(no music) Latest Update | LMBYTS #1412 | Jason Newland | 17th August 2025

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. My name is
Jason Newland and this is let me pull you to sleep.
Please only listen when you can safely close your eyes.

(00:27):
Blah blah blah. So yeah, it's Sunday, the seventeenth of
August two thousand and twenty five. Yeah, it's been I mean,

(00:54):
technically it's been quite a busy week, but really just
because of all the recordings I made, but I only
made like since Monday, I've only made to let me

(01:15):
buoy you to sleep recordings. I didn't do a Q
and A Friday this week because or last week where
you want to call it, you know, this previous Friday,
because I got one question. I know, perhaps I left

(01:36):
it a little bit late to post on the Facebook group,
you know, any questions. But maybe I should just stop
doing the Q and A Friday if no one's if
there's no more questions, then there's no more answers. I
can't answer questions that are not asked. So yeah, if

(01:58):
you want me to continue to do the Q and
A Friday, then please, I mean, you can send a
question in via my website if you want, and I'll
just add it to a list of questions. Just let
me know it's for this coming Q and A Friday,

(02:18):
and I'll add it because there's a contact form on
my website, or you can you know, when I post
any Q and A questions for Q and A Friday
on my Facebook group, which is Jason Newland's Bording group,

(02:39):
you can maybe leave a question there as well, or
instead of you know whatever. But yeah, I can't. I'm
not going to do it if there's no questions, because
it seems a little bit I mean, there was one question.

(03:00):
I mean, in all fairness, I probably could have made
that one question last for about an hour, but the
question really was whether or not I preferred personal questions
or non personal questions? And has there been any times

(03:21):
that I haven't answered a question because it was too personal?
So I can kind of answer that here in a
sense of generally, I'm open to most questions. If it's
a question that I don't really want to answer, then

(03:44):
I will be purposefully vague, I suppose, or I will
distract myself and move on to something else. I don't know,
it's I'm not I'm not great with family questions because

(04:04):
that is personal. But also I don't really have much
in a way of family to talk about. Really, Yeah,
as long as it's about me, it's fine. I'm okay.
You know, I talk about myself. That's the only thing

(04:26):
I've really got any right to talk about, really, isn't
it in a sense? I mean, you know, I've done
a few done some podcasts about step moms and stuff,
but that was all nice things that I talked about.
So yeah, generally, if it's about me, that's kind of

(04:46):
what the the Q and a Friday's for. But it
can be about you as well. It can be like
you could ask me my opinion on something. You could
ask me because I've been a life for so long.
You can ask me about world events maybe that's happened

(05:11):
during my lifetime. Asked me about English culture. If you
live in another country, you could ask me jobs, places
I've lived, girlfriends, hobbies, interests, TV programs that I liked, music,

(05:44):
movies I've seen boom. Yeah. Really, it's I think sometimes
I'm better at some of the older stuff because if

(06:07):
something because let's say, if I went to someone slamming
the doors downstairs like constantly, and I really don't know why,
I've been doing it for about twenty minutes, just slamming it, well,
letting it slam over and over and over again, which

(06:28):
is very sure. I never got a dog dog barking.
That's why these recordings are so much better than hypnosis recordings,
because I can't I have to stop talking if a
dog barks in the background. With these recordings, all sounds

(06:49):
are fine. I mean, maybe not for you, but generally
it's in a distance, it's in the background, and it's
either make a recording or don't make a recording. Can
you hear that? Now? One of the things that starts

(07:14):
that dog off, and also starts Vinni off, and also
starts another dog around the corner off or across the
road off is this cat. So this lady that lives
in a building opposite, she's put bells on her cat's collars. Now,

(07:35):
I thought she did it just to annoy the dogs,
but she didn't. She did it to warn birds. So
actually she's done it for a really nice reason. But
the side effect of this particular medication is dogs hear it.

(07:57):
I mean he can hear it in the middle of
the night, and he starts barking sometimes or growling, and
I don't know what I look out the window, I
can just make out the cat, and the cat's just
standing in the garden staring up at the window. Proper

(08:19):
wind up merchant that one. So it's weird, isn't it.
It's what she's doing is a really good thing to have,
because I really love birds. But there's always there's a

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it seems to be a what do they call that thing?
Not a brush off, a playoff the downside, I don't know. Yeah,
it's not a win win situation. It's a win win

(09:01):
situation for the birds, which I'm really pleased about. It's
not a win win situation for the cat. So the
cat doesn't get to catch birds, which is good, But
a cat does get to get some pleasure from annoying
the dogs, which I imagine is quite pleasant for it. Now,

(09:24):
it's not a win situation for the dogs, unless, of course,
of dogs getting excited. So Vinnie might actually be enjoying
barking when he hears the cat. It's more excitement than
anger or anything, so bless him. Yeah, So Uncle's Sausages

(09:54):
funeral has been changed. It was on the toy It's
supposed to be on the twenty first of August, but
they haven't got the birth the death certificate yet, so
it's been put off till another week. So that was
that's weird. The had to get the counseling for the

(10:21):
mouse exterminator people. I'm not sure what you call them,
animal prevention unit. I don't know, vermin control, something like that,
and they came in last Friday and they put down bait,

(10:45):
and they came back this Friday and said that there's
nothing in there. There's no They put stuff in the
into the lofts and everything, and there's nothing, no sign,
not a single sausage, excuse the pun. And it's all

(11:06):
the the residue, all the leftovers from the previous mister there.
So it's not Yeah, it's old historic, he said, which
is good. It's not good in a sense, but it's
good obviously for the rest of the building because we

(11:28):
don't want those things running around. But it's not it's
like he was living with all that stuff around and
you didn't even know it. So the I'm thinking that
the counts that are going to come in and start

(11:48):
emptying his place probably in the next week or so,
so I've still got his key to let them in,
and then that'll be the whole process coming and empty
in it and painting and all that stuff and getting

(12:09):
a place ready for the next tenant, and a a
new adventure begins, hopefully a quiet adventure, but we'll see.
Yeah I could, really, I really don't need a new
neighbor opposite me. You know. It's the noisy ones, the

