August 6, 2025 • 40 mins
Everything you need to know about wedding planning... in this week's episode, we share tips, wedding regrets and wedding must haves from our wedding last year in Italy. We are celebrating our 1 year anniversary this week & wanted to share our tips & honest feedback on our experience. Hope you enjoy & make sure to follow our socials below:
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Speaker 1 (00:13):
Hello you guys, Welcome back to another episode of the
Hawkgirl Energy Podcast. I'm your host, Kayleie, and this is
your weekly reminder that it's a new day, a new week,
a new mindset, and another day if you'd become the
hawk Girl energy you want to attract. Hello you guys,
welcome back to another episode. I have a bit of
a different episode for today. Typically I don't usually have
(00:35):
Zuck up on the podcast, but Zach and I are
celebrating our first wedding anniversary this week, and I thought
it would be a fun episode to just kind of
talk about some questions that you guys have asked on
my Instagram story for things just in terms of like
some wedding regrets that we may have had, things about
just the wedding in general, along with a couple q
(00:57):
and as, so we have a lot of questions year
that I thought we could just kind of go through
and just answer anything you guys have submitted in. But
we were just talking about Zach being on the podcast,
and I just don't remember the last time he was
on an episode.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
I think it's been close to a year. I think
it was around the wedding last year.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Yeah, I think you're right. I think the last time
we recorded an episode together was the recap of the
wedding of just like everything that happened after the honeymoon.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Did I even do that? I don't even remember if
I did that or not.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
Yeah, either that or talking. I don't think we talked before.
I think you're too stressed to talk before. I think
it was an after thing.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Yeah, I think you're right.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Yeah, I feel like we didn't have time to record
an episode before the wedding. I know. Actually that's a lie,
That is a lie. Remember we did a wedding everything
about the wedding, and I posted it on the wedding week.
I did it two parts.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Yeah, that we recorded beforehand.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
Yes, so never mind, we did do that. So on shocks,
we actually did that. I think we must have done
that a week in advanced or something like that.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
And there was no way we did while we were
in Italy.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
No, oh no, no, no. I wouldn't have brought my
MIC with me, that's for sure. I never bring my
MIC with me when I travel, just because I find
it always somehow gets damaged. When the last time I
brought it, Oh, I left it plugged in in the
sense of what you left.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
The bottom plugged in and that's why it broke.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Oh, I see, Okay, Well, anyways, this is why I
don't travel with a mic. We're gonna just jump right
into the questions because we have a lot of questions here,
and I know we're gonna probably explain in depth of
like each question that comes in, we'll probably just yap away.
Well I'm the yapper, I'm the yappers. So anyways, we're
gonna get down to the questions here.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
It's insane how many questions or followers have.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
I know, submitted. I know, it's it's insane. The community
is so supportive, Like like I had to do a
screen recording on the story and I'm just like scrolling
through all the questions. We're gonna try and answer as
many as we can because like there is a lot here,
but there is some that might be repetitive as well,
so we're gonna try our best just to yeah, try
(03:00):
and be yeah on top of this. All right, we
had a few questions about how we found certain things
for our wedding. So if you're new here, Zach and
I got married in Italy this time last year. We're
from Canada, so it was a destination wedding. We did
hire a wedding planner that was based in Italy that
basically organized everything for us, which I highly recommend doing
(03:21):
if you do plan to do a destination wedding, because
it's very difficult to find vendors and all that, especially
in a destination that you're not familiar with or be
in anywhere close proximity to time zone everything, or you
don't speak the language or you don't speak the language. Yeah,
Like having the planner I think helped us with a
lot of like just like getting the best possible rates
(03:44):
for like the florals and like just renting like chairs.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Welle, the incredible contacts. They knew which companies you go for,
which came to stay away from, who provided service in
that area, who didn't. It was they were very knowledgeable
but the area.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Yeah, so it kind of builds off one question, which
was logistics of planning. She's a girl that's considering to
do an Italy venue but just doesn't know how to
go about it. So I think, honestly the best thing
to do is to do some research on honestly Instagram
and TikTok and just seeing what other people have used
for planners. We used Rosini Weddings. You can actually find
(04:20):
a lot of the vendors that we worked with on
our wedding picture, which is actually pinned on my Instagram
and you'll see, like the photographer, we use the venue
that we got married at, along with planners and all that.
But that's kind of how I found Rosini was I
kind of was just like creeping through Instagram and I
came across their Instagram account and I reached out to
them and yeah, we just kind of like set up
(04:42):
a meeting and it turned out really good.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
But there we had several meetings.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Yes, oh I met with multiple No, I didn't just
meet with that.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
No, don't like, So, don't be don't jump to the
first planner because the first Italy planning you find. Don't
be afraid to interview multiple planners because you have to
ca with them, yes, and you have to feel like
they're going to execute what you.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Want one hundred percent. That's a good point. We definitely
met with a lot of other planners before we went
with Rosini. A lot of the planners that we met
with were either a one person team or you know,
two people in a team. But Rosini had about like
four to five people on their planning team, and we
just kind of felt more secure with that knowing that
there was multiple people that would be taking on different
(05:25):
responsibilities for the planning of the wedding days. So highly
recommend doing your research and don't just stick to one,
you know, talk to multiple and then you can kind
of get a feel of their vibe and what kind
of suits your preference and like what you think, I
don't know, just kind of suits you the best. Someone
asks how I found my hair and makeup? Again, literally
through Instagram, just scrolling through you know, other photographers that
(05:48):
were based in Italy or you know planners. A lot
of them actually have the vendors tagged in it, and
they had a few hair and makeup options based in
on Mafi Coast and that's kind of the one that
we decided to go with. And I did a hair
and makeup trial when I went to go visit the
venue back in May, which was a few months before
the wedding. Did you tour your wedding venue before you
(06:10):
booked it? So no, no, Well we did go look
at wedding venues, which was helpful.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
We looked at like fifteen. We looked at a lot.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
So we did technically go down and book the trip
and go see the wedding venues, which I highly recommend
doing because I think it helped us like narrow it
down to what we wanted, because I think we would
have just booked some of the ones that we went
to and then we saw it in person and we're like, oh,
I'm happy we didn't book this.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
And there was stuff that the venues didn't disclose.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Yes, which huge. That's a huge thing when you're booking
your venue. There's going to be so many things that
you don't even think about, like noise with regulations. I
guess they stop music at a certain point outside how
many people you can actually fit in the space. Like
there were some venues that were actually like smaller, like
they couldn't accommodate that many people, and just like random
(06:58):
things that you don't really think about.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Yeah, Like there was one it was said we could
have one hundred people at the wedding, which is crazy
to go over there one hundred people, but I said,
you could have one hundred people at the wedding, but
for the ceremony it was only twenty. And it was
like well, that's kind of a weird thing. It was
just because the lawn real they wanted the ceremony to
be held can only fit so many people.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
So yeah, I just know that there's a lot of
things to look out for and make sure to communicate
all the points that you can with your wedding planner
along with the venue and just make sure that it
aligns with you. Because there was a lot of Lake
Como for an example.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Yeah, when you're at La Como U the smaller towns
around the lake, they had more regulations at place because
it's not such a touristy spot as it is the
locals that live there. So I didn't want huge noise,
like they didn't want really a loud noise late at night.
Everything had to be more tamed and indoors. Yeah, it
was very interesting.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
I think there was only two or three wedding venues
in Lake Como that we went to that actually had
like the noise maps at like eleven pm or midnight,
like all the more eight pm or nine pm, which
is crazy to me that you have to keep it quiet.
By that point said, some of these.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Rules were new, but I'm not really too sure.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
Anyways, the point is, just make sure to ask all
the questions, because it's important when you're putting your money
down on a wedding venue that it meets all your requirements.
Someone said, I'm having my wedding in October in Italy.
Anything last minute advice or tips that you recommend. I think,
pack as far in advance as you can. I personally
(08:28):
feel like for us, we packed really far in advance
in terms of just like little the things that we needed,
like our robes that we got customized that we brought down.
You know, all the brides made outfits, All the brides
made like little details that I did, like their imass
and all that. Like, there's so much that we had
to pack to bring down, So I'm really happy that
(08:50):
I really organized everything, including my honeymoon outfits. Everything, Like,
think about how much we packed.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Do not be afraid to bring or buy your bag?
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Yes, oh my gosh, yes we brought.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Did we bring an extra suitcase?
Speaker 1 (09:05):
But yeah, yeah, yeah we did.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
We brought extra suitcase with stuff just for the wedding
week for rehearsal, dinner, the events before the wedding close
for that outfits, and then we brought that all in
a smaller bag, and then when we were over there
after the wedding, we transferred all my stuff out of
(09:28):
the larger bag into the smaller bag because I still
had a suit and other stuff in that big bag,
And we actually ended up taking a bunch of the signage.
What else do we take?
Speaker 1 (09:38):
We took a bunch of stuff from the menus on
the plates, our vow books.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
Yeah, there's a lot of stuff. There's a lot of
stuff that we took back from the wedding, and we
set that bag back with my parents.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
Including zach suit and my wedding dress. That way, we
didn't have it for the honeymoon. So honestly, pay to
have the extra bag if you're over there, or buy
one when down there.
