Guardians of Authenticity: Resisting Social Media Pressures

Empowering Virtue: Navigating Modern Womanhood

Episode Transcript

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Do you remember jam bra I must, I must, I must increase my
bust. I must. I don'tknow about that, I must increase my
But are you recording that? Becausethat's a perfect moment. Where's the generational
gap? So that was the youdon't remember when she wanted big boobs,
I must, I must increase mybust, and then a little girls used

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to do it. I know that. I don't. I don't remember that,
but I watched Brady. I abusedto watch it too much because I
have all these double d's. Now, oh well, hello there, hello,
So tell me this. Tell mewhat dating is like. Now post
them to your single woman. Youare here in these screets. What's it

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like? It's hard and you're young, Yes, you know, but you
know today they don't look at meas being a y'all. You know,
and they're no for real, No, the gen z thinks everybody's geriatric.
Golden girl. You say, ifshe's a golden girl, then I'm one
foot in the grizz wes I gotthe key to heaven the gates. I

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mean, I think for me,but I'll say this, A lot of
what I was a like, whatI had a lot of rhetoric when I
first started like getting in the datingstreets, like oh, we don't want
this, we don't want that,we don't want this. But then when
I started actually dating, Wait,what do you mean? We don't know
this, we don't want this,we don't want that. Who want what?

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Okay? So, okay, Idon't know if y'all are familiar with
the YouTube space or anything like that, but y'all know I'll bey on the
YouTube space, okay. And soa lot of guys were saying that they
didn't want women over thirty, didn'twant women to have a child they're not
married, so a kid mother,h Yeah, that's the two main things
I ever remember. And so Iwas both of those. And I'm divorced,
you know, or divorced or divorcingat the time. And so I

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said to myself, well, dang, like I'm well out the game.
I'm out the game. Then Imean, what am I gonna do?
So I was like, okay towhat they had were supposed to be doing,
just babies if Well, here's thething, though, I feel like
a lot of guys will say thingsexactly. They will say like I don't
want this, I don't want togo to the experience until they see you,
until they see you exactly, untilthey they experience you experience. No,

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and I don't mean it in thatyeah, because I don't mean it
in the physical sense. But likewhen people come into my space get around
my energy, they be like,you're fifty what because I'm more lit than
these young people. Because I knowwhere to go. I know the best
food. You know what I'm saying, Like, I know the restaurant right

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and I've already tried him, andI can tell you, oh, that
one just open. All of thechef is too young. He doesn't know
they don't have seasoning. You knowwhat I'm saying, Like I know foods,
Yeah, I know travel destinations.I know travel hacks and discounts and
ways to get there better and forless. I know where to go and
what's the popular spot and what's notthe hot spot. So they're also to
your natural energy. You're very vibrant, like zuber in you agree with that,

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No, you're super I mean youknow what meeting you and being around
you, your energy is contagious.It's it's infectious, a very positive and
light so to me, like,I love your energy. I just think
when people don't have they say alot of things they don't want, like
we can have all these lists oflike no, no, no, no,
no no, no, you don'tyou never when you actually get in

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front of that person and you actuallyare seeing them, experiencing them to your
point that that no longer happens.So when I started dating, I mean,
you know, I was like,okay, what do I now saying
what do you want? Because Ithink what we do need to talk about
this is off the I'm going offthe card already ahead. I think when

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you start dating after being married,you're completely different, right because you date
like a wife. You don't datethat date like you date like a wife.
Meaning yes, yes, when youstart dating, and this is my
experience may maybe your experience as well, but when you start dating after that,
you start making things work. Yousee rap as you about that make

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it work mentality that like, despiteall that I'm seeing, I have this
desire to make it work, likeI've been trying to make it work,
and you may be making it workwith the wrong person. So you you
getting to the point of marriage withsomebody else very quickly and like working with
them, and it really is likeIs that out of a residual Is it?