(12:30):
ones downstairs, and then there's a couple. Well one's moved
out now, but there was a couple that slammed the
door continuously downstairs. Now it shakes the building. It's really loud,
echoes through the hallway and stuff. And it's one thing downstairs,

(12:51):
but here, if I had the same thing happening opposite me,
it's going to be I think it will be disturbable, disturbable,
disturbably loud, and I don't Yeah, I'm not looking forward
to that because there seems to be two types of

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people in this world, those that know how to close
doors and those that don't know how to close doors.
I didn't think it'd be too complicated, you know, and
so considerate people and inconsiderate people. But I also realized

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as I got older, that inconsiderate people aren't actually quite
often doing it two be harmful to other people. They're
just not thinking. They're just they're just going about their business,
going about their life. They're not even noticing that the
doors slamming when they leave, and perhaps not noticing they've

(14:01):
got loud music at night, or you know, they're just
they're not doing it purposefully to cause problems. I think
some people just they're just not aware of that, or
not aware, but not aware that other people are around

(14:22):
they can hear. Maybe they assume that they're everything they
can hear is just for their ears and no one
else can hear it. Have you ever seen someone on
public transport talking about someone else and they're literally like

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ten foot away, but that person can hear you.

Speaker 2 (14:49):
I can hear you, and I'm in the next town.

Speaker 1 (14:56):
It seems to Yes, it's kind of weird. One no
one can hear me. Yeah, they can hear you, you know,
when we're not not everybody. But so that would be interesting.
I mean, I hope it will take a while before

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they get anyone in there, and I hope when they do,
it's not going to be you know, it's going to
be a yeah, well, I hope it's going to be
a nice person, that's all. Someone that's idea is someone

(15:38):
that's older, someone that's maybe, but I don't think it
really matters about ages. That they're nice, nice and quiet.

Speaker 2 (15:49):
That'd be nice, Yeah, nice and quiet.

Speaker 1 (15:55):
How many people have I had lived here, not in
my flat, but live in this building since I've been
here for ten years, ten and a half years now. Oh,
so when I moved in, we had her him him, him,

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So there was someone when I moved in, there was
Uncle's Sausages. He's been here the whole he was here
the whole time until recently. And then next to him
there was someone that was there for a while and

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then he moved out, and then someone else moved in.
I didn't realize it was a different person, but he's
been in there for a long time, and I'll get
on really well with him as well, So he's cool.
He's about eighty. And then so this has kind of

(17:09):
been the same for a long time, the last probably
eight years. This has pretty much been the same upstairs
until now. Downstairs there's someone that's been there the whole
time as well as she was here when I moved in,

(17:31):
not below me, but one of the flats downstairs, and
then in the other flat next to the one I
was just talking about. Downstairs. That was where my friend
Luke lived, and he was I think he's been there

(17:54):
for like two, two or three years before I moved in,
at least a couple of years before I moved in,
so and he was here until what month is it now, August, September, October, November,

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so it will be two years in November that he left.
Let me talk, shut up. I do wonder if she
just the owner of that doctor's prods it to make
it bark because it's too quiet and we need noise. Bark.

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That's good. I'n't got to think now, just make lot noise.
We need noise. So when he left, the counsel came,
did their thing and all that stuff. But it did
take quite a long time before anyone moved in, so

(19:15):
it was a good I don't know if I just
got a feeling it was last summer, but maybe kind
of April May time, so December, January, February and March April,

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so at least five or six months before someone moved
in there. Yeah, so it wasn't it might have been
March April. It was all I know. It's very very sunny,
so maybe four five months, so it's quite that's quite

(19:57):
a long time. I mean, the longer the better. The
longer it takes, the better, I think. Not for people
that are waiting for housing, obviously, it's not good for them,
just for the tenants, you know, just have that little
break that's I don't know, selfish, isn't it. I suppose. Sorry,

(20:25):
I give myself permission to be selfish once a day,
and that was my little selfish moment. So and then
so soone moved in there into to Luke's flat about

(20:46):
I don't know. I'm sure it's about May, but there
might have been earlier. And then she's moved out already,
as far as I know, she's moved out a couple

(21:06):
of weeks ago. So that tenant's gone. So there's now
another flat empty, but the council haven't come in to
refurbish it. So I'm not sure what's going on. All
I know is she moved I've been told that she's

(21:27):
moved out. And then downstairs, so we've got two flats
empty at the moment, but both kind of just been
lived in it as it were, you know, so they
need to be what the counse would normally do you know,

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if there's stuff in there, like there was still some
stuff in there with Luke, they come in and they
take all the stuff out and they put it to
the back of a like a lorry van thing, you know,
those cage vans. And I don't know obviously where you live,

(22:16):
I'm not sure what it's like, but they kind of
they use quite often for cutting, like you know, the
grass cutters are doing parks and stuff, and they chuck
stuff in the back there. So it's got a cage.
It's not it's not got a top on it, but
it's got a cage at the side, so then it
doesn't you know, they can open it at the back

(22:37):
and put stuff on and wheel stuff into it. I mean,
it's probably used in building sites that kind of things. Well,
I don't know, but I imagine, well they use that's
what they generally seem to use, so they chuck stuff
on there. Then there's a while because I guess the

(23:01):
process depends well how quick the process is depends on
how many flats need to be done, because they've got
limited workers to do it, I imagine, So you know,
if suddenly one hundred flats become available. A hundred properties

(23:25):
become available in one month. They're going to struggle to
do that many. It's gonna take a while, I guess,
but there I don't be honest, I don't really know
what the council actually do to the property. I mean
once they take everything out, which they I know, they

(23:49):
take the carpet out as well. The only way you
get to have a carpet is if you do a
council swap with someone else. So, for example, I'd love
to live in Talkie. It's a long way away, but
I just think it's beautiful place or maybe something like

(24:15):
Cornwall or you know, somewhere that's just nice visually nice
with a beach. And yeah, I'm not I'm not. I mean,
this is okay as a base, but it's not. I'm
very secluded here and I do like beaches, and I've

(24:43):
lived on a well, I've lived in towns with beaches
three times, including Buttlings. I mean technically, well it's not.
Technically there was a beach there, but I think I
only went to it twice and it was winter, so