Speaker 2 (10:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Yeah, yeah, one hundred percent. I do think that's yeah,
really needed, especially since you are doing your wedding in Italy. Yes,
this I felt like was such a like it made
me feel less stressed knowing that we had the air
tag in it, and it just like we were able
to track it wherever it was. Keeping constant communication with
your planner I think was good. Like we had text chats,
we were able to constantly text them. They were kind
(10:23):
of good at like reminding us what we had to
bring or what they had or what we're still waiting for.
So I feel like that was super helpful instead of
communicating through email, was just being able to text each
other just about you know, last minute things. So if
you don't have a text setup with your planners, you
can use an app called WhatsApp, so you don't have
to worry about you know, destination texting or anything.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
Oh, do not your if your wedding is October, you're
probably okay to still try and get some stuff wrapped up.
Don't wait until a week before to finalize your signage.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
Your men used your Yeah, we did have that issue. Well,
we didn't wait a week before. The issue was is
that it got shipped to the wrong.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Or no, it got shipped to the planners. It got
shipped to the plan they got held.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
X yes, and then FedEx decided to keep it and
not like attempt to deliver it again. So then the
planners had to well we had to pay for a
new train for them to come basically and they had
to go pick it up.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
If you're getting anything shipped to your venue, your planner
get it done well before two days before or.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
Pay for express, like do something, because yeah, we were
pretty stressed. I don't know what happened there though it
is still to this date.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
We ordered late, I think really for in advance.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
The girl was in England and I guess there was
just an issue. I don't really remember. I didn't order
it that list, I can remember.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
I just remember being on the phone driving to Rebella.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Oh, it was so stressful. That was probably the most
stressful thing we had throughout the wedding. Everything else was fine.
That was the only thing. It somehow made it. So
that's all I care about because it did actually make
a huge difference in the visual aspect. So I'm really
happy that it ended up all coming in. But I
think that's probably the best advice. I mean, October, Yeah,
October is going to be the perfect month because it's
(12:13):
not going to be too hot. We unfortunately had a
very hot wedding day. I was sweating my freaking ass off,
like literally. Oh anyways, I don't regret it at all.
In terms of like wearing my hair down. I'm really
happy that I did that because I personally feel the
most confident with my hair down, especially for pictures and such,
so I felt like if I put my hair up
(12:33):
in a slick back, butun I think I would have
regretted it just because it's not my favorite hairstyle on myself.
I love a high ponytail, but you can't rock a
pony with the veil, Like, it just wasn't happening. So
I'm happy that I went with that decision because I'm
really happy with how the photos turned out, especially with
my dress. But pack an Amazon fan, Like, if you
are doing a wedding in the summer, either in Italy
(12:56):
or wherever, or somewhere that's going to be really hot,
you can literally get those cheap mini fans from Amazon.
And my two mative honors had a fan on me.
I think you had a fan on me at one point,
Like we were constantly just fanning me, just because I
had obviously a really heavy dress on. But yeah, those
are some tips that we would recommend for your wedding.
(13:18):
What was the most memorable thing of the entire experience?
What would you say your favorite part was. I guess
maybe from the start of the wedding planning to the
actual wedding day.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
Is it bad? My favorite? Is it actually the wedding
day oh what is it ABNB.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
Oh okay, well that's TECTI for the wedding, but.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
It was something we planned afterwards, like com clearly afterwards
on our own.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Yeah, that's true. So we did a whole wedding event
where it was multiple days instead of just like the
wedding day. We did a welcome party, a rehearsal dinner,
and then the wedding day. So Zach's referring to the
welcome party. We got this beautiful airbnb in Ravello that
literally overlooked the mountains. It was the most insane ARABNBA
(14:00):
I think I've ever heard.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Yeah, a big rooftop patio, big courtyard patio.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Yeah, slept I think twenty three.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
Twenty maybe, Yeah, it was big except a lot of people. Yeah,
so wedding parties and friends.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
And then like everyone else in the wedding, they had
to find their own accommodation. Yeah, which was fine because
Revella was a really small town, which is why we
kind of went that direction. I know some of you
guys actually asked how we dealt with accommodations and such,
and we ended up booking the airbnb for the bridesmaids
and the parents. But everyone else. We got them to
find their own accommodation. So yeah, because it was a
(14:35):
small town, it was very easy for people to find
things in like walking distance, no issues in terms of
getting to the wedding venue and anything, which we obviously
were really grateful for. I think we probably gave some
guidance in terms of like, hey, try and book near
this vicinity. That way, people knew that they weren't like
having to take a taxi over to Ravello just because
Ravelo is a really small town up in the mountains.
(14:57):
But anyways, this airbnb insane and we actually decided pretty
last minute to hire a DJ for this airbnb terrorist,
which then we started to get stressed because we found
out that the town I guess had strict music policies
for like where we were.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Yeah, kind of we read something about oh, no noise
up to this time, blah blah blah. And this was
while after we booked.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
The djone someone was like, oh, the neighbors are pretty strict.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
Yeah, the hosts of the neighbors are pretty strict. And
then DJ showed up and he happened to be from
the town, so we were like, hey, well, thankfully your
mom also speaks Italian, so it's super easy. Your mom
went over, explained the situation. The neighbor walked over and goes,
I know everybody, I know everybody Rebella, We're fine, don't
worry about it. And he just played all night.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Yeah, so my mom's for the Italian, So for her,
she was able to kind of like communicate and just
make sure that you know, we weren't disrespecting anyone in
terms of like the music being too loud or anything.
The DJ was better than our wedding dj. Like, he
was incredible. We were so shocked how good he was.
Speaker 2 (16:01):
Like, I don't know, I think we just requests.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
I think we just literally asked our planner, It's like, oh,
what do you recommend for a DJ? And Ravello and
they recommended this guy and he was so fun. He
played all the music that we would love. Yeah, he
was really good. I don't know. I think that was
just like the best way to kick off the start
to the wedding weekend for sure. I think for me,
obviously the wedding day I think was my favorite. But
I loved doing our first look and our vows. That
(16:25):
truly was the most memorable part for me. That I
think being with everybody that was probably the best part,
Like being with all the guests and the bridesmaids and
all that. I would say that night was the best
by far. I agree with that, But I think like between,
like the moment between you and I think that was
like my favorite part of the entire experience, was just
being able to have that moment of seeing you in
your suit for the first time and you seeing me
(16:45):
in my dress and having just like pouring out our
feelings and I don't know, obviously we have a lot
of history, so being able to have that moment of
just like spilling everything was just truly the most amazing
moment and that was probably my fart of my favorite moment.
How did you handle the stress of spending money? I
(17:07):
think what's important is to save before you decided to
start planning wedding, because I don't think I would have
executed the wedding had I not had any Like if
I had no savings in my account, I definitely wouldn't
have done the wedding, you know what I mean, Like
you need to create the start of something for the wedding.
That way you can go into it feeling a little
(17:27):
bit stressed. I mean, obviously, regardless, it's stressful, like you're
spending a lot of money. It is what it is.
But I think if, like you know that you saved
all this money for this moment, that it feels a
little less stressful knowing that.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
Leng Yeah, but it didn't matter how much money we
had saved, it just kept getting more and more.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
Yeah for you, Yeah, because you see the money coming
out of the account and you're like, oh god, that's
a lot.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
Well, and our budget might have changed a couple of times.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
Yeah, the budget did change a few times. To be
fully transparent, we're not going to disclose what we spent
just because I think that's a very personal question. I
know some of you guys actually asked that. I think
if you are currently planning a wedding, I'm sure you
get an understanding of what venues typically cost along with
some blates, and it's just it's not cheap. It's it's
very very expensive. And as Zach said, of course our
(18:14):
budget changed a few times, but I still think we've
still kept it in a pretty appropriate amount from what
it's actually gonna be. Like, it was not appropriate. He's
not happy with it, but do you regret anything exactly?
I don't exactly, So you say that, but yeah, no,
it definitely was. Yeah, I don't regret anything.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
Don't go. Don't go above your means. Yeah, don't go.
It's like buying a house. You don't want to end
up house poor. You don't end up mortgage poor. You
don't want to end up wedding for you don't want
to save all this money for you know, for us
it was three days plus a plus a three week
trip after all this stuff, right, but you don't want
to spend money on realistic one day. Yeah, and it
(18:58):
affect the next three years of your life because you
went above and beyond what you could afford.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
Yeah. So, actually there was one thing that we had
to cut out of our wedding budget that I really wanted,
but financially it just didn't make sense to do so.
But essentially, Zach and I did this white runway on
the grass that you know, what would you call it
the wedding aisle there with the floral arrangements and all that,
And our wedding venue was on grass. So in order
(19:27):
to have that like flat white surface for the wedding aisle,
we were gonna have to pay. I think it was
like twenty thousand dollars euro? Was it euro?
Speaker 2 (19:36):
It was a euro?
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Okay, it was twenty thousand euro, which.