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Is it out of habit? Becausethat's how you that's a mindset when
you're trying to work it out inyour marriage. Yes, it's a marriage
mindset. So when you have awedding like a like a wife mindset,
we're not a wedding but like no, but I understand you're right. You
know, bride and wife are twodifferent things, ma'am. You know what
I'm saying. She one day dealsat different deal because a lot of people

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are so excited to be your bride, but they're not ready to be a
wife. Wife requires a whole differentlevel. It's the same thing with husband.
Come on, like the procedure,the whole planning and the nice tuxedo
and the whole thing. Actually,like for ever whatever. Yeah, I
think they like the title but notthe responsibility. But wait, okay,

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so let's put in that for asecond. Because I love where you were
going with this sort of wife mentality. I think that's really important. So
I don't think enough people talk aboutthis, And like with people that have
been divorced or been married before,but that first relationship outside of the marriage,
you go all in, you willyou really you go all in like

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and isn't you scare the guy becausethen he's like, wait, ain't trying
to get married? You like whatI'm not saying trying to get married?
Ay right, I'm just exactly.You have a mentality that you have to
kind of like learn how to dateagain as a single. But it's hard
to date in this world because thisis a twerking world. This is not
this world. No, no,it up. They're talking about the cause

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of their body parts and what thestuff is. This stuff is wrong right
now because who is it? Weirdis wrong and I don't care here.
I think it's working for us,though it's not working for ladies. Ladies,
you're not leaving one damn thing tothe imagine. Come on, no,
I'm not giving a guy nothing.Come on, because you're been over

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to you touching your toes with athrong on on television, twerking, and
you're not giving a man nothing evenimagine you get ready know it is what
it looked like and everything else smelling. He got it all figured out,

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so he's checked it off, checkedI figured that out. It's bad.
It's bad out here, so I'mprobably like a nut someone told me,
Dave me is like date like anold classic car, you know, like
a whole old classic restored Mustang inthe world, all these fiberglass ass cars.
You know what I mean? BecauseI'm like, what is going on

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now? Don't that? Don't don'tget it twisted. That don't mean I
can't bend it over and twk it. But as a private moment, that's
not something you do out in thestreet. Yes, on the corner,
let me do it. My bodyphysically will not even I can't even posture
with it. No, she inpublic, Yeah, I can't do it.

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I don't. I think that that'spart of our biggest thing. What
I talked about a lot on myplatform is that that I'm really I'm not
happy with the way that women conductthemselves today. That's so good and hear
from someone, Yes, I don't. Honestly, a lot of men feel
the same way. So it's likeus, really, women, we're in

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competition with each other. We're notreally trying to get men because if you're
listening to men, men are sayingif you look on the space, they're
saying they don't want women that arelike this. They talk about body count
they're talking about this, and they'reall these different things that they talk about.
I don't want thought. No theydon't about it, but they don't.
That's not who you're wifing. Andeven in you're not talking about wife

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and her, Well, that's he'stalking about being with her. You know
what I'm saying, experiencing her,y'all under saying something just now, that's
a word. He may warn her, but he ain't wife and her because
different. It's a difference like hemay want you for the night or for
a few hours, but are youhis friend. Here's the problem that this
is. This is the issue,this issue because we still have not learned

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in today's society the difference between sexualattention and actual, like intentional wife attention.
So all of us are trying toget all this women attention. She
needs to mentor girl, you gonnamake me start back up my foundation Lost
Ones because the girls are lost.Yes, yes, And that's why I

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started the Lost Ones Foundation years agobecause I figured a lot of guys do
things to impress girls. So that'sall the cars, the jewelry, the
you know, the way they dressand all the antics they do for women,
flashing money, and et cetera.If women became a little more modest
and left a little bit to theimagination, men would be like, oh

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wow, this woman. You know, they hold them to a higher guest,
right, hold them up to differentI mean, how many times have
you guys met a guy that potentiallyhad intentions around you, good intentions,
and he said, don't make ittoo easy for me. Yeah, they
don't want they don't don't meet it. I've kept that before because I've never
made it. Make it easy,that's what I get. It's like,

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kid, no, this will beon the first day. They're like,
girl, just don't make it easyfor me. Whatever you do, keep
it hard for me. Maybe Ineed yeah, like you got some bend
over internet, let me find out. Okay slow, But no, that's
not what they say. No wouldbe a dinner I'm saying. They're saying,
make sure you keep it difficult forme because I like you. They're

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like, you know, make itThat sounds like a wrong man. That
sounds like some wrong man. LikeI know myself and I got some things
going on for myself. Don't makeit easy, man, make another one
girl. But I'm like kind ofperson absolutely that make it hard anyway,
you know, because naturally in myperspective, I have a lot and not
maybe maybe maybe too many standards,but I have like a certain standard in

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my mind, as you should.And I think a lot of men don't
want to pursue the way that theyused to. Like a lot of men
they don't have used to. No, no, no, they don't have
to because they don't are just throwingon a platter like you know what.
Band told me this, He said, women are giving away, giving it
out away like Halloween candy. Listen, Halloween candy. What I say they

