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(00:13):
Everybody happened for the price of apaschute. That's what it's like data twenty
five year. You go out witha forty five fee. They want more
than shoes. I need a cloudsoff a new boilers to sleep when it
(00:37):
not the roof. Yeah, that'sgrowing up stuff. That's responsibility. Want
houses and things with roofs sexy atall. We don't have a roommate plan.
I'm sorry. Well, I gottaget estimates for this. It's worth
it. I gotta seat contractor forthis. Okay, we can't we discuss
(00:59):
this now, like seriously, thisis a real thing, because you know
I found, we know you found. I can remember a time in my
life where there was an insinuation planwhere I was insinuating the wants and the
needs and you know, hinting atit, and I just don't have the
(01:21):
patience for it anymore. Like I'mnot insinuating it. You see something,
say something, Yeah, we're morevocal about what it is that we want
instead of throwing hints. You knowthat has it becomes they call us beggars
when we do that. They're tryingto say talk about I don't think it's
a matter of independent. You can'tpay your own roof. I'm like my
(01:45):
flag paper, my shoes. Peoplemake it look at my hair like I
did a lot of things like,well, if you're gonna be under the
roof, if you're gonna be upunder this roof, oh there's that,
there's that part you need to takecare of the roof. And now is
that visiting under the roof or ifhe's staying under it at any point,
Well, if you get if you'regetting something, if it getting some up
under the roof, then but youknow what, I think it just depends
(02:07):
on the individual man, because areal man wouldn't even look for you to
ask that. They would automatically theysee what's going on. Yeah, if
they see if they see she ain'tgot no groceries, or if they see
something doing really bad. But I'mnot going to well it's just but I'm
(02:28):
just saying in just in general,if they see something is lacking, well
I would just say that's been myexperience. If they saw that there was
something, they may happen because it'sfor their comfort as well when they come
and visit. They want see people. Okay, but let's tell us about
that, right, because I thinkthat there's levels to this, right,
(02:49):
I think there's levels to everything.So like when you talk, because I've
I've had these conversations. I've heardthese conversations and and one of the biggest
challenges is establishing the le level ofthe desire or the expectation. I should
say, right, because there aresome women that he brings groceries every time
he comes to the door. Myman's taking care of me. He you
(03:09):
know, my cable's paid, I'vegot gas in my car. You know,
my many petties are handled. Butthat may not be the be your
need. I was gonna say likethat kind of stuff just seeing and that
maybe I seem like an en gradebecause I'm not trying to be but I
feel like I'm a smart woman andI can't figure out how many petty and
(03:31):
and your Wi Fi and stuff likethat. I'm I'm not trying to be
funny, but I can figure thosethings out. And if I can't,
then y'all check me into Well atthis age, I'm come on and folds
makes something to do a job.I could do a lot of things.
I'm not getting ready, but Ithink for the man though, to your
point about you know, the mansort of making an assessment and then taking
(03:53):
action. He kind of has toknow what he's dealing with. Okay,
so to forget all that, right, what about dating older right versus dating
a younger guy, because that's ahuge part of it too, That's a
huge part of it. So likean older guy, what are you?
What are the what are the prosof that? What would you say?
(04:13):
Well, for me, it's kindof hard to find an older man who
still has the energy. Yes,the same stuff that they put on us,
the same standards, the same thingsthat we have for them. But
I think we don't. We justdon't hold them accountable like they do us.
Right, So my issue is findingsome one that's my age, that
(04:35):
looks as good, that's fit,that that enjoys having fun, that's not
complacent. So no, I'm justsaying versus comparing that to a younger.
Now, I I A'll admit I'venever I've never dated anyone younger, but
I will say that I have beenentertained and it's been fun to be around
(04:58):
them. They keep you know,they keep me that younger guys, I
know a couple of people that areyounger. But do you no, But
I'm just saying I dated younger andbut see, but I dated and married
a younger guy who had a veryold soul. That's what people didn't realize.
