June 18, 2025 • 34 mins
FOMO is out, Hot Girl Energy is in.... in this week's epsiode its all about different fomos and ways to overcome them. I also share my own personal experience dealing with these fomos and my tips on how I was able to put myself first, not compare myself to others and achieve my own personal goals in life. Hope you enjoy & make sure to follow our socials below:
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Speaker 1 (00:13):
Hello you guys, Welcome back to another episode of the
Hawtgrel Energy Podcast. I'm your host, Kayleie, and this is
your weekly reminder that it's a new day, a new week,
a new mindset, and another day. I for you'd become
the hot girl energy you want to attract. Hello you guys,
Happy Wednesday, Welcome back to another episode. I am officially
home from Miami. Oh my goodness, guys, that trip was
(00:39):
honestly probably one of the best trips I've actually ever
been on.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Like I'm not even over exaggerating.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Zach and I had the best time in Miami, to
the point where we were literally talking about buying a house.
We were like, imagine buying a house in Miami or
a condo or whatever the.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Case may be. Like, we absolutely loved it.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
The vibe was great, people were great, the just the
overall atmosphere just felt so like, I don't know, I
don't even know how to explain it. It just was
such a peaceful and fun town. And I love the
mix of Miami and I think I kind of mentioned
the last episode of how Like, I just feel like
it hits every single aspect of like you have the
(01:20):
wellness side you have the party side, you have you know,
the beach side.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Like I feel like.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
There's just like such a huge combination of everything. And yeah,
we absolutely loved it. Like we always started our mornings
off with a morning walk across They have like a
little sidewalk that is right along the ocean, So we
walked like twenty to twenty five minutes to our breakfast spot.
In the morning, we would go to Piavida, which everyone
was like raving about to go to, and it totally
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exceeded my expectations. It was amazing, just really good like breakfast, sandwiches, wraps, smoothies, coffees,
all that, and then we'd walk back for another twenty
to twenty five minutes and then we'd go to the gym.
The gym at the hotel we were staying at was phenomenal.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
It was massive.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
So I don't know, we got like our little wellness
fix in by doing our walk, getting our healthy breakfasts,
getting a workout in, and then would get ready to
go to the beach and literally just like chill by.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
The pool and beach and shoot content and all that.
But it was such a fun trip.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
If you've never been to Miami, I highly, highly highly
recommend it.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
We stayed at the one hotel.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
That hotel was probably one of the nicest hotels I've
ever stayed at, and I've been wanting to stay at
this hotel for a very long time. I've seen a
lot of influencers just talk about this hotel and just
saying how how worth it is your money. It is
obviously a bit on the price of your side, but
they were just saying like how great the experience was
(02:40):
and how beautiful the resort was all that. So when
Zach and I booked it and we got to stay there,
we were super excited and it totally exceeded our expectations.
Like there was I think like seven or eight different restaurants,
there was four different pools. Like I don't even think
we saw the whole hotel, Like we spent two hours
the first day just walking through the hotel just trying
(03:01):
to like get an understanding of where things were. And
I still don't think we hit everywhere, Like we didn't
even go to the rooftop portion of the hotel because
again it was just so big that there was so
much to do and so much to see, and like
we didn't even get to maximize the entire time while
we were there.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
So obviously we have to go.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Back, and we're gonna have to hit areas that we
never hit before.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
But if you're looking.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
At either a bacherette or a weekend trip with your
girlfriends or with your husband or partner or boyfriend, highly
recommend staying at that hotel. It was truly insane. So yeah,
it was a great trip. I was actually there with
Dynamite Clothing. I was actually shooting a lot of their
summer collection, so a lot of it was work related.
(03:43):
But I mean, work for me is always fun. Right,
we're obviously recording, we're shooting content. Zach and I love
shooting content together. I think it's such a fun thing
to do. And I don't know, Zach and I are
like best friends, and I think that's what makes a
relationship work so well, is when you are best friends
with your partner. Every time, I think just is fun together.
And so doing work together was super fun, and he
(04:06):
low key loved doing it, and he was like, honestly,
I need to find a remote job. I need to,
you know, figure out something with construction that I can
do remotely. Because we were both like, imagine coming and
living in Miami during the winter season, because obviously our
winters are so bad here that we just wanted to
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think about ways that we can like kind of get
the best of both worlds where we're able to live
at home, you know, throughout the spring and summer season
and fall and then like from like January to April,
so like literally only four months out of the year,
which is obviously a small portion of it, but being
able to like either own a property or rent a
property in Florida during the off season would be like
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a dream of ours.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Except because Zach.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Works in construction obviously has to be like physically there
for his job obviously makes it a little difficult.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
So who knows. We'll see what the future holds.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Obviously there's opportunities of change and opportunities of growth for
him within this company that he works for, So we'll
see what the future holds. But it was just kind
of fun to talk about like future plans obviously, and
just like things that we both were kind of like
aligned on, and yeah, all in all, it.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Was a very fun trip.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
If you guys followed me on TikTok or Instagram, then
I'm sure you guys saw some of the content that
we were doing when we were in Miami, but I
had the opportunity of meeting one of my podcast girlies
and followers. Oh my gosh, guys, I met this amazing
girl named Mary Lenna. She is literally the sweetest human
being ever. If you guys saw the video that I posted.
(05:39):
I ended up surprising her on her baucherette. Her girlfriend,
Gabriella sent me a message on Instagram. She just DMed
me and she was like, I'd love to try and
connect something in terms of surprising my girlfriend for her boucharette.
We're here at the same hotel as you guys, like
we'd love for you to surprise her.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
As soon as I saw that.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
DM, I was like, oh my gosh, we need to
we need to do this, Like this.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Would be so fun.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
And obviously I love meeting you guys in person, so
that for me was like, oh my god, this is
gonna be so fun. So as soon as she sent
me that message, we were like kind of trying to
figure out a plan in terms of like when I
can go to their room to surprise them.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
She gave me their room number.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
I met Gabriella in the lobby just to kind of
get a rundown of the plan, and then I went
upstairs to the room, knocked on the door, and yeah,
it just from there it was just so much excitement
and so fun and yeah, it just was truly the
sweetest reaction. You guys need to go see the video
on Instagram and TikTok. It truly was like one thing
that really made my trip. It was like one of
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the best highlights of the trip, just to meet fellow
followers and podcast listeners. And I wish I could come
to every single one of your baucherette's or weddings or
whatever just to meet you guys, because it honestly, like,
I get so excited meeting you guys, and it makes
me so happy that you guys are happy, because obviously
your support just means so much to me, and I
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wouldn't be here without you guys. So it was such
a fun way to include that in the trip. And yeah,
oh my god, it was just so so sweet.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
But that's a little update of Miami.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
I hope more trips like that are in the future
for us, because Zach and I really do love traveling
together and this is our year of travel. I find
I think we've definitely spent a lot of time traveling,
but that's I think because we're, you know, trying to
get as much in as we can before we start
to settle down and start a family and all that. So, yeah,
(07:27):
we're just trying to enjoy our time together and do
these fun little like last minute weekend trips or just yeah,
really get out and just enjoy some vacation time him
and I. And yeah, we've obviously been enjoying the newlywed phase.
I think everyone can agree that the first year of
marriage is such a fun era. And yeah, Zach and
I have just been having the best time enjoying traveling
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and just some freedom. And yeah, all in knowledge has
been like really fun to do these spontaneous trips together.
I want to talk about something very specific in this episode.
