How to Talk About Purity With Your Partner: Conversation Starters and Grace

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I am my beautiful loving souls. I hope I find
you well and if not, as I always say, do
not despair. It is just a season and there'll be
brad It is coming. For those of you who do
not know me, my name is Rita aka Baby Faith,
and I want to welcome you to Hero's Eden podcast
and Eaten Purity Channel depending on where you're listening to
a safe space where we explore faith, purity relationships grounded

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in God's word and which mission is to serve and
respond to the needs of Christian's abstinent and celibate, and
where we also speak about relationship topics who aim to
help you navigate the challenges and misunderstanding of your journey.
If you're wondering how to navigate conversations about purity with
your partner, you are in the right spot. Today we

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will cover practical, grave field ways to start this important
dialogue grounded in God's love and truth. The primary intended
goal of today's discussion is first and foremost to strengthen
and empower anyone who's chosen to live a purity life,
as well as bringing awareness on the fact that these
conversations don't always have to be difficult, uncomfortable, or defensive

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sounds because just like in any conversations, people are entitled
to their own opinion, and that's perfectly fine, even if
it doesn't align with ours. The thing is, if deep
inside ourselves we can fully embrace our decision and lifestyle
choice to live in purity and therefore be excited to
share them with others and educate those who are less

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informed and interested, then praise God. Otherwise to each their own,
remember to subscribe and share. If this episode blesses you,
let's get into it. Part one after this conversation is
why this conversation matters. First of all, before explaining why

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having purity conversation with your partner matters, I just want
to start by quickly define what purity in the relationship
context means as for the Bible, so we all have
an understanding of the basics of what we're talking about.
So with a further delay. In the Bible, purity relationship
is a concept that covers moral and spiritual integrity in

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all interactions and extends all the way to physical, emotional,
and mental aspects. In other words, purity is rooted in
a desire to honor God and reflect his holiness in
the way we conduct ourselves and think and how does
this look like in real life. Although when we hear
about purity, sots immediately go to virginity, sexual abstinence and

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all that, it is important to know that purity is
way much broader than that first. It may reflect in
one's through sincerity of heart or unselfish motive in a relationship.
It also means keeping all sexual intimacy exclusively for the
covenant of marriage between a man and a woman and

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avoiding sexual immorality and lustful thoughts. Purity also involves respecting communication,
avoid the sitful games, and more. Although the Bible does
not mention the word dating, it does, in the other hand,
provides principles for purity in a romantic relationship, which in
Christianity is known as courtship and Christian courtship or dating,

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emphasizing on building a strong emotional and spiritual foundation while
setting clear physical boundaries. All in all, biblicult purity in
relationships is about undivided commitment to honoring God through all
of our connections. Now that this is said, why does
this conversation matters? It is important to note that purity

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is more than a personal choice. It's a shared commitment.
When you're dating with God's purpose. What it means is
that a few date someone who does not share similar
core values and beliefs in regards to your faith. It
might be difficult to find common ground in order to
evolve and grow together with God's purpose because you may
have to spend a lot of time trying to get

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them to understand your faith and beliefs, and in the
end find yourself tired, confuse, disappointed, or heartbroken. God is
the one calling people to Him and we are just
the tools or servants appointed to guide and show them
the way. So if you think that by yourself and
your own strength, you can convert a heart to Christ,

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oh well, let us know how it went. Number two.
Another reason why having these conversation matters is because having
an open communication creates trust and align hearts. Proverbs twenty
seven seventeen says as iron sharpens iron, so one person
sharpens another, meaning someone can help another improve and grow

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through authentic friendship or relationship, same way as two pieces
of iron rubbed together can sharpen one another. People can
refine one another's character through a honess conversation and challenges
Number three. Another reason why this conversation matters is because
discussing purity early help prevent confusion, temptation, or heartbreak. Later

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in the previous episode, I talk about the importance of
setting healthy boundaries in Christian relationship, and you may want
to check it out as I explain in detail and
with many examples, how and why it is important to
prevent temptation, confusion, and heartbreak. The link will be in
the description below. Moving on now to the second part

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of today's discussion, how to gracefully start the conversation. I
believe this is the part where many are waiting and expecting.
For number one you, you may want to begin with
a short prayer together first to invite God's wisdom, love,
and patience into the conversation. Then, once that is done,

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choose a safe and comfortable private place free from distraction,
and clarify the intent of the conversation, which is to
understand and encourage and grow together. Then, after having affirmed
one another's worth, you may start then by sharing your
personal story. Something maybe in the lines of God has

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led me to make choices about purity because I want
to honor Him with my body and my heart. And
here's what that looks like for me. I date with
the intention to fulfill God's plan for humanity through men
and women, which is to marry, love one another with
all of our heart. And if it is his will
for me to have children and go the body of Christ,

