The Complacency Trap: Revealing How to Escape it Together in A Relationship

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Are you caught in the complacency trap in your relationship? Don't worry; you're not alone! In this eye-opening conversation, we delve deep into the roots of complacency and how it can sneak into even the strongest bonds. Discover the signs of complacency and explore actionable advice on how to break free from this cycle. 
It's time to revitalize your partnership and embrace harmony. By understanding the dynamics of complacency, you can foster deeper connections and reignite passion like never before! Don't miss out on transforming your relationship—hit play, and let's embark on this journey together!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
While single, most men will be content and proud of
their blend Marcaranian butter recipe, if that is one, and
even boast about the success of these in quotation recipe
to their friends or after a long day, they may
launch on anything really with enrich or order from anywhere.
What seems important at the time is fail in their stomach.

(00:23):
Culinary dements are not always very high, and eating a
home cooked meal at the time a day of celebration.
House standing is not a matter of la or death.
A sweater left on the kitchen countertop with dirty dishes
next to it, dirty socks greeting you at the entrance
with a powerful aroma that seems to invite everyone to

(00:44):
take to their heels, all of that do not matter.
While single, When the green light to wash one's clothes
is determined by the funk of these ones or stains,
that is truly singleness. And the beauty of all of
this is that they're doing and trying their best. All right.

(01:04):
If you thought that I was only coming from men,
let's go. While single, most ladies knew how to drive
and open their own doors after cooking a good meal
for themselves and or cleaning, taking the trash out is
not rocket science, but it will be done. Although mechanics
is not most of us forty, we'll still take our

(01:27):
cars to the mechanics and try to rule out for
ourselves before getting there the possible problems so we don't
get scammed. We do that and can. If we had
to wait or call all the men to come and
open the leads of the jars for us, this world
would be filled with one size fits all to speak,

(01:49):
looking like we'd be starving. Let's just say that changing
the toilet paper when finished is not World War two matter.
The point of these statements is this one. What happens
to us individually when we get in a relationship that
makes us all of a sudden so dependent and incapable

(02:12):
of doing anything that we used to and knew of
to the point of them becoming problems. Is it that
we become so comfortable with one another that we give
up on making effort and start taking our partner for
granted or once locked up, we see this opportunity to
dump all of what used to be our weaknesses. Will

(02:34):
single and the lucky one. Before getting any deeper in
this conversation, if you found yourself guilty of creating drama
in any of your relationships over expectations that could have
been handled differently. What was your story? Please do share
in the comment section or attack this episode and share

(02:56):
your experience on any of my social platforms. As we
are about to dive right into it, grab a cup
of coffee, a snack or anything you want and stay tuned.
We'll be right back. Welcome to Here is Eden, the

(03:26):
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may now leave your fear, your judgment and murmur at
the game disclaimer. The atmosphere you're about to enter will

(03:56):
suscitate questioning, opinions, conversation, thinking, growth or not. Be informed
that what you're about to hear is not from an expert,
and remember that the greatest specialist and expert that there
is is Elohim himself. Now, if you may, let's get

(04:16):
comfortable and enjoy. I am a beautiful, loving souls. How
are you doing a house life, house work as your family?
But most importantly, how is your relationship with God? I
hope you are well and if you do not, as
I always say, do not despair, there will be batter
days coming. As for me, I am doing well I'm

(04:39):
doing fantastic. I am still going so grow it to God.
For those of you who do not know me, my
name is Rita aka Babyface, and I want to welcome
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(05:02):
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is that you find anything within what will be discussed

(05:24):
and so together we enjoy, we grow and learn. So
before I can keep on going, if you're a regular,
please allow me to give grace to my father. So
let's pray Father God. I just want to say thank you,
Thank you for life, thank you for waking me up
and waking up anyone that is listening today. And please
I pray that you send your peace and love and

(05:44):
stability to everyone struggling. As I always say, you are
worthy our garden Lord to be praised and to receive glory, honor,
and power. For you, Father created all things, and by
your will they were created and have their being a
man a man. Let's go, my people, welcome. As you

(06:13):
may have read the title already and got to feel
and sense of to this topic, I still would like
to properly introduce to this topic as it affects so
many couples and more than we think of today. We'll
understand what is complacency and we also explore the signs
to help you recognize that you are starting to be
too comfortable in the routine of your relationship and also

(06:36):
how to avoid attracting singleness again from your ignorance. So,
without any further delay, please allow me to properly introduce
to this topic, which is complacency in relationship. What even

(07:02):
is complacency? Let's just start here. So complacency is a
state of one being or becoming comfortable in the relationship
and no longer making an active effort to maintain and
nurture the relationship. Like we all know how much effort
we put in well dating, all those little attentions we
try to do for each other to impress, like cooking

(07:24):
our best meal, from time to time, take each other
out on dates, whether it is for walks, people watching
you know, wait, take people out on dates to eat. Okay,
those late calls to say good night, or just regular
phone calls to check upon each other throughout the day.