Speaker 2 (19:40):
Is what's wild for a platform.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
For a platform, because they would have had to customize
it and they would have had to bring it up
in Revello with with trucks and everything. That just would
have cost so much money. So I'm like, there's no
freaking way I'm paying that kind of money for a
wedding aisle essentially, So then we decided to just do
the white rug, and I think it it still turned
out great in the photos. I just I think in
terms of a regret, I didn't like how like it
(20:05):
kind of looked a little like wonky when people stepped
a little bit, you know what I mean. That was
the only thing that I didn't love about that. But
I don't regret doing it because I personally didn't love
the grass because I remember when we saw the grass,
the grass was also kind of semi dead, so it
kind of would have looked like you know what I mean, yeah,
the other day once they have. So anyways, I'm still
(20:27):
happy we did the white runner. I just think like, obviously,
if I had the budget to pay that much. I
would have, but I didn't, so I don't regret it.
If you guys hear Freddy breathing or licking or whatever,
I'm sorry. We're trying so hard to record this episode
right now, and I'm sure if you're a dog owner
you probably get it. Yeah, that's definitely people can hear
(20:48):
him doing that. I love this question. How did you
stay present during the big day? I think one thing
that Zach and I talked about the entire like, well
not the the first few days leading up to the wedding.
I think the first thing that we said to each
other was let's try and make this day about us,
not about our guests. Like we kept telling each other that,
(21:09):
like we really wanted to be like obviously present in
the moment, but like remember what we kept saying, We're like,
of course, like our guests were a huge priority. But
I think because we had the two events leading up
to the wedding, and.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
Because it was a smaller wedding people it's easier to
talk to everybody before the wedding. Yes, with the two events,
but it was people who are directly people who we
see all the time, immediate family, there was no, oh,
you're my mom's third cousin, twice removed like yeah, this
(21:40):
is what I'm doing for work now, and then not
knowing who you are on your wedding day.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
Everyone that was invited to our wedding was people that
we would talk to within like a few weeks, a
few months. Like it was people that we had you know,
continuous communication with. But having the two events, like with
the welcome dinner and the rehearsal dinner, like we were
spending time with everybody. I wouldn't really say we were
like spending too much time you I like we were trying,
but the wedding day specifically, because we dedicated the two
(22:04):
other days of trying to like you know, socialized everybody connect.
I feel like the wedding day we were fully just
like make sure this is about us. And so I
think we kind of like made that clear to people
too that we wanted to be you know, we want
to be alone. But like that we were very much
like there for each other in a sense, you know
(22:25):
what I mean. Were you both involved in the decision
making or was it mainly you? We were very both involved.
I would say I definitely didn't make the decisions without
Zach's approval. I think I kind of just said, hey,
this is what I'm thinking. Are you okay with that?
Are you not okay with that?
Speaker 2 (22:40):
I think this is how we do everything though, because
you have a vision and then I'm the realistic one
and I got to kind of crush your vision sometimes
and bring it backyard.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Yeah. I guess a situation that's very relevant right now
is our backyard. I have a vision. Zach was basically
able to execute it in the sense of, like you know,
kind of building it, bringing it to life. So when
you think about the wedding, I have a vision, but
Zach kind of talks about the logistics and the money
and the costs associated to doing those things, and he's like, okay, realistically,
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like we could do this floral arrangement, but I don't
think we should be doing this floral arrangement that you
really want. Like, let's think of you know what I mean,
the legit.
Speaker 2 (23:16):
Yeah, because you would say all these are the flowers
I want completely, and then you would you would isolate, right.
I think it's important that both parties involved in, you know,
making decisions on the wedding, because it's not just I
guess it's it's your wedding day, but we're both involved.
It's money that we are both spending on this. Yeah,
and you know the floral arrangement. Like you, you you
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get your mind fixed on which is great. You have
a specific detail for one thing, but you're like, okay,
here's option one through five for the flowers. I like
option to the best. This is the best one. This
one looks most beautiful. And then you flip your mind
over to the next day. You get something for the
drapery and you're like, okay, well I like drapery option
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number one, and it's also the most expensive. And then
you look at the table setting like this. He goes, okay, well,
we can't keep picking the most expensive thing. Yes, obviously
we're going with the most expensive thing, but now we
need to pick. Would you rather the flowers be a wow,
the drapery to be okay, that's nice, and the table
setting and the average or do you want all three
of them to be like wow, that's nice? Or do
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you want to blow your budget and go way over
and then be wedding poor and have everything back? Oh
my god, yeah, I think yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:26):
To build off Sack's point, I think no matter what,
it's a team effort, and I think I had the vision.
Zach had the brains behind how can we execute the
vision but within the budget? Right, So he was kind
of like the finance guy along with Okay, let's rank
this stuff that we're getting right, like as you said, like, okay,
is the floral arrangement the most important? Is the drapery
the most important? And then we kind of allocated, Okay, well,
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let's put more money towards the flowers and less money
towards the drapes.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
It's good to work as a team, one person of
the vision, one person know how to execute that vision
or try to get the best vision for the best price,
and try and negotiate things and go back to the
a new Kala specific vision. So it was very important
for me to hammer home to the planners that hey, look,
this is what we want, but this is our price.
This is where we have to get everything under here,
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and it's very important to work with your planners at
the same time.
Speaker 1 (25:17):
Yeah, and then the planners will most likely like offer
two different options or three different options, and then you
and I kind of like work with It.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
Would be also very easy for a planner to take
advantage of one person if it was just one person
making a decision.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
But we were making all the spreadsheets like you were
doing out all that. So that was really helpful because
I do not like doing that kind of stuff, So
that was really helpful. What was something that you did
to help ease any stress? Anything? Very simple? Okay, here's
one example. I had one thing that I thought I
was going to be stressed about. But I don't know
if this is a good thing or not. But in
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order for me to like eliminate that stress, I personally
just like didn't even think about it. So the weather
Oh yeah, I literally didn't look at the weather appitt all.
I made it. I literally made it a priority to
not look at the weather app because I knew it
was going to stress me out, and I wanted with
the intention of that whether it rains or it's the
most you know, beautiful day ever, it's going to be
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the best day ever, regardless. So I kind of like
went with that mindset that it didn't you know, it
didn't matter at the end of the day. I personally
felt like if I was constantly checking the weather app,
that was going to create more stress for me, and
I just didn't want to have to think about that
one component that was going to bother me, you know
what I mean. So I kind of avoided it. And
I don't know if that's something like to recommend or all,
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but like it. It did end up being a beautiful day,
and I think I had three people come up to
me saying that it technically was supposed to rain that
day and it didn't, so.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
I kind of forgot about that. Yeah, yeah, stressed without
the weather. I really I was thinking more about like
the day of stuff and leading up, like, right, you
didn't you didn't know about the signage all that stuff
not being in the mail until it got down to
the tenth hour. I'm like, Hi, by the way, I'm
paying for a train ticket for them to go this stuff.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
Yeah, because so AKA the husband kind of deal with there.
Speaker 2 (27:01):
And then I'm thankful. I had some really good groomsmen
and my best man. They were great. The bridesmaids as well,
but like the groomsmen and best man, they were very
much like anything you need delegate to us, and I
think it's I.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
Think at one point the planners like we also, like
the my maid of honors stepped up in terms of
like they said to the planners, like if there's anything
that seems stressful, tell us, not the bride, like are
my maid of honors? Kind of stepped up in that
sense where you know, they would go handle a situation
without me even knowing. If I'm getting my makeup done
and something was happening, you know with the way things
were going on the venue, they would get out of
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the room and they would deal with it that way.
I didn't have to think twice about it, right.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
So I think delegation, Yeah, delegation was huge, and I
think it pays off the way it's some really good
people on our wedding party who knew enough to you know,
come to me and say what can I do? Even
the bridesmaids were comany, hey what can I do? Take
you off Kayley's place? What can I do to help
ease her stress? And it made a very yeah that
our wedding party really wanted to help out.
Speaker 1 (28:01):
It wasn't even like us asking like some of them
like as you said, like they would straight up just
ask us saying like hey, what can I do? Like
I want to do something. I don't want to just
sit here like I want to be able to help
any way that I can, which was, yeah, made it
less stressful, obviously knowing that they were willing to do that. Okay,
this next question was, I'm a month post wedding. Any
tips for not falling into the post wedding depression?
Speaker 2 (28:23):
That's a questioned because I feel like you fell right in.
Speaker 1 (28:26):
I fell right into it. I'm not gonna lie. I
was so sad after the honeymoon for like a month.
I think the best thing that kept me, you know,
I guess happy moving on to the next like trying
to think of like the next thing, right, and not
feeling that depression. Of course, I definitely was really sad
(28:46):
for a month, as I said, was really emotional, just
because it literally was the best month of my entire life.
Speaker 2 (28:51):
That and because you put so much effort into much.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
Effort, so much energy for yeah, as you said, like
for fourteen months, like it literally that's all I would
think about, right, And then right after the wedding Day's
over and the honeymoon's over, It's like, now, what, like
all my energy has just disappeared, right in terms of
like what I'm putting the effort towards. I personally think
just kind of honestly keeping yourself busy, like doing things
(29:15):
like just to kind of get your mind off of
it a little bit, and then over time, I do
think it just kind of eventually goes away. Like of
course I look back at our photos and I'm like, oh,
that was the best day ever. But I don't think
of like, oh my god, like I have nothing to
do now, like I have nothing to prepare for. I
think it's more so like think about the next exciting
part of your life, Like there's so many other things
to look forward to, like starting a family with your husband,
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or buying another house, or you know, there's always another
step that's going to be happening. Maybe it's getting a
new job or a new career, like promotion at work
at work, or you know, for me, I was really
excited about coming back and like, you know, really putting
my energy towards work again and like getting back into
the podcast, and you know, looking at starting my brand.
