October 17, 2023 • 24 mins
Welcome back to our podcast! This season, Pastor Cyndi will be doing a deep and divine dive into Relationships. From dating, to roles, to the Godly standards of the bedroom. Pastor Cyndi is going to be laying it all out this season, and she continues with Ep 5: Love prt 2!
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Hello, Hello, Hello, andwelcome, welcome, welcome to have you
heard. I'm Cindy Gairis and I'mhappy to have you with me. We
have been talking last podcast about understandingwhat true love is, well, understanding
what love really is, because aswe all know, God, bless you
(00:22):
are. Thank you all for joiningme. But before I continue one minute,
I wanna have prayer. I wannahave prayer with you for you we're
gonna touch and agree that you getan understanding of what love really is so
that you will not perish, becausethe Bible said, my people perish from
a lack of knowledge, and wedon't want you to perish because knowledge is
(00:43):
power, and we need a wordof wisdom and a word of knowledge spiritually
so that we can continue on growingin our relationship with God the Father through
our Lord and Savior Christ Jesus orJesus who is the Christ Son of the
Living God, with the help ofthe Holy Spirit, the third person of
the Trinity, who is here inthe earth. Hallelujah, have any Father
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in the name of Jesus. Wecome together as one thanking you for who
you are in our lives and howyou have blessed us, protected us,
delivered us, healed us, providedfor us. Thank you, Great God
Almighty, for only you can provideus and heal us. Lord, only
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you can direct us and deliver us. And you've done that for us time
and again. And we just saythank you for your mercies, for your
kindness. How great is thy lovefor us, Our Lord, your word
says, and all that I'm gettingget an understanding. I ask you,
Lord to help us to understand aboutlove, Father God, because so many
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people don't help us understand what lovereally is. This I ask, We
ask in Jesus' mighty name, andthe church says amen and Amen, Amen,
Praise God. So we were talkingabout understanding what love really is.
And you know, I was givinggoing on talking and gave a few examples
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because the misconception is people think orbelieve because if holy Spirit feel, and
you are, you have the HolySpirit and the love of God. And
so when you ask for a separation, a legal separation or a divorce,
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where is that coming from if yousaid you have the love of God.
And I was going on to say, because you don't have knowledge. Many
people do not have knowledge of love, Praise God, and so they think
love is that tingling feeling. OhGod, got Google looking in your eyes.
But what happens when the situation ora problem arise, you know,
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is that person gonna stand? Arethey gonna be supportive? Are they gonna
be there with you? You know? Will they love you unconditionally as the
Father loves us without any limits?Praise God? And so these are things
when you're dating. These are thingsthat you're looking for when you're dating.
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Praise God. You have to havethe knowledge. You have to have knowledge
of how to date. You haveto have an understanding of how today.
You have to understand what dating is. And you have to understand what marriage
is through the eyes of God.I'm not talking about through the eyes of
the world, because the world wantsto live together. They want to diminish
what God has ordained as family,husband and wife and children living in under
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the same roof as a family,the father, the mother, and the
children. Not you know, Ilike you, you like me? Let
us move in together now, Godordained marriages. I mean we talked about
the marriage bear God is it's nottalking about well, you and your boyfriend
because y'all been together for how youknow, X amount of years? So
it's okay to have sex with thatperson that's not scriptural, or it's okay
(04:10):
for y'all to live together, ory'all will save money if you all live
together. God is not interested inthat. He is your provider. His
way of being unfinancially secure and prosperousis sowing and reaping tithe and offering love
offerings, donations, praise God.That's God's way, not the world way.
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You know, they have a problemwith blessing the pastors with love offerings
or donating, you know, orhelping the ministry out. They get all
offended. But you will pay two, three, I don't know, hundreds
of dollars to go to a concertfor an unsaved person. You're giving them
money to go furnish their habit orpay their bills. And it's not the
Kingdom of God. What's wrong withblessing the people of God? Because God
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will bless you when you bless yourpastor when you sow seeds into a godly
ministry, God will That's what we'resupposed to do, hey, ma'am,
not the world's way. Praise Godto the world, most of them that
I've encountered it. Love is youknow we together, and you know we
have a lot of sex, andwe do this and blah blah blah.
But do you understand what love anda marriage from a godly perspective is?
