Does Size Matter?

They say size isn’t everything... but they also say “go big or go home.” So which is it?! In this episode, the Hot Topix Podcast team and guests take on one of humanity’s most awkwardly whispered yet endlessly debated questions: Does size really matter? From bedroom myths to big egos, tiny cars to oversized burritos, we explore whether bigger is better, smaller is smarter, or if we’ve all just been watching too many movies. No tape measures were harmed in the making of this episode—but our dignity? Questionable.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
You're listening to the Hot Topics podcast Cycle forty one,
Lovely Lady, Lamb Shop and the Fabulous Blonnious. Let's get
into it. Welcome everybody to another episode of Hot Topics Podcasts.
I'm Cycle forty eighty one and I'm here with Lamb Chop,

(00:22):
Lamb Chop and Felonious Feather. Couldn't be here today. She
was party hearty and so she's worn out.

Speaker 2 (00:28):
I keep telling you stop putting up business out.

Speaker 1 (00:31):
That's why she That's why she's uh, felonious. She's a
she's a she's a party animal, the Fabulous Felonious Feather, Party, party.

Speaker 2 (00:39):
Party, Good for her, good for her, good for her.

Speaker 1 (00:41):
So today's topic we're gonna talk about does size matter? Okay, right, okay,
nothing nothing big. We're gonna be talking about sizes as
and according to the cats fippy lines, right hm okay.

Speaker 2 (00:57):
So I wish y'all could see me because I'm just
given him the face. He is getting a stink face.

Speaker 1 (01:04):
Well, we do have guests today.

Speaker 3 (01:05):
We have.

Speaker 1 (01:07):
Penelope. I know it's gonna mess that up. Penelope, plant
killer high Penelope.

Speaker 4 (01:17):
Welcome back, Hey y'all, how's everybody doing.

Speaker 5 (01:21):
And you know what, I am killing plants for real
right now?

Speaker 1 (01:25):
Say for god, it's a hot day's I hope you
guys are keeping cool. We have Paula, who was showed
up at the last episode of Kinks Perversions and Fatsis.

Speaker 2 (01:45):
I was gonna mess what see see, that's what you get,
that's what you get.

Speaker 1 (01:50):
We have also Karen, Elisha and Felix. So all you
guys are from Jersey and in Phoenix, I mean Florida. Yes, okay,
so y'all super hot?

Speaker 6 (02:04):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (02:05):
Yeah, alright, listen, if you're on this coast, you hot
po is?

Speaker 1 (02:09):
It does it extend the whole the whole coast? Oh wow?

Speaker 7 (02:13):
But we were all in Georgia.

Speaker 1 (02:14):
Now, oh that's just as hot.

Speaker 7 (02:17):
Yeah, oh yeah, yeah, I believe it.

Speaker 1 (02:20):
I've never been to Georgia. Never been to Georgia. Put
it on the list.

Speaker 2 (02:26):
Are you trying to come to Fie Dad?

Speaker 1 (02:28):
Where are you at? Atlanta? I had an opportunity a
few times, but I just didn't take it for somebody reason.
But yeah, I do want to go to Georgia. I
got some friends down there, and you know I heard,
I heard they got this famous place called Magic City
that you're not going to.

Speaker 2 (02:46):
No, we're not. What do you think I'm a Radish
like them as a box of rocks?

Speaker 1 (02:54):
What is the church? Mm hmm, Elicia, isn't the Magic
City a true.

Speaker 5 (03:01):
It's a strip club I've been.

Speaker 2 (03:03):
I don't know why he thinks I'm stupid. I really
don't know why.

Speaker 5 (03:07):
One thing I've learned is that the strip clubs't the best.

Speaker 1 (03:10):
Wings really seeing the uh huh.

Speaker 8 (03:14):
Okay, let's they do. They have the best wings, the
best wings.

Speaker 1 (03:17):
Actually, I had to stay out of strip clubs. I'm
too cheap to go to strip clubs. They get mad
at me.

Speaker 2 (03:24):
I believe that they.

Speaker 1 (03:28):
Like why you can just.

Speaker 8 (03:31):
You can give them a dollar extra change stop stop.

Speaker 1 (03:36):
Stop number twenty something my dollar drinks. Yeah, that's kind
of yeah, that's crazy. All right?

Speaker 2 (03:41):
So what going happy hour?

Speaker 1 (03:44):
They have happy hour the strip club? So why not?

Speaker 2 (03:48):
Why not any way to get you in.

Speaker 1 (03:51):
There every day to see naked women. I can see
him right here on Tricker Street. All right, what's the
what's the first thing that comes to your mind when
you hear the phrase the size matter?

Speaker 6 (04:06):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (04:07):
Well, because the topic is why when we say the
size matter, we're going to talk about a lot of
different things. But what's the first thing that comes to
your mind?

Speaker 2 (04:21):
Penis?

Speaker 1 (04:21):
Penis? Okay, so most would you say that for for
you guys. Most of you guys are lady, so is
a penis?

Speaker 2 (04:29):
Most of you guys, who is not a lady? In
a rotation?

Speaker 1 (04:32):
We have a felix here?

Speaker 2 (04:33):
Oh okay, I'm sorry feeling felix.

Speaker 1 (04:35):
I could have swore you from Louisiana when I heard
your voice last time, but I heard you was from Florida.

Speaker 2 (04:40):
So yeah, I was trying to put a putt. Yeah,
I was trying to figure that out.

Speaker 1 (04:46):
So all right, so the women that Florida born.

Speaker 9 (04:49):
And raised, border raised South Florida for a lot of folks,
I died.

Speaker 1 (04:54):
Okay, okay, so we're not gonna talk about just penis. Okay,
So get your minds out of the gutter.

Speaker 2 (05:04):
Don't be acting like that's not the first thing that
most people think about when they hear it.

Speaker 1 (05:08):
The size matter, I was thinking about candy bars.

Speaker 10 (05:11):
Whatever, your wallet, because that's what I'm thinking.

Speaker 1 (05:19):
So actually, I did a pole for people that was
from all over the world. Might say all over the world,
I mean all over the world. And the pole actually
revealed when the size matter. For most of them, it
wasn't the size of your sex part. I think it
was a couple of people for that, But they were
actually talking about the size of your wallet, which I

(05:44):
thought was, you know, pretty funny. So let's say the
biggest one was your bank account. That's when size matters,
and food portions, size matter, your mate's body, not the
sex part, but the body matters, and the your home

(06:05):
was actually, you know, the least. So one of the
ladies said that, you know.

Speaker 2 (06:09):
So did you break it down with those categories?

Speaker 1 (06:12):
Okay, two people said others, So it's kind of but
by far and large it was bank account.

Speaker 2 (06:18):
Gotcha.

Speaker 1 (06:19):
But okay, so we're going to talk about all the
different things. We're talking about relationship into intimacy, We're going
to talk about psychological and the sociological angle, scientific medical
light and comedic angle. And then we're going to reverse
the questions. Okay, so why do you think the topic
gets such a strong reaction in this type of conversation.

(06:41):
Let's hear from Karen. Karen, you skipped out on this
last time. You only dropped a couple of words we want,
we weren't here from you?

Speaker 7 (06:45):
Dan all about the bank account. So, yeah, does size matter?

Speaker 1 (06:57):
Are you one hundred there like me?

Speaker 6 (07:00):
So?

Speaker 10 (07:01):
Yeah, you you might be broken, but you broke because
I take it.

Speaker 6 (07:07):
I'm broke.

Speaker 10 (07:10):
But no, I guess size matters to get a lot
of attention because you said we actually thought size matter
when you was talking about penis size.

Speaker 1 (07:20):
So okay, okay, So and we're going to get to that.
So or in the in the context of penis size,
is that when I mean outside of that, outside that
when people say the size matter, are they talking really
actual physical size or are you talking about.

Speaker 2 (07:38):
Metaphor like are you talking about penis?

Speaker 1 (07:41):
No? In any other Yeah, if I would walk up
to you on the street and say, hey, hey, miss
Filipino lady, the size matter, I already.