Like there were so many other things that I could
(29:59):
put my mind and energy towards, which kind of helped.
So having that distraction of knowing that there's more things
to come that are going to be really exciting in
the next chapter and in your life, I think made
it easier to kind of get through it. And obviously
now we're a year out and I don't have the
depression anymore. But I think, honestly, everybody goes through wedding blues,
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and some people it might take them a week or two,
some people might deal with it for a month, like
it really just depends on the person. But I truly
do think that everybody goes through a little bit of
a depression, especially when you plan it for so long.
One thing that I feel like I always did was
I always tried to make our relationship a priority, but
also like being able to still have fun with my
friends and have the college experience along with, you know,
(30:43):
obviously furthering my career of you know, going through schooling
and being able to get a job after college and
all that. But I did get a scholarship in high
school to go play in West Virginia Tech. So it
is a call in West Virginia, and I decided to
turn it down because there was multiple factors. I personally
(31:07):
didn't want to play soccer at that high of a
level anymore. I kind of wanted to die down my
sports once I got to college, I had friends that
were also staying in Ottawa. Like one of my best friends,
she was going to Ottawa you and I don't know.
I kind of was like, you know, I would rather say,
like where my friends are, which a lot of them
were staying in Ottawa. Another one of my good friends
(31:27):
went to Carlton University and then I knew Zach was
also staying. So I don't know. I kind of like
made my decision on that. And I will be fully transparent.
I am a homebody, Like I didn't ever want to
like move to another city and I still don't to
this day. Like I really do love being near my
family and friends. So I feel like that kind of
helped our relationship a lot is knowing that neither of
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us were moving away. But as I said, like we
both are very driven individuals, so it was nice because like,
of course, like we made our relationship our priority, but
we both like respected that we wanted to focus on
our careers and our school. And I don't know, I
just feel like nothing really, I would say, obviously things change,
but in a good way.
Speaker 2 (32:11):
I agree. I think get the nail on the head.
There was a little bit of a not even a
growing curve. But it was just you know me and
you met new friends through college. I met new friends
through work. It was just a different adaptation to our
lives and it was more about us being open with
what you know, new people, your experiences, that kind of stuff.
Speaker 1 (32:32):
I felt like I was hanging a lot with like
your new friends. You were hanging a lot with my
new friends. I think we both were always like willing
to try different things for each other, which again is
very important. You need to be able to allow each
other to like adapt into your lifestyle or into your
lives with you know, the people you care about, the
people that you want to introduce each other to. All that.
(32:54):
So I think that answers the question in terms of
like that. So yeah, another couple question is how did
you know your partner was the one? I go back
and forth all the time with my BF of three years.
Speaker 2 (33:07):
I knew answer. We're just staring at you.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
Was gonna say, I I'll go first.
Speaker 2 (33:14):
You always go first, Okay, so then you yeah, because
I'm worried I'm not gonna match your better than mine? Sorry,
what is it? How did you know they were the one?
Speaker 1 (33:23):
How did you know I was the one that.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
How did I know you were the one? Kelly? You
just one day I just looked at you from across
the kitchen and it just hit me and I just
I just knew it was gonna be you. No our
our you know. Open communication was very important for us
about wants and you know, goals in our life and
(33:49):
making sure your what you what you want the lines
of your partner. Kelly and I were both we've touched
on it. Both very work driven. You know, we both
wanted big things far as for our careers and for ourselves,
and it aligned with each other. You know. We wanted
to you know, same sized family, We wanted to live
in the same area, didn't want to move by the city. Yeah,
(34:10):
it just seemed like everything just lined up for us.
And you know, I got along well with I get
along well with her family, She gets along well with
my family. All these things just kind of worked and it,
I don't know, it was accumulation of a lot of things,
and then you know, just spending time with you, it
felt felt natural, It felt right. It felt like, Okay,
this is you know, this is what I want for
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the rest of my life. That's kind of how I
was able to figure it out.
Speaker 1 (34:35):
Yeah, I was. My answer would be very similar to that.
I really like how we were very open and honest
since the beginning of our relationship of what we wanted
for our future, Like we both agreed that you know, oh,
we both want two kids. You know, as you said,
we both see each other like growing up here in Ottawa.
I think it's important to communicate at an early stage
in your relationship what your goals and aspirations are in life,
(34:58):
because I think if they don't line, that makes it
really difficult to be with someone that just doesn't have
the same future as you. And I think obviously that
motivates you guys to continue the relationship. But I think
for Zach, for me personally, I don't know, there's something
about his personality that just like really clicks well with me.
I think he's like my perfect He's my perfect partner
(35:22):
in crime. For sure. Zach is always there for me
in the sense where I just feel like he's always
been like the best supportive partner and I just don't
think anyone would would be able to tolerate me. No,
I just think like we just had the perfect pair.
I really don't know how to explain it, Like I
don't know what I would do without him. I truly don't.
(35:43):
Like he literally just always corrects me in the best way,
or you know, whenever I'm trying to build up a point,
like he's he knows exactly what I'm trying to say,
so he's able to build me off. Like You're just
always like that person that I just know you're gonna
be able to like be there for me and anything,
like literally in anything, like not even like when I communicate,
but just like sure, but even just like when we're
(36:05):
playing sports, like you're always there to kind of just
like okay, yeah, like do this, tweak this, You'll be good.
Like you're always trying to make me a better person,
I guess in a way. And I think that's like
really good to have that in a partner, because if
they're trying to make you better, I think that's so special.
I think they would based some of your answer. So
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that concludes our episode for today. We kind of just
threw in a lot more wedding questions than a couple questions,
just because I feel like a lot of the questions
were more so wedding related, which I hope that kind
of got the point across for people who might be
planning a wedding, or are thinking about planning a wedding
in Italy, or just who had questions about wedding planning
in general. But I still can't believe.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
We're celebrating crazy.
Speaker 1 (36:51):
That's literally crazy. What are we doing for our one year?
We can tell them that act like, what are we
doing for our one year? We're going over dinner. I
haven't booked the restaurant.
Speaker 2 (37:05):
Yet, but I'm going to wet. It's Wednesday, and we
don't have a reservation for Friday.
Speaker 1 (37:11):
It's actually Tuesday, first off, but podcast comes out Wednesday. Yeah,
that's true, but I'll book it tomorrow when night, when.
Speaker 2 (37:19):
The when the podcast is out, we should have a
dinner reservation.
Speaker 1 (37:23):
But it's also Ottawa's. You don't need to have a
reservation bunked two.
Speaker 2 (37:27):
Weeks the day before.
Speaker 1 (37:29):
Yeah, so I actually have a few places that I
wanted to show you before, Ben, because we're gonna fall
asleep here Zach's yawning. So but anyways, Yeah, we definitely
need to book a restaurant, and then what's the big
thing we're doing.
Speaker 2 (37:40):
I can't believe you didn't think about that we are
watching our wedding video.
Speaker 1 (37:44):
Finally, Yes, and we are we watching it.
Speaker 2 (37:47):
We're gonna watch it in our brand new backyard with
the projector.
Speaker 1 (37:53):
Yes, Zach set up a projector outside in our backyard
on the fence. We have like this big actor screen
and it's foldable so you can, you know, put it
in a storage you know, or in the house. Sorry.
And then we got a smart projector where it actually
projects Netflix YouTube, I.
Speaker 2 (38:11):
Thing, yeah, Prime Video, Yeah, I can. You can download
other apps so we can watch actual TV out there. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (38:16):
It connects to Wi Fi and anyways. I'll link everything
if people are interested in it. But we're gonna watch
our wedding video one night as well this weekend, which
I think is gonna be so special because we have
not seen it. Everyone wants me to film the reaction
of us seeing it for the Yeah, we're gonna ballze.
We're literally both just gonna sit there and ball perfect.
It's gonna be awesome. It's not gonna be awesome. I
(38:37):
hate crying, but it will be. It'll be nice. So
that's kind of how we're spending our weekend, super low key.
But a few days after that we'll be heading somewhere.
We booked something. We're getting on a plane in how
many days, like eighteen days we're gonna be on a plane. Yeah,
eighteen days. We're gonna be somewhere. So stay tuned on
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our instagram if you want to see us travel again
to a very special place that we will not say.
But anyways, I love you guys. Also much, thank you
guys for listening to another episode. If you guys are new,
definitely make sure to follow at the hawkgirl Energy Instagram page.
You can also follow the host Kaylei, which is me.
I'm on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube. But I love you guys.
Also much, thank you guys for listening to this very
(39:20):
special episode. Zach, thank you for being here. Thanks for
having me and spending your Tuesday night recording this episode
even though you're very tired from work. But yeah, we're
celebrating anniversary and yeah, excited to celebrate another hopefully sixty
years with you.