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Do you have knowledge of that asyou have read throughout the Bible? And
I do hope you read your Biblesand study as the Bible tell us to
that. You know, like AbrahamIsaac, Isaac love Rebecca. Jacob loved
Rachel. He worked fourteen years forher. He never touched her. Well,
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he did when after the marriage weekwith Leah, so forgive me for
that. But before that he wasn'tgoing off they snaking off having sex and
making out as people call it today, hugging and kissing and all of that
stuff. No, that's not scripture, Praise God. And then he took
her into his mother. I thinkthat was eyes like I got a mixed
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up him, sorry to his mother'stents. This is how you. You
don't just go do what you wantto do according to the world or because
everyone else is doing it. Theydon't understand marriage, Praise God. They
don't understand love, Praise God.So you need to get in all that
and getting get an understanding. Sowe understand that love is when people talk
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about I love you, or heloves her or she loves her. Do
you really know if that person lovesbecause they're saying, I'm ready to make
a commitment to you for the restof my life. Praise God. When
we talked about how the man whobecomes a husband, he loves the wife
and he's supposed to take care andprovide for her through you know, the
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leading of the Holy Spirit, becauseshe was taken out of his side.
And just like women give birth totheir babies from the womb, Praise God,
and we take care of that baby. That's why men, I always
want to call you their baby.Praise God because you came from the Hem
out of Him, and when ourbabies come from us mothers. Hey man,
you take care of that baby.And that's what that man is supposed
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to do. That's why I'm justinjecting this. A divorce hurt because you
have bonded and come together and becameone and then it just you know,
scalped your snatch your flesh off.It hurts. Praise God. So we
don't want us to perish from alack of knowledge and a lot of marriages
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do come to a divorce because oflack of knowledge, they misunderstanding and ignorance.
They think love is just we getmarried on love, on feeling good.
But I always remember love is adecision. Love is something you make
within yourself to commit and meet theneeds of that person for the rest of
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their life and the rest of yourlife. That's love. Care for when
people be talking about oh I loveyou. No no, no, no,
no no no, do you loveme? Really? Do you really
love me? Mm hm, Sojust think on that for a minute.
Yeah, I thought that was awesomebecause love in First Corinthians. Let's go
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to First Corinthians thirteen and four througheight. First Corinthians. Oah, so
amanthew, First Corinthians thirteen four AndI'm coming from the kjav It's suys charity,
which is love suffereth long and iskind charity envy If not charity vaunteth
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not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh
not her own, is not easilyprovoked. Thinketh no evil, rejoices not
in iniquity, but rejoices in thetruth. Beareth all things, believeth all
things, hopeth all things endure,all things. Charity never fail. But
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whether there be prophecies, they shouldfail, whether there be tongue. So
I don't want that part. Ijust wanted to to seven am'am and amen.
So you see that love, accordingto the Word of God First Comenance
thirteen four through eight, and Icame from the kjav King James version,
is acting for the good of others. Love is acting for the good of
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others, even when you know it'snot beneficial to you. As you read
through the scripture, love does notgive up when the going gets tough.
You don't when things get hired,or there is no money, or someone
sick and you know, or youmade me mad. And love does not
give up. It preserves. Sothat's that's what I mean by you know,
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when you're talking about love, isI'm there for you. I'm gonna
be committed. It's a commitment.It goes through the difficult times. Praise
God. So when we're talking aboutlove people and we're talking about commitment,
that mean to devote yourselves, tobind yourself obligate to that spouse. Love
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is loyal, it's faithful, supporterof is dedicated, is devoted. Praise
God. Amen. So love doesnot give up. That's true love.
Because too many people, you know, and unfortunately a lot of people you
know break up or separate and ordivorce or say they stop loving each other
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because of adultery, you know,or someone has gotten on drug. And
it's so sad when we know thatadultery is a sin. I don't know
how you can just go off intoit and then you know, I just
I'm like, wow, you knowit's a sin. You know that to
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even Jesus said, looking at awoman with a lust in your heart is
a sin. Amen, Praise God. So let's not go outside our marriages
and start bonding with people, youknow, even speaking good morning, how
you're doing, going now, well, how is your weekend? Well what
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happened? Well did you see?No, No, that's too much because
it's given the other person, am'am. It's given an other person like an
invitation to think that there could besomething, even though it may be on
the back burner. Because the moreyou talk and just carrying out, the
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more you're creating space for a relationshipoutside of marriage, AmAm. And you
know it's a shallow bond. Goodmorning, go ahead, But if you
keep building on that, How isyour family or how was your weekend?
When you're going on vacation. Ohyou look sad? What's wrong? Talk
to me? No? No,no, no no, go pray for
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that person. Heymn. There's manycounselors and stuff. These people can go
to protect your marriage. And that'show most affairs, what is it called,
I forget the name, begin withconversation overly interested in someone else?