Like people are like you old lady, hate the old shit. I've
know what this wouldn't be like,No, we got out of right,
(05:23):
you know. So I'm just saying, oh, I don't know. It
just depends on what. I'm notagainst younger guys. But they can't be
babies, right, they can't seesufficient, Yeah, they can't be sagging,
and they can't be you know,and they're out there. I don't
know what the older ones, theyounger ones they they're definitely out there.
Yes, yes, And this iswhere I say, you know, age
(05:45):
is oh when people say age ain'tnothing but a number? What it depends
because this fifty five year old Ican't come with them steps, you know.
But I do believe that it isa mindset because I find my stuff
having to I feel comfortable being aroundyounger people because it gives me that,
you know, I'm comfortable with them. But then when I am around someone
(06:08):
my age and it's you know,they're the interest is different, right,
you know, So it can beboring for me. The hard part is
conversation because younger guys often just they'rejust talking about all this gin pop stuff,
and I'm like, care well aboutwhat happened to the latest rapper?
I mean no offense. I loverap, but I don't care about their
lives. I don't want a gossipabout mama took his motorcycle or whatever I'll
(06:33):
be talking about. I don't careabout that. Let me ask you a
question, what is your age rangefor younger? How how much younger do
you go? I mean I woulddate someone in their forties, okay,
I don't want thirty something okay.And first of all, I have a
rule too about my sons. Likeyou know, my oldest son is old
in his thirties, So I'm notgetting ready to have a guy younger than
(06:55):
my son or his age right,not forbid? No, I don't.
I don't want that, and it'sI feel like it's rude to my son.
M I'm so picky about guys becauseof my boys. Yeah, you
have boys. I can't even dateright guy like you, and I'd be,
like, I know, want somethinglike you. You might not make
the phone number getting you ain't gettingthe phe nuver right kids. Yeah,
(07:15):
yeah, and how about you ifyou, if you, because you said
you never dated younger, what wouldyou what's the highest you would consider as
low as you would consider m definitelyin their authorities. But again it does
it depends on the conversation, Itdepends on the chemistry, It depends on
what we have in common. BecauseI do believe that they could teach me
(07:39):
some things, you know, andI could teach them some things. Right,
So you have to be open torecede and be okay without discriminated.
A message on your phone, welljust a little kind of stuff period,
like a little technology that's somebody saidme a report, a voice note,
and I was like, hey thegoogle that I was Yeah, of course
(08:00):
I'm getting back. Yeah, Itotally agree with you, right, because
I've learned how to do it right. But yeah, so the younger ones
know that, Yeah, I actuallynever dated anybody younger than me, like
more than a few months or ayear. I've always dated always, like
(08:22):
no, yeah, for sure,I've always dated something. Everybody's too old
acting they slow, Yeah, Ican't do don't work. Don't work.
How are we both were not gonnahave no good need you together, who's
pushing who? Who's pushing who.It's funny that when we're younger, we're
excited about looking older. Uh huh, you know what I'm saying, Like,
we know, when we were younger, it was always a good thing.
(08:43):
She looks, you don't look likeyou're fifteen, you look like you're
in your twenties. And now withthe thing. But now when you're older,
it's like youth is the thing.So it's it's interesting how I think
f ages we look amazing. Ido too, And I think it needs
to be known, and it needsto be aver tizes, it needs to
be marketed. Its Yeah, Idefinitely think our generation is redefining security and
(09:07):
what it means to be mature.I mean, I I always knew that.
I remember being younger thinking about hiphop and thinking these dudes are gonna
be sixty on stage rapping and Icould not fathom it. And now to
see like LLL wool Ja have youseen him perform? Like because they're in
shape, that man has some stamina, And I'm like, well, have
you seen meThe man? I mean, metha man is just yeah, that's
(09:28):
the whole nother thing. Yeah,he's been preservative and not that they're the
same age, but is like avampire. I don't know what founding of
youth he's been drinking from from thelast ten years, but twenty years,
boy, he got it. Butbut but our generation as a whole,
I think we are redefining what itis to you know, to age and
to mature and and and I thinkhow we approach life like we're still so
(09:54):
young. Yeah. I see likea lot of the TikTok people with their
mamas and you can't tell which oneis the mos it was the daughter.
Yeah, I mean, speaking ofsocial media, that's how I became viral,
right. I established a platform becauseI didn't see myself on social media.