Speaker 2 (07:49):
Told you what I was going to say immediately, and
I would say yes.

Speaker 1 (07:55):
Okay, I would say yes, okay, So now we're gonna
talk about the penis. Okay, since that seemed like all
y'all want to talk about is penis.

Speaker 2 (08:04):
That's not not at all. Most of them said bank account.

Speaker 1 (08:07):
So no, only Karen said bank account. I was trying,
y'all right, So, ladies in a romantic or sexual situation
or you know, relationship. How much the size truly matter
when it comes to satisfaction.

Speaker 11 (08:24):
I don't want nothing over the tip, not over the time,
trying to you know, like take everything out of me
and all of that.

Speaker 5 (08:32):
That that's too much, too much.

Speaker 1 (08:33):
So you want to let's say medium.

Speaker 5 (08:36):
Yeah, medium, the average, whatever average is, and.

Speaker 1 (08:39):
We're gonna, we're gonna, we're gonna talk about that. So
I'm gonna six inches, that's average.

Speaker 5 (08:46):
Yeah, that's the scientific fact that is correct.

Speaker 1 (08:49):
Look at her.

Speaker 11 (08:51):
To give me them six and six and under, not
under four though, nothing under four.

Speaker 1 (08:55):
But so you know, it's funny you mentioned that, because
you know, I did a unofficial poll based on that,
and there was a few people women obviously, that said
not necessarily, Well, why ain't asking them? So there's a
few people that said they wanted something like larger, like
the eight nine or whatever, and but the vast majority

(09:19):
said six to five. Oh some means six to four.

Speaker 4 (09:25):
The vaginal cavity is only four inches, So that's from
the of the service, I mean, the opening of the
vagina to the service. It's only about four inches four
and a half, possibly.

Speaker 6 (09:41):
More.

Speaker 4 (09:42):
They are insane, that's why.

Speaker 7 (09:47):
That's just something they're saying.

Speaker 6 (09:49):
I'm gonna tell you it's not like that.

Speaker 1 (09:52):
You right, I'm gonna tell you, Like, so I looked
at it scientifically, right, so you know, you know when
you're in a certain positions, right, you certain positions you got,
like Elisha said, you only got four inches to work with.
That's that's going from top to bottom. But you got
stuff that actually, you know, gives you that extra space.

(10:14):
You got that cushion that you got to go through.
So you if you have somebody with you know, a
nice sized backside, that might take about three inches away
from you, you know, or you might be in.

Speaker 4 (10:25):
Certain it is only the is about an inch and
a half inside inside, It's not even.

Speaker 2 (10:32):
That that far.

Speaker 6 (10:34):
So I think that.

Speaker 1 (10:40):
And some of them said that. Some of them said
they like the pain.

Speaker 2 (10:42):
Okay, no, I want my body parts to be where
they were before when we started originally.

Speaker 1 (10:49):
Rearrange it.

Speaker 8 (10:49):
No, no, not, I'll take the talent down.

Speaker 1 (11:07):
So but so with the numbers that Elisha gave, and
she is one or percent correct because I researched that too.
Does does size truly impact your actual satisfaction? Like can
you have somebody who's under four or above six and
actually be satisfied as.

Speaker 4 (11:26):
Long as I'm comfortable. Yes, Now, underfore it is crazy.
You might as well be a lesbian at that point.
You might as well being with somebody.

Speaker 5 (11:40):
I agree, Alisha.

Speaker 3 (11:45):
Walked in there.

Speaker 1 (11:46):
That about anything, by the way, that's gonna be on
the hot takes.

Speaker 2 (11:56):
Absolutely gonna be on a hot take.

Speaker 1 (11:58):
Yeah, that's all right. So now now we have two
two men here. Do men and women view size differently
when it comes to attraction? We're talking about physical attraction
as well. I'm not understanding, all right, So yeah, two men,
men and women? Do we see things differently when it

(12:19):
comes to size as far as size of your sex
organ size of the whole body? Yeah you think?

Speaker 2 (12:25):
I think men and women see things differently period.

Speaker 1 (12:28):
Well yeah, but you all right, So let me give
you an example. Is it more likely that a man
will want a bigger woman or a woman were like
a bigger man?

Speaker 2 (12:41):
I guess I think it's your pence.

Speaker 1 (12:45):
It's always going to be.

Speaker 5 (12:46):
People are some people are chay.

Speaker 1 (12:48):
Chasers, So like you're both men and women.

Speaker 10 (12:52):
Yeah, And I can say my man liked me when
I was smaller, and he still loved me when I'm bigger.

Speaker 6 (13:01):
Okay, yeah, I like that mold now, yeah, that's.

Speaker 4 (13:05):
Something that that's something that that that links back to
the fetishers and kings, because like some people like that,
like what you.

Speaker 9 (13:14):
Like, I had a I had a friend. I had
a friend. If you wasn't four or five hundred pounds,
you wasn't here, you wouldn't you know, he wasn't a tragedy. Okay,
I'm talking like four five hundred pounds like two people
three yeah, you know. And he was like, man, yeah

(13:37):
she my old lady. And I was like, he.

Speaker 6 (13:43):
Was like, you know, yeah, I I don't like the blood,
did it. I was like, what.

Speaker 9 (13:49):
I know, that's the big Yeah, I'm looking at the
damn news right.

Speaker 6 (14:00):
It was. You know. It was like, man, anything under
three hundred is too small.

Speaker 1 (14:06):
For well, I know a couple of guys. I know
a couple of guys like that. And maybe a family
member or too, you know, like the same thing. You
know my family member, did you know, Like I'm not
putting them out there.

Speaker 8 (14:22):
Won't tell me I'm your family, my family member.

Speaker 6 (14:24):
Tell you we all family, We all family, my family member.

Speaker 1 (14:29):
I have a I have a brother that kind of
likes him on the thicker side. Oh yeah, yeah, so so.
Felonious actually got into a back and forth with Dmitri
about about sizes, and we actually got to the punk
where we was bringing up pictures and she was like,

(14:50):
what do you consider that? What do you consider that?
What do you consider that? He was like, you know
her her night, you're an accent, Dmitri, that's not thick.
That's fact. I saw the girls that came over here
for you.

Speaker 2 (15:05):
Oh my gosh, okay, listen, we are not here to
shame anybody.

Speaker 1 (15:10):
That's what you like, yes, Like, so what do you
think influences that, like the desirability like for sizes? Is
it media porn? Maybe? I think I think porn does
a lot influence how people what they think is desirable.

Speaker 6 (15:31):
M really not one.

Speaker 10 (15:34):
What people find desirable again, like with fetishes or anything,
is like what you like, that's your preference.

Speaker 7 (15:42):
Some people like big, some people like small.

Speaker 5 (15:44):
And between say, anybody's lens isn't the same.

Speaker 9 (15:48):
Everybody out of your eyes may not be someone else
their eyes, like out of a different lens.

Speaker 7 (15:54):
Right, Like she was saying about like you said about Demetrios,
he didn't think it was fat, but right, right, she
thought that that was that, Like.

Speaker 6 (16:05):
So.

Speaker 1 (16:09):
It's all in your preference, okay, So all right, let's
take the media for example. Right, So in the media,
they always portray you know, when it comes to TV shows, movies,
they always have to have this little skinny such and such.
I think, I think it is awesome. But do you
think you think that has to do with how people

(16:29):
perceive that, like because it's on TV or you see
it in movies or whatever.

Speaker 6 (16:34):
That white media, white white people do.

Speaker 1 (16:36):
Yeah, yeah, for sure.

Speaker 6 (16:37):
A lot, a lot of a lot of.

Speaker 9 (16:39):
My sisters they don't give a band Listen, they don't
give it, damn, but that they want to be you know,
they want to be thick. And I don't mean thick
like chubby chubby or something like that, but no, I
mean they want to.

Speaker 6 (16:52):
Have something because they know the average brother, they want.

