How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!

Episodes

Women Can Tell If You Watch Too Much Porn—and it’s Destroying Your Dating Life (with Frank Rich)

August 19, 2025 • 60 mins
Ever wonder why you feel insecure around women? In a raw interview, thought leader and podcaster Frank Rich (“The Super Human Life”) joins dating coach Connell Barrett to reveal the hidden culprit that may be hurting your confidence: porn addiction. Rich opens up about his own battle, and explains how watching too much porn leads to objectifying women and kills dating motivation. He also shares his 5-step roadmap to freedom, so you...
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Do Women Ignore You on the Apps? Use My ‘Back to the Future’ Opener for a Date by Saturday

August 12, 2025 • 31 mins
Do women on the apps rarely reply to you? Dating coach Connell Barrett reveals his “Back to the Future” opener—the playful icebreaker that’s helped clients spark conversations, set up dates, and find girlfriends. He gives you the exact words to send so you can stop getting ghosted and start connecting. “This is the best opener I’ve come up with in my 20 years of studying online dating,” Connell says. Steal it today—your future girl...
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Stop Getting Ghosted! The 10 Texting Commandments that Get Women Writing You Back (Textual Healing, Part 2)

August 7, 2025 • 49 mins
Tired of getting ghosted? Do your texting conversations die faster than a fruit fly? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares his 10 Texting Commandments—his tested rules to get women texting you back and saying yes to dates. Yea, thou SHALT obey these holy rules, and ye shall soon get ye some dates!

The 10 Texting Commandments:

04:00: Thou Shalt Give Authentic Value

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How to Stop Settling in Love: A Therapist Explains Why You Choose the Wrong Relationships (with Jason VanRuler)

August 5, 2025 • 44 mins
Have you ever settled for a woman who wasn’t what you were looking for, but you felt she was the best you could do? Licensed therapist and author Jason VanRuler reveals how hidden childhood wounds quietly shape your dating choices—and how to finally heal and move forward. You’ll learn why men settle, how to escape a “shadow” love life, and get a plan to help you finally find the relationship you really want.

Episode Highlights:

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Spank You Very Much: The Nice Guy’s Guide to Hot, Shame-Free Sex (with Kink Expert Amanda Dames)

July 31, 2025 • 64 mins
You may not know it, but you are kinky… and so is your next date! That’s right—a whopping 95 percent of singles are kinky, according to certified sexologist Amanda Dames, who joins dating coach Connell Barrett in a juicy episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend.” Dames, host of the Kink Consultant Podcast, will teach you how to have hot, fun, shame-free sex, even if you’re sexually inexperienced.

Episode Highlights Include:

02:23: From Wa...
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Textual Healing: The New Way to Text and Get Dates—Play, Play, Play… Pull the Trigger (Part 1 of 3)

July 29, 2025 • 30 mins
Do you struggle with texting women? Do you feel like you’re always one boring message away from getting ghosted? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals his powerful new texting framework to make your messages magnetic: “Play, Play, Play, Pull the Trigger.” You’ll learn how to confidently flirt over text so you get a lot more dates. Plus, you’ll hear how one woman went from rejecting Connell to asking HIM out—ju...
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The One Flirting Secret that Changes Everything—from Apps to Dates to Charming Approaches

July 24, 2025 • 65 mins
Are you unsure how to talk to women—on the apps or in real life? Tired of being seen as “just a friend”? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett teaches you his secret weapon: Man-to-Woman Communication. You’re about to learn his turbo-charged flirting method. You’re about to know exactly what to say to spark real chemistry with women, from the dating apps to first dates to approaching with charm.

Episode Highlights Incl...
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The Write Stuff: How to Turn Your Boring Bio into a Match Magnet (Live Coaching with Clint)

July 22, 2025 • 75 mins
Struggling on the apps? It’s not you—it’s your boring bio. In this live coaching session, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps his new client, Clint, take his profile from generic to magnetic. You’ll learn how to write an irresistible bio in just 3 lines, add charming humor that women love, and finally land matches and dates.

Episode Highlights:

04:15: Why Your Dating Bio Doesn’t Work and How to Fix It

12:58: The ...
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The Content Trap: Use My ‘80/20 Rule’ to Go from Overthinking to Effortless Flirting

July 17, 2025 • 30 mins
Social media is ruining your love life. You watch tons of dating advice, but you still struggle with women, right? You’ve fallen into the Content Trap—trying to remember so many tips that you overthink every move. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals why consuming too much TikTok or YouTube content kills your confidence. And his ‘80/20 Rule’ will help unlock your most fun, flirty, authentic s...
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The Neuroscience of Attraction: How to Rewire Your Brain for Dating Success (with Harvard’s Dr. Ali Binazir)

July 15, 2025 • 65 mins
Ever wonder, “Am I enough to find love?” Harvard-educated physician Ali Binazir has a hopeful answer! The man behind the “Trillion Sided Dice” theory of existence (seriously, it’ll break your brain) shares his own dating journey—still a virgin at 23—and the breakthroughs that changed everything. Plus, Binazir, co-author of the bestselling book “The 5 Hidden Love Questions,” explains why approach anxiety is hardwired into your brain...
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From Invisible to Irresistible: The 7 Dating Superpowers that Ignite Attraction—Even if You’re Shy or Introverted