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which is the Church. But before marriage, I chose to
preserve myself according to the Word of God. Therefore I
court with the intent of getting to know my partner deeply,
whether it is emotionally, spiritually, and physically, with limitation. Okay,

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And here it is up to you if you wish
to share your boundaries and limitations. For example, you may say,
we may peck on the lips once we have built
a trustful relationship, or again no kissing until engagement, or
however you see it fit. In other words, this is
where and when you simply let your partner in on

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who you are as a person, what you believe in,
and what they can expect from you. You may, if
you find it appropriate, share your fit, journey, struggles and hope.
Also in the step number two, remember to avoid preaching
or judging while sharing about your lifestyle and choices. You

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may want in the beginning to keep the conversation light,
it's probably not necessary to cite all Bible verses and
all that. We want to keep our tone humble and
loving and are definitely not trying to prove or debate
about who is better, because if this is your time
and God has called you, allow them to also navigate

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through their own journey. For God, through his merciful grace
and love, allows us up until now to fumble, fall
and fail, so let us have and extend the same
grace to others. Number three of how to gracefully start
the conversation, let's use eye statements rather than you should
focusing on what God has drawn you to personally. Remember,

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everybody's journey is different, therefore we cannot expect having identical experiences. Also,
your story is not the blueprint of God's walk. Sadly,
same as the apostles Paul walk before getting to Christ
and the thief on the cross who asks Christ to
save a place for him in heaven right in his
last existing mouse journey are not the same. So is yours,

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and that is the beauty of God's immn's grace and mercy.
I don't know about you, but there is nothing more
inspiring than people from different paths of life and with
different experiences. Moving on to number four, ask open ended
questions something like, how do you view purity in relationship?

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Or again, what boundaries do you think honor God? Or
how can we support each other in living out our convictions?
Do you hear how powerful that is? Or again you
could ask what challenges have you faced in pursuing purity
and how did you handle them? But why not the
last one for the world, how do you hope our
relationship honors God to purity? Now the thing is following

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these questions, be ready for different viewpoints with patience and prayer,
keeping Christ at the center. For let me tell you
this part right here is going to be very challenging
at times because you may feel questioned and argued in
your core values and the natural response is sometimes to
defend ourselves. So how to prevent it? In order to

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prevent you from slipping into frustration and hurt, make sure
you prepare with prayer and scripture. Be assured and confident
in the Word when it says in first to Salonians
four three to seven, it is God's will that you
should be sanctified, that you should avoid sexual immorality, that

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each of you should learn to control your own body
in a way that is holy and honorable, not in
passionate loss like the pagans who do not know God,
And that in this matter no one should wrong or
take advantage of a brother or sister. The Lord will
punish all those who commit such things, as we told

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you and warned you before. For God did not call
us to be impure, but to live a holy life.
So love, find assurance not in men, but in God.
And once you are seated in your convictions, remember to
listen first, speak second, don't be so quick to wanting

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to give advice, genuinely care first. Finally, last part, after
this's discussion, keep the conversation. Ongoing. Purity talks are not
a one time affair. They involved with relationship. This is
why you may need to revisit some boundaries that once
we're communicated, viewpoints that were shared, or misunderstanding that we're

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not settled. So regular check ins are encouraged and transparency
is required. Open and honest conversations will get you further
than superficial and help back once. Do not be shy
or afraid to express the changes that may have arose
since the last conversations you've had with your partner. This
is why check ins are therefore, so you do not

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have to secretly live in your frustrations. Also, another way
to keep conversation ongoing, you may share resources together, meaning devotionals,
articles or a church group discussion. Then, finally, a very
important one, pray together for strength, wisdom and unity in
honoring God. There, my friends, talking about purity with your

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partner may feel intimidating, especially the first times, but it
is a vital step toward a God centered relationship. I
hope I was able to equip you for loving and
having confident purity conversation with your partner. No more fear, uncertainty,
or frustration. I hope. Let me know what conversation starters

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or questions have you found helpful? Share in the comments
or reach out in my social down below, because I'd
love to hear and pray fit you, Father, God, You're
not a timid or fearful God. I therefore pray and
ask you to please feel anyone that is lacking the
ability or confidence to communicate boldly about their choice to

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honor You with their being, to find assurance in you
and stand boldly as they know who their father is.
As I always say, you are worthy our God and
Lord to receive glory, honor, and power, for you created
all things, and by your will they were created and
have their being a man a man, don't forget to

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subscribe and unload the Purity Conversation Guide in the link below,
and stand confidently in love in your truth, just as
First Quarantine sixteen fourteen says, Let all that you do
be in love. Thank you Hamley for allowing me in
your spaceyar and precious time. As I do not take

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it lightly. I wish you to have an amazing day
evening night. Just have an amazing time. Stay safe out
there is that always say you are beautifully, peacefully and
confidently blessed, for you are a unique creation of Elohim.

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Stay blessed, my friends. Man where the men

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