I think a lot of us are dealing with a
lot of def eras in our life currently, and I
think these points that I'm about to make are going
to hit at least one or two of these things
in your life currently that I think you can relate
(08:09):
to that I want to share with you guys. This
doesn't really have anything to do with the summer season specifically,
but I do think in the summer, obviously we're more social,
we want to get outside more, we want to do
things with our friends, all that, And I think there's
a lot of fomo when it comes to certain things
in life. So fomo if you guys don't know what
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that means, it means the fear of missing out. So
there's things obviously happening with your friends or people that
you see on social media or people that you look
up to that you might have FOMO about and might
make you feel like, you know, why am I not
there in my career or why am I not there
in terms of my era in that life, like why
can't I be like her? And obviously I experience my
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own types of fomos that I think I will really
touch on that might relate to you guys in something
that you're feeling currently.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
With this time and this phase in your life.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
And I want to make it very clear that this
is just like my opinion on how to take these
things and switch it in a way that doesn't make
you feel like you have this fomo right, Like we're
trying to create a way of kind of like reflecting
back on like Okay, well, yes, this person is experiencing
this in their life now, but we need to stop
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comparing ourselves to that person because we're all on our
own timeline. Like I'm going to kind of phrase it
in that way in terms of, like, this is what
people experience for this kind of fomo, and then this
is how we're going to overcome it. So that's how
we're going to kind of do it, is I'm going
to provide the overcome of how to avoid this feeling
of fomo for this certain thing that you might be
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feeling fomo of, and how to overcome it. So for
the first one, we're going to talk about travel fomo
because I think this is obviously a big one. I
think specifically on social media, I think there's a lot
of people that you see that are traveling constantly, or
there could be friends that you see that are you know,
have a really flexible job and they're always going on
these random trips and whatever the case may be.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
You may be seeing people.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
Going to Europe or you know, spontaneous weekend trips all that,
and so you might be feeling left out in a
way where it's like, oh, I'm young, I should be traveling,
I should be you know, spending my money on these
opportunities like I shouldn't be here working at this desk
and you know, not booking that trip all that, and
so how to overcome this is that you don't need
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to spend all this money to go these luxury places
to feel left out. You can be a tourist in
your own city. You can even you know, go to
spontaneous weekend trips with things that are close driving distance,
Like you can find ways to make yourself feel like
you're traveling as well by overcoming it in a way
where you could make it more local, right, whether it's
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you know, being a tourist in your own city, going camping,
or again booking a weekend trip somewhere that's in close
proximity that you can drive to. But I think another
thing to really highlight is this might be opportunity, in
an eye opening experience for you to maybe start saving money,
start looking at your financial situation. Okay, I'm going to
start taking xyz amount of money out of my account
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every month or every time I get a paycheck. That
way I can start saving for that Europe trip that
I've always wanted to go on and make that your goal.
So almost see this as a way of motivating yourself
to go on that European summer trip that you've been
wanting to go on next summer. Make it a goal,
be like, Okay, you know, if you're getting this motive
in this drive to go to Europe and you want
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to experience that travel experience that everyone's you know, experiencing
this summer, Okay, then take this as a motive to Okay,
I'm going to start saving money. I'm going to start
putting money aside. That way, this time next year, I
get to experience that exact summer that I wanted to
experience because I was able to save money and use
it towards my dream Europe trip. So that's kind of
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like the way to overcome it. Almost see it as
a goal now of like, Okay, well this is what
I want to achieve. How am I going to achieve
it by doing this in order to go? But again,
as I said, if you really want to experience that
travel summer this summer, then the best way to do
it is just really just trying to take advantage of
visiting different spots in your local places and being a
tourist in your own city. Another fomo that I think
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a lot of people might have is friendships, so not
feeling included when it comes to, you know, group gatherings
or group outings. I've definitely had experiences like this myself,
where you know, I see my group of friends get
together without inviting me, or you know, there was just
some miscommunication in terms of like not including everyone all
that just seeing them have barbecues, hangouts, et cetera. And
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I think the best way to overcome this is maybe
start investing your time in people who actually make time
for you. So if you're seeing this group of girls
that are constantly together and they never include you, then
maybe that's not people that you want to invest your
time in. It's not about the amount of friends you have,
It's about the quality of the friends that you do have.
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So if you see that you know, one or two
of your friends are always constantly including you in everything
and always constantly reaching out asking you know what you're doing,
and wanting to include you in everything, then those are
the true friends that you want to keep close to,
And those are the friends that you actually want to
make the effort in in doing things with. So don't always,
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you know, feel that you need to be included with
these friends, and at the end of the day, they
might not be people that you actually want to associate
yourself with. Instead, connect yourself with those small group of
friends that actually do care and want to spend time
with you, and you yourself, initiate plans, make fun things
that you want to do this summer, whether it's you know,
going to the beach together, planning a ice cream day,
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watching the sunset, like, initiate those things with people that
you actually want to spend time with and that actually
want to spend time with you. So again, that's kind
of how to overcome it is really just kind of
take the initiative in your own hands by executing hangouts
with people that you truly care about and that you
know care about you.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
And I think even for myself.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
Right now, like being in my almost my thirties honestly,
which is so crazy. A lot of my friends are
actually turning thirty later this year, and I'm starting to
realize that as we get older, it's definitely become more
and more difficult to see each other. And I think
I've started to realize that that's okay as long as
like we're all trying to find ways to still somewhat
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see each other is important. So I think I mentioned
this in a few episodes back, or maybe even last
week's episode. I can't remember, But one thing that I've
been doing with my friends is that every Friday, we've
been going on a hawk girl walk together at seven am.
And whoever can come, great, whoever can't. Not a big deal,
but the fact that we're all trying to see each
other once a week by doing something that a is
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great for your mental health, just getting outside walking, getting
some movement in, being able just to chat and catch
up with everyone and just like everyone feeling included and
no one's been left out. And it's just like kind
of a nice way to kind of get that just
like quick little catch up together. And yeah, I don't know,
go about our lives by you know, people who are
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moms dealing with their kids, people who are newly married,
trying to you know, move into a house, all that.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Like, people still have their busy lives.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
But the fact that we were all able to take
an hour of our time that day to just like
connect and just touch base shows that we all care
and that we all put the effort of being here
and doing this you know, fun thing together and getting
some movement in. So I think, yeah, at the end
of the day, just invest time and make time for
people that truly do care about you. And the ones
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that care are going to make the effort of doing
these little things of you know, setting a time for
an hour of your day just to like go on
a walk and just connect and touch base and all that.
So it's important to just really surround yourself with people
that truly do care about you and not yeah, be
around the people who aren't inviting you and not including you.
It's just like why put your energy in those people
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when they're not putting the energy and wanting you there.
So that's where I'll end it on that. Another thing
that a lot of people have fomo from is not
having the perfect summer. Like I think everyone has this
pressure where you have to do everything you can, and
I think at the end of the day, most people
aren't living that summer dream every single day. Like, of course,
we all have jobs, we all have careers, we all
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want to work hard, but I think everybody needs to
define their own version of a great summer. So this
might be you know, starting a new hobby, this might
mean you want to rest a lot on the weekends
or spend a lot of alone time. But I think
it's important to take in the little things that I've
talked about so much on this podcast, which is just
romanticizing the little things in life. So maybe waking up
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earlier and romanticizing your mornings by you know, going to
a workout class, going on a walk, you know, making
a healthy breakfast, lighting a candle, doing your journaling. Like
that right there, could make your summer by doing that
every single morning, by actually taking that extra hour of
your morning, by dedicating time to yourself and romanticizing the
shit out of your life. So it could be reading
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a book, it could be oh, the last hour of
the day after dinner, you spend time with your husband,
and you know, you go to the beach and you
watch the sunset, you read a book, you chill, you
go get ice cream, whatever the case may be. Like,
summer doesn't always have to be around traveling and like
making plants with your friends every single day and you know,
doing something fun every single weekend. Like it could be
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literally the chilliest and most relaxing summer if that's what
you want your summer to be. I kind of describe
my summer bucket list last episode, and those are things
that I want to do this summer. I Okay, not
everybody has to do those things, but that to me
is like how I define how I want to spend
my summer. That might not be how you want to
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define your summer. So just look at it as you
need to do what you want to do for your summer.