(25:05):
it wasn't really I'm pretty sure the beach was. I
think that part of the beach might have been private
just for no, it wouldn't have been private with it.
I don't know anyway. I remember I did go there

(25:25):
a couple of times at late at night and it
was very windy, very cold, very rainy. Yeah, I do
quite like beaches. I lived in South End when I
was a little kid, and back then South End was

(25:46):
a very popular place for holiday goes. And I mean
it probably I think Blackpool was always the most popular.
I think yeah, but I think what happened and I
might be I'm partly making this up. Is depending on

(26:09):
where you lived in the country, when it came to
a holiday, you'd go to the popular place that's in
that part of the country. So if you lived in
I suppose Liverpool or Manchester and stuff like that, you

(26:33):
perhaps travel to Blackpool. If you lived in London, perhaps
you travel to South End or to Clacton. And if
you're in Essex, maybe Clacton or South End because both
of those are in South End. So and it's probably

(26:53):
the same in other places, you know, where you'd go
to a place where there's I was trying to think
the East coast Yarmouth. Yarmouth was a very popular place
Yarmouth Beach is one of the nicest beaches I ever

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went to in this country. It was a long time ago.
I went on a school trip. Was this a school trip? Wow?
Why's my voice gone squeaky? Why did I go to Yarmouth?

(27:35):
I went on a trip with someone, but I don't
know why I went. Maybe it was with the see Cadets,
or maybe it was a school trip. Might be the

(27:59):
school trip, might been the Cecredets. But I've got a
memory of it, and I think one of the blokes,
one of the kids, met a girl while he was there,
and he was not in the Cecredets, So I think
it was just a school trip and we went to

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Yarmouth for some reason for the day and stuff like
that is brilliant, and yeah, probably that's what's the memory
I forgot about. Yeah, I remember running on the beach

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and just like the sea coming up and I'm kissing
my girlfriend and she's like, we're upset because she's going back.
She's on holidays. She was going back to Australia and
I to go back to school. I wait a minute,
as speakinning of Greece, No, but there was definitely a

(29:06):
beach there was a beach. I'll tell you another beach,
really lovely, really lowerest offt So the East coast. If
you ever do come to it's if you live up north,
or you live in Scotland or Wales, or the middle
of the country Norwige. I mean if you if you

(29:29):
live in the South area, you're probably going to know
about the East Coast. But there's some really nice beaches here. Now.
I don't think anyone's going to come from Wales to
go visiting beaches other parts of the UK, because Wales
has some of the most beautiful beaches in the world.

(29:54):
I think I covered myself there. Good. Does Scotland have beaches?
It's gonna say, does Scotland have Wales? See, I have
been to Scotland, but I was a tiny kid. I
think I lived there for a while. I'd like to go. Well,

(30:15):
do I say Scotland, I'd like to go to Scotland.
I'd like to It's one of those places like I've
been to Wales multiple times over the years, I've been
to England. I live in England, but I've been to
lots and lots of places in England. I lived in Newcastle,
lived in South End, lived in East Anglia, lived in Essex,

(30:39):
lived in London. Yes, I lived in the northeast. In
the south, I've been to you know, a lot of
the places I've been to Nottingham, Liverpool, Manchester, Bolton and

(31:10):
most of the towns in this on the East coast area,
you know, all those different like Beccles and Lowest Staffed, Yarmouth,
all those places at Norfolk as well. I've been to
lots of places in Norfolk over the years in the past,

(31:31):
not recently, and I just haven't really as an adult
or as a like a because when I was there,
I was too young to really know where I was.
When I was in Scotland, that is so my oldest

(31:52):
brother said. We lived in Scotland for a while, but
I don't recollect it. I don't remember it because I
was I might have even been a baby, not a baby,
but like two years old or something, which is still
a baby, isn't it really And hmm, I'd like to

(32:17):
go to Scotland just to visit and because I would
be a tourist like my dad is literally not literally
because there was a while back, but Protty about two
months ago for sus yeah, putty about two months ago
he was in Scotland on holiday and he did a

(32:40):
little tour of Scotland. And I'm not sure where he
went because I've got family and well, my ancestry or
don forty eight percent Irish. I am about two percent
Scottish or four percent Scottish, so you know my Celtic

(33:03):
percentage is quite high Irish and Scottish. And I don't
notice any or whales in me now, just god, we
have visual would you want to weal or whal and you?
But yeah, I don't know if I've got any. We're

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all mixed and we ultimately there is The idea is
that there's a pure breed human out there. Shut up,
shut up, doesn't exist, you silly, silly person. I'm pure me.
No you're not. Maybe pure of mind, Ma'm a pure breed. No,

(33:46):
there's no such thing. There's not even such thing as
a pure breed dog, because most dogs have just created.
You know, you've got a dog and then you say, okay,
well I like this. I like this little mixture we've got.
Let's make more of just this mixture, and we'll call
it a pure breed, even though the original wasn't a
pure breed. It was just a mixture. No, that's not

(34:09):
how it works. Something besides saying, oh is it Jack Russell?
And he was the bloke that tried to sell selling
Veny to me. He's a pure breed, you know, I said, okay,
and I did a bit of research. Now, Jack Russell's
were created on purpose by mixing a bunch of dogs

(34:32):
together to create hunters. So it's nothing pure about hair.
It's like, you know, it's weird. There's definitely no pure
breed humans.

Speaker 2 (34:54):
Is that controversal?