Would you do that if your spousewas there? And if you said yes,
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then you shouldn't. That's disrespectful.Good morning is suffice? Praise God?
Hey ma'am. You gotta keep yourselfaway from this stuff. If you're
married, you be careful what you'reasking other people, Hey ma'am, and
the time you're spending with them,hallelujah, because then it calls for an
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affair. And you know, herewe come. I can't talk to my
wife, that's what you know.I hear so many people where men say
that I just couldn't talk to her. Why? And I always ask,
then you talk to When you guysstarted dating, you know, there is
no love there, no no no, no, no love is there.
You have to cultivate love. Youhave to remember what true love is.
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It's devotion, it's commitment, it'sloyalty, it's the covenant I made before
God, Ama for my spouse.I'm going to love my spouse. The
Bible says, let no man puta son down when I have joined together.
And then, you know, somemarital viole say tell death, do
U supprit you? So to protectyourself, stop over bonding with other people,
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stop bonding periods to speak, andgo ahead and remember who you are
and who you are if your spousewas there when you talk like this,
what you behave like that? Well, God is el royal, the god
who's watching. So don't amen,praise God the Bible, and you know,
let me touch on this right quick, because for the sake of time,
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the Bible says a house divided cannotstand praise God. You know what,
I think I'll save that for thenext podcast to continue on this about
love. So y'all hold that thought, AmAm, and let me briefly go
over here, cause I'm gonna haveto end very shortly here, so I'll
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save that. Okay, Oh,I know what I had said last podcast
when people married be for condition becauseyou know she has a coc Coca cola
shape, or I like them longlegs, or I like the way he
comb his hair. You know,I like them dimples. You know,
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people find stuff like you know thatall the time. You know, Uh,
he has green eyes, she hashazel eyes. You know what I'm
saying. So that's why I loveyou. I love to look into your
beautiful honey drop hazel eyes. Ilove that long hair you have. It
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just me crazy, you know,I love the way whatever. So that's
a why. That's a condition.So if your reason for marying or talking
about you love this person is basedon because of their hair, or legs
or money, I said it before, it becomes a condition. And you
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know what when that condition, letme tell you. Let me tell you
about conditions and expectations. You expectthem to always be like that gravity pulls.
When you get older, things startpulling and sagging. Hey, ma'am.
So this condition and expectation, whocould change? Because nothing in life
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stays the same. Praise God.Mm hmm. Somebody look good. She's
so fine and sexy, and shehas a child or two or five or
seven, and it's not always easyto lose that baby. Wait, are
you still going to love her,like you said, that's what true love
is. No matter how big heator she gets or they start batting or
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what is that a receding hairline orteeth fall out or get sick, are
you still going to love? That'swhat love is, no matter the change
in their health and the way theylook, and ma'am, and they taste.
Some people used I used to eatthis all the time. They don't
like it. Are you going tolove them and support them and stay committed
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and faithful and loyal to them?That's love, even with changes in life.
That is love. Not on girl, he don't look as good as
he used to, Well, youmay not look all that hot either to
him, but because he loves you. You ever see some people and you
know they were nice looking at highschool, and you see them you like
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not to recognize it, but they'restill together in love, caring for you
each other, supporting each other,there for each other, not caring that
this person has gotten hefty or overweight, or whatever has happened in their life.
How itshire They still love that person. That's love. Because if it
was you, how would you feelthe person promised to love you and you
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them? And because you gain weight, or your hair fell out, or
you got sick, they don't loveyou no more. Hmm, yeah,
let's think about that. Let's thinkabout that. So the next time lay
a woman or a man say thatI love you, Praise God, got
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an ask them, do you reallylove me? Are you going to meet
my needs? Are you going tobe loyal and faithful to me for the
rest of my life? So that'swhy you have to have knowledge or what
marriage is. It's no matter whatsicking things, sick and sin to death,
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do you a part? That's theknowledge of marriage. Mean we support
each other, we lawyer, wecommit it, we faithful and our love
is just like I said, sickand thing, sick and sin, thick
and thing. We're bind it together. We commit it with lawyer. That's
what marriage is. Not. Ohwell, I'm tired of him. It's
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been five years of what do theysay? Oh it's the seven year itch.
Now let that go. That's ungodly, Let that go and trust God.