Speaker 9 (16:54):
To have something to hold on to when exactly down
the street, whether he walking down the street or he's
looking at it in the bed.

Speaker 6 (17:01):
I know me myself, I don't want a bag of bone, I.

Speaker 1 (17:04):
Think, yeah, I think generally like black men want the thicker, right,
you know, nobody wants a real tiny you know, somebody
break or.

Speaker 2 (17:12):
Something and I think that you get your like at
least for me, I got my role models from the
women in my house or the women in my community. Like,
I wasn't looking at TV or media to see how
to dress or how to I mean, we all get
into our own fashion thing. I wasn't really out there
looking at TV or movies to say this is how
I'm supposed to look.

Speaker 11 (17:33):
Right, Okay, I feel like for me, unfortunately, the size
for me matter. When I when I heard your topic,
the first place my mind went was my physical size, okay, right,
And the first thing I thought about, bless her heart,
was my aunt Nancy. My husband can tell you all

(17:54):
this is a true story. Went to the family reunion.
I was always like that chunky kid, and in high
school was kind of chunky, and then somewhere I was
kind of thin, and then I ended up being chunky,
and then I just ended up being overweight.

Speaker 5 (18:09):
Right, So we go down to the family union.

Speaker 11 (18:12):
I hadn't seen her in one hundred years, and she's
literally about one hundred right.

Speaker 5 (18:17):
So she sees me and she says, you look just
like your aunt Alice. Don't gain no more weight.

Speaker 2 (18:25):
Almost died, you.

Speaker 8 (18:28):
Know what I mean?

Speaker 11 (18:28):
Like that took the life clean out of me, and
it took me back to my childhood where weight was
a thing for all of them, and it did make me.

Speaker 5 (18:39):
Feel very It put a lot on me as far
as my body and my image.

Speaker 11 (18:48):
So a lot of times when I got with men,
especially being on the chunkier side, I just never was
really comfortable because it was already planted in my head
that being overweight wasn't beautiful because you know, all of
them on that side of the family, they narrow, you know,
they you know they need to eat some steaks and

(19:10):
lay down.

Speaker 2 (19:12):
You know, it's the reverse. Like I've always been a
thinner person in my family, and everybody will be like, girl,
when you're gonna gain someweight Girl, when you gonna gain
some weight, you're too skinny. Gain some weight. So menopause
hit and I'm twenty pounds heavier, and now they're just like, girl,
you don't put on some weight, and I'm like, really
like And then at some point you figure out that

(19:33):
you can't satisfy everybody no matter what you did.

Speaker 1 (19:35):
You know, what's interesting is when you look at size
throughout time, if you look at some of the things
back into the old European like you talking about Renaissance period.
You know, you look at all the pictures, I mean,
the paintings, the statues. Women were thick, right, right, that's
the bigger you was was the model of beauty, right.
And then somewhere along the line it went to you know,

(19:58):
a couple of pounds bigger than the skeleton, right heroin.

Speaker 9 (20:03):
But I can tell you this if you look, if
you go back into history also and you look at
the continent average, a lot of the kings, they had women,
a lot of women.

Speaker 6 (20:13):
They were big guys. Yes, that was considered like being wealthy.
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (20:19):
There's actually a tribe in the one of the Eastern
African I think it's Uganda, where the the standard of
beauty for as far as a man is how big
your belly is.

Speaker 9 (20:30):
So yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean it's just our society
at the Western world.

Speaker 6 (20:40):
Excuse me.

Speaker 9 (20:41):
They want to they want to label you know, Okay,
I gave you, for instance, the average black man when
you go to the doctor, I'm six one, probably one
ninety five. Now, when I first met my girl, I
was six one, two thirty, and so nobody go to
the out there. It was always it was always, oh,

(21:03):
you over weighs fifteen you know.

Speaker 6 (21:08):
But I'm saying to myself, Man, I can get out
here right now.

Speaker 9 (21:11):
I can't do it now, but I can go run
two hundred yards full speed, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 6 (21:19):
And how is that?

Speaker 9 (21:21):
How am I unhealthy? And it's like every time a
woman go in there, oh, is she over one hundred
and forty five pounds? Fifty pounds? You know, they're like, oh,
you know, you need to lose a little weige, you know,
blah blah blah woo.

Speaker 6 (21:34):
And to me, I mean, the western world has this.

Speaker 9 (21:39):
It's I one way when us on the other side,
we envision ourselves a different way.

Speaker 1 (21:47):
Okay, you pulled up. So culture does matter, like say,
just from our experience, as you know, most black men
that I know, most I'm gonna say, like ninety five
percent like women on the thicker side, right, you know,
whereas some of the let's say the European you know,
they like them on the side.

Speaker 6 (22:07):
Yeah.

Speaker 9 (22:08):
So but now you see a lot of in the
last ten to fifteen years now, you've seen a lot
of white women.

Speaker 1 (22:17):
Trying to get thens, Yeah, trying to emulate.

Speaker 6 (22:21):
You know, yeah, they're trying to emulate the thickness.

Speaker 9 (22:24):
And now you don't even know if they are black
or hispanic or mixed. You know, it's just like you
see a white woman with a big butt, like all right, my.

Speaker 1 (22:35):
Dad would have said she's been eating a lot of
fried potatoes.

Speaker 6 (22:38):
Yeah, and we say, oh that she had corn bread
and collar. Yeah all right.

Speaker 1 (22:48):
So getting back to the physical part, right, is emotional
connection more important than physical attribute? Like, say, for example,
if now let me talk to the fellows right here first, right, So, fellas,
if you have a woman who's let's say, not your
ideal size, does the personality, uh, your your emotional connection,

(23:13):
does that, you know, trump the physical side? Does it
compensate me?

Speaker 6 (23:19):
It did for me, it did because.

Speaker 9 (23:22):
Before I met my excuse my lady, I was I
liked it short women, short, dark skinned women with a
thicker side, and I don't mean like you know, But
when I met her and we started kicking it, I
found out that she liked football. She loved football just
as much as me.

Speaker 6 (23:42):
She drank drank me on the damn table, not too much, okay, okay, well.

Speaker 9 (23:53):
One bill, one bill more than me. How about that
one drink more. But anyway, she cooked, she loved, you know,
she loved a lot of things that I liked.

Speaker 6 (24:04):
And I was like, damn, man, is this like is
this heaven center us? This bushit? Excuse me for stand
it like that.

Speaker 9 (24:11):
And it took me a minute. It took me a
minute to feel like, you know, yeah, this is what
what love should be and how how I'm starting to
perceive it. And she's my lady like five nine five, yeah,
you know she's she's still thick, but she's way taller
than I would have imagined.

Speaker 1 (24:32):
Being with you know, so, and you had you definitely
had a type.

Speaker 6 (24:38):
Yeah, I had a type.

Speaker 9 (24:39):
At one point in life when I was younger, when
when they had when those people on the.

Speaker 6 (24:43):
Other side had a type.

Speaker 9 (24:50):
So now it's like it's like, hey man, you better
get somewhere and sit your ass down over you know,
if she loved you and she gonna take care of you,
you better ride that car.

Speaker 12 (25:03):
So well, I have a different, you know, aspect, because
I think it all depends on where you are in life.

Speaker 3 (25:11):
You know, as young men.

Speaker 12 (25:14):
If we be honest as young men when we first
get out there and we first start we don't.

Speaker 3 (25:19):
Know what our type is.

Speaker 12 (25:21):
Were going for whatever, like us or you know, whatever
we like or whatever whatever. But I think the older
you get, the more mature you get, those things do matter.
If you have a soul mat that's what you're looking at,
and that that type could be anything, and that type changes.
Like my wife said, you know, when I met her,

(25:43):
was she was on the I didn't think she was stick.

Speaker 3 (25:47):
She thought she was.

Speaker 12 (25:49):
I didn't think she was. I thought she was at
a decent size. But then I did see the transformation
where she did put on the way and then she
lost the weight. Then she put on the weight and
lost it again. But at that point, none of that mattered, Okay,
because I you know, I found my person, my soulmate,
and I knew whatever changes she went through that it

(26:12):
didn't matter. And that's who I wanted to be with,
not because of what she looked like, but what she
presented on the inside.

