(music) Latest Update | LMBYTS #1412 | Jason Newland | 17th August 2025

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. My name is
Jason Newland and this is let Me pull you to sleep.
Please only listen when you can safely close your eyes.

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Blah blah blah. So yeah, it's Sunday, the seventeenth of
August two thousand and twenty five. Yeah, it's been I mean,

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technically it's been quite a busy week, but really just
because of all the recordings I made, but I only
made like since Monday, I've only made to let Me

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boy you to sleep recordings. I didn't do a Q
and a Friday this week because or last week where
you want record it, you know, this previous Friday because
I got one question. I know, perhaps I left it

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a little bit late to post on the Facebook group,
you know, any questions. But maybe I should just stop
doing the Q and A Friday if no one's if
there's no more questions, then there's no more answers. I
can't answer questions that are not asked. So yeah, if

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you want me to continue to to the Q and
A Friday, then please, I mean, you can send a
question in via my website if you want, and I'll
just add it to a list of questions. Just let
me know it's for this coming Q and A Friday,

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and I'll add it because there's a contact form on
my website, or you can you know, when I post
any Q and A questions for Q and a Friday
on my Facebook group, which is Jason Newland's Boring Group,

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you can maybe leave a question there as well, or
instead of you know whatever. But yeah, I can't. I'm
not going to do it if there's no questions, because
it seems a little bit I mean, there was one question.

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I mean, in all fairness, I probably could have made
that one question last for about an hour, but the
question really was whether or not I preferred personal questions
or non personal questions? And has there been any times

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that I haven't answered a question because it was too personal?
So I can kind of answer that here in a
sense of generally, I'm open to most questions. If it's
a question that I don't really want to answer, then

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I will be purposefully vague, I suppose, or I will
distract myself and move on to something else. I don't know,
it's I'm not I'm not great with family questions because

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that is personal. But also I don't really have much
in a way of family to talk about. Really, Yeah,
as long as it's about me, it's fine. I'm okay.
You know, I talk about myself. That's the only thing

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I've really got any right to talk about, really, isn't
it in a sense? I mean, you know, I've done
a few done some podcasts about step moms and stuff,
but that was all nice things that I talked about.
So yeah, generally, if it's about me, that's kind of

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what the the Q and a Friday's for. But it
can be about you as well. It can be like
you could ask my opinion on something. You could ask
me because I've been a life for so long. You
can ask me about world events maybe that's happened during

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my lifetime. Asked me about English culture. If you live
in another country, you could ask me jobs, places I've lived, girlfriends, hobbies, interests,

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TV programs that I liked, music, movies I've seen. Yeah, really,
it's I think sometimes I'm better at some of the

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older stuff because if something because let's say, if I
went to someone slamming the doors downstairs like constantly, and
I really don't know why they've been doing it for
about twenty minutes, just slamming it. Well, let it slam

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over and over and over again, which is very sure.
I never got a dog barking. That's why these recordings
are so much better than hypnosis recordings, because I can't
I have to stop talking. If a dog barks in
the background. With these recordings, all sounds are fine. I mean,

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maybe not for you, but generally it's in a distance,
it's in the background, and it's either make a recording
or don't make a recording. Can you hear that? One

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of the things that starts that dog off, and also
starts Vinni off, and also starts another dog around the
corner off or across the road off is this cat.
So this lady that lives in a building opposite, she's
put bells on her cat's collars. Now, I thought she

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did it just to annoy the docks, but she didn't.
She did it to warn birds. So actually she's done
it for a really nice reason. But the side effect
of this particular medication is dogs hear it. I mean

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he can hear it in the middle of the night
and he starts barking sometimes or growling, and I don't
know what. I look out the window. I can just
make out the cat, and the cat's just standing in
the garden staring up at the window. Proper wind up

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merchant that one. So it's weird, isn't it. It's what
she's doing is a really good thing to have, because
I really love birds. But there's always there's a it

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seems to be a what do they call that thing?
Not a brush off, a playoff the downside, I don't know. Yeah,
it's not a win win situation. It's a win win

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situation for the birds, which I'm really pleased about. It's
not a win win situation for the cat. So the
cat doesn't get to catch birds, which is good, but
a cat does get to get some pleasure from annoying
the dogs, which I imagine is quite pleasant for it. Now,

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it's not a win situation for the dogs, unless, of course,
the dogs getting excited. So Vinnie might actually be enjoying
barking when he hears the cat. It's more excitement than
anger or anything, so bless him. Yeah, so Uncle's sausages.

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The funeral has been changed. It was on the toy.
It's supposed to be on the twenty first of August,
but they haven't got the birth the death certificate yet,
so it's been put off till another week. So that
was that's weird. The I had to get the counseling

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for the mouse exterminator people. I'm not sure what you
call them, animal prevention unit. I don't know, vermin control,
something like that. And they came in last Friday and

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they put down bait, and they came back this Friday
and said there's nothing in there. There's no They put
stuff in the into the lofts and everything, and there's nothing,
no sign, not a single sausage, excuse the pun. And

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it's all the residue, all the leftovers from the previous
mister there. So it's not Yeah, it's old historic, he said,
which is good. It's not good in a sense, but
it's good obviously for the rest of the building because

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we don't want those things running around. But it's not
it's like he was living with all that stuff around.
He didn't even know it. So the I'm thinking that
the council are going to come in and start emptying

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his place, probably in the next week or so. So
I've still got his key to let them in and
then that'll be the whole process coming and emptying it.
And painting and all that stuff, and getting a place

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ready for the next tenant and a new a new
adventure begins, hopefully a quiet adventure. But we'll see. Yeah,
I could, really, I really don't need a new neighbor
opposite me. You know. It's the noisy ones, the ones downstairs,

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and then there's a couple. Well one's moved out now,
but there was a couple that slammed the door continuously downstairs.
Now it shakes the building. It's really loud. It echoes
through the hallway and stuff. And it's one thing downstairs,
but here, if I had the same thing happening opposite me,