Speaker 1 (34:58):
No, but it's true. Ah. Yeah, So Scotland, I reckon
it would be quite a nice place to visit. Wales.
I'd like to go back to Wales and visit again. Yeah,

(35:18):
I'd like to see the beaches again, just to see
if they are what I remember. I'm going to be
smaller than I remember, because I was tiny when I
went there, you know, because we used to go camping
in Wales every year for quite a few years, and

(35:41):
I didn't like camping. I'll be honest with you. I
didn't like it. It's just not my I mean, you
haven't got to be an adult to know what you
do and don't like, have you? I mean, I knew
from the very first time that I was standing there

(36:04):
in the rain putting a tent up, that I didn't
enjoy the process, and that I didn't really want to
do it again. I would say. The only nice thing
and this is going to be weird. Actually there's two things.
The only I didn't mind sleeping in a tent, but

(36:30):
I didn't like it, however, weird that is, that's what
I liked, is laying down in the tent. And because
we're in Wales, there's the obligatory rain has to occur.
I mean this was in the peak of the season,
peak of the summer. Beautiful for beautiful, beautiful weather, but

(36:53):
also you know, some rain as well now and then,
which is why it's such a luscious country. And that
sound of the rain on the lid of the tent
was just so nice. It was I mean, I don't personally,

(37:20):
I probably did get tingles. It was maybe that's my
ASMR thing. I just found it very relaxing. But being
inside the tent when it was happening, I've always enjoyed
hearing rain unless I have to go out in it,

(37:41):
then I don't enjoy it. And wind and weather I
like weather. I'm kind of used to it. If you
ever lived, if you lived in this country, all we
have is weather.

Speaker 2 (38:02):
It's just continuous. Yes, So I don't know.

Speaker 1 (38:09):
I think, yeah, laying down, I don't know where everyone
was because there was like what one, two, three, four,
five and myself there was six of us, way too

(38:33):
many people to spend time together. But we did, and
you know, it was, it was what it was. Can't
change it now. Yeah, parts of it were lovely. Is
I liked the the sandy beaches. And because in Wales,

(39:02):
like I'm like a tourist guy, don't I If you've
never been to Wales, and if you thought about all,
go or not, I'd recommend going. Maybe be prepared to
travel around because you know, it's not that Wales is

(39:26):
a huge area. I mean it's not tiny, but it's
still it's there's you know, there's still quite a lot.
There's quite a few beautiful beaches. You've got Snowdonia the mountain,
and I went up there twice, I think maybe three times.

(39:49):
I think it's twice. Went up by train once and
went up like walked up to the top. So did
the journey. I think it was twice train's a lot quicker,
so I wouldn't try and not in a not even

(40:10):
in a no, I wouldn't try and walk up it now.
I mean, there are parts of it that he kind
of it's an up hill walk, but it's not steep
the whole way. There's parts of it that feel almost flat,
and then it sort of gradually, you know, you end

(40:31):
up and I think you kind of walk around the thing.
I think, but in my memory it might not be true.
But yeah, not really, not really for me anymore. I
would go up by it. I probably. I don't know
if i'd even bother going up by train, because I've

(40:51):
done it. I did it years ago, I did it
when I was a kid. Wouldn't be that bothered to
do it again. But if you haven't done it, it's
definitely worth it, I would say, because I mean, I
don't know about your life, but how often do you
get to stand at the top of a mountain? I
mean some people would, I guess every day if you

(41:13):
live on a mountain, obviously, but I yeah, it's quite
not yeah, it's quite. Maybe I would do it again.
I'd go by train, and the trains were old, really
made of wood kind of proper old trains. It's like that,

(41:45):
And my dad saying to me, Jason, can you stop that?
I said, but it makes fun. It makes it more
fun if I had some sound effects. But yeah, I
quite liked it. Yeah, that was all right. Also went
to some slate places, so basically just old minds where

(42:07):
they used to dig for slate. We did also go
to a couple of coal mines, old coal mines, and
I think what really surprised me. I don't know why
I was surprised, but how big they are like underneath really,

(42:35):
I mean, I do kind of think that if you're
going to build a hole like that, you're going to
dig a hole. When you finish, you need to fill
the hole in. That seems to be the obvious thing.

(42:56):
You don't leave a big, massive whole all in the ground.
I'm not talking about the entrance or the exit. Maybe
u classes the entrance or the exits, probably both, isn't it,
but all of the space inside because that's going sideways,

(43:21):
and you know there's a lot of ground that's basically
underneath the place where people are walking. This big, massive
gap of empty space sort of made sense. I don't

(43:41):
know to me, do something with that space. I don't
know what build build like a shelter or some kind
of I don't know it. You know it just so

(44:05):
it's supported. So it's really really well supported for the ground.
And you can tell I know, I know nothing about
what I'm talking about, but doesn't that since stopped me before,
so why should it stop me now? Hey? Why there's
no mauson? So yeah, I'd like to go to Scotland.

(44:35):
I'm not sure where though, because I do I'd like
to go to Ireland again as well. I mean, I'm
a sole traveler generally, but if I went to Ireland,
it's I could visit a couple of people that I know, well,
three people that I know on the whole of the island,

(45:00):
including northern Ireland, and that with Scotland, i'd quite like
to go to. Trying to think of Scottish place they've got.
They've got towns in Scotland, haven't they. Do you have

(45:22):
houses there? Yeah? I don't know. I just I just
like to visit and just have a look around. Really,
there's no specific place necessarily. I mean, i'd like to

(45:46):
go to Edinburgh, but i'd like to go during the
Edinburgh Festival so that would be cool. Glasgow is another
place I'd like to visit. Yeah, outside of that, I

(46:06):
can't think of any other places. Edinburgh Glasgow, hmm, that probably.
I'm not saying that's that's all, but that I guess
that there are two of the main places. Glasgow. Just
I don't know is somewhere that I wanted to visit

(46:29):
for a long time, Edinburgh, solely because of the Edinburgh Festival,
the Fringe Festival. So where the comedy and stuff is
on a I think it's in August. I think it's now.
Actually probably I've not been to the Isle of Wight. Now.

(46:58):
I have family on the Eye of White, not that
I know. I just I've got like distant relatives that
live there, as I do on the Isle of Man.
And well, one of my close relatives, my auntie, used
to live on the Isle of Man. She doesn't anymore,

(47:18):
so that's that's not a distant relative that she's my auntie,
but she's my daddy's sister or she's my granny's daughter,
so her and her daughter lived on the Isle of Man.
The isl of Wit is more distant, distant distant relations

(47:39):
sort of my NaN's relatives relatives, and I'd like to
visit the Isle of White. I think it's best to
be quite a decent place to go, quite a nice place,
So maybe go there because these are more like closer places,
aren't they, rather than traveling across the world. What about here?