Speaker 2 (39:40):
Sixty years is that enough? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (39:42):
Eighty years.
Speaker 2 (39:43):
It will be eight nine, Yeah, it will.
Speaker 1 (39:44):
Be eighty nine, so maybe more. But I pray that
we have a long, healthy marriage. So I love you,
Love you guys, Thanks for listening,
Hello you guys, Welcome back to another episode of the
Hawkgirl Energy Podcast. I'm your host, Kayleie, and this is
your weekly reminder that it's a new day, a new week,
a new mindset, and another day if you'd become the
hawk Girl energy you want to attract. Hello you guys,
welcome back to another episode. I have a bit of
a different episode for today. Typically I don't usually have
(00:35):
Zuck up on the podcast, but Zach and I are
celebrating our first wedding anniversary this week, and I thought
it would be a fun episode to just kind of
talk about some questions that you guys have asked on
my Instagram story for things just in terms of like
some wedding regrets that we may have had, things about
just the wedding in general, along with a couple q
(00:57):
and as, so we have a lot of questions year
that I thought we could just kind of go through
and just answer anything you guys have submitted in. But
we were just talking about Zach being on the podcast,
and I just don't remember the last time he was
on an episode.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
I think it's been close to a year. I think
it was around the wedding last year.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Yeah, I think you're right. I think the last time
we recorded an episode together was the recap of the
wedding of just like everything that happened after the honeymoon.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Did I even do that? I don't even remember if
I did that or not.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
Yeah, either that or talking. I don't think we talked before.
I think you're too stressed to talk before. I think
it was an after thing.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Yeah, I think you're right.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Yeah, I feel like we didn't have time to record
an episode before the wedding. I know. Actually that's a lie,
That is a lie. Remember we did a wedding everything
about the wedding, and I posted it on the wedding week.
I did it two parts.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Yeah, that we recorded beforehand.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
Yes, so never mind, we did do that. So on shocks,
we actually did that. I think we must have done
that a week in advanced or something like that.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
And there was no way we did while we were
in Italy.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
No, oh no, no, no. I wouldn't have brought my
MIC with me, that's for sure. I never bring my
MIC with me when I travel, just because I find
it always somehow gets damaged. When the last time I
brought it, Oh, I left it plugged in in the
sense of what you left.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
The bottom plugged in and that's why it broke.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Oh, I see, Okay, Well, anyways, this is why I
don't travel with a mic. We're gonna just jump right
into the questions because we have a lot of questions here,
and I know we're gonna probably explain in depth of
like each question that comes in, we'll probably just yap away.
Well I'm the yapper, I'm the yappers. So anyways, we're
gonna get down to the questions here.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
It's insane how many questions or followers have.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
I know, submitted. I know, it's it's insane. The community
is so supportive, Like like I had to do a
screen recording on the story and I'm just like scrolling
through all the questions. We're gonna try and answer as
many as we can because like there is a lot here,
but there is some that might be repetitive as well,
so we're gonna try our best just to yeah, try
(03:00):
and be yeah on top of this. All right, we
had a few questions about how we found certain things
for our wedding. So if you're new here, Zach and
I got married in Italy this time last year. We're
from Canada, so it was a destination wedding. We did
hire a wedding planner that was based in Italy that
basically organized everything for us, which I highly recommend doing
(03:21):
if you do plan to do a destination wedding, because
it's very difficult to find vendors and all that, especially
in a destination that you're not familiar with or be
in anywhere close proximity to time zone everything, or you
don't speak the language or you don't speak the language. Yeah,
Like having the planner I think helped us with a
lot of like just like getting the best possible rates
(03:44):
for like the florals and like just renting like chairs.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Welle, the incredible contacts. They knew which companies you go for,
which came to stay away from, who provided service in
that area, who didn't. It was they were very knowledgeable
but the area.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Yeah, so it kind of builds off one question, which
was logistics of planning. She's a girl that's considering to
do an Italy venue but just doesn't know how to
go about it. So I think, honestly the best thing
to do is to do some research on honestly Instagram
and TikTok and just seeing what other people have used
for planners. We used Rosini Weddings. You can actually find
(04:20):
a lot of the vendors that we worked with on
our wedding picture, which is actually pinned on my Instagram
and you'll see, like the photographer, we use the venue
that we got married at, along with planners and all that.
But that's kind of how I found Rosini was I
kind of was just like creeping through Instagram and I
came across their Instagram account and I reached out to
them and yeah, we just kind of like set up
(04:42):
a meeting and it turned out really good.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
But there we had several meetings.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Yes, oh I met with multiple No, I didn't just
meet with that.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
No, don't like, So, don't be don't jump to the
first planner because the first Italy planning you find. Don't
be afraid to interview multiple planners because you have to
ca with them, yes, and you have to feel like
they're going to execute what you.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Want one hundred percent. That's a good point. We definitely
met with a lot of other planners before we went
with Rosini. A lot of the planners that we met
with were either a one person team or you know,
two people in a team. But Rosini had about like
four to five people on their planning team, and we
just kind of felt more secure with that knowing that
there was multiple people that would be taking on different
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responsibilities for the planning of the wedding days. So highly
recommend doing your research and don't just stick to one,
you know, talk to multiple and then you can kind
of get a feel of their vibe and what kind
of suits your preference and like what you think, I
don't know, just kind of suits you the best. Someone
asks how I found my hair and makeup? Again, literally
through Instagram, just scrolling through you know, other photographers that
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were based in Italy or you know planners. A lot
of them actually have the vendors tagged in it, and
they had a few hair and makeup options based in
on Mafi Coast and that's kind of the one that
we decided to go with. And I did a hair
and makeup trial when I went to go visit the
venue back in May, which was a few months before
the wedding. Did you tour your wedding venue before you
(06:10):
booked it? So no, no, Well we did go look
at wedding venues, which was helpful.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
We looked at like fifteen. We looked at a lot.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
So we did technically go down and book the trip
and go see the wedding venues, which I highly recommend
doing because I think it helped us like narrow it
down to what we wanted, because I think we would
have just booked some of the ones that we went
to and then we saw it in person and we're like, oh,
I'm happy we didn't book this.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
And there was stuff that the venues didn't disclose.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Yes, which huge. That's a huge thing when you're booking
your venue. There's going to be so many things that
you don't even think about, like noise with regulations. I
guess they stop music at a certain point outside how
many people you can actually fit in the space. Like
there were some venues that were actually like smaller, like
they couldn't accommodate that many people, and just like random
(06:58):
things that you don't really think about.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Yeah, Like there was one it was said we could
have one hundred people at the wedding, which is crazy
to go over there one hundred people, but I said,
you could have one hundred people at the wedding, but
for the ceremony it was only twenty. And it was
like well, that's kind of a weird thing. It was
just because the lawn real they wanted the ceremony to
be held can only fit so many people.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
So yeah, I just know that there's a lot of
things to look out for and make sure to communicate
all the points that you can with your wedding planner
along with the venue and just make sure that it
aligns with you. Because there was a lot of Lake
Como for an example.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Yeah, when you're at La Como U the smaller towns
around the lake, they had more regulations at place because
it's not such a touristy spot as it is the
locals that live there. So I didn't want huge noise,
like they didn't want really a loud noise late at night.
Everything had to be more tamed and indoors. Yeah, it
was very interesting.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
I think there was only two or three wedding venues
in Lake Como that we went to that actually had
like the noise maps at like eleven pm or midnight,
like all the more eight pm or nine pm, which
is crazy to me that you have to keep it quiet.
By that point said, some of these.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Rules were new, but I'm not really too sure.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
Anyways, the point is, just make sure to ask all
the questions, because it's important when you're putting your money
down on a wedding venue that it meets all your requirements.
Someone said, I'm having my wedding in October in Italy.
Anything last minute advice or tips that you recommend. I think,
pack as far in advance as you can. I personally
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feel like for us, we packed really far in advance
in terms of just like little the things that we needed,
like our robes that we got customized that we brought down.
You know, all the brides made outfits, All the brides
made like little details that I did, like their imass
and all that. Like, there's so much that we had
to pack to bring down, So I'm really happy that
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I really organized everything, including my honeymoon outfits. Everything, Like,
think about how much we packed.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Do not be afraid to bring or buy your bag?
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Yes, oh my gosh, yes we brought.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Did we bring an extra suitcase?
Speaker 1 (09:05):
But yeah, yeah, yeah we did.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
We brought extra suitcase with stuff just for the wedding
week for rehearsal, dinner, the events before the wedding close
for that outfits, and then we brought that all in
a smaller bag, and then when we were over there
after the wedding, we transferred all my stuff out of
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the larger bag into the smaller bag because I still
had a suit and other stuff in that big bag,
And we actually ended up taking a bunch of the signage.
What else do we take?
Speaker 1 (09:38):
We took a bunch of stuff from the menus on
the plates, our vow books.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
Yeah, there's a lot of stuff. There's a lot of
stuff that we took back from the wedding, and we
set that bag back with my parents.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
Including zach suit and my wedding dress. That way, we
didn't have it for the honeymoon. So honestly, pay to
have the extra bag if you're over there, or buy
one when down there.