True love does go through difficult trialsand tribulations. Amen. But while
it's going through the valley of theshadow of death, while that true love
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is going through difficulties and bad situations, trust in God will lead you through
it. Trust God in your marriage. Give your marriage to God, and
get an understanding of what a maritalcovenant is. Because our God honors his
covenant. So those are you whotalking about my husband gonna divorce me or
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my wife ready for a divorce.You remember the marital covenant and hold it
up to God. Remind him.He says, God's going to honor that
covenant to death. Do you aboutthat mean you have a chance in your
marriage not to get a divorce.You still love your spouse and you got
married under marital covenant instead of wecool, we gonna hang slang wang bang
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or all that stuff. No,no, no, you got married under
the covenant before God, the Father, God the Son, and God the
Holy Spirit. God will stop thatdivorce. God will stop that separate separation.
God will reconcile that marriage. Hewill rekindle the flame and give you
a fresh new love for each other. He will bless that line of communication,
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and he will deliberately extract that otherperson, that a fair partner out
of you all lives. It maybe a process, but he will because
he can. Amen and amen.Trust your marriages to God and remember the
marital covenant I had. I thinkit was last year, and then I'm
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gonna close. The sister sent mea message saying that other day of the
going down to sign the divorce papers, they were on her and her husband
were on the way out the door. They were still living together. I
think, yeah, and yes,amen, And they just stopped and started
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talking and crying, and they didn'tgo sign the divorce papers because neither one
of them really wanted the divorce.They just was hurt because one cheated,
had an adulterous sexual adulterous affair,and then the other one started cheating because
they was hurt. But they didn'thave a sexual affair. But they still
loved each other and forgave each otherand talked about it, and you know,
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they're still working on it. Butthey're still married. They did not
get the divorce. They're still inlove. And this person said, I
love my spouse more than I everhad and they're so sorry for the pain
that they brought into the marriage andthey're happily married and said, I am
so thankful we did not get adivorce, and that is such a blessing.
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They were on their way out thedoor on their way never did sign.
I said, Lord, I thinkAnd they said, you know,
because they kept listening. They keptlistening to you talk about, you know,
what God can do and God honorsthe marital covenant. And I believed
God. I said, Lord,I thank you, Lord, I praise
you for your mighty power to reconcilethat marriage. And he did, and
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it's so beautiful. I just praisedthe name of Jesus. So he has
no respective person. He did itfor that couple. He would do it
for you. It's not too late. They All they had to do was
pull the door open, step outonto their beautiful porch, walk down the
steps and get into their vehicle orgo through the garage, whichever. But
they didn't because they love each other, and most couples that's going for a
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divorce, they still love each other. They just don't have a knowledge of
how to express that love, howto show that love, how to be
a good spouse. Praise God.But God has it, he said,
if anyone lacks wisdom, let himask. So go to God on your
knees and cry out for how tobe a good spouse. Praise God,
how to love and respect an honoryour spouse how to be faithful and committed.
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God is the answer through his son, I will savior, Jesus,
who is the christ son of theLiving God. Go to Jesus. Go
to Jesus in the name of Jesus. Halleluja. The Holy Spirit is here
to help you. Hey, ma'am. That's what true love is, sticking
together, no matter how bad itget, no matter if it was adulterous
affair. But here's the thing.People, stay out of that affair.
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Don't go back to it. It'slike a dog returning unto you know it's
wrong in the first place. Donot go back to that affair partner.
That's the devil. That's sin inyour life. Do not glorify it.
Amen and Amen, praise God.Got to start having the love of Jesus
for real and showing it. Putyour restraint. Asks the Holy Spirit to
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help you restrain, to keep fromcalling that person. You don't have to
call them. You didn't marry them. That's not your spouse. And stop
talking about your spouses to your fairpartner and end that that ungodly relationship.
Now it's a sin. Your spouseis worth more than that. Don't sin,
and you said you love them,show them love by putting on that
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restraints, by supporting them, byb when it's to present your body living
sacrifice for God and your spouse onlyin Jesus' name, that's my time.
I gotta go. I went overa little, but I thank you all
for joining me on. Have youheard I'm Cindi Gais and I'll look forward
to being with you our next week. Member. We was talking about a
house divided, so we'll pick upfrom there. God bless you all,
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and again thank you for listening.And before we leave, I want to
say, God, in the nameof Jesus, bless them to honor their
spouses. Father God, all thosewho are in adulterous affair, stop them.
Lord, they know his sin.Holy Spirit. Remind them of who
they are and who they are notthose who are contemplating, Lord, let
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the blood of Jesus watch us uglythoughts of adultery out of their minds.
And those who are fornicating, Lord, let them know that that's a sin.
Sexes for marriage. People. Havemercy on them. Father, this
I ask in the name of Jesus. Amen. God bless you all until
next time. Bye.