(48:05):
About all the places that there are to visit here?
That I could visit here? Yeah, I don't know. Just
maybe maybe could go and have a look around, have
a little wonder. But then you've got lots of islands,

(48:30):
haven't you around the local islands like Bergerac you're there,
and is love Sheppy is it? There's some Scottish islands
that I could visit. And I think there's like one
hundred and twenty one different little islands around the UK.

(48:56):
There's a few, anyway, I don't know if there's that many.
I made that up, but there's a few. There's definitely
a few islands with small amounts of people, you know,
So I think it'd be quite cool to visit some
of those places. And again it's just a ferry, isn't it,

(49:18):
And maybe another boat to take me to the island,
as long as I don't have to get in the water,
you know, if it's a small boat, like from a
ferry or a ship, and then a small boat. There
needs to be at least a jetty, you know, and

(49:40):
someone to help me off the boat. I don't want
to be like having to jump in the sea and
walk up and get all wet. No, I don't no,
stop asking me to do that. I don't want to. So, yeah,

(50:02):
so there's lots of places i'd quite like to visit
in the foreseeable kind of surroundings, I suppose, you know,
because none of this is particularly far away. It's a

(50:22):
few hours. A few hours, I mean, the Isle of
Man is quite on the Isle of Wight is a
fair distance because I don't know about the Isle of White.
But with the Isle of Man, i'd have to go
to Liverpool, I think, to get the ferry from there
to the Isle of Man. So Liverpool. To get from

(50:45):
here to Liverpool is probably about five hours on a train,
if not more, five hours, maybe less, maybe more, maybe
six hours, and then the ferry over. If I've got
a nighttime one's going to take all night to get there.

(51:07):
Daytime daytimes usually travel quicker, don't they, But at nighttime,
and I do like a nighttime journey A nighttime ferry,
but I like a daytime fairy as well. I think
there's the benefits of a daytime as you can see,

(51:28):
you can go out on the deck and you can
see stuff. At night, you can't really see that much,
but it is more slow and more relaxed, and there's
less people the nighttime. In my experience, I've done a
few nighttime firies over the years and it's just less

(51:54):
people around and the nighttime I think the I guess
in the majority of people prefer to travel during the day,
especially when it comes to or in the past, going
to Belgium, there was a very popular past time for

(52:18):
people and they would travel from England to Belgium, or
England to France and basically get off the ferry, go
to the duty duty free place, buy lots of alcohol

(52:39):
and cigarettes and then get on the next ferry, back
load their lorry, not the lorry, load their van or
their car with stuff and pretend that it was for
personal use and then get back and sell it in
the pubs. Now, that was something that people would did

(53:00):
for years and years and years, And I mean there
was a time we didn't even need a passport to
go to to go abroad, you could get like a
little part like a day a day passport, a day
pass and because I didn't have my I went abroad.

(53:21):
I didn't get my first passport until nineteen ninety four,
and so before that time, I traveled to Belgium multiple times,
to France, and I flew to Spain and I didn't

(53:42):
have a passport, just got a like a I was
just allowed to go, which is a bit weird because
everywhere I've been since then, I've alway asked to see
my passport and this is you know, this is I've well, yeah,
I don't think I've left. Have I left the country

(54:04):
since Yeah, it's not to do with us leaving Europe
because a few years back we we basically put our
little sales up and we moved away from Europe. We

(54:26):
moved the whole country away, floated away. We did. It's weird,
very strange. We can actually see the sun moving to
the side as we moved. So yeah, so if you
do travel to England, just be aware that we're not
in the same place he was. They haven't changed all

(54:48):
the maps because the take ages and it's expensive. So
plus England is such a dot on the map anyway,
you almost miss if it was the scale. So it
doesn't really matter the fact that we've moved a few
thousand miles. So yeah, well now in China, you didn't

(55:14):
know that. No, you didn't know it nowhere near Hong Kong. Yeah,
so we moved out of Europe a few years ago
and the weather's changed. It's a lot warmer now. Yeah.
The thing is the problem is I didn't They didn't

(55:35):
plan it very well because they managed to get it set,
but anchorage there wasn't enough. Anchorage didn't have enough anchors.
So we keep kind of just you wake up. You
never know when you where you could have end up.
The other day, I was in Spain, woke up, looked
out Spain. Three weeks ago, I was in Somalia. You don't,

(56:00):
I don't know. So yeah, and so this is my
Sunday afternoon. Sunday afternoon. There was a time in England
where everything was closed on a Sunday. I'm talking everything.

(56:26):
The only thing opened. Two things are opened as far
as for public okay, other than you know, going out
and stuff. You know, there was still amusements and all
those kinds of things were open on the weekends for
people and maybe a Sunday market, but newsagents opened on

(56:50):
a Sunday morning and then on a Sunday lunchtime off
license could open for about an hour and a half,
then they closed, and then they'd open up. I think
they were allowed to open up in the evening for
about an hour and a half then they close, not

(57:11):
one hundred percent sure that's true. And pubs would be
allowed to open up for a short period of time,
probably being between eleven and one or eleven and two.
The pubs would open and then they'd open again in
the evening for about seven till ten or six till ten.

(57:35):
They closed. They close at ten o'clock. That's what that's honestly,
that's what Sundays used to be like in this country.
No supermarkets, no anything walking around is just not everyone
to be at home apart from those that weren't. And

(57:57):
it was kind of like an official day. I mean,
and it's not official, it was that's the reason, wasn't
it so that people call have the day off working,
So probably the majority of people in the country wouldn't
work on a Sunday. Yeah, a lot different back then,

(58:30):
and it still was like that when I'm pretty sure.
I'm not sure how relaxed things got, but I'm pretty
sure it was still like that when I when I
moved to London, because I lived in a small town

(58:50):
at that time. Then I moved to London and things
were different because shops were open. Some shops were open
all the time, like all the time, and I've never

(59:11):
seen that before. Like you could just get stuff whenever
you wanted, any time of the day or night. Not everywhere,
but there were places you could get stuff. And there
was this when I lived in forest Gate. There was
this little shop right on the corner. Worst shop in

(59:36):
the world. It was on the corner and you had
to ring the doorbell for them to let you in.
So it's basically it's almost like they'd converted their front room,
their living room into a shop and it sold groceries, suits,

(59:57):
just bits like that. Yeah, everything was behind the counter,
so you couldn't just take what you wanted and put
it on. They had to get it for you and
you had to ring their doorbell and they would come
and open the door. To me, that was someone that

(01:00:22):
did not want my money. They did not want to work,
they didn't want to be open. So I just I
wouldn't go there. I'd walk, I'd walk two miles away
to get stuff. I just refused to go in there.
I was very young, I was very I was very
political back then. I was very stupid back then. I

(01:00:45):
just it annoyed me because a couple of times I
did try and get in there and they just wouldn't
answer the door. We're busy, Come on, I just want
to can of coke. We're busy. Couldn't you just come
I just want one can of coke?

