June 3, 2025 • 27 mins
In this heartfelt 100th episode of Her Unshakeable Confidence, Simone and Olivia Knego open up about the real challenges—and beautiful mess—of parenting and growing up. Through candid stories about flat tires, missed webinars, and garage door mishaps, they explore the power of parenting without judgment, the importance of emotional support, and how communication can transform relationships.
With honesty, warmth, and a few laughs, this mother-daughter duo reflects on how children internalize more than we realize, why listening often matters more than advice, and the life lessons that get passed down in unexpected ways. Whether you're a parent trying your best, a daughter still figuring it all out, or somewhere in between, this episode offers powerful reminders about grace, growth, and connection.
Actionable Takeaways
00:00 – Welcome to Episode 100: Celebrating Confidence & Connection
02:10 – Generational Wisdom & Real-Life Learning Moments
06:42 – Parenting Without Judgment: Mistakes, Emotions & Empathy
11:15 – Reactivity, Guilt & Modeling Behavior
15:38 – Story Time: Car Mishaps, Grace & Growth
19:20 – Support vs. Fixing: What Kids Really Need
22:08 – Teaching Independence & Lifelong Learning
24:30 – Final Thoughts & Confidence Tip of the Day
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With honesty, warmth, and a few laughs, this mother-daughter duo reflects on how children internalize more than we realize, why listening often matters more than advice, and the life lessons that get passed down in unexpected ways. Whether you're a parent trying your best, a daughter still figuring it all out, or somewhere in between, this episode offers powerful reminders about grace, growth, and connection.
Actionable Takeaways
- Don’t parent with judgment—your words stay with your kids longer than you think.
- Reactions matter. Your energy sets the emotional tone for your kids.
- Mistakes are opportunities to model empathy and problem-solving, not shame.
- Ask your kids if they need support or just someone to listen. Listening builds trust.
- Life skills matter. Teach your kids the basics—check depositing, tire repair, stain removal.
- Support doesn’t end at 18. Keep the door open for adult children to come back for guidance.
- Treat yourself with the same grace you’d give a friend—or your child.
00:00 – Welcome to Episode 100: Celebrating Confidence & Connection
02:10 – Generational Wisdom & Real-Life Learning Moments
06:42 – Parenting Without Judgment: Mistakes, Emotions & Empathy
11:15 – Reactivity, Guilt & Modeling Behavior
15:38 – Story Time: Car Mishaps, Grace & Growth
19:20 – Support vs. Fixing: What Kids Really Need
22:08 – Teaching Independence & Lifelong Learning
24:30 – Final Thoughts & Confidence Tip of the Day
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- Website: www.simoneknego.com
- Book a free call with Simone
- Instagram: @oliviaknego
- LinkedIn: oliviaknego
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
You can't do new without risk.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Period goes to literally everything we talked about today, going
to one hundred episodes of only five percent of podcasts
doing that.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
You know, like that is a risk right there. You
can't do new without risk.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
Yeah, and that it really does apply to everything. I mean,
you have to be willing to take a risk to
move forward.
Speaker 4 (00:22):
Even if we're talking about your relationship with your child,
Like the idea of it's scary, right, It's all scary.
If you're having issues, the idea of being able to
have a real conversation with them can be scary. But
let me tell you, the reward is always greater than
the risk that good.
Speaker 5 (00:43):
Welcome to her Unshakable Competence with dynamic mother daughter duo
Simone and Olivia Canego, where they discuss the secrets of
transformation and how to build bold competence and unwavering resilience.
From intimate conversations with inspiring guests to sharing their personal
journeys of triumph and challenge, Simone and Olivia create a
supportive space where every woman is encouraged to rise above
(01:07):
her fears and love the woman in the mirror, Tune
into her unshakable confidence and join this special journey of
connection and growth. It's like catching up with old friends
who inspire you to be bravely and uniquely you.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
So it finally happened. We made it to one hundred episodes.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Oh, I thought you were going to say the dog
finally vomited on the carpet.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
And the Don dinhan way on the curpet. Well, it's
voice smooth, but that happens all the time. Stop.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Finally.
Speaker 3 (01:38):
Anyways, one hundred episodes. So basically most people that start
a podcast, they don't make it through three episodes. So
I think it's five percent of podcasts actually make it
to one hundred episodes.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
That's pretty cool. So I didn't know that. Yeah, it's
a big deal.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
And I think it's been really fun.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Yeah, that's been fun. That's been a good way for
us that connect.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
Yeah. Two years we've been doing this, and I just
think it keeps getting better and better. I mean, I
guess obviously because we're learning how to talk better. I
mean sometimes not Okay, Debbie Downer, I'm at Debbie Downer.
I'm just it's early in the morning on a Saturday,
and yeah, kis what it is. Yeah, yeah, but okay,
(02:21):
So what are your favorite parts of the past year?
Speaker 1 (02:24):
Two years? Actually, has it only been two years?
Speaker 2 (02:27):
I feel like it's been like two and a half
because I think about it in like where I was
living when all of this happened, and I was definitely
spring semester of my junior year.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
And I first apartment. Okay, maybe it's and then because
I did that full year and a half. Yeah, and
now I do it out of Nashville.
Speaker 6 (02:47):
Okay, So favorite parts connecting with you, I think, Yeah,
connecting with me is like staying up to day connecting
with me too, No, I think that.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
And you know, we've had some really cool guests, so.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Yeah, and I've had a cool connections that I've lasted
like a long time off of the show because of that.
Speaker 3 (03:08):
Yeah, I think that's been really fun is to meet
people and continue, yeah with them afterwards.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
I feel like I might not be a storyteller in
the same way you are, but I'm a story collector
and I love hearing other people's journeys in their stories
and just learning from other people.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
Yeah, and there's been lots of lots of really good stories.
Do you have like a top one or a top movement?
