years and put that ring on
your hand.

Speaker 6 (54:07):
In three months. If I say it ain't working, you
checking my father ship, baby, No, you gotta.

Speaker 1 (54:22):
Go three more the one for me.

Speaker 6 (54:24):
If you start showing no signs in three months, what's.

Speaker 1 (54:26):
What's the main sign of insecurity? A lot of guys
out here know what's what's the sign of.

Speaker 6 (54:32):
O'clock? We ain't even married, we don't even live together.

Speaker 8 (54:35):
And I said, it's a scam call or something like that,
and you don't believe me.

Speaker 6 (54:39):
We got a problem. You want my Facebook saying ship
that ain't not enough, but you.

Speaker 8 (54:44):
Don't come and address it with me. You play games first.
That's a problem. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 6 (54:49):
So yeah, bother your phone, don't boy the mind.

Speaker 2 (54:58):
But we just to find out all you at days? Boy,
that's really a scam called it now in the cause.

Speaker 6 (55:03):
It definitely was. It definitely was. I don't lie about ship.

Speaker 5 (55:06):
I don't look look look.

Speaker 6 (55:11):
What you say, Sarah. You say ninety days, that's it
about three months?

Speaker 3 (55:16):
Ma'ma talking about ninety days.

Speaker 8 (55:18):
Yeah, this ain't This ain't what I want to be
in right now. We're supposed to be enjoying each other
and learning each other and not tripping off.

Speaker 6 (55:24):
You bringing what you just went through into this relationship.

Speaker 8 (55:27):
And that's not fair to me because I'm healed and
I'm not putting none of that trauma that I went
through my last relationships on you.

Speaker 6 (55:34):
I'm giving you the been there for that.

Speaker 8 (55:35):
If anything happens, it's gonna come to like, don't go
looking for shit.

Speaker 6 (55:39):
And you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 8 (55:41):
If I'm giving you time, I'm answering your phone calls,
I ain't lied to you. But you so fucked up
from your last ship that you're bringing that shit into
this relationship. And that's where we go wrong. Because I'm
a happy person. You're not gonna make me sad and mad.
You know what I'm saying. I did too much work
on me to go back to that.

Speaker 3 (56:00):
I don't give y'all a free game.

Speaker 6 (56:02):
I'll go ahead, sorr ahead by game.

Speaker 7 (56:04):
I'm gonna give y'all some free game about relationships. They
say that communication is the key, but understanding is that lock.
So you could communicate all day, But if y'all don't
have an understanding, y'all just talking.

Speaker 10 (56:14):
By one five nine, one six eight seven. We would
love to hear from y'all. Go ahead, ignorance is an understatement.
Go ahead and give us those times.

Speaker 2 (56:24):
You're supposed to be doing over you're.

Speaker 5 (56:32):
Supposed to be doing over.

Speaker 2 (56:33):
There we got we got about three minutes left, and
I know you. I want to promote everything you're like.
And what they a little known fact about me, and
let dona what y'all do not know, Hey, this tithing
that they do not know is that I was down
the first first manager in her modeling career. You know,
I was the first one that I believed in it.

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I'm like, hey, she's gonna kill it. And I swear
we had like a couple of shows and whatnot. But
when I when she did a thing, man, she always
did a thing. So I knew back then her mind
state on being focused or she was focused. She wasn't
on no playing, no games, on about nothing. And so
just to watch her girls an adult watch her and
her come up and seeing every time I look up,
she's doing something new.

Speaker 5 (57:11):
Positive.

Speaker 2 (57:12):
She out of the couture, She in the custs, you
out of the cut. You open this up, open this
a When I seen an office across the street from
Bush Stadium, if I'm not mistaken that Bush or the stadium,
I was like, oh, that's in my book.

Speaker 1 (57:22):
That's made it. You know what I'm saying, That's made it.

Speaker 2 (57:24):
So, you know, do you want to tell them about
anything about upcoming businesses, businesses that's going on. You know,
the people need to know because they're trying to do
everything they can to find out who you are and
to find out and to support you and what it
takes to do that.

Speaker 10 (57:36):
You want to let them know something absolutely, So I
would say I've had three successful businesses. The first business
is the only first business. The only reason why I
ended it is because of a bad car accident. I
wasn't able to provide those services. But as far as
getting into entrepreneurship, if that's something you want to do,
I don't say that you have to be in business
to be successful.