And I think again going back topeople my age not embracing social media
(10:16):
and oh it's a devil. Butthat's how I went viral because I wanted
to see somebody that looks like me. I used my platform to to talk
about to wisdom, maturity, justbeing accepted, but showing a different light
on what this fifty looks like versuswhat it looked like, What what my
(10:41):
mom and my grandmother's fifty looks like. Can we talk about down to earth?
Let me tell you what happened.So we were at the restaurant.
All kinds of stuff happened at wewent to waffle House one on the Laden
on the Laden Voyage, Maiden Voyageto waffle House at three in the morning.
Bad decisions all around. So wesaid that the bar trying to order
our food, somebody puked walking in. It was just bad. It was
(11:03):
all bad. So anyway, thepoint being, they didn't tip. The
whole big table of like twelve peopledidn't tip. The waitress she heard it.
She ran out in the parking lot, was like, I know y'all
coming back the tip. Yeah,that's the down to earth. So I
like because I feel like our generationwe are afraid of the young people,
(11:26):
but I like to create the environmentfor them to be comfortable. Comfortable,
right, So that was easy forme to do. And you saw how
quick they were to come back.They came back. I'm sorry, what's
y'all doing? Because we were inthe village. We grew up. That
village was the village exactly like alot of older people are afraid of them
(11:46):
because they can be, but theysee me as the like I said,
the modern day Tuxtable. So yeah. I went out there and I was
like, okay, so y'all wanteda picture. I gave y'all the picture.
I know, y'all not gonna leadthis lady hanging, I said,
I know. And I went toall their cars and they were like,
well, what's going on, missRow? And I was like, y'all
(12:09):
don't know this lady's story. Y'alln'tknow if she got five kids, she
got a dad, beat daddy,baby dad. I gave all of that
and they were like, they cameback in, they're looking get a lady.
She just works hard to exactly,I don't know. The point is
I always when it comes to tipping, I always put a story in my
in the back of my head,like that's what they live off of.
I don't know their stories, butI always tipped. And it's a matter
(12:31):
of teaching these kids like this iswhat this is, that's how we're doing.
This is how we do it doesand by her going in, they
never that lesson will stick with them. That was definitely thing like so I'm
actually I love gen Z's and Millennialsa lot, Like I really get into
them because because you know, Ithink about how disruptive. Our generation was,
(12:56):
like we changed the game. Thesekids are still trying to do what
Jay does, Puff does, whateven Pharrell does, just what he did
with Little right right exactly, butyou know we we still create culture moments,
right. So we were disruptors,and our parents didn't understand. They
were like, it's going on,why are they acting like that? Right?
(13:16):
And you know, I don't knowif you guys remember that Pepsi commercial
the choice of a new generation withthe Berlin Wall when they and these kids
don't know where the Berlin Wall is, but please google it, y'all.
Like we had encyclopedias. They wereoutdated because they were my grandmama's encyclopedia because
my mama couldn't afford them, andso I was getting see I still have
stop but just so you know,they go out of date because new information
(13:39):
comes. So my mama was like, you could just use those encyclopedias and
the information was just wrong and Iwas getting these so yeah, but anyway,
but now y'all have Google, sogoing to Google to Berlin Wall.
But nonetheless, I think about likehow disruptive our generation was and our parents
were forced to understand it, andso I want I don't want to be
that generation. It's like, whatis that music? I don't get it.
(14:00):
They don't know how to act.I just you know, and it's
so easy to fall into that.We can't get No. We adapt to
their stuff though, right, Ithink we do. We cooler, But
I think sometimes we forget. Yeah, we were their age, and we
want to put all these stipulations andhold them up to a certain standard.
(14:20):
When we have to be reminded,Listen, we effed up. We did
a lot of things, and weshould hold we we should be able to
understand that. I still like hiphop. I don't understand some of the
stuff they're saying. It's not evenis it even hip hop anymore? What
do they call that? Look,here I go call scrilling. I don't
know what it is. I mean, I think those are types of subtype
(14:43):
genre. Yeah, I think it'ssaying screwed. I mean, what are
you trying to sell a word?But they know s
Everybody happened for the price of apaschute. That's what it's like data twenty
five year. You go out witha forty five fee. They want more
than shoes. I need a cloudsoff a new boilers to sleep when it
(00:37):
not the roof. Yeah, that'sgrowing up stuff. That's responsibility. Want
houses and things with roofs sexy atall. We don't have a roommate plan.