Because I feel like for you. A lot of times
when we have a guest on, you have these aha moments, okay,
awkward silence.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
I'm trying to think of a top Well, you you
asked me two different questions my hop story and.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
It's early on a Saturday.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
So with one from that one of the earlier episodes,
this is where the guests had on her husband survived
like a miracle heart attack and getting transported from Louisiana
to Texas.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
And I thought to me, yeah, Stacy Harris, because of
the power community there, that was like very impactful for me.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
Yeah. I haven't listened to that episode. Listen to the
Stacy Harris episode that she and She's all about connection.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Yeah, and I think that's a really cool brand to
like have for yourself, especially having gone through something like
that and just really emphasizing the importance of, you know,
building the community around you and leaning on people when
you need to.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
Yeah, it was it was amazing kind of seeing it
in action. I mean obviously I wasn't there at the time,
but hearing kind of the community that she built, and
you know, I think we all had this fear of
reaching out if we need help because well, we're human,
and that feels weird, right, If you need help, it
means you're weak or or you're afraid someone's going to
(04:55):
say no. And I think it should be the opposite.
I think when we need help, we app really shouldn't
reach out to our community. And that's exactly what she
did and she had the best response. Her husband needed surgery.
It was a very risky surgery. She was at US
in very small hospital I believe in Louisiana had to
be transferred to Texas and that at first they wouldn't do.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
It because yeah, they were refoosed to do it, or
they refused to get like no one's ambulance, their ambulance
wouldn't transport him. Essentially, and through her connections and literally
just by posting on Facebook and being like, does anybody
know someone that can help me with this, hundreds of
people reached out to her. Someone down in Louisiana, the
CEO of a hospital's wife in Texas reached out to her.
(05:39):
And I think it was like a good reminder to
me that you never you never know what someone's going
through and went to offer support and that's so important,
but be you never know how someone can help you
and there's no harm in asking, and then most of
the times it turns out better than you could ever imagined.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Yeah, and never take anything for granted.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
No, definitely not, Like she is someone that lives every
day like it could be her last. And I think
that's really remarkable.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
Yeah, so that was one of my favorite Yeah, it
was yours you saying our episode with Jennifer Swan and Kennedy.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Oh well, that's like, I love Kennedy. Kennedy and I
regularly stay in touch. So she's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
They're coming to Nashville sometime in the fall, and I
can't wait to meet her in person. Finally.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
Yeah, so that's another story where so Kennedy, I forget
how many machines she needs to keep her alive. But
she's a teenager. She was diagnosed with a very rare
disease when she was a baby, and her parents had
to make a choice, like do we most most children
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don't survive in and so, but they chose.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
To do all the things, chose to live life and
not just survive but thrive. I mean, she goes on
Disney vacations all the time just to experience life. She's
in show choir, she's in theater, she's in every single
activity that she wants to be on campus. And I
think that's so remarkable, and I think it's a good
(07:17):
life lesson for me because there's so many things that
I would hesitate to try because I wouldn't immediately think
I'm good enough to do it. But Kennedy throws that
whole idea out the window and does it because she
wants to do it.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
And she speaks through an ideas, so she understands everything.
But the way she communicates is by the only thing
she can really move is her eyes, and so the eyes,
she uses her machine to spell things out, or she's
got word groups so that she can communicate. And it
was really and.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
She's a crazy sense of humour. If he gets you
to know her, she's so so funny.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
So it was really fun to have them on and
really understand what thriving means and what living life needs
because I think, again, we live in our little bubble
and we aren't willing to take risks sometimes.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
I think they talked a lot about like the hate
they get on social media, which is ridiculous, but I
think for a lot of people, you would see a
family like theirs on social media.
Speaker 3 (08:23):
And be like I could never do that. Yes you can, Yeah,
I think you can do whatever you Yeah, you want
to do. I mean anything takes work.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
Right obviously, and you have to want it. Yeah. And
I mean I think they're they're a really remarkable family.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
And I think that, you know, we we take a
lot of things for granted, I mean one hundred percent.
And I think that's what these last couple of years
have taught me is different perspectives and and really, I've
seen you grow so much as a person.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Sweet, I think so too.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
I think that when you're I mean, I went from
what nineteen to twenty two essentially, well, no, that's four years,
that three eighth twenty to twenty two?
Speaker 1 (09:11):
Is that maybe nineteen? Yeah, nineteen. I can't do math.
I'm in law school, not in med school. That's like
a thing lawyers can't do math.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
I think that I would not have had this growth
without the number of adult conversations that I've had, and
in not just like you know, talking to your parents' friends,
like completely open and honest conversations of how they struggled
through their twenties and thirties and forties and whatever the
age they are now to get to the point that
they are now three, Okay, yeah, I mean so it's
(09:45):
not that deep. Fifty three is the new thirty five.
Well that's another thing actually on my tangent. I am
like if you would ask me at sixteen, I was
so scared of aging. I'm so excited to get out
of my twenties. Life seems like a it's better when
you hit thirty.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
I love my thirties. We're so random right now.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
Yeah, I love no.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
But I've meeting people of all different ages and perspectives that, like,
you have this idea on social media that like life
gets boring when you have kids, or like life gets
boring when you settle down, and it's like, okay, yeah,
the real life experience of you guys, But seeing other
people live that, no, like in a good way, Like
you guys aren't boring.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
No, like you guys offer are you kidding?
Speaker 2 (10:26):
You've restarted your career at forty that's pretty remarkable. You
guys are the opposite of boring. But seeing other people
you know older than me not be boring too, No
offense to some of the boring people out there.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
You're probably not boring you. It's just in your head.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
It's just been a it's been fun and I feel like,
actually I've gained a lot and I feel like I
have more wisdom to share with my friends.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Like after every episode I text someone and I'm like,
this really reminded me of you. Here's what they said
about their situation.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
That's interesting. Yeah, that's good.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
I love it. I honestly do love it. I've had.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
Actually, the best compliment I had was a girl in
my law class. She was like, you know, I was like, oh, like,
I record podcasts with my Mom's just like okay, Like
I'll listen to it. And she said, it's been so
nice to listen to your mother daughter conversations, Like it's
just been so refreshing to hear a good connection like that.
And I was like, wow, someone my age is saying
that to me, Like that's really cool. I love when
(11:23):
people in the community come up to me and are like,
we listened to it. But honestly, most of all, I
just love talking to you because you know, I moved
away when I'm seventeen years old, and I would say
maybe the first year I was really good at connection,
but the more I got into school, and the more
I got into my friend groups, it's been really hard
to maintain the familial connection that I would like to have.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
And then moving to Nashville and storing law school, it
got ten times harder. And I think this is just
a nice way.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
We sit down once a week and we can actually
talk and we don't know, like we talk after the
podcast too, Like we stay on afterwards and just trot
about everything going on.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
And I don't think I would have that opportunity otherwise.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
Should I record that too?
