Guardians of Faith: Protecting Our Kids in a Media-Saturated World (Part 2)

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Speaker 1 (00:25):
Alright, well, hello, hello, hello everyone, Hello, hello everyone, it's
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let's get right into it. So the repeat topic is

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guardians of faith protecting our kids in a media saturated world.
So this is part two, Part two of that conversation.
I encourage you guys to check out Part one in
our catalog. I'm just gonna selength the titles. Let me
just say it one more time. Guardians of Faith protecting

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our kids in a media saturated world. This is part
two and I have a returning guest. He's coming back
to the hot seat. His name is Vincent Biosa and
let me just remind you about him. So who is
Vincent Biosa? Well, let me tell you so. Vincent is

(02:35):
a passionate podcast host, author, and dedicated Christian leader committed
to sharing the Gospel and equipping believers to fulfill their
God given purpose. As a speaker and writer, he focuses
on evangelism, soul winning, and discipleship, inspiring individuals to live

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out their faith boldly and authentically. Through his platform Bid
Them Come, Vincent offers courses, personalized coaching, and a podcast
that provides a space for Christian creators, authors, speakers, and
coaches to share their core messages. His relatable style fosters

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meaningful conversations, helping others explore their identity in Christ and
grow spiritually. Vincent's mission is to empower believers to be
effective ambassadors of Christ in every area of life. Beautiful, Beautiful, beautiful,
All right, without further ado, I'm going to go ahead
and bring Vincent to the stage. Hi, Vincent, how's it

(03:41):
going good?

Speaker 2 (03:42):
How are you good?

Speaker 1 (03:44):
Good? Good good? So thank you for coming back. So
I wanted to continue our conversation from last time. We
talked about Christian morals in today's media, particularly when it
comes to children's children's content. So you brought up some

(04:08):
interesting points about how there's certain shows that you a
cherry pick for your daughters to watch because you want
them to pick up Christian morals. So could you just
remind remind our audience about your viewpoint on that.

Speaker 2 (04:27):
All right, thank you Gabrielle for having me come back
on your podcast. So, like you rightly said, you know,
I have two daughters. Now I have a baby on
the way. We do not know the sex yet. So
but basically on the first episode, we basically talked about,

(04:52):
you know, how we have to control what our children
watch nowadays, you know, or the world today is no
longer censored in the sense that if you let your children,
for example, go on YouTube and watch whatever they like

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or whatever they see, you'll be amazed that the kind
of content they will be exposed to. So I basically
hammered on, you know, for Christians, using myself as a
Christian that as an example, I would definitely sensor, you know,

(05:36):
what my children watch. I will ConTroll it consciously, you know,
I will make efforts to make sure I expose them
to the right information, the right knowledge that with the values,
the Christian values that I want to embibe in them.
And I encourage every other Christian parent and to be

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friends every parent. Encourage every parent to control what your
children watch. Because the way I say is, you do
not want social media or the internet to train your
children for you, you know, because whether you like it

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or not, we are all being brainwashed by what we
see and what we hear. So many belief systems that
we have today is as a result of the things
that we're exposed to growing up and today. You know,
So if we want our children, for example, in my case,

(06:45):
to grow up to be good Christians, I have to
consciously control what the watch to make sure it shares
the Christian values that I share and every believer should share.
So today I would like to, you know, emphasize on

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the Bible scripture Proverbs twenty two. So it's Probabs twenty two,
verse six, the popular Bible scripture that says, train up
a child on the way he should go, even when
he is old, he will not depart from it. This

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is wisdom from the Bible. And I want to read
something that I found on YouTube from this page shout
out to be like Christ the title of this YouTube page.
He says children that are raised to be wise, virtuous,

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god fearing, respectful, and righteous will carry those virtues into
their adult life. The upbringing of a child has a
huge impact on the person that the upbringing of a
child is a huge impact on the person they become

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in the future. Children are raised to love God. Children
that are raised to love God will love Him until
they have children of their own, and then they will
teach their children to love God. This verse, speaking about
prohaps twenty two, verse six, is an excellent example to

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reinforce the importance of our interpretive principle. It is generally
true that if a child is raised to be virtuous,
they will grow up into virtuous adults. It is generally true.
It occurs more than not, but it is not an

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absolute guarantee. I like this because it basically expandiates on
you know, the Proverbs verse which is what do you
want the outcome of your children to be? And that
is basically my message. Train them in that way, guide

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them in that way. You know, do you want them
to grow up to to not just grow up, but
do you want them to live in fear, to to
to be fearful basically and to see life like you know,

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one jungle where there's always chaos, there's always evil chasing
after them. Then go ahead and let them watch you know,
horror content. Go ahead and let them play some games,
you know, with villains and and you know, all manner

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of fearful characters. But do you want them to be
good additions to the society? Do you want them to
have good virtues, to be positive to the society, Then
expose them to such content. For me, I do not

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want my children to just be good additions to the society.
I want them to be good Christians. I want them
to know a lot and civil Jesus Christ for themselves,
and I want them to have this personal relationship just

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like I do. I do not want their faith to
be that's faith or Mom's faith. I want them to
have their own faith. So what do I do? I
expose them to Christian content to Bible stories. As a
matter of fact, they have a role that they live
by before they watch any form of entertainment on YouTube.