I'm sorry. Well, I gottaget estimates for this. It's worth
it. I gotta seat contractor forthis. Okay, we can't we discuss
(00:59):
this now, like seriously, thisis a real thing, because you know
I found, we know you found. I can remember a time in my
life where there was an insinuation planwhere I was insinuating the wants and the
needs and you know, hinting atit, and I just don't have the
(01:21):
patience for it anymore. Like I'mnot insinuating it. You see something,
say something, Yeah, we're morevocal about what it is that we want
instead of throwing hints. You knowthat has it becomes they call us beggars
when we do that. They're tryingto say talk about I don't think it's
a matter of independent. You can'tpay your own roof. I'm like my
(01:45):
flag paper, my shoes. Peoplemake it look at my hair like I
did a lot of things like,well, if you're gonna be under the
roof, if you're gonna be upunder this roof, oh there's that,
there's that part you need to takecare of the roof. And now is
that visiting under the roof or ifhe's staying under it at any point,
Well, if you get if you'regetting something, if it getting some up
under the roof, then but youknow what, I think it just depends
(02:07):
on the individual man, because areal man wouldn't even look for you to
ask that. They would automatically theysee what's going on. Yeah, if
they see if they see she ain'tgot no groceries, or if they see
something doing really bad. But I'mnot going to well it's just but I'm
(02:28):
just saying in just in general,if they see something is lacking, well
I would just say that's been myexperience. If they saw that there was
something, they may happen because it'sfor their comfort as well when they come
and visit. They want see people. Okay, but let's tell us about
that, right, because I thinkthat there's levels to this, right,
(02:49):
I think there's levels to everything.So like when you talk, because I've
I've had these conversations. I've heardthese conversations and and one of the biggest
challenges is establishing the le level ofthe desire or the expectation. I should
say, right, because there aresome women that he brings groceries every time
he comes to the door. Myman's taking care of me. He you
(03:09):
know, my cable's paid, I'vegot gas in my car. You know,
my many petties are handled. Butthat may not be the be your
need. I was gonna say likethat kind of stuff just seeing and that
maybe I seem like an en gradebecause I'm not trying to be but I
feel like I'm a smart woman andI can't figure out how many petty and
(03:31):
and your Wi Fi and stuff likethat. I'm I'm not trying to be
funny, but I can figure thosethings out. And if I can't,
then y'all check me into Well atthis age, I'm come on and folds
makes something to do a job.I could do a lot of things.
I'm not getting ready, but Ithink for the man though, to your
point about you know, the mansort of making an assessment and then taking
(03:53):
action. He kind of has toknow what he's dealing with. Okay,
so to forget all that, right, what about dating older right versus dating
a younger guy, because that's ahuge part of it too, That's a
huge part of it. So likean older guy, what are you?
What are the what are the prosof that? What would you say?
(04:13):
Well, for me, it's kindof hard to find an older man who
still has the energy. Yes,the same stuff that they put on us,
the same standards, the same thingsthat we have for them. But
I think we don't. We justdon't hold them accountable like they do us.
Right, So my issue is findingsome one that's my age, that
(04:35):
looks as good, that's fit,that that enjoys having fun, that's not
complacent. So no, I'm justsaying versus comparing that to a younger.
Now, I I A'll admit I'venever I've never dated anyone younger, but
I will say that I have beenentertained and it's been fun to be around
(04:58):
them. They keep you know,they keep me that younger guys, I
know a couple of people that areyounger. But do you no, But
I'm just saying I dated younger andbut see, but I dated and married
a younger guy who had a veryold soul. That's what people didn't realize.
Like people are like you old lady, hate the old shit. I've
know what this wouldn't be like,No, we got out of right,
(05:23):
you know. So I'm just saying, oh, I don't know. It
just depends on what. I'm notagainst younger guys. But they can't be
babies, right, they can't seesufficient, Yeah, they can't be sagging,
and they can't be you know,and they're out there. I don't
know what the older ones, theyounger ones they they're definitely out there.