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it's going to be I think it will be disturbable, disturbable,
disturbably loud, and I don't Yeah, I'm not looking forward
to that because there seems to be two types of
people in this world, those that know how to close

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doors and those that don't know how to close doors.
I didn't think it'd be too complicated, you know, and
so considerate people and inconsiderate people. But I also realized
as I got older, that inconsiderate people aren't actually quite

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often doing it to be harmful to other people. They're
just not thinking, they're just they're just going about their business,
going about their life. They're not even noticing the doors
slamming when they leave, and perhaps not noticing they've got

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loud music at night, or you know, they're just they're
not doing it purposefully to cause problems. I think some
people just they're just not aware of that, or not
aware but not aware that other people are around that

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can hear. Maybe they assume that they're everything they can
hear is just for their ears and no one else
can hear it. Have you ever seen someone on public
transport talking about someone else and they're literally like ten

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foot away, but that person can hear you. I can
hear you, and I'm in the next town. It seems
to Yes, it's kind of weird. One no one can
hear me. Yeah, they can hear you, you know, when

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we're not not everybody. But so that would be interesting.
I mean, I hope it will take a while before
they get anyone in there, and I hope when they do,
it's not going to be you know, it's going to

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be yeah, Well, I hope it's going to be a
nice person, that's all. Someone that's idea is someone that's
older someone that's maybe, but I don't think it really
matters about agees that they're nice, nice and quiet. That
would be nice, Yeah, nice and quiet. How many people

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have I had lived here, not in my flat, but
live in this building since I've been here for ten years,
ten and a half years now. Oh so when I
moved in, we had her him him, him, So there

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was someone when I moved in, there was Uncle's Sausages.
He's been here the whole he was here the whole
time until recently. And then next to him there was

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someone that was there for a while and then he
moved out, and then someone else moved in. I didn't
realize it was a different person. But he's been in
there for a long time, and I'll get on really
well with him as well, So he's cool. He's about eighty.

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And then so this has kind of been the same
for a long time, the last probably eight years. This
has pretty much been the same upstairs until now. Downstairs
there's someone that's been there the whole time as well

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as she was here when I moved in, not below me,
but one of the flats downstairs, and then in the
other flat next to the one, I was just talking
about downstairs. That was where my friend Luke lived, and

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he was I think he's been there for like two,
two or three years before I moved in, at least
a couple of years before I moved in, so and
he was here until what month is it now, August, September, October, November,

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so it will be two years in November that he left.
Let me dark shut up. I do wonder if she
just the owner of that doctor's prods it to make
it bark, because always it's too quiet and we need noise. Bark.

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That's good. I haven't got to think now, just make
lot noise. We need noise. So when he left, the
counsel came, did their thing and all that stuff. But
it did take quite a long time before anyone moved in,

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so it was a good I don't know if I
just got a feeling it was last summer, but maybe
kind of April May time, so December, January, February, March April,

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so at least five or six months before someone moved
in there. Yeah, so it wasn't it might have been
March April. It was all I know. It's very very sunny,
so maybe four five months, so it's quite. It's quite

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a long time. I mean, the longer the better. The
longer it takes, the better, I think. Not for people
that are waiting for housing, obviously, it's not good for them,
just for the tenants, you know, just have that little
break that's I don't know, a bit selfish, isn't I suppose. Sorry,

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I give myself permission to be selfish once a day,
and that was my little selfish moment. So and then
so soone moved in there into to loose flat about

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I don't know. I'm sure it's about May, but there
might have been earlier. And then she's moved out already
as far as I know, she's moved out a couple

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of weeks ago. So that tenant's gone. So there's now
another flat empty, but the council haven't come in to
refurbish it. So I'm not sure what's going on. All
I know is she moved I've been told that she's

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moved out. And then downstairs, so we've got two flats
empty at the moment, but both kind of just been
lived in it as it were, you know, so they
need to be what the count would normally do. You know,

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if there's stuff in there, like there was still some
stuff in there with Luke. They come in and they
take all the stuff out and they put it to
the back of a like a lorry van thing, you know,
those cage vans. And I don't know obviously where you live,

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I'm not sure what it's like, but they kind of
they use quite often for cutting, like you know, the
grass cutters that are doing parks and stuff, and they
chuck stuff in the back there, so it's got a cage.
It's not it's not got a top on it, but
it's got a cage at the side, so then it
doesn't you know, and they can open it at the

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back and put stuff on and wheel stuff into it.
I mean, it's probably used in building sites that kind
of things. Well, I don't know, but I imagine, well
they use that's what they generally seem to use, so
they chuck stuff on there. Then there's a while because

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I guess the process depends well how quick the process
is depends on how many flats need to be done,
because they've got limited workers to do it, I imagine.
So you know, if suddenly one hundred flats become available,

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a hundred properties become available in one month. They're going
to struggle to do that many they're it's gonna take
a while, I guess, but there I don't be honest,
I don't really know what the council actually do to
the property. I mean once they take everything out, which

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they I know, they take the carpet out as well.
The only way you get to have a carpet is
if you do a council swap with someone else. So,
for example, I'd love to live in Talkie. It's a
long way away, but I just think it's beautiful place

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or maybe something like Cornwall or you know, somewhere that's
just nice visually nice with a beach. And yeah, I'm not,
I'm not. I mean, this is okay as a base,
but it's not. I'm very secluded here and I do

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like beaches, and I've lived on a well, I've lived
in towns with beaches three times, including Buttlings. I mean technically,
well was not. Technically there was a beach there, but

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I think I only went to it twice and it
was winter, so it wasn't. Really I'm pretty sure the
beach was. I think that part of the beach might
have been private, just for no it wouldn't have been
private with it. I don't know anyway. I remember I

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did go there a couple of times at late at night,
and it's very windy, very cold, very rainy. Yeah, I
do quite like beaches. I lived in South End when
I was a little kid, and back then South End

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was a very popular place for holiday goes, and I
mean it probably I think Blackpool was always the most popular.
I think, but I think what happened and I might
be I'm partly making this up. Is depending on where

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you lived in the country, when it came to a holiday,
you'd go to the popular place that's in that part
of the country. So if you lived in I suppose
Liverpool or Manchester and stuff like that, you perhaps travel

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to Blackpool. If you lived in London, perhaps you travel
to South End or to Clacton. And if you're in Essex,
maybe Clacton or South End because both of those are
in South End. So and it's probably the same in

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other places. You know where you'd go to a place
where there's I was trying to think the East coast Yarmouth.
Yarmouth was a very popular place. Yarmouth Beach is one
of the nicest beaches I ever went to in this country.