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When they have to watch when they want to watch TV,
they have to watch at least two Bible stories. You know,
whether it's very details, whether it's just plain Bible story.
They have to watch two things that have that will
teach them something about, you know, the Bible. That is

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my way of you know, giving them the right foundation
for them to leave as true believers. Gabriel, I would say,
what would what what would what would you add to

(11:58):
this in the sense or in a school, because I
know you're touching on the Brothers school. If you want,
you know, children to to be good addition to the society,
to not be liabilities to the society, what would you recommend?

Speaker 1 (12:17):
I mean, focusing on the I guess we should keep
in mind everyone everyone's morals are different. But focusing on Christianity,
because I also am a Christian, I would say, well,

(12:48):
I mean I don't I don't have kids of my own.
But in terms of like just kind of thinking about
because I teach Sunday school, so there's like every month
there's a there's a theme that we want to teach
our kids, myself and my colleagues, and we use certain

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YouTube channels and certain videos to portray that theme. So
there's a certain message that we want our kids to get,
and in order for them to get that message, we
have to well, one, we have to remember we're talking
to kids, right, So something kid friendly. You don't want

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to use like a like content that's for adults, and
you don't want to really give that to kids because one,
they may not understand it. And to when it comes
to children, they're more simple minded compared to adults, so
you want to simplify it as much as possible. So

(13:59):
definitely more complex concepts that are broken down simply with pictures, colors,
things like that. But yeah, but we want we select
certain material that helps emphasize that theme. Right. So all

(14:19):
that to say so in terms of the greater looking
at society as a whole, right, you know, we want
our kids to be good Christians, right, But then I understandably,

(14:40):
like even if you look within Christianity, some people view
have one view of Christianity as apposo another view of Christianity.
So but there's a certain way that we want our
kids to be and in order for them to be
that well, one, we have to set the example ourselves.

(15:02):
Two we want to take complex concepts like even just
talking about love right, like what is love? What is that? Right? Like?
How do you answer that? So? I mean, there's an
actual definition of love in the Bible. Is a second Corinthians.

(15:27):
I think it's one Corinthians thirteen. I believe four to seven.
But there's an actual definition of love right. So like
the way the King James version explains it can be
complicated because a lot of big words, right. But there
are other versions that explain it simply. The popular one

(15:52):
I believe it's the New International version. That one. I'm
so so on. There's another one that I like, it's
the New Life version. But all that have to say
is in order for our kids to be those good Christians,
we have to break down what it means to be

(16:13):
a Christian. What are the morals, what are the values? Right?
And how do we explain it to them in a
way that they understand because I think we keep trying
to explain it as an adult, understanding it as adult,
and we need to realize that we are not talking

(16:34):
to adults. We're talking to kids, right, So we have
to explain it in a way that kids will understand.
So setting the examples, ourselves, explaining in a way that
they understand. And especially and if we use things like YouTube,
certain television shows, we have to make sure that those

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shows or books or things that line up with those morals.
Certain music, make sure they listen to certain songs. But
and it's a long process, like it's not gonna happen overnight,
you know, this is we're talking about years of investment, right,
So you gotta start early, you gotta get them young. Right,

(17:21):
the earlier you start, the better, and you keep going
for at least ten years, fifteen years, Like it's a
long investment in shaping these kids. And especially they're going
through different developmental stages. You know, they have the the

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preteen stage and the teenagers when they start to rebel, right,
and then they look at their peers and they notice
their peers are doing one thing. But then we're teaching them, no,
don't do that, right, and so now you have to explain, well,
my friends do it, you know, why can't I do
what my friends is doing? And then you have to

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you know, and then you explain, you know, that's not
what we do as Christians. And this is what you know.
So it's you got to go through those challenges. Right.
So all that to say, it's in order for our
kids to be good Christians, we have to set the example.
We have to be mindful of the content that they're watching.

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We also have to take We also have to break
it down in a way, break down Christianity in a
way that they can comprehend. Because if we say things like, oh,
you have to, you know, be kind to strangers, well,
what does kindness mean? What does kindness look like?

Speaker 2 (18:44):
Right?