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they and for bows the big ZDwhat beg zd. That's a that's a
lyric t I said it. Heprobably because they did for less for men.
They're going to wingstop because they becausewomen just want to be attached to
men with a lot. That's whyit's a sad people. It's a sad

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scenario because hurt people. Hurt people. I always say this because these women
are just looking for love at theend of the day. That's looking for
to be sponsored. In my opinion, you think they look at they look
into for a non profit. They'relooking for a non for profit. They
don't I see a lot of womenresponse they're looking to be sponsor. They're
looking for a sponsor, somebody that'sgoing to take care of them. And

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then do not question them. Donot ask me why I'm wearing what I'm
wearing, Do not ask me whyI'm doing what I'm doing, don't ask
about the girls shrip. It's like, I want all the benefits and per
package of being with a man withoutthe responsibility, which we're also saying vice
versa with men, that men aredoing the same thing that I don't want
the responsibility, but I want acompanion. I want somebody who's down for

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me. I want all the benefitsof having somebody in my life without the
responsibility of having somebody in my life. And we have women on the flip
side in today's society saying the exactsame things and as a problem because I
think that at the end of theday, it doesn't benefit us. If
you look at our young girls,in the psychology of young women, we

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are the most oppressed we've ever been. We are the most insecure we've ever
been. We are dealing with weare dealing with suicidality on a high level
social media. I mean it issocial media. Social media because you're you're
spending on all these countless hours lookingat the other sides and cause you know,
the comparison is the thief of jewelanbecause that's not even real. With

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it's not real, you're looking athighlights of people's lives. Yeah. I
just watched something. It was likefour o'clock in the morning, and it
was a little girl. Her momposted this though, which I don't quite
understand. The little girl was crying. She comes, she came from school,
and she was like what they calledme ugly. No, no,
no, no no, I justI'm gonna DM the mother because I'd love
to talk to the little girl,you know what I mean, Like the

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mother kind of setting her daughter upwrong too, with some of them ponytails
and stuff. You kidnot the mamagot like seven hundred bowls and burettes and
stuff. Get a girl, nicelittle bun. Just listen, it's soften
the blow. I ain't been funny. I'm sorry, that's not funny.
Let me stop skip her up?Stop no can what no what Mama set

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her up? Now? Just keepgoing, keep going. Yeah, we
we we were gonna no got it. But you also, I could talk
to her mother really about and I'mbeing serious. I know this sounds funny,
but really how to stylize her daughtera little different, make to softens
some her, you know, becauseI see some of what the problem may
be with the child. But thatso me wearing a cold blooded world.

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First of all, why would hermother post that? So I would first
ask her to please delete that,because now she's embarrassing her daughter on a
global scale, right, you knowwhat I mean. She gotta deal with
the little girls and the teachers.Now people gonna be walking to her pitying
or which is gonna embarrass her evenfurther. So you're not really fixing the
problem. Because me, I'd belike, take that hammer and you go
frond a little bit in the morning. I ain't got no daughters, fix

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it. Please damn Mary about tosend her to juvenile, hammer her hands,
her nails, do something. Butyou know what I did. One
time there was a kid that wasteasing my son. I went and had
lunch with him. I got apictures of very pictures, a picture of
Kyle. He has on a bluesweater, he said, in this cafeteria.
I sat in front him. Iwouldn't had lunch with him. I
said, show me the kids thatyou're talking about. So then one way

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he's like him. I said,that boy is flooded. I said,
pants way up there, I said, I said he. I said,
hurt people, hurt people. He'sgot stuff going on at home. He
can't get no pants. Ife,look at his shoes. They run over.
I said, don't say it tohim, but he's dealing with stuff,
you know what I mean. He'sprobably can't pay for his lunch.
So that's why he's attacking me,cause he's a hurt boy. Then the

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other one cause I said, themyellow ass teeth, we could scrape her
teeth and butter the bread right now, that's why she teasing you. So
you know what I mean. Yougotta explain to the child, hurt people,
hurt people. But also tell herto defend herself and don't post it
on social media, right and alsodon't give her sixteen pontytails. Just give
her like slicking back and get somebraids stuff. Yeah, no, I
agree, you know what I mean, She can fix her a little look.