Speaker 1 (12:04):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (12:04):
We should be funny behind the scenes. When there you
can hear all this shit I rants about.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
It's a lot.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
Maybe it shouldn't be published. Yeah, I agree, And I
think that I think that this is a really good
example for moms and daughters about what your relationship could be.
I mean, I think actually going back, so I love
(12:31):
the episode with Jennifer and Kennedy, but I think of
our own episode, like just the two of us. I
think when we talked about why we have such a
good relationship and that the idea, Oh yeah, parenting without judgment.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Because I wish I could talk to so many moms
and daughters and just like sit down and be like
this is why, Like because it when you're a kid,
I would say, you know that relationship a lot of
it's on the parents, but the older you get, the
more it's on you as well.
Speaker 3 (13:02):
And just like.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Family is like it's for first of all, it's who
you make it. I don't believe in like blood is
thicker than water, like that's ridiculous.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
But also.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
It's so easy, in my opinion, to reconnect. And I
know it's that cannot be same for everything, but like
putting down obviously some situations cannot be fixed, but like
putting down your differences and being able to really talk
about it and not just ignore the elephants in the
room or just shove things to the side. And I think, yeah,
the parenting without judgment is the most important thing. And
(13:37):
because you've been doing it not with judgment a lot
while you go home, she'll talk to me about something.
I was like, you said that to the kid, and
she was like, no, I just thought that in my head.
And I was like, okay, good, don't say that's the key.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
I mean, as a parent, you've seen things inside your
head all the time. It's the problem is when they
come out of your liath.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
Yeah, because.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
I'm going to tell you, like I see with my
seventeen year old sister, she will hold onto every words
you say. Yeah, so if you say something negative, if
you say something mean, it's going to live with her.
It's not going to be like with my other brother,
who just kind of rolls off his back. He doesn't license.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
But especially with like with girls, we really are.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
So I don't want to say sensitive because that makes
you sound weak, but like in tune with what other
people think about us. And when it comes to a mother,
you want someone that's going to support you even when
you know you're being stupid, you know, even when you
know you're being an absolute B word like I was
the other night.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
There you were, Yeah I was.
Speaker 3 (14:35):
But even like yesterday with your brother, which again I
was on me. So he two weeks ago he love
a tire. Again, it's an accident, right, So we bought
a new tire and I wasn't there. And again this
is a learning lesson. I didn't tell him that he
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should buy the road hazard well.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
Which fair enough, I didn't even know that was a thing.
Speaker 3 (14:59):
Yeah, and actually your dad was like, huh.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
Yeah, this is We've been talking a lot about like
writing a book with things that we should know that
would be in it.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
Yeah, and.
Speaker 3 (15:08):
So yesterday, guess what nail on the same tire? Wait
in a way they say they can't fix it.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
They can't fix it. So that's another thing. Don't trust
the first opinion at car shops.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
Make a friend that's good at cars, that can recommend you,
because you know you're gonna know someone eventually who's boyfriend
or girlfriend is very into cars. For me, it would
never be someone. Yeah, but like in Nashville, like when
I was, they were like when I first got my car,
they were like, you need to get this changed. And
this changed, and this changed. I was freaking out because
(15:41):
it was gonna be so much money and my boyfriend
left him to death. He knows how to do things,
he doesn't know when they're wrong. And so I like
one of my friends that are super her boyfriend super
into cars, and I was like, could you just ask
him like and she was like yeah, no, if you
have you all of these things are like over one
hundred thousand miles plus like, don't do it. So what
(16:02):
was like, No, back to your story, that goes back
to my story though, of trust your car people and
find a good trusted car person.
Speaker 3 (16:08):
Okay, So that had nothing to do with my story.
So my story was that, basically, I mean I spent
two hours on the phone trying to find a tire,
Like we couldn't even find a tire, and we think
he's going to get it repaired today, but we'll see
but wait. Okay, So the problem was I was getting
really frustrated because I was on this webinar at the
(16:29):
same time, which means I couldn't do the webinar. So
I finally had to just sign off with the webinar,
which you know, I was doing work. So I was
a little frustrating. So then I spent literally two hours
trying to find this tire, and so I was getting
frustrated in front of him, Like I wasn't frustrated to him.
I didn't say, oh my gosh, like come on, like
how did you not know this? But I think, just
(16:50):
my the way I was behaving, which wasn't it wasn't great.
It made him feel really bad about himself that two
tires and less than a month. Then why didn't he know.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
About the you know what?
Speaker 2 (17:05):
And I want to say something about to my original
story with Stacy Harris the power reaching out to community.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
You didn't reach out. Our cousin here literally does cars
for a living.
Speaker 2 (17:15):
First thing, my dad says, after two hours of her
dealing with when he gets home, it's oh, did you
text him?
Speaker 3 (17:20):
No?
Speaker 2 (17:21):
First thing he does, He's like, oh, I'm not there. Back,
I would totally be able to fix that, but I'll
send you my guy. Yeah okay, So but yes, back
to being reactive. Your kids feed off of your energy. Yeah,
and I've known that since I was a little kid.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
So even if I'm not saying it directly to them,
but if I'm behaving, yeah, in a way, I mean
I'm modeling. And so if that's what they see all
the time, yeah, I're going to feel bad. And that's
gonna it's like be like how they behave You are
interrupting me, like sixteen.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
Hours, but I had like a really good example.
Speaker 3 (17:51):
Okay there.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Oh it's like when kids fall down, if you go immediately, oh,
they'll start crying, but if you go you're okay, You're fine,
and they won't.
Speaker 3 (17:58):
Yeah, it's true. It's true. So so I know, like definitely,
I have to remind myself all the time the ways
I need to step up better because you know, I'm
human and I frustrated. But again, I think, like back
to the parenting piece, is that it is that piece
of not judging, like, yeah, it's not his fault. How
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would he have known that? And I didn't say anything, right,
So I mean it's also on me, and and accidents
happen every day. And thankfully the tired didn't fully.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
Blow out, so that.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
So and he was in a safer part of town
than he was the last time I actually pay out,
which was like on the side of the highway, And
and he now knows how to change a tire, so
which is great.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
I think something like from a kid perspective on that
is that we're feeling guilty about that situation regardless, Like
you don't need to tell us how bad do you
feel about it, because we already have that guilt in us.