Speaker 1 (18:46):
So even things like love? What is love? What is
not love? How do you how do you explain that
to a four year old? How do you explain that
to a ten year old? Right? So it's it in
ways that they can understand, and getting on their level,
getting on their language, using certain vocabulary words that they

(19:08):
can understand, and and maintaining it. That's the biggest part
is maintaining it. It's it's not like I said, it's
not going to happen overnight. You gotta keep on it,
right And and your kids you said they're four and six, right, Yes,
so they're four and six years old. So that is
they're sorry, yeah, in five, seven and five, So that's

(19:33):
an impress that's an that's an impression impressionable age. Right,
But let's see when they turn, you know, fifteen and
seventeen and they start fighting you, right, because their adolescens, right, right,
So uh so they're in an impressionable age now and

(19:55):
and you're and you started young, which is great, But
what's going to happen when they be come adolescens?

Speaker 2 (20:01):
Right?

Speaker 1 (20:02):
What's what's gonna happen when the hormones start raging and
they start menstruating, and you know, then then this, then
there's this. Now you have to talk about boys, right,
So what's gonna happen when all those things when that
period comes? Right? How do you find God in that?
How do you maintain those morals? So all that to say,

(20:26):
I feel like I went all over the place, But
I think to be good Christians definitely setting an example,
choosing the right content, breaking down morals in a way
that they can understand, and knowing who you're talking to.
Like the same way you explain love to a four
year old, it's not gonna be the same way you
explain it to a fourteen year old. Right, who might

(20:48):
be menstruating and folk looking at all the pretty boys. Right.
So I was like, okay, you gotta explain it in
a different way, so knowing who you're talking to and
definitely and not we also we also have to be
mindful of the way that we're teaching Christianity. And unfortunately,

(21:10):
I find out a lot of parents do use it
as a as a punishment, as a scare tactic. If
you do that, you're gonna burn in hell, right, So
you're gonna burn in hell, and there's a special place
in hell for you. And that has turned away so

(21:30):
many kids from the church. And while it's good intentions,
but as the famous quote, I don't know who said it,
but the road to hell is paved with good intentions.
So it's too many kids that have been driven away
from the church because of that forceful language, that hateful language,

(21:53):
that punishment language. Right. So yeah, so there's a lot
that goes into it. But I think setting an example
is one speaking on their speaking in a way that
they can understand, to breaking it down in a way
that they can understand, and you know the same way
you break it down for a five year old. It

(22:14):
should really shouldn't be the same way you explain it
to a fifteen year old and definitely content, Right, what
are they watching? What are they reading? It's a long
time investment. So in order for our kids to be
good Christians, it is a long term investment and it's

(22:36):
not going to happen overnight. You have to be willing
to go the long haul.

Speaker 2 (22:42):
Got it? Okay? Yeah, thank you for taking your time
to break it down. You know, you touched on so
many things that I would like to talk about. Yeah,
I think that I would like to start with is
being a role model. This is I would say, the

(23:02):
most vital aspect of you know, raising kids that will
turn out great in the society. Now. You also touched on,
you know, some Christian parents using the thear tactics on
their children. You know that is obviously wrong. But I

(23:25):
have experience with, you know, being a good role model
because I've spoken to because in my life personally growing
up and now raising my children, having them questioned some

(23:45):
of the things I say or I said in the past,
like but Dad, you said this to me, why can't
I say it back to you? You know? Or Dad,
why is it okay for you to me? Why can't
I ground you? You know? So yeah, So we have

(24:06):
such conversations, and so I believe that it's important that
we are good role models and to be honest to me,
how I attempt to achieve this total reliance on God.
I say to God, God, you know this. The Bible
says that children are gifts from God, and the Bible

(24:29):
also says that the gifts of God make rich and
add no sorrow. So that's I hinge on those two scriptures.
I say, God, these children are gifts from you. I
am just a custodian. I'm not close to perfect. I'm
not close to knowing everything. And this is my first

(24:50):
time doing this. You know, I'm not experienced with this.
So help me to be a good role model, help
me to point out my mistakes where I have mistakes,
and help me to show these children your way, the

(25:11):
right way, you know. So with dad comes me making
mistakes and coming to apologize to them, to say, look,
you know, this thing I said one week ago is
totally wrong. I just discovered that, you know, this is
the right thing, so please do not do it that way.

(25:35):
A typical example is my daughter told me this week,
and I believe it was this week and my seven
year old that, you know, because we teach her how
to be nice to people, people that are being bullied,
to stand up for them and stand up for the truth.