Speaker 2 (01:01:03):
We're in bed.

Speaker 1 (01:01:06):
Really, can't you just get me a can of coke?

Speaker 2 (01:01:10):
It's four in the morning. We're going to call the
police if you don't go away.

Speaker 1 (01:01:15):
We know where you live, Okay, fair enough? So yeah,
I understand they didn't want to open the door four
in the morning. But it's I remember when seven eleven opened. Now,
that changed the world in this country because suddenly or

(01:01:40):
they were open, because everything, even during the week everything
was closed, you know. I think the pubs had to
be closed by eleven or half ten. I think maybe
they could open a bit later at the weekends. But
the whole kind of being open late late didn't happen

(01:02:01):
till late nineties. I think maybe two thousands. Yeah, wow,
a lot of changes, a lot of changes over the years.
But seven eleven that was so good, and I don't
know why it didn't. I mean it might still be

(01:02:24):
around parts of the country, I don't know, probably maybe
in London, if they're all cities, maybe, but it didn't
last very long there. And I never understood it because
it was the perfect place. They had everything. Everything you
could possibly want in it of an evening. I mean,

(01:02:46):
unless you wanted to buy some underpants or something, then
they didn't have that. If you wanted to buy a gate,
you know, a game of chess, they didn't have that either,
you know, a packet of screws. No, I didn't have that.
But they had like basic things like biscuits, cakes, drinks, alcohol, cigarettes,

(01:03:12):
and chocolates. I suppose, like basic. I think they might
have had a few basic groceries also, yeah, they probably did. Yeah,
they did have basic groceries, so like tins of beans
and coffee tea, you know, the kind of stuff that

(01:03:32):
you'd probably find in in any seven eleven around the world,
because there's lots of them. It was brilliant. I loved
it now. I used to go when it first started.
I'd go in there when it first opened. I mean,

(01:03:52):
i'd say what time you're closing? They'd say eleven. I mean,
to start with, it was like, oh, eleven o'clock. After
the fifteenth time of going in there, like every day
in a row, they said, it's still eleven o'clock. Then
after about three weeks of doing it, they took me

(01:04:13):
outside and pointed to the sign and what I think
they thought I was making fun of them, but it wasn't,
because I really I drew up seeing everything close early,
like my whole life up to the age of sixteen,
seventeen whatever. It was, everything closed early in the evening

(01:04:39):
on a Sunday, everything, And I just couldn't believe that
something was open late till eleven at night. It was
unheard of. And I kind of because of the because
I was working in a chip shop at the time,

(01:05:00):
and I didn't finish work till probably ten half ten
sometimes if it was a really busy lot to do
and stuff ten o'clock, I don't know, and I'd go
and check in that because I wanted to make sure
I could go in and get myself maybe some drinks
or some chocolate bars or something so I'd go in,

(01:05:20):
you know, like earlier in the day, what time you closing?
I'd i'd try and get like a different member of staff.
I'll always get the same answer, eleven o'clock Jason. And
so I thought, well, I'm going to start doing is
phoning them. So I phoned them up. Now, if you

(01:05:43):
go somewhere regularly and then you start to phone them,
it's a good idea to put on a different voice
if you can, because they just knew it as me
straight away, because I said to Hi, it's Jason from
the chip shop. What time have you closed today? Eleven o'clock?

(01:06:05):
Like every other day, it's eleven o'clock, seven eleven. It
means seven in the morning to eleven at night, you know,
and seem to want to know what time we open.
We open at seven. The clues in the sign, the
clues in the name. Thank you for calling Jason. Now

(01:06:33):
my problem is I should have put on a different voice.

Speaker 2 (01:06:37):
Clearly, Hi, it's Jason from the chip shop. What time
you closing today?

Speaker 1 (01:06:45):
See, I just didn't think on my feet it would
be a lot easier, but I just thought it out first,
like could do with these recordings. I mean, you wouldn't
believe Eve that I spend probably six seven hours a day,
you know, putting on his script together what I'm going

(01:07:06):
to say, and you know, practice in for a good
two hours before I start the recording, and then it
sounds so natural. Wow. Can you imagine if I did that? Well, yeah,
you can imagine, because it'd probably be really well presented

(01:07:29):
instead of this whatever it is that I do. But
this is what you get. This is me. My name's
chasing La La la la la l l L. So yeah,
that's it. Really, it's me talking about Sundays and what

(01:07:51):
I had did. Church used to be open on a
Sunday evening, I think it did. I know it used
to be opening on a Sunday morning because I would
often go to church with my nan, more often but
quite a fair few times. I'd go to church for

(01:08:13):
my nan when I was a teenager sort of six fifteen, sixteen,
seventeen or whatever. And then we'd go and because there'd be
a coffee place, so there'd be a place you could
get some coffee or was that during the week. That
might have been on a Wednesday. Maybe she went to

(01:08:36):
church on a Wednesday, and I'd go to church with her.
Then maybe it was a Sunday. I'm not sure. Maybe
it was a Sunday. We'd go and get a cup
of tea and a cake, and then I think we'd

(01:08:57):
walk back. There wasn't a cute, huge walker. This is
a fair distance, but it wasn't a huge walk. Or
maybe my dad would come and pick her up. I
don't know. I don't remember exactly how much of this
is true. I did used to go to quite yeah,

(01:09:25):
quite a few times. I went to midnight Mass with
her at midnight, but then they also had an early
midnight mass for people that couldn't get there, you know,
for midnight, which makes sense. It doesn't make sense the
way I said it, but some people it wasn't you know,

(01:09:47):
walking around at midnight wasn't really ideal. So they did
like an early one at about seven or eight in
the evening, and once one day got a bit older,
i'd probably say from yeah, the last twenty years, No,

(01:10:13):
the last two thousand and four, two four, wow, the
last ten years. No, because that's the thing, because after
two thousand and four, because I went to midnight mess
with her, but it was early one. It was about

(01:10:35):
eight o'clock I know my Auntie was there and she
wanted to go to her church because she my name's
a Catholic and she had her own church that she
wanted to go to, So I'm not sure what it
was that she went to, and she wanted to go
to there as well to do the actual midnight service.