Hello, Hello, Hello, andwelcome, welcome, welcome to have you
heard. I'm Cindy Gairis and I'mhappy to have you with me. We
have been talking last podcast about understandingwhat true love is, well, understanding
what love really is, because aswe all know, God, bless you
(00:22):
are. Thank you all for joiningme. But before I continue one minute,
I wanna have prayer. I wannahave prayer with you for you we're
gonna touch and agree that you getan understanding of what love really is so
that you will not perish, becausethe Bible said, my people perish from
a lack of knowledge, and wedon't want you to perish because knowledge is
(00:43):
power, and we need a wordof wisdom and a word of knowledge spiritually
so that we can continue on growingin our relationship with God the Father through
our Lord and Savior Christ Jesus orJesus who is the Christ Son of the
Living God, with the help ofthe Holy Spirit, the third person of
the Trinity, who is here inthe earth. Hallelujah, have any Father
(01:06):
in the name of Jesus. Wecome together as one thanking you for who
you are in our lives and howyou have blessed us, protected us,
delivered us, healed us, providedfor us. Thank you, Great God
Almighty, for only you can provideus and heal us. Lord, only
(01:27):
you can direct us and deliver us. And you've done that for us time
and again. And we just saythank you for your mercies, for your
kindness. How great is thy lovefor us, Our Lord, your word
says, and all that I'm gettingget an understanding. I ask you,
Lord to help us to understand aboutlove, Father God, because so many
(01:53):
people don't help us understand what lovereally is. This I ask, We
ask in Jesus' mighty name, andthe church says amen and Amen, Amen,
Praise God. So we were talkingabout understanding what love really is.
And you know, I was givinggoing on talking and gave a few examples
(02:16):
because the misconception is people think orbelieve because if holy Spirit feel, and
you are, you have the HolySpirit and the love of God. And
so when you ask for a separation, a legal separation or a divorce,
(02:36):
where is that coming from if yousaid you have the love of God.
And I was going on to say, because you don't have knowledge. Many
people do not have knowledge of love, Praise God, and so they think
love is that tingling feeling. OhGod, got Google looking in your eyes.
But what happens when the situation ora problem arise, you know,
(03:00):
is that person gonna stand? Arethey gonna be supportive? Are they gonna
be there with you? You know? Will they love you unconditionally as the
Father loves us without any limits?Praise God? And so these are things
when you're dating. These are thingsthat you're looking for when you're dating.
(03:21):
Praise God. You have to havethe knowledge. You have to have knowledge
of how to date. You haveto have an understanding of how today.
You have to understand what dating is. And you have to understand what marriage
is through the eyes of God.I'm not talking about through the eyes of
the world, because the world wantsto live together. They want to diminish
what God has ordained as family,husband and wife and children living in under
(03:46):
the same roof as a family,the father, the mother, and the
children. Not you know, Ilike you, you like me? Let
us move in together now, Godordained marriages. I mean we talked about
the marriage bear God is it's nottalking about well, you and your boyfriend
because y'all been together for how youknow, X amount of years? So
it's okay to have sex with thatperson that's not scriptural, or it's okay
(04:10):
for y'all to live together, ory'all will save money if you all live
together. God is not interested inthat. He is your provider. His
way of being unfinancially secure and prosperousis sowing and reaping tithe and offering love
offerings, donations, praise God.That's God's way, not the world way.
(04:30):
You know, they have a problemwith blessing the pastors with love offerings
or donating, you know, orhelping the ministry out. They get all
offended. But you will pay two, three, I don't know, hundreds
of dollars to go to a concertfor an unsaved person. You're giving them
money to go furnish their habit orpay their bills. And it's not the
Kingdom of God. What's wrong withblessing the people of God? Because God
(04:53):
will bless you when you bless yourpastor when you sow seeds into a godly
ministry, God will That's what we'resupposed to do, hey, ma'am,
not the world's way. Praise Godto the world, most of them that
I've encountered it. Love is youknow we together, and you know we
have a lot of sex, andwe do this and blah blah blah.
But do you understand what love anda marriage from a godly perspective is?