Yes, yes, And this iswhere I say, you know, age
(05:45):
is oh when people say age ain'tnothing but a number? What it depends
because this fifty five year old Ican't come with them steps, you know.
But I do believe that it isa mindset because I find my stuff
having to I feel comfortable being aroundyounger people because it gives me that,
you know, I'm comfortable with them. But then when I am around someone
(06:08):
my age and it's you know,they're the interest is different, right,
you know, So it can beboring for me. The hard part is
conversation because younger guys often just they'rejust talking about all this gin pop stuff,
and I'm like, care well aboutwhat happened to the latest rapper?
I mean no offense. I loverap, but I don't care about their
lives. I don't want a gossipabout mama took his motorcycle or whatever I'll
(06:33):
be talking about. I don't careabout that. Let me ask you a
question, what is your age rangefor younger? How how much younger do
you go? I mean I woulddate someone in their forties, okay,
I don't want thirty something okay.And first of all, I have a
rule too about my sons. Likeyou know, my oldest son is old
in his thirties, So I'm notgetting ready to have a guy younger than
(06:55):
my son or his age right,not forbid? No, I don't.
I don't want that, and it'sI feel like it's rude to my son.
M I'm so picky about guys becauseof my boys. Yeah, you
have boys. I can't even dateright guy like you, and I'd be,
like, I know, want somethinglike you. You might not make
the phone number getting you ain't gettingthe phe nuver right kids. Yeah,
(07:15):
yeah, and how about you ifyou, if you, because you said
you never dated younger, what wouldyou what's the highest you would consider as
low as you would consider m definitelyin their authorities. But again it does
it depends on the conversation, Itdepends on the chemistry, It depends on
what we have in common. BecauseI do believe that they could teach me
(07:39):
some things, you know, andI could teach them some things. Right,
So you have to be open torecede and be okay without discriminated.
A message on your phone, welljust a little kind of stuff period,
like a little technology that's somebody saidme a report, a voice note,
and I was like, hey thegoogle that I was Yeah, of course
(08:00):
I'm getting back. Yeah, Itotally agree with you, right, because
I've learned how to do it right. But yeah, so the younger ones
know that, Yeah, I actuallynever dated anybody younger than me, like
more than a few months or ayear. I've always dated always, like
(08:22):
no, yeah, for sure,I've always dated something. Everybody's too old
acting they slow, Yeah, Ican't do don't work. Don't work.
How are we both were not gonnahave no good need you together, who's
pushing who? Who's pushing who.It's funny that when we're younger, we're
excited about looking older. Uh huh, you know what I'm saying, Like,
we know, when we were younger, it was always a good thing.
(08:43):
She looks, you don't look likeyou're fifteen, you look like you're
in your twenties. And now withthe thing. But now when you're older,
it's like youth is the thing.So it's it's interesting how I think
f ages we look amazing. Ido too, And I think it needs
to be known, and it needsto be aver tizes, it needs to
be marketed. Its Yeah, Idefinitely think our generation is redefining security and
(09:07):
what it means to be mature.I mean, I I always knew that.
I remember being younger thinking about hiphop and thinking these dudes are gonna
be sixty on stage rapping and Icould not fathom it. And now to
see like LLL wool Ja have youseen him perform? Like because they're in
shape, that man has some stamina, And I'm like, well, have
you seen meThe man? I mean, metha man is just yeah, that's
(09:28):
the whole nother thing. Yeah,he's been preservative and not that they're the
same age, but is like avampire. I don't know what founding of
youth he's been drinking from from thelast ten years, but twenty years,
boy, he got it. Butbut but our generation as a whole,
I think we are redefining what itis to you know, to age and
to mature and and and I thinkhow we approach life like we're still so
(09:54):
young. Yeah. I see likea lot of the TikTok people with their
mamas and you can't tell which oneis the mos it was the daughter.
Yeah, I mean, speaking ofsocial media, that's how I became viral,
right. I established a platform becauseI didn't see myself on social media.