Speaker 3 (18:59):
You've said that to me before.
Speaker 2 (19:00):
Yeah, But one of the things that's always helped me
is that we have five there's five other ones of me.
I know that'd be ridiculous, oh my god, because you
imagine if I was twin Oh. But one of the
things my dad especially does is he when I'm feeling
guilty about these situations. He likes to pull stories from
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other kids and be like, see, we weren't even mad
at Jacob when he did this crazy thing. And so
for me with Ari, first of all, I've had a
lot of bad car stories, like a lot of bad
car stories. This summer alone, my car broke down twice,
to the point that I needed a new car battery.
It was literally so it was the hottest battery that
(19:42):
the Triple A guys that he'd ever seen. My tire
popped within the law school parking garage. I've hit the
poll only once, pretty proud of myself. It's a bad
hit of the poll. And when I was in high school,
I was pulling out of the garage and this is
like the worst story ever. Pulling out the garage, I
(20:04):
hit my brother's car behind me. I don't put the
car in park, I put it back and drive. It
rolls forward, hits the front of the garage and I'm like,
oh my god, I'm so late to school.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
Pull out completely, tear my side side mirror off on
the side of the garage.
Speaker 3 (20:18):
And honestly, while she always she missed the one side,
so basically she had the back the front and the
right side.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
And honestly, like, I was so upset with myself in
the moment. My dad was still home.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
He was like, you're taking the day off, and honestly, like,
now we just laugh about it because it was kind
of ridiculous that.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
That even happened. Well, we kind of laughed about it,
so he laughed about it too.
Speaker 3 (20:38):
Well, we laughed until them near we found out the
mare were six hundred dollars so bad, Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
Really, but it's still like it's replaceable, right, And I
was okay, except for your right is not replaceable.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
That is a really good bar mom. Yeah, that was
a really good line.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:55):
And so all of these little things that maybe you
let build up as a parent, you got to realize
that we did the same stupid shit when we were
growing up. Yeah, I mean maybe not the same, but like,
we made mistakes, and we have to be able to
make mistakes. But if you don't have the support of
someone behind you when you make a mistake, you tend
(21:18):
to continue making those mistakes because no one's there to say,
how can I help. And actually we were having a
conversation was it last night or two nights ago and
you were saying something and I was trying to respond,
and your dad said to me, she doesn't need you
to chime in, she just needs you to oh yeah.
And I thought that was really good because I tell
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myself that all the time, Like, and I shouldn't ask
the question do you want me to listen or do
you want me to give advice? Right, And that night
she just wanted me to listen, and I was like
completely oblivious to the situation, and your dad was like
just listening. Yeah, stop like dop trying stop trying to siman.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
It because something.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
It's like, we need to learn how to fix our
own things, oh for sure, but like we'll ask for
help when we.
Speaker 3 (22:04):
Need so yeah, I mean for sure, Like this morning,
your brother is gonna go to the other car place
and figure it out. And yeah, you know, it's not
like he's not capable of doing things, it's just in
the moment he was like, I don't know what to do.
Speaker 2 (22:17):
This is our first time on Earth, but it's also
your first time on Earth. And I think that's something
this podcast has taught me is that I'm still learning
every day. Yeah, And I think when you're your kid,
you don't realize that.
Speaker 3 (22:30):
Yeah, you think your parents have it all together, especially
when you're really little, You think the parents have it
all together, and then things fall apart and then you're like, well, okay,
what's the real story here? So I think from the beginning,
if I tell you that things are always going to
fall apart, that will be helpful.
Speaker 1 (22:44):
They're not always going to fall for now, No, not
at all, I mean but.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
Again, so I mean for me, this has been such
a great experience. I can't wait to do more episodes.
And we're setting up.
Speaker 1 (22:55):
A little studio eventually.
Speaker 3 (22:58):
Well this is like a studio, but we're set up
where we actually get to sit next yeah each other
and chairs for when she's home so that we can
have a different environment for recording. So it's more really
like a well there is a conversation, but so we're
not sitting on top of each other, which we're doing
right now.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
So that's it.
Speaker 3 (23:16):
This is episode one hundred and thank you for joining
me on this journey, and thank you for joining us
on this journey.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
My podcast quote, I mean my podcast quote, Jesus, my
calendar quote is really great.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
Today.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
You can't do new without risk, period goes to literally
everything we talked about today. Go into one hundred episodes
of only five percent of podcast doing that. You know,
like that is a risk right there. You can't do
new without risk.
Speaker 3 (23:46):
Yeah, and that it really does apply to everything. I mean,
you have to be willing to take a risk to forward.
Even if we're talking about your relationship with your child,
Like the idea of it's scary, right, it's all scary.
If fear having issues, the idea of being able to
have a real conversation with them can be scary. But
let me tell you, the reward is always greater than
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the risk.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
That was good.
Speaker 3 (24:13):
Thanks, I appreciate that. Okay, I'm slow right now because
I'm looking something up.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
Okay, well I can fill the time tell us.
Speaker 2 (24:25):
I still think Grandma is the realist adult that I've
ever met because she just knows things like.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
Like how to get certain stains out of the laundring,
Like when do you learn that?
Speaker 3 (24:38):
Well, you know, part of the problem is she didn't
teach me.
Speaker 1 (24:42):
She just did it for me. So that's she's a thing.
She's a big doer, not a teacher. Is that if you.
Speaker 3 (24:50):
If you want your kids, you know, what's the saying
that if you want to feed somebody, you.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
Teach a man, Give a man a fish, she'll eat
for a day, teach a man to fish eat for
his whole life. Yeah, and so same kind of thing,
like so I try to do that.
Speaker 3 (25:04):
Like even the other day I was using or he
got a check from somebody and he's never a positive
check before because we don't do checks usually.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
So I was just like, here, let me show you
how to do it.
Speaker 3 (25:14):
And then Noah got a check and he knew how
to do it because I had showed him before, and
he just asked me to check to make sure if
he did it correctly. But same kind of thing, like
if we show them these skills, they get their independence
and they come back like it's not just like they're
independent and they're gone.
Speaker 1 (25:29):
They oh, we calm back. My brother is about cintron thirty,
he's not, but I'm aging him.