(05:16):
Do you have knowledge of that asyou have read throughout the Bible? And
I do hope you read your Biblesand study as the Bible tell us to
that. You know, like AbrahamIsaac, Isaac love Rebecca. Jacob loved
Rachel. He worked fourteen years forher. He never touched her. Well,
(05:38):
he did when after the marriage weekwith Leah, so forgive me for
that. But before that he wasn'tgoing off they snaking off having sex and
making out as people call it today, hugging and kissing and all of that
stuff. No, that's not scripture, Praise God. And then he took
her into his mother. I thinkthat was eyes like I got a mixed
(06:00):
up him, sorry to his mother'stents. This is how you. You
don't just go do what you wantto do according to the world or because
everyone else is doing it. Theydon't understand marriage, Praise God. They
don't understand love, Praise God.So you need to get in all that
and getting get an understanding. Sowe understand that love is when people talk
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about I love you, or heloves her or she loves her. Do
you really know if that person lovesbecause they're saying, I'm ready to make
a commitment to you for the restof my life. Praise God. When
we talked about how the man whobecomes a husband, he loves the wife
and he's supposed to take care andprovide for her through you know, the
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leading of the Holy Spirit, becauseshe was taken out of his side.
And just like women give birth totheir babies from the womb, Praise God,
and we take care of that baby. That's why men, I always
want to call you their baby.Praise God because you came from the Hem
out of Him, and when ourbabies come from us mothers. Hey man,
you take care of that baby.And that's what that man is supposed
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to do. That's why I'm justinjecting this. A divorce hurt because you
have bonded and come together and becameone and then it just you know,
scalped your snatch your flesh off.It hurts. Praise God. So we
don't want us to perish from alack of knowledge and a lot of marriages
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do come to a divorce because oflack of knowledge, they misunderstanding and ignorance.
They think love is just we getmarried on love, on feeling good.
But I always remember love is adecision. Love is something you make
within yourself to commit and meet theneeds of that person for the rest of
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their life and the rest of yourlife. That's love. Care for when
people be talking about oh I loveyou. No no, no, no,
no no no, do you loveme? Really? Do you really
love me? Mm hm, Sojust think on that for a minute.
Yeah, I thought that was awesomebecause love in First Corinthians. Let's go
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to First Corinthians thirteen and four througheight. First Corinthians. Oah, so
amanthew, First Corinthians thirteen four AndI'm coming from the kjav It's suys charity,
which is love suffereth long and iskind charity envy If not charity vaunteth
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not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh
not her own, is not easilyprovoked. Thinketh no evil, rejoices not
in iniquity, but rejoices in thetruth. Beareth all things, believeth all
things, hopeth all things endure,all things. Charity never fail. But
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whether there be prophecies, they shouldfail, whether there be tongue. So
I don't want that part. Ijust wanted to to seven am'am and amen.
So you see that love, accordingto the Word of God First Comenance
thirteen four through eight, and Icame from the kjav King James version,
is acting for the good of others. Love is acting for the good of
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others, even when you know it'snot beneficial to you. As you read
through the scripture, love does notgive up when the going gets tough.
You don't when things get hired,or there is no money, or someone
sick and you know, or youmade me mad. And love does not
give up. It preserves. Sothat's that's what I mean by you know,
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when you're talking about love, isI'm there for you. I'm gonna
be committed. It's a commitment.It goes through the difficult times. Praise
God. So when we're talking aboutlove people and we're talking about commitment,
that mean to devote yourselves, tobind yourself obligate to that spouse. Love
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is loyal, it's faithful, supporterof is dedicated, is devoted. Praise
God. Amen. So love doesnot give up. That's true love.
Because too many people, you know, and unfortunately a lot of people you
know break up or separate and ordivorce or say they stop loving each other
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because of adultery, you know,or someone has gotten on drug. And
it's so sad when we know thatadultery is a sin. I don't know
how you can just go off intoit and then you know, I just
I'm like, wow, you knowit's a sin. You know that to
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even Jesus said, looking at awoman with a lust in your heart is
a sin. Amen, Praise God. So let's not go outside our marriages
and start bonding with people, youknow, even speaking good morning, how
you're doing, going now, well, how is your weekend? Well what
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happened? Well did you see?No, No, that's too much because
it's given the other person, am'am. It's given an other person like an
invitation to think that there could besomething, even though it may be on
the back burner. Because the moreyou talk and just carrying out, the
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more you're creating space for a relationshipoutside of marriage, AmAm. And you
know it's a shallow bond. Goodmorning, go ahead, But if you
keep building on that, How isyour family or how was your weekend?
When you're going on vacation. Ohyou look sad? What's wrong? Talk
to me? No? No,no, no no, go pray for
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that person. Heymn. There's manycounselors and stuff. These people can go
to protect your marriage. And that'show most affairs, what is it called,
I forget the name, begin withconversation overly interested in someone else?