(25:56):
And then she tells me how she chases after people
that take stuff, after kids that take stuff from other kids.
And I'm like, hmm, I, yes, I want you to
stand up for people, but I don't really want you
to chase after other kids when they take stuff from,

(26:19):
you know, other kids, because what if you fall down?
What if they hurt you? You know, I say, dad,
My protective mind just went to you know, what if
they get into more trouble just trying to help somebody else,
you know. And my daughter said, but other people do

(26:42):
it for me too, And I'm like, oh, okay, if
other people do it for you too, then I guess
you should be doing it for other people. But for me,
it was more like, you know, yes, stand up for yourself, Yes,
stand up for other kids, but don't get it. Be careful,

(27:04):
you know, don't get into trouble or don't hurt yourself
doing it especially for someone else. Of course that's me
being selfish, I will admit, because you know, if they're
chasing after someone for themselves. I'm more comfortable with that

(27:27):
than you know, just chasing after anybody that does anything
to anybody else.

Speaker 1 (27:33):
You know.

Speaker 2 (27:33):
So we have to be good role models. And then
when I'm talking to my wife, when we're arguing or something,
they remind me of the things that you know, we
taught them, Oh, that you're not being kind to mommy,
and then I have to explain to them what's going on.
I apologize where I'm wrong. They even tell me, no,

(27:55):
you have to apologize to mommy, you know. And I
get to do that because my goal is to show
them that number one, that is not perfect, that is
not the model of a good Christian, that is just
like everybody else. Jesus is the model, you know, that

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is just trying like everybody else, and that he makes
mistakes and lens from his mistakes. You know. So that's
basically what I would recommend to anybody listening to this
right now that is wondering, you know, how can I
be a good role model when I don't even have
everything figured out myself. The way to do it, if

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you ask me, it would be, you know, in your
only two ways, show them what you know and when
you have updated information, update them on the information in
the way they will understand, you know. And then another
thing you talked about that I would like to talk

(29:04):
on is breaking it down. So you said a lot
about breaking it down, and I think you know this
cartoon character cartoons basically for us Christian cartoons, they are
doing a good job with that because you know, they're

(29:25):
using graphics and animations that are colorful and that will
retain the attention of the kids. So that really goes
a long way to tell a story to this kids.
And they're using you know, the language and the context
that these kids will understand, you know, to teach them things.

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And I like what you do with your Bible you'renday
school where you get topics and then you find the
videos or the content that matches that will teach that
value and just expose the kids to it. That I
would definitely recommend that to anybody wondering how to go
about this. You know, one way that I did that

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recently that wasn't even Christian, you know, everybody can apply
this was I was trying to teach my kids how
to clean up after themselves and why why they should
clean up after themselves most importantly. So I went on
YouTube and I found Hodder's videos, so videos of people

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that hold and the clean up process, before and after
clean up process. So we watched one particular video. They
were sitting and lying on dirt. There was cans, papers,
all manner of things everywhere. You couldn't even see the floor,
you know, you couldn't see if it was style or

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rock the room, you know. So when we watched that video,
they saw the before and after. I asked them, do
you want this house to be like what we just were?
And you were like no, of course no, you know,

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and that was some sort of motivation for them to
you know, clean, and they saw what they did not
the outcome they did not want, you know, and that
motivated them to clean. And now we always they always
use the video for emphasis, like, oh this house is

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looking like you know that house, if maybe there's dead
on the ground, and things like that. So it's important
that as Christians, whether believe or not, Number one, we
set the good. We lead by example. Because there's a
saying that says do what I say, not what I do,

(32:10):
that is wrong in this context because the impact of
that can be astronomical. And I have seen it. I've
talked to people that you know, we're brought up in

(32:32):
such households. I went for evangelism one day. Evangelism, for
anybody that doesn't know, is basically where we go out
to preach the gospel of Jesus Christ to people. And
I met a Satanist. So he has a tattoo on
his arm with you know, one of the Satanic emblems

(32:55):
or whatever they call it. And when we got talking
to him, I am my partner. He said. He grew
up in a Christian home. He grew up in a
Christian home. His mom was a big official, basically had

(33:19):
a position in church. But he witnessed the hypocrisy of
his mom first hand. He said, his mom will go
to church with a coffee jog, but in that job
there was alcohol in it. So to the world, she

(33:42):
was just drinking. Now this is not to say alcohol
is bad, you know, but what he was trying to
say was that his parents at home were different from
the image they portrayed in church. You don't want to
do that. This is a major reason why so many

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children turn out to leave church when they grow up.
People Chrisy people Christy from their parents, people christy from
the church leadership. Of course, I need to emphasize that
it's not an excuse. As as believers, Jesus Christ should
be our role model. Right A pastor that is not

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living up to expectations shouldn't be our standard. Our standard
should be Jesus Christ. But I've met so many people
that you know, grew up in church and we're seemilarly
brought up in the right way, you know, the Christian way.
But because they saw hipocrisy in their parents in the

(34:52):
church leadership, they decided, oh, everybody in church is just
a Hippocrates. So you know, I will find another way.
So we don't want to continue that mistake as Christians
or whoever we are. Basically, if you want to raise,