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It was a long time ago. I went on a
school trip. Was there a school trip? Wow? Why I've
always gone sweaky? Why did I go to Yarmouth? I
went on a trip with someone, but I don't know

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why I went. Maybe it was with the see Cadets,
or maybe it was a school trip. Might be the
school trip, might have been the Cecredets. But I've got

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a memory of it, and I think one of the blokes,
one of the kids, met a girl while he was there,
and he was not in the Cecredets, So I think
it was just a school trip and we went to
Yarmouth for some reason for the day and stuff like that.
It's brilliant. Yeah, probably that's what's a memory I forgot about. Yeah.

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I remember running on the beach and just like the
sea coming up and I'm kissing my girlfriend and she's like,
we're upset because she's going back. She's on holidays. She
was going back to Australia and I to go back

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to school. I wait a minute, as speakinning of Greece. No,
but there's definitely a beach. There was a beach. I'll
tell you another beach really lovely, really Lowerestoft, so the
East coast if you ever do come to if you
live up north, or you live in Scotland or Wales

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or the middle of the country Norwedge. I mean, if
you live in the South area, you're probably going to
know about the East Coast. But there's some really nice
beaches here. Now, I don't think anyone's going to come
from Wales to go visiting beaches other parts of the UK,

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because Wales has some of the most beautiful beaches in
the world. I think I covered myself there. Good does
Scotland have beaches? So I said, do Scotland have Wales? See,
I have been to Scotland, but I was a tiny kid.

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I think I lived there for a while. I'd like
to go. Well, do I say Scotland, I'd like to
go to Scotland. I'd like to It's one of those
places like I've been to Wales multiple times over the years.
I've been told I live in England, but I've been
to lots and lots of places in England. I lived

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in Newcastle, lived in South End, lived in East Anglia,
lived in Essex, lived in London. Yes, I lived in
the Northeast. In the south I've been to. You know,

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a lot of the places I've been to Nottingham, Liverpool, Manchester,
Bolton and most of the towns in this on the
east coast area, you know, all those different beccles and

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lowest staffed Yarmouth, all those places in Norfolk as well.
I've been to lots of places in Norfolk over the
years in the past, not recently, and I just haven't

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really as an adult or as a like a because
when I was there, I was too young to really
know where I was. When I was in Scotland. That
is so my oldest brother said, we lived in Scotland
for a while, but I don't recollect it. I don't
remember it because I was I might have even been

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a baby, not a baby, but like two years old
or something, which is still a baby, isn't it really?
And I'd like to go to Scotland just to visit,
and because I would be a tourist like my dad

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is literally not literally, because there was a while back,
but probably about two months ago for sus yeah, Putty,
about two months ago he was in Scotland on holiday
and he did a little tour of Scotland and I'm

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not sure where he went because I've got family and
my ancestry. Although forty eight percent Irish, I am about
two percent Scottish or four percent Scottish, so you know,
my Celtic percentage is quite high Irish and Scottish. And

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I don't know if it's any or whales in me now,
just god, we have visual whild you want and well
or whal and you would, but yeah, I don't know
if I've got any. We're all mixed, and we ultimately
there is the idea is that there's a pure breed

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human out there. Shut up, shut up, doesn't exist. You're silly,
silly person. I'm pure me. No, you're not. Maybe pure
of mind, I'm a pure breed. No, there's no such thing.
There's not even such thing as a pure breed dog,
because most dogs have just created. You know, You've got

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a dog and then you say, Okay, I like this,
I like this little mixture we've got. Let's make more
of just this mixture, and we'll call it a pure breed,
even though the original wasn't a pure breed. It was
just a mixture. No, that's not how it works. So
I remember besides saying, oh is it Jack Russell? And

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he was the bloke that tried to selling many to me.
He's a pure breed, you know, I said, okay, and
I did a bit of research. Now, Jack Russell's were
created on purpose by mixing a bunch of dogs together
to create hunters. So there's nothing pure a pumped hair.

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It's like, you know, it's weird. There's definitely no pure
breed humans. Is that controversal? No, but it's true. Ah. Yeah,
So Scotland, I reckon it would be quite a nice

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place to visit. Wales. I'd like to go back to
Wales and visit again. Yeah, I'd like to see the
beaches again, just to see if they are what I remember.
I'm going to be smaller than I remember, because I
was tiny when I went there, you know, because we
used to go camping in Wales every year for quite

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a few years, and I didn't like camping. I'll be
honest with you. I didn't like it. It's just not
my I mean, you haven't got to be an adult

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to know what you do and don't like, have you.
I mean, I knew from the very first time that
I was standing there in the rain putting a tent up,
that I didn't enjoy the process, and that I didn't
really want to do it again, I would say, the

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only nice thing and this is going to be weird.
Actually there's two things. The only I didn't mind sleeping
in a tent, but I didn't like it, however, weird.
That is what I liked, is laying down in the tent.

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And because we're in Wales, there's the obligatory rain has
to occur. I mean this was in the peak of
the season, peak of the summer. Beautiful for pupil are
beautiful weather, but also you know, some rain as well
around it, which is why it's such a luscious country.

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And that sound of the rain on the lid of
the tent was just so nice. It was I mean,
I don't personally, I probably did get tingles. It was
maybe that's my ASMR thing. I just found it very relaxing.