Speaker 6 (26:19):
Okay, it's a lot.

Speaker 3 (26:22):
I mean, I think it's just a lot different depending
on where you are in life or a female. But
I know, as a man, my experience, it was where
I was in my life was I.

Speaker 12 (26:33):
Had thick, I've had small, I've had skinny, skinny, you know,
it didn't matter. So I don't think at that age
and at that stage of my life, that really didn't
play a play a part.

Speaker 1 (26:45):
Okay, nice lambtop over here. She's like, for me, I
don't think I've ever had a type, Okay, you know,
so maybe it's always been something different because well it

(27:09):
got to be legal.

Speaker 2 (27:10):
All alive and legal. Okay, I forgot that part, but yeah.

Speaker 1 (27:15):
But I never I never had a type. So I
think for me, it was always that what that person had,
you know, I mean certain physical features that might you know,
it could have been a smile, could have been you know,
actually it could have been a lot of different things.
So as I as I grew up, as I got
older and more mature, you know, we start valuing different

(27:35):
different things. And like you said, you know, the things
that counts was an inside because you know, the beauty
and all that stuff, that physical stuff fades away. But
when you have you know, you start realizing that at
a at an older age, like I don't need to
have the models such and stuff. I don't need to have,
you know, because you know, I do like the little people,
you know, because.

Speaker 2 (27:54):
They thick stop talking, just don't even look at me.

Speaker 1 (27:58):
Just just stop it, all right, ladies, same question for you,
and it got it. Does the does the inside trump
the physical attributes? Can can you overcome the physical attributes?
What would be something that's too big, too small? Whatever?

(28:18):
The personality and all those other things.

Speaker 7 (28:21):
For me, absolutely, personality trumps looks.

Speaker 3 (28:26):
Okay, always.

Speaker 1 (28:32):
Always has me.

Speaker 10 (28:34):
The personality and how compatible we are Trump's looks mm hmm.

Speaker 11 (28:43):
My husband always always said that he thought I had
a type, right, Like they're supposed to be tall, they're
supposed to be this, they're supposed to be that.

Speaker 6 (28:55):
No.

Speaker 5 (28:56):
I mean, I've I vibe with who who I vibe with?

Speaker 11 (29:01):
You know, I've had, you know, some short ones, some
tall ones, some in between ones. But I knew that
he was my person from the very beginning. Because it's crazy.
I already told y'all on prior podcast how we met.

(29:22):
So I moved into this place and I needed a refrigerator,
and like we had just started like a friendship, not
even a situationship, it was just a friendship.

Speaker 5 (29:34):
And he called and I was saying, oh, I got
to get this.

Speaker 11 (29:37):
Refrigerator whatever whatever, And I was kind of like seeing
somebody and he was like, put the refrigerator on BG
and E.

Speaker 4 (29:46):
I was like, wait, what.

Speaker 8 (29:48):
Are you serious?

Speaker 11 (29:50):
And the next thing I know, like literally, I don't
even think that we have been talking more than like
a week or so, maybe about the two weeks saying
I know, he calls me.

Speaker 5 (30:01):
And he was like, hey, I got a refrigerator for you.

Speaker 11 (30:04):
Wait what this is somebody that I have literally just
started talking to on the phone. We haven't even been
on our first date, if you want to call it that.
And he shows up with a refrigerator.

Speaker 1 (30:20):
Meanwhile, you got this.

Speaker 5 (30:21):
Joker over here talking about putting on BG and E.

Speaker 8 (30:24):
I knew right then.

Speaker 5 (30:27):
I knew right then that oh, okay, this is different.

Speaker 11 (30:33):
It's different. I knew that he was moving different just
by that one gesture. And I don't even think I
ever told you how much that, you know, really touched
my heart.

Speaker 5 (30:43):
I did, well, thank you for that.

Speaker 3 (30:47):
I had to see if she could cook no food,
no cooking, no cooking. It's a plan. I had a plan,
put it in motion.

Speaker 1 (30:59):
Hey, So so here's the thing though, first we didn't
we didn't catch your name.

Speaker 5 (31:05):
Oh I'm sorry, Stepan, Stepan, Okay, welcome.

Speaker 1 (31:08):
So Stefan don't be setting the bar too high. Leave
some room for mistakes.

Speaker 2 (31:20):
It's wrong with you.

Speaker 6 (31:22):
Hey.

Speaker 12 (31:23):
It started out rough because I thought she was Italian
for a minute, because all she family was possible.

Speaker 3 (31:31):
She had to get out of that that that possi stage.

Speaker 5 (31:34):
At least she was eating, wasn't hungry when he wasn't hungry.

Speaker 1 (31:39):
When me and my wife first got together, that's all
she would cook was barbecue chicken. Really, so I was like,
I didn't most of the cooking. I didn't even know
she could cook really except for barbecue chicken. And I
didn't want to tell it that you really don't like
barbecue chicken.

Speaker 2 (31:55):
Listen, my husband has eaten through some meals that you
know later in life. I'm like, why in the world
didn't he just say I don't like that? Like why
are you eating something that you don't like? Like what
are you doing? So y'all take, y'all take some stuff.

Speaker 1 (32:10):
I'm gonna take this one thing. This is kind of
off the sidetracks about how we we take the personality
over the physical things we you know, whatever, I was
coming home from work and when I when I came
in the door, you know, I guess she had been
cooking in the crock pot whatever, and I was like, damn,
was that smell? Did the dog take a ship?

Speaker 6 (32:33):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (32:33):
No, I didn't know, I said, because we had a dog.
I said, did the dog take a ship in the
house or something? But she was cooking something in the crop,
and I'm gonna I'm not gonna say she can't cook,
and she really can't, but I think it was because
what she was cooking, Like, I don't like pork, so
she had pork chopping something on those lines. But automatically,

(32:55):
that's what the first thing that came out of my mouth.
And I was like that in a good look. And
I didn't plan it, but literally I thought I thought
had nobody took him outside or something? But so we
would say, oh, Alicia, let's get to you. How does

(33:19):
does personality trump physical attributes?

Speaker 6 (33:24):
Yes, if you've seen any of my.

Speaker 1 (33:35):
So so I'm gonna say for me like, I don't
I can't recall anybody that I've ever dealt with that
was not up to part when it comes to looks,
So I can't say, you know whatever, But everybody's always had,
you know, good looks, So I can't say that the

(33:57):
the personality Trump the looks, you know, to be fair,
because I think you you.

Speaker 2 (34:03):
Rather we'd like to admit it or not. There is
something physically about the person that makes you attracted to them,
and then you find out what the personality is.

Speaker 1 (34:12):
Now, so could the could the now I'm this is
what I believe. Can personality make the person physically more
attractive to you?

Speaker 6 (34:21):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (34:23):
Okay, I totally agree with that. Yeah, that's like because
back when I was in the Navy, we had a
point scale. Oh my god, we did. We had a
point scale.

Speaker 2 (34:35):
And I'm going to give you a break because you
were younger, but.

Speaker 1 (34:39):
We would we would have. We were based on certain things.
It wasn't all physical. It was like you know, so
like let's say, if you had a certain habit that
we didn't like, you could smoke or you off right,
So it was like stuff like that. But I remember
this one thing. One time we was going into like
macy Let me tell you how cheap we were back then.
So we used to go to not Macy's, it was
another department store, right, so you know how they had

(35:00):
the Colone department. So they used to go in there.
This this is how they used to put the clone
on they go get the samples before they go out,
or they would get the magazines and that little part
you spread apart and they would, you know, rub all
over their shirts.

Speaker 6 (35:17):
Yeah. I remember that the calls too.

Speaker 1 (35:23):
Exactly just me, but I remember the guy okay, okay,
so yeah, but I remember we walked into the to
the door and he just he just yelled out a letter.
He said, he said, fight the same look and it

(35:43):
was because of her makeup. She was it was a
white woman, but she had like crazy makeup on it,
and then it kind of made it look crazy.