(35:12):
you know, Christian children with good virtues, be a human
being of good virtues yourself, you know, before you start
raising them, be the example that they need to see
and and emulate. They should be able to emiliate you,

(35:37):
you know. And Okaybriel, I know you know about the
you know, it's a popular scripture proverbs to need to
and so my question for you is, I, so what
happened was I tacted on chadjuputy and said bring a

(36:00):
step by step guide on how to implement Proverbs twenty two,
verse six, and Chad Jupitery says, it's not just about character,
but it's also about discovering their potential, you know, which
is interesting to me, Like we are not just guiding

(36:23):
our children to be good Christians or have good morals
or good virtues. We are also guiding them on how
to discover their potentials. You know, this is what I
got from Chidjipiity, what do you think about this?

Speaker 1 (36:46):
I mean, it's it's a very popular verse. It's I mean,
it's it's true. It goes to what I say said
earlier about starting young right. I mean it does not

(37:08):
to say it, because it does become a challenge when
they're like teenagers, young adults, and you're never too old
to find God right, but definitely like the younger the better.
But you do bring up a good point about and

(37:29):
I love how we're getting away from like media, Christian media.
But but you know that's struck me when when you
brought up the Satanists, because it is hypocrisy and and
and and and unfortunately a lot of parents have the

(37:50):
do as I say not as I do mentality, which
is complete bonkers because it takes away the responsibility from
the parents, and it's it's it gives them an excuse
to do whatever they want to do. Oh, they'll just
do what I say, but oh, I'm going to go

(38:13):
to church completely wasted every single day, right, And it
takes away the responsibility from them. And unfortunately it's not
that I've seen it a lot in my own church,
but I've seen other other issues. But I think it

(38:37):
goes back to how do you train a child, right,
and the different ways of training. There's the actual like
verbal instruction, right, but then another type of training is modeling. Right.
So if you want your child to be a certain way,

(38:57):
you have to be that way yourself, okay, And if
you are not that way yourself, then they're not gonna
end up that way unless I would say, unless there's
an outside intervention, like I've no you know, I know
other kids who had horrible parents, but they turned out

(39:20):
to be good Christians, right, because but there was outside intervention, right,
So you know, a third party had to step in,
so I think, and then they end up following that
third party. Right. So modeling is a way to train
our kids. So one there's the verbal instruction, but then

(39:43):
there's also modeling. You have to set the example. But
I think it, like I was saying before, like a
lot of kids do get turned away from the A
lot turned away from church, leave the church, they get

(40:03):
disconnected from it because it doesn't address them directly, or
maybe there's no youth programs in the church, or no
Sunday school in the church, or the church is very
it keeps attacking them, right, it could be the hypocrisy

(40:24):
that you're talking about, Like even if you think about
that a little bit. So we have a Satanist, right,
this purse this man chose, and then that's that's a
big message in itself that he completely forsakes or religion

(40:45):
right and went straight for Satanism. You know, he could
have you know, he could have went to Islam, he
could have went to Judaism, but he completely gave up
on it all because of this one role model. And
it was just like, I'm gonna just cut God out

(41:06):
completely because you're saying one, thank God, but my mom
is doing something completely different. I don't I'm not seeing it.
And then who know, I mean, and that's only one
part like who knows what else the mom did to him,
especially when it comes to alcoholism, right, because that comes

(41:29):
with other issues and that could be child abuse, neglect,
things like that, so that could be a whole myriad
of issues. But for someone to turn to Satanism, not
even atheism, which is just I just don't believe in anything, right,
But the fact that you chose Satanism, that is huge

(41:53):
and that is a huge hatred for God and what
is that saying about? And for that man to come
up to you guys and say, well, I follow sick.
I grew up in the church. This is what I saw.

(42:15):
That's that's that's a big, big that's a huge glaring
alarm right there. And and just for that, okay, but
I started in the church and this is what I
saw and this is where I am now. Like that's
a huge red alarm, right, So just kind of thinking

(42:38):
about that. Training your child's in the way you want
them to go. Yeah, you want them to end up
a certain way, but are you living that way yourself?
And if you're not, chances are they won't end up
where you want them to go. So it is proper

(42:59):
role model. And again and you want to just be
mindful of kids are, especially when they're young, maybe like
under twelve, I would say, under eight, there's sponges, right,
that's an impressionable age. They take in whatever's around them, right.