July 10, 2025 • 71 mins
Why do some men effortlessly attract women while guys like you get overlooked? It comes down to mastering the 7 Dating Superpowers. Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the 7 super attractors that make women think, “Wow, he’s different from other guys!” Whether you want to confidently approach, take your texting skills to new levels, or have great first dates, this encore episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend” ...
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The Professional Man’s Paradox: Why You Succeed at Work but Struggle with Women (with Matchmaker Lisa Goodman)

July 8, 2025 • 44 mins
Isn’t it frustrating to achieve career success yet struggle with women? Dating coach Connell Barrett calls this the “Professional Man’s Dating Paradox.” Simply put, the communication skills that help you excel at work can actually hurt your love life. Renowned matchmaker Lisa Goodman, of Selective Search, is here to help. Goodman reveals why your career strengths can be dating weaknesses—and shares proven strategies to turn boardro...
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7 Make-or-Break Dating Moments to Either Get the Girl… or Get Friend-Zoned

July 3, 2025 • 38 mins
The difference between finding love or staying stuck can come down to small but pivotal moments of truth. Like when a conversation with a woman is going well, but you play it safe and don’t go for her number. Or when fear stops you from going for the first kiss on a date. In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett reveals 7 make-or-break dating moments that determine whether you get the girl… or stay frustrated. Handle these tur...
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Sex Tips for Shy Guys: How to Touch Her, Talk Dirty and Rock Her World (with Sex Coach Kirsten Trammell)

July 1, 2025 • 65 mins
Are you unsure what to do in bed—and worried you won’t please her the first time you’re intimate? Sex coach Kirsten Trammell, host of “The Naked Connection” podcast, shares insider secrets on how to rock a woman’s world. If you’re inexperienced sexually—or even a virgin—don’t worry. Kirsten’s tested, practical sex tips will help make you confident in the bedroom, so you can give that special woman an unforgettable, connected sexual...
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From Frozen to Fearless! True Stories of Shy Guys Who Beat Approach Anxiety and Found Love IRL

June 26, 2025 • 52 mins
Want to approach women IRL—but you freeze up or overthink it? Connell Barrett, bestselling author and top dating coach, helps shy men meet wonderful women without pickup lines or weird tricks. In this episode, hear how guys like you overcame anxiety, walked up to women in bars, bookstores and gyms, and sparked real-life romance.

You’re About to Learn:

02:42: How Short, Shy Ken Scored His First Kiss Ever—with a Tall, Stylish Blonde

16:...
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20 Dating Lessons That Took Me 20 Years to Master—You’ll Learn Them by Lunch (Special Series!)

June 24, 2025 • 49 mins
Struggling in your love life? Low on dates and confidence? Twenty years ago, Connell Barrett was in your shoes. So he began a journey to fix his dating problems. To mark his 20th year in the dating trenches, Connell kicks off a new series. In this premiere episode, he reveals 20 powerful, practical tips straight from his #1 Amazon bestseller “Dating Sucks but You Don’t.” Here’s the good news: You don’t have to spend years swiping, ...
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The Speed Dating Move that Drives Women Wild: Why Vulnerability Wins Every Time (Featuring Kavita Ajwani)

June 19, 2025 • 47 mins
You struggle to connect with women, right? What if you could confidently walk into a crowded room and get numbers from women who find you utterly charming? You actually can—when you get great at speed dating! In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes speed dating expert Kavita Ajwani. As a woman, Kavita—founder of Dashing Date—knows what women really want from men. You’re about to learn why vulnerability, not pickup ta...
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Textual Healing! Connell’s 4-Part Texting Formula to Stop Getting Ghosted and Start Getting Dates

June 17, 2025 • 61 mins
Do you get ghosted on the apps and don’t know why? Do you freeze up on dates because you’re not sure what to talk about? Would you love to meet women at the gym, but you’re worried you’ll seem creepy? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett gives you step-by-step solutions to all of these issues. Plus, you’ll discover his simple texting formula that will make it easy to spar...
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I Got Rejected 567 Times… Which is Why I’m GREAT with Women Now

June 10, 2025 • 38 mins
Fear of rejection can make you freeze. It’s why you don’t say hi to the stylish woman at the café or make a move on the date. In this episode of. “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett gets raw and real about his own fear of rejection. He also shares how getting blown off so many times (“F-off, Ginger!”) actually opened the door to real romantic wins! If you’re tired of being too afraid to make move, this episode w...
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The Flirty Dozen: 12 Ways to Smash Out of the Friend Zone and Spark Connection on First Dates

June 5, 2025 • 59 mins
Tired of getting stuck in the dreaded Friend Zone? It’s frustrating when your dates feel flat and women say, “I just didn’t feel a connection.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett breaks down exactly how to go from the Friend Zone to the Flirty Zone, with 12 game-changing moves that make romantic sparks fly. From charming texts to confidently going for that first kiss, your love life is about ...
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