Speaker 6 (35:51):
Like a clown.

Speaker 1 (35:53):
Yeah. Yeah, Like what's what's the girls not wander? What's
the other from DC? The crazy? The girl likes the
joker Harlequin?

Speaker 2 (36:06):
Yes, I kind of like her crazy.

Speaker 1 (36:16):
All right, now this is a big This is a
big one, right. The size and security affect confidence in relationships.
And you can go from physical size and also the
size of and for the most part, I guess it
would be the main size. So I don't think they
we I guess could women size? Okay, So does does

(36:36):
physical size affect confidence in relationships?

Speaker 2 (36:40):
Yes, your physical size affects everything, I think until you
figure it out, like like everybody said, once you got mature,
you figure some things out. But just like she was saying,
she was always a little chubby. I was always the
thing person in the family. So all of those things
along the way in your life, you carry that with you.
So yeah, I think it can make a different I

(37:00):
really did.

Speaker 1 (37:01):
Okay, But okay, So for the felix mm hmmm, how
how would you say that? In as far as the
male point.

Speaker 9 (37:10):
Of view, To me, it was just an attraction thing,
because I mean, I had my reference. But as a
young as a young man out there, you know, you're
just trying to excuse me, Ladies, you're just trying to score.
You would you know you would, except who accept you, right,
you know what I'm saying. And so if I walked
up to her and she was I thought she was

(37:32):
attractive at five foot eleven, you know what I'm saying.
That I spoke to her and she spoke back, and
blah blah blah. One thing, that's another. Then it was cool, okay,
But but what I favored was what I favored. And
I was a shorter woman. But I never would have
thought that my soulmate was gonna be as tall as
she is. You know what, Hey, I love her hit.

Speaker 1 (37:56):
I mean like it, were you ever intimidated in in
uh even a little bit for say a woman that
was taller than taller than you. Let's say you said
you six.

Speaker 9 (38:06):
Want funny that you say that I dated a girl,
a woman, rather young lady whatever she was.

Speaker 6 (38:13):
I'm six one and a half. She was about six
two sixty three and she was older than me.

Speaker 9 (38:19):
Okay, I wasn't intimidated, but I told her she couldn't
wear no heels around you. I wasn't intimidated by her,
but it just looked kind of awkward as a young man.

Speaker 6 (38:35):
You know, she's standing six four and a half with
hell and I'm standing you know, six one. We know,
on my best day standing straight up, you know. So,
I mean I don't know now that now they these ladies.

Speaker 9 (38:51):
Are they just they're putting themselves together real well, health
wisings in the health wives and they just look you,
you know, But.

Speaker 6 (39:03):
I don't know.

Speaker 9 (39:04):
It didn't it didn't really matter so much because I
had a young man.

Speaker 6 (39:08):
You don't. You don't care about what people say. You know,
you just want to have fun.

Speaker 2 (39:13):
Ok So, do you think it's a woman versus man
kind of thing, like men or men just think of
it differently, because I'm telling you what, men will bust
out there, like I can't remember where we were at
the beach and this man had this banana hammock on
and he was ninety nine and a half and ain't
have no business in this thing.

Speaker 1 (39:34):
And I'm looking at.

Speaker 2 (39:36):
Him like, men don't care, y'all, will y'all will just
come with it? And you know, me and my girl
sitting on the beach like I'm in an old grandma
baby sitit Like what the hell was I thinking? So
I think men look at it differently. Men will bust
out and just like we don't care.

Speaker 1 (39:53):
No, I think it's different now.

Speaker 12 (39:54):
I think it's a I think it's more of an individual.
I don't think it's a yes, I don't think it's
a group of people who feel more insecure or less
insecure than others. I think it's all in the person's personality.
Because I've seen older women on the beach because we
live near beach and we frequent the beach. But I've
seen older women with bikinis on, and I think the

(40:15):
same thing. They shouldn't have that on at the age.
But hey, they have they have the balls.

Speaker 6 (40:20):
To wear it.

Speaker 3 (40:21):
They wearing it.

Speaker 12 (40:23):
I think it's more of an individual and it has
a lot to do with with your upbringing, you know how,
Like how my wife said her her aunt made a
comment to her. You know, if you're if you're a
child and you're always called fat or skinny or dumb
or stupid, that's gonna affect you as you get older.

(40:44):
So it's more of an individual than I would say. Oh,
you know, males or females effects more than the others.

Speaker 1 (40:51):
Okay, So I think I think with men when confidence
and relationship, I think with most men they would have
if anything that would kind of affect their confidence, maybe penisize.
You know, we talked about that you kind of before
where they say, well, you know, are you going to
how you compared to the last guy? Or I never

(41:14):
want to know exactly if you don't want.

Speaker 6 (41:16):
To know that.

Speaker 1 (41:17):
So even with women, but I know this in the
back of some people's heads, you know, But with women,
is there anything physical that you would say that makes you, uh,
that would affect your confidence? Maybe breast size?

Speaker 4 (41:33):
I don't know, because all my life my grandma told
me I was the best looking thing in the world.

Speaker 6 (41:38):
So I don't know, yeah, like they never. I don't
think I ever had it.

Speaker 5 (41:42):
Even when I gained weight after I had my kids,
I didn't. I never felt like anybody had.

Speaker 6 (41:49):
Ship on me.

Speaker 1 (41:51):
Okay, so okay, so I think so we will say
that most people don't have any real insecurities once you
get to know the So I'm gonna tell you, for
like me, we're talking about intimidation thing like I like
from you could be six foot seven to how tall
you like fourteen, you know, so anywhere in the there.

(42:13):
So but I know, for I used to be intimidated
by taller women, right, And it was like, well, man,
you can't do the same things with taller women that
you could do with shorter women. You know, you could
come up a shorter woman, but the tall woman, you know,
she might give you a challenge.

Speaker 6 (42:27):
So that was.

Speaker 1 (42:31):
That was always in the back of my heads, Like
you know, and then what if she makes the mistake
of you know, lifting you up.

Speaker 6 (42:45):
You gotta be five ft and left? I mean, that's crazy.
I never thought it was. I mean, I'm not.

Speaker 12 (43:00):
Probably you know, have a lot to do with the
man sexual experience, whether he's you know, the females tall,
short or whatever. That guy you experienced sexually, he's gonna
handle whatever, right, you know, I don't you know. I
think it has a lot to do with experience more
more than it does the size of the man.

Speaker 1 (43:20):
So what about the women? That says, all right, so
the talk and I'm specifically speaking about this Cuban woman
who's like six seven sixt eight angel something, right, So
she gets on Instagram she says, in her Cuban accent,
can any of y'all climb this tree?

Speaker 6 (43:37):
Is that the lady on Facebook? Yeah? Yeah, like a basketball?

Speaker 1 (43:42):
Yes, So you know, my head is like, m you're
like six nine, right, she's up there after six four.
I guess it really don't even matter. Yeah, So I
think in that aspect, I think some man not all.
You know, I'm not short, you know what? Six three?

Speaker 2 (44:03):
I don't know, thank you.

Speaker 1 (44:07):
Somebody called them mind caring. Nobody could see your hair.
So I'm six three.

Speaker 6 (44:14):
So in other words, you like five, I might be
pushing like five or eleven.

Speaker 1 (44:22):
I'm six foot.

Speaker 6 (44:26):
You don't go out without a fight.

Speaker 1 (44:31):
What for podcast purposes? Says they can't see me, I'm
six three?

Speaker 6 (44:36):
There you go, there you go all right, let me
see what.

Speaker 1 (44:43):
All right, now back to what Elisha said. Remember you
talked about the four inches the size of the female vagina, right,
Are there any scientific studies about whether size affects sexual
pleasure or fertility anybody?

Speaker 4 (44:59):
I have never seen that, Like, I've never seen that
as far as pleasure is concerned.

Speaker 6 (45:05):
No.