(43:22):
And then especially between like nine and thirteen, when you
have puberty, when you have hormones, when you start going
through body changes, right, Like, that's also a vulnerable time
and there has to be support during that time. So
I think it is very complicated. But all that to say,

(43:47):
if we want kids to be a certain way, we
have to model it ourselves. And that's one way of training.
There's multiple types of training, right, but one of the
those ways is modeling, and I feel that parents need
to keep that in the front of their mind, not

(44:08):
even the back of their mind, in the front of
their mind. Like, am I setting the example? Right? And
I believe it's in the Bible as well. I wish
I knew the quote but something like but I don't
know versus off the top of my head, off the
top of my head like that, But I believe it's

(44:29):
also in the Bible about setting an example as well. Yeah, yeah,
so I have you have a verse, you have a scripture,
all right.

Speaker 2 (44:40):
So it's first Peter five, verse three. The second part
say is but being examples of the flock, this is
the NIV version, basically setting a good example for you.

Speaker 1 (44:57):
It's right, right, So I think, so I and I
love that you. I mean that the person that's the
satan has came up to you. But I and I
also I think that it's good that he came up

(45:20):
to you, right because you you understood why he ended
up the way he is. Right, So that might be
I guess, within within reason. It's a good way for
kids to be exposed to people like that, so they

(45:41):
can see, oh, this is how you know he thinks
that way because of this right. So, so being exposed
to different types of ways of thinking, I think, so
you know, you know, so that we're not that they're

(46:03):
not living in such a bubble that Okay, there's different
types of thinking about this certain thing. So there's more
than one viewpoint on this certain thing. So I want
you guys to be aware that many people believe there's
many different opinions about this one thing, but this is
the opinion that we follow. So being aware of the

(46:23):
differences that are out there. But yeah, I think definitely
setting an example, for sure is a big one. And
and putting in putting in the work, and parents have
to put in the work, but then also not putting

(46:45):
it too much work, right, because then you have putting
in the work that's one end of the spectrum, and
then you have the other end of the spectrum, which
is being completely overbearing. And uh, you know, locking them
in a closet, you're not going anywhere, You're gonna sen
to gospel music twenty four to seven, you know, so
you don't want them to turn away from God? Right,

(47:06):
And that goes back to my earlier point about some
parents using the Bible as as a tool of punishment,
as a fear tactic, as a way to control. So
all that's to say, it's so then that makes me
think now like, okay, if you want your kids to

(47:30):
be a certain way, but then what way do you
want it? You know, so how do you want to
raise your kids? And so that opens even a bigger conversation.
So now I'm like, okay, how do you? So I
guess the real question should be how does God want
me to raise my kids? Not how should I do it?

(47:51):
But how do you God want me to do it?
Because I'm concerned that how you want to raise your
kids may not be the right way. So so I
would now, in thinking about it, I would rephrase it
to how does God want me to raise my kids
and take it out of human hands and put it

(48:12):
in a God's hands.

Speaker 2 (48:14):
Yeah. Absolutely, And of course the Bible makes provision for that.
You know, a scripture that comes to mind is if
the foundation be destroyed, what would the righteous do? And
then the Proverbs twenty two vers. Sic. Scripture that clearly
says train up a child in the way he should
go when he's olding or not depart from it. So basically,

(48:39):
my understanding of the scripture says God wants us to
train up our children in his way according to the Bible,
you know, in the Christian way, to follow him and
for us to be able to achieve this correctly. My
understanding again is that we must set the right foundation.

(49:04):
And with right foundation, it still brings us back to
what do they listen to? What do they watch? And
for me for my children, you know, how I set
the right foundation is, for example, life in general. The

(49:32):
understanding of life in general is based on the Bible,
based on Bible principles, and I will give an example.
You touched on love for example, and with my children

(49:54):
when we talk about love for now, you know, the
quite young, so they do not know love in a
sexual sense. They know love in the sense of God
loved us so much that he sent Jesus to die
for us, you know, and this is the ultimate love.

(50:18):
The Bible actually also says that God is love, you know,
So we can interchange the definition of God with the
inter with the definition of love. So it's it is
important for Christian parents to have a solid Christian foundation
for their kids before they get exposed to, you know,

(50:43):
the world view, because like you say, you talk about
caging them, there is an extreme of caging them. But
for me, I do not see what we do in
my household as caging them. Yes, we only listen to
Christian music because guess what, what's the alternative? What's the alternative?

(51:04):
Growing up? I like rap music? Do you want my
seven year old to listen to rap music? You know
where they're killing and shooting and calling women terrible names,
and you know, talking about drugs and giving step by
step guide on how to mix drugs to be strong.

(51:30):
You know what I do instead is we only listen
to Christian radio in the car, That's what because I
want them to have that as a foundation. Now, when
they go to school, are they are exposed to other
forms of music, of course they are. But they come
back and they say, we listen to this song and

(51:55):
they were saying bad stuff, or this child was saying
bad stuff. How do they know that it is bad?
Because their foundation is good. We are training them in
the way the Bible says we should. They're exposed to,

(52:20):
you know, the good foundation, according to the Bible, so
they are able to differentiate bad from good. We cannot
shield them from experiencing the world, but we can teach
them to know the difference, and we can teach them
to choose the right way, because the Bible says, you know,

(52:43):
we're exposed to good and bad, but we should choose good.
So that's basically how I like to structure it. Yes,
you'll be exposed to bad, but you're already know good.