Everybody wants different things. And if you want to have
a relaxing summer, have a relaxing summer. If you want
to have a travel summer and you want to go
to Europe, then make that your goal. But I think
obviously social media is a hard thing because we obviously
see a lot of people doing things and like you
want to be like that, but like, let's just be honest,
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that's not the reality. We're not doing all those things
every single day, at every single minute.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
It's important to just realize.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
That it's okay to just like focus on work and
focus on things that are most important. And then you know,
maybe it's just dedicating a day a week, one day
a week, whether it's on a Saturday or a Sunday,
and you dedicate that one day to doing something fun
that week, so it makes your summer. So that's kind
of how you know I've been doing it. I think
I've talked to you guys about that last week's episode,
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just about like dedicating days of doing certain things has
made helped me trying to achieve a lot of the
things that I wanted to achieve this summer. But again,
that might look different for someone else. So just don't
put all this pressure on yourself. There's no such thing
as the perfect life or the perfect summer. All we
can do is strive to have the best summer and
strive to become the best version of ourself.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
And yeah, just like not let the pressure of being
get in the way.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
Another big thing that people have Foe Mobile is working
and not knowing what they're going to do for the career.
Like there might be some people right now that are
in a career that they hate and they're just doing
it because it's the money that is coming in that
that's why they're doing it. And I think it's important
to realize that that's okay.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
If you're in that situation.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
I think it allows you to maybe kind of think
about and realize, like, maybe this isn't the right path
for myself and kind of like redefine how you want
to see your life and how you want to get
a new career. Again, this kind of all goes back
to goals that you want to achieve for yourself. So
if you're in this career that you hate, but you
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really want to be in a career that you love,
then make it a goal for yourself to figure out, Okay,
what are the steps that I need to take in
order to get to the career that I want for myself.
Maybe you have a dream of being a veterinarian or
being a lawyer, and right now you're, you know, just
working as a I.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
Don't know, cashier in a retail store.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
Let's just say that, then maybe you need to consider
again looking at maybe going back to school or maybe
taking online courses like start focusing on the bigger goals
by actually making the effort of doing these things to
get to the big goal. So could be applying to
a few jobs to get you to that point of
that big career that you want to do. Maybe if
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you want to become an influencer or a podcast host
or whatever the case may be dedicating time on your
weekends by putting in the effort of filming that content,
posting that content, all that. So it's all about making
these you know, small tasks to get to the big goal.
And so yeah, just realize that, like, of course, everyone
kind of goes through career slums and like feels lost
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and they don't know what to do. But I think
you have to really focus on, Okay, we need to
create these goals for ourselves to get to the big
end goal, which is I want to be you know,
a surgeon or a veterinarian or whatever. How am I
going to get there? Okay, going to be by going
back to school, taking more courses, apply to a few jobs,
finding ways to connect with people, maybe in the networking
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industry all that.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
So just know that there's always a way.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
To change your life and change your career as long
as you have goals that you set your mind to.
This next one is kind of about dating and just
like Hawk Girl Summer and being single and all that.
So I think there's a lot of people that might
be going through this period in life where they've been
single for a very long time and you know, they
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are a little jealous of seeing maybe their friends and
relationships are just jealous around you know, seeing their friends
date a lot all that. So to overcome this, I
think you need to date yourself. I think you need
to enjoy more solo time with yourself, take yourself on
more dates, fall in love with yourself, because if you
don't love yourself, it's going to be hard to fall
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in love with someone else, because you need to be
able to have that confidence and love for yourself that
you can just build by doing these things, by really
just taking yourself on more solo dates and more solo time,
and it creates more confidence in yourself. And I just
think all in all, it's okay to have a solo
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summer and just have fun with it. And when you see,
you know, your friends going on these dates and all that, like,
don't take it personally. Like, think about again, what is
your end goal? You don't want to end up with
someone that you're just you know, because your friends are dating. Like, Okay,
I'm just going to date this guy because my friends
are dating, and like this guy's average whatever. Like you
want to find someone that's a good person, a good guy,
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someone that you're really attracted to, Like, you don't want
to just settle on some random person just because you
wanted to have this need of dating someone and not be.
Speaker 2 (22:47):
Single this summer.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
So this is your sign that if you feel like
you're in that type of situation, then you need to
start looking at yourself, dating yourself, taking more solo dates,
maybe also finding friends that are also say so that
way you're not feeling you know, left out in that
type of sense. That way you can spend more time
with those people who can kind of relate to you
in the same type of situation where you guys are
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both single, just trying to enjoy your own summer hawk
girls summer all that. There's also the other side of
seeing girls who might be in a relationship like myself
for a very long period of time, and then all
of your friends are single having the hawk girl summer vibes,
you know, dating all that, and you're kind of like, oh,
I've been in a serious relationship for like four to
five years, Like all the girls are having fun and
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I'm not, Like you can still have fun being in
a relationship, Like you do not need to feel like, oh, well,
because you know, I'm with my boyfriend all the time,
Like I don't have the time to like go out
with the girls and all that, and like there is
this like rush that I think some girls feel that
when they're single, you know, they have all this power
and all that. But I mean, I love being in
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a relationship. I never had that fomo I would say
about feeling single or anything like that. I didn't feel
like I missed anything out because I still think I
made sure that I was still able to like go
hang out with my girlfriends still, you know, go on
fun trips like going to Vegas and all that, and
I was still in a committed relationship, Like I didn't
need to go flirt with guys or I didn't need to,
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you know, go on a date with another guy because
I felt so maybe confident in my relationship and I
felt good in my relationship. Didn't feel like I needed
to do those things because I felt happy in my relationship.
So I think, like it's about building confidence in yourself.
It's about making sure that the relationship that you're in
is strong. That way you're not feeling any fear of
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missing out when it comes to being single.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
In that Hawk Girl summer and all that.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
I think it's important that you always put the effort
in your relationship because maybe people feel that way because
they're too comfortable in their relationship and they almost like
lose interest in each other, and that's why people start,
you know, feeling this fomo of you know, not being
single and like wanting to have that hawk girl somewhere
that girls are experiencing. So maybe it's reevaluating your relationship
and putting more effort in it, like going on more dates,
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complimenting each other. It's so so important to have good
communication in your relationship because once you stop putting effort
in a relationship, that's where it goes downhill, and that's
when you know, you start to feel like you want
to be single and live this hot girl summer and
all that. So at the end of the day, I
think it's important to focus on your relationship, focus on
the goals and your relationship. If you're that kind of
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person that is feeling wanting to be single, then maybe
reevaluate your relationship, put the effort in it. If it's not,
you know, still not working out at that point, then
maybe you need to reevaluate the relationship obviously, But if
you're feeling like it's getting better now that you guys
are actually like making the effort to go on more
dates and making the effort to compliment each other and
you know, share your personal goals and all that. Like
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then you know the relationship is getting stronger and you're
seeing a future and all that. So that's when it
comes to like hawk Girl summer and being single and
all that. And then obviously the dating is more so
about like realizing that you can still date yourself. You
can still find friends who are also in a similar
situation to you where you can relate and you know,
do some solo dates together as friends and just like
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something in common as well. Another fomo is not having
the perfect body. And I think this is something that
people think that, oh, well, this girl has the most
perfect body I've ever seen, like she must be thriving.