(07:44):
Those compliments throw on left and right for them just walking, breathing, existing,
you know, like my King glorious is the day or
us have opened until this world? You know what I mean? Cavana,
We laugh at their jokes when they don't hit. We're
just one another's number one then, so why stop what

(08:07):
worked and got us there? Question? What makes a baby
or a child growing confidence? It's all the celebration and
encouragement we provide them with when they do the most
regular and repeated things over and over, us letting them
know that they are seen and appreciated for putting back

(08:28):
that remote control that they're not supposed to attach. But
yet we make the effort to control our annoyance at
the repetition, to not break them innocent souls down. Don't
they say repetition makes perfect unless, of course, you are
coupled with an evil person. For us, there is good

(08:51):
in this world. Evil does exist as well. Listen, there
are evil people out here whose missions are to the
straw and break people's spirits. Let's not here our stuffs here.
But if you are not possessed by an evil spirit
and is simply a flood human with a desire to
improve not only yourself but others, there is hope, my friends.

(09:27):
So if you are willing to be in a peaceful, successful,
and harmonious relationship, well here are the six signs you
need to look at for to not fall into complacency.
So let's start sign number one, taking one another for granted.
At first, you use to complement their cooking, thanking them

(09:50):
for doing things for you, recognizing their contribution into your
life in simple ways, such as just having a friend
or partner to talk to a about anything. All the
tasks that once rested on your shoulders alone are now shared,
and so on and so forth, and we get the point.

(10:10):
But times later, these benefits that were added onto your
life no longer seem to be valuable. You want more,
which is not a problem to wish for more and better,
but you've stopped acknowledging what is. And another way of
taking one for granted is once established in the relationship,

(10:32):
you've stopped doing what promoted you in that relationship in
the first place. You stopped being a partner. The contract
stipulated that two people were at the head of this unity,
but now one seems to have jumped off the boat.
They do not partake in the responsibilities anymore, but want
only the perks that comes with it. Moving on, sign

(10:56):
number two of complacency loss of excitement. Of course, the
spark and enthusiasm of the beginning of the relationship will
evolve and mature, but it does not have to die.
If your partner walks in the house and you haven't
seen each other or talked to one another like that
during the day, and you barely look at them, greet them,

(11:18):
or inquire about them or their day and whatnot, and
act like they barely exist, you what is wrong now?
What has gotten you there? Who wants to be invisible
in a relationship? Anyways? We're not yet talking about solutions

(11:38):
to avoid that, but just laying foundation by recognizing the
signs that lead to the problem. So sign number three
of complacency decrease, communication and demonstration of affection. We all
know that communication is out there in the top three

(11:58):
important and vital skill to have in a successful and
healthy relationship. For a good communication enables board parties to
share their thoughts and feelings openly, thus create understanding trust
and build a stronger emotional connection. If you have stopped
communicating clearly and effectively your feelings, your needs, frustrations, appreciations,

(12:24):
and just have started to keep more to yourself, well,
chances are that slowly your partner and yourself will start
drifting away from one another, and before you know it,
you no longer caddlen or kiss, let alone get active
in your secret and intimate heaven. I think after this

(12:44):
one we need a short break. Welcome back. Since the
beginning of this conversation, you've started looking down because you

(13:05):
recognize yourself in those signs. It's gonna be okay. What's
important is what you're gonna do about it, and with
it we all fall short in this evil world. So
sign number four of complacency feeling stuck, and lack of
growth in the relationship. After a while in a relationship,

(13:26):
routine kicks in, which is normal. But if you're feeling
like you're just going through the motions and that every
day is a copy paste of the previous and that
there seems not to be signs of progression or growth
for the relationship. Chances are you have become too complacent
and stop trying to continue elevating and keeping the spark on.

(13:47):
Sign number five increase negativity and violation of boundaries. This,
my friend, happens when the relationship becomes stagnant to predictable,
boring stock. The concerned people may experience frustrations because they
feel overwhelmed from the lack of involvement from their partner

(14:10):
in the relationship. They may feel conflicted about whether to
leave or not the relationship thing is, They've considered it strongly,
maybe more than once. But when it happens, the other
partner makes a scene, start making promises and makes it
difficult for them to leave. But down the line, still

(14:31):
no change, and that, my friend, may bring someone to
become resentful, mean, just unpleasant. They may start a fight
for no good reason, or test your limits by pressing
the buttons they know will trigger you. That's how they
may start violating your boundaries and that is not a
good place to be. Finally, last sign of complacency number

(14:56):
six lack of mutual interest and share activities. Well, this
resonates strongly with a disconnection. If you no longer have
interest to do things together, you go out with your
girls and don't care about what he has going on,
and vice versa. I don't think you need for anyone

(15:16):
to tell you this, but this does not bode well
at all. Something needs to be done and quick. This
is what we're about to talk about in the next
section after this way, so stay tuned and do not
miss out in this second part. Now that we've exposed