Would you do that if your spousewas there? And if you said yes,
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then you shouldn't. That's disrespectful.Good morning is suffice? Praise God?
Hey ma'am. You gotta keep yourselfaway from this stuff. If you're
married, you be careful what you'reasking other people, Hey ma'am, and
the time you're spending with them,hallelujah, because then it calls for an
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affair. And you know, herewe come. I can't talk to my
wife, that's what you know.I hear so many people where men say
that I just couldn't talk to her. Why? And I always ask,
then you talk to When you guysstarted dating, you know, there is
no love there, no no no, no, no love is there.
You have to cultivate love. Youhave to remember what true love is.
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It's devotion, it's commitment, it'sloyalty, it's the covenant I made before
God, Ama for my spouse.I'm going to love my spouse. The
Bible says, let no man puta son down when I have joined together.
And then, you know, somemarital viole say tell death, do
U supprit you? So to protectyourself, stop over bonding with other people,
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stop bonding periods to speak, andgo ahead and remember who you are
and who you are if your spousewas there when you talk like this,
what you behave like that? Well, God is el royal, the god
who's watching. So don't amen,praise God the Bible, and you know,
let me touch on this right quick, because for the sake of time,
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the Bible says a house divided cannotstand praise God. You know what,
I think I'll save that for thenext podcast to continue on this about
love. So y'all hold that thought, AmAm, and let me briefly go
over here, cause I'm gonna haveto end very shortly here, so I'll
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save that. Okay, Oh,I know what I had said last podcast
when people married be for condition becauseyou know she has a coc Coca cola
shape, or I like them longlegs, or I like the way he
comb his hair. You know,I like them dimples. You know,
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people find stuff like you know thatall the time. You know, Uh,
he has green eyes, she hashazel eyes. You know what I'm
saying. So that's why I loveyou. I love to look into your
beautiful honey drop hazel eyes. Ilove that long hair you have. It
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just me crazy, you know,I love the way whatever. So that's
a why. That's a condition.So if your reason for marying or talking
about you love this person is basedon because of their hair, or legs
or money, I said it before, it becomes a condition. And you
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know what when that condition, letme tell you. Let me tell you
about conditions and expectations. You expectthem to always be like that gravity pulls.
When you get older, things startpulling and sagging. Hey, ma'am.
So this condition and expectation, whocould change? Because nothing in life
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stays the same. Praise God.Mm hmm. Somebody look good. She's
so fine and sexy, and shehas a child or two or five or
seven, and it's not always easyto lose that baby. Wait, are
you still going to love her,like you said, that's what true love
is. No matter how big heator she gets or they start batting or
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what is that a receding hairline orteeth fall out or get sick, are
you still going to love? That'swhat love is, no matter the change
in their health and the way theylook, and ma'am, and they taste.
Some people used I used to eatthis all the time. They don't
like it. Are you going tolove them and support them and stay committed
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and faithful and loyal to them?That's love, even with changes in life.
That is love. Not on girl, he don't look as good as
he used to, Well, youmay not look all that hot either to
him, but because he loves you. You ever see some people and you
know they were nice looking at highschool, and you see them you like
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not to recognize it, but they'restill together in love, caring for you
each other, supporting each other,there for each other, not caring that
this person has gotten hefty or overweight, or whatever has happened in their life.
How itshire They still love that person. That's love. Because if it
was you, how would you feelthe person promised to love you and you
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them? And because you gain weight, or your hair fell out, or
you got sick, they don't loveyou no more. Hmm, yeah,
let's think about that. Let's thinkabout that. So the next time lay
a woman or a man say thatI love you, Praise God, got
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an ask them, do you reallylove me? Are you going to meet
my needs? Are you going tobe loyal and faithful to me for the
rest of my life? So that'swhy you have to have knowledge or what
marriage is. It's no matter whatsicking things, sick and sin to death,
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do you a part? That's theknowledge of marriage. Mean we support
each other, we lawyer, wecommit it, we faithful and our love
is just like I said, sickand thing, sick and sin, thick
and thing. We're bind it together. We commit it with lawyer. That's
what marriage is. Not. Ohwell, I'm tired of him. It's
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been five years of what do theysay? Oh it's the seven year itch.
Now let that go. That's ungodly, Let that go and trust God.