Speaker 3 (25:36):
Um, he's try twenty.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
That's pretty much thirty. And he still comes back for questions,
which is good.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
I mean again, like that's what we're here for as parents,
Like we it's not like we get eighteen years and
we're goodbye.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
I saw a TikTok about that.
Speaker 2 (25:54):
That was like calling my mom and I have an
issue because I'm an adult, but she's a realer adult.
Speaker 3 (26:00):
Yeah you know again, I've been adulting for a lot longer.
So if I can help, I want to help. So
confidence tip of the day. Stop asking yourself if you're
good enough. Start asking yourself what you need next. Confidence
doesn't come from proving yourself over and over. It comes
from supporting yourself like someone you believe in.
Speaker 1 (26:22):
Wait, that's so good. Yeah I like that last line.
Speaker 3 (26:25):
Yeah, that's It comes from supporting yourself like someone you
believe in. Treat yourself like you would your best friend.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
God, that's another good bar. Yeah, I need to do that.
Speaker 3 (26:34):
I got three bars today, three bars. So thank you
for joining us on this one hundredth episode of Her
Unshakable Confidence.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
We're so happy you're here.
Speaker 3 (26:45):
We can't wait to see you more, and we'll see.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
You next week. Bye, guys, I.
Speaker 5 (26:53):
Thank you for listening to Her Unshakable Confidence with Simone
and Olivia Canego. We hope this episode has made your
day just a little bit brighter and giving you the
inspiration you need to confidently go about your week. Always
remember to be authentically you don't forget to like and
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to connect with them on Instagram at Simone Canego and
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at Olivia Canego.
Speaker 1 (27:18):
Till next time, yousssssss
You can't do new without risk.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Period goes to literally everything we talked about today, going
to one hundred episodes of only five percent of podcasts
doing that.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
You know, like that is a risk right there. You
can't do new without risk.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
Yeah, and that it really does apply to everything. I mean,
you have to be willing to take a risk to
move forward.
Speaker 4 (00:22):
Even if we're talking about your relationship with your child,
Like the idea of it's scary, right, It's all scary.
If you're having issues, the idea of being able to
have a real conversation with them can be scary. But
let me tell you, the reward is always greater than
the risk that good.
Speaker 5 (00:43):
Welcome to her Unshakable Competence with dynamic mother daughter duo
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Speaker 3 (01:23):
So it finally happened. We made it to one hundred episodes.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Oh, I thought you were going to say the dog
finally vomited on the carpet.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
And the Don dinhan way on the curpet. Well, it's
voice smooth, but that happens all the time. Stop.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Finally.
Speaker 3 (01:38):
Anyways, one hundred episodes. So basically most people that start
a podcast, they don't make it through three episodes. So
I think it's five percent of podcasts actually make it
to one hundred episodes.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
That's pretty cool. So I didn't know that. Yeah, it's
a big deal.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
And I think it's been really fun.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Yeah, that's been fun. That's been a good way for
us that connect.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
Yeah. Two years we've been doing this, and I just
think it keeps getting better and better. I mean, I
guess obviously because we're learning how to talk better. I
mean sometimes not Okay, Debbie Downer, I'm at Debbie Downer.
I'm just it's early in the morning on a Saturday,
and yeah, kis what it is. Yeah, yeah, but okay,
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So what are your favorite parts of the past year?
Speaker 1 (02:24):
Two years? Actually, has it only been two years?
Speaker 2 (02:27):
I feel like it's been like two and a half
because I think about it in like where I was
living when all of this happened, and I was definitely
spring semester of my junior year.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
And I first apartment. Okay, maybe it's and then because
I did that full year and a half. Yeah, and
now I do it out of Nashville.
Speaker 6 (02:47):
Okay, So favorite parts connecting with you, I think, Yeah,
connecting with me is like staying up to day connecting
with me too, No, I think that.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
And you know, we've had some really cool guests, so.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Yeah, and I've had a cool connections that I've lasted
like a long time off of the show because of that.
Speaker 3 (03:08):
Yeah, I think that's been really fun is to meet
people and continue, yeah with them afterwards.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
I feel like I might not be a storyteller in
the same way you are, but I'm a story collector
and I love hearing other people's journeys in their stories
and just learning from other people.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
Yeah, and there's been lots of lots of really good stories.
Do you have like a top one or a top movement?
Because I feel like for you. A lot of times
when we have a guest on, you have these aha moments, okay,
awkward silence.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
I'm trying to think of a top Well, you you
asked me two different questions my hop story and.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
It's early on a Saturday.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
So with one from that one of the earlier episodes,
this is where the guests had on her husband survived
like a miracle heart attack and getting transported from Louisiana
to Texas.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
And I thought to me, yeah, Stacy Harris, because of
the power community there, that was like very impactful for me.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
Yeah. I haven't listened to that episode. Listen to the
Stacy Harris episode that she and She's all about connection.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Yeah, and I think that's a really cool brand to
like have for yourself, especially having gone through something like
that and just really emphasizing the importance of, you know,
building the community around you and leaning on people when
you need to.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
Yeah, it was it was amazing kind of seeing it
in action. I mean obviously I wasn't there at the time,
but hearing kind of the community that she built, and
you know, I think we all had this fear of
reaching out if we need help because well, we're human,
and that feels weird, right, If you need help, it
means you're weak or or you're afraid someone's going to
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say no. And I think it should be the opposite.
I think when we need help, we app really shouldn't
reach out to our community. And that's exactly what she
did and she had the best response. Her husband needed surgery.
It was a very risky surgery. She was at US
in very small hospital I believe in Louisiana had to
be transferred to Texas and that at first they wouldn't do.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
It because yeah, they were refoosed to do it, or
they refused to get like no one's ambulance, their ambulance
wouldn't transport him. Essentially, and through her connections and literally
just by posting on Facebook and being like, does anybody
know someone that can help me with this, hundreds of
people reached out to her. Someone down in Louisiana, the
CEO of a hospital's wife in Texas reached out to her.