And I think again going back topeople my age not embracing social media
(10:16):
and oh it's a devil. Butthat's how I went viral because I wanted
to see somebody that looks like me. I used my platform to to talk
about to wisdom, maturity, justbeing accepted, but showing a different light
on what this fifty looks like versuswhat it looked like, What what my
(10:41):
mom and my grandmother's fifty looks like. Can we talk about down to earth?
Let me tell you what happened.So we were at the restaurant.
All kinds of stuff happened at wewent to waffle House one on the Laden
on the Laden Voyage, Maiden Voyageto waffle House at three in the morning.
Bad decisions all around. So wesaid that the bar trying to order
our food, somebody puked walking in. It was just bad. It was
(11:03):
all bad. So anyway, thepoint being, they didn't tip. The
whole big table of like twelve peopledidn't tip. The waitress she heard it.
She ran out in the parking lot, was like, I know y'all
coming back the tip. Yeah,that's the down to earth. So I
like because I feel like our generationwe are afraid of the young people,
(11:26):
but I like to create the environmentfor them to be comfortable. Comfortable,
right, So that was easy forme to do. And you saw how
quick they were to come back.They came back. I'm sorry, what's
y'all doing? Because we were inthe village. We grew up. That
village was the village exactly like alot of older people are afraid of them
(11:46):
because they can be, but theysee me as the like I said,
the modern day Tuxtable. So yeah. I went out there and I was
like, okay, so y'all wanteda picture. I gave y'all the picture.
I know, y'all not gonna leadthis lady hanging, I said,
I know. And I went toall their cars and they were like,
well, what's going on, missRow? And I was like, y'all
(12:09):
don't know this lady's story. Y'alln'tknow if she got five kids, she
got a dad, beat daddy,baby dad. I gave all of that
and they were like, they cameback in, they're looking get a lady.
She just works hard to exactly,I don't know. The point is
I always when it comes to tipping, I always put a story in my
in the back of my head,like that's what they live off of.
I don't know their stories, butI always tipped. And it's a matter
(12:31):
of teaching these kids like this iswhat this is, that's how we're doing.
This is how we do it doesand by her going in, they
never that lesson will stick with them. That was definitely thing like so I'm
actually I love gen Z's and Millennialsa lot, Like I really get into
them because because you know, Ithink about how disruptive. Our generation was,
(12:56):
like we changed the game. Thesekids are still trying to do what
Jay does, Puff does, whateven Pharrell does, just what he did
with Little right right exactly, butyou know we we still create culture moments,
right. So we were disruptors,and our parents didn't understand. They
were like, it's going on,why are they acting like that? Right?
(13:16):
And you know, I don't knowif you guys remember that Pepsi commercial
the choice of a new generation withthe Berlin Wall when they and these kids
don't know where the Berlin Wall is, but please google it, y'all.
Like we had encyclopedias. They wereoutdated because they were my grandmama's encyclopedia because
my mama couldn't afford them, andso I was getting see I still have
stop but just so you know,they go out of date because new information
(13:39):
comes. So my mama was like, you could just use those encyclopedias and
the information was just wrong and Iwas getting these so yeah, but anyway,
but now y'all have Google, sogoing to Google to Berlin Wall.
But nonetheless, I think about likehow disruptive our generation was and our parents
were forced to understand it, andso I want I don't want to be
that generation. It's like, whatis that music? I don't get it.
(14:00):
They don't know how to act.I just you know, and it's
so easy to fall into that.We can't get No. We adapt to
their stuff though, right, Ithink we do. We cooler, But
I think sometimes we forget. Yeah, we were their age, and we
want to put all these stipulations andhold them up to a certain standard.
(14:20):
When we have to be reminded,Listen, we effed up. We did
a lot of things, and weshould hold we we should be able to
understand that. I still like hiphop. I don't understand some of the
stuff they're saying. It's not evenis it even hip hop anymore? What
do they call that? Look,here I go call scrilling. I don't
know what it is. I mean, I think those are types of subtype
(14:43):
genre. Yeah, I think it'ssaying screwed. I mean, what are
you trying to sell a word?But they know s
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