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But being inside the tent when it was happening. I've
always enjoyed hearing rain unless I have to go out
in it, then I don't enjoy it. And wind and weather.
I like weather. I'm kind of used to it. If

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you ever lived, if you lived in this country, all
we have is weather. It's just continuous. Yes, So I
don't know. I think, yeah, laying down, I don't know

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where everyone was because there was like what one, two, three, four, five,
and myself there was six of us, way too many
people to spend time together. But we did and you
know it was, it was what it was. Can't change

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it now. Yeah, parts of it were lovely. I liked
the the sandy beaches. And because in Whales, like I'm
like a tourist guy, don't I If you've never been

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to Wales, and if you thought about all I'll go
or not, I'd recommend going, maybe be prepared to travel
around because you know, it's not that Wales is a
huge area. I mean it's not tiny, but it's still

(39:30):
it's there's you know, there's still quite a lot. There's
quite a few beautiful beaches. You've got Snowdonia the mountain,
and I went up there twice. I think maybe three times.
I think it's twice. Went up by train once and

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went up like walked up to the top. So did
the journey. I think it was twice. Train's a lot quicker,
so I wouldn't try and not in a not even
in a No, I wouldn't try and walk up it now.

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I mean there are parts of it that he kind
of it's an up hill walk, but it's not steep
the whole way. There's parts of it that feel almost flat,
and then it sort of gradually, you know, you end
up and I think you kind of walk around the thing.
I think, but in my memory it might not be true.

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But yeah, not really, not really for me anymore. I
would go up by it. I probably. I don't know
if i'd even bother going up by train because I've
done it. I did it years ago, I did it
when I was a kid. Wouldn't be that bothered to
do it again. But if you haven't done it, it's
definitely worth it, I would say, because I don't know

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about your life. But how often do you get to
stand at the top of a mountain? I mean some
people would, I guess every day if you live on
a mountain, obviously, but I, yeah, it's quite not yeah,
it's quite. Maybe I would do it again, but go

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by train. And the trains were old, like really made
of woods, kind of proper old trains, just like that,
And my dad saying to me, Jason, can you stop that,

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I said, but it makes fun. It makes it more
fun if I had some sound effects. But yeah, I
quite liked it. Yeah, that was all right. We also
went to slate places, so basically just old minds where
they used to dig for slate. We did also go

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to a couple of coal mines, old coal mines, and
I think what really surprised me. I don't know why
I was surprised, but how big they are like underneath really,

(42:35):
I mean, I do kind of think that if you're
going to build a hole like that, you're going to
dig a hole. When you finish, you need to fill
the hole in. That seems to be the obvious thing.

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You don't leave a big, massive whole all in the ground.
I'm not talking about the entrance or the exit. Maybe
U classes the entrance or the exits, probably both, isn't it,
but all of the space inside because that's going sideways,

(43:21):
and you know there's a lot of ground that's basically
underneath the place where people are walking. This big, massive
gap of empty space sort of made sense. I don't know,

(43:42):
to me do something with that space, I don't know
what build, build like a shelter or some kind of

(44:02):
I don't know it, you know it just so it's supported.
So it's really really well supported for the ground. And
you can tell I know nothing about what I'm talking about.
But doesn't that since stopped me before, So why should
they stop me now? Hey? Why there's no mere USM.

(44:27):
So yeah, I'd like to go to Scotland. I'm not
sure where though, because I do. I'd like to go
to Ireland again as well. I mean I'm a sole
traveler generally, but if I went to Ireland, it's I

(44:52):
could visit a couple of people that I know, or
three people that I know on the whole of the island,
including the northern Ireland, and that with Scotland i'd quite
like to go to. Trying to think of Scottish place

(45:18):
they've got. They've got towns in Scotland, haven't they. Do
you have houses there? Yeah? I don't know. I just
I just like to visit and just have a look around. Really,
there's no specific place necessarily. I mean, i'd like to

(45:46):
go to Edinburgh, but i'd like to go during the
Edinburgh Festival, so that would be cool. Glasgow is another
place I'd like to visit. Yeah, outside of that, I

(46:06):
can't think of any other places. Edinburgh Glasgow. Hmm, that probably.
I'm not saying that's that's all, but that I guess
they're two of the main places. Glasgow just I don't know.

(46:27):
It's somewhere that I wanted to visit for a long time,
Edinburgh solely because of the Edinburgh Festival, the Fringe Festival,
so where the comedy and stuff is on a I
think it's in August. I think it's now. Actually probably

(46:54):
I've not been to the Isle of Wight now. I
have family on the Eye of White, not that I know.
I just I've got like distant relatives that live there,
as I do on the Isle of Man. And well,
one of my close relatives, my auntie, used to live

(47:16):
on the Isle of Man. She doesn't anymore, so that's
that's not a distant relative that she's my auntie, but
she's my daddy's sister or she's my granny's daughter, so
her and her daughter lived on the Isle of Man.
The Isla White is more distant, distant distant relations sort

(47:39):
of my NaN's relatives relatives, and I'd like to visit
the Isla White. I think it's has to be quite
a decent place to go, quite a nice place, so
maybe go there because these are more like closer places,
aren't they, rather than traveling across the world. About here?

(48:05):
About all the places that there are to visit here,
that I could visit here? Yeah, I don't know. Just
maybe maybe could go and have a look around, have
a little wonder. But then you've got lots of islands,

(48:30):
haven't you around the local islands like Bergerac you're there,
and is Love Sheppy is it? There's some Scottish islands
that I could visit. And I think there's like one
hundred and twenty one different little islands around the UK.