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And I think it was like a good reminder to
me that you never you never know what someone's going
through and went to offer support and that's so important,
but be you never know how someone can help you
and there's no harm in asking, and then most of
the times it turns out better than you could ever imagined.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Yeah, and never take anything for granted.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
No, definitely not, Like she is someone that lives every
day like it could be her last. And I think
that's really remarkable.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
Yeah, so that was one of my favorite Yeah, it
was yours you saying our episode with Jennifer Swan and Kennedy.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Oh well, that's like, I love Kennedy. Kennedy and I
regularly stay in touch. So she's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
They're coming to Nashville sometime in the fall, and I
can't wait to meet her in person. Finally.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
Yeah, so that's another story where so Kennedy, I forget
how many machines she needs to keep her alive. But
she's a teenager. She was diagnosed with a very rare
disease when she was a baby, and her parents had
to make a choice, like do we most most children
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don't survive in and so, but they chose.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
To do all the things, chose to live life and
not just survive but thrive. I mean, she goes on
Disney vacations all the time just to experience life. She's
in show choir, she's in theater, she's in every single
activity that she wants to be on campus. And I
think that's so remarkable, and I think it's a good
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life lesson for me because there's so many things that
I would hesitate to try because I wouldn't immediately think
I'm good enough to do it. But Kennedy throws that
whole idea out the window and does it because she
wants to do it.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
And she speaks through an ideas, so she understands everything.
But the way she communicates is by the only thing
she can really move is her eyes, and so the eyes,
she uses her machine to spell things out, or she's
got word groups so that she can communicate. And it
was really and.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
She's a crazy sense of humour. If he gets you
to know her, she's so so funny.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
So it was really fun to have them on and
really understand what thriving means and what living life needs
because I think, again, we live in our little bubble
and we aren't willing to take risks sometimes.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
I think they talked a lot about like the hate
they get on social media, which is ridiculous, but I
think for a lot of people, you would see a
family like theirs on social media.
Speaker 3 (08:23):
And be like I could never do that. Yes you can, Yeah,
I think you can do whatever you Yeah, you want
to do. I mean anything takes work.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
Right obviously, and you have to want it. Yeah. And
I mean I think they're they're a really remarkable family.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
And I think that, you know, we we take a
lot of things for granted, I mean one hundred percent.
And I think that's what these last couple of years
have taught me is different perspectives and and really, I've
seen you grow so much as a person.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Sweet, I think so too.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
I think that when you're I mean, I went from
what nineteen to twenty two essentially, well, no, that's four years,
that three eighth twenty to twenty two?
Speaker 1 (09:11):
Is that maybe nineteen? Yeah, nineteen. I can't do math.
I'm in law school, not in med school. That's like
a thing lawyers can't do math.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
I think that I would not have had this growth
without the number of adult conversations that I've had, and
in not just like you know, talking to your parents' friends,
like completely open and honest conversations of how they struggled
through their twenties and thirties and forties and whatever the
age they are now to get to the point that
they are now three, Okay, yeah, I mean so it's
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not that deep. Fifty three is the new thirty five.
Well that's another thing actually on my tangent. I am
like if you would ask me at sixteen, I was
so scared of aging. I'm so excited to get out
of my twenties. Life seems like a it's better when
you hit thirty.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
I love my thirties. We're so random right now.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
Yeah, I love no.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
But I've meeting people of all different ages and perspectives that, like,
you have this idea on social media that like life
gets boring when you have kids, or like life gets
boring when you settle down, and it's like, okay, yeah,
the real life experience of you guys, But seeing other
people live that, no, like in a good way, Like
you guys aren't boring.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
No, like you guys offer are you kidding?
Speaker 2 (10:26):
You've restarted your career at forty that's pretty remarkable. You
guys are the opposite of boring. But seeing other people
you know older than me not be boring too, No
offense to some of the boring people out there.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
You're probably not boring you. It's just in your head.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
It's just been a it's been fun and I feel like,
actually I've gained a lot and I feel like I
have more wisdom to share with my friends.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Like after every episode I text someone and I'm like,
this really reminded me of you. Here's what they said
about their situation.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
That's interesting. Yeah, that's good.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
I love it. I honestly do love it. I've had.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
Actually, the best compliment I had was a girl in
my law class. She was like, you know, I was like, oh, like,
I record podcasts with my Mom's just like okay, Like
I'll listen to it. And she said, it's been so
nice to listen to your mother daughter conversations, Like it's
just been so refreshing to hear a good connection like that.
And I was like, wow, someone my age is saying
that to me, Like that's really cool. I love when
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people in the community come up to me and are like,
we listened to it. But honestly, most of all, I
just love talking to you because you know, I moved
away when I'm seventeen years old, and I would say
maybe the first year I was really good at connection,
but the more I got into school, and the more
I got into my friend groups, it's been really hard
to maintain the familial connection that I would like to have.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
And then moving to Nashville and storing law school, it
got ten times harder. And I think this is just
a nice way.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
We sit down once a week and we can actually
talk and we don't know, like we talk after the
podcast too, Like we stay on afterwards and just trot
about everything going on.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
And I don't think I would have that opportunity otherwise.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
Should I record that too?
Speaker 1 (12:04):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (12:04):
We should be funny behind the scenes. When there you
can hear all this shit I rants about.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
It's a lot.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
Maybe it shouldn't be published. Yeah, I agree, And I
think that I think that this is a really good
example for moms and daughters about what your relationship could be.
I mean, I think actually going back, so I love
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the episode with Jennifer and Kennedy, but I think of
our own episode, like just the two of us. I
think when we talked about why we have such a
good relationship and that the idea, Oh yeah, parenting without judgment.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Because I wish I could talk to so many moms
and daughters and just like sit down and be like
this is why, Like because it when you're a kid,
I would say, you know that relationship a lot of
it's on the parents, but the older you get, the
more it's on you as well.
Speaker 3 (13:02):
And just like.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Family is like it's for first of all, it's who
you make it. I don't believe in like blood is
thicker than water, like that's ridiculous.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
But also.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
It's so easy, in my opinion, to reconnect. And I
know it's that cannot be same for everything, but like
putting down obviously some situations cannot be fixed, but like
putting down your differences and being able to really talk
about it and not just ignore the elephants in the
room or just shove things to the side. And I think, yeah,
the parenting without judgment is the most important thing. And
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because you've been doing it not with judgment a lot
while you go home, she'll talk to me about something.
I was like, you said that to the kid, and
she was like, no, I just thought that in my head.