Speaker 2 (10:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Yeah, yeah, one hundred percent. I do think that's yeah,
really needed, especially since you are doing your wedding in Italy. Yes,
this I felt like was such a like it made
me feel less stressed knowing that we had the air
tag in it, and it just like we were able
to track it wherever it was. Keeping constant communication with
your planner I think was good. Like we had text chats,
we were able to constantly text them. They were kind
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of good at like reminding us what we had to
bring or what they had or what we're still waiting for.
So I feel like that was super helpful instead of
communicating through email, was just being able to text each
other just about you know, last minute things. So if
you don't have a text setup with your planners, you
can use an app called WhatsApp, so you don't have
to worry about you know, destination texting or anything.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
Oh, do not your if your wedding is October, you're
probably okay to still try and get some stuff wrapped up.
Don't wait until a week before to finalize your signage.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
Your men used your Yeah, we did have that issue. Well,
we didn't wait a week before. The issue was is
that it got shipped to the wrong.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Or no, it got shipped to the planners. It got
shipped to the plan they got held.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
X yes, and then FedEx decided to keep it and
not like attempt to deliver it again. So then the
planners had to well we had to pay for a
new train for them to come basically and they had
to go pick it up.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
If you're getting anything shipped to your venue, your planner
get it done well before two days before or.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
Pay for express, like do something, because yeah, we were
pretty stressed. I don't know what happened there though it
is still to this date.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
We ordered late, I think really for in advance.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
The girl was in England and I guess there was
just an issue. I don't really remember. I didn't order
it that list, I can remember.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
I just remember being on the phone driving to Rebella.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Oh, it was so stressful. That was probably the most
stressful thing we had throughout the wedding. Everything else was fine.
That was the only thing. It somehow made it. So
that's all I care about because it did actually make
a huge difference in the visual aspect. So I'm really
happy that it ended up all coming in. But I
think that's probably the best advice. I mean, October, Yeah,
October is going to be the perfect month because it's
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not going to be too hot. We unfortunately had a
very hot wedding day. I was sweating my freaking ass off,
like literally. Oh anyways, I don't regret it at all.
In terms of like wearing my hair down. I'm really
happy that I did that because I personally feel the
most confident with my hair down, especially for pictures and such,
so I felt like if I put my hair up
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in a slick back, butun I think I would have
regretted it just because it's not my favorite hairstyle on myself.
I love a high ponytail, but you can't rock a
pony with the veil, Like, it just wasn't happening. So
I'm happy that I went with that decision because I'm
really happy with how the photos turned out, especially with
my dress. But pack an Amazon fan, Like, if you
are doing a wedding in the summer, either in Italy
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or wherever, or somewhere that's going to be really hot,
you can literally get those cheap mini fans from Amazon.
And my two mative honors had a fan on me.
I think you had a fan on me at one point,
Like we were constantly just fanning me, just because I
had obviously a really heavy dress on. But yeah, those
are some tips that we would recommend for your wedding.
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What was the most memorable thing of the entire experience?
What would you say your favorite part was. I guess
maybe from the start of the wedding planning to the
actual wedding day.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
Is it bad? My favorite? Is it actually the wedding
day oh what is it ABNB.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
Oh okay, well that's TECTI for the wedding, but.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
It was something we planned afterwards, like com clearly afterwards
on our own.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Yeah, that's true. So we did a whole wedding event
where it was multiple days instead of just like the
wedding day. We did a welcome party, a rehearsal dinner,
and then the wedding day. So Zach's referring to the
welcome party. We got this beautiful airbnb in Ravello that
literally overlooked the mountains. It was the most insane ARABNBA
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I think I've ever heard.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Yeah, a big rooftop patio, big courtyard patio.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Yeah, slept I think twenty three.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
Twenty maybe, Yeah, it was big except a lot of people. Yeah,
so wedding parties and friends.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
And then like everyone else in the wedding, they had
to find their own accommodation. Yeah, which was fine because
Revella was a really small town, which is why we
kind of went that direction. I know some of you
guys actually asked how we dealt with accommodations and such,
and we ended up booking the airbnb for the bridesmaids
and the parents. But everyone else. We got them to
find their own accommodation. So yeah, because it was a
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small town, it was very easy for people to find
things in like walking distance, no issues in terms of
getting to the wedding venue and anything, which we obviously
were really grateful for. I think we probably gave some
guidance in terms of like, hey, try and book near
this vicinity. That way, people knew that they weren't like
having to take a taxi over to Ravello just because
Ravelo is a really small town up in the mountains.
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But anyways, this airbnb insane and we actually decided pretty
last minute to hire a DJ for this airbnb terrorist,
which then we started to get stressed because we found
out that the town I guess had strict music policies
for like where we were.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Yeah, kind of we read something about oh, no noise
up to this time, blah blah blah. And this was
while after we booked.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
The djone someone was like, oh, the neighbors are pretty strict.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
Yeah, the hosts of the neighbors are pretty strict. And
then DJ showed up and he happened to be from
the town, so we were like, hey, well, thankfully your
mom also speaks Italian, so it's super easy. Your mom
went over, explained the situation. The neighbor walked over and goes,
I know everybody, I know everybody Rebella, We're fine, don't
worry about it. And he just played all night.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Yeah, so my mom's for the Italian, So for her,
she was able to kind of like communicate and just
make sure that you know, we weren't disrespecting anyone in
terms of like the music being too loud or anything.
The DJ was better than our wedding dj. Like, he
was incredible. We were so shocked how good he was.
Speaker 2 (16:01):
Like, I don't know, I think we just requests.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
I think we just literally asked our planner, It's like, oh,
what do you recommend for a DJ? And Ravello and
they recommended this guy and he was so fun. He
played all the music that we would love. Yeah, he
was really good. I don't know. I think that was
just like the best way to kick off the start
to the wedding weekend for sure. I think for me,
obviously the wedding day I think was my favorite. But
I loved doing our first look and our vows. That
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truly was the most memorable part for me. That I
think being with everybody that was probably the best part,
Like being with all the guests and the bridesmaids and
all that. I would say that night was the best
by far. I agree with that, But I think like between,
like the moment between you and I think that was
like my favorite part of the entire experience, was just
being able to have that moment of seeing you in
your suit for the first time and you seeing me
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in my dress and having just like pouring out our
feelings and I don't know, obviously we have a lot
of history, so being able to have that moment of
just like spilling everything was just truly the most amazing
moment and that was probably my fart of my favorite moment.
How did you handle the stress of spending money? I
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think what's important is to save before you decided to
start planning wedding, because I don't think I would have
executed the wedding had I not had any Like if
I had no savings in my account, I definitely wouldn't
have done the wedding, you know what I mean, Like
you need to create the start of something for the wedding.
That way you can go into it feeling a little
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bit stressed. I mean, obviously, regardless, it's stressful, like you're
spending a lot of money. It is what it is.
But I think if, like you know that you saved
all this money for this moment, that it feels a
little less stressful knowing that.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
Leng Yeah, but it didn't matter how much money we
had saved, it just kept getting more and more.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
Yeah for you, Yeah, because you see the money coming
out of the account and you're like, oh god, that's
a lot.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
Well, and our budget might have changed a couple of times.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
Yeah, the budget did change a few times. To be
fully transparent, we're not going to disclose what we spent
just because I think that's a very personal question. I
know some of you guys actually asked that. I think
if you are currently planning a wedding, I'm sure you
get an understanding of what venues typically cost along with
some blates, and it's just it's not cheap. It's it's
very very expensive. And as Zach said, of course our
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budget changed a few times, but I still think we've
still kept it in a pretty appropriate amount from what
it's actually gonna be. Like, it was not appropriate. He's
not happy with it, but do you regret anything exactly?
I don't exactly, So you say that, but yeah, no,
it definitely was. Yeah, I don't regret anything.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
Don't go. Don't go above your means. Yeah, don't go.
It's like buying a house. You don't want to end
up house poor. You don't end up mortgage poor. You
don't want to end up wedding for you don't want
to save all this money for you know, for us
it was three days plus a plus a three week
trip after all this stuff, right, but you don't want
to spend money on realistic one day. Yeah, and it
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affect the next three years of your life because you
went above and beyond what you could afford.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
Yeah. So, actually there was one thing that we had
to cut out of our wedding budget that I really wanted,
but financially it just didn't make sense to do so.
But essentially, Zach and I did this white runway on
the grass that you know, what would you call it
the wedding aisle there with the floral arrangements and all that,
And our wedding venue was on grass. So in order
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to have that like flat white surface for the wedding aisle,
we were gonna have to pay. I think it was
like twenty thousand dollars euro? Was it euro?
Speaker 2 (19:36):
It was a euro?
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Okay, it was twenty thousand euro, which.
Speaker 2 (19:40):
Is what's wild for a platform.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
For a platform, because they would have had to customize
it and they would have had to bring it up
in Revello with with trucks and everything. That just would
have cost so much money. So I'm like, there's no
freaking way I'm paying that kind of money for a
wedding aisle essentially, So then we decided to just do
the white rug, and I think it it still turned
out great in the photos. I just I think in
terms of a regret, I didn't like how like it
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kind of looked a little like wonky when people stepped
a little bit, you know what I mean. That was
the only thing that I didn't love about that. But
I don't regret doing it because I personally didn't love
the grass because I remember when we saw the grass,
the grass was also kind of semi dead, so it
kind of would have looked like you know what I mean, yeah,
the other day once they have. So anyways, I'm still
(20:27):
happy we did the white runner. I just think like, obviously,
if I had the budget to pay that much. I
would have, but I didn't, so I don't regret it.