(53:03):
Unlike when they're exposed to both at the same time
and it's now left on them to choose, you know,
which path to follow. No, I expose them to the
good first, and then when they're exposed to the bad,
they're able to tell the difference, and they come and

(53:24):
tell me, hey, I'm for example, Halloween, we don't celebrate
Halloween because personally, I don't see the point to celebrating Halloween,
and I don't see the need for all the scary
characters and you know, things like that. So they come
and they say, you know, people in school today were

(53:49):
just wearing scary costumes and the rest of them. But
we just told them, no, we don't celebrate Halloween, you know.
And they know why they do not celebrate. And if
you ask them, they will say because it doesn't make
sense towards you know, all of this devilish and scary characters.

(54:12):
We are Christians. We are light and help her, and
Halloween looks more like darkness, you know. So it's important
to me to explain it to them that way because
they also get to explain it to other children in school,

(54:32):
you know. So I would definitely encourage anybody listening to
this to build the solid foundation. Solid foundation number one
built on prayer, total dependence on God. We need to

(54:55):
ask God for help because we can't do this in
our own flesh or in our own strength. We need
to ask God for help. You know, ask God to
guide you, Ask God to teach you, even while he's
teaching the children that He has given to you, which

(55:17):
I experience a lot because of the questions that they asks.
I get to go research some of the questions. Sometimes
I say, Daddy will not be able to give you
an answer right now because I do not know, but
let me find the answer. And then he makes me
go study and you know, give them the answer, because

(55:41):
the truth is, I do not want to give them
a vague answer that will either confuse them or not
make sense to them, and then they're exposed to something
else that might not be true, what makes more sense
or is clara and they just adopt that.

Speaker 1 (56:03):
You know.

Speaker 2 (56:05):
Again, I want two hundred percent believe what the Bible says,
which is train up your child in the way he
should go when he's old, he will not depart from it.
I want to believe that if we are good role
models to our children, good Christian role models to our children,
and if we guide them in the way of God,

(56:28):
then you know, expose them to developing a personal relationship
with God. I want to believe the scripture one hundred
percent that they will not depart from it. You know,
that is my faith for my children, regardless of what
stage of life there, and that God will continue to

(56:51):
keep them in his vineyard and you know, continue to
that they will continue to seek Him. You know. I
also tell them, I tell them, I pray out loud
when I praying with them, that we will know God
more for ourselves, you know, because it's important that we
know God for ourselves, not just you know, from somebody else.

(57:15):
So I I say that to them, and I pray
that to them and to God that you know, they
develop a better, a close personal relationship with God. So
again we need to depend on God to help us

(57:35):
with this. The way we can play our own role
is be good examples, call out our mistakes, call out
our errors, be truthful. For example, you can't tell children
not to tell lives when they catch you telling lies,
you know. And in my household, we know, there's nothing

(57:56):
like joking lily telling lies. There's nothing like a little
all lie. You know. It's either the truth or a lie,
you know, So we don't jokingly tell a lie. We don't.
We don't tell little lies, you know. We just say
the truth, no matter the consequences. As God continues to

(58:19):
help us, all right, So yeah, depend on God to
help you be a good role model and then guide them,
guide them and what they watch, what they're exposed to,
what they listen to, the kind of friends they play with.

(58:40):
You may not be able to control that in school,
but you know, outside of school, and then knowing your
kids is very important. It's important that we know our kids.
For example, I have individual conversations with my kids where
I let them just empty themselves every day. And I

(59:03):
don't do it every day. I'm not able to meet
up to doing it every day. I wish I could.
But the days that I'm able to, they just tell
me what happened in school, you know, their experience, their
conversations and things like that. And sometimes I get to say, oh,
that child uses court words. You know. We shouldn't be

(59:24):
playing with kids that use course words, or you know,
we shouldn't be playing with kids that do not listen
to the teacher, you know, And that is my way
of guiding them in their immediate environment, you know, of
basically guiding them even though I'm not there physically, but

(59:49):
being able to guide them because we all know how
much impact. You know, a child hanging around evil company
can can be you know, it can it can be disastrous,
you know. So it's important as for me as a Christian,

(01:00:12):
dare to say, be the light that illuminates darkness around you.
So instead of being influenced to do things that are wrong,
teach them the right thing. And one way I illustrate
this to them is I use their toys. I would say, okay,

(01:00:35):
so this is you, and these are two of your friends,
and this is a new kid that came to school,
and their shoes are tone, for example, one illustration that
I remember using. And their shoes are tone, and your
two friends are mocking the new kids, saying, oh, you're
not cool, your shoes are tone. You know, what do