True love does go through difficult trialsand tribulations. Amen. But while
it's going through the valley of theshadow of death, while that true love
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is going through difficulties and bad situations, trust in God will lead you through
it. Trust God in your marriage. Give your marriage to God, and
get an understanding of what a maritalcovenant is. Because our God honors his
covenant. So those are you whotalking about my husband gonna divorce me or
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my wife ready for a divorce.You remember the marital covenant and hold it
up to God. Remind him.He says, God's going to honor that
covenant to death. Do you aboutthat mean you have a chance in your
marriage not to get a divorce.You still love your spouse and you got
married under marital covenant instead of wecool, we gonna hang slang wang bang
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or all that stuff. No,no, no, you got married under
the covenant before God, the Father, God the Son, and God the
Holy Spirit. God will stop thatdivorce. God will stop that separate separation.
God will reconcile that marriage. Hewill rekindle the flame and give you
a fresh new love for each other. He will bless that line of communication,
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and he will deliberately extract that otherperson, that a fair partner out
of you all lives. It maybe a process, but he will because
he can. Amen and amen.Trust your marriages to God and remember the
marital covenant I had. I thinkit was last year, and then I'm
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gonna close. The sister sent mea message saying that other day of the
going down to sign the divorce papers, they were on her and her husband
were on the way out the door. They were still living together. I
think, yeah, and yes,amen, And they just stopped and started
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talking and crying, and they didn'tgo sign the divorce papers because neither one
of them really wanted the divorce.They just was hurt because one cheated,
had an adulterous sexual adulterous affair,and then the other one started cheating because
they was hurt. But they didn'thave a sexual affair. But they still
loved each other and forgave each otherand talked about it, and you know,
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they're still working on it. Butthey're still married. They did not
get the divorce. They're still inlove. And this person said, I
love my spouse more than I everhad and they're so sorry for the pain
that they brought into the marriage andthey're happily married and said, I am
so thankful we did not get adivorce, and that is such a blessing.
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They were on their way out thedoor on their way never did sign.
I said, Lord, I thinkAnd they said, you know,
because they kept listening. They keptlistening to you talk about, you know,
what God can do and God honorsthe marital covenant. And I believed
God. I said, Lord,I thank you, Lord, I praise
you for your mighty power to reconcilethat marriage. And he did, and
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it's so beautiful. I just praisedthe name of Jesus. So he has
no respective person. He did itfor that couple. He would do it
for you. It's not too late. They All they had to do was
pull the door open, step outonto their beautiful porch, walk down the
steps and get into their vehicle orgo through the garage, whichever. But
they didn't because they love each other, and most couples that's going for a
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divorce, they still love each other. They just don't have a knowledge of
how to express that love, howto show that love, how to be
a good spouse. Praise God.But God has it, he said,
if anyone lacks wisdom, let himask. So go to God on your
knees and cry out for how tobe a good spouse. Praise God,
how to love and respect an honoryour spouse how to be faithful and committed.
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God is the answer through his son, I will savior, Jesus,
who is the christ son of theLiving God. Go to Jesus. Go
to Jesus in the name of Jesus. Halleluja. The Holy Spirit is here
to help you. Hey, ma'am. That's what true love is, sticking
together, no matter how bad itget, no matter if it was adulterous
affair. But here's the thing.People, stay out of that affair.
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Don't go back to it. It'slike a dog returning unto you know it's
wrong in the first place. Donot go back to that affair partner.
That's the devil. That's sin inyour life. Do not glorify it.
Amen and Amen, praise God.Got to start having the love of Jesus
for real and showing it. Putyour restraint. Asks the Holy Spirit to
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help you restrain, to keep fromcalling that person. You don't have to
call them. You didn't marry them. That's not your spouse. And stop
talking about your spouses to your fairpartner and end that that ungodly relationship.
Now it's a sin. Your spouseis worth more than that. Don't sin,
and you said you love them,show them love by putting on that
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restraints, by supporting them, byb when it's to present your body living
sacrifice for God and your spouse onlyin Jesus' name, that's my time.
I gotta go. I went overa little, but I thank you all
for joining me on. Have youheard I'm Cindi Gais and I'll look forward
to being with you our next week. Member. We was talking about a
house divided, so we'll pick upfrom there. God bless you all,
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and again thank you for listening.And before we leave, I want to
say, God, in the nameof Jesus, bless them to honor their
spouses. Father God, all thosewho are in adulterous affair, stop them.
Lord, they know his sin.Holy Spirit. Remind them of who
they are and who they are notthose who are contemplating, Lord, let
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the blood of Jesus watch us uglythoughts of adultery out of their minds.
And those who are fornicating, Lord, let them know that that's a sin.
Sexes for marriage. People. Havemercy on them. Father, this
I ask in the name of Jesus. Amen. God bless you all until
next time. Bye.
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