(01:11:00):
And it's still one of my favorite Christmases as an adult.
Two thousand and four. It's weird, but there's something special
about it to me. And I was staying at my
nun's house in the spare room, the room that I
used to have for myself when I was eight years old.

(01:11:24):
I'm my own bedroom. It was brilliant, and I was
back sleeping in there. My aunt and uncle were in
the other room, which was that's where my two brothers
used to sleep in bunk beds. And in my nun's
bedroom was where my parents used to sleep and that's

(01:11:46):
where her and her husband, my granddad, that was their
room from nineteen seventy nine, you know, onwards. So I
had that room for about a year, my little room,
but I wasn't there for a year in two thousand
and four, just there for one night, probably two or

(01:12:08):
three nights, so because I was living in a different town.
So I come over probably Christmas Eve because I was working. Yeah,
I was working, So I come over Christmas Eve. I
go out to go out to church to midnight Mass,

(01:12:31):
but it's early with my nan because she couldn't have
said she couldn't go to the late one. It was
too late for by that time because she was you know,
she had like a disability because of her hip and stuff,
so she needed a walk and stick and stuff, so
you know, walking around at night wasn't really ideal. Although

(01:12:54):
she would have got a lift, you know. And then
I say she would have got She did get a lift,
but she would have got a lift back if it
was late anyway, So she got a lift anyway. So
we went up with my aunt and uncle, and then

(01:13:16):
we came back and my aunt and uncle my Auntie
wanted to go to the other thing, but I don't
think they went in the end because they spent too
much time talking about it and discussed with were not
to go, and by that time it was Boxing day
by the time I finished, and my Auntie did something
that I've never done before, or she sort of introduced

(01:13:38):
a new, a new Christmas Eve thing so she went
and she got some presents off the tree and gave
me a present Christmas Eve.

Speaker 2 (01:13:49):
I said, but Auntie, it's Christmas Eve. It's not time
for presents. That's supposed to be on Christmas Day.

Speaker 1 (01:13:59):
Sure, she said, no, we give presents Christmas Eve. It's
just one present off the tree. It's just something we
do every year.

Speaker 2 (01:14:09):
But how's father Christmas delivered him if he hasn't been yet?

Speaker 1 (01:14:13):
She said, you're thirty four years old. Shut up, Like, Wow,
it's a bit harsh, isn't it. So she's it was
just sweets. Basically, it was like candy you would call
it maybe if you call it that in your country.

(01:14:33):
But the thing is, I hadn't had any chocolate since
the summer, so I'd lost a lot of weight on
purpose because I kind of I needed to get fitter.
So during the Dune two thousand and four, I kind

(01:14:54):
of got myself nice and physically fit. I was working
on the mental fitness as well, and I hadn't had
any chocolate since the summer. So we're talking what July, August, September, October,
November for at least four or five months. So Christmas Eve,

(01:15:18):
I'm here with these and it was one of those
chocolate things that sparkle on your tongue, and I was
just it was heavenly. It was a pleasure that I
just didn't realize I needed. It was so nice. Oh

(01:15:43):
and it was like being a kid again. It was
just really because I remember. I'll tell you one of
the benefits of being of my childhood is a lot
of the nice stuff happened when I was I know,
it's good to have nice stuff happen when you're young,

(01:16:04):
when you're really young. But one of the benefits of
it happened when it happens for the first time when
you're kind of seven or eight, is I can still
remember it now, so certain things like chocolate that I'd
never eaten before, or riding my first bike. You know,
a lot of kids had their first bike when they

(01:16:24):
had two, three, four, you know, So my first bike
was when I was just four. I was what seven?
I think I was, Yeah, I was seven, So I
remember that. So it's quite nice to have those little memories. Now.
I wasn't four in two thousand and four or seven

(01:16:45):
in two thousand and four, but it was a little
bit like that. It's like, Okay, this is nice. This
is like a It's not that I'd never had it before.
It it was almost like for the first time because
I'd gone five months about any chocolate. And trust me,
that was a long time for me back then to

(01:17:08):
go about chocolate. I've always been a little bit of
a chocolate e person. It's part of the culture in
this country, eating chocolate, sugar, all that stuff. It's part
of the national pastime, part of my national identity. Stuffed

(01:17:30):
myself full of sugar mmmmmmmm. So yeah, that was just
a really that was a nice Christmas. Actually, so I
got to see my nan, got to see me Uncle
an ant got to see me Dad and that side
of the family because I went there for Christmas dinner

(01:17:54):
and then went back to my NaN's in the evening
and then had Boxing Day with my nan and Christmas
dinner and Boxing Day dinner. So yeah, it was cool.
That was a nice Christmas. I mean, it's not the
only Christmas I spent at my nun's, but is the
most memorable one. Yeah, there was another Christmas I spent

(01:18:18):
there in My NaN's brother was there, Uncle Antony, and
he was I think he was a little bit younger
than her. He was a younger brother by probably about
four years, three or four years, and maybe maybe older brother.