If you guys hear Freddy breathing or licking or whatever,
I'm sorry. We're trying so hard to record this episode
right now, and I'm sure if you're a dog owner
you probably get it. Yeah, that's definitely people can hear
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him doing that. I love this question. How did you
stay present during the big day? I think one thing
that Zach and I talked about the entire like, well
not the the first few days leading up to the wedding.
I think the first thing that we said to each
other was let's try and make this day about us,
not about our guests. Like we kept telling each other that,
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like we really wanted to be like obviously present in
the moment, but like remember what we kept saying, We're like,
of course, like our guests were a huge priority. But
I think because we had the two events leading up
to the wedding, and.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
Because it was a smaller wedding people it's easier to
talk to everybody before the wedding. Yes, with the two events,
but it was people who are directly people who we
see all the time, immediate family, there was no, oh,
you're my mom's third cousin, twice removed like yeah, this
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is what I'm doing for work now, and then not
knowing who you are on your wedding day.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
Everyone that was invited to our wedding was people that
we would talk to within like a few weeks, a
few months. Like it was people that we had you know,
continuous communication with. But having the two events, like with
the welcome dinner and the rehearsal dinner, like we were
spending time with everybody. I wouldn't really say we were
like spending too much time you I like we were trying,
but the wedding day specifically, because we dedicated the two
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other days of trying to like you know, socialized everybody connect.
I feel like the wedding day we were fully just
like make sure this is about us. And so I
think we kind of like made that clear to people
too that we wanted to be you know, we want
to be alone. But like that we were very much
like there for each other in a sense, you know
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what I mean. Were you both involved in the decision
making or was it mainly you? We were very both involved.
I would say I definitely didn't make the decisions without
Zach's approval. I think I kind of just said, hey,
this is what I'm thinking. Are you okay with that?
Are you not okay with that?
Speaker 2 (22:40):
I think this is how we do everything though, because
you have a vision and then I'm the realistic one
and I got to kind of crush your vision sometimes
and bring it backyard.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Yeah. I guess a situation that's very relevant right now
is our backyard. I have a vision. Zach was basically
able to execute it in the sense of, like you know,
kind of building it, bringing it to life. So when
you think about the wedding, I have a vision, but
Zach kind of talks about the logistics and the money
and the costs associated to doing those things, and he's like, okay, realistically,
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like we could do this floral arrangement, but I don't
think we should be doing this floral arrangement that you
really want. Like, let's think of you know what I mean,
the legit.
Speaker 2 (23:16):
Yeah, because you would say all these are the flowers
I want completely, and then you would you would isolate, right.
I think it's important that both parties involved in, you know,
making decisions on the wedding, because it's not just I
guess it's it's your wedding day, but we're both involved.
It's money that we are both spending on this. Yeah,
and you know the floral arrangement. Like you, you you
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get your mind fixed on which is great. You have
a specific detail for one thing, but you're like, okay,
here's option one through five for the flowers. I like
option to the best. This is the best one. This
one looks most beautiful. And then you flip your mind
over to the next day. You get something for the
drapery and you're like, okay, well I like drapery option
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number one, and it's also the most expensive. And then
you look at the table setting like this. He goes, okay, well,
we can't keep picking the most expensive thing. Yes, obviously
we're going with the most expensive thing, but now we
need to pick. Would you rather the flowers be a wow,
the drapery to be okay, that's nice, and the table
setting and the average or do you want all three
of them to be like wow, that's nice? Or do
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you want to blow your budget and go way over
and then be wedding poor and have everything back? Oh
my god, yeah, I think yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:26):
To build off Sack's point, I think no matter what,
it's a team effort, and I think I had the vision.
Zach had the brains behind how can we execute the
vision but within the budget? Right, So he was kind
of like the finance guy along with Okay, let's rank
this stuff that we're getting right, like as you said, like, okay,
is the floral arrangement the most important? Is the drapery
the most important? And then we kind of allocated, Okay, well,
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let's put more money towards the flowers and less money
towards the drapes.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
It's good to work as a team, one person of
the vision, one person know how to execute that vision
or try to get the best vision for the best price,
and try and negotiate things and go back to the
a new Kala specific vision. So it was very important
for me to hammer home to the planners that hey, look,
this is what we want, but this is our price.
This is where we have to get everything under here,
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and it's very important to work with your planners at
the same time.
Speaker 1 (25:17):
Yeah, and then the planners will most likely like offer
two different options or three different options, and then you
and I kind of like work with It.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
Would be also very easy for a planner to take
advantage of one person if it was just one person
making a decision.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
But we were making all the spreadsheets like you were
doing out all that. So that was really helpful because
I do not like doing that kind of stuff, So
that was really helpful. What was something that you did
to help ease any stress? Anything? Very simple? Okay, here's
one example. I had one thing that I thought I
was going to be stressed about. But I don't know
if this is a good thing or not. But in
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order for me to like eliminate that stress, I personally
just like didn't even think about it. So the weather
Oh yeah, I literally didn't look at the weather appitt all.
I made it. I literally made it a priority to
not look at the weather app because I knew it
was going to stress me out, and I wanted with
the intention of that whether it rains or it's the
most you know, beautiful day ever, it's going to be
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the best day ever, regardless. So I kind of like
went with that mindset that it didn't you know, it
didn't matter at the end of the day. I personally
felt like if I was constantly checking the weather app,
that was going to create more stress for me, and
I just didn't want to have to think about that
one component that was going to bother me, you know
what I mean. So I kind of avoided it. And
I don't know if that's something like to recommend or all,
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but like it. It did end up being a beautiful day,
and I think I had three people come up to
me saying that it technically was supposed to rain that
day and it didn't, so.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
I kind of forgot about that. Yeah, yeah, stressed without
the weather. I really I was thinking more about like
the day of stuff and leading up, like, right, you
didn't you didn't know about the signage all that stuff
not being in the mail until it got down to
the tenth hour. I'm like, Hi, by the way, I'm
paying for a train ticket for them to go this stuff.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
Yeah, because so AKA the husband kind of deal with there.
Speaker 2 (27:01):
And then I'm thankful. I had some really good groomsmen
and my best man. They were great. The bridesmaids as well,
but like the groomsmen and best man, they were very
much like anything you need delegate to us, and I
think it's I.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
Think at one point the planners like we also, like
the my maid of honors stepped up in terms of
like they said to the planners, like if there's anything
that seems stressful, tell us, not the bride, like are
my maid of honors? Kind of stepped up in that
sense where you know, they would go handle a situation
without me even knowing. If I'm getting my makeup done
and something was happening, you know with the way things
were going on the venue, they would get out of
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the room and they would deal with it that way.
I didn't have to think twice about it, right.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
So I think delegation, Yeah, delegation was huge, and I
think it pays off the way it's some really good
people on our wedding party who knew enough to you know,
come to me and say what can I do? Even
the bridesmaids were comany, hey what can I do? Take
you off Kayley's place? What can I do to help
ease her stress? And it made a very yeah that
our wedding party really wanted to help out.
Speaker 1 (28:01):
It wasn't even like us asking like some of them
like as you said, like they would straight up just
ask us saying like hey, what can I do? Like
I want to do something. I don't want to just
sit here like I want to be able to help
any way that I can, which was, yeah, made it
less stressful, obviously knowing that they were willing to do that. Okay,
this next question was, I'm a month post wedding. Any
tips for not falling into the post wedding depression?
Speaker 2 (28:23):
That's a questioned because I feel like you fell right in.
Speaker 1 (28:26):
I fell right into it. I'm not gonna lie. I
was so sad after the honeymoon for like a month.
I think the best thing that kept me, you know,
I guess happy moving on to the next like trying
to think of like the next thing, right, and not
feeling that depression. Of course, I definitely was really sad
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for a month, as I said, was really emotional, just
because it literally was the best month of my entire life.
Speaker 2 (28:51):
That and because you put so much effort into much.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
Effort, so much energy for yeah, as you said, like
for fourteen months, like it literally that's all I would
think about, right, And then right after the wedding Day's
over and the honeymoon's over, It's like, now, what, like
all my energy has just disappeared, right in terms of
like what I'm putting the effort towards. I personally think
just kind of honestly keeping yourself busy, like doing things
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like just to kind of get your mind off of
it a little bit, and then over time, I do
think it just kind of eventually goes away. Like of
course I look back at our photos and I'm like, oh,
that was the best day ever. But I don't think
of like, oh my god, like I have nothing to
do now, like I have nothing to prepare for. I
think it's more so like think about the next exciting
part of your life, Like there's so many other things
to look forward to, like starting a family with your husband,
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or buying another house, or you know, there's always another
step that's going to be happening. Maybe it's getting a
new job or a new career, like promotion at work
at work, or you know, for me, I was really
excited about coming back and like, you know, really putting
my energy towards work again and like getting back into
the podcast, and you know, looking at starting my brand.