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But I think social media is definitelyimpacting people. I mean, because
I can remember I talk about thisa lot. I remember when I was
younger, the big thing was Victoria'sSecret. Don't oh your catalogs, right,
And I read this study that saidthat people women's psychology psychologically would be
like have a negative impression of theirself image after looking out a Victory Secret

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catalog. And this is when airbrushinghad just been discovered. Like, these
are not real photos. And I'mlike, social media is that times a
million? It is because it's notHeidi clust of all my worl on yourself
look at social media and be like, how she get a Bugatti? You
know, like it's really it's reallylike it's the spirit of comparison, and

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it's like you have to that's whyyou have to take a hiatus sometimes.
And you gotta also have reality checksand say come on, now you have
the perception check and say you knowthat this is not what's really going on
in all these people's lives. Theyleasing these cars, yeah, they borrow
on them. They sitting at thedealership taking test drive, do a photo
shoots around the quarter. Yeah,absolutely, they doing stuff. I think
to that point to what you weresaying about dating and how the women are

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showing up, it's like but soif they don't have to get a load
of this one though, right,Like so, if they don't have a
point of reference in their parents orthe women around them, where do they
anchor them seals to say, thisis not how I'm supposed to show up.
I can't be twerking in a thongat brunch. I think that that's
what that's where we come in.I saw, Wait, I'm sorry,
I'm in intervi y'all, but forreal, cause I cannot forget this.
I just saw a campaign with arapper that she's basically showing her and her

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friends invading a country club where youknow that they're having an astute like breakfast
or having a tea, and she'sshowing like we don't matter. Wait,
tire get. I was like,why is this okay? And who is
approving this budget and who's saying that'swhat we want to show our little girls
that it's okay to do, becausethat's who's really viewing them. We're not

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ordering their albums or yeah, buyingtheir short sets whatever they got on.
I mean, that's that's part ofthe reason I even like do what I
do. It was part of mybecause my daughter doesn't have any role models.
You know what I'm saying, there'snot. There's not any. Now,
there are some, there's a few, there's there are some. I'm
not gonna say, but they're notas I always put the onus on men.
But we women are only purely lookingat attention. And that's why I

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say again sexual attention versus attention.So men are looking at these videos,
these you know, these models thatare wearing whatever, and they're giving all
this attention, and women's like,well, I've got to be like that
to get that kind of attention fromthat kind of man. And so me
doing what I'm doing and what you'reWhat we're doing is like our voices,
our opinions, our perspectives, andwe're yeah, we're beautiful women, but

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we have we have a perspective thatthat's what makes us attractive. Not so
much Oh I'm walking around a bathingsuit and doing all this stuff to get
get somebody's attention or to have favoron me. You know, that's what
they don't even want it. Weconservative. They we are very boring in
this world right here. They lookyou know, they were boring though you
know we're not. I'm saying,but no, because I think that me,

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in my experience on this social mediaworld, me having an opinion and
looking the way I do has gottenhot quick, And I think it's because
it's what the game is missing.Yeah, I really do that. I
believe that having an educated woman,a woman that you know, can complete
a sentence and have a have awhole thought, spiritual, moral compass,

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whatever, and then also take careof herself and look good like. I've
had men from all walks of life, from the top to the bottom that
will reach out and be like keepdoing what they'd be like, keep doing
what you're doing. They don't knownothing about my past, they don't know
none about who I was attached to. They only see what I'm doing right

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now and they see like, wow, that's quality. And men are saying
there's not a lot of quality outhere. So you want to be chosen
by this dude? What for anight? I want to be somebody's choice
every day for a lifetime. Pity. Yeah. I think I'm gonna start
using perpetuity and every every every day. Yeah you want to roll. Yeah,

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it's a great word. It's agreat word, perpetuity. But I
love when she said that that wassuch a great way, right exactly.
No, but that's what you want. And to me, the ones that
don't want it, as my girlfriendsays, the ones that ain't using it,
ain't using it, ain't using it. They would abuse it anyway anyway.
And that's I mean. I thinkit's interesting like dating and everything like

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that. How is it for you? Like, wait, okay, how's
for me? How is it foryou? How is it? How is
dating for you? I think Isaid this before, the hardest part about
dating for me is people getting overtheir perception of me. Oh, if
they just give me a chance,just have a conversation, just go to

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dinner. This is one guy thatI was interested in and I even said,
look, we can just do businesstogether. Whatever it's it's whatever.
But I think he just really fearsbeing in my space. I think he
I don't know. It's the Idon't know. I'm in a very weird
So do you when you like somebody, do you pursue? Like, do
you say anything? Or how doyou? I absolutely do. If I

