How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!

Episodes

From No Dates to 2 Dates a Week: New Strategies to Fill Your Dating Dance Card

October 30, 2025 • 30 mins
Has it been months—or even years—since you had a first date with an incredible woman? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett explains why your options are scarce, and how to fix it. He’ll walk you through three proven ways to meet women so you can go from zero dates to two quality dates a week.

You’re About to Learn:

02:25: Why You’re Dateless (and Why It’s About to Change)

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How a Shy, Lonely Software Engineer Learned to Flirt and Found his Dream Woman—and How You Can, Too!

October 28, 2025 • 29 mins
If you struggle to talk to women or feel stuck in the friend zone, you need to hear Tony’s story. A shy, single dad and software engineer, Tony was dateless when he began working with Connell. By learning how to flirt with women and bring confidence to every date, Tony met his dream girlfriend, Jennifer. In this episode, he shares the exact shifts and flirting techniques that helped him succeed—so you can find love, too.

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“Nice Guys Are Sexy—if They Do This One Thing.” A Maxim Model’s Dating Secret

October 23, 2025 • 30 mins
Do you worry you’re “too nice”? Tired of seeing women date jerks? It’s time to own being a nice guy! The truth is, women actually prefer kind men over “alpha males,” if you make 3 key moves. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares these tested tips. Plus—the powerful lesson he learned from a Maxim model. Nice guys can finish first with women, and this episode shows you how.

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How to TRIPLE Your Number of Hinge Matches (with ‘Date Smarter’ Author Tim Molnar)

October 21, 2025 • 73 mins
Dating apps feel rigged, and IRL approaches are just plain awkward, right? How are you supposed to find love today? In this encore episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” author Tim Molnar draws from his insightful new book, “Date Smarter,” to offer practical, research-backed dating strategies. A data-driven dating expert, Molnar shares what works both on the apps and in real life—including one move that has TRIPLED Hinge matches for...
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Be Magnetic to Women as the Nice Guy You Are—By Doing ONE Thing

October 16, 2025 • 21 mins
Why do “nice guys” get friend-zoned while jerks get the girl? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett smashes the “Nice Guy” myth, settles the debate over who should pay on a first date, and shares the time he flew cross-country to surprise a woman he’d never met—with an unexpected “gift.” You will laugh. You will cringe. Listen now!

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From Reddit Rage to Real Connection: How Ajay Learned that Women Actually Like Good Guys!

October 14, 2025 • 44 mins
Do you fear that approaching women might get you labeled a creep—or even socially shunned? Connell’s client Ajay once felt that way. Drowning in toxic Reddit advice, Ajay believed that women didn’t want to meet good guys like him. In this episode of ‘How to Get a Girlfriend,” he tells Connell how he went from feeling terrified to approach women to confidently meeting cool, cute girls. It turns out, women actually LIKE good guys.

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Flip the Authenticity Switch: 4 New Ways to Approach Women IRL (No Pickup Tricks Needed)

October 9, 2025 • 20 mins
Do you see women you’d love to talk to in real life but you freeze up? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals how to flip the “Authenticity Switch” and go from anxiousness to confidently approaching women—without any cheesy pickup lines. Four powerful shifts will help you meet women in a charming way. Plus, Connell gives you 4 practical approach missions to start meeting women today.

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How Shy Robbie Got 5 Numbers in 3 Hours! Steal This Move for Fearless Approaching

October 7, 2025 • 29 mins
Robbie, 26, is a shy software engineer who had never approached a woman in a bar—until one Friday night when dating coach Connell Barrett taught him the Hero Approach. It’s a bold move you make to start a night that unlocks authentic confidence. Three hours later, Robbie had collected 5 phone numbers. “I’m in god mode,” he said at one point. In this episode, you’ll learn how to use the Hero Approach to fearlessly meet women anywher...
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5 Fixes to Make Your Online Dating Profile a Match Magnet Today—New Photos NOT Needed

October 2, 2025 • 29 mins
Struggling to get matches on Hinge, Bumble or Tinder? It’s not your looks, and it’s not the dating apps. It’s your profile. Small but costly mistakes make women swipe left. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares five proven “Match Magnet” fixes you can apply today—using the photos you already have. No photo shoot, no stress. Just make 5 simple upgrades to turn your p...
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From Playdates to First Dates: The Single Dad’s Dating Reset (Live Coaching with Zach!)