(15:49):
our flaws, things we do or have done consciously or unconsciously,
but that we wish to rewrite or not repeat, it
is time to find out about how to avoid complacency
and what to do or not do. So here we'll
explore five points or suggestions to avoid complacency. So suggestion

(16:11):
number one be proactive and seek together new experiences. Some
of us may be introvert or extrovert. However, society likes
to define and label individuals. The point is whether you
are more of a homebody or an outgoing person. If
you're opposite from one another in your relationship, you'll have

(16:32):
to find a middle ground and plan activities that meet
both of your point of interest. And remember, a relationship
is like a flame. It starts with a spark, but
in order to maintain the flame activated, you need to
put some effort into it to keep it alive. It's
all about finding the right balance. Too much ignition it

(16:54):
can start a wildfire, but not enough it can become
cold real quick. You want to be loved by your
love language being honored right, same for your partner. Suggestion
number two communicate, Communicate, Communicate openly and honestly. So many

(17:16):
people could testify about communication having failed in their relationship.
Sometimes all that's needed is for you to open your
mouth and express what's inside of you before it gets
too late. No one is a mind reader, and though
some things may make sense for you, it doesn't mean

(17:37):
that it does for the other person. We tell kids
all the time what makes sense, what's moral, and we
repeat ourselves over and over until it starts making sense
for them. Sometimes, although we've gained few inches, we still
need to be reminded certain things with love until it

(17:57):
makes sense. It takes two to ten what they say
in a relationship. It takes two to keep the flame alive.
Work together. God has put you two together for a reason.
Learn to go out of your comfort zone. From time
to time, share your feelings and desires, and together try

(18:17):
finding solution. It doesn't mean that it will happen overnight,
but if your partner is worth saving in God's eyes,
do not give up and offer him up to God
so you don't have to bear all the weight by yourself. Boom,
that's communication for you. Suggestion number three, show appreciation and affection.

(18:43):
We are taught to say thank you since we were little,
so what excuse is there for not doing so as
adults to our partners. Is maturity synonym of slavery? I
don't think so. So let your men and your woman
know about your love for them and how much you
appreciate them. But the thing is these information and vulnerability

(19:07):
are not for you to now use it as a
weapon of manipulation, because you'll just destroy it. Even for yourself.
We need to stop being insecure and think that complimenting
your loved one will boost their ego and have them
change for the worst. Well, if they do, you did
not trigger it. Let me tell you they were spoiled

(19:28):
from the get go. Just like Judas is carried in
the Bible. Do not let evil turn your light off
and pull you into the darkness, stay bright. Suggestion number four,
keep your individuality in relationship and maintain a healthy balance
from your needs. Listen, the Bible does say that once

(19:53):
the man and the woman join together, they become one flesh.
We also know that salvation is individual in a sense
where you and you alone will respond before God for
your living. It's not because you're now married or about
to that your personality has to get lost in the relationship.

(20:14):
What attracted your partner to you in the first place
was you just as you are. Don't let no one
makes you think otherwise. Out of the billions of people,
they chose you. So it is okay to like what
you like. Have moments away from one another to reconnect
with yourself, reset, and recharge your energy so you can

(20:38):
have enough to maintain the flame. We are created, unique
and beautiful in our own differences. And finally, last suggestion,
but not the least, seek for guidance if needed and
still aware of potential warning signs. How do you know

(21:01):
how to prevent anything if by either having experienced it
or being exposed to it. Right when you know the
signs that may lead the complacency, For example, you'd be
quicker to act on it. Sometimes we think too hard.
Maybe one day a dark menacing clouds and sky didn't

(21:22):
mean anything to you until you got rained on that
day you associated dark clouds with a possible rain or storm.
That's how it is in life. But you have to
pay attention and stop ignoring the signs, especially in their
early stages. But it does happen that sometimes despite being

(21:45):
aware of the signs and trying preventing them from imploding
by ourselves, it may not always work. That is one
It is okay to say I need help please, for
God is our number one help. For he gave us
our faithful friend, Christ, who does not judge and understand

(22:07):
us very well as he has overcome this world and
angels in the form of humans. That means your father,
your mother, your sister, your friends, your counselor whoever will
be sent to assist us through counseling and overcome whatever
hurdles we are experiencing. They are my friends. I knew

(22:30):
that today's topic would have been a big one to tackle,
and I am delighted to have covered it. I hope
that I was able to translate my thoughts effectively in
this limited timeframe, and that if this content has brought
value to you, that you do the right thing and
hopefully keep the flame alive or at least for the future.

(22:54):
For my part, I want to thank you humbly for
having allowed me in your space, your time, and your
ear and hopefully be part of a great change. If
you want to connect with me, do not hesitate, and
I am eager to hear from you. On that note,

(23:14):
I want to wish you to have an amazing day,
evening night, just have an amazing time. Stay safe out there,
as I always say, stay beautifully, peacefully and confidently blessed,
for you are a unique creation of Elohim. Stay blessed,

(23:42):
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