And I was like, okay, good, don't say that's the key.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
I mean, as a parent, you've seen things inside your
head all the time. It's the problem is when they
come out of your liath.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
Yeah, because.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
I'm going to tell you, like I see with my
seventeen year old sister, she will hold onto every words
you say. Yeah, so if you say something negative, if
you say something mean, it's going to live with her.
It's not going to be like with my other brother,
who just kind of rolls off his back. He doesn't license.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
But especially with like with girls, we really are.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
So I don't want to say sensitive because that makes
you sound weak, but like in tune with what other
people think about us. And when it comes to a mother,
you want someone that's going to support you even when
you know you're being stupid, you know, even when you
know you're being an absolute B word like I was
the other night.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
There you were, Yeah I was.
Speaker 3 (14:35):
But even like yesterday with your brother, which again I
was on me. So he two weeks ago he love
a tire. Again, it's an accident, right, So we bought
a new tire and I wasn't there. And again this
is a learning lesson. I didn't tell him that he
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should buy the road hazard well.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
Which fair enough, I didn't even know that was a thing.
Speaker 3 (14:59):
Yeah, and actually your dad was like, huh.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
Yeah, this is We've been talking a lot about like
writing a book with things that we should know that
would be in it.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
Yeah, and.
Speaker 3 (15:08):
So yesterday, guess what nail on the same tire? Wait
in a way they say they can't fix it.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
They can't fix it. So that's another thing. Don't trust
the first opinion at car shops.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
Make a friend that's good at cars, that can recommend you,
because you know you're gonna know someone eventually who's boyfriend
or girlfriend is very into cars. For me, it would
never be someone. Yeah, but like in Nashville, like when
I was, they were like when I first got my car,
they were like, you need to get this changed. And
this changed, and this changed. I was freaking out because
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it was gonna be so much money and my boyfriend
left him to death. He knows how to do things,
he doesn't know when they're wrong. And so I like
one of my friends that are super her boyfriend super
into cars, and I was like, could you just ask
him like and she was like yeah, no, if you
have you all of these things are like over one
hundred thousand miles plus like, don't do it. So what
(16:02):
was like, No, back to your story, that goes back
to my story though, of trust your car people and
find a good trusted car person.
Speaker 3 (16:08):
Okay, So that had nothing to do with my story.
So my story was that, basically, I mean I spent
two hours on the phone trying to find a tire,
Like we couldn't even find a tire, and we think
he's going to get it repaired today, but we'll see
but wait. Okay, So the problem was I was getting
really frustrated because I was on this webinar at the
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same time, which means I couldn't do the webinar. So
I finally had to just sign off with the webinar,
which you know, I was doing work. So I was
a little frustrating. So then I spent literally two hours
trying to find this tire, and so I was getting
frustrated in front of him, Like I wasn't frustrated to him.
I didn't say, oh my gosh, like come on, like
how did you not know this? But I think, just
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my the way I was behaving, which wasn't it wasn't great.
It made him feel really bad about himself that two
tires and less than a month. Then why didn't he know.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
About the you know what?
Speaker 2 (17:05):
And I want to say something about to my original
story with Stacy Harris the power reaching out to community.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
You didn't reach out. Our cousin here literally does cars
for a living.
Speaker 2 (17:15):
First thing, my dad says, after two hours of her
dealing with when he gets home, it's oh, did you
text him?
Speaker 3 (17:20):
No?
Speaker 2 (17:21):
First thing he does, He's like, oh, I'm not there. Back,
I would totally be able to fix that, but I'll
send you my guy. Yeah okay, So but yes, back
to being reactive. Your kids feed off of your energy. Yeah,
and I've known that since I was a little kid.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
So even if I'm not saying it directly to them,
but if I'm behaving, yeah, in a way, I mean
I'm modeling. And so if that's what they see all
the time, yeah, I're going to feel bad. And that's
gonna it's like be like how they behave You are
interrupting me, like sixteen.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
Hours, but I had like a really good example.
Speaker 3 (17:51):
Okay there.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Oh it's like when kids fall down, if you go immediately, oh,
they'll start crying, but if you go you're okay, You're fine,
and they won't.
Speaker 3 (17:58):
Yeah, it's true. It's true. So so I know, like definitely,
I have to remind myself all the time the ways
I need to step up better because you know, I'm
human and I frustrated. But again, I think, like back
to the parenting piece, is that it is that piece
of not judging, like, yeah, it's not his fault. How
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would he have known that? And I didn't say anything, right,
So I mean it's also on me, and and accidents
happen every day. And thankfully the tired didn't fully.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
Blow out, so that.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
So and he was in a safer part of town
than he was the last time I actually pay out,
which was like on the side of the highway, And
and he now knows how to change a tire, so
which is great.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
I think something like from a kid perspective on that
is that we're feeling guilty about that situation regardless, Like
you don't need to tell us how bad do you
feel about it, because we already have that guilt in us.
Speaker 3 (18:59):
You've said that to me before.
Speaker 2 (19:00):
Yeah, But one of the things that's always helped me
is that we have five there's five other ones of me.
I know that'd be ridiculous, oh my god, because you
imagine if I was twin Oh. But one of the
things my dad especially does is he when I'm feeling
guilty about these situations. He likes to pull stories from
(19:21):
other kids and be like, see, we weren't even mad
at Jacob when he did this crazy thing. And so
for me with Ari, first of all, I've had a
lot of bad car stories, like a lot of bad
car stories. This summer alone, my car broke down twice,
to the point that I needed a new car battery.
It was literally so it was the hottest battery that
(19:42):
the Triple A guys that he'd ever seen. My tire
popped within the law school parking garage. I've hit the
poll only once, pretty proud of myself. It's a bad
hit of the poll. And when I was in high school,
I was pulling out of the garage and this is
like the worst story ever. Pulling out the garage, I
(20:04):
hit my brother's car behind me. I don't put the
car in park, I put it back and drive. It
rolls forward, hits the front of the garage and I'm like,
oh my god, I'm so late to school.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
Pull out completely, tear my side side mirror off on
the side of the garage.
Speaker 3 (20:18):
And honestly, while she always she missed the one side,
so basically she had the back the front and the
right side.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
And honestly, like, I was so upset with myself in
the moment. My dad was still home.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
He was like, you're taking the day off, and honestly, like,
now we just laugh about it because it was kind
of ridiculous that.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
That even happened. Well, we kind of laughed about it,
so he laughed about it too.