September 30, 2025 • 71 mins
Online dating is tough for most men. But when you’re a single dad, it’s hard to find the energy and motivation. In this live coaching session, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps his client Zach—a single dad re-entering the dating world—improve both his online dating profile and his mindset. Don’t miss Zach’s breakthrough moment (at the 42-minute mark) when he realizes the real reason he’s not meeting the kind...
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Stop! Getting! Ghosted! The 5 Flirting Escalators to Turn First Dates into Second (and Third and Eighth) Dates

September 25, 2025 • 52 mins
More live coaching! Join dating coach and bestselling author (“Dating Sucks but You Don’t”) Connell Barrett as he helps his client Evan break through a big roadblock: getting ghosted after first dates. Connell reveals the 5 Flirting Escalators—the crucial steps Evan was missing. Get ready to stop hearing “I’m not feeling a connection” and start hearing “When are we going out again?” Listen now.


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‘My Penis is Small. Should I Have Surgery to Impress Women?’ Dating Coach Connell Barrett Takes Your Questions

September 23, 2025 • 32 mins
Insecurities don’t have to crush your confidence and hurt your dating life. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett takes on a listener’s raw question about penis size and enlargement surgery. Plus, Connell shares the right (and wrong) way to use A.I. in your online-dating strategy. And he reveals the right way to text women between dates.

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01:39: Will $1...
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Women Reveal the Truth: Approaching is Charming, Not Creepy—if You Do THIS

September 18, 2025 • 32 mins
Do you want to confidently meet attractive women you see in bars, cafes or the gym… but you’re afraid you’ll seem creepy? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett has good news: Woman WANT you to approach—if you do it the right way. Your fear of approaching is about to end! Plus, Connell reveals exactly what to say to break the ice and what NOT to say.


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Become a Magnetic Flirt on First Dates in 3 Simple Moves (Live Coaching with Matthew)

September 16, 2025 • 52 mins
Awkward silences, small talk that goes nowhere, the dreaded “I’m just not feeling” text. Bad dates suck! In this live-coaching episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps his client Matthew go from the nice, lonely guy who runs out of things to say to a magnetic flirt who women cannot resist. Discover the 3 flirting moves that Matthew is using to create playful, authentic chemistry on dates. Listen now!

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“His Coke Dealer Came to the Date!” 5 Funny Dating Disasters to Keep YOU from Being Her Horror Story

September 11, 2025 • 36 mins
Want to know what NOT to do on a date? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares five cringe-worthy dating disasters. From the investment banker whose cocaine dealer made a surprise appearance, to Connell’s double-decker bus ride straight to the Friend Zone, these cautionary tales will help you avoid becoming her next dating nightmare.

Highlights—Err, Lowlights?—of this Episode:

05:34: MURDER, SHE WATCHED: Maybe Don’...
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Will You Find True Love—or End Up Settling? It All Comes Down to ONE Thing

September 9, 2025 • 42 mins
Have you ever deleted a dating app in frustration? Or stopped yourself from following up after being left “on read”? Quitting too soon only leads to settling—or staying single. The solution is resilience. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals how grit and tenacity can help you land more dates, build confidence, and find the relationship you want. Love or loneliness—the deciding factor is resil...
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The Shy Guy’s Advantage: 5 Approaching Secrets to Help Introverts Confidently Connect with Women

September 4, 2025 • 32 mins
Approaching women as a shy, introverted guy can feel terrifying. But that shyness is actually your hidden advantage. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals 5 powerful shifts to help introverts confidently meet women in real life. You’ll also discover his go-to icebreaker that almost always works.

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You’re Making a HUGE Mistake on the Apps—Fix It Now! + Steal My Hinge Prompt for More Matches

September 3, 2025 • 32 mins
If you struggle on the apps, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the big mistake that costs you matches and dates—and how to fix it. Plus, Connell shares his best Hinge prompt ever. Then he unveils the 3 must-have prompts every profile needs to FINALLY make online-dating work for you.

Highlights of this Episode:

01:00: Online Dating is NOT Dating—Here’s What It Is

03:01: The Real Reason You Struggle to Get Qual...
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5 Texting Mistakes Women HATE! + 5 Ninja Text Moves to Get Her Pursuing You

August 26, 2025 • 57 mins
You know what sucks? (Besides every Kid Rock song.) When a woman you’re texting leaves you on read—and you have no idea why. In the finale of dating coach Connell Barrett’s “Textual Healing” series, you’ll learn the 5 hidden texting mistakes that turn women off. And you’ll get 5 advanced moves to become a texting ninja. Plus, Connell reads a message thread from his own phone to show you how to text your way to a first date.

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Women Can Tell If You Watch Too Much Porn—and it’s Destroying Your Dating Life (with Frank Rich)

August 19, 2025 • 60 mins
Ever wonder why you feel insecure around women? In a raw interview, thought leader and podcaster Frank Rich (“The Super Human Life”) joins dating coach Connell Barrett to reveal the hidden culprit that may be hurting your confidence: porn addiction. Rich opens up about his own battle, and explains how watching too much porn leads to objectifying women and kills dating motivation. He also shares his 5-step roadmap to freedom, so you...
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