(48:56):
There's a few anyway, I don't know if there's that many.
I made that up, but there's a few. There's definitely
a few islands with small amounts of people, you know,
So I think it'd be quite cool to visit some
of those places. And again it's just a ferry, isn't it,

(49:18):
And maybe another boat to take me to the island,
as long as I don't have to get in the water,
you know, if it's a small boat like from a
ferry or a ship, and then a small boat there
needs to be at least a jetty, you know, and

(49:40):
someone to help me off the boat. I don't want
to be like having to jump in the sea and
walk up get all wet. No, I don't no, stop
asking me to do that. I don't want to. So yeah,

(50:02):
So there's lots of places I'd quite like to visit
in the foreseeable kind of surroundings, I suppose, you know,
because none of this is particularly far away. It's a

(50:22):
few hours. A few hours. I mean, the Isle of
Man is quite on the Isle of Wight is a
fair distance because I don't know about the Isle of White.
But with the Isle of Man, i'd have to go
to Liverpool, I think, to get the ferry from there
to the Isle of Man. So Liverpool. To get from

(50:45):
here to Liverpool is probably about five hours on a train,
if not more, five hours, maybe less, maybe more, maybe
six hours, and then the ferry over. If I've got
a nighttime one, it's going to take all night to
get there. Daytime daytimes usually travel quicker, don't they, But

(51:11):
at nighttime. And I do like a nighttime journey a
nighttime ferry, but I like a daytime fairy as well.
I think there's the benefits of a daytime, as you
can see, you can go out on the deck and
you can see stuff. At night, you can't really see

(51:35):
that much, but it is more slow and more relaxed,
and there's less people the nighttime. In my experience, I've
done a few nighttime ferries over the years, and it's
just less people around in the nighttime. I think the

(51:57):
I guess in the majority of people prefer to travel
during the day, especially when it comes to or in
the past, going to Belgium, there was a very popular
pastime for people and they would travel from England to

(52:21):
Belgium or England to France and basically get off the ferry,
go to the duty duty free place, buy lots of
alcohol and cigarettes and then get on the next ferry,

(52:41):
back load their lorry not the lowry, load their van
or their car with stuff and pretend that it was
for personal use, and then get back and sell it
in the pubs. Now, that was something that people did
for years and years and years. And I mean there

(53:04):
was a time we didn't even need a passport to
go to to go abroad. You could get like a
little part like a day a day passport, a day
pass and because I didn't have my I went abroad. Oh,
I didn't get my first passport until nineteen ninety four,

(53:27):
and so before that time, I traveled to Belgium multiple times,
to France, and I flew to Spain and I didn't
have a passport, just got a like a I was

(53:48):
just allowed to go, which is a bit weird because
everywhere I've been since then, they've all asked to see
my passport and this is you know, this is I've well, yeah,
I don't think I've left. Have I left the country
since Yeah, it's not to do with us leaving Europe

(54:13):
because a few years back we basically put our little
sales up and we moved away from Europe. We moved
the whole country away, floated away. We did. It's weird,
very strange. We can actually see the sun moving to

(54:37):
the side as we moved. So yeah, so if you
do travel to England, just be aware that we're not
in the same place he was. They haven't changed all
the maps because they take ages and it's expensive. So
plus England is such a dot on the map anyway,

(54:58):
you almost miss if it was the scale, so it
doesn't really matter of fact. We've moved a few thousand miles.
So yeah, well, now in China you didn't know that. No,
you didn't know it nowhere near Hong Kong. Yeah, So

(55:20):
we moved out of Europe a few years ago and
the weather's changed. It's a lot warmer now. Yeah. The
thing is the problem is I didn't they didn't plan
it very well because they managed to get it set,
but anchorage there wasn't enough. Anchorage didn't have enough anchors.

(55:44):
So we keep kind of just you wake up. You
never know when where you could have end up. The
other day, I was in Spain, woke up, looked out
in Spain. Three weeks ago, I was in Somalia. Just
you don't, I don't know. So yeah, and so this

(56:08):
is my Sunday afternoon. Sunday afternoon. There was a time
in England where everything was closed on a Sunday. I'm
talking everything. The only thing opened. Two things are opened

(56:28):
as far as for public, okay, other than you know,
going out and stuff. You know, there was still amusements
and all those kinds of things were open on the
weekends for people and maybe a Sunday market. But newsagents
opened on a Sunday morning and then on a Sunday

(56:55):
lunchtime off license could open for about an hour and
a half, then they closed, and then they'd open up.
I think they were allowed to open up in the
evening for about an hour and a half then they close,
not one hundred percent sure that's true. And pubs would

(57:16):
be allowed to open up for a short period of time,
probably being between eleven and one or eleven and two.
The pubs would open and then they'd open again in
the evening for about seven till ten or six till ten.
They close it they close at ten o'clock. That's what

(57:39):
that's Honestly, that's what Sundays used to be like in
this country. No supermarkets, no anything walking around is just
not everyone to be at home apart from those that weren't.
And it was kind of like an official day off.
I mean, and it's not official, it was That's the reason,

(58:05):
wasn't it so that people can have the day off working,
So probably the majority of people in the country wouldn't
work on a Sunday. Yeah, a lot different back then,

(58:30):
and it still was like that when I'm pretty sure.
I'm not sure how relaxed things got, but I'm pretty
sure it was still like that when I met when
I moved to London, because I lived in a small
town at that time and I moved to London and

(58:58):
things are different because shops were open. Some shops are
open all the time, like all the time, and I've
never seen that before. Like you could just get stuff
whenever you want it, at any time of the day
or night. Not everywhere, but there were places you could

(59:21):
get stuff. And there was this when I lived in
forest Gate. There was this little shop right on the corner.
Worst shop in the world. It was on the corner
and you had to ring the doorbell for them to

(59:42):
let you in. So it's basically it's almost like they'd
confer their front room, their living room into a shop
and it's sold groceries, suits, just bits like that. Yeah,
everything was behind the counter, so you couldn't just take

(01:00:05):
what you wanted and put it on again. They had
to get it for you and you had to ring
their doorbell and they would come and open the door.
To me, that was someone that did not want my money.
They did not want to work, they didn't want to