Speaker 4 (45:06):
The only thing that I could think of is maybe girth, okay,
but as far as like length, and I don't think.

Speaker 1 (45:12):
So, okay, okay, So all right, now this is for
the ladies. Size does matter in that aspect because you
can we're not talking about length with so you can
from and I'm going by what i've heard on the
Facebook and you know, conversations whatever.

Speaker 2 (45:30):
Okay, So.

Speaker 1 (45:33):
If you have somebody who's shorter but they're thicker, from
what I've seen, what I've read is that that's way
more important. Would you agree or not?

Speaker 2 (45:45):
As long as I am not uncomfortable, that's the part.
As long as I'm not uncomfortable, I don't care if
it's you know, short, small, skinny, I don't care. As
long as I'm not uncomfortable.

Speaker 1 (45:57):
Okay, So pencils good.

Speaker 2 (45:59):
As long as you can do whatever it is.

Speaker 6 (46:03):
You write it down, it's all right. There you go.

Speaker 1 (46:11):
Well, and in one aspect we're tooking that aside from sex.
Let's take away sex having children right when you would
figure that if it was physical attributes will affect whether
a person gets pregnant, maybe because you you know, you're
getting closer to that. I don't know that's you.

Speaker 4 (46:29):
Know that matter because them, those little swimmers will keep
on swimming. It really is so and more has to
do with the lubrication and the vagina as far as
how to sperm travel. So not really a size thing.

Speaker 1 (46:48):
So the more lubricated, the faster they swim, right.

Speaker 5 (46:51):
The more lubricated, the you know, closer than you get
to the goal.

Speaker 2 (46:56):
And that's their one and only job. So they are, yeah,
be swimming away. You had one job.

Speaker 6 (47:04):
That is it. That's it?

Speaker 1 (47:07):
Okay. So what's the weirdest myth or misconception you've heard
about size? And that could be any size. I gotta
I got you because you know dud dude's talk.

Speaker 7 (47:18):
I want to bust the wide open and all the traps.

Speaker 1 (47:22):
I like somebody.

Speaker 4 (47:25):
So you know what one thing A lot of people say,
it's like, oh, she don't have walls. That walls topic
is like, first of all, we give birth right.

Speaker 2 (47:37):
Right, you caart me, It'll stretch a mile before it tear.

Speaker 6 (47:41):
Right. So you're seeing my daughter born and it was like, okay,
that's over with. You know what I'm saying. My daughter
was small, kind of small. She was only six thirteen,
and I was like, don't never tell me that I'm
doing anything right. If it could take it, if you
could drop this six pound thirteen hours, baby, I got two.

(48:05):
That's it. You know what I'm saying. Don't don't don't know?
Oh you heard me?

Speaker 9 (48:11):
Hurt me.

Speaker 1 (48:13):
So one of the myths that I've heard now I'm
saying is a myth. I'm not because I never really
did no scientific study. I'm saying miss a myth or
a misconception. And this was this was like barbershop talk,
so you know, you don't know what to believe, so
that it would say the woman who's shorter was was deeper,

(48:35):
Oh my god. And even the skinny ones when you
talk about the walls, the real skinny ones had had
bigger walls, and the thicker ones ever heard it, Yeah,
the thicker ones had the had the tightest you know, Okay,
that's that's what I heard. That's barbares.

Speaker 2 (48:52):
So I don't believe it.

Speaker 9 (48:53):
But okay, well, well, I mean we got mythed on
our side of the street to right, that's right, they say.

Speaker 6 (49:00):
Women, Women say, oh what size?

Speaker 9 (49:02):
Shoot you up right right right, I'm gonna meet you
down there at the club tonight, you know.

Speaker 6 (49:11):
And yeah, I'm gonna be there. I'm gonna have on
this right here. Just come up to me, you know.
And women, and I've seen I'm talked about.

Speaker 9 (49:19):
Literally, I've seen women talk to men and they have
looked down at their shoes and they said, well, you know, yeah,
he gets outside nine and a half ten be about average.
But then I don't also heard women say, man, that dude,
he has some little feet.

Speaker 6 (49:35):
But Greg gul he had an elephant trump, he had
a baby on in his pains, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (49:42):
So saying there's no truth to that, where they because
I've heard him say, oh, you measure the side of
the hand, I don't think.

Speaker 2 (49:51):
I don't think so either, Okay, So I don't know.

Speaker 1 (49:54):
I've never really.

Speaker 9 (49:56):
Now they played a dirty back into slavery times when
he was telling them why women that oh you know
they got tails between their legs, right, you know that
kind of stuff, you know, and it became a myth
that they wanted to see right right, you know what
I'm saying. That's why a lot of us got castrated
and a lot of us got killed, yep.

Speaker 2 (50:15):
Right, And well they did that so that the white
women would stay away from them, That's.

Speaker 9 (50:20):
What that was, right, But they didn't know psychologically it
was gonna bring them who up right right, you know
what I'm saying.

Speaker 6 (50:28):
Well, he got this little twins, you know whatever, whatever
you're talking about.

Speaker 9 (50:34):
A dude over here got you know, fourteen sixteen, he
could stand back and give me what I need, you know.

Speaker 6 (50:43):
So, so I mean it was it was. It was
a myth that we took, we got punished for.

Speaker 2 (50:48):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (50:49):
So I'm I'm gonna see there are times when size
doesn't matter and whether we do want to be honest
about it, honest about it, I think, and I'm only
putting myself out there. Size matters to me when it
comes to height.

Speaker 6 (51:02):
You know.

Speaker 1 (51:02):
You know, I had this this thing about hype, like
I hate when I say hate I'm talking about I
hate when I find out somebody famous is tall to me.

Speaker 2 (51:10):
Right, it is so weird you need to get professed.

Speaker 1 (51:14):
So I was watching The Wire, right, so you know
Wood Harris, the Avon bark still, so I was like,
and now I've seen him in different places. I love
him as an actor. Right, So right in the middle
of the series, I said, let me, let me check
and see how tall this is. I went out of
my way to see how tall he was, you know whatever,

(51:35):
And he's sixty three. And I was feeling some type
of way. But I was like, all right, all right, okay,
and whatever, whatever, whatever, I just I don't know. But
for me, like I'm I'm six foot even, and I
don't know, I know, but I don't know where. I

(51:59):
don't know where this hype.

Speaker 6 (52:00):
You're above the six above the six feet range.

Speaker 1 (52:02):
Yes, I'm somewhere in there. And look when I got
my Nike boots, I'm six too, okay, right, But yeah,
but I think size doesn't matter to people when certain things,
you know, okay, And I know women, whether they want
to admit it or not, someone like to be smaller,
someone like to be bigger. So I've heard women say

(52:23):
I need to I need to put on more weight,
I need my butt needs to be bigger or you
know I heard that, you know, or they'll get the
enhancements or you know.

Speaker 2 (52:32):
Orduction about that that has gone out of control or
it has it has.

Speaker 1 (52:39):
So and I think you know at certain point, you know,
age does factory because I know for me, I'm like,
I got to a point where I say, I don't
care right like like me, you don't you know whatever
this is, this is what God gave me. You know,
He just me out of being six foot nine like
I was supposed to be. But you know, it is
what it is.

Speaker 2 (52:58):
Listen, think about you and your he would you say
about the.

Speaker 9 (53:02):
Number no do you remember at one point in time
and your probably in your life to it. I don't
know about the North, but the South was like women
always wanted a guy over six feet tall, yes, dark skinned,
dark skinned.

Speaker 6 (53:17):
It with good hair.

Speaker 9 (53:20):
And then some of them, some of them would even say, oh,
I'm gonna marry me a Puerto Rican guy, a Latin guy,
so my baby could have good hair.

Speaker 1 (53:28):
I've heard that, you know.

Speaker 2 (53:30):
Yeah, it's ridiculous.

Speaker 6 (53:32):
Yeah it was.