(01:00:58):
you do? As told friend, you know, what you should
do is tell them this is not the right thing
to do and run away from them, because the Bible
says we should flee from every evil appearance. I explain

(01:01:21):
to them that if you stay there long enough, you'll
catch yourself doing exactly what they're doing, even though you
knew it was wrong, you know, So tell them, hey,
you cannot be doing this. This is wrong. You're being
made to this person, and run away from them. Don't
even walk away, like run away from them, you know,

(01:01:45):
in practical terms. So basically, my goal for my kids
is for them to be the light everywhere the good.
I eliminated darkness around them, you know, instead of waiting
to to absorb what the environment gives to them. Let
them be that light when they come into class, everybody knows, Hey,

(01:02:09):
no cost words, so hey, you know, not no being
meant to each other, this person is here.

Speaker 1 (01:02:16):
You know.

Speaker 2 (01:02:16):
That's my goal, and that's what I believe the Bible
wants us to do. You know, the Bible talks about
being the light, you know, the light of the world
and the soul of the earth. All right, so that's
basically it.

Speaker 1 (01:02:40):
All right, all right, and I'll I'll just you put that.
Thank you so much for that. But I'll just end
on this last note. But in terms of training up
your child, I would also encourage again just being mindful

(01:03:07):
that these are kids and not using adult expectations for kids.
So the idea of oh, you know, why can't you
figure it out? You should just know what to do already.
It's like they're kids. They're learning, they you know, they're
picking up from their peers. So I would also advise

(01:03:33):
parents to be aware that kids are kids. So they're
going to challenge, they're going to push back, they're going
to ask questions, you know, and especially when they're around
their peers and they go to a like a public

(01:03:54):
school a private school setting, they're going to depend on
the type of school, they're going to be exposed to
different spirits and they're in different opinions and different even

(01:04:15):
different clothing styles, right, so they're going to be exposed
to all different types of things. And and you pointed
out something good with the music, like, yes, we heard
different music, but we knew the bad words, right, So
they they were Your daughters are able to tell the

(01:04:35):
difference between good and bad, right, so they have that
strong foundation. So I would say, just just be mindful
that kids are going to be kids, and not to
excuse things, you know, but just they're going to challenge,

(01:04:57):
they're going to push back and said, you know, this
is how, this is why explain it to them, this
is why we do it right. This is yeah, your
friends are dressing a certain way, but we don't dress
that way. And here is why. As opposed to because
I said so, no, they're gonna be like, you know,

(01:05:17):
so they're not gonna especially these kids today, they're not
gonna follow that. Uh So you need to explain to
them what you see one thing and we do the
opposite thing. And here's why. So just to emphasize again
about modeling, setting the example, but also putting it to

(01:05:40):
God to steer them in the right direction. And they
really should have their own connection to God. And that
I believe, and that's what I usually pray for in
my Sunday school sessions is you know, I want these
it's different bunch of kids coming together, and you know,
I want them to find their own connection to God

(01:06:02):
as opposed to what someone else is putting on them.
I mean, let's be honest. You know, it's weird we're
dragging the kids to church, right, It's not like they
have a choice, but it's still okay, how do you
find your own connection to God? And I like what
you said about their own connection, not the mom's connection,

(01:06:22):
not your dad's connection, but your own. So finding your
own connection to God definitely, So I would say taking
it out of human hands, putting it in God's hands.
But modeling is a big one for sure, because God
is using you as a vessel. So being a model,

(01:06:43):
being mindful of what they're watching, right, because kids are sponges, right,
they conform, so they're gonna replicate what they see on TV.
They're gonna replicate what their friends are doing, right, So
being mindful of what the friends are doing, maybe keeping
an eye on those friends, right, you know, who are

(01:07:04):
their friends? What shows are they watching? Right, and controlling
what they watch? And I don't want to say controlling
monitoring what they watch and monitoring their friends. So they
have so they don't so when they're sucking up from
what's around them, they're sucking up the right moral So

(01:07:24):
and of course it's a long term investment. You're doing
it for until they're eighteen, right, or even beyond that.
I would keep going, right, maybe till thirty, until they're thirty,
you know, but it's a it's a lifetime investment and
you have to be willing to do that. So all right,

(01:07:45):
so I will, and there, thank you again for coming
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(01:08:50):
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Speaker 2 (01:08:54):
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Speaker 1 (01:11:01):
All right, beautiful, beautiful, I have to connect, okay, all right,
all right, beautiful, So thank you so much for that.
All right, so you also have us your books or
you gotta go. Okay, that's fine. So I'll just all
finish the rest of your your promo. But thank you

(01:11:22):
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(01:12:08):
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