Like that's not the case. I think everybody is going
to have slight body dysmorphia, and I think people don't
realize that like that. I might think someone has the
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most perfect body in the world, but she might not
think that, right, Like, at the end of the day,
everybody is going to have some insecurity about themselves and
everybody's body is different.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
And you know, someone that has the.
Speaker 1 (26:35):
Perfect body in your definition as I said, might not feel,
you know, that secure in that body, even though you
might think that they look perfect.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
So again, just embrace what you have.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
I think it's important to be confident in your own skin,
in your own features, and know that your body doesn't
define who you are as a person. And I think
it's important to always just embrace yourself and embrace who
you are. And yeah, I think everybody really does struggle
with body morphia, and I think that's okay.
Speaker 2 (27:04):
And I think that's the reality.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
And I think it's important that everyone should know that
everyone has their own struggle and nobody thinks they're perfect.
I can tell you right now, I do not think
I'm perfect at all, far from it. And I struggle
with body dysmorphia myself. I definitely have always struggled with that,
even you know, throughout high school and all that. I
think it's so hard on us as females to compare
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ourselves to other people. And obviously, like there's people getting
you know, work done, like boob jobs, bbls all that,
and like amazing. If that's what makes you feel confident,
that's so fine. But like at the end of the day,
like there's no definition of perfect in my opinion, and
that everyone's going to struggle in their own way. And
I think it's important just to embrace the things that
we truly love about ourself and yeah, just like embrace
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our features that we love about ourselves. This one here
is probably the one that I relate to most right now,
and I think some people might also.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
Relate to this.
Speaker 1 (27:59):
And it's either people who are having babies at this
age or people who are moving in together, getting engaged,
getting married. I think a lot of people might relate
to this in this episode about you know, you see
your friends getting engaged and starting to plan a wedding,
whereas like you and your boyfriend haven't even moved into
your first place yet. And I think, you know, against
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something that we see on social media all the time,
where you're seeing people close to your age, you know,
living together, engaged all that, and you might have just
met the guy that you know, you just started dating,
and like you're far from that phase in your life,
but you're the same age as this other girl that
you follow on social media or your friends and just
like feeling behind in life all that. So I think
it's important to realize that we're all in our own path.
(28:42):
We're all on our own timeline. I'm in that phase
right now where I'm twenty nine. I'm seeing girls on
social media who are like twenty six, twenty four, twenty seven,
who have like two to three kids, married, has their
dream house all that, and I'm like, Okay, I'm twenty nine.
I still don't have a kid, I just got married,
I obviously live in my house.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
Have a dog, all that.
Speaker 1 (29:04):
Like yeah, sure, Like you guys might see like, oh
my god, like she's got everything, She's got it all
figured out. And it's like, well no, because I feel
like I don't have it figured out because I, you know,
still don't have kids. I have this, you know, fear
of obviously like changing my life by having kids and
all that. And I think it's important that I always
tell myself that this is my own path, this is
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my own journey, this is my own timeline. Like you
will know when you're ready to take on these changes
and these things that are going to be happening in
your life, and you don't want to feel like anyone's
rushing you, because if you feel like you're going to
be rushed into something that you're not comfortable with, in
this time frame. So if you're not comfortable with getting
engaged with your partner or getting married at this phase
in your relationship, then you know it's not you're not
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ready to take on that next step. So that's okay
if you feel that way. Like everybody is going to
be doing things on their own timeline, their own time frame.
We should never feel rush because then if you feel rush,
and obviously you're making yourself uncomfortable in a situation, there'll
be signs when you know you're ready and you know
you're ready to have the conversation about you know, getting
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engaged or moving in together all that with your partner.
Like for Zach and I, we have been together for
almost thirteen years, and we were thinking about either getting
engaged or moving into a new house together instead of
getting engaged. We decided to buy a house first because
we thought that was most important in our relationship to
do versus getting engaged, because we wanted to obviously like
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make sure that we could live together and we could
stand each other and all that. But obviously everyone does
things in a different way as well. That's another thing, right,
Like some people have this strong belief in getting married
first and then buying their house together and moving in
together and all that, Whereas like for us, our belief
was that we should move in together first and then
get engaged, getting married and all that. So again, everyone
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does things in their own time frame. I've seen couples
who've gotten engaged and married in like six to eight months,
which again their own timeline, their own life, that's how
they do things. Where Zach and I, he proposed to
me at our ten year anniversary, like, which is rare
obviously because we've been together since we were like sixteen seventeen.
But the point is is that like everyone goes in
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a different direction and a different path in their life,
and that you just need to like put the trust
in yourself and not compare yourself to other people, because
every relationship is different and everything just is going to
feel right for people in a different way. And if
it's you know, waiting to have kids at a different
time in our life, or if it's for you like
you know, not rushing your engagement or anything like that,
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Like things are expensive, you know, obviously, people put a
lot of time in their career and all that. So
I think it's important just to kind of realize the
phase that you're in, in the era that you're in,
and how you want to you know, take the next
steps in your relationship and not to feel.
Speaker 2 (31:54):
Left out in that because it's healthy.
Speaker 1 (31:56):
It's actually healthy for you to know when you're ready,
and it's healthy in your relationship to know when you
guys are ready to take on the next step and
to not rush things, because if you just rush it,
that's when things go downhill and it doesn't work out.
So just know when you guys feel when you're ready,
and not to feel this stress of rushing things and
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know that it's all on your own timeline.
Speaker 2 (32:18):
So those are just.
Speaker 1 (32:19):
A few fomos that I wanted to touch on. I
think it's a very common thing for people to feel
this way when they're seeing people go through these different
phases in their life, whether it's traveling, you know, getting married,
couples moving in, you know, people having babies, just like
having the best summer ever, you know whatever. So I
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just like kind of wanted to be real here and
like kind of give you guys a bit of a
reality check that no one's life is perfect and that
at the end of the day, this is how we
can overcome these situations. If you guys are ever feeling
this fear of missing out for these, like certain things
that we talked about in today's episode, there's always a
way to overcome that and kind of just pivot things
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in your direction and how to make things happen in
the most positive way for yourself. And I think the
key thing is just to always stop comparing yourself to
other people and just really focus on your own timeline
and your own time frame and how you want things
to go your way, because I think life will work
out when you actually focus on yourself and you focus
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on things in your life and not on someone else's.
If you just copy someone else's life, it's not going
to work for you. So I think the key thing
out of this entire episode is more so just to
stop comparing yourself and really just focus on things that
you want to do and you can control, and the
goals that you want to achieve for yourself and make
the goals happen. So that is today's episode. I hope
you guys enjoyed it. If you guys are new, definitely
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make sure to follow at the hawkrel Energy Instagram page
along with me Kaylie, I'm on Instagram TikTok and YouTube.
I will be posting two YouTube videos this week, so
definitely make sure to subscribe to my YouTube channel if
you guys want to see the Miami vlog and just
the overall prep of going to Miami as well. But
I love you guys allso much. Thank you guys for
listening to another episode, and I will see you guys
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in next week's episode.