Speaker 3 (20:38):
Well, we laughed until them near we found out the
mare were six hundred dollars so bad, Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
Really, but it's still like it's replaceable, right, And I
was okay, except for your right is not replaceable.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
That is a really good bar mom. Yeah, that was
a really good line.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:55):
And so all of these little things that maybe you
let build up as a parent, you got to realize
that we did the same stupid shit when we were
growing up. Yeah, I mean maybe not the same, but like,
we made mistakes, and we have to be able to
make mistakes. But if you don't have the support of
someone behind you when you make a mistake, you tend
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to continue making those mistakes because no one's there to say,
how can I help. And actually we were having a
conversation was it last night or two nights ago and
you were saying something and I was trying to respond,
and your dad said to me, she doesn't need you
to chime in, she just needs you to oh yeah.
And I thought that was really good because I tell
(21:40):
myself that all the time, Like, and I shouldn't ask
the question do you want me to listen or do
you want me to give advice? Right, And that night
she just wanted me to listen, and I was like
completely oblivious to the situation, and your dad was like
just listening. Yeah, stop like dop trying stop trying to siman.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
It because something.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
It's like, we need to learn how to fix our
own things, oh for sure, but like we'll ask for
help when we.
Speaker 3 (22:04):
Need so yeah, I mean for sure, Like this morning,
your brother is gonna go to the other car place
and figure it out. And yeah, you know, it's not
like he's not capable of doing things, it's just in
the moment he was like, I don't know what to do.
Speaker 2 (22:17):
This is our first time on Earth, but it's also
your first time on Earth. And I think that's something
this podcast has taught me is that I'm still learning
every day. Yeah, And I think when you're your kid,
you don't realize that.
Speaker 3 (22:30):
Yeah, you think your parents have it all together, especially
when you're really little, You think the parents have it
all together, and then things fall apart and then you're like, well, okay,
what's the real story here? So I think from the beginning,
if I tell you that things are always going to
fall apart, that will be helpful.
Speaker 1 (22:44):
They're not always going to fall for now, No, not
at all, I mean but.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
Again, so I mean for me, this has been such
a great experience. I can't wait to do more episodes.
And we're setting up.
Speaker 1 (22:55):
A little studio eventually.
Speaker 3 (22:58):
Well this is like a studio, but we're set up
where we actually get to sit next yeah each other
and chairs for when she's home so that we can
have a different environment for recording. So it's more really
like a well there is a conversation, but so we're
not sitting on top of each other, which we're doing
right now.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
So that's it.
Speaker 3 (23:16):
This is episode one hundred and thank you for joining
me on this journey, and thank you for joining us
on this journey.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
My podcast quote, I mean my podcast quote, Jesus, my
calendar quote is really great.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
Today.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
You can't do new without risk, period goes to literally
everything we talked about today. Go into one hundred episodes
of only five percent of podcast doing that. You know,
like that is a risk right there. You can't do
new without risk.
Speaker 3 (23:46):
Yeah, and that it really does apply to everything. I mean,
you have to be willing to take a risk to forward.
Even if we're talking about your relationship with your child,
Like the idea of it's scary, right, it's all scary.
If fear having issues, the idea of being able to
have a real conversation with them can be scary. But
let me tell you, the reward is always greater than
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the risk.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
That was good.
Speaker 3 (24:13):
Thanks, I appreciate that. Okay, I'm slow right now because
I'm looking something up.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
Okay, well I can fill the time tell us.
Speaker 2 (24:25):
I still think Grandma is the realist adult that I've
ever met because she just knows things like.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
Like how to get certain stains out of the laundring,
Like when do you learn that?
Speaker 3 (24:38):
Well, you know, part of the problem is she didn't
teach me.
Speaker 1 (24:42):
She just did it for me. So that's she's a thing.
She's a big doer, not a teacher. Is that if you.
Speaker 3 (24:50):
If you want your kids, you know, what's the saying
that if you want to feed somebody, you.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
Teach a man, Give a man a fish, she'll eat
for a day, teach a man to fish eat for
his whole life. Yeah, and so same kind of thing,
like so I try to do that.
Speaker 3 (25:04):
Like even the other day I was using or he
got a check from somebody and he's never a positive
check before because we don't do checks usually.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
So I was just like, here, let me show you
how to do it.
Speaker 3 (25:14):
And then Noah got a check and he knew how
to do it because I had showed him before, and
he just asked me to check to make sure if
he did it correctly. But same kind of thing, like
if we show them these skills, they get their independence
and they come back like it's not just like they're
independent and they're gone.
Speaker 1 (25:29):
They oh, we calm back. My brother is about cintron thirty,
he's not, but I'm aging him.
Speaker 3 (25:36):
Um, he's try twenty.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
That's pretty much thirty. And he still comes back for questions,
which is good.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
I mean again, like that's what we're here for as parents,
Like we it's not like we get eighteen years and
we're goodbye.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
I saw a TikTok about that.
Speaker 2 (25:54):
That was like calling my mom and I have an
issue because I'm an adult, but she's a realer adult.
Speaker 3 (26:00):
Yeah you know again, I've been adulting for a lot longer.
So if I can help, I want to help. So
confidence tip of the day. Stop asking yourself if you're
good enough. Start asking yourself what you need next. Confidence
doesn't come from proving yourself over and over. It comes
from supporting yourself like someone you believe in.
Speaker 1 (26:22):
Wait, that's so good. Yeah I like that last line.
Speaker 3 (26:25):
Yeah, that's It comes from supporting yourself like someone you
believe in. Treat yourself like you would your best friend.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
God, that's another good bar. Yeah, I need to do that.
Speaker 3 (26:34):
I got three bars today, three bars. So thank you
for joining us on this one hundredth episode of Her
Unshakable Confidence.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
We're so happy you're here.
Speaker 3 (26:45):
We can't wait to see you more, and we'll see.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
You next week. Bye, guys, I.
Speaker 5 (26:53):
Thank you for listening to Her Unshakable Confidence with Simone
and Olivia Canego. We hope this episode has made your
day just a little bit brighter and giving you the
inspiration you need to confidently go about your week. Always
remember to be authentically you don't forget to like and
subscribe so you never miss an episode and feel free
to connect with them on Instagram at Simone Canego and
(27:16):
at Olivia Canego.
Speaker 1 (27:18):
Till next time, yousssssss
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