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like somebody else, say something,But I won't say I like him,
Well yes I will, I don'tknow, Yes I will. So you'll
you'll be your you are more open. You'll be like, hey, look,
I think do you hit him witha DM? Do you go outside?
Like how do you? Yeah,if you see my Instagram or whatever,
No, that's corny. Now,I don't really unless I know him.
Like, if I know him,I might make a comment on a
one of his posts like all dhim. I won't do it on his

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page, but I might DM andbe like, okay, that suit you
killed him? You know what I'msaying. I still discreet, right,
Yeah, I'm not gonna be likeit. I show want to see you
laffle House. Come on, daddy, what time you get? All right,
you're not giving any directs, butdefinitely I won't be that obviously.
Yeah, it's gonna take a veryunique He's gonna have to be cultured.

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He's gonna I'm I don't know whatkind of guy I'm gonna end up with.
But you know, I say,well, maybe it's I don't know
what God has in store. Iam. I'm just willing to wait.
I'm curious to see. I'm havingfun in the interim an introim, I'm
just traveling. Oh I'll tell youa funny story though, Oh I love
stories. Oh this one's funny.I went to Italy. I took a
little self trip to Italy. Iwent. I was gone for about six

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days, and I sure, I'mballing a budget, like I'll find the
most discounted hotels. I'll find specialsor you know whatever, it is,
the most discounted five star hotels becauseher vacations are fabulous. Look, it's
very fabulous. I mean, gosh, I mean but anyway, I'm lucky
enough to go on one of thoseworlds. Oh God, Morocco in Paris.

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Yeah, we do stuff. Wedo it because you'll get one life
chasing. Then I'm looking for sunsets. I'm chasing sunsets. I love that.
That's my thing. My son.I think my son Kyle is in
charge of certain sunsets. So Ialways I'm a sunset chaser. I'm planning
on doing a coffee table book calledSunset Chaser, where I collect sunsets from
all over the world and I,you know, accumulate the pictures and I

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edit them. And I want tocurate this book of my sunsets. So
anyway, back to my story.So I went to Italy and I'm on
a dating app, so I changedthe location naturally because I wasn't in Atlanta.
So these guys in Italy started allhitting me up, and I'm like,
oh, so it's calling on.So it's like, hey, you're
in Rome, Da da dad.I want to take you to coffee.

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So I'm like, okay, Ican meet him at the most public place.
It was cute, most public place, and I'll have coffee with this
person or tea or whatever. Broaddaylight, twelve noon, you know.
Easy that way. If he's crazy, I can run through the square and
never see him again. Sure,so I get there. First of all,
he's four to eleven, No mean, he's probably like five to one.
He's short. His shoes looked likehe walked from the walls of Jericho.

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She's said, the walls of Jericho. He looked like, you know
what, I'm in the fashion SoI look down like Waterloo, waterlod.
I looked Waterlode, and then onhis profile and saying he was a dentist,
so his teeth look like he chewedall there was stolen to get to
me. I was like, howare you a dentist, sir? I'm

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sorry. So if I watched him, so I didn't know what to do.
So I'm like, okay, I'mtalking to myself. I'm like,
I need a go pro because there'snobody in life would believe this. Where
is my camera? So I justhad to play it off. So he's
just like, I want to showyou that. I want to show you
the square. So he's showing meall these stories. First of all,
I don't show me no stories.I'm don't show me no stores. You're

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showing me we windows shopping. Arewe going in the store to get something
for me? No, we're notgetting them. We show He's showing me
stories, showing me if it's justfitting this. I said, Babe,
I know what all these stories are. I've been doing this a long time,
very much into this fashion thing,and you really playing with my emotions,
Smoky by taking me in all thesestories. Okay, so we go
to these stories. So then weget into the square. I'm walking ahead

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of him, trying to kind ofseparate myself, like we are not together
because people looking like what I'm inmy pretty orange dress, I'm all prettiest
stuff, like what? So herewe go. We finally got there.
I said, I said, justgonna have lunch. Let's just you know,
forget the story thing because it's notworking out. Let's just go have
lunch. You want to sit andhave at the cafe. He's like,
I bet it wouldn't walked to thecafe down the street. These are all
trashy tourists. I said, butI'm a tourist. We're gonna do the

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tourist spot where everybody's at nigga seeme. So then he got mad because
I wouldn't do the little side cornercafe cause no telling what was on the
other side. And he was like, this is nuts working out. You
don't smile. I said, yousaid I had nice teeth. I muna
smile or something, and he justsaid, I said, so you just
wanna have listen, just have acoffee. He was like, no,
it's not working out, and hejust walked away into the crowd. It