(01:00:26):
be open. So I just I wouldn't go there. I'd
walk I'd walk two miles away to get stuff. I
just refused to go in there. I was very young,
I was very I was very political back then. I
was very stupid. Back then. I just annoyed me because

(01:00:47):
a couple of times I did try and get in
there and they just wouldn't answer the door. We're busy,
Come on, I just want to can of coke. We're busy.
Couldn't you just come I just want one can of coke.
We're in bed. Really, can't you just give me a

(01:01:08):
can of coke? It's four in the morning. We're going
to call the police if you don't go away. We
know where you live. Okay, fair enough? So yeah, I
understand they didn't want to open the door four in
the morning. But it's I remember when seven eleven opened. Now,

(01:01:31):
that changed the world in this country because suddenly or
they were open, because everything, even during the week everything
was closed, you know. I think the pubs had to
be closed by eleven or half ten. I think maybe

(01:01:55):
they could open a bit later at the weekends. But
the whole kind of being open late late didn't happen
till late nineties, I think, maybe two thousands. Yeah. Wow,
A lot of changes, a lot of changes over the years.

(01:02:17):
But seven eleven that was so good, and I don't
know why it didn't. I mean it might still be
around parts of the country, I don't know, probably maybe
in London, if there are are cities, maybe, but it
didn't last very long there. And I never understood it

(01:02:38):
because it was the perfect place. They had everything, everything
you could possibly want in it of an evening. I mean,
unless you wanted to buy some underpants or something, then
they didn't have that. If you wanted to buy a
you know, a game of chess, they didn't have that either,

(01:02:59):
you know, a packet of screws. No, didn't have that.
But they had like basic things my biscuits, cakes, drinks, alcohol, cigarettes,
and chocolates. I suppose, like basic. I think they might

(01:03:22):
have had a few basic groceries also, yeah, they probably did. Yeah,
they did have basic groceries, so like tins of beans
and coffee, tea, you know, the kind of stuff that
you'd probably find in in any seven eleven around the world,
because there's lots of them. It was brilliant. I loved

(01:03:44):
it now. I used to go when it first started.
I'd go in there when it first opened. I mean
i'd say, what time are you're closing, they'd say eleven.
I mean, to start with, it was like, oh, eleven o'clock.
After the fifteenth time of going in there, like every
day in a row, they said, it's still eleven o'clock.

(01:04:10):
Then after about three weeks of doing it, they took
me outside and pointed to the sign and what I
think they thought I was making fun of them, but
it wasn't, because I really I grew up seeing everything
close early, like my whole life up to the age

(01:04:31):
of sixteen, seventeen whatever. It was, everything closed early in
the evening on a Sunday, everything, and I just couldn't
believe that something was open late till eleven at night.
It was unheard of. And I kind of because of

(01:04:56):
the because I was working in the chip shop at
the time, and I didn't finish work till probably ten
half ten sometimes if it was a really busy lot
to do and stuff ten o'clock, I don't know, and
I'd go and check in that because I wanted to
make sure I could go in and get myself maybe
some drinks or some chocolate bars or something. So i'd

(01:05:19):
go in, you know, like earlier in the day. What
time you closing. I'd try and get at like a
different member of staff. I'll always get the same answer,
eleven o'clock Jason. And so I thought, well, I'm going
to start doing is phoning them. So I phoned them up. Now,

(01:05:42):
if you go somewhere regularly and then you start to
phone them, it's a good idea to put on a
different voice if you can. Because they just knew it
as me straightway, because I said to Hi, it's Jason
from the chip shop. What time have you closed today?

(01:06:03):
Eleven o'clock? Like every other day, it's eleven o'clock, seven
eleven it means seven in the morning to eleven at night,
you know, and seem to want to know what time
we open. We open at seven. The clues in the sign,

(01:06:25):
the clues in the name. Thank you for calling Jason.
Now my problem is I should have put on a
different voice. Clearly, Hi, it's Jason from the chip shop.
What time you closed in today? See, I just didn't

(01:06:46):
think on my feet it would be a lot easier,
but I just thought it out first, like could do
with these recordings. I mean, you wouldn't believe Eve that
I spend probably six seven hours a day. You know,
putting on his script together what I'm going to say,

(01:07:07):
and you know, practice in for a good two hours
before I start the recording, and then it sounds so natural. Wow.
Can you imagine if I did that? Well, yeah, you
can imagine, because it'd probably be really well presented instead

(01:07:29):
of this whatever it is that I do. But this
is what you get. This is me. My name's chasing
La la la la la l L. So yeah, that's it. Really,
it's me talking about Sundays and what I had did.

(01:07:56):
Church used to be open on a Sunday evening, I
think it did. I know it used to be opening
on a Sunday morning because I would often go to
church with my nan. More often but quite a fair
few times. I'd go to church for my nan when
I was a teenager sort of six fifteen, sixteen, seventeen, whatever,

(01:08:21):
and then we'd go and because there'd be a coffee place,
so there'd be a place you could get some coffee.
Or was that during the week. That might have been
on a Wednesday. Maybe she went to church on a
Wednesday and I'd go to church with her. Then maybe
it was a Sunday, I'm not sure. Maybe it was

(01:08:49):
a Sunday. We'd go and get a cup of tea
and a cake, and then I think we'd walk back.
There wasn't a cute, huge walker. This is a fair distance,
but it wasn't a huge walk. Or maybe my dad
would come and pick her up. I don't know. I

(01:09:11):
don't remember exactly how much of this is true. I
did used to go to quite yeah, quite a few times.
I went to midnight Mass with her at midnight, but
then they also had an early midnight Mass for people

(01:09:34):
that couldn't get there, you know, for midnight, which makes sense.
It doesn't make sense the way I said it, but
some people it wasn't you know, walking around at midnight
wasn't really ideal. So they did like an early one
at about seven or eight in the evening, and once

(01:09:59):
one day got a bit older, i'd probably say from yeah,
the last twenty years, No, the last two thousand and
four two four, wow, the last ten years no, because

(01:10:27):
that's the thing because after two thousand and four, because
I went to midnight Mass with her, but it was
early one, it was about eight o'clock. I know my
auntie was there and she wanted to go to her
church because she my name's a Catholic, and she had
our own church that she wanted to go to, so

(01:10:49):
I'm not sure what it was that she went to,
and she wanted to go to there as well to
do the actual midnight service. And it's still one of
my favorite Christmas is as an adult two thousand and four.
It's weird, but there's something special about it to me.