Speaker 9 (53:33):
It was a skick for that was that certain women
followed behind, and to this day, some women, I like
that yeah, you know, yeah, okay, so some men. Some
men was always like, oh I want me a red bone.
You gotta have light brown eyes, and you know, and
then you see him ten fifteen years later and they

(53:56):
with a dog skinned chick with brown eyes.

Speaker 6 (53:59):
You know what I'm saying. You know what's funny about it.

Speaker 1 (54:02):
I was talking to a lady from Africa, right, she
was from the southern parts of Namibia earlier, and she
brought up I was talking about West Africa and she said,
was talking about temper. That's how we got into the subject.
Was talking about how hot it is, you know, from
their tear, you know whatever. And she said something about
the West Africa or Sudanese people, and you know they're

(54:23):
too dark, right, And I was like, waitmen, what's too dark? No,
sech thing is too dark?

Speaker 2 (54:27):
And you're in Africa. Isn't everybody dark or at some point?

Speaker 1 (54:33):
Yeah, but Africa actually you know, it goes from A
to Z, even with hair colored, eye color, texture, whatever.
But with her, I thought it was kind of odd that,
you know, and I've talked to other people down in
uh Africa women that was chastised because they was too dark.
And I thought that was kind of weird, like like
I showed a picture. I said, you know, I pulled

(54:54):
up some Sudanese women that was like dark dark, Like
you know, you showed a picture and all you see
is eye color, you know, right, No, seriously, I'm not
even exaggerating. That's you know, but I thought that was
that was beautiful, Like it was almost like rich dark coffee.
I don't like coffee, but but it was you know
that type of Yeah.

Speaker 2 (55:14):
Yeah, so so even now we can't get past this
colored thing. Yeah, we still can't get past this color.

Speaker 1 (55:23):
For my reason, I don't know why, but yeah, Western
people what he.

Speaker 9 (55:27):
Said, Yeah, you want to be light skinned. You know,
you want to have good hair, you want to be
a certain hy and you know.

Speaker 6 (55:37):
That's but that's the other side of the other side
of people.

Speaker 9 (55:41):
And it's like if you put a dark skinned woman
next to a light skinned woman, the light skinned woman
could have beautiful hair, it might be big.

Speaker 6 (55:49):
Might be in a like an afro puff or whatever.
And then you can have a light.

Speaker 9 (55:52):
Skinned woman who has a parent and put them right
next to each other, and nine times out of ten,
a white person is going to that light skined girl
for whatever person, you know, saying oh, she's she's much
prettier than her.

Speaker 6 (56:05):
You think she's pretty in her you know. But that's
a part of the upbringing.

Speaker 9 (56:10):
As well, from when when when when uh, our parents
was buying those white dolls given to our to our
women and saying, oh, you know the little girls like.

Speaker 6 (56:22):
Oh, she's so pretty, but you take a black baby
doll and put it next to her, She's like, I
don't want her.

Speaker 9 (56:27):
I had to write, yeah, yeah, the condition yeah, and
and and it's it's it's just a thing that has
progressed through time.

Speaker 6 (56:40):
You know, we didn't have you only when little.

Speaker 9 (56:42):
Girls I'm almost sixty when when they were coming up,
they didn't have a black barbie.

Speaker 6 (56:48):
It was either a white Barbie or no barbie.

Speaker 2 (56:51):
Yeah, yeah, that's right.

Speaker 9 (56:53):
I don't think I ever really even seen a black
doll for for a black girl until cabbage Pats came out.

Speaker 2 (57:00):
They had something before that. Yeah, they they had them,
but they weren't as attractive.

Speaker 8 (57:05):
As the other dog.

Speaker 2 (57:07):
Yeah they had them. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (57:09):
Hm hm, Well that's.

Speaker 2 (57:12):
Conditioning, and that's a whole other show.

Speaker 1 (57:15):
All right, So let me ask you a question, though,
This is this is the really this is a test, Phil,
you said you were six to one. All right, So
if I came past and said, hey, I'm gonna have
to change your size, you gotta be I'm gonna make
you five nine or six three, which when you're.

Speaker 9 (57:31):
Choosing, well, it depended on yeah, sixty three okay. No,
I was gonna stay dependent on in my age, my
my younger years because I played basketball. If i'd if
I would have been six three, I would have probably
went to college and had a whole different life.

Speaker 6 (57:48):
Okay, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 9 (57:49):
But I was only six one and I could dunk
a six one. But I know it's six three. I
could dominate, right, you know what I'm saying. So I
would I would like to be six three at a
younger age, but now at six' one and almost sixty,
yeah you're.

Speaker 1 (58:06):
Good, Okay, Yeah i'm. Good the step. Fine if you
had to pick your your ideal, HEIGHT i don't know
how tall you, are but if you had to pick
your ideal, height what are you?

Speaker 12 (58:15):
Choosing, Well i'm, Five i'm five to, seven, okay SO
i would say ideal six foot.

Speaker 1 (58:24):
Six foot, Okay, OKAY.

Speaker 12 (58:27):
I had IF i had to, choose but that's you,
know height never really for. Me it never really made
a difference or had played an. ISSUE i never played
basketball or anything like that in high, school BUT i
did play, sports but it never really played a factor
in my.

Speaker 1 (58:46):
Life so you would, Change you would change if you had.
To if you had to, choice it could change your.
Height you would definitely go to six.

Speaker 12 (58:52):
Foot, YEAH i don't THINK i want to be tall
than six. Foot, okay IF i, had you, know to,
CHOOSE i think six foot would be tall enough for.

Speaker 11 (59:01):
Me so let me ask this, question what difference is
gonna makes six six foot or five nine unless you're
playing the sport, right like he said in his younger,
days it would have made a difference in the trajectory
of how he wanted his career or path to. Go but,
honestly is anything what else really changes with if you

(59:25):
could step into another size OR i don't.

Speaker 1 (59:29):
THINK i don't think anything. Changes, Nothing nothing Changes like
for me if you IF i if you asked me
that same, question you Know i'm gonna, Say I'm i'm six.
FOUR i want to you Know i'm Gonna i'm definitely
gonna go taller.

Speaker 5 (59:40):
SIX i feel like you went up another he, Went.

Speaker 1 (59:47):
But like, you but that's WHAT i would. CHOOSE i would,
SAY i would, say, Look i'm six, four you. Know
and this is going back to back on my. Childhood
us that's how. Tall superman is six, four all the superheroes,
whatever they were like six to six score.

Speaker 6 (01:00:01):
Six you.

Speaker 1 (01:00:02):
Know so for me as a, kid as a, KID i,
thought you, know to be, whatever that's you had to be, tall,
Right AND i like the fact, that you, know being,
tall it's kind of you can be somewhat, intimidating you,
know you could be you know, there hey, MAN i
get there from the top. Shelf you. Know that's that's
WHAT i always. Enjoyed pay. Attention, yeah and they pay

(01:00:23):
attention to you.

Speaker 12 (01:00:25):
WHEN i was funny about, that you said, that. RIGHT
i grew up with a guy which is a close
friend of. Mine he was six.

Speaker 6 (01:00:33):
Nine.

Speaker 12 (01:00:35):
Probably in high school he was probably, six seven, six
eight but now he's like. Six' nine he played basketball.
In high school of course it was because of his
height that that never transmitted to college or professional that
he does coach on a, high school level because he
did have basketball knowledge and of.

Speaker 3 (01:00:56):
Course his height but, as you said as. Far as
intimidating he.

Speaker 12 (01:01:01):
WASN'T even, that, i mean honestly me giant on just
knowing him, as a person the type of, person he
was and, comparing to him comparing, him to myself, he,
Wasn't INTIMIDATING right and i was around a. Lot OF
guys actually i went to High School. With jared, stackhouse oh,
okay six five, so you know, and he, was you

(01:01:24):
know one of the guys who hung in.

Speaker 3 (01:01:26):
That tall crowd but those guys.

Speaker 12 (01:01:28):
Wasn't necessarily intimidate when, you say intimidating what do you?
Mean by intimidating, So in SIZE so.