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ghosted it. I was so happyhe can get a little tricky. Have
you have you? No? Thatwas so funny. I wasn't. And
then wait, he sent me amat way I canna tell you the way
it ended. So he sent mea message and said, if you're going
to day, he said, thebest person for you to date is a
mirror. He said, the bestperson for you to date is a mirror.
He said, And if you're gonnago out with someone, you should

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try smiling. I said, ifyou're gonna call yourself a dentist, you
don't. I had to kill himas a cat had to kill him.
Say once you pointed out his uh, his teeth, Your teeth cannot be
as great as the Vatican, andwe try to you cannot. What did
he say, Oh, Lord Pope, John Paul, the fourth ass niggas

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laugh. You would get him bymy face talking to me nothing. I
just said, if you're gonna callyourself a dentist, you may want to
start with yourself, because your youryour best business card. Jo turned over
as very nice. Well you keptit classic, did I didn't go in,
but that was funny because he ghostedme in the middle of the square.
Could have been lost. But seethat's why I can't. I don't
know about this dating thing. Theseday apps ain't gonna work. I need

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somebody in. Please camera, pleaseintroduce me to someone nice, a nice
man who has his stuff together,who loves his family and his mother and
everything, and who is open tofashion advice and has a budget to be
repaired, Yes exactly. And Iwill say just to close out the circle

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on the the young women that aretworking at brunch, working and working,
its working and working listening. Notall attention is great attention. No,
absolutely, money is good money,every dollar making. I think a lot
of young women they don't care.Yeah they see it now, but you
don't understand the cost of it later, like Okay, yes, you may

(27:30):
be getting this attention now, yes, and maybe maybe feeling like oh that
thing, but but at what costs? Because what I want everybody to realize,
everything that you put out into socialmedia is permanent, even when you
delete it. You see old tweetscoming up from politicians and all kinds of

(27:52):
people that are messing up because tenyears ago they said something. So just
think about when you You may nothave children. Now, you may not
have be this response, but youmay end up finding the man of your
dreams or having a child, andshe's gonna see you're a whole booty hole
being brown. But yeah, buteven that it's gonna limit you. Men
are not settling down like they usedto. Why because there's so many women

(28:15):
throwing themselves. They have too manyThey have a lot of options. They
got a lot too many options.Why am I gonna put in work for
you when I got this other oneright here there's willing to do whatever I
wanted, and there's gonna be thisother one. And so it's like,
if you are doing that, youare you also understand that if I'm getting
it like this from so many differentwomen, you can't be doing exactly what
they're doing thinking that whatever I flipup on the ceiling and drop on you

(28:36):
is gonna make make a difference.And I think a lot of women put
too much into the sexual activity,like you know what I can do,
think that that's gonna have someone good, that's not gonna happen. No,
stay with them. Yeah, ifyou have someone good, these guys out
here dating and switching and jumping andjumping from woman to woman, if you
have someone good, invest the timeand into that person, you know what

(28:59):
I mean, Because it's an investment. It's all the time investment, because
for you to jump from her tosomeone else, you got to invest.
Start off from scratch, get toknow her, put money into her,
fix her, you know what Imean? Like, guys, stop jumping
around. I just everybody's just wow, everybody. I chilled. Yeah,
I think men and women need tohave higher standards for how who they decide
to be with, because overall menare dealing with women, and they're dealing

(29:22):
with a lot of women just thinkingthat it can be more casual. They
can just juck and jib and it'slike, you can't really, you can't
not do that. Your whole lineagecould be affected by the women you choose.
You can be locked up in jailfor two years because you messed with
the wrong woman. You can beyou know, you can spend your whole
life trying to battle a reputation becauseyou chose the wrong person to lay down
with. So men need to alsohave higher standards about who you laid down

(29:45):
with. What spirit are you actuallyallowing your whole time? We're allowing men
to be too casual with the womenthat they're deciding to be with, and
it's ruining legacy. It's ruining legacydoing it, you know what I want
to put it, And in thisdiscussion, because this is a whole other
episode. Yeah, and being morediscerning about who you decide to let in

(30:07):
your space. Yeah, but period, this was a good one, lady.
I agree. We won a lotof different places and a lot of
different we did. I hope everybodycan keep up, because I sure I
couldn't. We stand, and herewe stand.