(01:11:13):
And I was staying at my nun's house in the
spare room, the room that I used to have for
myself when I was eight years old. I my own
bedroom was brilliant, and I was back sleeping in there.
My aunt and uncle were in the other room, which

(01:11:33):
was that's where my two brothers used to sleep in
bunk beds. And in my nun's bedroom was where my
parents used to sleep, and that's where her and her husband, Mike,
my granddad, that was their room from nineteen seventy nine,

(01:11:56):
you know, onwards. So I had that room for about
a year, my little room, but I wasn't there for
a year in two thousand and four, just there for
one night, probably two or three nights. So because I
was living in a different town, So I come over
probably Christmas Eve, because I was working. Yeah, I was working,

(01:12:20):
So I come over with Christmas Eve. I go out
to go out to church to midnight Mass, but it's
early with my nan because she couldn't have said she
couldn't go to the late one. It was too late
for by that time because she was you know, she

(01:12:41):
had like a disability because of her hip and stuff,
so she needed a walk and stick and stuff, so
you know, walking around at night wasn't really ideal. Although
she would have got a lift, you know. And then

(01:13:04):
I say she would have got She did get a lift,
but she would have got a lift back if it
was late anyway, So she got a lift anyway. So
we went up with my aunt and uncle, and then
we came back and my aunt and uncle. My Auntie
wanted to go to the other thing, but I don't
think they went in the end, because they spent too
much time talking about it and discussed with were not

(01:13:26):
to go. And by that time it was Boxing day
by the time I finished, and my Auntie did something
that I've never done before, or she sort of introduced
a new, a new Christmas Eve thing. So she went
and she got some presents off the tree and gave

(01:13:46):
me a present Christmas Eve.

Speaker 2 (01:13:49):
I said, but Auntie, it's Christmas Eve. It's not time
for presents. That's supposed to be on Christmas Day. Sure,
she said, no, we give presents Christmas Eve. It's just
one present off the tree. It's just something we do
every year. But how's father Christmas delivered him?

Speaker 1 (01:14:11):
If he hasn't been yet, She said, you're thirty four
years old. Shut up, Like, Wow, it's a bit harsh,
isn't it. So it was just sweets, basically. It was
like candy you would call it maybe if you call

(01:14:31):
it that in your country. But the thing is I
hadn't had any chocolate since the summer, so I'd lost
a lot of weight on purpose because I kind of
I needed to get fitter. So during the Dune two

(01:14:53):
thousand and four, I kind of got myself nice and
physically fit. I was working on the mental fitness as well.
And I hadn't had any chocolate since the summer. So
we're talking what July, August, September, October, November for at

(01:15:13):
least four or five months. So Christmas Eve, I'm here
with these and it was one of those chocolate things
that sparkle on your tongue and I was just it
was heavenly. It was a pleasure that I just didn't

(01:15:34):
realize I needed. It was so nice. Oh and it
was like being a kid again. It was just really
because I remember good. I'll tell you one of the
benefits of being of my childhood is a lot of

(01:15:59):
the nice stuff happened when I was I know, it's
good to have nice stuff happen when you're young, when
you're really young. But one of the benefits of it
happened when it happens for the first time when you're
kind of seven or eight, is I can still remember
it now. So certain things like chocolate that I'd never
eaten before, or riding my first bike. You know, a

(01:16:22):
lot of kids had their first bike when they'd I'd
had two, three, four, you know, so my first bike
was when I was just four as what seven I
think I was, Yeah, I was seven, So I remember that.
So it's quite nice to have those little memories. Now.
I wasn't four in two thousand and four or seven

(01:16:45):
in two thousand and four, but it was a little
bit like that. It's like, Okay, this is nice, this
is like a It's not that I'd never had it before.
It it was almost like for the first time because
I'd gone five months about any chocolate, and trust me,
that was a long time for me back then to

(01:17:08):
go about chocolate. I've always been a little bit of
a chocolate e person. It's part of the culture in
this country eating chocolate, sugar, all that stuff is part
of the national pastime, part of my national identity. Stuff

(01:17:30):
myself full of sugar. Mmm. So yeah, that was just
a really that was a nice Christmas. Actually, so I
got to see my nan, got to see me uncle,
an aunt, got to see me dad and that side
of the family because I went there for Christmas dinner

(01:17:54):
and then went back to my NaN's in the evening
and then had Boxing Day with my nan and Christmas
dinner and Boxing Day dinner. So yeah, it was cool.
That was a nice Christmas. I mean, it's not the
only Christmas I spent at my nun's, but is the
most memorable one. Yeah, there was another Christmas I spent

(01:18:18):
there in My NaN's brother was there, Uncle Antony, and
he was I think he was a little bit younger
than her. He was a younger brother by probably about
four years, three or four years and maybe maybe older brother.