Speaker 1 (01:01:34):
When, I say, intimidating, i, mean like say NOT not
saying i want. To be INTIMIDATING but if, i wanted
TO like if i wanted to, be A bodybuilder or
i wanted to be a football player, pro football player
you're gonna you're gonna be more imposing on the field
at six five, versus you know.

Speaker 3 (01:01:47):
Like what's, up but now but now you're talking. About
skill skills you.

Speaker 12 (01:01:51):
Talk about skills so even when you, talk about skill
you have GUYS in the nba that's six to six
foot and they dominate, Right like marine so it does
again it doesn't really.

Speaker 3 (01:02:02):
Come, down, to size yeah but comes down to your.
Your level skill.

Speaker 1 (01:02:06):
I'll take that six. Two sixty four it'll get you, in,
the door yes just get me. In the door might
not get you, on the floor but it gets you.
In The door so i'm gonna tell you this is
one another thing and thinking of. That SAME thing and
i thought. About this TOO so when i, WAS in
SCHOOL i grew, i was short like people compared. To

(01:02:27):
my sister sometimes people used to think that she was my.
Mother that's how that's how much taller she. Was over
ME so when i got to junior, HIGH high school
i was growing like four inches during. The Summer Too,
so i'm, i'm you know me being the SUPER nerd,
THAT i was i would start doing the, graphs and,
calculating YOU know what i should be by, This Particular time, like,
i'm like oh By the time, I'm a junior i'm gonna,

(01:02:48):
be six, Eight you know i'm. You know whatever so
the thing is you think about the other half, of that,
too like damn you know that means you gotta you
gotta get that size eighteen shoes costs more.

Speaker 2 (01:03:00):
To be uncomfortable in certain.

Speaker 1 (01:03:02):
Seats or places all, that stuff costs so it doesn't matter.
In SOME aspects even i Went, to the navy if
you were over, a certain height you couldn't go. On, a,
SHIP okay YEAH i think i, THINK the age i
think the. Tightest six eight But That's why david robinson

(01:03:23):
when he was He was a navy he couldn't go.
Into a ship, so you know that could be a good.
OR bad thing, i enjoyed it, but you, know but
yeah so. It does matter and so has anybody ever
been on a dating app or or or met somebody
over the phone? Without? Seeing, them no nobody mm hmm
okay all.

Speaker 6 (01:03:42):
College they.

Speaker 1 (01:03:45):
Have now, now mind you we did a we did a,
dating APP episode so i got on every dating, app
there was and the, thought came up did you think
that people exaggerate those those physical attributes and dating apps?
Or blind dates, every.

Speaker 9 (01:04:01):
Every person every person WANTS to be i ain't, gonna
say perfect but, damn they're perfect You know, what i'm saying,
perfect body, size perfect, height perfect intelligence perfect you know
whatever for that for a person that, they're seeking out
You know.

Speaker 6 (01:04:19):
What i'm saying so h so you put pictures on?

Speaker 9 (01:04:23):
Your, DAT net yeah i was only five foot two
and SHE found out I, WAS sitting.

Speaker 1 (01:04:30):
Yeah i know, OH my gosh, I tell you i'm
six four scared whatever you're gonna.

Speaker 6 (01:04:40):
Put on that app because you're most, of the time
it's like a shot.

Speaker 9 (01:04:46):
In the dark almost people have put up a picture from,
three years ago You know, what i'm saying a picture from,
five years ago and you meet them, and, you like
damn your head, was so, long you, know rocking away
You know. What i'm, saying uh, uh, you know damn
you know you you really don't look.

Speaker 6 (01:05:09):
Like this picture You know. What i'm saying you was
you was, like one hundred now. You two hundred You know.
What i'm saying. Things like. That uh uh you know
you had gold teeth in your mouth and now you
don't have no teeth, in your mouth You know. What
i'm saying but those, those those.

Speaker 9 (01:05:26):
Things excuse me those apps some of the time people
tell the truth. And some something now they not even
have one that they say you could you could download
some app and you could find out before. You, get
catfish uh if this person's who they, say, they are,
basically you know you do.

Speaker 6 (01:05:46):
A background, check you know they could say how many times,
you've been divorced how many bank? YOU done, had i mean,
like a yeah that's.

Speaker 9 (01:06:00):
What, it is basically it's. A background CHECKING it's called
i Think it's because i've heard it a couple of
Times On The pandora.

Speaker 6 (01:06:07):
Truth.

Speaker 9 (01:06:07):
TRUTH truth finder i think it's. A truth, finder, that's, yeah, yeah,
yeah Yeah yeah truth you could you can find, out, a,
person yeah yeah you can find out that a Person A.

Speaker 6 (01:06:22):
Real kenyon prince he's just a joke from You know,
what I'm, saying wherever ohio You know.

Speaker 9 (01:06:31):
What i'm saying so you can you can pretty much
find out a lot, of things nowadays whereas even.

Speaker 6 (01:06:37):
These apps nowadays but what's weird for me is you,
can Meet.

Speaker 9 (01:06:45):
Somebody Say i'm in florida and My Ladies. IN new
jersey i would have, never met her You know. What
i'm saying but nowadays you can Meet, somebody from Zimbabwe,
you in atlanta You know. What i'm saying and and
and that's. The weirdest thing but back, in my day
coming up, as a teenager if you didn't meet him in,

(01:07:07):
the mall.

Speaker 6 (01:07:08):
Right the, movie, school church.

Speaker 9 (01:07:11):
Yeah school church if it was, a little athlete you
got to meet another girl from, a different school You know,
What i'm saying and.

Speaker 6 (01:07:19):
That was it and if she if she lived out,
out of town you can forget about it unless you
just you just have to go visit. A cousin. Somewhere
you know it was just it, was just now so.
THAT didn't happened i.

Speaker 1 (01:07:32):
Was the best place to look really would be down
at a probation office, right over that but.

Speaker 6 (01:07:43):
They can't lie.

Speaker 2 (01:07:48):
Thank you all for coming. And being honest we're just
gonna skip right. Over, that nonsense.

Speaker 1 (01:07:57):
Oh we need to work. And move on word of,
The day today give us a. Word of today.

Speaker 5 (01:08:03):
Sis.

Speaker 1 (01:08:04):
Fives, they size oh, by the way if you do
anybody want to get a pin, pal from prison you. Can,
do that okay, they do that you know we don't
since they're. Not getting out you could be six four.
If you WANT.

Speaker 6 (01:08:22):
That's what.

Speaker 1 (01:08:22):
I tell him. I'm six, Four, so anyway yeah thank
you guys for. Jumping in there this was a. Very
fun episode.

Speaker 2 (01:08:29):
Guys are fun we don't have to keep you, all.
ON rotation y'all i was in my car Listening To
the last weeks and was dying at the light and
this man was looking AT me like i don't know
what she is over there laughing at but it. MUST
be his.

Speaker 5 (01:08:42):
I was, done I was AND i'm mad.

Speaker 4 (01:08:44):
I missed it i was moving last week because when
he sent, ME the topic, i, WAS like yeah i went,
in ON that but i just, couldn't make, it, you
know happen because of everything that we were doing with.

Speaker 5 (01:08:55):
This moving, Thing but yeah i'm gonna. Listen to it
please do it, Is it is.

Speaker 6 (01:09:00):
It is.

Speaker 1 (01:09:00):
Hilarious it's hilarious so the next one we, HAVE coming up. I,
don't remember well we got, some good one we got.
Some serious topics we got like, one about immigration. Police
community relations and if you guys have any suggestions that
or any topics you guys, want to, discuss you know
just hit us up on a website and send us an,
email and, we'll you know formulate something, and YOU know,

(01:09:22):
like i said we'll, talk ABOUT anything even i don't
care how. Controversial it is we will. TALK about it
i can't get Fired now. Since i'm retired, i'm not.

Speaker 2 (01:09:31):
Retired.

Speaker 6 (01:09:35):
All?

Speaker 3 (01:09:36):
Right thank, you, all right.

Speaker 2 (01:09:42):
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