Hello you guys, Welcome back to another episode of the
Hawtgrel Energy Podcast. I'm your host, Kayleie, and this is
your weekly reminder that it's a new day, a new week,
a new mindset, and another day. I for you'd become
the hot girl energy you want to attract. Hello you guys,
Happy Wednesday, Welcome back to another episode. I am officially
home from Miami. Oh my goodness, guys, that trip was
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honestly probably one of the best trips I've actually ever
been on.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Like I'm not even over exaggerating.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Zach and I had the best time in Miami, to
the point where we were literally talking about buying a house.
We were like, imagine buying a house in Miami or
a condo or whatever the.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Case may be. Like, we absolutely loved it.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
The vibe was great, people were great, the just the
overall atmosphere just felt so like, I don't know, I
don't even know how to explain it. It just was
such a peaceful and fun town. And I love the
mix of Miami and I think I kind of mentioned
the last episode of how Like, I just feel like
it hits every single aspect of like you have the
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wellness side you have the party side, you have you know,
the beach side.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Like I feel like.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
There's just like such a huge combination of everything. And yeah,
we absolutely loved it. Like we always started our mornings
off with a morning walk across They have like a
little sidewalk that is right along the ocean, So we
walked like twenty to twenty five minutes to our breakfast spot.
In the morning, we would go to Piavida, which everyone
was like raving about to go to, and it totally
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exceeded my expectations. It was amazing, just really good like breakfast, sandwiches, wraps, smoothies, coffees,
all that, and then we'd walk back for another twenty
to twenty five minutes and then we'd go to the gym.
The gym at the hotel we were staying at was phenomenal.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
It was massive.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
So I don't know, we got like our little wellness
fix in by doing our walk, getting our healthy breakfasts,
getting a workout in, and then would get ready to
go to the beach and literally just like chill by.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
The pool and beach and shoot content and all that.
But it was such a fun trip.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
If you've never been to Miami, I highly, highly highly
recommend it.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
We stayed at the one hotel.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
That hotel was probably one of the nicest hotels I've
ever stayed at, and I've been wanting to stay at
this hotel for a very long time. I've seen a
lot of influencers just talk about this hotel and just
saying how how worth it is your money. It is
obviously a bit on the price of your side, but
they were just saying like how great the experience was
(02:40):
and how beautiful the resort was all that. So when
Zach and I booked it and we got to stay there,
we were super excited and it totally exceeded our expectations.
Like there was I think like seven or eight different restaurants,
there was four different pools. Like I don't even think
we saw the whole hotel, Like we spent two hours
the first day just walking through the hotel just trying
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to like get an understanding of where things were. And
I still don't think we hit everywhere, Like we didn't
even go to the rooftop portion of the hotel because
again it was just so big that there was so
much to do and so much to see, and like
we didn't even get to maximize the entire time while
we were there.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
So obviously we have to go.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Back, and we're gonna have to hit areas that we
never hit before.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
But if you're looking.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
At either a bacherette or a weekend trip with your
girlfriends or with your husband or partner or boyfriend, highly
recommend staying at that hotel. It was truly insane. So yeah,
it was a great trip. I was actually there with
Dynamite Clothing. I was actually shooting a lot of their
summer collection, so a lot of it was work related.
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But I mean, work for me is always fun. Right,
we're obviously recording, we're shooting content. Zach and I love
shooting content together. I think it's such a fun thing
to do. And I don't know, Zach and I are
like best friends, and I think that's what makes a
relationship work so well, is when you are best friends
with your partner. Every time, I think just is fun together.
And so doing work together was super fun, and he
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low key loved doing it, and he was like, honestly,
I need to find a remote job. I need to,
you know, figure out something with construction that I can
do remotely. Because we were both like, imagine coming and
living in Miami during the winter season, because obviously our
winters are so bad here that we just wanted to
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think about ways that we can like kind of get
the best of both worlds where we're able to live
at home, you know, throughout the spring and summer season
and fall and then like from like January to April,
so like literally only four months out of the year,
which is obviously a small portion of it, but being
able to like either own a property or rent a
property in Florida during the off season would be like
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a dream of ours.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Except because Zach.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Works in construction obviously has to be like physically there
for his job obviously makes it a little difficult.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
So who knows. We'll see what the future holds.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Obviously there's opportunities of change and opportunities of growth for
him within this company that he works for, So we'll
see what the future holds. But it was just kind
of fun to talk about like future plans obviously, and
just like things that we both were kind of like
aligned on, and yeah, all in all, it.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Was a very fun trip.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
If you guys followed me on TikTok or Instagram, then
I'm sure you guys saw some of the content that
we were doing when we were in Miami, but I
had the opportunity of meeting one of my podcast girlies
and followers. Oh my gosh, guys, I met this amazing
girl named Mary Lenna. She is literally the sweetest human
being ever. If you guys saw the video that I posted.
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I ended up surprising her on her baucherette. Her girlfriend,
Gabriella sent me a message on Instagram. She just DMed
me and she was like, I'd love to try and
connect something in terms of surprising my girlfriend for her boucharette.
We're here at the same hotel as you guys, like
we'd love for you to surprise her.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
As soon as I saw that.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
DM, I was like, oh my gosh, we need to
we need to do this, Like this.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Would be so fun.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
And obviously I love meeting you guys in person, so
that for me was like, oh my god, this is
gonna be so fun. So as soon as she sent
me that message, we were like kind of trying to
figure out a plan in terms of like when I
can go to their room to surprise them.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
She gave me their room number.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
I met Gabriella in the lobby just to kind of
get a rundown of the plan, and then I went
upstairs to the room, knocked on the door, and yeah,
it just from there it was just so much excitement
and so fun and yeah, it just was truly the
sweetest reaction. You guys need to go see the video
on Instagram and TikTok. It truly was like one thing
that really made my trip. It was like one of
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the best highlights of the trip, just to meet fellow
followers and podcast listeners. And I wish I could come
to every single one of your baucherette's or weddings or
whatever just to meet you guys, because it honestly, like,
I get so excited meeting you guys, and it makes
me so happy that you guys are happy, because obviously
your support just means so much to me, and I
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wouldn't be here without you guys. So it was such
a fun way to include that in the trip. And yeah,
oh my god, it was just so so sweet.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
But that's a little update of Miami.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
I hope more trips like that are in the future
for us, because Zach and I really do love traveling
together and this is our year of travel. I find
I think we've definitely spent a lot of time traveling,
but that's I think because we're, you know, trying to
get as much in as we can before we start
to settle down and start a family and all that. So, yeah,
(07:27):
we're just trying to enjoy our time together and do
these fun little like last minute weekend trips or just yeah,
really get out and just enjoy some vacation time him
and I. And yeah, we've obviously been enjoying the newlywed phase.
I think everyone can agree that the first year of
marriage is such a fun era. And yeah, Zach and
I have just been having the best time enjoying traveling
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and just some freedom. And yeah, all in knowledge has
been like really fun to do these spontaneous trips together.
I want to talk about something very specific in this episode.