Speaker 6 (57:56):
You could be in corporate.

Speaker 10 (57:57):
Everybody's story looks different, and that's what I want to
everybody to understand.

Speaker 6 (58:01):
No one's story looks the same.

Speaker 10 (58:02):
I don't want people down in other people because they're
not doing businesses or they're in corporate.

Speaker 6 (58:06):
Are you not making or you're not doing that? That's bullshit.
Do you and do what's fitting for you.

Speaker 10 (58:11):
But as far as me business, it is what made
me the most successful. I've done permanent makeup great money.
After my accident, I ventured off into self care naturals,
in which that business I'm selling on Amazon, not only my.

Speaker 6 (58:24):
Only part platform.

Speaker 10 (58:27):
I made one thousand dollars in one day, So just
imagine going forward.

Speaker 6 (58:30):
That's all I'm gonna give you.

Speaker 10 (58:31):
And with my Airbnb corporate housing, which a lot of
people inquire about doing it.

Speaker 6 (58:36):
You have to invest.

Speaker 10 (58:38):
You have to put yourself in positions to where you
know people that may make way more than you. I
tell people all the time, the most money that I've
ever made is putting myself in a room with millionaires
and them giving me opportunities to make more money.

Speaker 6 (58:49):
On the back end, I.

Speaker 10 (58:50):
Invest in roats, which is real estate investment trusts, and
I had a fifty percent yield just stop of one
individual that I made. Normally, the yields on reats is
fifteen percent eight percent. So imagine a fifty percent yield
just from holding your money in the stop.

Speaker 3 (59:06):
That's passive income in your sleep. That's making money your sleep.
I've just learned.

Speaker 6 (59:15):
But before we get up out of here, the main
thing I'm gonna tell you is work on your credit.

Speaker 1 (59:19):
Credit.

Speaker 10 (59:19):
Your personal credit is the most important thing, because you
could guarantee everything in your business. I can go and
get a twenty five thousand dollars long into my business
just by off of my personal credit. And guess what,
it's not your personal so if something was to happen,
it's just your business. It's not gonna affect your personal credit.
So get your credit in order, your personal guarantee your
loans with your business, and you use that to venture

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off into what you want to do to build that business,
pay off everything, and get everything together. We was not
taught business, and I'm talking about my African American peoples.
No offense to all my other girls that's on here.
I love y'all, but African American people were not taught
business credit. It is so important for you to get
your personal credit in order. Thirty five percent on your
and history, thirty percent on your credit card.

Speaker 6 (01:00:02):
Utilization, keep that down ten percent below. Get it together
that way.

Speaker 10 (01:00:06):
That you can find the success that you need if
you want to venture off and do everything else, because
if you have that, it becomes easy. Now, the journey
isn't easy. I'm gonna tell you that the journey is
not easy.

Speaker 6 (01:00:15):
Getting into the bus. I'm not gonna tell y'all. Don't post.

Speaker 10 (01:00:17):
I post what I want you to see, but behind
the scenes, y'all don't see me crying, Oh my god,
is this gonna work out?

Speaker 6 (01:00:23):
Freaking out having panic attacks? But stay with it.

Speaker 10 (01:00:26):
When you become uncomfortable, that's how you know you're gonna succeed.
Stop being in a comfortable situation and feeling like you're
gonna succeed. The success is on the other side of uncomfortable.

Speaker 6 (01:00:37):
So I wish O the best. Keep doing you. Ignorance
is the understatement.

Speaker 10 (01:00:41):
But we gonna teach y'all some shit.

Speaker 2 (01:00:47):
That's another great episode in the books. Man, I want
to shout out him.

Speaker 1 (01:00:52):
Jackie Mishano co hosts Selena's special guest.

Speaker 2 (01:00:55):
Donnay and my boy Big Slim always feeling there when
we need them. Man, shout out man. We'll see y'all
in two weeks. And this is an understatement the podcast.
Don't forget the like and subscribe and we'll see y'all
in a minute.

Speaker 1 (01:01:05):
A Saint Louis.

Speaker 8 (01:01:06):
But I'm still cultivating everybody replicating Nikka face facts and
dread like face.