(01:18:41):
I don't know. I think younger brother. I think I
might be wrong, but marginally younger. I think she had
about twelve brothers and sisters my name, and he it
was funny. It was not funny funny, but he'd watched

(01:19:02):
the TV downstairs and he'd have it on so loud.
I literally, I was just there all night try I
struggled to sleep because the TV was blaring out because
he couldn't hear it. It's as simple as that wasn't
what he wasn't being inconsiderate. He just couldn't hear the TV,

(01:19:22):
so he had to turn it up in order to
hear it. And I think my men went down there
and told him off because she was concerned about the neighbors,
because she always had a really good relationship with the
next door neighbor, him and his family or the couple

(01:19:43):
and their family, and it was still it was the
same next door neighbor that they had that we had
when we lived there before they moved in, and we
kept I say we, I and my family was still
in contact with that next door I mean I was
still in contact with that family. I was still visiting,

(01:20:10):
going around there in nineteen ninety. In fact, no, I
was still going around there. Wow, I was still going
around in the early nineties. When i'd visit. I still
go in there because I was friends with a boy
and I really liked the girl. I was friends with
her as well, and I got on well with the

(01:20:32):
parents because I've known her since I was seven or
eight years old, seven and a half eight, so they'd
known me kind of almost all my life in a way,
you think, from seven and a half to twenty twenty one,
twenty two whatever, that's a long time. And they lived

(01:20:57):
there and they loved my well, I love my nanny granddad,
but you know, they looked out for my nan when
she lived there on her own, and really nice people.
And it's weird. It's like, I don't want to sort
of say too much, but I don't even know what

(01:21:19):
this situation is anymore. But the lady that lived there
was a nurse. I'm not sure what a husband did.
I think he might have worked on the docks. And
I was at school with both the kids. So I
was at school with the boy who was the same

(01:21:40):
age as my brother, my first older brother, and then
his sister, who was probably two years younger than me,
maybe three years, two years probably, I don't know. I

(01:22:03):
kind of noticed her when I was twenty. I knew her,
but I kind of like, suddenly it was weird because
she was very beautiful, that's not the weird part. But
she had a birthmark on her face, which did not

(01:22:24):
take away her beauty, you know what I mean. She
was a very beautiful face. And I always liked her
write from when I was a kid, because she's, you know,
only marginally younger than me. So I always liked her
as a because when I was I don't know, when
I was ten, she was eight, you know. But she

(01:22:44):
had it removed. She had the birthmark removed, and it
was just like a brown birthmark or something. It changed
her personality. So I'm not saying she's being sweet, because
she was a very sweet girl. She she was still

(01:23:06):
sweet in her own way, but she became very confident
and she enjoyed all the attention that she was getting
from the boys, which is natural. But to me, she
didn't look any different really, I mean, it's only because

(01:23:30):
she told me that she'd had it removed that I
really noticed it because you know, I said, I've known
her for a long long time, a long long time.
And it's weird because I remember her because there was
like four years between her and her oldest brother. She

(01:23:52):
her oldest her oldest brother's friends would come round and
I remember her saying, oh, can I come with you?
Because they'd all go out, and she said, no, go away,
because I didn't want this little girl coming around. He
didn't want her pestuing them. And the other his friends
would say go away, go away. They didn't want a

(01:24:14):
pest in them. And then when she was about fifteen sixteen,
they didn't seem to mind her hanging around anymore. And
I remember when I think she's about seventeen or eighteen,

(01:24:34):
and there was literally a cue of men or boys
trying to win her heart. It was seriously like knocking
on the door and following her around like little puppies.
It was very funny, and that boost of confidence. I mean,

(01:24:58):
that would have been happening any way. But I guess
the that personality change just from having one like Mark removed.
One thing changed which made her feel different. And there's

(01:25:27):
a whole book called Cybernetics. It's Cybernetics. It's a very
famous book about a plastic surgeon, and it's written by
a plastic surgeon, and he noticed that the personality changes
in people that had work done, and how it was.

(01:25:48):
He couldn't believe the transformation. It could have not on
someone's appearance, because that wouldn't surprise him because that's what
he did for a lot. But he was surprised at
the transformation and personality, and he wrote a whole book
about it, Cybernetics, and I used to have it. I've

(01:26:11):
read it a few times, and it's quite a big
book in the self help like literature library thing. It's cybernetics,
cyber cybernetics, something like that. Yeah, it's a good book.
It's very interesting. I mean, it kind of makes sense.

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But at the same time, it's like, really, maybe maybe
that's what I should have done. Maybe if I had
a bit of surgery, I could increase my confidence, have

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it shortened or something. You know, it's just too big.
I don't know, just to have my nose. Yeah, but
I don't know. Maybe I don't know what i'd have
to as there's a few things I could probably do.

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In fact, I'm pretty sure if I went to a
plastic surgeon and said, just list all the things that
I need doing, would be there for a while. You'd
have to cancel all his clients for about a week
just so he could list off all the things that

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I needed doing. Probably, but I won't be having anything.
I don't think i'll have anything done in the future.
I don't know. Yeah, I could have done in the

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past if I wanted to, didn't really. I guess the
way I see it is take me for what I am,
take me for how I am. And I'm not going
to wear, you know, tall shoes to make myself look taller.

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I'm not going to dye my hair to pretend that
I'm not going gray. I'm not going to get a
hair transplant in my bald spots. Not there's anything wrong
with doing any of those things, but I'm just not
going to do any of that stuff. And I'm not
going to pretend I'm a different age. Things I can do,

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I suppose practical logical things is take better care of myself,
eat a better diet, exercise more. Yeah, those kinds of things.
Basic stuff, really, isn't it. But I found that one way,

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it's a shortcut with dieting, wear bigger clothes. Seriously, if
you wear bigger tops, really like large tops, extra extra
extra large, almost looks like you've lost weight. It works.
I do it. I literally do that now, although some

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of my tops are just a bit bagger, because I
have actually lost weight, not recently, but last year I did.
I lost a stone and I haven't put it back
on because I stopped having sugar in my tea and
I cut down. I stopped having I didn't don't drink
hook anymore, and I have minimum minimum amount chocolate. I

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used to eat chocolate every single day. So yeah, and
that I do believe laddies and gentlemen is the end
of this recording. Me me, me, me me, So thank

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you for listening. Remember to be kind to yourself because
you do deserve to be happy and be gentle of yourself.
You deserve to feel safe. Lots of love, Bye,