I think a lot of us are dealing with a
lot of def eras in our life currently, and I
think these points that I'm about to make are going
to hit at least one or two of these things
in your life currently that I think you can relate
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to that I want to share with you guys. This
doesn't really have anything to do with the summer season specifically,
but I do think in the summer, obviously we're more social,
we want to get outside more, we want to do
things with our friends, all that, And I think there's
a lot of fomo when it comes to certain things
in life. So fomo if you guys don't know what
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that means, it means the fear of missing out. So
there's things obviously happening with your friends or people that
you see on social media or people that you look
up to that you might have FOMO about and might
make you feel like, you know, why am I not
there in my career or why am I not there
in terms of my era in that life, like why
can't I be like her? And obviously I experience my
(08:52):
own types of fomos that I think I will really
touch on that might relate to you guys in something
that you're feeling currently.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
With this time and this phase in your life.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
And I want to make it very clear that this
is just like my opinion on how to take these
things and switch it in a way that doesn't make
you feel like you have this fomo right, Like we're
trying to create a way of kind of like reflecting
back on like Okay, well, yes, this person is experiencing
this in their life now, but we need to stop
(09:24):
comparing ourselves to that person because we're all on our
own timeline. Like I'm going to kind of phrase it
in that way in terms of, like, this is what
people experience for this kind of fomo, and then this
is how we're going to overcome it. So that's how
we're going to kind of do it, is I'm going
to provide the overcome of how to avoid this feeling
of fomo for this certain thing that you might be
(09:45):
feeling fomo of, and how to overcome it. So for
the first one, we're going to talk about travel fomo
because I think this is obviously a big one. I
think specifically on social media, I think there's a lot
of people that you see that are traveling constantly, or
there could be friends that you see that are you know,
have a really flexible job and they're always going on
these random trips and whatever the case may be.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
You may be seeing people.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
Going to Europe or you know, spontaneous weekend trips all that,
and so you might be feeling left out in a
way where it's like, oh, I'm young, I should be traveling,
I should be you know, spending my money on these
opportunities like I shouldn't be here working at this desk
and you know, not booking that trip all that, and
so how to overcome this is that you don't need
(10:26):
to spend all this money to go these luxury places
to feel left out. You can be a tourist in
your own city. You can even you know, go to
spontaneous weekend trips with things that are close driving distance,
Like you can find ways to make yourself feel like
you're traveling as well by overcoming it in a way
where you could make it more local, right, whether it's
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you know, being a tourist in your own city, going camping,
or again booking a weekend trip somewhere that's in close
proximity that you can drive to. But I think another
thing to really highlight is this might be opportunity, in
an eye opening experience for you to maybe start saving money,
start looking at your financial situation. Okay, I'm going to
start taking xyz amount of money out of my account
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every month or every time I get a paycheck. That
way I can start saving for that Europe trip that
I've always wanted to go on and make that your goal.
So almost see this as a way of motivating yourself
to go on that European summer trip that you've been
wanting to go on next summer. Make it a goal,
be like, Okay, you know, if you're getting this motive
in this drive to go to Europe and you want
(11:32):
to experience that travel experience that everyone's you know, experiencing
this summer, Okay, then take this as a motive to Okay,
I'm going to start saving money. I'm going to start
putting money aside. That way, this time next year, I
get to experience that exact summer that I wanted to
experience because I was able to save money and use
it towards my dream Europe trip. So that's kind of
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like the way to overcome it. Almost see it as
a goal now of like, Okay, well this is what
I want to achieve. How am I going to achieve
it by doing this in order to go? But again,
as I said, if you really want to experience that
travel summer this summer, then the best way to do
it is just really just trying to take advantage of
visiting different spots in your local places and being a
tourist in your own city. Another fomo that I think
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a lot of people might have is friendships, so not
feeling included when it comes to, you know, group gatherings
or group outings. I've definitely had experiences like this myself,
where you know, I see my group of friends get
together without inviting me, or you know, there was just
some miscommunication in terms of like not including everyone all
that just seeing them have barbecues, hangouts, et cetera. And
(12:37):
I think the best way to overcome this is maybe
start investing your time in people who actually make time
for you. So if you're seeing this group of girls
that are constantly together and they never include you, then
maybe that's not people that you want to invest your
time in. It's not about the amount of friends you have,
It's about the quality of the friends that you do have.
(12:59):
So if you see that you know, one or two
of your friends are always constantly including you in everything
and always constantly reaching out asking you know what you're doing,
and wanting to include you in everything, then those are
the true friends that you want to keep close to,
And those are the friends that you actually want to
make the effort in in doing things with. So don't always,
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you know, feel that you need to be included with
these friends, and at the end of the day, they
might not be people that you actually want to associate
yourself with. Instead, connect yourself with those small group of
friends that actually do care and want to spend time
with you, and you yourself, initiate plans, make fun things
that you want to do this summer, whether it's you know,
going to the beach together, planning a ice cream day,
(13:43):
watching the sunset, like, initiate those things with people that
you actually want to spend time with and that actually
want to spend time with you. So again, that's kind
of how to overcome it is really just kind of
take the initiative in your own hands by executing hangouts
with people that you truly care about and that you
know care about you.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
And I think even for myself.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
Right now, like being in my almost my thirties honestly,
which is so crazy. A lot of my friends are
actually turning thirty later this year, and I'm starting to
realize that as we get older, it's definitely become more
and more difficult to see each other. And I think
I've started to realize that that's okay as long as
like we're all trying to find ways to still somewhat
(14:25):
see each other is important. So I think I mentioned
this in a few episodes back, or maybe even last
week's episode. I can't remember, But one thing that I've
been doing with my friends is that every Friday, we've
been going on a hawk girl walk together at seven am.
And whoever can come, great, whoever can't. Not a big deal,
but the fact that we're all trying to see each
other once a week by doing something that a is
(14:48):
great for your mental health, just getting outside walking, getting
some movement in, being able just to chat and catch
up with everyone and just like everyone feeling included and
no one's been left out. And it's just like kind
of a nice way to kind of get that just
like quick little catch up together. And yeah, I don't know,
go about our lives by you know, people who are
(15:08):
moms dealing with their kids, people who are newly married,
trying to you know, move into a house, all that.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Like, people still have their busy lives.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
But the fact that we were all able to take
an hour of our time that day to just like
connect and just touch base shows that we all care
and that we all put the effort of being here
and doing this you know, fun thing together and getting
some movement in. So I think, yeah, at the end
of the day, just invest time and make time for
people that truly do care about you. And the ones
(15:36):
that care are going to make the effort of doing
these little things of you know, setting a time for
an hour of your day just to like go on
a walk and just connect and touch base and all that.
So it's important to just really surround yourself with people
that truly do care about you and not yeah, be
around the people who aren't inviting you and not including you.
It's just like why put your energy in those people
(15:57):
when they're not putting the energy and wanting you there.
So that's where I'll end it on that. Another thing
that a lot of people have fomo from is not
having the perfect summer. Like I think everyone has this
pressure where you have to do everything you can, and
I think at the end of the day, most people
aren't living that summer dream every single day. Like, of course,
we all have jobs, we all have careers, we all
(16:18):
want to work hard, but I think everybody needs to
define their own version of a great summer. So this
might be you know, starting a new hobby, this might
mean you want to rest a lot on the weekends
or spend a lot of alone time. But I think
it's important to take in the little things that I've
talked about so much on this podcast, which is just
romanticizing the little things in life. So maybe waking up
(16:41):
earlier and romanticizing your mornings by you know, going to
a workout class, going on a walk, you know, making
a healthy breakfast, lighting a candle, doing your journaling. Like
that right there, could make your summer by doing that
every single morning, by actually taking that extra hour of
your morning, by dedicating time to yourself and romanticizing the
shit out of your life. So it could be reading
(17:04):
a book, it could be oh, the last hour of
the day after dinner, you spend time with your husband,
and you know, you go to the beach and you
watch the sunset, you read a book, you chill, you
go get ice cream, whatever the case may be. Like,
summer doesn't always have to be around traveling and like
making plants with your friends every single day and you know,
doing something fun every single weekend. Like it could be
(17:26):
literally the chilliest and most relaxing summer if that's what
you want your summer to be. I kind of describe
my summer bucket list last episode, and those are things
that I want to do this summer. I Okay, not
everybody has to do those things, but that to me
is like how I define how I want to spend
my summer. That might not be how you want to
(17:46):
define your summer. So just look at it as you
need to do what you want to do for your summer.