Like there were so many other things that I could
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put my mind and energy towards, which kind of helped.
So having that distraction of knowing that there's more things
to come that are going to be really exciting in
the next chapter and in your life, I think made
it easier to kind of get through it. And obviously
now we're a year out and I don't have the
depression anymore. But I think, honestly, everybody goes through wedding blues,
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and some people it might take them a week or two,
some people might deal with it for a month, like
it really just depends on the person. But I truly
do think that everybody goes through a little bit of
a depression, especially when you plan it for so long.
One thing that I feel like I always did was
I always tried to make our relationship a priority, but
also like being able to still have fun with my
friends and have the college experience along with, you know,
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obviously furthering my career of you know, going through schooling
and being able to get a job after college and
all that. But I did get a scholarship in high
school to go play in West Virginia Tech. So it
is a call in West Virginia, and I decided to
turn it down because there was multiple factors. I personally
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didn't want to play soccer at that high of a
level anymore. I kind of wanted to die down my
sports once I got to college, I had friends that
were also staying in Ottawa. Like one of my best friends,
she was going to Ottawa you and I don't know.
I kind of was like, you know, I would rather say,
like where my friends are, which a lot of them
were staying in Ottawa. Another one of my good friends
(31:27):
went to Carlton University and then I knew Zach was
also staying. So I don't know. I kind of like
made my decision on that. And I will be fully transparent.
I am a homebody, Like I didn't ever want to
like move to another city and I still don't to
this day. Like I really do love being near my
family and friends. So I feel like that kind of
helped our relationship a lot is knowing that neither of
(31:49):
us were moving away. But as I said, like we
both are very driven individuals, so it was nice because like,
of course, like we made our relationship our priority, but
we both like respected that we wanted to focus on
our careers and our school. And I don't know, I
just feel like nothing really, I would say, obviously things change,
but in a good way.
Speaker 2 (32:11):
I agree. I think get the nail on the head.
There was a little bit of a not even a
growing curve. But it was just you know me and
you met new friends through college. I met new friends
through work. It was just a different adaptation to our
lives and it was more about us being open with
what you know, new people, your experiences, that kind of stuff.
Speaker 1 (32:32):
I felt like I was hanging a lot with like
your new friends. You were hanging a lot with my
new friends. I think we both were always like willing
to try different things for each other, which again is
very important. You need to be able to allow each
other to like adapt into your lifestyle or into your
lives with you know, the people you care about, the
people that you want to introduce each other to. All that.
(32:54):
So I think that answers the question in terms of
like that. So yeah, another couple question is how did
you know your partner was the one? I go back
and forth all the time with my BF of three years.
Speaker 2 (33:07):
I knew answer. We're just staring at you.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
Was gonna say, I I'll go first.
Speaker 2 (33:14):
You always go first, Okay, so then you yeah, because
I'm worried I'm not gonna match your better than mine? Sorry,
what is it? How did you know they were the one?
Speaker 1 (33:23):
How did you know I was the one that.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
How did I know you were the one? Kelly? You
just one day I just looked at you from across
the kitchen and it just hit me and I just
I just knew it was gonna be you. No our
our you know. Open communication was very important for us
about wants and you know, goals in our life and
(33:49):
making sure your what you what you want the lines
of your partner. Kelly and I were both we've touched
on it. Both very work driven. You know, we both
wanted big things far as for our careers and for ourselves,
and it aligned with each other. You know. We wanted
to you know, same sized family, We wanted to live
in the same area, didn't want to move by the city. Yeah,
(34:10):
it just seemed like everything just lined up for us.
And you know, I got along well with I get
along well with her family, She gets along well with
my family. All these things just kind of worked and it,
I don't know, it was accumulation of a lot of things,
and then you know, just spending time with you, it
felt felt natural, It felt right. It felt like, Okay,
this is you know, this is what I want for
(34:32):
the rest of my life. That's kind of how I
was able to figure it out.
Speaker 1 (34:35):
Yeah, I was. My answer would be very similar to that.
I really like how we were very open and honest
since the beginning of our relationship of what we wanted
for our future, Like we both agreed that you know, oh,
we both want two kids. You know, as you said,
we both see each other like growing up here in Ottawa.
I think it's important to communicate at an early stage
in your relationship what your goals and aspirations are in life,
(34:58):
because I think if they don't line, that makes it
really difficult to be with someone that just doesn't have
the same future as you. And I think obviously that
motivates you guys to continue the relationship. But I think
for Zach, for me personally, I don't know, there's something
about his personality that just like really clicks well with me.
I think he's like my perfect He's my perfect partner
(35:22):
in crime. For sure. Zach is always there for me
in the sense where I just feel like he's always
been like the best supportive partner and I just don't
think anyone would would be able to tolerate me. No,
I just think like we just had the perfect pair.
I really don't know how to explain it, Like I
don't know what I would do without him. I truly don't.
(35:43):
Like he literally just always corrects me in the best way,
or you know, whenever I'm trying to build up a point,
like he's he knows exactly what I'm trying to say,
so he's able to build me off. Like You're just
always like that person that I just know you're gonna
be able to like be there for me and anything,
like literally in anything, like not even like when I communicate,
but just like sure, but even just like when we're
(36:05):
playing sports, like you're always there to kind of just
like okay, yeah, like do this, tweak this, You'll be good.
Like you're always trying to make me a better person,
I guess in a way. And I think that's like
really good to have that in a partner, because if
they're trying to make you better, I think that's so special.
I think they would based some of your answer. So
(36:27):
that concludes our episode for today. We kind of just
threw in a lot more wedding questions than a couple questions,
just because I feel like a lot of the questions
were more so wedding related, which I hope that kind
of got the point across for people who might be
planning a wedding, or are thinking about planning a wedding
in Italy, or just who had questions about wedding planning
in general. But I still can't believe.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
We're celebrating crazy.
Speaker 1 (36:51):
That's literally crazy. What are we doing for our one year?
We can tell them that act like, what are we
doing for our one year? We're going over dinner. I
haven't booked the restaurant.
Speaker 2 (37:05):
Yet, but I'm going to wet. It's Wednesday, and we
don't have a reservation for Friday.
Speaker 1 (37:11):
It's actually Tuesday, first off, but podcast comes out Wednesday. Yeah,
that's true, but I'll book it tomorrow when night, when.
Speaker 2 (37:19):
The when the podcast is out, we should have a
dinner reservation.
Speaker 1 (37:23):
But it's also Ottawa's. You don't need to have a
reservation bunked two.
Speaker 2 (37:27):
Weeks the day before.
Speaker 1 (37:29):
Yeah, so I actually have a few places that I
wanted to show you before, Ben, because we're gonna fall
asleep here Zach's yawning. So but anyways, Yeah, we definitely
need to book a restaurant, and then what's the big
thing we're doing.
Speaker 2 (37:40):
I can't believe you didn't think about that we are
watching our wedding video.
Speaker 1 (37:44):
Finally, Yes, and we are we watching it.
Speaker 2 (37:47):
We're gonna watch it in our brand new backyard with
the projector.
Speaker 1 (37:53):
Yes, Zach set up a projector outside in our backyard
on the fence. We have like this big actor screen
and it's foldable so you can, you know, put it
in a storage you know, or in the house. Sorry.
And then we got a smart projector where it actually
projects Netflix YouTube, I.
Speaker 2 (38:11):
Thing, yeah, Prime Video, Yeah, I can. You can download
other apps so we can watch actual TV out there. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (38:16):
It connects to Wi Fi and anyways. I'll link everything
if people are interested in it. But we're gonna watch
our wedding video one night as well this weekend, which
I think is gonna be so special because we have
not seen it. Everyone wants me to film the reaction
of us seeing it for the Yeah, we're gonna ballze.
We're literally both just gonna sit there and ball perfect.
It's gonna be awesome. It's not gonna be awesome. I
(38:37):
hate crying, but it will be. It'll be nice. So
that's kind of how we're spending our weekend, super low key.
But a few days after that we'll be heading somewhere.
We booked something. We're getting on a plane in how
many days, like eighteen days we're gonna be on a plane. Yeah,
eighteen days. We're gonna be somewhere. So stay tuned on
(38:59):
our instagram if you want to see us travel again
to a very special place that we will not say.
But anyways, I love you guys. Also much, thank you
guys for listening to another episode. If you guys are new,
definitely make sure to follow at the hawkgirl Energy Instagram page.
You can also follow the host Kaylei, which is me.
I'm on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube. But I love you guys.
Also much, thank you guys for listening to this very
(39:20):
special episode. Zach, thank you for being here. Thanks for
having me and spending your Tuesday night recording this episode
even though you're very tired from work. But yeah, we're
celebrating anniversary and yeah, excited to celebrate another hopefully sixty
years with you.
Speaker 2 (39:40):
Sixty years is that enough? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (39:42):
Eighty years.
Speaker 2 (39:43):
It will be eight nine, Yeah, it will.
Speaker 1 (39:44):
Be eighty nine, so maybe more. But I pray that
we have a long, healthy marriage. So I love you,
Love you guys, Thanks for listening,
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