(01:18:41):
I don't know. I think younger brother. I think I
might be wrong, but marginally younger. I think she had
about twelve brothers and sisters my name, and he it
was funny. It was not funny funny, but he'd watched

(01:19:02):
the TV downstairs and he'd had it on so loud.
I literally like was just there all night try I
struggled to sleep because the TV was blaring out because
he couldn't hear it. It's as simple as that wasn't
what he wasn't being inconsiderate. He just couldn't hear the TV,

(01:19:22):
so he had to turn it up in order to
hear it. And I think my men went down there
and told him off because she was concerned about the neighbors,
because she always had a really good relationship with the
next door neighbor, him and his family, or the couple

(01:19:43):
and their family. And it was still it was the
same next door neighbor they had that we had when
we lived there before they moved in, and we kept
I say we, I and my family was still in
contact with that next door I mean I was still
in contact with that family. I was still visiting going

(01:20:10):
around there in nineteen ninety. In fact, no, I was
still going around there. Wow, I was still going around
there in the early nineties. When I visit, I still
go in there because I was friends with a boy
and I really liked the girl. I was friends with
her as well, and I got on well with the

(01:20:32):
parents because I've known her since I was seven or
eight years old, seven and a half eight, so they'd
known me kind of almost all my life in a way.
You think from seven and a half to twenty twenty one,
twenty two whatever, that's a long time. And they lived

(01:20:57):
there and they loved my well, I love my nan
and granddad, but you know, they looked out for my
name when she lived there on her own, and really
nice people. It's weird. It's like, I don't want to
sort of say too much, but I don't even know

(01:21:19):
what this situation is anymore. But the lady that lived
there was a nurse. I'm not sure what a husband did.
I think he might have worked on the docks. And
I was at school with both the kids. So I
was at school with the boy who was the same

(01:21:40):
age as my brother, my first older brother, and then
his sister, who was probably two years younger than me,
maybe three years two years probably, I don't know. I

(01:22:03):
kind of noticed her when I was twenty. I knew,
but I kind of like, suddenly it was weird because
she was very beautiful, that's not the weird part. But
she had a birthmark on her face, which did not

(01:22:24):
take away her beauty, you know what I mean. She
was a very beautiful face. And I always liked the
rifle when I was a kid because she's, you know,
only marginally younger than me. So I always liked her
as a because when I was don't know, when I
was ten, she was eight, you know, but she had

(01:22:44):
it removed. She had the birthmark removed, and it was
just like a brown birthmark or something. It changed her personality.
So I'm not saying she's being sweet, because she was
a very sweet girl. She she was still sweet in

(01:23:06):
her own way, but she became very confident and she
enjoyed all the attention that she was getting from the boys,
which is natural. But to me, she didn't look any
different really. I mean, it's only because she told me

(01:23:31):
that she'd had it removed that I really noticed it, because,
you know, I said, I've known her for a long
long time, a long long time, and It's weird because
I remember her because there was like four years between
her and her oldest brother. She'd her oldest her oldest

(01:23:54):
brother's friends would come around, and I remember her saying, oh,
can I come with you? Because they'd all go out,
and she said, no, go away because they didn't want
this little girl coming around. He didn't want her pestuing them.
And the other his friends would say go away, go away.
They didn't want a pest in them. And then when

(01:24:18):
she was about fifteen sixteen, they didn't seem to mind
her hanging around anymore. And I remember when I think
she's about seventeen or eighteen, and there was literally a
cue of men or boys trying to win her heart.

(01:24:42):
It was seriously like knocking on the door and following
her around like little puppies. It was very funny and
that boost of confidence. I mean, that would have been
happening any way. But I guess the that personality change

(01:25:11):
just from having one like Mark removed. One thing changed
which made her feel different. And there's a whole book
called Cybernetics. It's Cybernetics. It's a very famous book about

(01:25:33):
a plastic surgeon and it's written by a plastic surgeon,
and he noticed that the personality changes in people that
had work done, and how it was. He couldn't believe
the transformation. It could have not on someone's appearance, because

(01:25:57):
that wouldn't surprise him because that's what he did for.
But he was surprised at the transformation and personality, and
he wrote a whole book about it, Cybernetics, and I
used to have it. I've read it a few times,
and it's quite a big book in self help like

(01:26:17):
literature library thing. It's cybernetics, cyber cybernetics, something like that. Yeah,
it's a good book. It's very interesting. I mean, it
kind of makes sense. But at the same time, it's like, really,

(01:26:40):
maybe maybe that's why I should have done. Maybe if
I had a bit of surgery, I could increase my confidence,
have it shortened or something. You know, it's just too
big and I don't know, just to have my nose. Yeah,

(01:27:02):
but I don't know. Maybe I don't know what i'd have.
There's a few things I could probably do. In fact,
I'm pretty sure if I went to a plastic surgeon

(01:27:24):
and said, just list all the things that I need doing,
we'ld be there for a while. You'd have to cancel
all his clients for about a week just so he
could list off all the things that I needed doing. Probably,

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but I won't be having anything. I don't think i'll
have anything done in the future. I don't know I
could have done in the past if I wanted to,
didn't really. I guess the way I see it is

(01:28:08):
take me for what I am, take me for how
I am. And I'm not going to wear, you know,
tall shoes to make myself look taller. I'm not going
to dye my hair to pretend that I'm not going gray.

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I'm not going to get a hair transplant in my
bald spots. Not there's anything wrong with doing any of
those things, but I'm just not going to do any
of that stuff. And I'm not going to pretend I'm
a different age. Things I can do, I suppose practical

(01:28:53):
logical things is take better care of myself, eat a
better diet, exercise bare Yeah, those kinds of things. Basic stuff, really,
isn't it. But I found that one way it's shortcut

(01:29:21):
with dieting. Wear bigger clothes. Seriously, if you wear bigger tops,
really like large tops, extra extra extra large, almost looks
like you've lost weight. It works. I do it. I
literally do that now, although some of my tops are

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just a bit bagger, because I have actually lost weight,
not recently, but last year I did. I lost a
stone and I haven't put it back on because I
stopped having sugar in my tea and I cut down.
I stopped having I didn't don't drink hope anymore. And
I have minimum minimum amount chocolate. I used to eat

(01:30:08):
chocolate every single day. So yeah, and that I do
believe laddies and gentlemen is the end of this recording.

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Me Me, Me, Me me, So thank you for listening.
Remember to be kind to yourself because you do deserve
to be happy and be gentle of yourself. You deserve
to feel safe. Lots of love, Bye,