Everybody wants different things. And if you want to have
a relaxing summer, have a relaxing summer. If you want
to have a travel summer and you want to go
to Europe, then make that your goal. But I think
obviously social media is a hard thing because we obviously
see a lot of people doing things and like you
want to be like that, but like, let's just be honest,
(18:08):
that's not the reality. We're not doing all those things
every single day, at every single minute.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
It's important to just realize.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
That it's okay to just like focus on work and
focus on things that are most important. And then you know,
maybe it's just dedicating a day a week, one day
a week, whether it's on a Saturday or a Sunday,
and you dedicate that one day to doing something fun
that week, so it makes your summer. So that's kind
of how you know I've been doing it. I think
I've talked to you guys about that last week's episode,
(18:35):
just about like dedicating days of doing certain things has
made helped me trying to achieve a lot of the
things that I wanted to achieve this summer. But again,
that might look different for someone else. So just don't
put all this pressure on yourself. There's no such thing
as the perfect life or the perfect summer. All we
can do is strive to have the best summer and
strive to become the best version of ourself.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
And yeah, just like not let the pressure of being
get in the way.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
Another big thing that people have Foe Mobile is working
and not knowing what they're going to do for the career.
Like there might be some people right now that are
in a career that they hate and they're just doing
it because it's the money that is coming in that
that's why they're doing it. And I think it's important
to realize that that's okay.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
If you're in that situation.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
I think it allows you to maybe kind of think
about and realize, like, maybe this isn't the right path
for myself and kind of like redefine how you want
to see your life and how you want to get
a new career. Again, this kind of all goes back
to goals that you want to achieve for yourself. So
if you're in this career that you hate, but you
(19:45):
really want to be in a career that you love,
then make it a goal for yourself to figure out, Okay,
what are the steps that I need to take in
order to get to the career that I want for myself.
Maybe you have a dream of being a veterinarian or
being a lawyer, and right now you're, you know, just
working as a I.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
Don't know, cashier in a retail store.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
Let's just say that, then maybe you need to consider
again looking at maybe going back to school or maybe
taking online courses like start focusing on the bigger goals
by actually making the effort of doing these things to
get to the big goal. So could be applying to
a few jobs to get you to that point of
that big career that you want to do. Maybe if
(20:25):
you want to become an influencer or a podcast host
or whatever the case may be dedicating time on your
weekends by putting in the effort of filming that content,
posting that content, all that. So it's all about making
these you know, small tasks to get to the big goal.
And so yeah, just realize that, like, of course, everyone
kind of goes through career slums and like feels lost
(20:47):
and they don't know what to do. But I think
you have to really focus on, Okay, we need to
create these goals for ourselves to get to the big
end goal, which is I want to be you know,
a surgeon or a veterinarian or whatever. How am I
going to get there? Okay, going to be by going
back to school, taking more courses, apply to a few jobs,
finding ways to connect with people, maybe in the networking
(21:08):
industry all that.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
So just know that there's always a way.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
To change your life and change your career as long
as you have goals that you set your mind to.
This next one is kind of about dating and just
like Hawk Girl Summer and being single and all that.
So I think there's a lot of people that might
be going through this period in life where they've been
single for a very long time and you know, they
(21:32):
are a little jealous of seeing maybe their friends and
relationships are just jealous around you know, seeing their friends
date a lot all that. So to overcome this, I
think you need to date yourself. I think you need
to enjoy more solo time with yourself, take yourself on
more dates, fall in love with yourself, because if you
don't love yourself, it's going to be hard to fall
(21:55):
in love with someone else, because you need to be
able to have that confidence and love for yourself that
you can just build by doing these things, by really
just taking yourself on more solo dates and more solo time,
and it creates more confidence in yourself. And I just
think all in all, it's okay to have a solo
(22:15):
summer and just have fun with it. And when you see,
you know, your friends going on these dates and all that, like,
don't take it personally. Like, think about again, what is
your end goal? You don't want to end up with
someone that you're just you know, because your friends are dating. Like, Okay,
I'm just going to date this guy because my friends
are dating, and like this guy's average whatever. Like you
want to find someone that's a good person, a good guy,
(22:38):
someone that you're really attracted to, Like, you don't want
to just settle on some random person just because you
wanted to have this need of dating someone and not be.
Speaker 2 (22:47):
Single this summer.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
So this is your sign that if you feel like
you're in that type of situation, then you need to
start looking at yourself, dating yourself, taking more solo dates,
maybe also finding friends that are also say so that
way you're not feeling you know, left out in that
type of sense. That way you can spend more time
with those people who can kind of relate to you
in the same type of situation where you guys are
(23:08):
both single, just trying to enjoy your own summer hawk
girls summer all that. There's also the other side of
seeing girls who might be in a relationship like myself
for a very long period of time, and then all
of your friends are single having the hawk girl summer vibes,
you know, dating all that, and you're kind of like, oh,
I've been in a serious relationship for like four to
five years, Like all the girls are having fun and
(23:29):
I'm not, Like you can still have fun being in
a relationship, Like you do not need to feel like, oh, well,
because you know, I'm with my boyfriend all the time,
Like I don't have the time to like go out
with the girls and all that, and like there is
this like rush that I think some girls feel that
when they're single, you know, they have all this power
and all that. But I mean, I love being in
(23:50):
a relationship. I never had that fomo I would say
about feeling single or anything like that. I didn't feel
like I missed anything out because I still think I
made sure that I was still able to like go
hang out with my girlfriends still, you know, go on
fun trips like going to Vegas and all that, and
I was still in a committed relationship, Like I didn't
need to go flirt with guys or I didn't need to,
(24:10):
you know, go on a date with another guy because
I felt so maybe confident in my relationship and I
felt good in my relationship. Didn't feel like I needed
to do those things because I felt happy in my relationship.
So I think, like it's about building confidence in yourself.
It's about making sure that the relationship that you're in
is strong. That way you're not feeling any fear of
(24:31):
missing out when it comes to being single.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
In that Hawk Girl summer and all that.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
I think it's important that you always put the effort
in your relationship because maybe people feel that way because
they're too comfortable in their relationship and they almost like
lose interest in each other, and that's why people start,
you know, feeling this fomo of you know, not being
single and like wanting to have that hawk girl somewhere
that girls are experiencing. So maybe it's reevaluating your relationship
and putting more effort in it, like going on more dates,
(24:56):
complimenting each other. It's so so important to have good
communication in your relationship because once you stop putting effort
in a relationship, that's where it goes downhill, and that's
when you know, you start to feel like you want
to be single and live this hot girl summer and
all that. So at the end of the day, I
think it's important to focus on your relationship, focus on
the goals and your relationship. If you're that kind of
(25:18):
person that is feeling wanting to be single, then maybe
reevaluate your relationship, put the effort in it. If it's not,
you know, still not working out at that point, then
maybe you need to reevaluate the relationship obviously, But if
you're feeling like it's getting better now that you guys
are actually like making the effort to go on more
dates and making the effort to compliment each other and
you know, share your personal goals and all that. Like
(25:39):
then you know the relationship is getting stronger and you're
seeing a future and all that. So that's when it
comes to like hawk Girl summer and being single and
all that. And then obviously the dating is more so
about like realizing that you can still date yourself. You
can still find friends who are also in a similar
situation to you where you can relate and you know,
do some solo dates together as friends and just like
(26:00):
something in common as well. Another fomo is not having
the perfect body. And I think this is something that
people think that, oh, well, this girl has the most
perfect body I've ever seen, like she must be thriving.
Like that's not the case. I think everybody is going
to have slight body dysmorphia, and I think people don't
realize that like that. I might think someone has the
(26:21):
most perfect body in the world, but she might not
think that, right, Like, at the end of the day,
everybody is going to have some insecurity about themselves and
everybody's body is different.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
And you know, someone that has the.
Speaker 1 (26:35):
Perfect body in your definition as I said, might not feel,
you know, that secure in that body, even though you
might think that they look perfect.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
So again, just embrace what you have.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
I think it's important to be confident in your own skin,
in your own features, and know that your body doesn't
define who you are as a person. And I think
it's important to always just embrace yourself and embrace who
you are. And yeah, I think everybody really does struggle
with body morphia, and I think that's okay.
Speaker 2 (27:04):
And I think that's the reality.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
And I think it's important that everyone should know that
everyone has their own struggle and nobody thinks they're perfect.
I can tell you right now, I do not think
I'm perfect at all, far from it. And I struggle
with body dysmorphia myself. I definitely have always struggled with that,
even you know, throughout high school and all that. I
think it's so hard on us as females to compare
(27:27):
ourselves to other people. And obviously, like there's people getting
you know, work done, like boob jobs, bbls all that,
and like amazing. If that's what makes you feel confident,
that's so fine. But like at the end of the day,
like there's no definition of perfect in my opinion, and
that everyone's going to struggle in their own way. And
I think it's important just to embrace the things that
we truly love about ourself and yeah, just like embrace
(27:50):
our features that we love about ourselves. This one here
is probably the one that I relate to most right now,
and I think some people might also.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
Relate to this.
Speaker 1 (27:59):
And it's either people who are having babies at this
age or people who are moving in together, getting engaged,
getting married. I think a lot of people might relate
to this in this episode about you know, you see
your friends getting engaged and starting to plan a wedding,
whereas like you and your boyfriend haven't even moved into
your first place yet. And I think, you know, against
(28:20):
something that we see on social media all the time,
where you're seeing people close to your age, you know,
living together, engaged all that, and you might have just
met the guy that you know, you just started dating,
and like you're far from that phase in your life,
but you're the same age as this other girl that
you follow on social media or your friends and just
like feeling behind in life all that. So I think
it's important to realize that we're all in our own path.
(28:42):
We're all on our own timeline. I'm in that phase
right now where I'm twenty nine. I'm seeing girls on
social media who are like twenty six, twenty four, twenty seven,
who have like two to three kids, married, has their
dream house all that, and I'm like, Okay, I'm twenty nine.
I still don't have a kid, I just got married,
I obviously live in my house.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
Have a dog, all that.
Speaker 1 (29:04):
Like yeah, sure, Like you guys might see like, oh
my god, like she's got everything, She's got it all
figured out. And it's like, well no, because I feel
like I don't have it figured out because I, you know,
still don't have kids. I have this, you know, fear
of obviously like changing my life by having kids and
all that. And I think it's important that I always
tell myself that this is my own path, this is
(29:26):
my own journey, this is my own timeline. Like you
will know when you're ready to take on these changes
and these things that are going to be happening in
your life, and you don't want to feel like anyone's
rushing you, because if you feel like you're going to
be rushed into something that you're not comfortable with, in
this time frame. So if you're not comfortable with getting
engaged with your partner or getting married at this phase
in your relationship, then you know it's not you're not
(29:48):
ready to take on that next step. So that's okay
if you feel that way. Like everybody is going to
be doing things on their own timeline, their own time frame.
We should never feel rush because then if you feel rush,
and obviously you're making yourself uncomfortable in a situation, there'll
be signs when you know you're ready and you know
you're ready to have the conversation about you know, getting
(30:10):
engaged or moving in together all that with your partner.
Like for Zach and I, we have been together for
almost thirteen years, and we were thinking about either getting
engaged or moving into a new house together instead of
getting engaged. We decided to buy a house first because
we thought that was most important in our relationship to
do versus getting engaged, because we wanted to obviously like
(30:33):
make sure that we could live together and we could
stand each other and all that. But obviously everyone does
things in a different way as well. That's another thing, right,
Like some people have this strong belief in getting married
first and then buying their house together and moving in
together and all that, Whereas like for us, our belief
was that we should move in together first and then
get engaged, getting married and all that. So again, everyone
(30:54):
does things in their own time frame. I've seen couples
who've gotten engaged and married in like six to eight months,
which again their own timeline, their own life, that's how
they do things. Where Zach and I, he proposed to
me at our ten year anniversary, like, which is rare
obviously because we've been together since we were like sixteen seventeen.
But the point is is that like everyone goes in
(31:16):
a different direction and a different path in their life,
and that you just need to like put the trust
in yourself and not compare yourself to other people, because
every relationship is different and everything just is going to
feel right for people in a different way. And if
it's you know, waiting to have kids at a different
time in our life, or if it's for you like
you know, not rushing your engagement or anything like that,
(31:38):
Like things are expensive, you know, obviously, people put a
lot of time in their career and all that. So
I think it's important just to kind of realize the
phase that you're in, in the era that you're in,
and how you want to you know, take the next
steps in your relationship and not to feel.
Speaker 2 (31:54):
Left out in that because it's healthy.
Speaker 1 (31:56):
It's actually healthy for you to know when you're ready,
and it's healthy in your relationship to know when you
guys are ready to take on the next step and
to not rush things, because if you just rush it,
that's when things go downhill and it doesn't work out.
So just know when you guys feel when you're ready,
and not to feel this stress of rushing things and
(32:16):
know that it's all on your own timeline.
Speaker 2 (32:18):
So those are just.
Speaker 1 (32:19):
A few fomos that I wanted to touch on. I
think it's a very common thing for people to feel
this way when they're seeing people go through these different
phases in their life, whether it's traveling, you know, getting married,
couples moving in, you know, people having babies, just like
having the best summer ever, you know whatever. So I
(32:41):
just like kind of wanted to be real here and
like kind of give you guys a bit of a
reality check that no one's life is perfect and that
at the end of the day, this is how we
can overcome these situations. If you guys are ever feeling
this fear of missing out for these, like certain things
that we talked about in today's episode, there's always a
way to overcome that and kind of just pivot things
(33:02):
in your direction and how to make things happen in
the most positive way for yourself. And I think the
key thing is just to always stop comparing yourself to
other people and just really focus on your own timeline
and your own time frame and how you want things
to go your way, because I think life will work
out when you actually focus on yourself and you focus
(33:25):
on things in your life and not on someone else's.
If you just copy someone else's life, it's not going
to work for you. So I think the key thing
out of this entire episode is more so just to
stop comparing yourself and really just focus on things that
you want to do and you can control, and the
goals that you want to achieve for yourself and make
the goals happen. So that is today's episode. I hope
you guys enjoyed it. If you guys are new, definitely
(33:47):
make sure to follow at the hawkrel Energy Instagram page
along with me Kaylie, I'm on Instagram TikTok and YouTube.
I will be posting two YouTube videos this week, so
definitely make sure to subscribe to my YouTube channel if
you guys want to see the Miami vlog and just
the overall prep of going to Miami as well. But
I love you guys allso much. Thank you guys for
listening to another episode, and I will see you guys
(34:07):
in next week's episode.
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